Who Knows Who Better: Husband vs. Wife

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That's your favorite quality of yourself. No, that's not true. What is my red flag? I can't think of a single one. I said I'm a hothead. I was going to say that. Totally was going to say that. Zero points still for Matt. What's one thing I wish you did more of? The one I wrote down? Ding, ding, ding, ding. Welcome back, people. Matt is so awkward today. Is it because your outfit doesn't match? Guys, it just came to my attention that my outfit does not match. I'm wearing blue shorts with this, what is this called? It's not like they don't match, but this is just such a wintry top with such summery shorts and it's a bold color combo. But I think you, did you intentionally match me? You know, I really dropped the ball today. I actually like hired a stylist to help me figure out clothing and like how to, how to dress myself. And I should have just like picked out something that she picked out. This is like, this is, I think this is old stuff that I mix and match. The fact that you just said I hired a stylist is so out of touch and crazy. When you did that, I was really like, what? He's going through an identity crisis for sure. Well, we got invited to the iHeartRadio Music Awards and I was like, I don't want to look like a bozo. Did you wear something she picked out? Uh, yeah, for that I did. Yeah. Okay, good. She picked, she picked out my outfit for me. Good. Anyway. Anyway, um, guys, welcome back today. We're going to be seeing who knows who better. Um, place your bets right now. Yeah. Place your bets. Who do you guys think knows the other person? What do you think, Matt? I think you know me more. Yeah, for sure. I think you know me better. For sure. But we'll see. We've got our sister-in-law Addie. I literally dedicate my entire life to studying you and being an expert on Matt Howard. Well, we have our sister-in-law to literally take tallies today on who gets the majority of these questions right. We've got like, almost a hundred questions to go through. Can I say that the only way I'm going to lose this is if you don't know yourself well enough. That's literally the only way that I'm going to lose this. And then I guarantee I'll be like, hey, no, this is actually the case where you can be like, oh yeah, you're right. We shall see. It's going to be crazy. Okay, guys. Well, um, we're going to get into it. Should we give a little life update? Tell people about like what's been going on in our life? Sure. We just did. What is going on? We just went to the most magical place on earth, uh, Disneyland and, uh. No, I think Disneyland is the happiest place on earth. That's right. And Disney World is the most magical place on earth. Yes. We went to the happiest place on earth. I'm already planning our next Disney trip and then our next, next Disney trip. Oh my gosh. Babe, I don't know how to tell you this. I might need to be on a Disney hiatus. I've had a little, I've had a little too much Disney. The kids had a great time though. And actually that's something I like, have been thinking about a lot is that if you would have told me before I had kids, and actually even shortly after having our first kids, how much I won't care about my own enjoyment of things and how much I've a hundred percent care about, like if my family is happy and having fun, then I'm happy and having fun. If that makes sense. Totally. Like, so when the kids were just like having the time of their lives, I was like, I haven't done a single thing that I was like, oh, this would be my, my personal first choice to do right now. But it becomes your first choice because it's what your kids want to do. Ah, I see what you're saying. That makes sense. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Cause I was like, I didn't really necessarily like, if you were to write my ideal day, I don't know that we would do what we did, you know, but it was still like so fun because the kids were having so much fun. Oh yeah. I'm just amazed at how our kids have fun, like going up and down stairs, you know? It doesn't take much. It really doesn't take much. And then I'm like, We also just have really happy, easy to please kids, I feel like. Yeah. But then I'm like, wait, why do we spend all this money if they just want to go up and down the stairs? And that's like their, their way of having a good time, you know? They, but they make peak memories. They talk about their, Disney experiences forever, every single day. Yeah. No, it, it was, it was good. I, uh, I will say. We also got to meet a lot of you guys. Yeah. Oh, we got to meet a lot of you guys at Disneyland, which I thought was really neat. I feel like Disney just has our people. Like that's our crowd. Seriously. Just like a lot of young families, a lot of happy, jolly, just good old, good old boys. Is that going to Disneyland? What are you saying? I don't know. Um, it was even, it was sweet. There was a couple at the airport in Orange County on the way home. There's this couple, uh, that like came up to me and they're like, can you, can you like give us the inside scoop on how to make like content? Cause like the, the husband was like this, uh, you were, I think you were like waiting by our gate. And then I was like watching our boys as they had a lightsaber battle in the middle of the, uh, of the airport. Good time to catch ya. I'm surprised that TSA didn't take away their lightsabers, but, but like, I feel like. I was worried about that, but we've taken them through TSA before. But, okay. Sorry. I'm getting like on a sidetrack, but I feel like I gave this guy bad advice cause I, I basically just said like, you need a, I was like, yeah, just go ahead and start. But it's like, no, I think, I think like, I don't know. I, I could write an entire novel. I feel like that's always your advice. Yes. Yes. But. That feels like good advice. Yeah. But I think like what I, what I should have acknowledged though, was what worked for us was not only did we get lucky, cause I feel like anybody that has success in anything, there's always an element of luck. Um, but I think what, helped us succeed in like the. Was being cringy. Probably. Yeah, probably. Just tell him that next time. Just cringe your way to the top is what you gotta do. You gotta just cringe. And there's actually, you know, there's a lot of people that say that, like I've even seen like Alex Ramosi and all these like self-help people are like, you gotta be willing to be cringe. Oh my gosh, see I could have written, I could have done a, what do you call those? Online course. You could sell a course, babe. Gosh, dang it. What a missed opportunity. Just, if they're really just telling people to just be cringy. Yeah. Yeah, I know, but, uh. I'm sure they have better advice than that, but, um, yeah, it was a really cool experience getting to meet some of you. I even got to meet a mom outside of Goofy's kitchen, actually. Um, I said, I wasn't gonna cry on this episode, so I had Matt put the tissues away, but she had just experienced a 17 week loss of a baby girl, which is like crazy parallel to our life. And then went to Disney. It had only been a month since the loss because she always plans a trip to Disney, uh, during her pregnancy. Mm-hmm. And they still continued to go on the trip, but this was like them on the trip. And it just reminded me, because we did go to Disney right after losing Emerson, like I think it was about a month after. And, um, it's like that experience is so weird. Like it's good to like get out and be around people and to be busy and do fun, like things as a family. But then also it's just so confusing and the juxtaposition of like how you feel inside your own head and then like being in Disneyland. Yeah. You know what I mean? So I just, my heart went out to her like so much. I can't, I really haven't stopped thinking about her since I met her. So, um, I really appreciate like her coming up and saying that, you know, in whatever capacity, me sharing my story on this platform, like has touched her and meant something to her. Like that is just so humbling and really cool. And it really was encouraging, but I just like hate that we also have that same shared experience. Yeah. But met a lot of you guys. Also, some of you really could have seen us and not said anything because you might've been like, oh, they're falling apart. Maybe don't. Because I mean, we surely did have some serious meltdowns. Yes. I almost, I think I have personally had a couple of meltdowns. Well, I think there- Oh yeah. I had at least one. When we were at the parade, I was so tired. I thought I was going to fall asleep while standing up. Like I was like, I'm either going to kill my husband or I need an ice cream cart. Like, I don't know which one's going to happen. Yeah. And, and, you know, then we didn't do naps during the day, which I don't know. Because we switched hotels every single day. So- Every single day we stayed at- Please watch that YouTube video. Yeah. We got the- Whenever that may come out. The YouTube video's coming up. Mark your calendars. Don't mark it because who knows when it's going to come. But okay. Yeah. We're, we need to get to like a consistent uploading schedule back on our YouTube channel again, guys, but it will be coming out. But anyway, we switched hotels every day because we were trying out all the hotels for this YouTube video we were making just also while we were just taking our kids to Disney for fun. But then we really, we really stretched ourselves so thin. Yeah, why do we do that? Why do we do that every time? I don't know, we always go so hard. We do. Like we cannot be chill. We've actually been talking about this together a lot. We both go so hard at everything. Our friend, Caitlin, shout out Caitlin because she probably is listening to this. If not, I'll tell her to tune in because she always talks about like the difference between a wham person and a bam person. Do you know what it is, Addie? Please explain a wham and a bam for anybody. A wham person is a whole A maximum person and a bam is a bare A minimum person. Great. So like the people that do the bare ass minimum and the people that do the whole ass maximum, we're unfortunately both whams about like certain things. And I feel like vacationing, we just wham so much. We're wham, yeah. And everything. And then it's just like, well, then you inevitably are going to crash because no one can do that. Our kids are whams as well as it seems. Like they're going. It's so hard. And we're like, but for what? Like this is supposed to be for fun. Let's all relax. Yeah. Here's my only parenting hot take that I will bring up. I feel like we need to be better. And I include myself in this because I could have stepped in more. Oh, great. Here we go. I think we, I just think when our kid, if our kid is like actually losing their SHIT, we just need to be like, okay, it's nap time. I tried to do that. We're going down. Remember when we were leaving California Adventure? But then Griffin was like, oh no, I'm all better now. And I'm like, no, you're not, dude. You need to take a nap. We started literally walking back to the hotel and he goes, see, I'm happy now. No, no. But then we should have been like, no, you're taking a nap, bro. Like you're so fine. I tried to tell you. I was like, he's lying to us. He's not happy. Anyway. Okay. Well, that's a life update. And then we got screwed. Guys, again, we're going to be seeing who knows the other person more. And we have a bazillion questions to get through. So we better, we better get on with all this. Again, place your bets. Who do you think is going to win? Go ahead and comment those. And for the first time. I will say, I took a spa day right after getting back from Disney. So I'm feeling more rejuvenated than you are probably. Wait, yeah. Can we talk about that? I just left you and the kids. I was like, bye. Wait, no, we got to talk about the night where you were sick and you just went to your parents, to your parents' apartment and left me at home. I am not even kidding you. The sinus pressure, I feel like it's a specific to pregnancy thing. Like it was the sinus pressure in my head in conjunction. And with the pregnancy, I was literally like, nothing will push me further to like breaking than that. And I was on like day 15 of this. - Yeah. - And I was just also just like under all these lights after recording one day. And I was like, I'm checking out of my life. And you know what? It felt so good to go be a kid again. What a blessing that is. I can literally just go to my parents' house. - And your dad went and picked you up medicine from the store. - And my dad went and got me medicine from the store. He could have surely just gone to our house to pick it up. - They let you pick out the TV show you're watching on the TV. - They watched whatever I wanted to watch. They watched a whole season of Love on the Spectrum with me. - Which by the way, can we interview more of the people who love on the spectrum? - Please Madison and Tyler. Please Madison and Tyler. - If anybody knows Madison and Tyler, can they please let them know we would love to interview them? - Oh my gosh, I cried. Matt, I cried. I think all of America cried. - Yeah. - Anyway, they watched a whole season of that. They got me dinner. They bought me dinner. They literally, I just checked out. - Also, I fully support Abby taking a break. I think moms out there know what it's like to be sick and then being a mom at the same, it can be a little crazy, crazy. So I'm very glad that she was able to take a little bit of time for herself because this lady literally carries the team on her back all the time, okay people? So we gotta, let's let this lady live. - Thank you. - I'm so glad that you're able to celebrate Mother's Day with your mom and just do some girl stuff while I hung out with the kids. You deserve that. - Yeah, it was for Mother's Day. - For Mother's Day, okay. Can we go ahead? - It's a tradition. My mom and I have done this many times. - We're gonna do it again. - Pink Panther is here. Coach and Spotify are teaming up to bring music and style together, and they want you to be part of it. Grab your friends and head to the Tabby Tour, hitting cities around the country with live performances from special artists, exclusive experiences, and personalized products. 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You have to ask me the questions. - Okay, so here's round one for you, Matt. - All right, round one. - Okay, what's my least favorite pregnancy symptom so far? - Least favorite pregnancy symptom? - I'm gonna write it down. - Oh yeah, you're the one writing it down, I'm guessing. Gosh dang it, I cannot think of what your least favorite symptom is right now. It's like not even-- - Do you feel like I complain a lot about it? - Ugh, frick, I have no idea. I literally have no idea. Ready, tell me, go. - Okay, so then that means I'm not a complainer. - What is it, what is it? What's the main one? - Frequent peeing. - Frequent peeing. - It's just like as soon as I get to bed, I'm like, I just wanna sleep. And then I'm like, my brain's like, you have to pee. And then another side of my brain is like, no, you don't. And then I'm like, it's like, no, you do have to pee. And then I go, and then I don't have to pee. - But I feel like that's a thing even when you're not pregnant, though. - Touche. - I was off that one. - I mean, at Mini Ninjas today, I peed twice in a 45 minute class for the kids, so. Okay, so no points for Matt so far. - Zero. - What is my weirdest pregnancy craving this time around? - Weirdest pregnancy craving? There really aren't any weird pregnancy cravings, honestly. I can't even think of one. - Think of one. - Can you think of one? - Think of one. - Frick, I can't think of it. I literally cannot think of anything at all. - Okay, three, two, one. - I'm gonna try to read. None. - None. - None, thank you. Gosh, okay, does that count as a point? - I don't really think I've had any cravings. - You have no, yeah, there's no cravings. - Maybe some-- - Roll tape, you're saying no points. - What, okay. - You didn't say none. - We get-- - Maybe spicy foods? - You don't even like spicy food. What are you talking about? - I do. - You've not been getting spicy food. - Now I do. - Like what, name one thing. - I got, I put hot sauce on my breakfast tacos at Snooze. - Was that like three weeks ago? I don't even remember that. - Every time. And I got spicy food. - Spicy curry. - When did you get spicy curry? - When I was at my parents' house. - Oh my gosh. Okay, well. - Okay, so Matt's not doing so well. - Yeah, all right. - If I were a red flag, what would it be? - If you were, what type of question is that? - Like what is my red flag? - What is your red flag? Maybe-- - No, wait, let me write it down. - That's the only one that's gonna happen. - Yeah, and do you come up with an answer for this one after not having an answer? - I'm not coming up with it. I'm not coming, I can't think of a single one. Here's the thing, guys. I can't think of a single red flag for this woman. Okay, what's your red flag? - I don't got any red flags. - You're so, I said I'm a hot head. - I was gonna say that. That's what I was gonna say. I was gonna say that. - I totally, totally was gonna say that. - Zero points still for Matt. - I still have zero points. - What's something that gives me the ick? - Oh, oh. - Oh, let me write a novel. - Oh. - Okay, wait, let me write it down. - Work, brain, work. Can't think of anything today. Okay, I got an answer, it's right here. - What gives you the ick is probably-- - You can't think of one. - Entitlement, I was gonna say entitlement. - Oh, it's not entitlement, I hate ego. someone with a big ego that aches me out so bad that is another one but entitlement that's not something i would think of really no this i said your snot thing with your throat your snot thing with your throat what the hell what when you look at me like okay here's the thing here's the thing babe i come from a family where you go okay you do that he literally makes that sound sometimes i live with a boy because i have congestion in my body and i'm trying to i'm trying to breathe sorry i just want to be able to breathe out of my own nose i know sometimes i catch you and i'm like i know you have to breathe but this has to stop all right so didn't get that one right if you said ego i would have given you a half point because that is my biggest ick that's like a but like uh my smaller ick is your throat thing how would you rate my ego on like a scale of one to ten uh i'm gonna give it a five so i'm just like a normal ego yeah normal normal normal amount of ego normal ego okay that's good all right i feel i feel like that's five and a half okay i'll put you at the 55 percent okay okay what do i think is your best quality oh let me write it down okay i feel like we should do the caveat is this a personality or a physical thing uh what's your goal what is wait you're you're thinking of my best quality or your best quality no i'm what's my favorite quality about you personality and physical okay physical um i'm gonna say probably my chest that's what you or my butt is what you've told me in the past that's your favorite quality of yourself no that's not true i just keep getting comments on it because i weighed 24 pounds and i did a year ago and it all went to my cheeks um so there's that we're talking about yeah caleb was saying that i'm not going to do that i'm not going to do that i'm not going to do that that i have a dump truck now um it's so shocking i try not to vocalize okay okay wait okay so you got the physical one with my chest yes i do it that's why i'm hitting the bench right now i'm trying to get all this trying to move all this all this uh mass from my my butt cheeks to my chest it doesn't work like that chest area okay what's the personality one personality is the friendly friendly guy happy oh i love that golden retriever energy um uh it's not the one i said though i just like would talk to i talked to anybody talk to the yeah driver talk to drivers that would be friendly but i didn't say that one you are very friendly and i love that about you uh i said you're passionate ah yes that is also one of them so did i get a half point yeah no you get a point i get a point a point i get a point yeah amazing okay now it's your turn to read all right now my turn to read it you have to write them down so next up i'm asking abby questions um this is round one for me what is my biggest pet peeve when it comes to your morning routine uh i don't even know what that would be i have no idea do i even have it do i even have a pet i'm so not annoying okay i got it i got it for my morning routine yeah got it oh wow is he gonna do something about my stinky eggs nope something else that's sneaky what what what is it i don't know something else that's stinky but see now i feel like an a-hole for even my breath we can just we can just my stinky breath let's just edit that out we don't even need that anymore i don't care is that what it is my breath okay here's the other thing that's that's kind of messed up about that though is that in the mornings matt's like begging to kiss me and i'm like keeping my mouth closed because i know i have stinky breath i just had to pick something babe i actually don't really care like i like i'd rather now you're not gonna get any kisses and that's why all morning dang it i'm gonna know i just did that i just screwed myself over i'm an idiot i sleep with my mouth completely closed and so it's just not good for airflow and circulation i don't think i'm gonna get a point what's something i say all the time oh it wasn't that you say all the time oh my gosh so many things but they're so niche you repeat yourself a lot yeah i do and i'm like sometimes i actually have to stop and be like do you know that we've had this exact conversation about four times got it you say what do i say with the boy i'm gonna help you out what do i say with the boys all the time this is like me and augie and griffin when you're playing just just it's like a celebratory phrase that i say booyah no that's what you say oh that's what i say what do i say with the boys you say three words boom shakalaka i don't oh that's three words three words that's what i say three words yeah three words oh yeah baby oh yeah baby oh yeah baby i think that counts we'll give it to you okay thank you you do say that okay what do i always forget what is something that i always forget babe everything matt lost a whole iphone and did oh frick i did lose my entire dramatic yeah yep it was abby's old phone that we were using no service airplane and it was on airplane mode so then had all of our youtube video on yeah and the entire youtube video that we'd filmed and like bought the hotel like stay with guys these disneyland hotels are freaking expensive the cal the grand california over a thousand dollars a night okay so it's like we're vlogging this on an iphone not worth it at all sorry is that a spoiler for our youtube video oh yeah pretend you didn't hear that pretend you didn't hear that go watch our youtube video but okay uh anyway what's something that you forget yeah um so many things oh i know what it is the most common thing that i like lose a lot of times is when you're like oh my god i don't think that i like lose a most common thing that you lose oh your airpods airpods ding ding ding ding how many airpods have you bought my uh three pairs one for you and they broke and then one for me and then i lost them somehow and then uh no no i think we've only had i think fully bought in two pairs i'm like no no shot what it was yeah i feel like you lose those all the time and next question what do i complain about most like as far as like what i do what the kids do what our dog does or just in general i i haven't thought of it yet i'm trying to think of like what i complain about the most i'm thinking of some things just give me one let's see if you can read my mind like the heat in arizona in the summer that's true i do i do complain about that you're an old man but it's gotten better now that we have a pool uh you complain about efficiency efficient yeah i like to be efficient i like to be efficient you're right but you're not very efficient i'm working on that we're trying to get better on uh you complain about you're not a big complainer so i'm just like thinking of like what it could be yeah i don't really identify as a complainer honestly yeah okay let's go on the next one this one oh no you complain about you complain about uh like wanting to like have your physique be that's a new thing that you've been really i guess that's my new fixation is i want to i want to be absolutely shredded is that is that's great timing for me honestly what i just i know that i'm gonna have no time to work out once we have another baby here so i'm trying to get my my fitness time in now you know that was actually i had this idea like oh yeah i'm gonna go to the gym once i'm like a dad no no shot you know yeah so no no one can think that yeah do i get the point i don't think i don't think i just don't think that you're so hard to play i don't think that question works okay next what is one thing you do that always makes me laugh i know what it is oh yep i'm writing it down right now uh something i'm thinking of something like silly that you do think lucille ball sort of like physical comedy what do you mean oh i wrote down butt slaps where you're like where you go to the side and you're like slapping your butt on the you know that's neat yeah that's super niche but i have a video of you the first time we went to hawaii together where you're in a blue bikini and you're like i've been doing it for a long time side of your butt like right on the beach when i'm trying to be sexy yeah you were trying yeah i think that's what that's actually what you go your go-to when you're trying to be sexy too you do that does it work no that's like your biggest gripe you're like take it seriously it's a little glimpse into our romantic life anyway that is special that is a special thing i didn't i would not have guessed that one yep okay after round one what are we at for round one right now addy we don't know each other we're tied right now babe we're tied new and exclusive holiday decor just launched online at the home depot check out the viral grand duchess collection with smart holiday lights you 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diet coke anywhere though no you get the diet lemonade at chick-fil-a nope what do you get a chick-fil-a diet dr pepper diet dr pepper at chick-fil-a what other sauce what other sauce probably ketchup for your french fries yes okay you get a point for that okay i guess you're going with chick-fil-a is my favorite fast food was i wrong what's your favorite fast food no i think that's right i think that's oh no i think of another one what what's my favorite fast food i especially like it at airports my mouth is actually watering right now addy knows it oh shake shack yeah boom shake shack shake shack is so good and when you go to shake shack i think you just get a like you just get a plain burger plain cheeseburger with ketchup and it's so good and french fries why is it so we usually we split the fries usually we usually split the fries because it's a lot of fries all right okay what's the exact way i like my eggs right now this is way too easy the exact way you like you just want to do hard boiled every time yeah hard boiled how many you three hard-boiled eggs what do i do to them uh you poke a little hole in it before no but once they're prepared once they're prepared uh you like to eat them warm you don't like them cold you don't you don't want to make them too chilly not too chilly what else do i do to them uh you put salt absolutely nothing oh okay dang it false did i get that does that you get it i feel like i get that one i literally just don't do anything i literally just am in my car eating eggs i literally saw a guy he let me in i was like i i cheers to you good i've also caught on to your egg thing i still have two of my hard-boiled eggs to go eat i know i noticed you didn't eat your eggs today i need to eat those okay what item do i always carry with me besides my phone what item this is hard because i don't carry a lot of things you know oh i got a guy i got i got i got i got your water your water bottle yeah that's everywhere you you have the thing every the thing's a weapon too you never want to you never want to mess with abby howard because this girl has her freaking hydro jug and she will wow you just like every other white girl she will send you a yeah you don't don't mess with white girls these days people okay because they got their metal hydro jug that that 40 ounce are fully filled it'll knock you out it'll put you on your butt oh you were crushing round two matt if you lost me in target what section would you find me in oh the probably the baby set probably the baby clothes section yeah yeah like probably probably like the kids looking at the kids clothes yeah yeah kids clothes i think you win that one yeah i'm not writing these down anymore is that a problem yeah i think we can just okay we can read each other's minds okay here we go here we go here we go where do i buy most of my clothes oh man wait yeah there's only one answer oh vitality you just get you've been getting a lot of your clothes that one but then what's my other one uh you just put in a massive order from me i think you spent like five hundred dollars i didn't spend that much but i did spend a lot nothing fits what are you gonna do what are you gonna do okay you crushed round five i think you got all those right all right now we're on to abby what was i wearing on our first date i don't even know what i was wearing on our first date oh it had to be one of those mink tops i know what it was i feel like it was that purple and lime green nike one you know which one i'm talking about oh my gosh yes wait yes you're right you're right yeah it was the it like yeah the purple yep the purple the purple mink top yeah with the shorts that didn't match they're black and teal we have a picture of us from when you i think it was when you asked me to your uh prom and i'm wearing i think i'm wearing the uh the tank top i think yeah you never had like the best see why do i still think that's a cool shirt see that just shows you like how how lacking my well it's all personal reference what was the first video we ever filmed together our wedding video unintentionally yeah actually it no no you're wrong wait i'm giving you the answer right now you gotta try a little bit harder you just made a frowny face it was before our wedding video wait no i lied the wedding video was our first video what did we possibly record that's the first one yeah because the first youtube video we ever posted was of us doing the taste of chicago that's so funny yeah wow i can't believe that was almost seven years ago but the wedding video was recorded before that we just didn't post it go back and watch that video yeah it'd be kind of fun to do a series of like re-watching all of our old videos i'm too afraid revisiting ghosts of my previous self what did i want to be when i was younger so many things but i feel like first and foremost you wanted to be a broadway performer that's true but i feel like we could also put in their pro skateboarder pro skateboarder would also be on the list pro snowboarder just going pro you know making a big splash somewhere what was like what was like the the big thing though a singer yeah always yeah i've got like videos i think you took videos of me when i would like serenade you on some of our first dates yes that we weren't actually even technically boyfriend and girlfriend you were singing to me in your parents living room with a guitar that's true i was spoon those are good times what pet did i have as a kid and what was its name why do i not want to actually can we cut that one out because i feel like this is the this is like the security question like all my fake accounts and stuff i feel like we shouldn't post that you chose that one as your security it's like it's like what like what's your first pet well let me say it and then we're gonna bleep it out because i'm getting this point that's gonna get me scammed don't say that i got that right i nailed that you're right you're right what disney carry uh what disney character would i want to be what disney character would i want to play aladdin probably yeah actually yeah yeah i you know i was in aladdin the musical junior aladdin junior when i was a kid i feel like you just want to kiss jasmine i did want to kiss jasmine why were you in aladdin junior you weren't aladdin i there's all these pictures there's these pictures of me like flexing my muscles like i'm trying to look all tough and stuff you were aladdin i wasn't aladdin i was uh i i was iago no i was just like a townsperson like i didn't have a role my first role in a musical was playing bundles yeah i played bundles to griffin to annie and he sat through the whole thing actually i just read aladdin again last night because oh i'm so i'm up to date on all the characters that's right because oh he was flipping out that's the only thing that would get calm down reading him a book that's sweet it was sweet the genie would be a fun one but you that you're not that type of character you're more of an aladdin yeah okay we're still even okay guys yes round two is easier than round one okay that's crazy i can't believe we're still tied right now round three ding ding am i a morning person or a night person uh definitely wait wait has it changed it used to be i feel like we're i feel like morning you're a morning person yeah yeah you're a morning person yeah i'm a morning person last night it was like 9 15 we're watching a show i'm asleep yeah you were like you're like babe it's too late gotta go to bed o'clock i'm so tired okay and i'm but in the morning i feel like i'm like sharp as a whip you know what i mean yeah we're both up at six yeah well that's when our kids wake up that's so it's sunny out yep am i more introverted or extroverted uh you were definitely definitely more extroverted really you're an extrovert okay i would say i think i think so yeah i would agree i guess you're very social very social very social girl yep uh pool or beach for me pool your pool yeah probably more pool i i we i moved you to the beach baby you wanted to move back i love the beach too though i think you do yeah but the beach is just so much more work like you gotta pack everything whereas like at the pool you already got a chair an umbrella yeah then drinks accessible you got to pack everything whereas like at the pool you already got a chair an umbrella yeah maybe pool that makes me lame i wish i was more beach but i like i like both okay what's my favorite genre of music i actually have one so jazz oh okay that might actually be it you like a little louis that wasn't my answer though you like uh you also like um what's the guy who wrote the song mrs leon bridges leon bridges you like some leon bridges i do like that what else do i like you just you love ben rector like you love that like sweet like love song i was gonna say like a folk vibe too yeah i took a history of jazz class that's so sweet that you took a history of jazz class what's my hidden talent oh i have one and if you don't get it yeah i'm running you down don't look at this if you get this wrong this is a secret talent that people would not know listeners probably don't know this but i now i'm like getting so nervous and i forgot any competition at this no i don't know if addy knows oh you could win any competition ping pong you're pink no what i can never do a spin and that's why i always lose that oh hula hooping yes you're a great hula hooper i'm excellent at hula hooping but something i found out is that when i'm pregnant i can't hula i tried with the kids and we were at the dollar tree and i was like give me give your mama hula hoop and i couldn't do it i was like let me show you how it's done boys and then i literally couldn't so um the belly got in the way okay wow you crushed that next up abby question for you who would be my dream person to meet dream person to meet i'm probably gonna say like justin bieber that's literally that's like the person the first person that popped into my brain yeah yeah okay i got it right i will say as i've gotten older though i feel bad for that guy you know i feel like he went through some serious trauma and then smoked a ton of weed and i think he's like on the other side of it now but i think he like went through some i think he went through some hard stuff yeah i'm sure just to like be in the spotlight as a young kid like i yeah i don't know i don't want to get into too deep into that but anyway well doesn't he have a quote recently of saying like that that the industry cared a lot about his skill but not about his soul or something like that oh that's good i can't miss i'm gonna misquote him but something i think he said something along those lines too i think any person that's ever had any inkling of fame could relate in some way that would be crazy to grow up like that oh yeah child yeah oh yeah yeah and it's hard to understand what that's like and remember that time that they had a video like there was a video of him circulating around he was just at church and like he came out there's a bunch of paparazzi and he's like goodness i'm just like i love the audios now of him of him like like going off on paparazzi it's so fun i love like i can that would be so suffocating i love how the internet's on his side too like i love i love oh really there's like there's a famous audio that's circulating right now where people were just like there's some random paparazzi dude was going up to him and he just went off on this guy and it's so funny huh i can't even think of what he said like just is it it's not clocking to you wait that's an old one standing on visit but there's a new one though there's one yeah there was a new one just from like it's like you're not understanding or it's like that's not like i don't remember what he's like i'm a dad i'm a daddy like i think that's what he says i love it anyway um who would play me in a movie about my life we're not gonna say the same answer on this i just thought of somebody the first person that popped in my brain who do you think it is okay like new actor just saw him in a movie you're like you know i actually want to play you who would you want to play b what's that guy's name he played tony in west side story oh yes that would be good i want him to play you yeah ansel elgort that would be that him ansel elgort that's who i want to play you you know okay if yeah yeah maybe what i need to do babe is maybe i need to like pause social media and like fully pursue broadway again wow i would love to play tony in west side story you'd be such a good tony i would love it and like randomly sometimes give them a little wait no what's the uh what's the when you're a jet you're a jet from your first cigarette what's used to sing it for auditions it's not maria it's uh no gosh i can't think of it right now what are the west side story songs i can't think of it there's a place is that aladdin that was not a west side story um uh i get i give every song officer crumb key we're down on our knees no one likes a fella with social oh tonight tonight won't be just tonight there yeah that's the i think that's the one that i used to sing but i sang that when i was like i think i sang that before my voice changed but that okay the challenge you're still working through that transition i know so well sometimes that my falsetto i need to work my falsetto i get like i get a little nervous on my falsetto that still freaks me out a little bit uh but no you'd be great okay wait who are you gonna say who is just uh oh ansel uh no no no no uh jacob alordi he's like the new he's like the new like you do kind of look like him i feel like he's like the like every every woman wants that man no he's a good actor too that's what i respect is like he doesn't i don't even think he has social media because he just doesn't give an f like he just cares about acting he doesn't care about like frankenstein i was kind of like i didn't understand why they cast him in frankenstein because they it was just cgi the whole time we still need to finish that gosh that movie was horrible though let's go finish it i think it gets better in the second half we were just like an hour and a half in it was my birthday okay let's go keep going okay i got that one right or wrong probably wrong no i didn't say ansel i didn't say you got that one wrong actually sorry okay um what video game slash fictional world would i want to live in i don't know probably freaking minecraft i don't i i'm gonna give that point to you like i wouldn't actually want to live in it but minecraft is the best game of all time can we just be honest like me and my middle school buddies when i was in seventh grade that game when caleb and abby were your brother yeah like me and my middle school buddies were your brother me and abby were just downstairs and we're like where do they go and you guys are just upstairs and then caleb likes to play the music for minecraft yeah he likes the volume of it even though the volume doesn't even do anything the soundtrack of minecraft is so relaxing and it's just it puts you at peace and it's just it's just with you're with the boys and it's just so good and then now your brother and then we have two remote remotes that our kids will use and they think they're playing but they're actually not and it's so fun you guys have really hacked the dadding system what tattoo would i get if i had to choose one you would get emerson's name yep where am i going to get her name you that's what you can never decide on that's why i haven't gotten the tattoo yet is because i've gone back and forth on where to get her name i want you to get it by your heart see that's the thing is like i want to have it by my heart but i think i want to but but then like i think that's where you want me to have uh her name but then i think i want it on my arm okay then put on your arm i think i should just go ahead and do it like i've overthought this for so long yeah that'll be cool it'll be cool like every single time i look down at my arm it'll just see when we go to tahoe that'd be so sweet because my dad wants to get the same exact tattoo yeah uh to remember emerson so we'll have to do it and get it on the same place same location um i think you have to get on the same location i guess we don't i guess my dad can do whatever he wants but we did have a phone call me and my dad talking about that tattoo and where we want to get it i like that i like that a lot and i want it in your handwriting you have beautiful handwriting i want it i want it to be in your handwriting what is my dream car a cyber truck see that like that's the thing is i feel like i got my dream car like i feel like just having a tesla a tesla like when we got married in 2019 i had like you're not a car guy i i'm not really not i'm not a car guy but i just learned like what tesla was and i thought it was cool that it was like a self-driving car and so yeah we got i feel like i don't think i'll ever experience that like excitement of having a car i don't think i'll ever experience that like excitement of having a car i don't think i'll ever ever again because i remember like i i was just freaking out when we it got delivered to our house you know uh i could give you a half point for that one okay yippee okay that was the end of that round um after three rounds i have you said ten and a half massive oh my god that's some bs that is some crazy bs new and exclusive holiday decor just launched online at the home depot check out the grand duchess collection with smart holiday lights you can control from your phone easily customize the twinkle across trees, wreaths, and garlands to match your holiday vibe. 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I'm not going to lock this in, but I was about to say Village Inn because it used to be like a Village Inn chocolate chip pancake scurvy. So niche. What? Like, wait, this is for every meal? What's the question again? Oh, Cheesecake Factory. Yeah, think about that menu. Let's freaking go. I would never get bored. How could you get bored at the Cheesecake Factory? You'd get morbidly obese because every meal there is like 4,000 calories. It's crazy. But then what about the Skinnylicious menu? Oh, that would. I get a different meal. I get breakfast, lunch, and dinner when I'm feeling Skinnylicious or when I'm feeling like a big back. I got everything. That's so funny. I got everything I need right there. Everything you need right there, baby. Gosh, we need to go back to Cheesecake Factory. It's been at least a month since we've been. It's been way too long. That used to be our date night spot every week. And then we just stopped. Then we stopped going on dates. Why did we stop going on dates? We forgot about each other. We've been doing too many podcasts. If I'm upset, what treat would you bring me to make my day better? Probably. Don't think about food, honestly. Think about what's something that I need every time I'm upset. Anytime when you're upset. Anytime I'm even slightly inconvenienced, what do I need to do? Go to the gym. To reset myself. You should go to the gym. That's true, but that's not the one I was thinking of. You're just feeling anger. That's true. You're going to go to the gym. This girl needs to go to the gym. I need to go to the gym. Are we saying food? If I'm slightly inconvenienced, any inconvenience in my day, it's like I got to reset. How do I reset? Take a bath. Yeah. Yeah, you got to take. This is a. Yeah. Sometimes I have to take more than one a day if it's like really. I feel like. Okay, I will say I'm in the lead right now, but I think. Abby's helping me out on these answers. You think? You kind of just led me to the answer. Oh, sorry. You also changed it. Like, it was supposed to be like, what's the food you want? And then somehow we ended up on bath. Okay, what treat? What physical treat would you get me? I'm thinking of one, too. Probably just chocolate. Probably just. No? No? Uh. Diet Coke. Uh. Okay, that's the right answer sometimes. What are you thinking of? Also, the fact that you're saying Diet Coke is I'm just like letting it go, but I'm Coke Zero, so. Sorry. Watch it. That. That. I'm just letting it go. Actually, that is embarrassing. You've been a Coke Zero girly for probably two years. Also, I'm a root beer girl now. You're a root beer. You're a root beer girl. I have to update my syllabus for you about myself. Okay. Okay, what treat? Go. Go. Ice cream cookie sandwich from Trader Joe's. That. Yeah. Those are. That would be good. Deathly delicious. But see, that, like, that. Yeah, you're right. I'm wrong. I'm wrong. What's the most random thing that makes me emotional? Oh, I got it. I don't think you're gonna get it. Usually just, like, a random Instagram reel or a TikTok. You're like. Yeah. I'm just catching you bawling your eyes out. But that's not random. That's normal. I feel like a lot of people just start crying when they're. It's, like, emotional. on reels. Like, it's especially the ones where, like, you see the grandma and grandpa and then their kids and then their kids and then soon there's, like, a family tree of, like, 75 people, like, on the field, you know? Yeah. That's the type of video that. That gets you every time. Gets me. Yeah. Not what I'm thinking about. This is a random thing that makes me cry. That's what the question says. What's the most random thing that makes me cry? What happened to the lost colony of Roanoke? I don't know. It doesn't make me cry. What is it? That just makes me spiral. Which they did find out what happened to it. Yes. I did announce that. You said that on Always Here? Yeah, I did. I said that on Always Here. I love that. Okay. I hope that was accurate. I actually. I announced that to you, like, a week ago. I came running up into our bedroom. I was like, babe, they found. I was scrolling YouTube. I didn't even know that we had talked. I was scrolling YouTube, and then I was like, they found the lost colony of Roanoke. Just a puzzle piece. Yeah. Old couples holding hands. Oh. I should have had that one. Sorry. You really should have had that one. Yes. That is something that is really random that makes me cry, because I'm just like, I just hope one day Matt and I can be old together and still be in love. And holding hands. Holding hands is just also just such a precious thing. Yeah. That's sweet. Like, it's so precious to hold. It is. Especially when you've been. You've been together your whole life. Yeah. I'm going to cry right now. What movie makes me cry every time? What? We got a lot of crying ones. That's okay. This is who I am. For me, it's Up, but for you, would it be the different movie? Wait, let me think. Let me think. Do you even know what the movie would be? So many. Coco also got me. Like, remember me? It's the Pixar ones for Matt. Yeah, Pixar knows how to do it, man. I almost started crying. When the Pixar band at Disneyland started playing Remember Me. They just transitioned to it out of nowhere. And I was like, oh, just like hit me in the freaking soul. Yeah, you were like having a visceral reaction to that. Yeah, got me. A movie that makes me cry. The last time I watched Up was after we had our miscarriage. And then that part of them losing their baby was like, literally had me on the floor. Like, so sad. So, so sad. I hate that we know what that's like. Yeah. Yeah, I guess we can both stay up. But I can't remember why I'm not thinking of one. I haven't cried during a movie in a long time. Just kidding. I have cried a lot during movies. You cried. Wuthering Heights was like, awful. Yeah, that was brutal. That was like, horrible. Ruined our date night. Ruined date night. That's why we stopped going on date nights, honestly. That's the day we stopped going on. Honestly. I don't think we've been on a date night since that movie. I think we just figured it out. Yeah. Wuthering Heights ruined date night for us. Thanks, Wuthering Heights. Thanks, Jacob Elordi. What the frick? We were doing good. We were doing date night every week. And we just stopped. We're not doing it every week. Okay, every other week for sure. I mean, I don't know about that either, but. Once a month. Once a month. No point? I don't know. That's not really fair for him, but no point. No point. I see Addie has like a calculator, like a website. I know. I think if I just do tally, it's kind of hard. That's so funny. I have a scorekeeper. You've got a scorekeeper website. That's so funny. That's so funny. What's the one that cheers me up instantly? Probably taking you to Disney, I guess. I don't know. Wait, no. It's so much simpler than that. Flowers? No, flowers don't really do it. Last time I got you flowers, you didn't even notice. You didn't say anything. You just put them on the counter. I said, who gave me these? I wanted to see if you would notice. You didn't notice. It's okay. No, I noticed. I just had no idea where they came from. I was going to walk into your Always Here recording, but then I'm like, I don't want to, like, you know how if you, like, do it for, like, the attention of it, then it's like it kind of takes the whole point away? You just overthought the crap out of it, and I had no idea that you got me flowers. Yeah, so then I didn't show you that I got you flowers, then you'd ever do. Okay, probably taking a bath. Probably that. Sure, yeah. That works every time. Yeah, that's a good one. Okay, your turn. Yeah. What's something I've been overthinking this week? Every week. You're right. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. High five. For your whole life. Everything. Literally everything. What is my most irrational fear? Oh, moving on. That was correct. Most irrational fear. Tiny shards of glass getting in your body. How are you so good at this? Wait, you gotta tell the story. You gotta tell the story. Which one? There's so many stories. The last time that this happened. The last time this happened, I think Caleb accidentally broke a glass in her house. It's an OCD thing. yeah accidentally broke a glass and then i warned everyone i warned abigail across from me i was like hey he's gonna be cleaning this up for the next like hour and a half and then sure enough the vacuum next thing out got a broom next thing vacuum is back on like you're just like then you're spraying and wiping yeah i don't want any glass to get in my kids feet that would not be good glass also if he thinks that he might have accidentally eaten a container that has chipped glass that's true internal bleeding is going to be on his mind for the next 48 hours what is one of my biggest regrets um maybe buying our airbnb is that too serious uh you know i learned a lot for that uh leaving hawaii sad ew yeah yeah man that got a little too deep too fast it's been five years almost and that's the end of the podcast all right i hit the nail on the head oh gosh well uh two more questions uh what's a baby name i love but you hate i feel like we agree on baby names i know i feel like i like more than you like yeah well you're the one you've you've picked out all of our baby's names and i've just like kind of like signed off on them yeah and like approved i mean i feel like i don't hate it but you want to name one of our kids after you that would be kind of why do i think that's kind of fun it's just so confusing because my dad's matthew your matthew then we have another matthew yeah and then also something about that like i don't know i've gone back and forth number 48 what is my favorite physical feature of yours i'm gonna write it down you're gonna write it you can't even say it for a podcast listener no you could use the oh gosh you went right for it am i right yeah don't say it out loud yes i mean yet yes okay okay but i mean i was thinking more of like a like a like a more pg than that where i was thinking more pg than that my eyes yeah let's let's go with those i like your eyes okay well did i get that right uh well yeah we'll give it to you this is so serious okay i will say we do need to get a mic in here because people have been requesting that you have a mic okay no addy is saying 15 15 and a half i'm winning what's my love language and how do i actually like it expressed huh um your love language is acts of service yes and you like it expressed by me like just like cleaning our house chore play chore play chore play baby yeah i think you got that right i've never heard that you've never you've never heard of chore play before that's funny seven years of marriage we'll do that only seven okay what's one thing i wish you did more of uh more chore play and if you do do something you're like look what i'm like it's not actually the fact of seeing you do it so the task that i'm like oh no it's doing it together it's so romantic no i i do love you it's romantic i genuinely love doing chores with you yeah i wish he got you as my favorite thing as excited as it does me what's something i pretend not to care about but actually do uh you wish you could sing yeah that's really sad actually it's so sad maybe you could help me be a better actor and i could work with you on your singing skills no it's i i tried seven years of private voice lessons at my best it was i pretty bad still on the real though guys i would love to see abby in a movie like i think she would crush it like y'all she can act okay that's so nice she can also my nose i pretend not to care about it but i don't like it that's really sad yeah just putting it out there i think you're beautiful it bothers my mom when i say it but i don't have her nose so i say it to her and then my dad has the same nose so we can talk about it together see your dad i think parents need to be aware of what they say because your dad like roasts himself and i'm like i have the same it's not the same i'm like it's the same because because like if you talk negatively about yourself and then your kid hears it then they're gonna like pick up the phone and be like oh my god i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i'm so sorry on that you know yeah but also i feel like it doesn't really count same thing with like bot like with weight and with just like anything with like appearance any event any of that insecurity can go out of your kid you know what's something i judge people for but won't admit i got it i guess i'm admitting it you judge people for it yeah there's like a couple acceptable answers here gosh i'm so judgmental okay um probably this is something i i would be like oh i wouldn't do this but i tell you about it but i would never like it's not serious enough to bring to that person you know what i mean gossip gossiping that's a good one that wasn't i was thinking about it'd be kind of hypocritical to judge someone for gossip i feel like yeah gossiping about yeah that was not what i see we're safe people like we can tell each other you're no fun to gossip too why not and actually that's not true it's still not okay um maybe uh people i don't even know i'm sorry i'm gonna play i don't know people being mean to their kids oh yeah not or okay and i also say being mean loosely like sometimes if i'm like that was just way too like that was way too much that's a big one for me too it makes me so angry especially if we're in like disneyland or disney world and people are being like like yelling at their kids it's like can you just take a chill pill like it's just supposed to be fun yeah yeah it's supposed to be the most magical place what's the other one another one i was thinking of is like laziness oh yeah just do it yeah get off your butt yeah yeah that's bad because i'm also gosh i'm on my butt a lot sometimes so that's just that's why i don't bring it up you work hard though thank you you get a lot done thank you purchase new carpet from the home depot and get it installed for free right now shop the stylish choices and simple pricing of carpet from home decorators collection traffic master or life proof with pet proof technology and see for 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you're walking on the stair climb and you're like what the heck like what is what is my actual plan here if that's you you need to hear about ladder i've recently discovered ladder and now have a workout plan with an expert coach that can be done from anywhere ladder is an expert strength training plan it's real progressive programming designed by certified coaches you can get a plan each week that builds on the last there is an in-ear coach that guides you through every set with cues form and motivation the app remembers your weight reps and sets so you can see yourself getting stronger over time remove the guesswork with ladder and get a real coach in your ear telling you exactly what to do for every workout no thinking everything planned for you if you have an iphone head to ladder.fit unplanned and take a quick quiz to find your perfect ladder plan use our link and get a free seven-day trial with no credit card and ten dollars off your first month if you join what's my current biggest insecurity i've decided to just let go of those but what's what's one oh this would make me so sad because i don't see it at all it's your your belly button like for something for some reason like you get you get all upset about like your belly your belly which is so but it's so beautiful you're growing you're growing our baby okay i love it you got to show that thing off that's why i'm like it's a great belly i like it go to the pool you're beautiful you look so beautiful i can just get a one piece you're a hot mama that was a great one i'm gonna go to the pool i'm gonna go to the pool that's a point for you all right well these are the same questions gosh we've been playing this game for so long are we almost done oh good you're having a good time we've got one more round - After this one. - I'm gonna start writing them down again. - Okay, now we have, what's my love language and how do I actually like it expressed? - I do have to write this down. - Oh, I know what it is. Ready? No, I'm supposed to be the one writing it down. Oh my gosh. - Physical touch. - Physical touch. - Got it. - I was thinking of something a lot more PG, and it was just you playing with my hair. Just you playing with my hair. - You like that? - Yeah, I like it. - So I got that wrong. - Just scratch you. Oh, so keep doing it. I like it. - That is so weird. - No, you got it right. - I never do that. - I'm not gonna stop you from that physical touch, but. - I got it right, so do I get a point? - Yeah, you get a point. - Scratching your head? Matt Howard. - I like it. - Okay, wow, good to know. - I love being hugged. I love just being. - You love hugs, I said hugs. - I'm a physical touch guy, you know. - What I wrote down. - Ding, ding, ding, ding. - Okay, next. - All right. - I'm sweating. - What's something I pretend not to care about, but I actually do? - A lot of things. - So many things, yeah. A lot of things. - Everything. - I don't know what I wanna say. - Wait, say it. What is it? - The way that you just looked at me was. Oh. - What did I do? - What was funny? - I will say it. - Okay, say it. What is it? - I'll write it down. - Write it down. And then I can let you know if it's okay to be said. Oh. Let's keep that one to ourselves. We don't need to share that with the internet. - Okay. - All right. - But am I right? - Yeah, you are. - Okay. - Okay. Damn, we're just getting so open. Getting so open today. - My walls are down, they've been down for a while. - Okay. What's something I judge people for but won't admit it? The won't admit part is throwing me off. 'Cause it's like. - You will tell people straight up. I mean. - I feel like I'm a pretty open, honest person. - Well, also I don't really think you're judging anyone. You're not judgmental. - I don't think I'm, yeah, I don't think I'm judgmental. - Oh, I know. - What? - How they spend their money. - Oh. See, I will admit that though. - Okay, you will admit it. - I will admit that. I'll tell them to their face. - You're like, that's not a good thing to do. - Yeah. - Yeah, especially, like the rules of money are simple, but it's easier said, I will say it's easier said than done. Way easier said than done. What blows my mind though. - Oh my gosh, here we go. - Is the, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. What I will say, what's fascinating about money is like, it does not matter how much you make if you don't learn to keep some of it. - Mm-hmm. - You're never gonna have like anything for yourself. And that's like the, that's the most important rule of money. It's not about how much you make, it's how much you keep. - Yeah. - It was really good. - Yep. - Next one. - That's a rule from the, it's called the- - I nailed that one. - "The Richest Man in Babylon." That's a whole book about that. - "The Richest Man in Babylon." - Go read it. - Go read it. - Dave Ramsey likes that book too. - Dave Ramsey too. - I love Dave. He's a great guy. What's my current biggest insecurity? Do you know what it is? You're writing it down again. - I don't think this is a new one. I spelled that wrong. - You're a person-atey. - - I think I like my personality, though. - You told me that you were not confident about your personality, and that made me sad. - No, I like my pers- I think I'm just insecure. - Just general insecure. - Yeah, I'm gonna work on that one. - So that, did I just roast your life by saying your personality? - Yeah, maybe a little bit. - Did you or did you not tell me that? You're like, "I've always been confident about this, but I've always been not confident about-" - Yeah, I feel like I'm in therapy right now, guys, 'cause I wanna be the best version of myself for my kids, so that they- - Oh my gosh. - I think your kids just do whatever the frick- they don't do what you say, they do what you do. They just copy you. I think there's great qualities about my parents, and I have nothing- I love my parents, they're great people. I just think I just wanna try to be the best version of myself so my kids can follow that. - Can we just clear my name that I didn't just try to roast your life? You did say that to me. - When did I say that to you? I don't know when- - Oh my gosh. - Maybe I'm just stupid, and I just forgot that I said that. - You think I just pulled that out of there? - I probably said that while I was feeling insecure. - Don't make me- - Don't make me the asshole here. - All right. - So no point there? - No point. - Okay, Abby, you're up. - After five rounds, Matt, 18, Abby, 19 and a half. - Oh, Abby's winning. Going into the final round, Abby's winning, guys. - I haven't beat by one and a half points. Okay, let's see. What's something I've changed my mind about recently? - You really don't change your mind much, honestly. - I think I do. - I feel like you don't. Can you think of anything that you've changed your mind on? There we go. That's exactly my point. - Am I a stubborn old lady? - Yeah, you are, but it's okay. I love that about you. - You do? - Yeah. - No, I feel like I've changed my mind about something. - You're Vicky Biswell, but in a younger version. You're like a younger version of your grandma. - Microplastics. - Microplastics, yes. Abby would not let me heat up my frozen peas in the plastic bag the other day. - You're welcome. - In the microwave 'cause of microplastics. - You don't wanna know why? Addy gets a point. - Addy gets a point for that one. - Addy gets a point, I guess. I guess I'm a stubborn old lady. - I get a point for that, yeah. - Okay, what's my current hyperfixation? - You know, that's like a thing that I do, so I don't really know what that would be for you, but I'm thinking probably microplastics. - No, no. - What, what would it be? Do you even know what it is for yourself? You don't even know what it is for yourself. - Yeah, I do. - No, you don't. What is it then? - Like audio books? - No! - You're not even a thing. - Podcasts? - No! That's so general. - Yummy protein shakes? - No! - Eggs? - You've done eggs forever. - No. - Eggs, what? - Reading. - You've always been a reader. You're funny, I like you. - Steak? - Grilling. - Grilling. - I grill a lot more. You started letting me grill again. - Yes. - And Abby admitted it, guys. She realized that the reason I got fired from grilling duty was because she ordered the wrong meat, she got wild salmon rather than farm-raised salmon. - Here's something you should know, is that wild salmon tastes like you literally just plucked a fish from a pond. I'm not kidding. And farm-raised salmon tastes way better. And I accidentally, one time, must have bought wild salmon. And it tastes like we were eating cat food. And I thought Matt muffed it up, but it was actually, I just brought the wrong meat. - Yeah, but I'm back grilling again. I grill steak. - He's back to grilling every night. - I grill salmon, I'm grilling chicken tonight. - And salmon. - And salmon. - How many cavities have I had? Okay, let's actually narrow this down to, how many cavities did I have after my pregnancy with Griffin? - I wanna say there were, was it four? - Yeah. - You had four cavities, yeah. Four cavities. - Four cavities after my first pregnancy. - Ding, ding, ding, I got that right. - They had to do it in two different shots. Like, they had to do one half one day, and one half the other day. - Yeah, that's crazy. So, if you're a lady that's pregnant, get your teeth checked, 'cause you could have some cavities. - Well, they can't even do it while you're pregnant. - Wait until after you're pregnant, and then get your teeth checked. - What's my proudest moment? - Probably becoming a mom. - Yeah, that's so easy. But also so-- - It's so cute, the video of you finding out you're pregnant with Griffin, you like have this like little hand go up. You're like so happy. - Aw! - It's the sweetest thing. - So happy. - 'Cause I think you had dreamed of that since you were like a little girl. - Forever. - Yeah. - Where is my dream vacation? - Don't overthink this. What's my favorite thing to do? - Your dream vacation? - Yeah, my dream vacation. - Do you love to go to the lake and go, you're a lake girl, no? You, oh, oh, I'm overthinking this. I'm so overthinking this. The spa. You like to go to the spa and get a massage. - That's true. - And just relax. - That's true, that's true. But I was just gonna say, just me, you, and Cabo is like our favorite. - Cabo, why, yeah, Cabo, we love Cabo. - Just unlimited food, rest, and relaxation, and we just get to be married. - Yeah. - Just get to be married, not be parents together, which I love being parents, but it's just so special after having kids to have that like-- - Time together. - Two days of alone time. - Yeah. - So special. - That's good. - Okay, that's the end. I don't think you got that one right. - Okay. - Yeah, no, I don't think you got that right. - All right. - Spa, spa's kinda right. - It's not what you were thinking. - Well, we go to the spa. - We go to the spa. - Okay. - What is my biggest pet peeve? - Shoes on the table, shoes on the counter. - That does piss me off, yeah. I was just waiting for you to say something 'cause I can't even think of anything. - Shoes on the counter. - Shoes on the counter piss me off. I don't like that. - Shoes in the house. - Yeah, I don't like shoes. If you're wearing your shoes in the house, take your shoes off, okay? We don't want your germs in this house. - If you think that you have touched any bit of poop-- - Gotta wash my hands at least 17 times. - Yeah, I think that's pretty all-inclusive of your-- - Yeah, that's pretty good. I'll give you a point for that one. - So generous. - Getting the YouTube play button. - I actually was, that was like pretty crazy, yeah. The thing that came to my mind was marrying you. - I'm gonna cry. I don't wanna get a motion on this podcast. - What? - What? I just love you. I just think that that was like my-- - You did pretty good marrying me when you really think about it. - I did. I really-- - I'm just kidding. I married out of my league. Stop, that's not true. Pretty crazy. That's not true. Just like the whole day, I remember just like thinking about how lucky I was. And I was just trying to like enjoy every second of it. It was cool. That's sweet. Don't you forget it. What is my favorite Christmas movie? You don't like Christmas movies. But if I had to choose a favorite one, which one would it be? Okay, Four Christmases. Not the one that I was thinking of. Polar Express? I was thinking of Elf with Will Ferrell. What? Yeah. You never have ever asked me, hey, let's watch Elf. Will is a funny guy. You read the Polar Express book to the kids every single night. I do. You're right. And it's April. But I haven't watched that movie in a long time. I don't know when. That's just because it's a shadow book and I project the book onto the wall using my flashlight on my phone. I got that wrong. What is my hidden talent? I just came to my mind. I know. I know it right now. People might know what this is, but most of the internet would have no idea that I can do this. Your hidden talent? Yeah. Most people would have no idea. People that really know us would know because of our background and the arts. Is that how you can tap dance? Yeah. I led you to that answer, though. No. Just so that when Abby wins this game, I want you guys to know that. Matt's a really good tap dancer. He really actually is. Wait, why did you say that? It's kind of funny. Do you have your tap shoes still? Dude, that would actually be so funny. Should I tap dance right now? No. No? Not now. Maybe not right now, but I do have. Not now. I thought of this video like two years ago, and I still haven't filmed it, so I'll just tell you what it is. Like waking you up in the morning by tap dancing. Never do that. Immediately vetoed. That would be so funny. Like you're just like yawning and waking up, and I'm just like. You wake up me and Griffin. I'm doing a triple time step on a wooden platform. That would actually be kind of funny. Okay. If I were a red flag, what would it be? You're a mouth breather. You got it right. How did you know? That's exactly what I was thinking. This man literally buys special tape to tape his clothes at night time. Yes, I do. I do buy tape to shut my mouth. And here's the thing. It's not a problem that you're a mouth breather. It's the residual problems of you being a mouth breather. The fact that you can't chew with your mouth closed because then you won't be able to breathe when you're eating food. If you have a cold, it's just a nightmare of a different sort. That's right. Yeah. And you're a chronic overthinker. I do overthink the frick out of literally everything. You're right. And not very decisive. You are correct in that. Well, now that Abby said all of my red flags, thank you guys for listening to another episode of Unplanned. Matt got 21. Matt got 21. Matt got 22 and a half. Oh, Abby won. That is only right, honestly. Congratulations on winning. Thank you. I love you. I love you. I'm so happy you're my wife. Thank you to KTB. Why 99 for leaving us review on Apple podcast. 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