The host, Lilius White, and Gladys Bentley reflect on Pride Month, criticizing the commercialization of LGBTQ+ culture, like buying rainbow soap for allyship. They then pivot to celebrating Black excellence, spotlighting Megan Thee Stallion’s vibrant summer presence and new music as a defiant expression of female empowerment. The discussion shifts to Jay-Z’s recent performance with a natural afro, which the host defends as a real, achievable transformation supported by detangling products, refuting claims it was a wig. The conversation also addresses Boosie’s arrest for assaulting a security guard, condemning the violence and his continued irresponsible behavior, including sleep apnea-related destruction of furniture and inappropriate use of household items. The hosts emphasize the need for accountability, respect, and self-awareness in personal and public conduct. A letter from Ariel details a painful breakup after her boyfriend left her in Italy following a disagreement over OCD-related reassurance requests, with the host condemning the abrupt, disrespectful exit as deeply unkind and inhumane. The final takeaway is that true strength and health—especially mental health—demand environments of mutual respect, patience, and emotional safety, not sudden abandonment.
Welcome back niggas and friends we're happy to have you my name is Lilius
White and I am Gladys Bentley and this is The Read thank you for joining us it is it is The Read
indeed here we are now in June officially in Pride Month I'm already tired of it and gone
about this business and it's mostly because you know they are selling Dr. Bronner's gay soap and
how gay Zephyr Hills or whatever else just yeah which one of you queens is going out there and
buying a rainbow bottle of Dr. Bronner's soap it's the same soap somebody's ally mama
I don't even think half that shit is for us we don't even want that shit
that explains it yeah that's for the mama who wants everybody to know she's down and cool
well shout out for trying um this week's Black Excellence is going to me
if you're listening to this on the day that it comes out it's June 4th in June 4th 2006 I started
a blog called The Fury where I was writing about pop culture and hood rat things uh after that I
started a YouTube channel where I continue to do so but with my face this led to all sorts of fuckery
like uh me skating around in a Publix and throwing all kinds of random things into a shopping cart
me talking about shit that black gays say
like me discussing this how I almost got fired from a call center for doing the absolute most
all this and more um and obviously those shenanigans led me to New York City and
starting a podcast with my friend it's called The Read I don't know if you've heard of it um
and so on and such which little bullied gay boy found his voice maintained his voice created
something and uh still out here thriving and surviving I'm very very proud of him
um and so excellent black go me 20 years you're all welcome
all right you did it slurred a kinda let's get into Black Excellence this week
nope did that let's get into the hot tops this week
okay I want to start with something that makes me feel good wait how many of these are kind of
like this like this okay I'm cool with most of this all right so we're gonna start with
the fact that I think this might be the hottest girl summer of all
I'm so happy
I think this might be the hottest girl summer
I'm so happy
scorching in fact
I think so
sweltering
it's looking like it
I'm really happy that Megan you know when she said that you know she was gonna need like a real break
or something after that I fully expected that she would reasonably just shut it all off and say
fuck everybody um I need to just be locked up
in with the people who actually love me
yeah
I'm gonna watch Naruto or One Piece
I don't care if you bitches don't watch it you're watching it this weekend
right
I thought that's what was gonna happen and I would have fully supported that
Megan has been the fuck outside
like
oh god it's so big
maybe she just meant a break from niggas
I don't know or
I don't
oh yes that's smart
maybe
because she has been
I mean
Miami Swim Week
she has been outside promoting her
her liquor
her brands
but
this clip that I saw yesterday
on her Instagram
with her out on a yacht
with some homegirls taking shots
and there's a new song
there's a new song on here that she teased
and it's pretty much everything that I was hoping it would be
it's kind of like the
like the antithesis
of what's that other song
Love a Girl
oh yes
indeed it is
I mean
there could not be more opposite
oh yeah
all that white
all that my man
it's bad bitch
get that bullshit out of here
get that shit to bed
I'm gonna make him big
when I want some head
and I said you know what
I'm happy
Megan P
this is exactly what I
I first and foremost enjoy out of my
my hip hop
and it is
women telling niggas
I do what I want
you do what I want
and I'm gonna take all of your things
and you're going to thank me for it
and then I'm never gonna speak to you again
because you ain't shit
and every nigga you know ain't shit
it's what I thrive off of
and so
I'm really happy to see
not only is Meg outside with a big smile on her face
she's got a big smile on her face
she's got new music coming out
it's top of the summer
and we're leading with
fuck these niggas
fuck wifeydom
fuck all that other
shit that you bitches
start talking about
we're out on the water
driving that boat again bitch
we out
I'm so happy
did you hear the
the motion party remix
her verse on that
yes
yes I did
that actually
that's actually out
this new song
that you know
whatever she's teasing
that's not actually out yet
but that motion party remix
I said oh yes
we getting the
season started
my girl
oh yes
thank god
cause
big lotto
over there breastfeeding
or whatever
she not having no
hot girl
nothing
you know
it's hot mommy summer
for her
and that's great for her
but like
we need something
for the hoes
who is trying to be outside
and having a good time
we not in love
we ain't trying to hear
all that bullshit
about our baby
no no no
ain't nobody trying
to hear that bullshit
I ain't going through
no phones
cause that shit is stupid
I ain't going through
if a nigga cheating on me
it's deuces
you want a begging ass bitch
or a rich one
ah
yes
that's what I need
like oh
thank god
here came
Megan really came
to save the summer
her and
I know you mad
but
I know what you're going to say
I know what you're going to say
just say it
okay great
I'm glad you know
because
that terrible ass
Carisha song
yes
everywhere
fine
whatever
I don't know
it's everywhere
the people love it
it has grown on me
I can't even lie
see
spin that shit
spin that shit
where all my
scab it is
it still sounds
better sped up
but yeah
it does sound
way better sped up
but I even found myself
just
enjoying it
halfway the other way
the other day
just as it is
Carisha I didn't expect it
I'm not gonna lie
when I first heard that song
I was like
are they dead serious
it's still not great
but now
you really cussed her out
in front of a live audience
you were like
this is garbage
well it wasn't for her
it wasn't for her
it was for the men in the room
who were acting like
it was the greatest song
they'd ever heard
okay
yeah you're right
well I mean
and maybe they just saw the vision
yeah
I thought I was still wrong
I think that
I think they just saw the vision
yeah
yeah
well I'm welcoming
all of this with open arms
even you ladies
who maybe just popped one out
or just super in love still
or whatever
I guess you can go listen
to Lotto's album
I listened to like half of it
I'm not gonna lie
it's not my favorite
no
I just really didn't
I've listened to a lot of albums
so far
yeah
and I
I also could not
get through it
like I'm happy for you
and I know she
I saw a clip of her
saying that
you know
when she said she was retiring
she was going through postpartum
and so you know
her feelings was all over the place
but
oh I didn't hear that
yeah
so she's not really retiring
she was just you know
going through postpartum
which right
I didn't take you serious
no way girl
but
she's so young
I'm glad you're
you know
I hope you're getting
the support you need
as a new mommy
because postpartum
is nothing to play with
but you know
you be in that season
of your life
and that's great
yeah
that's great
I'm like
I'm happy for you
that you happy
you know
with your baby
and your man
but I want to hear
the shake that ass
boosting ass bitches
put that shit in y'all
I want to hear
I want to hear that ghetto shit
I do
sorry girl
June 3rd babe
let's get it started
right
let's get it started
and it ain't no Beyonce
the hot
the Lulu Hive is
in despair
they can't believe
Beyonce didn't drop nothing
what do you want
have you heard of this lady
she does what she wants
she does
and I mean
in the middle of her man
performing at the Roots picnic
and he got these shows
at Yankee Stadium
coming up
y'all thought she was
gonna drop an album
in the middle of her man
doing all this
yeah
let's talk about him
I was gonna leave him
for last
but let's talk about him
Blue Ivy's
first of all
completely
stole Blue Ivy's look
I said wow
Blue can't have nothing
how dare you
you like he he really got up on that stage looking just like her though i was like oh my god i see it
i see it how okay so many so many okay first of all
when i saw him one of the first things that i thought of was blue specifically because i remember
when jay-z told gail king i believe that he wanted to cut his hair his dreads and he said
blue was not for it he was like uh-uh this is like your look right it's perfect for you it's
working no thank you for not doing that so i saw the change but i fully expected him to cut all
his hair off same because that would have been easier and that's what he's done a lot of times
in his his career like he grows his hair out when he cuts his hair you know what jay
z i'm coming out yep so i guess now it's when he changes his hair so he came out there with this
big healthy uh uh afro my god the niggas are still
it's just gorgeous confused the girls in the streets is it a wig everybody knows
that you you can't do this you gotta cut your dreads off like it was actually a sizable
number of niggas that did know that you can detangle and comb out locks um that's crazy to
me but you don't know what you don't know i guess you don't know what you don't know you know i
thought it was understandable that many people don't know that but i also feel like do you not
know or do you not want to know
mm-hmm
because did you look it up
did you look it up
because me i would go oh wow this man just had dreads now he has not dreads let me look up
information like i like to learn things what is y'all yeah you okay yeah
anyway sacred posted some shit like the person who's supposed to be in this post
but ain't use like our detangling spray something something they was very much online doing their
marketing do like excuse me and i knew they would and i knew they would as soon as i saw him on that
stage i said by tomorrow morning sacred will have a post-up with a link to that detail because i
knew it was the work of that detangling spray immediately and i even thought about blue i'm
sure blue was like yeah cut your i know you've cut your hair before but give me a few more years in
the lab because i'm not going to be able to do that because i'm not going to be able to do that
right now i'm working on a protection line and i will be able to detangle what you got going on and
then even the stylist who did it said it took four days and four bottles of detangling spray so they
setting expectations now they said this ain't no one bottle job it did take a lot yeah it took a
lot and i was working around the clock but yes you too can comb out your locks and have a fro
if that's what you want to have the amount of people who i also saw posting clips of their
own comb outs combed out yep we're like okay example like people had to really but i the people
who i saw arguing the opposite most were like hip-hop fans and people finding or wanting to
find a reason to shit on this performance mostly because uh the moment from it that everyone was
discussing was this lengthy freestyle where
sean carter basically swept everybody yes he was just like okay let's just discuss everyone you
bitches yes i'm gonna say yeah i personally loved it and i'm gonna tell you why uh most of it i think
all of it i agreed with and then um he don't say nothing he doesn't say anything you all of these
people have had shit to say numerous times for many years right
so he came out and was like i have something for you drake i have something for you tanya
i have something for you damon jaguar panther whatever you call yourself i have something for
you as well toy lane so a line or two for you
i was great i enjoyed it the girls are upset um many of them are the outlets i don't remember who
said their first but thank you outlets yes ma'am
i saw one nigga say some shit like this was on threads
this young man i think in nigeria was like oh if rock nation wanted to sign drake they would
they would just buy jay-z out of his whatever his stake in the in rock nation and sign drake
i just responded i rarely respond to that stuff like i just read the funny parts of discourse like
this
and then i'm all about my i'd really engage that was so stupid i i responded and i was like
sweetie whatever helps you sleep at night or during the day since y'all nocturnal but
this isn't what's gonna happen absurd like come on it just everybody be for real man that's not
you know niggas just be talking you have to remind yourself of that all the time
people literally just be running their mouth running their fingers on these keyboards they
do not care about whether or not they're going to be able to do it they're not going to be able to
what they're saying is correct or makes any sense they just be yapping you put yourself in a position
to look foolish and dumb and ignorant and and they don't care delusional they do not care that's not
a problem yeah i saw a clip of maul from rory and maul podcast say because you know he's he's good
he's with drake and he said the reason he found out he said he found out about the freestyle because
drake texted him about it he said he found out about the freestyle because drake texted him about
it he said he found out about the freestyle because drake texted him about it he said he found out about
he said he was watching the spurts game he said that's right
i thought that was so funny that man was like my eyes aren't on the real prize i don't know
what's going on in this rap shit basketball is on and you texted me about a grown man on stage
i'm trying to see where this playoff shit going um oh man but he said that um
drake had texted him and and was like yo what's up with the hair and then niggas
were like laughing about that i guess but interestingly enough rory was like well they're
gonna eat him up for that like they're gonna eat him up for that if that's true they're gonna eat
him up for that and then maul kind of like he kind of stabbed it back in a sense it was like well
that's what the internet was saying that was the internet saying it wasn't even just related drakes
and it isn't the internet saying nobody understood the hair i was like no maul many many people
understood what do you mean what's up with the hair
what his natural black hair is this coming from drake that's i've seen that i've seen that nigga
put barrettes and balls and all kinds of beads and shit in his hair do a show together
there's no way drake said that about jay-z's hair like what do you mean
his hair looks amazing barrettes did you just have some bobos like
you know and in the full context of things it is a it's a little strange
why are you as a grown man wearing little girls hair things accessories i don't really get that
but you just had your hair done like lady of rage i'm really confused though because that's
jay-z's that's his the natural afro that he had you've worn a fro you wear cornrows all the time
what are you talking about i don't what do you mean what's up with the hair i'm gonna need you
to clarify you had lady of rage afro puffs two days ago
except with what hair right again i'm assuming it's just niggas have not seen dreads turned into
an afro especially like nice meaty dress right they have never seen that for a while yeah but
then again like a canker so like you just say it rather than text my homie who has a podcast
that's gonna tell people i said right
i would have asked grok or something since that's y'all like what's up with the hair
you know miss musk is is half dead about that that grok shit she's plucked
is she because it's it's late nobody wanted to open ai and all the other girls oh yeah
amazons or google or whoever all of them i mean they're everywhere everybody got ai
yeah they're the big girls grok is like you know the jocelyn's cabaret
of right why would i go on twitter to ask twitter's ai about any fucking
anybody's ai about a fuck me that is so okay so all right yeah a lot of people were confused by
the hair and alleging that it was a wig and so many things let's talk about let's talk about
the possibility right y'all said it was a wig when it was the law i don't want to hear this
y'all keep doing this with this man
what i i know i'm i'm i legit don't get it like if it's internet jokes to be like oh jay-z and his
wig that's one thing but if y'all are
are really going back and forth debating this i have to wonder what the fuck is wrong with you
we have seen his hair gradually grow over the years we saw how long they got it is very possible
to comb out locks you can search it on google or youtube and see countless people who have done it
and that is and you are gonna lose some hair that is what i would expect his throat to look like
if he combed out his like what why don't y'all believe it that's the question the question isn't
why do i believe it the question is why don't y'all i was also like it's they trimmed it of
course it's been much longer than it's i mean you're gonna lose some anyway yes because we're
combing it out and it's locked up like you're gonna lose some air in that process what it took
them all right all right four four days four days and that's actually not that long of a time
some people you know going at it by themselves without professional help and they have smaller
locks you know it could take a month these were pretty big kind of freeformish looking i don't
want to say exactly what he did but it's just not beyond understanding or the realm of possibility
that that is what jay-z's hair would look like i don't know why you niggas are being so weird
about i guess because it's him but this is yeah it's because it's him y'all cannot believe y'all
are dissecting this man's hair like this but i should believe it because y'all did this exact
same shit to blue and so it tracks it tracks it does indeed also you go talk to your motherfucking
collins collins avenue strolling bike week fuck nigga ass bitch friends who fly to turkey
you talk to your motherfucking hoe ass fuck boy homeboys who go over to washington
heights and have one of the cousins install a unit and fade it out like we came to ill since
we're talking about wiggies since we're talking about wiggies y'all maggots jc is 58 years old
and still got a hairline you can go but you can go right over to sacred.com right now and get
yourself the exact same products that that man has been using if you're jealous temple ood
and the temple ood is in all of them
yeah i think it is because jay-z jay-z is is incredibly iconic and powerful and yeah and
it's like a hip like a hip-hop goat or whatever when you reach a certain height i mean drake is
is similar when you reach a certain height and you're celebrated right for a certain amount of
time a lengthy amount of time many people just can't wait to see you trip and bust your ass and
vote so yeah that's true the reason is drake people like drake make it easier right because this is
just so stupid like criticize him over something real this hair debate like this is the dumbest
possible thing y'all could focus on when it comes to jay-z the hair is an ad for sacred
you know how many people went and bought that detangling spray bitch beyonce said okay since
you popping out going to yankee stadium get ready to drop another album and i have to push this act
three back you're going to get out in the field and promote this brand baby you will blue said
yeah gonna put the gonna put the cape on because it's gonna get messy it's gonna get messy and
i will be taking photographs father thank you i legit was just picturing her as you said at
standing he's got like three people in the ball with him yeah and she's just standing
by with her arms crossed like like overseeing the whole thing so far so good correct correct
i'll be back in 15 minutes to check again obsessed i love this performance jay as a hip-hop artist
you know grew up listening to him and stuff so where this goes we'll see new album interested
to hear what he has to say because i think jay is one of the rappers of a certain
age who is more interested in rapping about shit around his you know he's not i don't expect him
to come out and make you know some bop about i don't know hell cats what do the young niggas
even be talking about i don't think i know really still same stuff we just don't they cars jewelry
all that stuff we just don't know what they which ones
right this is like shit liquor cars money guns guns guns guns guns for show guns yeah for sure
guns even the ones who don't like if you don't have a gun never mind here you go you was gonna
say something crazy you would why something crazy and with the rates with the rates like
you don't have to perpetuate it um
yeah i didn't even we didn't even really get into the details of what jay-z said because i mean just
go listen to it the the ken the ken one yeah i said oh is a is onika conscious she's not gonna
like that no she's not all the i mean the kanye stuff you said kanye not crazy wait till he get
around a real nigga all of a sudden he's straightened up and know how to act i said uh-oh
i forgot what i found on him
forgot about that one yeah that was pretty good i mean it was pretty funny i should say i mean
y'all must forgot about summer summer jam maybe the children have to open their encyclopedias and
read up on their screen they have to the people who were born after like 2005 they really have
to look shit up they really do not and i'm being generous with that 2005 it's really if you if you
don't come from the 19th century you're gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna
be like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh my god
like the rest of us then you really don't know but y'all have to look it up to the 1900s because
87 that has nearly nothing to do with me i came in like i'm right at the end so everyone calm down
everyone calm down the 1900s you tell those children you were born in 1987 and they're
gonna ask you if cable tv was around then and i'm going to ask them if they would like their vocal
chords because i can flush them out from the
oh the youth the youth um
ray j after spending i think three days in the hospital after getting knocked out at a
aiden ross promoted fight right right right he apparently says he's got about five to ten more
fights left in him he's already getting ready to go to bed he's already getting ready to go to bed
he's already getting ready to book him oh oh no wait that's not what i'm actually gonna say at all
oh yeah brother you were just hospitalized how can this be hospitalized yeah uh is your heart okay
on august 23rd he says he'll be stepping back in the ring for an event called the back to school
brawl now i'm gonna stop there what why oh no and he's a
headlining this fight that's how you they must be paying him in they are paying him insane money for
this they have to be in the car and moving to 215 pounds to compete for a light heavyweight title
somebody honestly somebody should go get him yeah maybe with a jacket you got three months
to train again is a medical doctor going to clear you to do this i'm really concerned i
hopefully the next time they're actually gonna have a doctor i do okay maybe i'm being crazy again
but i feel like honestly in the state of california you probably could just get you a cheyenne briot to
just come through and be like yeah all right and then all right you're fine it's brown to do it
i did see that he said i had a perfect record oh oh oh and i took an l so now i'm oh one oh
we don't really call never having fought a perfect record but all right you got it i don't know that
you have five to ten more fights in you i feel like you got five to ten more visits with a
cardiologist before they say yes you can get your black ass back in the ring it but three months
from now when you just spent three days in the hospital it feels like a bad idea ray monta joseph
it really does it really does so bad i i suggest you don't do it i don't think you can do it i don't
do this you got to get a job you've got to find a job i mean after the scooty bikes and the
invincible glasses i don't know man what about raycon are ray buds raycon oh all that all them
fakes versions of like airpods and the right i think you know that shit probably all overheated
melted down couldn't sell it no more
the unsafe you know the she and timu bullshit that he just rebranded i don't think those were
ever like quality products that a person could rely on so i'm not shocked if all those little
businesses have
apart but also you know the economy's terrible rich people be in crazy debt so that's true too
yeah it's this princess won't have child support
you got to go make some money you got lady tried so many times you gotta go take care of them kids
um well boosie was uh arrested boosie on may 24th in houston after allegedly smashing a glass hookah
over the head of a security guard okay all right so according to documents in the charge uh a woman
allegedly asked to use a restroom at a nightclub and the
uh
security guard denied her entry to the club because he said that they were closing
um this led to the woman allegedly being upset and hitting the guard and dropping her belongings on
the floor statement says that when the guard bent down to pick up her items he was allegedly struck
in the head by a hookah bottle oh my god and allegedly the person holding the hookah bottle
was one boosie of the
badass why would you do that boosie how does he do any of the things he does
they okay security guard has to go to the hospital get eight staples in his head oh my god
boosie was uh he was booked taken in released on 85 000 alibon and is and promptly hopped on social
media to call the entire thing a money grabber and he was taken in and he was taken in and he was
taken in and he was taken out because of course he did is it a month i mean i also would sue you
so yeah slow like because why follow what you want babe stupid ass be hidden first of all when the
club is closing yeah they don't let you go meander around you have to especially if you've already
exited the club you're not going back in to do anything right the bathroom or anything else
the fact that why would you hit the security guard
over the head with a hookah anything like why why would you do that boosie it don't make because
the security guard said oh girl couldn't go to the club to the bathroom is that a reason to commit
aggravated assault who is still behind bars that you miss answer that question because this don't
make no goddamn sense he cannot stay out of jail yeah who is back there that you just said that you
just like i got to i gotta go back i got you don't like being free my heart hurts i don't i really
don't understand it but okay boosie's a fucking idiot it's just like
maybe when you're a certain type of person you have certain uh certain horrible violent and or
toxic traits embedded in you it only takes a couple of shots for you to you know get back to that place
because i'm like okay obviously you weren't sober but still why right would your mind under the
influence of anything saying i'm like gonna hit this person for no reason i'm gonna strike them
with a weapon with a hookah base glass so that means bloods every like eight staples you're 43
years old though so at one point if and this is not the first or a thousandth
time you've been drunk if you know you do dumb shit when you're drunk why would you continue to
drink i mean at the age of 43 do we not especially not just dumb stuff like you know flash people on
the highway you get violent yeah you do you do things that can send you back to jail as somebody
with a lengthy record are you
not on probation or just got off or like you stay weren't we just talking about him and having to
check in with his uh parole officer and he had to get permission to go somewhere and i'm like we i
feel like that wasn't that long ago like you always in some shit so at what point do you say
damn i gotta change the way i act so that i don't keep getting wrapped up in dumb shit like when
does that thought occur to you at any point no
no i guess not that's why i said who is back there you just really missed that prison mac
and cheese like what is it i don't get it right i feel like one day in jail would be enough to set
me straight for the rest of my life because i'd be joking like oh i could do a couple months in
county if i if i just really know it would be the moment that that food comes out oh i gotta get out
of here i gotta get a fruit cup on a piece of white bread no it's the fact that you
mooch out the toilet get me out this is what i'm saying and you have no control over basic shit
when you wake up when you go to bed when you can go outside yeah that's not up to you no that no i
can't i don't even want to do five hours in jail much less five days or weeks or months are you
not even just outside your cell block right
outside your cell outside your cell right no privacy anything you need to do on the toilet
anybody can see like okay all right it just doesn't sound like a blast it does you know to me
somebody who's been free all of her life it doesn't sound fun yeah but you know maybe
for boozy is different because you too old to still be like oh my god drunk ideas i'm dumb
you've been getting drunk and doing something dumb for 20 years when are you gonna grow up
i mean he also he also loves to eat childish things like rice krispy treat stuff chicken
okay dorito stuff chicken yeah yeah absolutely dorito dust on the
capri sun instead of water
um
sunny d
instead of eggs yes yeah so but okay i mean enjoy jail girl because it looks like you're going right
back happy pride what if that gets upgraded to attempted murder then you're doing real time
okay eight stitches in the head okay staples and even if you don't get real jail time you coming up
up off of some real money that civil suit's gonna be something terrible
dumb ass man you don't like money or freedom
okay well don't worry the people will take both from you and you're completely right it's like
okay i know when i do this bad things happen let me not like the first time i took a percocet
i was like well yeah i almost went to jail tonight
yep no more for me thanks me when i took a percocet i was like well i almost went to jail tonight
yep no more for me thanks me when i tried coke i said i won't be doing this again no thanks
this was a one and done for me girly pops i will not be doing cocaína again
the the cop looked me up he said you know what you don't have
a record i'm gonna let you go this one time that was enough that's all you need i so i really don't
get why i'm doing this again i'm gonna let you go this one time that was enough that's all you need
why it's not clicking for a boozy like
i but you know that's for him and his therapist to figure out
remember when he was about to get out or when he was locked up and everybody was like what
watch me he comes home he's gonna like take over rap again
remember that and it was great for him to come out to make music
i mean unfortunately boozy was gone too long for that to be
i mean not that he ever
as as much as i have been a fan of some boosts
where we don't have to sit here and act like he was ever the king of rap okay that's just what we
don't have this is this is kind of like regional icon right right exactly so this kind of like when
what um well i was thinking i was about to say fatty wap but that's not the rapper i was thinking
of the one who had that one hit song and then he got caught up for the
talking about killing niggas on the record and i guess he actually had killed the niggas
bobby schmurda oh niggas was like when bobby schmurda get out blah blah blah yeah yeah yeah
girl no you had your moment your time it was great we'll never forget it however those heights
that you were at before probably you know it's just not a good idea to go get locked up when
you're in the middle of a generational once-in-a-lifetime opportunity
and i think that time has passed for both of these niggas the bobby schmurda thing i enjoy his music
too that one felt a little premature like he went away early around for the right
He went off early.
I'm still kind of getting to know what's going to happen here, period.
Right.
That's going to be it for Hot Tops this week.
Let's take a break and then we'll come back and read your letters.
We are back, folks.
And it is time now to listen to your letters.
Yes, it is.
Send your questions to asktheread at gmail.com.
We may read them aloud on the show.
Oh, man.
Where to begin this?
Oh, you know what?
We have a nice short one here.
Have you played or seen The State of Play?
Do you know what that is?
Yes.
Okay.
CF said, yes.
So CF said, I wanted to ask Kid Fury his thoughts on The State of Play on Tuesday.
I thought it was decent overall, but Wolverine got me incredibly hyped.
Also, voice acting and Mad TV queen Debra Wilson is playing Callisto in the game.
And the God of War spinoff with his wife looks like it's going to eat.
Would love to hear your thoughts.
Thanks.
Oh, my gosh.
Thank you for asking.
I love talking about video games.
Yes, I, too, was checked in for the Wolverine footage, mostly.
That's kind of the only thing that was confirmed that they would show us.
Overall, the whole show was better than I expected it to.
I don't put too many eggs in these gameplay or game showcases anymore.
I'm just happy that I got the third Kingdom Hearts, and I can just put that to bed.
They announced four years ago they ain't got nothing to do with me.
They won't break my heart again.
I got the third one.
I'm fine.
Yeah, Wolverine looks amazing.
I was thrilled when I saw Debra Wilson in it.
She's actually been in a lot of video games recently.
Love that.
Getting to play an X-Men game or, yeah, Wolverine game with her in it.
Awesome.
If you haven't seen it, I won't say anything.
If you have not seen the trailer and you are interested in playing the Wolverine game,
just go look at the trailer.
It's pretty long.
The God of War spinoff, I'd heard rumors of it.
I didn't expect it to be real.
It looks amazing.
What's the girl's name?
Debra Ann Wolfe from True Blood, Daredevil.
She's playing the lead character.
Um, Jack Quaid or something is in it.
It looks awesome.
Santa Monica does great work.
Can't wait to play it.
Um, Tomb Raider, new Tomb Raider.
Can't wait for that as well.
Lara Croft, the original doll baby.
And honestly, I kind of missed the rest of the showcase.
I wasn't paying attention.
I was writing.
But thanks for asking.
It looks awesome.
Can't wait to play them.
All right.
Yes.
Um, video games.
Listen, controllers and buttons as well.
They didn't show anything bluey, but, uh, well, there is a new blue game on switch.
A new one.
Bluey in the pen of some, that's something pen.
I don't know.
Excuse the fuck out of me.
Yeah.
It came out like two weeks ago, a week ago.
Bluey in the magic pen, pen of, pen of the gold pen.
Yeah, I guess that's it.
Okay.
Oh, uh, the hand.
Hand drawn worlds that they do.
Okay.
Anyway.
Um, yeah, I just got excited.
Um, but let me focus.
Get back to my job.
Games and buttons.
All right.
Uh, Benita last week, I said we was going to do your letter and then I changed my mind.
So let's do it now.
Um, Benita says, hi, Chris Lincoln fury.
I'm 38 and living in a four bedroom house with my husband and two preteens.
We bought a four bedroom house so that we can have an office.
Slash guest room for when family comes to visit in January, 2024, my older sister had to sell her house due to some financial issues.
She also had her daughter with her who was 23 at the time.
I love my sister, but she definitely has undiagnosed ADHD talks a whole lot and has weird habits.
My niece on the other hand was fantastic.
I was able to help her get her first apartment after about a year.
My sister finally sold her house, got the money and moved out.
However, my 30 year old.
Nephew, who is my sister's son contacted me around that same time asking if he could stay with heat with me while he looked for work and to basically restart life for him and his family.
I told him my spare room is always open for him.
And in April, 2025, he came to stay with us.
He found a job at his sister's employer, but through no fault of his own, I have been extremely annoyed by his presence since he got here.
My nephew has sleep apnea, so he snores a lot and very loudly.
When he first moved here, his mom was just moving out, so he had to sleep in my leather recliner downstairs for a couple of weeks, and I noticed that it immediately started to sag under his size.
When my mom left that when my mom left, that bed became available, but due to his sleep apnea, he would sleep sitting up on our pullout couch instead of the bed.
That pullout couch is now also sagging and is basically destroyed to the point that he might as well take it with him whenever he moves out.
There are other small things you can do to help with sleep apnea.
There are other small things he does to annoy me, like drinking the kids' juice and using my laundry detergent.
Considering that he's 30 years old and has a job, I figured he would just buy his own stuff.
He did find an income-restricted place to live, and he's been on the waiting list for about eight months.
He claims his wife and daughter are supposed to come and live with him in November, and I already told him that they cannot live here.
Since he got on the list for this place, he has stopped looking for other housing options.
I feel like my patience and tolerance for having people in my house has definitely waned.
Not because of who they are, but because it's going on two years of just having somebody living in my guest room, which was supposed to be my office.
My question is, am I the asshole for wanting to kick my nephew out even earlier?
There's no telling when he's going to get off of this waiting list.
Thanks, Benita.
Benita.
It's a hard move.
It is a hard one.
Hey, my sense and sensibilities are set up.
I do not want nobody in my home, much less for years.
I don't.
So I'm empathizing with you because what are you supposed to do?
That's family.
And it's like little things that's already getting on your nerves.
Drinking the children's juice, using laundry detergent.
I'd be happy to think it's using laundry, you know, washing clothes, I guess.
Yeah.
But, you know, that's also a grown man with a job.
So if he was replacing the kid's juice and the detergent, you wouldn't even know he was using them.
So it's like he's also inconsiderate in that way.
Yes.
Yeah.
And I'd add irresponsible just from the thought of you staying at somebody else's house, you know, inconveniencing them, destroying a couch with your weight or whatever she said.
Yeah.
Like you just.
And.
Yeah.
I would.
Oh, and then like being on a waiting list for a place and being like, we good.
Huh?
You're not.
You don't have a place to live.
And that place is not promised.
Right.
Right.
That could take.
Because it's like in New York City, if you are on the NYCHA waiting list or whatever, that could be years, baby.
Like, so no mama, let's research.
And how you plan.
Okay.
So you have a wife and you have a kid.
Do they know that you don't have a place?
And that like, so you're they're planning to come out here and live with you, you say in November, you don't have a place to live.
So.
You don't have a place for them to live because Benita said they not coming in this house.
So.
Do you think you feel your family into my home?
Like what I'm imagining that the wife, you know, they.
They still have a lease in whatever other place.
Yeah.
And so that lease will be up.
I'm imagining in October or November.
So it's like, okay, y'all going to come out here, but hopefully you off the waiting list by November.
What if you're not?
Right.
What if you're not?
Right.
Yeah.
You know, I love a good old black and white, you know, paper trail, a little documentation.
Yeah.
I love a good physical representation of a plan.
And so I would sit down with him and I would slide across the table a graph.
Okay.
All right.
No, I would sit down with him and say, we need to make a plan for you to get the fuck out of here.
I wouldn't word it like that.
But you get the idea.
We would come up with a plan together.
Probably lead, definitely leading with how that is beneficial for him and his family.
Your wife and kid is supposed to be out here in like less than six months.
You have to, you in here drinking my kid's juice, sleeping on the couch.
So you need to come up with a plan for them so you don't have them in some sort of dire or unexpected situation.
when they get here.
Now, I'm happy to help you plan that because I want you
you to leave so let's start let's start jotting shit down and coming up with a plan for you to
get up out of here that's where i would start is literally sitting him down pen and paper
here's what we're going to do here are some milestones we'd like to reach like go through
all of it and hang that bitch up somewhere give him an extra copy like i am dead serious about
this we're going to check in periodically because you are family and i want the best for you
especially because you have a family of your own but i also want the best for me and that's you
getting the fuck out that's where i would start yes because after two years you didn't have three
different niggas living in your house it makes sense that you're over it i don't think you're
an asshole for these feelings it's just all about how you approach this situation i think if he gave
you some great advice
but also like i know you're his auntie but you know remember that you're only eight years older
than him you 38 he 30 so right this might really be more of like a big sister little brother type
dynamic i'm not entirely sure but like you you know 30 is still still grown and i i would not
be in a rush to kick nobody out because the economy's terrible i know how bad things are for
everybody but he's also not
making things like there's nothing he can do about you know if you are tall or heavy or whatever you
you don't ruin the couch that kind of is what it is but you could be buying juice you could be
paying for your own groceries you could be replacing my fucking tide or whatever like
yeah why i come in here to pack my kids lunches and ain't no more juicy juice and ain't no more
gummy bears and ain't no more lunch meat because you don't hate like you can you can replace that
shit nigga where the cheetos
how dare you leave a swallow in this welch's white grape juice yeah yeah that that is what would make
me want to put you out so in addition to the paperwork i would say you know maybe nobody has
ever taught you how to be a house guest i don't want you to feel like you have to tiptoe around
here like i want you to be comfortable make yourself at home but you are an adult and so
you are expected to contribute to this household okay like this is we all all these all the
adults here work baby we all work so you know help any help you basically not leave out the part about
get out my fucking house yeah you gotta paraphrase paraphrase all this you do you know what i mean
yeah but the feelings are completely understandable after two after two nights i want you out my home
so this girl
so y'all yeah the patient
here is is um to be commended but best of luck to you bonita um
our next letter comes from ariel this one is a doozy
um and ariel says i've been with my boyfriend for four years we've lived we live together and
have been through a multitude of trials and tribulations ranging from life-threatening
health conditions to financial uncertainty and everything in between but we've always found our
way through it all we have a very long life and we have a very long life and we have a very long life
and we've always been super respectful to one another and i think this is the healthiest space
i've ever been in i'm 33 and i want to have kids one day and we've been talking a lot about marriage
in the future i've expressed this a lot and he seems to understand and also be aligned with me
because obviously if we're gonna do this together then our window is getting shorter with each
passing year he said multiple times that he wants the same thing and is getting ready for us to
transition into that next chapter however one of the biggest issues in our relationship is that we
it's affected our dynamic a lot and it's been very hard to manage at times in february i was
diagnosed with ocd and it felt like the breakthrough i've been waiting for my whole life
i started receiving erp therapy and most recently started on an ssri it's hard to explain to people
who have never been on this journey how a medication can change your life but it's really
like waking up with a new set of eyes to see the world it sounds dramatic but for those who have
finally gotten the treatment they needed i know they can understand where i'm coming from
we recently went on a two-week vacation to italy i've been more present than ever and without the
crippling anxiety of my thoughts it's like i'm experiencing the world for the first time and
it's been incredible but five days into our vacation the mood started to shift and i noticed
my boyfriend being really quiet and standoffish i tried not to let it freak me out because i know
that i can get into a space where i hit folks with a barrage of questions when i feel uncomfortable
at one point he didn't even want to hold my hand which was definitely strange and
out of the ordinary i asked him what was happening and he says he cannot live a life where he has to
respond to the same question over and over because i don't trust him i started panicking because i
know what he means because i tend to ask questions over and over it's a compulsion and it doesn't
mean that i don't trust him but i am working on it he said he's not sure that i'll ever get better
and i tried to explain that i've only been on my meds for three weeks and i need some time
but i'll definitely improve but the conversation continued to devolve and we ended up in a full-blown
argument because i can't reassure him that i'll get better in the ways he wants
he told me that he had an engagement ring for me in his backpack but he's not gonna give it to me
are they still in italy
i felt like the earth was opening up and swallowing me i literally had no clue about
that ring but this is something i've been yearning for for years he then told me that
he wants us to separate and in the next 15 minutes he had already booked a flight back to the united
states
he left in the middle of the night with me still in italy
i'm so heartbroken my neighbors told me that he's moving out of our home and i just can't wrap my
head around it after all these years i finally start getting better and this is when he decides
to leave me what do i do i don't want this relationship to end thanks for your help ariel
ariel i think it's ended it sounds done
sister he left you in europe
that is
for what i mean okay you want to break up why would you need to leave right now like why would
you need to the 15 minutes later you booked a flight baby and just left in the middle of the
night and left me in europe ocd aside that is fucking crazy like it you could have had both of
you could have perfect mental health that is an absurd thing to do with to somebody you have been
in a committed relationship with for years i can't fathom just leaving somebody like that
out of nowhere like uh and he went right back home and just started moving shit out the neighbors
texting her like yeah girl he got a u-haul out front like
what
okay i know you don't want it to end but i think you should want it to end yes i think you should
because what kind of man would just leave you overseas by your fucking self after an argument
like okay if you want to break up like okay you having feelings but why would you just in the
bag right on out the hotel and go to the airport like i don't that is i can't i'm really having
trouble wrapping my mind around that what the hell is insane yeah so what do you do when you get back
to the states you immediately get the session on the boat you immediately talk to oh yes yes
like you immediately go and talk to the lady because i'm certain
first of all that's where you know the licensed professional help and stuff is for sure for sure
but also i feel like they will tell you wow does this not have anything to do with you and
isn't that person awful like i because like chris will say it mental health aside ocd
aside that is just genuinely a despicable thing to do to someone especially someone that you
know has a compulsive disorder and who has admitted to you that this is a i guess you could
say a symptom of it or reaction from it and yeah i had to look it up like and you're like nah it
gives me that it sounds like he was using that as an excuse it feels like he had his had a
foot out the door for a while and just decided to be a pussy and also man just on impulse be like
yeah it's almost like he was waiting for one more argument one more little thing one more
time for you to get on his nerves one more something to be like all right that's it like
why would you even why would you tell me in the middle of an argument
that you brought an engagement ring to Italy,
but you're not going to give it to me.
like I want to break up when we've been having conversations about marriage and kids and you
know that I finally got diagnosed with OCD you know I just started my meds and so like I said
I did have to look it up because I only know the basics about OCD and apparently demanding
reassurance is one of the symptoms or it can be of the compulsion so I'm sure that
you know y'all have been together for four years your boyfriend has probably
dealt with a lot of undesirable stuff in that regard um the same way you probably also have
like you said y'all have been through trials and up and down and through all kinds of bullshit
together it may be that he's tired of providing reassurance which happens because providing the
reassurance is never enough if it was you wouldn't keep asking for it um
right
so I get being tired of it fed up at your limit however how fucking ever
that is not an excuse to leave your significant other in another country spur of the moment
because you don't want to have to answer no more questions or or bids for reassurance like
at the very least we can have this argument you know
maybe things maybe we don't solve it tonight but we're gonna go to bed
and approach it again in the morning after we've all had some sleep and some
water like right this I agree with Ken Fury it sounds like he had one foot out
the door and just didn't know how to break up with you and so pick the worst
possible way to do it I would be interested in knowing what his
diagnoses are because thank you who does this who does that yikes yeah call that
worst case scenario we're gonna have a very long and very quiet flight back home right right right
it's gonna be an awkward half a day bitch or whatever because we sit right next to each other
yeah but I'm not gonna leave you in another continent right right because I'm in my four years
yeah
yeah
, right four years you know how passionate I am about us taking the next step and having a family
and you gonna cut it off because of a symptom of my OCD and then also be like well I was gonna
propose in this romantic ass city but you'd be asking me too many questions so never mind
that's evil like that is a diabolical thing to do to somebody that is a man who does not want to
work it out with you
and I really hate to say that because I know you care deeply for him
and it it probably feels extra shitty like why would you leave as soon as I started getting help
like disgusting as soon as I start feeling better I start you know because I know even with ADHD the
difference between me on meds and me off of meds that bitch who's on her ADHD meds is the ideal me
that bitch is amazing she can focus she gets shit done she's efficient like I I love that girl but
uh so yes I I when you said you know once you're on medication it feels like a whole new world I
got that immediately so it can really feel like wow I finally am getting you know starting the
process of really getting my shit together and now is when you leave that is hurtful that's painful
you know I'm not gonna leave you know I'm not gonna leave you know I'm not gonna leave you
but people are allowed to break up with us it's the way that he chose to break up with you that
is so shitty here exactly and that is what that is why I said I don't even feel like you should
be trying to save this relationship please let that man go please let that man go if he'll
disrespect you like this and and and pour salt in the wound by being like oh I was gonna propose
but never mind you weird bitch and then leave you in Italy girl please let that man go
he has to get out your life I'm so sorry but that is garbage behavior
my family would have took a cut list to his front door like
I'm calling my daddy and my cousins in them and they going over to the house first of all to make
sure you don't take none of my shit and secondly to beat your ass how you just gonna leave my
daughter cousin sister whatever in a fucking a whole nother goddamn country because we had
saying
child.
Ain't no way while you over there pull up your email and email or text your your mental health
provider and be like s o s bitch we so sorry we have to talk asap because this is insane but um
stay on your meds do your best to still take care of yourself but yeah I I see why it feels like the
earth is opening up and swallowing you because this came out of nowhere like how okay all right
I think a big part of the reason why I'm so sorry is because I'm so sorry I'm so sorry I'm so sorry
why you want the relationship or or whatever you still dialed in is it doesn't i would say it
doesn't have as much to do with this nigga as much as it does the potential that you saw in having
this thing that you want and you feeling the like biological countdown of i want baby i want baby
so i feel like you're probably speaking for you here but i feel like you you're probably
more heartbroken over what you feel like that could have been than losing that person in general
because coming up for air you have to recognize that that person does not belong in your life
at all and sometimes when we acknowledge our mental health and make
you feel like you're probably more heartbroken over what you feel like that could have been
uh steps towards changing it and adjusting it just shakes the shit out of people maybe it's like
oh shit i i know or been knowing i needed to address my mental health and probably take meds
too but i don't want to or i'm not comfortable with it or whatever and you doing all this work
and talking about it just triggers me and makes me feel uncomfortable and so i want to get out here
but i'm gonna be a bitch and just not say like how i feel and sometimes it you know it the stigma
stigma
of it sometimes just warps the way that people look at you you just have to kind of get
you have to acknowledge that some people are incapable of properly handling or respecting
our our health and our like journey to treatment recovery things of that nature
you don't need anybody around you
especially now that you're learning more and doing more and trying more
you need people around you who are going to be ears open you know mouth shut often
like and heart in the right place that was one of the most selfish backwards ridiculous disgusting
thing like like we keep saying even if you break up with me for whatever yes you have the right to
do that yeah you could have sat your ass on this motherfucking flight even if we don't wake up the
next day you know what i mean and go get some breakfast and talk it over and smooth it over
you could have sat your ass on this plane and shut the fuck up leaving me in another country
in the middle of the night it's so disrespectful you don't give a shit about me or what happens
to me baby you can't be that mad like you cannot be that mad at me bro i get it was annoying but
god damn you left the continent no way you're going to that chris brown tour i could tell
ariel i'm wishing you the best in in managing this but i think once you get past the heartache
you are going to be better off yeah especially since you're going in the right direction now
sometimes you start moving in the right direction and the people who not meant to come with you just
start falling away they just don't that could be that could be it as well but
yeah you're gonna have to allow yourself the space and time to grieve but please do not
contact this man or say anything about trying to get him back because i baby you have been
disrespected in a fundamental way that is inexcusable as far as i'm concerned inexcusable
um but good luck to you yes i'm sorry it does suck um okay our last letter comes from fiona who says
dear chris link if you're i'm a long-time listener and i really need your advice
my fiance and i've been together for four years oh and he has always been into watching
and thinking about me sleeping with other men
okay when we first got together i hooked up with one of my old flings and he let me record it so
that my partner could watch since then this fantasy of me being with other men has taken over our sex
life anytime we talk dirty in bed or send spicy messages it's always about that he always asks me
to tell him the stories about my previous partners and when i ran out of real stories
i started thinking up fake ones with various different scenarios
the problem is that this does not turn me on and i don't really like talking about
sex that i've had with other partners because i would rather leave all them niggas in the past
the work i'm not one to kink shame so i play into the fantasy for him but it's come to the point
where it seems like this is the only thing that turns him on and he always finds a way to work
it into conversations i'm not the best at dirty talk and when we're intimate he puts me on the
spot and asks me to tell him a story about me and someone else then he gets upset when i can't come
up with anything it's gotten to the point where now i'm getting turned off i suggested we incorporate
talking about the two of us to get in the mood but he got frustrated and said i just won't bring
up my fantasy anymore which we both know is a lie i don't know what to do about this situation
i did have a therapist but the copay with my new job is too expensive right now especially since
we're saving for the wedding i feel like i don't have anyone to talk to about this please help
thanks fiona wow well i forgot y'all was engaged till you said the one right
right
right
Yeah i will say this right i i don't even think that the fantasy or kink here is a wild one full
stop i it sounds like he's taking it to wild places two things i don't think it is kink shaming
to tell someone who you are exploring the kink with that you don't want to do it
if you're not turned on by the the king partake partaking in it and you're now turned off by it
that's something to communicate because there's nothing wrong with it you know what i'm saying if
yeah if he liked your toes and you just didn't see anything you can completely be like this doesn't
do anything for me and in fact it makes me uncomfortable it is a popular game but i don't
think that you're shaming this person by saying i don't want to go there with my sexuality i get it
is cool we've even had some fun there
but oh god once it gets to the point where now we can't have good sex or finish are we arguing
mid-sex because the fantasy isn't there or i'm not like bitch i'm coming over here and i'm not
up i'm making fake niggas up and fake sexual uh right experiences uh for you okay i'm not a
freestyle writer what do you i'm not a slam poet what do you fucking want what do you and i don't
want to do this no more right um so here's this is one of those things where it does
get more complicated than you know who wants to watch what bravo or sports center stars or
whatever sex is a big one sexual satisfaction in a relationship is a big one so that is something
i would think you're probably going to have to sit down and like have a serious conversation
with to start and then from there if you need to
to talk to someone together maybe a couple's therapist there's also uh sex therapists or
people who handle you know that it's specific sure i who you can uh talk to probably separately
maybe together i'm sure you could do both um to kind of get down to the root of these different
kinks or lack thereof and how to address it because i can't imagine
that every relationship like this where someone has one thing they really like to do in bed the
other one doesn't i'm sure that those aren't a huge red flag and you know sign of the end of
the relationship but you continuing to do this or take part in this fantasy of his that you don't
like is going will lead to relation to resentment arguments which just sound like i'll argue with
i already have in yeah it does put a sourness on it to the point where okay now i don't want to fuck
this man at all now i'm outside i mean i guess it's okay for you to be outside he would love for
you to be outside yeah that's what he sounds like he's looking for but it will ultimately put a
strain on your relationship in and out of the bedroom right so i think for for that reason
alone i would sit down and be like listen i'm not even
judging you for it fully i'm judging how far we're taking it
like you're getting mad at me while you're inside me because i can't think of something else to make
up in this malik story right he's not real this didn't happen can you just finish
oh god like when you don't mean now it's not just hurry up do your business yuck
i guess you feel like you don't have anyone else to talk to about this but i feel like you can talk
to a professional uh about it maybe well they're saving money for the wedding all right and so
that's why i'm like i i would say first of all do not marry this man until y'all have this figured
out oh yeah oh yeah for sure yeah i would stop saving for the wedding and put that towards a
wedding because this like if he said this is a very common kink um the issue is that y'all seem to
be incompatible with it as far as like not only does it not turn you on that would be one hurdle
but he seems to require it yeah for sexual gratification which i mean if he was with
somebody who loved doing that then that would not be a problem at all
but you don't and it's not like you know toes where you could just be like okay i don't know
why you like feet but y'all lay back and let you lick on my big toe like okay that's you know
that's your life that's what you like to do but this is you know this is requiring you to
put effort into right
this is requiring you to put stuff into it you like nigga i'm not even telling the truth no
more like how many partners do you think i have
you think i have enough stories to satisfy you sexually for decades i don't am i supposed to
just be regularly out here fucking other men so that you can hide in the closet and watch
or i tell you about it in great detail like can we just read eric jerome dickie
so yes a um if you can find a couples counselor who's also certified sex therapist that would
be huge that might be that might be a real shot
in the dark but um i it may be that the two of you are just sexually incompatible
could be it could be that uh because if he again there's no there's not necessarily anything wrong
with it just sounds like he needs it and you don't like it that's why it's too like yikes you
got problems on both ends here and like you said there there seems to be no break it's like right
every time we sexed every time we have sex together
it has to be incorporated somewhere yeah it's coming up in non-sexual conversations like
bro i'm i'm literally asking you about orange juice why is the orange juice two dollars higher
than it was last week are you like two dollars worth of dick in your ass or whatever like whoa
whoa whoa like every time every time does he know that you're making shit up to try to satisfy him
he might not even know he might not know that you're probably coming up with fan fiction
right to try to satisfy him so i mean i would if a therapist is really just not in the cards i would
try to you know sit down and have a real conversation outside of a sexual context if
he's capable of not being in a sexual mind and just be like you know i feel like you know the
what's it called the cuck stuff like yeah okay it's it's fun or whatever like it
was cutesy but it it is it's feeling like too much for me like it doesn't turn me on
not it's too much for me but i don't enjoy it so what can we come up with here like is there a
middle ground we can come to where like i i i fuck somebody else once a month and tell you about it
and you get your rocks off that way or like is there a compromise that we can come to but you
need to be honest with yourself and you need to be honest with yourself and you need to be honest with
him about the fact that you don't like it you've been doing it even though you don't want to
yeah i think it's time to it's time to cut that out it's time it's time to cut that out the fact
that like okay never mind because i don't want to judge but yeah start there and definitely
100 no matter what you do do not marry this man until y'all have this figured out
one thousand percent couldn't agree um yes best of luck fiona i hope y'all are able to come
into a healthy middle ground, but if not, hey, billions
niggas in this world all right that's all that wifey shit is dead it's summer baby it's summer
it's the hottest of all
ah you want a stiff bitch or one with some motion anyways that is going to wrap up the
letters this week if you have a question for us send us an email asktherita gmail.com we'll be
right back and we're back folks it's time now for the read i'll begin because mine is very very
short yeah same summer games fest is this friday in los angeles i've always wanted to go chris
will just so you know summer games fest is similar to the state of play thing that that
letter person because you know i don't know so it's just it's a big
long-term thing and i'm going to be right back
live event um state of play wasn't like state of play for playstation nintendo direct they
usually just do like pre-recorded like trailers and announcements and stuff summer games fest is
like a live show where this guy jeff keeley comes out it's like a it's like the big gaming showcase
that takes place every summer where they announce new things they show what's coming up they show
trailers demos coming out all that i've always wanted to go and uh yeah it's this friday
in los angeles and i was like oh shit i should see if i can go and get like some tickets so
i googled tickets the first thing that comes up is step up so i went to step up
reselling tickets in the mezzanine
two thousand no way dollars plus no way in the fucking world matter of fact the closest seat
was in the mezzanine was five thousand dollars nope
there is no way i was like so is beyonce in a video game this year is she going to be there
with her children announcing their fucking what in the world girl is she voicing in the new sonic
like absolutely she is act three of video game like what the fuck are you talking about but then
i went to the official summer games fs website found my way over to ticketmaster
reselling same ticket same area two hundred dollars so what's the truth
what is the truth what's going how right
i'm so all that to say the third party ticket reseller things the third party ticket sites
front
and all of the reselling shit wow i know it's rough out here but you ain't making it anything
any easier thousands of dollars to go and sit down and maybe see grand theft auto six or something
are you cool no it's a video game show even me the video game princess
i looked it up tickets i was like girl
not when i could stream it at home right i know times are hard but you bitches have lost it
there's no way in the world it's no way no way i was i had to look it up over and over and over
and i went to like numerous other places to make sure that i wasn't crazy or there was like a pre
party or an after party or something i don't know what's going on but i know it's it's shit like
that it's concerts obviously it's pretty much any live thing you know especially ones that are like
in high demand the girls go grab the grab those tickets first in line and then try to sell it back
to you for your whole savings girl eat my titties eat my titties not to mention i'm like if i wanted
to go there for the first time and likely the last time even if i had a blast i want to sit
nice and i want to be in a nice little section anyway but what would you would you want link
would you want my child and a sample of blood for me to sit down yes actually they would indeed
plus two thousand dollars give me give me your dog and 2k and your dna because we will be cloning you
thank you so much i didn't even pay five thousand like to go and see the queen and sit up front
and that's really it and that's that's the first and the last of it you could have said that from
the beginning
why would i ever if i wouldn't pay it to see beyonce
and blue ivy why in the hell would i pay it to see a video game
whatever y'all do it the presentation whatever it is bitch are you joking
is beyonce here right
no
lost that's really it the ticket reselling game is it is wild it's almost as wild as y'all going
down to target or walmart or whatever and punching each other in the clavicle to get
pokemon cards and resell them shits for thousands of dollars yeah that's wild oh yeah that's wild i
saw the stores are starting to do shit to the packages because people are being crazy about
that like full-on fighting y'all over over pokemon cards y'all over pokemon cards y'all over pokemon cards
well i'm fine y'all are not well yeah y'all are not well wild i'm done well i do have a silly one
but i'll save it for after the more serious one which is the case of a 14 year old cyrus carmack
belton if you didn't hear about this um in 2023 cyrus who was a 14 year old um black boy was killed
by a man named rick chow rick chow thought that cyrus was stealing bottles of water out of his
convenience store um cyrus was not he and his 20 year old son chased cyrus 130 yards outside of
the store and then shot him in the back and killed him um that was in 2023 and this past week a jury
found a man named rick chow who was a 14 year old man who was a 14 year old man who was a 14 year old
rick chow not guilty in that fatal shooting and so he will now um i guess go about his life like
he didn't gun down an innocent teenage boy yes and they so they claim that cyrus um pointed a gun
the man rick said that cyrus pointed a gun at his 20 year old son nobody else in the store
none of the witnesses say that they saw him point a gun
did have a gun on him it fell out of him out of his pocket i think when he tripped and fell as he
was running away from them so it all just goes back to the fact that like i don't think you were
really worried about your life or felt like your life or your son's life was in danger if y'all
chased this boy 130 fucking yards away from your store and then shot him in the back consistent
with someone running away like yeah you just had every reason to not kill someone
you did it anyway so yeah um this does that he wasn't stealing water and even if he was if a person
is stealing water water which maybe y'all don't know this is a necessary resource we literally
cannot live more than a few days without it yeah you know this is this is not boosie
stealing snacks this is if if he was stealing water which he wasn't i think i would just be
impressed that a teenager was voluntarily drinking water thanks or i would assume he was stealing it
so that he could go fix a younger sibling's bottles or some shit like but that's if he was
stealing water which he wasn't y'all said he pulled you said he pulled a gun on your son
nobody in the store saw this that's interesting
the lawyer was like only the only people who say that cyrus pulled a gun are people with the last
name chow nobody else it's almost like when he tripped and fell y'all saw the gun fall out of
his pocket and you were like oh well we're gonna get away with this yeah you've had some issues
with shoplifting okay unfortunately that happens when you have a retail store in times in america
like unfortunately
you do sometimes have you're sometimes shoplifted from um however this boy wasn't stealing and
taking his life a 14 year old's life why he had a gun i don't know but it's also it doesn't seem
to be relevant to the story because y'all's lives weren't in any danger nobody else says that a gun
was pointed um in the store you mean to tell me he was running away from y'all and then pointing
the gun to the back to the store and then he was like oh my god i don't know why he had a gun i don't
know why he had a gun he was pointing the gun at the back of himself while he was also running away
but didn't fire any but didn't fire it at all like come on come on it's almost like you knew
you could get away with it and yeah i don't want to start at asians versus
blacks thing um i don't want to but i might because there is a a history of
certain communities um certain immigrants asian and others coming to america and immediately
signing up for the white supremacy 2 package where you don't get to be white but you get to
be close enough as long as you hate niggas and i grew up in miami so you know all about it word
this man rick chow is from hong kong he is a u.s citizen now he's obviously been able to um
make a life for himself here that's all fine and good killing a teenager for no apparent goddamn
reason and then getting away with it
you
like you you this was 2023 you went to trial you this this played out they the jury saw the you
know because i'm thinking when they said oh he pulled a gun i said oh run the fucking tape
because one thing i know about every convenience store the cctv is on okay the cameras are running
so nobody sees this child pull a gun and yet y'all decide to say and again chasing him 130 yards
outside the fucking store it's like
hmm it almost feels like y'all did this on purpose it almost feels like this was incredibly deliberate
i can't believe you were acquitted for this the the family the film don't look it up but the family
reactions in the courtroom were just heartbreaking because like imagine your 14 year old didn't do
nothing wrong like didn't actually okay and then you're like oh my god i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i'm
anyway um i'm very tired of the the disregard for black lives and even though it's like yes this
is columbia south carolina it's not like i expect too much more out of south carolina or any other
u.s state like this could have happened in new york city and i wouldn't have been shocked it's just
how do 12 grown people review this
information and say yeah this man shouldn't go to prison
that's really where i think that's really where i get stuck because the boy didn't steal nothing we
have no evidence showing that any either one of you that your lives or your health or safety were
in danger at any point how did y'all reach the conclusion that this man should suffer
zero consequences for what he did of course the family is filing a civil lawsuit so we'll see if
sir chow is even able to keep his uh store open i did see that a bunch of people looted it immediately
after the shooting which i said work niggas right you um you probably won't be able to keep that
story anyway right y'all probably gonna have to go ahead and shut that shit down but i hope it's
because you ended up having to give all your money to this little boy's family because what do you
mean you shot a kid running away who didn't even steal
nothing
and even if he did steal a bottle of water would how is the response to that i'm going to shoot him
and that's fine
because you know that when it comes right down to it you're probably not going to be held
accountable for that this is america and you can kill young black people if you want to yeah so
um rest in peace
young man i this they were showing pictures of him in court oh my heart broke like i just
god this poor family i can't imagine to be to deal with losing your son like this and then to have
the man who did it be completely acquitted like it was just such bullshit um but another day in
america now on to something that doesn't really matter new york new york city
hmm
you slurs um the new york knicks are in the nba finals they will be playing the san antonio spurs i
do not want to talk about what happened between the spurs and the thunder it still hurts right i
don't know i'm wonderful um however new york city is on one right now the niggas have never been
happier and i mean the men are walking with a lightness in their step they have a
joy in their eyes they buying drinks at the bar for everybody like they they are happy they're
generous because their knicks are back in the finals for the first time like this century
that's fine i have been a resident of new york city for 14 years
i have been wearing oklahoma city thunder paraphernalia for those entire 14 years it has
never been
an issue until now why did tsa at la guardia stop me when i had on a thunder shirt last week tsa
stopped me and said oh you're trying to get tarred and feathered up in here i said i know i know you
are not coming for me right now a nigga at the bar got into an argument with me a man on the street
saw me in a thunder shirt and was like not that shit everybody calm down okay
whoa whoa whoa whoa how did we get here you niggas i have been wearing this shit for 14 years
y'all have not said nothing in those entire 14 years i got a whole nother line of merch
after we won the chip last year i've been wearing that shit
on a regular basis y'all have not said nothing your team finally made it to the finals and now
everybody is a real knicks fan and got something to say and go back to being quiet like you were
six months ago why the fuck are you even talking to me be happy y'all made it like just be happy
y'all made it i will be rooting for the knicks because number one the spurs beat my team number
two i am a new yorker the city is happy you know it feels like it feels like the mom donnie wave
is continuing if the knicks win this goddamn championship new york city is going to explode
stay inside
i already know it is going to be this city is going to melt down
it's like i'm almost scared i'm almost scared i'm brutally fascinated baby
they won the eastern conference championship and nypd was like oh my god they had to they had to
cut off the watch parties at the garden because well i don't know if they had to but it's kind of
like you know come on knicks fans have not had a reason to be happy in decades you know let them
enjoy this especially because i don't know what the odds are against the spurs but that nigga
wimby ain't nothing to fuck around with so don't know how long the joy is gonna last i am rooting
for y'all at this point but me and my thunder merchandise i had already decided if the thunder
made it to the finals i was not even gonna go to the garden i was not even gonna go i said me
and my little sga jersey trying to go down there i'm gonna be i'm going to be assaulted like i'm
not going on top of the fact that the nosebleeds are 2500 a seat it's no way it's no way
i had already decided but now that the thunder not even in it i'm still wearing my thunder shit
and y'all better leave me the fuck alone okay i ain't said nothing in all these years i have not
teased knicks fit well other than last year even i've done that last year when the pacers when um
halliburton hit that night night on y'all ass that was crazy but other than that i have left
knicks fans alone i will ask that you do the same with me okay baby
go new york go new york go or whatever the fuck y'all be saying but um the the the temporary
fanhood leave me out of it because again it's been 14 years and you niggas have been
y'all have been playing the mute challenge for 14 years every time you seen me in a thunder shirt
don't pipe up now with your fake fan asses remind me of jennifer lewis and dirty laundry when she
was like you smell of yourself today
okay and they are and they are and i get it but leave me out of it
tsa man yeah that's wild i said bro at the airport at the airport like
what if i lived in oklahoma and i was just in new york and traveling back home like
yeah he was like nah you're trying to get tarred and feathered at the tsa
i'm trying to put my shoes back on
i'm trying to smuggle these uh these weed gummies through this bitch excuse me bro
brother.
You approached me
and I got nervous.
You're talking about sports.
Right.
So now I'm raising my voice.
I said,
oh my God,
14 years in this city
and here y'all go running.
Because this,
that was really
the cherry on top.
It had been like
three-fold niggas
saying something to me
on the street.
You know,
I just ignore men
on the street.
Yeah.
In the club or whatever.
Right.
TSA,
I said,
all right,
that is actually,
I'm fed up.
Y'all came.
Quietly,
I don't even like y'all.
So let's just all.
Y'all came crawling
out of the concrete.
Y'all are.
Because this team
finally gave you
a shred of hope.
Like,
you know,
just enjoy your happiness.
Okay.
I'm not going to wear
no thunder shit
during this final season.
I'll let y'all have that.
But girl,
y'all not.
And you know why
New York is not real fans?
Because they got
other shit to do.
Because they have
other shit to do.
You can't go to
Oklahoma City
wearing Knicks shit
for 14 years
and be left alone.
Somebody going to ask you
why the fuck
you got that on.
But that's because
the thunder
is the main attraction
in Oklahoma City.
New York has got
too much other shit to do.
So they don't really care.
So, yeah,
I just,
I couldn't believe TSA
actually came for me.
Like, bro, bro.
That's wild.
Let me live, nigga.
Come on.
But yeah,
go, you know,
Knicks in five or whatever.
And I think that will wrap up
this week's episode
of The Read.
Check us out on social media
at This Is The Read.
Our website is
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Thank you so much
to Lex P. and Drea
of Poor Minds
for joining me this week
on Crystal's Couch.
What a fun conversation
we had.
You can find that
on all your podcasting platforms
and YouTube
to check it out.
Check out that conversation.
I love their podcast.
They are,
I mean,
they just country as shit, too.
Boy, we just got to yapping.
I said, Lord,
it's like being back at home.
But yes,
any other announcements
from you, Mr. Black Excellence?
20 years.
Congratulations.
20 years of kid furry.
Speaking of furry,
I would like to
shout out
my daughter,
Link.
She has
official merch.
Oh, Lord.
Brand new
Link plushies
available now.
Oh, my God.
It's probably my favorite
piece of merch
that I've
I've made or had so far.
Worked really hard on it
with an amazing company.
You can go over
to kidfury.com
slash merch
and grab one
for yourself.
Now Link gets to be
everywhere.
My baby.
That's so cute.
That's so cute.
Also,
you can go to
youtube.com
slash kidfuryTV.
Check out episodes
of Furious Thoughts,
the podcast.
You can also listen to it
on all your podcast platforms.
And you can join me
at patreon.com
slash kidfury
if you would like
more of me.
We've got playlists
over there.
We've got monthly
live streams over there.
We've got shenanigans
over there.
I think that is it
in a nutshell.
By the time this comes out,
my live show
would have happened.
So thank you to everybody
who came out to the live show.
Appreciate y'all.
It's Kid Fury's
birthday today.
Go get drunk.
Break up with a nigga.
Break up with him
in the middle of the night.
It's hot girl summer.
The YFU should just do it.
We're going to be outside
with our titties soaked.
And that's really what
I'm ushering in.
So I think that's it for me.
Amen.
Amen.
Take care of yourselves,
y'all.
We will see you next week.
Thank you.
Podcast Summary
Key Points:
The host celebrates Megan Thee Stallion’s bold, confident summer presence, highlighting her new music and public appearances as a powerful statement of female autonomy.
A deep critique of Jay-Z’s hair transformation is presented, with the host arguing it was a legitimate natural afro achieved through professional detangling, not a wig, and criticizing online backlash as ignorant and unnecessarily aggressive.
The host expresses outrage at the treatment of Boosie, calling his arrest for assaulting a security guard and ongoing irresponsible behavior—like using household items and sleeping on furniture—unacceptable and dangerous, especially given his age and history.
Summary:
The host, Lilius White, and Gladys Bentley reflect on Pride Month, criticizing the commercialization of LGBTQ+ culture, like buying rainbow soap for allyship. They then pivot to celebrating Black excellence, spotlighting Megan Thee Stallion’s vibrant summer presence and new music as a defiant expression of female empowerment. The discussion shifts to Jay-Z’s recent performance with a natural afro, which the host defends as a real, achievable transformation supported by detangling products, refuting claims it was a wig.
The conversation also addresses Boosie’s arrest for assaulting a security guard, condemning the violence and his continued irresponsible behavior, including sleep apnea-related destruction of furniture and inappropriate use of household items. The hosts emphasize the need for accountability, respect, and self-awareness in personal and public conduct. A letter from Ariel details a painful breakup after her boyfriend left her in Italy following a disagreement over OCD-related reassurance requests, with the host condemning the abrupt, disrespectful exit as deeply unkind and inhumane.
The final takeaway is that true strength and health—especially mental health—demand environments of mutual respect, patience, and emotional safety, not sudden abandonment.
FAQs
The host criticizes the over-commercialization of Pride Month, such as selling rainbow Dr. Bronner's soap, calling it unnecessary and not truly for LGBTQ+ communities.
June 4th is when the host started a blog called The Fury in 2006, which was focused on pop culture and Black experiences, marking the beginning of a journey that led to starting the podcast The Read.
The host is excited about Megan Thee Stallion's summer presence, including her promotion at Miami Swim Week, her new music, and her bold, confident persona that challenges traditional gender norms and expectations.
Jay-Z's performance with a natural afro sparked debate, with many claiming it was a wig, leading to online arguments; the host argues it's plausible due to the effort involved and the fact that many people have successfully combed out their dreads.
The host expresses concern about Boosie’s arrest for assaulting a security guard, criticizing the violence and lack of accountability, and questioning the logic of someone with a long history of such behavior continuing to act without consequences.
The host recommends sitting down with the person to create a clear, documented plan for their departure, emphasizing mutual respect, accountability, and the need for both parties to take responsibility for the household and their well-being.
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