The Three Main Disconnects Keeping you Stuck

Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Jim Ramble. I think this is gonna be a short and sweet one But I was talking to some potential clients this week and you know We've coached over 800 women here at the Fit Breakthrough and I've been really seeing this three main I want to call them disconnects pop up Over and over and over again, and I've really narrowed it down to these three reasons why women I talked to feel like they're constantly on this dieting They're constantly doing everything right and they don't feel like they're getting this lean strong look that they want And so I'm here to break these down because awareness is the first step to change and if you resonate with the one or more of these things I want you to know that you're not alone But you're also not stuck and I really struggled with all of these things in my journey and While I can't give specifics on solutions I do want to guide you to the description where you're listening to this podcast episode I'm gonna leave a free Audit so you can get more hands-on You know assistance and a solution from me I can what I do is I read over the audits and if I feel like I can help you I will record a loom video and send it back to you basically saying hey Here's where you're stuck and here's what I would think about in terms of how to get unstuck and the main things that I would Contribute towards your future success. So at least it'll get you a little bit more clarity and direction on that But overall I wanted to just think big picture here and break down the three main disconnects that I'm seeing stopping people from getting lean So the first main disconnect that I see is between what people think they're doing and what they're actually doing So the most common example of this is gonna be with food right people swear they're not they're barely eating anything Oh my gosh, I've only eaten two times today or oh my gosh I barely during the week or I forget to eat and then on the weekend comes or even at night during the week and then people are Eating a ton of calories right if you don't know how many calories you were consuming you do not have the ability to Best predict what a deficit is for you or best Strategize a deficit from there and am I saying that everybody needs to track macros? No, but I am saying that if you were constantly spitting your wheels and saying okay, I feel like I'm doing everything right I'm feeling like I'm making all these changes. I feel like I'm eating healthy and I'm still not losing weight That is going to be your best bet because it gives you the ability to you know look under the hood So to speak and say okay What's actually going on here and how is my body responding and that's gonna be the first step that we do with our clients in the Three-step approach of awareness consistency and strategy because awareness alone will Really allow you to see what's actually going on versus what that I think was going on right? So let's say you you swear you're only eating 14-odd calories a day But you forget to count the olive oil that you cook all your meals in you forget to Count for the butter you forget to account for finishing your kids play or grabbing that donut at work or Grabbing that extra ice cream here or there right there are little things that add up Not only during the week, but on the weekends when it comes to your alcohol when it comes to eating chip eating like 10 million chips and salsa at the Mexican restaurant, right none of these things are Bad in the sense of we can't eat these things and these food sources need to be off limits But if we understand how many calories you're actually consuming both during the week and on the weekends and the Variations between the days then that gives us the ability to say okay now Let's eliminate the overeating under-eating cycles and make sure that we're building balanced meals So that you do feel satiated so that you're getting in enough fiber so that you're not constantly hungry Let's keep an eye on how many meals we're eating versus snacks. Let's keep an eye on how much protein we're consuming right suddenly We can have more productive conversations instead of just like okay. Well, how do I go from eating healthy to eating healthier? Right, especially because health and eating healthy and healthy food sources is such a subjective thing Let's really bring objectivity into the mix and say okay objectively speaking how many calories am I consuming and just the act of Tracking what you're eating will have you second-guess me be some of the extra snacks and just handfuls of things that you grab Throughout the day, but really bridging that gap and saying okay I know that I think I'm eating this much But I'm going to hold myself accountable to not just clicking at the data that I want to see But tracking all of the data both during the week and on the weekends without even changing anything or saying oh You just slash calories are like do less crazy stuff Just the awareness component will hold you accountable to a place where now you have the ability to change Right awareness consistency and strategy now you have the ability to say okay I know where I'm at now now where do I want to go and that's why this is the first disconnect that I want to talk about because it can be so powerful If you allow yourself to really uncover how much you're actually consuming However, this doesn't just go for how much you're eating this can also go for your training So a lot of times people say oh, I'm going to the gym or I'm taking these classes and I've been going and going and going and going And I feel like I don't look like I left so let's talk a little bit about what looking toned means that means having muscle on your frame and being lean enough for the muscle to show so it could be very You know very real that you have been going to the gym and you have been lifting heavy and you have been building this muscle But if you have you know body fat on your frame to the point where you don't feel like you're having you know You you look toned then it's gonna be hey we need to lose body fat. That's our main our main metric here, but It is also very apparent that there's a disconnect between How you think you're training versus how you're actually training right for example If you're going to the gym and you're just going through the motions and you haven't actually tracked your lifts and you haven't had a Conversation or looked into what progressive overload means and how to use your time in the gym efficiently and effectively Then that's something that we need to focus on right? It's kind of like just because you're eating healthy doesn't mean you're eating the right amount of food for your goals Just because you're going to the gym doesn't make your doesn't mean you're making the most out of your time there for your goals Right, it's not that to go to the gym. It's not that to eat healthy But I want you to reach your goals and I want you to feel like you're getting a return on these efforts So that conversation needs to be had as well It's not 80% nutrition 20% training if your goal is to look lean You need to give your all to the gym as well. I'm talking form. I'm talking intensity and I'm talking programming Okay, all of those things do matter, but if we start to track your lifts in the gym if we start to understand progressive overload and if we start to Take videos to assess intensity Those things can really play a part in you Excelling and getting to that next level again. I'm not necessarily saying we got to change everything Right, but I am saying hey, let's start with what you're currently doing and let's start to assess How we could tweak things to get one person and better and that comes with bridging that gap between what you're actually doing and What you need to do to get to that next level All right, so that is the first disconnect now the second disconnect that I see is the disconnect between what people think They need to do to see progress and what they actually need to do to see progress and there's kind of two sides of this coin Right, the first side is a lot of people assume That in order to reach a goal they have to cut out certain things or they have to do certain things in the gym So let me give you an example If the only time that you've ever seen progress in the short term previously was when you were cutting out carbs You never went out to eat you followed a strict meal plan and you went to the gym seven days a week And you look at your life now and you go well, I don't have the time to do all those things You're not going to take the steps you actually achieve the goal because you have in your mind this preset agenda Of what it needs to take to reach your goal when an actuality that is not true at all And this is unfortunately a big reason why a lot of women don't Take the action or make the investment whether it's in a coach or a program or whatever to reach their goals because they have this Pre-conceived notion of what it needs to take or what they need to cut out But we want to get a different result right the reason why you're here is because what you've tried previously didn't work long term So that's good news because we don't need to do that again We need to do something different in order to get a different result And it doesn't need to look crazy restrictive We don't need to cut out complete macronutrients We don't need to be on this crazy meal plan in order to see progress But we do need to have a growth mindset around what it actually takes and that's why education is such an important part Of your transformation right because you can be in a fat loss phase and still eat carbohydrates Absolutely as you should you can still be in a fat loss phase and have a free meal on the weekends to go out to eat You can still be in a fat loss phase and you know not you shouldn't go to the gym six to seven days a week Right like I go to the gym four days a week and I go for maybe it my lift itself is like 45 minutes Right, so I'm not spending two hours a day at the gym But if you're sitting there thinking oh, I need to go to the gym every single day two hours a day in order to see progress You're not going to do that right? So that's why this disconnect is so important to Understand Because it will get you actually in the mindset of oh, I can achieve this goal I can take the steps to get one percent better. I talk about this all the time, but the goal isn't to We're gonna Wait until your life is 100% optimal to take action because that's never going to happen and you're gonna be waiting your entire life. The goal is to create a middle ground between what's optimal, what's realistic for you in this season. And as you build momentum, yeah, maybe you can take more stuff on as needed. But the beauty of this is we don't need to be perfect in order to see progress. You can make tweaks to get 1% better to start to see those changes happen with fat loss, with getting that tones-ling look, the building muscle, like whatever your situation is, you have everything you need right now to take that first step if you allow yourself to, and if you put yourself in an environment where you can get that clarity and direction. So that's the one side of this disconnect. The other side of this disconnect is people assuming that we need to be 100% balanced from the beginning. You cannot give 50% effort and see 100% of a result. A previous podcast episode that I have is called Discipline Leads to Freedom and it is so true. I want you to think back to every single goal that you've accomplished in your life. Maybe you got a master's grade. Maybe you started a new job. Maybe you became a mom, right? Those first few weeks and even months, was your life 100% balanced? No. Whenever you reach a goal, there is an element of unbalanced, because you're doing something that majority of people are not doing right now and are not going through. You have to be willing to prioritize your goal and that by nature, by definition, means you are de-prioritizing other things. Now, does that mean you have to be hyper-fixated on food and training all the time? You don't have time for anything else? Of course not, right? But I want you to think of this as harmony, not balance, because balance means, oh, I should be able to give into all my cravings and give into everything when I want to do it and still expect a result to harmony being, hey, there has to be some give and take here. But it's harmonizing because I'm able to show up for my goals because it's going to mean something to me. And so if I prioritize it, it doesn't mean that I'm obsessive or that I'm unbalanced or unhealthy, but it means, hey, I'm prioritizing this and this is how I want to show up in the season of my life right now, especially if this is newer, right? If you're new to tracky-makers, if you're new to going to the gym, if you're new to figuring out how hitting a step goal fits into your schedule, it is going to feel unbalanced at the beginning, especially because it's just going to require more brain power and more of your discipline muscle because you're building a new habit. But again, that doesn't mean that it's bad, but if we're constantly fighting that voice in our head that's telling us, hey, we should go that extra mile to do this thing for the sake of being 100% balanced at the beginning. Now that's when the weeks and months pass us by, we feel like we're constantly, quote, trying, but we're not seeing changes. And then therefore we tell ourselves that, oh, it's 'cause I'm not disciplined enough or oh, it's because I'm just broken. No, it's just that we need to go in with a different mindset. And so that's why this disconnect between what you think you need to do or what you think it needs to look like versus what it actually needs to look like, needs to be addressed because we can't go in with this 100% balanced mindset. And this is also why I think I talked about this earlier, but a large part of discipline is understanding how to channel your discipline correctly. I'll give you an example. If you have macro targets that you set on your own and in the back of your head, you're like, I don't even know if this is right. Should I be eating more? Should I be eating less? Maybe you don't have a coach telling you, yeah, here's what your target should be. Then when the going gets tough, right? You go out to eat. So when at work gives you donuts or a piece of cake, it's not going to be very, or it's going to be very difficult to use that discipline muscle because in the back of your head, you're like, is this even what I should be doing? I don't even know. Oh, well, let's just give in, right? And that happens time and time again. And then suddenly you're not seeing progress. Versus if you know without a shadow of a doubt that these targets that you have are leading you to where you want to be, it is going to be easier for you to use that discipline muscle, which is why I'm such a big advocate of eliminating analysis paralysis and why I think coaching is so powerful. Because it eliminates that analysis paralysis and it gives you that objective viewpoint of, hey, here's the boxes that you need to check. And even though you know one day to the next, you're not going to be looking at a different, right? 'Cause it takes weeks and months to really see a change. You know you're on the right path. And so day in and day out when you have to make those decisions, it is a little bit easier to say, okay, nope, I know what I need to do. I need to stick to my guns. This is my goal. I'm going all in on it, right? But that's why this disconnect is so important to address because you need to really learn the grit versus grace again, previous podcast episode. I think that was actually just my last podcast episode. Definitely go listen to it if you haven't yet. But really learning what it actually takes to see progress versus, hey, how do we make these changes without burning out? That is, it's difficult to learn, but it's important to learn. And then the third and final disconnect that we're going to be talking about today is the disconnect between what you need to do to get results and what you need to do to maintain results. Okay. This is something that I have dealt with myself and this is something that I think pops up so much because the women that I talk to are go getters, okay? You guys are the type of person that you're like, hey, if I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it all the way. If I'm going to, you know, if I'm going to lose weight, that's my goal. I'm going to slash my calories and do everything as quickly as possible. And you tell yourself this lie, which is, once I get to a physique that I like, I will figure out how to maintain it because I will be more motivated to maintain a physique that I like. So I'll just do whatever it takes to get there as quickly as possible and then figure out the lifestyle component. Know you won't, know you won't. And I say that would love, I say that with love because I told myself that time and time again, and I got to my quote, goal weight over and over and over again. Before I figured out this whole lifestyle thing, and I never maintained it because if you don't know how to, how you got to your goal in the first place, then you will not know how to maintain it. And you have to have an ex-strategy after the deficit is over. Okay, and that's why this disconnect is so important and it holds a lot of people back because they'll just think, oh, like what's the big deal? It's just eat less and move more. Okay, I can do that. Like I can do more, right? You come across a week where you can do more or you don't really like how you're looking one day or you have a weight spike and that emotion leads to knee jerk reaction of, oh, well, I need to do more. I need to slash my calories. I need to do more cardio. And then suddenly you're tied to this, eat less, move more. I need to do even less, even less and do even more. And you burn out because you can't maintain it or you do get to your goal and then you, you know, whatever happens, the beach vacation happens or the wedding that you were crash dining for happens. And now you're gaining the way back in your back at square one and then you're looking at the runway of things that you did to get to your goal and you go, well, I don't want to do that again, right? Leading us back to our second point that I talked about, the second disconnect between what you need to do to see progress versus what you actually need to do to see progress. Okay, I understand that it can be difficult to have somebody tell you we need to build a foundation first in order to start a fallout space. I get it. I get how you're like, no, but I have the motivation to start a cut now. But that's why we talk so much yet the fit breakthrough about awareness, consistency and strategy because I not only want you to lose body fat, but I want you to be able to make multiple adjustments to your nutrition and to your training or your cardio, for example, to get you further into a deficit and maintain results without burning out without, you know, pushing your calories super far down to the point where now your energy suffers and your digestion suffers and you still have more body fat to lose, right? 'Cause that's kind of where people get to. They are like, I keep bebopping around, gaining and losing the same 20 pounds and I never actually feel good. I never actually feel both good in my skin and energized and I have good digestion and I feel really confident when it comes to how I handle weekends and vacations and things like that. Majority people don't feel that way, but you can. However, it really starts at the beginning before you even make any adjustments to your nutrition, to your training, to your cardio, building that awareness and consistency before strategizing. And another reason why this is so difficult is because it's so difficult to stay in your own lane, especially once the newness of what you're doing wears off because we have social media and because everybody's telling you something that they're doing and they swear it's like the thing that you need to do, it's really difficult to stay in your own lane because patience is one of those things that you need in order to see results and maintain results. Like there are weeks when you're in a fat loss phase and you're doing the correct stuff, but your weight is stagnant, you have a bad body image week, you feel like crap, right? Because especially as women with our cycles and things like that, there's just weeks where that's gonna happen. And if you have a knee-jerk reaction to change everything or to do what somebody else is doing and completely abandon the plan that you've been on this whole time, that is going to never lead you to a path where you're maintaining results and maintaining the lifestyle change. So again, getting an objective viewpoint on what it is you're doing, getting that clarity direction and eliminating that analysis paralysis is going to help you. so much. But again, that third disconnect is between what you need to do to get results and what you need to do to maintain results. I need you to think of your fitness journey, not in the span of, okay, what's the next four to six weeks? And what does the next six to 12 months look like? I have my fitness journey planned out until the summer of 2027 right now, right? And I'm so excited for all of it and beyond like I know I'm not going to be in a deficit lead until leading it to summer of 2027 and I'm so excited for that and I'm really building muscle and I have a game plan leading into that cut and then after the cut is over, I have an ex-strategy as I do with all my cutting phases is that and as all of our clients do, right? And I'm not saying that you need to have this grandiose plan for the next five years, but I am saying I want you to take action with your health and fitness, not just based on what the four to six week out version of yourself wants to do, but how do you want to act and how do you want to look and feel six months in one year from now? Think about that version of you. Are they going to still want to be crash dieting? No, okay, are they still going to want to be, you know, never going out to eat and cutting how carbs and only eating the same two things every single day? No, right? So we can't start with that if we don't want to finish with that, right? Learning how to periodize your journey is so important in understanding these big three disconnects and how to connect to them is important as well. So I hope that this got your wheels turning in terms of what you need to focus on with your own journey to really see success because no matter who you are, no matter how busy you are, no matter how many other things you got going on in your life, I promise you that you can see progress and I promise you that you can get one percent better. All right, and as always, if again, if you need more clarity and new direction, I will leave the link to the audit below and I hope to see you guys in there.