436: The Teen Who Secretly Survived a Family Annihilator | Stay Family Murders
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The 2014 murder of the Stay family in Spring, Texas, was a targeted and meticulously planned act by Cassidy’s uncle, Ronald Lee Haskell. The family, known for their warmth, stability, and close-knit bonds, had been living in a safe, active neighborhood when Haskell, disguised as a FedEx driver, broke in, forced entry, and murdered all seven family members—adults and children—inside their home. Despite the horror, 15-year-old Cassidy survived because she remained still and silent when shot, instinctively blocking a bullet with her hand, and was the sole survivor of the massacre. The case revealed a long history of abuse, threats, and escalating violence from Ronald, including attacks on his mother and attempts to intimidate family members. Investigators uncovered a detailed pattern of preparation, including weapon purchases and travel to Texas, proving the killings were not impulsive but premeditated. A five-year legal delay left the family in prolonged grief, especially Cassidy, who waited years for justice. In 2019, after a lengthy trial, the jury found Ronald guilty of capital murder, and he was sentenced to death. In her powerful testimony, Cassidy expressed deep anger at the lack of remorse from the killer, stating that her closure had been the hope of emotional accountability—something she now no longer seeks, choosing instead to turn to faith for healing. The case remains a haunting reminder of the dangers of domestic abuse, the fragility of family safety, and the resilience of children in the face of unimaginable trauma.
- A Texas family murdered last week in their home
is being remembered this morning as kind and loving.
- She spoke to multiple dispatchers,
and one of them asked, "Who's been shot?"
And she said, "My whole family."
- Seeing this war unfold, can't believe her eyes.
- She said her eyes are in danger.
- It's terrifying.
No kid should have to go through
what Cassidy went through.
It's not fair.
- Their family just included love
and respect for each other.
- He pulled the trigger and he shot Katie in the face.
- Hey, true crime besties.
Welcome back to an all new episode of Serialistly.
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And welcome back to an all new episode of Serialistly
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I'm not gonna tell your boss.
It's not my job to narc on people.
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'cause I guess that could technically be considered
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Look, I'm not gonna go down the rabbit hole.
What I'm just saying is I'm here for it.
I used to do the same thing when I had an office job.
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Now, instead of giving you a little bit of context
around what this case is
that we're gonna be talking about today together,
instead, I'm going to play for you a 911 call.
So let me just go ahead and play that for you now.
- Here at County 911.
- Oh my God, I just got shot.
Oh my God, I really have been shot.
- Cassidy?
- What is your name?
- Cassidy Stay.
- Cassidy?
- Now that 911 call that you just heard,
it came into dispatchers in Harris County, Texas
around 5:00 PM.
The caller was 15-year-old Cassidy Stay.
And she told them something
that no dispatcher ever wants to hear.
Her entire family had been shot.
Now when first responders arrived at 711 Leaflet Lane,
they rushed into the home expecting the absolute best.
But even then, honestly,
I don't know that they could have prepared themselves
for what they were about to walk into.
Because the first thing that they realized
was that Cassidy herself had been shot as well.
She was just there lying on the floor,
bleeding out from the head, barely even conscious.
Yet somehow, through all of that,
she had still managed to call 911,
which that alone is just unbelievable to me.
And despite everything that Cassidy had just endured,
she still managed to call 911.
And the call was able to tell first responders
that the rest of her family was over in the kitchen.
So the officers made their way over there.
And sure enough, what they found was devastating.
Lying face down on the kitchen floor, surrounded by blood,
were the rest of the Stay family.
39-year-old Steven Stay, 33-year-old Katie Stay,
and their children, 13-year-old Brian,
nine-year-old Emily, seven-year-old Rebecca,
and four-year-old Zachary.
They had all been tied up,
and none of them were moving.
Now, honestly, this is one of those cases
where the reality of it is so much worse
than anything that you could imagine
or cook up in some sort of like fiction horror thriller.
Entire families don't just get executed in their own home
in the middle of the afternoon, in the middle of the day,
especially not families like the Stays.
So as they're taking all of this in,
trying to reconcile what they are witnessing,
first responders notice something else.
One other person in that kitchen was still breathing,
barely, but breathing.
So let's go back to the beginning,
and let's talk about what happened inside this home.
July 9th, 2014 had actually started out
like any other regular boring-ass normal day
in the Stay family home.
The five Stay children came downstairs that morning
while their mom, Katie, made them breakfast.
Then after they ate, they split off into their usual,
little groups.
Emily, who was nine, and Rebecca, who was just seven,
they paired off together.
They started planning out their day of games,
playing around the house, just typical girl stuff.
Meanwhile, some of the older kids,
Cassidy, who's 15, and Brian, 13,
they stepped into more, not caretaker type of roles,
but a little bit more older kid type roles,
where there's chores, there's things to do.
They were also taking turns helping
keeping the four-year-old Zachary entertained.
And they were all kind of just like breaking off
into their little silos.
And each of their kids,
they had their own very distinct personality.
Cassidy, at 15 years old,
was incredibly smart and mature for her age.
People said she was a lot like her mom, Katie,
always looking out for other people
and always trying to help.
Brian, the 13-year-old, he had cerebral palsy,
but by all accounts, he never let it slow him down.
Emily, who was nine, was described as very fierce
and protective, especially when it came to her older brother,
Brian.
Even though he was older than her,
she looked out for him constantly.
And then there were the two youngest,
seven-year-old Rebecca and four-year-old Zachary.
These two were basically like the energetic little siblings
of the house, just running around, having fun,
super, you know, just like walking sunshine,
loud, playful, full of energy,
exactly what you would expect in a home with five kids
just running around during summer break.
And I should mention, it also wasn't unusual
for Steven and Katie to leave the older kids in charge for short,
short periods of time during the summer.
They were on summer break.
Cassidy and Brian were very responsible.
They were mature.
They were trusted.
The stay kids were all good students.
So if the parents had to step out for a quick minute
or go run an errand or even like work a few hours,
it wasn't unheard of that they would help out
and watch the younger siblings.
All of them were very active in church youth groups
and by all accounts, just genuinely very kind kids.
The parents, Steven and Katie, trusted these kids
to follow the rules.
To work through any sibling disagreements
and to really just take care of one another
whenever they were out.
And the neighborhood that they lived in itself,
it really did add to that sense of security.
The family lived in Spring, Texas
in the Enchanted Oaks subdivision,
which is about 25 miles north of downtown Houston.
By all accounts, it was considered a very safe,
family-oriented neighborhood where kids were playing outside
and neighbors knew each other.
People generally looked out for one another.
So Steven and Katie had absolutely
no reason to think that leaving the kids home
for a couple of hours this afternoon
would ever be dangerous.
Now let's talk about the parents for a moment.
Steven worked as a real estate broker
and outside of work, he was heavily involved with his kids,
especially coaching baseball.
His wife Katie and their mother,
she was really the heartbeat of the family
and the center of everything at home.
She was the kind of person who people describe
as just like having the ability to tell
that someone else needed help before they ever even asked
for it.
She organized neighborhood events,
holidays, church activities, all of it.
And from everything that I was able to find in my research,
Steven and Katie really seemed aligned
in how they approached family life.
Family first, that's what matters.
That is like the core of everything.
Faith was also extremely important to them.
They went to church.
They spent intentional time with each of their children.
I mean, their marriage and their family seemed solid.
Now, of course, no family is perfect.
We all know that.
But by all appearances, they had built a really happy life
together.
The Stay family was--
I like to refer to them as an anchor family.
They're that family in the neighborhood
where all the kids go to their house to play.
Our families experienced a great loss at this
because there's not a day that will go by where we won't
somehow miss them, some experience where
we'll miss them.
Steven was very patient and quiet.
He was very compassionate and happy, smiling all the time,
and just really mellow, kind of a peacemaker kind of guy.
And Katie was a lot more talkative.
She was also happy, also very caring and loving,
a little bit sarcastic, which I think a lot of people
appreciated because it kind of lightens the mood.
She was a great motivator.
She was a cheerleader.
She loved to serve, as did Steven.
I mean, they were always doing something for somebody else.
We were devastated when we found out.
We were in shock.
It took a while to realize that this had really happened.
We've had the chance to mourn with our friends.
And it's one day at a time getting through.
But focusing on the good lives that they led
and thinking about what we can learn from them,
and that is to live a good life, to be good people,
to have faith, and to serve others.
- This is exactly
why what happened next felt so impossible to everyone who knew them. Before Stephen and Katie
left the house that day, they reminded the kids of the usual rules, you know, don't use the stove,
don't leave the house, don't leave the backyard, check in with each other, be kind, and of course,
above everything else, don't open the door for strangers. Cassidy and Brian gave the typical,
like, teenage eye roll responses, like, yeah, yeah, yeah, we know, but, like, we're doing our
thing, like, they went back to, you know, whatever they were doing in the house that day. The house
was loud, chaotic, normal for this family. Kids were running around, toys were everywhere,
snacks were being left out, and during all of this, Cassidy was really taking on her role of
big sister and caretaker. She was cleaning up around the house, picking things up, trying to,
you know, make things not as messy, when suddenly there was a knock at the door.
She told the younger kids, like, hey, quiet down, quiet down, somebody's at the door,
I'm gonna go check it out, but there wasn't a car parked outside of the house. There also wasn't one
in the driveway. So, she looked through the peephole, the little hole on the front door,
to see if she could see who was out there, and it was a FedEx delivery driver, dropping off a
package. So, not a stranger, not a random, just somebody delivering mail. Once she got the door
open, she saw this man standing in front of her, full FedEx uniform, pretty heavy beard as well,
but what stood out immediately was that he didn't actually have a package with him.
Instead, he was asking for her parents, Stephen and Katie. So, Cassidy,
told him, oh, you know, they're not home right now, but they'll be back later. So, he left. And
at the time, she really didn't think much more of it. But then, a short time later, there was another
knock. So, Cassidy went back to the door, looked through the peephole, and it was this same man
again. She opened the door once again, only this time, everything changed. Instead of asking
questions and asking where her parents were, this man forced his way inside. Cassie immediately tried
to slam the door open, but she couldn't. So, she opened the door once again, only this time,
shut. But think about it, she was a 15-year-old girl trying to stop this grown man who was now
barreling in through her front door into her home. He overpowered her almost immediately and shoved
his way inside. And then, once he got in, he pulled out a gun and a knife. He immediately started
restraining all of the other children. And he was threatening them and keeping them quiet by holding
them at gunpoint and knife point, all while he was waiting for Stephen and Katie to come back home.
Now, this detail, it really gets me.
Because you may have heard in previous true crime coverage or just statistics and things like that,
that if you're ever abducted or ever in a compromising situation, that you're supposed
to start rattling off facts to this person. The fact that you're a mother or you're a sister,
that you have family or things about yourself, things about your family members, trying to
make them humanize you in a way. Now, Cassidy was only 15 years old, but she knew this. And
she had no reason with him. She started telling him the names of all of her siblings, their ages,
trying to humanize them to him somehow. Almost like she had hoped that if he saw them as real
kids instead of these obstacles or targets, maybe he would stop whatever he was doing.
Maybe he would snap out of whatever this was. But unfortunately, that wasn't the case at all.
And honestly, it is heartbreaking because you can hear just how innocent her thinking was
in that moment, just hoping that she would stop. And she did. And she did. And she did. And she
by talking about her siblings' ages, their names, what they like to do, that he would somehow change
his mind in all of this. Yet the truth was, she couldn't even begin to understand the level of
evil that she was facing against right now. Eventually, her parents, Stephen and Katie,
came home. However, they were overpowered as well. The man restrained them right alongside
the children while the entire family just kept pleading with him, begging him not to hurt them.
They told him like,
Look, hey, we will cooperate. We will do whatever you want us to do. Please just let everyone go.
And for a moment, it did seem like he almost was going to listen. Because eventually,
he did make a request. The request that he wanted was information. Specifically,
he wanted information about Katie's sister, the kid's aunt. He wanted to know where she was,
how he could find her. And this is where this entire case really starts to shift. Because
suddenly, he's like,
This doesn't seem so random anymore. This isn't some FedEx driver lunatic like in Athena Strand's
situation. This is something more targeted, something intentional. These questions were
deeply personal, specific, and again, just very direct. But Stephen and Katie, they were
protective of their family. They weren't going to throw her sister under the bus, and so they
refused to tell him what he wanted to know. But that refusal made him absolutely furious. So furious
in fact, that he began just going down the line of restrained family members and executing them
one by one. Just point blank in the back of the head. Adults, children, boys, girls, the entire
family. Just single file, one by one. And then he left. But somehow, through all of that, Cassidy
survived. The bullet that was meant for the back of Cassidy's head somehow struck her hand first.
Because at the very last minute, instinctively, she had raised her hand up, almost trying to
block it. So the bullet hit one of her fingers before grazing her head instead. And what Cassidy
did next is honestly the reason that she's alive. Instead of screaming, or instead of moving and
panicking, she stayed completely still, and she pretended to be dead. And I know that a lot of
people will say fight or flight, but sometimes survival really is about staying quiet and waiting
for the danger to pass. And the
fact that this 15-year-old girl was able to think that clearly in the middle of something this
horrific is incredible to me. Not only did she initially try to reason with him and humanize her
siblings to him, but now she had the wherewithal to play dead, to try to think like, oh, he's going
to leave. I just need to hang on a few moments longer. I need to just stay still, not move.
Because the truth was, she's a 15-year-old girl. She was injured. She was terrified,
just lying there, surrounded by her family, knowing that
they had all just been shot. Yet somehow, she stayed still through all of it. She stayed quiet.
And that decision, it saved her life. Because if the killer had realized that she was still alive,
I have no doubt in my mind that he would have shot her again. And the reason I know that
is because sadly, that's exactly what happened to four-year-old Zachary. Zach had been shot in the
shoulder instead of the head. But because he was only four years old, he didn't understand what
Cassie understood. And he didn't understand what Cassie understood. And he didn't understand what
he didn't understand that he shouldn't move and that he needed to stay quiet. Instead, little
four-year-old Zachary started moving toward his dad, Stephen, who was already deceased at this
point. And honestly, this is just so incredibly devastating to think about. I have a four-year-old
myself, and I just can't even begin to wrap my mind around this. But he didn't understand what
was happening. He was just scared, and he was looking for comfort in his dad, his safety net,
crawling toward him, hoping,
that his dad would protect him. But that movement, it gave him away. So this monster shot him again.
And this time, he made sure not to miss. By the time the authorities arrived, after Cassidy's 911
call, only one other person in that kitchen was still alive. And that was her sister,
seven-year-old Rebecca. She had also been shot in the head, but somehow, she survived it.
Everyone else in that room had already died. I mean, it was a complete massacre. So Rebecca
and Cassidy were rushed to the hospital immediately. Cassidy was listed in critical
condition with a skull fracture and severe damage to the tip of one of her fingers.
But still, despite everything that she had gone through, she was alive, and she was able to speak
with the investigators. And through all of the pain, through all of the trauma, all of the
confusion, she started explaining more about what happened that afternoon, what happened
inside that house. Now, one of the main things in this moment and in this case was,
that from the moment that the first responders arrived, they already knew that this wasn't some
random break-in or robbery gone wrong. They knew that it was targeted and that it was personal.
And the reason why is thanks to Cassidy. Because when Cassidy first called 911,
she hadn't just said that her entire family had been shot, she also told them. She knew exactly
who did it. Cassidy explained to the investigators that the shooter was actually her uncle, Ronnie.
His full name was Ronald Lee Haskell. Technically, he was her ex-uncle, because Ronald had previously
been married to Cassidy's Aunt Melanie, Katie's sister. And Cassidy later explained that at first,
she hadn't recognized Ronnie when he came to the door. She genuinely believed that this guy with
this beard was a FedEx driver. And she thought that maybe there was a delivery issue, or maybe
a package mix-up, or something along those lines. Now, I don't know exactly why she didn't recognize
him, but I don't know why she didn't recognize him. And I don't know why she didn't recognize him,
again, I think possibly it could have been the beard. It also apparently had been a while since
she had seen him in person, so it's possible he looked different altogether. And it could also be,
I mean, she was 15 years old. Maybe she just wasn't expecting that somebody she knew would
show up and be disguised as a delivery driver. But by the second time that he came back to the
house and started knocking on the door, according to Cassidy, he actually identified himself that
time, right after she opened the door. That's why she immediately tried to shut the door,
Doron.
him because she knew that his relationship with the family was very complicated, to say the least.
He wasn't the fun uncle that everybody loved having around that would be fun at family gatherings.
He was the family member that people worried about, the one that people talked about quietly.
And him showing up at their house? This wasn't some random grudge or a snap decision.
Ronald had gone there looking for his ex-wife, Melanie, and there had been some major warning
signs leading up to the murders. Which let me just tell you a little bit about that relationship.
Ronald and Melanie got married in 2002. They eventually had four children together.
But according to Melanie, the marriage became abusive not long after the marriage began.
And like so many abusive relationships, it escalated over time.
First, Ronald didn't want Melanie working, which meant that he could of course not only
control her whereabouts, but control all of the finances. Then he started isolating her
from friends and family. And then he started isolating her from friends and family.
And once her world became smaller and smaller, physical abuse started entering the fold.
Melanie said that there were basically no limits to the abuse. Her exact words were
hitting, kicking, choking, and if you can think of it, he did it. And according to her,
this wasn't something that was hidden behind closed doors. Their children witnessed it.
Melanie also said that Ronald abused the children as well, though there was never an official report
police report that I can cite for that. But she says that it's because she was too afraid to report
it. Eventually, though, Melanie realized that she and the kids were not safe. She knew that they were
living in a toxic and dangerous environment. And over the years, she brought up leaving him multiple
times. But Ronald, he made sure that she was way too terrified to ever do it. He told her that if
she ever tried to expose the abuse or tried to leave him, that he would make her watch her entire
family die. And considering that, she said,
everything that she had already experienced with him up until this point, Melanie believed him.
So she stayed. She stayed for 11 years. She stayed even after Ronald was arrested in 2008
for domestic disputes and assault. This was after he hit her in the head and was dragging her by the
hair. She even stayed after he eventually accepted a plea deal and pleaded guilty to the assault,
in exchange for the domestic charges being dismissed. And the reason that she stayed is
because she was trying to protect Ronald. She was trying to protect Ronald. She was trying to
protect herself and her children, which you know, statistically, it takes so many times to
successfully leave. And statistically, leaving is the most dangerous moment in an abusive
relationship. But she was trying to protect herself, her children, and probably everyone
else around her. She wanted to keep things quiet as long as she could. But eventually,
she couldn't do it anymore. And that's when she finally started confiding in her sister, Katie.
The two of them, as sisters, had always been extremely close. And interestingly enough,
Stephen and Ronald had actually known each other growing up. So when Stephen married Katie and
Ronald married Melanie, the families became even more connected. So much so that Ronald
and Melanie's wedding reception was literally held in Stephen's parents' backyard. This just
gives you an idea of how intertwined these families were. But once Katie learned what
was happening to her sister and her nieces and nephews behind closed doors, she and Stephen did
everything that they could possibly do to support Melanie and to help keep her and her children
safe. In July of 2013, Melanie finally filed for divorce and also obtained a protective order
against Ronald. And even though that should have been a hopeful turning point, Melanie was still
terrified. Because Ronald had been threatening her for years. Threatening her that if she ever left
him, he would kill her entire family. Now, at the time, Melanie and Ronald were living in Utah. But
after the separation, Ronald moved back to San Marcos, California. That's where he had grown up.
He moved in with his mother. Which, honestly, I can't even imagine the level of anxiety that
Melanie must have been living with during that time. Because yeah, while he was, okay, states
away at that point, and yes, there was a protective order in place, he still knew where everyone lived.
He still knew her family. He still had access to a point. A few months later, in October of 2013,
that original protective order was then converted into a mutual restraining order.
This was part of the divorce and custody proceeding.
Which this detail becomes very important later. Because under both federal and state law,
this now meant that with this change, Ronald could legally possess firearms again. Which at the time,
I'm sure that that alone was frightening enough for Melanie. But looking back now,
knowing what would eventually happen, it's honestly infuriating. And if you're wondering
whether the divorce or the move back to California somehow changed Ronald or calmed him down,
it absolutely did not. Not long after,
moving in with his mother in late 2013, Ronald got into another violent altercation. This time,
with members of his own family. His sister Chandra had gone over to their mother Carla's house,
where she heard Ronald screaming at their mom, calling her a bitch and just like unleashing on
her. So Chandra stepped in, told him, yo, you need to stop talking to mom like that. You need to calm
down. But Ronald immediately exploded. He wasn't going to be told what to do. He grabbed his sister
by the throat and he threw her out of the house. And he threw her out of the house. And he threw her
to the ground. Meanwhile, his mom Carla tried to intervene, but Ronald threw her down as well,
right there alongside Chandra. And according to reports, Chandra kept trying to get back up and
defend herself and defend her mother as well. But Ronald just kept forcing her back down,
each time becoming more violent. At one point, he even elbowed her in the throat. Another time,
he punched her in the arm and punched her so hard that it left a bruise. She later had that bruise
at the police station. Even Ronald's own father tried to intervene. And although the documents
apparently noted that he was disabled, Ronald still threw him to the ground as well, causing
him to hit his head on the corner of a wall. Which I honestly don't know how that entire
incident finally ended, if he was just like throwing people around and knocking people down.
But thankfully, everybody survived it. And once his sister got away from him,
she went straight to the police and she filed a restraining order against him. In the filing,
she wrote,
Ronald has never physically abused me before, but he is currently in the middle of a messy
divorce and his wife is accusing him of domestic violence. I'm scared that if Ronald remains in
the home, he will harm me again, which is why I seek this protection from the court.
Now luckily, she was granted a temporary restraining order. However, in an infuriating
turn of events, but also unfortunately not a surprise to many of us, just one month later,
it was dismissed. Now every case that we cover is difficult,
there is absolutely no question about that. But there is something especially upsetting about
cases like this one. Cases where there are so many warning signs beforehand, so many reports,
so many people trying to get help, and yet somehow, in the end, no one is protected.
Now I'm not exactly sure what finally made Melanie decide to leave Utah altogether. I don't know if
it was the fact that Ronald could legally have guns again, or maybe it was hearing about the
Maybe it was a combination of everything. I don't know. But in February of 2014, Melanie and the kids
moved from Utah to Texas. And they made that move with the help of her sister Katie and Katie's
husband Stephen. And from everything that I found, Katie and Stephen really were there for Melanie
through all of this. The divorce, the fear, the instability, they really helped her start over,
which this, unfortunately, seemed to fuel Ronald, make him even more angry. Because by this point,
Ronald knew that he no longer had any control over Melanie. He didn't even know where she was
living anymore. And in his mind, Katie and Stephen, they were the reason behind that.
After the murders, investigators uncovered a paper trail that showed that Ronald had been
escalating for quite some time. This was not some impulsive act that was committed in the
heat of the moment. There were warning signs. There was a pattern. There was escalation.
About a week before the murders, Ronald learned that his mom Carla was still communicating with
Melanie. Which honestly makes complete sense, considering that Melanie had custody of Carla's
grandchildren, and Carla was also a victim of her, you know, of her own son. However,
Ronald viewed this as betrayal. So once again, he exploded.
On July 2nd, 2014, Ronald forced his mom Carla into her garage. And once they were inside,
alone in that garage, he duct taped her wrists together, tied her to a computer chair,
and threatened to kill her.
If she continued speaking with Melanie. At one point, he even wrapped his hands around his
mother's throat and choked her until she lost consciousness. Then, he just left her there,
tied up. According to reports, Carla suffered soft tissue injuries around her neck and around
her shoulders from the attack. And what's really disturbing, like I just said he left her there,
is how long she remained there afterward. The altercation reportedly began around 11 in the
afternoon, at 5 p.m. What's even harder to understand is that even after that 911 call
came in at 5.15, and even after an officer was dispatched at 5.19, nobody arrived at her house
for nearly three hours. They didn't arrive until after 8 p.m. And honestly, I can't help but wonder
whether Ronald thought that he had actually killed his mother that day. Because he left her there,
unconscious, tied to a chair, after he had threatened to murder her and murder anyone else
who got into her house. And so, he was able to escape. And he was able to escape. And he was
in the way of him finding Melanie.
So you would think, okay, he's had a restraining
order in the past with a few people. They've survived it. They have filed reports. Surely
this will actually get the traction it needs now. This guy will either be locked up or there will
be protections put in place. But here's what the legal repercussions ended up being after all of
that. The court ordered that Ronald stay five yards away from Carla. Five yards. Five yards.
A yardstick. Five yards away from his mother. I'm sorry, bullets travel further than five yards.
I'm sorry, knives, even if you throw them, can travel more than five yards. What are you even
talking about here? And this is why this case becomes so frustrating to look back on. Because
Ronald's violence, it had been escalating for years and people around him were actively trying
to sound the alarm. Carla even later said that Ronald had told her that he was not only going
to kill her, but kill her family and any officer who tried to stop him. Yet somehow, after choking
his mother unconscious, she was able to do it. She was able to do it. And threatening mass violence, he was still out free. And honestly, I really can't help but
thinking about how different things might have been if he had actually been arrested and if he
had been held after attacking his mom. Maybe this mass murder would have never happened. Or maybe
he still would have eventually carried out his plan after getting out. Who knows? But the timeline is
eerie. Because that attack on his mom, it happened on July 2nd. And the very next day, the very next
day, he already started trying to actively locate Melanie. Now, by this point, Ronald fully blamed
Katie and Steven for Melanie leaving him. Now, sure, did Katie and Steven support Melanie through
the divorce? Yes, absolutely. But they were not the reason that she left. Ronald's abuse was the
reason that she left. But as we know, abusers almost never take accountability for their own
actions. It's always somebody else's fault. Somebody else ruined their lives. Somebody else,
you know, caused the consequences.
And Ronald's motive? It was becoming painfully obvious. He wanted to find Melanie. And it seems
very likely that he intended to kill her. But he was also very willing to destroy anyone who stood
in his way of finding her, including Katie and Steven. And including their small children.
And those kids were so young that they didn't even fully understand what was happening around
them. They knew that Ronald and Melanie weren't together anymore. They knew that
their aunt had divorced him. And they knew that they weren't supposed to let Ronald into the
house. And that's exactly why Cassidy tried to slam the door shut when she recognized him.
But they were young. They didn't know the full extent of the danger. They didn't know just how
violent Ronald had become or how terrified Melanie had been for years. And they shouldn't have known.
Children are supposed to be protected and shielded from all of that. I can't imagine
a world in which their aunt would want them to be terrified and scared like that.
Now, at some point during the murders, Ronald must have either outright said where he planned to go
or at least heavily implied it. Because when Cassidy was speaking with the authorities,
she was terrified that his next stop was her grandparents' house. And she was scared that
he was going to do the exact same thing to them. She was also able to tell the investigators that
Ronald had taken one of her parents' vehicles. So now, suddenly, authorities had a very detailed
picture of what they were dealing with. They knew the suspect's name. They knew what he was wearing.
They knew the vehicle he was driving and where he was likely headed toward next. So now,
they knew it was a race against time. They just had to get there before he did. And sure enough,
Cassidy was right. Ronald's next destination was her grandparents' house. But surprisingly,
Ronald didn't seem to be in any hurry to get there. Which, honestly, it says a lot about how
confident he was at that point, right? He apparently believed that he still had plenty
of time before anyone would realize what had happened to the family at the house. He thought
Cassidy was dead. He probably thought, hey, I have time. I can just cruise. I can make stops if I need
to. Whatever I have to do, like, you know, I have time. He especially probably thought he had more
time and that nobody knew what had happened because he had duct taped a pillow to the edge
of the 9mm gun that he used. He did this so that it was a makeshift silencer. So with that, he didn't
seem worried about neighbors hearing gunshots or reporting anything. So before actually going to
the grandparents' house, Kelly and Roger, Ronald decided he needed to quench his thirst. So he stopped at a
Sonic to get a drink. But that little pivot, that little sidestep, that allowed law enforcement to
get a head start. So while Ronald was at Sonic deciding what to order, the officers were racing
toward the grandparents' home, preparing for what they believed could become an armed standoff.
They knew that Ronald was armed, that he was dangerous, and that he was actively hunting
down family members. And the best part? They beat him there. By the time Ronald finally arrived near
the house, he immediately was able to see that there was a very heavy, heavy, heavy, heavy, heavy,
police presence. So he tried to flip a bitch, turn a U-turn, get the hell out of there and leave the
area. But while attempting to drive away, he made a wrong turn, and he ended up trapped inside a
cul-de-sac, which, love to see karma work that way. So just like that, the standoff began. Ronald stayed
inside this stolen vehicle, staying calm enough that you almost wouldn't think that he had just
murdered six people. But the officers knew that he was still armed, and they were determined not to
kill him. They wanted answers, and they wanted justice for the Stay family. So negotiators began
talking with him, trying every single tactic possible to convince him to surrender peacefully.
During those conversations, Ronald started making some very concerning statements. Statements like,
going to jail, which we all know what that usually means in situations like this, right? Someone
desperate, someone unwilling to face the consequences of their own actions.
But I don't want, I don't want you to do any action that forces them into something, okay?
Did you tell your sniper on the roof he knocked that very good shot on you there?
Yeah, I'm not in charge of him.
Well, his scope may clear the light bar, but that bullet ain't gonna clear it.
Okay. Well, you know what? I'm not worried about the sniper and the shot that he's got.
He's just, he's just there as a backup. He's not there to do it, to pull that trigger unless,
unless there's a problem, okay? Eventually, law enforcement escalated their positioning,
and they boxed Ronald in completely using armed vehicles. One pressed against the front of his car,
another pressed against the back. Meanwhile, Ronald just stayed inside with the gun pressed
to his head. And this standoff, it went on for three and a half hours. And I will say for most
of it, Ronald had almost this like smug attitude. You could even hear it in the recordings of it,
where he would criticize the negotiators. He'd mock the sniper's aim. He would tell officers
not to speak to him like he was stupid, as if he was the smartest guy in the room.
He also claimed that he wasn't afraid of consequences in the afterlife.
In fact, he specifically said that he no longer believed in God or forgiveness,
despite previously having a pretty strong Mormon faith. But as that standoff dragged on,
some of that confidence started slipping. At one point, Ronald began telling negotiators that he
was afraid of being hurt if he got out of the car. He even started framing himself as the hostage in
the situation, saying he was worried that SWAT officers would rush him. Now, that didn't mean
that he was ready to cooperate, not by any means. He still had the gun to his head, and there was,
of course, always the possibility that he could decide to pull the trigger at any moment.
But it was the first sign that maybe he was starting to waver a little bit.
Toward the end of the standoff, Ronald then asked if he could speak with his brother,
who he described as the only person who had ever done anything for him.
And after considering it for a minute or two, the authorities decided to allow that conversation to
happen, which honestly was risky, because it could have either become Ronald's goodbye call
and his final sign-off, or it could in fact convince him to surrender,
which thankfully, it ended up being the latter. I'm not sure exactly what Ronald's
brother said to him, but whatever it was, it worked. Because not long after their conversation,
Ronald finally surrendered to authorities. Ronald was officially taken into custody,
and he was charged.
With capital murder because of the multiple counts of homicides in his location.
Now, through all of this, because of Cassidy, her grandparents were safe. Because of Cassidy,
Ronald never made it inside their house that night,
something that her grandparents would later publicly thank her for.
Without her courage and quick thinking, we might be mourning the deaths of 20,
yes, I said 20, people today, including myself, and nearly all of our children and grandchildren.
But even with Ronald now behind bars, the nightmare still wasn't over.
Cassidy's condition was thankfully improving, which honestly felt miraculous,
considering that she had even survived. Rebecca, however, had suffered much more severe
injuries.
And despite being rushed to the hospital and receiving immediate medication,
medical treatment, seven-year-old Rebecca eventually died from her injuries, leaving
Cassidy as the sole survivor of what had once been a family of seven. An arrest had been made,
authorities had stopped Ronald before he could reach her grandparents, and Cassidy was still
alive, but none of that changed what happened inside that house. Six people were gone, an entire
family completely massacred and wiped out, and yet somehow, just four days after the murders,
Cassidy found the strength and the bravery to stand in front of reporters and speak about her
family. Honestly, I just can't even comprehend having that kind of strength at 15 years old.
I know that my mom, dad, Brian, Emily, Becca, and Zach are in a much better place,
and that I'll be able to see them again one day. Happiness can be found even in the darkest of
times, if only one, if one only remembers to turn on the light. I'm really thankful
for all of the people that have been praying for me and keeping me and my family in their thoughts
the past couple days, and I would like to thank all the first responders, nurses, and doctors
that have taken care of me. I'm feeling a lot better, and I'm on a very straightforward path
to a full recovery. From that point on, investigators were determined to make sure that Ronald was held
accountable, and the legal process, it actually started moving fairly quickly at first, but then,
though it happened so often, delays began. Because even though the pretrial hearings happened soon
after the murders, Ronald didn't actually go to trial until five years later, in 2019. And during
those five years, Cassidy and the rest of the extended family, they were all left trying to
grieve, while also constantly waiting for closure or peace that never seemed to come. On July 16th,
funeral services were held for the Stay family, and so many people came out to support Cassidy
and the extended family. And honestly, the footage of this funeral, it is so heartbreaking to watch,
seeing all six caskets, all different sizes, depending on which family member was inside,
just being mourned and, you know, so finite and final. You have little Zacharies at just four
years old, all the way to the father, Stevens. For the next five years, everyone who loved the Stay
family tried to continue living their lives, while also carrying this enormous grief with them, waiting for the day
that they could finally see justice carried out. But for Cassidy, I mean, for Cassidy especially,
it must have felt like living in limbo. Because Ronald's trial, it ended up being postponed
20 different times. And I truly cannot imagine what that emotional roller coaster must have been
like. Finally getting a court date, mentally preparing yourself to relive everything, building
up the courage from the anxiety and the anticipation, only for it to get delayed again, and again, and
again. And I'm sure that there were moments where it felt like the trial may never, ever actually even
happen. But eventually, on August 26th, 2019, his trial finally began. And pretty quickly, it became
clear what both sides were going to argue. Prosecutors, of course, painted Ronald as an abusive
husband, abusive father, and just a violent person overall. They argued that Melanie leaving him and
Katie and Steven helping her do it just completely enraged him, and that's what set him off. According
to the prosecution, he stopped his trial, and he said,
But even before the trial officially started, on the flip side of things, his defense team had
already started laying the groundwork for a different argument. They claimed that Ronald
had suffered some sort of mental health crisis, and that the murders were not carefully planned
or calculated. Not at all. His attorney pointed to Ronald's
psychiatric hospitalizations in Utah, and also argued that he had a history of not taking his
medication consistently. They were going to say he was unbalanced, unwell, that's what caused all
of this. However, the prosecutors, they had one witness who would completely change the weight of
the entire trial. Cassidy. Now, at 20 years old, Cassidy was going to take the stand as the sole
survivor of her family's massacre. And honestly, just thinking about what that must have taken out
of her emotionally, and just thinking about what that must have taken out of her emotionally,
it's so difficult to process. Because five years earlier, she had been a 15-year-old girl spending
her summer break with her siblings at home in her safe neighborhood, just having fun and laughing
and being joyful. Now though, fast forward five years, and she's sitting in a courtroom preparing
to walk everyone through the absolute worst day in her life in graphic detail. And boy, was it
graphic. Investigators were able to piece together Ronald's movements leading up to the murders.
Determined that on July 3rd, Ronald traveled from California to Utah. And from everything that the
investigators later learned, it appears that he didn't even realize that Melanie and the children
had already moved away. And honestly, thank God they had. Because this case could have looked
very different if Ronald had shown up at their Utah home and then found them there.
Then, the following day, on July 4th, a woman that Ronald had previously dated called 911
and reported that her home had been burglarized. And among the items missing,
the main things that immediately stood out to her was her 9mm handgun. Investigators later
discovered receipts inside Ronald's car from that very same day showing purchases of 9mm ammunition,
earplugs, an extra magazine, and also a laser sight for a firearm. After that,
Ronald went to Walmart, where investigators say he bought the pillow and the duct tape. Those both
were later, of course, used to create the makeshift silencer on the gun. Then, investigators traced his
route even further. On July 5th, Ronald stayed overnight at a La Quinta Inn and Suites in
Albuquerque, New Mexico. On July 6th, he traveled through Amarillo, Texas. And by July 7th, he had
arrived in the Houston area near the Stay family home. So all of this, you can see, it's a whole
progression. It's a pattern. Him slowly making his way all the way to Texas. Every stop, every
minute, every second, every second, every second, every second, every second, every second, every
second. This was planned. It also reinforced exactly what Ronald had threatened just days
earlier when he spoke with his mom, Carla. He intended to go after anyone that he believed
stood in between him and Melanie. But despite all of this evidence, in which it appears very
damning, right? Hearing Cassidy describe what happened from her perspective, that was absolutely
earth-shattering. Cassidy testified about Ronald arriving at the house in the FedEx outfit.
And again, this really stood out to me because Cassidy was still just a kid herself. She was
terrified too. But she knew enough to know that Ronald was dangerous. And she was just trying to
stay calm for her brothers and sisters. She also described the moment that her parents walked into
the house. According to Cassidy, Katie immediately began yelling at Ronald, demanding to know why he
was there and telling him to leave. She also described the moment that her parents walked
in to leave. And when Ronald pulled out the gun, Katie physically did try to stop him. She was
brave. She attempted to wrestle the weapon away from him, despite him being so much larger than
her. Cassidy, during the trial, even stood up in court and reenacted the moment for the jury.
She demonstrated how her mother grabbed Ronald's hands and tried to stop him.
And honestly, as a parent, hearing that part is incredibly hard because Katie knew that her
she could, even against the impossible odds. And you don't know how you will always react in those
types of situations. Whether you'll freeze, whether you'll just do what they say. But Katie
was strong. She was brave and courageous. And she tried to fight this monster to protect her family.
Unfortunately, though, Ronald overpowered her. And Katie became his first victim. Cassidy then
described the executions themselves. Her exact words were, quote, it was boom, boom, boom. All
in a row. Rapid succession. Moving down the line. It felt like time slowed down. And without
question, Cassidy's testimony, it became one of the most important parts of the prosecutor's case.
But it's also a good thing that the investigators had built such a huge trail of evidence beforehand
because what was going to happen is the defense argued exactly what many people expected that
they would. They didn't deny that Ronald had committed the murders, but instead they argued
that he was mentally ill.
That he was unable to understand that what he was doing was wrong. And honestly, look,
from a legal strategy standpoint, there probably wasn't much else that they could argue.
There was overwhelming evidence tying Ronald to these murders. So the defense, what they were
trying to do was really focus on reducing his level of responsibility by centering everything
around mental illness. The defense even called Ronald's mother, Carla, to testify.
And as surprising as that may sound, considering that Ronald had nearly strangled her to death,
days before the murders, her testimony was meant to support the idea that Ronald had mentally
deteriorated after Melanie left him. She testified that Ronald became a completely different person
after the separation. She also talked about his psychiatric hospitalizations and his self-harm
attempts following the divorce. However, in my opinion, a lot of Carla's testimony actually ended
up hurting the defense more than helping it. Because she also had to recount everything that
unconscious, threatening violence. She also testified that Ronald
had openly talked about hating Katie, hating her and blaming her for Melanie leaving him.
And she also admitted something that tied everything together that the investigators
had already been arguing. She said that they were all scared of him, that they didn't know
what he would do next. Ronald's brother, Robert, also testified for the defense, and much like
Carla's testimony, parts of it may have supported the mental illness argument, but other parts of
it reinforced just how dangerous Ronald had become. For example, he testified about Ronald's
psychiatric hospitalizations, saying that there had been at least five separate stays that he
knew about. He also described Ronald during that period as being suicidal with a very dark look in
his eyes. He also testified that after Ronald moved out of Utah, but before he moved in with
their mother, Carla, he briefly stayed with his brother. But eventually, his brother asked him
to leave. And the reason why? It says a lot.
Robert said that he became concerned for the safety of his teenage son while his brother
Ronald was living in the home. Which I have to say, that's pretty significant considering this
was his own brother saying all of this. And just like Carla's testimony, Robert also confirmed that
Ronald's anger toward Katie, it had been building for months leading up to the murders. So now you
have multiple family members of Ronald's supporting the prosecution's argument that
this wasn't random, that it had been building and festering and brewing.
Then the defense called forensic psychologist Dr. Steven Raffel. According to him, Ronald did not
understand that what he was doing was wrong at the time of the murders. And I do want to spend a
minute on this because it became one of the biggest points in the entire trial. Dr. Raffel testified
that Ronald suffered from bipolar disorder as well as schizoaffective disorder. And one of the major
symptoms associated with schizoaffective disorder can include hallucinations and delusions. According
to the doctor, Ronald described hearing multiple times that he was in a coma. And he said that he
heard multiple voices inside his head. And these voices essentially had taken control over him.
The voices reportedly also had names, Joseph, Jonathan, and Samantha. Joseph was supposedly
the primary voice. And according to Ronald, that voice told him that he needed to kill Melanie's
family in order to get her back. But prosecutors pushed back hard on those findings. They pointed
out that other mental health professionals who evaluated Ronald didn't reach the same conclusions.
And they suggested that Ronald,
may have manipulated the doctor into believing the story about the voices
just as a way to justify or minimize what he had done. And honestly, conversations around the
insanity defense, they are always complicated. I think a lot of people immediately get frustrated
hearing it brought up, myself included sometimes. But at the same time, there absolutely are cases
where someone is so severely mentally ill that they genuinely cannot understand what they're
doing or why it's wrong. Now, whether that was true in Ronald's case or not, that's a different
story. But I think it's a different story. And I think it's a different story. So after deliberating for two days, the jury finally reached a verdict. This was
on September 27th, 2019. Inside the courtroom, cameras zoomed in on Cassidy while she sat there,
head down, praying. Have you reached a verdict in this case? Yes, we have, Your Honor. And is it a
unanimous verdict? Yes, sir. Okay, thank you very much. If you would please present it to the bailiff
in cause number 1434395, State of Texas v. Ronald Lee Haskell. We, the jury, find the defendant,
Ronald Lee Haskell, guilty of capital murder as charged in the indictment.
Honestly, I can't even imagine what that moment must have felt like for her after waiting five
years for this trial to finally happen. Hearing the word guilty, knowing the man who murdered her
family had officially been convicted. The sentencing phase started just three days later.
Prosecutors argue that Ronald deserved the death penalty because he remained in ongoing danger and
because the brutality and planning involved in the murders, that because of that, it warranted the death penalty.
warranted the highest possible punishment. Meanwhile, the defense argued that Ronald should
instead receive life in prison along with treatment for his mental illnesses. But in the end, he was
sentenced to death by lethal injection. And after the sentence was read, the courtroom heard multiple
victim impact statements, including one from Cassidy herself.
Past five years, I've always wanted to know how you felt about me and what kind of remorse you felt.
My family always said that you only felt sorry for yourself. And I didn't want to believe that
because I thought, surely he has to feel bad for killing my family. And when I heard that you felt
no remorse, something changed inside of me. And I didn't know what to do with that change. And it was
causing me a lot of hurt and anger because that was my closure. My closure was the hope that you would feel bad.
I no longer have the desire for any closure because this is it. There's nothing left on
this earth that will soothe my wounds and worries. Only God can help me now. And that's what I've
decided to do with my resentment and my anger towards you. I'm letting go of my emotions and I'm
giving it to God because he'll take care of me and he'll help me through this. The jury decided that you were
going to die by lethal injection, and I respect their decision. Do I think the punishment fits the
crime? No. I hope that when you die, you will get the punishment you deserve from God. Only God can
help you now. Are you going to feel remorse one day? I don't know. And I want to tell you that I don't care anymore.
I'm going to continue to live my life with happiness, and I'm going to move forward, and I'm going to forget about this, and I'm going to forget about you. You've been in control long enough, and now your game is up. You're not in control anymore. You've lost, and this is it for you. God will be there for you when you need him, and that time is going to come quickly for you.
I'm going to continue to live my life with happiness, and I'm going to forget about this, and I'm going to forget about you. God will be there for you when you need him, and I'm going to forget about you. I'm going to conclude some of those clips because I do think it helps illustrate who she is as a person. At only 20 years old, she had already endured so much more trauma and loss than most people could ever even imagine. She was forced to grow up incredibly fast. And yet Ronald, he still didn't take away her ability to care about people or appreciate the life that she still had.
At only 20 years old, she had already endured so much more trauma and loss than most people could ever imagine. And yet Ronald, she still didn't take away her ability to care about people or appreciate the life that she still had.
I give it to God. My family grew, they raised me in the church, and so to just learn constantly
about how God can help us and how Christ can ease our burdens, that's what I attribute to
my strength. And my mom and my dad, they were tough cookies. If anyone had the pleasure meeting
them, they didn't take crap from anyone. So that's where I get it from. In the years following
Ronald's conviction and sentencing, his legal team continued filing appeals in attempt to
overturn the death penalty. But in 2021, one of those appeals was denied. Cassidy later said in
interviews that she wanted to move forward with her life and not stay trapped in what happened
that day forever. And from everything publicly available, it seems like she's really tried to
do that. I mean, of course, I'm sure that there's never a single day where she doesn't think about
her parents, her siblings, and the life that they all should have had together, but she's continued
living her life. And I think that's what's so important to me. And I think that's what's so
Podcast Summary
Key Points:
A 15-year-old girl, Cassidy Stay, survived a horrific mass killing of her entire family in their Texas home by her uncle, Ronald Lee Haskell.
The killer, disguised as a FedEx driver, gained entry by forcing his way into the house, then executed family members one by one with a gun.
Cassidy, despite being severely injured, stayed still and pretended to be dead, which saved her life and is credited as a key survival factor.
The family had a strong, loving, and stable home life, with the parents deeply involved in their children’s lives and the children being kind and responsible.
The attack was premeditated and targeted, with Ronald having a history of abuse, threats, and violence against his ex-wife and family over years.
A detailed paper trail shows Ronald’s careful planning, including purchases of weapons, ammunition, and silencers, and travel from Utah to Texas.
The trial was delayed for five years, during which the family grieved and waited for justice, with Cassidy eventually testifying in court.
The jury found Ronald guilty of capital murder, and he was sentenced to death, with Cassidy expressing that the lack of remorse from the killer was the deepest wound of her recovery.
Summary:
The 2014 murder of the Stay family in Spring, Texas, was a targeted and meticulously planned act by Cassidy’s uncle, Ronald Lee Haskell. The family, known for their warmth, stability, and close-knit bonds, had been living in a safe, active neighborhood when Haskell, disguised as a FedEx driver, broke in, forced entry, and murdered all seven family members—adults and children—inside their home. Despite the horror, 15-year-old Cassidy survived because she remained still and silent when shot, instinctively blocking a bullet with her hand, and was the sole survivor of the massacre.
The case revealed a long history of abuse, threats, and escalating violence from Ronald, including attacks on his mother and attempts to intimidate family members. Investigators uncovered a detailed pattern of preparation, including weapon purchases and travel to Texas, proving the killings were not impulsive but premeditated. A five-year legal delay left the family in prolonged grief, especially Cassidy, who waited years for justice.
In 2019, after a lengthy trial, the jury found Ronald guilty of capital murder, and he was sentenced to death. In her powerful testimony, Cassidy expressed deep anger at the lack of remorse from the killer, stating that her closure had been the hope of emotional accountability—something she now no longer seeks, choosing instead to turn to faith for healing. The case remains a haunting reminder of the dangers of domestic abuse, the fragility of family safety, and the resilience of children in the face of unimaginable trauma.
FAQs
The shooter was Ronald Lee Haskell, Cassidy Stay's uncle, who was previously married to her aunt, Melanie, and had a history of domestic abuse.
Cassidy survived because a bullet meant for her head struck her hand first when she instinctively raised her hand to block it. She then stayed completely still and pretended to be dead, which helped her avoid being shot again.
There were multiple warning signs, including Ronald's threats against Melanie and her family, physical abuse in past relationships, a restraining order being dismissed, and his attack on his mother, Carla, which showed escalating violence.
Ronald targeted the Stay family because he believed Melanie had left him and blamed Katie and Steven for her departure, and he had a history of violence and threats to kill anyone who stood in his way.
Ronald was cornered at his grandparents’ house and refused to surrender, mocking negotiators and claiming he wasn’t afraid of consequences. He eventually surrendered after speaking with his brother, which convinced him to stop resisting.
Yes, Ronald Lee Haskell was convicted of capital murder in 2019 after a five-year delay in trial, and the jury found him guilty of murdering all six members of the Stay family.
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