you called yourself lazy to stop trying

I am a lazy person. I am somebody who does not want to put a lot of effort into things, and oftentimes I have to force myself to get out of the house. But I used to not always be lazy. I used to be pretty energetic. I used to be a go-getter and want things all of the time. But I find that my laziness, especially now, is coming from a place of dissatisfaction. It's coming from a place that I just don't feel stimulated by the things that I do anymore, and instead of making a change in challenging myself, I'm lazy. And the cycle continues. Lazyness is something that I've battled with my entire life, and I'm sure that you have felt guilty about not doing more with your life. When you know in reality, you could be. You look at all your classmates, all your friends, all your peers, and they are just balling. They're doing things so well, and you can't even get out of bed at 10 a.m. because you have already in your mind convinced yourself that you are a waste of space, and that no matter what you do, you won't catch up. My laziness is because I give up. It's not because inherently I feel like I have no energy, and I can't do anything. It's literally because I convince myself that there is nothing I can do to be productive. And I hate that. My brain is lying to me, and it's lying to you that just because you woke up late, you've cooked your day, just because you told yourself you were going to abstain from adult material, and you watched it again, that you're a loser. The thing with laziness that I have come to learn is that if you hold yourself hostage in your mind, that you will always you know, judge yourself for the mistakes that you make. Instead of learning why they happened and trying to figure out and work with yourself, you will always be lazy. You will always find some kind of excuse to not do something. And hey, some people have less energy. I get that. Some people just they don't have the the mental bandwidth to go out and do things. They need to rest more. But another thing is if you're telling yourself that you need to rest, what are you doing to rest? Because if it's just like mindlessly doing stuff, how is that intentionally resting? How is that taking care of yourself? You want to eat some chicken noodle soup? Go and make some chicken noodle soup. That can be a form of rest. People think that you need to be just like, you know, bundled up in your bed. And that is the only way that you rest. But honestly, on days that I've wanted to rest, I want to just go out and do stuff. But stuff that has no meaning to it, I just want to go for a walk, just for a walk. And again, it's this relationship with myself that I'm convinced it's not productive. Maybe not every single thing in your life needs to be productive. Maybe you can just do something. Just hang out, just go for a walk because you're going for a walk. There is no, well, I'm going for a walk so I can call my friend and I can ask them if you know how they're doing and how like my ex-girlfriend is doing so I can get some info on her. No, no, no, no, you're just going on a walk. That's it. There's no reason for you to do any of the other stuff. And you will feel so much more proud of yourself and in love with your life when you simplify the things you need to do and you just focus on small things. I'm a dreamer. I love to dream about things and I love to talk about like, oh, I can't wait to do this and that. But honestly, I don't do that anymore because it's not, it's not something that is real and that's in front of me. And although, you know, dreams are beautiful, I like to write about my dreams. I like to think about them. I like to find actions to make them a reality. But just like when I hold them above my head and I don't achieve them, I just become such a bad sport about everything and I just think, oh my goodness, like, raw, it's terrible. Laziness can also come up in your relationships with people. And I think there's a difference between being lazy and not being interested. Laziness means that there is some kind, you want something. There's something that you want to do. You're just maybe a little slow to do it or you are thinking about what you're going to lose in the process of trying to obtain something instead of what you're going to gain. But I think a lot of people make excuses and they say, oh, I'm just lazy. That's why I didn't call you. No, they didn't call you because they don't, they're not interested in talking to you. And maybe they were busy. But I think laziness is also such an easy thing to make an excuse for you not trying. Oh, I'm lazy. I'm not going to do that. You didn't even give yourself an opportunity to try. And I do this. You know, I'll be like, man, I'm lazy and the habits of me like staring at my screen for hours is an example of how lazy I am. But maybe it's an example of how unorganized I am. And I'm not taking myself seriously enough to figure out what do I need to do in the day. Maybe my laziness of not wanting to call my grandparents is the fact that I'm a little afraid that my Polish is a little rusty or the fact that I haven't called them for so long. Our brain just likes to put these things, these checkpoints behind any kind of goal that we have in order to get them started. When in reality, you don't need any of that. You don't need any of that. You never need it any of that. And you just need to act. You just need to push your feelings aside sometimes and go and do something. And I know it's weird because I'm somebody who preaches about like, hey, you know, listen to your feelings, listen to how you feel. But sometimes your brain is trying to sabotage you. It's, it's, it wants to be comfortable. It doesn't want to wake up, you know, and go shower and then go outside sometimes. It's that simple or even like brushing your teeth because it's like, oh my god, you think about it and you're like, oh my goodness, I have to go to the bathroom. I have to put like toothpaste on the toothbrush. I have to sit there for two minutes. It's two minutes for your oral health, for your gums. You're really that lazy? No, it's just you don't want it. You don't want to do it because it's uncomfortable. You can label yourself as lazy all you want, but sometimes your laziness can be an indication that you are just not satisfied with something and you don't want to keep doing it. It can be that simple. It doesn't have to be, you know, oh, I'm just like a lazy person and I just don't want to do stuff because if you push anybody to their limit, they'll get something done. If you push yourself to do something, especially when you don't want to do it, like go into the gym or finishing that assignment, reading that book, afterwards you always feel better. You always feel great. You're always like, man, okay, like this is what it's all about, but it's that initial dialogue with your mind where it's telling you, no, no, don't, don't, don't, don't do it. Don't, bro, dude, it's so comfortable here. The couch is so nice. Like, don't, you're gonna, okay, you're gonna get up why to shower? No, you don't, stop. Wait, someone texted you. Wait, look at that. Oh, wait, let's scroll a little bit. Oh, so you got time for some other stuff that's easy, but you don't have time for the hard stuff and, dude, it's so hard, man, it's hard sometimes. The worst is when you have so much free time and you're convinced that you're gonna get a bunch of stuff done and that you want to spend it either hanging out with friends, maybe you've wanted to paint for a while. So you're like, okay, I have a day off, I'm gonna go painting, I'm gonna go just hang out with myself and then your mind starts to form your reality in a way that's like, we have plenty of time and then your day is done. And that's really where you feel bad. That's really where I'm like, I'm such a pathetic excuse of a person. How can I not just focus on something? Well, maybe we just need to be a little bit better about understanding how valuable our time is. That's another thing, I think, like we tend to overestimate how long and how much effort something will take that we think is very hard and we tend to underestimate the stuff that's very simple. I'm like, oh, that's gonna take groceries. They're gonna take an hour. They don't take an hour ever. They always take two hours and they always cost $250. You always think, oh, you know, I'm gonna send this package. It's gonna take me like half an hour. No, it takes you an hour and a half. If you're ever doing something, this is some zirke life advice, okay? Zirke show sponsored life advice right here. If you're ever doing something and you think it will take X amount of time, multiply it by two every time. This is like an adult rule that I've learned. You think it takes 30 minutes to get somewhere? Nope, it takes an hour. I promise you'll take an hour because when you really factor in everything, 15 minutes just to get ready, 30 minutes to actually drive, which turns into usually 40 minutes with traffic and then 10 minutes of you looking for some kind of spot to park or something. Things take time. The things that you want to do in your life that are good for you, like reading, like relaxing, like talking to your friends, organizing a trip to Cancun with the boys, whatever, going to, you know, Vietnam with the girlies, it takes time and it takes you understanding it will take time and carving that time out out of the block of free time that you have. And this isn't even something of like, oh, this is how you'd be productive. No, this is just so you safeguard the most precious asset that you have as a young individual, which is your time. Because it will run out and this isn't to scare you into being like, what am I doing? I need to do all this stuff. No, but the more respect that you treat your time with, the more respect that you treat yourself with and you're like, okay, listen, I know I have been lazy in the past and I've told myself I'm going to get it done. I'm going to do it. And then I didn't. This is my moment right now. This is my time. I have this Friday evening, Saturday and Sunday and Monday I have class. This is my time to do what I want, but I have to also understand that my brain sometimes wants me to be lazy because it doesn't like the fact that I get uncomfortable. So I need to realize and I need to have a good perspective and dialogue with my mind as to what is me being just like a little bit uncomfortable and I just want to stay in my bubble. And what is me genuinely needing rest? Because there is a difference. There is a difference. And the same way is like I would always, when I knew I had to do something important, I would tell myself that I was going to do that thing as soon as I cleaned my room because I needed to clean my room if I wanted to get that thing done, which is never the case. Oh my goodness, you don't need a clean room to do anything. I mean, it's nice to have a clean room, but you just need to do the thing. So I would just like clean my room for, you know, in my mind, it would take, oh, this is going to take like two hours. It would take four. And then it would already be like, you know, two PM. And I'd be like, oh, it's such a nice day out though. I want to I want to enjoy the day. So I'd go for an hour walk, which turned into two hours for PM. I'm going to eat some lunch. Well, you know, my friend, I haven't talked to my friend in a while. I'm going to call my friend and we're going to have lunch together. We meet up for lunch and then it's nine PM. And I have this thing that I need to do, which in my mind, I think is going to take me three hours. And it really only takes an hour and a half, but you are so convinced and so so like allergic to just doing the work that you create this delusion. And then you spend all of your time doing other things when in reality, you could have just done the thing for an hour and a half. And then all you could have had the rest of the day open to whatever you wanted. The the the feeling of having something that you needed, you need to do in the back of your mind as you go through your day is it just, it seeps into everything. You can never fully relax and you can never have this aura of like, let me just hang out. Oh, yeah, you know, me and my homies are going to the mall. Cool. Like, oh, you guys want to go to a party after? Yeah, let's go to a party. You know, I haven't talked to this person in a while. Let's invite them, the freedom that you get from that. And that's something as a, you know, throughout my life, I just didn't, I don't think I took, I don't think I respected that enough that you being able to work with your mind and be like, okay, I know I don't want to do this task, this assignment, these taxes, whatever. But I'm going to feel better after I do them. I know it's going to be like a little bit of suffering, whatever, but at the end of it, I'm going to be so happy and I'm going to have free time and I'm going to be able to use it the way that I want. It's it's the meta. It really is the meta. Now, let's say you're you're not going to do that. You're not going to listen to me because trust me, if I was hearing that a couple of years ago, I would have been like, you know what, shut up, you productivity freak. Okay, I tried to warn you, but all right. So how do you work with yourself if you're lazy and you feel like you're not productive and you're not good at doing things on time, whatever your situation is? You have to, you have to figure out what your strategy in your mind is to make sure the work gets done. If you are a master procrastinator, okay, then you need to figure out what triggers that like insane spark of energy for you to get something done and just plan accordingly. Some of us are able to do stuff first thing. Some of us we need to have 50 minutes on the clock in order to get something done. Now, I would say you can simulate that like you can tell yourself that you're only going to give yourself an hour to do a project because, okay, in reality, if you were to do it another time, right, you probably would have waited until the last hour to turn it in. So you're just like grinding on it. I don't know. I kind of got away with procrastinating a lot in my life, but what I will tell you is once you start getting into the things that you actually enjoy, maybe you work a job that you really, you really respect and love, or you have your own thing that you're doing. You have a channel that you app on, procrastination becomes less of this like, woo, like I got away with it, you know, and more of like, oh, why did I do that again? And again, and again, because when it's school, it's a little bit different because school is like mandated. You have to do it. It's not like it's just, you know, something that you, you know, you can't do like you have to do it. And even if you don't do it, you don't get it on time. You can always get an extension and things always end up working out in some kind of way with money and people and the world. What I have found is procrastination. You'll get away with it. 100%. Anyone, anyone of your teachers that's telling you, oh, no, you won't get away with it or any your parents, your uncle, your aunt, don't procrastinate. But what it will impact is your self-worth and also your reputation. Because I'll tell you right now, nobody wants to work with somebody who's a procrastinator, nobody, no one. It is a risk. And in a world where so much is uncertain, having more risk and having more things to worry about, people are just not going to work with you. And when I even look at the relationships in my life, I stay away from people that leave stuff to the last minute, man, unless it's something that doesn't really matter. But if it matters, no way. And that made me want to stop being a procrastinator and get stuff done. And don't get me wrong. I still have moments where I'm not perfect. You know, maybe I turned something in a couple days late. But I always communicate it. I always tell somebody, hey, I'm going to be late on this. I'm not going to make this on time. I have the courtesy of doing that and people respect that a lot. Because things happen. You're going to have moments in your life where you're going to turn something in late. Even if you haven't your whole life, you will. You'll miss something. You'll miss a birthday. You'll miss your friend's party because you were, I thought I was on this day. It happens. It's how you carry yourself off of those things that matters. Why be lazy? It's a question I don't think people ask. Why do you want to be lazy? Or why do you feel lazy? Is it a fear of success, a fear of being uncomfortable, a fear of failure, a fear of trying and looking weird? What is making you feel like you can't? And that is, it's the internal belief. The laziness is just the cloak that you put over it. And it's an easy cop out. It's like, well, I'm lazy. You see my cloak like I'm just a lazy person. But really, it's a self worth thing. You don't have the respect to give yourself a chance to go to the gym, make a fool out of yourself, which nobody will notice and nobody cares and realize, oh, this isn't that bad. You don't have the respect to just try and fix that bicycle in your garage because you told yourself you were going to do it. You got it a good, well, and you're like, let's see what happens. And you're just like, ah, no, no, I don't know if I'm going to do that. You don't have the respect to brush your own teeth. And I didn't brush mine last night because I was a little, I was like, I have to go downstairs and oh, I have to do this. No, like, I don't deserve that and whatever. Everyone deserves to do something and feel like they're good at something. But that doesn't happen if you allow laziness to become an excuse. But I don't think it's as simple as like, just pick yourself up by your bootstraps and go and do it. That can work. But again, when you hit another obstacle, you're going to find yourself in a position where your default, your Jonesy is going to be, I'm going to be lazy, you know, I'm just going to, that's, that's all I can do. But you're better than that. I know you're better than that, circuit show. And I know that you can do the thing that you want to do. Now it's a matter of figuring out what is blocking it, what is causing you to think, I'm not worthy enough of this experience of this thing. And just like, address it, be like, okay, I'm afraid that if I take a break from my job, I'm going to, I'm going to lose some kind of opportunity. I'm afraid that if I decide to go on vacation with another group of friends, instead of my like, go to guys that they're going to look at me weird, I am just kind of like scared of waking up super early and being super tired and uncomfortable. But I deserve it. I deserve it. I deserve to do it. And I know it's not going to be comfortable and I know it's going to be weird and it's going to be odd. But me delaying that kind of conversation or telling myself, well, I'm just too lazy to have it, it will not do me any good. And if that is the case, then the alternative seems better. Being willing to do the thing, to make yourself uncomfortable actually is more beneficial because you start to look at things as, okay, I deserve it. Let me do this thing because I could gain something from it. I deserve it. Let me try because at the worst case, I'll learn like, okay, doing this, I don't like surfing. I don't want, I thought I wanted to be a surf instructor and move to Hawaii. I don't like it. So, okay, I know I don't want to do that. But if you hold yourself in this cloaked prison of, no, I am lazy. You will never know. And you will never build the respect to know that you are worthy of good things in your life, circuit show. Today's episode of the Zerkey Show is filmed in beautiful Cripple Creek, Colorado. One of my favorite states in the United States, if you're ever in Colorado, come check out Cripple Creek. Did you know that the Zerkey Show is everywhere you go? That is correct. You can watch it. You can scroll. You can stream it. The choice is yours. If you want to tap in, these are the best ways to tap it. Do the things that bring you joy. If you haven't played basketball in a minute, man, practice your three point shot. Get that jelly. Come on, bro. I used to hoop a little bit. I was not that good, but I did have a mean jelly here or there. You know what I would say? I would try, but I would mess it up every time. 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