The Trials of a Masculine Maiden

♪♪ ♪♪ ♪♪ I was trying to perfect that and then see, maybe I can appropriate your culture more. Hey guys, I am B for Better. And I am Jared McCain and this is The Read. Thanks for tuning in. It is The Read and thank you for tuning in. In fact, well, what month is it? March 2026. It feels like time after COVID. Maybe COVID. COVID was like when the universe hit fast forward. And it was like, whew, I'm bored. So, just skim through. Speed all this right up, yeah. But while we're here, let's talk about some Black excellence the way that we usually do this week. It is going to go over to an exceptional young man named Miles Dantzler. He is a third grader who has now been accepted into Mensa. Oh, work. If you haven't heard of Mensa, you can Google it. It's basically a society for niggas who will always be smarter than you. They never had a choice. And most of them go on to do things that are important for the world. And, you know, the rest of us check in with candy births. Miles is a student of Gates. Okay. He's a 3.7. 5 GPA. He's cute as a button. And he's here, I see on Instagram, holding his Mensa letter with his glasses and his cute smile. And Detroit. Detroit Public Schools. So, Dustin, you got another one. So, shout out to you, young man. Adorable. Okay. Let us get into pop culture segment that we call. Hot Tops Hoppers. I should leave the children stuff alone. I heard Hoppers is good. Oh, I was like, what the hell are you talking about? Yeah. Beaver movie. Yeah. I've seen a couple of commercials for it, but have not actually gone to check it out myself. It does look good, though. It's killing the box office job. Of course it is. That and Stephen Curry's movie. The goat movie? The. I did not know he. You haven't seen that? No. Mm-mm. He has a movie called Goat, which is why I think the film Him changed its name. Oh, right. Okay. But he has an animated film called Goat, where I think he voices the titular goat that wants to be like a big. It's his story. It's a tiny goat that wants to be a basketball player and all the other animals are like way bigger than him. Wow. They're like, you tiny goat, you'll never be able to be a bad bitch. And then he is. And then he is. And then he is. Okay. So. And I haven't seen it. I just watched the trailer. It's giving space jam. It's a little space jam-ish is what I'm hearing. Exactly. But without a human. Okay. Okay. Well, so yeah, why not? That's probably. You're probably getting a lot more promo for that because you over there on the West Coast. We're here. Nah. It's like, it's killing the box office, too. It's like number three. Well, I mean, I'm just not. I don't know why I haven't even heard of it, but. Because we're grown-ups. And you don't watch movie trailers every day like I do. Yeah, that's true. I don't seek them out. I'm not, like, looking to see what's coming out, but. Good for him. It is. Him and his wife. Number six at the box office right now. Looked like she could be. I think it was number three the other day. You. Okay. So when I saw the trailer for that. When I saw the trailer for that, I was like, okay, Steven. I know if this is going to eat. Because the children. They love the basketball around that age. And then it's a cartoon. And then it's like, oh, it's Steve. But Hoppers is sitting here right at Deuce. So what's number one? Sinners? Project Hail Me. Oh. Ooh, that's another one I've heard good things about. Now that one I have heard of. Yeah, I hear good things about it all the time, but I still don't know what it's about besides something with Ryan Gosling, I guess. Yeah. I guess I should look more into that. Something about. Something about. I think I heard or saw a video that he wore his own clothes in that movie. That makes sense. I don't. I think it's based on a book. Okay. I know precious little about it other than that. Same. So. But. I don't even really know what Hoppers is about. Is Hoppers not like Zootopia? The way I just be making assumptions. Zootopia 2 came out like a month or so ago, and the children loved that bits too. Yeah. It's like a hit ton. A shit ton of money. I thought Hoppers was a Disney. Is it not a Disney movie? When scientists discover a way to transform human consciousness into robotic animals. Uh-oh, AI. Mabel uses the new technology to uncover the mysteries of the animal world. Okay, cute. It is Disney. Distributed by Disney. That is very funny. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, maybe I will go see that sometime soon. Yeah, this sounds cute. I'd stream that. That's a cute airplane movie. Yeah. Okay, guys. Let's get into it. Let's get into the Hot Tops this week. I don't even really know where to start. Let's start with something silly. Well, let's not. Okay. Did you hear about this alleged Justin Bieber-Usher scuffle down to the Beyoncé? I did hear about that, but I wasn't sure if it was real. I'm not really sure if it's real either. There were a lot of claims that they got into some sort of heated exchange, and they had to be separated because of it. And none of that really seemed to be debunked anywhere that I saw until recently. Recently being this morning. Now, here's what we have. A source from Usher has said that the rumors are not true. I'm reading here on the Daily Mail that this source, he's been nothing but supportive of plenty of issues that Justin Bieber has had throughout the years. And y'all can check, actually check the records for all of that. He has been. Now, do you know who Usher's source is? Is it. The brat. I was about to say his publicist. Not the brat. The brat is on Ricky Smiley's monster. Okay. Since she spoke to Usher, and Usher told her, girl, they're exaggerating. And that was completely taken out of context. And how dare the children. So, I don't know if it's true either. It could be. It could have been something silly as one of them wasn't in a good mood, and both of them drunk, and then it just was like, man, go away. Oh, man, I was just joking. Hey, get away from me. It could be something super silly. And then someone grabbed one of them, and I was like, all right, you're a little too drunk. Just move over here. And then that does get turned into, well, you know what they said about what Usher and Diddy did to Justin, and Justin is sick and tired after that thing. Now, when I read that, I was like, well, I'll just have a little bit of honey in mine. That is interesting, especially because I did see an interview with Usher where he was talking about how y'all can't get him to say nothing bad about Puffy because his experience wasn't nothing like what was in the news, and we can't get him to say nothing bad about Puffy. We can't take away from all the greatness that a person has done and all this other shit. So you can't. You don't want your experience to be in the news, babe. Right, right. Because I. Usher, I mean, I don't want to say, baby, you're a victim as well, but the things that you saw and experienced at a very young age while under Sean's tutelage just don't seem like things kids were supposed to have gone through. And so I do wonder if there's some truth to that, like, Usher maybe kind of exposed Justin Bieber to some of the stuff that he also was in. Who knows? I don't know. And that's not even really like a brand new rumor. Right, right. So it's just that the two of them beefing at the goal party is like, ooh, what? Yeah, it's a good sparking. It is. It's like Flint. Right. It's like a good little sparking match for that conversation. Right. Maybe the conversation needs to be had regardless. Who knows? I think it's more likely that it's about money somehow. That. That. That! That Usher. Makes sense. That Usher makes a lot of money to this day off of Justin Bieber. Justin's like, I would actually like my things. And Justin Bieber looked like Jim Carrey today. He did. Okay. The real Jim Carrey or the fake one that flew out. Yeah, but, you know, no cameras, so we'll probably never know what was really behind that. Or if they came to blows, This seems unlikely. likely but i think it is very unlike if they come came to blows that would have been reported reported i think but either way i did hear at first it was like oh yeah they fought and then every other report from it that i saw was like it is a rumor but we're hearing that it was a heated exchange and then they had to be separated now if that is even true yeah i think that you are right and that it would be like hey where's my uh coin color i would like 28 million dollars that i believe you owe to me colored boy and maybe from there you know i think that's probably more likely but who's to say i think it's just fierce that the person reporting this and clearing it up is the brand that is so that is just so and i know you're gonna raise your baby with this cute lady go right on ricky you're a mom you already have a beautiful family you better leave that nigga speak for himself oh my god adorable they are so cute what's her wife's name so cute judy judy yeah big booty judy the two of them are really adorable fair yeah oh i mean i'm sure that's dude is that what they call it yeah i mean that ass is crazy okay that ass is yeah yeah yeah no yeah no no i would be shocked if she the reason that is even a saying because goddamn but um i saw a video with them too i was like wow yeah let this spread out so that everybody know lesbian relationships not always you don't just come over here and everything's great them two went through it as well um but yeah yeah let brad break the news why not that's so funny because nobody who isn't black is gonna hear about this um it came from the ricky smiley morning show like i don't think white people even too much know what that is oh right okay well all right so there that's the truth um i briefly spoke on here about cameron suing jay cole didn't i you did so now there's a teaser for a new episode of cameron's podcast or whatever it is and i'm like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh this podcast where he's like speaking about something and then he's interrupted because someone walks into the studio oh my goodness it's jay cole oh i am so surprised one piece shock face and then they do some little bit where it's like hey what you doing here bro i'm saying my lawsuit real lawyer really and then like graphic new episodes whenever i'm gonna watch it because you know this is my type of i love diplomats um but yeah i guess they piece it up and now they're gonna make content out of it yep hooray um fun do you want to talk about this settlement uh that is i guess out in the open for candy and todd let's do why not have you looked it over i have seen it yes i was what are your thoughts well are we gonna are you gonna sure most of this seems pretty straightforward pretty decent right yeah um nobody's paying child support there's no spousal support um they're gonna be sharing legal and physical custody between ace and blaze um ace is 10 now wow that's you thank you and blaze i guess that would make blaze like seven um they keep the kids passports no candy keeps the kids passports but i can request them if he wants to take them international that makes sense these niggas got like 12 cars so so candy gets five of them okay why do two people with a combined total of four legs need 11 vehicles this is such a really pertinent question wow a question that needs answers i'll just go down you know let's do candy is keeping oh my god a 2022 bentley suv a cadillac escalade a ford f-250 a porsche cayenne suv a 1963 chevrolet camaro camaro that well you know camaro work that's the word okay camaro a camaro i say camaro in a long time what does that one even look like if it's from 1963 this is probably some vintage pristine condition car that they don't even drive that one yeah right yeah it just stay locked up right right oh a camaro yeah oh this is like um this is a tv show car this is a movie car this is um i know this car i know this car this is the famous car like from a movie i've seen somebody tell me someone in in in the comments or somewhere please tell me what movie this oh yeah that i don't know oh it's not i'm not thinking of this from fucking transformers not the not that one who are you arguing with me me i don't know i'll figure it out okay but yeah it is a super popular car not surprising i recognize it so yeah she keeps those todd gets a 2020 mercedes g wagon wow a porsche 911 from 2020 a 2023 range rover a 1973 ford bronco okay a 1963 lincoln okay and a ford transit van what is that like a sprinter for all them kids candy was like it do look like a sprinter i'm not gonna lie i just googled it oh yeah candy said okay yeah you may have that wow all right well but you know i think back to to your little beacon in the sand right okay okay so candy and then and then todd and you have five cars i mean they're just rich like you're whatever right y'all are just rich she is just rich and so yeah it happens chris brown did some shit the other day too where he was you know i don't know trying to argue with so are going back for somebody i remember who don't care but his little petty response was to show off like each one of his cars and i promise you it was like 12 13 of them wow and i'm like okay here i am in my simulation i'm wealthy i don't know why i would have more than two two sure the bad bitch that i really don't take out especially not on this coast because girl just give it away yeah like at that point right and then the girly that we hit the beat with yeah seven cars for what i mean i i think some of them older ones are clearly like i'm imagining they're just collecting those right like that one minute like jay leno has like garage cars full of cars that he certainly doesn't drive and they're just yeah collectible yeah but i mean i i'm thinking three max like a regular everyday car but then you know what i'm thinking of regular every day max i'm thinking like you know a toyota camry or something her sound y'all everyday car is a bentley suv a g-wagon like we live in two different lifestyles i'm hitting the street in a fresh honda civic yeah but you know sure why not i actually don't that all of that made sense to me no child support no spousal support candy really won on that um what was hilarious to me was that oh i'm not done oh okay what to say because we didn't even get to the funny part yeah no i'm i'm just getting through the things that sound like oh okay yeah that makes sense you know a person having six cars doesn't but you know what i'm also thinking about the cars one of one of these is like hot pink with purple interior and a tassel that says pussy wagon on the front like that's when i'm like feeling my cunt yeah you know these cars are designed but still okay so they're selling a food truck the real estate is being oh no the real estate stuff was redacted oh yeah okay of course todd gotta leave the guest house within 15 days get out of our home beat it um now it says as far as equalization candy will be paying todd a lump sum of 426 000 426 000 of mama joyce's money they're splitting their credit card reward points which i think is hilarious hilarious can even They're like, no, those are worth something for real. No, because think about it. I mean, they are. Think about it. They probably have millions and millions of points. Yes. Yeah. Yeah, actually. Todd, like, no, I need them. I just would have never even thought that that was something on the paper. Right? But it does make sense. It does. What else does it say? Oh, Todd had to pay her $30,000 to satisfy a balance that was owed on some Atlanta Hawks season tickets. From 2025 to 2026, Kandi keeps the tickets. This is so funny. That is hilarious as well. That is what the splitting the credit card. A rich divorce is funny. And the season tickets. Because, listen, Kandi can't even go to them Hawks games. She will go now. I bet you she's going to see her and every one of them shits now with red bottoms and red tops. She's going to be, of course. Okay. Sure, Kandi. You got it. She's probably going to be sitting. Next to a mystery man before the season ends. Oh, now, if you are looking to, like, catch the eye of somebody else rich, then I can see how sitting courtside would be appealing. But I'm like, have I ever seen Kandi courtside at a Hawks game? She probably has been at least once or twice. I think that's more of him. I think he has been the one. Oh, these tickets? Hell yeah. Right. Oh, never mind. Google says she goes. Kind of frequently. So maybe they argued over it. Like, maybe they, I mean, but I would think you could just get more if you cared that much. But whatever. They're very expensive. It's expensive to have courtside season tickets, even if the NBA team is a flop. And that's still expensive. And let me tell you something. I think for Kandi, it was probably the bottom line, which is that I'm the rich one. You wouldn't have never gotten these without me. Yeah. Never. Ultimately, no, because as expensive as they are, Kandi got like three, four, five more jobs. Right. Upcoming. Yeah. She got a revival of, I can't remember what it's called. She got a new show with Taraji P. Henson, Cedric the Entertainer, and Debbie Allen is producing or directing it. And then she has a one-woman show also that just sold out. Kandi Kipa-Chek Burris. Like, she probably could go get some more tickets. But she's not gonna. But she's not gonna. Because she has probably had those tickets for a long time. I wouldn't be shocked if she simply bought them to have them. You know, Kandi is Atlanta. So, I mean, I guess it makes sense. It's just the idea of Todd giving that lady $40,000 to satisfy the balance due on that is just so funny to me. It's really, really, really funny. And then splitting the credit card rewards. It's just like, I know. I know Todd came up with that. Todd said, now, wait a minute. Yeah, that makes sense. A scheme set up. But, yeah, it sounds like Kandi really won here. $426,000 lump sum and six cars is really all he's getting. Yeah. So. I mean, to be clear, that's the equal of the fact that I'm keeping my house. I'm keeping my residence. And you're moving out. And I'm keeping these businesses. Most of them, anyway. So, here goes something. Shout out. God bless. Two prenups. Without a prenup, this would have been way worse for her. Way worse. Way worse. So, go you. I saw a clip of her on Watch What Happens Live. I saw it on my YouTube. And that lady was glowing. Oh, yeah. Happier. She looks fantastic. All right. What else do we have? Oh, apparently there are rumors that Nicki Minaj. Nicki Minaj banned from the Met Gala. And so, I guess we can just move on. Unless you have something to say. I mean, it's like she's not going to be allowed or not invited to the Met Gala this year. I mean, wasn't that always up to the designers and Anna Wintour anyway? I mean, yeah. I can see how a bunch of designers wouldn't want you there since you've gone full MAGA girl. It's not too many MAGA designers out there. So, I mean, especially not at that level. They don't make. They don't make cute things. They don't have creative. That's why her wigs and makeup and styling and everything has been a fucking mess lately. Because the people who are aligned with those values don't look good and they don't know what looks good. So, no. I'm not shocked that nobody wants to dress Nicki Minaj for the fucking Met Gala. She's an embarrassment. Yeah. Yeah. That album still coming out on Friday or you changed your mind for real, for real? We'll see. Interesting. It is. This light-skinned gay boy from some Tyler Perry thing said that gay niggas going to hell because, you know, if you gay, guys still love you because you love atheists and rapists too or whatever. I don't think he said rapists. Okay. Jesus. But he just named like a whole bunch of obvious people and then, you know, obviously horrible people. Horrible people. And then, you know, I mean, atheists aren't even, whatever. He just named all of these things and it was like, you know, you gay niggas too. Like, God loves you because he made you, but you can kick it with him in heaven. He definitely said you can't kick it with him in heaven. And he also said after you die, there's only two places for you to go, which is heaven and hell. Okay. I mean, that's a pretty common. Belief amongst Christians. I'm not sure why. But also, you're wrong. I mean. Because the Bible also pretty clearly talks about more than just two states of the afterlife. Furthermore, most, especially if you're looking in the Old Testament, like the OG baby. Furthermore, a lot of y'all still consider hell to be this lake of fire where you're tormented. Forever and ever and ever. And a lot of where that came from was also interpreted in a different way. And I think commonly you can look into it as a state of the dead and separation from God. Now, I mean. Faith, depiction, whatever. This is another part of the reason why I say some of y'all should just keep God out of your mouth. And just do your own spiritual due diligence. Pray. Tithe. Whatever it is that you feel like doing. But also, shut your ass up. Especially when it comes to condemning people that ain't saying shit to you. You know, right? Because a lot of times the girlies can dive in. I'm just not. I'm not sure what provoked him to say this. Like, you work for an openly gay nigga. You can take gay money as like a salary. But you can't. I mean, just now. Is he? Okay. Yeah, you're right. You're right. We are widely. Known to be gay niggas. So, I don't know. God not mad at you for that. If you feel that strongly about it, shouldn't you be? You play a gay nigga on this show. Does he really? When you said. When you called him gay, I thought you meant he was gay in real life. Which was like, okay. No, no, no. So, this is some self-hating shit. But, never mind. Could be. It could be. Yeah. I mean. Yeah, he plays like a gay prostitute on one of these damn TV shows. Oh, right. So, you can portray a gay person. For gay dollars. But, actually being gay is where God draws the line. Is that what you're telling me? This is actually quite common in a lot of men who aren't openly gay. Who play gay characters. Or feminine characters. Or characters who at some point in a bit have to like dress in drag. Okay. They immediately feel like conflicted in their. Manhood. In their spirituality. And all these types of things. And instead of doing their own individual work on that. Yeah. They have to spew out all of this hate. Because they feel some type of way about playing a gay person. You remember like Brandon T. Jackson making his whole career about how he got blackballed. Because he wore a skirt and a wig in Big Mama's House 4. Oh, right. Yeah, I had to Google him. But, now I remember what you're talking about. Mm-hmm. It is pretty common where people feel some type of way because they played a gay person. Probably because people then assume maybe you're gay. And then you feel some type of way at that. Even though, whatever. There's no excuse for this type of dumb shit. Especially when you're going to get on the internet for everybody to see. And talk about God. And God is going. Well. Don't get me in that. Well. I mean, the thing about it is. I think. You get stuck with this gay label. No shade when you're not that great of an actor in the first place. Because Sterling K. Brown has played somebody gay. And you don't see him being hit with these same accusations of. Because you played a gay character, you must now. Like, we don't automatically assign homosexuality to him just because of this one role. And I don't. I'm looking at Brandon T. Jackson's resume here. I'm not seeing anything super. impressive, like you wore a skirt in Big Mama's house like that. i i'm not seeing anything that would indicate to me that you've turned out some incredible acting job where people can suspend belief i guess like i'm just not or would just commonly request slash cast you for blank you have a very not a great actor it's gonna affect yeah getting work roll bounce but that's not to say that well tropic thunder is not a great one no like none of these are but it's not to say that hollywood does not also sometimes go oh that's the the this bitch and you know that that absolutely happens too but it rarely happens because you played a gay character or because you wore a wig in a bit right like almost never i just don't think that i think your acting ability it has a has an influence here that maybe you don't want to want to completely acknowledge like it it even looks like i'm looking on his wikipedia it looks like he's more of a comedian than anything else like he oh yeah brandon t jackson's was a comedian so then sir okay maybe work on your stand-up then bro i don't know what to tell you like yes hollywood is unfair and maybe some people have typecast you or pigeonholed you in that way but i don't know it seems like you've taken that out on the gays instead of the powers that be and what's the point of that martin has done it 1 million and 13. times and nobody in fact one of his most iconic eddie murphy characters is shanane jenkins yeah yeah no one was like there's martin but i get crystal he didn't just do shanane on that thing he had a host yes of characters that look like a host he was a white man in one part it was fun you remember the episode i love when we do that because it never looks good it always looks horrible and we like it they look terrible and the way white people love that movie no i mean i i think everybody loves that movie seriously it is so yeah but they look awful they look not at all like two white women like not even they don't and the fact that the fact that this big black nigga is like you know what i mean wasn't that terry cruz believing that this is a white woman and then and like wanting to her all of that was ridiculous and the whole gag being that he was black and not that he was a man at the end that terry cruz character was like this whole time you've been black and he was like bro i'm a man he's like but you're a black one yuck sean wins and scary movie oh anyway um i actually forgot what we were so he posted a uh an ios press release whoever uh whoever you know wrote this up for him you know maybe it was chat gbt they did a great job wait who posted it says all the things the the dude xavier smalls oh the tyler perry nigga tyler perry okay okay you know oh i look back on what i said on instagram live people who care about me reached out to me and told me about uh suicide rates among teens the stories of people like tyler clemenci the nine-year-old boy i'm like okay i'm gonna do this okay girl miss jip got you together miss g pit got you together honey tyler perry studios said here is your statement you can just screenshot this right right right it's bad enough out here right now you posted problems i'm getting sued left and right we can't have this well xavier as an openly gay man who also loves god um sometimes i think he's i'm his favorite i will say to you xavier that the silver lining and all this for me is more like a rose gold diamond lining because i know who the fuck you were to begin with like this is the first and last time i've ever seen you in my life i had absolutely no idea who you were this is legitimately my introduction to you because i'll watch that and i'm never going to i'm never so hope this helps i mean it sounds like he kind of apologized like oh once i found out that y'all be killing yourselves i was like okay god wouldn't want that either like all right and girl guess what it's not gonna stop a fag from watching so it's not you you were hired i'm sure you're you're very attractive i'm sure because tyler perry don't tend to hire ugly men um especially young ish men so you were hired to do a job and it's important that you just go on and execute that job also in the same boat as kid fury never seen whatever show you own and never will but you know not once it was deeply ignorant what you said and i hope the apology is real like i hope the the growth is there and even if you didn't type this up i hope you truly believe in that statement i really do i hope that even if it was first of all the ai thing is a joke well it's not really that much of a joke for me because it very well could be people use it like google but either way no and google is fierce now i mean i just put the little minus ai at the end of all of my google searches because i hate that ai overview but yeah oh yeah i'm not out there i don't like that hey the the google is giving you all of the things even without the ai the ordering is really right it gives me like it's all plugged in and it just takes i feel like it's quicker isn't it i have not noticed maybe i mean like i feel like it would take me less time to just press the google app on my phone and go um why did steph curry make goat mm-hmm then to like open an ai thing oh i guess it is the same amount of type huh well i mean the i guess so but that it the it's the difference in output that i'm thinking about more than anything else like y'all use chat gpt to answer questions when chat gpt will just literally say anything like nobody's fact checking that shit it just will come up with anything it'll give you fake sources and doesn't it just it google it no i don't think so i think if it googled it then it would be more accurate more of the time but yeah that's especially the youth they use uh chat gpt and tiktok like it's google tiktok is i don't think tiktok is as frightening for me but i also don't get it like i don't even understand how you would like if they if they have a flat tire on the side of the road they'll they'll tiktok search how to change a flat tire on the side of the road and it'll just show you they'll show you videos of people who are like this is how you change a flat tire make sure you have all these things blah blah so i mean i don't know i it it scares me a little bit it happens yeah you're i'm old i don't understand what you people i think that you know our parents and them generations when they saw the sidekick they were probably like get out of my face yeah like you're not going too far right oh girl when i saw the sidekick i was like the iphone came out and where are the buttons the fact that it was that crazy like the whole hype and everything behind the iphone i remember the elders being like and for what and for what you want me to go wait in line and spend a 200 and switch to at&t and do it for this crazy phone to to do what with you know like they just they didn't get it and and that's me now i'm like why you wouldn't just search youtube why you wouldn't just search youtube why you wouldn't just search youtube why you wouldn't just call roadside assistant why would you why would you ask tiktok like that's just not some shit i would anyway i'm elderly and i'm fine with that i can't even remember what i was a movie came to mind that i hadn't seen in a while the other day like a couple of days ago and i just put the name in google because i was trying to figure out if there was some place that i could stream it and i put the name in google and google literally has a thing on there that's like where to watch oh yeah it does like oh so convenient and it clicks you click on it it tells you where it's free where it's not how much it costs yep very useful i use that all the time actually i i guess in my mind i understand the concept of chat gp like using chat gpt like google because i it would give you words okay yeah and i'm used to like looking something up and reading so the concept of looking something up to get videos of it is is a little bit weird to me but i also don't want to come off as judgmental because again i'm just older yeah six seven you know oh man yep speaking of tallop hair gay ass why did poor uh lauren loris have to come out here and tell you that this picture with him and marlo hampton was ai why did she need to tell you that like why did you not look at that photo of tyler perry hampton at his event and go oh this is fake A, because it looks like AI, and B, Tyler Perry gay. I mean, I honestly would think that was number one, but, oh, I see the pictures. Wait, what? So why did- It looks fake. I mean, if you had never heard of AI before, then you might go, oh my goodness. No, especially this one with him, like, with her legs wrapped up on him, like, B for real. Y'all play too much. This is the problem with AI. I'll be glad when these people can start suing y'all behind this dumb shit, because this is so annoying. Wow. So Lauren LaRosa had to, she had to come online and be like, y'all, this is chat GPT. This is not real. Y'all, why would it be Marlo Hampton? Why would it be a woman around his same age? Why would it be that? No billionaire man does that. Sorry. They don't do that. You know? The little shady, pessimistic nymph that lives on my shoulder is like, what if one of the production girls was like, let's AI this up. Production of what? With all of these Tyler Perry gays. Oh. They're like, oh, we got all these butch queens making all these allegations. Let's get on the AI, girl. Oh, Lord. That's why it's 95 goddamn degrees in L.A. in February. Oh, because y'all doing this shit and asking and asking chat GPT how to get over your breakup. And chat GPT is just like, well, girl, fuck him. Well, how do you want to get up? First of all, you take some time to yourself, diva. Like, wow, you had to burn up the planet for that. You had to you had to kill clean water in Atlanta for that. You did that. It was worth it to you. Damn. God damn, man. Damn. Marlo Henson. I remember. Right. I mean, the photos are from a real event where they're. Did you see the other picture where they're like standing side by side? I'm not even sure which one is fake. I know the one where they were kissing. The one with them kissing is fake. Right. But there's one where they're standing to like side by side. Yeah. Because he had some event and she was there. And so someone took that and made it into them kissing, I guess. Weird. Did you hear about people using Grok to take people's clothes off? What the fuck is Grok? Grok is Elon Musk's AI on Twitter. Wait. And it can take people's clothes off? Well, no, of course not. Not anymore, I guess. Wait. What? People were literally posting like gym photos are sexy pictures. And then people would apply Grok take their clothes off and Grok would post nudes of the people. No. No. Dead ass. I think Elon Musk had to say some shit like we're going to reprogram it or whatever. And motherfuckers were rightfully reporting them and filing lawsuits. I mean. And like some of you bitches can go to prison for that. That is. Or jail. Whichever one. It's just way too easy for y'all to then turn around and do that. I'm sure you're doing it with women, but it's too easy for y'all to turn around and do it with kids. Oh. Oh my God. I'm thinking. So what's. I'm trying to stop y'all from uploading a picture of children and being like Grok take the clothes off. Like what? This is what I'm talking about. And obviously it doesn't really take you off. It generates an image of what your nude body would look like. But that's still. Teens. You can still take those photos. It's literally right here. And at. March 16th. Washington Post. Teens sue Musk's AI saying Grok made sexual images of them as minor. Wow. Wow. Who didn't see that coming? I mean. Why would you. Why wouldn't you. It just feels like if if engineers and real people still had jobs over there at Twitter, then somebody would have said during the development of Grok, we should put in safeguards to make sure it doesn't do things like generate nude images of people or depict them doing illegal or incredibly immoral things like what things they don't do. Oh, but, you know, Elon Musk. Maybe if that was the case. Maybe if that was the case, people at Twitter would be like. Why have a Grok? Oh, just have Twitter is a whole lot of. It's free. It's free, I think. Oh, my God. Anything on Twitter is free anymore. Everybody paying for this shit now. So they got a blue check. The way my first thought was somebody is going to use this against kids and then you're really going to be in trouble. And then, bam, teenagers. Fooing. Wow. What? You're a horrible person, man. Why wouldn't. No, the devil. OK, why wouldn't this be if you had a safety team, a protection and privacy department, if there were attorneys employed over there? Like, I know he fired everybody who worked at Twitter and kept that bitch running. But, like, just seems like. And if this is March 16th of this year. Yes, this last week. Incredibly wild, because I heard about this last year. These kids. And the allegation from him of, oh, we're going to fix it. So, OK. So you didn't. So either this happened before then and they're just now getting around to the lawsuit or you didn't fix it rapidly enough. That is possible. Oh, wow. That is possible. But. So now they are accusing XAI, which I guess is what Grok is really called, of distributing, possessing and producing with intent to distribute child pornography. Like that. Add blood. Put her in a bikini. Why would you want to add blood? Force her to smile. Why wouldn't the Internet? Oh, my God. This is like. Y'all going way too far. It's almost like people there have forgotten that it is a web of any and everybody and any and everybody. Right. OK. Well. And we should be taking extra measures to protect children and underage folks. You would teens from, you know, everything, everywhere, all at once. And that should be basic, especially considering don't you only have to be 13 to have a Twitter like you don't even have to be 18 to have a Twitter. So why wouldn't you? You deserve these. You deserve these lawsuits. I actually hope more of them are coming. I hope many more of them bankrupt that nigga. Take Twitter away from him and give it to somebody who I don't know, believes in. Following the law. Bare minimum. Just a guess. Just throwing that out there. The silly AI shit doesn't even really surprise me anymore, as much as I roll my eyes. But when I saw that shit last year, my mouth was literally wide open. I could not believe that it was possible to do it and that people were doing it like like crazy. Y'all are depraved. Because even when they saw that it was possible, motherfuckers are obviously going to go back to pictures that somebody's posted. Already like years ago and just re-upload it. And you doing all this. My pussy could be on him. You have to have a public account, right? Because otherwise Grock wouldn't be able to see your request. To undress somebody. Like you have to make that request publicly, right? Can you DM Grock? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So y'all are on your public Twitter accounts. Yeah. Tagging this AI and being like this woman who's in a burqa. Go on and put her in a bikini and put blood all over her chest and then make her smiling and on her knees with a dick in her mouth or something. Like I just. Y'all, you have to be one sick motherfucker to even think of that. How did you even think of asking the AI to take somebody's clothes off? Overly freaked out. I mean. Horny. Go to jail. I feel like the grass cut all over the planet right now. And everybody, the snakes are just like. Yes, girl. Because there are so many corners that I run around and oh, here's another freaky ass, weird ass, evil ass wall. Let me do a 180. Oh, it's a maze of freaky demons. It's really feeling like that. The Epstein class is everywhere. Right. When you have grab them by the pussy right up top, who's still a gargling cum. Everybody is like, oh, well, why don't we do this? Why don't I also be an outside fucking pest and demon and racist and criminal? Because, I mean, if she can. Anyway, duh. Tyler Perry wouldn't kiss no woman in public. He's gay. I forgot that that's how this started. Oh, Lotta was pregnant. Oh, yes. I had no idea. I had no idea there were even rumors. Well, she posted a picture before this with her belly out and people were like, oh, what's this prosthetic? And I was looking and I'm like, OK, I don't I'm not super smart. I don't do like makeup and prosthetics, but this girl. Well, she's just always so much of her music has been like, oh, girl, baby mama, it could never be me. Don't know what the fuck you hoes is going through. Why would y'all even do that to yourselves? Like, so I think it's surprising in that regard. Like, we just had the Big Mama No-Key it's on that summer walker song or whatever it was so but now she has a kid yeah i think it's just a little people are probably a little one of her own girls comments was like big mama one kid i don't understand why rap niggas can constantly rap about gang shit crime shit that they don't do or believe rappers like future can rap about drugs that they don't take don't lotto crap about i don't know them niggas future always future has said a number of times that he don't really drink lean or he could be lying oh okay but there are a number of rappers that talk about pills and lean and all this other stuff either taking it or selling it or both and they don't yeah so lotto before having a kid being like big mama no kids i'll spend 500 if i ever trap you or whatever yeah now she has a she's expecting a baby with her boyfriend at like six seven years and y'all jump in her comments trying to drag her around about it i just think it's weird is he really married like i think he is married to some girl who now has a boyfriend i think he has some kids with her too yeah he has some people are like well that's how he got his visa or some other shit but i'm like i couldn't tell if he was actually married that's what that's why i was like uh i i i am looking at this a little strange if that man is legally married to somebody else because why would you go into a messy situation and make it messier by adding a baby to it but i couldn't see wife like the picture yeah and i couldn't see no confirmation for as to whether they were really married anyway i just ended up finding out that he has three kids these two boys with that lady and then a girl with i know he had other kids yeah so but i didn't know about him being married until this thing happened right i mean congratulations good luck the yeah good good luck baby i'm just like girl all right you having a good time or whatever i suppose because you feel like okay well now you you baby mama do you okay well you're when you're finished with that you post your fucking remedial ass hoe ass stupid dirty ass baby daddy too let's all just get in some suit like bitch please you think we can't still scroll back to your fuck nigga with another family hoe oh damn with another family you think we can't talk about your daddy bitch girl shut your ass up anyway that's all i got wrong oh wait megan the stallion did broadway oh i thought you were gonna talk about the jay-z thing yes she did the jay-z thing the gq interview you haven't seen the gq interview oh i haven't read it yet oh okay i knew about him being on the cover but i haven't read it it's pretty good i'm definitely gonna check that you know he's doing a roots picnic with i want to say eric about dude yes he's doing roots picnic and he's doing three shows at yankee stadium um i think in june or july but i don't really know uh because it could just be i mean you know he's had a he's put a lot out and it's the 30th year anniversary of reasonable doubt medley shit he could easily easily go the sense again um just do that but yeah he you know also that hair is not cut but also he did say i think to gail king that blue ivy was like no he literally said blue ivy was like do not cut your dreads it's like your look or something i thought that was so fierce that lady has been that girl has been bullying them since she got here you you really should you should read it um that he talks about how so the beehive is going crazy because he said something about you know blue's uh journey on stage blah blah we all know blue worked really hard for this and you know wasn't handed to her then he said something like you know she wanted to be on stage for every number and i'm like you're not gonna be on stage while your mama dancing while your mama singing six inch heels like be for real and so then the so then the hive of course the hive was like now six inch heels was not a part of renaissance it was not a part of cowboy carter so is she currently in rehearsals for act three and if so is six inch heels a part of that like they they taking it as him slipping up and providing a little bit i said you know what hive i'm not mad i'm not mad why do we do this every fucking year we drag ourselves it is fun though i love it this lady pick a flower and we're like lavender lavender uh peony peony's the next one okay look it's a daisy it's got six petals that means six days until six weeks until she announces the album in six months on the sense it really is fun it is fun but i mean we gotta be getting an act three right we gotta get the rock soul we gotta get the fuck not this year though i think everybody who was worried about during this year we do not have to worry about it i don't think it's jay-z's turn to do that she gonna be i don't know somewhere with them kids i was not playing the hunger games but i literally refused or what you might call it rehearsals like yeah or just thankfully kicking up them legs and cradling them kids and watching heated robbery like the rest you think beyonce ever watched heated robbery maybe i know i i have a feeling they watch a lot of trash like not saying that so it's trash but i know they watch or watched um real housewives of atlanta because when she said that i mean me well technically me because i haven't watched that shit in a while right but i think she probably watches you know bridgerton and all that shit she probably really does um she probably watched paradigm so there was that that he talked about and then he also talked about the drake and kendrick b which was shut up okay don't tell me don't tell me okay i won't tell you i won't tell you we'll talk about it next week but oh i wonder if it's on newsstands already oh that i don't know i bet i buy my probably yeah in the mail of course you subscribe okay but then you get the fierce ones yeah like when the girls are on the cover i have a couple of those tucked away but then i got one with like haley b brown and i'd look through this and turn garbage um yeah i get essence in the new yorker like you know oh the new york little physical media and you know trying to keep black publications alive i mean era but yeah you should you should go read or or watch the the the video of it is out too on gq's website but you should because he he has some very interesting things to say about when he talked to i'm not okay i'm not gonna talk about drake and kendrick but he talked about choosing acts for the super bowl bad bunny came up and he was like i mean let's be real i'm not going out on a limb here i'm picking the biggest artists in the world like this is the most streamed artists in the world it's fucking rihanna you know like i'm not picking some indie nigga out of portland that ain't nobody ever heard of that i really want to see do a show like yeah i it got the people talking but right he said yeah y'all were y'all had a lot to say about it but that's the most streamed artists in the world it was not no hard decision to be like oh i don't know maybe bad buddy who should we pay that really tickled me but i'll save the rest of the commentary for after you get a chance to read it because it's pretty interesting nice yeah yeah i just did i really wanted to mention real quick uh megan oh yes meg on stage which at first i was like are you niggas supposed to be recording i don't know that i like that i think y'all not supposed to be oh people in the audience no you're not supposed to be there yeah but especially that close to the dance right that's how i saw the clips so thank you but i was also like oh this is megan the stallion concert okay yeah i i didn't realize she was playing herself i said oh fun right i was like okay that's fine too i guess you look great oh well yeah uh congrats girls i'm wondering if they're gonna go back to bob the drag queen after this if he did like the remainder to i really don't know all i saw was this curtain call oh yes i saw that um i saw a video he posted about you know like his mama would be so proud and he posted the little audio clip from from um inside out remember the first inside out where bing bong had to sacrifice himself so that joy could go back to riley oh my god please don't start he posted that about his mom i did not see that and i was like okay not me crying in the middle of the club why would you do this i i saw the post about you know it being bittersweet yeah yeah and so many of those milestones being bittersweet and my heart just broke yeah i did not see that thankfully because i also too would have been yeah yeah that actually it brought a tear to my eyes oh god i know she's so proud of you though bro gotta be yeah like i really truly do believe in them staying with us in a sense and and seeing us and it doesn't like it's still bittersweet you know what i mean it it doesn't really uh fully heal the grieving process or make it even better but you know she's there and probably doing backflips yes girl yeah it's all baby a world or i don't know if she went out i don't know if the madonna thing was a world i think it was yeah but honestly once you're with madonna once you leave america americans are like world tour wow that's very true that's very true one show in tobago one show in london one show in paris and we're like wow you went all around the globe there's nowhere else that is so fascinating uh yeah you know it is it's quite something to realize a dream like that and have that be such a beautiful moment but also your mother is not physically here to share it with you um but i also believe that you know the people we love and cherish deeply like that we carry their spirit in our hearts with us so yeah um yeah anyway go meg very yeah happy for my girl oh what a life love you to form some more of the songs from the show but i mean wop during moulin rouge is different that's it for the hot tops this week we're gonna take a break and then we'll come back and we'll see you next week we are back folks i am a huge nerd and just got an email that's it from variety that says stephen colbert is making a lord of the rings movie with his son what at warner brothers that's so many words that feels so random but apparently he's a huge huge huge fan of the books and movies so okay sure well now that i got that white fact out of the way let's talk about your letters indeed send your questions to ask the read at gmail.com we may read them aloud on the show our first letter this week comes from ilmari who says let me preface this email by saying you guys are amazing and hilarious and i love y'all so much chrysal your laugh makes my heart smile and it warms my day i think you're gorgeous and would love to slide in the dms but you probably would not want that after reading this email ha ha ha 13 years old i love you so much i love you so much 13 years of lust like lust and that is you guys it has been so fun for me truly um me too bruh i have no idea what i'm doing out here in these streets i'm a 36 year old not not like ilmari okay i'm a 36 year old stud or at least i thought i was i'm currently struggling with my identity work a few a few months ago i met this guy through the horrible algorithms that are facebook dating my settings were strictly female on female but somehow a nigga got through and hit me up see not gonna lie old dude was decent looking and respectful with his approach so i chatted with him for a bit but i gave him a disclaimer that i was gay and only into women and he was cool with it i'm a huge gamer and anime nerd so we started talking about games and anime eventually he asked if i wanted to link up for lunch or something since it's hard to find gamers in our part of virginia who like the same thing i decided to soften my stud look and at lunch i was giving more stem or tomboy vibes after lunch we went to a vintage video game store which was pretty amazing fire and afterwards it dawned on me that this was most definitely a date my first date ever with a man but it was chill so i wasn't stressing fast forward a couple of weeks he invited me over to pay to play b blades talking about hey boys that is so funny that is deep now i wouldn't even play that he wanted to show me how he let it rip which is a bay blade saying okay bay blades are like these toys maybe you saw them they're older shit but they were like a top that you would stick like a thing in and then you pull it and it would spin spin oh that's what those are called the way i thought that y'all and then let it rip i thought it was a dreidel was like i didn't know which i was playing with let it rip is pulling the thing out yeah wow in my spirit i knew shit was about to go down but i was curious so i'm like fuck it i'll go over there with my b blades and my switch and it'll be cool that that is the one time be wise bay oh okay i just realized that i keep calling it b blades because i'm like of course you're saying b blade because that's what it's saying i'm sorry okay my bad continue nigga i got kaylani folded my boy i mean folded my locks pulled choked i mean the same shit i'll be doing to other women all that shit wait what yeah and that's not all i went back five and i went back five separate times and now i'm just like who the fuck am i maybe bisexual don't get me wrong i'm trying to embrace this newfound bisexuality but i'm assuming i can't call myself a stud no more huh after years of struggling with who i am growing up in a southern black christian household part of me feels like i did this subconsciously to please my family and another part of me just thinks fuck it i'm grown i'm bi let's move on i probably wouldn't care so much if i didn't go through years of self-harm severe depression attempts on my own life and lots of therapy to accept my lesbian identity just to now get with a dude it's a lot to unpack and i also find it pretty comical that i'm struggling with these things at 36 how can i navigate this much love ilmari ilmari my good sis of the community well here i would say first of all i wouldn't consider this you subconsciously trying to please your parents like you saw a nigga you thought he was attractive here we are yeah it happens um i would speak about this in therapy not because of what has happened but be more for how you are thinking it the way that you're analyzing it and just how you feel because i could tell you just from my observation and experience there are people who have this sort of experience or awakening whatever you want to call it 20 years older than you and it's completely fine um and i don't think it has to i don't think it has to impact the way that you label yourself i think i know a lot of people would be saying like oh i don't believe in labels and sometimes that is obnoxious but you are in a sense you know what i mean yeah sometimes it's like oh don't put me in a box like okay girl okay so okay i mean that's your right when trade says that i'm like all right hon like you got it so you don't wanna are we doing this or not we're not acknowledging who we are okay got you right okay because you're gonna leave until right right you're gonna pretend this didn't happen so all right i would say that as you're you know having whatever this moment is with this gentleman don't be like am i a stud now am i not a stud you're having a good time i mean you said you have softened up your look for this person and i would i don't know what the the term is for that anymore but there are there are girls of the culture who aren't giving you a caesar and distressed baggy jeans and ones you know what i mean there are some that might might wear like the sports bra but with maybe a legging no they absolutely maybe just a little something maybe a medium coverage foundation maybe a gloss lamp ultimately though i don't think it has to be like this whole thing especially with like especially with being a lesbian or like a gay guy i think many if not most of us have phases in our aesthetic or approach like and it's completely okay like it doesn't have to be something where you're thinking who am i it's not something that you have to accept this y'all forever you can have a moment where you fuck it on this one nigga that you're really attracted to and then that goes wherever it goes you're like i had a good time yeah and then you go back to strictly girls it could be a thing where it's just like i think i'm bisexual either way i think you just need to give yourself a little bit of grace don't let these decisions like set up deep roots in you and your identity um do talk about it with a therapist so they can professionally lay out some some thoughts and paths for you and other than that get that dick honey as long as he's treating you well y'all are having fun and your little you know in between isms you're letting it rip and then you're getting ripped you're letting it rip and you let him rip okay all right um i agree i think maybe because stud has such a specific definition i can see why you're struggling um but also just because you sleep with a man doesn't mean you aren't gay the girls with kids love to say that so girl um it could be i think we we can sometimes struggle with this because we don't really want to acknowledge how much of sexuality is a spectrum and how many people are not exclusively one or the other but like yeah under certain i know too many gay niggas who are like under the right circumstances a pair of titties might could get me like literally it's too many it's too or or they but like the right stud you can go on and bring that backpack girl bring that backpack over honey can i tell you how many gay niggas i've like i've been friends with are known been like girl i just got back from brazil i got a crazy story to tell you i looked up and it was a woman there and i wasn't mad and she just joined and i've never gone you and she just joined right in noah's ark season one it's giving like i've never responded to that like oh so you're bisexual i'm just like oh my god look at you trying new things sometimes you're just having experience y'all linked on a on a real level like you're really into games and anime this nigga is too he was not ugly that helps seems like he was nice vintage game store like yeah i might have i might have developed a crush on him too and you even said when he invited you over to play beyonce blaze that you was like i know what's gonna happen i will not call them anything but beyonce blaze i can't believe it's not b blades like it's really bay blades it is and i did not hurt beyonce it is not there is no excuse for that because most of you bitches do not know what a b blade is furthermore her name is pronounced beyonce she says b all the time her mama does her sister does her friends and family her husband does you bitches are out of line call the blade bay fuck wrong with you bitches and it still looks like b yeah it continues it does i i will anyway that's what it looks like to me i'm like the fuck are y'all talking about um but yeah and the fact that you have gone through so much to get to this place of accepting yourself it also sounds like that's partly tied into your masculine identity because yeah you're like not only am i gay i'm not like the feminine can hide it everybody can pretend that i'm not gay i'm like the here she come in these tims like god damn your grandma like why don't you put a dress off for easter for granny won't you won't you put it on you see it looks so pretty like you you one of them so it can be more complicated for masculine presenting women in that regard so i see how this is kind of fucking with you but um so i agree talking to a therapist is really going to be useful here but also sexuality just is what it is um you can just be having this experience with this man and then maybe you go back to women maybe you are bi you don't have to you don't have to decide right now you can just enjoy yourself and ride this way i mean you didn't mean i can tell that you did not mean and enjoy this time in your life enjoy this young man who knows um i just wouldn't tell my family because they're gonna get their hopes way up girl and that's gonna piss me off that's gonna piss me off true i don't even know if i would tell a cousin bitch yeah i'm not telling like no that is true yeah now if some time goes on some therapy some reflecting and it's like oh i'm fully bisexual yeah maybe then you can have a conversation i don't i still don't think i would tell my family unless i was getting engaged to a man i would not get him unless i was fully about to marry a man that is absolutely correct but either whatever place you land at fully gay bisexual pansexual none of them are wrong all of them are completely valid and okay but i think you're right chrislyn that like you spending all that time to get to this place and be firm in this identity um has a lot to do with this confliction now right but i do believe that you can get through this just you know you don't have to this doesn't have to be some big uncoming out either you could just talk to him about it talk to this man be like it's very crazy to me that i was a whole honking dyke and now i'm over here getting flipped and folded over by you like this is kind of fucking with my mind a little bit she said he fucking me like i fucked the girl yeah yeah it's also not uncommon to be struggling with questions about sexuality at age 36 um a lot of people find that their sexuality shifts or they discover things about themselves that weren't there before or a combination of those things like that's just not unusual and the most important thing is that you're not judging yourself or beating yourself up for these feelings but you know you're you're just having a human experience babe it is what it is and because girl if i can just tack on an example real quick i cannot with the girl's be like a nigga who is a top top top top top top top 90 99 percent of the time goes ahead and takes some dick because he liked this nigga or his whatever and just tries it out oh so you're a bottom oh so you're a verse bottom yeah what you can't just have some fun and we can be strict sometimes the the gays can be very strict about you know the roles that we think a person plays and if you step outside of what we think you should do then you're not really this and i just think it's important to shut out the noise when it comes to how you feel about yourself like right don't let the online discourse and you know the films on tiktok talking don't don't you are just one person having your own unique experience and you're not hurting nobody you're not lying to nobody right so there you're not doing anything wrong in that regard not having unconsent unconsensual right right right you're grown you can do this if you want to so right best of luck baby our next letter comes speaking of gay niggas comes from mateo who says dear kid fury and crystal that's a good name thank you i picked it out for him yep i'm a 31 year old black educator who's having a bit of relationship of a relationship issue right now i'm in a five-year relationship with another black man who is older than me by 17 years emotionally intellectually and financially we are solid but the bedroom component has been falling short when we first committed to each other we had extensive communication about sexual boundaries one of his was that penetration is off the table i had an internal conversation with myself and included and concluded that sex doesn't always have to be literal intercourse in the first couple of months we had it multiple times a day i'm not going to lie but somewhere around month three sex completely stopped now mind you they've been together for five years right don't get me wrong i understand that relationships with anyone is full of ups and downs and life will continue to life but this complete stop in sexual activity makes me feel like he's not attracted anymore that's due to past trauma in relationships where guys would start to pull back sexually because they were done emotionally or already sleeping with somebody else girl over the weekend i had a relationship with past three years i've had four hard conversations with him about my need and desire for sex from my partner i've told him about my experiences and how the lack of sex makes me feel we do have these conversations and in the moment it seems like he gets it but then we get thrown back into the regular swing of work bills dinner and going to bed yes he does all the cutesy things in relationships like kisses just because and washing my car and filling the gas tank but i need some type of romantic touch from him he's my best friend that's a big one that's a big one huge uh he's my best friend and i love him with everything in me but sometimes the lack of sex makes me feel like he's not attracted to me anymore should i continue to bring this up to him in the hopes that he finally understands me if you were in my shoes how would you approach this conflict is sex a necessity in your romantic relationships and if so how frequently thanks mateo so first of all savannah slow down right you do not need to know how frequently i require sex in my romantic relationship that's a little bit outside your business right that is a little bit outside your business but i will say i'm not asexual so yes sex is a necessity in my romance and it honestly it has never even come up the idea that we might not have sex it has never i've never had that conversation with anybody but it's a necessity in my romantic relationships and it's a necessity in my romantic relationships it has never come up i mean i haven't been before breakfast after breakfast during the shower before work on the way back from work right i haven't done that you know what i mean but Five years of being with somebody to fill up the gas tank and wash the car and you take the trash out and y'all sit together and watch the news and blah, blah, blah, blah, and no sex is odd to me. I feel like even couples that's not super getting along or not on the same page in a household still fuck. Like, the girls don't even, you know what I'm saying? At least once a month. I'm saying, it's like when the girls get to a certain age, maybe, you know, 20 years married, now they in 50s and 60s, they'd be like, girl, don't even look over here. Like, maybe. And that's some of them. Right, some. I just, I don't know, Crystal. I feel like, Mateo, I would not have a fifth conversation with this nigga about this. No, I think y'all are just on two different pages sexually. What is there to be done? Right. You with this person for five years, you say he's your best friend, you're crazy in love with him. Doesn't sound like he's not in love with you, but it makes me think of what you brought up. Pulling away emotionally, not saying anything, or fucking somebody else. Yeah. No sex? Well, it sounds like he is not a very sexual person, because, I mean, I don't know what his reason is behind the no penitentiary, I don't know if that means no penetration can happen, or if you can't penetrate him. I'm not sure what exactly he means by that, but like he said, like Mateo said, there's lots of other things you can do, and y'all was doing that for a while, but that was only three months in, and you've been together five years, so y'all have not fucked in over four years. I. So you have a roommate. Well, not necessarily. It would be different if. Because y'all are clearly in a romantic relationship. Kisses, and he's spending $90 to fill up your gas tank, that's, you know, that means something, but you want more than that, and he doesn't want to give that. And I think that's really what it comes down to. I don't want you to do anything sexually that you're not comfortable with, but I am a sexual being. Have sexual desire. And I want. Right, so. Yeah. The only conversation I would be having is, are you willing to open this up to where I can sleep with other people? I was thinking about that, too. Yeah. That would be the only conversation I would have. And if he's not, which is understandable, then I would say, thank you for the past five years, although I don't know how I feel about. I don't know how I feel about a 26-year-old and a 43-year-old getting together. That don't sit right in my spirit, but. Oh, that's right. I didn't even consider the time. Because y'all got together when you were 26. You're 31 now. And he's, I'm guessing, like, 48. So. 48. Right. But if he's not willing to open this up sexually, and you might not even be willing to fuck other people. You might be like, I just want to fuck my man. I want to fuck him. Right. Or, you know, or go back to sword fighting or whatever y'all were doing before that was so fun that, and then he just stopped. If you're not, if we can't get back to at least that place, then we are, sometimes we are just incompatible. And we keep trying to force something to work with somebody because you want it to work, and because all these other things are great, and maybe I'm not going to find nobody else who just fills up the Honda Civic and don't ask no questions. Yep. And washes the car. And washes the car. And little kisses and hugs and stuff like that. All of that is so nice. I don't want to give that up and have to go back out there and try to find somebody else, but you're not fulfilled. And you don't deserve to live a half-life because of fear of the unknown. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the unknown. Fear of going back out there. Fear of being alone. Like, you deserve to get everything you need out of a romantic connection. So it really sounds like this one is going to boil down to incompatibility to me. So that's how I would do it. Yeah. If we can't figure something out, then unfortunately we're going to have to part ways. And I'm wishing you the best, but this relationship is not what I need. Because I'm talking about like, okay, we've been doing whatever for three months. You probably have like another six to seven months before we start arguing. Like, I am going to be yelling. Like, I'm just not. Because, huh? So you've been with this nigga for five years? Right. I honestly didn't consider it at first because I'm like, okay, so they've been dating five years. He's 31. I'm like, are you 48? All right, that's a gap. But you're in your 30s. Right. Yeah, I think you should go ahead and just, you know, do exactly what Crystal said. Clasp her hands and be like, Well, this was really fun. I had a good time. I can't lie. But I'm going to wish you well on my way out. Yeah. Good luck, babe. Hope it works out. Our last letter comes from Amethyst, who says, Hi, Crystal and Kid Fury. Two years ago, I met my boyfriend Andre through mutual friends who set us up. He was confident, grounded, funny, and very into me. Just like I was into him. And I love him. We instantly connected on our core beliefs as well as both of us not wanting kids. Growing up, I was the late bloomer, funny friend who was never getting approached by guys. They liked my personality and my humor, but not enough to date me. And I embraced it in an effort to cover up my low self-esteem. With some therapy and work on myself right before I met Andre, it was easy to let my guard down. And in the relationship, I began to feel, for the first time, safe, affirmed, and chosen. Over the past year, I've been able to feel safe, affirmed, and chosen. For the past 18 months, I've gone through what feels like a full-on life transformation. I decided to put in the work, and I've been really consistent in the gym and feel the most confident I ever have in my life. I walk into rooms differently, dress differently, and overall show up differently. Meanwhile, Andre is having his own character arc and has been dealing with rapid hair loss, which hit him hard, some weight gain, and losing a job he loved. His confidence has taken a noticeable dive. The man who used to hype me up is now quieter, more distant, and just not up for the fun we used to have. I'm still very much attracted to him, but this is the first time in my life that I'm getting so much attention and compliments and flirting, especially at the gym. The kind of energy I never experienced before. I don't entertain anything that crosses the line or that disrespects Andre, but I notice it and I'd be lying if I said it doesn't feel validating. At the same time, I feel guilty because I'm the one who changed physically and mentally for what I think is the better, but I'm not quite sure if he sees it that way. I want to come home and share my wins, but instead of it being a celebration, it sometimes feels like I'm unintentionally poking at him. He's shown me that he's happy for me, but he also says things like, once I get up to speed with this job, I'm going to join the gym too, which makes me feel like I'm putting pressure on him. He is overall a great partner. I try to validate and compliment him, but we are bringing in two new versions of ourselves together and right now they feel like strangers. How do you grow in a relationship without outgrowing your partner? Is it part of your life? Is it possible to support someone through their insecurity without dimming your own light? And how do I talk to him about the shift I'm feeling without making him feel worse? Help, please. Love you both and hope to see you in Atlanta, Amethyst. Oh, Amethyst. This one is a bit of a bummer except for the fact that you're a bad bitch. Yeah, I hear you on wanting to at the very least feel solid and feel not even celebrated, but just feel like a sense of warmth and support in all of what is going on for you. Same time, you love this nigga and whatnot, you realize his circumstances suck. He just loses his job. He loved the job. And he's probably gained some depression, weight, stress changes, this, that, and the third. And the little stuff he's saying just is like a bummer. But you have to be able to do what you said in terms of having a conversation with him about what you're feeling. I think I would determine a lot if not having further questions if bringing this up to him went into, like, a defensive place for him or an argumentative place for him. If he does pretty much anything but go, I hear you. You know what I mean? I'll consider, I'll try to do better by this. Full stop. Then I think that you're probably gonna have to, I wouldn't even say immediately break up, but I feel like he would have to talk to somebody. You guys maybe need to talk to somebody. But I think he fully needs to talk to someone, not even just for him to go back to being warm with you and lifting you up and stuff like that, but so that he can feel okay and know that he will be okay and that his home is a safe space and not this huge billboard of how much of a flop he is. But again, the nigga would have to want to go. So I think you have some conversation and questions. that are gonna need to come up. because you let a man i know you feel for the brother but hey look you can't be in your own house and feel like oh i have to dim my bad bitch light because this nigga is making me feel some type of way not even just i feel bad for him but he's getting up in the morning cooking eggs and like you know i'm gonna seize the day as best i can even with a thinning hairline and some weight gain it's the the attitude and the energy shift that is the thing and you feeling compelled to be like okay let me just not feel good and walk around with my titties shaking that's not that's not the tea so yeah i think the that vibe is gonna be really the key here because based off what you've said he says it doesn't sound like he like i'm not automatically hearing that he you know is is bringing the mood down or like is trying to even bring the mood down like you said you feel like you're unintentionally poking at him you're unintentionally putting pressure on him that could just be your perception because you have been you know in a bigger body you have felt not so good about yourself and so now that you're on the other side of that you're like oh maybe that's how he's feeling too and so he's saying you know once i get my shit together with the job i'm gonna also go to the gym and i'm gonna go to the gym and i'm gonna go to the gym it could be that you know you feel like you're putting pressure on him it could also be that he sees what you're doing and he feels motivated like yeah i want to go to the gym too like true i want to keep up with you like i'm not trying to stop you he's not trying to stop you from going to the gym he's saying i want to get on your level so it could some of this could be your own feelings about your body and the fact that you weren't really validated by men or outside sources until coming in and and and making a real um making itself known here because it's it's it's the sort of thing that we try to discourage in people like oh don't get your validation from others because that's fickle and fake and blah blah at the same time it does feel good and that's why it is that's why it's so alluring but as you can see it's very much dependent on whether you're fitting societal standards of what is beautiful or what is attractive like when you are in that larger body or you know you're this nerd and the hot guys never liked you before or whatever it may be you're seeing now that it is very much dependent on looks and and not much else like you be in the gym getting it in which is great it sounds like you feel better about yourself you're stronger like these are all great things i just don't necessarily think it means that he you know is feeling like oh here she go rubbing it in my face like you would only know the answer to that because it's going to depend on like vibe and attitude like kid fury said so um that's kind of where i'm split on it it really just depends on how he's acting but as far as growing in a relationship without outgrowing your partner i don't think that should even be a goal i don't even think that should be something that is taken into consideration you want to grow in a relationship the same way you want to grow without one and hopefully your partner can either match your growth or support it one or the other but 100 i don't think you need to be worried about oh i don't want to outgrow my man or you know how do i talk to him about how i'm feeling without making him feel worse that's another thing where it's like i'm not going to try to have this conversation with the goal being that you don't feel worse because you might feel worse regardless so i'm going to try to have this conversation with love and care and respect and gentleness because you matter to me so i'm gonna i'm gonna use those words i'm gonna have that tone of voice um to communicate that but if i'm talking to you about how i feel and then you feel bad but i'm doing it in a respectful and kind way sometimes people just feel bad and that's a byproduct of having to have a hard conversation it doesn't necessarily make you wrong for that so it is definitely possible to support someone through their insecurity without feeling like you're dimming your own light um but again that that depends so much on you know like is he you said he's shown that he's happy for you like he is not saying you know like damn the put up the them short skirts and them crop tops like where are you going in a midriff yeah he's not getting all controlling and trying to tackle long for girls nights or whatever like it sounds like he's happy for you he's just struggling himself and so you you said you're still attracted to him you are trying to to validate him compliment him and all that though that's great like i i think you just kind of have to let it give it time um and support him in whatever way you feel comfortable with like he wants to get back in the gym y'all setting that up to where you maybe you can go together or whatever i don't know like that sort of thing is it's fine but as long as you don't feel like like if you say you don't feel like you have to come in and like oh well you know i did hit a new pr at the gym today i you know i squat 300 pounds or whatever and i can't even tell this nigga because he gonna be jealous and all that like it's the difference between how he's going to react versus how i think i'm making you feel right so um if you see the nigga crying in the shower someday you catch him then you might like all right let's chit chat yeah yeah let's have a conversation but i think this is something that you all can probably work through and you said she put in like parentheses that he has a new job now where he's making um even more money than he did at the last one so okay a little a few more months at that his confidence might start to grow again y'all you know y'all running at the track and hitting on bitches together at the club and whatever else like y'all it could be that he's you know right back there but men going through that era of life where it's like oh i'm not young no more that can really hit them hard sometimes that can really hit them it's like it's like like the river sticks it's like it's like they are like dying but yeah yeah all of a sudden you can't drink like you used to yeah yes oh my god is that my knee oh it's gonna rain tomorrow i don't know my knee is tight somebody give me some aspirin like oh jesus i'm not doing a shot no oh no like because i have to get up tomorrow and i listen you want to go to the you want to go to this show that starts at 10 30 p.m on a tuesday unfortunately me ma will not be able to make it girl and then they hit you with this let's go to the after hours we the hours are already after we're after the hours the club does it's 10 p.m i'm supposed to be in the bed with my dog it's tuesday you acting like it's saturday this is i'm too elderly for this girl right i'll get a little after hours function maybe on a good friday saturday if i have oh i'll go out on the weekend for sure but bitch a fucking wednesday i'm not there's too much left i'm not doing that you don't have nothing to do girl i want to get up on time you want me to go to something level headed no it starts at 10 30 p.m unfortunately i'll have to catch you at the next one ah but good luck amethyst let us know how the conversation goes we're gonna wrap up the letters right there again if you have a question for us send us an email ask the reader gmail.com we're gonna take a quick break and be right back folks we're back it's time for the read i will start because i really want to try to just get this out because i'm disgusted tommy lee or whatever the fuck your name is you weird freaky ass bitch i don't know what the fuck your 41 year old thinks that you're doing with side sack chasing trying to get a piggyback ride and make out and and go on dates and shit with a 21 year old boy you are 20 years older than this boy on his back walking down the boulevard boulevard talking about he bay and saying he's so fine his response is can't be that fine with somebody on my back bitch you are weird what making out with this boy and now because the whole internet has rightfully dragged your weird ass now you try to talk about something oh i'm sorry i'm not that type of girl bitch you're the girl that we saw in the video you're the girl that we saw in the video the difference between then and now is that you got that call and they say bitch we will bury you like i don't know what the fuck you think you doing over here ho but we will end it not just here but over there too bitch play a game i always knew that you were a worthless idiot from the first time that i was introduced to you but now i'm just like really confused as to why you are still discussed why people still bring you up you have been an absolute drunk ass loser for the entirety of your open career on television and where else you have nothing to offer anybody in the streets besides that mangled pussy you like what are we talking about what are you talking about you're not smart you're not well spoken i'm sure you can't read or write you have no fashion sense you have nothing but like one television show streaming show that's interested in you and every time you go over there you act like a wasted basehead pulling out bb guns shooting people sending motherfuckers to jump somebody because you scared to fight yourself because you can't you can barely stand up when you go places and i'm tired of you trying to do this whole fake gangsta shit like somebody's supposed to be afraid of you hoe you soft you soft and you're a set chasing sex pest weird ass bitch because you could go and do that shit with somebody who's at least five six seven years younger than you even 10 i wouldn't even be think i think it's too weird if it was a 31 year old nigga right that young man's brain is still developing and i'm sure you knew that and you were attempting to coerce his ass into giving you a baby you weird ass bitch you weird ass clout chasing nasty ass worthless losing bitch you are not good at anything you are not good at anything besides having a half decent face you are not entertaining in any way your music is trash you can't stand upright you're not good at shit besides being a hot mess and i halfway blame a lot of you bitches who claim to be entertained by this shit so much that you want to keep seeing her on things similar to how you have begged and pleaded andy cohen's white gay ass to have sex on bravo as if that weird bitch weird freaky bitch didn't accuse somebody of attempted rape not because she thought it was actually happening not because she was told it was actually happening but because she she just ain't like the bitch anymore and she didn't even have the boss she knew what she was doing and that it was so bad that instead of saying it herself she said the dumbest bitch she knew to go and say it and be a mouthpiece for her and duck wreck the whole season until that same dumb mouthpiece snitched by accident attempted to ruin this person's life because she ain't like her and accused her of rape instead of just being like oh tax fraud oh her husband gay or whatever other dumb ass shit that people be saying on housewives and you're like oh well she was really fierce on traitors why don't we put her back on tv y'all was dumb and i don't feel bad for you or any like i i truly don't i don't know why you're not good at anything you're not good at anything you're not good at anything you're not you can't just watch the parker's reruns or sister sister some shit if you want to be black entertained you have to have fucking drug addicts and alcoholics come all here and feel like they're important enough to be around a child in that manner bitch i don't even know when the last time i've been around a 20 year old to my knowledge besides when i was at my mama house for christmas yeah and even then i told you most of that night i was sitting in a room by myself playing the switch and one of them came in and was like oh you're sorry cool get it bitch we saw you kissing this boy in the mouth you dumb ass late ass hoe i don't even understand how you attracted to somebody that young like you're so old why do you because you want a check and you know that young men are incredibly impressionable and easy to manipulate because you have old bitch twat yeah you try to do like drea or whatever her name is you try to do like drea or whatever her name is you try to do like drea or whatever her name is literally i was about to say to sound like drea and that boy that's younger than her son i'ma treat you just like i would treat a 41 year old man out here kissing on and calling a 20 year old girl bae bitch you're nasty and you suck you suck at everything but having a cute face when it's got makeup on it your music sucks your brain sucks the way you walk sucks your fucking drug and alcohol riddled brain and liver everything about you sucks bitch and i can't wait to see you wait till i never have to see your dumb ass again i'm finished i get you know we all want to be related to beyonce but not like this not like this pretend like the rest of us crack heads i'm so tired of this bitch she doesn't even do anything fun or funny or engaging when she is around all she does is slur look cross-eyed and break stuff girl fuck you find somewhere oh yeah i'm not that type of girl you're exactly that type of girl at best you should have said i was so drunk i don't remember i thought it was elder barge i'm tired like i'm tired yeah of grown ass adults playing flitsy with children you have if you want a sack chase bitch you're you are pretty get your hair done and go and find a nigga your age you can niggas are dumb or even a 30 year old you don't even have to that's what i'm saying you can find just somebody grown for real girl what are you doing you will absolutely find a nigga who will fuck you and give you a baby who got more money than you because most of them do y'all be so pressed and inspired by these hoes on tv and on instagram because they got a pretty face and you think they got money like they don't borrow their clothes let's move you because i'm actually getting tired no you're getting pissed it's not even just that it's jewels yeah any 21 year old like what are you doing with at your big massive age born in the 80s ass with a 21 year old girl no it's trifling it's beyond trifling it's yeah fuck you and everybody to know yeah next oh well this my read this week um comes at the expense of ulta beauty which is a national chain with over 1500 locations um and i just cannot i cannot believe this happened in new york city you possibly could not have picked a worse city to do this but um so there is an ulta on 86th street um i've been there many many times never to use their beauty services because that just would have never occurred to me why would you do that i forgot that they do that yeah they do have a beauty salon um and a woman named lauren jack lauren smith and her seven-year-old daughter who are pregnant with a baby who is going to be a professional models um they went to the 86th street ulta beauty in manhattan because they had scheduled hair appointments before a professional photo shoot um and the stylist who was a sound who was assigned to them jessica c declined to do their hair she said that they don't do that kind of hair you are fucking kidding me i am not lying now she also the the mother lauren smith says that their hair was actually completely covered while they were having the exchange so nobody ever actually inspected their hair they just saw black people and said oh we don't do this um she asked to speak to a manager the manager came over and said yes uh we're not doing y'all hair we're not comfortable doing that type or texture of hair and y'all should have clarified when you made the appointment what kind of hair you had so that we could have you know i don't even know we could have found somebody black to do it or found somebody who knows how to do black hair again the this is new york city right new york city is i believe the most diverse city in this country uh there are millions and millions of people who live here we also have strict laws about how you can treat other people so this is in direct violation of new york state human rights law which prohibits discrimination on traits historically associated with race including hair texture this also violates new york's cosmetology licensing laws which require licensed hairstyles to be trained and competent to provide services to people of all hair types new york city has specific laws that say niggas can go into any hair salon and expect to have their hair done because that's the service you offer especially a giant chain like ulta ulta on 86th street in manhattan don't have nobody who could wash and style negro hair that is wild so they say you know this was a very loud confrontation that happened in front of me and i'm not going to of other customers causing severe humiliation traumatic distress to the little girl who was crying and asking what's wrong with my hair and if they got brown girls in the pictures on the walls and how come we can't get our hair done there which is an extremely good question ulta why is it niggas are good enough to use in your marketing and promotional materials but when it comes to a location a nice a generous size location again in the most diverse city in the country how in the is it that y'all don't have nobody who could have what done a blowout on this hair y'all don't have no in new york city and you didn't even look at her and you didn't even inspect the hair it wasn't like oh well we looked at your hair and it's we you know you had scalp issues or whatever that we you just automatically said nope i'm not comfortable doing that texture called the manager and the manager said yeah we don't have nobody here who's gonna do y'all's negro hair you're go and you should have clarified and you should have said that when you scheduled that you were black so that we wouldn't i don't have to do that this is new york so do the white bitches who come to get their hair done that they go oh so yeah i have why i'm white so my hair i'm actually a ginger and it's kind of curly and wavy so no because as a white woman you can confidently walking to anywhere including a black salon and assume that somebody can and will do your fucking hair i of all the places y'all could have done right because it seems like a slam dunk extremely clear-cut case we have very explicitly laid out discriminatory policies that say you are waiting here how much they get like at this point just write the check right i don't even think just settle bitch because like it's time to just settle what do you mean you're not comfortable you were racist to me and my seven-year-old in front of people matter of fact just give me this location this is a leak right i was like so the alter finna dude black hair from now on i bet you they are 86th street in new york city in new york city are you kidding and the fact that y'all didn't even know enough about the law here to say is it possible it's illegal to turn black people away like ulta y'all are professional licensed cosmetologists and you didn't know that you could not turn away black people for being black did you know you have to pay taxes that is i'm actually mad i didn't think of this first i'm i'm mad i didn't go to ulta and be like so who finna do my micro braids like i'm mad i didn't book an appointment for you know a blowout or whatever and go in there just for not even far it's it's again that is so you throw a rock in this city and you're gonna hit 10 different ethnicities seven different nationalities some gender queer some sexually fluid like we have a little bit of every fucking body we have laws her white new york city is the greatest city like we literally have it set up like that because there are so many different people here and nobody should be discriminated against because of how they look i just cannot believe and i've seen a lot of comments that are like well why would a expect to go to ulta anyway that's not the point are you that's not the point would i have ever done this no it would have never occurred to me to to even assume that somebody at ulta would do a good job on my hair but they're supposed to they are supposed but they're supposed to and so if you live around 86th street and all the black stylists are booked up and you said let me just get something for me and my child surely ulta has shampoo and conditioner wide tooth combs and blow dryers like i know y'all didn't even go in there asking for a french roll and some finger waves like i know you didn't i know it was something and they were just like oh no we can't y'all don't have what you don't have flat irons in here you don't have curling irons you don't have the same materials that you would use on anybody else's hair you don't have a heat protectant before this is ulta go grab one off the shelf like okay all right well time to write me a check time to write me a check and possibly shut this whole shit down me and my seven-year-old will never have to worry about booking another modeling gig because cheese on our burger for the rest of our lives and this is our ulta now like oh hi this is my seven-year-old daughter she's retired she's a retired former model and all i mean ulta's website talks about how they're all about being inclusive and you know we stand for equality and acceptance we we want to create a space that's welcoming to all that what happened at this location when we were at the when these two people showed up to get their hair done is the exact opposite of that and so i mean this the store manager has to be fired has to be i can't i get right i mean the stylist too because if you're not comfortable doing their type or texture of hair you don't deserve the license that you have it is the law in this city that you have like you have to you have to you cannot tell somebody oh i don't i don't do your type of hair and it would have been one thing to like look at their hair and be like no i'm not gonna hold you you get your hair done in here it's gonna be a mess like it is show me the reference because i don't have some like referrals i promise you you're not gonna like the results in here i could get the manager for you but i promise then going will be your black ass should have called in and clarified that you had your nigger hair and your daughters to come in here and get it done that's insane right i would have said you know i'm gonna do my best i can't say i have a lot of experience but i'm gonna do my best to make sure you two look and feel amazing right before you leave this salon today and i mean that's just because i'm a good nice person who doesn't want to hurt somebody's feelings based off who they fucking are this is our hair as it grows out of our head and it's the wide open honesty that that mother and daughter could have been like you know what on second thought or we really have blaming we have a curling iron on my way out give us some touch-ups at the studio something like because like you said ulta or not they should have especially in right in 86th street they should not have had to assume they should have been able to just walk in here because and get their hair done and again that is the you could have pulled this in most other cities and it wouldn't have been nothing you could have pulled this in oklahoma and it would have been fine because i'm sure we don't have i'm sure we don't have this level of protection where it's like baby florida stick to you they would have caught a broom they would have held it get get back you get thrown out now what you colors doing in here y'all know we don't do no colored hair that is wild so yeah ulta should have literally been like not only does this completely stand against everything that you know we don't do no colored hair that is wild so yeah ulta should have literally been like not only does this completely stand against everything that you date in place that you get to stone them yeah so just go on and write the check make it out to lauren smith or whatever that lady name is because and baby smith and right because y'all have really really fuck this up gosh that baby gonna be riding them some dumb atvs and shit through brooklyn she gonna be doing little bobble wheelies on the four wheelers she gonna she gonna have her b blades in ulta like yes her beyonce blades just busting everything up let it rip that's my ulta fuck you mean yeah get out college paid for oh well well well i suggest y'all hire people who know the very basics of the law i just i'm really struggling with how y'all didn't think god you know this feels illegal it feels how did you you really thought you could do that you thought you could say uh well you should have you should have marked the colored box that was a great point okay so here we are biggest most known beauty chains yeah in the world right and here you are in one of the most diverse places in the world and you didn't think it was illegal to look around and be like not you you're due black hair that is crazy yeah gone and cut the check bitch um you have to yeah yeah it's looking it's not looking great for y'all that is so disgusting um in front of a baby too yeah seven years old crying and again the baby pointing out the excellent observation of how y'all got niggas on the walls but i can't get my hair done look at the material y'all sell black makeup you sell black hair care products you sell black hair care products you sell black hair care products you sell all kinds of shit that black people can use again you put us in the pictures and the videos and the commercials why well that poor baby had the fucking the geography calculus yeah she was like it's not making sense i don't i do not understand you won't baby because it don't make sense but don't you don't have to worry about that you finna get she gonna have i don't have to tell them i need a break from this cheese on this burger give me the bacon tomato lettuce because like when you're bentley power wheel driving right shit off yeah never working again what do you mean yeah beyonce blade on the desk y'all i i bet y'all will tighten up next time oh i bet it'll be a company-wide memo sent out saying there's not a single black person who works there i mean i'm not in the salon part i guess I'm sorry. I mean, I feel like if I worked there, I would have just sat in the background like, well, she's going to sue the shit out of y'all. I'm just going to let it happen. Girl. Girl. Anyway. Gross. Yeah. Maybe check the law just once before you turn Black people away from services at your store. Very illegal here in New York City. 20, 26. And that is going to wrap up this week's episode of The Read. Check us out on social media at ThisIsTheRead. Our website is ThisIsTheRead.com. We do have a few more tickets that have opened up for our live show in Atlanta on April 26th, I believe. You can check TheReadLive.com for those. Excited. Can't wait to see you there. Hopefully this TSA shit is settled by then because, bitch. Anyway. Wait, what TSA shit? Are you kidding? I don't want to know. I'll Google it. TSA has only been partially funded because of this partial government shutdown because the Republicans want to give ICE the power to snatch people out of their homes and deport them for no reason. And so TSA workers have been working without pay for the past month and. Oh, lovely. And it's getting very. Oh, they just deployed ICE out to the airports like a couple of days ago. But TSA pre-check and clear at Atlanta has been shut down. So everybody has to go through that gen pop line. But people are talking about being in line for four, five, six, seven hours just to get through TSA. You are fucking. I am not. I'm not. So y'all got to clean that shit up before next month, baby. So I guess we just head back home right after the show. Oh, yeah. Just after the show, just go straight to the airport. Yeah. No. Anyway. Anyway. That's a whole nother read. Ew. Oh, my God. God. Yes. But we will be there. See y'all in Atlanta next month. Still so excited. Yeah. I can't wait, you guys. Any other news or announcements from. Oh, I want to thank Scottie Beam for being on this week's episode of Crystal's Couch. Laura, we had a great time. I love Scottie. She is the best. Crystal's Couch.com for all those details and links. I'll ask you after. Okay. Anything else from you before we head out? Yes. The new episode of Furious Thoughts is out now. You're poppin'. Pop platforms and YouTube. Go give me a like and subscribe. Shout out to Parka McKenna Posey for being on the pod this week. You guys know I love sitcoms and bad bitches and Parka is both. Wow. Wow. Sitcom icons. Really watched her grow up. Little Katie. Isn't it crazy? It is. It is crazy. Shoes of light. So, yeah. Go check that out. Patreon.com slash Kid Theory. All the things. Atlanta. We're almost there. I can't wait to see you guys. I can't wait to see you. I think that's it. All right, guys. Take care of yourselves. We'll see y'all next week. Bye-bye.