You’re Not Lazy — Your Brain Has Been Rewired

[Music] Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host Rob Dyle. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, just do me a quick favor. Go ahead and go to Apple or Spotify or whoever you're listening to us and give us a rating and review for just five seconds. Reason why is because the more positive ratings and reviews you get, the more those platforms present this podcast, people have never listened to it before. So, lots of us to grow and really impact more people's lives. So, if you do that, I would appreciate it. Today, I'm going to be talking about why you're so lazy. And I'm going to take a different route about laziness. Probably a route you've never heard somebody talk about with laziness. If you're lazy, it's because you don't have energy. And maybe the reason why you don't have energy is because you're not doing something in your life that feels like it's your purpose. Maybe you are completely out of alignment with your purpose in your life. And you have to wake up every single day and force yourself to do something that you don't want to freaking do. And so maybe in some sort of way, you're out of alignment with the universe. You're living a life that is not in line with your soul's purpose, the reason why you were put here. Now, I don't know why you were put here. And you might not know why you were put here. Why don't we try to figure it out then? See, things should give you energy, not take energy away from you. So if you come back at the end of the day from work and you're exhausted, it's not for you. And there's two different types of exhaustion, right? There's like good exhaustion and there's bad exhaustion. There's like good exhaustion where it's like, man, you're tired, but your heart's so full. You're like, that was amazing. Today was great. And you feel fulfilled. Like after a really good workout, you're like, man, that was really tough, but I'm glad that I did it. A bad exhaustion would be like, you come home exhausted, you're dragging, you're tired, you're thinking about having to go back to work again tomorrow and you don't want to do it. So it's a physical exhaustion, but it more they they else, it's like an actual mental exhaustion. I want you to understand that is taking energy from you. I said this recently on the podcast, but I really want to hammer this home with people. You know, I teach a lot of people how to grow their businesses. I consult with a lot of business owners and a lot of people want to build a business, but they're like, but it just takes so much energy to build a business. I'm like, yeah, that is true. It takes hard work to build a business. It takes energy to build a business, but it takes a lot of energy to do something that you don't love for the rest of your life. Like it takes, I've worked jobs that I hate before and it takes a lot more energy to wake up in the morning when you hear your alarm go off and get up out of your comfortable warm bed to start getting ready for a job that you don't enjoy. And then just take a shower and get dressed and have to look a certain way to go to the job that you don't enjoy and then drive and get stuck in traffic for 30 minutes. And the whole time you're on the way to a job that you don't enjoy. And then you get to work and you have to be there for eight or nine hours and you don't enjoy it. And then you have to get in your car and drive home and be stuck in the same traffic again with all of the same people who also don't enjoy their job. And then you get to your house and you have what? Three four five hours before you have to go back to bed. And those whole three four five hours you're thinking, oh my God, I got to go to bed and I got to eat and I got to do this because I've got to go back to work again tomorrow. And then every one of those steps that I'm talking about takes so much, not just physical energy, more so mental energy because you're thinking to yourself, oh my God, I've got to do this for another 30 fucking years. That takes way more energy versus putting energy into something that you actually love. And so what I found is that there's like an intersection of energy and purpose. I believe that the universe operates on the principle of alignment. If you look at everything in the universe, everything is like perfectly aligned. It's crazy how like intricately aligned everything is from the stars in the sky to every single cell, all 40 trillion cells in your body function optimally when it is in harmony and it's in its purpose. It's doing exactly what it's supposed to do. And everything in this universe is made of energy. It's the most important thing in this universe is energy. And so similarly, our energy levels are directly influenced by how aligned we are with what is our life mission or what brings us joy or what we feel like we should be doing. So the way that I have seen and I've gotten from being around other really successful people that are fully in alignment with what it is they want to do. And also being myself years ago when I worked somewhere where I didn't want to and I felt completely out of alignment. And I started feeling anxious and depressed and sad. The longer that I stayed, the longer that I stayed out of alignment, I realized like when we're in sync with our purpose, our actions feel more effortless and we're invigorated by the tasks that we have to do. And so like I started thinking about this too when I was writing my book a couple years ago and I started thinking about like I've heard so many people say like oh when you write a book it takes years off of your life. And I started dreading the fact that I had to write the book. So I was, I took a team trip and we brought my team members out to Sedona and we spent like three or four days in Sedona and then I decided to stay an extra week by myself and I'm house in Sedona that was looking at the mountains and I could go outside and I could write the book. And the night before I started dreading. Oh my god like this is going to be so hard. This is going to be so hard. And I had this moment of realization and it was like no it's not like this is what you were made to do. Like this will be and I came up with this phrase it's going to be easy and it's going to be effortless. It's going to be easy. It's going to be effortless. And I kept repeating myself it's going to be as soon as what you want you what you're made to do. It's going to be easy to me effortless. It's going to flow through you. Right. It's not coming from you Rob. It's coming through me. I just got to make sure that I stay aligned and not get in the way of the message. So I kept thinking that the first day I had the entire outline for the book done like every like part one part two part three every single chapter done. Like the outline of it. I was like this is crazy. And by the time I was done within a week more than half of the book was done. So obviously I spent a lot of time editing and changing and researching and hiring a you know a neuroscientist to go through and make sure the stuff I said was correct. But I felt so in a line with what I was doing and that this is the thing I was supposed to be doing that it lit me up and I had so much energy to do it. And we will be right back. And now back to the show. On the other side of that when you are misaligned when you're not an alignment, it's almost like when you're aligned, the universe provides energy for you. Because this is a thing you're here to do. And when you're not aligned, you have to come up with the energy yourself. And that's why you feel tired and you feel unmotivated. It's like swimming upstream in a river. Like no matter how hard you try, you barely get anywhere. And you feel exhausted and you feel demoralized. And it's like this feeling of like we're barely moving. We're just we're just wasting a lot of energy spinning our spinning our wheels. And I've been there before. So I want you to think about this for a second. Maybe the reason why you feel drained all the time isn't because like you need more coffee or because of the fact that you need another time management strategy. Maybe it's a sign that you are out of alignment with the reason why you're alive. Maybe it's the universe's way of like nudging you towards introspection and realignment. Maybe it's the universe's way of like being like how hard do I have to push you down for you to finally listen to me? And so for you, you might be in the place where you're like me and this kind of makes sense. But Rob, I don't know what the hell I'm supposed to do with my life. That's a great place to be. That's a beautiful place to be because now you can discover what that is. You have to find what it is that you love. And so people always ask like, well, how do I do that? How do I find my purpose? And you know, discovering your purpose isn't really a straightforward answer. And more often than not what it really requires you to do is go, okay, think about this for a second. In the life that I currently have right now, I'm maybe you're 45 years old. I'm 45 years old. And I am completely out of a line with my life purpose. I don't know what my purpose in life is. Well, what that shows you is that everything that you've done in your entire life for the past 45 years has shown you what is not your purpose. So if you continue doing the same stuff you've always done, you will never find your purpose. So maybe what it's doing is it requiring you and asking of you to step out of your comfort zone to embrace the unknown and start doing something different. Do things that you've never done before until you find what you're passionate about. If you're unsure of what your passion is, doing the same things repeatedly, over and over and over again, it's not going to bring you any more clarity. You're not going to discover something new. It's like, you're not an explorer. You're just following the same path you've always done. You've got to kind of to step in and put your hat on the explorer on and go, "Well, I'm gonna do new things." There's something out there that I love. What is it? And so what you really need to make sure what you do is start becoming the experiment, experiment with new experiences, right? Try new things. You know, try to try to a new thing every single week. Make a pact with yourself every Sunday. I'm gonna take up a new hobby and just see if there's anything that I like. For the next year, 52 new hobbies. I'm not gonna keep all of them. Some of them would be like, "Okay, that was cool." Some of them would be like, "Oh, that was pretty amazing." And then start using them to find something that you like. You might, like one of my friends, super successful guy, he sold his business and he was like sitting there and he's like, "I don't know what I want to do with my life." He's like, "But, you know, like, I'm gonna start doing new things." So he sold his business, he's kind of hanging out, he's bored, he feels like he's lost his purpose 'cause he's got no business anymore. He's like, "I'm gonna start doing new things." He started going on boats and doing skiing and he started doing other stuff. And then one day, he played pickleball and he's like, "This is actually pretty fun. Like, I really enjoyed what I did today." So he's like, pickleball is actually really fun. So he got a pickleball court built at his house and then he just started having friends come over. Pickleball friends come over, right? And he had recently just gotten a divorce law. Friends come over, play pickleball. Nobody's really good, but everyone's starting to get a little bit better. They're improving their skills, they're getting a little bit better. He ends up getting really obsessed with pickleball. He meets a woman who's a really good pickleball player and I'm getting married. And they are now in the process of opening up a huge place in Austin where they're going to have pickleball courts all in Austin. He is obsessed with pickleball. He would have never found it if he didn't go, "Well, I wanna try some new stuff." That's what I'm trying to say to you. Maybe you fall in love with pickleball. Maybe you find yourself so many pickleball like he did. Maybe you try pickleball and you're like, "This is stupid, I'm gonna try something else." Doesn't matter, the point is just to try new things and see if you can find something that you love doing. When you expose yourself to different experiences, you start to find little teeny tiny things that start to resonate with your soul. And so then what I want you to do is make what I call a happiness blueprint, which is make a list of activities that bring you genuine joy. Right now, before you go and find new things, and after you start finding things, just add it to a list. And this happiness is basically like your life compass. If it feels good, if it gives you energy, maybe there's something behind it. Maybe it's guiding you towards some sort of experience that lines you with your inner self. And you have to realize, prioritizing your happiness isn't like a luxury. It's a necessity for a fulfilling life. It really is. And so doing things that make you happy is like hitting a power button in a video game. You should be trying to put as much happy things into your day as you possibly can. So you might not have energy right now. If you look back in the past couple of years of your life, you might be like, yeah, I'm just kind of forcing myself to do something in this life. Maybe the reason why is 'cause you just don't have any purpose right now. That's okay. It's easier to take action when you know your purpose. And so, you know, a really good thing is I can give you four journaling questions that will help you start to rediscover maybe what your purpose is and what your passion is as something that you might want to do. It's a thing called eke guy. If you've listened to podcast for a long time, you probably heard me speak about it. It's basically just four questions. The question is, what do you love? So just write that down and just make a massive list of everything that you love. It could be from ice cream to puppies to pickleball, public speaking, whatever it might be, start self-development. So what do you love? Next one is, what are you good at? The third one is, what can you be paid for? And the fourth one is, what does the world need? And then I always like to add a fifth one in there 'cause I think it's not in there, but it's really interesting is, what are you really interested in learning more about or trying to do? I think that if you find something that you've kind of done, but you don't really have a whole lot of experience, you're like, man, I'm really interested in learning more about this thing. That might be a little bit of a pull into the direction of where you should go. And so I want you to understand 'cause then you start doing these things and time flies whenever you're doing them, you get lost in these activities. You know, the reason why you get lost in those activities is because the energy is there. You don't have to come up with the energy. The universe is giving you that energy 'cause this is what you were here to do. But it's also the reason why time moves really slow when you're doing something that you hate and you're dragging your feet and you've got to force yourself to do the next thing. You have no energy. It's the universe communicating to you through the thing that the universe has made out of which is energy. It's taking your energy down so it's like do something different. How many times do I have to tell you? It's the universe telling you, hey, the same at man. Universe is always speaking to you. The question is, are you listening? This is the reason why you can see two people who are 50 years old and one person could look 40 and the other person could look 70 'cause one person is just doing something that lights them up and makes them happy and the other person has just been forcing himself to do something for the past 30 years that they hate. Doing something that you hate, something that's soul sucking is exhausting. What a waste of life. So what I hope you do is I hope you start to, hopefully this kind of perked up your ears a little bit to think, maybe I should start finding something I love. Maybe there is more things that I can be passionate about. Maybe there is something that I could do and I could enjoy much more. That's all I wanted to do. Try to find something that brings you joy and what you'll find is that you're not as lazy anymore. It's easy to take action. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories. 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