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Hi, welcome to Smoshreads Reddit Stories. I'm Shane and today's theme is entitled and today joining me are two of the most entitled people I've ever known. Tommy and special guest Sarah Whittles. Hello. Hi. Hello. So you deserve it. Yeah. Sarah, who you used to be in charge of this channel in so much at Smosh. Yeah, I think I did over the five years I worked here. I think I did every single job. Yeah. You ran our social coordinator, PA, cast member for a bit, director, executive producer of everything. Literally marketing, social media did everything. Yeah. I feel like Tommy, when you first joined Smosh, you were working with Sarah. I brought him in. I brought him in. You brought him in. You were the reason we have Tommy. Actually, yes, because when mythical thought smosh, it became like we were like grabbing onto each other. Like the Titanic was sinking. We were like, you and Courtney were like, Sarah, please come back and I was like, okay, I'll come back. Tommy, come back. Yeah. My body was ice cold and Sarah was like, oh, you're real making Tim. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. So we've got Tommy to send it back together. Tommy decided to be a LeBron tarpids and we had to get him back. Real talk though. Yeah, it is so, I'm so proud of you guys and I know Shane, Shane and Tommy, you guys just visited me in New York. I think we both separately cried, but like I'll say it again. I'll say it a million times. I am so proud of what you guys have done since I've left in 2021. I've stayed such close, I mean, you guys are my best friends. Like, say it's such close friends, but like seeing the growth of the thing that I felt so ingrained in creating and like seeing where it is now. I genuinely think you guys are in a golden era and I'm like proud, mama, super fan. I'm watching all the content. I'm texting you guys all the time. So I am so, so proud of what you guys have done and I'm just like, I am like the number one in Smosh fan. Thank you, Sarah. Well, I mean, I think it goes without saying like, Smosh has been in this golden era for a couple of years, but so much of it is due to like all the things that were put in place for years. Absolutely. And so much of it is owed to the decisions you made. Like, I feel like you really molded like a lot of the creative that we still follow. That's great. Anyway, I'm waiting for my caviar requested it. Okay, now you're asking for your actual little title. That's called a Segway. There we go. All right, let's get into these stories. That was good. Thank you. How much do entitled people bother you so much? Oh my god, it raises me so much. Yeah, and I mean, look, it exists around the world, but I do feel like in America, maybe this is just because I've experienced this more than anything, but I just feel like America can be the heartland of entitlement. Oh, of course. Yeah, like individualism is so popular. Exactly. It comes with it. It comes with it. I have the right to everything. Exactly. All right, well, let's get into these and see what we're dealing with. Our first story comes from "Am I overreacting?" This was posted only a couple months ago. "Am I overreacting?" "Rumate constantly expects me to leave so she can sleep with guys." Oh. Hello, posting on a different account. This happened yesterday. Today, she ended up just going to the guy's place instead of bringing him to our apartment, but she refuses to speak to me. In the first slide, the names I blurred out are my boyfriend's name and a friend of mine's name. So this is a text conversation I'll be reading. It's a visual aid. All right. "Rumate says, "Hi, I'm having a guy over tomorrow around like seven. Would you be able to stay somewhere else for a few hours?" Oh, he says, "How long?" "Hours." They say, "I'm not sure if he'll be spending the night yet if YGM." You get me. You get me. You get me. I don't know if they'll be spending the night yet. You get me. Oh, he says, "I don't really anywhere. I can go. Have anywhere." I'm just speaking in code. Yeah. Can you not go over to your boyfriend's place? He's visiting his family. He isn't around. Surely there is someone's house you can go to. Go to Blink. I already went to Blink on Tuesday because you had a different guy over. It's not fair of me to keep inconveniencing people like that. She doesn't even care and you don't have to say it like that. What? You don't have to say that like, "I'm a whore or something." Oh, he says, "I didn't call you a whore. I just said I already went to Blink's place Tuesday because you had a guy over." You said different guy like I'm sleeping with loads of different people. Okay. I wasn't trying to make it seem like that. I was just saying it's not fair. It's my apartment too. And this would be like the third time this week I've had to find somewhere else to stay. I don't mind you bringing people over but when it's happening multiple times a week and I have to look for other places to stay over because of it, it's not exactly fair. The roommate says, "Yeah, good job on not calling me a whore." Oh, he hope he continues. Everything I said are things that are just factual. You are constantly bringing over guys and I constantly have to stay over somewhere else because of it. That's not calling you a whore. It's literally just telling the truth. You can sleep with who you want. I'm not judging you but I just don't appreciate having to leave my apartment constantly because of it. So you can bring Blink over but just because I'm bringing over guys, I'm not in a relationship with. It's not okay. Oh, he says, I purposely go to Blink's place because he lives alone so it's easier that way. And I don't expect you to leave the apartment whenever he comes over when we're literally just hanging out. Blink barely comes over. It's not even comparable to how often you bring people over. roommate says, I don't get why it's a problem having to stay in your boyfriend's place for a night or for a few hours. Like I can understand not wanting to do that to our friends but literally, why would your boyfriend mind? Oh, he says, are you forgetting that we share the same apartment? He doesn't mind coming over but my whole point is that we both live in that apartment. I'm entitled to stay there when I want. I live there. It's not fair that you constantly expect me to just leave whenever you want me to just want me to just because I can't go to my boyfriend's place. roommate says, I just don't understand why you're acting like this is the end of the world because you have to go somewhere else for a few hours and basically insinuating that I'm a whore. I don't know what problem is all of a sudden. Leaping. He says, I asked you in the past try to stop bringing over so many people because of this and you agreed but then just kept doing it. We're both trying to make different points and you aren't understanding what I'm saying about this being my apartment too. roommate says, okay, let's end the drama here. I'll figure something else out, Jesus Christ. O.P. continues, we were both in the kitchen at the same time today and she kept slamming cupboards and placing things down extremely aggressively. I went to shower after her and my conditioner had just accidentally opened and spilled all over the shower floor. Oh, come on. I really don't know if I was being too harsh or not but at the same time I don't feel like it's fair that I'm constantly expected to stay in other places so she can bring people over. I asked her to bring over less people in the past and she agreed but then continued to do the same shit afterwards. Am I overreacting in this whole situation? No. No. No. Next story. No move on. Dear God. Dear God. They have their own rooms probably, right? I get that it's like, hey, in common spaces, it's just like, hey, I'm going to bring a guy over. Like, we're going to have dinner. Okay, if we kind of hang in the kitchen, whatever, but even then, if I were dating someone and I go over to their apartment and it's like, oh, and this is my roommate, it's just like cool, nice to meet you. Very natural situation. It's like, you're going to be, this is your space too. It's like, we'll have a nice dinner. They come in and they get something out of the kitchen. You don't have to go, hello. Yeah. You can just keep having your dinner. You're co-living. Yeah. I'm going to ask a question that feels obvious, at least to me, are they having crazy big-band mariachi-loud crazy times in both the living room and her room and that's why she wants? But maybe it's just the newest thing too on its own, like, even if she was in the bedroom with her date, maybe she's self-conscious about the noise. But again, I go back to like, the price of community is annoyance. Like, if you're in a roommate situation, your roommate may hear your love making. Good job. You did a great job. You did a great job. Good job. You did a great job. I felt so stupid. But like, that's just like, and then the roommate gets to decide like, oh, am I going to like, enjoy this? Am I going to turn up using it? Enjoy it. Am I going to like, hate it and leave the house like, you're co-living. Right. Her roommate. Her roommate can be like, hey, look, I'm bringing some people over. It's like, great. I'm going to be staying here too. It's like, great. We're going to be doing some boys just fucking. But like, right. That's what it is. That's what it is. Okay. Then you will. And also, like, if you bring home a guy and you're like trying to be quiet, isn't that like, that's a little fun part too, right? Yeah. That's a little sneaky. That's a little sneaky hot part. But it does make me question what you're talking about of like, are they using the whole space? The whole space. But are some of the contracts being broken? I think so. But every time, every time with the new partner, like, I'm not- It feels strange to, like, if I was in-cause I've had roommates before, but if the rule was, whenever we bring someone over, you can't be here, I'm like, that doesn't work. That sucks. Yeah, that sucks. Simply because what if she breaks up with her boyfriend? Exactly. Like, then go outside. I need to live here all the time. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, exactly. Three hour walk. Okay. Here, a fun proposal for the person who's bringing people over. Three of them. No. I thought we were going there. No. No. No. Whoa. This is a Christian channel, I've got- This is a Christian channel. We are a religious program. Yeah, we're live streaming after the rupture right now. We are left. If she wanted to pay for two-thirds of the other person's rep. Period. - I only want full dominion over this space. Well, then I pay $300 a month to sleep in my bedroom sometimes. (laughing) - I mean, it's crazy. - Like, we all know offline that I had like a time in my life in Los Angeles where I was having a lot of fun. - I think not a whole time. - And it was a really fun time. I never, it never like phased me, not chain. (laughing) - But we, but you guys did. (laughing) - So much pain. You didn't miss out on anything. - You didn't miss out on, it's so much fun. - It's so cool. - It's so much fun. And no shame in the game. So I think it's also like, if you are, if you have a roster, that is okay. But it's like, you don't, if you don't live alone, you don't live alone. So you gotta navigate that as like a normal human being. And like, there was no name calling in that text. There was no insinuation. - Whoa, did you just say whore? (laughing) - How dare you. - Whoa. (laughing) This is a feminist program. (laughing) No, I've had roommates before and when people bring people over, I never thought anything of it. I was just like, got it. Like, we're in our 20s. - One time I had a roommate, and when I lived out here in Los Angeles, and I brought a day over, and the next day, she was like a older lady, like in her 40s, I loved living with her. - That's awesome. - And she was so chill, and she was just like, she was just so happy to be living us, living together in Santa Monica, and I had a day over one night, and she was like, Sarah, I was here in a little bit of last night. (laughing) And she was like, that was kind of hot. And I was like, right, right. (laughing) - Okay, so there you go. It's like, maybe it could be a positive experience for everyone. - It's insane. - And I have no shame on that. - No, that's really funny. - And like, there was multiple dates going in and out of that apartment, and she never shamed me once. And so, it's like, it's just just having that open, like non-judgmental conversation. - Yeah. - Claudia was gonna love watching this episode. - Yeah, you noticed that a painting in your bedroom has like Scooby Doo holes cut out of the house. - No! (laughing) - That painting of that fisherman seems to be looking around. (laughing) - Keep going. (laughing) - I hate it! - I hate it! - No, no, no. Oh, no, this is just like really bad roommate, like, contract and the poll. I mean, like what sucks now is she needs to like, move the boundary back to like, a normal place of like, I do not need to leave my apartment. I'm paying rent. I'm paying rent for this day that I'm here. Like, if I leave all night, then you owe me that whatever that amounts to then. Like, that's unfair. - And living with a roommate is difficult. Like, it's a very, very hard situation. And so I think like, maybe this is a conversation or something that's just like, hey, whenever the lease is up, I think like, I gotta save up and prep to like, not be roommates with you or, yeah. - Yeah, that's a good idea. - It's just too hostile. - So, in the comments, OP mentions that she has only slept at their apartment six times in the last month. OP needs to, OP is not entitled enough, OP needs to stand up for themselves and not tolerate this insanity. - That's less than a week out of the month. - Yeah. - She should be paying $250. - At that point, you don't live there. - You don't live there. You don't live there. - The heck? - Okay. That sucks. - This is certainly, can I be honest? This is certainly not, I'm questioning if this person is sleeping with people. I'm starting to be like, what are you actually doing that you are kicking them out of this apartment so often? - Oh, you think it's like a- - I'm just like, I just start to be like, what are all the other options? Like, you're just having me out of the apartment so much. - Well, and that roommate is probably to go down more the conspiracy. That roommate's probably like, going out on dates with these people and being like, yeah, come back to my place, like no one's there. - It doesn't do you. - Yeah. - It's like, sometimes go to their apartment. That's also fun to judge. - Because this has become the normal for them. They're just like, oh, I basically have this apartment to myself while paying half the rent. - And why do you like not know if they're going to like, sleep over or not? Maybe it's like a first date and you don't know like how it's going to end up. - Why do you want a first date at your apartment? - But it's, no, I'm saying like the after party. - Oh, I agree. - But you don't know if you're going to like, kick them out or like, have the sleep over. But at that point, it's like, yeah, what do you do all night long? - Right. - All night long. - Also, I wasn't like, with that frequency, I would be kind of worried about my stuff. That's because I kind of more, I think it's like, safety of just like, you're bringing strangers. - This is true too. - I don't know if it was like, three a month, four a month, I wouldn't be as concerned. But it's like, I'm at home for six days out of the month. - I'm still that six days, yeah. - It's like, I'm going to be bringing my laptop with me, my passport with me. - But that's like a storage unit at that point. Like, that's not a home. - Yeah, no, they're being robbed, like, of rent. - Yeah. - Comments, I mean, you two are adults, just stay home. It's up to the guy to decide if it's weird or not. If she gets creeped out by it, then fucking his house, yeah. Opie says. - Then fucking his house. - Then fucking his house, dude. Opie says, I've told her in the past that I don't mind just putting my AirPods on and listening to music, but she says, she doesn't want me there. She rarely ever goes to their houses. She only seems to bring them here. - Sometimes I'm sorry. - Like, sorry. - Someone said, the main weird thing here is that either of you think the other has to leave when you have someone over for sex. You have your own private rooms. I've never heard of roommates expecting the other to leave because they have people spending the night. Do you guys think this is normal? Because this isn't something people usually do or expect. Just because you're gonna have sex in your own separate rooms doesn't mean the other has to leave the apartment. - Exactly. - Someone says, not overreacting, you are very calm and explained to her why you were upset with her request. Does she always ask you these things so short notice? It's like you said, this is your apartment too. Sure, there's something to be said about offering each other a private evening every once in a while if there's intimate company over, depending on the housing situation. But three times in one week, regardless if it's the same person or not, is a lot. The fact that she acted like you insulted her and put words into your mouth and then acted very passive aggressively afterwards is not helping her case. I agree with another commenter that it sounds like you need to sit down and talk about this. And if not, maybe one of you needs to find another place if that's at all possible. Yeah, yeah. - Yeah, this is the biggest red flag. - Nightmare roommate. Yeah, and the way they responded to, it's like, hey, I'm trying to offer like, what are you calling me a whore? - Oh, you're calling me a whore? It's just like they're just shutting down the conversation. - Exactly. - They know what they're doing. - Yeah. - Next story, this comes from Am I the asshole? Also, just a couple months ago. Am I the asshole for not waking up a tourist who overslept and missed the day trip she paid for? - Holy. - Just a tourist. - Just a tourist. - Just a tourist? All right. Hi guys, I, a 21 year old woman, am a Bulgarian tour guide who accompanies groups to Sicily. On a recent trip, one woman who was traveling alone mid-30s was consistently oversleeping. The first day after we arrived, we had a day trip to Etna and Tower Mina, for which we departed at 8 a.m. as we do all our other day tours. I make sure that all tourists are informed of the departure times on the bus the day before and they also have my number to call in case they forget so I can remind them. They also all have printed out pamphlets with the schedule made by the travel agency that I hand out that has the time for departure on it. All of the group was on time except one woman. She was 10 minutes late, which, okay, maybe she got caught up in something and was late. I excused it, then mentioned to the whole bus on the mic that I did not tolerate lateness beyond 15 minutes at most in case of emergency, like a forgotten possession, and that I must always be called and informed in case someone is running late. The trip went by, okay, otherwise. The next day, the same tourist was late again by 25 minutes, almost an entire half hour. I called her twice to no answer and we were just about to leave without her when she came out running and got on the bus. She got lucky as the receptionist of the hotel asked me about a missing piece of info on the rooming list and earned her some time. I reminded everyone again that I will not be waiting anymore for late tourists in the morning and waking up on time is their responsibility. When we came back that evening, she asked me if I could make sure to wake her up on time. I reminded her a third time that I'm not responsible for waking people up. Everyone gets a printed itinerary with departure times and I announce everything the day before. She kept saying, no, no, just knock on my door if I'm not out by 8.15. (laughing) And I kept repeating, I really can't do that for everyone. Please set an alarm. Well, on the day we were visiting Syracuse, she didn't show up. I waited 15 minutes after the supposed departure time called her twice to no response, then left with the bus and the rest of the group. She called me in a panic about an hour later asking where we were. I explained the situation calmly. She called me two days later. No. Yeah, that's what she said. She's like, she called me the next business day. She got angry and said that I had one job and that I cheated her out of the money she paid to go on that day trip. She missed the whole day trip and was furious the next day. Later, she told the rest of the group that I abandoned her and also called my agency, leaving a bad review about me. No. The asshole for not personally waking up a grown woman despite warning her multiple times, I wouldn't. No, no, just knock on my door. No, it's not going to go. No, I just knock on my door, dude. If you pay the money to travel somewhere and then do the travel guide, if you sleep past the thing, that's your decision, that's your vacation. Exactly. And saying, oh, you only have one job. Sorry, her job. >> Exactly, the job is to do the tour. >> Not to wake you up, other people. >> She's not concierge, she's not like- >> Yeah, she's not your mommy. >> She's not your mommy. >> Yeah, she's not mommy. Like, she has a job and the job is not to wake you up. >> Yeah. >> And can I just, does it not, like, I have anxiety when I'm running late to anything? >> I hate being late. >> I would rather be there, I'd rather wake up so early and hate it and get to the thing on time, because I'll wake up late, you know, you'll wake up. >> I know that feeling when you're playing hide and go seek and you're, like, hiding and you're, like, have to pee and, like, that's what feeling late feels like to me. >> Yes. >> When I'm running late. >> It frustrates me so much, but I, it's hard for me to talk on this, because I'm someone who wakes up so early anyways, like, I love, I love to be up early, so I can chill for a second before I go do the thing. >> Yeah, I don't like being rushed, like, I just, I feel like that starts my day off on a bad day, but especially when I'm traveling, I'm so focused on one thing. The one focus is to be there and be on the tours and go. So I just don't understand, like, these are the consequences of your own action for you to blame someone else for you being late when everyone else understood the assignment. Like, you're not only being disrespectful to the company. You're being disrespectful to everyone else on that trip, and so now they have to start the day by getting a talking to you about not being late, even though they were not late. It's just so inconsiderate and like, to be like, oh, can you help me wake up? It's like, no, you're an adult, be an adult, grow up, and take the responsibility, wake up on time. If you are late, you are late, and that is the consequence. >> They also, they also give the 10 minute oops you had to do a morning shift. >> Exactly, yeah, yeah, sometimes you're late because you have to shit. >> Right, and that's okay. I've been, I'll go, I'll go, hey, Alexena, Jonathan, I'm going to be about 10 minutes late today. >> Why are you late? >> It happened at home and not in the office. And that's okay. >> And that's, yeah. That's okay. 10 minutes is fine. >> Under reset. >> It's just this one that blows me away. >> Because yeah, like, she waited, it was an hour, and she's like, where are you guys? >> To call, where are you guys? >> So you're expecting everyone to lose an hour of their day trip for you, because you can't wake up. >> Well, and it's like, I've never been on a cruise, but cruise is are similar, right? It's like when they, like, dock at like a island or whatever, they're like, you better show up at 3 pm or the post, >> Or you're stranded at the place. >> Yeah. >> I can't even imagine the logistical nightmare. I'd rather be there an hour before than even five minutes late. >> I'm a person. >> Yeah. >> And if we stranded in a place. >> No. >> Without my shit. >> I'd have to be stranded in a place. >> Yeah. >> And I also understand, like, when I'm late, and by my own mistakes, I'm pissed off. And it's like, but you can't redirect that, you can't justify it. You have to be like, yeah, I fucked up and I'm mad at myself. >> She doesn't know how to be mad at herself. >> Yeah. >> She's mad and she never, she clearly never in her life learned how to like handle that. So she just throws it out everywhere else. >> Yeah, I think accountability in general is really hard to like face when you're like, oh, fuck, I fucked up, like, it was my fault. And so I think the natural reaction is to like, force it on someone else and be like, no, it was your fault, but like, learn how to take accountability, grow up, set an alarm, set 20 alarms, like, so this calling you is them waking you up. >> Exactly. And either way, if there's multiple factors or if there's like a medical thing or like whatever, like you, no one forced you on this trip, on this solo trip, like, you're also wasting your money if you aren't like, totally committed to the baby. >> Right. Whatever's going on, she has to prepare herself to work for the greater tour of everyone else. >> You have to take care of yourself. >> It's like, yeah. But this woman could have also requested a wake up call from her hotel. Yes. Someone said, someone said, I'm an avid traveler. I'd be angry to sit on the bus every morning waiting on someone who is chronically late to time his money and she'd be wasting mine. If she's worried about her, she needs to set an alarm. If she complained to other guests, I guarantee you, they weren't feeling bad for her, not the asshole. Someone said, did anyone notice that the tardy tourist was asking OP to knock on her door 15 minutes after the scheduled departure time, which would mean if they were still asleep even longer waiting time, not the asshole. >> Yeah, she's not fully clothed with a coffee in her hand and bed. Ready to go. >> Let's go. >> A small little update, I talked to my manager today. I was nervous at first because I was already tired of this whole shenanigan and didn't want to spend ages defending myself. So I went to him first and explained the situation before he approached me. He told me word for word, "Hun, I deleted that BS from my email as soon as I read it. LOL an icon. They'll remove the bad review." >> Yes, we love customers always write not. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Sorry. >> You know. >> Yeah. I've never been to Italy, but a tour in Italy sounds great. Sarah's never been either. >> Never, ever. >> Never. >> No, we're all going to go. Oh my gosh, a dream for all of us to go to Italy together and call you and turn us around. >> It'll be amazing. >> Tourists around. Oh my god, it's going to be so fun. >> Claudio could be our Bulgarian tourist. >> He has to have a Bulgarian accent the whole time. He can do that. He could do that. Anyway, I hope what's your face gets in good sleep. >> And I will be waking up at 10 a.m. No matter what. >> That's not possible for you. Don't even joke. >> Yeah, I can. I can. Now, we'll be up at 5.30. [LAUGHTER] >> You guys will finally be knocking on cafe doors like I open up. >> Italy does not start moving until like 10 or 11 a.m. >> I'm up way too early. You're like you need to stop me. I'm going to be going on. >> All right, our next story comes from relationship advice about a year old. My boyfriend, 32-year-old man, threatened to break up with me on a Harry Potter marathon night that I, a 29-year-old woman, planned because he was embarrassed and would rather drink at the club. >> At the club? >> At the club. >> Drink at the club? >> Yesterday was his birthday. We are both Harry Potter fans, but I'm more into it and he likes golfing in cars more than I do. Yesterday morning, I asked him if he wanted to go out somewhere and I told him that I'm planning on a surprise tonight. He didn't ask anything further and left for work. During the evening, I had set the sofas, spread the blankets, arranged the coffee table, fluffed all the pillows and warmed up the place. I made-- >> Damn. >> Okay. >> She bought an owl. >> Yeah. [LAUGHTER] >> I learned magic. >> Yeah. [LAUGHTER] >> I made pizza at home for the first time and made smoothies. I brought all kinds of sweets and made mini Harry Potter-like candies with them. I got this idea from those reels and had always told him that I wanted to try it out. He didn't see my message till around 9.30 p.m. and arrived at 10 p.m. I didn't mind it much, but told him that I had everything prepared and that we could snuggle up and watch together. He told me that he was tired and didn't want to do it. So I tried requesting him to sit with me for at least one movie. He somehow agreed. He ate the pizza, but didn't try any of those mini-candied structures I made. And then when we were comfortable enough, the broomstick scene came on. And I tell him how I used to have a crush on Draco as a kid. He suddenly got up from there and I nearly hit my head on the sofa board. He told me it was embarrassing for me to be obsessing over Harry Potter as an adult. That his friends, girlfriends are more mature than me and are actually planning their lives ahead. I didn't know how me liking Harry Potter related to that because I barely ever talked to him about Harry Potter much before. He just walked away after that and I let him. When I don't come to bed, he tells me I have horrible taste for even crushing on Tom Felton. And that he looks like a sulkin cow now. All right. Well, what hurt me most was that he didn't even taste the sweets I made or even lie down with me for at least an hour. I would have been okay to even change the movie or shut it down and when I tried suggesting he just kept shaking his head. He told me to fix my ways before he gets fed up and leaves me for good and that he denied a really good offer to drink at the bar with his friends. Good morning and I haven't talked to him yet. He just left without even looking at me. I might be at fault here for not taking his interest into much consideration. I just thought we would like it because I would show him stuff like that and he always admired it. I feel kind of hurt. The pizza I made was also his favorite but he didn't seem to show much for it. I don't know if I may be overreacting. I don't know if it's right for me to love this series anymore. It had been part of my childhood and I grew up with it. We have been together for three years now. >> All right, there's a lot of layers to this. So it is the boyfriend's birthday. >> Yes. >> So she plans a Harry Potter marathon for his birthday. She just the two of them. >> Just the two of them. >> Starting at 9.30. >> Starting at 9.30. >> You're going 6 a.m. >> Yeah, watching Harry Potter. >> And he likes golfing in cars more than 9. Does that mean she also likes golfing in car? I need some red stripes. >> This is a little confusing. >> Yeah. >> I think that just as it feels like she's more of a Harry Potter fan than he is. >> So she made like a Harry Potter night. >> Night. >> Right, his birthday, which I could see. Now here's the thing though. >> And they live together. >> They live together. >> Right. >> So it's like, okay, but he seems to like blast off on her in a crazy other way. >> That I could fusing where he's mad at her for liking Draco Malfoy. >> Right. >> He insults Tom Felton. It's like, hey, Tom Felton does not need to catch a stray here. >> Right. >> Okay. >> I mean, maybe a little. >> Base? Like, if he started going after JK Rowling, I'd be like, okay, fair. >> Okay, do it. >> Like, I thought that was going to be the angle. He's like, well, I don't like JK Rowling. She's a piece of shit. It's like, okay, fair. >> Let's throw a party about that. >> That's not what he said though. >> No. >> Right. >> So we're like, what's going on? Either OP is leaving out tons of history of like, wait, what's the pattern here? Yeah, because you're talking I will say she's like we've been dating for three years You're talking about your interest as if you're not really sure what you guys are in But I also think shouldn't you know there's a little entitlement of her making it like her To talk Harry Potter movie. Yeah, this feels like her birthday Exactly in reading the story I forgot that it was his birthday. I thought it was her So I like I especially if you're in a relationship that long But any birthday planning like I always ask the birthday person What do you want to do? What do you want to do? You want to go out to the floor? You want to like stay in do you want to do nothing? Do you want a small group a big group? Do you want to build you candy structures? Yeah, exactly or and if the person's like I'm down for whatever But I want to just stay home or whatever like I think when it comes to people's birthdays Everyone approaches it in such a different manner for you to make a surprise like this so focused on your Interest it like already is a tough situation. Yeah, it's a little bit interesting and he did get invites to go hang out with friends But it's like did did she ask we're leave we don't have a lot of info like what was the planning process of this Yeah, there's a little bit of like a lot of confusing stuff This all would have been solved as she just made it a Lord of the Rings watch party. Okay Cuz it's just far superior It's just far better Pretty much anything Comments I Know you feel bad, but sis you practically planned a night for you not for his birthday. Oh, he says I honestly wouldn't mind if that means spending time with him Oh, Pee what what what just does that mean she's not I think she speaks in riddles She's like I just want to spend time with him But maybe you could have spent time at the club with the drinking if he if that's what you wanted Can spend time with him right and make it for him right bring a cloak on a scarf if you have to but it's also like I'll say okay There's because there's so much going on too like him picking a fight about like Multiple random things no one's in the clear here. I think I think it's my takeaway is oh This communication has been so bad for so long you guys don't like each other and you have not come to terms with it exactly The boyfriend could be mad because of the way this this birthday was planned for her and not for him But he's expressing it in horrible just he's expressing it horribly like I don't feel seen because this is more about you in city I think you're stupid He's ugly you bet he had fun here. You want me to get blonde hair now? Yeah, it's like oh you're calling me a whore Someone else said maybe he'll take you for 18 holes of golf and a car show for your birthday That's awesome someone says as a 13-year-old man. He may like Harry As a 32-year-old man, he may like Harry Potter, but his idea of a birthday surprise is not a Harry Potter marathon You sound very entitled He didn't even taste the sweets I made or even lie down with me for at least an hour He feels you have a different ideas and wants a more grown-up evening There may be more issues at heart for him too. I feel this is the final straw sort of incident You need to sit down and have a calm conversation with him. I don't like grown-up evening though. That why did that make me mad? Because I think like there's nothing wrong with This is wrong if it's what he won like child like joy. There's nothing wrong with like movie Xerathon is Disney adults like yeah But like But the communication. It's just yes. Yes. Yes. We don't need to limit anything. It's just about doing what he wants for his birthday right right and Yes, and the comment does point out like she's up she's upset Because of what he's not doing exactly. Yeah, exactly. Hey, this wasn't your night. He didn't like his birthday the way I wanted him to like it. Yeah All right Moving on our next story comes from am I the butt face? This is posted in 2019 there's another one am I the butt face? There's just a bunch of there's a bunch of that the Christian one Cuz they want to say ask not necessarily. They all just have slightly different rules on like what can be posted cuz What's butt face should out your mouth? Yeah, probably Cuz I know I know the OG am I the asshole subreddit? It's not a lot to do with relationships Like it's a weird that has weird mod rules So then other ones are made but faces no eyes no nose exactly Well, too cheap the but hole is the nose All right This comes from am I the butt face 2019 would I be the butt face if I demanded to know who reported me to HR? butt face butt face I want to take this seriously but butt face is so hot. I know I Am in my early 30s and male in our office. I am known as a bit of a jokester Nothing mean and I don't go out of my way to prank someone or hurt anyone's feelings But I have plenty of jokes and give lots of silly nicknames. I'm not I'm not buying it I'm not buying it. I'm kind of a joke. I know Silly nicknames There is a newer woman in our office. She's in her early 20s and she has a three-year-old They live in an RV park a few miles away from work and I've nicknamed her RV reba No I didn't see the harm. It's just a silly nickname. I've given silly nicknames to most of my co-workers If anyone complains about it, I just explain. I don't mean anything by it It's just a silly thing I do and there was no reason for them to be offended RV I like how he's like no offense. Yeah No, it's RV, reba, reba, reba. She'll take no offense. Yeah, they continue RV reba wasn't thrilled with the nickname said it was insulting But I explained it wasn't intended to be it was just something silly. I came up with she asked me to stop using it I don't use it around her much anymore But I think it's a silly thing to get upset about so I still use it around others Well, someone reported me to HR I got called into a meeting this morning and given a written warning to stop harassing my co-workers I don't see how this is harassing at all. They're silly nicknames I asked who reported me and they said it was not just one person, but multiple complaints RV reba and a few others were getting coffee It's just like every time and I wanted to know who reported me RV reba said she didn't know but was glad they spoke to me about it since I wasn't listening to them asking me to stop I think it was probably her and one of the two other co-workers who can never take a joke I want to know exactly who it was though a few co-workers said I'm already the butt face and should let it go But I really want to know who reported me would I be the butt face if I demanded to know who it was? I just love it says verdict butt face Well, yes, he is the butt face. Yeah, you're a friend. You are the butt face. Yeah, you're the butt face Um, I think legally you are entitled to know who reported you to HR Yeah, it doesn't matter if you're the butt face for demanding it like that's just not gonna happen Yeah, multiple people are like you suck stop doing that. You should not do that. This is very classic like it's a joke I'm just joking from just joking around that doesn't that doesn't like wash you of your sins Yeah, it doesn't even like how people can feel about a certain nickname or a certain joke like right ever heard of empathy Ever heard of a passion ever heard of respect like it's true even for our workspace where our job is telling jokes and being silly right we're expected to be silly all the time now even here if someone goes Had unlike that joke we go all right. We won't say that like yeah, but they're in I'm assuming a workspace where telling jokes is not part of the job But even like you're not even expected to tell jokes man like don't you like tell jokes that's fine But if someone tells you to stop you have better stop you're not expected to be making people laugh But even if we like like drill it down to like what it is it's not even like a but a bunch joke It is a nickname and like you shouldn't give nicknames to people that have names already It's also you're not friends also if we're gonna talk about giving nicknames horrible nicknames horrible nicknames Reba that's you assigned their location and then their name well She's a single mom that works two jobs like come on that's so That's heavy like what you saying and it's also like she just started a new job. She's young She she's trying to like being a woman in in the workplace is also very hard. She's trying to like make a Name for herself in the place like whatever you name is not RV and it's not RV reba and I think that's just so condescending and weird and off-putting like Absolutely should be reported HR and absolutely should quit this shit like you are not hired to make silly jokes on the job Right like be a professional be respectful especially to women like it's just so beyond me that he thinks like Oh, I'm just being silly and it's like did anyone down on hire you to be silly. No, absolutely not Yeah, cuz no your explanation makes it sound like she's a little bit more of an RV Brockovich, you know We'll got that But I will say like I've been lucky that I've worked in workplaces that like even if I am like There's a joke that goes too far or something like that I am the type of person's like hey, can you like not joke about that and everyone's been very like Nice about it. I've always worked in these like creative video field. So sometimes the lines get blurred. And so the fact that like having to ask more than once, or even just like to explain why it's inappropriate, it's just like, it's just beyond me. Like we're adults here. Yeah. Yeah. I wonder if it's because in our creative fields, I mean, no, I hear horror stories about it in our fields too, but I feel like working at Smosh like inevitably, we run into this so often, right? Yes, of course. I mean it's not even amongst ourselves, but just in our videos where we go like, oh, we did something that we that we won't say that again. Or like, oh, that didn't like, you know, or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. So I feel like it's just part of our job. So we just have so much experience with it, not to like take it so personally when it's like, hey, just don't say that, like learn the behavior now. Right. Someone saying, I don't like that you say that. Or like, I don't like that. Doesn't mean that like, I mean, maybe not this guy, but that doesn't mean like you're a bad person. Or I hate you now. It's just like, hey, I'm drawing a line right there for that thing. And that's it. And you just go, great, I won't do that anymore. Right. Let's have fun elsewhere. Right. It's easy. And I think what is he going to do with that information? If if they name names, which they're not going to because they have to protect who did the report, like what and what then he's going to create a style interaction. Yeah. He's going to retaliate. Yeah, we do. Be mean to that person. Like grow up. Yeah. He also is clearly like lacking self-awareness of, hey, like nicknames jokes. It's one thing, but you are a man in your 30s. And she is a young woman in her early 20s who is new to this job. And so like, you have to understand how this is going to come across. Like, she's in a place where she probably feels scared to speak up for herself. Well, she knew too. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. And you want to do as a new person, as like ruffle the feathers and like be like, feel like it's hostile. It's a very tough thing. She's in a hard spot. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, you know, like make this easy for them. Exactly. And we've all met people that like kind of don't know when to stop joking, even if they like, even if they're not funny, like they're, they just like, I wish I had that confidence. But like, we've all been around those people. And I think it is a very difficult situation to sit them down and be like, hey, I get you think you're silly, but this is not silly goose time. This is going to be a professional. And HR did their job here, which is to just lay something out as straightforward as possible. Yeah. It's like, hey, stop. Yep. Yep. We're asking you to stop doing this thing. We've had reports and edit comments. I think you know you're the butt face. Your jokes aren't amusing to others. This has been explicitly spelled out to you. Multiple times from the sound of it. Therefore, you should have already stopped. If others aren't laughing, it's not funny. If it's not funny, it's not a joke. If it's not a joke, your continued behavior is harassment. Stop it before you quite rightly lose your job. Someone said, you are the butt face massively. You zero in on something that someone finds embarrassing and repeatedly pointed out to all and sundry. You say it's just a laugh, but plainly not for Reba. I'm glad your colleagues reported you. You sound like a horrible person to have around. Someone said, you're the asshole and insulting. What's wrong with you? You are not funny. You don't get to demand anything. You can request. You can be told, no, you do not get to decide what people want or like to be called. You do not get to decide what someone feels about anything. With multiple people complaining, I'm shocked you're not in more trouble. What you're doing is harassment and bullying. You're at a place of work. Be more mature and professional. Yeah. Damn. Yeah. I also think like I've been in relationships and dynamics mostly with like a male and me where like if you if you do say your boundaries or you're like, hey, that's not funny or hey, they go, it's a joke. So I think it's like if your response is it's a joke, like that itself needs to be like a self-reflection thing because you're also like brushing off that person's emotions. Right. And like I've been in that situation kind of gas lit of like it's just a joke why you take it so seriously and you're like, yeah, I'm kind of like not feeling great after you said that thing. Right. And that's the issue. Yeah. And like we work in comedy and we know like jokes do there's like a reality to it. Yeah. Exactly. You can't just say like, oh, well, it's just all silly and there's no there's no implications. There's no meaning behind it's like all jokes have some reality to it. How much of it is to be determined, but it's a very privileged position as a guy who's like, oh, it's just fine. It's whatever. It's like, yeah, because you're not threatened in this place. Exactly. Exactly. Where she's scared. She doesn't know you. Exactly. All right. Our next story comes from Am I overreacting? It's a new one. It's only like a month or so old. Am I overreacting? Girlfriend threw away the dinner I cooked because she wanted pizza instead. What should I cook dinner? I want pizza. Pizza! Girlfriend texted me earlier. I'm too tired and frustrated to even respond. I was trying to do something nice for her and surprise her with something she said she really liked, but apparently she wasn't in the mood for it. I feel pretty tired of trying in general. I guess I didn't really ask her what she wanted tonight for dinner, but I still feel pretty angry. Text messages between OP and girlfriend. So the girlfriend texts him, hey, when is your break? Can you pick up a pizza so I have something to eat tonight? OP response. No, babe. I made the wine braze short ribs. You said last night where your favorite. I got up early to cook them. You just have to pull them from the pot. There's that and the small smores cake I made for Wednesday since there's extra and I figured you'd want some. Okay, so he made wine braze short ribs. Yeah. And there's smores cake. Okay, Martha. Girlfriend response. I don't really want that though. Can you just grab a pizza on your break? We can eat that stuff later. That stuff. That stuff. OP says, OP says no, I'm locked in for the night. What's wrong with the short ribs? You literally just told me it was your favorite thing so I made it special for you. Kind of sucks. Well, I tried it and it came out kind of gross anyway, so I'm tossing it. Can you ask to leave for a bit and stop by a Papa John's or something? I just want stuffed crust. What do you mean gross? You tossed it as in like through it away? It just tasted bad. I don't know what to tell you. It wasn't eatable. It's not a big deal. I just need to eat something tonight for dinner though. Did you ask? Dude, what the fuck? That was expensive meat. Why would you throw it away? I already told you I'm not leaving work. Well, I don't know what you expect me to do. It's simple as fuck. Just order a pizza then if you're busy. Like, I have to eat something. Hello, places are closing soon. I'm busy at work. I don't want to talk about it right now. Please figure it out. We'll talk later. She says, seriously, you're going to be this much of an asshole over this. I didn't ask you to cook anything. If you can't deal with the basics of being a supportive partner, then it should be something I consider and find someone who will support me. Dude. Oh, no. I can't see order the pizza. That's my confusion. That's my confusion. Why can't she get the Papa John with the little pepper? I can't do it. I can't do it. I can't do it. You have your phone in your hand. Get it delivered at your workplace and just heat it back up or something or stop and get a frozen pizza. I feel like there's a lot of problem solving. They're closing soon. Papa John's is open forever. If there's one thing you can get at any time, you can find a pizza somewhere. I don't know where you live, but you could probably find a pizza. And if not, there's short ribs. She's at home. She threw the short ribs away, right? I think that's a little brutal to say over text. I don't even know where to begin with this story. There's so much. I'm like, line by line. Let's go. This is a lot. This is a lot. This is ridiculous. This is where it goes beyond. If I knew this guy, I'm like, we don't need to talk about this man. I'd be like, man, look in the mirror. Everybody sit down. Take a breath. >> Yeah. >> Did they say how long they were together for it? >> No, but like, we don't get much before the text messages. >> So who posted this? >> The boyfriend posted this and he posted all the screenshots of the text messages. And yeah, the verdict's not overreacting, by the way. >> Right, of course. >> Of course. >> We probably get some more in the comments. Let's go to the comments. >> Yeah. >> You really shouldn't be dating a teenager. I can't comprehend this person being an adult. Sarcasm aside, get the hell out of this relationship. You want to spend the next 40 years or whatever with someone who throws homemade meals in the garbage, demands pizza from a chain restaurant, and is seemingly incapable of ordering delivery herself. And as rude as fuck to you, dude, there's so many red flags in this exchange that you could open up an Etsy store selling used red flags and become a multi-millionaire. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Fajora time. >> Okay. >> Okay, stand up comedian. >> O.P. responds to that, though. And says not sure why I can't edit to add more information on mobile, but I'm borrowing the top comment to answer some questions. She lost her card last week while hanging out with some friends and had to cancel her accounts. She's using mine until her new one comes in the mail. I have not gotten to eat any of the prepared food. Cooking is my love language. I think I mostly just feel heartbroken at this point, and that's why I've decided to just finish work tonight and talk to her in the morning about it. >> Yeah. >> Dude, my God, she sounds useless. >> It's his love language. >> I know, that's what my gut, like, I was singing like maybe their love languages are like off, and then there's also no consideration for each other. >> She threw it out, though. >> She threw it out is crazy. >> Throwing it out before even asking. >> Before he gets to eat it. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> That's a break up, though. - I'm thinking like maybe there are the stew or whatever is savable. - Oh, she's always savable. - I feel like the stew-- - That's more of the other stuff. Yeah, more of the other stuff. - I don't believe her that she tried it. - No. She wanted a pizza. - Pizza. - It's not, it's not eatable. - Eatable. - Eatable, that's all I need. - Well, I mispronounce stuff all the time, but no. - And he works quickly. She said it last night and he cooked it this morning, damn. - I know. She could have at least sent a text like, "Hey, babe, I appreciate you cooking dinner, but it wasn't my favorite." Can we order something else instead? - Exactly. - There was no appreciation shown and just throwing it away was rude, especially if you liked it. I honestly probably would have just ordered myself something else to eat and told you later that I didn't like it, et cetera. Your feelings are valid. Update. - Oh! - Yes. - Yay. - After spending the morning at a friend's house, I went ahead and just went back to our apartment. I haven't really slept honestly with how anxious I've been. Basically, I went back to the apartment. She was there scrolling on her phone. I went ahead and just came out with it and explained to her that I can't keep trying to make things work with someone who doesn't care about what I do for them. She started to cry and told me, it's just the way her brain works and it's not her fault. - Oh! - She said she's trying in therapy and that she feels like she doesn't deserve to be loved. - Oh no, oh no. - I'm more or less followed up and explained to her, I can't be the one to keep dealing with her when she treats me like garbage. She basically got angry as hell at this point and told me I never cared and I never really tried or I wouldn't just leave over something so stupid. She broke a glass, I kept from growing up. She broke-- - No, come on. - She broke a glass, I kept from growing up that was sitting on our counter by throwing it on the ground at which point, I just stopped talking. I spent an hour with her yelling and begging me while I grabbed things I have that are valuable. I'm just going to disappear for a bit at my friends. I need to figure out what to do about the rent and stuff since we have a month until renewal. I know it's not really all that crazy of an update, but I-- - Not that crazy, she's growing things. - But I wanted to just get in and out and be done after thinking about it and being ready to move on from being unhappy. I appreciate everyone's comments and to the people who reached out. I'll be honest, I feel like I've wasted a ton of my life trying to help a broken person and it's just equal parts depressing while also a feeling of being empty and tired. I'm going to try my best to make things better in my life and only give people who appreciate me and the stuff that I do. - That's the whole point, that's good. - You can't be down on yourself for trying, for doing that thing of like trying to help someone. I know we all have the thing of like you can't, you know, they have to help themselves. You can't be the person that's like, I feel like it's a canon event for most people to be in a relationship with someone who is like this, who has probably some wonderful positive things, but then has these other things that are hard to deal with. - It's a pairing that happens, I think, so often. And it's because when you know the source of someone's toxic traits. - Exactly. - You go, well, I know why they're that way. But at a certain point, you kind of have to be like, it doesn't matter. - It doesn't change. - Yeah, exactly. - Because here we are right now and you're throwing a glass. - You're breaking the glass. - You're breaking the glass on the floor and I can't be here for that. - Exactly, exactly. - Oh god, geez. - I think it's also too, like you kind of like, I think I'm a natural optimist, but I think in relationship everyone is a natural optimist. So you're just like, you know, maybe they had a bad day. You're being very compassionate, you're being very empathetic. But there is a point in relationships where you can also go, this is just not gonna work. - Right, yeah. - And it's like, I still care for the person. - Of course. - There's still emotions there. Like he's probably going through some heartbreak too. But like at some point you got to be like, this is not my mess to fix. - Right. - And this is also not my person that I want to like continue with. And so you kind of have to like, break the cycle. So sometimes little things like this break it. Where you're like, holy shit. - And god, when the cycle breaks. - You're like, oh my god. - I'm like, finally I'm free. - Yeah. - Frontal lobes are connecting. - Yeah, 'cause there's like a torsion. You're like, oh my god. And then like six months later when it's just a story 'cause everything you do turns it to just a story. You're like, holy shit. Thank god I got out when I did. Because like that's just not a mess that I had to clean up. - Right. - Especially when this is my life as well too. - And you look back and you go, there's no way I could have ever clicked. Like there was no chance of me ever doing that. - Exactly, exactly. - And you know, I've been in situations where I look back and I go, oh, I was never going to help this person. - Exactly. - Right, exactly. - Like by just being there. - By just being part of the toxic, they're doing their talks things and I'm tolerating it. - Right. - Like what's gonna happen here? - No. - We have to leave. - We have to leave. - And there's guilt. I think there's like, when you're that person that's like finally make them in call and witnessing all this stuff happen. Like as he's packing up and she's crying and begging, like you're feeling guilty. 'Cause you're like, oh shit, I am like quitting this thing. But like some things are worth quitting. And some things are worth walking away. And relationships are like, if you're in a bad relationship, it is so like, and not even bad, a wrong relationship. Like it's painful as hell. I'd much rather be by myself figuring out than being in like a situation like that. So like he's making a good call, not only for him, but for her as well. 'Cause she has growth to do do. Saying I'm unlovable. It's like that's taking me again. - That's a manipulation tactic. - Taking the accountability out of it. Because it's like, you unlovable, you just crashed a glass from my childhood on the floor. - Are you trying to prove your own point? - Exactly, like it's a self-fulfilling prophecy at that point. - Exactly. - Yeah. Oh god, I mean, it's honestly, I feel bad, but-- - For both of them in a way, you know? - It's like-- - But he is making the right move by getting out of it. - And sometimes the chemistry of like two people, like that is just like a bad situation. And like I've not been perfect in relationships either. And just that chemistry is often-- - Sometimes you have two people that don't-- - It's just like-- - That don't mix right. - It's like the volcano experiment, like Big Soda and the like vinegar. It's like-- - Yeah, exactly. - It's just like, this is not my best. - And I don't know, I don't know. - We don't know. - You're like, I'm not bringing my games. I'm bringing my hydrogen peroxide. - Yeah, exactly. We don't know their ages, but I do think it sounds like, like she sounds very young. - Yeah. - Maybe she's not, but she's coming across some people. - I'm glad that she's in therapy. - Yes. - But I'm sure the therapist would probably be glad to know, like, hey, yeah, that relationship should not be happening. Like, especially if this is the type of behavior she's eliciting. But I'm hopeful, like, you know, like if she genuinely puts work in, which it sounds like she needs to still do. - Yeah, you won't ever find that like answer to like, am I unlovable in another percent? - Nope. - Like, you gotta, like, RuPaul, what does RuPaul say? You gotta love yourself first. - How the hell are you gonna love somebody else? - Yeah, exactly. If you don't love yourself, and like, that's 100% it. - It's true. - If you don't find the reasons why you would fall in love with you, like, it's just never, it's gonna be an endless source of failed relationships. - Right, yeah, right. Well, I hope for the best for both of them. - Same. - And they will. - But I'm, yeah. - I will. I'm very optimistic. If they didn't work, they will. - Right. All right. Moving on to our last story. - Wow. (screams) - This comes from relationship advice. It comes from 2022. I, a 25 year old woman, begged my partner a 28 year old man for an open relationship. Eight months in, he left. - For another woman. - Oh, baby. - For someone else. - Oh, baby. - Okay, so I have read so many stories on Reddit. We don't read a lot of these types of ones here, but I have read so many stories and heard so many stories about. - Holly. - People, in monogamous relationships, asking for poly relationships and then it backfiring on them. - Yes. - I've heard about that so much. It's also similar. There are so many stories on Reddit about people having three sums and then the aftermath of it. And they are crazy stories. - This is a wild one to end with. - This is nuts. Eight months ago, I, a 25 year old woman, asked my partner a 28 year old man for an open relationship as I got bored with him. - Oh. - Nothing wrong, but he just didn't excite me much. And he agreed, but he proceeded to tell me there's a catch. If he catches feelings for a partner, he's going to leave me for her. - Oh. - Oh. - This is it. This is like, oh. - Yeah, it's like, oh. - Yeah. - Oh my god. - What? - Yeah, you wouldn't do this? - Oh, you wouldn't, you wouldn't fuck someone else? - Yeah, and then if I fuck someone real good, I wouldn't fuck them. (laughing) - So he said, if he catches feelings for a partner, he's going to leave me for her. - This is it. - And that's exactly what happened. - Well, he said it was gonna happen. - And she was born again. - And she continues, I want him back in my arms. He left me for his new partner. What can I do to win the love of my life back? - Time machine baby. - Love the life. - Time machine. - Here, life I thought he'd born you. - He thought he was fucking boring dude. - Look man, that's not a reason to get into an open relationship. Like, that come on man. - Wait, that's the whole thing? - So that's, I will say there's an update. - Oh, okay. - But that's the main story. - That is the post. - Okay, so she posted that. - That'd be like, guys, guys. - I was bored. - I was bored so I wanted to open a relationship. - So I will. - And then he told me exactly what would happen and he told him to do the thing. - Like hold, move on him to be like, well, all right. - 'Cause I've also heard of people like requesting to open a relationship but they have like different rules of like, you can't go on more than one date with a person. - So it's like basically like you have an open door to do like one night stand. - From what I know of people who have open relationships is it is like you, everything is an agreed upon thing. Like you have to really lay it out. But it's also the people that I know that are, that it seems to be working with. It's like they got, they both got into a poly relationship. - Yeah, it was like that was from the get-go. - To be among a monogamous relationship and then be like, let's open our relationship. - That does not work. - It's yeah. - At least for anecdotally, for everyone I know. - Same. - That I'm like, no, one of you wanted to cheat or you were already cheating and this is your way into it. It's like, no, it's gonna be poly. I think you need to end your relationship and then start a poly relationship. - On even grounds. - But like to go from monogamous to poly, both of you probably have different ideas of it. You're both going into a new thing to like at the same time. Your ideas of it are so different. - You're starting a new relationship. - Yeah. - And then it didn't work out. This new type of relationship didn't work for you. - Yeah, I've never explored open relationship. Cloudy and I are monogamous but we've had this conversation a lot and not just to like go through the exercise, right? - Right, just to be like, what would that be like if we did that? - Exactly, exactly. And to me, it's like, it's not even like if we're doubling the relationship, it's double the work. I think it's like exponential. I think it's like, if we were to have an open relationship, it's not double the work. It's almost like triple the work because it's like, yeah, it's just exponentially. The communication needs to go. The dynamics between all the different things. The nights out, there's a lot involved that there's a social responsibility in those dynamics to put a lot of work into it. - It's a massive change. And if you're making that change, it's got to be like, oh, this is something so deep in me. - Yeah. - That this is who I am and this is what I want. Not just, oh, I got bored by a partner. - I got bored by a partner. - It sounds like that, yeah. - It does sound fun. In fluffy world, it's like, oh, yeah. I get to smooch the cuties over there. - This is my love of my life. - Exactly. - Isn't that nice and beautiful? - Exactly, isn't that nice and beautiful, but if you really think about it, it's complex and soft. (laughing) Okay. See, I have too much anxiety for that shit. I'm like, oh, same, yeah. - I just think it's like, what Claudio and I have, like, with us being together in our love, is like, I just love it so much. That is like an hour or two of playtime, really worth all that extra hubbub to make that worth it. I'm like, well, no. And if I'm bored, maybe in our sex life or whatever, that's a conversation to have with my partner first before I go exploring. So if she was bored in the bedroom. - She's also blaming, she's like, I got bored with him and it's like, hey, that's a thing. - Yeah. - But this is how you're solving it. It's like, and it's like, you're bored with him. That may not be just him. - That's you two together. - Yeah, that's a dynamic. - There was a really interesting, I forget, it was in a book I read about like, you know, when you've been together for years upon years, like, you have to find a way to continue the narrative. - Yes. - Right, 'cause when you're single and you're dating, it's like, whoa, it's exciting elements, like, whoa. And that's, she's looking for a rush. - Yeah. - That she'll get from meeting new people. - Exactly. - But that rush will end, too. - Exactly. - She's treating it like a drug where it's like, you can find that rush. - Exactly. - Yeah, but you have to work on that together. - Exactly. - Like, you know, it's like a creativity communication, like, maybe a sex therapist, like, these things work. - Totally. - They take time and focus, but-- - But she made a, she made a brash, massive decision not considering the ramification. - I just love that he was like, I will leave you if I catch a crazy move, and he did it. - Do you think he thought like, that'll get her to not open up the relationship? - I think he, to me, it feels like he almost broke up then and there. - Yeah. - Like, he was like, this relationship's over. - He was a little hunting for someone else. - Comments, comments, not gonna lie, that's the ultimate reverse card for this situation. Big ups, your ex. - Oh, he, oh, he said, really? (all laughing) - He said exactly what he was gonna do. - Yeah, someone said, "Haha, good for him. "Get a therapist to help you work on yourself "so you learn to end an unhealthy relationship." Instead of pretending to be poly. Oh, he said, "I have been in and out of therapy "for at least a year now." Someone said, "Yes, really, you played yourself. "He didn't excite you, "so you asked for an open relationship "and now you want him back when he caught feelings "for someone else while in the open relationship "that you asked for in the first place. "You only have yourself to blame for this one. "You should stay single for a while and grow up. "I don't want to be single. "I want to prove to my boyfriend I can be better now." - Sure. - All right. - It's too late. - Update. - Oh. - Probably nobody asked for this, but here's an update. (all laughing) - It's so aggressive. - Probably nobody asked for this. - Yeah, the way that this person writes. - Hey. - Hey. - Always nice. - I was kicked out of his house last Sunday. That's six days now and I excruciatingly miss him. I will do anything to get him to return to me, but he looks happy on social media with his new partner that I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me with. - But you were open. - You were in an open relationship. Anyways, I tried calling him no answer. I saw him in public and he pretend to not even know who the fuck I was. He won't acknowledge my existence, so I went to our former place just to talk and things got hostile. His new girlfriend hates me for some reason. I didn't even know her and she proceeded to try and attack me while he tried to split us up and get me out the door. When he had his back turned, she maced me. And now-- - What? - And now he's trying to file a restraining order on me. The hell did I do wrong? She attacked me and pepper sprayed me. - Didn't you show up at their house? - Yes, she did. (all laughing) - How can I convince him he's dating a psychopath? - What? Uh oh. - Jerry. Jerry. - Jerry. - Jerry. - Oh my God. - That's embarrassing. Is this real? - It's probably not, but. (all laughing) I'll say this, it's probably not, but I know of these types of situations. - I know. - I know of these anecdotally. - Yeah. - Not of showing up and getting pepper sprayed. But of the open relationship turned into regret, into-- - That's a classic story. - Don't have one thing to say. - I'm sorry. - Turn it classic. You got what you wanted, and if anyone sounds like a psychopath, it's you who is stalking their ex, seek some mental health, or do some inter-reflection, but most importantly, leave the man alone and move on. Stalking, I previously lived at that residence. - So she was, she's like, I got kicked out. - I got kicked out six days ago. - Kicked out, it's not like I moved out. It's like, this feels like a Joe from you. You know how Joe from you can like rationalize every reason he like murdered every woman on that show and every person. It's like you are like out of touch with reality and perception. - Yeah. - You should turn actually to your closest friends in community, hopefully they can call you out on your shit. Because like-- - And bring it back home, you know? - Yeah, if it's getting to like legal, to mace, to like separating like that woman also in the relationship with your ex had nothing to do with this. She was exploring a relationship that I hope he was like open and honest about being open to. That's, there's no reason to go after her either. - Yeah, this is a delusional person, if they're real. (laughing) You need to leave him alone. This isn't going to end well for you. OP responded, I can't walk away until this is fixed. - Uh-oh. - Walk away. - Someone said, and if it was an open relationship, then how was it cheating? She says, because he left me within eight months, that's way too fast. - Eight months is two quarters. - Two fiscal quarters, that is a very long time. (laughing) - Okay, update number two. - Oh! - Here we go again. - This will probably be the last update. The restraining order has been-- (laughing) - Me too. - Me too, queen. - We love that. The restraining order has been filled and I am not allowed within 100 feet of my ex Harry and his new girlfriend, Jess. I'm planning to move back to my home in Arizona and start over. They're happy and I just want to find peace with myself. Thanks for everyone's advice and opinions. Yes, I was already in therapy and I am still in therapy. Please anyone my age or younger listen to my advice. TikTok is not cool. Please delete it. It's done me nothing but harm. And other people's stupidity can really poison your minds in living proof. Thank you, take care. I'm starting to go back to thinking this is real and this is a person who is very like, they've lost their mind. - Yeah, they lost the plot. - So OP in the comments alluded that TikTok was the reason she wanted an open relationship. She saw some stuff talking about it. So this is a very immature-- - Wait, wait, wait, you're telling me. - Everything on TikTok. - Is not to be trusted. - Oh, it's not to be trusted. - You tell me that this is sort of misinformation. - You're telling me all the people that are poly on TikTok may not be on to something. (laughing) - Update number three. - Yes, let's go. - This is-- - Let's go. - So this is two years later. - Can I make an assumption that she's going to open it up with like nagging herself about doing an update? Like guys, I can't believe-- - I'm like, literally no one asked for this bot. - It's been two years. I've tried to stay offline and live life, but my accent is now wife. Find new ways to live in my head, rent-free. I wanted an open relationship, so what? You don't just string me along for eight months, get some new girl who you met through me, and then marry her. She's, this isn't fair. She's living in my home with someone who should be more. >> My husband and he's been renewing the restraining order ever since it first expired. And I know he's gonna keep doing it because for reasons beyond my knowledge, the man hates me, FML. >> Dude, this is why she's doing it. >> Two years later. >> My God. >> This is what he's doing it. >> Guys, I fear this is real, I fear this is real, the way I will also say the way this is written has me like this person is typing this, not like they're just going off. >> Oh, this is bad, I'm scared for the husband and wife. >> This is beyond entitled, this is, they're in a different world. >> They're living on a different planet and it's unfortunate. Two years later, what kind of therapy, I think the on and on, I've been in on and off therapy for, I think that like might say it too, because it's like- >> On and off, when you're leaving a therapist, as soon as they call you out on something, that would be a thing, that could be a thing, yikes, take the hint, I don't know. >> It's been two years, I don't know what the hint's going to stick. >> I don't know what you would do. >> Also, did she not meet anyone nice when she was open? I find it so hard to be so sprung when he's clearly moved on. >> The story that I've heard on Reddit that is one of my favorite stories is a person writes in about their parents, and what happens is their parents are in their like 50s. The dad wants an open relationship. So they begin to have an open relationship. He starts sleeping with his secretary, who he clearly had already been sleeping with. >> Yeah. >> And then the mom just starts sleeping with tons of dudes. >> I love it. >> And the dad loses his mind and then the mom leaves him and the dad, then the secretary left him. And it just like plays out just horrendously for the dad. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I mean, this person is, this is scary, but I'm always amazed at people who cheat and do so much horrible stuff and then our blown away and cannot handle when their partner leaves them. >> Yeah. >> I'm like, wait, you thought you were allowed to just make all these mistakes and do all these horrible things and treat your partner so horribly. And the second that they choose themselves, you can't handle it and they often can't handle it for years. >> Yeah. >> Because I think like when you're in that position, you're not even thinking of the consequences or you're rationalizing why this can be totally okay, like Ned Tri-Guy's podcast, like that's the kind of situation you're like looking into and it's like it's just already gone once you're disconnected from like the reality of the situation. >> Yeah. >> Wow. >> Yeah. >> Well, that's all our stories. >> Wow. >> That was great. >> That was really solid. I think we did good here. >> I feel really good. >> I think it's good work here. >> Yeah. >> I think you're going to get an Emmy for this. >> Yeah. >> Yeah, let's get an Emmy. >> We're going to get an Egon for this. >> Yeah, a friend link can. Right? >> We got nominated or something. We can. >> Damn, Sarah, coming back and just shooting shots at other channels. All right. >> Let's go. >> Sarah, thank you so much for joining us again. >> Thank you guys so much. These are so fun. >> You're always well coming back. >> I love coming back. >> Well, I think we'll see you on some other videos too, so. >> Yeah. >> Just a few other ones today and tomorrow. >> Yeah, just a couple other things. >> Just a couple other things. >> You're on a whole tour. >> Nice. >> Yeah. >> And Tommy, thank you for joining us. >> Oh, hey, thanks. >> Okay, big great. >> Yeah, I love hearing you. >> All right. And thank you so much for watching. Let us know what other types of stories and categories and subreds you want to see on the show. And we'll see you next Saturday. Goodbye. Don't be a butt face. - Don't, hey, don't be a butt face. - Don't be a butt face.