The Bossticks On What 10 Years Of Our Show Taught Us

[Music] Welcome to the Bostics. Starring Lauren Bostick and Michael Bostick together. They are the Bostics. Hello everybody. Welcome to the Bostics. The first time we've ever used the name "The Bostics" on this show with our new rebrand after a decade of doing this show. If you've been a long time listener, this is actually our 950th time sitting down doing this show together. But the first time we're using the new brand name "The Bostics". So fresh, a rebrand, a new decade. We are changing, we're evolving. And I think the audience has evolved too. So this feels really fresh and new. So there is no more him in her show. It only took me 10 years to get away from that bright pink. I think I deserve some kind of award as a man that, yeah, a medal. Somebody should walk in a ward out. I as a man in the show stood in front of that pink background for 10 straight years, 950 times Carson doing this. All right guys. That's quite a confidence. It's something. So for new listeners that are maybe our viewers that are coming out of the show, we're going to kind of explain how we got here. For long time listeners and viewers first, thank you for being here with us for 10 years and 950 of these shows. It's really been incredible. But I think to start, we'd like to talk about why after all this time, we changed the name to the Bostics and why we moved away from the skinny confidential him and her show. So I think for me, we started this off the blog that I had called the skinny confidential that I had had when I was in college. And it made sense at the time 10 years ago to call it the skinny confidential him and her because it was a him and her perspective. And then as it's gone on and we've had thousands of conversations with all different kinds of people, it just felt like it needed a refresh. Well, here's how it started guys. Here's a little bit of a history lesson, especially for those that are new here. Lauren started a blog called the skinny confidential around 2010, 11 I can't remember the exact date. This is before the term influencers exists. It's before the word crater economies or word crater economy was out there. They called you guys bloggers back then. And she really was one of the early people to start quote unquote blogging and putting digital content online in this new way that everybody engages. And she had a lot of success early on. So in 2016 while we were in a committed relationship, we were engaged. We were trying to find something that we could do for fun and together. And we were listening to a ton of podcasts. We had this commute back in Fort LA. And we loved listening to them together. Like we were just a ton of enjoyment. So one day and people have heard this story. We were down in Cabo. Having drinks, margaritas. As one does or two do. And we said, hey, how about doing a podcast together? And really like it started as just something fun for us to do together. And what happened is she had already established such a strong footprint online with the skinny confidential blog and some of the social channels she was working on. That we said, okay, what makes the most sense? And keep in mind, like this is before podcasts were really a thing. We used to create videos if you remember. We used to screen record on our phones. Us logging in to the purple podcast app, which was on the apple at the time, showing people where they could even find the podcast, which was really dating us. Maybe the team can pull a clip of our first episode. And you know, we did it really just for fun. So we said, what makes the most sense? We said, you have a brand. It's called the skinny confidential. How do we differentiate it him and her? And that kind of stuck in a 2026 world. We probably never would have named the show that. No, we wouldn't have named the show that. So as we started to grow the show, we just decided that we wanted to do a whole Brebrand. And that is what this is. So what is going to be the differences in this show? The differences are pretty simple. We will continue to have iconic, amazing, extraordinary people on the show. But we also really want to infuse all the knowledge that we've collected over the last 10 years. Michael and I, when we started, were sort of like students. We were learning and absorbing all this different knowledge from all these different people. And we still are. We've gotten our masters, our PhD through all of these incredible people. So now we want to put more of our own episodes, our own solo episodes into this rebrand. So you're going to see a series called How We Live that we are going to be posting once a month. And each time we post it, it's going to be a different subject. So we're really going to lean in towards that. And then it'll just be like the same fun, amazing conversation. Yeah, but let's talk about a little bit why we feel now is the time. Here's what's changed in the last 10 years. 10 years ago, we were obviously 10 years younger. We were not married. We did not have three children, which we now have. We were living in a different state. The company that I run day to day, I see you only found a deer media did not exist. You know, many new listeners and viewers may not understand. Outside of producing this show, we produce close to a hundred other shows. At this point, we have offices in LA, in New York, in Texas. None of this existed. Laurence product line did not exist. And so what's happened over the years is the storyline has just been really kind of convoluted and difficult to tell. It's like, what's the skinny confidential? What's deer media? What's the him and her show? Now it's the through line is it's the boss sticks. We're two individuals were married. We have a family. We've built a life. We have these businesses that we've built. We've had a successful marriage. We're working on raising successful young children. And we've learned a lot in the last 10 years from a bunch of incredible people that we've had the joy of speaking to on this show. I think to like Michael said, we've we've done a lot of things behind the scenes like scale businesses that we want to bring to this show. We want to give our tips our tactics. Things that we've taken away and just share it. And the audience has been with us every step of the way. And if you've been here for the whole 10 years, thank you for listening. If you're new here, we are so excited to have you. And this is just going to be so fresh. So with that, we are going to get in to things that we have learned in the last 10 years on the show. And we really, really thought about this episode because we want to make it worth your time. Some of the biggest takeaways that we have applied to our own lives that we think anyone can apply to theirs. And some of the biggest themes from talking to some of the most successful people in the world to be honest. So learn, I don't know if you want to go first or if you want me to go first, but we have a list of a bunch of things we put together. I'll go first. My main thing that I have learned from this show talking to so many different successful people is that your environment is shaping your behavior. So I have found that the highest people, I have found that the highest performers performing at the highest level are designing their surroundings to support their habits. So to me, there's like two types of people. There's people who are in constant reaction mode and proactive mode. And the people that come on this show are proactive about everything from where their supplement drawers to when their workout is, to how they're parenting their kids, to how they're showing up in a business. And what I've seen across the board is that high performers have different buckets. And they're very intentional about each of those buckets. I have yet to interview a very successful person that isn't very purposeful about how they're curating their surroundings in their environment. Yeah, and on the reverse of that, we've also interviewed some people that have maybe struggled that the Lawrence point do not do those things. And so some of the key takeaways you observe that you observe, like, who's found success, who's happy and who isn't. And there's a clear through line. For me, one of the biggest things that I've learned over the last decade and looking back, Tony Robbins has that quote, which is like I think it goes like, you overestimate what you can do in a year and underestimate what you can do in a decade. And you don't really get those words until you actually put some tread on the road and live a little bit. But yeah, over the last 10 years, we were so ambitious. We thought things were going to happen so much faster in the early days. 10 years later, we realized a lot has happened, but it took a lot of time. And so you hear about this concept of compounding and finance all the time investors talk about it. If you start investing compounds in it grows, it kind of starts with the flat line and then all of a sudden starts shooting up. The same thing happens in relationships in our marriage. And the same thing happens with a business. And then what happens doing a show like this or creating content online in the beginning, it can feel like you're just treading water and you're moving really slow. And are you really having an impact or not? For example, the first three years of this show, we did not make a dime. We were self-funding everything. We had no team. It was just kind of like, is anyone listening paying attention? A decade later, a lot's changed. There's businesses. There's family. Our relationships never been stronger. And we talk about this all the time because we've been together so long. What we've learned is the relationship has gotten stronger and stronger and stronger. And for people that come on this show, when you start to see the really, really successful people, you realize most of those people, it's not something that happened overnight. Or if it is, and you see this, it's short lived. It's the people that have been doing the same thing for long periods of time and then it really starts to pay off. So compounding doesn't just work in finance. It works in business, in relationships. It works in parenting. It works in a marriage. It works obviously in finance. It works everywhere. I also think I feel like we've seen a lot of people that have come on the show too that have also gone viral. And then maybe you don't hear from them for a while. So it also, if you don't compound and you just want to go viral really quick, it usually, like you said, doesn't have a lot of longevity. We talk about this all the time. I remember Scarlett Johansson came on the podcast and I'm not trying to name drop. But somebody in our private life said, "Oh, that's so cool. Give me a congratulations or something." And I said, "Do you notice that that was episode 800 or 7, whatever it was?" And it was really just a moment to say, like it didn't happen right away. I sometimes feel bad for people that have immediate success or go viral real fast because when you don't know how to appreciate the build and what it took to get there and then all of a sudden you're just sitting there. with a ton of success. Everyone's coming to you for opportunity. It's really hard to stay grounded to make the right decision. So anyone that's out there that's been listening or watching this show that feels like they're just putting in the work, after work, and it's not quite there, it takes time, be patient. I promise you to stick with it and you'll get there. Don't pray for immediate success. It's almost always short and fleeting. The next one is that I've learned. It's health is infrastructure. And what I have seen is successful founders and creators and moms and dads, parents operate at the highest level when it comes to sleep, movement, and nutrition. Those should be the foundation. We have had so many successful people. In fact, we just had a hugely successful woman come on the show and talk about how she was so burnt out when she was making the most money. If you do not take care of the pillars, the nutrition, the sleep, the movement, all the rest goes to shit. I like to look at my calendar like an athlete. I've talked about this. I have to get in certain buckets so I can perform efficiently when it comes to business and parenting. If I am not getting enough sleep, it just shows in my work. And I think that if you're listening and you're entrepreneur, you're a state home mom, or whatever you are, it's so important to fill those buckets first. I'm agreed, just launched a book. And I think it's called Start With Yourself. And she talks about this a lot. It's like you have to put on your own oxygen mask first to be successful in business or parenting. And that has been a common thread throughout the entire show. 100%. The other thing that I've noticed and that is a common theme you mentioned, someone like Emma Greed. And by the way, Lauren was talking about Whitney Wolfherd, who's the woman that had that incredible success. That episode's coming out. And she was talking about at the height of her career was also some of the most overwhelming times. So look up at that episode. But it's one thing that I've learned that high performers do and that we've done and that I think has contributed to pretty much all of the success is consistency. Showing up day after day, whether that's in the gym, whether that's in your relationship, as it relates to this particular show, this is episode 950. If you go back 10 years straight, you will not find a single week that Lauren and I have ever missed releasing an episode no matter if we were sick, no matter if we were tired, no matter if we were fighting in our relationship. And plenty of times, no matter if we were traveling, we're having children, whatever we were doing, it was week after week after week, releasing episodes staying consistent, making sure that we were delivering to the audience what we had promised. And I think that consistency in any of our life when we talk to high performers, they're consistent. They're showing up to their workouts, they're showing up for their job, they're putting in the time they've ever putting on my dear media hat whenever creators come to me and they're crying, saying, "Oh, this is so much work, it's overwhelming." And it's like, of course, it's work. Of course, like that's anything. You want to go and create something and get paid for it online and have people follow your thoughts and ideas and you think it's going to be easy. You want to go and you want to build a business and work on a few days and then take a few days off and take a three month vacation. It doesn't work that way. It's consistency over and over and over again. I also think if you want to be an extraordinary person, you guess have to do extraordinary things, but you also have to put the reps in like you're saying. And I apply reps to every single facet of my day. I apply reps to the gym. I apply reps to myself care to showing up present as being a parent to doing the show to running my business. It's all reps. I think just kind of like going off on a tangent of what you said too is Ed Mylet has taught us something incredible. He's been on this show three times and he taught us how to squeeze three days into one. And he sort of like broke down how everyone's looking at the day wrong. They're wasting time whether they're waking up and scrolling or they're they're just wasting time when they could be using that time to be really strategic about their day and squeeze in so much more out of the day. So that's another kind of thing that I've noticed about how high successful people run their calendar. They really try to make sure that they're being so intentional and consistent with their time and their calendar. Your calendar reflects your priorities. If someone shows me their calendar for a week, I can I can tell you just by looking at their calendar. If they're going to be successful, it's very obvious by your calendar how you're running your time, how you're running your day. Yeah. And again, as it relates to this show and for people that have listening, like there's lulls, there's ups and downs, there's periods of high growth, there's periods of stagnation, there's periods of doing really well, and then there's periods of not. That's in any business, that's in any relationship, that's in anything. And you know, if you are too quit during the tough times or in the slow periods and stop and say I'm taking a break, then you're really missing the point. It's the showing up time and after these kinds of like the consistency and the compounding go hand and hand. And it's what I've realized high performers in every area do. So that's another big take away after looking back 10 years is what I think the superpower is is I'm sure there's people out there that are more talented than me. Nobody's more talented than you learn. So don't worry about that. But there maybe not as consistent or they get thrown off or they get to moralize or they take a break and then they wonder why it's not working. So you know, what I would I always tell people is like if you're going to beat me on talent, I'm going to beat you on work ethic and consistency. Spring feels like a reset. Am I right? 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If you're looking for a piece for a vacation or a fancy wedding instead of investing a bunch of money in to a certain piece that maybe you're just gonna wear a couple times go check out the real real first because I'm telling you there is stuff with the tags on it for half the price. Let me tell you I do a lot of my shopping there. The real real is the most trusted name and authenticated luxury resale with over 10,000 new arrivals daily. No one does resale like the real real. And now you get $25 off your first purchase when you go to the real real calm slash skinny. That's the real real calm slash skinny to get $25 off. Start shopping now at the real real calm slash skinny. One of the biggest things for me over the last decade has been observing how interesting people are interested and they're curious. And to me that means for my own life that means reading. I read for an hour or sometimes two hours a day and it's a habit stock and I know when I'm doing it and I have it ingrained in my calendar and I have had all different ups, downs, ebbs, flows, kids, no kids and I still commit to reading an hour or two a day. And I think that that has has allowed me to stay curious. I obviously am not perfect. It's just something that I've picked up this tip to stay interested that I think has really been amazing when it comes to compounding. If you read 30 minutes a day, just adding that to your calendar will make such a big difference in the long term. So how else can you stay curious? You could read the newspaper. Some people like to watch the news. That's not my jam, but some people love the news. But just like staying. Why'd you side eye at me? Just like staying genuinely curious about other people and and and acknowledging other people. I think like even when you get in an Uber, just just being interested in other people getting outside yourself is such an important takeaway. And let's be honest, we've had a lot of on paper, very successful people come on this show. And I think like there's a lot, there's a lot of that. But what Lauren and I have noticed, the next level of successful people, the 10% that come on here that are that have reached that I would say upper echelon of success. What what we've observed to be the differentiator is there is a genuine curiosity and interest, like Lauren said, from those extra 10%. Take someone like Tony Robbins. He's probably been, he's probably one of the most successful people we've had on this show. We found out before he came on this show that he spent an hour to researching everything about Lauren and I about he knew my Chihuahua's name. Pet our pets, our children who we were, what our business were. He doesn't need to do that. He's already made it. He's at the top level. When we sat with him, it was not just us asking questions off air. And before the show, he's asking us. He wants to know there's a hunger and a curiosity that someone like that has. And to and again, on paper, Tony Robbins is already made it to the upper echelons, but someone like that still stays curious and hungry. And I think that's the differentiator when you see someone who's successful versus Uber success was they're curious and they're interested in other people. I also think that there is also people who come in that are not at the level of extraordinary that are not on time that are not prepared that barely know what show they're on. And it's it's so interesting to me how Tony Robbins is one of the most extraordinary people in the world yet he still has the time and still makes the effort to prep for what he's doing. That to me is mind blowing. It's like never get too comfortable with your success constantly push back. I think it'd be funny to share some some moments off air with the audience that have happened over the last 10 years. Like I mean, we can meet and there's a lot of things that there's been fights. There's been water thrown at you. Been a lot of stuff. Carson scene. He's got all the he's got the blooper really. He's got the tapes. Taylor's got even more. I told Taylor to go into smash hard drives with a hammer. There's been fights at home because Michael comes to me and needs something for the show. It's definitely hasn't been all fun times. It's been it's been work behind the scenes and it's tested our marriage. And I think that that's important to be honest about too. There's more things that I wish we've shown. And again, we just didn't have the team or the infrastructure in a lot of the early days. But in the early days, Lauren and I were, you know, editing everything ourselves. We were selling everything. We were traveling. We would carry these suitcases. Maybe some of the early viewers and listeners would with equipment and wires and all this stuff. And it was it was hard, right? Like I actually believe that if we try to do that now with three children, I don't think we could have done what we did because we were grueling and like pushing and on planes everywhere. And unfortunately, at the time, people wouldn't show up to this fancy studio and they wouldn't travel to us. We had to go to them and we still do sometimes. But there there's been a lot of messy moments where work bleeds over into our life. It bleeds over into our relationship. It is, you know, inescapable at times. It feels like at times we both work for each other. Like even you do work for me. Yeah. Well, that's good. You work for me. I mean, listen, it took me 10 years, again, to escape that bright pink. I want to leave it. I mean, any guy that could stick through, you know, I've been, I've been out there doing this for a long time, Carson. And it's, I've been a good sport. But, you know, again, it's time. So, no, I mean, this, we've talked about this for years, working with your significant other, your, your person, your marriage, the person you sleep with every night. It is not for the faint of heart. We've had to really work on a relationship. And I think this show has actually looking back been like couples therapy for us. It has been like couple of therapy because we've gotten to interview so many interesting different people and some of them are therapists and some are doctors and some are experts. I also think that the show energetically and I'm going to give you a compliment has really opened you up. Like, meaning like, I think you're a little woo-woo now. Well, that's a good note to, I mean, are you woo-woo? I'm pretty woo-woo. Yeah, I'm pretty woo-woo. We say things on this show, like, listen, everybody. We are so lucky that we get to have these conversations directly to people, but our hope has always been that these conversations are a conduit to whoever's listening or viewing on the other side. And what I always remind everyone is, Lauren and I are learning at the same time as all of you from these incredible people. We may get to have the conversation in person and release it and then hold it before we release a little bit earlier, but we're learning a lot and, you know, picking on someone like Arthur Brooks, who I thought was a great episode. He's saying some things about what couples need to do in a relationship that both her and I know we need to be better at. And so indirectly, like I said, we're getting therapy and learning at the same time. Sometimes I do a pinch under the table, like a little reminder, a little pinch. I love it. I think that you have old, like, eggs in the table. She, Lauren brings scrambled eggs with sauce and puts them under during the whole record of them getting my protein. The things that I survived through. Another thing that has resonated with me over the last 10 years is you can feel when someone is aligned with who they are. The most magnetic, dynamic, charismatic guest that come on this show have stopped trying to be someone else. They are showing up as themselves and they are in alignment and harmony. And we have had some very, very, very famous people on this show. And sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes the most famous are the most insecure. And that's the booking agents never going to book anyone on the show again. That's been interesting to observe. It's just, you know, you would think that just because someone has so much fame or beauty or talent that they are so secure with themselves, and that is not always the case. Now, I'm not saying that about everyone. I will say, like, Paris Hilton is so in alignment. I loved Paris Hilton. She just is who she is. So she was like such, she was such, she exceeded every expectation I ever had. But there's also a lot of guests that come in, you guys that are, you know, not the most secure. And you can feel when someone's not aligned. And that's been so interesting for me as a study in human nature to be able to go out into the world and speak at conferences and meet people and even just live in my daily life, I am able to feel immediately when someone's not aligned. Well, it dovetails into another thing that I think I wanted to talk about. What is a dovetail? Dovetails, it means it goes nicely into this. It's a nice transition. Okay. Love it. Obviously, you need to learn a few more things on the show. But it dovetails nicely into what another thing I wanted to share and talk about, which is doing this show over the last decade and not just this show in isolation, but observing the last decade in media. has been very interesting. Again, go back to a 2016 world pre-COVID, a lot of traditional media, a lot less podcasts, a lot less of these conversations, people being much more careful about what they would share or not share. There's a lot of people that come from those legacy media days that had to have a certain polish and a certain candor and behave a certain way and say certain things. When Lord and I started doing this, we had no media training and no idea what we were doing as media personalities. Our only real strategy was, "Okay, we're just going to share ideas our way as ourselves and hopefully it works." After observing not only the success of this show, but a ton of other people that have now entered the space and create their own shows and running to your media, what I've observed is the people that are authentically themselves, without fear of being themselves, have the most success standing out online. The people that struggle the most and continue to try to struggle to be relevant are the ones that have looked at an old blueprint or they look at somebody else and they try to emulate or be something they're not. It doesn't work. I can tell you that not only from this, but running a company like to your media where those kinds of people get washed out and the people that are really themselves stay in. We've seen an entire shift in the last 10 years on conversations and content on relevant media channels. You see a decline in traditional media, a distrust in those outlets. There's a lot of great people and a lot of great journalists and a lot of great people that are pushing content. What I think this is proven to us is you can take a non-traditional talent and a non-traditional media outlet and become highly relevant and maybe display some of the old guard and the old way of doing things. I also think you build a certain trust with an audience that you know is displaced. Listen, Lauren and I know that we are not for everybody and that we sometimes say things where we misstep or upset people, but we feel good at night when we talk to each other knowing that we're just being ourselves. There is no polish. There's no curation. There's no, "Hey, how's this going to play or not play?" We have guests that think one way and then think the opposite way. We have people that are popular. We have people that are unpopular. What we realize is you just got to be yourself and I think that that's great advice for anyone looking to build any kind of online platform or business. It's what we've seen not only here, but running a large media company where others do the same thing. I feel in my life. I'm the happiest that I've ever been in my life. I feel so aligned and I think that this rebrand is very harmonious with everything going forward and I hope it feels this way for the audience. Okay, next. Attention is your most valuable currency that you have and it's so important to use it wisely. I take an inventory of my attention every single night that I lay my head on the pillow. I'm like, "Where did I put my attention today? Was I scrolling? Was I distracted? Was I watching other people's Instagram stories? I like to be so thoughtful with where my attention's going." What helps me the most is, and you guys know this, is living and eating and breathing and dying by my calendar. In my calendar, there's a lot of white space. There's writing space. There's time blocks for creativity. There's time blocks for my kids. I just really like to know where my attention is going. I think if you're looking for a place to start and you're feeling overwhelmed with all the content online, a really good place to start is to take inventory of your attention. Who are you following? I like to start the accounts that I'm following in my Instagram. I don't get fed anything other than what I want to see. Is starting favoriting them? Yeah, I favored it. I have five accounts that I look at. One of them's like Law of Attraction. I have Robert Green in there. I have Louise. Hey, I have- Will you try to attract at this point? Who are you trying to attract? Dr. Wayne Dyer. It's about attracting things in the universe that I want. It's my vision. I'm really focused on my vision right now. I would tell you this. If you open your Instagram and you go to the 4U page and it's all low vibrational things, that is because that's the content you're consuming. Well, that's another Gary Vee who's a friend and who's been so nice to us over the years came on the show and he basically did this whole up. You guys should check it out where he talked about why your algorithm is the way it is. It was an aha moment for Lorna to realize if your algorithm is serving you terrible negative things, it's because that's what you're seeking out. You can, I like looking at cars and I like looking at- I love looking at your 4U page. Your 4U page, Michael's 4U page is watches, travel, cars and chihuahua's because I program chihuahua's in there. Your 4U page is like- You can go listen, I don't want to blow anybody out, but if you're in a relationship and you want to see what your significant others doing and spending time on, open the 4U page and it'll give you basically an indication of what they're looking at. And how do I know this? Why do I know this? Because I had Taylor R. Producer open his 4U page and there was butthole all over the 4U page. There was thong underwear, there was people twerking, it was but it's like you cannot find a better place to get a true self-aware reflection. Every guy is sweating right now. Every girl is stressed. Yeah, this was a real hot tip and I'll do an epic. I didn't blow you up. Actually, I kind of did but Lorna- Look at what- Therefore you page, that'll tell you everything you need to know. I like on my 4U page non-toxic fines. I like high vibrational content. I want tips, tactics. I'm obsessed with Naval. I've talked about him so many times. All Naval I want everywhere. And I think like you have to think about it. You're looking at that for at least a minute or two or three or four a day. That is again compounding over time. So attention is your most valuable currency. Make sure you use it wisely. Well, and here's another thing. Another great dovetail. Oh my gosh. What a stuff tail. I don't know. I'm stuck on the word now. I'm gonna change it up. It's the last time. If I say it again, Carson just edit it out. You have again, a lot of high performers, a lot of happy people that come on the show and you have these conversations privately with them. They're not watching the news. They're not taking in negativity. They're disconnecting from things that are upsetting. It's not that they're unaware. Sometimes Lorna and I get labeled as being- We're aware of what's going on in the world. But constantly beating yourself up over the- and beating yourself over the head with bad news and why things are going wrong and why the world's terrible. High performers just don't do that. And what they tell us offline is that they're consuming positive content, positive books. They're going into old texts. They're hanging out with friends that are treating them well. What we've learned over the last 10 years is who you surround yourself with and what you consume is what's- is the trajectory your life's gonna go in. So if you're constantly around bad people and consuming negative news and talk about how terrible things are, then that's what your reality is going to be. And so for us, we made a very intentional decision back in 2020 to largely get all of cable news out of the house and to try to read things that are uplifting. Again, it doesn't mean we're disconnected and unaware of what's going on in the world. But do we need to really look at every single tragedy that's happening? We had a guy named Morgan House will come on the podcast. He wrote a great book called The Psychology as Money and then I think the other one that I really enjoyed is called Same as Ever. Morgan, sorry, if I didn't get that book right. But he talks about the fact that if you actually look at what's going on in the world, the world has actually gotten better from a statistical and a data standpoint. The problem is is that we have more access than ever to information. So in the old days, if you were to open your local newspaper, the chances of something bad happening in your community, not too high, if you open the worldwide news and you look for something that's going bad in the world, pretty much certain that something's going bad at any given moment in the world. 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That has been so inspiring to me because there's been so many guests who have come on that have had roadblocks or they've survived something crazy or they've been a victim and they've really turned charcoal into a diamond. And I'm a big believer that if you're clever enough, you can make anything shine like a diamond. Like you know, we've done a lot of these shows. We've talked to so many people. I cannot think of one person that has had immense success in happiness in their life that has come on and said, Hey, it was just super easy and it all just kind of fell in my lap and I didn't really have to struggle and I was always happy and nothing ever went wrong. It's usually a lot of struggle, a lot of heartache, a lot of pain, a lot of sacrifice. And then after all of that success. And then what they also reflect on and what we reflect on too is when you're successful, you don't really think about the success. You think about all the struggle and that's what you appreciate. When I look back on the last decade of doing this, I think back on how Lauren and I struggled together, how our relationship got challenged, how we had to build things, how we had to sacrifice certain opportunities, how we had to be uncomfortable at times, how we had to take certain flax at certain periods. Those are the things that I appreciate. I never think, Oh, wow, we had a really good year and we had this income or like, Oh, we got to buy this great material thing. It's the sacrifice. Again, what Lauren's saying is all of these people are stressing themselves out and it's always a struggle and it's always tough and nothing has ever fallen to these people's lap. And that's a common theme that we've learned from people that many of us, including us, look up to an aspire to be or at least aspire to emulate is they've all gone through the shit. I am also a very spiritual person and I sort of like realized recently, I've always been very spiritual and this show has really, I think, helped me double down on being spiritual. And I think what I've learned from this show is that for me, it's been very helpful to have a higher power and whatever that higher power is, it could be anything to you, whatever that means to you. But that's something that I think about every single day. It's something that I spend five to ten minutes on, whether it's in meditation or on a walk. And I think that that's helped me get through any time that has been tough is having that higher power. And this show has almost made me want to triple down on it, if you will, just by being able to talk to all of these different people with all of these different opinions because this show like at the end of the day, there's no agenda here. It's just to have conversations with real people and hear their real story. And hopefully there's something that you guys can take away from the show. All right, Michael, what is your last one? Well, here's the last one. And I think it is the most important and I think it is the theme of this show. And I think it's what I hope everyone that listens or watches or continues to listen to watch takes away from it. Like I said, we have got to speak to so many people for so long. Some of these people we share ideals with and agree with. Some of them we disagree with. We live in a time unfortunately in the last few years where people decide to really set themselves in a silo. They pick one side of the aisle and they ignore the other or they pick that side and ignore the other. They live in a bubble where they only get information that makes them feel good and makes them feel happy. They ignore other people with countering ideas or opinions. They discount those people. They demonize them. They attack them for their thoughts. Born and I pride ourselves in this show on just hearing people's thoughts and ideas and opinions and most importantly why they have they came to those thoughts opinions ideas. And what we've realized over time doing this is most people the majority of people have really good intentions, but they come to their conclusions based on their life circumstances, their upbringing, their parents, the people in their communities. And they end up forming their opinions largely with good intentions based on what they think is self serving the people they love the people around them. Again, most people we talk to on the show don't start out saying I'm going to have this idea and I'm here to harm people. They sit in that opinion. So what we try to do to be well-rounded people and we hope we serve this audience is we have a lot of different people with a lot of different viewpoints on the show and they share their perspective in their ideas. We create a non-judgmental space and then we go home after and figure out does that do we agree? Do we agree? Do we agree? Do we apply? Do we not apply? Same thing we hope for the audience. Listening to counter ideas, taking them in an unbiased way and then saying okay, does that make sense or not? Just shutting people out because you disagree is not the way. Sometimes though like you say we go home and we figure out if we agree or disagree, I have to tell you and I don't know if you feel like this. Sometimes I just don't agree or disagree. Sometimes I just sit in the conversation and let people have their opinion and like it doesn't have to affect me emotionally. Yeah, well that's another great takeaway. Sometimes you'll see things especially with the way these shows get clipped up and taken out of context and you feel like you have to take a stance. I don't feel like I have to take a stance on everything and I think that that is important to share because sometimes I'm interviewing someone and I'm actively listening but it's almost like a car driving by me. I don't have to take on everyone's opinion or thoughts. Or you can say like say it's a really fucking wacky idea that you really disagree with. You can kind of just step back and kind of have a laugh about it later and be like man, that was a wacky idea. It doesn't have to then become your identity. I can't have it derail my day. Imagine you're at a dinner party and Uncle Cletus. No, no. No, Cletus, 100% Cletus. Uncle Cletus has an opinion about the way of the world. You don't have to get on board with Uncle Cletus's opinion. Well, imagine walking into a restaurant and every time you walk into the restaurant you see someone that disagrees with you. Well, I'm not eating here. The food is supposed to be phenomenal. And it's so it is. The food is phenomenal. but someone over there disagrees with me and that hurts me and so I'm leaving. - I can't. - We can't do that. So again, like listen to people, have a night, we've learned more probably from the people we disagree with on this show than the people we agree with. If you're already in a bubble and you already have a bias, how are you learning something new? Challenge yourself, stretch your mind. That's where opportunities, that's how you grow. - With that, we feel the happiest and most aligned in our lives right now and we're so excited to share the next decade with you guys as the Bostics. So follow us on Instagram at the Bostics and we'll see you every single Monday and Thursday as usual. - Imagine this, it's just nice for me to be able to say, my name, our name. Instead of being like, what do you do? Well, I host this show and it's called the Skinny Conventional Him and Her. And oh, by the way, it's a product in a beautiful line. But then I run this company called Dear Media. You know, have you seen that crazy diagram of Charlie Day where he's got all the diagrams of the lines? - Yeah, it's too much. - That's what I felt about the last 10 years. So guys, it's the Bostics. - But this is a live example of a work in progress. You know what my Gravestone's gonna say? - What? - Always refining. - And it'll be nice too when people can show up now and they don't have to ask us, hey, are you too married, right? 'Cause sometimes they do that. And hopefully they don't think we're brother and sister. 'Cause we're not. - Do we look like brother and sister? - I don't think so. - Hmm, guy. - Who did the older sibling if we were? - You. - All right, all right. Thanks for listening. - Thank you guys, tune in every week. We'll be back.