The Love Advice Episode

- Hello. - We have what it takes to give a little love advice. - Well, love any questions? - Hey, how you doing? - Hello, Dickie and his woman. Tell us everything. - All right, next call. - Go, I love you so much. (laughing) - Good to see you. - That was completely new to you, love you. - We're here for you. - Look at us now. (laughing) (upbeat music) - Now, what? - It just sounds like you have something to say. I do have something to say. You know. - How long have you been holding it in, whatever you're about to tell us? I know what he's gonna say. - What I was going to say is I just shaved a bunch. I just shaved a bunch. - I thought you almost had it. - No, what I really was gonna say is me and Dave are kinda like unicorns, okay? And I'd like to explain why. I think we look so strange. - I don't look strange. - You look insane. - Chuck, if you weren't Dave, you look insane. - No, I don't think so. - No, yes, you do. - I don't look insane. - Yeah, you do. The only thing-- - I don't think he looks insane. - Of course you don't. You're crazy enough to marry him. - I think I look like cute guy at the bar. You look like the movie "Gremlins". - Chuck, you look identical to me. (laughing) Chuck, but I'm saying, we aren't traditional hot men. But we've somehow been able to spin the world in our direction and land the most intelligent, beautiful, kindhearted women in the world. - Me too, right? - You're involved in that. - You're talking about me. - You're one of them. - Yeah, yeah, one of the two. - Level headed. - I said me too. - I just think we have what it takes to give a little love advice. - You know, no one really seeks me out for advice. I'll tell you that much. - I do. - Well, no one says, hey, could you give me some advice? - I guess they just talked to me and then I, but no one says like, hey, like, can I get some advice? Like, no one ever asked me that. - Really? - I guess you've heard advice. - I guess you have. - You do. - I've asked you so many times. - You do, you've asked me. - You've asked each other constantly. - I guess you're right. - Chuck, I literally send you texts. - You do. - I need five minutes. I need some advice immediately. - You do. - And then Dave says, can't working. - No, you do. - Yeah, most of them. - No, when you say I need some advice, I always. - No, not always. You say, sometimes you'll say, can't wait. - Yeah, yeah, I want to know if I can wait. - Sometimes it can. Mochi, I feel like you would give really sound advice as well. - Yeah, but you're smart, but you're also like cookie, and you get both sides of the coin. - But when I feel pressure on anything, I can't perform. - Do you feel pressure now? - All of a sudden, I feel the weight of the world. - Really? I don't think you should. There's no reason for that. - Lucky for you. We got a few callers waiting for us. Now, we've never done this sort of thing, so I don't even know if it works. - So you're telling me that there are people, and this is not fake. This is, there are people sitting there right now at the same time, and life is us, and they'll talk just live, and we say something back. - I tried to set this up. I had people write in, like, things on Instagram over like the last week, and then I had no part in this, but the men in there built up a sort of system where it's like a calling situation. I think I don't even know where their speakers are. - So start a call. - Does it work? - Start a call. - Can we start a call? Okay, okay, I'm scared. - Okay. - I've never been more nervous. - Oh my God, look, he's got a little hat. - I don't like that hat on Hashiba. - I like it. - Hello? - Hello. - Who's this? - It's Shantanu. - Where are you? Where in the world are you? - Shantanu. - I'm, where in the world am I? I'm just in the country, probably in the country north. I'm in Canada. - Oh, lucky you. - So what's going on? How can we help you? You need advice? - First of all, it's nice to speak to everyone. Benny, it was so cool that you did this social media thing, and it was nice that we're actually connecting. Even if it looks quite invisible, it's, I feel like I'm connecting with you guys, so nice to meet you to begin with. - You too. - Where am I? - Yeah, we're a lot, this is real nice to me. - It feels like you're in the room with us. - Yeah. - Oh yeah, and it's yeah. And yeah, I'm glad you're giving, I'm glad you're providing dating advice because this is a world which I'm, hopefully, I'd be getting into at some point in my life. - Oh yeah. - For example, the main question in which I asked is that, I'm someone who is a very emotionally deep person and someone who likes to build systems for, you know, presence and all that. So it's because I'm someone who feels a lot and I'm someone who's long, long ago struggles socially a lot, but there's something which I wanted to ask about that. So like in dating again, you often have tips on how to be polished and make the best first impression, like it's a corporate setting, but I'm someone who likes to lead with realness and emotions and make people feel less alone. And I want someone who gets that. So basically, I was wondering is being real too early? What drives people away? Or is it like how you find the right person? Like what is the best advice, for example, for balancing realness with polish and, you know, what's the best way to go about it when you meet someone? Should you, for example, be more real so that it takes longer, but you find the right person, or should you be, should you follow the polish rule and then, you know, wait for a long time until that person picks you? - Okay, I'm gonna chime in first and I'll let the boys go. If that's okay. - I'm absolutely. - I've struggled with this because I feel like, so I'm at Dave when I was 30, but I'd been in a lot of relationships, but I always felt like I was being too much of myself and that myself wasn't working. And then with Dave, I actually was like, okay, for the first time, I'm actually gonna try not to be myself and like try to do this thing that I think would like, get me like a long-term boyfriend that would then lead to marriage. And it turns out, and I think we had like a slow start, and I feel like you said to me, you were like, it wasn't until you started being yourself that I actually started to like you. And I think at the end of the day, you're never gonna be able to mask for that long. Like you wanna find a partner who loves you for you. So you have to be yourself and yourself is perfect. And like people, like women, like love, is it? Yeah, whoever loves that, you are your, like I think being yourself will allow other people to be themselves, and you're only ever going to be able to be yourself, so you should just start with being yourself. Yeah, you'll be the most appreciated doing that. And too, by being yourself, you're really cut through the clutter of nonsense of like, game playing, dating, and you'll just like really get to the meat of the whole thing, which is like, am I compatible with this person? So I said just being yourself. Here's what I think. I think first of all, there's a saying that says, be yourself because everyone else is taken. That's number one. - Ooh. - And number two is, you're allowed, if you don't have, like I sense you don't have a ton of experience dating or anything. And I think rather than trying to sound like a cool guy or like going about it differently, you should just tell people. You should just like when you're talking to a girl, you should be like, hey, I'm sorry, I'm like a little nervous right now. - Yeah, yeah. - 'Cause you're like, or if you're talking to a guy, a girl however it is, like be like, you know, I'm a little bit nervous right now. You know, I haven't been in this situation many times and like you're such a beautiful person and people like to hear how beautiful they are and they also like to hear like how honest and real you're being because they can't turn down. Like you can't just say like, oh, fuck you, you know what I mean? - And you being yourself gives everybody around you permission to be themselves and people are drawn to that. Like that's like the type of energy that you wanna put out in the world is like you're not scared to be who you are because there's nothing wrong with who you are and I think a lot of people are like attracted to that sort of confidence and energy. - Realness is king, especially you'll see, yeah. - Ah, that's great advice. I wanted to ask a very quickly. So, you know, like I have the habit, so I express myself quite loudly. I laugh quite loudly. I find something funny. I express my feelings. Sometimes again, vulnerable, quite fast. I'm easy to say that I'm having a hard time, you know. I'm just wondering that, you know, with a partner or a date, does that put, does that put them, put them off? Or should I do it because it might, as you said, encourage them to open up faster as well? - I think you should do whatever feels right in the moment and then just go into the moment, always telling yourself it doesn't matter if they receive it, how you want it to be received, just like just keep being you and don't get in your head about it. - Everybody respects realness. You are who you are. If someone can't respect someone for being themselves and they're not worth hanging out with. - What's your laugh sound like? - I mean, it's hard to like do it without something funny, but you know, if something funny happens, you know, most people would just like do like something like that once more, but I will go little louder. Some, it's some, if it's very hilarious, I'll be goffoing so loud. So it just depends. I'm not all, (laughing) (indistinct) - Yeah, I might do that sometimes, if something's funny, but I tend to be quite somewhat louder than, you know, the group, if something's funny. So I just hope that wouldn't be, that wouldn't put off a partner. - Just say how you feel. - I want to feel laugh. - Just say how you feel, 'cause you're gonna get, you're gonna get to the right person. - I remember the thing that I liked about Kristen the most was her honesty. Realness can't lose. - I believe that so much and I'm glad you all believe that, you know, I really want to collaborate with you guys because not everyone gets that, and even from my own family, I get the advice you've got to be polished and some people don't get it. So I really, really, I'm glad you guys match exactly that vibe. Like, for God's sake. - What's sake, we have a generative AI. Like if you're gonna be so polished and fake, just stop to chat, GPT. Like the whole fun of talking to people that we're on, white room. - Be real, we don't, we're sick of all the palette. We're sick of the polished picture. - That's rough right there. - We're, we're, there we go, that one, I'm thinkin' cool. (laughing) - That amazing advice, this call feels more real than most of the first dates I ever imagined. So like, thanks, yeah, thanks so much guys and I really, really hope to, I mean, I'm not sure how likely it is, but it'd be so nice to stay in touch with you guys. - Yeah, we'll keep in touch with you guys. - We'll always get in and. - Go out there day and then when we do another one of these, we'll do like, where are they now? - Yeah, exactly. - And you report back to us and, but you have to keep in mind that you have to be yourself the entire time and you'll be dominating. You'll be like, I'm flooded in opportunities. - Thank you guys, thank you. - Bye, bye. - Bye. - It's so sweet. - Hello. - Hey, hello. - Hi, how are you? - Hi, so my name is Teresa and I have a question regarding luck and food. - Well, I'm not, I'm not the greatest coach, so what is the ideal late snack after doing the, you know, the deed? - Snack is the, after you have sex and you're relaxed. - Oh, no, I don't wanna eat anything. I wanna rinse off, get all the stuff off the body, get right to sleep. - Rinse off. - Yeah, he has to rinse off, but that's probably a question for you. - You have to rinse off after you have sex every time. - I'd like to. - I'm thinking way more about rinsing off than going and getting an Oreo. - Oysters, I think about food. - You want oysters in bed. - Do you think oysters would be good? I think oysters are maybe faster. - We're giving her advice. - I like a frozen York peppermint patty. - I'll do a popsicle. - I think like salt and sweet. - Thank you so much for calling in. We appreciate it. - Yup. - Bye. - Thank you. Good one, bye. - Bye. All right, next caller. - Hi, hello. - Hi. Tell us everything. - Hi, so my name is Lucy, and me and my boyfriend are together for three and a half years, and I have to say that our relationship is really awesome, and I'm really grateful for that. So I was thinking if you could come up with some prank that I could do only to spice some though. - Oh, I love that. - You want to spice it up or you want to change it up? - Just spice it up. - I like spice it up. - So it's a sexual prank? - It's a sexual prank. - Yeah, like in the bedroom? - No, no, sexual play, like some fun prank, you know. - Oh, just to escape. - Just talk with them. - Yeah. - Oh, okay. - That's cool, so a prank. Well. - What type of guy is he? Tell us a little bit about him. - He is a really chill guy, you know? And he's always put together and-- - He's gonna be a hard guy. - He's really friendly and outgoing and hard-worm. - Yeah. - My prank would be, he comes home, you're on the couch. You turn to him and you say, "I have news for you." And he says, "What is it?" And you say, "I did ancestry.com," or whatever it is. And we are first cousins. - Oh, I like that. - Oh. - And then you could be like, honestly, don't worry about it. Like, I still love you. It's not weird between me, if it's not weird between you. We can just like move forward. Nobody has to know. But they don't even make you take testimony more to get married. You don't have to give your blood, so you really are good to go. And then we'll see, then you let us know how it comes. - Okay. - Okay, I have an idea. My idea is kind of the same. Well, you know what you should do. Actually, you know what you should do. Okay, does he have siblings? - He has a brother or sister? - A younger brother. - Okay, here's what you do. You set up a whole situation where he thinks his brother's kidnapped, okay? And you're like talking with the person that's the hostage or with the person that's keeping him hostage and it's on the phone. And he hears it's your brother and her brother and he's like, oh, I don't want it. And we say, you gotta do whatever we say. And you keep making the things more and more ridiculous what you have to do. Like you're talking on the phone and you're like, and you're like, the guy's telling me I gotta do this. And it's like, jump up on one leg and you come up with all these different crazy things that you have to do that are so funny and outlandish. And you keep it going for so long. And then all of a sudden the brother bursts in and everyone, yeah. (laughing) - All right. - That sounds amazing. - Yeah, look. - That's amazing. Which one was your favorite? (laughing) - I think Benny's. - Yes. - Well, thank you and good luck and let us know how it goes. We'll see you on the other side. Bye. - Good luck. - Bye. - All right, next caller. - Bye-bye. - Bye-bye. - Hello. Hello. - Hi. - Hi. - What are you amazing? I can hear you guys. How are you? - What are you doing? - Who are you? - You say who are you? I'm Mary. - Mary. - Mary. - I like that name. - Mary. - Yeah, that's my name for this on air. - Oh, well. - Oh no. - Oh no. - Tell us everything. Tell us everything. - Well, I was calling in. First of all, I'm the concept is so exciting. So that's what really dragged me into calling 'cause I think it's so fun. And I also love Benny Blanco. - Yeah. - And I was calling in because I'm in a five year relationship and I'm 25. I've been with him for all of my 20s. And we're in a very healthy, loving relationship. But now that I'm getting older, I just want to know how it's going to progress and how he's going to show the clear cut signs that this is like a forever Benny Blanco-Suena Gomez kind of love 'cause I want that. And yeah, I was just excited to call in and I really didn't think it would get anywhere. But now that it is, I'm excited to see what, yeah, what your take is. - Look, look, five years. You're at that like pivotal moment now. And like, I think it's like that moment where it's like, oh, is this going to become a thing? Is it not? Is it, you know, people, you were feeling that with Dave. Oh, sorry. You're with Dave Bird, aka Lil Dickie. And you're like, I know I'm so excited about that. Lil Dickie and his woman. I'm so excited about that. - You should say his woman, right? So, that's me, that I'm his woman. - We're gonna say two things. First, Kristen's gonna say her predicament when she was in it with Dave about how she wanted him to, you know, pop the question and get more serious and stuff. And then I'm gonna say my situation with Selena. - Well, look, I gave Dave an ultimatum. - Timeline, I'd say a timeline. It was an ultimatum, but it was one that I, that I didn't find too aggressive. She basically said, you know, if we're not in, like we'd already been dating for two years. And she said, you know, if by a year and a half from now, like we're not engaged, I'm probably gonna have no choice but to leave. And I thought to myself, wow, I kind of am already ready to pull the trigger and I get an extra year and a half. So, and I just had something that like, I had a marker at least that I just knew I had to do it in time. And I didn't, it was so not like. - Yeah, but to be fair, I had been in a previous relationship for five years where I'd never had the conversation. Like when I went into my relationship with Dave from the get-go, I kind of dropped a lot of hints of like, is this a dead end? Like, you know, I pushed, I pretty much pushed our entire relationship to the next level. I'd be like, if people asked if you have a girlfriend, what would you say? Like I really progressed it because when I was 24, I was in a relationship for five years and I didn't talk about it and I just, I didn't know how to transition to the conversation and when I did, I didn't really pan out in a way that worked out well for my needs. But I think you just have to start, just rip the band-aid and just start talking about it. You know, just start. - Yeah. Check it out. - I love that. - When I was dating Selena in the beginning. We were, we were dating. Nothing, there was nothing concrete yet. And she was going away to New York. And it was 3.30 in the morning and she goes, hey, and I'm like, I'm just asleep. She goes, hey, are you awake? And I'm sleeping, of course. And then she goes, hey, hey, hey. And she keeps tapping me and finally I wake up and she said, hey, are you awake? And I said, I am now. And then she said, hey, what are we? And I said, what? And she said, yeah, what, what are we? And I said, what do you mean, what are we? And she said, well, I'm going to New York. And if somebody asks me, hey, what are you in Benny? What am I supposed to say? And I said, I don't know. I said, what are you supposed to say? And she said, well, I'm asking you. And in that very moment, I realized that she was my girlfriend and I had no other, I didn't really have an option. And I wanted it and she gave me the helpful nudge that I needed. And I think maybe you can have a talk with him. with him and just be like, "Hey, we've been dating for a while." Like what do you see? - We're just using the line, if somebody asks if you're gonna marry her. - That's what you say. - That's so much harder than a date. - I think we can just cut to the truth. - No, girlfriend, it's so much harder. And she's still young. So he's still, how old is he? - I'm 20, he's a year older than me, 26. And we've had those little conversations of like, a future and like what's next, but it's more like, is he taking like the correct steps to show me that that's like, you know? Like, sometimes yes, sometimes no. So that's initially why it was, you know? - Yeah. - When you see your future, do you have a little bit of hesitation? - Like yes. And that's maybe because like I've always just had like hesitation and commitment first of all, but like with him, like just because it's getting so real that I'm like, oh my God. Now I have to like, is the rest of my life or it's not? So that's why it's like, like he said, the pivotal point, you know? - You're 20, you're 25. I didn't even get engaged to it was 34. - Yeah, no, exactly. And it is, it's like you said, it's so easy to get confused 'cause they put such like, this is what it should look like, but yeah, no, I don't believe that. - It's like, it's so much time, I just-- - There's so much more time. - Yeah. - Don't fall for it, I fall for it, don't do it. - Look. - It's true. And you see it everywhere, everyone's talking like that. Now, like, there's so much time, so much life out there. - Whatever it is, yeah. - Take it all, look, take it day by day. But he should make you feel like the beautiful woman you are and he should make you feel wanted. And even if you aren't gonna get married, he should make you feel like he wants to marry you eventually. - But he might not, Dave didn't do that, but I didn't let that slow me down. Like, it's so long as you are true to what you want and you're not sacrificing anything. Like, just move forward, stay in your own lane and then you'll get to your own finish line. Oh, that was kind of good. - Yeah, that's such a-- - That was a good, that was a good little line. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Well, thank you so much for calling in and we appreciate you. - Thank you guys so much. I love this segment goes well. - Thank you. - It was amazing. We love you. - Why? - Thank you. - Bye. - Thank you. - Next caller. Check out the link. - Hello. - Hello. - Hi. - Hi. - Hi, everyone. - How you doing? - I'm good, how is everyone doing? - Oh, we're good, we're just hanging out, getting ready to give you some real good, love advice. (laughs) - Okay. - Spill the TV. - Wow, okay, so I joined the gym, decided to do something for myself and not deal with any sort of relationship, situation, ship, et cetera. And go figure that there's this trainer there and it's been a huge crush ever since. I can't join her class or even interact. I'm turning red speaking about it. So that's it, I'm not sure how to even, a huge crush apparently. - Oh my gosh, are you nervous talking about it now? - Yeah, some red talking about it. - Okay, first of all, what's your name? - Liz. - Okay, Liz, have you said, have you made contact with the crush? - We made eye contact. That's as far as the contact is gone. - How many times have you gone and tried to make eye contact? - A good maybe four to six times? - Oh, so you're really, you're at the point where you gotta say something soon, right? - Yes, pretty much. - Okay. - Do you know anything about her? - Nope, just know her name and that she's been training at this gym for a while, working there for a good couple of years and that's the limited amounts of information. - So you have the perfect runway to just enter the class, like sign up for the class and then stay, it's exciting, stay after the class and just- - No, it's so hard, I don't even know what you'd say. It's a kind of a hard place to hit on someone. - No, can't you just be like, hey, I loved that class that you start there. - What type of class is it? - It's like basically kickboxing cardio. - Oh my God, it's so hard. - It's so hard. - Are you good at all this stuff? - Yeah, it's absolutely not. - Oh, you're not. Are you like super athletic or not really? - No, not really, I just did this because I've been pushed and then I was like, you know what, I'm gonna do it and I like it, but then that the classes are like, people that actually know what they're doing. I'm not there. - So you would definitely not be doing this class if it wasn't for this crush, right? You would have moved on to a different hobby. - No, I would still keep going to the gym. I just- - Just wanted to go to the class. - You wouldn't, I don't join the classes. - But whether or not you're good at it doesn't matter. I think it's actually even, like, it's actually better that this is like out of your comfort zone because I still think it's like sweet and cute at the end to go up and say, I really enjoyed that class. I never do this. - Yeah, you could be like, oh my God, I need like, I need like so much help on like this. Like you being like the worst you are at. This is like the better. She has to give you like special treatment. She has to like, yeah, I think like you're like- - You can run with this. - Yeah, you can run with this for like a good month and just like really get to know her. - Yeah, you guys could talk for like kind of, yeah, and it's this- - Oh, it's perfect. You can ask her for advice. You'd be like, hey, this part of the class was like a little bit challenging for me. - Yeah. - And no matter what, I think initially, she's probably going to like approach it pretty professionally and like even if she was interested, she kind of has to like uphold a barrier and you're not going to go up through her and be like, hey, I want to- - Hey, what the fuck? - Yeah, it gets like- - So just get over, it's kind of nice. You have like this icebreaker where you're like, have to talk kind of professionally and then you can ease into it. - It's really good. - And you can build the relationship organically and then you can get more information and kind of decide how you want to get in. - Yeah, I like it. It's making me read like thinking about it. It's like such a good idea. - Okay, so it's to join the class and go from there. - Oh yeah, you've got to join the class. - Yeah, I think you just join the class and you like slowly. You're like, this is a long game. This isn't today or tomorrow. Like you like work your way into it and it's good because you're pushing yourself. You wanted to like work out more too. This is like you're getting like a bang for your buck. No matter what happens, you're like great. Do you know if she likes women or no? - I have no idea. - Oh, I love women. - That's perfect. - Even better. - This is even cooler. - Even if she doesn't, she doesn't know you yet. - Yeah, exactly. - And if she doesn't, she'll never, like that's a good thing about it is like, she'll just see you as like a, you know, a girlfriend. So you're never gonna, she's not gonna be like, oh, she has a crush on me. It's always, you have the perfect end 'cause it's just gonna be so professional. - Yeah, it's so cool. - It's like girl, a girl. So you can get all the information. - Yeah, we're gonna have to keep up with you. We're gonna like, we're gonna have to call you back for like another thing. I need to know what happens in a month. - An update on the tee. - I would love it. - Thank you, and good luck. - Thank you, I appreciate all the feedback. - I got, I love when Dave just gets it off immediately. - I think it's inappropriate to hit on someone at the gym. - I think everybody does it. I think it's like, it's part of the course. - It's actually an interesting debate. What I'm gonna do is, I'm gonna go to Yahoo Scout, and I'm gonna say, is it inappropriate to hit on your instructor at the gym? And I'm gonna find out, 'cause I-- - I guess it is like a, it's not just like hitting on a normal person sitting on like your, yeah, then it might be, it might be. I actually take it back. - Well, let's see what Yahoo Scout says. - Let's see. - Approaching a fitness instructor for a date is generally viewed as a personal choice, though it involves navigating professional boundaries. Who is a follow-up question? Are there professional boundaries for personal trainers at local gyms? - Oh, interesting, professional fitness organizations maintain rigorous standards to ensure that the relationship between a trainer and their client remains healthy, safe, and focused on it. So it's actually, your trainer is probably totally like, told not to engage in anything romantic. - Yeah, that makes sense. - So it isn't appropriate? - For one of the two, but it takes to the tango. - Thank you, Yahoo Scout, for clarifying. Hello? - Hi. - How you doing? - What's your name? - I'm Jonathan Ernst. - Check, he sounds like he's hot. - You sound like you're not a carrier yourself, so it's cool to talk to you. - Oh, man, I appreciate that. 'Cause I always felt like I came myself pretty well. - What's on your mind, what's on your mind, what's on your mind? - Okay, so we're giving out love advice, correct? - Correct. - All right, so my issue I've been running this to my head. I smoke weed, okay? And everyone around me keeps like, so you need to stop smoking weed to find love or find a good woman, you know? So it's like, should I put down a joint if I want to pick up the right girl, or is that just bad matchmaking advice, you know? - As the girl here, who smokes weed and is currently high, I don't understand why you would have to change to meet the girl. - It's more like, I don't know, just 'cause people keep telling me this. So it's like, do I need to stop for a little bit? Or like, 'cause it's not, it's not, you know, I'm moderate, my smoking, and like-- - Tell me about when you smoke, like, through a day. - So I was like, I'll wake up in the morning, I'll smoke a ball, or eat like a little edible, you know, to, you know, help with the medical conditions that it's prescribed for, and then, you know, I get my stuff done, gotta work, or, you know, get whatever I got to do done, and sometimes come home. and smoke a ball, you know, or whatever it is, you know. So I don't know, I'm pretty moderate about it. I mean, I mean, Little Rock, Arkansas. So we just got medical medicinal marijuana, like not too long ago. I don't know, people are so quick, people that still like judge you. You know, like out in, like the stigma. - What's your medicinal use? - Yeah, so, okay, so like when I was in high school, man. We'll go back, so like back in eighth grade, we've met before, by the way, I was in eighth grade. - Me and you? - Yeah, yes we have. - In eighth grade? - I was in eighth grade, you were in 11th. And I want to go back. So do you remember coming over to Langston Hughes Middle School, were like your poetry slam team, or like your improv team, or whatever? - I do remember Langston Hughes, I remember Langston Hughes for sure. - Poetry slam, I probably. - Well, you came over with like a group of people, and I remember you guys did like, and they came over from South Lakes to Langston. And I was in eighth grade, and you guys were like showing us like this cool poetry slam stuff for this improv stuff. And I remember you asked if anyone would like to try at the end. And I remember, I was the only person that raised my hand, and I walked up and I remember I did the, lost, or the misplaced, the case of the misplaced mic. Yeah, the case of the misplaced mic by a two-pock. - Oh. - From the last dates of '89. And I remember you were like, "That's a future MC right there." That's it? Look at that. - But I just remember I was like, the vibe you gave, like it was just so easy to get off my ass and like go do something like creative and like fun. I'm not gonna explain it. It's like, you just like the energy in the room, just like, dude, I want to, I want to come and do something. You know what I mean? It was pretty cool. I was like, I'm never experienced that with like somebody. You know, the vibrations you were giving off was pretty cool. - So you smoke weed because I'm so cool. - I don't know, man. We grew up in wrestling, so I don't know. Might have something to do with the water in wrestling. Never know. - That's crazy. - So what's your advice, guys? - So you just smoke weed and you're just saying it's medicinal so you don't get in trouble. - Not at all. I'm great in sober. I was, you know, I went down a bad path for a while. I was, you know, addicted to bad stuff, you know, percussed, lean. - Oh wow. - Yeah, but I'd be there, I mean, I'm about five years clean from that stuff, but green and sober for about three. Green and sober for about three years. So thank you. I appreciate that. - Amazing. Okay, so weed holds a few different purposes for you. Like you've been able to control your addictions and by smoking weed doesn't, you know, isn't a gateway, doesn't lead you back into anything. And it, but it still gives you the, you know, that moment you need to help you calm throughout the day and stuff. - To escape, yeah, or to like sometimes just sit and meditate, you know, kind of like a Buddha, you know, kind of just sit down and meditate and then use that to kind of not exactly enhance, but it's enhancing it a little bit kind of to get you into that mind state that mind state or that mind friend you want to get to, you know, just to like be content. And sometimes after a hard day, you know, and it's not, it's okay to do that, you know? I don't see nothing wrong with it. - For me, after a hard day, there's nothing better. But, you know, I guess the question is does it slow you down from achieving what you want to achieve? Does it impact your life in any bad way? Would you be able to wait until the end of the day to do it? Or does it not negatively impact you throughout the day? - Exactly, I was thinking about that. Something my sister, my older sister always told me when I was younger, she said, you know, kind of, you know, make it like an award. You know, get your stuff done and, and, you know, do your work and you come home, back a bong bowl. - That's how I treat you. - Take a rip, you know. - We agree. - Everything in moderation, man. - You gave us good advice, you gave me good advice. - Yeah, Kristen said you gave her good advice. - Yeah, you gave me good advice. - Sorry, where I was. - It gave you better, no. - Yeah, I do feel the guilt all the time. The only, like the most common guilt I feel, it's weird 'cause like I basically do smoke every single day at the end of the day, I do treat it like a reward. But because I do it pretty much every single day and I never saw that coming, I do judge myself. And I think why do I feel like I have to escape all the time and I negatively judge myself? I know I could not do it, but I don't think that would make me happier. - I agree, man, I could put myself in that situation a thousand times. And my mind goes, you know, I don't know where it's going. Sometimes I'm just like, I have no answer. There's no answer there unless you get out there and you kind of put yourself in motion, you know? - Well, we appreciate you. Thank you for calling in and we'll see you when we see you in the field, okay? - Definitely, guys, look out there. - Always good talk with you and love you guys and. - Love you too, man. - You're fantastic tonight. - You'll find the one, you'll find the one. You'll find the one. - Guys, the warmth on my lap right now. I mean, it feels like I'm in the Caribbean or something. You know, everyone's upstairs, I can't even wait. This thing tastes so good. Oh, look at this pizza. The, oh, the. - Hey, dominoes, funky, thin crust pizza. - Is the best thing on planet earth? - I don't care. I don't care what anyone says. - I couldn't even wait for the ad. I mean, I guess this thing could be an ad. - Now that we're talking ads. - The dominoes app is the best thing in the world. All you have to do is you go and you press your order one time and if you're like me and you get the same exact thing every time you just go on, click one button. It's at your doorstep. You don't even have to talk to another human being. - I guess you don't mean it. - Next, next caller. - Hello. - Hello. - Hi. Who am I talking to? - This is Rosa. - Hi, Rosa. - Hola, Benny, como estás. - I'm good, how are you? - Muy bien. - I have, I am glad you're good. I have some people here with me and I got Dave and Kristen here and what's on your mind? - What's on my mind, let's see. Just wondering, you know, what can I advice? Love advice, you can give me. - Okay, do you have any specific situations? - Do you have any issues that we can help with? - How do you get my husband that I've been married to for 30 years to flush your toilet? - Oh, wow. - Number one or number two? - It's always a surprise. - Oh. - I don't know, I think you just gotta say, hey, it's really bothering me that you're not flushing the toilet and see how he reacts. I don't, and then if it's a really important issue to you, I'd say just keep bringing it up and eventually, if he doesn't start flushing the toilet, it's just a sign of disrespect. - Is he flushing poopy? - He says both. - What, he doesn't flush either? - Uh-huh. - He might have ADD. - What is he, a barbarian? - Oh, I don't even have ADD. - When I was young, the only way I'd get my allowance was if I flushed. - Really? - Yeah, I forgot. - I always forgot to flush poop. - They're married, so she's not getting along. - She's a married to him for how many years? - What are you, I've never heard of this type of thing. - No, I think it's common. I think it's just like, you just have to say to him, hey, I love you and I love a lot of the things that you do in life, but there's one thing I really don't love. - What comes out of you? - And seeing it in the toilet against the white backdrop just doesn't do it for me. - It's crazy. It's really such a bold thing. I can't believe, I understand number one. Number two's crazy. - Yeah, pretty crazy. - Number, what's his name? - Ralph. - Oh, Ralph, it had to be a Ralph. Only Ralph, Lee's number two. - It had to be a Ralph, a toilet roll. - Flush the toilet, Ralph. - Anything else on your mind? - Let's see you. - What? - Well, the married for 30 years. - It's not the same guy. - You've seen a lot of Ralph. You've seen all of us. Shit, his piss, his, he's seen it all. - Honestly, honestly, honestly, I commend you. 30 years is amazing. I'm so happy you guys are, you guys are still going strong and I've, and I've even pooped in the toilet is the worst thing he does, then keep Ralph and we're so happy that we got to talk to you and we hope everything goes forward. And Ralph, if you're listening, well, you're not now, but eventually when this comes out and you're listening, stop pooping in the toilet. You got a great wife. - Okay, Ralph, I'm 30. - Well, well, yeah, keep pooping in the toilet, but flush it. - Right, yes, absolutely. Flush the toilet. Close the drawers after you open it. - Don't poop in the drawer. - Don't poop in the drawers. Don't open the drawer, yeah, if you're not going to put it back what it was, don't touch it. - Exactly. - Yeah. - Good luck, we love you. - All right, last caller. - Give us a-- - Hello, and just before you speak, know that you're our last caller, so we hope that you-- - Give us a good one. - Okay, okay, so I'm just a girlfriend named Jen, okay? And as you know, she's a cancer, so just like Selena's a cancer. So my question is basically, it's more like towards Danny, but hello, y'all. It's more like, what are some like simple things like what I can do for my girlfriend who's also a cancer? And like just, you know, different things that like, cancer can keep, basically. - Well, I think the most important thing is to listen and to also like, you want to support me. A poor, you know, a cancer can be, you know, emotional and they can have, they can be sensitive. And, you know, a lot of times a cancer's not, you know, they're gonna be really shy to tell you what's on their mind. So you gotta put them in a comfortable spot where they can feel comfortable to like be as vulnerable as they wanna be. And then once they do, you know, you wanna validate it surround them with love. And, and, you know, even if they're wrong, you have to let them get their thoughts out. And then don't like just immediately be like, oh, you're wrong, you're this, you're that. Listen to them, hear where they're coming from and maybe come up with like a way to say it to them where you're still listening to what they're saying, even if they're wrong, but you're helping give them constructive criticism. And then if they're right, then give them a big slap you kiss on the face and tell them you love them. Cancer's love affection, they love being held, they love, they love love. Isn't that right? - Yeah, that's true. I think yeah. - What are you doing to support your cancer? - Honestly, I am not the most affectionate person, but I mean, she, because she's very emotional, I feel like it's more, it helps me open up more because I'm more of an actions person and I struggle with opening up, but I feel like, we have a good relationship. I always just feel like, like I always want to do more. Even though she feels I love her, whatever I always want to do more. - Yeah, I understand, I understand the feeling and it's like, we always want to do more for our partner and especially like someone, you know, I'm also a water sign so it's like, we got a mushy household and it's like sometimes we're both just like placating to the other person where we're just trying to please them and they're trying to please us and it's like, and you just, you have to be your true self around each other and both let yourself be vulnerable and you know what? Try, try, try just hugging your partner as much as possible. - And I think the fact that you even always want to do more is like such a good sign of you always wanting to give her. - That in itself is a good, it's a good thing for a relationship, like just the intention of always wanting to do more for her. - Yeah. - Like she can feel that. - Yeah, you always want to, you know, remind them that, you know, you love them and just like little daily affirmations and little compliments and little small things that you know, like I always make sure every day, I tell Selena how beautiful she is and not because I'm just lying because I look at her and I think she's so beautiful and like, so if you see something, you tell them, you know, you tell them how you feel. You know, Selena has a little, it's called melasma and she has it over her eye and she's really self-conscious about it but it's one of my favorite parts about her because it's like, we're like, you know, God kissed her when he made her, and I just like, I don't know, I love, you know, because think about it yourself, you must love the feeling when someone tells you something good about you and it's just like, even if you say it a lot, it's just a reminder and it just helps a person have confidence. - And write a note if you're not that talkative, like write a note or something. - Oh yeah, I like a note as well. - That is so trivial. - Well, thank you so much for calling. - I appreciate you, thank you. - Yeah, and just know that Selena was listening to the whole thing and she loves you too, she's here. - Yes, she actually, she actually just got here right before your call randomly. - And she, and you were making her, she's signal to Benny to talk about the melasma. - Say, just say hi. - Hi, how's it going? - Oh my God, I love you so much. - Like you're like woman crush for sure. - Oh, I love you so much and I think it's very sweet and I hope you and your girlfriend are happy and I understand the cancer feeling. So everything that he said I was typing out to him. - So you've got to listen, you just got to listen. She makes me look good. - Yeah, for sure, I'm trying my best every day, you know? - Yeah, well, thank you so much for calling. I'm gonna steal them away now because they've been working all day but it was so lovely to talk to you. - We love you. - Thank you. - Thank you. - Bye. - Bye. - Bye. - Bye, good luck. - Go cancer. - Guys, not only are we giving love advice right now but Selena crashed our actual thing slightly early because she's always early. And then we're going out to have a double day. - That just goes to show that, look at us. Four friends. - In our 30s married. - And look at us now. (laughing) - We love you. - All right, that's a wrap. - Come on. (upbeat music)