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A man who has the genetic marker HD1, which attacks estrogen, and has made him scientifically declared a hard dog. Any of our healthy folks, science folks, are kind of like, "You're not supposed to be zero estrogen." Yeah, but you know what? They don't have the HD1 marker. I'm doing just fine. Yeah, there you go. Nailed it. I just think it'd be funny if you did actually have a genetic marker called the HD1. That was, I was am using myself going in. Well, gee, that intro was not random, and they usually aren't. I've moved to a place of maturity where I like the intro into the theme. Today we're diving in. It only took five years. Today we're diving into, see how, I'm just impenetrable now, bro. It took me. Yeah, the day when I just ignore you, I just, I always bite. Anyways, to do tell you we're diving in, man. We are talking about what we touched on feminized men, really not being a great thing. We've talked about this so much. And what I really want to do today is to highlight what a feminized man looks like, and in doing that also to understand God's divine design for masculinity in men, because I'll just dive straight in. This has come up recently for us in being talked about in a lot of different circles, whether they're Christian or non-Christian. Pastor Aronmikman, as he's a man that we both love and respect out there in LA, at Mosaic, he was preaching about this this past Sunday. And I love what he said. I saw a real, that came out. He said, "We don't need to try to make men less. We don't need to try to eliminate the strength of masculinity. I just pray that in my lifetime, men will realize you don't have to make a woman less to be more, and women, you don't have to make men less to be more." He said, "The best future for all of us is going to be when all of us are committed to helping each other become the best versions of ourselves." And there's some, I think, a lot of times some room for interpretation about what the best version is, because you'll hear people say, "I'm just trying to be the best version of me. I want to be very clear. The best version of you is God's version. It's when you're in line with who God designed you to be. It's not saying, like, I want to be a little bit of Garrett, because I think that this is cool, or I saw this guy, and I really wished I was like that. It's going, "Lord, I want to see you as you've made me. See all the strengths, see all the uniqueness and the reflective, your glory, and absolutely maximize that." Now, very interesting there from Irwin, but a guy we both respect, very much, Alex Hormosi, went on the George Janko podcast, and I listened to it, and I could not have been more the light you listened to the whole day. Well, it was a two-part thing. It ended up being, like, probably close to four hours. I'm like two and a bit hours into it. But listening to Alex Hormosi, we talk about Hormosi a lot in our own time, because he's a guy I think that has uncovered principles and has run them to the extreme. I think you and Alex, he's probably the only person I've encountered. I've never met the guy that I think is probably very similar to you, which is a compliment to him. So I think you guys have a lot of incominium in the way that you think and the way that you assess things. He's a guy we respect the principles of, and I didn't know this, but he grew up in a Christian household. At one point, he was, like, following Christ, hardcore. His mom was a Christian, and I think that God's put some seeds in him on the Janko podcast. It was really interesting, basically, to hear some things. But he commentates on the church, and he's saying this, and he's very clear. I want to make sure we're respectful to him, because I'm not knocking this. Erwin McMannis is obviously in the church. He's pastor in church. Hormosi self-declared. I'm out of the church. And listen to what he said. This is what he said about the church and masculinity. Is that I feel like a lot of modern Christianity has softened masculinity. And I think that that is to the detriment of men. I think the church would win a significant more, larger amount of young men over, because, like, there's the menosphere and the red pill and all that stuff. And I think the reason that that resonated with so many young men is because I felt unseen and unheard, and they felt weak, and they felt not allowed to be men. And they felt condemned for being men. And I think that the church would do a better job of welcoming them in by leaning into the elements of masculinity that are biblical. Yeah, no man, I would say no real man, is going to argue with what Hormosi said there, because what's his core statement or his core argument, that modern Christianity has weakened masculinity. And where do you see, except maybe a small little place in Frisco, where do you see the church pumping out the authority of masculinity? It's not happening today. So look at Hormosi, just like you said, he's a man of principle. He's examining the fruit. And he said, I see no fruit of masculinity in the church here. And just to dial in on what I think his attack is, which is accurate, on modern Christianity, modern Christianity is a place that has made niceness superior. It's something I've talked about on this podcast often. I love Al Capone's statement, "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness." He knew it meant to be a man. You could be kind, but you should also be strong, and you should be violent. Not that he is a great example of character, but I love that. But so much of the church has taken niceness and made it the supreme quality of what it means to be Christian. And I talk to people, and I'll ask them, well, why didn't you witness to that person? Why didn't I want to be rude? I can tell you for certain that niceness is not the supreme quality modern Christianity has taken passivity and mislabeled that as peace. Second passivity and saying, oh, well, we just didn't want to cause a problem here. We didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable. Let me tell you something. Real masculinity makes a lot of people very uncomfortable. There's a reason culture is fighting against it. And where are we today as a culture? We're ripping children out of people's wombs. We're slaughtering people. We live in a culture today that's falling apart. And that is because of a lack of masculinity. So I'm 100% and would highlight and put exclamation points at the end of Alex's statement, because I totally agree with it. His points are all valid. The church is not pumping out masculinity. Thank you God for the opportunity to do mighty men and to do the impossible life podcasts, because we're doing our part. Yeah, I mean, that's. I actually. I take no joy in listening to you say that, man. Well, I mean, just objectively. Look at it and say, where's he wrong? No, no, you said what church is pumping out masculinity. And I couldn't think of one. For all the well-known places around the church. And there's. Jervi Martin is one that comes to mind. There are other masculine pastors. But I'm saying, where do people. Because you gotta look at this from a secular perspective. And I spend a lot of time with people who aren't church people. You know who they've heard of? They've heard of Joel Stine. Right. They've heard of John MacArthur. Right. They've heard of folks like that. But to the modern world, they don't see some pastor. There's only a few very well-known pastors that are people that are known to the secular world. And they certainly don't look at church and say, like, "Man, those guys. " You're not gonna fix it with one pastor. The entire culture of Christianity has to change. That that is what we're known for. You're not known by, like, "Well, look at this apple." You know, it produced this one good apple, but the rest were nasty. Right. That's a bad tree. Right. So if you look at the fruit of Christianity right now today in culture, people are saying, like, "Man, those are the most values driven, masculine base, protecting their family, loving their community people in the world." It's not the case. And so until that changes, that's the way people will look at Christianity. Yeah. Man, it's a very well said point. It's the. It constantly, like I said, I take no joy in making that assessment. And this is very much a highlighter episode. And we're gonna go. I'll just one more thing of. Yeah. so much of what I see in modern Christianity is an over-emphasis on the way.
feelings. One of the things that I hear in culture and in some churches, not ours, that just makes me want to vomit is talking about being authentic. And because the way it's authentic from a foundation of pure estrogen of like it's okay just you know it's okay to feel that way. It's okay that it's hard. It's okay that you know you've this has been really difficult for you and you know it's okay to cry. You know what Jesus wept? Jesus didn't wept because he was really feeling really beat up. Right. Jesus wept because he saw a lack of righteousness. So let's not just go around you know giving everyone the opportunity giving men the opportunity to cry because they're having a hard time. Yeah what we're saying just the same thing I said to my wife where the flat tire on the side of the road no amount of tears has ever changed flat tire. And I would say to any man like let your tears be for a lack of righteousness let your tears be in passion for we're going to stand up for what's right. Don't let your tears come from man this has been really hard for me that's for children that's for women. Yeah what we're saying is just because you feel it doesn't make it authentic. And that's a lot of people it's like well what am I supposed to deny my feelings? Yeah you are sometimes you're supposed to recognize that your feelings will lead you straight to the pit of hell because you have bad thinking that's not based on truth and you need to correct and and let me just take that a little bit further before we get on with the rest of the episode. We're already on with the G. This is a impure definition. In pure definition it goes back to the very core of where man and woman have fallen from God. Go back to the Garden of Eden okay what did they do? They ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. It was the it's the knowledge of the good and evil. It wasn't the tree of evil. It didn't make them sin but what it did is it gave them the opportunity to choose and this is what people have all it's it's our constant struggle with God is wanting to make ourselves the authority. Yes right. You look at the arguments around abortion you look at the arguments around homosexuality you look at any of the modern cultural arguments and people are saying well why can't it be this way? Yeah that's that's ultimately what it is and where modern Christianity has gotten weak. Why isn't it okay for a woman to be this or why isn't it okay for a man to do this and these are things that God has already defined? Yeah yeah it could not that's yeah well said G. So we're going to dive into this man because or we want to really highlight this and and put the application on because as with anything it's so deceptive. I remember whenever we were coaching I asked you this question and this is really the question of what we're answering on this podcast really with all that we do is I said gee what's the measure of a man and you like that question because it went straight to the cool and important question. It is an important question and you said it's his ability to stay faithful even in the face of certain death. What you were saying is like that he's true to the end and I mean what is what we talk about all the time endurance perseverance words that like sound sexy but living them out man it can get gritty it can get ugly and it's I'm going to quote this imperfectly but the way the Stoic said it was until you actually die all defeat is purely psychological. You're not actually dead and I part of what has defined or informed that definition for me was a story of a man who I've told his story on here before Maddie Roberts. Yeah who thought he was dead right and he kept going Maddie still walks the earth. Yeah yeah I love that story I don't know if you ever have told that full story about him getting shot place now's probably not the time but it's an amazing it's an amazing story of Maddie what's the same that one for another time. All right so going back to where what I want to be really clear is you talked about that the churches are not pumping out masculinity what we we got to understand each gender reflects a unique part of God right so to cross over a K for for women to become masculine for men to become feminine is to dim the picture. Genesis 127 was so God created man in his own image in the image of God he created them when you hear something twice in Hebrew they're emphasizing the point male and female he created them it says it again in Genesis 5 2 almost exactly the same it talks about in the image of God he created them and male he created them we are each reflecting a unique part of God's glory we need men to be masculine we need women to be feminine because when we are both living the in line with God's design we reflect the full a fuller picture of who he is that's how he made it to be you know if we could do it all on our own if it was like no we're only supposed to be masculine masculine is good feminine is bad then God wouldn't have made a helper he wouldn't have said it's not good for man to be alone but he made us both reflect his image and so we want to be very clear that we're not saying like feminine is bad masculine is good but for a man you need to be masculine for a woman you need to be feminine and we've got all this confusion now where people are like well they've got this energy and I operate more in this and it's like look man God designed it to be you can you can twist it and try and reason it however you said but it goes back to that heart of sin why can't it be this way because you're not God as Charlie Kirk said there is a God and you're not him so you know we see this in divine design obviously men produce testosterone we could go through scientifically the effects of testosterone we're not going to do that but but go look it up if you really just lost your mind is good right men get your testosterone levels checked 100 percent we're big on that we don't have a sponsor but like we are I would consider one oh I know you would yeah I know you would we've I mean we've talked to one before but yeah it's it is we unfortunately we love just I'll just say this it's not like oh man you got to go jab a needle in your arm to be a man unfortunately we live in the modern society we live in there's a lot of things that lower men's biological testosterone right there's there's reasons that infertility is such a problem today and I'm not referring just to men's low testosterone I'm saying that we live in an unhealthy world with a lot of unhealthy habits you should fix those fix those habits but also get your testosterone levels checked and fixed it's hard to be a man if you're missing one of the biological cores just the same way that you're not going to be the man that God's called you to be without his spirit inside of you you're going to have a really hard time being a man if you're missing one of the biological components yeah which is testosterone yeah big time you say you can't I'm saying you have a really hard time no it's true and vice versa women with their with their hormone levels I mean hormone levels are a big thing I actually remember whenever we created mindset mastery when we locked ourselves in that room or in that Airbnb that's whenever I decide to go really take T-level series because you told you started saying like all these things I was like I don't care about the muscle and all that and you're like brain fog and I was like do I have that all the time I had it for years and your brain frog had confused you that you know muscle mass was unneeded right okay I'll go out that you see it that way and maybe you're right anyways so go back to this man correlation correlation is not causation anyways men don't so go back to what we were saying let's get back into the podcast men don't need to fight feminism right like we're not saying go out and be like the anti-feminist yeah I was here's where I put it to Nick we're really what one of the things we're we're talking about here we're picking up on some of the things we left off on the last episode and we could we could make this a man versus woman episode and masculinity versus feminism it's not worse and here's what I said to Nick I said and you can take this however you want to take it I think most of our listeners don't have a problem with me being who I am and I have to defend myself but I'm very masculine and I don't have to like fight feminist feminist thoughts right right and the point that I'm making and this even fits God's design God took woman out of men there meant to be complimentary right and it doesn't mean you know because because God sees men and women in a perfect view it doesn't mean that one is better than the other they have different roles correct but but the point I was going to make was men don't have to fight against masculinity I don't want to see feminine men right I don't want to see feminine men men do not have to fight against feminism what men need to do is be masculine and there's some things that you have to do to be masculine and if you'll be masculine you're not going to have a problem with fighting against feminism right right so this isn't a don't be feminine podcast this is a be more masculine podcast and this solves so many problems when people ask me like you know what do you think of feminism I think well you know when men aren't men then women are going to try to be men yeah if we if we didn't have such a masculinity problem we would not have a feminism problem yeah and and you know the thing is man you see this in what we have unfortunately in America where we lead the world in fabulous homes you know what you know what we don't lead it in is motherless homes because what do women do whenever men and abdicate they step right in there's so many women and shout out to them for having to for doing that although I absolutely hate that is so that are sitting there filling both roles they're working all the jobs they're doing all the protecting and providing a leadership and also trying to nurture and do all the other things that God made them to be and nobody was designed to do all of it on their own and and it but it's a perfect example you it's it's a difficult to be a mom when the one who's designed to nurture is the one who has to sacrifice and vice versa when the men who are called to sacrifice like I can nurture my children and you know this Nick I'm very. I'm emotionally resilient yes that's good way of saying it but after like hours and hours of watching my kids on my own I start to be like where's my wife it's going right what are we doing here right because it's not what I'm wired for right I love my kids I love spent I love having fun with them spending time
I'm with them. I don't really enjoy nurturing children. - Right. Yeah. 'Cause that's not what God made me for. - Right. And I don't even want to, we could go into that but it'd be pointless. I want to keep moving. So we're gonna get into what a feminized man some of the characteristics are as well as we're gonna get into very clearly what the challenges that a man must answer and what God made you for. And I want to be clear when we're talking about this 'cause we're always rooted in truth and truth is scripture. It's this is not like, I'll get it, it was in the seal team. So he saw some masculinity. - We're not hating on women either. We have so many amazing ladies who listen to this podcast and I think enjoy so much of the masculine and they enjoy the hard dog of this podcast because a great man makes a place for a great woman. - 100, you know what I want from my wife? I want her to be so feminine. - Exactly. - I don't want my wife to come in and just start like dropping. - But I will say, as we're separating these two, there's a unit in a gang. - Yeah. - The same like a great man is very strong, but he gets like, wow, such a tender core. And the same for a woman. Like people don't know this about like unless you're close to my wife, she's really tough as a woman. - Yeah. - She's pretty tough, but you wouldn't, by meeting her you wouldn't think that. And I say that to say like, the same way that every man needs a tender core and has to have the ability to love and serve and sacrifice, that doesn't, every woman, it's not just beautiful feminine fragile. - Right. - But it's a different type of strength. 'Cause both of our wives have that strength. My wife was described as a velvet, or an iron fist in a velvet glove. And that's the perfect way of describing a man because she's very sweet and feminine, but she's also very strong. And you know, I think like women, women that are really feminine women, they want a strong man. Like that clip of Formosi, I didn't keep playing it 'cause we could have kept going, but George Janko has like, I think it's his cousin or somebody on there and she said, she's like, look, there's so many women I know in church that want a man like you just described. I was talking to a friend of mine the other day who some people might describe as feminist. She's a pretty tough chick, did a long time in the Navy. She's very capable, she's very tough. And she knows how I feel and my stance on things and we were talking about that. And she basically, after we talked about, you know, we were all at a dinner, a group dinner together. And as we were talking about the subject, she basically goes, you know, if I had more of a masculine man, I'd love to be that way. - Yeah. - I mean, case in point, that's anecdotal, but like, let's dive into the word, because that's where I was going. I don't want this to be like the Nick and Garrett's opinion podcast 'cause if we ever do that, like we've taken a hard detour, it might be funny, but it certainly wouldn't be as helpful and we're not aimed to be funny, we're aiming to be helpful. So we're gonna give a few scriptures here. So bear with us, there's just a few scriptures, but we're making a point here for what we're launching into. The very first thing you gotta understand, we're looking at what God says men were made to do. And like, there's no scripture that says, and God made men to do X, Y and Z. You also don't find that for women. You don't really find that for anything. The great thing about scripture is that it's God speaking through 66 books through many different prophets over thousands of years, and when you put it all together, not only does it not contradict each other, it explains a fuller revelation of the truth. And I love that. The word of God is amazing. So Genesis 2, 15, the very first thing the Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and to take care of it. Oh man, Garrett, we're made to work. - Made to work. That's, and we're gonna come back to that here in a second on some of what, you know, man is, what it means to be a man. And we're also made to be strong. First Corinthians 16, 13, be watchful, stand firm the faith, act like men, be strong. This is the apostle Paul, one of the strongest dudes that's ever walked. First Kings 2, 2, another ultra male, David talking to his son, be strong and show yourself a man. Like God's, you know, we're being told, guess what? Strength is a masculine quality. It's what you're designed to be as if testosterone wasn't enough of a clue. What about this, G? This is one that would bruise some people. Malachi 2, 16, and we're not commenting on divorce on this episode, so just listen to the last latter part of this. But Malachi 2, 16, the man who hates and divorces his wife says the Lord, the God of Israel, does violence to the one he should protect, says the Lord Almighty. I don't ever wanna get before God and have him say, "Hey, I made you to protect your family and your wife. What'd you do?" Oh, Lord, I didn't think. - Yeah, for the sake of this episode and the point that we're making, I'm not saying they're not equivocating the two here, but just for the sake of the scripture so we can highlight it. Read this as the man who abandons his wife does violence to the one he should protect. - Right. - You should, I mean, you should protect. You're made to protect. Okay, so what do we got you? You're made to work. You're made to be strong. But if anyone does not provide for a little-- - If you wanna, yeah, if you wanna just hit it on the nose. First, I mean, this is one of those, there's some scripture that like makes, like here's a headline making the point. But this is like as literal as it can get for Timothy 5/8. If anyone does not provide for his family and especially for the members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. - Ouch. - Ouch. - Yeah. - Oof. - Is there, did I misinterpret that? Do I need to look up? - No, you don't. - It's pretty literal. - Right. Exactly. I love that Paul was the man after your heart. There was no sugar. - Not the pill. It was just like swallowing the medicine. - Well, that's our job. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Like, you've got a lot of responsibilities. What it's saying is, hey, this is a pretty primary responsibility. You gotta care for your family. If you're not doing that, you're failing at everything else. - Yeah. - So because think about if the reverse was true, this is, and we'll, I don't wanna talk, get into like pastors, families and stuff 'cause there's, there are, but there's a lot of unfortunate, modern examples of this, where men like, well, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna go serve God. - Right. - And then you're in your family. This is saying, no, that's wrong. - Yeah. - That's the primary thing, God, you know, your first responsibilities, take care of your family. - Yeah. - Yeah. I mean, and that's, that's why we gave those scriptures because we wanna be very clear. When we say you're made to work, you're made to be strong, you're made to protect, you're made to provide, it's not like a cool thing that we've sound, thought sounded nice, or that we've seen work out in our experience. This is foundational based on the eternal word of God. So, Jay, I just wanted to make sure that we get that clear for people so this is not our opinion. So, let's, like, I wanna get into highlighting. Like, what does a feminized man, like, what would you say are the characteristics of a feminized man? - So, we're gonna start here with, again, this is not the men versus women episode. - Correct. - But, like, what Hormose is talking about, in modern day Christianity has weakened masculinity. And what do we see a lot in culture is we see femininity, you know, creeping into men. And I see men with feminine qualities. And I'm not trying to, not saying, hey, stop doing this. We're gonna say, be more of this, but let me tell you what some of these feminized man characteristics are. - Yeah, so they're just- - They're just- - They're just- - They're just- - That's why I wanted to just call them out. - Right. Number one is passivity. Passivity is saying, oh, it's not a big deal. It's okay, we talk about that on this podcast all the time. And I will say, passivity is, God is something God hates. Ahab, who was the husband of Jezebel, she brought these false gods into the temple. And it says that Ahab allowed it. And it says, all, like, there's a scripture, I'm blanking on the reference. But it says that Ahab basically says that Ahab allowed this. And it says that Ahab angered God more than any other came before him. - Yeah. - He did more to his first King 1633. It says he did more to provoke the Lord than all the kings of Israel before him, which is wild because King Jebel- - Yeah, we've gotta read the rest, but it's okay. We don't need to get into it. You have to read what comes before that scripture. 'Cause that's what it's said, you know, he made God angrier than any other came before. But what did he do? What it describes before that is passivity. - Right. - Right, number two is avoidance of like, okay, again, feminized man characteristics, avoidance of leadership and responsibility. God puts you on the earth for some work to do for responsibility. There's things that you need to love and build and serve. And when you make it about you, when you don't pursue those things, you are missing it as a man. Number three, feminized man characteristics, okay? Man, this is what makes you look like a woman. And I'm not speaking down to women, but I'm saying this is the weakest version of what a man can be. - You're failing your assignment. - Yeah. Number three, emotional instability. And lack of self control. We could talk about this from a spiritual perspective. We can talk about this from a biological perspective, biologically and psychologically, men are more wired for emotional stability, correct? Men reset on a daily basis, women do not. Women have all sorts of hormones that make it a lot more difficult for them to have the level of emotional stability that a man is supposed to have. When you cannot control yourself, you're not very much of a man. Number four, specifically abdicating, provision and protection. Right, this is the first Timothy 5.8 scripture. If you are not focused on caring for your family, and I'm not saying you have to go become a billionaire, but what I'm saying, if you are not focused on caring for your family, you are missing it as a man. And that's not just, I've talked about this before, in first Timothy 5.8, if I remember right, the word provide is the word perneo, which means to foresee. And so it's much more than just like material things. It's that you can raise up your children, prepare your family, show them what's right, give them a future. And so provision and protection, yes, you gotta be able to put a roof over their heads and put food in their mouths, but it's more than that. Number five, feminized man characteristics, is moral compromise. You're unwittingly.
willingness to stand for truth. It is unfortunately the political movements and cultural movements that support abortion, that support homosexuality. They're driven by women. And why? Because it's out of a nurturing heart. And we could go more into that. And when men are doing these same sort of things, it makes you very much like a woman. Is moral compromise that you're saying, well, I don't want to hurt this person's feelings. Right. Masculinity can be very offensive. Masculinity, masculinity can really hurt things. Okay. Let me give you an example that this, like this one kind of breaks people's brain a little bit as it comes to niceness. If an animal like, I'm a hunter and that offends some people, but I don't care. God gave us the animals. I'm very much not someone who wants anything to suffer. No, I'm frightened of witness. And a great hunter, like what your job as being a great hunter is, it is the greatest death this animal can have. Right. And if you know wildlife biology, me shooting you with a rifle or an arrow and like through the heart and you were like dead unconscious five seconds later, that is way better than starving to death or being ripped apart by coyotes. 100%. But let's just talk about like a wounded animal on the side of the road. If I pull out my pistol and I shoot that animal in the head, that seems brutal. And it's the kindest thing I could do for that animal. Right. He's been hit by a car, right? His entrails are all over the ground and his back legs are shattered. But he's still alive and he's going to be alive for a while. Right. The best thing I can do is just kill this animal. That is, that seems brutal, but it is also nice at the same time. And when you flip that on its head, a lot of this fear of brutality, right? Like, well, what, you know, homosexual people, you know, where, where this start in the 70s or not trying to make this though, homosexual podcast, but where did this start in the 70s? Well, hey, just let us do our thing. And this inability to stand up for what we knew was morally right out of niceness has turned into our own destruction. What this sounds like in the modern days, like, well, no one cares what you do in your own home, right? It's like, well, hey, you, as long as it doesn't bother me, that, that is like the definition of passive. Like, hey, if, you know, you said before, if a lion came into your neighborhood, you'd go kill the lion, whether it was bothering your house or not. And that, to me, that's exactly right. That's exactly how it should be. You need to see the threat for what it is. That inability to kill what needed to be killed, right? The absentee moral compromise is to stand for truth. That inability to kill what needed to be killed has created a generation of disease. And then number six, this, this follows along with number five. Number six is lack of courage. When you, when you have no, no passion, when you have no courage, no desire to go and fight for what's right. You are a feminized man. Right. So, went a little along there, but those are feminized man characteristics. Well, I actually thought we could have gone a lot deeper into those because I think there's so much in each of those, those, I mean, we have other episodes on these things when we talk about lack of self-control. And I would challenge people to go back and listen to some of our episodes on passivity and when we define strength, I mean, I think when we gave the definition of strength, is you move the object, AK, what's in you is stronger than what's outside of you. And weakness is what's outside of you is stronger than what's inside of you. AK, the object moves you. It really is that simple. And the object can be anything. It can be a lack of morality. It can be a deception. It can be tiredness, whatever it is. Like that, it comes in so many different forms. This, you know, when you, when you, it's, it's so crazy where we are in culture because it's like people have never read a book. Right. We let alone the Bible. Okay. Let's just set the Bible aside for a second, which is not something I want to do often, but I want to make a point here is that if you just studied humanity and you study culture, there are what, what I love, you know, I love looking at things the same way like I look at quantum technology, I look at things in science and everything points back to God. Yeah. And there's so many wonderful things in scripture. The scripture called it out before science could confirm it, right? Right. Which again, just points back to God in so many ways. But it's just setting scripture aside, you can look at what, a lot of what the secular world would understand through history of what a man is just by, just again, just by doing some research, read some books, look at what man has been for thousands of years. And that's going to point to a lot of the same things that the Bible says about what it means to be a man. I just want to highlight a few things that are inherently, like inherently what it means to be a man, besides scripture, like men, number one, men are oriented towards meaningful work. Right. Let's look at what men do today, the majority of men and what they've done for forever, they're men of conquest, they want a journey, they want a battle to fight. Okay. That's inherently manly. And God made us with a purpose. Yes. Right. Number two, men are built to shoulder responsibility. Right. That's what we're designed for and look at what men have done. You see even when you like go to modern, go to museums and you see the people who built the pyramid. You don't see a lot of women carrying the rock. Yeah. The pyramid. Men have built everything for thousands and thousands of years. And again, I'm not speaking down to women, but when you think about physical responsibility, in general, it has been men who have been the ones who have to carry the weight. Yeah. For sure. I mean, wars were fought by men. Yeah. I mean, stormed Normandy by men. Mostly still are. Yeah. Well, 100%. Number three. Again, and the things that are inherently manly, men respect competence. Yeah. If you see what men tend to gather towards today and for forever, men have gathered towards sports. You know, before sports or even a thing, you had knights and medieval games and chivalry. But before that, you had the Colosseum. Yeah. When we, if we didn't have combat, we're going to come up with something to figure out who's got it. Yeah. Where's the competence? And then like, and besides that, in the construction and arts, okay? Again, not hating on women, but I just walked the Louvre, okay? Last week. The majority of art in there was created by men. And again, I'm not beating up women. I'm saying, men respect competences and things that they've pursued. Let's build great things. Let's design great things. And in the modern world today, it's building businesses. Yeah. Okay. Number four, men crave a challenge. We like to hunt. Many of us do exploring combat, sports, risk, all these things that men pursue. This is inherent to men. Yeah. And what the world view is, this is inherent to men. If you have an ounce of testosterone in your body, you're going to begin to pursue all of these things. It's almost like you were made for it. Men seek brotherhood. Yeah. Okay? This is, it's so epitomized in every major military movie. And this is, again, not endorsing any of these things, but this is just what men gravitate towards besides the military. It's fraternities. It's gangs. And even much of modern religion is where men, people, it's like, we have men want to be together. And then lastly, men are protectors. Throughout history, it has been an expectation that a man would protect his wife and child. Now it's in scripture, but it's also throughout history, men will fight for the women and children. Or when the castle is taken over, they say, okay, take the women, take the men as captors or kill the men and release the women and children. Yeah. I mean, Lord of the Rings, whenever they're like, put the women and children in the hold, right? And no one goes like, wait a minute, that's sexist. Right. Because they're just like, well, yeah. So I was just making those points to say, these are things that are inherently manly. Scripture calls out what is manly. The point we're making on today's podcast is not anti-women or anti-feminism, but it's very pro-men and be masculine, be the things that a man is supposed to be. And it will allow for greater women. Exactly. We don't have to feminism is a disease divergence of what women are supposed to be. Feminism is what happens when you force women to be men. Because men haven't been men. Right. So if men will be men, then women can be women and we can live in a great society. And so I'll just, well, we'll kind of end with like, what are the challenges we talked about, feminized man characteristics, talked about what is inherently manly. These are the challenges that every man must answer. I want to pause before you go into this, because I do love this and I just, I don't want to break your rule. But I want to bring in stuff because oftentimes when we're preparing, I feel like we'll have great conversations. I'm like, I want to remember that because it needs to be said to everybody. We talked about this, that masculinity fails when you don't meet all the requirements of being a man. And we've talked about, you know, made to work, made to be strong, made to protect, made to provide. Like, we will see some guys, right? And maybe they make a lot of money and maybe they're, you know, maybe they have like a good relationship with their kids. And then the guys like, yeah, but it's okay that I'm like 60 pounds overweight and I haven't I, you know, I couldn't run a quarter mile if my life depended on it. Nor could I do more than 10 pushups. A lot of people are like, look, that doesn't matter. He's still a man. So just recently I was in a conversation and I would say what would be an elite social circle. And we were talking, it was a leap. We're not going to go into it. It was 100% a leap. And we were having a group discussion. There were men and women in the group about a certain person having weak qualities, but it was more so as it relates to business, right? And I said something that sucked all the air out of the room. Not you. That's unlike you. And I said, yeah, he probably couldn't do 20 pushups. And there are some men in this room in that conversation who might define themselves as great men because they literally own castles. That's a different level. Literally own castles, but I know they couldn't do 20 pushups. And I saw the the the slightest glimmer of change on their face when I said that because they had to think twice, can I do 20 pushups?
- Yeah. - And I say that to say, making the point of what Nick is talking about is, it's being a man isn't just being strong. - Correct. - I said to Nick, one of the reasons I think, I appreciate James Bond as a form of masculinity, certainly not as a perfect example of masculinity, but one of the things I like about him is that he's many things, right? He's both sophisticated and brutal at the same time, that he can do violence, he can sleep in the desert and be at the ritz the next moment, that he can be both. And this is really the greatness of who God is, that God is both love and law. And the same thing as a man, that you have to be all of these things, not just some of these things. If all you are as strong as a man, you're a barbarian. You're missing, that's not what God's called you to. And so again, we're gonna talk about, just using that as a setup, understand you need to pass all these tests, you need to go through all these things. These are the challenges that a man must answer and you can't just answer one of them. - Yeah, 'cause I was in the camp of a long time of just because you have muscles, doesn't make you a man, 'cause I knew a lot of guys that were jacked, that were just, - Just 'cause you have muscles, doesn't make you a man, but if you don't have any muscle, are you a man? - Right, and the point we were making is we're like, you do need, if you're gonna protect them and you're gonna provide for your family, you're gonna protect. We're not saying that you have to be able to withstand every attack, but man, you gotta, - People will take, people will take this as, this is where I'll see men fall back on this one. They'll look at like, not me, but the look at seals or MMA fighters, and like, well, if that's what it means to be a man, I can't be a man. - Exactly right. - Right, 'cause you know what, a lot of people who listen to this podcast might not think they could be guaranteed to fight, but you know what, I know a lot of people that could woo me. Okay, so, there's always a bigger fish. There's always someone tougher than you. There's always someone that can beat you up. It's not zero sun. Your ability to win a combat engagement does not determine whether you're a man. It's your ability just to put up a fight. - Yeah. - So think about it this way. If someone comes to attack your family and you run, are you a man? No. If someone comes to attack your family and you fight for them and you lose, are you a man? - Absolutely. - Exactly right. That's what we're saying is that it's not outcome-based. So that's why we're saying like, when we harp on the physical, we're not saying that you have to be, you know, like you said, MMA heavyweight, you could just never lose a fight. Because the point I made when we were talking about this, whereas as well trained as you are, you are elite in weapons trained. If some 11 year old came up behind you that you didn't know, they could kill you with a gun. And that's a very fright. Like humbling box. - That is the fragile society of the modern rifle. - Right. Yeah, exactly. You say it with a smile on your face, but nobody would say that 11 year old was tougher than you. - Right. - And that's the point I want to make. It's not outcome-based, but man, you should 100% be thinking, I need to be there to be able to do stuff. You know what's funny? A small, like, it's just a complete obscure form of this. I love when I'm on it. Like, I look for the opportunity when that old lady comes on the plane, when I'm sat on the plane, and she wheels in her thing, and she's starting to lift it up, and you can tell she just doesn't got it in her to get that thing up. I'm like the first guy up, because I've been like this for years, long before we started this podcast, 'cause I was like, men should be there to do stuff like that. Like I'm the guy who's gonna open a door. I'm the guy that's gonna help you lift everything heavy. And for, it's always been in me. I hope that that's like a little, just a little thing for all the guys out there. Look, man, do some push-ups. Get yourself in shape. Be the guy that can like pick some heavy stuff up, that can open the jar. Your kids will remember it. The people around you will appreciate it. Very simple. You don't have to be Jason Bourne. God didn't make you to be Jason Bourne. Correct. Right? But be the man that God called you to. Yes. And he called you to be strong. So just a few, as we wrap up here, these are some of the challenges that men have to answer for. Number one, will I accept responsibility? That's a test that you're gonna have to pass. There's responsibility that is assigned to you. Are you going to accept it? Again, look at all of these through like, if I can do all these things, we're not anti-women here. We're a pro-masculinity. And this is what it means to be a man. So I've got to answer all of these challenges. Am I gonna accept responsibility? That's not a question you answer one time. It's a question you have to answer every day. Yes. Am I gonna accept the responsibility today? Number two, will you master yourself? I have to answer this question every single day. It's a battle. I'll fight for the rest of my life. But why am I gonna do it? Because I wanna be who God's called me to be. I know me being a great man is the best thing that I can do on this earth. Yes. The best thing I can do for my wife, for my kids, for my community, for everyone around me. And my ability to be that great man starts with, can I master myself? Yes. Number three, what's my mission? What's my purpose? It's better that you have one than you didn't have one. But what's even greater than that is that you have a God-defined one. And God has defined from a beginning level what every person's purpose is that you would advance the kingdom. And then there's a unique assignment that's put on your life for the way that you're gonna do that. And we talk about that on this podcast, what it means to find your purpose. We talk about it in mindset mastery. How you can find your purpose. 'Cause God has a great purpose for you. But this is a challenge you have to answer. If you do not seek it, if you do not find it, you have missed it as a man. God made you for a reason. And if you don't know what it is and you don't accomplish it, then you've missed it as a man. Number four, this is an important challenge that men must answer. Is what do you fear? You're going to fear something. Hopefully you can be like my, who I sowed my arousal chambers, a man who fears God, fears nothing else. But I can tell you who you are as a man by what you fear. But what you're afraid of, some people are afraid that people wouldn't like them, some people are afraid that they would fail. Some people are afraid that they wouldn't be loved. Whatever your fear is, it will determine who you are as a man. Number five, what will I fight for? What will I protect? I would even say, "What are you willing to die for?" Yeah. That's a question that informs some of the others. But then it's not, "What would you do?" 'Cause men say, "I would do anything for my family." Well, would you? Maybe you say, "Would you die for your family?" Sure, maybe you jump in front of a car. Would you live for your family? Yes. Would you go through the battle that it takes to be a Godly man? Will you get up and read your Bible every day for your family? Will you do your pushups every day for your family? Will you decide to become who God's called you to be for your family? What are you actually fighting for? That's a question that you have to answer. And then the last, and I would say the most brutal and testing of every question comes back to, you know, the question you asked me and what I believe a man is, this is the question that you really have to answer as a man is will I endure? Will I pass the test? Will you be like Paul who gets to the end and says, "I've fought my fight, I've run my race, I have finished, I have passed the test?" Is that going to be the story at the end of your life? It's not something that you will answer at the end of your life. It's something that you answer today. Will I endure? Thank you very much for listening, guys. Remember to share, like, subscribe. 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