TikTok's "Steak Girl" : Engaged w/ a baby ft Kaydee Church

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You probably know Katie Church as the state girl from TikTok, where her videos have earned her millions of followers. She was secretive. She's like, I'm posting videos, but you can't watch them. What were you thinking? I was like, um. Behind the viral videos, Katie was navigating an unexpected pregnancy at just 20 years old, getting engaged and becoming a first time parent with millions of people watching. I just didn't feel ready at that time. Like being a mom is something I've always dreamt of, but I also didn't want the child to be the reason we get married. Katie, along with her fiance, Tyson, talk with us about the judgment they face for having a baby before marriage, their daughter's terrifying trip to the NICU, losing $12,000 to a scam and the cost of going viral all on today's episode. Katie and Tyson, welcome to Unplanned. You're on the carnivore diet, right? Like, that's all you eat is steak. No, no, no. You eat other stuff other than steak. Yeah, really? OK, were you ever on a carnivore diet? I was for a little bit, and that's when I even like started. So that's why it all started with the steak videos. Yeah. So all you ate for breakfast, lunch and dinner was steak. No, just like meats. OK, I would eat like eggs and bacon and steak. It got I'm telling you, it didn't last long. It was for like maybe three weeks. It was more than a month, maybe more than a month. OK, OK. But yeah, you did it, too. I tried and I got sick. Why did you get sick? I well, because you'll feel sick. I was going to work and like if you don't eat carbs, like basically carnivore, you're training your body to like burn fat for calories. OK, but we're used to like burning sugars and carbs. So I just felt like I was going to pass out and die. So I like ordered a bowl of rice and just ate it. And then. She kept going for weeks and weeks and weeks. And I would like I was tempting her every day. I was like, please eat this avocado. Yeah, he would put something in front of me every day that I love. Like he was like, please eat this. But like it wasn't like kind of it. I don't know. I just I wanted to go out to dinner with her and she's just like, so it wasn't something that I wanted to do for a long time. Like I was just trying to deal with like skin issues I was going through and I had tried so many different things. And then finally that was like one of the last things I was like, OK, I'll do that. Like I just struggled. I struggled with really bad acne after I graduated high school. And once I started it, I think all my acne was gone in like two weeks after I did. Your skin is beautiful. Thank you. I don't do it anymore, but like I tried to treat it outside for a long time. And then finally, like I was like, OK, I'll treat it from the inside. And then that was like my last thing. I was like, OK, I'll try this and see if it worked. And then it worked for me. I know it doesn't work for a lot of people, but I mean, I felt way better about myself. And then I started posting videos. All at the same time. Pretty much all at the same time. OK, correct me if I'm wrong, but Tyson, you grew up as a vegan, right? Kind of. For like half my life. You were a vegan for half your life. So how do you go from being a vegan to then being married to the steak girl? Well, I like my family was vegan because my dad had some health problems. So that's like what started it with my mom cooking that way. But even like when they were doing that. Like I would go to school and like I was trying to get like anything I could. Yeah, I was never like fully doing it. Like my family, you're like, but when I was at home, I was OK, so it's great. It's great. I love, you know, eating me. I was scared to eat with his parents like or just with his family at first. Yeah. Oh, because they're still eating vegan. Yeah. Yeah. And you were like, what am I going to do? Well, I was just the only one at the table ordering a steak. You know, it's fine. Like they're the nicest people. Oh, how old are you guys, by the way? Because I feel like people probably ask that a lot. Yeah. Because, you know, you got you guys are like a young couple fresh, fresh on the scene on social media before this. But I saw a video where you brought Maple. I was like, no way. I know she has a baby. You know, I get that a lot of people in public. Yeah. Well, some people like think she's not even my baby. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're the nanny. I know they do. But no, she she's mine. I'm 21. I'm 26. Yeah, this is a bit of an age gap. How did you guys meet? Like, what's your what's your origin story? At work. At work? Yeah. You worked at a restaurant, right? Yeah. Yeah. Where? Okay. So we actually live in the same area. Yeah. Have you heard of Blue 32? Blue 32. Blue 32 Sports Grill. I feel like I have heard of that. Bar and Grill. There's four locations. Yeah, I think they have one. There's one in Mesa, Gilbert, Chandler. I think there's two in Gilbert. For anybody listening, we live 20 minutes away from each other. Yeah, we just didn't know. We didn't know. We reached out to Katie and then she's like, oh, I literally live right by you guys. So that's so cool. Yeah. So you guys met at a restaurant and then were you guys just like service together? Like, how did that all come about? Not at first. Okay. Do you want me to tell it? I can tell it if you want me to. I'll start it. So I had broke my foot. Okay. And I lost my job because of that. So I went like two months without working. Oh, gosh. I was just like healing. Yeah. And then I always wanted to be a bartender. Okay. I just thought it would be fun. Yeah. So I was trying to find a place where I could do that. And I went and applied there. Got the job. I was there when he applied. Yeah, she was. I was the host. Nice. She was a host. But yeah, we didn't really start talking at all for like, I worked there for like a year. We didn't really talk like he was in a relationship. So we were just coworkers. Okay. And then he became really. Really close with my brother. And he was like my brother's friend. So I'd see him hanging around my brother. Like he would come to our house sometimes. Was he was like, this is not cool? My brother was furious. No way. Really? He like. I wouldn't say it weirded him out. Didn't talk to me. Didn't talk to him. No way. He was not happy. No. It's still going on. No, it's still going on. Well, he like kind of loosened up a little bit when Mabel came. Okay. He's like, this is. So he's like. Okay. Moving in the equation now. Yeah. The first year was bad though. Yeah. There's no communication. You guys just like. With me and him there was, but it wasn't the same. And then with them, not at all. What happened at Thanksgiving? Yeah. Oh, he walked in and James walked out. Same thing with Christmas. Was it just one of those classic things of you don't date my sister? Yeah. There was no bad blood, no vendetta whatsoever. He just. He's a protective like. He very protective. I love him. He's the best big brother. I still like him. It's just awkward. Okay. Like when you're friends, like if it goes, you know, like a big gap, like not talking to them, you just kind of don't know what to talk about anymore. Yeah. So it's not like there's like, there's nothing wrong. It's just, we don't really talk. Yeah. And in a way it felt like for him, like they had a close friendship, but for him, he was like, so were you only friends with me because of her? Like, that's how he kind of saw it. Oh, okay. And she doesn't see it that way anymore, but. And people think that you guys live. On some sort of compound with your family. Yeah. What, like, tell me about that. What's, what's the belief online and what's actually true? No, no, we live in our own house. We moved out. We live together and it's just our daughter and we have our own property. Okay. Um, but like when I started making videos, I lived in my parents' backyard. Okay. And, and I kind of lived with my sister. There's like different apartments in my parents' backyard. So I lived in one. My sister lived in the one below me and my brother lives in the other one, kind of moved out of the house. And just all moved to the backyard. That's a dream. I want to do that with our kids. No, it was fun. Can't let them get too far. Yeah. No, my dad loves it. He, he did not want me to move out. Like he was my realtor and I swear he would like push it off. I'm like, are you going to find me a house? Like, yeah, but no, like we live back there and people think I still live there because I'll go record my videos there, but I'll just drive 10 minutes there and bring my steak and eat there just because I don't know. I like how it looks. See back there. So that's funny. Did you? Ever think that the steak videos were going to turn into what they turned into? No, no. What's like. the tell me about how it started like why did you even record yourself eating this steak i well i was really embarrassed of starting a channel in the first place even though i know knew that was really what i wanted to do but i started a tiktok channel and i didn't want anybody to know so i blocked everybody that i knew i put it under a fake name and that's why sometimes people will still call me stephanie because my name on tiktok was stephanie and i didn't change it until i hit like a million followers and then i finally changed it to my real name yeah but i was going under stephanie for a really long time and that name doesn't like i mean my aunt's name is stephanie but it was just a random name that i that i put on there and then i just made videos every day like i saw something that would say if you make videos every day you'll never have to worry about money anymore i don't know it was just some random like inspirational video that i saw and i was like on it and she blocked me too i blocked him too i wasn't i didn't know what she was doing yeah and i told him i was like i'm gonna start making videos every day she was secretive she's like i'm posting videos but you can't watch them and i was like okay yeah and i told him i was like what were you thinking i was like uh i'm posting inter videos to the internet yeah but you can't know anything about yeah i definitely would it's for money i would not have guessed you know the steak secret steak yeah so we made a deal we made a deal yeah okay and the deal was i would unblock him if i hit 10 000 followers like i was like if one day if i hit 10 000 followers then i'll unblock you which i don't even know why it's just something that i made up but and he and he was all for it like he i told him i had to post every videos every day he's like yeah go for it it was the same week at least so she hit 10 000 yeah and then a couple days later i was like i unblocked you um you can watch them but it was it didn't start with steak videos it was just me you think just talking like i was okay i'd pull out my phone and talk randomly nice um and then one of the times where i pulled out my phone and talked randomly there was a steak in front of me because i was eating it okay like it wasn't intentional yeah like i was just here with my steak yeah like i just had something to say and there was a steak in front of me um and then i saw that that worked so i continued to do that every day i don't do it every day anymore what when was this this is like two years ago almost two years ago okay can we talk about okay we're back you guys are freaking audio equipment stopped recording so now we're back but katie just casually mentioned that her tiktok got hacked and we got to know what happened uh we were out of town we were in like florida at the moment and i had gotten some random email that someone had logged in in like the middle of nowhere i don't even remember no i don't think that's how it started like wasn't it you got an email about becoming verified yes i really want to be verified on tiktok katie gets a lot of emails i don't think that's how it started she's just always like oh like you know reading comments and anything that she can like she wants to look at and it was blowing up pretty quickly around this point like we what we just you had just hit a million yeah so like and we were doing like our first collabs ever like meeting people yeah and so i'm like laying there watching a movie and she's on her phone and yeah yeah well i was freaking out so excited because i got an email saying you're qualified for this to get verified on tiktok you know the blue it was a scam it was a scam no no have you seen it though i'm sure uh we've abby's been scammed before one time if someone wants to scam me i'm really good target she just you know as you know abby just launched her mascara company but like five years ago she thought she wanted to do a clothing boutique and we were like filing all the necessarily business filings yeah and she got scammed by giving like all of her personal information to a google doc she put it into a google it was emailed over it was a google form yeah gosh dang it did you just put all your details into a google form i actually think it was a google form i really think it was like a questionnaire kind of thing i'm like giving all my information it was like asking for my tiktok username and password and i don't know why that didn't like raise a red flag for me i was like typing it all in so much for this opportunity did they change your password on you no so no they didn't she shows me she's like look look what happened and i'm like like this isn't real i'm like what did you fill this out and she's like yeah i was like what so i go on her tiktok like right away and i change her password as fast as i can i change all the information on her tiktok and i was like okay you're good i was like don't fill out anything without showing me please oh you caught it in time kind of we retained the account um a month later she calls me bawling and i felt horrible because i felt like i had fixed the situation i did change her passwords on everything but i did not change the paypal information connected so we did lose it was like twelve thousand dollars no they just took all that money out from the creator fund yeah well you get paypaled every month like on the creator fund so it 30 days like when i checked the email it was like some random email paypal account i was like oh that email just got all the money you ever saw that money ever no when i tried filing claims there's nothing paypal can do about that kind of situation like if money was sent they can't just send you that money or take that money from somebody like there was nothing now it's all okay like the important thing is we kept the account yeah like i was just so happy i still and i think it was like africa or something like it showed the location of the account and i was like oh my god it's probably just a hacker you know just making a fake ip or whatever but yeah it was pretty at the like it was it was devastating well that was like i had just started to like any money was just insane to me like yeah i i don't know i was serving tables trying to just save up to eventually you know like get a place of my own which i had an amazing situation but i don't know it was just i didn't realize you could make that much money well you're probably making like a lot of money three dollars an hour right like when you're when you wait tables basically yeah i think some people don't know that though like about serving is that like your hourly is literally like for us it was like 325 yeah and then wait you guys served we were dating when we worked at a restaurant together but we we worked at a steak place together yeah and then a pizza place oh my god i was a bus boy i was the busser and abby was the cocktail waitress and then our our lucky boss got thrown for um i think like stealing money from people and maybe like wait wait back up yeah our it was really bad it was a bad restaurant so we i'm glad but that was after we got fired from the job because we had to go home for christmas as well yeah oh wow yeah like your tips yeah you couldn't leave we should have known this as a red you couldn't leave with you couldn't leave with your tips you had to turn it all in and then you'd come back and collect them yeah oh wow i don't think that is a normal policy based off of what i've heard yeah we got to leave same day with whatever we made is your money yeah yeah that makes sense yeah no it was a great restaurant i had such a managers and the owners like weren't even a part of it like really i feel like i managed more than the managers like i was i was there six nights a week like i i don't know i feel like the bartenders usually in a restaurant it's like a hierarchy the but the bartenders are pretty high up there right do you guys know he was higher than me are you guys still working at the restaurant or did you guys stop doing that no we stopped i stopped when i found out i was pregnant like maybe but a couple weeks after but we were you were already planning on quitting before we found out yeah i was already planning on quitting because i just wanted to put my like full effort into i don't know i feel like i was building something i was so excited well yeah we need to talk about that you finding out you're pregnant yeah because that was that was a surprise for you guys right yeah you weren't living together at this point no no okay no check engine abs or maintenance light on take the guesswork out of your warning lights with o'reilly veriscan the service is free and provides a report with solutions verified by ase certified master technicians and if you need help we could recommend a shop for you ask for o'reilly veriscan at o'reillyveriscan.com o'reilly veriscan today thank you to our place for sponsoring this portion of 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And I was just having a normal day. I was just going to go over, have dinner and watch TV. And then, um. No, but he was so confused why I told him to come over. Cause like, it was so late. I was like, you need to come over. He's like, what? Like. I was like, my feet do hurt. Um. And usually I'd be asleep by that time. So I think he was just so confused. Yeah. She goes to bed really early compared to me. Just like, I can't go to bed before like 10. Like she's in bed by like. I'm out by like eight. Oh yeah. You're out by eight? Wait, wait. Oh my gosh. This is something that we actually, oh, I need Matt to go to bed at the same time as me. Yeah. And I've found out that this is like a common thing in relationship. You're fine going to sleep by yourself. You don't care. Well, no, I'm there. I mean, now I'm like, can you, can we go to bed? Like, but you're there. And also, I'll be in the bed. Oh, but you're just like. I'll just be like watching TV or on my phone. Oh, okay. Like I can't, like, I won't be like somewhere else. I'll be in bed. Cause like if the baby's sleeping. Yeah. I'm like, I hear it before she does, you know, um, our baby does sleep in our bed. But yeah, anyways, pregnancy wasn't even something. Sorry. Like, I just didn't think there was any way I could be pregnant. Like, I know how it works, but I just didn't think. Like, not that I thought I had problems or anything. Like, I just thought we had taken the precautions for that not to happen. And so I just really did not feel good that day at all. And I just knew something was wrong. Yeah. So I bought one, but it was kind of like, I didn't even think it was a possibility. I was just like, okay, I'll like, make sure this isn't what I think it is. And so when I. No, but wait, you bought something else first. Yeah, yeah. They were going back and forth whether or not they're going to share this. Are you okay sharing this? Yeah, no, I'm okay sharing it. But like when I was walking around, like we all know Spencer's, like the, the fun store, there's like this wall of shirts and then there's a certain shirt. I just bought it cause I thought it was funny. Um, but it's like a white, we have a picture. That's how we told his parents. Yeah, we like laid the shirt down and put the pregnancy test on it. It wasn't just that there was like the sonogram, the shirt, but like the first thing they see is the shirt because it's a shirt with a blue truck on it. My mom was so confused. She's like, I hate pulling out. Yeah, it was just a shirt with a truck on it. This is, I hate pulling out, but I had bought that before. Do you have that kind of humor with your parents? Cause I feel like if I were to show that. He does. I don't. Yeah. If I were to show that to my parents, I don't. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I really feel like they would freeze. Yeah. So open. Like they're super nice and like my sense of humor doesn't change when I'm around them. And it is a lot of times inappropriate. Okay. Like it's just how, I just think it's funny. Okay. Yeah, it was a big, it was a truck and a trailer. It says, I hate pulling out. And a pregnancy test. But she bought it before the pregnancy test. Yeah, I bought that first and then I went on over to Target, bought the pregnancy test, went home. Did anyone know you were taking this test? No. No. No. Like I lived in the apartment in my parents' backyard by myself. Like I lived alone in that apartment. So I wouldn't took it. You didn't think, you should tell, you like wouldn't think of telling like your mom or your sister. No. No. You're like not having it. I was, I was too scared. Like I wasn't married. I'm not married. You know, I was too scared of like people's opinions. Yeah. But yeah, no, I took it and not thinking anything. Like I just took it casually and put it down. And then before I could even walk out the bathroom, it just says pregnant. Like it's when, and I was like, I don't know. And oh my gosh, it was tears. It was just, it was just bawling. Was that just mainly because of your fear of what other people would think? Yeah. With you not being married. And I just didn't feel ready at that time. Like being a mom is something I've always dreamt of and wanted it. And I wanted to be a young mom too. Like I idolized them. I'm like, no, I idolized them. I was just so like proud of moms and like what they could do that. I wanted to be like a part of that. But I just always thought I'd be married in a house. Like in a situation where we would have a child. But I also didn't want the child to be like, okay, the child to be the reason we get married. Like I didn't want to be like, okay, we have to get married now that I'm pregnant. Obviously I wanted to marry him. I was so in love with him. I am so in love with him. But like, I just didn't want to rush it, you know? But yeah. Anyway, sorry. I keep like falling away from the story. No, that's probably all the thoughts that are going through your head at that point. Yeah. And so, yeah. And so I call one of my best friends, Isabella, and I told her she's like 40 minutes away, but drives over immediately. And I just balled her for like literally hours. And she's just sitting there listening. Like she's just this little angel. But yeah. So she was the very first person I told. And she's like the most open, sweetest person just like listening to me. And then I text him saying like, you need to come over after work, even though I knew it'd be late and I knew he'd be tired. But. Did you ever think like that's why she wanted you to come over? No. No. Not until she started crying. But like the second I walked in. Yeah. Like she said, she's something I have to tell you. And then she couldn't finish her next sentence. And then she started bawling. And at first I'm like, I was like freaking out. I was like, what's wrong? Like, you know, like trying to like guess. Yeah. And then that was like the first thing that came to mind, I guess. And then she was like, yeah. And then I was like trying. I was like excited. Like I was trying to like guess. Trying to be excited, you know, because I always told myself like I would have a good reaction. I wanted to be excited. So like that's what I was doing. And it was a little hard because she was like still crying. But no, it got better. And then, I mean, we talked and. And then I gave him the present. I was like, my original plan was to give you this present with a shirt in it. After like 30 minutes of like holding her and crying. Yeah. Then she gave it to me. And I was like, I loved the shirt. And then, yeah, we kind of just talked and laid there until almost the morning. And then, yeah, then we just started trying to look for a house. That was like our first goal was like to move in together and like get ready. Yeah. Like that night, did you like make plans of like, okay, what are we going to do now? Or was it just kind of like, let's just soak this in for a minute. Yeah, let's just soak this in for a minute. Like we just like, she loved it, I swear. But like she's always, she just wanted to go look at every house on Zillow. Like she just wanted to go look at houses. So we were just looking at houses. We weren't going to rush it. Like, obviously, we wanted to get a house before, but we're not just going to buy something because we were trying not to rush that process. How old were you when all of this happened? 20. 20. She had just turned. I remember when I found out, was it like March? March, yeah. She turned 20 in January. Yeah. Oh, wow. like yeah you're like that's a lot yeah that's a quick wasn't that when you were you 21 i think it was 22 when we got pregnant with griffin yeah and i right after that turned 23. yeah that's a big moment yeah and so then you're automatically like okay now i gotta find a doctor which apparently we have the same ob yeah she apparently saw me at the ob and didn't say that's hilarious like i i don't know i was kind of just admiring like i was one of the persons like looking you up i'm like tyson her name is abby i'm like she makes you guys are both there like yeah well it was like our first appointment after we had after maple so she was like tiny and you this is probably six months ago and you came in i'm just like in la la land i'm just looking at our baby you know and then katie's freaking out um and like you were at the counter this shows literally how unobservant i am that's that's scary but true it wasn't confirmed until they called your name yeah and i was like oh it's abby that's funny but yeah no i wanted to say hi but i didn't like you hadn't announced your pregnancy i was like it i was like this doesn't i feel like you should not say hi to someone at a doctor's office like this doesn't seem like the right that was the situation what was that like three or four months before we announced it was a little bit yeah she came up to me she's like i told you yeah because like i had heard like abby for like blood work or something i was like i knew it i was just so excited for you that might have been the confirmation no that wouldn't have been the confirmation appointment though because i was there at that once then that might have been like another one that i just couldn't make it to i don't know all those early appointments really i blacked out so i don't yeah i do not know goodness well you look so cute there you did by the time they are watching this i probably won't be pregnant anymore when you really that's crazy yeah if you guys are watching this abby probably has already had our child so great crazy little glimpse in the future yeah but how was your pregnancy oh i mean the first part was just hard because i just wasn't expecting i was so grateful to be pregnant i'd say she didn't surprise she didn't start like enjoying it i didn't start embracing it until a couple months in which like sounds so weird sorry i keep mumbling so much i would say like once she like felt movement and like kicking it just made her so happy so like i feel like around 18 weeks she like got really happy like 18 to 30 weeks i think like the first part was like emotional and stressful because we were trying to figure everything out yeah and then the last part she was just so uncomfortable but i feel like the middle part she seemed to love okay yeah i was just more scared to like tell people that i was pregnant yeah how did the family take it okay wait so you gotta say this um she was not feeling good like i i don't know the first couple weeks you're like a little bit sick or whatever yeah and uh her grandma lives with her she's the nicest sweetest funniest person your grandma lives over there too yeah she just keeps getting better yeah and uh you're driving wherever and like what'd she say well my parents were out of town at the moment it was just my grandma at home and i was so sick and i was throwing up and my grandma knew that i had just thrown up so she was like are you pregnant and i was just laughing at her i was like no uh making her like seem like you're out of it like no yeah but in a good way in a fun way she likes it um and so she was told me she was because i was already looking at houses my dream was to buy a house and she was like i found this house over here you need to come see it so i was like okay and so she's like get in the car and i go in the car with my grandma literally pulls into walmart and i'm like what are you doing she's like i'm going to buy you a pregnancy test i was like what i was like no she's like i think you're pregnant and i was like grandma i'm not and she's like well then tell me whether you whether you are or like i'm going in to buy one and i was like okay i am and like i hadn't even told my mom at that point like grandma she kind of like blackmailed out of me like she was like she's like pee on this stick right now literally she's like well we're going inside to buy a test or you can tell me that you're pregnant like was she the second like person or she was she's the first person in her family oh first in the family to know and she is the biggest big mouth my grandma loves drama so bad i love her to death she loves drama did she tell everybody did she yes who did she tell first i'm i told my grandma so you can't tell anyone it will break my mom's heart if i don't tell her if she hears it from you and not from me like it'll break her heart my mom loves to do hair so i go over in the morning my mom's doing my hair she loves to do my hair oh and she's doing my hair and my grandma in the background amazing hair by the way oh thank you thank you so thick oh this is no product oh my gosh that's just natural hairspray oh my gosh just hairspray you're blessed okay so your mom's doing your hair yeah and my grandma in the background goes katie have you bought your prenatals yet and my mom's i could just tell her face just changed like because we do my hair in front of the mirror and she just like she could just knew at that moment that i was pregnant and but she didn't say anything but she didn't say anything and then maybe like three weeks later i like finally build up the courage to tell her um and she was like well i already knew you told your grandma before me you know and so she didn't have much reaction because she already knew but she was she was just happy so my mom loves baby so much like she was so excited first grandchild in the family no third okay it was a third yeah i have a niece and nephew that i love so much to also live there okay you're like it's not a family compound yeah but it kind of is well yeah how is it not a family compound then if everyone lives around each other but like it's just one property it's not a compound it just like it's a house different you know how like people have guest houses yeah it's kind of like it just a huge you'll have to come over i'll have to give you a tour i can't picture this yeah yeah but yeah like we all just live in different ones yeah we need to make a steak video please love that okay i'm there i mean clearly i'm eating good yeah that is so funny we're close we're close yeah so you're you have this will be the third grandchild so did you have to then tell your dad or were you like mom just tell dad oh we told my dad on mother's day we like put it in a present like everyone my mom and my grandma had already knew but we had yet to tell my dad so we like made him a present so she kept it a secret from your dad yeah oh wow yeah for weeks like yes i couldn't trust that yeah i couldn't trust that yeah i couldn't trust that i couldn't trust that yeah secret and i would not say secret in our did you show your dad the shirt no he doesn't know he doesn't know about this shirt no how did your dad react he he's the best dad ever he's just he was just like no way like he just didn't believe it yeah but nothing but good reactions like from my whole family i mean my grandma she she was calling the baby a but that's how she is she says like she loves drama she's like doing the dishes she's like well kitty's like what is the baby gonna be a bastard yeah oh i can honestly that makes you think of game of thrones that makes me think of the recent minions movie oh my gosh they say that they said that word in the minions movie i'm sitting there in the front row with my two-year-old and our four-year-old and i'm like oh my gosh did they just say that yeah yeah is that what did is that the technically the dictionary definition of bastard yeah um having a baby out of wedlock i'm pretty sure yeah really okay i thought it was like i don't want you're already married and you have another yeah i think that might be right okay you need to tell your grandma that right she doesn't care she doesn't care what did you say to that i just start crying like i'm just so emotional you know a lot of the time i'm like was she asking you guys were gonna get married is that what she's yeah well my whole family was like they were just like so we're going to vegas this weekend you want to come like get married i'm like no like okay i'm like not yet you know i just i don't know i never envisioned myself getting married well like pregnant i wanted to wait well you got okay you got engaged right before she was born right no i think like a month after we found out i was pregnant we got engaged yeah so you're like two months pregnant yeah when you got engaged yeah how soon after you got engaged did you lose your wedding ring or lose the engagement ring oh my gosh you saw that she had it for like three or four months right yeah it was just in my jewelry box the whole time like are you kidding me yeah no it was so weird i literally had a dream that she found it in her in her jewelry box which is like she only wears gold jewelry so the jewelry box is like filled with so much stuff and she came to me and like showed me that she found it so i woke up and i like went and looked in there and it was there it was just so weird like which i was actually lose it no but it was gone for like four months yeah four months and we and like her mom looked in the jewelry box she looked in the jewelry box i looked in the jewelry box i checked with grandma i pulled apart like all our piping and our sinks you know like i was looking everywhere i was like where could this have gone because in one of her videos is a valentine's day video she's making an envelope you see it in the end of the video and she's like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god the video she finishes it at like eight o'clock and then i get home from work at like 9 30 and it was gone so in that short window so i knew it was at our house like i hadn't left that's a good thing about making videos i'm like when did i last have it on you know that's funny i lost mine i actually lost it lost it like for good for good for good on the honeymoon on the honeymoon we realized it on the way yeah on the on the way on the plane ride too i think we were like getting on the cruise ship and then you realized that you didn't have it no because i remember i was crying next to a random stranger on the plane and i had like my just married strangers like she's going through it like in the airport yes you you lost it in the airport and yeah we we were like getting on the on the cruise what's weird is that the wedding band was on my finger and the wedding ring was not i was crying on the plane and i had like my little sun hat 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down in that backyard though like a lot of fives like all their friends have like gotten married in my parents backyard i was like i don't want this your parents house seems like a magical place but yeah i mean october 5th is the day that's so exciting yeah no we're so excited we got like a person booked photographer and all the other stuff for her and yeah did you both want to elope and have a small wedding or was it like you're you had to arrive at this decision like compromise i didn't want like i think weddings are so beautiful i just didn't want like a like a big party i don't know i think when i like i threw like a big baby shower and it kind of just seemed like the whole time i was worried about all the other people yeah like instead of just trying to have like a good time so i didn't want my wedding to be like that too which is definitely just a me problem but like i didn't want to be worried about all the guests like oh do they have all the food are they having a good time like i just wanted to have a good time and like make it a memorable day that's smart yeah that'll be really sweet do you have your dress oh i don't i don't we said everything's planned i know she's got like the i haven't appointed me the appointment that i need to go to do it soon but that's the best that's i think that's the best part of wedding planning really wedding dress shopping yes do you still have yours i know a lot of people keep theirs or no i think i think it's in my grandma's basement yeah yeah yeah see that's the problem with us we're not overly sentimental about things no but that's not a problem but i'm like i would like that to be like i really appreciated getting to try on my mom's wedding dress when we were like talking about but i'm like i gotta get my stuff together just a little bit i think it's at my grandma's house does it feel silly getting married after already having a house together and having a kid together yeah we were just talking about that yesterday like because it feels like we're already married we are married you know yeah i don't think you're really just like a contract like a piece of paper no that's what i said like it sounds more than that but i was like it just sounds like we're getting the government involved like yeah but i i know it's such a beautiful thing like it's more than that i'm excited it's i'm excited it's more of like a honeymoon yeah yeah and like they're like connected like that's what we wanted like we would rather spend the money on like a memorable vacation and go have fun for like two weeks then you know spend it on a venue here totally and we've already been living together for you know over a year so no but i'm excited calling my husband i feel like that's something that'll change like i can't really call him your husband right now i'm guessing i just call him tyson wait when you had maple was that like i guess does she technically have your last name then she does okay they did call her baby church because she was in the nicu and so it didn't say goodman it said baby church which is my last name to one of my friends she never really she got married but she just never legally changed her last name but she went by her married name yeah and so then all of her babies at the hospital had her maiden name and they've been married for a long time and they still have that maiden name uh no they she had to go in and change that but i don't know why the records in the hospital had that i'm super curious you said when you found out you're pregnant you had all this fear that people would judge you for not being married but then it sounded like everybody was very supportive so was anybody ever like not kind to you or was anybody like ever did anyone ever make you feel bad for having a baby before you got married in my life no online yes i think they were all surprised like everyone kind of just thought i was 12 they were like what you're pregnant like oh no thought i was doomed oh really um i was doomed yeah but this was all people online yeah people that had just watched your videos of you eating steak yeah was that hard to see at the time or did were you kind of just like there was so much support i think all the love spoke so much louder than the hate that like my attention didn't even go there yeah um but i think that was really the only hate i got everyone was so positive it was all just in my head you know like you yeah get so worked up about what people will think and then i just thought too hard on it and none of it was reality it was also kind of funny though like the hate comments were like they weren't like they were just saying like funny they're like another baby having a baby like yeah that was my top comment for months like really click on one of my videos the top comment another a baby having a baby um i just thought it was funny is yeah i mean like they're trying to be mean but it's kind of just funny yeah and at that point like the hate that i did receive i was like what do you guys want me to do like you know i'm like i'm already pregnant like with this here we are you know like what was it like finding out that you were having a girl oh like my dreams came true i have a little so i really did want a boy in the beginning the last 11 peak kids on the mom my dad's side are all boys like there hasn't been a girl in forever very sexist of you to say that out loud right so i wanted a boy and we had 11 more boys yeah like uncles cousins dad like all boys so i like thought it would be a boy you know but we had a cake get made um so we're gonna do like a cake reveal and when we opened the cake in her kitchen it was a tomahawk steak like and we're gonna cut into it see what color it was yeah a steak cake yeah i as a joke like looked i was like peeked on the side you know like because it looked like sealed like it was fondant and so i like looked on the side and um i saw pink and so i knew before we cut into it and i was just trying but you didn't say anything no i was just trying to have a good reaction for the video um that's funny but at the time it seemed like it mattered like i like i wanted a boy but like now that i could have met her and she's here like i can't imagine her being a boy how was the whole like pregnancy postpartum all all that goodness how was your kind of crazy experience right right after birth too yeah and your birth was kind of crazy too yeah just fast it was kind of just like after she came out that was so fast like after i had had her um were you deuced no she was like my water broke i sneezed and my water broke and then we went to the hospital how far along were you i i was 39 weeks in like a couple days yeah i had i was like almost to my due date my due date was the 15th and she was born on the 11th um but yeah like that i sneezed and it was the water broke all over the bed and i was like my water just broke and he didn't believe me he's like you definitely just peed like no my water broke it was so crazy like i had um watched videos of people saying it was like a rubber band and it like is like that's just out of nowhere so like we go to the hospital were you like having contractions at that point no no but i didn't know what to do so i just went to the hospital like help me she just kept gushing everywhere oh yeah i just started going it's like my water broke i was like guys my water just broke like i was literally doing a get dressed with me to go to the hospital i was so excited oh you were excited that's yeah no i was so excited i was ready for her to come out i was just sick that whole day and i was excited um to meet her but i had a positive like birth experience like the birth um did you go medicated yes yes um they gave me pitocin because a lot nothing was happening after my water broke so they gave me that and it was like an hour later i was like please i can't do this um it was hurting so bad but yeah like i got the epidural and like i had her but it was just after where things turned like an hour later after i had her they like took her to like check things you know how they like go and check everything and so i was like go with her you know and he went with her and then like another hour had passed i was like where is she like she didn't come back um and like i don't know a doctor just came in to check me postpartum didn't say anything and left and i was like where is she like it's like two hours now i was like she's not back and so like he calls me and saying that she was like on the way to the nick you and i was like what what's going on and they just had to give her glucose because her blood sugar was low so yeah because you're not letting me feed her like she's yeah and like it was such a big goal of mine to breastfeed and like they didn't really give me that opportunity at all um they kind of just took her gave her glucose and then by the time they even allowed me to see her which was a couple hours later because they weren't letting me walk because i had the epidural like she's like in this like nick you room and like there's like a tube of formula like going in like through her nose like what are those called in her in her mouth it was in her mouth for the first day and then they moved it to the nose yeah it started in the mouth um which seeing that like obviously i know they were taking care of her it was just heartbreaking for me because that was just such a big goal of mine yeah and like i wasn't asked anything like i didn't know what was going on yeah that doesn't feel right yeah honestly no um but yeah i like went over there and all i could do was just like sit there in that nick you arm just like looking at her um and i wasn't allowed to like hold her that first day um because she was sorry she got sent to the nick you because she was breathing too fast apparently she swallowed liquid like coming out um which like impacted her lungs but so she was in there to like remove the all of like the liquid from her lungs um it was just crazy like i have all the pictures of her like set up with all these different cords and when i got the chance to hold her it was so scary to hold her because i was in a trip over a cord like there's just so many cords connected but sorry you can say i know like you were he was there the whole time so he probably had a different side it was really not fun um like she was recovering and they came in to like do a physical on her where like they had moved this from the first room and uh took her into this room it was like a big glass wall um and i couldn't even tell what they were doing to her at first you know like they were just like kind of looking at her and like doing all this stuff they like pricked her heel like drawn blood and she was like oh my god she's like she's like she's like she's like she's like and stuff and then um they said that she was like aspirating or whatever so she's breathing too fast and so they did an x-ray um oh and they like were monitoring her oxygen levels the whole time which like i have asthma and so does she so like i know what bad oxygen levels are like i've been in the hospital myself and i could just see it was in the low 90s almost in the 80s you know which is way too low like you're supposed to be over 95 like all the time you want to be like 98 99 um but yeah they were working on her for like an hour they were flipping her over on her belly and she's like a few hours old so she's just like face down they're trying to get her to like cough it out or whatever was in there um the worst part for me was like there started to be like a crowd building up outside the glass wall because katie's in her room yeah i have a huge family her mom's there my mom's there they're watching and i'm just trying to like i'm listening to hear anything and they're all just like looking at the baby like happy you know yeah and i'm just like starting to feel like worse and worse and worse about it because of what they're saying um and then yeah and then they finally like tell me that they have to move her to the NICU um and like at that point like i swear i like blacked out like i thought i was gonna pass out like it was not like my legs like were giving out under me it was all the nurses were like first timers like no it was not cool and like sure like in that moment all they did was pick her up and put her in the box and they're just wheeling her over there so like that moment the only hard part was them saying it yeah but then once i got there there was three doctors working on her at once and like watching that was definitely not fun i mean she's screaming and the doctors are amazing like i don't even you know you look at a newborn baby like i wouldn't know where to put an IV in like they look so small they do it in their hand um was she tiny or she was eight pounds yeah she's a big girl yeah she was the biggest girl in there which we were like i don't know it was a hard experience but we made it as good as we could um we spent his birthday in the NICU too his birthday is like two days after hers oh yeah my birthday is the 13th but i don't know it's just every time we thought like we like she's getting better like you can take her home they're like once you're admitted to the NICU like they won't let you leave until you pass so many different goals yeah they said she had to reach back to her birth weight because you know how they'll lose weight the first like couple of days and they said she couldn't leave until she reached back her birth weight which most babies take over i know and so like which they were just feeding her like so much through her tube and so much trying to get like and was that just devastating for you with like wanting to breastfeed i know that like yeah that is like a really intense feeling as a baby yeah i know that's like a really intense feeling as a mom especially like freshly postpartum like the thought of like formula going in your baby we're like okay yeah hello yeah and they'll use like the cheapest things there too like they got a whole setup and you like they got the cheapest formula and the cheapest bottles which i'm not saying there's anything wrong with it it's just like goals for your baby that should be like your decision to make yeah no i was not asked like anything uh they don't which i'm sure you signed the papers that like just let them do what they need to do and they did what they needed to do and she she's such a healthy baby and that's all i could ask for but um so then were you able to have a breastfeeding journey or kind of it was awful but like the hard part was like i would say the tube and obviously i'm a guy i have no idea but i see the tube she was like basically asleep the whole time it's going straight into her stomach so i don't learn how to do that wouldn't really affect the breastfeeding but then when they took the tube out They're like, I don't know, it was day two or three or something. And they're like, okay, you can either only breastfeed and she has to drink a certain amount of, I don't know, milliliters or whatever. Or you can do this and you get to go home earlier. Like basically you have to meet this milestone so you can stay here for a couple weeks and do take the slow route or go right into this route and it'll be quicker. Yeah. But they also like, we're not allowed to sleep there. That's tough. I don't know, we couldn't stay. Like we would be there all day, but like they wouldn't let us sleep there. We'd be in our room, like our postpartum room, which is the farthest away from the NICU. So I just had a baby and I'm like, I had to go back and forth every two hours because every two hours they had to check on me for my checkup. And every two hours was her feeding. So like I was just back and forth for like a couple days while she was in there. But you had to leave. Leave at night. Having to leave your kid at night. When it would close, yeah. That's so hard. Yeah. But there was so many other babies in there that I was, it was like crazy to see everyone else's journey like right in front of my eyes too. Like there were some really tiny babies there that like all we could do was, like all we could do was, you know, just like keep them in mind and see all the other parents in there. It's not a fun place. But I do think like those doctors or nurses or whatever. Oh, yeah. Well, they were amazing though. They were so kind. They were so kind in the building. Like, I don't know. We were just so excited when they finally told us. Like they have a room. So you're like in these curtain rooms. It's not really a room, you know, it's just curtains. And when they finally told us that we could go home the next day, they kind of monitor you, like take her off of everything and then just kind of put you in like a different room. And it's an actual room with a bathroom. And they just like let you, you can sleep in that one. Yeah. So like once you go to that room, you can sleep, stay the night there. So it's just like a practice room, you know, to make sure nothing goes wrong. And then we could go home in the morning. So when we found that out, like they told us, I don't know. I went home. I like got a toothbrush and some pillows and came right back. Then, yeah, we just slept the night and left in the morning. Had to be the best feeling. Oh, yeah. Leaving there. So much fun. It's also kind of scary, though, because like. Right. Yeah. What do we do? Like, we don't know. We don't know what to do. We had help for the first few days. And then we get home. I don't know. It was so funny. Like we were, we put her down and like we were trying to be so quiet. And then in reality, like two weeks later, like the TV's blasting and she's just passed out. Like babies can actually sleep through all the noise, you know? Yeah. I feel like that's the experience that only your first child will ever have. Yeah. Like I see all these videos. It's like us taking our third baby home and they're realizing that. They're not the only one. And it's just like lightsabers and balls and screaming. But that first one. Oh, with Griffin, we were silent. Yeah. We were quiet. You guys seem like super parents, too, with all the different crafts and things that you build her. Saw the little car that you spray painted for her. Yeah. Strawberry car. That was so much fun. I mean, most of that. Not most of it. It was honestly for me, too. Like I had a fun time doing that. Like, yes, I would made it for her. But like being postpartum, too, like I didn't know where to put a lot of my energy. Like, obviously, it all went towards her. But I was like, man, like I need to have some hobbies. Yeah. That's where I kind of just pick those things up and just started making things for her. What's taken you the most time of all like your crafts? What's what's been the biggest time commitment? It was definitely the I made a robot. I mean, it took me a week. The robot from my Carly. You think? I feel like that took us the longest. The dollhouse took a while. Oh, I mean. I renovated like an old dollhouse. That probably took a week, too. And Tyson, are you are you like doing behind the scenes, like assisting with all these projects? So so it's kind of a team effort. Yeah. Yeah. I do like the hard labor that you don't see. And she just says like you see her painting it in the video and like you're like breaking your back, lifting up a hundred pound tire. If we have to do something like 300 times, like 300 times, like if we're like putting like confetti all over. Like, oh, you know, we don't record the entire process. Yeah. So she'll start it and then I'll help while she's like taking care of the baby or vice versa. If she's recording, I'm taking care of the baby. So we basically just flip flop. I'm not always on camera because I'm not as good, but I also am. You are. I am on camera, but like not as much. Like I'll go out there and I'll record it. I don't. I try to talk to the camera. It's just so weird for me. Isn't it weird? I'm not used to it. Like you're literally talking to just the phone and there's nobody else there. Oh, and they're like, our neighbors know what we do. So like I'll be outside and like, I don't know, you have to like give energy, you know? And so like you'll be saying something and then like the neighbors walk in like taking the trash out and I'm like, oh my God. But yeah. Yeah. I just help her as much as I can. And like I quit my job, you know? To help with the videos and mainly the baby. Like, it's just like, she doesn't necessarily need me for the video, but she can't make. No, I do. No, she does. But like there's videos where she doesn't, but she can't even start. Well, I don't need him for a get dressed with me. Like I don't need him to help me do my makeup, you know? Or like a cooking video, but like she can't do it if she's taking care of the baby. So like. Yeah. I just. You're a team. Whatever she tells me to do, honestly. Whatever she tells me to do. Which project was the most expensive that you guys did for a video? Was it the robot? Was it? I feel like it was the robot. No. We have to think about it for a second. The robot was like five, six hundred. It's a lot of money to make for a, like that's a lot of money to spend just for one video. We do not profit on a lot of the videos. Oh really? Not, no. But that's because they're fun, you know? Like, yeah, like that's, I don't know. That's what we. We invest in, honestly, was it the, I don't know, it's hard to think. I was thinking if it's the robot. People are talking about like their investments when you're with a group of guys. Like ours is a robot. Yeah, I invested in this like robot and a strawberry car. Literally. See, when I think about doing DIY projects. You should. There's so much fun. No, I know my limits and I know our marriage's limits. This would not be our, this would not be good for us. I feel like we would get. Dog dances instead. I feel like if we were to do a DIY project together, that would, that would be unpleasant. Can we talk about Brent Rivera for a second? Oh please, my brother. Your brother. My brother. How did that collab come to be? He DM'd me and I was like, yes, please. Let's go. Yeah. But that was like a long time coming. Like a lot of people just say I look just like him. So I'm like, yeah, yeah. And he was just getting constantly tagged in your comments section. Yes. And I was getting tagged. I was getting tagged in his comment section a lot. Like I think that's how he even heard of me. That's funny. Um, a lot of people were tagging me in his videos like Katie Church, your sister, you know? Yeah. Um, so yeah, like he DM'd me and I was like, yes. And you know, we drove over there and made some videos with him. He's a nicest person. Yeah, he's super cool. He's a lot of fun to film with. That's so funny. Yeah. And I feel like we do look alike, you know? Yeah. Oh, for sure. I was, I was like, I can see it. But then when you did that video where you were like looking in the mirror and it's, like, he walked. Yeah. I was like, wow, that really. With the robe? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. It was weird. And he'll get so into videos too. He'll put on his robes, his dresses. Yeah. He's fun. That's funny. It was weird seeing them to like next to each other. You know? Yeah. He's like, I'm in love with her. And then there's this dude. Just like her. Dude version of your wife. Yeah. Yeah. That make you kind of uncomfy. You're like, I don't know if I'm supposed to be attracted to you right now. Yeah. My job. No, no. Yeah. He's like, not bad. He shut that down. He was like, no, no. It was. It was cool though. Like watching them film together. That's cool. It was fun. Yeah. It's always so much fun to meet people. Oh, yeah. 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Order it today with free shipping and try it out for 30 days. You can return it for free if you don't like it, with their sleep trial. Visit www.sleep.me slash unplanned and never wake up hot and tired again. Changing the subject here. We wanted to ask your audience what questions they had for you guys. Oh my gosh. So a couple fun ones here, if that's okay. Please. The first audience question is, why did you decide to eat steak online? I know we kind of talked about that a bit, but maybe just, you know, quick. Well, I had a fun story that I wanted to tell my like 10 followers at the time. I was so excited to tell them. There was a girl that I worked with and she was pregnant and she got offered like the rest of someone else's steak and she said no. And she was like, no, I'm not allowed to have steak because I'm pregnant. And I was like, what? I didn't say anything. I wasn't even a part of this conversation that happened at work. But I told my phone like the next day because I was excited to just rant. I was like, someone said you can't have steak when you're pregnant. Why not? Or something like that. I just felt like I had to tell them. Yeah. Or she was like, if someone tells me. Oh, I was like, I'm going to, sorry. I was like, I'm going to eat steak while I'm pregnant or something like that. I just had to tell them and there was a steak in front of me. I feel like I told that story so bad. No. Did you have steak when you were pregnant? Not really. Oh, I did. I did. I just, I wasn't very fond of it when I was pregnant. It did sound gross. And like, well, it was like the cooking part, like the raw meat, raw bacon, raw chicken. Can you cook meat right now? No. Yeah. Right now I can, yeah. But early on, no. Is there a silly question people ask you a lot because of you being known as the steak girl? Is it? Because like, I'm looking at the questions right now and like half of these are about steak. Yeah. I want to know what cut of steak, because we're just getting, actually it was my New Year's resolution to learn how to make a good steak at home. Yeah. And I make him grill them, but I'm like still kind of confused on what cut is like the best. I like a New York strip. That's a weekend. I love a New York strip. I love the fat too. It depends on where you get it. Because like. You know, it's from Costco. Costco. Yeah, I think they have good steak. They're like, no. We do not like fries for whatever reason. Well, let's just bash fries. I'm just kidding. I'm joking. Where do you get your steak from then? I like sprouts. I like, I've gotten some at Costco. I like sprouts and whole foods. I feel like they always have really good steaks. You want it to be firm. Like, I feel like when you're cooking it. Yeah. If it's like mushy, it doesn't, I don't know. Do you do it on a cast iron? Yeah. Okay. I love it. I love the, like, I don't know. New York's have like a perfect fat to meat ratio, you know, like the marbling. And I just love the fat on the outside. Oh, I could talk about steak all day long. But I love a ribeye and I love New York's. I'm not the biggest fan of like filet mignons or sirloins. But then here's the next question. It says, how much do you spend on groceries eating carnivore? I know you're not actually like full on carnivore anymore. But your bill must be super high. Because one time we. Hey, if you're at Whole Foods and we know. We went to Whole Foods for steaks. We spent like. 120 bucks. No, it was like 150 bucks just for steaks for Abby and I and my parents. Yeah, it was for our whole family. Okay, we got six steaks. But still, it was like 25 a steak. Yeah, it's not that cheap. I usually, there's a Sprouts like down the street. I usually get one for like 20 bucks a steak, which I know is like 20 bucks a meal is a lot of money. Yeah. Sometimes more, but. Yeah. Like a nice one's like 50. Like from the butcher shop. Wow. Yeah, I usually just stick to Sprouts. I love them. And it's a blessing. Like when I started the steak videos, I was getting sent some, which I thought was so cool. So people were sending me steaks. Yeah. No way. From like different farms that are really sweet and sent me some. So our freezer is currently stocked. So because of that reason, the grocery bill isn't that high. Oh my gosh. Because I got a lot of them for free, which it. Wait, that's cool. So you have just a freezer full of steak right now at your house. Pretty much. Because I'm sure being the steak girl, everybody wants to send you steak. Yeah, all the different farms like go reach out. That's sweet. Yeah, no, it is so sweet. Do you get sent a steak like every day? No, not every day. But when it comes, it's like a huge package of just meat. And it's like a dream. Like I'm so grateful for it. It's more than steak. It's like hot dogs, hamburgers. Yeah, there's like burger patties. Like all, there's like each different cut of steak. So like my dad loves the ones with not as much fat. Like he loves the sirloins and filet mignon. So I'll like give those to him. And then I love all the fatty cuts. So like I'll keep those. But I'm sure if I were to eat steak that much in like, pay for all of them, it would be so much more money. Just recently started to, or people will come up and like call her by her name. But for the first like solid year, year and a half, like we don't get, she doesn't get referred to as Katie. Like it's steak girl. It's steak girl. Yeah, like I've had steak like yelled at me a couple of times. Yeah, we'll be in like steak. I'm like, yeah. We're like shopping in a clothing store and like you'll just hear the word steak. Yeah, or that's the girl who eats steak. Like I'll hear it like, I don't know. Yeah, like I would never hear Katie. Recently I've started to hear like people say my name. But like before it was either like Stephanie or steak girl. Like I do crafts. I'm like, I'm branching out guys. For Abby, it's you're Matt and Abby. Really? Are you Matt and Abby? I'm like, yes. Aw. Thank you. Nobody knows her last name. That's okay. Howard? Howard. Howard. No, my mom said the other day, she goes, do you ever just want to say, well, I'm Abby. And I'm like, no. You should be a steak for Halloween. You should just wear a steak costume. Lady Gaga like dressed up in like a steak costume one time. And I just get, I got tagged in it so many times. And then Lady Gaga followed me. I was like, I was freaking out. You're kidding me. She followed you? Yeah. Wait, you got to collab with Lady Gaga. I'm like too scared to text her. You got to DM her. Seriously. Okay, we should clip this. You need, you should DM Lady Gaga. Hopefully she sees this and be like, will you eat a steak with me? That would be so cool. And you guys could both, wait, you guys could both wear the steak, the steak costume that like the one that she wore. Yeah. That would be so funny. I would love that. Please. I would love that. Please. Please Lady Gaga. That sounds so much fun. Make this happen. Wait, is it true that Maple also eats steak? Yeah. She sucks on it. Yeah. I mean, she's teething. And so like whenever I'm eating it, she's just like, you know, babies, they put their mouths on it. Everything. So I'm like, yeah, you can, you can. Go for it, girl. Well, if you get like a good crust. You can't actually eat it. Like she has like one half little tooth coming in. She can't actually eat it. But like I'll give her a big piece and she'll just gnaw on it. I feel like it feels good for her. Yeah. Yeah. Get some nutrients too. Right? This is from Oceana Yeaton. She said, how did you come up with the name Maple Lou? I really loved the name. I curated like a list of names that I loved. And one of them was Mabel. Um. So. There's one show called Gravity Falls. I don't know if you've heard of it. Oh, yeah. But like there's a girl named Mabel and I always loved her name. But I also kind of wanted a unique name. And he actually thought of Maple because I was just telling him the names I loved. And he's like, well, what about like Maple? Nice. I was like, I like it, but it sounds like a grandma. I was like, what about Maple? And then. Yeah. And I just really loved it. I thought it was so cute. Like, I don't know. I thought of it as like a nature name, a tree name. There's so many like names inspired by nature. I know it's like not very common. Some people thought it was weird. And then Lou just came from my mom. Her name is Lulu. So that's why L-U. Cute. And she kind of looks just like my mom. Like, so I feel like it's fitting. But yeah, Maple Lou and then Goodman. That's sweet. Yeah. People want to know what Tyson does for a living, which I think we've been over this, but we can just, we can just say here just so people know. Yeah. Also. Yeah. I mean, I was a bartender. That's where we met. Um, but now I just help her make videos. It's cool. He's, he's putting the, the little white dots on strawberry cars, right? Yeah. Yellow dots. Professional. You should say I'm a professional craftsman. Right. That's what you can say. Or like a project manager behind the scenes. Kay's assistant. Yeah. Production. You're like, I work in production. Yeah. I'm in production. Yeah. Um, and I feel like we should ask a few more of these. People want to know, uh, like what the hardest part of motherhood has been. Oh, hardest part. I just don't want anything to happen to her. Like, I feel like she's like a piece of my heart just walking around. She's obviously not walking around, but like, I don't know. The hardest part is just putting her to sleep. Like she hates going to sleep. Like she doesn't nap or anything. No. She does, but like. She does, but it'll take like an hour to get her to sleep and then she'll sleep for like 20 minutes. Maybe I'm just doing it wrong. And you guys, and you guys co-sleep? Is that like. We do co-sleep and I said it online and I know it's a very like controversial topic. Did anyone get really mad at you? Yeah. They just say that I'm like putting her in danger, but honestly, I'm scared for her to go in the other room or like in her own room. It is weird. Like the thought of her, like she has a room, she has a crib, but it is weird. Like I know we'll get there, but thinking of falling asleep in a different room from her is kind of weird just because this is what we've gotten used to. I feel like when you're in the mindset that she's in your bed like i don't know you're just not gonna move you know like you don't do i don't know i just feel like you're still subconsciously awake you know even though you're sleeping you're not gonna roll over on her whatever yeah you know like and obviously it does happen like i've looked up reports of when it does happen and usually a lot of the time it's because the parents were either you know drunk or high or just in like not uh what's like not a mindset what's the word like cohering yeah and that's usually when majority of like the accidents happen is in that state but we take the precautions like we have a bed railing about our like around our bed so she can't roll off and then like she sleeps with me and i just use a pillow we don't really use like i have this one blanket but is that how you go to bed at eight then yeah no she yeah but i just love sleeping with her you went to bed early before i went to bed early so she goes to bed at eight and then do you does she wake up before like like she wakes me up she's like our little rooster like she's like like we'll start kicking us if we're not awake what time like five in the morning like we're good for the day five a.m oh gosh you're getting up at five every day but also like no she's not a very and at midnight oh gosh making bottles yeah you guys need taking care of babies yeah have you heard of that course before heard of what taking care of babies she lives here i'll connect you with kara her name's kara oh really the first time i saw her i want to kiss her on the mouth because she helped us get some sleep yeah really for the first time like a sleep trainer yeah yeah well she has a program she isn't like actually right too late no we did we we held off we waited till 10 months with our first yeah she basically says you know just you know leave in the room and never that's not true that's the misconception like to cry it out that's the thing that's the thing with you i'm sure you already know and you've experienced it you sleep with your baby wrong you train your baby to sleep on their own wrong yeah you do this wrong wrong yeah and so that's just like the really cool thing about mothering methods that's the cool thing about mothering in the public eye um there's a lot of not cool things about it but i feel like you you probably experience this too are you just like develop your own sense of confidence yeah like you know i'm actually uniquely created to raise this child and it really doesn't matter what your opinion is yeah yeah like because you are not their mother that's me yeah and so i'm if you ever need to talk to anybody about that yeah i could i could there's always judgments about that you know well last up we have the game of who's more like these are fun ones these are kind of fun no i don't want it to end then you're so funny okay first up who's more likely to overcook steak have you have you burnt that before cook mine what's up have you burnt a steak before uh burnt the outside i think like medium well this is like as far as i'll go on the inside but like i love a steak medium okay she can eat it rare yeah she can eat it raw like we've had steak tartar i don't love the texture so like part of me is just kind of worried so like that's why i feel like i sometimes overcook it yeah but she'll undercook it and she won't care so yeah you are hardcore when it comes to that i don't know how you love steak it's just so good next who's more likely is who's more likely to forget an anniversary an anniversary do you guys celebrate your anniversary like of dating i don't know i guess new year's like yeah so it's kind of hard oh yeah no but we do we do i just don't think either of us would forget yeah okay i don't think either of us would forget well you guys are perfect that's awesome oh thanks but you guys i don't think you guys have been like you guys have only been together three years yeah three years okay okay so yeah but we've known each other before like we were friends for a year before we started but yeah okay who's more forgetful in general tyson me tyson for sure who's more likely to get jealous me yeah me i just didn't want to say it why you i don't know like if someone like talks him a certain way i'm like she was flirting with you like it'll like for example okay oh lovely no just hopefully she doesn't see this but like i was a bartender and i probably had like one lady who like really took care of me in like tips you know like yeah sugar mama a lot of money how much money are we talking 100 bucks like a day a shift for i don't know yeah minimum 50 okay for like two beers so but like her bill was like 10 bucks and then she would leave 50 bucks like each time and she would only come in when i worked so but she was like i really didn't know how much money i had so i was like i don't know i don't know how much money i had but i was like i don't know how much money i had but i was like i don't know i don't know how much money i had but i was like i don't know how much money i had but i was like i don't know how much money maybe 60s yeah so she's definitely way older and like i never saw it as flirting because like i'm just trying to get money and she's like 60 years old and she didn't like her you know so no she was literally flirting with him every day went in there only when he worked he wouldn't she wouldn't go in any other days sit like right in the middle of the bar all propped up in front of him like flirting with him every day but she was a grandma like literally a grandma she's not a grandma did she ever try to give you a hug oh she did each day gave him a hug every day yeah ever go more than a hug okay there you go katie would have been like out there just like john cena literally yeah yeah gotcha well i say i get more he doesn't really get jealous well now we neither of us do anything like we're just like you know what i'm saying we're with each other every single day like we don't go anywhere we're just working all day so you're not hugging any grandmas yeah so okay yeah uh next next who's more likely is who's more likely to accidentally spill a secret me i love my mom she's like one of my best friends like i'll like i'll like spill some stuff to her not even yeah i just think it's me i'll like gossip more than he does it would be matt because matt doesn't know that it's a secret like i like telling him something i kind of felt like that was like something that you knew that yeah i didn't really want repeated yeah and you're like oh my bad wait but it could also be you sometimes like he's very open with his parents though that's funny or like i'll just say something that like kind of like that like she would not want me to say but it just sounds like exciting to say like you know something new like i think this feels like a good topic to bring up who's more likely to ask for the manager oh neither of us you guys won't do that because you work in the restaurant industry when you've worked in yeah you're like we're not doing that we've gone to a restaurant where like you know sometimes it's just genuinely bad like if you you're i don't know it's just bad service whether they're mean or the no refills on water whatever it may be but like it cannot bring myself to like tip below no because you never know they could be so busy they could have so much time and they could have so much time and they could have so much going on they could have a phone call going on in the kitchen like you never know yeah even if the food's at it doesn't matter like we chose to go there and i just couldn't you can't do that to someone now i'm curious because you said 25 when my mom was like my age i want to say the standard was 15 but then when i was a server it was like 20 so i was i think it's still i'd say 25 is generous oh okay yeah but 20 is standard was what you'd say yeah yeah okay just we both did it i don't know it just feels i guess since we know what it feels like it feels better to give someone more than 20 but do you tip at a coffee shop if you go to get a coffee yeah but that's like 10 i don't dude that's actually it's funny you say that because that's how i do it in my head i'm like am i sitting down and they're bringing me my food and stuff then i'm doing 20 but if i'm like yeah if i if i go to a coffee shop you often tip more i keep going back and forth but it's like if i'm going to a coffee shop i'm like yeah if i go to a coffee shop i keep going back going up there and they like you know make the coffee give it to me i'm like i guess i'll just do 10 yeah or i don't know i don't know it's gotten weird now but i see it if you if it is as like like it's getting weird now but i see it if it's a service yeah then like of course i will and like i'll do it generously that is the problem because i think everywhere asks for tip like i've been to fast food restaurants where they ask for it yeah that's where i get uh that's where i feel protective of servers though because i'm like wait they took you came to your table took your order cleaned up after you because servers are getting paid less than minimum wage yeah yeah yeah i don't know i feel like that's like a whole like huge topic it's like like tips because some people think like know that you know the restaurants should just like be paying instead of that i don't know i will always tip and we would never ask for a manager like even not at a restaurant even at a store any place like you never know what's going on with that person who's more likely to make more money than you maple laugh more likely to be successful or to try i don't know to be successful me all she has to do is like flip her hair but like he tries i try all day i try all day Which I am successful, but, like, I don't know. I swear, all she has to do is, like, flip her hair. She loves my hair. I'll just, like, put it on her, like, so she has hair. Like, I'll just, like, go like that, and then she's, like, dying. Or I'll sneeze, and she's just, like, dying. Oh, that's sweet. I'll have to do, like, a body slam to get, like, a smile. Oh, my gosh. Like, do something crazy. Who's more likely to be the strict parent? Me. Me. What do you do? Or how do you lay down the law? Because she can't even talk yet. Well, she's not allowed to eat anything. No McDonald's, no Taco Bell, no Panda. She's seven months old. She can't even eat that. Are you trying to give your daughter McDonald's? No, but I was just saying, like, I'll go out, and, like, I'll get Taco Bell, and then I'll come home, and Katie's like, you can't eat like that. She's watching you, and, like. So. I just care a lot about food. Yeah. I don't know, and I want her to know the differences. Like, it's not like I won't allow her to have stuff. Like, that's not the case. I just want. I just want her to know, like, what foods will make her feel good. And I know she's right. And, like, I don't know. Like, we'll indulge sometimes, you know, or sometimes it'll be like. I don't even know how to word it. I just want her to know how much good food can affect you. And, like, you know, obviously, I went to the extreme. Like, you don't have to only feel, eat meat to feel good. Like, that was, like, my, like, I just really wanted to fix something that was going on. But, no, I just want her to know how important it is, like, fueling your body. The correct way, you know. That's good. No, that's really good. But not even just that with strictness. Like, I just want her to have a really good childhood. Like, she's only seven months old right now. Like, I mean, stopped her from doing anything. I feel like even still with our almost three-year-old, I'm like, he doesn't know. Yeah, but we babysit my niece and nephew sometimes. And, like, we'll take them to the store. And, like, Luna, my niece, she's, like, my best friend, too. She'll, like, want to buy something. And I'm like, okay. And I'm like, no. And then she'll want to buy something else. Okay. Like, it, like, gets to a point where you got to, like, say no. Yeah, it's different, though. Like, if they're being bad, like, definitely will be stern. Yeah. I don't know if stern is the same as strict. Yeah. But, like, that's if they're being bad. If they're being good, I'm all for it. Yeah. So, I don't know. And who's more likely to overthink parenting decisions? What do you mean as in parenting decisions? Like, what kind of decisions? Probably, yeah, probably, like. Well, with a baby, it's, like, feeding, sleep. Yeah. Doctor stuff. If you're sleep training, if you're co-sleeping. Yeah, like, decisions about the doctor. With babies, it's a little bit. There's, like, fewer. There's, like, a lot more decisions, but fewer categories of decisions. Yeah. Like, now we're in the stage of, like, preschool activities. Yeah, we also have to, like, discipline now because our kids, we have to teach them that they can't just, like, whine to get what they want. Right. You know, if you don't want to, like, reinforce, like, every time they cry, they get a popsicle, you know? Right. Yes. We don't want to teach them that. Yeah. I would overthink, like, in the sense of, like, I'm super protective. Like, something new scares me because she's a baby. So, like, like a food. Like, trying a different food. I'm like. We're just slowly introducing foods right now. I feel like you're watching her for the next 30 minutes to make sure nothing happens, you know? That is freaky. Yeah. So, like, I feel like I overthink in that perspective. That's something. That's something you did really lock in on. I would. Choking. I would get terrified of my kids choking. He yeeted so much food out of our kids' mouths. We have one of those, like, choking devices to suck, suck the food out if they ever choke. Oh, my gosh. We. I need to get one. It's called a live vac. In their mouth? No, it just goes over the top. And it's just like a. Did you ever have to use it? We've never had to use it. Thank goodness. But we have two of them. We are locked and loaded, though. Yeah. We probably should keep one in the car. Get one in the car. We need to move one of those into the car. We need a third. Get another one. We should get a couple more. Yeah. They ain't cheap either. I should have one in my pocket at all times. You probably would. You would pull it out and set it on the counter. Actually, yeah. It was just, like, ready. Yeah. Well, I used to sneak candy as a kid. And so, like, I walked into the closet or to the pantry and, like, I was eating Jolly Ranchers. And I remember I choked on one as a little boy. And, like, I still remember it. And that was, like, really scary. Like, you couldn't breathe? No. My dad had to get it out. How did he do that? Did he dig it out with his finger first? Or did he just go Heimlich? No, I'm pretty sure he, like, squozed me. And you don't remember it? I was, like, five or six. But I remember it. I just don't remember exactly how he got it out. I just remember he did. You're scaring me because our son does that, too. He'll go in the pantry and just, like, chow down on some sweets. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, because, like, if you're not supposed to eat something, you'll go hide and do it. Yeah. And try and do it fast. Also, I'm not trying to scare you. But, like, if you're not supposed to be doing something, you're going to do it faster. Yes. You know? Yes. Instead of, like, I could have just been sucking on the joy rancher and enjoying it. But I'm, like, trying to hurry. See, we just need to let him have that stuff freely, then. That's so spooky. But, no, I definitely want to get one of those. Yeah. I mean, she doesn't even eat yet, and we're scared. Yeah. Like, she'll, like. Does she eat? That's the scariest part, though, when they're just starting. Because they're supposed to do that type of stuff, but it's just, like, it doesn't feel right. Yeah. Is there anything we haven't talked about today that we should talk about? Wait, I want to know this. Earlier, we were talking about how you like to walk around Tempe Marketplace by yourself. And now you're, like. But now you can't. You don't. Yeah. Do you get mobbed? I just feel like I'm more anxious now that I'm, like, I just feel like I'm being watched now. Do you feel that when you're going places that you like being watched? Yeah. Matt feels like that. I just feel like I'm being watched. Well, we haven't watched before. Yeah, I'm just oblivious to it. Yeah. Yeah. It is creepy when you see. I get that. Have you ever seen a video pop up on you, pop up, pop up of you on social media that, like, you didn't know you were being filmed? This one was just, like, filming you? I haven't had that. It's eerie. It's, like. That was, like, you didn't ask for my permission and you just took a video of me. Yeah. No, I haven't had that. I have felt myself being recorded before. It's uncomfy. Yeah. Unless, like, if they know. Like, there's been a few times where, like, we were in Disney and these, like, you know, high school girls were like, oh, we're recording. And then I'm like, hi. Like, then I, like, wave and, like, that doesn't bother me. I don't. Yeah. But I don't know. I remember I was pregnant with Augie and I was, like, in a bikini for the first time and just, like, in a really awkward stage of pregnancy. Did you, like, say anything? Like, hey, no, nothing? Yeah. I think I just felt really. I think I was, like, I want to go home. So uncomfortable. Yeah. Yeah. But, okay, so you feel like you're being watched and then you don't, like. Yeah. People are always coming up asking for pictures with her. Like, I don't know. It's just different. Like, she. I say when we started dating, she loved going places by herself. Oh, I was obsessed with it. I'd rather go places alone than, like, with somebody. Like, I just loved it. Nobody could rush me. Yeah. I just. I don't know. I was a big fan of going places alone. Now, not so much. I think, one, because of the media and also, two, because of Maple. Like. Yeah. She's so good in public. I'm just always like, okay, now you need a nap. We need to go. You know? Do you feel like it's given you, like, social anxiety? Yeah. Being on social media? Yeah. And, like, I had none before then. You know? Oh, wow. Okay. So. Yeah, just a little bit. It's cool. Like, 99. And I've had nothing but nice interactions. Like, I have nothing to be, like, afraid of. I haven't had anything bad happen. Everyone has always been so sweet. I don't know. It's just in my head, like, whoa. All at once. Yeah. It's crazy. Like, we were in Florida, and it seemed like everyone, like, was recognizing us on the beach. Went to a basketball game. People sitting next to us. We were walking across a crosswalk, and, like, that lady rolled down her window and yelled at her. And, like, it's just so weird. Like, you just don't accept it. So, I feel like, for her, it makes her, like, anxious. And, for me, it, like, makes me, like, protective or just kind of looking out. Yeah. Oh, and now with the baby, too. Like, sometimes people will go, like, straight to go say hi to her. You know? Yeah, which is weird. Like, they'll want to, like, see her, which is fine. But, like, we've also had a lady, like, come up and, like, take a picture of her. And, like, that's really weird. Yeah, and you don't want to say anything. Just boom and take a picture of Maple. She didn't even ask for permission to take a picture of your kid. No. It was weird. That is one weird thing that happened. She was like, hi, guys. And then, and, like, it's weird stuff. But, like. Did you, like, run after her and, like, swat her phone out? Go all, like. She was, like, the worker at, like, Home Depot when we were there or something. She was on the job and took a picture of her baby? Yes. That's so bad. Yeah. You could have reported her for that. Yeah. No, but, like, really, like, I feel like we love everyone that recognizes us. Yeah. Like, those are. Yeah, everyone's so sweet. Those are our viewers. But, I don't know. It is different. Yeah. Do you guys get, like, scared going in public sometimes? Like, never? No? He does? Sometimes I just get in my head. Right. No, I feel like it's mainly, like, in my head. Yeah. And then I go out and I'm like, oh, they're all so sweet. You know? But Abby also has, like, she's completely oblivious to anybody recognizing her, though. Like, she just has no idea. Sorry, I just interrupted you. That's concerning in itself. Yeah, I'm like. Like, my friends will be like, oh, like, and I'm like. And it's a little concerning. Like, I'll pick a fight with Matt and an oldie. And Matt's like, you know, people could know us. Like, maybe just save it for the car. You know, we could. Yeah. Like, I would rather this disagreement not end up on TMZ. I remember you told me that. I was like, this just shows the next level of, like, whew. Yeah. So, I need to get. I'm the one that's. I mean, I saw you. You didn't notice me. So, I feel like that kind of seeks for it. I mean, I didn't do anything. Like. Out of the. I obviously wasn't taking a picture or recording you. I was just telling him about you. And, like, you didn't notice. I was like, oh, I love. yeah what do you feel about texas roadhouse oh i love it they're sick oh we get the i like their prime rib the prime rib and it's not there all the time because they have a certain amount at the beginning and they sell out of what they have so you got to get there while they still have them do you like prime rib to longhorn longhorn oh i like longhorn i like longhorn it's spongebob she likes everywhere oh my gosh well longhorn's iconic for its parmesan crusted steak in parmesan crusted chicken like i feel like that's who started the parmesan crusted steak i like longhorn he's not a big fan of longhorn i don't know i would wait i love this it's like we're playing steak a steak restaurant game places outback where do we get our steak no to outback i'm trying to think of like i don't know if we've ever eaten at outback i don't think we have either i have i've had steaks at outback okay wait a minute someone dm me and they're like actually the best steak is at ihop no way i'm not kidding no shot i know i don't remember i don't think so but we'll go to like cracker barrel and she'll get a new york strip with eggs it's good i mean i don't think any restaurant steak could be as good as longhorn i don't think it's as good as longhorn is the one i make at home yours look like i always like get a steak at a restaurant and i usually end up just liking mine more although ramsay i did like his i went to his restaurant gordon ramsay's restaurant well he has a restaurant in like vegas i guess you can try it only one that can rival yours is gordon ramsay literally that's your next collab is gordon ramsay oh oh we wish it'd be so cool right we need to say it out loud we gotta make it happen you know how to manifest it like he'll respond to people making the filet mignon yeah yes not the filet mignon the beef wellington he'll respond to people so i made one i was like i'm he never responded to it but yeah but then it got like turned into an ad like instagram made it an ad like of me making a beef wellington i don't know i didn't get paid for this it was no they paid me the permission yeah they asked for permission and they like bought the video of me making a beef wellington yeah and then they used it i don't know i wanted ramsay that didn't happen but that's funny well thank you for coming on the podcast you guys where's the best place for people to connect with you tiktok youtube yeah uh youtube katie and tyson tiktok katie you can honestly probably just look up state girl like and i'll probably prop up yeah well i love it well everybody go check out katie and tyson on youtube and katie church on tiktok and instagram and uh we'll see you in the next episode check engine abs or maintenance light on take the guesswork out of your warning lights with o'reilly veriscan the service is free and provides a report with solutions verified by ase certified master technicians and if you need help we could recommend a shop for you ask for o'reilly veriscan today auto parts oh oh oh o'reilly check engine abs or maintenance light on take the guesswork out of your warning lights with o'reilly veriscan the service is free and provides a report with solutions verified by ase certified master technicians and if you need help we could recommend a shop for you ask for o'reilly veriscan today auto parts