Tay Lautner: My 1st trimester, body image, & protecting my baby from the public eye

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Like that's so amazing. Then I got pregnant and then I didn't have any of those thoughts. You've probably heard of Taye through her marriage to actor Taylor Lautner, who famously played Jacob in the Twilight series. There was someone that had a really long lens camera and like took photos of her first look. That was the first time it really felt like an invasion of privacy for me. Taye has become a leading voice in the mental health space, launching the Lemons Foundation and co-hosting the Squeeze Podcast, where she and Taylor have honest conversations about relationships, anxiety, and personal growth. The internet is such a scary place to have kids. If we go out, someone's going to take like a photo of our baby. There's just like so many little thoughts like that. We talk with Taye about getting pregnant by surprise, navigating body image changes, and protecting her future child's privacy, all on today's episode. Taye Lautner, welcome back to the Unplanned Podcast. Thanks, guys. It's an honor. So fun. We're going to give you a brief applause. Are people still mispronouncing your last name? I don't really care how it is said or done. I'm indifferent because people will, I think, just say it incorrectly for forever. But my husband has never corrected anyone until a couple of years ago. So yeah, it still happens, but I really don't. I really don't care, buddy. That was like groundbreaking news. No, it was. I know. I feel like every news outlet covered that. I think when Taylor went on Call Her Daddy, that was like a really big thing. Again, all the news was like, "We're pronouncing Taylor's name wrong. Red alert. Everybody needs to know." He was actually never concerned. Yeah. No, he literally didn't care. He's also, I think, just is so nice and is just not confrontational with that because he's not going to want to correct someone. Because you could say it. Technically, you could say it either way, pronunciation-wise. So yeah, I know. People, my favorite is when people come up and they say Lautner and they're like, "I know that's not how you say it, but I can't remember how to say it correctly." I'm like, "It's totally fine." Oh, people actually say that. Oh yeah. No, people have clocked in and been like, "Wait, no, that's not right." But I know, I can't remember what it is. I'm like, "It's totally fine." It's totally fine. I'm not going to lie. Even now, even saying your name, I'm like, I need to really think through this because it just, yeah, it's- It doesn't, I think Lautner just, because we've said it, I mean, that's what I used to call Taylor also. So I think it just- Yeah. Rolls off the tongue easier because that's all we know. When did you find out that you were pronouncing your own last name wrong? I know. I think when I met his sister, I think that she probably said it the correct way to me. You're like, "Hold it. Yeah, that'll do." I know. That was probably when. That's cool that you and Taylor's sister are such good friends, right? Yeah. Like that's why you guys connected, right? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's how she introduced us and now she's just a cute little mama too in Nashville living her mom life. It's literally the most fun thing. That's awesome. Well, congratulations is in order for you as well. Thanks. Taylor is now pregnant or Tay. There's a little babe in there. That's so exciting. Do you feel kicks? I actually was feeling them early. Yeah. I finally really started to feel them, which is so crazy. Yeah. Because you're, have you said how far along you are? I'm a little past halfway. Okay. Is what I'm saying. No, I definitely am starting to feel stuff. I think I was feeling stuff earlier, but it's kind of hard to like differentiate. I think also because it's my first, like what is a kick and what's like not like gas or something. Totally. Can you? There's a lot of gas happening. Yeah. There's a lot of movement in there. Yeah. Then I've started to feel kicks, which is like so crazy. You might not know this, but with my first, I had a posterior placenta and when my first had anterior, is there any chance it's anterior or? I think this is, I think I have a posterior. Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. That's why I can feel them. Right. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's right. Because I had with my anterior one, I didn't feel them early on. Like I took like a little like past 20 weeks. Yeah. But by the end, that dude could really kick through that thing. So I was like, doesn't always mean that you're not going to feel anything, but yeah, it's fun. It's fun to feel kicks, especially at this stage where you're like, okay, you're not actually killing me right now. But then sometimes, sometimes they get crazy. Sometimes you're wild or maybe you could just have a little chill baby. Yeah. So I listened to your. Announcement podcast talking about all things pregnancy. And I find, I found it really interesting. Just the fact that you were having to keep it a secret and you, you wanted to be able to announce the pregnancy on your own terms. Was there ever a moment where you thought that maybe like somebody figured it out or something? I mean, yeah, I've definitely, every time I would like go to my OB's office or like go to urgent care or something, I definitely would get nervous. I mean, especially going to my OB because you know, Taylor, has come with me to every appointment. And so I, people in the waiting room would be like, oh, why are they both going in there? Like, just like that would definitely like that concerned me. And I also put on a lot of weight, I think quicker than I was expecting. Cause during my first trimester, I like, I have a metaphobia and I'm like terrified of throwing up. Like I hate. Oh, that's what that's called. Yeah. So I, every time I was nauseous, I ate food and it was just. I had the worst food aversion. So it was just like carbs. So I gained like 12 to 15 pounds in like two and a half weeks. And I was waking up three times in the night and eating food. So I had put on weight and you could like, guess I was like, my family was like, not surprised I was pregnant because like you could tell because I had gained weight. I was scared that people were going to like figure it out when I was going in to my OB appointments. But yeah, that was just, I think, I think I was just a little scarred cause our wedding, there was someone that. Like had a really long lens camera and like took photos of our, um, like first look and posted them like the day after our wedding. It was like daily mail. I know I cried. It was rough. Yeah. That was not a fun thing for me. Um, mainly cause it just like, that was the first time it really felt like an invasion of privacy for me. Yeah. Cause like, you know, people like we leave their grocery store. Like we left the grocery store yesterday and there's like someone in their car taking photos and you see it on the internet. Like, that's fine. Like. It was like out in public, but our wedding, that like, really just like felt icky. Like it just did not feel good. So I think that kind of just put a bad taste in my mouth. So how did they even explain for someone that like, doesn't know how this works? How, how did they know that it was happening? How did they like have the right lens to then like spy on you and take a photo from who knows how far away. I, you know, there's many reasons why I think people knew that we were getting married. Um, you know, some people like to make a quick buck and sell something to someone to go take a photo. Basically someone called a photographer or called someone and a photographer that had just came with his stuff, had a long lens and shot us from like the other side of the road. So is that how this works? Like the photographer is making money and selling it to like TMZ or whoever. Okay. That that's interesting. We've only one time ever had. Like a paparazzi experience. And that was at the I heart radio music awards. Yeah. And now anytime like signing up for, which, yeah, which we knew was going to happen, but it's interesting. This world is like new, like still very new to us because now anytime there's like an article about Abby or I, and they always use the same image cause they've, I guess they bought it from the photographers in Getty. Like people can buy it and then they'll just like re use it. It's in there. So I don't even know fully how it works, but I do know that there's like, I have one photo of me and I know Taylor. Taylor has one photo of him that keeps getting reused and we both hate the photos of ourselves and we're like, we got to like get a new photo in there, but yeah, that's basically how, how it works. Wait, why do you hate this photo? I just don't, I don't know why Taylor doesn't like his, but I just like not a great photo of me. So I'm just like, I'm like, I have better photos on the internet. So like get one that I post. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Take one from my feed. You can use that however you want. Okay. I'm so curious. How did you find out you were pregnant? I was not expecting it. We had a scare, which I've talked about. Last January, I had a scare that I was pregnant and it actually just was because I had. had switched birth controls and it ended up not being a pregnancy. But after that, I woke up the next morning after thinking I was pregnant and I was, wasn't pregnant and I was sad. Like it was the first thing I thought when I woke up was I'm sad I'm not pregnant. And I was like, oh, okay, now I know I'm ready. So yeah, like basically a year later, um, I, I have PCOS, so my periods are not regular. So, and I'd been off of birth control at that point for a while, but I, yeah, I just was not paying attention to things with irregular periods. I feel like you just don't ever, but I also was like, you know, if it happens, it happens. We've been together long enough. It's definitely time, but yeah, it was, it was a surprise for sure. We weren't, oh, it was a surprise. Yeah. We weren't actively, I wasn't tracking all the things, which is great. Honestly, like I'm so thankful now. Cause I don't think I would have been able to like make the decision to be like, I'm ready to start trying. Cause my cutoff was always like when I turned 30, that's when I'll like try. Okay. So I'm happy that I didn't have to make that decision. Cause I feel like I would have turned 30 and been like, you're 29, right? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So I feel like I would have been like, oh, one more year, one more year. So yeah. Is it hard to, it's probably nearly impossible to track to a PCOS. The aura ring helps because I actually was ovulating at the time of conception, which is how it works. But, um, no, it, it does work. Cause now it can track maybe like six months to a year. It's been able to like track it in the app. And I've had my ring for, I just found out two years. I'm obsessed with this fricking thing. Like, yeah, you do with natural cycles. I actually don't, I have done natural cycles before, but I haven't linked it mainly because I just wasn't, I think if I was trying, I would have probably done it, but it, it always just like tracks your body temperature. Right. Very cool. Yeah. So my, yeah, I just, use my aura ring. So it kind of, it does kind of help, but I feel like with PCOS, it's hard to like, no fully what's happening. It sounds like you got off birth control. So like, was this, was it right away? And you were like, oh my gosh, this just like happened. Or were you tracking for a while? And no, I had, I had been off of my birth control for, I've been off of it. I think I went off of it like last May. And that's actually how I ended up getting diagnosed with PCOS. Cause I had been on birth control for like 10 years. So I basically hear that so often. I basically, like got my period and then I went on birth control cause I danced in high school and I would have really bad back cramps. And so I was just like, I need to like, I can't be having this. Yeah. So, and then there's not really like at that time, they're not really thinking about, you know, all the things we know about birth control now. Um, but I had just been on it for so long. And so I was just, at one point I was like, okay, I think I'm just like, I need to get this like out of my body. Like what, what even is like my normal cycle? What is my, my normal, like hormonal levels without this in me? Um, so yeah, I went off of it like middle of last year and then I started having irregular periods and then got the string of pearls thing and got the PCOS diagnosis from that. Yeah. With not getting pregnant right away. Like I remember when, when we got up birth control, Abby was just like taking tests right away. Was any part of you doing that? And, and, you know, trying to figure out, Oh, am I pregnant? Is this going to happen? Yeah, no, not cause I, I know because I wasn't just, I wasn't in the mindset of tracking it. I know a couple of my girlfriends have done like one of them was doing, like she decided she wanted to get pregnant and then started doing the ovulation tests and then did it. And then she got pregnant like literally right after. Um, but no, I, I hadn't even like thought about it. I just like, yeah, I just was not even, it was just, was not even on my radar, which is like, you're just thrown into the first trimester. How was that? You've been open about like, it was like not necessarily like an easy first trimester. Yeah, no, I definitely was not prepared for it because I think you just hear like, Oh, you had morning sickness. Like, and that's what you think like first trimester is, but there's so many more symptom. Basically I've said everything you could possibly think of is a symptom, but yeah, I was basically like down bad for a month. I mean, I didn't throw up. Thankfully there was times where I just wish I could throw up because I was like, I know I'll feel better after this, but I, my body was like, no, we're not, we're not doing that today. But I just had, I had no energy. I like couldn't think I was so nauseous all the time. I had the worst acid reflex and the gas pain. And, um, like hormonally, I just felt off, um, because I had gained weight so much so fast. I just like, wasn't, I didn't feel like I was in my body. Like I felt like just like weird in my own skin. Um, and there was just so many things. And I think because we're supposed to keep that stage private, that was hard for me, but I ended up telling, um, a few of my girlfriends and then they told me that they were also pregnant. So it actually ended up working out so well that I was able to walk through my first trimester with other pregnant moms. Cause like, you know, my husband's great. And my, my girlfriends are great. And I have such good support around me, but it is different. Like just having a female that is pregnant to like talk to and like go through that in that moment, like you're experiencing the same things. So that was such a huge help for me because yeah, I just was like, I could not do like anything. I just like laid on the couch and it was so frustrating because I like doing things. So like even just, who had the best reaction to you telling them that you were pregnant? Did anybody just like freak out, like start crying or maybe my parents, I'm an only child. So my parents were very, very, very excited there. I mean, they're still like over the moon. They've been ready when Taylor and I got engaged. My dad like signed our little card and just wrote grandkids, heart dad. That's like all he wrote. So he's been, he's been it to him especially has been really itching, um, for a little grand baby. So your dad, yeah. That's so, I know. I love him. He's the best. I mean, my, both my parents are the best, but are they close? Yeah. Okay. That's great. Yeah. Getting to like share that moment with them was really cool. Like I just had never, I've never really like experienced anything like that before. It was, it was really, it was really special. I was literally just telling that when we landed today, I was like, I'm so excited to be a grandma. And he's like, I'm like, are you sick of me? Like, are you talking about this? But I was like, I always thought you'll pop. I'll be lolly. But then I get all panicked. Cause I'm like, I don't want to put this pressure on our kids that they have to have kids, but gosh, I'll just tell it to you all the time. I think there's a way to do it where it's like, I think my parents actually did a really good job at that. Cause I never felt pressured from them, but you knew they would be so happy. Yeah, no, I knew they were like, okay, like whatever you want, like we're ready. Like it was never, they were never like, okay, so like what's taking you so long? There was never any like pressure or any like forcefulness around it. They were just like, they love, they love, like I used to nanny. And so the little girl that I nannied, I would bring over to the house and hang with them. And so she like my, she loved my parents and my parents loved her. So it was like fun. Like, cause I watched her, I think I started watching her. She was eight months old until she was like four. Kind of like a little practice round. Yeah. I, I, I keep saying once, once I get through like the first six months, I feel like I'll be able to like, from there I'm fine. Like I've experienced it to a degree. Yeah. So I'm thankful for that. But yeah, the first couple months, I'm like, I have no clue what to expect. I hate Mondays. King's Hawaiian cinnamon swirl bite. Taylor Hanson. Sure. I'll try one. Hey, let's get back to work, please. But Taylor Hanson's making my day way better with these new soft and swirly King's Hawaiian cinnamon bites. Taylor Hanson. Nice. Try one. King's Hawaiian cinnamon bites. There's nothing like it. It's really so good. Thank you to Omaha Steaks for sponsoring today's episode. And guys, we're steak people now. We love eating a good steak. We actually don't just get their steaks. We also get their salmon, their chicken, their pork chops, so much meat. You guys, we have been loving grilling, literally anything under the sun. And you can really taste the quality in different meats. Oh yeah. 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See site for details. Controversial question, are you guys doing a gender reveal? You know, those are, everybody has their take on what they think about those these days. Yeah. Yeah, no, we, we've done some stuff in private. I think everyone's like to each their own about. it because whatever whatever people want to do like some people love having you know all the friends and family over and popping stuff and that we did do that that's that stress that stresses me out but like i love going to those things and like being a part of that so i mean it's whatever like anyone i think the internet is like way too harsh on people like with what they want to do for their gender reveals i think people just are too chronically online these days no truly really really far and then they're like well this is a little there have been some wild ones and i i get that and that's weird that people get mad about it though on the flip side you're like why would that actually make you mad yeah yeah we i've seen the ones where it's like there's like a giant box and the box opens and it's like pink balloons and like a pink like rolls royce or some like nice car in the giant box i've seen a couple of those videos i'm like if i were to do a gender reveal then that's what i would want that would be cool i will take a card of that thank you you are beautiful got a three-row vehicle i mean you have a mom car already right like yeah okay that's awesome i i've been slow to getting abby's mom car sorry man i've got two kids man we have a two we have a two we have two two-row vehicles i was just kidding yeah we just need a third row that's so did you do the early test if you don't want me to ask or did you just wait till right now we we ended up waiting we we were told about the early test when we were in the when we were at the appointment and she was like do you guys want to know and we were like wait no i don't i don't know if we want to know so then we didn't know and we were like no i don't know if we want to know so then we didn't do the test but then we went back and we're like okay we want to know she's like well we didn't do the test and i was like oh okay i get it like i didn't like because they like every time i go in like they draw my blood so i was like oh like i didn't like i didn't think through that they technically needed my okay to do the test yeah that's you know like i didn't think it through you're like well run it again yeah don't do it again yeah how do you feel about the needles and stuff i know some people their first time pregnancy okay you were a nurse so you're like i'm pretty comfortable yeah this type of thing i i've given myself a couple like ivs before oh you gave it yourself i have like in school now i don't think i could do that it's she's like you've done it yourself is what you said uh-huh oh gosh yeah how do you possibly do that it's actually really hard which i think when i like after i learned that was like angle too i feel like well you can do it like here yeah no here is like you can do like there's like there's veins here that you can do it on too which are easier like if i'll do like the vitamin pushes and stuff that i know how to like do on myself but yeah no i'm i'm okay with them i mean they're not they're not fun like they're not like enjoyable but i just i i i try not to look now honestly i just like trying to like get it over with and just do it remind me what's the type of nursing that you did were you around pregnant like pregnancy much no i only had a had been in the hospital because they got an infection or they were back i had a i had a covid mom once that had a two-week-old um and they both had covid but the baby was up um in and she was with us which i didn't like at all that was really hard um but yeah not really not really any moms but my best friend is a labor and delivery nurse that's a good tool yes she i ask her a lot of questions but when i did my clinical rotations and i did like the labor and delivery rotation i was like i can't do this like that's i basically saw a vaginal birth and it was like i literally came home and i was like babe i'm not having a child until i forget what that looks like and now i'm like it's like 80 gone now when was that how many years ago in 2019 wait you saw delivery and you're like i don't want any part of that yeah so was she unmedicated or what no i just literally seeing ahead seeing it seeing it from like the i don't want to see that yeah yeah no that was that was a lot that was a lot and i had never seen a birth before it's crazy and amazing but yeah i also i do get a little uh squeamish yeah no that was that was just like really a lot to like also this now that i'm saying this out loud this woman literally allowed like three students to just like stand and watch her give birth she probably wasn't thinking about that honestly but i would i don't want i wouldn't want a student in my room all kinds of people were in i don't even know i don't even know i don't even know i don't yeah there well there was one time though babe you were at a doctor's appointment in your hometown and then a kid you used to babysit walks in and i think you go uh no no no i used to babysit him i was like hey wait pause oh no i was like he could not his yeah how about you because his father was a doctor so he was actually even like pretty young to be like yeah observing like that because that was like that's that's a little too much it was crazy yeah that crosses the line but i'm also like someone that like especially then i was quite a bit younger like i was so afraid of speaking up but it's in my head i had like warring thoughts i was like speak up abby this is crazy and i was like no you don't make anyone uncomfortable and so then i was just like no i have to make myself uncomfortable because you know those gowns are like open in the front too i was just like no no no yeah i was like he's gotta go proud of you proud of you for that one so now so now i mean yeah you're you're pregnant now i mean no no going back like you know this is happening no return how do you mentally prepare yourself for you know birth potential c-section all of that like how does that how do you approach all that i mean i think i'm just kind of taking it day by day part of me is like ignorance is bliss and then the other part of me really wants to know everything i think just talking to like as many moms as possible is definitely helping me i think the biggest thing i feel overwhelmed with right now is like the registry stuff of it all because there's just so many products like yeah there's so many strollers there's so many beds there's so many car seats there's so many bottles there's just so many things so me and my girlfriends now are kind of like we're a little stressed um about that because like we want to make sure we get the right thing but the consensus that i've learned is that like don't over buy things because there's a lot of stuff that you don't use has your p changed at all oh i yeah it's just pregnancy talk all the way it's yeah it's like basically like it's ya book shows and pregnancy are you just embracing that at this point just all the pregnancy content yeah no it's it's so it's so fun i love it i feel like i'm getting the the vibe that the more knowledge you have about pregnancy and birth and all that the better you feel is that true i think i think so to some degree because like part i think i think i'm apprehensive knowing stuff because i learned so much about pregnancy and i'm like i'm like i'm like i'm like i'm like of the things that could go wrong in nursing school so when i say i don't want to know things that's the stuff that i'm like i think has also made me like apprehensive to like have kids because i know of the things that can go wrong so that's the stuff i don't like want to know to a degree which sounds kind of ignorant but i i stress a lot about things so i would rather like not be thinking about that and that's why my best friend is a labor and delivery nurse so just have her on about anything yeah because you've picked out your doula already right my best friend is my doula but yeah did you have a doula i think that's smart no we've never had one but i think abby's gonna get a doula yeah okay yeah i i think um what i've heard from my friends i have had a really great experience with doulas is that it takes a lot of pressure off the husband because they like then they can kind of speak on your behalf and like take pictures and stuff and your husband can kind of do the most especially like with the nature of our first delivery i feel like there was a time where i was like not talking and i just my poor matt like first time dad you were literally like 22 years old you're like i don't know what's going on and i'm not talking either like i'm not advocating for myself so um i think it'd be a good idea i think it sounds like a great idea and i also think like how you said like having other moms to be in community with and to like kind of like they share the same experience in a way like having someone that's so knowledgeable about birth and pregnancy in the room like i'm like i would like that i want someone that has i want someone that has a vagina as well in there yeah like not just you i feel like they're sensible or like yeah i don't want to know anything and i just want to go into it that was me i was like please don't tell me anything i'm just gonna go and they're gonna take my baby out uh there's other people like i need to know everything and it's just different ways of handling that unknown yeah because so much of pregnancy i'm sure you know like already you're just throwing zeep and you're like someone's gonna tell me i'm gonna tell you i'm gonna tell you i'm gonna tell you this is just like dealing with learn learn as you go learn as you go yes i can only imagine especially now being in the public eye the amount of questions that you get being pregnant you know when's the due date what's the gender what's the name like so many different questions how do you decide what to keep private and then what to share i think if it has to do like with me personally i'm more than happy to like share how i'm feeling and what i'm walking through but it's definitely just like a whole new territory and you know every time you know after this every time i open my mouth an article pops up and that's something that i'm really learning during this pregnancy is every time i even just say like you know i'm struggling with something like there's much articles that pop up so it's made me want to really protect what like protect my pregnancy and everything around it but when it comes to me personally i think it's like I love opening up a cherry about like what like mentally I'm going through and my physical body changes and like that kind of a thing um because i think that's also what women want to hear like i don't think other moms necessarily care about like the gender of the baby or what my due date is or what like whatever anything is i think they want to know what i'm walking through yeah in my pregnancy because that's what like that's what i want to watch like not that i don't care like not that i don't care about when your due date is or what you know i we didn't even know the gender of your baby till after we did you know ours but after we didn't the squeeze but um like it's just i want to know like what your experience was like with the c-section what was breastfeeding like and what was this like like that's more of like what i want to know so i think that's like more important how do you feel about articles being made do you like is that a good thing a bad thing um i mean i would i would love to not have it to a degree i mean there's there's fun to it but also you know people can take a sentence of anything you say and make it anything they want so has it happened before yeah for sure no i mean i feel really lucky that i um i have like such a great audience and i feel like our lemon drops the squeeze listeners and just like my audience on socials like it's just a bunch of support and love and it's truly the best thing and um it's just 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No, it was definitely, I think, my little like pessimist saying that when I was just feeling all the feels in my first trimester was I was just like, pregnancy is propaganda. Like what if this is fun? Like I'm, I know I'm going to get through the first trimester, but then it's going to be enjoyable. But like nothing right now is like enjoyable about this. It was really the first time that I really struggled with my body image and comparison to some degree, because like I said, like I, I've never looked at another pregnant woman and been like, Oh my gosh, like look at her arm. Like I've never been, I've never like questioned someone's like body while they're pregnant. I'm like, Oh my gosh, look at them. Look at their belly. They're pregnant. Like that. Those are like, I'm like, they're glowing. Like it's only positive that I ever have towards pregnant women. And then I got pregnant and then I didn't have any of those thoughts. Like, so it was, it was something that I even still, I think I'm probably going to have to work through. And I think a lot of women, you know, are learning to walk through as they're pregnant. And I think it probably will feel different my next pregnancy because I have been through it. So I like know what to expect, but I just like, did not know what to expect at all with it. Like, how, how my body was going to react, where, where I was going to get a stretch mark, where I was going to gain weight, like what it was going to look like. So yeah, it's definitely been like an interesting thing, but it was really cool because so many women literally, I I've never had so many messages in my life from after sharing that women messaging me about that. So many pregnant women were like, I've literally felt this exact same way right now. Like, thank you for sharing that. And I, I felt so validated to a degree because, like, it's not just me that was feeling that way. So many other women were. What's your go-to outfit right now? This. That sweatsuit, sweatset. Yeah. It's getting summer. So I'm like, oh boy, like, I don't know how that's gonna, um, or like a nap dress, like a Hill house, like a, just a Southern little, have you heard of that brand of dresses? They're kind of pricey, but my girlfriend got me onto them. They literally like the material lasts, like I've literally had this dress for like six years, six years. Um, they're the most, most comfortable thing. And I fit in the same size, like pre-pregnancy when I was like my smallest to like still now. And I, there's still like room for me to grow. So it's like very universal. So this, and like a sundress, it will change your life. What's funny is like the evolution of like how I've dressed during pregnancy, because I think the first I was like, I wanted to wear maternity clothes specifically. And the first time I was like, I wanted to wear maternity clothes. So I was like, I'm like, I don't know, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I feel like my bump has been exposed a lot, which is funny because my bump is not in, um, to top shape. I've had a double hernia repair. I got new stretch marks. I got mesh here. Things just aren't as round as they used to be. I like the bump though. Thank you. And I'm like, it's just the evolution. I truly do believe like it changes over time. And postpartum is a whole different experience too. Like with your body, something you said on the squeeze, we had a conversation prior to this on the squeeze and the intated. Our emotions, our thoughts are so complex. Like we're able to hold the negative and the positive at the exact same time. I feel like my relationship with my body and, uh, like, it's like, you can hold the positive of like, yeah, my body's doing something immaculate. Like the, the actual purpose of my body is, is, is blowing my mind right now. Do I like the visual aspect of this right now all the time? Am I like super happy with the changes that I'm seeing physically in it? Like maybe not. And sometimes that's uncomfortable for people to grapple with the both. And, and, um, you said that really well. So I also do think that like going through birth too, will totally change your person. Maybe, maybe not. Cause I feel like also in postpartum is when I was like struggling too with my body. Cause I was like, I gave my, I extended grace for myself when I was pregnant. I was like, you're growing a baby now, so it's going to look different. But then postpartum, I was like, why do I expect the same thing of my body now afterwards? That was profound. Like, the, the, the negative and the positive, we can hold both and we can hold them at the same time. Yeah. I think that's something we need to like talk about more. And I think other women that have walked through pregnancy, aren't the people that are leaving like the nasty comments and like saying like, you're ungrateful. Like how dare you say like, you don't like your body. You're ungrateful. I don't think that's the other pregnant women that have like, and moms that have walked through this before leaving those comments. I think it's probably men and women that haven't walked through it. And I think that you definitely just have a big per like perception, um, change with it and both can, both can coexist. That's what I'm learning. Like you can have both a negative and a positive emotion to everything. What's the biggest change you've noticed with moving into the second trimester now? Um, that I can like feel like a human again. Yeah. Yeah. No, definitely like feeling better and have my energy back, which is great because I was really struggling. So I was definitely like came out of a hole and was like, Oh, the sun is shining and I'm alive. And I feel like I was actually able to process my emotions more, which was great. And my therapist probably, um, would agree with that because I was like, I had texted him and be like, um, I need to see you. Cause these hormones are not, um, being friendly right now, but no, I'm definitely like feeling better, which is great. Obviously like, you know, symptoms go and fully like, I just got back from like a week in New York doing like press and work. So like, I would not have been able to do that in my first trimester at all, even a little bit. So It's nice being able to, like, do things again. Do you think you and Taylor are going to do a baby moon of some sort? That's honestly a great question. We have not figured that one out. You haven't planned it yet. Yeah, no. I know we might just do, like, a staycation, just, like, a little weekend thing. I don't know. I know. You should go to Cabo. That's where we've gone a lot. We've gone there, I think, three times now for baby moons. And it's awesome. I've actually heard, I actually do feel like a lot of people either go to Cabo on baby moon or they go to Cabo and then they get pregnant. Oh, yeah. That's a good place to get pregnant. That is a good place to get pregnant. You've had this major shift now, marrying a movie star. You're in the spotlight. You also have your podcast, which has brought a spotlight to you as well. Now you're having a kid. So how do you plan to navigate fame, all of that, with having a child? Have you guys had a conversation about that? Yeah, I think to some degree. I also think there's just a lot of, like, unspoken things that we, like, both agree on. I think we're both just going to keep, you know, doing our jobs and not have our kids a part of that. The Internet, I've just learned, is such a scary place to have kids. And, you know, I have friends that share their kids all the time, and I love seeing their kids on the Internet. But for me personally, like, I don't think that's, like, what I want to do. But I could change my mind and I could want to do that. But at this point in time, that's just, like, it's just, like, a level of privacy. I mean, how I feel like that and my baby's in my body and, like, no one could see my baby yet. So, like, it's just, it's definitely, like, a new level of unknown, for sure. Like, I do think about, like, if we go out, like, someone's going to take, like, a photo of our baby. Like, there's just, like, so many little thoughts like that. I'm like, that you have to, like, think about to protect them. That's a bummer to have to let it go. Yeah. I think, okay, correct me if I'm wrong, has the media gotten better, though, about celebrities' kids? Because. They're not going to just, like, on People Magazine, show a kid's face of a celebrity with that. Like, that's not really a thing anymore, right? I, yes, there has been. Oh, there has been. There has been a shift in, like, protecting kids' privacy. And I definitely think, I know, I was actually thinking, I'm like, do you have to, like, alert people? Like, don't post my kid's face. Like, how do you, like, I don't think you do. That's probably just me being dumb. But, like. Just, like, have your kid hold an emoji, like, thing over their face when you're walking around in public. No, I don't think you're allowed to share kids. So, I was making a scene. Just do the joke. No, but I'm saying, I don't think you're allowed to share kids. Yeah. Or maybe it's more of, like, a culture shift. Because I don't know if there's actually a law around that. No, I don't think, I don't know if there's a law, but I think it's definitely, like, a. Like an unspoken rule. I don't know. Because the tabloids could literally, like, it's news. Like, they could do whatever they want. I know they definitely used to. But I think people are just being kinder about it to a degree. At what age do you think you're going to show your kid Sharkboy and Lavagirl? I mean, that's a good question. She's like. I'm pretty cool with that. Yeah, I mean, probably sooner than later. That thing, it's so crazy how that movie has literally just, like, not lost, like, its charm at all with kids. Like, even I have friends that have little kids, and then we'll put it on for them. Like, it's just. It's so, it's just, it stands the test of time. It's so crazy. Now I feel convicted. We haven't shown our three-year-old and two-year-old Sharkboy and Lavagirl. I showed them Jimmy Neutron a couple weeks ago. They are obsessed with Jimmy Neutron. And I bet you if we showed them Sharkboy. They tell me they're like, got a blast. Oh, my gosh. They watched Jimmy Neutron yesterday. They watched it yesterday. That's so sweet. And honestly, like you said, stood the test of time. Because I remember that movie was playing while I was making dinner. And I was like, why do I remember quotes from this? Like, with that guy's friends going, I'm peeing in the shower. I was like, why do I remember this? Also, this is such a dumb show. Okay. Okay, I want to say this, though. Have you seen. Here's my idea for you guys. I think you need a show. Like, your kid, as they grow up, the movie, but not say anything. Like, just don't say anything at all. And let them figure out, like, wait, is that dad? I have a question that, like, it's really fun for my friend's kids, like, that have watched the movies. Like, she has, he's probably six or seven now. But he was probably four at the time when she had showed him Sharkboy and Lavagirl. And, like, Taylor would come and she'd be like, this is Sharkboy. And he'd be like, that's not Sharkboy. Sharkboy's a kid. Sharkman. Yeah. So, it's such, it's like a funny, like, thing to think about. How kids, like, comprehend that is, like, really cute. Yeah, they're very literal, I feel like. Yeah. 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You can return it for free if you don't like it with their sleep trial. www.sleepsleep.me slash unplanned and never wake up hot and tired again speaking about um postpartum we talked about like preparing for like baby coming like potential fears about labor and delivery but then when the baby's here obviously you can't plan for everything but like what what do you expect as far as like breastfeeding sleep like what are your what are your plans i'm expecting not to know anything and not to like just like feel the drowning feeling like i'm expecting that so hopefully it's like a little better i'm really going into it open-minded um about the breastfeeding like i have i have friends i have a girlfriend whose baby was allergic to her breast milk yeah that happens so like and i had never heard of that before so i'm i'm gonna have formula i'm gonna i'm just gonna try like everything like i just i don't like really really care at this point like i'm just like whatever however the baby gets fed i'm like yeah great are you having any like weird pregnancy cravings at all oh i know that's such a good question i i mean well i did just buy some girl scout cookies so maybe like girl scout cookies but that's always a craving um i know i don't know i had during my first trimester watermelon was like my huge thing because it was like light and refreshing i ate so much watermelon um that was like my first trimester um that was like my favorite thing and that definitely could like get me through the day anything that's like i but i think this is like a universal like anything that is like tangy or like have you had the jersey mike's pregnancy sub it's like you heat up the meat no it's like banana peppers and like it's just like the vinegary tasting i haven't had it it's basically just it's just without deli meat you should you should know me at all um it has bacon okay but it's bacon so you can have that's why i like jersey mike's with pregnancy for abby because yeah they have all these like cooked sandwiches you have hot sandwiches i guess i think subway probably has that too yeah i think jersey mike's is better than subway jersey mike's has like a it's like a hot pepper relish i think it's called that goes on this pregnancy sub just look just look it up on the internet i don't i found it somewhere from someone posting any spicy i agree that does kind of yeah or like just a little like like a little drink like a i love like a midday little just like spin drift or like a matcha or something yeah i love that a little mocktail yeah something i was thinking about too is you know given given taylor's background and being a child actor there's probably that potential one day that your kid could say hey i want to do a movie i want to audition for something yeah am i thinking like way too far out there have you guys even like thought about anything like that with no i mean we definitely talked about it i mean yeah it's something that i think is probably inevitable because i danced my entire life and did theater as a little kid so i think we're definitely bound to have a child at some point that wants to do something in the yeah um no i think that's something that if they want to explore it will obviously allow them to but it's not something we're gonna push for at all yeah it's whatever like with any any sport we're gonna put them in all of the things and have them do all the things but definitely not pushing for it and do you like living in california do you think you'd ever move back to the midwest because you guys are both from midwest i'm from here taylor's from michigan that's right yeah yeah i'm from i'm from socal taylor's um taylor's michigan so you guys are never moving then your your whole i know there was a part there was a time where we were like maybe we would move but i at this i feel like i just have such a great community around me right now that if i didn't then maybe we would but um my best friend is also moving back from austin to back here so i'm very um excited about that because we've been long distance um but yeah i know i don't know i mean never say never i would i would if my friends wanted to move somewhere i'd probably move with them but no we're pretty i'm pretty happy here something i was surprised that you said earlier like talking about a future pregnancy you are an only child and i know that you've talked about openly like you're like i don't like love being pregnant i was surprised to hear that you're like already open to like future pregnancies it hasn't been enough to say i'll never do this again apparently yeah i don't know i definitely want more than one because i was one and i wanted to be one of the ones that i wanted to be one of the ones that i wanted to be one of the ones that a friend yeah um i think also just because i didn't have cousins or anything like my around my age like no one was really close to me in age at all so i was just with the grown-ups the whole time so yeah i mean i definitely would want another one i also feel like i'm gonna see my baby and be like it's like just obsessed that it's literally like part of my husband in a child form and be like okay i'll take another so i could see both of us being like okay but yeah no i'm definitely definitely open to it that's something that i do want but then you know the other day i told taylor i was like what if i only want to have one he was like okay like whatever you want yeah i'm like thank you for the support you just need to hear that right now that's sweet that's really sweet have you been using pregnancy to uh get taken care of oh that's what i do oh yeah i like turn the lights on but can't get up yeah no taylor's definitely been the most helpful um he's so funny i'll ask him for like a couple things he's like do you need anything before i sit down and i'm like no i'm okay now but no he's been he's been so helpful with like everything it's been great he definitely did like everything for me in the first and now it's like 50 50 sometimes like when it's he knows when it's nighttime i'm like okay i'm done moving like i'm on the couch we're watching a show like i need ice in my water i need like a snack like yep yeah that amount of ice is really important yep yep oh i remember like i was like this was when we first come here like this is so fun now i can just like have you do anything and and you do you're great about it i feel like we're just you get we married well we got guys i want to take care of us do you think when it comes to like everything about labor delivery and postpartum can be a little graphic yeah how do you think he's gonna handle that that is a great question my friend's husband passed out in the delivery room oh god wait i forgot about that he was snoring when the baby came out so oh my gosh and matt watched the entire thing and wanted to like there's a such a range you're like what are you anticipating um i think he'll be fine i think he'll like norm i think normally medical stuff makes him like a little like yeah but i think that's i don't think to the point where he would pass out but i also think when the husband is in the role of like i'm like i'm supporting like my wife needs me yeah like they're like it's like a different role than just like if you know taylor were to be going in and like getting surgery or like getting an iv like blood drawn or something like it's a different type of scenario like they're like his purpose for him being there he needs like i need his support he needs to like be there so i think i think he'll be fine you're like you never know i mean i guess we'll find out i was always like you don't have to but you're like i don't want to like yeah have you guys ever been to the hospital together for some reason ever like any any injuries any surgeries once we have um but it ended up being fine i was having like a weird heart thing no i mean we've been to like doctor's appointment like a lot of doctors together but nothing like crazy serious he actually was with me obviously not in the room but he came with me i had to get a colonoscopy very early on in our relationship and he was like with me through that and like the recovery is quick especially when you have like actual anesthesia like it's just a procedure but we've gone through like a couple things like that so nothing too graphic but um he didn't pass out there's no he did not no it's a sweet it does bond you like being in like being so vulnerable like together too it's a really cool thing to walk you took care of me when i got my wisdom teeth out in college that's true you've had a couple things that have gotten you down for the couch calm and cold no i'm just kidding oh yeah question when taylor's sick does it bother you because i feel like that's a common thing like if i'm sick i feel like abby's just automatically pissed off yeah the men the men are just i feel like that is a comment i just have to text my friends like matt's sick everyone's like it's not it's honestly that's that's one of the best things about marriage is like or having married friends is that the married my girlfriends know like when the husbands get sick like they're just like hello it's not even fake that's real it just hits them harder we have friends that were like obsessed with their dogs before having kids they were just dog parents good yeah and then they had a baby and the dogs just started taking their dog yeah they yeah they didn't really like their dogs much how do you feel about there's no way in the world that's happening i'm going on record our dogs really like our kids especially like our puppy like she i mean she's not a puppy she's five now but our younger dog she's a belgian malinois so she's like a very smart dog she's like part human like we bring her everywhere she travels with us like she's like she understands english like she my other dog is like a house cat like she just kind of like does her own thing um and she just like the sleep and vibing and just you know plays a little then sleeps so she's just like our house cat so and i love her but nothing will there's no like missing interaction there but our our younger one for sure is like she's like part human and wants to be like involved in it and everything that's what i'm excited about do you think she'll be good around the baby yeah and i think they both i think they're both gonna have to like obviously learn because they haven't really like been around kids but i'm i'm excited to like watch that whole journey because i think they're gonna be great how do you feel about like this i feel weird asking this question but like like breastfeeding i've taken all of the advice of friends that have done have breastfed and done formula and i have friends that you know one pregnancy did formula one breast fed and then they switched or like whatever it is i just i think i'm just really going into it open minded because i don't want to have a plan and then that plan not work and then get frustrated with it like i'm just really trying to like i'm gonna see like a lactation consultant and still like try like so it's just you know maybe it's not for me or maybe the baby doesn't latch like it's just there's just so many things that you know could or could not happen so i'm really just trying to go into it like open-minded has there ever been a point in your life where you had a plan and it didn't go according to plan because it sounds like you're not wanting to plan because of that in a way yeah i think i just am like a planner and i think that i know i don't know if there's anything like specifically that stands out but i definitely like a plan and like to stick to the plan so i think i'm maybe trying with this to be as no plan as possible when it comes to the breastfeeding formula thing i want to be prepared either way i honestly think that's what it is is i want to be i want to know how both work and be prepared either way and when the time comes i'll know how to do both then that's funny we'll see i don't know reminding me of the type of instagram or the type of feed i'm getting right now i'm on type b mom tick tock yeah but on instagram do you think that you're going to be more of a type a mom it sounds like you might be more of a type a mom or i'm definitely will be type a mom i think i mean i i could change who knows but i yeah i mean that's just my my personality is that so yeah yeah that's how my sister-in-law is i we have a type a mom and two type b moms oh yeah i do think that i'm like that i don't know what type that was that was just that was that was some type of another type that just came out there but you know what everyone's kids well adjusted and loved and turned out great yep so it's just so funny they're fed they're happy great yep i hate mondays king's wine cinnamon swirl bite taylor hansen sure i'll try one um hey let's get back to work please but taylor hansen's making my day way better with 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What are some assumptions people have made about you at this point in your life? I think probably that I live a life of a life of a more like celebrity lifestyle than I do. I live like literally such a normal life. Like I just live my life now is honestly very similar to before Taylor and I were together. Like nothing has really changed besides like, you know, work stuff and how that is handled or like approached how the life of that, but day to day, everything is like, so like I just, I do my dishes. I do my laundry very normal. Like I don't have a bunch of staff running around everywhere, doing things. So that's what people assume is that you've got, you've got all these people that are doing everything for you. And yeah, a couple of years ago, I posted something that I don't know what I posted something that, oh, I was putting laundry. I think I was putting stuff in the wash. And then there was a bug in the hamper and Taylor, like, I don't, I forget what it was. It was something like that. And people were like, you do your own laundry. I was like, what? Like it was, it was the funniest thing to me. But yeah, no, just it's very like, I'm, we're going to finish and I'm going to go. Yeah. You know, eat the other half of my Jersey Mike sandwich and go let my dogs out and just like probably put the dishes away. Like it's just very like normal. Yeah. What, what is your day to day? Like, are you a homebody for the most part? Yes, because I work from home. Um, but I do, I'd like, you know, I, I love a target run. I love like getting out of the house and like doing little things like that, especially now being pregnant. I haven't gotten out of the house as much. Um, because I don't, that's just, it's like a little bit too much work for me to like get out. And again, I just got back from New York. I was literally gone. So it comes in waves, but yeah, I mean, I'm definitely a homebody, especially because, you know, my husband's at home and he's not working. So especially now that we're just really like savoring time, just the two of us. Speaking of work, I saw you did a brand deal with Chipotle, which was hilarious. Yes. I, I'm so curious. Was this your idea? Was this someone at Chipotle's idea that they pitched to you? We love Chipotle. Um, no, we just had like this really funny parasocial relationship with the Chipotle account for like a really long time. Right. Um, and they love Taylor and, um, yeah, he just did this really cool. Their Chipotle honey chicken is like, it's back. It's good. I've had it before. It actually is really good. Like I really enjoy it. Are you more of like a tacos person, like burrito person? I get, I will. Okay. I get, I'm a bowl person from Chipotle, but that's, well, technically I order the salad if I'm ordering it like through Postmates because that's how you can get the vinaigrette. But if I'm in store, I'll get a bowl because the vinegar. Vinaigrette is the cherry on top for me. And then whose idea was it to have this giant guacamole bowl with Taylor like in the, in the tub? That was, that was Chipotle. Um, Taylor responded to something of theirs about the guac and was like, I could bathe in this stuff. And they, then they then came over and brought a giant bathtub of guac, um, with a little like figure, it's technically an action figure. I called it a figure, figurine, but like Taylor from the Twilight franchise in the thing. Um, and I truly just ate guac for about five days and then it went bad so that I had to throw it out and it was devastating. Devastating. Yeah. Abby's brother used to work at Chipotle and I would like request that he would make the guac because he just knew how, and he knew all the recipes like in his head. Yeah. It was awesome. Like at our house, he'd be like, Blake, do the Chipotle. Make us a burrito. That's so good. I love it. So annoyed. I was like, it would actually take some fun time. Yep. And being in New York, can we talk about what brought you out there and what? Yeah. Okay. Yeah, no, I got to do, um. I got to do, um, just a lot of fun press. I mean, May's Mental Health Awareness Month has probably come out after May's over. Um, but that's kind of just my Superbowl. So I got to do a lot of fun, a lot of fun press and interviews and I got to partner with Little Words Project, which is a little bracelet company. We have a bracelet that's out, um, that says you got this for Mental Health Awareness Month and it's actually out for a while. Um, but $5 from every brace, from every bracelet go towards the Lemons Foundation, which is my nonprofit. So we teamed up on a bracelet for that. And then I do a lot of work. I do a lot of work with Maybelline too, um, they have a brave together program, which does a lot of really awesome stuff, um, in the mental health space. And we partnered together on a summit last year and I got to host a brunch with them in New York and we're doing some other stuff here in LA too, which is really fun. So yeah, it was great. And I love New York. So literally any excuse to get me there, I'm like, get me there. I love it. And your nonprofit, tell me more about like the mission, the vision of it. Um, cause it's been around now for a couple of years, right? Yeah. I think I'm like trying to do, I started it in like the middle of 2022, um, but it's a mental health based nonprofit. It's really just focused on making mental health accessible and approachable and digestible. I think mental health can definitely be like a big, scary thing, especially after going through COVID. So many of us were struggling, whether, you know, I worked as a nurse at anyone, even if you were just, you know, at home unemployed, like not working, you were struggling with your mental health. So. So I'm really big on just making resources, resources accessible. And like, I think there's a lot of beauty in the little things like little breathing techniques or how to like practice gratitude, like little things to just incorporate in your day. So that's, um, what we focus on and connecting people with the resources that they need, whether that's for, um, you know, sexual assault survivors, uh, people with drug addiction, moms, like we, on our website, we have like all, like there's basically just a bunch of categories. Um, and we have resources. We have resources for kind of for everything. So just kind of the middleman to help connect the dots and make life a little easier. Obviously, you know, your nonprofit is, is clearly doing cool things to help spread the word, raise awareness about mental health and, you know, depression, all those things. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you, you lost a friend to suicide, um, couple of years, not a couple of years ago, but you know, five, 10 years ago, we've, we've also lost a friend to suicide back in college. And I'm curious just from like an advocacy standpoint. What. Like, is there a certain charity or organization, you know, in addition to your nonprofit that you're like, Ooh, I like, this is, this is like, I really like what they do. I don't know if there's. Yeah. Oh, I know. There's so many. And there's, that's, it's really cool because there is so many fun, like organizations that like smaller ones that have popped up over the past few years that are really just like talking about things. I mean, the biggest one is NAMI. Um, they're the. National Alliance of Mental Illness. Um, they're all over the U S uh, I have friends that have literally personally walked into like a NAMI center and been connected with like help to find either a peer to peer support group or professional help. So they do, um, a lot of awesome stuff. Um, there's, there's honestly like so many, there's project healthy minds. There's a lot, honestly go to lemons by Tate. That's our, um, Instagram. We basically just follow and. Collab with all of those accounts. Yeah. That's so cool. Yeah. And so many of them now have like social media too, which is great. And that's how we get our information these days. So. Yeah. Well, cause I think like, it's cool that there's a, a suicide hotline that you can call. Yeah. Yeah. It's, it's cool to know that there's resources out there. Yeah. That's, that's sweet. For sure. What's like the, the vision for 2026 for, with the foundation. Yeah. With, with your podcast. Cause is the podcast directly tied to the foundation? No. No, they're, they're, um, they are their own things. I mean, just more mental health stuff. I mean, mental health as a mom is going to be something that I'm going to walk through for the first time and share. So yeah, that's kind of, I'm, I'm leaving 2026 open. See what I, how I'm feeling. Well, I mean, I'm probably going to have my baby and then be excited to go back to work to some degree, but I'm not putting any pressure on work, but just more, more mental health stuff. I have so many ideas of events I want to do in community. Um, and I love my job too. Like both of these, both the podcast and my foundation are my jobs, so it's literally the best thing. I love it. Okay. We got a little bit of a game we want to play with you. Perfect. It's called this or that. Yes. These are just fun. Rapid fire. Okay. Easy pregnancy ones. Okay. Have your cravings been more sweet or salty? Uh, depends on the day today. Today was a girl scout cookie day. So sweet, sweet for sure. This is telling us things. We need to note. No, I'm just kidding. Huge meals or constant snacks, snacks, but honestly, that hasn't, that's been like my life. I have always been a snacky girl, but now it's just more snacks and larger portions of snacks, bigger snacks more often. Yep. What type of snacks are we going for? Literally anything, everything. Do you feel super hungry? Yes. My first, my first trimester, I literally, the hunger was hunger. I've never experienced before and this has gotten better. Like I, it was probably. probably like for the first like three, honestly almost maybe even four months i was literally waking every time i'd wake up in the morning i would need to eat a bar like right away like i would need to eat something i get crackers by the bed now now it's better now if i have like a proper dinner then i can wake up and like be okay but i can make the breakfast yeah we can we can make it downstairs and make the food that's awesome this one i feel like we already kind of touched on this but pinterest mom or survival mom i would i'm in a manifest of pinterest for me i think that that feels right okay great matching family pajamas are absolutely not of on christmas just christmas yeah yeah i haven't don't call me on that i haven't thought that far maybe at christmas i know i keep seeing little memes of like people holding a cat and like pretending it's like they're like it's a match match the baby with the dogs oh yeah we're on it oh i taylor and i have matched with our dogs before so yes you're for sure gonna do the pajamas yeah you're for sure gonna do the pajamas yeah you're for sure gonna do the pajamas yeah well yeah that's that's our christmas tradition so that one will say but i don't know about everyday life yeah i feel like maybe that's a little bit much homemade baby food or costco pouches oh i'm a both i think i'm gonna enjoy both but i also think there's beauty and just a little grab and go little squeezy guy scheduled day nights or spontaneous moments um i'm assuming this is like proposed baby like what do you yeah um i love a schedule so i i've already told taylor like i'm about to start like literally just pick up and go penciling in a time that's because if you leave it up then it doesn't happen it really was it's what i've been learning from people that when i ask people for their mom advice and just like wife advice they're like just like schedule the time the time i'm truly honest it's been maybe maybe a month for us we should go on a date right now after this podcast let's go on a date before you can go to air one we should go to air one let's go to air one for a date get the fancy smoothie or we could go to the place yeah we get the hayley beeper smoothie or we could go to the on the way here my stomach can't do mexican that guy bless him this sounds great but not for where we're at right now um team sleep training or we'll just figure it out i think sleep training i'm all my friends have done it and they say great thanks they're probably sleeping they they are sleeping that's why they love it um more scared for labor or the sleep deprivation with labor i've uh yeah i've not that i have i've not even gonna compare my experience of lack of sleep to what i'm about to go through but i think working night shifts and really compare that that's hardcore you can yeah that's hardcore i've i have dealt with lack of sleep but like it's not a new thing for me yeah so sleep deprivation is literally a form of torture so i i you know i you have every right to complain about that sounds yeah honestly the sleep i will be straight up with you the sleep deprivation is the worst part about the newborn stage yeah but it's it's temporary but you also never went through labor so i also and that's true put a cork in that i i'm gonna i'm gonna stop it right there i'm just kidding i should say like matt let's just put this out there matt literally did all of the nights with both of our babies i did not see him or the baby except for when he came into feed and change the diaper like you so like matt has more trauma from that because i didn't see it so i have to give you a shout out because that's also very unusual most dads do not do that like you crush that thank you ready to do it again anything anything for you mom chat mom group chats are absolutely never mom group chat absolutely i've been in one for a very long time this final one we can already end so formula restfeeding you're saying whatever the baby wants whenever the baby wants the baby will get perfect we'll have we'll have all of the things ready i'll be ready to formula ready yeah that was one of the things that really shocked me postpartum with our first was a breast pump i was like yeah you mean to tell me i'm gonna stick this thing on there it's gonna suck it up and then milk is gonna come out like i remember just be like that's gnarly yeah no i yeah i i don't even like know where to begin with that so it's crazy it's gonna be a great experience that'll be a great i can't wait i can't wait to learn it'll be great tay this has been amazing thank you again for coming back on the show and everyone go check out the squeeze tay's mental health podcast as well as you can find like find her on all the instagram all that good stuff and um be sure to like this episode if you liked it like comment subscribe all the fun things you're so excited for you yes so so excited hoping it's a very seamless peaceful experience for you 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