The speaker recounts his journey from leading a large mega-church of 4,000 to starting fresh with a small group in his living room, determined to avoid past mistakes. He highlights the failure of churches where most attendees depend on a senior pastor for spiritual feeding, never learning to disciple others. Using the analogy of raising children, he insists believers must be trained to stand alone in faith, disciple others, and multiply. He critiques the attractional model of church—relying on great speakers, bands, or celebrities—as unbiblical, asserting that Jesus said the world would believe through the church’s unity and love, not through entertainment or apologetics. The speaker shares his frustration with seeing 4,000 people produce only 100 converts, calling it poor stewardship of the Holy Spirit’s power. He now leads a church as a family, where each member owns responsibility for a few spiritual children, learning to shepherd, counsel, and evangelize. He believes this pattern, rooted in Acts 2, will restore the early church’s power and cause the world to believe in judgment and salvation. The goal is for every believer to be equipped to thrive alone, making disciples who make disciples, rather than remaining passive consumers.
Thank you. Will you pray with me? God just even hearing that story just Just tells us of your sovereignty like you in control of everything you knew when we would be born You knew we would be in this room tonight. God This isn't an accident. This isn't just another meeting another gathering It's something you designed when you created us Lord and that's just brilliant. We can't even imagine that And so God we want to make the most of these few minutes we have together to honor you and just figure out how to How to be your ministers how to be your ambassadors and and so thank you for these men and women in this room my brothers and sisters God help me to say things that will matter a hundred years from now God that we can look back on in this little room When we're in your presence and say gosh something happened there God make it that real In Jesus name. Amen. Amen man That's hilarious about that story um But d'angemo just so you guys it's so I can get him back. I mean he you know, I taught a preaching class at at this college that we started In Seamy Valley and you know every year at you know like I'd get a new crop of students You know 2030 students in this room and and you know you start to get to know their personalities and And they would take turns preaching and when it was Daniel's turn to preach um I'm just being honest. I was kind of dreading it because he seems so shy and like malcy and like all right, you know let me get some coffee and you know Let me get ready and I just remember the moment he got up there our whole class was like What in the world like it just no one was expecting that sermon like you've got to be kidding me and It was it was it was pretty awesome and uh and so lately we've been having conversations and we we've just kept close You know as as close as we can with the distance and everything and Just always appreciated his heart and his faith and how he's stretched me in some areas and And I love I even steal things from his sermon since people don't know him. They think I came up with it um but uh You know lately we've just been having a lot of conversations about church and and just um as God's been blessing and and seeing things that are happening that The church gathering you guys have been a part of just don't get moving forward now What what what do we need to do because man you did some things and then you got to a point where You just felt like you hit a wall and I don't want to hit that wall And so how do we change some of things in the beginning when it's still fresh because you know once you get stuck in a pattern for a few years Then it's a lot harder to change And so what are some of those things and a lot of it is stuff like this where it's it's it's it's it's no different from what uh, you know jethro told Moses like you can't do it this way You can't just have everyone come and listen to you and you make all the decisions You've got to get other people involved you've got to split this thing up Each of you, you know, you need to be multiplying yourselves You need to have people that are under your care, you know, just like like Paul said You know, it's like gosh you should be teachers by now and you still need someone to feed you I mean that was the frustrating thing for me. It was like 16 years in one church and I mean I had people that were in their 10 15 years and And you're trying to please everyone thousands of people and they're still coming up complaining like oh you didn't feed me enough And it's like really Man you should be feeding other people and you're coming up and I mean one time I got so frustrated and I I blew it I shouldn't have used this illustration, but I I I got a couple of like these little toy plastic balls and I stuffed it in my shirt And I said this is why I feel every Sunday come on up here. Let me feed you you know and I said doesn't this look ridiculous, you know, and everyone's laughing I go, but this is what I feel like like why am I still feeding you, you know This is ridiculous you should be feeding other people and how do we get you out there using your gift ministering to other people and one of the things I've been looking at now as a church is I look at the people and my congregation and I see them as my children and Yet with my children, I don't tell my kids. Hey, just live at home until I die I tell them no, I'm gonna train you up And by time you turn 18 I want you to leave, you know, and I want you to get your own jobs I want you to learn how to live on your own. I want you to start your own families Because if you think you're gonna live under my roof for the rest of your life. It's gonna make you weak um, and I will not be doing my job unless I teach you how to stand on your own two feet because dad's not gonna be here forever And we haven't run church that way like the family where we teach people and disciple them to where they can stand on their own two feet I mean for most people who attend church Attentions is all across America. I'm talking about more than 99% If you take out the senior pastor, they wouldn't know what to do They have no idea And and just like I want to raise kids that if I were to die They're fine. I taught them how to stand on their own. They know how to work a job They're good in the same way I started looking my congregation that way and going look I want to know that if uh, you know, what's your name Trisha, you know Was the only believer here in what's here we in Where? Lomida okay, so if Trisha was the only believer in Lomida She'd be fine. She would know how to walk with the Lord and grow in the scriptures on her own In fact, she would know how to go out and share her faith with other people and she would know how to Disciple them baptize them, you know gather a group together You know figure out how to pray together with other people and live as the church with other people. That's the goal now Um and and so a lot of what we see in church where everyone's dependent on some mega church speaker um And those days have just got to die and we've got to start discipling our people to where they can stand on their own two feet and go out and make disciples Because that's what's in us anyways Like you have it in you. I know if you are a believer Then you feel sick to your stomach that you have not talked to your next door neighbor about Jesus Because inside it's in your DNA once the spirit changed your heart you became a slave to the things of God And you started having the mind of Christ and you hate being a coward right and even though in the flesh You fight it, but that's why Paul's like pray for me you guys pray you know he says to the church You know pray for me so I could speak the word boldly like I should because I know that's in me And Timothy you've got to step it off that that spirit of fear you know that's not from God and then Peter and John Would gather the believers to pray for their courage because it's in us And we're not doing people favors by saying yeah, just sit and listen to me for the rest of your life But instead if we follow the biblical pattern of discipleship and saying no you need to have your own children Your own spiritual children And so what we've been doing in San Francisco now is We're breaking people up and saying look I Those are your sheep Those are your sheep and there's something about having that responsibility that ownership I mean when you have five or six I remember I was 18 when I was first given a group of guys by my youth pastor I was a senior in high school and it gave me the freshman guys and said those are your disciples now Look man, are you serious? You know like I'm 18. I've only been a Christian for a couple of years And you're entrusting this group of guys to me and man. I just took ownership like okay I'm their leader. I'll figure it out. I mean it was crazy. I didn't know what I was doing There I remember one guy started drinking and this was in Stockton, California and I I remember just Driving him you know downtown to where all the drunks were you know I mean I'm 18 I take this 14 year old kid and we just walk the streets and people are talking themselves throwing bottles I'm like this is what you want to be you know, I mean I just I I don't know right. I'm just trying stuff. I don't know and I'm another you know other kid her mom his mom called me and Just had some questions about parenting like what do I do with myself? I mean I'm 18. I'm going Let me ask my mom I don't know you know but It's it's the same thing those of you who were parents What did you do when you brought that baby home? You got scared right you didn't know what to do no one really told you but you figured it out Why? Because you knew I've got. There's no choice. I'm it. I'm it. I've got to figure this out. I will figure this out because I love this child and doesn't mean you don't get help. When the baby's sick, you take them to the hospital. You still have other people, you still take them to school to learn, you know, and whatever else. But you have that responsibility. And in the church, we've been trying to figure out ways to just make people responsible and go look. Those eight people, you're their shepherd. You're their spiritual parent. You're not their small group leader. It's not just a facilitator. I want you to own them like your spiritual kids, you know? Like they're your own kids. So everything rises and falls with you. And that doesn't mean that you need to know the answers to every one of their counseling questions. We have resources. We have elders. You can bring them to us. Well, you know, because in the same way, I take my kids to doctors. I'll take my kid to, you know, for basketball coach or whatever. But I, it's my child. And you give people ownership. And what we've done, just so you get some background, is I just didn't want a church that was built around me this time. I started that church and see me valley out of my house. It grew to like four, four, 5,000 people. We planted a bunch of churches from it. We started a college, sent missionaries out. But there was a-- we just got stuck after a while, because there was no room to grow, you know? If you have four services and they're all packed out, what else do you do? And I found people that were there, that had been there forever, that were taking no steps of faith. And to me, it was just-- to me, some of it was just logic. Like I go, OK, we have the Holy Spirit in us. He says, you'll receive power to be my witnesses. That's why you have the Holy Spirit in you, is to be his witness. And that's why it drives you nuts when you know you're chickening out. I felt it. You felt it. It's like, oh, I know the way I'm supposed to be. I hear about people who actually live out what the Spirit tells them to do. But I struggled when I looked at a church of 4,000. Why? Because when we had 40 people and we grew to 400, I thought, that's awesome. That's a great thing. That means those 40 people reached out. If they're salesmen and they each made 10 sales, like, this is pretty good. You know, this is good. Look at it. Look what we did. Our 40 people grew to 400. But then when I had 400 people and we grew to 4,000, I go, OK, now that's awesome. Now, Lord, you entrusted me with 400 people, 400 salesmen, and we grew to 4,000. That they each made 10 sales. But now I have 4,000 sales people. And that's a huge cost for those who-- well, you don't have to run a business to figure that out. 4,000 staff, and we make maybe 100 sales, that's failure, isn't it? You know how much it costs to run a church of 4,000? 4,000 sales people, how many sales are being made? And I'm going, whoa, I mean, you would fire someone with an army that big that is producing that little result. But people don't think about that. They go, well, bring those 100 people on stage. And, whoa, 100 people came to the Lord. But it took 4,000 of you. That's-- we overlook that. And it costs how many millions of dollars? So 4,000 people plus $6 million equals 100 converts? Like, it's just, I'm sorry, Asian. I think this way. Like, I just go, not good deal. It's just isn't working. You know, that doesn't make sense. That's a failure. Yet at the point of failure, that's when everyone wants to interview me and ask, oh, how do you get that mega church going? And I'm going, why are you interviewing me now? This is not success. And it is not success when I know that if I'm not preaching, at least a third of them won't show up. That's ridiculous. And I remember my mentor, who's a pastor in India, was driving me to this event I was speaking at. And there were camels and horses, one of those big old things and lights and crazy music. And he just laughed. He goes, you Americans are so funny. He goes, no one will show up unless you have a great band or a great speaker. Yeah? What's your point? He says, man, in India, we love just to get together to pray. When we hear that believers are gathering to pray, like we get excited. When we know they're going to just break bread as a family, we get excited. And I just thought, gosh, the Lord looking down. And what does he want to see? Like these people, like they just love the fact that there's going to be prayer, because they believe when they get together, that God's going to answer. And so they're flocking to this place. Meanwhile in America, oh, he'll song's going to be there. What attracts us, what gets us there? Is it this speaker, this band, try to think of it from God's perspective of what he wants? And we're like, wow, look at these people. They're flocking just to break bread to remember my son versus these people only flock if they're entertained by this person or this person or this band, like that whole attraction thing. I mean, I get the intention, but it's causing us to fall in love with people and not in love with the Lord, and not in love with prayer and believing in the supernatural. It just, there seems very little that's biblical about it. So all these things got me to question, when I start realizing I'm accountable as the shepherd of these thousands of people. That's a tremendous resource. And I don't have anything for them to do. The way the system is set up, I can't even tell them everyone bring a friend. We won't fit. It's set up to where I'm telling them, basically, I don't believe you could all lead one person to the Lord this year. It's the system itself is set up that way. Now, it was great when we were small, and we had room to grow, but it always hits that point where you can only go so far, and then just the over dependence on a person. So I saw it out to say, let's just do it differently this time. And it's kind of funny, because right after I got married, 20-- so one years ago was just with my wife going, let's just figure something out. Let's just start in our living room. And then it grew to this monstrous church, and it's just funny 20 years later to go. Let's just start in our living room again. And let's do a different this time. Let's make sure that it doesn't get centered around me. Let's make sure that the people are actually using their spiritual gifts, because everyone has not just a tiny gift. We're talking about a manifestation of the Holy Spirit himself for the common good. So if you've got 4,000 people that have this insane power from God, and they're not using it for each other, that's terrible leadership. Yet, I got to stand before God on that one. I just let him keep coming and be dependent on me, and I just fed him every week. I can't let that happen. I can't let them waste this resource they've been given by God. And so let's figure this out this time. And so we started with a group of like 20 people in my house. And I said, look, you guys, I will not be your pastor six months to a year from now. Six months to a year from now, you're going to hate me for this, because we're going to live like a family, like the Bible says. Because the Bible says the world's to be attracted by our love. Jesus says, when you become one, like the father and I are one, that's when the world's going to believe that I'm the Messiah. And say, this is what was supposed to cause people to believe, not a great speaker, not some scholar that comes in with his apologetic facts. Those are all good things, not against that. I mean, that's my life. Pursuing, speaking, and this and that. I'm just saying that's not the system that God said. God says when you become one, God, like the father and I are one, then the world's going to believe that you're loved by God and that Jesus was sent by God. And Paul says when you have one mind, one spirit marching side by side for the sake of the gospel, then the world's going to believe in their destruction and your salvation. That's a crazy statement. He's saying, look, when you guys can become these bodies that are just one united, like family and fearless, the world's going to believe in their own destruction.
Which is crazy to me because I'm going, "No one believes in their own destruction right now. No one believes in a second coming. No one believes in judgment, even in the church they're questioning whether God judges anymore." Which is crazy to me because I'm just going to read it. Hit the page 2 and it kills everyone. You know? Like, this is a loving God. They're like, "Well, how could a loving God punish, read?" You know, read how he tells, "I'll kill the firstborn of everyone in Egypt." And read about the weeping and the wailing. Read Exodus, you know, 32, 33, and telling the leave, "I just run back and forth and just slaughter your brothers." You know? He says, "God." And we're going, "Well, that's all testament." Yeah, because he really mellows out in Revelation. You know, we live in a time where I'm going, "This is ridiculous." You guys, this is our God. No one believes in that. And so you think, "Well, maybe if I walk through, yes, walk through Scripture, yes do all those things, but you've got to understand what the Bible says is when we are united, striving side by side for the sake of the gospel." When we live like that early church, that's when we're going to see the fire come down. You know, and people will believe in their destruction, which isn't like the most logical of equations. Because in our own human mind, if we lean on our own wisdom and understanding, we think, "Oh, have some celebrities and athletes become Christians, bring them up on stage, then bring some scholars and some scientists to prove that the world was actually created and the proof evolution falls, bring some archaeologists to explain the veracity of Scripture and its authenticity, talk about prophecy. This will get people to believe. That's our logic. Bring in a good band, bring in a good speaker, you know, have these programs. That's our logic." And Jesus said, "Now, become one. Let the church to be so united that they've never seen love like this before, and then they're going to believe." And the thing you got to understand is, "I know your logic doesn't go there, but would your logic have come up with March around the city seven times?" The walls will collapse. Would your logic be just hold Moses' arms up? That always works. You know, this book is about a book of faith who is not that arrogant person who thinks, "I've got the plan, I've got the system, I've got the strategy," and who just goes, "Well, he says this will work, okay, that when we become one, like the Father and Son are one, that people are going to believe, and doesn't make sense to me, but let's go for it." That's the way I think. I go, "Okay, let's create this family then, and I tell this group, you know, in my house, we've got to become family because that's what you see in this. I mean, love one another. This is how they're going to know your my disciples is by the love where someone walks in and goes, "I've never seen people love like this before." You see that in Acts 2, right? When it started, it's like, "No one had any need." It's like, "Man, they're giving each other the shirt off their back, and what happened?" People, the Lord was angrier, they're number daily. Those who were being saved. Why? It was that fulfillment of Scripture. It was when they were united, you know, that the fire came down and things were happening. So they believed, they trusted. That was the fulfillment of what Jesus prayed. And I'm just going, "It's no different today, but when's the last time you walked in a Christian gathering that if an unbeliever had walked in, he or she would have thought, "I've never seen unity like this. I've never seen love like this. Can you think of any time in your life when you've seen that in a Christian gathering?" See, this stuff wasn't even on the radar, believe it or not, when I planted my first church. I didn't think about loving it. All I thought about is getting a bunch of people in the room to hear me share the Word of God so that they could have these walks with the Lord. There's nothing wrong with that. That's good stuff. I thought, "I'm going to preach this book and I'm not going to back down." I praise God for guys like Daniel, they go, "Man, this isn't a cutesy message." But it is what the Bible says, "Here we go. That's great. Those are good things. That's when I started the church on." But I never once thought, "Love one another." I just thought, "Okay, I need a worship leader. I remember saying specifically, "I would love to have a band on our first official Sunday." And I, you know, here's what I wanted. Someone take care of the kids. We've got to have child care. So someone figured out a sound system. Well someone try to figure out where we're going to actually meet. These were the things. How are we going to take an offering? These were the things that were the absolutes to me. Did I think about the biblical priority? The biblical priority was love. But I seriously, I didn't care if the people love. I mean, that'd be nice. I mean, I don't want them to hate each other. But the whole thought was just, "Get them in a room, have them enjoy the service, get something, maybe get convicted, maybe get encouraged, and go home and have a great walk with the Lord." That's all I thought about. It wasn't until years later as I'm looking at Scripture and going, "Wow, what does God want?" You know? And I talk about this. If I were stuck on an island and I just read this book over and over and over and never, never attended a church service. But I just read this book. Like what would be my natural conclusion? I just pictured myself. Okay, I'm on that island. I'm reading everything I know of Scripture. What would I think of all those old testament stories? Jesus died on the cross, the Holy Spirit's coming and falling on them. You know, in the early church. Now the early church is kind of crazy. It gets kind of messed up. And now here's Revelation. Here's the way it's going to end. What would I think? Okay, now a ship's coming. He's going to rescue me. Okay, what's going on in my mind? For me, based upon a simple reading of Scripture over and over, I would think, "God, I need this Holy Spirit. I need this Spirit I read about or I'm dust." Like this is the miracle. This is everything. I need Holy Spirit. Come, enter me. Fill me. I want to hear from you. I want to be empowered by you. I trust. I believe Jesus. He's, I want to be found in Him. Not any righteousness of my own. I want to be found in Him. Fill with that Spirit. And now let me find other believers. And let me find them and be one with them. And we'll go out as this army and start reaching people. And if I heard coming off of that boat that, "Hey, there's a church down the street." They're just reading the Scriptures over and over and I walk over there. What would I expect to see? Think about it. Wouldn't you expect like, "Okay, here's a group of those people I hear I read about all these years." And they're gathering together. I'm probably going to walk in and they're just going to love on me. You know, they're just going to give the shirt off their back and go, "Man, you've been on an island. Man, come on over. Tell me, take care of you, whatever." And we're on a mission. Here's how we're trying to reach our city. There's people who are said, "That's not what I would get, though." I'd walk in the back, see a few people maybe talking to each other, then shut up. Let's sit down. It's time for service. Let's sing some songs. Maybe good, maybe bad. I don't know what the singing is like. Someone speaks for 40 minutes. And where's everyone going? They're heading home. See you next Sunday. It's like, really? Like how did we get there? And we don't have to do things like that just because that's what's laid out before us. All through scripture, you see someone that reads the word, "Tares is close." We can't do this anymore. This is not what he asked for, right? I mean, that people stood up and said, "No, I'm not doing it like this anymore." Because I see what this says, and I'm going after it. I'm going after it. And I believe that's what God's doing here. Some of you are just going, "You resonate with what I'm saying because you've read this book and you go, 'I've always known there was more.'" And so we've pursued that type of unity, and I've told the people, "Look, within six months to a year, we're going to split into two churches." And I won't be leading either one of them. I'll be training people, and then you're going to go and split into two churches. And then you'll do the same thing all over again. As you guys go, reach out.
out to people and you're raising up leaders and you're living like a family, you know, have people blown away by your love and make communion central, make the Bible central, make prayer central like they did in the early church. The words of Scripture can just read it. There's power in them. You don't need someone just upfront explaining everything to you. Yes, there's teachers or whatever else, but let's do it. You know, and so nine months later we split into two churches. And then nine months later those two churches split into two churches. Now we've got four churches and now we're getting ready to split again. And it's, and I'm not the shepherd of any of them. They're shepherding their own people. They're shepherding their own families. I mean, that's, I believe what the future can be if you in this room take responsibility and say, you know what? That's scary, you know? But it's not as scary as taking a kid home from the hospital and you figured it out. And in the same way you'll figure it out. And that's what makes you stronger is that responsibility when you start because how many people are in church their whole lives in America and have never said to someone, follow my examples. I follow the example of Christ. You know, we don't take that leadership stance and we never become spiritual parents ourselves. We don't actually make disciples. We just sit and then we just switch churches when there's a better speaker down the road, you know, or we're getting a fight with someone. And then we split because we start fighting with each other. And I was telling Daniel and the elders of the church, you know, I love my church so much. You know, I love them is they're out on the streets throughout the week and the work place is sharing the gospel. And I'm just like, man, right on, you know, getting rejected and this and that. And as a pastor you just, you love people like that, you know? Where people that I would normally get along with, you know, and just in the flesh, it's like in the spirit I'm crazy about them because they're actually doing something. And sacrificing and stepping out in faith. You know, and I was telling them how, you know, I was hearing from different, I always sit by different people on airplanes and a lot of them are in the military and they just tell me about the fighting that goes on within the, within the army itself and people committing suicide and they just don't get along until they get into battle. And that's why they can't just be at these camps for too long. They got to be released into battle or they'll fight with each other. But once they get into battle, man, then it's a band of brothers. Then it's like, I love you guys. Come on. Oh yeah, you're excited for everyone on your team when you're on the battlefield, when you're in the mission field. But when you're just in a gathering, it's really, you're just going to annoy each other to that. I mean, that's what we do. It's so good at. But when, but when you know other people are fighting and facing the same rejection that you faced, it's like, I love these people. And so it's been really fun for me just seeing this, this group of people grow and love with each other. But I just couldn't be more proud of them as they're out sharing the gospel on their own initiative. And just these groups, every day of the week, I guarantee you, there's someone from one of our gatherings that's leading a group out evangelizing, sharing the gospel. And I was so blessed one Sunday just to sit in on one of the gatherings. They only had like 15 people that week. But they just went around sharing about their week. And every one of them, as I heard, every one of them shared the gospel that week with an unbeliever. And I thought, they don't even realize, I'm sitting there just going, this is beautiful. Because in an average church of 1,000, how many people you think verbalize the gospel to an unbeliever? You think 15? Maybe. And we're okay with that. Like, that's crazy. That's the, that's how far this thing has drifted. And it's like, man, as the Lord looks down, I just, man, he loves this little army right here. It's like, and as a pastor, I'm thrilled to be the pastor of that army right there. And to think that I'm an elder of that group right on. I'll take that. That's an army I'm proud of. That I go, okay, Lord, you ask me to present a church to you. Take this one. Look at this one. These guys were not ashamed of you this week. They were outside by, and they love each other. They care for each other's needs. They know each other. They're praying together on a weekly basis, gathering together, trusting that you are going to answer their prayers. I mean, that's what we have to understand. It's not just, I think this will work. It's more, I think this is what God asked for. He says, He wanted that type of love, that type of unity. And so if it's not happening in this structure or in this gathering, we need to repent and figure out a way to make it happen. Because we can't just have these gatherings where people don't love each other deeply. See when I was younger, I used to do this. To just be thrilled that I would see a sign that said Bible Church. But you start reading scripture and you realize God's not excited just because there's a gathering. How many times in this book does He say, "Oh, stop it with the noise of your songs. Stop praying. I'm not even listening to you guys." Oh, that someone would shut the doors to that temple that you might not use as Lee Kindle Fire on my altar. Oh, if you don't repent, I'm just going to remove that lamb stand from its place. Ah, I mean, He wants something. There's always been an offering that's acceptable and an offering that's rejected. And what does He say He wants of the church? He wants this loving community, this family, this body, He says, where it's like, "Man, every part is so important to fingers, the toes, and you're striving side by side. There's this unity." So that's what I want to bring to God rather than saying, "God, I got 5,000 people to show up." I didn't ask for that. What did I ask for? Oh, yeah, oneness. You wanted your body to look like no other gathering on this earth. And so that's when I'm after. And I pray that the Lord puts that on your heart to say, "You know what? Yeah. I need some people. I'll go out, find some people, but I want the real thing." And that's kind of what was my mindset going and moving to San Francisco was like, "I just want to start over. Let me find some believers or unbelievers. Have them hear the word of God. And if they want to live as one as a family, then join me. Let's go. But I don't care. Yeah, right now, there's only like 120 of us right now. That's cool. But the truth is, we can double overnight. And we can keep doubling overnight because we're meeting in homes now. It costs zero. It doesn't cost us a dime. The no one gets paid. Everyone does it as a lay person. And we all have jobs. It doesn't cost a dime, which I love. You know? It's just because so many churches are shutting down because of money and whatever else. And all of our money goes to the mission. Goes overseas or to people who are in need and it's like, "This is great." Because we all know like a church of 10, 20 people can meet in a home, right? And you don't need to work full time to take care of 10 or 20 people. You just disciple a couple of them, disciple a couple of people you're done. You know? And you can live as a family and everything else. It's just once we get to like a hundred people. And well now you need a full time leader. You need a full time secretary. You need to find a building. So it's like, "Okay, if this costs $100,000 and a church of 20 is free, why not do five free churches?" That's the way the Chinese think. Okay. You know? This is free. You know? It's just, that's just the way I go, man. And this can multiply, it can mobilize, but what you have to do is you have to pray to the Lord of Parvus and say, "We need more workers than we need more disciple makers. This is working. This can happen, but Lord, you have to constantly bring us more leaders. Under the old system, all I need is myself." I don't mean that in an arrogant way. I'm just saying, "That's how crazy that system is." As long as I got in the pulpit and preached a message that would draw a crowd, we're good. And so all I have to do is make sure I don't commit adultery. I keep walking with the Lord and I preach biblically. I can fill a room. Like is that really what a way it was supposed to work? But I liked it because I'm that type of person that doesn't like to depend on other people. You know, I want to be able to carry it. One of my friends, Dave Gibbons, who's a pastor in this area,
He was at my house one time and he just randomly, how the blue goes. Hey, Francis, you play basketball? I go, yeah. He goes, when you play basketball, you don't like to pass, do you? Like, what kind of question is that? That's such a lame question. Why would you even say that? He goes just answer the question. I go, no, I don't like to pass. I like to shoot, because I knew it. I go, how can you know? You never, but I can just tell, you know, my personality is just let me do it. I'll just take care of it. I'll work it all out. I don't want to depend on anyone. I don't want to have to pass the ball. And so I kind of built church that way. And now it's like, now that's not what God asked for. It was a body, and everyone's got gifts. And I have to depend on other people. And I know other people even lead my kids. And it's been awesome, though. So I left like seven minutes for questions. And then I got to head to the airport. Sorry, I'd talk too long. Yeah. Yeah. [APPLAUSE] That's good. She's asking, like, how new believers starting a church. How do you know that they're not going to go off on some tangent or whatever? Couple things. First of all, everyone in our church, we encourage them to read through the Bible in a year. So we're all on the same reading plan, which is huge, because the greatest safeguard against heresy is when all the people are reading the scripture. The worst thing you can have is one guy being the spiritual authority that everyone listens to. Because once he goes off or once sin enters his life or once his theology gets a little crazy, so goes 1,000 people. But when everyone's reading the word, they're all listening. And in these smaller gatherings, it's not so much about one guy preaching to everyone. But the leaders, the pastors there, whom we disciple and the elders train them up. So it's not just anyone starting a small group. So you've got that training, kind of like you have here. It's like this ongoing training for one. Number two is everyone's reading the word of God. And then number three is, we have some blessings now a days with the internet, whereas the elders of the larger movement, we can just put some doctrinal statements that, again, everyone lay person, brand new believer, reads and uses their own mind and goes, hey, wait a second. Our leader is kind of getting screwy here. And they can just tell us, we'll kick him out. Yeah. [INAUDIBLE] Yeah. [INAUDIBLE] Yeah, that's good. What do we do with it? Do we ever gather together? So they just all meet in their own homes. But once a month, we gather all together. Like this Sunday, we gathered at a park. And so again, we don't spend a dime. Here I am at the park. And we had like a little over 100 people over there. Because it's just fun to see the old crowd again. And you've split off into these four churches. And then when you gather back, it's like, God, I love you. It's just like family reunion. But it's also a joy because you know what they've been doing the other three weeks. Like you guys are doing it. You guys are doing it. And so there is a gathering. It's kind of like a dessert for us. We don't depend on it, but it's nice. And if the day comes when we can't have these giant gatherings and they limit what we can say in those types of public arenas, we're good. We don't need it. See, that's my concern is, man, when things get difficult in the future, and certain things we say are labeled hate crime if you say in a public arena like that, then what do we do? And even today, certain things, if you have a belief system that Jesus really is, the only way to heaven and to say that, "I don't believe Muhammad will get you there." Or if you say that you believe that homosexuality and practice of that homosexual sex is a sin, then can you say that from a public setting? And how long will you be able to say things like that? And then let's face it with the dangers of radical Islam. And all it's going to take is one guy who decides, I'm going to walk into a church this Sunday, and this will be my active worship to Allah to blow everyone up. What is that going to do to every other church in America and these large public gatherings? We have to start thinking like that wouldn't take very much to overthrow this whole system. But if we start training all of our people to where I don't care if I'm the only believer in the city, I know what to do, that's what happened in China. See, in Russia, when Communism came in, they just took out a few of the leaders and the whole thing died, because it was built very much like the American system. But in China, because of some of the discipleship that had taken place, when Communism came, they couldn't kill Christianity. They had leaders that knew how to make the disciples, and it flourished to over 100 million believers under Communism. Why? Because of what we're talking about here. People were trained. They weren't dependent on these five speakers to do everything for them. So yeah. Oh, Tyth. Yeah, this will be the last question, and I got to catch a flight. But Tyth is what we do, yeah, people give, and each individual church. Like right now, we have someone who volunteers as a part-time accounting person that just tracks the giving from all four churches into one account. It doesn't take that much time if you know what you're doing. And so each of those churches independently decide where that money goes. But it's always, you know, if it's under $500, we say, man, just make a decision as the pastors of that church and as a church to where it goes. If it's a larger gift than it runs by the elders, just to make sure nothing weird's going on. And so-- and then sometimes we can all gather together, and the elders can say, hey, guys, there's this need for a well in Africa and this one region, and a missionary, and it'll cost about $5,000. And we're going to use some of the collective resources and give to that. So everything that comes in goes out, but each church has its say in where it goes. So the leaders start feeling the burden of those leaders, hey, look for things globally. There's needs out there. And it just gives people ownership. Like, you know, if you're the leader of the church, and you hear of something in Cambodia, is it awesome to think, man, I can tell my 10 people, we can do something there. Like, it's just so much more exciting to people to realize I can be a part of this. So, man, this was really-- I wish I had another hour with you guys. But yeah, thank you so much. Thank you. [APPLAUSE]
Podcast Summary
Key Points:
The speaker emphasizes that churches should raise disciples to be spiritually independent, not dependent on a senior pastor, just as parents raise children to leave home.
He criticizes the mega-church model where thousands of people rely on a single pastor for teaching, resulting in low disciple-making output and high cost.
He advocates for a family-like church where believers own responsibility for small groups as spiritual parents, multiplying disciples through personal ownership.
He argues that the biblical pattern for evangelism is unity and love among believers, not entertainment or celebrity speakers, which attracts the world to believe in Christ.
He shares his personal experience of starting a church in his living room again, intentionally avoiding a pastor-centric model to ensure every believer uses their spiritual gifts.
Summary:
The speaker recounts his journey from leading a large mega-church of 4,000 to starting fresh with a small group in his living room, determined to avoid past mistakes. He highlights the failure of churches where most attendees depend on a senior pastor for spiritual feeding, never learning to disciple others. Using the analogy of raising children, he insists believers must be trained to stand alone in faith, disciple others, and multiply.
He critiques the attractional model of church—relying on great speakers, bands, or celebrities—as unbiblical, asserting that Jesus said the world would believe through the church’s unity and love, not through entertainment or apologetics. The speaker shares his frustration with seeing 4,000 people produce only 100 converts, calling it poor stewardship of the Holy Spirit’s power. He now leads a church as a family, where each member owns responsibility for a few spiritual children, learning to shepherd, counsel, and evangelize.
He believes this pattern, rooted in Acts 2, will restore the early church’s power and cause the world to believe in judgment and salvation. The goal is for every believer to be equipped to thrive alone, making disciples who make disciples, rather than remaining passive consumers.
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The speaker argues that large churches often create over-dependence on the senior pastor, with most members not using their spiritual gifts to make disciples, resulting in low spiritual productivity despite high costs.
He says parents train children to be independent by age 18, but churches often keep members dependent on the pastor, whereas the goal should be to disciple them to stand on their own and make disciples themselves.
He suggests following the pattern of discipleship where each believer takes ownership of a few people as their spiritual children, teaching them to grow, share their faith, and disciple others, rather than relying on a single leader.
He believes attracting people with a great band or speaker causes them to fall in love with entertainment rather than the Lord, and that true unity and love among believers is what Jesus said would convince the world.
He means that each believer should be given responsibility for a small group of people as their shepherd or spiritual parent, feeling accountable for their growth, similar to how a parent cares for their own children.
He decided to start small again, telling the group he would not be their pastor long-term, and instead they would live as a family focused on unity and love, avoiding a system centered around one person.
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