The first time I was ever heartbroken by a woman - What female nature actually looks like

I'm gonna tell everybody a story about my very first heartbreak I ever had when I was 19 years old. Why and how social media and excess validation causes women to lose their femininity and how I even have proof of it? Oh wow, is this a story? And to tie this all in I'm going to explain to you how women used to behave back in the day before social media. So today I am 30 years old. Today is my 30th birthday. And today is April 1st. I was born April 1st of 1996 in North Dakota. Okay, so I remember what dating was like 10 years ago. Right, I remember what dating was like in 2015, 2016. Okay, so let me tell you a story about my very first heartbreak and I'm going to tie this into women's communication and behavior patterns over social media. So I was 19 years old and this is when I first started going to parties and stuff with my other friend that I had at the time. He was an athlete, he played hockey and he was pretty popular. So he had a lot of access to popular girls and girls who were really pretty and stuff like that. And at the time I had no dating experience but I was hanging out with him. So friends with him through the day. And there's this girl who I instantly thought was so pretty. A lot of guys in town wanted her but at the time for a very short amount of time, probably like a month and a half or something, it was like a summer flame. She wanted me. Okay, so I'll never forget this right. She was cute, blonde and at the time I didn't have enough confidence to talk to her. So like her and her friends would even come over to my house and I was like too shy to actually talk to her. And it's funny like since I was too shy it worked in my favor and then she ended up liking me. So I remember like we were at a bonfire and she just came and like sat with me or like she sat on my lap and we were in the same chair or something like that. I remember it was something like that right. And like at the time when I first met her, I actually had only lost my V-card probably like two or three weeks prior. Okay, so this was all just like brand new. I went from getting no attention to having really pretty women after me. And I didn't have the confidence, I didn't have the courage or I didn't have the know how to navigate anything. And I remember like I think she was like my third kiss that I had ever had. I quickly fell head over heels in love with her. And I remember getting super jealous because then when she started to pull away from me she would go on Snapchat and then she would like not open my messages. But she would actively, you know, she would actively post stories then of her at house parties with other guys and all this stuff. You know, and then I heard through the grapevine that you know she was seeing somebody else. And it was really hard for me because we were in the same friend group and I didn't know what to do so I just did nothing. But you know I thought about her at night and I when I would try to go to sleep and I even remember on. I even remember like going on vacation with my family and we were all in the same hotel room. My parents at the time or no actually this is when my parents got divorced. I think it was just like my dad and us and we all went to a football game. I don't even remember what state we were in. But anyways, I remember just like looking at Snapchat that night and I was just like crushed because you know she wouldn't open my messages. And I think at the time she was at some like college campus like partying with a bunch of like frat dudes. And I was just super sad right. I was probably crying and I was just a mess. I didn't sleep at all. She was my first crush. I felt really heartbroken because she wanted me first and then I wanted her but then she didn't want me. And you know I like didn't have a lot of experience in the bedroom so I remember like you know not just not having the confidence when I was around her right. But we had a lot of mutual friends tons of them. If she ever sees this video that I'm making even though it was 10-12 years ago or however long she'll know exactly who she is. So but whatever. She's married now as well. And I wish you're all the best but this ties into what I wanted to talk about today and then I'm going to explain to you how women's femininity changes as they get access attention. So I remember the days of and this all tied together I promise. I remember the days of my space like messenger app on the computer or whatever I remember all these days. So like I even remember having an LG flip phone when I was in the fifth grade. Okay so I remember you know the dinosaur days if you want to call it that right. And the girl who I just talked about who broke my heart the very first heartbreak I ever had at 19 years old or 18 or 19 I think 19. Very first heartbreak I had ever had. He fast forward eight or nine years later and I was 27. And there was a dude I was friends with at the time and I was telling him the story and he actually knew at the time that me and her dated for a little bit. But I was telling him the story at a bar one day or one night in my hometown and I was like yeah man I remember you know I was 19 because he was telling me about his failed relationship right. This is a friend of mine that I had for quite a few years and he goes oh she broke your heart and I go yeah and he goes no way he goes me and her used to message each other me and her used to message. I can't remember if it was on Facebook or what he goes yeah we would direct message all the time he goes if I go into my history he goes I probably have I could probably even find it. And this is hilarious because I'm going to explain to you how women's femininity changes right. And how women become colder and more masculine and they lose their femininity with age the more months that go by that they keep getting validated by men on social media and with the excess attention. So let's start from the top so this all makes sense. Okay this same girl broke my heart that was 19 then you fast forward seven or eight years later I'm like 26 or 27 years old I'm telling one of my friends at the time about this girl. And then he coincidentally tells me that he used to talk to her and we're laughing and I go no way I go show me the messages he goes yeah I bet I can find him so he pulls him up. And it was amazing to see because they talked for probably like 18 months maybe even like a couple years off and on. And the more he scrolled I watched her communication with him become more masculine not as girly and way less bubbly. So here's what I mean by that women today when they message men I don't know why they do this I'm guessing it's because of the excess social media attention but for some reason women just completely close off their femininity. So I put two and two together when I would date women and I would see how they message their girlfriends and every time they would message their girlfriends they would give paragraphs this long. They would keep talking they would have sentences they would send voice notes they would use emojis through the whole thing and I was like how women want to communicate women like to talk. But then when you look at how they talk to a guy that they have interest in all those amazing wonderful qualities of femininity and how they communicate that's so beautiful to see it just calls off and stop doing it. And they give him very short answers thinking that that's going to inspire his masculinity but it doesn't all it does is it ruins the dating dynamic. So I saw this happen with her. So I was looking at his Facebook messages or his messages at the time I don't remember what messenger app it was specifically but I was looking at these messages and the same thing happened. They were in their either early 20s or they were in you know their high school years when they were messaging each other and the same thing happened. And at first when they first met she was sending him really long paragraphs long paragraphs likes to communicate even if he failed what would be called an interest test today or you know a test. It's like it didn't even matter women just like to talk she liked that someone was there giving her attention she wanted to talk to him she liked him. She gave all these paragraphs she gave emojis exclamation marks and the beautiful thing about it was that she would ask him follow up questions. Oh I'm just at home doing this and she would want to engage what are you doing women today don't do that women today try to be as short as possible. To hopefully appear disinterested even though this makes absolutely no sense because it's not how you create a relationship Like if you look at how it is today It's like women almost want to actively give men a worse experience to date them for absolutely no reason And it makes no sense. It's like what in a man and a woman want to be good to each other Like if we're supposed to be counterparts here in this relationship How is that gonna work if we're both playing games and keeping our communication short? It's not gonna do anything So anyways, I watch this happen so in the beginning you know their teenage years or early 20s. It was I think long paragraphs Lots of emojis She would send him hard-eye emojis or blush face emojis, whatever and then month by month slowly I would watch the paragraph shrink and Then slowly month by month not only with the paragraphs shrink the frequency of the paragraphs would shrink and then on top of that The emojis would shrink too and then pretty soon she's just sending him one or two lines at a time and then pretty soon She's not responding at all And it was really sad to see because I watched this happen as she got older and I watched this happen as she got older Because I knew she got older because I could see the timestamps of every single message. This was the same woman that broke my heart and I watched what happened. I watched what happened and this is what's happened to Majority of all modern women with social media and dating apps and excess communication and excess validation is that Women today don't like to talk to men and even if they have a man that's interested in them It's like Or even if they have a man that they're interested in or has interest in them It's like they typically want to make the communication experience as rough and miserable as possible and Hopefully in their mind they think this will lead to a relationship that this is gonna lead to going somewhere. I'm sorry, but It's pretty hard for a man to have to sit there and play verbal jujitsu over the keyboard 24/7 to hopefully keep interest It doesn't work like that if you watch your grandparents They didn't do that to each other for most of you if you watch your parents They didn't do that to each other. This is like a modern issue with all this technology and social media so you know I Watch for communication pattern get shorter and Because today's my 30th birthday. I'm here to tell you something because I remember how dating was when I was 19 or 20 I remember how it was 11 years ago or I remember how it was you know 10 years ago and It wasn't like this. I want you to know this. It wasn't like this. It wasn't this hard It was not this hard to message like this women didn't put up as much Communication friction and here's what I mean There was a time And keep in mind I had no game. I had no game at all. I didn't know game I didn't watch any video on the internet. I just talked and I was Casey and women liked me a lot of times for me Sure, sometimes obviously the heartbreak would happen or the relationship would fail obviously like it does Which is probably how we all got here to watching videos like this in the first place But just hear me out for a second. I swear to you. I remember this There was a time when you could just walk into a house party and Women would just want to say hi. They would come up to you and they say oh, hey, how's it going and they're happy? There is a time where if you exchange numbers or Snapchat with a woman She would send you a picture with some words on it right away or she would just want to chat with you There is a time where if you sent a woman a paragraph she would give you a paragraph back because she wanted to talk And women weren't as what I would call conditionally feminine women were okay with being girly Women were okay with their femininity now today It's like they feel like that is somehow either a weakness or something bad for the relationship and they try to be as short with their communication and as masculine as possible and All that does is it makes It makes the polarity between the masculine and the feminine non-existent and it makes it very hard for the guy because then here's what happens Doubt creeps into his mind and he goes am I not masculine enough? Does she not like me enough? Why is she not you know showing me some interest in some effort here? Why is she making it so hard even if he's an attractive guy even if he's making good money even if he's good looking even if he has good style Even if he takes care of himself even if he understands the concept of masculinity and femininity she's still giving friction a lot of times and I see this So I want to tell you that there was once upon a time Where it wasn't like this And my prediction this is my prediction from 2026 right now until the next five years What I believe is going to happen and I think we're already seeing it is there's a correction in the dating marketplace There's a correction women are starting to pursue men first and women are realizing that they can't do that forever because month by month They're getting older and I'm sorry, but no matter if you're man or woman This is you know true for me. This is true for you. This is true for anybody. We don't have unlimited time It's not like we all get to live forever So slowly women realize like hey, you know, we we need to maybe talk a bit here We need to actually like be a bit cooperative with the communication so this works You know instead of ruining each relationship by just saying I'm done and going to the next guy like maybe it's okay to have one or two conversations to see if you can work out a disagreement I think we're slowly seeing a correction Because men are giving up Men just aren't messaging or approaching women at all. That's my first prediction that women are going to start to actively pursue men first But here is my other prediction I think that over the next five years the guy who's going to win in dating is the guy who is the most natural and human Over that keyboard when he's messaging there is no game anymore. He's just speaking freely When he sees her he has no issues saying hey, I thought you were so pretty Oh gosh, I'd love to take you out. I really want to take you out sometime you want to go somewhere with me Making it simple I think no game is going to be the new game over the next five to ten years. I think that things are gonna shift I think that natural conversation and natural communication is going to be the way And I do believe that women are slowly going to realize and see That life is a lot more miserable without a man in their life slowly Then it would be having one If you like this video, I want you to take this a step further and join us inside the community that I built I have a whole process that you can see To help you learn understand and master the language of women And I really hope you like these stories We'll see you in the next one