Subtle Sexism

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There's no other "dahil march." There's no factor. That's the only thing we have. So, we have to undergo these struggles. So, these are the things that are very normal. We don't even notice how off or even how harmful these are when we're able to do it and we're able to do it. So, for that, Nika and I will flesh out some subtle sexism that we constantly experience as women. But, before that, of course, before we start talking about "hasel". No, when you're talking about "paba ihan". Let's acknowledge, what are the favorite perks of being a woman? What are the upside-in fairness? Instead, highlight the way we're talking. Let's answer this question. If you're a female listener, what's your favorite thing about being a woman? Can I do male listeners or other genders? Yes, I agree. What's your favorite thing about women? She gets very upset. She gets very upset. Just this women's mud. What I like about being a woman is that women are always so supportive. Like, when you're on social media, when you post any picture that you're always girls' lay. Or when you're a girl, you're a student. Yeah, you're a girl. You're like, "You're always like that. It's always like that. You're a girl. You're like an attitude. Even in person. You're like girls. Yes. For example, in a bathroom, there's a friend who's big. There's a friend who's big. Or, "This is what I'm talking about." "I'm a big girl. I'm a peer-youth." "I'm not a girl. I'm just a girl." "I'm just a girl." "I'm just a girl." "I'm just a girl." "We're married." "We're married." "Of course, girl." "I got you." "I got you." "I got you." "I'm just a girl." "I'm just a girl." "Hang kata-kabang damit napweding maharam, that culture of helping sharing, para ang always I got your back girl. I love that about women. Always supportive. True. I kao, ang ang favorite perk ng of being a woman. Sobrang profound, sobrang kailalema. "Mabang o tayo?" "Okay!" "As a bye." "Ayo, ito sa mga observation school. Mabang o naman yung mga nadi ko ng lalake. Pero may papabang o kasisila." "Okay?" "Women, mabang o tayo lagatayo. Laki." "Kahit wala. Even if we are not wearing any fragrance and you center, naturally more all factor really, maygan nabang term. I don't know. Most pleasant tayo." "Ayo, ang ghar." "Ayo, ang sobialogikali. I think I love it about us." "Ayo, yung top of mine ko. Pero kanina na isip ko. Delayita din dung sa sinabi mo, I love women friendship." "Ayo, most of my lifelong, deepest connections with friends, women. Outliers lang sinadolf and the few others." "Ayo, ang hasina. L.A." "Tonan, L.A." "Tonan, L.A." "Tonan, L.A." "Tonan, L.A." "Tonan, L.A." "Tonan, L.A." "Kontila." "I mean, marameko ng friends. Pero yung nga yung alang kong aygot yung mga babay talaga." "Ayo, remember, na kualito ni, dolef sa isa natin inuman na ibarin talaga yung female friendship. Kasi yung merendin ang "Milt." "Talaga, sorry, dolef, kina kualito mo ko." "Sorry, do, etan nabanggit na naman ako." "Konin, topa yung kualito." "Kasama merendin ang group of friends sa puro lalaka. Pero doon hindi bawa in crisis yung isa sa kanila. Hindi pag-uusapan." "Aa, okey." "So, perang meja emotion averse, or they don't know how to tackle emotions. Parang yung pinakabanding nila is, they'll just do something together." "Hack together." "Intitanda to sinabi ni dalfa. Observation ko lang." "Hack together. Basketball together. Inuman together. Video games together. But us women. Kaya nating. Itaisek natin yung problema mo. "Yay." "Wu nasa yung pisa. Ang gangsa dolo. At mag-forshado.". towing putihap. Fortune telly. (laughter) So we can sit and pour our hearts out. Mmm. Nang comportabita yo at campantay. Nawa lang maging judgment. Okay, get. That's a result of the patriarchy. Meaning. Ang mga lalaka, condition, ng emotion mo itagumu lang yung mga idea ka. Lalaaka ka, eh. I mean, I don't think men are. naturally close off about their emotions. Oh, and the man. Yes. Kira tiyon yun, nawaka iya. Pag dapaka ka iya. Nade privacy lah. Oh. Dunsa perk na yun. Yes. Yun. Tayo may perk na ganon. I love female friendships. But it also is a double edged sword. 'Cause it really able to tie us emotional. Ah. Historical. Historical. Along ba ang lutward ng hysterical. Histeria. Histeria. Histeria. Your uteroas. Yes. Kasi mga mga mga ba ilang. Nag-i-histeria ka. Ah. Nama. Eh, niwi. Eh, niwi. Warnapalang to. Init na. Let's get it. Okay, let's get to business. Mga pataro yung maginit. Sige. We're gonna talk about subtle sexism. So, merong descriptiona subtle. Pero bago yon. Ano ba muna yung sexism. Ano ngabasig. According to medical news today and many other sources, pero ito nalang pinidigoy sa medical news today. It's a simple. Sexism is a prejudice or discrimination based on a person's sex or gender. So, hindi lang siyapang ba ba ea. Uh-uh. But since it's women's month, let's talk about our personal experiences as women. Okay. Ah. Gana to. Yes. And though, yung prejudice and discrimination do na yon, it can lead to many harmful behaviors from acts of violence towards other sexes and genders. Two subtle comments that reinforce stereotypes. Yes. So, merong range. Shh. Me range. Ito ang range na babang gating ko. This is still according to medical news today. So, merong hostile. Mm-hmm. Merong benevolent. Okay. Merong ambivalent. Okay. Okay. Pag sinabiing hostile from the word hostile itself. Mm-hmm. It's unfriendly, mas obvious sa, na kainta of sexism. Okay. Ito ang examples na to, go magamit na ng sexist language or insults. Ineansulto mga babae. Mm-hmm. They make threats or aggressive comments based on a person's gender or didn't deprive nang human rights. Yes. Mga ganya. Welcome. Aral, kasi babae ka. Yes, that's very hostile. Harasmen, treating other genders as subordinates. Ito yung mga pna-ninigwala na kapag gana sexually assault ka. You asked for it. Mga ganya. Sorry. Sorry, ito ka mina kapag-tragor warning. Sorry, po. Okay. Ayan. Engaging in physical or sexual assault. Yaw nyo mga hostile behavior. Okay. Pero ang pag-uusa panatan is subtle sexism. So, duntayo sa benevolent and ambivalent. Okay. Pag-sina bing benevolent. That word means well-meaning or kindly. Yung word na yon ha. Okay. So good intentions. Good intentions. So yung mga examples ang benevolent sexism. Ayung finifrem yung mga babaes. Innocent, pure, mga babae, franchise. Ganya. So, meansan yung mga. Halimbawa. Bina ba sayay yung value na pag-ababaes sa pag-ing. Mother, wife, girlfriend. Mga nong kasi caring. Mga nong. Or halimbawa. Naisipo example is halimbawa. Upug mo na pagbohatin yon kasi bubayaan. Yung. Parang. Menyo na kakaan nonsan. Ayung sing and weak. Parang gadaan na joy. Benevolent sa well-meaning. But it reinforces a stereotype. Nang bubaya, mahin na ang bubayaan kaya. Okay. But we recognize na good intentions yon. Yes. Pero hindi maganda ang effect. Yes. Kasi ng mayan stereotypes ang arabubo. Get. So that's benevolent sexism. M-m-m-mehrending ambivalent sexism. Paksinabi mo ang ambivalent contradictori. Pili-milay, neutral. Pero ang meaning di to ng ambivalent sexism, ay combination ka ng both. So means and host, tie liungtingin mo yung undermind, a'ther sexes, raming sa ambivalent, ta' param, well meaning na man. Pero may arang para'n syang harmful effect. So ambivalent, ang big voice, may join in mo alam, where this sexism is. Yon. Pero I can imagine a most subtle sexism na anexperience natin eto, no? Ambivalent, yes. Or benevolent. Ya, niyan dalawang yon. So duntayo sa range na yon. Kasi, it's harder to spot eh. So I think there's more value in discussing things that go under our radar. Rear. Yes. Ya. Ataylingas atal sexism, ang pag-uusapan natin. Ito ang mga babagaten natin, ranging from benevolent to ambivalent. Okay. And most of us, if not all of us, are guilty of this. Even tayo. Across. Across sexes, across genders, kahit kami mis monikarala. And if mga-carelate ka, or if kayo, fellow adults, if ginawan yon nato, or na isip yon nato, it doesn't necessarily mean that sexist tayo, or sexist ka, pweding nga sa nayan lang kasi natin. True. It's what we were taught to believe. What we were conditioned to practice or believe yon ga. Because yung yung nakita natin habang lumalakit tayo yung e, na model sa atin. Yon na model. Or pwedering nga gawa, or na isip natin to, because of lack of information. Yes. Ignorance. Ignorance. So hopefully, once you become aware, once we become that these things are sexist, atom mga thoughts or actions nato, we can check ourselves and correct our own behaviors. Because kasi, kay tin dita tan intention, maging sexist, kay tin dita tan sinasajan, naman tapakan, ang mga babay, kapaw babay, it's not our intention that we harm other people. Pada parit sa mga nyare, it's our lack of consideration that can hurt others. So hopefully, knowing these things will make us more considerate fellow adults. Sana. Sana. Okay. By the way, hindi lang kami ni nika ang nagbeginang entries? Yes. We also asked you fellow adults through Instagram, kung ano yung mga subtle sexism that you have experienced as women. And so we will read out some of your answers throughout the episode. Si bolan natin ni siyos. Siki. Ayon, eto sa habini. Abiramilo. Sharao, as a girl driver, lagging nagwawari, kung wala ako kasabai sa kar. Like, kaya ko naman, what the fuck? Pero, it's the worry. Nga, kaya ala sa na mag-isalang sa. Hmm. Kasi. Well, it's more dangerous. Still more dangerous for women to be out in the streets, honestly. Hmm. Okay. Pa lang. Hindi ko. Ma-imadry na yung kapatit gunagalala. Mga kapatit gunalaka. Naga-alala na mag-isalang sila sa kailasada. Yeah. Okay. Siya, ay, think ang pagkaintin di ko. Okay. Ang na-experience ni Abby na sexism, ay, when people worry about her, mag-isalang sa mag-the-drive. Ah, okay. Balik, mali-intendigo. Okay. Pero it's interesting, ha. Okay. Kasi, if people worry, ako kasi, ay, ma-female driver, if people worry about me, kasi somehow, they're not confident sa competence ko, as a driver. Kasi, ba ba ay ako? Okay. I think that sexist. Okay. If they worry for me, kasi alam nila, na, the road's the same man. It's more dangerous for women than for men. I get that. Okay. So, yung situa siwan ang sexist. Okay. At na-acknowledgyo na mga tao, ko kira about me. Okay. Pero kung mag-waray lang sila, kung kaya ko bang mag-drive. Madang for-foxie. 16 years ako nag-the-drive. Bok kaya ang anojaan. Ah, okay. Kaya ko to. Okay. Thank you na yung experience niabi na yun. It's kind of a benevolent sexism kasi parang nag-alatlas. Yes, it's for her. It's for her. Pero, nakakak under main cha. Yes. Kail. Toto. Kaya na man niabi on her own. Okay. Ito, related then. Sabi ni Aurora Belas ko. Female driver then. Sabi niya. Every time I go to the guest t-shon, para pahangin ng gulong, the staff always start putting air in my tires without asking if I need help. However, they don't offer help to male customers. It's like, "Dude, I know how to do it." Oh. Okay. So, ii na ashu, nakapagba ba ay? Hindi kaya. Hindi nila alam yan. Paglala, akay. Akay, akay, akay. Okay. Good. Feeling ko, as a female driver. Feeling ko nakakirade nalang ako sa asa-saparon ayon, asa. Tamad mo gilagin ng air. Nap, per-actually, gets ko toa aur aora. Ako personally, a-prefer. nga togo out of my card, dahil nga adun sa nabanggit mo kanina. Nga it's more dangerous for women to be alone outside. So ako, siya mo nangyudraiba ako, hesitant ako na lala ba sa coache na mag-isay, especially paggabe. So a-drader na yung gasoline staff, yung magalagin ng care sa golong ko. Ah, ah. Ano naman, ang komplikado na mga put, golong mga lang ang komplikado ng ang komplikado mag-imabay. Ah. Marami rin ang nababas sa online, and I know a friend Deepao, personally, na. Mahilig sa coache, she knows a lot about cars, but she's like a small petite, ma-puting, baba, and very fragile looking. Looking. Looking. But she drives like four by four cars, paggeroyong every day, car nya na malakaya gaya. So ma-alam sa coache. But every time she goes to a different mechanic, na hindi yung mechanico nya, either in an overexpaint sa kanya, or just a-parang she feels like feeling nong mechanico, hindi ko alam yung kay lang ang go-or sa suba-baga. And mara-were ang nababas sa online nagnon, na. When they get down, either yung asawan nila yung kakaosapin, asawan ng lala-kay, or yung kasamang lala-kay, yung kakaosapin. Kaya to alam sa coache yung lala-kay, na yung. Okay. So mga red accounts lang yung mga nagita-ka-end of that one girl nya. Nga. Nga ninyunin ng experience nya. Okay. So my god, it really happens. Related gen yung isa nating crowdsourced from jam. Na shin out, out, molas. Kuyo nanton ni jam, kasi nga nagpak crowdsourced tayo, di ba? So nagsension ng voice note. Kaya koa ang kwento nya, kasi yung nangpapasurvy sa research yung work nila. Yes, submarine biologist. Ayon, so kaya nilang nilang mag-survy sa isang coastal area. Tapos yung tim nila that day, all the women. Tapos ng nakita ng all male local group. All local group, baka lako coast guard. Ayon ka sa mininin, sa minin natin. Oh, okay. Nung nakita ng coast guard. Poro lalaka yung di ba? Nung nakita nilang nila na poro ba yung mag-re-research ng papasurvy sa abay. Aind ay pagawayon nilang yung nilang yung sa mga takonamin. Nga coast guard. Anong alam nilang mag-parisur, mag-pasurvy. Correct. So hindi nilang ang kong anong gagawin. It took additional time for the group of jam. Na it explained kong how to do it. The methodology. Instead, nayaan lang silang gobin yung trabaho nila. Exact. Kailangan pana lang turuhan on the spot yung mga lalaka para yung mga lalaka ang magkondak ng servi. Oh my god, ay ang trabaho nilang jam. Ay, researchers. That is their job. Serving is part of their competency. That's where they're trained. Yes. Goodness. The benevolent success is not benevolenting in my head. Okay. Mmm, ngahatay ako. So sa nudge na, no yung benevolent sexism. Good intentions, pero nakakapikol. Nakakapikol. Nakakapikol. Nakakapiliypa ng work. Ya. It's a wonderful time and anopaje for it. Yes, it is. Okay. Ay, ayon yung mga ebang crowdsourced answers natin. Ready, gana baka, let us share yours. Mmm, si-gih. Go on. Let's go, let's get it. Yung sakin. Dikong nashu, if this is even subtle, eh? But I guess so. Anyway, ang na isip ko top of my intelligence is the very concept of virginity. As in the fact that term, the virgin, and the concept of virginity, it's sexist. And I think it's subtle enough to merit question marks in our heads, naho, baka siya sexist. Okay, explain natin. Okay, first of all, ang nabayong virginity, Origins niya, ancient times ang ibig sa bihinyan, sexually and experienced woman. Dipan nakakipag sex. Oh, hindi pan nakikipag sex. Well, asya ang counterpart for a meals. I think. Yung originita. Ang ibig sa bihinyan, from the Latin term, "virgo", "made-end", sexually and experienced maiden. Okay. So, yung ayon, popa din naman natin sa bihinyan virgin ng mga lalaka, pero yung origin niya, It's pertaining talaga to women. So, sayon, nagspil over sha, across millennia, across generations, ang subtle thinking is, ini-equate natin yung halaga ng babay, sa kung sexual di experience na sha or hindi pa. So, the more experienced, sexually, the less valuable a woman is. So, I'm super critical about this concept, kasi une sa lahat, bakit sa double standard. Kasi, okay diba, para ang virtue was ka pagbabay yung virgin. Pero paglalaka, it's kind of funny, it's laughable. Na, toa yung virgin ko pa yata eh, diba, sa paglalaka dapat ng kokong ker ka nong mga virgin. Kapag babay, kapag hindi ka na virgin, it's shameful. It's shameful, it's shameful aaya. Kapag lalaka, kapag hindi ka na virgin. Oh my God, so cool dude, bra. Oh, yo, yoy, sa chaman. We can say, na, pwede ng e-apply sa guys yung virgin, halimbawa sa pop culture, yung virgin, si Steve Carell. Steve Carell. But that's the point, it's a comedy film. Because it's laughable. The 40 years old nasha virgin, parin sa, and he's a guy. So, yo, a na pakad double standard. Tapos sa part na mga babay, yung play shim, when we explore and celebrate our bodies, hmm, to hear more about it, dun sa one of our earliest episodes, things we had to unlearn. I talked about madonna horror complex, as in madonna, virgin, madonna, the madonna horror complex. The madonna horror complex. And then horror as in prostitute. Ayon. Nga mga babay, aida or lang yan, aida pure, or kapag sexually active, pop, pop, pop, pop. Oh, haliparot. Aida or lang siya. Hindi, ma, processo ng otak na lipo na natin, napapeding both. Nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, nga, while being sexually, liberated. Which, reminds me of one of our previous guests, dokrika. Yeah, dokrika kruz. Dokrika kruz. I think she perfectly embodies, both being, madonna. And being sexually, liberated. She's sexy. Is in, some of you follow, Dr. Rika kruz. Some of you have nude photos, celebrating her body, and at the same time, are in international, conferences, acclaimed researches, and just a little bit of your presence. Oh, oh. So, Napa ka, Talino napa ka, galing, yes, napa, competent, napa, brilliant, and, very sexually, active, and sexually, liberated. So, the stereotype, then, it's a big issue, because there's a show on TV, Philippine TV, private conversations with Dokrika. So, about sex, BINAN, MTRCB. Sex education, BINAN. You're a YouTube, but, I'm a DMG, so I'm a content of the icons that break the stereotype. It's different. And talking about a subject that's so, it's like a taboo. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So, it's so frustrating. Anyway, we'll follow you to Dokrika kruz. There's a red element, which is very, very informative. Okay. I think, the very specific pang harmful effects, that's the very concept of virginity, specifically pertaining to women. Mm-hmm. I have a few here, 102, a lot. A lot of you. Mm-hmm. We put so much shame in nature, then, okay. We're all, we're all sexual, we're all sexual, right? So, that's one, that's what's called a part of our relationship. We don't really know what we're talking about. Because, we're talking about our sexual growth. So, if we don't explore, we really know that our relationship is not really about us. Right? Also, this is a lot of things that are not part of our family, that's a lot. Yes. Why? Because, because of the virginity myth, there are many instances that when you have a wife, you have a wife,. kasi may nangyarin eh. Yung lolo ako. Yung lolo ako, kasi hindi puan daw siya. Oh my god! Wotong nalang turns out na. Gusong yung rantalaga yung lolo ako. Ang gangayon, super in love sa lolo ako,. who's already in heaven. Ayon. But for many people, para ang napipilita na pipikot, kasi may nangyarin eh. So it's shameful. Kapag hindi yung lalaka yung nang nakataluyan. Also, may mga nagtapakasal, kaya hindi panilalam yung sexual compatibility nila. Yung mga taong,. well, personal choice naman nila,. but some kasi pressure dsilah,. by religion, by society,. nahin di sila magprimarital sex. So, pagkakasal nila, at walang divorcea Filipinas,. surprise nalang,. conseksuali compatible sila or hindi. Yung. So I think,. it's a lot of dds. Oh, oh. With something that,. ayon ako hindi kami suha. Yes,. india ko na priplis. Yung. Ayon. Also,. we expect our partners to know how to please us,. when we don't even know how to be pleased. So it can lead to this appointing sexual partnership. Kasi hindi may nagsprayon sa rili mo eh. Kasi expect mo na,. dapat yung partner mo alam niya panokapaligayahin. Oh ba? Yung aware your buttons are. Da may pa? Sigurano man alam natin tung lahat yung "The Myth of Hymen". and "Bleeding". So,. meerong prevalent myths. Nga ang babae. Kapag first time nya. Mag-we break yung hymen. Naya yung signal na. Okay, na break na yung virginity nga. It's a myth. Personally,. too much info. I have blood. Pero sa third partner ko naya. Some women,. not at all. Don't lead at all. Some women don't have hymen. And we can't even at all. Speaking of hymen. It's a myth. Saabisa,. you can search this app,. sabi sa school of sexuality education. sabi nila. The link between hymens and virginity. is a social construct. You cannot tell. if someone has had sex. by looking at their genitalia. The shape and size of the vagina. doesn't change size. with penetrative sex. Nor does the hymen change. from penis in vagina sex. So, it's a myth. It's a myth. It's a myth. It causes so much anxiety. Sa mga babae. Na,. the 10-2 red sex. for the first time. because I imagine that it's a message. It's hurtful. It's painful. it's not that painful. We're seeing a lot of people. who are watching our episodes. Sabi nya, it's just one of the many narratives. used to control the sexuality. of the baby. so,. so much shame. because of that,. it's not a safe sex. and family planning. because it's a good idea to have sex. We're seeing the higher-stakes. in sex. because we're just seeing the same. because we're seeing. the technical virginity. because. the thinking of the same. the same. the same. the same. the same. the same. so,. it's not the same. or, pressure-short. into engaging with anal sex instead. What?. to technically. virgin' parincila. And anal sex. poses higher risk. nang STD. Oh, it's true. significantly HIV STD. masmata asang risk. kapag sa anal. So, very harmful. sia sa reproductive health. nang mga babae. and because of that assumption,. mga de virgina is ka lang. Kapag may pumasok ng edit sa "capsmo." It's so invalidating. saibang experiences. For example,. concrete example. Years ago, like seven years ago,. I dated this guy. And then, when we're talking about. at that point,. lhat ng previews partners ko women. So, when I'm ex-h,. because I'm a virgin,. I'm still listening,. I've had sex with women. sabinyo,. peros ala lakay wala pa. like ko, "Oh, oh, nga.". sabinyo, "I divergin ka pa." Oh, my God. What the fuck? It's so invalidating. Just to be clear,. I'm not encouraging women. to be careless with sex,. to be irresponsible. with their reproductive health. and to be promiscuous. nast sleep around the lounge with strangers, random strangers. This danger in doing that. Health, STD. Kong hindi mo pa mashadong kilela yung tao,. dina tin alam,. kong abusive bato,. papadikabang maharas. and sedating. prima-chur-sex,. yung sex agad,. without knowing the person. Well, enough. It complicates things. kasi,. daho sa mga chemical bonds,. papading mga attachtayo sa isang tao. actually knowing this person. so hindi ko sa abing makay pa kasi ex kayo agad. yang sinasabiko lang is,. sigit, take your time, be extra careful. but don't deprive yourself of that experience. kasi, that's what you'll be gaining experience. So, na inisako na bakit finifrem siya na. asin. asin, asin salt,. baka shafinifrem na,. we are losing something virginity. as opposed to,. we are gaining something,. which is experience. and I think,. and capsulatiyan ng. quote na to. it's a viral quote. sabe, dito sa quote na to. and onimus, we don't know who wrote this. sabe, the concept of virginity was created by men. who thought their penises were so important. that it changes who a woman is. I hate that. I hate the whole concept of virginity. yung sa akin, katawan natin to, as women,. katawan natin to, we have to own it. hindi dapat ang lipunan ang magdidikta ng halaga,. nang pagkatao natin,. basis sa kompaano natin gamiten ng mga saritin natin katawan. whatever we do with our bodies,. that's none of their business. so, yung, the very concept of virginity is sexist. so get it. tik na natin. mimi mga crowdsource patayo. sabe ni, call balo loi. the social norm that women are the ones. who should change their last name when they marry. true, but kami ang mag-adjust. ancer it, try it to answer it, guys. back it, kailangan, mabaya, mag-adjust. oh, niba, bakit. nakait. sana may choice no. kapan naman kaya magpapakasan. no, napedang nalaka, pwede ang babaya. mahano. niyang. ayon. eto, sabi na manita, taitan yan face. diko parin na experience, pero. pangit daw pagmaskolado yung babaya. akawa na experience mo na ako. from family members, ganyan,. aparang. ahin ka babaya mong tao ang laka ng. berasa mo ang laka ng. mahas ko nga naman nga yon asan atli. oh, para ako. oh, ba. bawal ba?. bawal ba?. bawal ba?. bawal ba?. bawal ba?. bawal ba?. bawal ba?. bakit. anong masamado?. angkanda ngay?. isos ng mga finafalo ko?. si Camila Gooper. sana. in Instagram. At the same time, I don't think either, or you. So, you're saying that. it's a bit different to what you're thinking. Nah, fit is the new sexy. Ya. I can't believe people are still, still think that way. It's like, "Why don't you go to the school?" Sorry, ha, c'mon lahat ka, ya. Oh, sorry! Aka kaya kailitawye kong mga sensnya, kasi. "Nag bebernong katawanayong fat". Oh, so. fit, siya. Nga, ha. Dishamama mataya agad. Kaya. Okay, ikaw mamsinika. Ano ang top of my normal subtle sexism. Is sa Samarame. Chardonnay choka. Top of my ego is when women. Well, actually any other gender. But mostly women are talked over by male colleagues. Or by males. Naman kailangan-coiligis lang. Pagdiran sa bye. Pagdita sa as-friends. Giniyan. Being talked over by males, meaning, Naksasalitaka. And it interrupts kabigla. Nang some male person in the middle of you talking. It's just that we're just listening to that. Nga yon nga. Oh, pwanda. Oh, pwanda. Oh, pwanda. Mere nong kitaw arti-kaya. - I'll be called it "manta-rupted". - Okay. - "Interruption" mantra-rupted. - Okay. - I'm gonna go to the next page, so come on. So you can see from the comments. It's the last experience because it's a work. For example, I'll explain it to you. Or I'll be there. It's not bad. I just want to talk about the process of "I don't know. Can we try to do it?" That's it. That's it. That's it. Next page, you can see. So you'll see it. Without allowing you to finish what you're saying. Question, what are you doing in the comments? No. - Oh! - But. I have observed him doing it to other females. - Oh! - But not with other men. - Okay! - So, you're. It's like I'm going to get interrupted by a lot of people. It's like you're just a kid. You're just a kid. But you're still a kid. - You're just a kid. - You're just a kid. - Okay. - So you're just. Like that. Even with LGBT people. - LGBT people. - Okay. - Okay. - Okay. That "manterruption" is a form of subtle sexism. Because it. It's under my mind. Your. It's different because. Maybe because deep inside their head, you don't understand that. What I want to say is more valuable, more meaningful, more meaningful, more meaningful, more meaningful, more meaningful, more meaningful, more meaningful. - Okay. - That's it. And I think. Sadly, you're saying that it can be a sub-conscious thing. - Yeah. - That's not what I'm saying. "Oh, that's why I'm interrupting you." It's subconscious. Because conditions are into behaving like that. - Yeah. - You're right. - Hmm. - So it's like you're really related. - Okay. - Oh, being "manterrupted." - Okay. - I'm really sure you know this. This word is "man-splaining." - Yeah. - So it's like. "Mailperson, over-explaining something to a woman." Okay. You're just like a business person. Okay. I want to talk about it. I want to talk about a woman who is. If you freeze, you're like a popsicle. - Yeah. - Explain. I want to tell you one to research. Because if you freeze, you'll see the bacteria in your body. It'll be frozen. They will die. So I'll research. And then. This guy. And because he has tried to make kombucha. Explain it. "Oh, kombucha." That's it. Explain it. What kombucha is. It's T again. - It's not that you know what kombucha is. - Yeah. Because that's what we've been talking about. Explain it. "Oh, you're a scoby." "It's a simple, you're a culture of bacteria and yeast." Explain it. Explain it. I know. I know. I know. I have to be careful because they can die. Of course, I'm just in my head. I'm just like a man-splaining. - Okay. - Okay. Okay. Imagine that you're related to this experience. You know what I mean? Explain it. Explain it. It's a good experience. That's it. That's it. So what do you do when you experience your gut? Well, as a non-confrontational person. It's so hard for me to stop it. And I know. I know. I'm interrupting. I'm just saying that. Explain it. Explain it. That's it. But I try to be assertive. I'm just like that. Okay. I'm just like that. Okay. Can I continue? Or. Okay. I will just continue. Or I will just finish what I'm saying. Okay. So you know. Explain it. Explain it. Explain it. Explain it. Let me finish what I'm saying. It's super hard for me to do, though. But that's the right thing to do. Tell them that. Please let me finish. I'd like to finish my thought. Mm-hmm. Maganyan. Mahita pshafarbi, because. Well, women are conditioned to stay quiet. Yeah. So, medium-ahita pmag-sinii. And be the accommodating one. Yeah. You're on. But that's how we can handle it. Tell them that. I still want to finish my thought. I want to finish what I'm saying. Okay. And then. It's all? I can't do whatever. Okay. But I saw in some articles that. You have to educate or redirect the conversation. So, for example. I know that you're in a relationship with Emma. What I quite have done was to say. Yeah, I'm already familiar with it. So, let's focus on. Blank. So, I know that you're direct. That's what we're focusing on. Mm-hmm. That's it. Okay. That's it. So, it's basically speaking up for yourself. Mm-hmm. Which is so hard to do. Especially the. Actually, as a woman. That. I don't know if men will get it. Why will it be hard to speak up? Oh-oh. Yeah. I think even the people who are watching us. Because you're really good at it. You're good at it. You're good at it. Guys, take your statistics. If a gender is a line. Uh-oh. Usually. We're not scared for nothing. Yes. You're right. You're right. You're right. That's it. So, I tell you because it's just words. Mm-hmm. But it's a. It's a power play. Uh-oh. You're being hushed. Yes. Exactly. Mm-hmm. What are our listeners? Hopefully, what are their listeners' points? What are they watching? If they do the two women. And if they do, they'll do what they do to them. Or so women. Let's examine ourselves. Let's think. Guys, consider us look back. And our conversations. Okay. And check ourselves in our future conversations. Get it. Okay. We have crowdsourced answers from our fellow adults. We have. It was synned. I.G. Real synned me Karen Willarde from France. Mm-hmm. I.G. Real is showing. The homebody, the family we're in on Facebook group. Homebodies. The "I think" moderator or the founder. Yeah. No one. See, Frances, Cabatuan. So there's a talk. Explain to you that when you have a product placement, she's trying to fight back when you have gender stereotypes. Okay. And for cleaning. Do you want to target some moms? Or some other kids? Yes. My gosh. So what do you say about that? That's on the brand. You can do it with your kids. Yes. So we're going to target some kids. Stop like that. Exactly. So the thing is, the simple thing, but the thing is that you have to push forward to get some gender stereotypes. Sometimes, since I work in advertising, we have brands who always target moms, mommies, and that's what they do. But if you really think about it, I want to push back at mommies. That's the thing. You just need to get some product. And we're pushing gender stereotypes if we target only mommies. Yes. But since I'm an advertiser, I am the agency and the client is paying for me to do it. The thing is, you can push the agenda. I can do it. I can do it. I can do it. I can do it. We can do it. It's still hard. I'm going to corporate the directions. I appreciate the brand's ad detergent. Because the. Or if you're not doing it. I'm not doing it. I'm doing it. Okay. Because of the initiative, I'm going to jump to RL. The brand's brand ambassador. And they have a lot of that also in. Not just in the Philippines, even in India, where sexism is so prevalent. Yes. So. Good job, RL for being brave. Yes. I think. Even though I'm not an advertiser, I don't think I'm an advertiser or salesman. I think we can also shatter this stereotype when we can give it to the kids. Yes, please. My gosh. I guess I'll give it to you. Without giving it to you, the last one is just one. I don't think I can do it. I'm just a little bit more. So I try to give it to gender neutral. Yes. Because if you give it to me, you'll give it to Barbie or Pink. You'll give it to me. Robot. It's just like, "Okay, no harm done, but in the process, you'll be able to install it on your own." This is the rule of being a little bit more. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Kitchen, dining set, and cooking set. Oh, okay. But. You can just put it in your mouth. Yes. You'll give it to me, yes. Regardless of the color. Otherwise, we'll proliferate our gender stereotype that we'll be able to make and we'll be able to make it with the next generation. Yes. So stop natin, guys, let's break it. What's breaking it? What's breaking it? Tawak! [laughter] Okay, yan po ang ilan sa subtle sexism na nara nga sa naming mga kababaihan, consistently throughout our lifetime. 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So sa mga first time na umabot sa dulo ng episode, sa "Recoround" taminag papasabangin ng mga helpful life hacks that can make your adulting journey more manageable. Alright. Ikaw mams, ang mga mga "Recor mo"? Mmm. Ako. Bilang struggle ko ngayon ang laging nakaselfoon all the time. Asa like, para sa mga episodes natin, few years ago, yung mga strike. I know my screen hours are like. Iba, Iba, Iba this time. Iba this time. Okay. It's the IG Reels. Oh, so IG Reels. So ayage. So hindi ka nganag to take my friends. I know my friends. My friends ako na yun nalang yung communication a man. We just send Reels back and forth. Oh. Yeah, and for. No, that I'm thinking of you because I send you a reel. Language up love. What a chka, matachka. Yeah, so I saw a hack. You can turn your screen into black and white. Para less appealing sa yo. Napano orangea. So there's less tim you lose. Sayo, I tried it. Para ang mga 3-4 days na. Bida bab ako ngagagayon yung cellphone ko. Nalang sa kabe. Sa kabe ino onko siagin ako ang shortcut. Nawa ang a-press the side button three times. Nage-giging black and white na yung screen ko. Let me see. Oh yeah. Okay, para na gimblag. Eh, white. So edi, para to liparin ako ng scroll. Para after well, para ang. Ano, batu? Boring, bina baka na yung coin ko. Okay. So gina agaran ko siya kapagga bang a-yun. Okay. So it's working now. Let's find out if it will be sustainable. Let's record it again. I'm already going. I'm already going. I'm not sure who's going to win. Yon. Is it a good app that you're using? No, it's not an app. It's just a function on your screen. Ah, smartphone. Yes, iPhone. You just look it up on your settings. Okay. Explore you. Just go in settings. Yung display. Display settings. So, poeddemo siyang gabeing black and white. Okay. Nice, nice, nice. I shall check sa. Check in your. Yes. Check how you can do it on your phone. Okay. Keri. Yon. What's your record? Okay. Yung sa ken. Ang record. Yung sa mga kababaihan. Padirin sa mga ilang kalalakihin. Pero, mas madalas sa women. Okay. Try yung hindi mag shoulder bag. Kasi. Nakakaro on ng uneven or imbalance na tension. Kasi ka pag- Lagging halimbawa. Yung shoulder bag mo. Lagging nasa kanan. Uh-huh. Chances are, magiging stiff over time yung shoulder mo na yon. Or yung traps mo na yon. Ano liman term ng traps. Yung paggita ng leg at balikat. That masal. Yon. One of my excess, ke langan pang physical therapy. Oh, for the dog. Yes. Tapos yung nakita ng ang culprit eye. Dahil, almost every day, shoulder bag. Ayon. So check it out. Fellow adults. Mostly females. Kasi tayong mas shoulder bag, di ba? Yon. Kung napapan siyi yung na mejo matigas or stiff, or mas sakit na yung isang side ng traps yung, yung might have to look into your bags. Yung. Okay. Yung. Gilti na kasolder bag ako. So mas sakit na siya? Inde ng kwa palit palit ako ng bag. Mas madal sa magbag bag. Pero. Nung naglala ka doko kanina. Mmm. Na fipil mo. Okay. Get ready. Alright. That's it for now, Fellow adults, anggang sa next episode. This has been Nika and Carla, proudly standing up and speaking up for the advancement of women. Because it's an adult thing.