The Truth About Happiness You Were Never Taught with Michael Singer

Some people say find your passion in life. I say find out why you're not passionate about everything. The moment in front of you is not bothering you You're bothering yourself about the moment in front of you. Stop it. We have a really special treat If you saw the untethered soul or read the book the untethered soul Mickey singer is just such a beautiful person and he doesn't really go out and do things and we're just so grateful The world is not still in your happiness. You are you wake up every single morning and you say I'm back Mickey, thank you for joining us. Hello Mickey. Hi, dear. I say age. What a delight. I was static to be with you We are a static to have you Mickey Mickey is a dear brother on the path and a dear friend and has the most beautiful mind and heart and wisdom and understanding And every time that we've had the privilege to have you it's just such an extraordinary gift So, thank you Mickey. Thank you. We love you Give it up for him So it's all yours Mickey Thank you for an honor. I've never been in Abu Dhabi. Now I'm there when I didn't happen So I love the fact that Tony who's known for being so strong and so powerful and pushed through everything Has spirit for treats and I already know how spiritual he is. I've been to his house. I've been in his meditation room What a beautiful soul. What a tremendous amount that he and sage are giving to the world not just you all But this particular seminar grouping is about happiness joy ecstasy a Life that's filled with enthusiasm My view of what it means to be happy that I want for all of you as as follows You wake up every single morning and you say I'm back All right Every single moment of every single day when you brush your teeth when you're eating breakfast It's blowing you away. You are so enthused so excited about absolutely everything I get to take the garbage out today. Please is my term. It was yours yet. I know I want to do it again Wash the dishes go to work. I get to sell things. I get to do things Every single thing is filled with enthusiasm Passion joy some people say find your passion in life. I say find out. You're not passionate about everything Imagine if every single thing Major is passionate as anything ever has love this special moments Every moment can be at that level and people don't believe that That every moment can be at that level. But what are terrible things happen? You enjoy at a deep level the sorrow the pain of death Of sickness of compassion, but it moves you so deeply That's like I talk about it's that you drive it on a road and you turn turn for a quorum turn a quorum And there's this gorgeous sunset just magenta is it so beautiful? You never see anything like in your life You tell people right it touched me to the death of my being I felt like I was in the presence of God, which of course you were why because you touched you so deep inside You touched your own divinity Every moment can be like that and people don't believe that So the question is what do I need to do for it to be that way and why is it not that way? Well, I believe that the mind people think because against the mind Michael's not against the mind There is a use of the mind that is so beautiful and so spiritual and then there's a use of the mind that is so not so beautiful I'm not so spiritual if you understand deep truth deep wisdom and your mind is capable of doing that Your mind can help you go to the place I just talked to you about It's not about shutting down the mind the mind is a beautiful instrument if you use properly and it can help you get into a state of permanent ecstasy permanent joy permanent enthusiasm So the question becomes if I ask people What makes you happy? What do you mean? Happiness is to you They sit there and say happiness is falling in love. It's having a beautiful relationship Happiness is taking a vacation that just is so beautiful and the weather's perfect Happiness is a meal that just touches you and feels so so well in other words Happiness is getting what you want And you have to get breath with that because that's what people think that happiness joy enthusiasm is getting what you want if you get what you want you feel happy if you get what you want you feel open You feel energy you feel enthused Well happiness is also avoiding what you don't want Because but you get what you don't want it closes you down you feel closed So you start understanding this relationship that if I get what I want inside I feel wonderful If I don't get all on what I want I feel disappointed If I get what I don't want I feel terrible and if I don't get what I don't want I feel relieved And that is what I call truth table for you. So instead of the school truth tables That is a truth table about happiness and no one will disagree with that No one disagrees that if you really want something and you get it just the way you want it It blows you away now. Here you are conservative liberal No matter what you believe if you're getting what you want you open And if you're getting what you don't want you close Well that becomes the first clue that you have a choice in life One is to decide what you want and go on and get it Don't let anything stop you Don't take no prisoners Just go out and do not stop until you get what you want Right the other is to sit there and say wait a minute Yes, getting what I want opened me and I felt joy A whole nother path other than fighting with life to get what you want is to ask Why do I close Why am I not open anyways? Why is it not natural? Why is my natural state not completely open Why when something happens outside that I want do I open and why when something happens outside that I don't want to I close And that now starts to get spiritual as opposed to worldly and there's nothing wrong with worldly worldly really means that you believe the answer is outside Spiritual means you believe the answer is inside Roomy once said very beautiful quote from roomy Yesterday I was clever So I was trying to change the world today. I'm wise. So I'm changing myself If you believe that the only way you can be happy the only way you can feel love The only way you can feel passion enthusiasm is to get what you want Then you're going to go out into the world and you're going to try to take niques and try different things To try and get what you want If you understand that what it's really about is whether you're open or not inside You you've had experiences where things turned you on and then 10 seconds later they turned you off All you have to do is have somebody behave the way you don't want them to That you didn't expect them to and you close immediately you can be filled with love and tell somebody oh, I love you so much I've never leveraged so much and they say yeah, I love you too. Just like that. Yeah, I love you too And you don't feel love anymore So it doesn't take much to open a closure So spirituality is not about getting what you want they teach you that attract what you want You can bring anything into your life that you want to mantras. That's wonderful. It's beautiful by all means do it But deeper is to ask why does the outside affect the inside? There's no law saying the outside has to affect the inside. There are totally different worlds The outsides made of atoms the inside is not So you start questioning why is it that I close? Why is it that I opened? Why is it that something that I decided I like Opens me and then if I decided I really don't like it then it closes me you've been around people people get divorced That they didn't think about it when they were getting married They were filled with love and filled with joy and then all of a sudden the stuff goes wrong And now you have trouble being around the person what happened? You were open inside now you closed inside a wise person and you're all or wise you wouldn't be there at this retreat Understands you are never ever going to get everything you want period Anytime you ever got what you wanted that means you never wanted anything else Never and anytime you got exactly what you want and then step that way stayed that way every single time you had that meal It turned you on every time you met this person it blew you away It's not true you know I went through a doctorate all but dissertation in economics I'm embarrassed I mean I'm proud to say And they had this law which is a universal law it's called the law of diminishing returns you've probably heard of it So I'm going to do business with you The law of diminishing returns means the more you get something that you like the less you care about it And you know it's true You get a new car it blows you away for how long then it's a car just like any other car you use it to go to work Same thing with everything so eventually you wake up and you realize it is not about getting what I want And it's not about avoiding what I don't want is about finding out why I open and close That is something I am doing inside myself Can I learn not to do that? Can I learn not to close? Can I learn to stay open and the answer is absolutely and that learning that work you do on yourself is the essence of spirituality Many beautiful teachers are out there. They teach many many different techniques In the end it's the same They're teaching you how to learn to stay open learn to breathe through pranayama learn to be positive thinking All kinds of stuff, all right? They're all in the end about How do I get open and how do I stay open and what do I do if I start to close in other words somebody wants to ask me Mickey you don't teach techniques like other people do All right, you talk about staying open. How do I stay open? How do I be open and I said don't close I have found over 50 ideas that you don't know how to open You need something outside of you to stimulate the opening process But you do know how to close you do that very very comfortably inside yourself very quickly All right, can you learn not to close and that becomes the essence of all spirituality learn not to close Right, how do I do that? Well Mm-hmm. It's so beautiful I like to say don't close You will feel yourself start to close that's something you feel very regularly somebody says something The weather bothers you the driver in front of you bothers you and you're going to feel your heart close It's a natural experience everybody has it not just spiritual people you feel that closing you feel that tightening That's happening inside So if you want to be happy truly happy call unconditionally happy That is your happy regardless of what's going on just not just because something special is going on you have to learn not to close So the way I teach to do it is you don't start with big things You don't start with the fact that you're having an argument with somebody you're having trouble at work You start with the simplest thing I call the low hanging fruit my new book living in tether Was the low hanging fruit you walk outside is hot out Well, you're going to find that you start to close. It's too hot. Oh my god. I'm sweating. I don't like when I sweat And my armpits get wet and this happened that happens is drug and embarrassed Xeric Xeric Xeric Xeric so you can't even handle the weather or you're driving somewhere to deliver something And it's a nice day that starts pouring rain and you have to get out of your car And you close. I don't like this. I don't want to do this That's where you start your spirituality in the everyday moments that are unfolding in front of you every moment of your day It's not just some big meditation retreat or something you're doing It's something to do every single moment of every single day If you see yourself start to not like something You look at it and say can I learn to like this? Can I learn not to at least start this way forget liking it? Can I learn not to close because it's raining Can I learn not to close it's raining my birthday? Why does that have to rain on my birthday? Can I learn not to close because as I drive down the street I catch every single red light one after the other oh my god How could this happen they should be timing these lights with computers But I'm getting every light and I'm telling you you will close You don't have to you start to work with yourself You start to ask yourself is it worth giving up the joy the enthusiasm of life because the light turned red or because the driver in front of me Is driving 50 miles and 15 miles an hour below the speed limit come on buddy Don't you see the sign or isn't using their blinkers nice blinker buddy all right? You don't realize these things are teaching you to close These things are teaching your heart to not be open during these different situations So you start to work with yourself. All right. How I Say what I have found is your relax Relaxation is a tremendously powerful tool for learning how to close in order to close you have to tense Is an act of resistance and resistance requires tension When you're relaxing it's like judo when you're relaxing you can't resist if you relax every muscle in your body You can't resist anything and so when you start to close Relax just deep be relaxed don't do anything else you have to think about it You have to judge yourself and you just start relaxing and people write me from all over the world All I did was that and it changed my life they write I'm having trouble with my family my wife for the husband We're not getting along and I really am uncomfortable in their presence, but I want to be all right How about this here's a technique when you sit in the presence of that person Watch yourself close Just notice that you're closing and then ask do I want to close Not just because I want to love this person or be with this person Do I want to learn not to close? Well, here's your opportunity. So what do I do relax? But I don't want to relax good Relax around the fact that you don't want to relax just keep letting go keep relaxing around your heart relax your shoulders Lush arms relax in the face of the problem relax and you will learn to relax you will learn how to be open when you would have normally closed When you want to learn the piano, you don't start with Beethoven or Mozart you start with the scales When I learn a sport, you don't start by playing you know the top tennis players in the world You get a ball throw or a coach and you start learning how to do these very basic things Why don't you learn not to close if you want to be happy learn not to close and don't think it's trivial because you'll find out you can't do it I want you to wake up in the morning and say I'm not gonna close today Oh boy, it turns me on all right. I'm not gonna close today I'm gonna go through this day. I'm not gonna be neglected and make it be such that it doesn't close me I'm gonna allow the data unfold because believe me it's going to anyways and I'm gonna practice not closing Throughout this entire day if you and you will be able to do it and then at night you sit down you say how'd you do but don't judge Right just like if flan tennis you hit hit the ball into the net a few times good You'll learn how to hold your wrist differently. You know how to do stuff or if you make mistakes in the piano when you play in the scales That's not a bad thing. It's a good thing. It means you're learning So I sit down at night did I close of course you close of course you resisted learn to let go now Why this is where it gets real? Why am I not happy all the time? Why is it not my natural state that I feel joy and ecstasy? Why did God create the universe such that it bothers me So it closes me. Why can't I just be in the garden of Eden all the time? The answer is very simple. You know if I take take a look at it throughout your life Things have happened to you that we're not comfortable You saw things heard things experienced things they went anywhere from somewhat uncomfortable to traumatic Really really difficult things that you went through every single person went through them It always happens at some point all right and the little things happen all the time the weather that this Somebody says you say load of somebody don't see a little back. Why not when in the answer me don't they like me just Everything bothers you Okay, and you sit down and say what did you do with those things ever since you were little? What did you do with the things that bothered you because I know what you did? I don't even know you because everybody does the same thing. I don't want to feel them They happened they came in through my senses But I don't want to feel them. I'm not gonna let them in here like I'll lift that beautiful sunset in here Or like I'll let that beautiful hug of the person I love so much and I melft it in their arms I know I am letting this rattle snake that I saw or this word that this person said to me that that that Dis me I'm not letting that in here or I raised my hand in class and what I said was wrong and people laughed I'm not letting that back here. I don't want it in me. I don't want that touching me Just think you protect yourself from it. How do you protect yourself? You have hands in there You have to understand that you have this thing called will you have the ability to push things away That you don't want coming in and you have the ability to relax and allow things to come in So when things come in have come in throughout your life that we're not comfortable to you I'm telling you you push them away. You did not welcome them in you kept them at a distance and I have learned and so did Freud That anything you push away stays in there for how long forever Until you let it go if you pushed it away it stays in there No matter how small it is if if if you saw somebody and they were you know, let's say hold the hands With someone that you got fit they weren't comfortable with that right you change your attitude about that person You didn't handle that situation you pushed it away now the next time you see that person It's coming back up even the slightest thing if you were driving behind a car that was a you You know i'm old about my years Yeah, a 2020 Mustang and it was a certain color and the person was driving the kept stepping on their brakes And it was driving 15 miles. I'll go to speed limit. They use their blinkers. All right Next time you're driving on a car. She's an Abu Dhabi and you see a car that looks like that your horse gonna close It's coming right back up and you think that's logical. No, it's because you stored it in you the other cars on the road didn't come back The white lines on the road don't come back the clouds in the sky don't come back The trees you drive by don't come back is only if you resist it otherwise it comes through naturally You could still bring it back from your memory. You still have a memory you know mind his memory But it doesn't get stuck in there But if you resist it I'm telling you and psychology does too all the second if you didn't do what I just said they're out of business There's not a therapist. There's not a psychologist There's no one out there doing anything because you don't have a single problem It's because you storage your problems inside of you that you don't feel joy all the time You pushed away every single thing that ever bothered you and made a storehouse out of it and now it keeps coming back up Can you remind you of it? And you don't need something outside to remind you of it You can have a thought that screws up the rest of your day. Yes or no Okay, now you can sit there and say I need thought control so that doesn't happen That's not what I teach no way what you need to do is not shove that stuff down there You need to sit there and say if I shove it down there my thoughts can bring it back up your words can bring it back up The problem is not your words the problem is not my thoughts the problem is that you stored this stuff down there I used to use the example. Let's say you went to a restaurant and you had a meal And it made you sick My dad was doing nowadays if you haven't maybe you haven't been local news all right Because people are getting sick so you ate some food it made you sick And so what you did is you called the waiter over and said would you please give me a doggy bag You took the doggy bag home and you put in what you have labeled in your house called the sick room And the reason you did that is I want to make sure I never eat that again I want to make sure how to experience anymore So I have to remember what it was I'm not gonna I don't want to forget what it was that made me sick So I stored it inside this room and every morning I go in I walk into the room and I taste the little taste just to remember what not to eat all right Would you do that the answer is no of course you wouldn't do that You're doing that with every single thing that ever bothered you in your life You've decided to store it inside of you so you remember not to have it happen again So that you I don't know I can't even talk about anymore it seems so stupid right you have made a storehouse of everything Never bothered you I asked the question if you store everything ever bothered you inside if you what's gonna be like inside Oh bothered and that is what it is like inside of almost everything of human being and that's why we need all this help That we need it's not we don't need help. We just stop doing that if you don't have that's a store in there Let's do that for a second because you guys are high right what would happen if I didn't have all that garbage Stored inside of me that I'm protecting myself from as I walk through the world and then push it back down When it tries to come back up what would happen you will find out that there's this thing that we in yoga called shocked It's a beautiful word all right. There is energy inside of you that is beyond your comprehension You have felt it in fact Tony's really good at bringing it up in all right It's beautiful water, right? you have Seven million times more energy than most energy you ever saw Tony show or have or that you ever fell from it You're gonna know what said you have so much energy potential within you that would blow you blow you away body would blow up Right you have a phenomenal level of shockedy Well, why don't I feel it because you shove this stuff on top of it and I swear to you if you got that for my teachings I'm done you understand you have shoved all this garbage on top of the shockedy flow and that's why you don't feel it Well, sometimes I feel it when somebody tells me they love me if I love that person all right And then tell that's because you open that's because you find the shockedy finds a pathway through your blockages Because you're more receptive you're more open and then you feel love and you feel joy when you say you want You want some a passionate job that you feel passionate about it's because the particular situation people you're working with the the facility who knows with a particular job you they were gave you to do you open and then this shockedy comes up So any joy any love and enthusiasm or passion you ever felt is shockedy Don't don't think shockedy is just you know the spirit of God It is it is the spirit of God, but it's always there and it will come up the moment you open It will come up People feel shockedy doing terrible things you understand that don't don't paint it white Okay, there are people I had a you know, I did 30 years of prison work max Your prisons and I had beautiful beautiful men and one very very beautiful black man, right? He missed the session sometimes It wasn't big it was a small guy, but he missed the sessions and they asked him Leon, why do you miss these sessions? I know you love the sessions and we only come in you know a real-the-week or once a week And he said I was in lockup and I said why are you in lockup for fighting? And like I said this is not a big man And I said why are you fighting? He said because it's the only way I can release energy in here I love getting advice. I don't care if I get beat up. I don't care if I beat them up I don't care if I put a lock up when I'm fighting. I'm feeling joy. I'm feeling tremendous energy so you know Doesn't mean that only good things was similar to shopty the shopties down there whatever opens you Like people do SNM, okay? You're only mature people They literally go and pay money to to go through those situations. Why it opens them Whatever, no judging it opens them and they feel the same shopty the same love all right It's just energies pure energy So the question is why don't I feel it all the time because you shove stuff on top of it You shoved all this stuff on top of it But why do some people open about one thing and others open about another because it finds its way around what you shove down there Every shove different stuff down there Some people walk into a Catholic church and they feel so open and so passionate So people walk in they can't stand it and when they will walk in the church Because how they were brought up different impressions that were put on them They were shoved into have to go to mass or whatever it is done to be Catholic could be any religion any tradition So you have these impressions inside that occlusion And then certain things can happen and you open that's all that's happening nothing else that's happening It is not about finding what you want is about ceasing to be blocked And that is something you're causing your blockages no matter what happens outside It cannot cause blockages inside it requires you to resist So something that's very traumatic means you really resisted it you resist it you resist it you resist it It's so much that you can't open That's a PTSD and these very serious psychological issues are What about some of these depressed do they have that energy? They have just exactly the same energy that Christen Buddha had Right period exactly the same right but they blocked themselves so totally that they don't feel any energy I used to do these things I think using them to the soul that you go for a boyfriend left you and they it was very painful and now you don't came And get a bear you don't take showers there's pizza crust all over the floor you're in a totally depressed state You don't even talk to your friends you just you've lost it you went down Okay, and you can't imagine coming back therapy doesn't help nothing helps always they need a phone call Yeah, I don't want to have the phone's the tire is ridiculous why people call me if you go to the phone As your girlfriend your boyfriend Hello, hello, I am so sorry The worst mistake I ever made in my life was leaving you I didn't realize it until I had to live without you Please forgive me can I come over I love you so much how you doing All of a sudden When you take an energy pill no all of a sudden all this juice comes flat inside of you clean the room up You take a shower you step all night talking and loving are you kidding me It is because you're blocked that's your no-fuel energy now if you want to sit there and say the only way I can get unblocked Is to have something outside Person-place things situation drug Have something outside of me Open me That's very conditional you will never reach the state I talked to about where I want you to be where you're just filled with ecstasy all the time Sharing it giving it Handling all of life situations with openness and compassion. You can't reach that state by conditionally saying I'm only okay if you love me. I'm only okay if you treat me the one where we treated I'm only okay if I get the car I water or the house I want or I get the job I want It's wonderful do it. I'm not saying not to do it by all means go to business But understand that's very conditional and those conditions don't last or even sometimes don't even happen So the way to spiritually says Learn to not shove this stuff down there and you're gonna find out that there's this drawing underneath and then it will flow And it's not all or nothing. It's not like oh it takes so long to be enlightened remember my sweet Lord I really want to know you it takes so long towards Harrison All right, no that's silly don't even dare look at it that way every single time That you don't shove more in there on top of what's already there You're closer to that shockedy And what will happen is if you do what I talked about while you're driving the car or the weather or what somebody said What somebody didn't say or what you think they might have said I like that one right what do you mean by that And then you start making this up in your head that closes you and bothers you Why are you doing that you have to stop there's a line or opposite or favorite line my new book living in tell it was the following The moment outside of you is not the moment in front of you is not bothering you You're bothering yourself about the moment in front of you I repeat that The moment in front of you is not bothering you You're bothering yourself about the moment in front of you stop it Catch yourself and learn to let go. I don't care you do it breathe positive affirmation All right, use mantra God's name. I couldn't care less But I dare you to say I am not going to close About that moment unfold in front of me and you keep letting go and what happens if you don't shove more down there I'm gonna as a warning sign. I'm telling you the old stuff will start coming back up Why because those of you who know business is called a life of stack last in first out You shove this stuff down there. That's what you need to think about that's the dreams Then to happen at night the surface level stuff And then the other stuff can't work its way up because it's got this blockage in front of it Don't put stuff down there. I'm begging you Don't shove the moments of the day down there and you will be happier Why because you didn't make yourself unhappy? All right, you didn't do things within yourself that close you and therefore still your happiness You're stealing your happiness the world is not stealing your happiness you are the world comes in the question What did you do with it when it came in and I told you you tend to do with it is manipulated control it push it away or cling to it because you liked it push you away didn't like it You're building a fortress inside that's very small and so you cease to do that and what will happen is the stuff will start coming up The shockty no the stuff you suppressed the first thing that will happen once you go through the what we call the honeymoon period where you start Oh my god, I'm so much happier. Of course you are You're not letting the weather close you you're not in the driving front of you close you So all of a sudden you feel joy you feel more openness. That's wonderful But then there's stuff down that's gonna start coming up Why because you're open You're open and right? What do you do you start practicing letting it go your next phase of your journey is to say I don't want this stuff inside of me But you understand how bad you treated me. I do understand. I do have compassion But I don't want that stuff inside of you is already over that happened a long time ago and yesterday is a long time ago By the way, it was 24 hours in between I don't want that stuff inside of you because I know it feels like to not have it inside of you And so when it starts to come up You actually feel the tendency to push it back down You you relax. That's what I found just you have the tendency to push it away The many you feel that tendency relax Relax the inner arms so they can't do that But then it's gonna come closer to me Yes, it is and if when it happened you would let it come all the way through it wouldn't be in there You wouldn't have sported no matter what it is it would have passed through Would have kept passing through but you didn't you kept it can you let it go now? And it doesn't matter how that it's in just you understand it was just nobody said about fair or justice or right or wrong Right any of that that stuff your mind is doing Okay, you just sit there and say I shove that down there It is screwing on my life It's keeping me from feeling the energy of capable of feeling that I want I use all this energy trying to get what I want Why don't you use some energy to let go of what's making you not be happy all the time And so you turn that effort inside Excuse me Turn that effort inside by relaxing and this stuff starts coming up and tell you it's just gonna start coming up Don't don't write me say me it doesn't work. Yes, it does work. That's what's supposed to happen The stuff will start coming up first the little stuff then a little deeper And you learn to handle it your practice is like practicing piano Now you can do scales. Oh boy now you can do twinkle twinkle. Oh boy now you can do some simple Beethoven piece Right you just keep progressing of what you're able to handle and you'll realize you can handle anything Until you close if you resist it it won't it won't keep coming back up But you have to decide I don't want that down there. I want a life of joy. I want it that by the way. I'm used the word god much The more that energy comes up the more you know god and I'll do that before I close to talk about that relationship But basically let go of this stuff that is coming up. Do I need therapy? Maybe you might there might be something down there. I love therapy. I love everything all right There may be stuff that's so far down there that you don't can't just see it or anything the therapist can help bring it up I'm not saying it any wrong without but I'm telling you that's gonna come up myself Period all right the only reason I'm coming by itself because you don't let it you push it back down If you will handle the day outside and let go and then the stuff starts coming up inside I know it's tough It was stored with pain is coming back with pain. Dersana. Why somebody asked me why right why does that come back with pain? Because you stored pain. That's what you stored You stored the bad food Why is that when you sick when I taste it again because it's bad food all right So if you don't like pain and you push it away when it comes back up. It's exact pain you save from your five-year-old Situation your parents got divorced later. It is that exact pain is coming back up The question is have you grown enough? He's evolved enough to say I don't want that down there Yes, it hurt and the hurts when it comes up. But I want to handle that hurt. I want to let that go I want to relax through it. That's what we call it You relax just like you do a yoga asana a decent yoga teacher doesn't tell you the moment you feel any tension get up They say relax into it. Just keep relaxing. Just keep relaxing. No relax more. I can't you should can relax It's the same thing inside. I can't handle this you should can relax Don't resist and you can handle anything when you're resisting. Yes Then then that resistance is pain and so stuff starts coming up by itself That's my experience with this path right? It's a natural path. It's not an extreme thing you have to do Just handle the natural experience that's happening inside And when it comes up let it go your first point is you won't you won't be able to you'll protect yourself from it You're trying to do things to make it so you don't have to feel it, okay? Eventually you will welcome it up. I'm telling you you will sit there and say come on up And then it will go to another level You'll sit there and I this is a beautiful level you'll get to Once you let go enough and realize that beautiful shocked is underneath there And you shove this garbage on top of it right when the garbage starts coming up You'll apologize to it Like you would do a child that was mistreated you say I'm so sorry Here's this pain of your childhood coming up and say I'm so sorry I shoved that down that I pushed you into a closet with dark closet imagine lucky kid in a dark closet That's what you did to your psyche that you did to that energy that tried to That happened that you couldn't handle you pushed it away and locked it down there. It's dark down there As Freud okay, that was all the teachings the suppression right you pushed it down there I'm gonna try to come back you pushed you right back if somebody's you you know The party with a group in this start talking about subject. You know comfortable with all right You either walk away or you tell somebody I told you I don't like when you talk about that. I'm not comfortable with that You're just pushing it back down you're keeping it Eventually you will apologize to that part of your psyche For having pushed it down there. You'll give it compassion you give it love and you'll help it up Instead of not welcoming it and the pain is the pain of soul birth not childbirth the pain of soul birth People go through tremendous pain to have children to go back for seconds and thirds some force and fists All right, and are you willing to go through what it feels like to let go of this stuff as it comes up inside And eventually when you start seeing what's behind it Which is this this flow of energy what energy the same energy you called love the same energy you called passion That's where it comes from it's natural within you. It's flowing up inside of you when you stop blocking it You'll notice your days are way more beautiful. You notice you don't love yes You love this person a person very special, but you also love everything You're so much like you can't handle your love. What should it be like right take your hand Wave it across your heart Waves of ecstasy start pouring through your being enough to air if you want to feel love Just lay down in the bed and pass out just feel the love that is how it is available to you It is your being once those chakras are open. Why don't I say chakras? All right, I don't teach chakras right? I don't have to teach you a thing if you do this and you keep letting go You will write me say they write me say I don't understand. I mean how all this pressure is happening I'm on center my forehead and I feel a tingling on the top of my head, right? And and and my heart. It's just it's bursting. What's happening? Well, there are things called chakras You don't need to know about them. You don't need to know their names. They're called you can nothing wrong with it Okay, but they're real and you're going to feel the shakri come up and open those centers all by herself You don't need technique the technique is stop blocking yourself and all of yoga all the spirituality all of beauty will happen by itself because it is your natural state So you relax through it and then some then the dealer comes up you look and you decide Do I want to let this go? What would it be like if you let this go? It's really hard and this has been some things will come up Do you forgot we're in there? They were way down there and Some things will come up that you don't have they got in there Now people have a past lives. I don't want to talk about it right? There's stuff down there That's very big Okay, as it comes up and it will come up the shakri will push it up the shakri does not want to be down there She wants to be pushed up she wants to be free. She's trying to let go and you're in her way When you start working with her Right? Welcome her Apologizing for blocking her you start feeling more and more and then some big one comes up really big people have big stuff come up And it's a rule what because instead of being red hot becomes white hot in the center of your heart I feel like I could never oh my god I can't handle this But do you want to know it's on the other side you have to want to know Was on the other side of your little self because there's something very very great you are not a human being You are not a human being that's a joke right? You're a being of tremendous power tremendous energy right Christ blushes when he looks at you if you're the vision of Christ and Buddha and Raham and coming down You who's looking at it are higher than what you're looking at Your consciousness your inner being is your divinity So but you can't find that if you got this junk in the way And if you think that you find it because you found the right job of the right marriage or the right this those are wonderful things And I'm not telling you not to do it right you work at both levels. Why all means you work outside do your best But understand it ain't gonna do it right the job that turns you on can turn you off the person who turned you on can turn you off All right, but this doesn't ever change The amount that you let go inside of you and you don't put more in that shocked is permanent It keeps flowing and it gets stronger and stronger and then what happens For it gets interesting as some point you realize I'm witness consciousness. I'm the consciousness Looking at this thing My Ramakrishna used to call this that's what he called his lower self this all right the body the psyche the mind the emotions They're just this thing I hang out with you start seeing it and you'll realize it it it runs your life Your mind runs your life and you're I forgot to tell you why in the in the Untied of the soul I'll tell you about the voice inside your head and that everyone likes it for that reason Really wakes them up all right Why does your mind say what it says when it says it? The more you let go the more you realize it was this stuff trying to come up Right and pieces have it chipped off and they hit your mind they hit your mental body and they create thoughts And that's why you think what you think and that's why what is your ego it is that which the mind Came up from underneath and you built a palace inside of yourself a fortress that says I like this I don't like this. I believe in this. I don't believe in that. This is my eye They are thought patterns whose roots are in your in your heart in your blocked heart And they just create an ego as you let go of this stuff The ego melts There isn't so much. I like this. I don't like this. I like to it's just love you just she alone conditional love Because it doesn't need to express itself in the mind that way and now you have pure intellect and you can find out your way Smarter you people have a lot of respect for very smart people you are way smarter than you think you are I don't even care if you're very smart right you're you're busy taking all your energy all your Inspiration and using it to block yourself using to push that stuff down When you let stuff up and it finally let's go you're way smarter than you think you are your mind sharp Because you're not it's not all cloudy with your ego The intellectual mind is brilliant and everyone has a brilliant mind and people say don't they think they don't think they're smart I say compare to what compare to muscular I shouldn't use that word nowadays Anyways compare to this person to that person or Einstein other better word but compare to Einstein right and the answer is no compared to a possum Compared to armadillo and you realize you have a brilliant mind And so you've blocked it and so more and more you understand it's about relief The relieving the blockages letting go the blockages. They have to let go you have to be willing to let them pass through you There's no way out except through you've heard that as there all comes up and passes through comes up and passes through and you start becoming happy filled with love Sharp your mind become sharp you have clarity and then something happens at some point you realize I'm the consciousness Watching this happen. I'm watching myself relax. I'm watching myself be blocked. I'm watching myself close And all of a sudden you start relating to yourself as the consciousness that's watching instead of what you're watching Now you watch your heart open and close who watches that you watch your mind be positive and negative who watches that Who is aware that there are thoughts who is aware that there's emotions who's aware that there's a body that has feelings Who's aware that the outside world comes into senses who's the end user in this game And you start realizing I'm back here That's who I am that I am not the ego. I'm gonna watch as the ego and little by little as the shock It comes up she's done so much already she brought joy into you She helped you stay open you got a beautiful relationships and that's what you think she's good for now you realize when She's pushing me out of myself. She's pushing the inner self the deeper self the consciousness back Away from this little thing that I've identified with my whole life my body my thoughts my emotions And you start feeling expansive not just happy within The container you start experiencing yourself as outside the container because your consciousness is only limited because you're Staring you stare at your mind you stare at your thoughts. You know that that's what you do all day all night You stare at your thoughts you stare at your emotions and you stare that what's your senses are bringing in That's the only's you're limited. You're not limited. You're completely expansive. You're universal Not you can become universe. So you are universal. That's something I love teaching right? This state or use it to go to God. I want to go back to God You are sitting in God right now every single one of you are merged in your own consciousness But you're staring at this tiny mind tiny body and tiny emotions You're addicted to staring at that. Well drug addict is addicted to a drug That's all they think about. It's all they deal with their whole life is about the drug That's what you've done with your personal self you stare at it But you're really sitting in the seat of universal consciousness staring down. That's the fall from the garden Don't make it weird sins and all of stuff right? If I'm sitting in a seat and I stare at a picture or photograph And I never take my mind off of it. I keep staring at it that photograph is my world There's nothing else in my world because that's the only thing my consciousness is taking in that's what you have done You're sitting in the divine consciousness totally filled with ecstasy I can talk about it right, but you're staring down at this one little tiny person. Oh my god There's three and a half billion of it. I mean 8.5 billion of you guys right just on the planet earth And a planet if there's nothing that's why I teach this I love to get an astronomy stuff All right, it's like the 1.3 million planet earths finisher the sun And you're on this tiny planet Right and the sun is one of three hundred billion stars in the galaxy and there's two trillion galaxies But you're a busy staring at this little tiny little thing And if you don't like my telling you that I'm sorry, right? I know you like to feel good about yourself, right? Feel good about this self Right? Otherwise you just stare at this tiny little thing caring about everything that happens to it and scared it so funny All right, so you learn at some point the shockedy will push you up It's an upward flow. It's a natural is it's a waterfall and opposite direction pushing you up So the ascent it starts pushing you up and your consciousness can't stare down comfortably anymore It can do it. You do your work. You do your job, but you know, that's not who you are You start relating to the more as the energy Than the energy of consciousness conscious energy then you do what you're looking at And it pushes you further further back and the further back you go the more ecstasy you feel And by the way, it's not selfish people say that selfish. It just can't hurt yourself. No You become a channel of asshole to where all that energy can flow through you and flow through you You don't do anything People say well, how can I become a spiritual teacher? I'm sorry. You don't want to ask me because no You don't have a spiritual teacher get here Die to be reborn. Let go of the ego stop staring at yourself and spirit is the teacher That's the only teacher there is is God get out of the way People say to me how do I bring up my child, right? I've trouble I want my children to understand all this stuff. What can I do, right? Let go of yourself and let God be their parents You don't want to be your child's parent to you or God get out of the way and you'll see that every single thing flows Seven billion times better than you could ever do it The ego can only do what it believes what it What it learned how it how it locked itself into this tiny little place The divine spirit can change everything and do everything So the shockedy is the answer Release free the shockedy let it come up all right, and it will start the whole spiritual path It's your whole spiritual path eventually and at the beginning we say will is an important part of the spiritual path It is eventually you will never use will This energy will come up and push you away from yourself And eventually the great ones the truly great ones merged Maribaba said Maribaba was an highly enlightened master because in an avatar that his consciousness was like a drop of water staring at himself And that drop got pushed back and dropped into the ocean take a drop of water and drop it into the ocean go find it You'll never find it it merged your capable of one is that Christ meant by my father and I are one right? It's just it's real it's literal and you're capable of that state If I could told you're in that state right now, but you're busy being addicted to your thoughts Your emotions what you like and what you don't like and what turned you on and what turned you off right you're addicted to that As you let go and realize that Stop blocking myself. You're gonna find out you're not addicted you're addicted to God All right They say your mind's a minute you're addicted to love right? Well you're addicted to this shockedy the shockedy will take over your entire life So this is spirituality It is letting go of the block it's not findings for spirituality It's letting go of the blockages that keep you away from it. That's another quote that roomy had that's very beautiful I won't get it exact Said it is not for you to seek love Is for you to seek and find all the obstacles you have put in a place that's exactly what we're talking about Every moment of every day You have the ability and the right to let go of yourself to let go of us blocking you by accepting the unfolding of life around you When it comes in notice that tends to close you Okay, there's nothing wrong with that don't get mad at yourself That's people say that I'm mad at my lower self. Don't you dare you built your lower self Don't you dare get mad at it. Don't you dare get mad at this energy to close Right you look at it with compassion and understanding and you do constructive things To not close and then what will happen you will feel the shockty and sure you all do you wouldn't be there if you didn't right But I want you to feel all the time. I want it to be something is constantly like people say I meditate and I feel pressure on my third eye Right that should be there all the time every second of your life You just feel a flow coming up to your third eye and and Let's say you had to do a presentation somewhere has to do something right some teacher Professor called and you said okay. I didn't tell you to do this. I did improv to do something right you don't have to plan You don't tell you this you're getting trouble right it will come to you Inspiration comes from above The thoughts of the ego come from below the ego only knows what it knows and only knows that it's experienced from above It's part of the universal it hasn't attuned into everything So you're all I can say is you want to talk about happiness? I hope that tells you about happiness right happiness is ecstasy Like what does the name for God and then the yoga tradition Such should a nun such should a nun eternal conscious ecstasy guess what does the name for the soul for the for the indwelling soul In the same tradition you know his name is such an under they're the same thing you are eternal conscious ecstasy To be begging for some joy or begging for love. It's just because you're blocked Your natural state is this complete openness now what about living in the world That people say if I had all that ecstasy and all that joy why would I get up in the morning? Because love loves to express itself Because passion loves to express and so on because creativity loves to create you're not doing it to get something You're doing it to express what you already have there's the difference that and you become a true giver You're not a giver because I have something and I really need it but I'll give it to you. That's my giving Right that's forcing yourself to to do something nice all right When you no longer need anything You don't need anything your whole and complete within yourself You think you need things you should blocked you need to compensate for it You compensate for your blockages that's what you're doing right if you let go of the blockages You will feel whole and complete all the time now when you interact with the world You're giving you're creating you're just It's ridiculous as natural Lots who call it the Dow Moments will unfold in front of you you will interact with them out of love out of peace out of compassion out of giving No need. There's no need. You have no needs. Yes. You need food clothing shelter Not much, okay? Very basic and and you're going to find out that such a greatness is inside of you. So I'm extra-minus will do some more questions But basically if you understand this you understand spirituality if you look at Christ's teachings You're gonna see these teachings are what he taught That you have to die to be reborn Right that that I You stand I say it in the knock I stand as a door and knock whoever will open I'll come in that's the shucks He's talking to you Man does not live but bread alone but we've been word to leave with the mouth of God All right, what does that mean you're not living off what's coming in you know, that's not an only joy or love You have what comes in from outside. There's this flow inside every word to leave with the mouth of God So I love you. I hope you understand these things because every moment of your life you can become a greater and greater being Not everyone's read your book. I wonder if you just take a moment or two So many people are business people here and tell them what you went through in your business and how you learn to let go and Situation that seemed incredibly difficult I'm a practical right back Thank you. Yes Her book I wrote was The Untethered Soul and that Very likes it. Oh percent of her favorite book and she tells her to read it so it's not well Living untethered I shouldn't be don't tell this Surrender experiment was the second book I wrote Because I figured I've been through so much and I've seen so much I want to share that as opposed to making it just teaching spiritual teachings And so I'm gonna read the book. I'm gonna go story, but I never had interest in money I'm not saying they're wrong with it. Okay, and now I have plenty But then the result is it wasn't it wasn't a goal of mine I didn't have interest all right and what happened is I started letting go of myself and different things came and asked me to serve as many do things uh Sheriff came out to my place and all the woods where I dropped out right and saw the temple we built we built a You know rust on because eight thousand dollars right and those days a rust saw on temple and he said who built this? Did you build this I see gas and he said would you build an addition up? Would you close in my carport because I love the cedar that you use I didn't have thought it started a business Right, and I didn't think I was starting a business. I was just okay. I said yes Why because I learned to surrender that's really versus atonic But I learned I was meditating six hours a day. I was doing such intense sod know. Oh my god crazy little boy All right, but I was I was doing it was the eye that was doing it And I realized at some point that's not gonna get it all right I have to let go of myself And so I decided to surrender to life then I was surrender experiment that if life brought something to me Well, I wanted to do it or not I would try to surrender or try to let go of the resistance that I have To allowing life to unfold and so he asked me that and I started building and I ended up with a construction company Not really big right, but it was just me and a couple of people But we were making money and I then I can tell the story at all amount to is I ended up walking to a rager shop store in 1978 and Saw this thing called a tier 80 model one tiny little toy computer that rager shop was selling one of the first ones out there And it fascinated me and I never I took one course in college Introduction to forks ran it was on punch cars by the way And so I knew nothing about computers. I brought it home and I taught myself a program Why because it was there and it was a challenge and long story short you both will read the book and they're writing And of writing a practice managed system to run doctors offices and before it was done 33% of all independent practices in the United system miracle running that software We're installed in the in the Smithsonian for the contribution we made Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc. It's just went crazy 11 blue cross-bush shields were Private labeling a product and historian all the doctors offices. It is one crazy I didn't ask for it There were no meetings. There's no planning. There's no venture capital It just all happened step by step. I just served where I could in fact and I tell it because that's what I was asking is How to end up right people say I said how to end up to sign a drug medical software. I didn't I was writing just a little packages for a teacher's grading system of the little tiny things And I got the same day. I got a call from someone in Jacksonville Florida A doctor and in Gainesville asking if I were out of the billing system that they could No one was building we're doing computerized billing in those days that I could do a computerized billing that would bill an insurance company And I didn't want to do it. It's a lot of work. Right? And I said I it could take two years See a year of two years to write something like that All right, and they said we'll wait and I already told them I'll try to find a package and give them I think was a $3,500 bid each I'll find a package that was something that I may have me somebody had I'll put it in be three or five hundred bucks It didn't work was filled with bugs. I couldn't do it and they said we Will wait will you write it? And I just felt this obligation. It's so beautiful. I feel like crying now There was no reason to say yes, but $3,500 each right and I said yes because I said I'd give them my word And this is what life brought before me and I spent the next year and a half of my life writing this package and sort of hiring some people to help and so on and that's how the whole medical matter Well package came and when it came time to put them into there as I charge them $3,500 nothing else That was it and to me that's why it all happened because I was letting go I wasn't doing it for myself I just ran the business as I could it became CEO of a public company we went public right at 2300 employees who do at millions of dollars in business here and I had never done anything like that. I didn't know anything about it I remember the first board meeting I had Public company board meeting right the lawyers had to tell me how to behave and what to say and what to do I never even been to a board meeting So all these things happen and I just use them to let go of myself and all these different situations happen I won't tell the punchline because Tony knows what I'm talking about right at the end of the book Wait, he's get the last section. I enjoy it very much is I just used every single thing that happened to let go of myself First let go then do your best first let go of yourself then do your best at what the universe put in front of you And that that was a surrender experiment Michael, I just wanted to Thank you because I read your book in the time of my life where I was deep in it with my fertility journey When I read your book it really humbled me to point where I was laughing and crying and I was like what in the world who is this man But your last chapter I wanted to ask you When that thing happened that we won't reveal What was you talk It was that last chapter that inspired me to to declare that my 40s We're going to be a big surrender experiment And my question to you as in that last chapter when you were When you were served what Had you surrender like how did you because when I was reading it I was just like what the heck how and The way you described it was just so like seamless but I know that there's a human here How did you fully surrender to it? So so what happened Is I got arrested And The six-year-old Our company unrest but the six-year journey for them to find out nobody did anything and they dropped all charges Other than the one person that had done stuff and lied and say we all did any event It's a very interesting chapter and it six years worth of the FBI and the entire justice department Doing everything that they can to put you in jail even though you don't even know if they're talking about It was it was very interesting So you asked the question the serious question how do you go through that? Well, I remember I saved the being of that chapter in the book I'm my own business go to go to work and I get a phone call from from one of my lawyers at the company Saying You need to come home right away come any off right away. I said why I'm in town And none of you come to the office right away drop everything into my office. Why? Well the FBI is here Why is the FBI here? It's a raid Right it was literally a raid right so I drove home came there. I had no idea what was going on No, no no no come ahead any idea what the heck was going on And so there was cup cars all over the place and sheriff's and FBI agents and took over the entire place and guns Oh, it's very exciting all right and they took me into a back room And say you sit here don't touch anything and I realized once I got some idea what was going on that somebody had Had lied and tried to blame stuff on on the upper management and basically There's no go through and the moment I realized it. I'm telling the truth because I trended all these years The moment I realized I said okay, this is the next thing that's happening I is a fairer or not right. It's not justice not anything, but it is what's happening. How do I use it to go to God? How do I use this to be the final nail on the cross To let go all right, and I just determined that's what I was gonna do that no matter what happened I was gonna let go Mickey at this this if you good one. If God wants to get rid of him This is a good one right and and I had to be honest. I had to let my mind think I don't know how does he end up this could end up in jail and I knew jail I did 30 years of prison where I'm actually in prison, right? It's not like I didn't know what's like inside And so I accepted that I said okay if that's what happens then that's what will happen. I will be fine I will be fine no matter what period I will use it for my growth I will use it for my growth. I will use it to get rid of my ego and that's how I went through that whole thing Yeah Beautiful. Thank you so much. Your book is truly a gift. Thank you Hi Mickey. I remember I love I Remember we had the privilege to sit with Mickey at our home and we were going through a challenging circumstance as well uh Certain things in our business certain circumstances in the media Tony's house We had a there was you know, it's the unique acute stage of life and Mickey just said that he said just Keep letting go and there'll be a day where it just all goes away and The notion of what you just said what Mickey just said is just so profound and powerful and a reality That it's like oh and this too To use this to get that much closer to one's nature to God Mickey you I can't thank you enough Uh the untethered soul is our Christmas gift every year Because it's such a powerful It's such a powerful experience chapter 17 Living our life is if it was our last day You were just ever so lovely, but I just wanted to share that Tony and I Uh, we practice this and continue to you just keep letting go in the name of your own peace And it truly truly works and then and oh and this too And this too. I'll say that inside my own mind. So oh okay God and this too To let go of to simply let go of it all in the name of our peace and happiness. So Uh, I just I'll never forget that conversation Mickey The Tony Robbins podcast is inspired and directed by Tony Robbins and his teachings It's produced by us team Tony Copyright Robbins Research International