Tu B’Av masterclass on maximizing love.

Good morning, welcome to today's class. Today's class is in Mishma Yafran Danube, in the New Strausses. That's Shema, I'm Al-Gradio Mishaba and Mishaba Shepher. Mishaba is a very much of a job of a Bashe and Gadi Al-Mishaba. This class is also sponsored by the Bithol-Yahud-Morah Khan-Gitol and Rachel Brown Matchmaking. Today's class is also in the Herod of the Healing, Halayni Honobin Khan-Khanah and Rafael Ben Shul-Ameet. Beautiful. Okay, God willing, August 4th we're going to be in Muncie and we have an event in Tel Aviv, we've got willing, today is a huge day. Today's a two-babb, today's a two-babb, it's an amazing energetic lift. We spent 45 days of God's name being backwards. We know from Tammuz and half of Av, God's name was backwards. So these were the names that we saw a lot of energy being very, very constricted. The energy was backwards, constricted. A lot more, every flight was delayed, everything's delayed, right? That was, I never saw such chaos in the airports. Everything was delayed, if you made it. So now the flow begins and now this represents, we have 45 dates towards Roshshana and 40 days towards the 25th of Elo, which is the beginning of a creation of man. So today's definitely a great day to start something. Start something, whether it's a gratitude journal, whether it's a Tikkunah Klaali journal, do something. Don't turn one day into day one. Today's obviously a day where there's a lot of energetic level for love and for relationships and to repair. Remember, this is a time where it's so important I can't tell you. Sometimes you can begin weak, but you can end strong. So this is the time to end strong. It's all about the ending, how you end, right? The person could start something, they don't finish it, doesn't. How you end? So this is a tremendous time. You have Elo, you have these days, take advantage of these days. And remember, things can change in a blink of an eye. Things can change in a blink of an eye. You have to live in this mindset that everything can change in a blink of an eye. Time is an illusion. Keep on telling yourself every single time you get depressed, you get sad. You get anxious, time doesn't exist. If I expand my consciousness, time doesn't exist. Time doesn't exist. Time only exists when I'm not present. And that's extremely important. That's the most important mindset on how to deal with life. If you don't have that mindset in life, time takes over people. And people freak out by time, oh my god, this is going to be forever. They get depressed and they check out. Robin Arclin says it's forbidden to be old tomorrow. I have a class on how to be young again. But it is forbidden to be old. He says it's forbidden to be old. You go to Umar and you see people, you see these elders, 80 years old. They're jumping out of bed at four o'clock in the morning going home. I haven't held you guys for here. Parkinson's disease, everything. I can't even get out. 25 medications before they get out of bed. I've never seen anything like it. You see 80 year olds in Umar. You don't believe it. 80 year olds in Umar. Waking up at four o'clock, going to the bed going to the prayer. 80 year olds. Rabbi Rooosh is, I don't know how Rabbi Rooosh. 80, it's waking up. What are you talking about? People need a hundred alarm clocks. The concussions. Teenagers need concussions to go wake up in the morning. So it is forbidden to be old. It is forbidden to be old. And that's one of the things you need to always think about. Remnackling's new. What are you, what are you, what are you, and because every single time you have a limitation, that's being old. That's being old. Remnackling tells us that people stop putting on to fill in when they get depressed. They get depressed. And that's the antenna to wake up to refresh. That's what the antenna, the downloads go. Every single morning when you put on the fill in of the new day. And this is tomorrow we'll do a whole class on that concept of not being old. But the majority of the issues in our life come because we become old. And if you look at relationships, if you do what you did in the beginning, there's never an end. But what happens? People get comfortable and then they let themselves go and then they take everything for granted. They stop being appreciative. They think people are just going to wait there on an escrow camp waiting for you to be nice again. And it's not going to happen. So you have to understand you got a relationship. You need to be fresh. You don't have a fresh relationship with work. You're going to become another blockbuster. You don't have a fresh relationship with anything in life. And that's the area of a queries. The queries is new. It's always the newness. You're breaking out versus the stagnation. The stagnation, the control, et cetera. Very, very important. So always think about that. Everything could change in a blink of an eye. But you have to live that way. There was a great video yesterday. I saw there was a guy who was here to attend your sentence in jail. And he started the first two years. And he started this, decided to say, you know what? There's no way I'm going to get out of jail. If I don't liberate myself. So all of a sudden he started doing inner work. He started connecting to other, I don't know what he connected to. But he started liberating himself. He said, you know what? I am free. And all of a sudden they investigated that half of the drugs were fake. So they said, you know what? You already serve the sentence for the first drugs. That were real. But the other half was fake. You can go now. It's an amazing story that once you liberate yourself, everybody, and you liberate. That's the key. That's the whole point. You have to liberate the mind first. Then everything is liberated. If you have that God forbid mentality of outside has to change. Or this situation has to change in order to mean not to liberate. That is the biggest trap in history that we're always going to fall into. And it's so important. This is why we've just some tips that I've used personally in my life for any relationship. And again, I'm still under under under construction. Heavy duty. As you can see. But thank God I will get a lot of championships in my life. And sometimes you have to go to different teams. And that's what the story is. But I will get a lot of championships. And that's one of the things that old people give up and they stay fearful and they never try again. And that's not one thing that I will ever do in business and life, etc. I will fall 100 times. But believe me, I am getting the championship. I guarantee. So that's one of the things we all have to understand. Sometimes we're too protective what's going to happen. You don't have no idea what's going to happen. But you can't live like that either. That's also impossible. And that's only from Rabbi Nachman's and the Bolsheviks method over always staying young, mentally, physically, most. Everything's going to stay on. And everything that you see in our life. If you look at even in our two holidays, poor women in Hanukkah, those are the two holidays that we became very old. And we stopped doing things out of life. So what happens? We got a reminder that we're almost going to be destroyed. So Hanukkah and poor women are the two holidays that are going to be in the world to come. And those two holidays represent noonists, always noonists, poor and reconnection, Hanukkah, rededication. So this is something that in life you have to always rededicate and get up over and over again. And take this end strong in this year. I don't know how the year started with for you. But end strong. What's the main thing? Get the message from to a bad one. Don't think it's just another day. End strong. This is the beginning of the seeds. The 45 day we know what 45 also. What's 45? 45's name is Ma. Ma. What? What am I? Re-event yourself. Ma. Ma is the name of surrender. Ma is the name of miracles. Because any single time Ma, Ma means what am I? I could change in a second. Ma. Ma is the name where you finally decide to surrender. You don't know nothing. What do you know? Maybe this is what you had to go through. So it's really the ending is the key. Not the beginning. And this is why 45 is always the name. 45. That 45 always comes back in your life. 45 is Ma. I don't know anything. 45 is Adam. Also Adam. Adam represents his is is is is is is one this. It's Javier. They came in made a big mess in the world. Right. Javier came in Javier represents control. Javier represents this order. Javier represents I will rule. I don't need my creator hyperindependence. This nonsense brought into the world. Nothing but chaos in this world. So we have to come back to Adam. And that's the bottom lines. If you look at all chaos in life is control. It's it's lack of surrendering. It's the wanting to be stubbornness. That's where all the the this is the way it has to be. No, it has to be that way. Where did you get the memo that this way? Who's the big and this is where you know we want. Unfortunately we want to come to comfort. And that's not really what our souls are here for. Our souls are here to grow to connect to evolve to give. It's not here who says you're supposed to be you know coming to a relationship with the toothbrush. And that's it. That's not the design. And that's what if you start looking at this differently. This is good. This is good. This is good. If you're going through this growth then you will see the difference. So some of the things about the number one thing any time we want something in the outer world we have to become that in our community in the world. So in order to find the one you have to become the one. Always become the one. Become the person you want to be treated like. Become the person you want to track the business you know. And we attract the court it or say just tell us it's very simple. The maker of all matches is consciousness. And the story that's it. You want to hire a consciousness? That's the key. The maker of all consciousness is that. Is is matches is consciousness. So when you raise your consciousness just like sometimes you raise your consciousness you're going to lose 25 friends. Wonderful. That's the greatest that could happen to you. Maybe you were meant to be in the WNBA. Maybe you were to be in the MBA. Raising consciousness. When you raise your consciousness God does the filter for you. You don't need you don't need to do it. You raise your consciousness and whoever is not meant to be in your life in your consciousness. Again this is through humility. We're not seeing consciousness through intelligence or arrogance. We're talking about you raising consciousness. What's the best way to raising consciousness is you will have a massive challenge in your life. And how you deal with it. How you deal with that challenge will decide your conscious level. And that's the difference is two people can go through a same challenge. One is a wrecked and the other one rises. And this is where we always say from my constriction you've expanded me. So a lot of the times that the growth of consciousness will come as an invitation only policy for you. But the main thing is you should understand is we have to become the one instead of looking for the one. Any time become the person instead of looking for the person always. The second is very important that we have to go into any relationship in business. Zyvugim is a relationship across the board. Any relationship you have to your main intention should be growth, not comfort. When companies buy each other, they're not buying each other so they can be comfortable and have an extra office in a. Let's buy a company in a. So we have an extra office in Cincinnati. So it's comfortable so we don't have to take an airport. You go there to optimize, you go there to grow, you don't go there for comfort. Anytime you're getting into any relationship and the main thing is comfort, you're already it's the wrong idea. It's the wrong idea because that's not what you're here for. You're here to grow and again growth becomes challenge, right? Wherever you challenge the most is what you're going to grow the most. So today's word is a lot unfortunately becomes triggered. Too much triggered. No, triggers good. Break walls, you know, you have to break walls and hopefully that's the. That's really the job of the masculine energy. The masculine energy, the guys are supposed to go and they're supposed to lead and they're supposed to break the walls and give you know, break the walls of who they're dating. They're not. The girls are not supposed to be breaking their walls. The men are supposed to go lead. This is the way the relationship looks like. This is where we need to go and this is the path. You have to lead that way. But today there's no, you know, the guy doesn't have a map or GPS. Well, he's got more walls and she's got more walls. So this is unfortunately the. When the men become weak, it causes a massive catastrophe in every single shape and form and life. And that's where we. Our job is to constantly we wake up in the morning. We learn consciousness. We download consciousness and then we can give it to the world. That's the purpose. And that when the men lose their consciousness, it becomes a complete catastrophe, right? And this is what happened with Adam. Instead of the Adam leading, he listened to her and what happened, he hid for 130 years. But this is in our DNA that we. He should have led instead of been led to the difference. And what are you doing instead of taking responsibility? You know what? I should have led. I should have told that there's a snake coming. Don't listen to the snake. Instead, what happens? He said he blamed her for. He blamed her. So our job is to get to lead. And that's one of the things that. That we all we have to do is we're not going to get on the first shot, but we'll get it eventually. But leading is so important. So remember relationships are very, very important is to grow. And the importance of why God wants you to grow is because He doesn't want you to become old. And I can't stress that enough. You know, sometimes you'll see events, you'll see people. You're 20 years old, 30 years old, they're talking like they're 60s. You know? I gave up on this. I gave up on this. What do you have? What do you mean you gave up on this? What does that mean? I don't understand what these words even mean. When people say I gave up, I'm not going this. I'm just going to focus on my career. You understand? I've never heard of such. Imagine a kid giving up because he has a flat tire and it's bicycle. I'm never going to ride again. What kind of craziness is this? The word giving up today, it just became like. Nothing. Let's see, I'm just going to focus on this. By the way, when you say I'm going to give up, the nice way I'm saying is, I'm just going to focus on this. That's what that means today. It doesn't mean I give up because then you'll be embarrassed. You're going to say, I'm just going to focus on this. And then what's going to happen is your little subconscious is going to make a lot of messes in your life and it's going to reintegrate those areas in your life. And then all of a sudden you're going to have to reintegrate it one way or the other. That means our souls are always optimizing our happiness regardless. Your soul, God wants you to have love, God wants you to have connection. Even though you just want business and you think business is just going to do it for you, no, it's not fulfillment. You're going to be successful but you won't be fulfilled. You know, people are just kind of playing. You've made all this money, I'm not fulfilled, I have nobody to share it with. You think that's the answer? No, it's not the answer. That's not enough to be. To have money, who cares? It's probably money to buy it's pretty money anywhere. It doesn't mean fulfillment. We need to focus on fulfillment. So that's one of the things you need to understand. You have to, whatever relationship you're going to go to, can I grow in this situation? This is why you want somebody polar opposite of you. You want the polarity because a polarity creates the most growth. You don't want somebody to like you. You want the polarity. The polarity is what causes the expansion of the vessel. Very, very important to understand that. The third step is, it's very, very important that instead of looking for the trophies, the spouse, look for somebody that's going to help you get the trophy. Can this person help me? Can I, if you'll stay for this person versus just looking for the trophies today? Everybody's looking for his trophy. Remember, we want a good view and good space. You can have a good view. Then another skycraper comes and then the view is gone. And then you have no space or view. So that's not the answer. You want somebody to help you optimize in this. And remember, wherever you're going to go is where God leads you. You have to ask and heaven gives you according to where you want. You have to be very specific, but if you're only asking to receive, which is contrary to the creator, which is for the sake of the self alone, anything that it's always receiving energy only to receive, it usually is a dead end. I don't know if you've had that experience or not, but whatever you've had expectations of somebody, and that was the main cause of the relationship, the expectation and that went, everything else went. Okay? So we need to understand, you need to focus on the connection, not the expectation. Same thing with employees, same thing with anything. Number four, it's very, very important that we cannot look at perfection. We have to understand, we have to look at the divine spark in people, right? Even a divine spark in business. You can't, nothing's perfect. This concept of perfection today is such an illusion today. It's such an illusion. And again, social media will show you more filters, so you can use to look, make everything perfect. Everything is so imperfect. The reason why it's so imperfect, because if it was so perfect, why would you need God for? Period. What do you need God for? What do you think He created you? He created you in the middle of a mess. Okay? And tell us you here, I'm going to teach you how to fix it, but you're going to depend on me. So the thing, the idea that you have are going to be perfect. It doesn't, number one, the perfection doesn't allow growth to happen. There's an vulnerability. There's an unhumility to happen. So it's a flawed concept, perfection. It's a complete flawed concept. And the more you go after it, it's just fear of not being approved. The concept of perfection is already something so flawed. That even if anytime you're trying to attain it, it's only trauma that hasn't been healed. I'm trying to prove something to somebody. And you need to understand the fact that you're going towards it is already a problem. So this is where Ruff Cook speaks beautiful about this. It's a great book. The Secret of Love, a Ruff Cook's teachings on, by Arie Bend-David. It has a great chapter here on, and he says, even if not, one says that it's impossible to have permanent peace no matter who you're with. Okay? He says, if you're going to be married, you're going to have 17 nations within your family members. Those will be 17 nations. Everybody's going to die. They're going to be wrecked. Perseus, Mexes, everybody's threatening nuclear bombs all the time, somewhere or another. It's like that, by the way, no matter where you go. He says, if you're married, the nations will be the wars. If you're single, the nations will be in your head. So either way, you're in a war, by the way. Don't think that this is your state. And no matter who you marry, you're in a war. The only thing is we tell the advice of the modern mind is when Messiah comes, everything will be okay. So until then, you can't make a big deal out of everything. That's what he's saying. Don't make a big deal out of it. It's his advice. His advice is, use it to get close to God, but to think that you're going to go and be with anybody else that's not going to be in some kind of a war. It's going to be either in your head, if you want to be single, or it's going to be with family members or with the spouses. And he says something very incredible. He says, and the nations change all the time. So sometimes you feel like peaceful, you know, switch your lane. I want to get peace. And you know, I want to kill you. So this concept of the mood swings and the way we go through all the time, it's absolutely normal. It's normal. And it's because we are a miniature world. So whatever we're seeing in the outside world, we're seeing in the inside world. So you see a ceasefire in the outside world. Okay, there's a ceasefire in the house too. Right? But then there's going to be a fire. All of a sudden, here comes Netanyahu. Here comes Trump. Here we go. Where did the ceasefire come from? We also understand that the Yatahara attacks the feminine aspect. We why? Because the feminine is more drawn to kaboad. So we know that most fights will come through the feminine aspect. And yes, most fights will come through feminine aspects. You come out, it's okay. It's true. So to understand that these are, our job is to remember, our job is not to not to fight about everything. It's to realize there is a Yatahara outside that wants to destroy the vessel called Shalom. And Shalom is the greatest vessel. So it takes a lot of letting go and a lot of looking at the good, right? Of the person. You know what? This is not good, but there's 80% good. You know? You look at an employee. Wow, this guy, he came in late, but look how good he did yesterday. Obviously, when it doesn't become, but we, our job is to always focus on this spark that is good, not the spark that is bad, because every single spark has a cleap. And our job is to uncover the cleap. To uncover the, break the cleap and find the spark inside of that person. We use books like Tom Rdivora. We use many, many books to try to find the good points. And that is where Ravkuk says that loving is hard work. Is hard work. Don't think that loving is easy work. This is hard work. And he says loving others demands extensive work, excessive work to, some people need to have a file overtime claims for that thing. To expand its scope, it deserves to fight against being superficial, shallow impressions, judgments, and not developing full awareness. Carl Young says. It's hard to think this is why people judge. You know, if you've got it for a bit, I have to think maybe you know, and see it that way, that way it's easy to judge. Judging takes two seconds. Obviously I realize what the social media, the world is. Two seconds, it ain't no clue. Nothing. You know, I always tell people, people need to have a spiritual call and ask a fee, and then you can give me advice. Okay? Take a call and ask a fee. Then you can give me advice. I don't take your advice from. But he says, loving is so hard because we desperately want to protect ourselves from being hurt, disappointed and embarrassed, or taken advantage of. So we end very easily and deeply. So this is the, this is the, it's always a protection. Like, there's always that fear of, I don't want to get taken advantage, I don't want to get hurt. So already you have your guards up. So think about it. If you have your guards up, how much space do you have for the person? How much space do you have for growth? It's not, there's not that much there. So the more wounds, the more you guard it up, and this is, again, this is all of us. It's a human nature, right? But it can actually block people away. And then what happens to you block people away, we block our blessings away. But we should understand that this is hard work. Don't think this is something easy. Do not think. Don't go in there and think, you know, this is easy. No, this is hard work. It's not new. And it's part of the hard work of loving is acknowledging that we rarely know the full picture. You rarely know the full picture. Maybe you know 10% of why you're judging that person. But think about it. What? You're fit to judge when you only know 10% of the story. And that's unfortunately what people do today. They trash people and all that. They don't have 5% of the story. 10% of the story and they're looking at it like they were in their house in the situation. When they don't even have a clue of that. So what happens is when you do that, you're just showing that it's going to come to you. When you judge others, it's going to come to you. And he says our perperential lack of information regarding what is nurturing and shape other people should soften and humble judgments. It says you shouldn't come here and to you reach this place. You shouldn't come here and to you reach this place. We don't know if another person had to look at somebody overeating in a restaurant. You don't know if that guy came in as a past life to come fix his eating. You don't know. So you can eat something small. You're satisfied. Another person needs. His fight is not to gobble down his foot. We really can't judge the guy because we don't know what his struggle is. We don't know what his child addiction, food addiction. We have no idea. So we can't say, look at the guy. He's a slut. We can't even be that supposed to do that. Because when you spill blood from Nockman says, anytime you put people down, it's called spilling blood, a couple of listening clips. And what that happens is it prevents your prayer from being answered. Yeah. So that's a big problem. Anytime you're judging others and you're spilling blood, it's prevent. Your prayers get blocked and have it because what happens, there's three things that block your prayers in heaven. Lack of faith, spilling blood and idolatry. These three things, block prayers. Idolatry means immorality when you're not in the right energy. Lack of faith, not believing in them and spilling prayers. You know what also spilling blood also? Low self esteem. That's also form of spilling blood. That means when you can't spill your own blood, you can't put yourself down. You cannot talk negatively because that means you're spilling your own blood. Because what happens is when you speak negatively about other people, about yourself, what do you think you're going to track that? You're going to track that. You're going to track that reality because that's how we got the grasshopper problem. We were grasshoppers in their eyes who told you you were going to grab. Basically when you have low self esteem, you're going to make an issue out of everything when people didn't really what insult you. But because you're so hypersensitive, that will cause the spilling blood. So we don't want to prevent these things. We want to be able to fill the cup and realize that it's people treat each other the way they are. And he said to you, "We need to relentlessly push ourselves to seek the good and hidden in every person." And remember, anytime we see the good, we see the godly. We see the godly. Not the opposite when a person lets things go. When a person's merciful, all his prayers go right through. Other prayers go directly to the proportion of how you treat people. It's incredible. Not how much you study. How you treat people is directly how your prayers get answered. We've got a lot of stories about this. I talked about one rabbi who is much more smart than the other rabbi and why did the other rabbi is because he was easy. He let things go easily because he didn't make about everything. How do you know when you let things go? That's called humility. Again, we're not saying you should let things go and be in a toxic relationship. We're not saying there's going to be issues with people all the time. That things are going to be said. Everybody is in a different mood all the time. We all have these massive nations, massive moods, etc. And then we usually treat each other the way we feel about ourselves. But it doesn't mean that we intend. So the main thing is letting go. Letting go because Gammara says that one who shuts his mouth in the face of an argument, the whole world is reclaimed for him. It's a big, big world. It's a big reward. It's a big reward. But they master to not say something back and to realize this is about this guy's problem. It takes a lot of inner work and a lot of inner going. So if you can get to that point where you don't have to go and talk back, that's a pretty big deal. That's a pretty big deal. You deserve that the whole world, etc. Even our state just tells us that the value of getting embarrassed and not responding, all your sins are cleansed. You can use your skies open. So these are great opportunities to be able to overcome your nature. That's why we always say bad day for the ego is a great day for the soul because it allows you to refine these things. So this is where we have to stop looking for perfection, look for the divine spark in that person. Look for the divine spark in that person. Very important. But again, you only see what you are. What you are. You don't see it in you. How could you see it in others? So there goes all of the, I can't stress you the amount of inner work in Manhattan, the other, we were doing a single class in Manhattan the other day, a couple weeks, a couple months ago. And guys, guys, what's the ratio of scrolling versus optimizing? Like how much time you spend on getting on a higher consciousness, letting go, right? If you spend more money on therapy than you did on an vacation, we'd be in a different position sometimes. People spend too much money on vacations. Therapy is zero. Inner work is zero. Inner child here is zero. That's not the method is off. That's the kind of vacation once you're healed, right? And the ratio is 95% scrolling, 5% in becoming. So just think about how that, how that, imagine you go to a bunch of people. Guys, how much time do you spend looking for gyms versus working out? Oh, 95% we look for gyms. How much time do you spend working out? 5%. Okay, what kind of shape are you in? There you go. That will indicate the kind of shape that you're in. Like you have no business scrolling. You find two, three and that's enough. What are you scrolling for? You become it. And if you're not attracting, it's because the inner work has to be done. That's it. And the more, except for people in America, the more you, the more inner work you have, the the point, what is the inner work to? It makes you free of not depending on anybody. That's the biggest attraction you want in life. When you are free and you're not dependent on anybody, that is, that is the greatest attraction because you come in there as, as, as, as coming, you come in there as a giver, not as a taker, but the more you're desperate, the more you want, the more you drain, and the less you'll be free. It's completely the opposite of what should be happening. That's why we need to sometimes create a detox in order to heal. It's the fifth thing is it's very, very important that we have to guard holiness and marriage. Even before marriage is very, very important. There's certain things like the mikvah. There's certain. Why do we have mikvah in separation? Number, we're very important because when you separate, you create a new vessel. Okay, why is mikvah? Why, what is the tikun for mikvah for women? The tikun for mikvah for women teaches them how to surrender and submit. When you go into a mikvah, you're surrendering. If you can surrender in a mikvah, you'll be able to surrender also in a marriage. Do you understand? It's all of these things are all meant to rectify the, the, the, the roles in situations. But if you're not submitting there and you're not submitting to this, you're not surrendering to anything. Then we have too much, too much, the biggest horror film in life, which is called "Too Masculine People in a Marriage" when there's no mask, where there's no giver, and there's no receiver. And that's where we have a relationship with God, where we are just too controlling. And he can't give, we can't receive. And it's the biggest, it's the biggest mess in the world that happens. So that's very important to guard the, guard the fiducian because when you guard, you'll have the God's name is Ish. Man is Ish. Woman is Ishah. Right? When you have the Yodhay in the marriage, you have God protecting you. You have the Yodhay. Yodhay means God, right? But when you don't have the Yodhay, what do you have? Esh. Fire. What is fire? Filing. Emotion. So a lot of the, the filet cannot be from the couple itself. It's because of the entities that come. Same things. Why do we put a mizuz on the door? We try to protect it from the entities coming inside. Because there's always entities on the outside. There's people, there's energies, there's envy. There's always energies that nothing to do with the couple itself. The couple itself could be pure. But there's negative energies, there's jealousy, there's other people that create an arousal and there's, if there's not enough protection in the relationship, if they're not strong enough, the outside forces could overcome and take it over. That's why blessings are always hidden. Because we know, once there's exposure, exposure, there is a lot of people you awaken in the lack, lack awakens in judgment. And that person has it. And that creates the friction. That creates the problems. That creates the problem. You know, there was a movie I forgot the name of the movie, but there was a guy who's he was one of these mafia movies Right and he was trying to you know be low-key and all of a sudden his wife shows up in a in a big big fur coat And that that woke up the FBI who's this guy with the fur coat and that's how he got the he got that so you understand It was the fur coat that killed the whole thing otherwise he would have got it's got free It was the fur coat so sometimes we don't want to rouse These extra judgments if they don't need to be remember everything that's hidden is blessed Everything that's not hidden has it opens up black and again Why are we need to hot? Why do we need to shut why do we need to prove from the outside world? It's only gonna bring you problems Which is gonna create We're gonna create black in the inside world very very important Number six the rule in any kind of relate don't wait for the everything don't wait for everything to be perfect Okay, don't wait for everything perfect. This is one of the things the fear of things not being perfect the fear of making the wrong decision This this concept doesn't even exist. What do you talk? What do you mean everything perfect? Rabbi Rooosh always told me G'day whoever you decide to be with you're gonna need a guard of peace That's the answer who cares what time when you're gonna need a guard of peace. What are you talking? It's that's you know you're stepping into the work like a waiting for you Is no you have to take a calculator risk you have to get into a calculator risk You have to make sure there's growth opportunities. There's healthy if the risk ratio reward of course We have to do the diligence on anything alive, right? But you're not guaranteed anything. That's for sure. You're not guaranteed anything is zero You're absolutely life is as risky as it's gonna get But how could you not live it? What happens if you don't live the risk you stay regret? So what is that life? But yes, it is risky everything is risky marriages extremely risky today, but you can't not do it either Cannot do it either business is risky, but you can't not you can't stop working So we can't live like that. It's not a mindset and again the key the number one success that we know is Definitely your attitude if your attitude is everything's for the good the vessels break for the best and everything's happened for me You'll fly through life You'll fly through life. You always you'll never be in a victim mindset. You'll fly through life It's happening for me. It's gonna take you three or four days to recover But everything's happening for you. It's the viney or day There was a great no rabbi Rishada great analogy and he says there was a car a guy driving a car And his kid wanted to pretend he was driving also so what did he do? He gave his car. He gave the kid next door like a wheel like a staring wheel and the kid is Weird, you know moving the car. He's thinking he's controlling the car But it's really got's controlling the car But the illusion is that the kid is spinning the wheel look what this is happening I can't believe this happened. Look at these all it's a fake. It's a fake wheel You are in a fake wheel by the way You think you're controlling you think you're no one to do how did I get there? I mad at myself. I'm depressed You're completely lullaby You're not you are not even in the it was not even activated What you need to do is your intention we do have to magnify intention Here in the world. This is the I want to go north. How am I gonna go north? Which way which high way? It's not up to you I I can pretend I didn't want to go north then heaven does the rest for me They lead you the way you want to go you want to go south? They're also going to help you go south, but you're not riding the wheel and the illusion of being this is why people take themselves way too Seriously Way too seriously. I'm sorry to say you're taking yourself way too seriously because you think everything fault is your fault You think even even gods god said he took away King David's free will and this is how you got with but Trevor That means he really didn't sin with his free will was taken away from him the golden calf also The gamaar talks about where the golden calf the men that they were not supposed to send god took away their their free will to get to teach us to teach us That sometimes your free will is taking care and you and gods only interested in In the repair what you do afterwards is not interested in in the mistake is interested what you do after the mistake I can't express that to you people are so stuck in the mistake. What are you gonna do about it? Okay, it happened. That's what you should be worried about now what happened a lot of most things that happen Way beyond your way you beyond your comprehension of how it happened and why it had to happen and how you had to go into this This area in your life and how you had to go to me with this person the spark the main thing is what are you going to do about it? That is what you get tested on the Kabbalah talks about it being the minor sin and the and the major sin the minor sin is the sin the major Sin is what you do about it the sadness about it That's not that's not warranted you make a mistake you get embarrassed and you get right back up You actually do the opposite of what the evil connection does evil connection once you get sorrow or guilt shame No, you actually celebrated that you got back up That's what you're supposed to do. That's what you're supposed to do. It's completely counterintuitive what your mind thinks that I need excessive guilt and excessive punishment This is all completely You're hearing the wrong advice. It's completely opposite even from not concise that the past doesn't exist Doesn't exist it's all about what you do about it Many cases in that situation has the seventh the seventh tip is very important that comparison steals your peace Do not compare yourself to anybody because number one different mission different soul different to cool different process Period comparison is despair you compare you're going to despair stay in your tent stay in your lane That's it That's it you have no idea what's going on in their world your world Stay in your tent their mission no comparison if people only only have that That was one of the blessings that we got from Bill on the charter courses. What did you say? They can't be cursed they don't face each other's tents You want to have an unbelievable amount that you'll never be able to be cursed Don't talk evil speech and stay in your tent everything you have is will be blessed You want to break every every blessing in your life talk about others and get out of your tent That's the problem. That's a stay in your tent. That was the biggest blessing couldn't curse couldn't curse We know a lot from that from the from that partial you stay in your tent rise up early and and what destroyed the Memorality what destroyed them was immorality that partial tells us really what causes blessing what causes the opposite Number eight rub now can speaks about that through prayer you can exchange your soulmates So sometimes things have to get so bad that God gets you to pray so much that you actually get an upgrade Okay, you're complaining about being in the in the 40th row in coach With next to the bathroom You got put there for a reason pray get out of there you can get the first class Can you imagine that prayer can exchange your soulmate period where did it happen? Leia? Leia got leia got Yakov. She was destined for a sub prayer can exchange. I've seen this a thousand times Prayer can exchange your soulmate prayer can exchange your business mate That means complaining complain that you're not praying that's you should be doing what what is prayer do? Expand your consciousness Pray or expand your consciousness purpose of prayers to expand your consciousness and why do you have a lack? Because you're not praying that's the whole point Why do you feel tired because you're not moving? If you're moving you won't feel tired It's not more ex more more lazyness is gonna make you stronger. It's you're not moving. It's the counter to it Because life we we go through life We hold so much things in and we hold it in we start holding it in you're holding all this stress stuff here here And all of a sudden you're not letting it out you're not expressing it. What do you think you're gonna do? You're gonna be exhausted. You're gonna shut down and be exhausted So the same thing in life if you don't move it you don't use it you lose it the same thing We you're we're always picking up so much energy from people. I go to my treatment centers I pick up energy so much energy. I'm picking up if I will take this energy and put it somewhere Where do you think it's gonna go? It's gonna it's gonna drag me down It's gonna go drag me down 100% I have to go to sauna's co plunge is massive energy cleansing sprayers because otherwise the energy comes to me And I'm not that I'm not that so you have to know how to release energy all the time if something is stuck It's and it's not your energy. It's usually other people's energies that are just When we absorb all the time we're not gonna say you have to the best way to reserve your energy is to is through Speaking God when you speak to God and you speak to him like fire that fire protects you from other fires Others other people's emotions so speaking to God is the best way to I have I do classes in my rehab centers and all that and I don't speak to God that day I'm in a coma the next out of the class the energy you pick up and the absorption is forget it It's a it's a bulb with 1000 watts of energy. What are you gonna do? It's gonna break. It's gonna break It's always gonna break so prayer has the ability to expand your vessel Number nine. It's very very important that we fix our relationship with our creator first before you fix your relationship with people Fix your relationship with the creator. How do you fix your relationship? You focus on two things faith and love Giving and believing giving and believing faith and love is all you need faith is the is the medicine for the mind right? Giving is the venerate is a medication for the hearts right Faith and love is the medication for the heart these two things when faith you have faith you're able to transcend Logical things in life. You're able to think greater than you feel that's faith That's the medication of the mind and the medication of the heart is giving and loving others Loving others even if they hurt you by fighting the good points in them Why cuz you're choosing to be God like you're choosing to be a giver remember one of God's attitude Attributes is arakapine. He's very very slow to slow to and get angry. He tolerates sin. He tolerates insults. He tolerates burdens. He tolerates it That's also sometimes in life. We have to tolerate a little bit not at a toxic level But we have to understand that person's done in a good place. We have to try to tolerate it to be slow to judgment Slow to judgment. Anything anytime when you expand the breath Slow and heaven they expand the breath for you Do you get it when you delay judgment and heaven they delay for you to People are just everybody we see everybody we have they're all nothing more but an opportunity for us in heaven Everybody it's all massive mercy. I'm gonna be honest with you. It's all massive mercy Everybody you see in your life detarding you everybody. It's nothing but mercy. It's like coupons should be redeemed Okay, this person I have to deal with this I have to forgive that upstairs. I need help in heaven this person and he does this Everybody's just an opportunity if you look at it that way Who when you say hey people okay? I hate opportunities to why are you gonna get opportunities to be godlike? You're gonna sit in the tree and learn to roll day long and hug a hug that's not what that's not the answer The answers you have to go into this world and you have to go and deal with the scorpions and the skeletons and the mother-in-laws and the this and all the whole package And you have to overcome your nature of judgment and find good points in people and overcome your nature and that's how you become godlike Just like an addict has to overcome his addiction to To choose the easy way out and face the stuff How is he gonna get healed constantly in Munar a marijuana all the time? He needs to stop with the marijuana and he needs to go to Munar. That's it. That's his challenge His challenge is not facing life. He's got to go face life. That's it the same thing in life Well, we don't face it. We medicated. We blame we get stuck in that situation. It's always fixture relationship with God first Fix your relationship with God first always remember the Tinoq is the Tikun. It's always the Tinoq the Tinoq He says in a child becomes a Tikun Because we pick up programs as From being our from being children. We pick up certain programs based on our parents And this is the end of these these are mechanisms of survival that we use today The tenth one is very very important to be present to be present every situation every day is in the spark every day is in the thing Don't always say one of the things that Ramachan says is is incredible advice I think we're going a little over time today, but we'll continue. Go wait. Okay It's it's very very important. You can't plow an ox and a donkey together Okay, sometimes we mix too many problems together I have this issue and have this issue and have bad issues all of a sudden you're putting it all together Kabbalah tells us it's very simple you deal with one thing at a time you put everything in a complete department This is a department. This is this department work is one department. This is another department food is another department Okay, and this is another department People they take one thing and it just takes over every department Like I stopped doing this I stopped doing the why because you had this Keep it into every department very very important. You need to be emotionally intelligent Everything has its own place. Don't mix it Work is work home is home Moses is Moses Business is business you get me don't don't get to involve As don't mix everything and this is when you're not present You're you're coming in with other things from other issues in life the 11th the 11th To be out special is it's very very important that we get roses, but we also get thorns if you want plastic roses Those don't have thorns, but those are plastic situations Okay, those don't exist so everybody should have at the Hupa It's a couple of bad dates on their hands from the thorns that got to the rose So means there's no rose without thorns and our job is to zamiar cut the thorns You will always have thorns don't expect things to be too good if it doesn't have a thorn. It's not a real rose It's not a real road. It's an AI person. It's if it's too good. It's a problem. It's AI. It doesn't exist The thorns must have you have to have a thorn for every rose So how you can deal with those thorns praise the thorn say you know what if it wasn't for the thorns I wouldn't get to the rose. That's the reality of life Take the whole package, but you can't I just want the rose no thorns or I'm triggered by the thorn Then you're never gonna get the rose So that's one of the things kabala with every single level new level new devil new thorn And as you get up the ladder in life the thorns get bigger and the word zamiar is the cut Our job is to cut the thorn. How do you cut the thorn? You praise your creator for the thorn That's it you praise the creator for the thorn. That's how you cut the thorn Number 12. It's very very important. Don't bring old baggage into new relationships Right keep the x as an x factor. You got it You don't need that you don't need to it's not a venting match Keep it keep it old baggage remember that's old baggage Just like you nobody talks about the poor man Hanukkah You don't talk about that. It's a different holiday different plays different situation Don't bring a lot of people they bring in so much baggage from old relationships That means they're not over it or they haven't they haven't dealt with it right through faith You can say this was a war my 42 stops I had I learned gavura from that person And wonderful everything's great. No need to badmouth. No need to this. No need to blame bumbaba This is the thorn. This is the stop that I had to go through. It's part of my soul's correction That I had to go through to learn this usually every person will teach you something gavura The teacher has it. They'll teach yourself a steam. They'll teach your boundaries There's always some kind of exit package that usually gets out of every situation You didn't heal your trauma from your childhood etc That's why whoever hurts you the most will teach you the most But those don't come in great situations. They'll come in but there's no reason you should bring that fear into a new relationship And say it's gonna happen again. No, you learn the spark. You don't get the lesson again. That's it Remember that. Those people think like this all the time. They should not think like this Number 13 is very very important that you have to be both a coach and a cheerleader There's a time for when the person's when life is going really really good When light when when things are up in life put your head down When things are down put your head up So we need these two concepts in life because they're always going to be that when your partner's in the lower Lift them up when they're higher You can humble them you can you can check but don't don't sit there and mostly people at the bottom Smack they do the reverse Egypt's situation, you know What did the woman do when they were in Egypt? They lifted the men. They lifted the men today They would they would hit them with power also. They would join power with the head. You can't do that They can't that's not the time to the masculine the guy that's the time to lift by the way Lifting what power to femininity is the power to lift the man You have the power to lift or you have the power to break or say just tell us the death in life are in the power of the tongue You have the power to lift the time. That's it Death in the death and life are in the power of the tongue and guess what 10 measures of speech came to the world woman got nine of them So women have the power to lift or break through their mouth It's very powerful. Don't think your mouth is just random things Lift and break period Encouragement when a person is down to encourage them you got this remember what you got this You got to give that encouragement so important Rumnaklan said if he had encouragement back then he would have been 10 times greater If you had the encouragement encouragements very very neat that's Husset when you give somebody encouragement That is Husset that is giving that is being like the creator how many times the Torah say do not fear do not do this It's encouragement. It's all encouragement. You have to give encouragement at its proper time but when it gets When he's in the wrong place that's a whole when there's arrogance Then that's the time to be a coach etc and life Very important they say man's man's loyalty is when he does good a woman's loyalty is when he's not doing good That's how you test loyalty usually in a situation and 14 sometimes as Shema is to break your heart to save your soul So a lot of these things in life you it's better to have a broken heart than your soul being MIA so this is why sometimes breakups you know our purpose sometimes or If the Gamara get in for divorce is before condition Why would the Gamara do this sometimes it's because sometimes it's needed sometimes you have to go through these deconame and etc This is why you have to treat everything you can't be so take it so personal you have to look at this is what's the soul's mission Versus me in the mission itself you got me you're just a spark but you you get to we get to personal With hiding it happened to me. Ha ba ba ba ba ba. It was your soul's mission You chose this life also by the way if you didn't get the memo you chose the life you chose how many things you were gonna go through What challenges you're gonna go through and what you had to go through we chose it So as much as we want to check out like we always say life is a very life is very expensive gym membership with a very bad cancellation policy So you can't really cancel you can't cancel but you could adjust your attitude towards it That's the best thing I could tell you and the 15th obviously is don't take everything personal a lot of times People you know they're very hard-broken when people leave them etc People give what they can't what they have if they don't have to give it they don't have to give it It doesn't mean because you got rejected or because somebody it was got protecting you it's a divine protection No is divine protection don't always say it's my fault You know it's like how many times I've talked with my treatment center that people the God forbid they got sexually abused They got abused and they're saying it's their fault. How's that your fault? It's a kid that you got beaten How's that your fault? But people think everything's their fault. How's your fault that you got cheated? How's your fault? It's not a good fault. So bad exists in the world. Bad exists. But our job is not to understand bad. Our job is to overcome bad. Guys have a great day. [MUSIC PLAYING]