Waiting ‘till marriage & raising 2 kids in a tiny home w/ Carson & Brielle Matranga

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Täällä on tullut, että se on tullut. All on today's episode. He has seen a lot of patients and stuff before, and when Zalli was a few months old, I'll never forget. He literally looked at her and he goes, "She's gonna be a very empathetic person." I can just tell by how she is observant in everything that she's gonna be a person that really cares deeply of people. And I was like, "Wow." I don't know. So, if you ask professional trained eyes, if that makes sense, they've told us that. That she kind of always is going to have that empathy kind of part about her, whatever that may have been. You think she was born with that, or is that something? Because I'm like, "How do you raise your. " I feel like three-year-olds and toddlers in general, their job really is kind of to be selfish, focus on themselves. But it's so unique that she is like, "Tell 'em with that." We kind of talked to her like, "She's a person." We don't talk to her like, "She's a kid." And I don't know if that has anything to do with that. I might just be here, though, too. Even our son, he's very observant. But it's funny, Zalia, when she was little, she's still little. But when she was younger, she was very cautious of everything, too. She was a climber, but she was a very cautious climber. Lyrik, our son, ten months, that boy is not cautious at all. He's very capable of everything he does. But he's like, "Wait, I don't want to speak that he says, he's clumsy, but he's more clumsy than our daughter was." So, yeah, I don't know. I might have just been always a part of her. What was the most surprising thing to come out of that video? Was there somebody that commented that was like, "Oh, that's cool. John Cena commented on the video." What did John Cena comment on it? I just made up that. If he did, we couldn't see it, so it's alright. I'm glad somebody got the joke. Wait, I don't get the joke. You can't see John Cena. Get it? Like, that's his whole thing. Like, you can't see me. I've never heard that. Wait, why did nobody ever tell me that? Am I dumb? No, I didn't see anybody there. That's his thing. That's John Cena. I mean, I don't watch wrestling, but I'm pretty sure when he jumps in the ring, he's like, "You can't see me." Guys, I've watched entire movies with John Cena. I've never heard of that in my entire life. They tell jokes every time. Really? They look at past. Why aren't you looking at me? They're like, "What?" Yeah, we live under a rock. It's okay. I'm acting like I'm locked in, but I'm not. I'm not even watch peacemaker with John Cena. That's his own show. He's the main character. Still don't know that. It's okay. It's okay. Thanks for. That's okay to me. Of course. Any time. I've had more famous people follow me from that video than like. I don't know. I just kept seeing like blue checks. Really? Yeah, a follow-up. And I was just like. And she would honestly just take my phone and she would look through like the activity. And she's like, "Carson, I don't know. Christina Perry's following you." I was like, "Whoa, that's cool." That's cool. I thought it was just interesting. Yeah, I was just dancing with the stars. People was liking the pictures and everything. The video, rather. Cheers to you. But I think the main thing that I surprised me was the amount of love that we got from that video. Because I was so concerned about negativity. You know, because posting your kid kind of crying and stuff. But like, again, like she said, it wasn't a negative thing. It was like a beautiful moment. And I know a lot of people were like, "This is how you should be training your kids." Like, telling them a story that's fake, but so they won't do stuff. And I'm like. And also it's a happy cry too. Yeah, it was. She's feeling that it's because of. I don't know. I think the video from my intro. her petition was just this beautiful relationship that you have with your daughter. - Thank you. - And how much she trusts you, and it was sweet seeing you comfort her. When she got sad. - Thank you. - So. - It's sweet. - So sweet. - Thank you. - It's funny, you mentioned Dancing With The Stars. I feel like you gotta go and dance with the stars. - Don't say I'm gonna cry, but I don't say that. I would love that. Oh my gosh, dude. - You guys both have dance backgrounds, right? - Just, well, like I guess professionally trained, just me. - Yeah, yeah. - Brielle, not now. She, well, you could tell what happened in the dance studio when you first went in. - As a little girl, I was just really terrified of like men. I don't know why. - She's still in a little bit. - Okay. - I was a little surprised, she's with me. - I just was like that. So I went in first day of dance, and it was like a male assistant, and I never went back. - Oh really? - Yeah. - So I just didn't stick with it. And I was also a very shy kid. You kind of were too, but dance actually brought that out. - I was definitely so shy. I was like, I was the oldest, but I would get my younger brother. I would, like, we were at the playground. I would send him out and like, hey, go make some friends, want you to establish that? Come back to me, and then we'll all go play. 'Cause I can't go talk to him. - You're younger brother, you see that? - Yes, yes, my younger brother. All right, thanks, he's older, 'cause he's like huge now, like he's like really built, but I'm older, and I'm gonna stick by that. I'm the bigger brother, Gavin. Anyway, wait, no, yes, so I was super shy, and then Michael Jackson passed away, which is actually 17 years ago today. He passed away, and I did not know who he was at all, neither did Brielle, and we both fell in love with the art of, like, performing. And we would literally copy his moves, like, to a T. And my family, I would hold, like, a family dinner night, where, like, all my family came, like, aunts, uncles, grandparents, everything. And I would literally perform in front of the TV for them while they ate dinner. And, like, I think it was, like, that moment, I, it, like, unlocked something for me, like, seeing how happy, and, like, in the moment they were, because of something that I was doing, that's, like, I never wanna do anything but this, you know? And so, I stuck with it. I mean, I still, like, I like to teach and everything still to this day, but that moment was, like, a light switch turned on, you know? - And fill me in on the Louisiana culture of family, 'cause family plays a huge part in your upbringing, right? - 100%. - So what, like-- - Would you speak French? - No. - You don't? - No. - That's what people, that's what, like, like, what they speak though, right? - For Creole? - They speak Creole, but we're not in that area, kind of. - Ah, okay. - That's kind of more, like, I guess, do you guys have, like, a country, kind of, like, feel in Arizona? - Yeah, I guess so. - Like, that's kind of, like, like, like, that's the country. I think that's, like, kind of, like, the equivalent to, like, Cajun. - Cajun? - Like, if that makes sense, yeah. - Yeah. - We're not really tapped into that, just 'cause we don't, we don't live in that area. - Okay. - We know of it, you know, and, like, there's swamp tours and stuff like that, where, like, Cajun people, like, bring you around and show you the alligators and where they live. - Alligators. - Yeah, and you name it, they have it. - Did you ever, almost get bitten by an alligator? - No, I used to have a pet alligator. - What? - Yeah. - You had a pet alligator? - Yeah, it's a little baby alligator was so cute. - Does everybody believe you just had a one? - She didn't believe you just had a one? - That question was so funny. - No, no, I don't think, I don't think, I don't think so. - Is that legal? - I don't think so. - Okay. - I don't know, I was a kid and I let it go. Like, I only had it for, like, a couple weeks. - You found it yourself, like, in the wild. - No, my uncle brought it over and he was like, "Look what I got for you." And I was like, "This is so cool." I was like, I don't even know how well I was, like, seven or eight, and. - That's great. - And the game was, like, he, like, came with a tape on his mouth and it was, like, this big. It was, like, actually, it was so cool. - Okay. - And, like, seeing him, like, walk around, we gave him, like, a little raw chicken and stuff. And my aunt actually lived, like, on some kind of property where they had alligators and stuff. So we just let him go in that, in her backyard. And I don't know if he's still there, but. - Hopefully he's okay. - Sheesh, that's so crazy, I don't know. - And we've never been. So, fill me in and fill other people in on. What is a crawfish boil, like? - Oh my God. - Because that's the big part of the culture, right? - Oh, yeah. - Yeah. That's something that my daughter absolutely loves right now. She found crawfish and is, like, that's all she wants to eat. - But she doesn't eat it. - She just loves to peel. - Yep. - She doesn't actually want to eat them at all. She just wants to sit there and peel it and act like she's eating them. - Yeah. - That is, like, the get-together in Louisiana. - Any excuse you can think of, we're having a crawfish bowl. But they have to be in season. So it's around the same time as kingcake. So you're having, like, kingcake and crawfish. - Yeah, it's great. We gotta go. - What's that season? - It's like in February. - Okay. - It's February to, like, beginning of June. It's like the end of the year. - Yes, yeah. So you have, have you guys ever heard of, like, Fat Tuesday? Or, like, Ash Wednesday? - Yeah, yeah. - Okay, so you basically, before Ash Wednesday, you, like, party it up. You do, like, everything you can do, you know, again, we don't, like, we don't really do this. We don't, like, follow it, but, like, we know of it 'cause we live there. - But we are people, like, being naked. - Yeah. - Yeah, don't, don't, don't, like, listen. As a person who's went on Bourbon Street on Monte Grande, not recommend. - What, why do you not go to Bourbon Street? - I am terrified. - I was traumatized. - I was traumatized. I seen things I never wanted to see before in my life, okay? Like, what, what are we talking about? - Can I actually say it on the pod? - Sure, I mean, what the heck? - I guess you can always edit it out if it's too much. - Okay, like, people have, like, made giant crafted, like, private parts, and, like, walked around with them on Bourbon. Yeah. And, like, I was a child, like, okay, I say a child. - I was probably, like, 12, like, I was by 13. - I was like 13. - Then you did Zack Doc for sponsoring this portion of today's episode. I'm actually gonna use Zack Doc later today because I need an Adderall refill. I have ADHD. 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You know, that's right. - You know, in New Orleans, a lot of things aren't legal. - Around the country. - They can get away with, if that makes sense. - Yeah, like, you can drink alcohol walking around. I didn't know that wasn't normal until we had some friends from out of town come in. And they're like, "Why does your documentary shop "have a drive-through?" And we're like, "Oh, I don't know, it just does." They're like, just make sure, yeah, yours does it. It's like, just make sure you don't put the straw in the cup and then you'll be fine. If a cop pulls you over. - So what I'm hearing is if you go to Bourbon Street on Marty Graugh, you're gonna see naked people and rabbit parts that are like replicas of-- - Replicos in real. - In real? - In real? - Replicos in real. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I just don't-- - Maybe you won't read the kids. - No, but-- - But I do not-- - No, no, but we do have like other parades that aren't in New Orleans. Or if you can get a good spot in New Orleans for certain parades, it can be nice, for sure. - How old for you when you-- - You don't like all those experiences? I think I was like 13. - Who brought you to this? - Well, okay, look, again, as I said, we didn't grow up doing this. So my mom was like, you guys are older now. Like I think we can go and my aunts and uncles and stuff like they have gone a few times. - Okay. - And their house is actually a block around a block from where the parades go. - When they lived there. - Yeah, and so we stay at their house and then went for Mardi Gras. And I was like, oh, and they were like, we can go try it out and we're like, okay, cool. We tried it out and we're like, yeah, never going back, mom. - None of the kids like to go now. - Yeah, no. It's just not our vibe. It's all right. If you like Mardi Gras, more power to you. - More power to you. - You know, I just-- - I'll just eat the King-Hake in my house. - I'll just, yes, I'll go home and I'll throw beads to you guys, and eat King-Hake and eat crawfish. And we're good. - When you said if they're topless, they get better beads. - Correct, yeah, like so-- - So, yeah, they would-- - So they would like, they shake their chest, basically, to get more beads. (laughs) - So like the flow comes by. - They just say, like, throw me something, mister. - Yeah, yeah, they show-- - 'Cause they make shirts that say that. - Yeah, like, when you drive through New Orleans, like you're gonna see like mannequins with shirts with like a woman's chest. - Okay. - Yeah, all right. - And so they do that and it's basically so that they can get the better beads thrown to them. - Yeah, the better beads. - Yeah, which is literally just plastic beads like that. - But maybe just like bigger. - Yeah, so yeah, like I think you have something huge. - Yeah, I think people like the huge beads or like they like the little really small ones that we brought you. I don't know, but-- - But it's so nice. - It's just, it's strange, John is like-- - I feel like we just went in a complete curve ball direction. - Yeah, sorry, yeah. - 'Cause I thought we were talking, like, you thought the king came in. - Maybe Jesus is in this king cave. And then you tell me that women are shaking their chest for some beads. - Yeah. - So how does that correlate? - So, this is what my mom told me. She's like, you know how kids like to get all this energy and they get all crazy and do all these crazy things and then they just like kind of go to sleep. After, think about that for adults. Like they just gotta do all this crazy stuff, all this crazy stuff, right before Ash Wednesday and like, you know, and then once Ash Wednesday comes, like they chill out. - Okay. - So like they get rid of that and then they're forgiving. - Yeah. - Like I think, I think-- - I can't move. We don't do it. - We don't know, we don't know. I've never drank an ounce of alcohol. call my life or anything like so I really we're not like tapped in we just know because we live around there uh just what a promise that uh I'm so fascinated seriously because I think that my knowledge of Marty Grau and like New Orleans in general kind of stopped at Princess in the frog I'm totally honest yeah yeah honestly that's where I probably get most pretty good job I mean yeah that's my understanding of Louisiana is just princess that was the G-rated version though I'm learning the more now it's really just around that time yeah it's around but we went we actually because I think it's you guys can tell us are you guys from Phoenix okay Missouri oh okay cool I'm from St. Louis okay cool so like being from like we're 30 minutes away from New Orleans so being from New Orleans we never really like go to the city okay much and so we didn't really like I don't know necessarily say appreciate New Orleans but it it just wasn't something that we thought of like oh this is cool you know what I mean yeah but we actually went yeah but we actually went for our anniversary this year it kind of just like explored the city like as a tourist and it was actually like so nice like walking around like and taking in things you know we kind of like pretending to be a tourist so you guys didn't meet doing dance I don't know why I thought that originally because it does tie it does tie in so our friendship story is I like it been together for a long time for being so yeah yeah we have known each other since 2013 but we got together in 20s and the 26th yeah in the 2016 start of 2017 technically because guys I if you don't know this I'm gonna let you know you have to act so woman to be their girlfriend I did it I didn't know this I was I was calling her my girlfriend Abby's like what the heck I literally never I know I don't like I don't have to ask you like what so I did a whole dance video and I asked her but yeah because my mom and I'm like wait like is she your girlfriend I was like I mean I think so like she says like my love to me and stuff like on the text and then it's different and as soon as I like I said I love you in person she stopped calling anything she still I'm sorry yeah yeah same bro I freaked out okay listen listen do we want to go now so yeah yeah yeah okay okay okay okay we'll we'll work in reverse okay so I said I love you first and I was terrified because like I was trying to do everything the correct way like you know people are telling me like don't say I love you too fast and do this that and the other day I'm like okay yeah I really like this girl like I don't want to mess it up you know because again she said we met each we knew about each other till since 2013 and but we never met each other in person and then we never like spoke romantically or anything that mean we were we were I was 13 she was 12 like we didn't know what that was I just knew that I thought she was beautiful like at 13 but my mom always told me like before you get a girlfriend that you have to have a car or at least a license a savings account in a job because you're not you're not borrowing money from me and you're not bringing on the back of your bicycle okay so we just talk as friends for like on and off for years does your mom have all boys by chance she has one girl three boys one girl okay three boys yeah girl yep yep she got her lines make like nailed down for what how she's gonna raise her boys yeah yeah and so um so anyway yeah that's that's how it was so whenever I finally got a car have a savings account got a job um I finally like was like hey do you want to like go on a date you know blah blah and it was like or what our third date or something like that I would okay also again to go back to family families huge huge for me and um for us really and we always my mom raised us to say I love you goodbye on the phone or anytime like yours like because you don't know when the next time you'll see them or if ever right so she's always says always make sure you tell them that you love them um before you say goodbye and so it just naturally came out when I was telling her goodbye at the bowling alley and I would just like all right bye I love you and I was like I didn't say that not yet wait uh and I do I like in her face dropped and like that's why another reason was like I just freaked up like I really just messed up it's like I went to the car and I'm like I'm like stressing I'm like I don't even know what stress is but I'm feeling it right now and I was in the car I went home and I was like freaking out like texting or whatever and that the next morning I think or maybe it was even that night I don't remember I like go to my mom's room crying and I'm like and and she's and I'm like mom I messed up and she's like what what she's thinking like I did like drugs or like drink or like did something and like again at this time I'm 17 right oh 17 yeah yeah and um and like she's she's thinking like I did something like that and I was like accidentally said I love you to her and she's like oh my god cars you got me freaking out thinking that you did something like crazy blah blah whatever she goes if that's what if that's what you think messing up is I'm so proud of you and and and so and I was like no mom being serious like I need your help like what do I do and so she took my phone she's like wrote this big long message to Rio and she's like look at it does that look good I was like yeah it looks good and she like sends it in braille like she took it and she's like okay cool like I love you to kind of thing and I was like thanks mom love you so from my point of view from her point of view yeah he said it and then his face was like I shouldn't have so like of course I was like your face maybe like your face what you're like did you say I was like it's that's like a big deal I feel like when you first say I love you like so it took me but also his face look like I shouldn't have said and she was literally calling me my love bro she would literally say I love you my love good night and now I I'm lucky I get dead of because I told her she has to call me dead of when we have kids so they know my name is dead like at least she called me that now but like yeah she doesn't say that anymore but it's okay I still love you is it true that you guys like moved in together when you were 15 and 16 yes that is true how tell me about that I want to talk about how we met for yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah so it goes into that it goes into that yeah for sure so like Carson said Michael Jackson died we don't know each other at the same exact time we were doing the same thing like Michael Jackson our families freaking out were like who is that I'm literally I think I was eight and I was nine yeah whatever they're all like this is literally like the greatest artist ever and we're like okay show videos and I did the same thing that he did I literally to it he was like dancing just like him she was way better than me too he did the same move over and over again that's literally all he did okay and I just loved it I don't know but like we said I didn't actually like to go it's like a dance studio freaked me out whereas he did so that kind of created his love for dance and then he was like okay I want to do this um that's for it a little bit my little cousin was in the dance recital and there was one boy dancer and that was not common at all and like I said like I love Michael Jackson he was a boy dancer so I'm at the top of the auditorium and all this item like my cousin's like oh you're gonna like really like this because there's this boy dancer and I was like okay he comes out he was doing this little like army dance and I put out my phone and I recorded it because I was like even though literally I could not see his face at all so recorded it and I really did want to talk to him after but he stayed backstage the whole time and I was like okay like I got to leave and then how long after did we do it it was like the next day maybe it was the same week I was on Instagram and stalking me she says no but she's no he was tagged in a photo and I was like that's him same little army outfit that's him click on his profile comment under his picture and I'm like hey like this is how old we are about to tell us how old we are yeah and I was like hey I seen your dancing and actually have a video of you that sounds really creepy now that I thought I thought this was a catfish at this point yeah but like at the time I was just like hey like I took a video of you and if you know Carson he really likes videos of himself don't that's not true he was like give me the video so I was trying to say she was real because I thought she was pretty yeah and so he commented back and he didn't want to give me his number because he thought I was a catfish and so we downloaded kick do you remember because yes yeah because Instagram DMs were not even a 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Did you grow up dancing? Yeah actually I took tap jazz in ballet. That is so sick. Yeah, it was 79. 9 years old. Bro, what's happening? And then you grew up dancing. I'm assuming as well. Okay, awesome. Don't ask me to dance. I got no moves anymore. I don't know how it was for you but like being a male dancer in the space. It was very difficult for me in the south. Like I had you know dads and everything like speaking really like horrible things about me stuff. No, no, you're good. I literally didn't face me but you know it was just something that did that was happening. Right. And so it would be it was very hard for me to find like a studio. So it's like I'd kind of be a new studio like almost every year. And it's like my mom literally she at time she drove you know 45 minutes away just so I could dance. And you know but anyway so like just stuff like that was happening a lot. And so at this point in time I was like I'm just going to stop dancing. Like I just can't like I can't do this anymore. And so it's kind of what I call like my dark period because it's just like it was very heavy for me because dance was literally everything to me. Yeah. And the fact that like I was getting so hurt from it every time I danced like with people and stuff that I thought were my friends. It was just like it was horrible. Like just making fun of you for being a boy that wanted to dance. For people calling you gay. Yeah. That was yeah. That was like yeah. I don't really care at this point but yeah I would always have guys hitting on me and stuff. And like I think I didn't want to say that because like I don't really I don't want to like be like you know somebody that's not gay doesn't have it hard but like being a straight male dancer I feel like at least in the South made it even harder because I'm like that's and I wasn't that if that makes sense you know. I think being being misunderstood is frustrating. In general exactly. Yeah. Exactly. So yeah I was just going through like a really hard time and we haven't talked like we didn't talk at this point like for a while. And I remember like going outside like like looking up and kind of like talking to God basically like what do I do you know. And I almost like remember like it sounds so we were like seeing her face in the stars right like I feel like that was like my sign to like reach back out to her. And it was the strangest thing for some reason I could not contact her. No like nothing. She deleted all her social media. I did not have a number no more. Like you name it it was gone. And if you get to know me a little bit more I'm really bad with names. I don't know why. So this is relevant to the story because I like really unlock something and I remembered her cousin name somehow. Like I remember her cousin's name and I found him on social media and I reached out to him like please tell Brian trying to contact her. And so he sent a picture that he was actually with Browth at that time and sent a picture. I remember it was like the most beautiful picture ever. She didn't have no makeup or nothing like like like she just rolled out bed. She probably had a bugger in her eye but like I didn't care like it was so like I was like this is my woman. And so finally she like got back in touch with me but it was so crazy because she got back in touch with me and we were leaving to go on a cruise. And I went to go try to text her back and we had just like left the port where the service wasn't working and so my text were not going through at all. And she finally texted me and I was like yes I was stressing that in higher crews. I was like trying to figure out how to like get I was like mom I was trying to yeah I was like mom pay for the wifi I'll pay you back like come on get all this kind of stuff and it was just nothing was working. And I actually wanted to win an iPad on that cruise and that is also relevant to the story just hear me out okay it is random but when I got back off the cruise I was still trying to text her and for some reason I had an Android phone at the time and it was not texting her and she would not get social media or she didn't have it and I couldn't talk to her to ask her to get it for me just so we could talk and so when in that iPad was the only way that we're able to talk to each other like I like I message her on that iPad for the first one. I'll find a way. Yes exactly that's not I guess that's my point is like all these like being like being young being far away from each other being like you know not having social media not contacting like there was there was always something that came to us and like was able to make this work you know with all you know things kind of going against us I guess and so I found her and my life has been amazing ever since so you were texting on the iPad yeah and it was just like just my little iCloud email and you know we're just texting we're FaceTiming like every night and and finally this this is kind of a funny story so finally it was around Halloween because Buma Dia Halloween came out and yeah Buma Dia I don't know what that is you know the Badaean movies no why not know the references today the Tyler Perry movies I know that name it's okay he's so striking out today man no you're good you're good you're so okay back to yeah I feel like you like it but okay yeah you would love it I think so anyway I was like hey that just came out would you want to go see it and she's like yeah yeah I can tell my mom to bring me right now I said okay like let's do it and and I was 16 she was 15 and my best friend she had a car I had my license I didn't have a car yet and so she was like um I'll bring you I'll bring you I said okay cool I said I just have to convince my mom that like I don't you know and so my mom I have a savings account I have every I have I hit every criteria you told me to like come on like I need to level up you know and so guys we probably miss like two movies okay of like the screenings of how long it took to convince my mom to let me go meet this girl so that was the first time we met and she yeah in person all that time what does that never seen me four years of not I'm just talking I'm not seeing each other physically wow yeah and we were only 30 minutes away the whole time yeah was it awkward then oh yeah she made it awkward I got out the car and I was like I was like hey you know whatever she's like hey and I was like you're not going to give me a hug like I'm like here like with open arms and she just like I meet it when I just kind of was taking my little moment and then I I think I like side hug you yeah that she said I don't like me I was like I don't like me so yeah exactly exactly I just was shy I had to warm up I'm still surprised she likes me but it's okay not long after that yeah I mean you pretty much moved in what do you what do you mean by moved in so like on and off and then eventually like you guys weren't like you guys weren't like you guys were breaking up or no no no no on and off like she would stay at my house you would go back what to your dads or grandma or something okay yeah and um your parents would your parents like chill with that not well yeah not at first until they like realize her situation at home and then like my dad was like oh no yeah I can't bring her back like we just had a very different childhood yeah um and so right around the time that me and Carson started talking again my parents were I think they had just wanted to say we're getting a divorce okay and I had moved in with my dad had my grandmothers and my mom was still like at the house that we were living at there was just a lot of stuff going on and I didn't really understand like what a family was until I kind of got with him and went like I remember that first day I went to your house yeah it surprised you on your birthday and I was like this is so weird like it was like just a normal family and I just wasn't used to that because I grew up in a very chaotic household so what was happening like what what was going on that made it so hard to be at home I was nine and my mom started doing drugs it wasn't like intentional she had a lot of medical issues and it just she became addicted to pills I think I was 10 and she went to rehab okay in that time my parents had split up so I was living with my dad at an apartment which is me and him because my sister I have one sister she wanted to stay with my mom I think she had that like protectiveness over her whereas I just wanted to be away from it we're living in the apartment in my mom went to rehab and she got better she did good and she was good for about a year my parents got back together um we got a different house um everything seemed fine and then she messed up again and then from that point it kind of was like one month she'd be good and then the next month she messed up and so it was constant up and down when you say drugs are these like pain pills from a surgery that then she got addicted to or like what do you mean she had a hysterectomy I think at 27 and so it kind of because she had endometriosis really bad um then they said like if you want any chance of having kidney a try now that's when they tried for me one thing about endometriosis Which I never knew is that actually like it gets better when you're pregnant for a lot of women So she was good and it kind of like, I think I was like four and she got a hysterectomy. It was kind of after that point that it just changed everything for her and she just constantly had issues and then it became to where she kind of made herself have issues so that she could go to the hospital and she could, you know, get more pain in those. What's it like having a mom that's addicted to drugs? How did that affect you as a kid? Made you have to grow up really fast. Yeah, I kind of feel like I didn't have a childhood. Like I didn't really get to experience being the kid because I was just worried all the time. I always think I'd eat a lot as a kid. I never knew what was gonna happen. It actually got worse as I got older, which sucks, but nothing ever felt peaceful. It was constant. That's the chaos. Chaos and worry and I think another part of it was that my dad just wanted to fix everything in that moment and so he would just be like, okay, I'll just get you whatever you want and we can just put this behind us and to me that just frustrated me because it was like, why are we not fixing this? It's just like we're kind of like we're sweeping it under the rug and all of that is still there. So this happened even into our relationship. I've seen things that I probably never wanted to see, but I'm also so grateful that I think I've brought together to like be able to take her from her. Because it was definitely like in that perfect timing. Yeah, because my parents had just told us that we're getting divorced and my mom actually she started drinking at that time, which was something she never did and it was just a whole different side of her. Then my dad was going through it. He was very depressed. So I guess I just didn't feel like I had anywhere to go. Because I would be at my grandma's house with my dad, but then that felt weird and I just wanted to be at my house in my room. But then being at my house in my room, my mom was, you know, yeah, trapped down the bathroom, passed out whatever. Yeah. So being around Carson, it just felt like, wow, like this is actually what family is supposed to be like, wow, this is like, it was weird to me. And then his parents seen that. And I remember that was like the first time like your mom was like, well, just let her stay here. And then there wasn't, I mean, it felt weird. I mean, when you think about it, you're 15 years old and you're like, you slept over at your boyfriend's house, like, it sounds really odd. But, you know, my mom and dad were my entire life. We always had people living with us. Like we always had a spare room for somebody that needed it. And so, you know, they had their, they wound up having like their fourth kid and they actually made, um, real and him like their own room. Like they was together. Oh, really? Yeah. Like so, braille had her own room. This is brother. Whenever I came, he was eight. Yeah, he was eight. So he was just like the little brother. Yeah. A little silly guy. And, uh, and he did not sleep in the, in a room, like at all, like he slept on the couch or with my mom and dad still, like he was not, you know, and so my mom was like, this room is really going to be for you, Brio. But like, you know, we'll just say it's also Kingston. She felt that not giving like her actual care room. Yeah. Right. And so they, the room kind of like got split in half. And, uh, and like they shared her room and he's actually our editor. And, uh, shout out, Uncle it. Um, but, um, but no, yeah, it was like, he was like the third wheel. Like he, he went on all of our dates with us. Like he's, he's awesome. But it was just, it was just so funny because like, yeah, she had her own room in the house. And, uh, yeah. I don't know. But yeah, it didn't start that way because his dad, of course, had feelings about it. Yeah. He didn't like it. Yeah. I really don't know if we should have our son's girlfriend living with us. You know, but I think that night is when he's seen it with his own eyes type of thing. And he just felt like he couldn't do that. And so it kind of wasn't ever like a, okay, you're living with us now. It just kind of happened. Yeah. And it was like slowly. I would like move more stuff. Yeah. Have more clothes here. And then like, Oh, just leave that here. And then it just became. Yeah. I stayed. Yeah. Was that ever a conversation that you have with your parents? No. And that's the weird thing. It was like no one just ever talked about it. Like it just happened. I remember, you know, people had feelings about it. But it, I mean, that was a parent. I'm like, how could you ever like let that happen? I guess, especially when you're like, still there. Like it's not like it was a situation where like my parents weren't around or something like that. It was like, they were right there the whole time. They were, they were, they were right there, but they weren't there. Yeah. So, and at the time, I think it was like two weeks after we got together, my sister had, she moved out. So like, so she was just everybody. She was living on her own. Yeah. Did not drive yet. Didn't have a car. Didn't, nothing. Didn't have food in the house. You know, like it was, yeah, I don't know. Was there ever a worry of getting pregnant like when you're in high school? Was that ever, was that ever a fear? We never did anything like that to after marriage. Oh, no way. Yeah. So like we, we respected it, you know? Obviously, like we kissed and stuff, but like we never like took it further just because I don't know. I think we knew the consequences, if you will, or like, you know, of that, of that possibility and like we just weren't, I guess we weren't there yet. Like we wanted our own place, you know? Yeah, we wanted to be at a certain stage in our life before we did that. And it's, I mean, he has a humongous family and like everybody's very, very close. So it's like, even just hanging out in the house, it's like everybody's right there. That was like a weird part of our relationship. We kind of like struggled with because we, it's weird when you first get together because I feel like normally it's like, okay, well, you like go on dates and then you're like, you're a part. And then you come to, and it's like a different way of getting to know each other and we didn't have that because we just, it was like we literally were constantly with each other. So there was moments where, you know, not a lot, but there was like a few moments where I was like, I think we need a break, like physically from each other, just to like kind of like almost like, yeah, oh, I was going to say you're living together, but you're also dating and you're in your kids. And so it probably didn't necessarily feel like an option if you guys ever did want to break up or take a break. Oh, yeah, we thought that probably didn't feel like you could. We, yes, that, that is something that we still think about to this day where it's like, what would, like, we asked, I think you asked me that, like, what, like, if we would have broken up, yeah, like, what would I have gone, what would I have done, where would I be actually? Yeah, that's like the real question is like, where would I be today? Again, it goes back to, we really believe that we were just meant to be because like, everything truly worked out how it was supposed to, you know, and it still is. It just proves that like love is stronger than anything, you know? So that's a genuine question that I, I asked, you know, we asked ourselves to, like, what would have happened? That's honest. That's, that's real. I think hearing about your childhood, it makes me wonder that now you are a mom of two, like, how that affects you now raising your own children. So kind of like, how I said, the anxiety actually got worse actually when we got together. So like, as a kid, it was kind of like common. It was moments out of nervous. I remember like, physically being sick as a kid from just being anxious, but it was like, next day, all better. And I remember we were on, I think it was like a few months into like me, like, officially staying at your house. And I just woke up one night and like, I felt like there was like an elephant on my chest. And I never felt that before, like, that way. And I remember like, I was scared. I was like, what is going on? And it took about how long of months of like every single day I felt like I was actually dying. And I was scared that I was. And then I think I lost like 10 pounds, which I'm already little. So like, I look scary. Everyone told me it was anxiety. And I would not believe them. I was like, there's no way I like anxiety doesn't do that to you. Like something wrong with me. And then nothing about me is I help anxiety is like the worst for me. Like, I'm terrified of doctors and stuff like that. So just the thought of like something being wrong with me. I just struggled with that. So as we navigated through that and I finally was like, okay, like this has to be anxiety. Like it just makes sense. I remember I started to finally feel better. I think it was right before we got married. And then I was like the best I ever was whenever I got pregnant with Zalia and that whole pregnancy. Like I felt like amazing. Like I was like I love the way I feel having her. The main thing that it did for me was I could not understand how a parent could do that to their kid. And you just like look at your kid and you're like, there's no way. Like I would choose anything over you. And I think that was my biggest thing was like, I never understood why my mom couldn't just get it together. You know, like you have two kids that are like begging you basically to get it together and she just wouldn't. I think from that point, I just like really looked at Zalia and I was like, I need to choose to be better always for you. I just knew that I had to get better for them. Like I knew that like I could not let anxiety take over my life because I knew that a lot of what my mom started with was anxiety. And a lot of things that she grew up with was that. And I know that if she would have gotten the help at a certain time in her life, I don't think she would have been where she was at. And so I just constantly tell myself that of like I have to make sure that I get it together because I won't let something control my life and who I am because that's not fair to my kids. So I wanted to take every kind of like precaution. And that's why I started like therapy and I was doing things that felt like I needed to do for them. And I know I struggle with that when I felt it again because I felt good pregnant And then there was moments after I had died that I felt it again And I remember beating myself up because it was like Like why like you can't do this like you're a parent like you can't do that. You guys built your house Yourself's right. Yes. Yeah, talk to me about that because that not not many people actually build their own house Yeah, for sure. So this at this point in our life we Had just gotten engaged and my where we live Harkin Katrina in 2005 destroyed like Pretty much every house so in sight like my parents had like I think it was like 10 feet of water in their house Oh my gosh, so did insurance pay for their house to be rebuilt? Yes, and no, what do you mean by that? So my dad chose to take the money and pay off their loan and then just build the house from scratch basically So yes, they paid they paid out the house basically They it wasn't like I don't know if it was enough to finish the house I don't I don't know all the details. I just know that he did tell me that He wanted to just paying off the house with the money that insurance gave him with Hold up, so then he had to buy a new one then after the first one was paid off No, we just rebuilt rebuilt because they had the land and everything So okay, so literally what it looked like was just studs everywhere We had a pressure wash all the mold and everything off. So it was literally just a house and a roof standing goodness You remember this. Yeah, yeah, I was I was like six. So you guys go in the hurricane. Uh, Georgia You know, thank goodness you weren't there. Yeah, well, yeah, we found out so Apparently right before that. I mean, I was young, but I miss everybody talked about oh that was before the storm I was before the storm how a lot of people talk about like before COVID after COVID It was kind of like that where we're from like oh, that was before the storm. I'm like wasn't there like a right aid or something right here And they're like yeah, that was before the storm. You remember that and I'm like yeah, so So anyway, yeah, like we came back home and it was disgusting. There was mud like up to your knees and it was it was just horrible And so but my mom my dad and grandpa they stripped the whole house down bare bones Rebuilt it pretty much from scratch Um, and we were staying in a trailer a female trailer right in front of our house And they were rebuilding it. So that's kind of like my family's like very capable, I guess if that makes like you can say so and Does your dad have a construction background? No, he fixes cars for a living He just knows how to fix stuff. He just knows. He's just he's just the guy Um, he's just a guy. Yeah, Mike and he taught you how to do that. That's how you knew how to build a house my grandpa Actually, so my my grandpa his it's funny his background's printing, but He is he is the guy. He's the one I taught my dad like during Katrina the rebuild of the house after Katrina Like he's the one that like I was like, Hey, like this is the book. You need to read me to read you got this Here's this how you read a tape matter this or whatever and like my dad picked it up like nothing and same thing for me like my grandpa taught me how to and bro how to build a house and and so during COVID We got engaged literally the day COVID hit it makes it was that's a whole crazy story and it's so but But yeah, anyway, so so my parents the reason I borrowed my parents because the people that live next door to my parents before the storm They did not move back. Okay, so their house just got destroyed and they just left it and so because my parents live right next door They were able to buy that property or they had like first dibs basically for like super cheap and so we had that property basically where another house could be and We built a little Poolhouse mother-in-law whatever you want to call it On that on that property and Embrale thought it was a joke, you know, she really thought it was joke because my mom was like just go build a little house back there And I was like are you for real and my dad's like yeah y'all can I don't you know whatever and We're like okay cool, and so I literally went outside like with some bricks and we're kind of like laying stuff out Embrale's like what are you doing and she's I'm like they said we could and then she's like they weren't serious I'm like my parents are serious, you know, and And so then my dad gets out there and he's like marking it out with us and brale's like this is not real life And you know and we're like yes, it is so my grandpa He has like some health conditions of like that like he has problems with this hard he had multiple heart attacks and whatnot so During COVID, he just stayed with like pretty much stayed by our house like not sleep Like you didn't sleep there, but like instead of going to work and all that kind of stuff He just stayed with us and every day That's what we're doing. We're building a tiny home. It was me brale and my grandpa building that tiny home from the ground up That's impressive with his heart, too Yeah, yeah, yeah, don't tell him he had a heart attack He still doesn't believe you had a heart attack. That's that's how he is, but we love him And so yeah, is it hard not to get an argument when you're in a five hundred sixty spare foot space? Yeah, together with two kids with two kids. That's probably the hardest part because me and brale's trying to have a passionate conversation We don't argue really just like a pretty passionate when we speak And Zai is like guys guys listen listen. It's all right guys and I'm like, Zai we're not we're not mad each other like we're good You know, she's like, I know, but guys turn your volume down guys And I'm like, Zai we're just talking like it's all right You know the best time to have a conversation is when both kids fall asleep in the car and you're driving around Definitely we definitely have to get out the house a lot and tiny home didn't even start at five hundred sixty square foot That's like I think that's like with my dad's shed included the five. Yeah, it was four twelve. It was four sixteen Yeah, four sixteen. That's how it was literally just a studio apartment Yeah, it was just one room at the bathroom and I always knew we were gonna have one kid in it, but then when we were like Property and housing and all that kind of stuff because again the storm hit and so some of the houses that were rebuilt were through Katrina And like they didn't they didn't do the due diligence like my grandpa and my dad did so like they might have had underlying conditions And something that for the houses that we could afford and we're just like this is just not the way to go so when we we wanted to have another kid so I was like, okay I got to like be husband dad mode or whatever like figure out what we're gonna do, you know? Yeah, and and it made it so much easier and Braille told me she's like, I just want to stay close to your family I said, okay, now I know where to look Yeah, and so Dear kids sleep in the same bed as you guys. Yeah, no way. Yeah, they have to we only have one room. There's one bedroom. There's one bedroom Did you guys go to bed all at the same time and wake up all at the same time? Yeah, I don't but yeah, we typically do yeah like out pretty much. Yeah, like I I'm a big gamer. I'm just gonna say that So like I go to bed kind of late and wake up kind of early just so I can like have like 30 minutes You know of like playing something or working or writing or whatever Um, but now she she sleeps in with the kids, you know But again, she's like nursing all night too. So she's like not even like in a deep sleep most of time but um But yeah, so I don't really go to bed at the same time as them. I like to stay up and wake up early kind of thing Um, but for the most part like yeah, we all go lay down at the same time Like how do you have time for each other when their your kids are in your bedroom They said in the car and they're driving Nope I'm sorry. I'm like you're so messed up. Everybody would add to I don't know. Yeah, no you're good. Uh, I don't I don't know I don't know because she sleeps a lot. So I don't know. That's a great question I don't know I don't know baby. How do we I don't know I'm gonna get sleep. Obviously. I mean I guess there's a will as a way. I don't know I mean, but then again like We grew up with I don't know. We're just always people around. So I don't know It's not like I mean honestly back in the day everybody used to live in a in a tiny home. Yeah Everyone's house was like 500 square foot. Yeah, 100 years ago. This is true So we're just doing our ancestors that that's right. 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They're all different colors and they all have like animals in them And breathe and make sure that animal every animal goes in the exact color Barn and put them back exactly how they're supposed to be like that's how like she wants everything to be And when you live in a tiny home like and then especially then when you have two kids like when you live in a tiny home She kind of like Had her way because you had to have a place for everything like you couldn't move too much. But after having kids I'm like maybe you've got to just there's just You got to spot for everything so it's so yeah, just getting a little tight - And you're building a new house or a building a new house right across the street. - Across the street from the tiny house. - Did you guys just buy that land and it was open? - No, it was not open. - Oh, I remember that story. - I remember that story. - How did you get it then? It wasn't available. - He said where there's a will, there's a way. - Pretty much, pretty much, honestly. So we were actually gonna buy a property a couple blocks down. - Two streets over? - Yeah, two or three streets over, a couple blocks down. And-- - Tista wasn't too far. - No, it wasn't too far. - You know, it was walkable-ish, you know? But something didn't feel right about that lot and like that property. And we kind of just like, I don't know, it didn't fall through for a reason. Let's put it like that. And when I was talking to my mom about, you know, trying to find property and everything, 'cause we decided to build because of what we were telling you guys, like how none of the houses that were in the price range, we thought was a good investment or good idea because we didn't know what underlying conditions they were without breaking up the walls and all that kind of stuff with Hurricane Katrina. And I'm like, we could probably build, since we know how to do a lot of it ourselves, we could probably build it for like the same price of like a brand new house, or I mean, one of those houses, you know, also like a brand new house. So like we probably could save like $150,000 by building it ourselves, you all right? - Yeah. - So that's like the route we decided to go. And so anyway, my mom, I was expressing a lot of stuff and I was very stressed out at this point in time because she was pregnant with our son which we didn't know he was a boy yet. I was still working like a nine to five and that was that's a whole story. And I was just, that was a lot of my plate. And so my mom was like, "Well, what about the water "right across the street?" I'm like, "No, I don't know if that's for sale." I was like, "I don't even know who owns that." She goes, "Well, just hypothetically speaking." Like why not just, you know, if you could. I was like, "I don't know." I was like, "I don't know." And so, I go home and I said, "Babe, just hypothetically speak, "because I already think she's going to be like, "Are you serious, Carson?" I said, "Close not that close." I thought, "I'm thinking she's going to be like whatever." And so I'm like, "Babe, just hypothetically speaking, "if the property across the street was available. "Would you want that one?" And she goes, "Oh yeah, I would rather that one "way more than the other lots." And I was like, "Are you serious right now?" And so I was like, "Okay." And so I figured out who owned it. I called him and I said, "He didn't answer, "but I left him a voicemail." And I asked him, "I'm like, "Hey, this is the situation. "My parents live across the street. "We have two kids, like another one's on the way. "Oh, we have a kid, another one's on the way. "We'd love to build and be close to family." He goes, "Oh, we'd love to sell it to you. "Let me see how much I have in it." And I'll get back with you and I said, "Okay, cool." And I prayed a prayer and I said, "God, if he comes back with this particular number, "I'll know it's from you and I'll buy that "and I'll lose my deposit on the other house "because we were about to sign for the other property. "We were a little later deposit." I think it was like five grand or something like that. And so I was like, "I'll lose that "and I'll know this is from you." And so literally, and at this time, we also thought we were having complications with our son, which is we didn't know he was a boy. And so it was just, I was very. Brielle was like, like she said, she was normally the anxious one. She was so calm and chill about everything with the son like with our second baby. And I was acting like I was fine because I didn't want to show that my nervous, like I was nervous and stressed out to her 'cause like she's naturally like that. Like I'm supposed to be like this stable, like positive, good, lucky kind of guy, right? So it's like I didn't want to do that, but it got so bad that my hands started like breaking out and like bumps and I didn't know why. Like they would, like anything I touched, like hurt and suckers like I work on keyboard and mouse. It's like it was like so painful. And when you look it up, it's a real thing, it's called stress bumps. Like your body's releasing it because you're not. So like because I wasn't like verbally or anything like expressing what was, it was, my body was figuring out a way to get out the stress. And I was like, this is crazy. I'm like, I don't even want to believe in stress, but obviously it's real. And so just had all those like, you know, all those terms and all this thing that you don't want to hear about your baby, you know. And so anyway, so that I'm trying to figure out where we're gonna live, trying to figure out what to do with work, you know, all this kind of stuff. And so after my mom says that, I tell Braille, I reach out to him, the guy who owns the property. And I pray that prayer. I'm like, Lord, like if it's this number, I know it's from you. And so I'm driving to work, you know, crying still, whatever. And then it's like around lunchtime at work. And Braille's like the test results are in for our baby. Like, can you go look at him in the car, you know. I'm like, okay, so I go in the car, you know, and open a test results, and it says he's perfectly healthy and he's a boy. Like, oh my gosh, and so I'm crying, thanking God, you know. And then I go home, like, and I put the little box together or whatever, and I surprise Braille and Zalia, and I say, this is what we're having, you know, and tell Braille that we're having a boy and tell Zalia that she's having a little brother. And she's like, no, I want it to be a sister and I say, it's a brother, so. And so as soon as I showed them that it was a boy, I walked into our bedroom, which is again, it's only like three feet away, and I get-- - One step. - Yeah, one step. And I pull up my phone and it's a text message from the guy. And he said, with this number working, it was the exact number I asked God for. And I was like, I fell to my knees like crying, laughing, and Braille's like, what, what? And I'm just like, you're not gonna believe it. And she's like, he said the number. He said the number, I was like, yes. And she's like, you know, we're crying, or whatever. And yeah, so we got the lot across the street and now we're building, so that's amazing. - Living so close to family. It seems like you're like fully on board. You love this too. Is there ever a time where you're like, okay, we need to set up some boundaries. Like, how do you-- - Do you have boundaries with your family? - Oh yeah. - What does that look like? - That's like the hardest thing to do. - Yeah. - Especially because I grew up homeschooled. Well, not even homeschooled. I grew up unschooled, okay? - What does that mean? - It means like, we don't follow a curriculum. Like, my mom, whatever her interest was, my mom went full force with that. So like, me, I love dance. Like, I went full force dance. Like, or I love space. So like, she's like, all these space books and all this kind of stuff. Like, you know, whatever we were super into, she like went full force. You know, my brother loves animals, you know. - A lady was talking to me about unscrupely coffee shop. Here, people out here do it too. - Yeah. It's become more and more common. Like, Billie Eilish and Phineas. Like, they were, they grew up this school. - They were unschooled. They grew up the exact same way. I didn't know either. And my sister was like a huge fan of her. So like, she was telling me and she's like, dude, she was like, raise like us. And I'm like, that's pretty sick. - Do you guys wear deodorant? - And yes, okay. - Where did that question go? - Isn't it like a crunchy thing? Is it like, unschooling, a crunchy thing? - I don't know. - I feel like crunchy people don't like the odorant. 'Cause of all the-- - That question, I love that. He didn't even question. He's like, yeah, we do. - We do. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I'm like, I'm like, I'm sorry, man. Like, bro, I know it's hot in Arizona, bro. Like, dude, it's hot, dude, I'm sorry. - I wasn't trying to be rude. I just wanted to know how crunchy we're talking. - Did you like growing up unschooled? - I loved it. Looking back, I absolutely loved it. And like, we want to do it with our kids. I think we're gonna have a little bit more structure to it. Like, I think, 'cause growing up, like, I was super insecure about, I still kind of am a little bit, but like, writing front of people, like doing math in front of people. - Six times nine. - Don't be doing this. - I'm sorry. Six times nine is 63, right? - 54, 54. - Shoot! Which one's 63? Oh, frick, this is so bad. - Seven times nine. - Seven times nine. Oh, that's so bad. - Yeah. - I need to go back to, I need, it was good. - And I went to school. - Yeah, and that's what I'm learning. Is that just because you, how you grew up, doesn't necessarily mean anything at all. I think it matters who you are and what you bring to this world, you know, at the end of the day. But, but yeah, so I loved, looking back, I absolutely loved it. I think it allowed me to figure out what I wanted to do and who I am at a, at a earlier age. - That's cool. - Um, you know, when I was in it, I remember wanting to go to high school, 'cause I watch high school musical and all that kind of stuff. And I'm like, "Oh, this is what high school is." I'm like, "I wanted to do that so bad." And, and you know, I had friends in high school and stuff like that, like, oh, my best friend, the same one that helped me, you know, get with Brio, might drive me us to the movies, was she decided to do that. She decided to go to high school 'cause she was unschooled until high school. And she went, and it's like, I went to prom with her and like everything like that. And, and I'm like, yeah, I don't care to do this. I do not, like it was not my thing. I was like, "I'm very grateful for, you know, have my mom and dad chose to do that with me in my siblings." - And what's funny is the lady at the coffee shop that was like trying to tell me about unschooling, her daughter's interest was YouTube. And so that's why she was like, approaching me and into. - And because she knew you were a YouTuber? - I guess, yeah. And I was like, I'm so sorry, I'm not the person to ask, but I was like, I can put you in contact with my husband. (laughing) - Wait, were you homeschooled? No, you just didn't have school. - No, no, yeah. - He went to private school. I went to public school. - Okay, I did both. - Cool. - But that's really me. I didn't know that. - Yeah, yep, yep. - How did we get to care what we were talking about? Oh, boundaries with family. - Yes, boundaries with family. - Okay, so yeah, okay. - We spent a lot of time. - Yes, that's what I'm trying to get at. Yes, so you guys used to not have boundaries, but then you had to bring in boundaries. - Yes, and that was your own family. - That was very difficult. And I think we're still probably doing that. - Yes, because if you think about it, I mean, a kid going to school, they're gone hours of the day. He was with his mom specifically, and his siblings constantly. They didn't have any time away, except for when you went to dance, so. - I loved going to dance. - So when I got went into the family, it was like, yeah, everybody was very. - Oh, is that your business? - Yeah, that's just how it was. - Even grandparents and aunts, we're just, we've got their like every Saturday, pretty much, just to hang out. Like that's just how we are. And so, yeah, setting those boundaries is. it was super difficult, it was a lot of hard conversations, a lot of like, you know, and I think we still have to set some, like as we're learning, as we're growing, you know. Well, as you have kids too, it changes things. That's what I think we really set those back, was when we had kids. You know, the boundaries weren't, I'll say they weren't there, but like I think they weren't as they are until we had kids. It was easier to set those boundaries once we had kids, just because, you know, they understand like, okay, you know, we raised you, like y'all talking about me and like my siblings, differently than how my parents raised us. So like, we'll respect, you know, how you guys are raising, you know, when you decide to raise your kids, you know. What's the example of one of those boundaries? Yeah, a silly one, kind of thing. Oh, it's a silly one. Tell us the silly one. A silly one is when we tell our daughter, now you can't get on the table, and my mom's like, yeah, yeah, you can get on my table, and she like puts her on the table to like, dance or whatever she does, you know. That's like a really silly, like dumb one, but like, we didn't want our daughter to like then go to restaurants and like think she can get on the table with that kind of one of happening, you know. So that's kind of like, that's a silly boundary, but like, that's kind of one of them. You know, I mean, they're pretty good. They don't like come over to a tiny home, like ever, like we go over there. I think it's mainly just like, maybe ways that they would talk. Yeah. In front of other family members or maybe to them, like we didn't want that, so we kind of had to set that boundary. Yeah, like maybe, maybe like, my mom is a mom to all. She's, you know, and so like, maybe like her kind of talking to our kid as she's the mom, maybe maybe that that's a decent one, you know. But I think we're still learning. Yeah, for sure. That's definitely what like, I feel like it changes to yeah, and especially as your kids get older and you add to your family. Oh, yeah. I mean, you were saying how you can't wait to be a grandma. Like, can you imagine like the boys like saying mumps? No, that's not, you know, like, yeah. Like putting that boundary that you like, like preparing my heart. Yeah. Yeah. 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After you purchase, they will ask you where you heard about them. Please support our show and tell them unplanned sent you. Yeah, so we put up a poll on the unplanned podcast Instagram. Okay. You guys asked some questions for yeah, for pre Ellen Carson. So we're gonna answer those right now. First one is from Elise. She said, "What's one thing you hope your kids remember about their childhood?" That they were loved. Yeah, I hope that they feel like when they look back that we did everything to give them the best childhood and that we were intentional with it. Next one is from Madeline. She said, "How sad are you that crawfish season has come to an end?" Braille is very sad. Yeah, me more than Carson. Okay, they're called mud bugs and like sometimes some seasons will pass and like I don't even eat them because the thought of like how nasty they are grosses me out. Why are they nasty? They're like the cockroaches of the river. Like really? Yeah, what do they eat? Dirt. Like just like junk. Like literally like I like I'm gonna like I don't even care. I'm gonna like roast myself. I take the poo off of the crawfish. I saw you do that in the video. I don't like I don't I don't say I have like a poop line in it and yeah. Most people don't they just don't care. They just eat it. You can eat the poop. Yeah, it's fine. I mean people eating poop. Most people who is in it. Most people are fucked by it. I guess because it's poop. Is there a health risk there? If you boil it. I just think about shrimp. I feel like you're eating it. It's there. Yeah, yeah. It's just eaten shrimp poop before. Yes, yes, you've eaten shrimp poop. I feel like it's their intestines. It's their yeah. It's just it's probably their large intestine. It tastes so good though. But like it's kind of like I don't want to say offensive but kind of to like a person that lives in Louisiana if you take the poo off. Right, that's what I said. Yeah, like they're like if you live in Louisiana or you should not be taking that out. Or if you peel crawfish with a glove. It's like brown really. Oh, gloves. They was hitting on me for that. But we don't care. We have small children. We need a way. I don't know. Yeah, because I still nourished my son and I didn't because like most of the time, crawfish spicy. It's spicy. It's spicy. So I didn't want to smell stained your hands so bad. Yeah, like you'll have crawfish hands for like days. So we'll look like tourists if we wear gloves. Yeah. Yeah, but I mean, I didn't eat just because I wasn't trying to touch my son with spicy hands. Otherwise, Alia doesn't eat it and she just wants to peel it. Yeah, my dad does try to make her like we tried. But I think she just enjoys like peeling it more than eating it. And she'll like try it and try and she'll pretend to eat it. But she's not a big. But yes, she does not like anything that's remotely spicy. So that's a big reason. I think it's not a lie. I thought you guys were bringing us crawfish. And so I was I was like excited and surprised when you brought us the cake because you said because you said that you wanted to bring us some food. Yeah, I'm like, I don't know what this is, but I'd seen the crawfish videos. But yeah, I think that's I think that's dope. I'm excited to find a Jesus in that cake. We need to find you. Yeah. We need to find it. Do that funny. Thanks for joining us. Yes, it says, what made you start dancing? This one's from Rye Bye-Bye. Rye Bye-Bye. I started dancing. Well, we both started dancing because of Michael Jackson. We didn't know who he was. I didn't know the tie in for Michael Jackson still. So like, when he passed away, when he passed away 17 years ago, like, we did not know who he was at all. Like, we were like, I didn't even like, no, like he had no clue neither did she. And so when we went to our parents, we're like sobbing because this man was so loose. Like, Michael Jackson died in both of our parents. They're like freaking out. We're like, what the heck? And then like, who is this thing? And they're like, you don't know Michael Jackson. And we're like, no, like, you didn't show me. So like, they showed us the videos and I was like, the tie in is that he would have never found it. He would have never found his love for dance if it wasn't for that. And then so we say that we're like, dang, like Michael Jackson brought us together. Yeah. If he would have never seen that, he would have never like been like, okay, I want to try dance. And then I would have never seen him at the recital. Right. That's kind of so we that's what I was like. Yeah. Next we have this question from Rhything. Rhything. Rhything too. She said, are you wanting more kids? Yes. Yeah. At least one more. We say at least three. At most five. But then again, we don't know. Maybe we get to five. We're like, let's do five more. I don't know. I don't know about that one. Yes, at least one more though. At least one more. I really, I'm going to put this out there now. I really think our next one is going to be a girl. I don't know why I have like the strongest feeling. It's going to be a girl. I know we have a girl first. And I think I'm going to have a girl again. If I'm not, it's okay. I'm super happy with either. I just really feel it. I don't know why. If he's, he's only 10 months old now. But from now, I'm just so curious having one of each because we only have boys. Like, is it pretty different already? Or you think so? Everybody would always be like, oh, that's a boy. And like, we didn't understand that because like, no offense. He's not really like that like growing up like he wasn't like boy like crazy wild like little boy. So like, and I feel like your siblings weren't really either. But like, the feelings also are different already. My daughter's very, like she has big feelings. And it's like, everything is kind of just like huge for her. And it's in a different, I mean, I'm just picturing her face in the video where she's like, I know. People put that in our comments all the time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She just feels really big and you can already tell that lyrics just like he's silly. And he's like funny. And he's more just like so chill. Yeah, he's chill. And she's just, yeah. It's different. Okay. Last user of any question says, Michelle, what does this mean? Uh, it is. Oh, it's, it's what Zalia says. It's so nummy. Yeah. So nummy. So cute. It was so nummy. Well, what do you tell us? Was the cake so nummy? So nummy. Oh, we missed that. We should - She just said so. - No. - We got to miss all of it there. - This opportunity. - You guys start talking like how your kids say. - Oh my God. - Matt was just saying that he's like Abby, like they're not, we went on a date last night. Like kid-free date for the first time in a long time. And I was like still quote, like time on our kids. - Oh yeah. - She always says words the way that our kids say the word. - Oh yeah. - You don't? Not as much. - Yeah, I'm like, get with the slang in this title. - She didn't know when she'd babysit. She would quote the kids you babysit. - So last night she said, I can't even say it right. It's just, Abby said the word, "guel-o." (laughing) - They say it instead of like girl. It sounds like squirrel. - Oh yeah. - This guy, girl. - You guys didn't do that. - Yeah. - They say girl. - Gail. - Gail. - Yeah. - Besides numbing, what's your favorite thing that Zalia says? - Ruffish. - Ruffish. - So she says, not anymore, unfortunately, but she would say Bajash. - Yeah. - I hate it. - But for strawberries, she would say Bajash, and we don't know where it came from. - Bajash for strawberries. Everybody thinks that that's, like, 'cause I think it's, what is it? - I don't know. - Bajas? I don't remember. I'm butchering it. Anyway, people would comment on us and say, like maybe she's saying it in Spanish. - She just secretly knows. - Yeah. Which is my grandpa, he speaks Spanish. So maybe he did tell her that one day and it just stuck. I have no idea. - Oh, I know my favorite. - Moosh? Does she use, oh. - You like that one? - I do. - She says Kevin for heaven. - Yes. - So like, so like, she'll be like, she goes, where's Jesus? And I'm like, in heaven, and she was like, I wanna go to Kevin. - Yeah. - It's so cute. And we just let her. I don't even wanna go to power, no? - Can she say her name, like the way that her name is said? Now, or she's, 'cause I know she could have really said that. - She says, Zazaz. - She says, Zazaz, yeah. - Zazaz, Zazaz, yeah. - It's like plural. I don't know why she like, yeah. - Always at birth. - I don't know why. - That's cute. - So people say she looks like one of the other more, I do feel like she looks-- - She does, definitely. - That's your son, do you think? - I think he-- - He's a good mix of both of us. - Yeah, I think he's a mix. - But yeah, she is like, he's spitting image of me. It's kind of scary. - Yeah, if you saw his kid pictures, it's kind of creepy. - Our youngest couldn't say our oldest name for a while. So he would call him "Fiffin." - Oh, that's so cute. - He's the one who picked out his nickname too, Gryffi. - Yep, he just randomly started calling our son Gryffin Gryffi. And so that's his name. - That's so cute. - Okay, now we have "Agreed to Disagree." - We need to do these fast. We have so many today. - Okay, we don't have to do all of them. I think we should do the best. - Yes, that's the top. - We agree to disagree once. - You pick, you head it up, but bring this work. - The first one for "Agreed to Disagree." And this will be you guys saying, I'll give you a countdown and I'll say 3, 2, 1, and then you can say "Agreed to Disagree." - I actually don't know what you're gonna say to this based off of our conversation, even though we talked about it a lot. - Question number one, couples should live together before getting married. Three, two, one. - Agreed. - Agreed, no way. - I think so, yeah. - I think there is a very special thing about kind of growing up together. And I feel like you see just different sides, obviously when it's constantly together. And I think that I think we grew a lot and we had to have hard conversations because of that. - I don't know if I can, I don't know what to add on that because like now my brain's like thinking about it, I'm like, well, maybe not some people. - Okay. - But. - Now I'm just gonna overthink this right now. - Yeah, okay, now for a follow up one, "Agreed to Disagree." Couples should wait till marriage. Three, two, one. - Agreed. - Agreed. - 'Cause I feel like that's like, that's what unique about you guys. - I know those answers would be consistent for those two. - Yeah. - Mm-hmm. - It's interesting. - What you're saying. - I would say. - Like that. - There was something more special about waiting, I think. And I think, like Braille's my first and last. Like, she's my, has been my only girlfriend. Like, only wife, you know, and so, I think there's something special that, you're the only person that will ever get to know me fully. And I have that connection with, you know? And there's something really special about that. And I think, you know, marriage is literally, there's like, it's like a ritual thing anyway. You know, like, you get married and like, you have all these things you're supposed to do, like the candle or, you know, whatever, and it may be that you do. And it's like, that's a part of it too, you know? So, I don't know. I think it was just, I don't know. - What did you mean by? - Like the candle. - Oh, sorry. - You like the candle. - Like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Well, some people do like the sand or the candle. - Some people do like sand, some people do. Like, everybody had different, some people breathe. - Yeah, they're like a king game. - Right, you change rings. That's a ritual. - I say, no, if you guys, like, really into candles or something. - So, okay. - I mean, we do have a candle. - Agreed to disagree. Carson wears the pants in the household. Three, two, one. - Oh, no. - I think I always just say we're in. - Yeah, to say I agree to disagree. - She's like playing the game. - One, the green. I don't know. That was like a big between both. - I think we both definitely share a link. - I really have to say. - There's two pants in a lake. - I feel like I have to say agree only because you. - Is that a great guy, it's like I'm saying agree. - You're very like. - I think I'm just, I have-- - He makes the decisions. - Braille's personality is just like, I trust you, babe. - Yeah. - Like, I wish you'd say, babe, I wish you'd do. But anyway, I trust you. (laughing) I trust you, whatever you think, like, go for it. And I say, there you go. She's like, I don't want to make the decisions, but Matt is the most indecisive person in the world. So I feel like I've been forced, my leg has been forced into the pants. - Yeah. - And I'm like, I don't want to do that. - Well, I feel like we like flip-flop because whenever you, whenever he struggles, I'm like, okay, I'll do it. And then like vice versa. - Right. - And I just think that like naturally he has more of this like leader personality. And he likes to do that like with anyone in his life. So that's the only reason I'll say that. - Okay, so I guess our answer is agree, guys. - Okay, let's go on. - Okay, agree to disagree. Everyone needs to experience living in a tiny home. Three, two, one. - Disagree. - Oh, that's really cool though. - It's really cool, but I don't think that everyone needs to experience it. - Okay, the reason why I say agree, 'cause it makes you appreciate the little things. But also when you get into a big space, it's gonna make you utilize every single space and or more appreciative of how much space you have. - Yeah, is this new house gonna be like 10,000 square feet? - No. - What is it? - A livable square footage is 2,200. - Okay. - Oh man. - Yeah, so it's a quadrupling space. - Exactly. - But I was like, I don't feel like this is that big. I said baby, it's four tiny homes. - It's four tiny homes. - Well, when you just see the slab, 'cause right now all we have is the litter, the concrete slab. - And the slab looks small. I feel like. - Yeah. - It looks tiny. I'm like, this is, how is this gonna be this? - What is it, two storage rooms? - Yeah, it's two storage rooms, okay. - Technically they call it one and a half, 'cause it's gonna be two bedrooms and a bathroom upstairs, but yes, it's two storage rooms. - Okay. - It's two storage rooms. - You know a lot more about building houses than we do. - I can't believe you're building your own house. - I'm so do you. - Well, people's in a building at house they usually mean that they're having builders. - Yeah. - Yeah. - No, like I, I wanna be out there, like running while, like I would love to, I don't think I can legally like do the roof, like the shingles and everything, but like I would love to. That was like one of the most relaxing parts of doing the tiny home was like putting the roof all in the tiny home for me. I don't know why. - What are the parts you like can't do electrical, right? - We can, because my uncle. - They did electrical in his parent's house because they got damaged. - Yeah, my uncle was like a licensed electrician. So he just, he just comes, he kind of tells us like, how to do it and he checks everything, like, you know, so yeah, like we were able to do it ourselves. - Pretty much everything but the roof then, our foundation. - Yeah, the foundation we had to pay for somebody for, not for the tiny home, we did it ourselves, Braille did a phenomenal job with that. - Great job. But in plumbing, we don't really touch plumbing that much. But electrical, I love, I'm a nerd a little bit. I love electrical stuff. Like building computers, like, yeah. - It's such a good skill to have. - Yeah, I love, yeah, okay, okay. Having kids made us lose part of ourselves. - Three. - For a deep one. - Yeah. - Too bad to say. - Okay, I'll give you guys a second. Let me know when you're ready. - Yeah, I'm ready. - Three, two, one. - Disagree. - Disagree? - Yeah, I don't think so. - Do you feel more fulfilled or? - I always knew I wanted this in life. And I would have people ask me like, how do you know she's the one? How do you list that in the other? How do you know you want to have kids? And I'm like, there's something about, you know, I think I had a lot to do with obviously my family, like growing up in a big family. But I always knew I wanted to have kids as a young-ass, I could, to have the most amount of my life with them. And I've always wanted to be at that first, you know, and a husband, and then an entertainer after I probably. - It's the only thing that I ever wanted to do in life was to be a mom. - Like she does, yeah. That's all, that's, you know, if you at, yeah. At five-year-old Braille, nine-year-old, whatever, what do you want to be? And she said, oh, you know, a mom and a wife. - And so I think in ways it brought out things in me that I couldn't see. - Next up is, it's okay to clap when the plane lands. Agreed to disagree. - Just to switch gears for a second. - Three, two, one. - Agreed. - Why not? - Do you guys do that? - I don't think I've actually ever done it, but I think it's funny when people do. - Yeah. - Like, especially when it's like, oh, our plane trip back from Disney, was, it was actually like one of the worst experiences. - We know what would be our close friends. - Yeah, we know what would be our close friends. - And it was just like a really bad travel day. And so it was like, yes, as soon as that plan landed, I mean, everybody was like, oh yeah, we like get a call. - We landed at Arizona after we were traveling with that Kingcake, two kids, two giant car seats, a mom and a sister and 10 bags. Oh, I was clapping. (laughing) I was clapping. - Wait, you're telling me though, when you guys flew Spirit Airlines, they clapped when the plane landed. - Oh yeah. - Everyone did. - Oh yeah. - They just were happy to be with us. - Yeah, they were happy. (laughing) - We feel like. (laughing) - Oh my gosh, yeah. - It's like a floating Spirit. - No, probably because you're all literally drenched in sweat. - Speaking of Spirit Airlines, you guys, we moved to Arizona flying Spirit Airlines. - Oh really? - Everything that we took with us was on that. - Yes, and the rest was like in a U-Haul that got, like one of those like little box boxes in a box. We got it like shipped in a box, 'cause we like temporarily lived my parents. - That just had our wedding gifts essentially in it. - Yeah, and then we flew out here through Spirit. So RIP Spirit. (laughing) - RIP Spirit. Thank you for your service. - Soulmates are real. I agree to disagree. Three, two, one. - I agree. (laughing) - I agree. - I agree. - Because I think you're each other's soulmates. - Oh, 100%. I can't wait to find her in the next life already. - Uh-huh. - Like 100%. - Yeah. - What if like she's a tree though? Like how would that work out, you know? But it depends what I was. If I'm a squirrel, I'm living in that tree. - You're in tune. (laughing) - I'm so serious. - I'm so serious. - I want to make a really bad joke. Anyway. - You're done. - No, I'm not, man. - Oh gosh. Okay. - Okay. - I want to be so bad. - Stop. - Okay, sorry. - I agree to disagree. It's a waste of time to make your bed every day. I agree to disagree. Three, two, one. - I agree. - I agree. - I agree. - You guys don't make your bed. - Sometimes. - I don't even have a tiny home. I feel like, no, I do sometimes. - Yeah. - I just like, when you actually really think about it, it is. It's what's the point. - I mean, if we're making a video in the bedroom, we'll make it. (laughing) - That's true. (laughing) - Where people are coming over. Yeah, no, we don't. - I mean, in this point, then. - You really tried. Actually, when we lived in a studio apartment, we did make our bed every day, 'cause we had to tuck it up against the wall. - Okay, well, we, I think we did. - That makes sense. - We did too, I love it for that, maybe. - I don't know, maybe not actually. - When you can't just shut the door to your bedroom, so people can't see it, and you have to. But now we have that. - I know some people say, like, it's a good way to start your day, because it makes you, like, you start whatever it says. - I do agree with that. - I mean, I should sit to emptying out the dishwasher. - Yeah. - There you go. - That's a more functional, useful. - Yeah. - Agree to disagree. The second child is easier than the first. Three, two, one. - I think disagree. - I agree, yeah, I think disagree. - Disagree, oh, so the second was harder? - I think for us, it was the transition. Not necessarily him, like the child, but, like, right, the transition was harder. Zalia was like the easiest baby ever. I mean, she slept the night at a week old. - Oh my goodness. - Yeah. - But that's so nice. - Yeah. - From that. - Yeah. - And, yeah, I think it was just, yeah, it's a lot more than we thought it would be dealing with the both of them. - Yeah. - God. - Like, he's the chillest baby ever. And, you're so chill, like, he's a good baby. - Like, he wakes up throughout the middle of the night. - He just has, yeah, there's different things, but it's really just, like, dealing with both of them. - Yeah. - All at the same time. - And then with each other. And then also working from home. Like, it's, yeah, it gets a lot. - There's more variables. - Exactly. - I meant to ask you, being pregnant twice, but also you said that you've experienced health anxiety was pregnancy, like, a trip then and then birth? - Yeah. It's weird because whenever I was pregnant with Zalia, I, that was obviously, I didn't know what to do. I mean, we've seen the test and I was like, I have to go to the doctor. And we had, like, a family friend nurse practitioner. And I just, like, texted her and I was like, what do I do? And she was like, you need to go get ultrasound. I was like, okay. And it was just, that's, it was so weird. I remember feeling like so anxious, but then what? - For the second one, I feel like, I don't make much of you up, but just to add to what you were saying, I felt like for the second one, she wasn't as anxious and there was so much more reason to be. - Mm-hmm. Yeah. - That's interesting. - It's just I'd never done it before, but I think that what calmed me in that was knowing that so many people do that. And I had, so like his family, like, I think that growing up, my, like I said, my mom had a lot of medical issues, so it made me view anything like that, doctors, hospitals, as like a really bad thing, because like all I've seen was bad things with it. And I think that that was the only thing that felt good, 'cause I was pregnant, you know? Like we were gonna have a baby and it made me kind of like, flip that and be like, oh, okay, like good things come out of going to the doctor, you know? 'Cause like growing up, like I, my parents didn't even take me to like, check ups. Like I didn't have that just normal doctor life. But yeah, the second pregnancy was, more towards end, I was way more anxious than the first. - Why do you think that was? - So I hemorrhaged with my daughter after birth and I didn't even know that was a thing that could happen, so it kind of threw me for a loop. But it got kind of, they fixed it very quickly. I just had like the shot in my leg, they didn't have to do, I think they only did one to stop the bleeding, right? Was that it? - One shot, yes, yes, yes, yes. - So they figured it out and it ended up being fine. But I think that I was very nervous, it was gonna happen again because I learned more about it and I had, I was anemic during the pregnancy. Yes, was that it, and we found out like, I think I was like 22 weeks, so I started taking iron. And then like I remember asking my doctor, I'm like, is that why? And she's like, we don't really know exactly why, but like that could go in hand with like why women hemorrhage. And for Lyric, they didn't test my iron until I was like, 20, no you just know, 30 something weeks? No, I literally was 35 weeks. - Oh really? - And she tells me I'm anemic. And I was like-- - I knew that from the first pregnancy, so she made sure to get like vitamins with iron in it and like kind of our stuff. - Yeah, I was trying to like prepare more and they didn't test me until later. And so I was like, great. So I started taking the iron pearls and come to find out, it takes like two to three weeks to actually absorb in your body. And so I was just, I don't know, I just felt it. I felt very anxious the whole end of it. And then the birth, the birth experience, for Lyric was a rough birth. It was the most scariest thing I think I've ever seen in my life. - Oh good. - He wouldn't tell me that though, until that's what happened. So she wound up hemorrhaging and they said that and I was like, her doctor wasn't there. They had like a resident in her room. - Literally, both times I gave birth was at the same time. It was literally around 2 a.m. And my doctor just like wasn't at the hospital. - But the first time the doctor got there, like, you know, what, a couple minutes right before. - She didn't, yeah, she didn't deliver Zalia, but she was in the room. - But she was there. So she knew all the history and everything and she gave her the shot. - Yeah. - Her doctor wasn't even there at all this time. And I watched him give Briella a shot, but I remember vividly like from Zalia's, like the shot was huge for Zalia that they gave her. And this one was like a little bitty thing. And so next thing you know, you know, she gets the epidural out like all this kind of stuff. - Well, I remember sitting there whenever my son was like on my chest and I remember all the sudden I got this wave of like my, like the inside of my body felt cold. And like I was like, okay, I'm tired. Like I've literally been up for like 24 hours. Like I just gave birth. Like I'm tired. So I didn't say anything and I just laid there. I'm tired. You hold him and then you're holding him and they come in. - They hold my son for the first time. - Yeah. - And they come in and they say, okay, like we're about to move you to a room but you have to go try to use the bathroom first or whatever. And she's like, oh, you think you can stand up. You're good and Briella's like, I mean, I guess so. They're like, I mean, are you okay? And she's like, I get, yeah, I mean, I guess. Like, I mean, I'm tired. Like I just had a child just pushed out, you know? And so they start walking her to the bathroom and I'm still holding my son. Like I'm thinking like they're fine. And I just hear them say, oh my God. I don't remember what they call it said to be honestly. They were like, call someone so whatever. And I'm just like, what's happening with my wife like in the back? Like what the frick? And so I'm like, what's my sister there still? Yeah, so I just gave my son a lyric to my sister and I was like here and like I go in the bathroom and I just, do I do what you did? Yeah, okay. Okay, I just see my wife like this, pass that on the toilet. Briella didn't know my eyes were open. And it was the scariest thing. And I'm just like, and I'm just like, and I'm talking like too. I'm like, and I'm just, I'm staying calm because I'm like, if this was to happen, she's in the best place. I'm like, I'm like, it's okay. You're okay, you know, she's like, she's out of it. And then they like, they're getting alcohol and like they're whatever. Like the nurse is freaking out. The other one ran out the room to go get somebody, whatever. And they brought the anesthesiologist back. Yes. And the anesthesiologist, you could tell she was upset. And she gave her some kind of shot, whatever. And then she broke him too. And she's like, and this is how amazing Briella is. The first thing she says when she wakes up, she goes, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to. Or whatever. I thought I fell asleep. Yeah, while trying to be- No, I swear, I thought I was, they were trying to get me like pee after that. I mean, don't be sorry, don't be sorry. I thought I just fell asleep on them. So like, I guess I woke up and I thought like, dang, I really just fell asleep. I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to do that. But I woke up to them. Like the alcohol in my nose and then and then I remember I said I'm sorry and they're like no you're okay You're okay, and then I was like how long was I out and they were like just a minute just a minute And then I just remember the nurse on my right was asking the nurse on my left if she was okay Yeah, I was like she was freaking out and then I look up and I see him kind of looking through the door And then I see the anesthesia just she's like yeah her face is literally white Yeah, she's like her face is white as a wall like I don't know why y'all would put her to like bring it to the bathroom right now They ended up having to give me a blood transfusion and she lost a whole bag of blood a leader a leader So Are here and everything works out. Yeah, and that you have your babies. Yes. Oh my gosh It's sounds like a terrifying. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, but you're like more babies Yeah, yeah, yeah, she said definitely wait. She's like Carson. Can we wait till he's at least three this time I'm ready for another and I'm like now you're gonna have to give me a No, yeah, like she's like weird wasn't even here yet, and I'm like I'm already ready to come back And she's like Carson I see still a lot of stuff next stop and I was like I was on labor. I know we got a tic-tac dance to get to so yeah, let's let me rap it up to two more I think I think Carson. I might be dead. Oh, oh, yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah, so I look you want to have a turn competition with you No way wait, we should totally do that. Let's do it. Should we make a little video out of that? Oh, yeah Let's do it. Let's do it. Okay, next we have a Agree to disagree. We got married to young three two one disagree. I wanted to get married younger Really? Yes, what is he want to get married? He wanted to have kids and then get married. I did actually Yeah, no way. I did I did but that goes back to wait to marriage though if you think about it And I yeah, yeah, that wouldn't make sense, but yeah, no, okay Okay, in my ideal head like like growing up. I thought okay I would I would I'm gonna get with you know real we're gonna have a house or apartment whatever we're gonna have a daughter first I swear like this is like all in my head like what I envisioned for whatever reason Then we'll get married in our little daughter will be like the little flower girl. That's what I always thought Why did you think of having kids before getting married? It was there somebody that like modeled that for you or did you just like the idea of having your daughter be a flower girl at the wedding? No, um, I don't know I think I was more so ready to be a like or wanted to be a dad than like a husband like a husband Kind of to me was just like a title, I guess maybe I don't know. I don't know. That's a good question like looking back on it because yeah I feel like no yeah, not anymore, but I did say that at one point. Yeah, I didn't want to have kids first It's really funny. I guess all but to be fair to be fair I did not know how kids were made at for a very long time. Oh my mom told me my mom told me that like literally up until I was like Oh god, I was old. I was like 14 probably 15 No, literally my mom just said oh, you just pray for a baby Okay, and in my head logically, I'm like I'm like Like why do I have all these feelings mom? Yeah No, I was like largely. I'm trying to think I'm like, okay So maybe when like people kiss like the spit accidentally gets in like each other's mouth and like that's how it works I swear I was really like how about my brain thought and then you just pray to God and like okay, then then she gets pregnant That's I like literally thought that um, it's whoever gets the baby Jesus Yes, exactly actually that's what it is. Yeah, whoever gets a baby. Yeah, um, yeah, so I don't know That's hilarious. That is really. Yeah, and last one Wait, I literally it was in my head. Oh, yes, I just made this one up This is just for fun. There we go. I agreed to agree Everyone needs to experience a Louisiana Marty girl I agree to one. This is great. I mean, I think you should experience the season I think everybody should come down. It's in I think everybody should experience across the spoil I think everybody should experience New Orleans though as well. Okay. It is a such a cool vibe there It's so unique. It's a nice city. You know We were actually having a talk like on the drive over when you look like at Arizona like everything's of similar color Like even the buildings like they're kind of like that brown kind of like you know Which is it looks nice like it's cool to us, you know that mud color. Yeah Um, yeah, and you know, it's it's the complete opposite. It's bright colors everywhere like houses are painted pink green like you name it There's a house somewhere purple you know, so yeah, yeah, yeah, like like it's a fun little thing like my daughter Like we have like a little like e-bike and she's like that. I want to go look at pink houses, and I'm like, okay, cool We just like drive around like there's pink houses. We would be driving a long time here. Yeah Yes, when I think of New Orleans. I think it's been yes. Yes. Do you guys eat those a lot dude? Yeah, my mom makes amazing We have you have the Disney ones? The Disney mayonnaise. Yes, how do they compare? They're good. They're good. They're good They're not. Yeah, they're not okay. I need to go. No, I love the nice. We still it we stayed just Saturday Maybe we can like figure out how to make some then you your mom your mom makes them. Yeah, she can make yeah I don't know why frying feels so scary to me really yeah, I think it's a south you fry like everything really Oh, yeah, I mean not saying we eat fried all the time because we're not endorsing that. I know it's not good for you But like you know, yeah, that's how you know she's a good cook. She knows how to fry some of these. Oh, yeah No, yeah, she she can cook anything. Yeah, I'm like I'm like mom when we make it even bigger like we're just we're higher near the personal chef Just like you know, that's sweet. Well Carson Brio, thank you so much for coming on the show. Of course. Thank you for having us. What's the best place for people to connect with you guys? Um, we're everywhere where TikTok, Instagram, um, YouTube, uh, where the metringa family on YouTube, uh, we have a personal accounts mine is creator three underscores Uh, what is your real metringa? She's Instagram and Tik Tok. Yeah, and same thing for me Instagram and Tik Tok Yes, Carson, my triangle created three underscores. That's dope. But yeah, it's what you got. I love it. You guys I'm just talking to you guys I feel like you guys are just a bride or die for each other like I love it so much. Just You make me just I don't know what I'm trying to say. I just feel like you guys are such a good team and it's really cool getting to talk to you guys And hopefully we can get our kids together. I think that'd be really fun. I think that would be fun That one awesome. Well, thanks for talking with us. This was really great. Yes. This was awesome. Thank you guys Thank you guys like this is awesome our first official podcast. Let's go Can we clap wait can we clap at an end of a podcast like at a plane? [BLANK_AUDIO]