135. Your Energy

Your energy is a valuable resource, which is why you should selectively choose who you give it to Welcome to the Empowerful Girls podcast that helps you grow curiosity, compassion and confidence. This is 10 for teens and tweens I'm Stephanie Valdez. In each episode, I'll give you girls tools that will empower you to know you can take on the world Hello girls, welcome to episode 135 of 10 for teens and tweens. I'm Stephanie Valdez from Empowerful Girls. Thank you so much for tuning in This past week a certain podcast broke the internet. It wasn't mine yet Taylor Swift was a guest on New Heights a sports podcast hosted by her boyfriend Travis Kelsey and his brother Jason Kelsey FYI it's got some language. Now, even if you're not a fan of Taylor Swift or football Taylor shared solid wisdom that I think you girls should hear and even if you have already This is a good reminder She said We live in such a social media moment where a lot of people's identities They get their feedback from that, right? But I have so many friends or acquaintances or people where They'll see one comment. They don't like and it will ruin their day. It will ruin their night And I just want to say to them You should think of your energy as if it's expensive As if it's a luxury item Not everyone can afford it Not everyone has invested in you in order to be able to have the capital for you to care about this Who the first time I heard her say that I was literally the mind-blown emoji And I have sat with that thought many times over the past week Reflecting on how and who and what I spend my energy on and also how you girls could apply this advice Your energy is your physical emotional and mental well-being. It's like a battery It gets drained by negativity and stress and it gets recharged by positive experiences mindfulness self-care, etc Going along with her luxury item shopping analogy How often do we discount the value of our energy for people who have not contributed much to our relationship? Why do we lower our perception of our worth when others treat us like we're in the bargain bin of the clearance section? Some people brands and industries, you know beauty diet fitness wellness fashion industries Will try to convince you that you're worth less and might even leave you feeling worthless But I've said it before episode 72 episode 95 your worth is infinite and unchanging Someone's refusal to recognize your worth Doesn't diminish yours That's why you need to protect your energy because while others cannot take away your worth They can take away your energy if you allow them to Taylor elaborated on this. She said what you spend your energy on That's the day if you were obsessing over one thing that you saw Like you literally saw some guy call you mid and you can't stop thinking about it Dude, that's the day then Think of a time when someone's snarky comment or flat out mean message Completely wrecked the rest of your day or think of how seeing a brand's ad or celebrities post Sent you into a spiral of self-conscious thoughts If you spend your energy Ruminating over like replaying in your mind something you heard or read or saw That can take over and sour your entire day if you let it In their conversation jason kelsey shared about a recent experience when something was happening on social media And jason was bothered by it saying why are people upset at this person? And his friend replied Are they really though or did just one person say something? He brings up a really good point. I think we tend to assume One person's opinion represents a majority Like if one of your classmates doesn't like your outfit Automatically you think the entire school thinks it's ugly But it's just one person's opinion And you don't have to get hung up on it Even if multiple people don't like your outfit. Did you pick it out for their approval? Or did you choose what to wear to express your personal style? What you think about you Matters way more than what others think about you Their opinions about your fit your abilities or your personality or your status Can only carry more weight if you permit them to And I keep using that caveat because of something sharon mcmahon talked about in episode 36 Quote you cannot lose what you do not play I cannot lose a hockey game today because i'm not playing a hockey game today, right? So you're not a loser if you refuse to play In that same vein If you do not sell off your energy to people and brands and industries who undervalue it If you don't allow them to use up your energy You will be able to conserve your energy and have more of it For you and people you actually care about and who care about you On top of that you will increase the value of your energy Think of something inexpensive you can find almost anywhere a pencil a hair tie a piece of gum Those items are usually pretty cheap Lots of people can get them they don't hold a lot of value And they're often discarded by people you know on the floors and the hallway at school If you treat your energy like those items and keep giving your energy away to those who deplete your energy and don't deserve it Then you are undervaluing your energy Again in the wise words of taylor swift You should think of your energy as if it's expensive as if it's like a luxury item Not everyone can afford it You don't need to care about the opinions of people who don't care about you You don't have enough energy for that you will run out That's why you need to protect your energy your physical emotional and mental well-being You need to be selective about who you give access to your energy You need to draw and hold boundaries with those who don't make the cut And you need to recharge your energy with supportive people Enriching experiences and intentional care for yourself Increase the value of your energy And see how much more you end up with To help you with this I made a poster with taylor's quote on it for you to print out Personalize and post on your wall where you'll see it remember it practice it and believe it. That's the important part I will link that file in the show notes post for this podcast episode number 135 on the website and powerful girls dot com that's spelled e m p o w e r f u l g i r l s dot com and while you're there you can get on the email list too You can also check out my shop for printable products courses and more And if you have a topic suggestion, I would love to hear from you send an email tweens get the okay from your parents To hello at empowerful girls dot com And if you have social media already, you can follow me on insta tiktok or youtube at empowerful girls I'm not encouraging or endorsing social media, but i'm on there to offer an unfiltered uplifting alternative to what's in your feed Thank you so much for joining me for the 10 14s and tweens podcast by empowerful girls I can't wait to talk with you again. I love you girls