260: True Colors Came Out! Ft. DJ X

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We're like maybe five minutes in and I'm like, we're friends. You know. And we like exchange and phone. We were just like, OK, we're cool. It's so cool. I'm just so so excited to have you today. People listening are going to be like, wait. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. This is-- I know this voice. I know this voice. That's my DJ. That's my DJ. You're DJ. My DJ too. Because I listen to it too. You listen to your own voice. It's DJ X. Oh, absolutely. Stop one percent of AIDJ listeners. Oh my gosh. Yes. If you have not had the pleasure of hearing this voice before, I'm joined today by Xavier Jernigan. Yes. A-K-A-D-J-X. In the building. I'm a real person. If you didn't know what you've been, what you've been, but they can get to know me a little better now. Yeah. Yeah. You know, people connect with me because they feel like I know them. It's an interesting type of celebrity. Ooh. But unlike other types of celebrity, you feel like you know that person for that thing they do. Yeah. She's a basketball player. She's in the movie. He's you're a whole stuff to hot takes. They feel like they know you from your takes and being a part of this family. But the difference is with DJ X, AIDJ is people feel like I know them and it's such an intimate experience because every time you press that button, I'm a part of your life. You're inviting me into your life. And I'm always there. We have to think about how much time people are spending listening to music, listening to podcast driving. Some people have two hour commutes one way to work. Yo, Morgan, we put out the number the other day for the first time. We never released it publicly, but we did 90 million people have engaged with AIDJ driving four billion hours of listening for billion. How many years is that? Did they give you that math? I should have. I should have like broke it down. I was thinking about that too. That blows my mind. It's insane. It's insane, the amount of people that use it, listen to me, hear my voice. You know, I'm in a restaurant and I'm eating and- Do you notice people's head kind of turn like- I do. I do. I know that voice. And at some point, this is what happens. A server will come by. And it's not always my server. Yeah. A server will come by and this is what I know what's going down. They'll just say, I don't want to be weird. But are you DJ X? And they're like, yeah, everybody in the back. We were all like Googling and we were like, yeah, that's him. Oh my God. It's so endearing. People turn into little kids. Like, you know, it's little kids that love it, you know, grandmas and mothers and everybody in between. And everybody turns into a little kid when they meet me, celebrity, other celebrities. It's crazy. It's going to crazy ride. I love it. It really has been because you started out as like head of cultural partnerships. Yeah. Okay. Look at you doing your research. And you listen, so yeah, so I started out as the head of North America for our music editorial team. So our human curators that make the human editorial playlists, right? So I headed up that team and then I created the cultural partnerships team and that team did all what we call cultural curation. So the playlists like partnerships with Netflix and Disney and playlists around gaming and sporting events and holidays. So I created that entire workflow and then I became the head of cultural partnerships. And then I started getting asked to host things. Now I did hosting outside of Spotify, you know, when something's meant for you and you know this from your show and what's happening with your show absolutely blowing up by the way. Number 35. It's time for moment. Things to these guys. Number 35. The last time I looked. Hey. Yeah. Like you're telling you, we're going to push that up. But when something's meant for you and you're meant to do something, it will find you. And we started getting into podcasting podcast here at Spotify. And I got asked to host one because they liked the way that I spoke about music and culture and TV and film and all of that. And I hosted season two of this podcast called Showstopper about the memorable music moments and TV shows and film. And it like got a lot of good reviews. It was like a slow burn type thing like we did episodes around insecure and baby driver. I had a Spike Lee episode and it was really cool and then it went from there to another show. So can you host this? We have this event over here and we're going to do this thing in Amsterdam, ex can you host it? And internally Morgan, people would say like my fellow co-workers would say, you know, you're really the voice of Spotify and then I look at you now and I look at me now. Look at you now. Yeah. So crazy. I love, love, love you, your voice. I'm just blown away because like you hear all of this, you guys and you're just like, what hasn't this guy done? You've lived so many lives and I met your friend at dinner a couple weeks ago. I was like, you worked at that record table. You worked with her and so I was blown away. But valedictorian. Yes. College. And why you? Yeah. And saying you're also a deacon. I'm an ordained deacon. Which what do you marry people like what do you I can I can I can marry people. I do like I come in and speak in different parts of service, whether it be the congregational prayer or you know, if it's the authoratory time, I'll talk about giving and the point of giving and why we're giving and what that's really about. And you know, you being blessed and you're blessed to be a blessing to somebody else. So I'll share those kinds of things, but I pray for people and lead different parts of service. I'm gone a lot physically because I'm always somewhere else. You know, usually when we're hanging out, we're in some part of the world, different city, different part of the world, which is pretty awesome. I wake up and I pinch myself every day like it's never lost on me ever. And I and I remind myself like no matter how busy it gets, just make sure I'm balanced, make sure I take care of self. So sometimes that means I can't physically be in church the way I used to be. But I do believe that all of this other stuff is happening around my career. So I can be a light outside of like churches because that's what we need anyway. You're so balanced. I just feel like you're just you just give guru energy. Like just I like that. You really do. And I'm like, I got to pick your brain about how to deal with burnout. No, we should talk about. No, for real. We should talk about that. So the last show that I hosted was a daily podcast. Some of you may remember called the get up. It was Monday through Friday. It was Spotify's morning show is our official morning show. And I was the lead host on that and I had a couple, couple co-hosts with me. And that was two years. We did 400 episodes two years. And even if it was a holiday, we would pre-record. So we wanted our listeners to never go without an episode. So I was never off. My call time was 4.30 a.m. Eastern. I'm just sick over that. It was. I'm not sure. I'm going to tell you the truth. No. I'm going to tell you the truth Morgan. It took me two years. About a year and a half to not be sleep deprived after I left the show after we wrapped the show up. Oh my god. It took a year and a half on my body to regulate. So now I'm extra serious about balance and self care and the little age you if you're not careful. Just stress, stress kills, stress kills, that's not good for you. Not at all. Okay. Well, you've been through some stuff. Yeah. You're well rounded person. I think you're going to have some good takes on today's stories. I'm excited. I found just a wide variety of chaos and just weird dilemmas people are having. And you always approach things from a very empathetic, just kind of take. So yeah, I think you're going to be really good. I think we're going to have some fun. We're going to get loose. Let's do it. Let's do it. Let's do it. I'm excited. And I listen to the show, by the way, I know you know this, but I want the listeners to know you're with a fellow listener. So he's not bullshit. New guys. Peep the socks. Oh my gosh. Yes. Who does this remind you of you guys sharing the sock game? Sharing the sock game. Our dad. Father knows. Father knows. So I got the socks on. I'm comfy. DJ socks. If you can't see the details for DJ X, let's get it. It's you. It's you. It's me. (upbeat music) - Do you know how many people I've seen captioned their Instagram posts, just dressing up in case my AIDJ sees me today? - I saw a couple of those. - One was from an Olympian. - Yeah, I messaged her back. It was so awesome, I was just like-- - Like we need to make a connection happen. - So I sent her a nice message and wish I was there and looking forward to meeting you, IRL. So keep dressing up in case we meet in real life because I do want to meet you, IRL, you know what I mean? We keep it fly, so keep dressing up. We keep it fly at all times Morgan. You know, I don't play about my fashion. - You do not. - You don't either though. - I have my days. You see me on my best ones. - Good. (laughing) - I was dressed up when you see me. Otherwise, it's leggings on a big t-shirt. - I'm not mad at that. (laughing) - This first story I've got for you-- - Okay, let's hear it. - It's coming from our slash "Am I the Jerk?" So this person says, "Am I the Jerk?" For walking out of dinner, after my girlfriend tested me. - Tested is going to detail of, I want to hear more. Okay, I'm intrigued. I, 29 male, have been dating my girlfriend, 28 female for eight months. She's really in a social media and relationship test. Which I've always found kind of cringe, but harmless. - Okay. - Last night we went out to dinner, halfway through the meal, a woman came up to our table, flirted with me, and then asked for my number. I immediately said no, and told her I was there with my girlfriend. - Okay. - After the woman left, my girlfriend started laughing, and told me it was her friend, and she wanted to see how I would react. She said that I passed, so I shouldn't be mad, but I was pissed. I told her that that was humiliating and manipulative. I don't wanna be tested, like I'm on some reality show. She said I was overreacting, and that other guys would have found it funny. I paid for my food, left, and went home. Now she says that I embarrassed her, and made a big deal of nothing. - Am I the jerk for walking out? - Oh, I like this one, this is a good one to start on. Okay, so first of all, all that testing stuff, don't do it. Stop playing games. It's not necessary. What are you trying to prove? He passed the test, and then what? Congratulations, we get to continue having a nice dinner. - It's awkward now. - It's awkward now. - It's weird. I don't know what's real with you. - Yeah. - You know what I'm saying? The person came up, which would be crazy rude, by the way, for somebody to come up in the middle of you sitting with, you know what I mean? Like you're obviously on a date. - On a date or like, just like you don't know me, and like you're gonna come up in five seconds while having an intimate conversation, or at least dinner with someone. Like it could be anyone, and it's still rude. - Exactly, that's crazy rude. So that person's the jerk for even agreeing to do that for your friend. I know they think they're like, right, a die, and being a good friend. That's actually not being a good friend. Now, let's get to, is he a jerk for walking out? I wouldn't have taken it so far to walk out in the middle of dinner. I would have finished dinner. I would have expressed how I felt about it. I think what he said up to that point was cool, but you don't have to embarrass her. I can't, I understand that she was embarrassed. Did he leave her sitting at the table? Like just put money on the table, and then just like leave. Like, like, 'cause it's, you know what I mean? - Yeah, like how dramatic was his attitude. - Yeah, like if you just like, that's it, and then you just drop, you know, whatever the, you know, cash is on the table, and you just walk up and leave, and then you get your, I don't know if y'all rolled there together, did you meet there together. All those details matter. So did you get a Uber, and you're like, get your own Uber, or? - That's a really good point. So those details matter if they were through the meal. - So, I mean, he just says, I paid for my food, left. - My food. - There's no, I mean, above, it does say halfway through the meal. Someone came to the table, so-- - Halfway through the meal, okay. - So he could have been still eating, and then this happened, you passed the test, and then he was like, I'm done. - You like, I just, I'm gonna reveal. - Yeah. But they've been dating together for eight months, so they probably did go there together. - Yeah. So if he left her there, that part of it is jerkish. Now she set everything off, in a way that was just unnecessary and childish. That's childish, like, come on, what are we doing? What are we in high school? Even in high school, I wouldn't like that. Like, let's not do that. - No. - But you can't leave her though. And I just say this, like, this may sound old school or traditional, I'm big on seeing your date home. Even if the date is a terrible date, I'm seeing you home, I'm gonna make sure you get inside, even if I'm angry with you or upset or something went left. I'm gonna make sure, like, you know, I live in New York. You got it, you got to get them home, and even if you make the Uber wait, the Uber driver has to wait until she walks in and the door closes behind her. - Yeah. - So you got to see her home safely. And if you didn't do that, that part is jerkish, but I get where you're coming from. - Yeah. - That's why he's angry. - Feelings are so valid. - They are. - So valid. But yeah, I think you could have just, like, had that conversation, but like, that's not okay. - Yeah. - I don't appreciate it. I don't want to have these tests going forward. - You know what's so? - Let's wrap this up. Like, I'm kind of over this now. - It's how you express the feelings, too, right? Like, it's a couple of things about feelings, right? You have a right to your feelings. And also, it doesn't mean your feelings are always right. Your perspective may be the most important perspective in your world. It doesn't mean it's the most important perspective in the world, right? - For sure. - So, I get his perspective, his anger. I absolutely would have felt that was a jerk move on her part. I would have been mad about it. I wouldn't have left her there. I would have expressed it. Even if, like, we go in a silent mode. And I, like, really silent treatment. It's just, like, it's awkward now, like you said, Morgan. - Yeah. - I don't have much to say now. I'm still gonna make sure you get home. - Yeah, and I appreciate that. Because I don't think that's common courtesy anymore. - Right. - And I think, like, the younger generations, like, when I was in high school, like, my high school, boyfriends were pretty with it. And they would, you know, I'd get out of the car and I don't know if I ever got walked up to the door. - Yeah. - Like, that's very traditional. I wish that was still a thing. But they would at least sit in their car and watch and make sure I got in the house. - You got to, at the very least, you got it. - Kids aren't doing that nowadays. Justin has step siblings that are, like, 15, 16, 18. And when the girl was in high school and had, you know, her first boyfriend is going on these dates, he'd drop her off and peel away. - Oh, no. - He wouldn't have been pulling the driveway. - So in the front, like, - On the curb. - And then she would have to, like, - Jump, jump out, tuck and roll, girl. - Tuck your rolls. - I won't battle after another, like, go, now, courage. - You don't respect me at all. - Yeah, for real. - It's just respect. - That's common respect. And what happened to safety and not making assumptions that people make it inside, okay? - What if she can't find her keys? She locked down and pulled. - Exactly. These things happen over her phone died. And then she can't reach you. - Yeah, she got smart locks, can't get it. Can't reach you. - Anything can happen. Make sure your date gets in their home. Period. - I know, I feel like we need, like, a common etiquette course again. - We do. Maybe we should work on that. - Yeah, we've lost a little bit of that. - I think we have. And it's a sad thing. - I know. Everyone can chime in, like, give us some other ones we can add to the list. Like, you should make a list for people of just, like, make sure your date gets in the door. - Yeah. - Don't drive away. - Exactly, if you're mad at dinner, don't just slap money down on the table and leave 'em there. - And run, yeah. I mean, yeah, eight months, two together. It's like-- - Yeah, they probably came together, right? - Yeah. Top comment on this one. Nope, that is immature. You want a life partner, not a child, who play games. - Can't argue with that. - OP, our writer does respond. You're right. This breaks me feeling this way. - Oh, I'm sad for them. I know, I don't understand relationship tests, 'cause it's like, if you don't trust your person to where you feel you need to do them, I think that's kind of a red flag for you. - That's right. Like, right, right. If you have to test it, like, let's go feel test this. I have a feeling that I can't trust him or trust her or trust them. And you feel like you have to actually have it acted out, like a reenactment made, like, that's crazy. - Like, Instagram DMs, I think is a big test. - Yeah, like. - There's girls that, like, I've seen on TikTok, literally get paid to message other people's boyfriends. - Just slide in the DMs and see what they'll respond. - Yeah, can you test my partner? - This is why I don't even check DMs. It's a fun fact about me. - Really? - It's true, so I don't even, I don't even look. - Too dangerous. - It's too dangerous. It's just a minefield and-- - You never know. - You never know, I'm just asking, yeah, I don't do it. - No other updates on this post. No other comments from OP. - That's all we got. - I wanna hear from the audience. I wanna hear from the listeners. - What do you wanna, what do you wanna pull them on? We've got polls on Spotify, you know, I can't-- - Yeah, that's just a poll. - But you only get one poll per episode. - Okay, so this way, I don't know if, yeah. - I know there might be some of that. - You got a lot of chaos coming. - I know, we gotta tell the megaphone, the team. - Yeah, like, both of the polls, please. - Yeah. What do we do? Yeah, you can have more than one. I think I know someone I could ask. Yeah, I think so too. We know a couple of people. We have some friends. Okay, this next one is coming from Am I the asshole? Okay. It's only 16 hours old right now. Oh, fresh. Really fresh, okay. It's titled, "Would I be the asshole for suing my friend when she didn't come to my wedding?" (laughing) Wait, wait, wait, wait. Suing like litigation, like, we going to court? Tegan or to court. (laughing) Now, where there are money's spent on said person. Okay, let's go. I, 25 female, recently got married to my 25 male husband in Bali, Indonesia in January. It was a destination wedding, but my parents and his parents paid for their own plane tickets in hotel. But we paid for our friends plane tickets and hotel stays. Yeah. Each plane ticket was about $2,000 USD. And hotel maybe 150 to 300 for a week. My friend, Gemma, brought along her newlywed husband, John, but paid for his plane ticket. The problem is that Gemma and John did not show up to my wedding. No! Gemma took the free plane ticket to Bali and the hotel room. And when I asked her why she didn't show up, she said, since they couldn't afford their own honeymoon, this was the perfect opportunity. (laughing) And Jim decided that he didn't feel like going. I was really hurt by this since Gemma and I have been friends for over 10 years. Stop playing. Would I be the asshole if I took her to small claims court for the money that I spent on the plane ticket and hotel? Get your money. That was crazy. Oh! And this is why. That's so much money. And this is the thing. It's beyond the principle. Yep, principles involved. But this is the thing. The money was spent, I watch a lot of Judge Judy. The money was spent. (laughing) I learned something. The money was spent in anticipation of her attending the wedding. It was essentially contingent. Yes. If she told her, hey, I'm not gonna go to your wedding, then you'd be like, oh, well, I'm not buying your plane ticket. Just to come to my wedding. She spent the money. You took the flight. So you taking the flight is you saying, I'm going to your wedding. I know. I didn't I wonder what type of documentation OP has. Like does she have text messages? Like, hey, if you come to my wedding and Bali, I'll buy your plane ticket. Right. And then the friend is like, yeah, that sounds great. She's gonna need that. Like that then is kind of a verbal contract. That is an agreement. And so, yeah, her not showing up. Yeah. Get your money. You're not paying for random people and even if your friend for 10 years to just fly to Bali and just not go to your thing. That's crazy. And it was incredibly generous to pay for your friend. In seconds. Because I expect, I don't know about y'all. I don't know about you. I expect if I'm going to a destination wedding that I'm gonna pay. Yeah, it's on you. It's on me. No, this was like crazy generous. So that was generous. That was thoughtful, that meant I want you there so bad. It's so important to me that you are at my wedding that I'm going to put down $2,000 and pay for your hotel room for you to be there. I know. That's crazy. Get your money. She's out of control. No, you are not. No, and I'm thinking about it. I'm like, okay, like I get you didn't get to celebrate your own honeymoon. That's your problem. Oh, wedding is one day. It's literally one day. It's an event. And you've got a whole rest of the trip. You can extend in either direction. If your new husband doesn't want to go too bad, that's your friend. That's right. You got to go. You leave your husband in the hotel room and you go. I totally agree. I'm just like what? And to me, he would be a jerk for not going, but as the friend, you still have to go. Like, listen, listen, buddy, I'm going to this wedding. We can have our fun before, after to your point, but that's crazy. Soar. Take it a court. Good. Yeah. I mean, OP does add more too. Oh, I want to hear more. This girl, Gemma, wasn't even in the wedding party. So OP was like, all she had to do was show up, dance, and eat cake and food. She wasn't, she didn't even have to actually do anything. No job. No job. Just have fun. Funny thing enough is that they did go on a honeymoon. It just wasn't a broad. And this is the thing though, daddy, I don't have nothing to do. That has nothing to do with OP, your honeymoon, or the honeymoon you didn't do. It has nothing to do with the next person's wedding and the next person's wedding planning. For example, if I decide I want to just go to the courthouse and get married, that has nothing to do with your plans for your wedding and you wanting me to be a part of it, right? Yeah. So even San Araya as a whole bunch of extra stuff is a whole bunch of nonsense, as far as I'm concerned. I know I would love for her to sue and get money back, but there's one comment that I think is going to make that hard. Okay, let's hear it. I made a video of me surprising her that I paid for her plane fare and printed a photo of the hotel room at Christmas. I gave it to her as a gift for Christmas, as well as some other gifts. It's a gift. It's a gift. So this is the problem. The way you presented it. Yeah. You're not going to be able to get the money back. I don't, I don't even think Judge Judy would do it. No, Judge Judy would say it was a gift. Yeah. You're basically saying, here's a trip to Bali and I'm getting married during that time. Yeah, you're not going to win, but the energy around suing her, I'm all for. You're just not going to win this case though. I know. Well, if you did go to one of those shows, I've heard that even the losing person gets paid for it. Yeah, they get like an appearance. Yeah. At least. Yeah. I don't know if they can get a little something out of it. Yeah, they get a free, and they get a free trip. Yeah. I don't know New York or going to LA. Yeah. A lot of people were questioning like this story, how did you afford it? You're 25 and you're paying for all of these people to go to Bali. And OP does share that she signed on as a CRNA with a 40 K bonus. Okay. So she used her whole signing bonus. She used her signing bonus. To make this happen. And you know what? And this, this be real. A lot of people spending money, they don't have any way. So when it's like they're questioning her like, how does she have this money? Yeah. A lot of y'all got credit cards maxed out already anyway, so stop my brother put 40 K on a credit card for his wedding. See what I'm saying? Yeah. And that was 2015. See what I mean? Like people, you can. Yeah. Lots of finance. Yeah. Right. You can do it. Yeah. I don't recommend it. Don't do it. Took him forever. Exactly. Sometimes that, when it was all said at least easily, like easily three times that, right? I fully think this story is real. I do too. I mean, it's really recent, but the Reddit account is three years old. So that also kind of shows me like she didn't just create this account, create a fake story. Right. Just to do it. It's a real account. Yeah. She's been around. So this is a real problem. This is a real problem. And you know what? That person's not your friend. Not anymore. Y'all can't be friends. It can't believe I'm saying this, but not the asshole. Someone offers to give you a free vacation on the condition that you attend one party during that time. Come on. I'd be jumping at the opportunity to take a free vacation and then no call no show to your friend's wedding is really shitty behavior on their part. Couldn't agree more. They could have extended their stay if they wanted to treat the trip as their own honeymoon. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, that's so foul. That's foul. It's literally it was probably like, hey, show up at four. You could have gone to the ceremony and then snuck out. Yes. I mean, ceremonies at four, right? You still seven o'clock like get the get a meal out of it and then go do whatever you want to do. What a beach. That's it. I don't know. You're not even in the wedding party. That's crazy. Yeah. People just selfish. I think OP is like coming to terms with it as like sad as it is. Yeah. And she does kind of add like, I realize I'm going to be better off going forward. Oh, absolutely. You got to listen when a person tells you or shows you they're not your friend. You got to listen as painful as it may be and as hurtful as it can be. Listen to the truth. Yeah. Be clear on what people are telling you and not just projecting what you want it to be because that just means you're going to extend. You're getting hurt. It's hard. No, and it's so hard. And I think friends especially, we give so many chances, we do. Like even more so than like romantic relationships or something like about friendships that we really, you know, we work hard for it because I mean, friendships are hard. That's right. But gosh, like when you wake up and you're like, I deserve to be better and like you move past that friend. That's right. Then you have so much more room for a new person that's going to treat you right. Yes. And I learned that the hard way. Yeah. I broke up with a friend that I literally thought would be a bridesmaid and Oh bad news bears. Really? Yeah. Like I flew from Minnesota to Dallas to go visit her. Yeah. I brought another one of my friends with. Yeah. And the whole entire time, like she would ignore me, would like sabotage like what was happening with me so she could get close to my other friend. What was that about? My other friend's dad works. for the NHL, and she wanted to get close to her. So she literally hid her phone. So she couldn't reach out to me and contact me. - Are you serious? - Yeah. - That's diabolical. - It was really bad. - That's crazy. - So I ended up like leaving, I flew home early. I was like, I'm-- - Oh, so you like, I got here, I'm outta here, I don't wanna be a part of this. - Yeah, I like sat at her house by myself for almost 24 hours. - Stop. - No Wi-Fi. She didn't have Wi-Fi at her place, and this was back like 20, 2015, 2016. - Yeah. - And so, she didn't have Wi-Fi. - So you were like stranded basically. - Uber wasn't a thing, really. - No. - And so I asked, I was like, hey, can I take your card or Walmart to go buy a book? She told me no. - No. - So I sat there, twisted my thumbs, called my dad, I go, can you book me a flight? - Yeah. - And he did, and I left. - Shout out to dad, man. - I know. - Daddy knows. - He knows, he knows a lot. - I'm sorry that happened to you for a short while. - Yeah, no, but like, you live and you learn, it's like, it's the same with this person where it's a tough, expensive, really expensive lesson to learn. Like, now you know going forward, like the people that did go to Bali and did show up for you, those are real ones. - I had a friend that I was really tight with in high school, early adult life, and my mom's house flooded. I'm originally from Florida, Daytona Beach. Hurricane comes, our house floods. So I was here in New York, working, and I couldn't get down there. - And that is so stressful. - Right, so that's stressful. My brother couldn't get down there. So my friends, my boys, they, yeah, they all rallied up, went to the house. - Yeah, that's your mom, too. - That's my mom, and like, they're second mom, right? So they're pulling up carpet, taking stuff out of the house. So I can get prepped to get fixed up. - Yeah, cutting out the drywall. - Yeah, it's mold. - Yes, 'cause it forms quickly, especially in Florida, 'cause it's so hot. - Yeah, it's humidity. - Exactly. So one of my friends, you know, I'm on the phone with them. It's like, I'm on my way. Okay, great. So I know this person's there, and a couple of hours later, my mom calls me, and she's like, where's, so on, so, he didn't get here yet. And I was like, yeah, he said he was on the way when I talked to him a couple of hours ago. I called him, no answer, so no show, no call, and never hurt from him again for like, better part of 10 years. Straight ghosted. - I thought you were gonna say like 10 days, 10 years. - Years. - Years? - Well, then you're like, you know, a couple of hours later, you're like, you're worried about him. You're like, is he good? - That's exactly what I was doing. - And do that to someone to ghost something like that? Just say you can't make it. - To say you can't make it, ghost me, ghosted my mom, ghosted my other friends who were there helping. - What? - Like a whole friend group, our friend circle didn't hear from him. And then he reaches out like 10 years later, almost like, hey, what's going on? And I'm like, come on. - What's going on? - What's going on? - So, so audacious. - Last I talked to you 10 years ago, you were on your way to my mom's house. - Yeah, you still going there? - You still on the way? - You on the way? Are you walking? - Oh, okay, you still walking. - You're walking. - When you carry the car. - Oh, okay. - Oh, good looking. - I didn't even live there anymore, 'cause I bought her a new house, homie. Like, what do we? - Oh my God, that's so bad. - And that was hurtful. - Very. - And I kind of put it aside while we had the crisis that we were dealing with. But later then, you know, when he came back or really tried to like come back into my life, I really reflected on it. I'm just like, no, man, you don't get to do that. You don't get to do that. You did it to me, you did it to my mother, and you did it to our other friends. Sorry, man. This, like, sorry, not sorry. - No, no. He didn't deserve anything. - And he's never 10 years. - And Morgan is the thing. You know what, you know, I asked him like, so what happened, man? Like, for real, what happened? - Yeah. - And he just, humming and hawing. He never actually explained himself. - Like, there wasn't a reason, too, 'cause like, you can get people grace if it's like, you know what, dude, I was in a really tough spot. - Yeah. - I was battling some stuff of my own. - And I was embarrassed. - Yeah. - And I was jeweled from everybody. It wasn't about you. - I didn't want people to see me like that. - Whatever it is, then you give them some grace. - That's right. - To be with no excuse. - No. - Bye. - Bye. - We can't do this, man. - No. - And I can't catch you. I'm not catching you up on the last 10 years. A lot has happened. - A lot. - A lot has happened. Things are good over here. - Real good. - Real good. - Real good. - Real good. - Things are not real good for this next one. - All right, let's do it. - This one is coming from R/Am I overreacting? - Okay. - 14 hours old. - Oh, I can wear a fresh like this. - I know. It just feels like you're in it with me. - Yeah, exactly. - Am I overreacting in rethinking my engagement after how my girlfriend treated me while sick with a bad flu? My 35 and my fiance 32 female have been together for four years, lived with each other for one year and recently engaged. We recently got back from a trip overseas for a wedding and I caught a bad flu bug. It's so bad that I passed out standing in the airport line and had to be checked over by paramedics before I was allowed to keep flying. We got home late and also while walking up the stairs in our home, I basically got lightheaded and had to sit down and finally made it to bed while we were gone. Her mom was house sitting for us and she was staying over. So I had really bad diarrhea and she knew this as while walking through the airport and on the plane, I was in the bathroom every 15 minutes. - That's the worst. - And I told her this embarrassing fact. - Yeah. - The next morning, my fiance woke up at around 8.30am. Once she woke up, I asked her if she could go to the store and pick up some Emodium Pepto, maybe some Sprite and Gatorade as I was really dehydrated. Her first response was, quote, "Do I need to go now?" (laughing) I get that I probably should have said yes, but I didn't want to be pushy. So I was like, well, you can have coffee and get ready, but I am super dehydrated and I really feel like shit. And anytime I drink water 10 minutes later, I'm on the toilet again. - Right. - She gets up and talks with her mom about the trip, has breakfast around 11am. Her mom jumps in the shower. So I go downstairs to talk to her about going to the store. She basically snaps at me and says, quote, "Let me say goodbye to my mom. Why didn't you buy those at the airport yesterday?" - No, no. - I will go after I say goodbye to my mom, okay? At about 12.30 pm, I gave up. I sign up for DoorDash. I've never done that. Order the medicine, Sprite, Pepto. And I'm impressed because it's here by 1 pm. When I got delivered, my girlfriend's mom was like, what is that? I basically told her it was just medicine since I was sick and didn't want to go to the store. So I got a via DoorDash. And she was like, you didn't need to order online. I could have gone to the store quick and picked it up. However, after this, I'm seriously questioning my relationship right now. Not that it matters much, but there's a store about a quarter mile from my house. It's maybe a three, four minute drive. It would have literally taken 15 minutes max to pick it up. I asked her to do one simple thing and she blew it off for like five hours. - This is terrible. - I know. - So the question is, am I overreacting because I'm rethinking my engagement, potential marriage to this person? I wouldn't marry this person. - I mean, when you can married, there are some vows you take. - That's right. - Typically it's insickness. - And in health. - And in health. - For better or for worse. - And she's not down for the insickness part. - No, not at all. I guess that's a major part. She's only down for the health. - Just the health. - As long as you're healthy and can get stuff on your own, then it's all good. - To the second, I have to be inconvenienced. And why didn't you, when you were sick and knew you weren't feeling well, you didn't get it yourself? - Also, why didn't you get it at the airport? Well, because the airport is like four or five times more. - It's like $500 for a sprite and-- - It was literally-- - Oh my god. - What are we talking about? - Nah, man. - $8 for just a water. - It's crazy, it's highway robbery. - It's getting insane. - No, it's really, really crazy, right? I would, and marry this person. I wouldn't do it. The beauty in this situation is the person is showing you who they really are. And if the person can't show up for you, if a person that you're supposed to be married to a life partner with, combining finances, potentially having children together, building a home and a family together and going at life together, then when you're at your worst, when you can't, like you feel horrible, nobody likes to be sick. It sucks to be sick. - It is the worst. - It's the worst, right? - Especially when you feel like you also just can't leave, because you gotta be close to a bathroom. - Yeah, that isn't at the worst. Or you gotta like, when it's coming out both in sometimes, you gotta keep a trash can close. Or like, that is the worst. It's embarrassing. He was vulnerable for her. Like, I couldn't do it. I could not and would not marry this woman. And take it from your friend DJ X, don't marry this woman. You're gonna be in for a heartache and a terrible life. I am a believer and I'm not married. Like, happy wife, happy life. I'm a big believer in that. - Okay. - And you're gonna be miserable. She's not happy, because she's not gonna be happy when you're sick. - No, and I know there is like a common trope, 'cause like, I literally joked about it in my wedding vows. And now I'm like, well, I could have been a little nicer. No, it was funny. Ever in life, and like, it's kind of a joke with me and Justin where like, sometimes, - Sometimes guys will get sick, and the man cold, and they take being sick a little harder. - Oh, we're big babies. I'll be the first to tell you, men are big babies. - And Justin, we'll get the same cold, and maybe it hits him differently, but for me, I'm still doing, I'm like, I'm rocking. - Yeah, and he gets taken out. So it's kind of a common trope. - I agree with that. - And my vows, I promise, like, in sickness, even if it's a man cold, I will take care of you. - But you commit it, though. - Oh, I'm committed. - You see what I'm saying? And I think that was a fair joke, because I, as a guy, I'm willing to say it. We can be big babies when we're sick. - Big babies, right? So in my head, I'm like, okay, well, if your partner kind of is like, I don't know, more of the big baby when they're sick, then I get how you could kind of be like, oh, he's not that sick. But this person is very clearly sick, to almost pass out at the airport, or, well, passed out at the airport, and then almost fainted going up the stairs. There, sick. - And let's add this. It's even worse traveling, and having to travel when you're sick, it's torturous. - I know. - To get on, to know you have to get on a plane and go through an airport. - Oh my gosh. - It's awful. - No, I have a friend that got food poisoning on her flight back from London. - Oh, on the flight? - On the flight. - She had to lay down in the galley with the flight attendants, like putting ice on her neck. - That's the worst. - It was-- - Food poisoning. I've gotten food poisoning, I think, twice in life. And it's the most grueling, excruciating experience. You feel like you're gonna die, right? And it's just like, imagine getting that on a plane. - That and like, Neurovirus on a plane? - Oh, Neurovirus. - Neurovirus, it just comes out both ends. - Yeah, see, I've had, I don't know if it's been that virus, but I've had it. - Oh, it's, yeah. - The worst. - It's really bad. - So I need the person that I'm gonna spend my life with. Even if I'm a big baby when I get a cold, or a head cold, and you're like tougher, I think women are tougher in general. Let me just say that, y'all have babies. If men had to have babies, wouldn't be no babies. I'm telling you-- - No chance. - Right, you have to knock 'em up like it gets his will. - Yeah, that's how it happened. - Just like, God, there's no way. - I'm telling you, so I'm telling you right now, women are the tougher of men and women. I have zero issue saying that. But if I'm telling you, I'm not well, can you get this from me, and you can't do it, or you're just like so annoyed with me, and I'm not saying you can't be annoyed inside. - Yeah. - Keeping inside and still do it. - I'm like, why do you wanna see your partner suffer? - That's right. I got the end of the day, he's suffering. - Yeah. - Dehydrated, dehydration can lead to really big issues. - Yeah. - Why do you wanna see him suffer? - What happened to caring and empathy? - Don't you like him? - Yeah, it sounds like I don't like you, man. - Don't you at least like him? - It sounds like he's an enemy, and she's like, oh, how does it feel now? - You would do that for a friend, or a roommate, you won't do it for your fiance? - Now I wanna like, I'm curious as to just like, their dynamics, when both are healthy. Like, is he like, not helpful when she needs help with stuff, and now the shoe's on the other foot, and she's kinda like, being passive, aggressive about it. Like, you don't help me when I say I need help about, you know, with this thing. - Yeah. - Then now that you're down, well, you can wait. Not cool. - I, I'm gonna see if we have any comments from OP. - I would love to see comments. So Reddit made this new feature, where you can, you can hide your comments now. - Can you really? - Yeah, and it's really hard for me to find comments from people, but someone, Muse, on Spotify, left me a comment, and gave me a hack. - Come on, Muse. - So I'm gonna try it, you just search just a blank space, like then, and then enter, and I'll pull up posts. - Really? - Muse, you're so good. - Come on, Muse, shout out to Muse. - You're so good, Muse. - Come on. - This is why you let comments happen on Spotify, baby. - Yes, this is why we need comments. - So, I guess OP asked, like, why didn't you, like, get it? Like, what was the issue? And OP says, I tried to talk about it. She said she didn't wanna be rude to her mom who was staying with us by leaving. That was her excuse. Put your mom in the car. Say, hey mom, you wanna go for a ride? We'll grab some coffee while we're out. - Yeah. - And you get it, and you make a little errand. Your mom would have loved spending time with you. - Absolutely, or say, mom, I gotta run out, he's sick. And I need to get him some stuff. That's it. She might have some tips. - People were commenting, why didn't you just go get it yourself? - Who are these people? - Evil. - And OP's like, I didn't wanna shit in my pants and pass out again. - Right. As I'm driving a moving vehicle, a 2,000-pound car. Like, come on, man. - Yeah, if he's passing out, like, seriously. - Like, seriously. - It's dangerous. - It really is. And people, like, can we just say this? People die from the flu. Like, people actually, it's common enough what we don't think about. But people actually die from it. Every year. - I know. Like, a lot of people actually. - Yeah, like, let's not get it twisted. - I know, and dehydration is like a really big cause of that. - Yeah. - So OP does say, this is the first time I have been vulnerable around her. Like, this is the first time I've really needed help. When she asks for help, I make it my number one priority, even from small stuff to whatever. If she asks me to do something, I try to drop everything and do it. - This is not the woman for you. - Wow. I know it hurts to hear this. You gotta walk away. - You do. - You gotta walk away. She's showing you who she is. She's saying, I don't care about the pain that you're in. - Well, and her excuse is just not. - It's lame. - Like, I didn't want to be rude to my mom. I didn't want to leave while she was here. I was gonna go after she left. But yeah, you kept talking and I guess you want to catch up with your mom, but like, ask her to go. Like, for me, I would have been like, "Hey mom, I'm gonna run to the store quick." One, it's 15 minutes. Hey mom, I'm gonna go to the store. You want to come with, like, there's two options. - He's sick. I think he's getting some stuff come with me. - Insane. - Insane. - Insane. - Inexcusable. - I know, I know people out there are gonna be like, really, to break up, like they're engaged. Like, to break up over this, it's that serious. - It is that serious and it's better to do it now than later. And I promise you, it will come up later. - It will. - And it'll be worse. - I know, it's gonna translate in other areas. - Yeah, and when you say to your point about the vows, and sickness and health, and she says, I do, she's gonna be lying. She's gonna be lying. - Proof is not in the pudding with that one. - Right. - Exactly. - I mean, like, she's loving you. - Don't set it up for her even lie. Just break it off now. You have actual experience with her. - Yeah. - You have actual evidence. Walk away. I know it's not easy. - Would you give it one more shot? I mean, being sick with the flu is not a common occurrence, typically, like, would you have a really big heart to heart and give it one more shot? - I'm big on talking, and big on trying to talk things out, but for me. - There was almost like enough chances in the. - Yeah, right, in the asking, in the situation unfolding, like, why didn't she just take charge? If I get married one day, and I'm open to it, I need to feel like the person can hold me down when I'm not at my best. If I can't feel like, or if I don't feel like, the person can hold me down when I can't do it. And we never know what life is gonna throw at us, right? - Never. - You never know what's gonna happen. You never know what's gonna happen with your health. I've been blessed with really great health. That's one of the greatest blessings of my life. - Yeah. - But you never know what's gonna happen. You can step off the curb and go up a bit, right? And if I feel that she wouldn't be willing to take care of me if the absolute worst thing happens, I can't marry her. And that's how I would feel. - Yeah. - I would talk to her about it. That'd be so hurt for me. It wouldn't be any coming back from it. I had a close friend, I had a little very minor outpatient surgery one time. I tell you what it is. I had a little system on my back. - Yeah. - And it was like this size, and then it got infected. - Oh. - And it was painful. - Oh yeah, and it was sore to the touch. Like it felt like somebody was putting a match. And it was like right here just on to my left shoulder. - And like that's constantly getting bumped and rubbed. - Yeah, so even when that dude was like, yo, what's up? - Oh. - That hand, the other hand, the hug hand. - I can feel it. - It was painful. - Gotta go. - This thing got painful really fast. - Yeah. - So it was an outpatient thing. And I was gonna be out the same day. And a close friend of mine who I like bulked. Groceries for before when she couldn't afford groceries for herself. Paid for her to have like a month long metro card in between jobs as she couldn't afford. And I'm talking about, I did this whole, and said in the front like, you don't know me anything. - Oh my God. - She was in need, she was vulnerable. And I said, yup, here, take my car, go to the store, bring my car back. And get you a 30 day metro card, did it this same person wouldn't stop by to see me when I got home. One day didn't go and wait in the waiting room. Another wonderful friend did. I walked home from the hospital. It's walking distance. - Yeah, but still. - The person literally did not stop by. - Busy, nope. - They said, they went and had dinner with another friend. A few blocks away from where I lived at the time. We can't be friends. - Yeah. - Not even to stop by before or after the dinner. - No, did not stop. - Dude. - No, Morgan, they didn't stop by to see me that day. - When people show you who they are. - You gotta listen. - You gotta listen. - Tony Morrison. - You gotta listen, man. - Yeah. - Listen. - That's insane. - Listen to what she's telling you through her actions and lack thereof. - Yeah. - Listen. - Absolutely. - That's crazy. - I know. Top comment. Well, lucky you found out now before you got married. - That's what I'm saying. That's what you're saying. You want it now before. Really, that's supposed to happen to any engagement, right? - Yeah. - I've never been engaged. You've been engaged successfully. - Yeah. - I might add. But still, we're not testing. We're evaluating though. - Yeah. - Right? - It's just like another serious step. And it's like even more so, like, you know, when you're in that engaged period, depending on what you're doing for your wedding, like a lot of stressful things pop up. - Right. - Hard conversations, establishing boundaries. - Yes. - And it really is this like evolution of your relationship. And like, can we make it at this next level? - Yes. - Because then once you're married, it's another level up. It's like Donkey Kong or Mario. It's like, you're going up through the levels. - Right. - And it get harder. - Right. - Can you make it if you're not with the right person? - It's gonna fall apart. - You're gonna fall apart. - That's right. - So you gotta make sure you got a good one next to you. - I like that. I like the video game analogy. - Yeah. I mean, yeah, it's hard. You don't restart it. - I love these situations you found. I'm loving. I'm loving these. - I know. I've got some more good ones. - Let's go. - Imagine setting your makeup. Then forgetting it's even theirs. Gel to mist technology locks in your look for up to 24 hours with flexible all day comfy grip. Just plump, dewy, hydrated skin that still feels like your skin. - Maybe it's Mavily. - This next one, I'm really torn between what one I give you. - Okay. - So I'm gonna let you pick. - It's somewhat similar, okay. Option number one, my husband frequently jokes about my family. His attitude is rubbing off on our son and I want it to stop. - Wait, family in general or her side of the family. - Her side. - Oh. Okay, let's say the next one does the other option. - Or option two, which is also coming from our two hot takes subreddit. I just heard what my partner's family really thought about me. And I don't think I can be with my partner anymore. - I want to start with that one. - Okay. - The other one I want to talk about too. The other one's good too. - Are you want to get in that one too? Okay, we'll do both. - But I want to start with this one though. - Okay, so this is again, from our very own two hot takes subreddit. So this is, there's a good chance it's one of our listeners. - Okay. - And it's eight hours old. - Okay, so we want to deal with this. Okay. - We got it. - And get into comments to let us know what you think about what we got to say. - I just heard what my partner's family really thought about me and I don't think I can be with my partner anymore. - Okay. - My female 31 partner, female 32, has access to her work. It's a family business. CCTV cameras, which also have audio. It is toxic for her to listen to them, but she does. I have never once heard my name, but this time I did. While she was sitting in my car listening to segments of this specific day. I of course got curious and said, I wanted to hear what was said. My partner instantly got defensive and said that it's rude to listen and tried to jump out of the car. I grabbed her, pulled her back in and I insisted that she let me listen. She tried to keep me from listening, but I was not taking no for an answer. As it would just eat me to not know what was said. She then said that I could listen as long as she listened first. Well, she, after listening, really wanted to just sum it up for me. I insisted I had to hear the whole thing. Finally, she gave in, but was crying and basically begging me not to listen. What I heard was not unexpected, but was eye-opening to say the least. They said that I am ungrateful for not helping them redo a house that they bought for my partner to live in. But in the past, when I did offer input or to help, it wasn't appreciated or wanted. Okay. I think I'm an over opinionated bitch who doesn't know when to shut up. I'm just laughing at the boldness when you hear it. Oh, the audacity. The audacity. Because when they are making disparaging statements towards minority groups or things that are ignorant or along those lines, I don't stay silent. You're here. Shut out to you. They also stated that they were the reason my son even has a halfway decent life. Damn. I don't understand because I live by myself, pay for everything myself. Right. And they just gift him at holidays or when they go on vacations. Right. The only thing I can think is that it's related to these other statements and that's the real kicker. They made fun of my upbringing. They made fun of my background and said that I came from nothing as if just associating with them has improved my life. I grew up poor and have had a harder life than most would own up to. I'm a loving person despite this. And I'm a hard working person. I have everything I do because I work 50 plus hours a week. I worked my way up to a salaried retail store manager position and do things with integrity. They even accused me of getting close to grammar for seemingly nefarious reasons. What? Mind you, I love grammar and she's the sweetest human. There was one time when I was in the middle of my divorce from my ex-husband that they did offer to pay my deposit for my lawyer. It was $3,000 and I didn't know how I was going to pay it. But I was extremely hesitant to take the money because I never want someone to have something to hold over my head. I've never been able to forget that they have done this for me and it's been six years. I've offered to pay it back. I've tried to pay it back and they won't take a payment. They've even gone so far as to pay palmy back money I've given them. How do I get past this? I know my partner is going to try and push this under the rug and she always does. But I've blocked everyone's numbers and socials. I just haven't blocked my partner. There can't be a future like this. But I don't think I could forget hearing all of that. - They're engaged or? - They are just partners and no mention how long they've specifically been together. But OP does mention divorce six years ago and the family helped pay for it. So they've been in each other's lives for some time. - Yeah, and there was some overlap or she was separated from her husband and they helped pay. - You could have been friends before, who knows? - Right, at a great point. - Kind of unclear. - Great point, okay, unclear. So what came to mind is why asked if they're engaged. Because I thought this needs pre-marital counseling. - Counseling, which everyone should do regardless. - Regardless, therapy, counseling, you need guidance from a professional. And this sounds like it needs counseling. Now, even if they don't do joint counseling, I think the person who heard all of this, I think she needs, if she doesn't already get therapy, I think this is a good time. Because whether they stayed together or not, I think there are a lot of things from her past and upbringing that she's hurt by and that she's carrying. Because she feels like she talks about it a lot 'cause they know a lot about. - Yeah. - All like a lot of that, right? And she may carry that around a lot. And I think a lot of that needs to be unpacked. So I think first and foremost, she needs to have that explored for herself, right? - Yeah, maybe to heal from, I mean. - Yeah. - And growing up and having a harder upbringing and not as fair of a playing field as someone else. That doesn't give you a chip on your shoulder. - It does. - And you carry it. And then when people then use it against you, you're like, that wound is reopened. - That's right. - And it's right there. - It's right there, it's so fresh. - So it seems like just reading between the lines, I think we're picking up on some healing that needs to happen within herself first. And until that happens, she won't be able to get past this. - I wouldn't. I'm, I have a hard time, like once the glass is broken, like you can't put it back together. - I'm just saying, I can't unring the bell. - And when you hear someone saying such mean, disparaging things about you, I wouldn't be able to forget it, especially people that, you have to go celebrate things, give me Christmas together and smile over a turkey and, no, you think I'm a over-appininated bitch who doesn't know when to shut up. You think I'm ungrateful? You think I'm beneath you because I had a different upbringing. - That's crazy. - And then my family was poor, like. - They don't like you. - They genuinely, they don't like anything about you. - Anything. And they're like about her son and so questioning your skills as a mother or how you provide it for your son. These people do not like you and you're also in with the family when you're in with the person. And that part can make her break a lot. Now, her partner, what's up with the voyeurism on the CCTV? Like she's made her own reality show. Does her family even know she's doing this? I don't know. Let me see if there's any comments. - Yeah, 'cause that, that. - That's also another form of self-harm because you're like, are you trying to catch them talking about you and then you accidentally found this, but like, what is, what's family dynamic? - Yeah, like what do you want to see? - It makes me think the family dynamic is really dramatic and like maybe toxic because why are you watching that? - Yeah, 'cause you don't trust them. So her partner doesn't trust her own family. And she's watching this with sound like a TV show every day. - Yeah. - It's wild. Now, to me, Trusted, she was there. I know you're looking up the comments in the meantime, but if she doesn't trust her family is, she gonna fully trust you? Where does this start and stop? You know what I'm saying? Like, oh, she does it over here, but she won't do it over here now. I don't know about that. I wouldn't trust that. - No. - It sounds like somebody that goes through your phone. - True, which that can be a red flag. - Yes. - I guess like looking at this, clearly family has some issues, maybe toxic. - Absolutely, yeah. - The partner, you know, the one that's writing in, kind of had that comment at the end that was like, she's gonna try to sweep this under the rug, like she does everything else. That's it? - That's a lot there. - 'Cause I'm like, well, she's not gonna have your back then against her family. - That's right. - And so in my head, I'm like, I think you could proceed forward with this person if she was willing to make some changes and set boundaries. - Absolutely. - Maybe go low contact with them. She's gotta really recommend them though. - She has to. - She's gotta like really have a conversation and lay the hammer down and get this little story straight. - Yeah, because it's like, this is what you think of the person I'm with. And it's like, so what happened? What did she say that you didn't like? They gotta get to the bottom of that. Because even with the conversation, does that make them like her? Probably not. They'll be more pissed off because it came up. This, I don't know if this is fixable. I don't know more again. This sounds irreparable to me. - Well, there's a comment here from OP2. - Okay. - To be fair, she wasn't present for this conversation, but these are things that I can say she has heard before. I can guarantee. She didn't seem surprised by their statements, only upset that I was going to hear them straight from their mouths with no filter. You know, I'm going to add something. We got to be careful what we say about our partners to our families and even to our friends. We need to protect them. - Ventine can go wrong. - Yes, because a lot of times we tend to vent about things that we find annoying or frustrating about them with this thing they did that was wrong, or at least from your perspective, it was wrong. And now, all your family is hearing, it's negative, negative, negative, negative, negative, negative. And then she comes around the family and then maybe they have a debate about something and they said something and she challenges them on it. They didn't like that. Then it's all of this. And you might have set the table for them to view your partner as somebody that doesn't know when to shut up and all this other stuff. A lot of that could have been based on stuff that she said. 'Cause how do they know some of this stuff? Probably because you said it. - I think a lot of the details, yeah, they're very personal details. - Very personal. - Yeah. I don't know, I think I'm more on the boat of like there's no way forward this one. - Hit the EJEC button. - Well, especially this comment from OP. - Okay. - I swear she gets off on people not liking me. - Oh, you gotta go. See, I knew it. I knew my spotty says it's never old. - What the heck? - Yeah, so let me say it another way. She's bad mouthing her all the time. That's what this is. She's bad mouthing her. So team partner, they're all gonna be just not liking her. - I know. And I think OP kind of shares here that there's a little bit of a fear in breaking up. It's hard being a lesbian in a town where there are 10 of us and they're all my partner's exes. - Oh. - But I will not settle for this. - Please don't settle. - Yeah, there's somebody for you that will love you for you and appreciate your upbringing and the struggle that you went through that has made you the hardworking, successful person that you are now and you'll be able to love who you want to love. But there are people out there who will treat you better than this and their families will treat you better than this. - Yeah, 100%. And like they have been together six years. That's in the comments. OP also shares things like she's extremely classist. And like. - Sounds like I mean, her family sounds classist. - Yeah. - Beneath, you know. - She most definitely is. - I've never, I've just, I've never in my life just even had the thought passed through my mind of like someone's beneath me. The concept of that is is so crazy. - It's nuts. - It's pretty sickness. - I'm like we're all humans. - Yeah, like we're all humans. We have different life circumstances that have happened. Some we had no say in whatsoever. - Yeah, no, I can't imagine in your head thinking I'm better than someone. - Right. - Like that to me is like, I'm not better than anyone. - No. - I'm one person. I'm just one person given my opinion. I'm not the opinion. - You know that at all. - I'm like we gotta like, like we are so much bigger than just ourselves. - Oh, absolutely. - It's just, couldn't agree more. - It's so insane to me. - Yeah, and I couldn't be around and I'm a pretty loving person and accepting person. And I love having conversations with people who have opposing views than mine. But where I draw the line is when people, when you think you're above another person, how dare you? - No. - It's gross. - It's gross. - She's gotta run. - You gotta run. - She's gotta run. - Yeah, your kid doesn't deserve to be around that. Type of behavior either. Like all of this family looking at him like, you only have anything because of it. No, he's got stuff because of his hard working, driven mom, like just weirdos. - Molly girl, you in danger, run. - Get out of there. - Get out of Dodge. - What are you doing? - Top comment. I think it's time to take a break from this relationship. - 1,000%. - Bitching in laws are so pedestrian, but this is so blatant, it takes it to a new level. Why would she let them do this? What payoff isn't it for her? Because I don't think it's worth it for you. - Hugs. - Couldn't agree more. And yet hugs, big hugs, we love you, we support you. You can do better than this. That I can tell you. - Yeah. - You can do bad all by yourself. - Hey. - This, this ain't it. - No, you gotta move forward. And hey, maybe there's a little traveling on your horizon. - That's right, 'cause you gotta break out of that town. - You could, yeah, she calls it nowhere's veil or something in a comment, but I'm like, maybe it's time to dip your toes in a new city. - I think so. - New city, new dating pool. - New dating pool. - That could be fun. - Plenty more, like, yeah, man. - That could be fun. - That could be a lot of fun. - It could be, I think it's time. - It is time. - Moving along to this next one. - Let's do it. - This next one is super, super strange. - Okay. - I'm still trying to wrap my head around it, okay? - All right. - So it is titled, Boyfriend, 24 Male, doesn't agree to come to the initiation party with me, 24 female family. Also upset about the rules, which doesn't allow couples. - Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Tell me about initiation for what. - I know. - Oh, I didn't say yet. - No. - This is about to get crazy. - Let's bring it, let's bring it, let's do it, let's do it. We have a family tradition for over 40 years. We throw parties regularly with people, but we don't allow significant others to come. Basically, only you attend or your significant other attends, but never together at the same time. The idea is you get to know and build individual relationships between everyone. You can also only come to four parties consecutively. After that, it's your significant others turn, and you won't be invited anymore. - Like ever, oh, until the other person goes to therefore. - Until your significant other comes to a party. After that, you can attend the next four before needing the significant other to come again. Obviously, single people can attend all of them. When someone begins dating a new person, that person is invited to a party to get to know others, and this will be an initiation into the family. And this is the situation with me and my boyfriend right now. We've been dating for three months. My cousin already talked to him and invited him to come. Obviously, without me, to the next party so that he can be initiated into the family. The next party is in a week. Boyfriend doesn't want to come. - He's like, I'm out. I don't want to be a part of this. - This is weird. - It's weird. - I'd be out too. - This sounds like, did you see that movie? - Literally, are you thinking of Get Out? No, well, get out is another get up this is get out level to there's another movie and I think the couple is about to get married or and earn this big mansion and it's like some game night thing they do and basically hide and seek thing and they like if she survives the morning they get married or something. Yeah, they're making a sequel for that by the way, I just read that a couple weeks ago, I've wanted to see that I'm I'm kind of scared of scary movies though. It's it's it's it's not scary in a sense of like hereditary like it's not our yester scary that movie. I still have nightmares. It's yeah, it's okay. So it's more of a thriller. Yeah, it's more it's more of a thriller kind of thing like and it's a little campy. It has this has get out and hide and seek vibes all over it like your partner's never going to be seen again. Her boyfriend. Where's it going? Why does it got to go by himself? Yes, and then he gets invited on a side. I would be out too. I'm like, no, I'm good. This the sounds like murders. I know. Like what? And they're only three months in that I thought so I thought about that too. That's too soon. Initiate it into the family at three months. Like literally initiation into the family. No, I'm good. Why does he need to be initiated and who's your family? I'm initiating. Yeah, like initiating to do what? To go to a party. It's giving cult. It's giving cult. It's giving old, old money. I mean, yeah, they've been doing this tradition for 40 years. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like this sounds like yeah, y'all vampires are something. I could be this gives me vampire vibes. Something is up here. Yeah. I wouldn't want to go like being new to the relationship. No, I mean, I feel like you don't really even know your partner at three months. That takes a year. Yes. I don't want to go meet your family alone without you. Without you. I even know you like that. Yeah, I would only go to be around your family for you. Like it's not for me. It's not for me. It's for you. I got a family. Like what? So I don't know. Yeah, that shows they also have like this really elevated. I'm going to say inflated view of their family. Yeah. Like you get to go and I can't go. I'm good. I also wouldn't want to keep going to these parties without my partner. Like I agree. You want to experience that together though. But it's like it's supposed to be like life. That's right. I hate when people aren't inclusive. I agree. You know what people have this thing? It's like a dark side of human nature where there's like somebody has to be in and somebody has to be out. I literally was just talking about this other day. The psychology of like the in group versus the out. Yeah. Yeah. And people just do that. And it's like people do it in you know work spaces. They do it in schools. They do any place where they're human beings gathering. There has to be an in group and an out group. And I was always the kid. Like even in like elementary high school. I would seek out the people who are like the out crowd. Like people naturally gravitate it towards me. So I will always go learn their names and say what's up and just like find something to talk about and just be cool with everybody. Because I can't it pains me to see people on the outside. No, you are that was one thing. I was like last night. I was like trying to like think about how to like describe you in the intro of this. And like one way I think of you is like you are such a bridge between people and like culture and like you are a connector. And so like that doesn't surprise me learning that about you. Like you're just your glue. Like you're the glue that kind of holds everything together. Thank you for saying that. That means a lot to me because that's who I've always been. And it's really wild. And I'm so appreciative and grateful that my life's work now is being that like this like this is essentially my work to be this bridge and connector between people and culture and the artist they love. You know, you're literally that's what you do. Like it's it's so crazy. It's it's the thank you for saying that. I appreciate that. That means a lot to you. Your tires feeling pumped over there. Yes. I feel good. I feel inflated. It's all out of being inflated. I feel it's also genuine. I really appreciate that. This situation get out. You got to run. Get out. Literally. Because you don't want to be in a sunken place. That movie staff our fingers and then that single tear comes out your eye in the TV. No, did you ever see skeleton key? I heard it. I know that movie. Wait, wait, wait. Is that um, I know that it that is uh Kate Hudson. Kate Hudson. It's one of her early ones. Yeah. It is. I think one of my favorite Kate Hudson movies and it's so scary. I feel like I saw it when it came. I see like almost anything. Yeah. I felt feel like I saw it back in the day, but I'm going to revisit it because I don't remember. I remember it was like down in the bayou kind of thing in this house and but I don't remember the plot specifically. Yeah. It is so good. And I feel like a lot of people when get out came out, they were like, oh, there's a little uh, like maybe inspiration or something. But it's really it's really good. Okay. I'm going to revisit that. Really good. I'm going to go back and see that again. Kate Hudson's Oscar nominated right now too. For what? Song song blue. Oh my gosh. Yeah. What is that? It's on um, it's the Neil Diamond. It's the Neil Diamond Tribute band based on her true story. So this is a true story. And this is the the movie version of a documentary that was made about this band. That's cool. I need to watch it. Yeah. I haven't seen it yet, but I'm going to see Skeleton Key and then I'm going to see Song Song Blue. I just love her. Everything she's doing lately. Did you see the Netflix show with her, the basketball one? No, I miss that one. It's like her doing comedy and she is funny. She's um, the like female heir to basically the Lakers, but it's not Lakers in the show, but like and she like tries to like save the the empire. I totally missed it. She's so good. Okay. I'm I don't know. I'm going to binge that. You got some stuff to get out. Yeah. Yeah. I got some stuff to binge. Okay. So we do have a couple comments from OP. I would love to hear. So someone goes three months is very fresh, completely understandable that he doesn't feel comfortable with this. Right. Does he even know anyone in your family yet? Yeah. Apart from the cousin who asked him to come, maybe he will come to one of those parties when you've been together for longer. And he knows at least someone. Yeah. And OP goes, well, he's seen a few people, but these parties are for this specific reason for him to get to know everyone. A hard pass. I'm not doing it. Let's just keep it to like the holidays, whenever I'm together. Yeah, man. Like, see you then. It seems like this family is just planning parties all year, too. It's like, this is a lot. Well, and like you have to go to four. Like, that's so much. Yeah. I mean, somebody's keeping tabs and somebody has a spreadsheet somewhere. Like, what are we doing? I know. So I think someone does ask about that. So someone goes, this is so odd. So many rules. Who keeps track of this? Exactly. See, this is, this is where my mind goes. You're on it. You're so like tapped in because I'm like, wait, somebody's keeping track of this. And yeah, we got a Google sheet. Yeah. Like, like, this Google sheet has to be so long. So OP responds, we have a book where we record attendance details. No, man. They're taking like minutes. They're calling roll. Yeah. No. Like somebody like has a, like a pin and quill, like the, you know, the pins, like the ink. Yeah. The ink well. Yeah. Like writing a calligraphy. No, I'm good. And 40 years of a 40 years of this. So this big old book, it's like a scroll. They probably write on and like, no, I'm good. He won't come back alive. He would never be seen from, or heard from again. And they'll be a date line episode about what happened in this guy. Yeah. This is going to be on like surviving this cult. Exactly. It's coming out on Netflix. It's coming out. Yeah, I'm going to call them up. You know what? We're going to be executive producers. This is I'm down. This tool. I'm down. I'm going to narrate it too. A lot of people start asking this feels cult like this made me feel uncomfortable to even read. Exactly. I wouldn't go if I were him. Yeah. And OP responds, oh my God, it's just a party with a lot of drinks and very friendly people. Spooky. I don't buy it. This is spooky. Stay away. Live. Also, here's another fun rule. Okay, shares. Old people aren't even invited. Once you turn 40, you're out. See what I'm saying? This, this is some, this is some game. What do you mean once you turn 40? Then what? This is, yeah, this is definitely cool. Yeah. So did you see the movie Blink twice? No. The Channing Tatum, Zoe Kravitz wrote it and directed it. This is a directorial debut. I won't give away any details. Okay. This is giving Blink twice as well. I don't know how I'm going to say is they go to some island to get invited to an island Channing Tatum's like this big tech Titan that has all this money. Oh my gosh. Okay. I saw the trailer for it. Yeah, I need to invite people to this island. Looks really good. This, this feels Blink twice meat to get out, meat hide and seek plus skeleton key sprinkled on there. A hundred percent. Yeah. Last comment. I'll read because someone goes, why can't you come after 40? What happens after 40? Exactly. And OP goes, you grow too old for this. There is a party for 40 plus people too, but that one is simpler. I would, so that, so everybody after 40 somehow survived. Yeah. Maybe they were the killer that gets to live. Like that person going to be a sacrifice. That's what it is. This person is going to go and they're going to be a human. sacrifice to whatever pagan God that they're worshiping at these parties. You know, I was thinking in my head. I was like, is this a little mid-summary? Did you see that one? Yes, I'd already asked her what it's that one. Oh, I saw that movie in hereditary, scary as hell, but I loved it. Mid-summary material that I wanted to see. I wanted to see it by myself because I could get I couldn't get anybody to go because it's really scary. Oh my god, right? So I go see it. That's the first movie. No, not the first. That's one of a handful of movies I walked out, and I said, what was the point of that? Not in a sense of the plot, but it's so creepy and brutal. And I was just like, I was like, I'm super confused and scared. And poor Florence, pew, just a crying, and I was like, I can't take this. I know. I will never watch that movie again. I know. So in my head, I was like, is this a little mid-summary? Like maybe they're in Sweden, they're like, I don't know. I don't know, I don't know, but it feels it feels like that kind of thing. So OP shares that they live in Switzerland. See, we just know it's not Sweden, but it's like over, you know, across the pond from us. Yeah, like different culture, beautiful people, and they have some traditions that we don't fully understand as Americans. And you may not come back alive. I know. Someone does say, please show him pictures from the event. So he knows that he won't be sacrificed. I don't believe they'll, so wait, you can't bring it a person that'll allow you to take pictures. I know. This is a no-phone event. This is an event they're collecting your phone at the gate. Uh-huh. And there is a gate. This isn't a place that doesn't have a gate. No, there's a security code. There's a security code. There's a gate, a big metal ornate gate that swings. Oh, it swings open. You know what I mean? Like, it opens really slowly. Yeah. As it goes. So you can't just run out of front door, run on the street. This is a house that you don't want any parts of this. How much would it take for you to go? I can't do. I want to live. My life has worked. What about you? Is there an amount? Switzerland. I do want to go. Same. Switzerland. You know, maybe first class ticket. Oh, no doubt. And Delta one, baby. As long as I know I'm going to survive for sure. I do it 100k. If I know I'm going to survive. Maybe 50. Give me that 100. Give me the 100. Because there's something creepy going on there. Yeah. Something's up. It's something you know, but it's something you don't want to do or even see. I can guarantee you is going down at this at this function. This event. Yes. Something's up. 250 for this one. Okay. Again, with the guarantee that I live. Yeah. See, if it's not a guarantee, then it have to be a lot and it have to be in my account for my family. Yes. You know, guarantees. Yes. Like coming back like. Yeah. This is for y'all doing this for y'all. Doing this for you guys. Love ya. Love y'all. Yeah. Tell Justin I love him. Yeah. This is wild. I know. Who are these people? I would like to know. I'm intrigued. I know. We probably have some listeners in Switzerland. Like, if you have a friend of a friend who's heard about this family. Please. Please let us know. Let us know if this is like a cultural thing. Yeah. Is there something we're missing? Are we over dramatizing it? Yeah. You know, put it in the comments. I want to know. I know. I'm dying to know. I know. I do want people to also help on this next story because I feel like you're going to have some comments about maybe your own interactions with famous people because this next one's really fun. Okay. Okay. You know Dolly Parton, right? Yes. Well, like, you know, of her. Yes. I'm honestly knowing you. You probably met her too. No, you saw what you saw. I was like, did I meet her virtually? She just seems like the best lady. She is amazing. Yeah. I met her during the pandemic virtually and she was fantastic. I interviewed her virtually. Oh my god. For what? For our music team, we did this really cool thing during the pandemic. You know, we couldn't all be together. Yeah. So every single week we had a music team happy hour. I would host it for the team. Yeah. And we would have a special guest drop in. So I was like, how am I going to get on these calls? I mean, it was it was pretty crazy. Dolly is just like, it was Dolly Parton. It was Cynthia Riveau. Um, cheer was really big room to show cheer. Yeah. Um, I think mine I call down all Dama. She can't. I mean, but it was like, yeah, wow. All these like really big, really cool celebrities, Gwen Stefani. So what I would do is I would make breakfast while interviewing the celebrities for the for the team, just for their enjoyment and entertainment, just to help us get through the pandemic. I did that every single week for about a year and a half. That is amazing. It was pretty. It was pretty awesome. But so Dolly was awesome. So Dolly is awesome. I can't. The next one is about Dolly. Imagine setting your makeup. Meet new groupie setting mist from Maybelline, New York. Jell to mist technology locks in your look for up to 24 hours with flexible all day comfy grip. Just plum. Dolly hydrated skin. That still feels like your skin. Try new groupie setting mist from Maybelline, New York. Okay. So this is coming from our slash off my chest. Okay. It's people confessing things. And you're going to hear this story and you know, believe it, don't believe it. Let me know what you guys think about it. Let us know. So it's titled. I met Dolly Parton one time and she farted in front of me. This is not what I didn't expect this to go. Everybody fart. So it's a natural human bodily function. Okay. Dolly Parton. This was a long time ago. And every time I tell this story, nobody believes me. Okay. But here we go. I'm a huge Dolly Parton fan. As I'm sure everybody probably is. Yeah. She's sweet and talented. We were getting autograph signed after our concert one night. And Dolly just straight up. Let's one rip. Not a quiet one. But one where it was loud enough for me to hear. I started laughing a little. I couldn't help it. It was unexpected. She said, sorry. I was holding that in the whole show. I believe this story by the way. I believe it. I'm coming right now. I believe it. I started laughing even more. After she did that, she just smiled and jokingly said, what's the matter? Can't handle a little Tennessee thunder. This is great. I have never laughed so much in my life. After I got my autograph, I walked away. She cracked another joke and said, I'll make sure it's in the key of G next time instead of the key of G's. What in the world? She was like on fire after that. I mean, get Dolly doing stand up. You're like, come on, man. She was rattling them off the cuff. Yeah. And that's what OP goes on to say. To be able to come up with jokes like that on the spot. It's so good. It's impressive in itself. I got an experience that most people probably would have paid for. And on top of that, I got jokes with it too. I'm ashamed to say that Dolly Parton farting is my big celebrity meetup moment. But hey, it could have been a lot worse. They say never meet your heroes, but sometimes you'll get an experience that really sticks with you. I like it. Yeah. I love it. Actually meeting your heroes can be really scary. It can be. And people can let you down. Yeah. Because how you picture them. Remember, we talked about it earlier. It's the thing you know them for. So you want them to be that. And when that thing is not necessarily them every day, like my thing is me, right? DJ X is me. There's there's no separation between what's here and who I am. That's kind of me too. I'm like, what you see is mostly what you get. Yeah. Little different, obviously. Of course. It's it's it's heightened versions of ourselves for the medium that we're in at that moment. Exactly. The people you're with. Absolutely. Who you're with changes your energy. Absolutely. It totally can. So this is like been so easy and fun because this is who we are. And this is literally what we do. We talk and we just talk. We gab. Yeah, we gab. And we talk about stuff that's happening in the world. And we like have our takes on it. And so the meeting your heroes is very, very tricky. And how you approach them matters too. I know. In this context, I love it because it sounds like she was at a meeting greet after a show. Yeah. So this is designed for that. Yeah. The person knows what they're there to do. Dolly knows what she's there to do. She's there to sign autographs. Probably take a picture. You probably paid not probably you definitely paid extra for it. It's a win win. Now the meeting your heroes. Now I know people do have I'm sure people if you have nightmare stories from meet and greets, put it in the comments. Yeah, just any like meetup. I'd love to know. Yeah. I run into a lot of people at Costco. That's where people find me. It's Costco. Yeah. I was trying out a mattress recently. And someone walks by and she's like, I love the show. And I'm like, hi. Thank you. Yeah. Do they ask you to do a particular thing when it means you or do they feel like you're already friends? So I'm oddly, I'm kind of like you. Yeah. I get recognized the most from my voice. That makes sense though. Yeah. It's such an intimate thing. And there's this like connection that's formed there. That's just really, really strong. But it's it's it's that thing. It's I'm an Uber's and you know, always speak to the driver and wait. Wait a minute. I'm like, yeah, I'm like, yeah, good to meet you. - Really special. - People always want, they always want a hug, they always want a hug, they always tell me how they or their families or the people in their household or their friend group listen to me and interact and they always want to tell me about that. And they always want to selfie or a video. - We get 'cause they want your voice. - Yeah, they want the voice. - They want the voice in it. - So that I can do the intro or just say my name or. - It's so cool, it's just so amazing. And again, like we, you especially, I think like really curating to people's moods and what they want to listen to. And I really think it's like your present during some of the best times. - That's right. - Some of the hardest times. So it really is just, it's that parasocial where it's like. But I think yours is so much more interesting 'cause like they feel like you know them. - I'm telling you. - That is so special. - That flipping that part around. - Insane, my mind is blown. - So nobody's ever, ever, ever. And I've been in situations where like, it's been a lot of people and they know who I am. And they're also kind. And they're just so happy. And I'm happy to meet them. People ask me all the time. Like does it ever get tiring or older? - No, please say hi. - Say what's up. - If you see me say hi. - Yeah, if you see Morgan, please say hi. She's sweet. I'm telling you this is who she is. Don't be, don't, I'm telling you this up. Don't be weird. - I'm shy, no, I'm shy and awkward. So like we'll be fine. Like I'm gonna be more awkward than you. Trust me, trust me. - But I love when people say hi. - But let's say hi. Let her know what you think about the show and how it impacts you and gets you through your day. Please do that. - Yeah, say hi. - Same for ex. - Say what's up. - Tell them what's up. - Say what's up. Like, you know, New York. So the thing with New York is a lot of people in New York are cool about it 'cause it's a lot of celebrities. You'll walk down the street. - Like on a subway. - On a subway. - And you're like, what? - Yeah, somebody took a picture of Tom Hanks on a subway. He had a mask on and he recognized him and he, you know. - So I love his wife. - Well, it's free. - I love his wife. - It's funny that you mentioned. - Rita. - Rita Wilson. Shout out to Rita Wilson. - Shout out Rita. - So at our best and artist party, so Spotify has a best and artist party. If you didn't hear about it, where we have all the best and artists, nominees perform you. - I believe you need man. - I'll live you a Dean. - The winner. - To our house down. - Yeah. - The Maria's, I love the Maria Samba. - Everyone. - Amazing. We're talking about his growth as an artist in a perform we saw him attend. - Alex Warren. - Warren Leon Thomas, just absolutely amazing party. - Yeah, everyone. - Moly Young, her first performance since she had taken a break from performing. - I know. - Health stuff. - Health stuff. - So she came back strong, Addison Ray. - Addison. - Katzai. - I think we got him all. - I think we got all eight. That's impressive. - Here we go. - So I'm at the best and artist party. And lo and behold, right next to me, it's free to Wilson. - I love her. - So we get into a conversation. Just about the performance. She's very into the music. And she had this amazing sequence dress on. And she was just the most lovely person you'd ever want to meet. So we're just having great conversation. - Yeah. - And we're talking and at some point, she doesn't assume that I know who she is. So she says, "Hey, I'm Rita. Rita Wilson." That's how I know who you are. And I say, "I'm Xavier, people call me ex." And she goes, "Because at the best and artist party, I introduce all the artists on the performance." - Welcome people. I'm the host of a party. And she goes, "I know who you are." And I say, "We listen to you." - Yeah. - And I'm like, "Wait, wait, wait, wait. Rita Wilson, Tom Hanks, listen to DJ X. They listen to me. - Yeah. - It's so wild. - It really is. - And it reacts just like everybody else. - It's so insane. - It's so insane. So say hi. - Say hi. - It's nice. - I know. I'm getting better about saying hi to people that I admire. - I was gonna ask you about that. I didn't say hi to Bill, "Ni, the science guy." - Oh, you told me about that. You told me about that. - And I, it's like literally I kicked myself out of that. - It's like eating at you, right? - Still, so if I see him this year, 'cause I had to bill. - You have to say hi. - I saw Audrey Nuna, I think it's Nuna. - I think that's right. - From K-Pop Demon Hunters. - Yeah. - So. - Oh, she sure was. - Oh nice. - Yeah, yeah, they were there. - Oh nice. - People appreciate it. - See, this is why you say hi. - You just say hi, and this is what I keep in it. This is what I do. I never take on the attitude that I'm too cool to say hi to somebody that has created something or put something out in the world that I appreciate. - Yeah. - So I just want them to know, I don't wanna hang out. I ain't gotta be friends. - No, just pay. - This hey, and I really love your stuff. I love that song or I love, and what I do is, and this makes sense that me being who I am, I take, I'm usually going to some detail about the thing and how it, and I tell you, when you're sincere and they hear that, I've never once. Now, I know now it's like, well, of course, now you're blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But even before people knew who I was and before I was a public persona, people will stop and they will be like, thank you. - It is life changing. It really is. - It matters. - It inspires people even more for me. - It does. - Like I said, kind of at the top, I'm just dealing with some burnout, you know? - Everyone does. - We need to talk about that. - Everyone does, and so when people come up and like, hey, your podcast has helped me do this or changed my life in this way. I literally, I'm like, the zest for life is restored. - Because you know it's reaching people. - Yeah. - It makes everything worth it. - I know when we were hanging out in LA, where we were talking about a particular episode you did, and people got tested and people found out what was going on in early detection, and it's literally- - Yeah, colon cancer is like a big thing of mine. - Yeah, saving people's lives. - I know, I haven't had a chance to do it yet, but I'm like trying to get better about looking after my health. And so I had an appointment the other day. I got scanned, and they were worried about cancer. I'm good, but like I was just like, what the fuck? I'm 32, like I'm getting to that age, where you really need to start looking at your health and early detection and making sure you're on top of it. So, breast cancer awareness is October, I believe. - That's right, yeah, the whole month, the pink month. - Yeah, colon cancer is like March. So just be on it, be on your health, and- - For men, prostate cancer is one, it's like, and now it's just like a prick, like a blood. - Yeah. - And it can tell if like you're potentially in a danger zone. - My dad just had a scare. - Did it. - I mean, everyone you talk to right now is like, whoo, stuff is popping up. - That's right. And what I'm doing this year is like, I'm getting everything checked out. Like I obviously stay on top of the dentist and stuff like that. But like, I have really good vision. So I hadn't been, I hadn't been to the optometrist in my adult life. - What? - Until last week. And then I went, you know- - Wow, I'm so jealous. - I know. - I go once a year. - So I went, but I was like, well, let me get everything checked out. Maybe, maybe I think it's better than it really is. But I just felt comfort at knowing like, okay, no, your vision is really good and you're okay. Come back next year just to check in. But like, you're okay. And it's just good to know instead of just being like, no, no, I'm good, I feel fine. You don't know what's lurking and what you never want to happen is for them to say, if you only came by a year ago. - I know. - Or when you saw that lump, that cyst, what is that? Get it checked out. - What is that? - I know. - Get it checked out. - Look after yourselves. - But let me tell you, thank you for what you're doing. You're reaching so many people. You're speaking to people in a way that's relatable and fun. - Yeah, I was like, we're just out here having fun. Trying to distract ourselves and take a step back from like, everyone's got stuff they're dealing with and going through. And like, this has hopefully been a really nice reprieve for you guys. - I hope so. - Thanks to our amazing co-host over here. - Thank you. It's been a pleasure. This has been so fun. - It's been amazing having you. - And you've been trying to give me for like nine months. - So thank you for your patience. And thank you like, seriously, you've been so patient with me. - I know it. - But really, like, I would have waited another two years. Like, it was gonna happen. - I was coming on the show and I was dying to get here because I really love you and I love Justin and I love what you're doing. - Thank you. - But you're like doing your thing. You're doing a damn thing. - I'm trying. - And it feels good to be here. This was fun. - This is really good. - You crushed it. You're welcome back anytime. - Oh, I'm coming back. - Hopefully we're gonna get some updates on some of these. - Oh, I'm coming back then. - Okay. - I'm about to burn out outside of the show. I'm about to burn out. Yeah. - I'll give you guys some tips. - Yeah, yeah. Some tips. - Until next time, guys. - Till next time. - Bye. - Bye. - Bye. - Bye. - Bye.