What Are You Driven By??

We are back for another podcast episode and today my ends fired knowledge but I would like to speak on the topic of Is what are you driven by? Have you ever actually stopped to think about like, fuck what am I driven by? What am I wanting to achieve in this life, in this moment, in this year, in this month, in this week? What is driving me and when it comes to like drive and goals we can look externally but we should look internally and we should be clear not only on our values and the core driving factor for us but also in each season like what we want and why we want it and when we look to a sales process this is something that I take women through all of the time it's their vision it's their consequence because humans look the truth is and the reality is we move away from pain much faster than we move towards desire whether that's bad or wrong or right or good who the fuck is. Because whatever season in life you're in like for me personally I'm much prefer to move towards desire than move away from pain but unfortunately a lot of people that don't have that hope or that belief and so it's easier to move away from pain that is why medication sells much better than vitamins dogs are being very needy right now so let's see if they'll jump up but when I want you to stop in question for yourself is like hey what am I driven by? What motivates me and not motivation in this ethereal like it comes and goes thing like what is that source of fuel that I can tap into so that I can get myself up and I can get myself taking aligned action, keyword here being aligned action we're not talking about busy but not actually productive where we're talking about taking that action that is going to move the needle what are you driven by? For some people it's money and that's fine for some people it's status for some people it's impact for some people it's connection for some maybe it's growth for some it comes from trauma. That's not lie a lot of this is a trauma response but I'll compromise your pain into purpose you know what I'm saying so for me where this kind of conversation comes from is like having probably I've known this but like I know it now that I am not driven by not money. I am not driven by ones and zero as you probably cannot sit there and be like I'll pay you a million dollars to do an excited thing that I don't really want to do because that's not what like gets me out that's not what lights me up that's not what moves me what what moves me is impact what moves me is service and helping and growth and change. And so for July I sent myself a really big audacious income goal and then I doubled it but it wasn't about the money and whatever it is I now have people being like so I hit my 40 came up to July. I have people not being like all 50 I can feel it in my bones like patches of my baby I don't have that like endless source of energy to run after a number. I just it's no mine and this is where we talk about external goals versus internal goals or desires and things that you want to have experience or achieve are they coming from within you are they coming from what other people think you should want are you performing or you actually in alignment and so when you set yourself a goal I want. XYZ body I want XYZ number in my bank account I want XYZ promotion stop and ask yourself why and then ask yourself again why and then ask yourself again why why why for me why did I want to achieve initially what I set out to achieve for the 20 came up why do I want to do that well firstly I want to show myself that growth and desire and. I want to show myself who I become in the process of that it's not about the number it's about the woman in the behavior and the mindset. And second to that like it wasn't about the number it was that I wanted to achieve it award at at this goal and it wasn't about like. Fame or recognition or anything like that in achieving this award for me it was about like I have brought so many women into this community and onto this path I want to be a leader for impact I want to show them what's possible and I. I get to do that by going first so I'm actually going to show them okay when you set a goal and you step into that version of yourself and you become that woman look at what you achieve and I fucking doubled my goal it wasn't about the number it was always about the impact and that's not to say that like if you're driven by money your bad fuck no you go be driven by money hell fucking yes that is so amazing and incredible but like what is your desire what is. What is your driver don't get caught up in what you think it should be or what other people are going for if your dream life is to work 10 hours a week and just fund the ability to do that actually you know what I had this conversation. I had this conversation over the weekend so I went to a property event birdie and I are a part of a property development group and we did like this workshop bus tour weekend birdies and actually there so that really forced me outside of my comfort zone to speak to everybody in a very different. I guess scenario that I know like I'm no stranger to personal development events or speaking to women similar ages to me but to speak to men to speak to people in the late 50s I can really connect and have these conversations with like minded people who are like me but also not like me it was very inspiring very cool but I was having this conversation with some woman that said her goal is to make five million dollars in five years I was like okay what is my goal what is it that I want and birdie and I. I have always said what I have said to birdie a couple of years ago and want us to have a million dollars and like I want us to be million as by 30 and birdie defined that further in like having a million dollars in liquidifiable I don't know if that's what liquidifiable assets like we could have liquid a million dollars in 24 hours sort of thing like that's how we would define it it's not about having a million dollars in the bank. It would be asset rich not cash rich but that's a goal and then outside of that what's what's the next goal what's because I I joked around saying like retired by 35 is something that I've like laughed out of throwing out before and I say that not because it's actual this is what's your actual desire that is not my actual desire I think I would get bored of shit if I was very high at 85 what my actual desire is is to have full freedom full freedom full flexibility full autonomy full choice by 35 in the fact that like we are so financially secure up and set up for generational wealth that like we're good we can we can do whatever we want sort of thing that is the goal but going deeper in that the conversation that I was having is this guy was saying well look I have a house and I have a granny flat out the back and me and my family could move into the granny flat and live quite comfortably and rent out the house and that would be enough to pay off the mortgage and so like we could theoretically retire doing that but like what sort of lifestyle do you want and this is where it's like hey if you hear all these people saying I don't know retire blah blah yots whatever so what's your definition of what you want retired life to look like what's your definition of financial freedom what is it to you and most of us myself included I will put my hand up this is a very challenging thing to do most of us don't sit with ourselves for fucking long enough to actually identify what our core desires are what our core wants are our actual embodied goals not just like what we think we should be doing what society tells us we should do so know what your driver is know what your goal is know where that comes from and trust me when I say it won't be easy of course you are meant to experience the contrast you are meant to be reminded of your power as a creator as a being a source whatever you get real esoteric with it but anyways you are meant to experience the contrast but things flow when your goal is actually yours when you're trying to do something because you think you should want that thing you will run into roadblock after roadblock after roadblock there will be resistance it will not be a seamless smooth path but when you actually authentically have a desire something that's on your heart that you want because you want it because you want it because you want it like when you're very clear on that yes there will be challenges there will be contrast but you will be so supported in that it will flow much easier it will be be frictionless. That we test, that we challenges, but there won't be friction. It'll be a very different experience. You need to understand where your driver is and the thing that's going to get in your way is fear. Because what if I'm not doing what XYZ person is doing? Am I going to experience love? Am I going to experience connection or am I going to be exiled and left alone? That's what we're really genuinely worried about. Same with like appearance. I want to look a certain way. Why do you want that? And if you want it for you, fucking power to you. Go off. Go double the size of your glutes. Go get it six pack. Whatever you want. But why do you want it? Is it for yours? Is it because of what you think you're going to get from that thing? Why do you want the money? Why don't you just go off to the thing that you want to spend the money on? Instead of chasing after the money and like trying to create this elaborate plan and your head of how it's going to happen because again, trust me what I say. We are not powerful enough to play God. We ourselves, we are creators, but we understand like one percent of possibility. If you want miracles to happen, you have to surrender enough to let a miracle happen. Define what you want. Define what you want to. Show up and do what you know you need to do. Of course nobody is saying sit on your hands and do nothing. That's obviously not going to work. Follow what you feel inspired to do. The actions you feel inspired to take from that. Let yourself be led. Stop creating so much resistance and friction. Stop chasing things that you don't actually want. Understand what your driver is. And if you've never done this in your life, I could not recommend anything more than thinking about the outcome. What is it that you want? What is it that you want in six months and 12 months? Whether that's like you have, I don't know, there's two kinds of people. There's the kind of people that go, I want a car and I want it to be blue and I want it to be this brand and I want it to be this year model and this and this and this and this and this and this and those are the other types of people which is me. I want a car and I want to feel luxurious in it. Whatever the feeling is like define what you want, define how that feels to you or what it looks like if you're a specific kind of person. Get really clear on why that's important to you. Why you want that thing? What it's going to mean to you? How is it going to feel? What might get in your way of you achieving it? Probably feel. How would future you who's already achieved that thing move through this challenging moment? Define that. Start showing up as her. Start taking actions as if it's already occurred. That is how you are going to create and step into the thing that you want but also question for yourself on the other side of the spectrum. What happens if I don't get this? What happens if I get in my own way? What happens if I let fear stop me? And you can either let that become the fuel because it is a consequence that you are not willing to settle for. Or you can let it become the like, if I go after this, my whole heart. What is genuinely the worst that can happen? Maybe it's you, quote unquote, lose some money which all comes down to perception. Or maybe it's quote unquote you get embarrassed or people judge you. Okay? And then what? Like genuinely what is the worst that can happen because fear exists in the vague? Fear exists in the vague. And so if you map it out you get really clear. Oh my god suddenly you've got any due to go and chase after this thing that you want. And yet still going to be scary. But isn't it scarier to live your life wondering isn't it scarier to live your life for other people isn't it scarier to actually feel like a stranger in yourself, in the life that you live would much prefer to die trying than to wonder. But only if it's something that you are actually driven by. You will not go after it with full faith if it's not your desire. And so that's something that I encourage you to sit with. What am I driven by? What do I want? Why do I want it? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Get really fucking clear for yourself. Is this mine or is this someone else's? What's it going to give me? Who am I going to be on the other side? We don't contemplate these things enough. Right? I assure you once you contemplate it you will access a different realm of energy. I'm excited to hear what I need to do. This is a forever process. I am in the process still of like sitting in this space or like shit. What do I want? What do I actually want? It's a hard question to ponder. Big, smolder. Run this up through the process. Start getting used to declaring it. Start getting used to getting to know what you would driven by. What experiences fuel you. and I'm going to leave you with that. Okay bye.