solo parenting, our thoughts on balding men, and the DND debate

(upbeat music) - Welcome to Justice Girls in this page, Katie and Sam. Quick house keeping. We had another sleepover last night, but it was like a real sleepover. - A real sleepover. - We did it. - Oh, the same room. Sam and I shared a bed. - And I didn't fart in my sleep. - That we know of. - No, I didn't. - No, I didn't. - You didn't. - I did walk in on you in the bathroom. - I did jump scare page in the middle of the night. I went pee in the middle of the night. And I saw-- - You were a desk, you would do that. - I said, I need to be closest to the bathroom. I'll take the murder if they come in the door. I got you guys. And I was peeing and the door started to creep open. I'm like, oh no, I'm gonna scare the shit out of whoever this is and page just like jump back and scream. (laughing) But. - I just had no inkling that anybody was in there. - Yeah. - It was very dark. - I mean, I was gonna turn the light on 'cause then you can see through that. - Yeah, it was pretty bright when the light was on. - Yeah, page flipped on this morning. - She did. - She did. - That's how I learned. - I was 7, 30 morning. - I was in time to be awake. - Yeah, I had been awake. - You had had been awake. - Well, your alarm also went off the desk. - Your alarm went off multiple times. - Six point. - Six point. - I just wanna say that series of events was the least page thing. I would have-- - Let's talk about it. - If all of us would have an alarm go on and snooze it, I would think it would be Sam. - I think it was like the-- - I would think I do that. So yeah, but I didn't even have an alarm. - So when these bitches are going off, I was like, oh, it must have been a total accident. She's turning it off. - See. - I'm going. - That's a second alarm. Those are my two daily alarms. - And not only that, she had a full boomer mode. - So much. - I read text. - She was like, "Brrrriq, brrriq." That was a crap, her phone. - She was like, "Where are you sleeping?" - I didn't hear it. - Oh my god. - That is-- - It was right by your head. - Because, okay, I've told you guys this. I'm desensitized to the noise because my husband gets calls all hours of the night, texts for work. And she was constantly getting calls and texts and all. I just zone it out. I don't-- - I mean, the frequency. - Yeah, which that ping. I'm sure there were foxes in New Jersey that woke up from that sound. It was very loud. - Yeah. I am a snoozer. - That's impressive. I'm a snoozer, too. - I'm a snoozer, but also, again, with the alarm. My husband's the guy, "Didn't I tell you about the alarm?" He has. It's actually obnoxious. So he's the guy who will snooze and snooze and snooze. And then I will wake up and be like, "You're ready for work." - Yeah. - With my alarm, and he's a shit, and then he runs around. And it's so annoying. So he got this new alarm. That is for people like him, where in order to shut it off, you have to play a little game. Like you have to do a puzzle or something. But he's always doing it with his eyes closed. - That's pretty cool. - I like that idea. - It's not because it just keeps going. - I would just tell you. - It's going well. - And he can't figure out the puzzle 'cause he's like asleep and he's not trying to wake up. - Is it a hard puzzle? - I've never had a wordle. - I have no idea, but I'm always like, "Do it now." - Two snoozers in one couple. That's hard. - But I'm not really snoozing. So what you heard this morning was my 630 and my 640 alarms. They go off every single day. My 630 is the, "Hey Matt, did you go to work yet, alarm?" That's my wake him up. - Your Christopher Nolan, yeah. - Yes, yes, yes. And then my 640 is page wake up alarm. That's so there are two separate alarms. One is really just meant for me to be like, - And then was your group chat just like, buzz in this morning 'cause there was-- - I think it was us. - It was our group chat. - Oh, with our team. - Okay. - I was like, "What the, who in the fuck was texting that early?" - No one, but you guys, I texted that early. - Did he was in it? - Yeah. - Well, yeah. - But I was up at 6, just now. - You were at the beginning of the day. - I was editing videos, laying in bed. - I heard all the different song choices. - Yeah, thinking of things to tell you. - When you go to sleep. So I keep my phone on silent all day. I don't keep it on do not disturb, but I keep it on silent all day. But when I sleep, I always turn it on 'cause I don't know, I have this like irrational fear that somebody's gonna call and it's gonna be an emergency. - I think for me, the only person that would call is my husband, where it's an emergency. And he's next to me. So I don't, it's always on set. My phone is never not on silent. - Even when you sleep. - Yeah, correct. - You could also do where you turn it on except the people that can come through. - But by pass, but here's the problem. When I, I don't want Matt to bypass when I'm in Pilates, right? Like, like, you can't set up to bypass with like, - Certain hours. - Or how many calls? Like, it's just one call comes through. Like, I thought it was, it used to be like, oh, they called two times. It would come through the silence or whatever. But I had him, I had my husband on bypass and I had the kids' school on bypass. Like, I always have my kids' school. - Yeah. - Schools can always contact me. And I was in Pilates and he called and it was, I'm in Pilates classes. I'm like, and I'm like, oh, Jesus. - Do you not leave your phone outside? - Yeah. - No, they don't have anywhere to leave. - And it's here? - No, I have, every time I go to yoga or Pilates when I'm in Shavasana or like the end class, that's when I get anxiety. I'm like, what if the school calls? What if something's wrong? What if I, so I like to just have my phone - Near you. - Near me to know that my kids are good. It's in here. This is where my anxiety shows up. It's like, what if it's that one hour where I don't have my phone is when there's a number? - Which is so funny, 'cause in Shavasana is the one place. You're not like, I'm imagining myself in a field. - I know. - I'm like, son, no worries. I'm there. - That's the only time where I have anxiety. (laughing) - I was like, in Shavasana I'm like, it's supposed to be relaxing. - Not relaxing. - Can we also talk about how I've never seen Paige laugh harder than she laughed last night? - I've never seen that laugh come out of you. - Ever. I was like, oh my gosh, every time she has laugh before, it was a fake laugh. - 'Cause that was the first time I've seen her genuine laugh call. - Cackle. - At herself. - And I was like, oh my God, I was staring at each other and I was like, what's happening? - So let's give contact. I didn't know we were sharing the world. - Yeah. (laughing) - Sam and I are, Sam got here in New York first. - And I'm the booker. - She's a booker. - So we are, how are, like-- - I'm a finance girl. - Thank you. - So I booked the hotels. I usually booked the studios. And last time you said, like, I wanna share a room. - Yeah. - So I was like, all right, and the prices were very expensive. So I said, all right. And the hotel room, she showed up first 'cause she was flying from Florida, gets to the room, whatever, I get in second. So I text Sam, I'm like, where are you? - I don't know. - I don't know. (laughing) - She doesn't answer. - I'm calling incessantly. Finally get a hold of her, she's in the room. I go upstairs. I knew we were sharing a room. So I start to spread my shit out. I'm like, unfolding my clothes, getting ready. Paige, a few minutes later, is calling incessantly, trying to find us. She gets up to the room and walks in and our stuff's everywhere. And she's like, okay, do you just making yourself comfortable? - I was like, are you guys sharing a room? (laughing) - Yeah, we're sharing a room and we got you your own. - Yeah. And she literally, and then we were like, no, we're all sharing a room. And she was like, what? - That's news to me. - Exactly. - And then she started cackling in a corner to herself and we're like, what is going on? - That was last night because they started putting their PJs on and I was like, you know? I don't know. Petra was like, text. (laughing) And I was like, I packed in a haste last night. And I remember I was like, I have very similar pajamas to what you guys were wearing. You know, I have, I wear pajamas set. I have a lot of the button up ones, you know, with the matching pants and the shorts they shirt. But I was like, what did I pack? And as they start to think, I was like, oh shit. I packed these pajamas. I've had for a very long time. But they're like, I could tank top, short set. But they're very loose. And my husband's always like, whenever you wear those, you wake up and your tits are just out. Like, just everywhere. And like, we all have that. We all have that pair of pajamas. - Yeah. - You go to sleep in a tank top and you went back. - The tank top. - And there's just one titties on your bed. - It's usually just one. - Yeah, it's usually just one. But I'm like, I'm thinking to myself, okay. Like, what PJs did you bring Paige? And I'm like, I know it's not appropriate. And then I'm starting to think. - It's appropriate. - Like, for you guys, I'm like, I'll leave you. - For your colleagues. - To be honest, I like to flash a coworker. - No, I like to flash a coworker. - Oh, not for nothing though. It's like, I only wear those sparingly around my husband too. I'm like, you can't just be lying around. - You don't get it for free, but I was like, fuck, that's what I fact. So I was dying laughing because I was like, oh my god. - The way she was laughing, I thought she packed like skimpy lingerie or like a t-shirt with a bunch of holes in it. - We're like, are there exists where we find out? Paige is a freak, she has like a strap on. Like, what is going on? - Yeah, they're just cute little stuff to let me look at you. - You know the PJs that are just a little musty. - A little busty. - A little busty. - That's all, yeah. - They didn't, I slept with the blankets of it. - I did, I was like, go to sleep and relax a little bit. - Okay. - I was like, every time I woke up, I was like, oh no. Paige. - Even though we did night's, she has her stuff. - Yeah, I just can't. - I took it as a little bit of a prude. I don't want to just like sleep a little bit. - I know, fuck. - So we gave Paige her own bad issues, very worried about her, her tits falling out. - I don't know for her to sleep, but I also needed to be close to the outlet because I wanted to do a leave. - I love her. - So I gave you guys the outlet. - Yeah, well I love how it was never a discussion if I was going to sleep alone, I was just like, okay, who's sleeping with Katie? - Who's sleeping with Katie? - She wanted to share the room, who's sleeping with Katie. - She was her ID. - I thought we were good bed mates. - No, I felt good, I didn't really. - But I'm also like, I'm always fine to share with anyone 'cause I don't move. Once I'm asleep, I'm just kind of asleep. - I thought it was interesting that you stay to one side of the bed. - I think they call them in. - I'm like, do I know? - You want to sleep alone, I sleep by one side of the bed. Again, this is a symptom of my husband and I. He's very often gone at night, but he will come home at some point. So it's just, you guys stay in your sections. - I feel like you're small, he could just like. - Those beds were small though, like we were like, that was like a twin Excel. - Yeah, we were like, this was supposed to be queen, this is definitely a fall. - Yeah, well in New York, what are you gonna get? - Yeah. - I mean, I thought it was a nice size room. - Yeah, it was good. - It was decent. - It was good. - I also had no Wi-Fi, so we got to a room and we were like, oh. - It was like the stone age, it was like, what's happening? - And I'm trying to rebook flights, I still don't know when I'm going home, but I'll make it home eventually. - Yeah, I know, so. - We'll be all right. And then I had my white noise, 'cause I'm a baby. - That was so loud too. - That was really loud. - You know why though? Because I didn't have my phone by my head, 'cause you guys took the outlet, so it was in the corner. - No, because it was so loud. - You know, like when you have a child, don't put it up too loud or too close to their head. - Yeah, like a certain amount of decibels. - Yeah, it's bad for you. - You're blowing out your ear drums. - You crank it. - We've talked about dementia before. - Hearing loss is one of the first, like. - That's happening to me. - Basically, if you're hearing loss, [BLANK_AUDIO] Dimension. Yeah, it can cause dementia or I don't know. It's like a factor and so if you have hearing loss You should treat it because a lot of people like won't treat their hearing. They're just like oh I can't hear no But you're looking at me. This is literally my issue I like actually have hearing loss. Yeah, I have to get that I just but I are I'm getting my tonsils out next month To me and then we'll tackle the hearing. I know I can't While we're doing all of them like I need to do pieces yet earlier. She was she was like turned away I can't hear you if I'm not looking at you. I know I was trying to ask you be only in bagels. I was like Katie Katie bagels. Yeah, I can't hear you I'll tackle that maybe I'm just pretending maybe I'm being a man. I'm just like uh, I'm okay, you know, I'll hear what I want to know. No, trust me now. I'll check for me. Yeah You have to hear I'm gonna say it's better if you don't hear what's going on a lot of the time But I'm just like I want your brain to stand yeah me too. Yeah Imagine setting your makeup then forgetting it's even theirs. Meet new groupie setting mist from Mavily New York Delta mist technology locks in your look for up to 24 hours with flexible all-day comfy grip. No tightness, no stickiness, no residue Just clump to a hydrated skin that still feels like your skin. Try new groupie setting mist from Mavily New York. Maybe it's Mavily Okay, let's forget from the group chat and what we've been talking a lot About this week. I feel like I've had a lot of times this summer where my husband has been out of town And I've been solo parenting and it is not for the week I like I talked about that solo parents people whose husbands are deployed just single pair like yeah Truly doing the Lord's work because after like my husband first was out of town for four days and I I was broken Afterwards, it is so hard. I feel like the I think you put up a video about like the bedtime My gosh of it all of like going from room to room and then when you're with one kid and the other kids coming out And I only have two kids so like the three and the four kids like I genuinely don't know how you guys do it Because solo parenting is rough. I just used to joke that it's like whack a mole. Did you ever play that game? Oh, yeah But it's not even down. I'm just staying in your room. I'm just walking kids across the hall like heading with a paddle every time But it's just like I will be laying with my youngest and she's the hardest to get to sleep I might be laying there and my oldest will come and be like I have a question. I'm a good Right when they're like they just I'm like oh my gosh guys I was so close and well we want to read Harry Potter. I'm like well. I would have been there in two minutes Yeah, if you didn't wake up. Yeah, they're usually pretty good I will say as you get older kids like my oldest or 98 they just sit in their bed and then read their books They color they just like do their own they don't need me They're like they want me to come in and lay with them, but they just hang in there. Yeah, they're self-sufficient It's when they're young like I remember when it was like my youngest was born I had a five-year-old a four-year-old and 18-month-old in the baby and I would do solo bed time all the time because Matt's job and I It was just like there was a real System to it. I'm real system even if you have a system though It's like I would finally get all the kids down that would just come downstairs and just like stand Disassociated then I like then I want to revenge bed time because I've like I've had no time to myself all day It's been high court is all on like on it and I'm like I want to watch a movie I want to scroll my phone and I'm like no I have to go to bed because one of them is gonna be up at 5 a.m Like we need to just Reloc and reload for the next day. Yeah, it's also when I have my like girl dinner I'm just like I don't eat with the kids on it when I'm solo parenting I don't eat with them. I'm just like I knew you guys to eat and then you do guys to go to bed And then I'll come downstairs and eat something about myself. Yeah, I just like can't where you can actually like taste it too though Because you don't taste anything. You're so just associated at that point It's like no, that's what a big pleasure But that's why I wouldn't sit and eat with the kids cuz it's like you're you're not actually sitting in the eating You're like getting someone's throwing something and you're sick. I never said I always just stand We eat at our counter like our kitchen counter and everybody has a seat, but me and I just stand Why you a chair Why love it should speak. I'm just behind the counter like what's everybody mean, but it's like I prefer it that way Honestly because the second I sit down I have to get back up and I'm like, I'm getting to the you know point where I'm like You can get your own ketchup, you know like you can get your own fork like you can clean up yourself Yeah, yeah, but now I've just been doing it for so long. That's just kind of like where I'm at You're running a diner that's just my spot. Yeah, my husband stands with me It's like you have a seat. I would be having us tools at the counter for all of us And so sometimes if you want he's like I would like to sit to eat he'll go into like the formal dining room alone There's a lot like our kitchens do your four-stools. Yeah, and then yeah, but there's too many of you Yeah, he'll be like I would love to sit and I'm like I will then you're gonna go to the diner Share the dining room sir because we don't have one for you here Yeah, do you always ever sit at your dining room table? No, I've been trying to more because we don't ever and I think it's such a Wait, so I really don't want I want to enjoy my dining room and it really is just like a showpiece right now It's yours like in your kitchen or off of your it's off It's like we have a kitchen and then like the butler's I can picture your dining room I feel like you do a lot of your videos of stuff there my dining rooms my favorite room my house So I'm like we should use it because it brings me joy Even if you can do one family meal a week at a dining room it really does help with like relationship of food stuff Yeah, just like sitting more than the counter Well if they're sitting guys are enjoying a meal together, but that that it's like that family time of like no phones no screens Like actually sitting and eating a meal together has a huge influence on their on their relationship That's what we actually so we do eat dinner with the we eat as long as we can yeah I will say it's kids get older. It's a lot harder This is the thing about solo parenting now that's like I was telling them I'm solo parenting later tonight. It's like As your kids get older. It's like I'm not even worried about bedtime I'm worried about how I'm supposed to pick up four kids and four locations at the same time like you genuinely can't do that No, and so it's like I have like oh, I know a loop and yeah, and I go to text my girlfriend She's bringing my daughter somewhere like I'll text my sister like we all just help each other But it's it's just like such a puzzle all the time that's what I find really really difficult now It's like I don't mind being solo and so used to being solo at night And so it's my husband cuz like I travel he travels like we both do it a lot It's just the logistics. I do feel like I've gotten better at it like cuz like you said you you just have to do it like with Matt's job or like when Matt's got a town or But when I first like the I remember like the first time or the first couple times trying to solo parent like I was so anxious And then I also have a lot of friends that like they do have a lot of help of their parents Which like I'm so jealous. We've talked about this of like having like grandparents close by But I almost feel like it creates like they don't have as much Confidence in themselves. Yeah, cuz they're like wait what Luke's gonna be alone with the kids I'm like yeah, yeah, he's their dad. Yeah, yeah, I had that conversation a lot I feel like my husband is a very involved parent I really do think like especially like when we're both there. It is 5050 and so many my girlfriends will be like you're so lucky Your husband so involved and I'm like and that's a separate conversation, but it's also like yeah We don't have we don't have parents around like when I was close part on like I don't have a mom So it's like he had to step in and do like do everything and help me and it's like Those times were harder because of it But I do feel like we are such a strong like have a lot of grit because like you're doing it by yourself Yeah, you get really you're really capable I also think like I grew up with divorced parents So like you know I was with just my mom or just my dad mostly with my mom But it's like when you see one parent do it by themselves and you also I think I grew up being like I can do this by myself like Yep, I told you guys a joking like told my husband like I know I can do this alone. I don't want to yeah, I don't want to do it alone But I know I can yes One because I saw my mom do it But to just because like we do it so often that it's like it's but the thing is it's so much easier to gather like whenever he He texted me this other day and he's okay There's like over time on Wednesday you want me to take it and I was like my answer is always no Like no, I'd rather have you That's the money at home with me than you working. I mean like obviously the financial aspect But it's like it's always easier with him there than by myself, but I won't lie sometimes when he works like a week of overnight or whatever I secretly love it because then I get to watch my TV shows that I mean like we talk about as long as he comes home to sleep I love that night by myself. Yeah, so fun. I do think that's the piece I need to figure out is how to sleep when he's gone and not be scared Like do you guys have any tips on how to do that? I just love being alone. Yeah, just a subset No, I mean, I just I don't know you guys know that. Do you just like have you done it enough that eventually be coming on to it? I've been doing this since I mean we've lived together since our early 20s So like I've just been like this is just been my norm for a really long time I will say like there's sometimes where I'm like here's a bump in the night and I'm like ah I hope that was a child falling out of bed and not an intruder and it scares me I just say I think this is a one negative about me and my sister sharing her room growing up is I've always had said like and then you have roommate I've always had some one in the room with me until I was 13 I've never had person anyone in a room and so I feel like I am just so used to like another warm body Yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, I feel like do you Because you don't we've talked about TV in bed. Do you not watch your TV in bed? I sometimes I'll like watch a movie and then but I turn it off before I fall asleep Yeah, maybe maybe that would help you of like bringing like something happy or like warm fuzzy end of the room with you versus like watching it in the family room and like going into that Well, when she's gone, I always watch she in bed because I like what I try close all the blinds everything I've got everything. I'm right up to my room. Yeah, um and and I'll fall asleep with a TV on 'cause I heard that can help, but then the lights in the middle of the night are like on and it's like disorienting. - Yeah. - But I think it's also my fault because it's like, I used to love scary movies and like documentary about "No Tournament." - I was like, we were talking about it, like the Idaho motor trial is going on. And like I consumed so much content about that trial that it's like, I see Brian Coburger when I close my eyes at night, like when I'm alone. I'm like, I'm so scared. He was so scared to do this stuff. - Yeah. - Well, I know. Well, now I don't. Ever since I had kids, I stopped. Well, actually, no. - I'm gonna say the Idaho motor trial. (laughing) - I was in three or five months. - He was like five months old. But I just saw it, it was like on my Instagram. But it's like, I was flipping through, literally it was flipping through Netflix like 'cause Hunger Games is on Netflix. So I was like, I'm gonna watch Hunger Games while he's gone. And they're like coming soon Idaho documentary murder. And I was just like, ah, and like skipped to the next thing. I was like, you can't, but then it was in my brain. - Well, there's always those things like where I lived in my 20s, there was this horrible thing that happened to this woman who was like on a run and she was abducted and then killed unfortunately. It was very, very sad, but we were staying in the same location with my girlfriends. My girlfriend was like, is it safe to run? And I was like, is it ever? - I was like, what time and where? What are you doing? Why are you running? Don't run. And she's like, so is it okay to run? And I'm like, take someone with you. - Have pepper spray ready to go in your hands. - I mean, she was safe. She was totally fine. She went at like nine a.m. It was a safe time, but I think we all had that one thing where we think about it. And we're like, oh, that left an impression on this. - But I, knocking would have not been afraid of like a nighttime intruder, but I do ask myself sometimes, like what would I do, right? Like what would I do? I did have a nightmare once where like, there was like a scary man at the front door, like banging, trying to come in. And I was like screaming at my kids. I'm like, get in the car, 'cause I was like, 'cause our garage is, I was like, get in the car. And I was like, then what do I do? I was like, not even open the garage door and just like, back through it. You know, what do I do? How do I get out of here? But my kids are so non-compliant. I'm like, if there was truly like an issue, with their ADHD and the fact that they just basically, baseline don't listen to me a lot of the time, I feel like I'd be like, everybody, be quiet. And they'd be like, what? What? And I'm like, there's a, do you waste time at homes? You have home security systems, right? - Of course. I always forget to turn it on. - Mine's always. - Mine's always on. - Mine's always on. - I know. - It's on even if it's like 3 p.m. You're like, I'm gonna turn it off. - Mine's here. - It's on. - It's probably when my white noise is so loud, like ours will like randomly go off and they just like sleep right through it and like we accidentally like set it off. It's like, bam, bam. And they're just. - I'm like, we had an incident a few months ago where the kids had all gone to sleep. It was like 10 p.m. We were watching the P Didi documentary. And the car man monoxide alarm went off. - Boom. - And we were like, what is, like it first went off and we were like, what is that alarm? And we looked like all the batteries were gone and we were like, oh my gosh, it's already been 30 seconds. And like we each ran to like get a different kid. My youngest, I think was like three or four weeks old. And we like went, got in the car. It was the middle of the winter department, right? - Yeah, we called the fire department. My husband like called the fire department. I got all the kids in the car. We like put my kids in their car seats. I was holding the baby. And like luckily the fire department came really quickly and they were just like, sometimes this happens. - Trips. - Everything is good. But it was. - Did that terrifying. - Did that make you anxious then to like trust it? Because. - Well, that's what they were like, you can also get a like double detector kind of that adds for these, like the normal range can be off and like kids dying. And I'm like, this again, fear mongrel. - So stressful. - It's like, I don't know. - I'm like, that's why I have alarms everywhere. - Like that is my fear. That's my fear when I'm alone, which is like, how do I get four kids into a safe space? Like, who's room do you run to first? - I think about the tsunami. - Yeah, who do you run to first? - I told you guys, my mom's like nightmare was all and different. Did I tell you this? Like, we had a pond in our neighborhood growing up and she told us one of her nightmares was that she would get to the pond and all four of us would be in different parts of the pond drowning and she had to decide who to help. - So it's really really dark. (laughing) - Really? - She was like, course, correct? This is like her intrusive thoughts. - It's not like, shut her island. - It never happened, though. - Well, thank God, that you were in the pond. - Yeah, but that's what I think about it. I think that's what we all think about it. - I am a pondering next to my house, and now I'm gonna be thinking about it. - I just really hope everybody listening, like I hope you can relate to this and you're not, like these psychos, or-- - I don't think so. - I don't think it's a mother can relate to it. - Right, it's just like we're constantly worried about saving our kids. - Yeah. - But I will say, bringing it back to how you brought up, like being home alone, like I feel like we can try to help you with, like, 'cause you do enjoy being alone, you enjoy watching your shows. Like, you can also enjoy sleeping alone. - Yeah, you just need to learn. - Just make it cozy. - Yeah, cozy, candle, like no. - No, what candle? (laughing) - I'm not sleeping, like, like while you're watching your TV. - Yeah. - My patch is like making it, like-- - I can't do that. - It's just the second I, like-- - I can't sleep. - Yeah, then it's every scary thing I've ever watched. - So when you're like, "Wait, flood a week." - Yeah, that's what happens. And so I'm really, like, I'm fine during the day by myself. I get stressful, but I'm like, I can, I've been through stressful situations. I can work to this. But then, after the second day, when I've only slept like three hours each night, I'm like, you know, when you don't sleep, you start to become a miserable person. And then it's like, then I snap with the kids quicker. Like, I'm just in a bad mood. - Sleep deprivation is a form of torture. - He is home on the fifth day. I am like, black under eyes. - It's like the meme when he walks in and you're like-- - And I'm like, crawling out of the living room. Like, that's where I need help. (laughing) - She's the girl from the ring. She's like, you know, like, actually-- - I'm so gonna drink it. - And have a shower in four days. So like, actually, I look like some more. Like, you wanna have another giant shampoo? You're just like, you want to say 100% can't relate. My girl, like the first time I saw me, some are in the ring after my kids. - Do you remember how much she haunted all of us? - Guys, I never watched, I don't watch scary movies. And guess what? I don't have the crazy anxiety that you do. I don't watch scary movies. - I do my childhood. - Maybe you need to go in an eye-au-oscow tree and work through it. - This goes back to like, just something to watch out for, being the fourth and the youngest, and like, kind of, you know, being raised by my siblings and wolves, then do you remember seeing a movie, Urban Legends? - No. - It was, oh my goodness. - It was like, 90s, it had-- - That was po-walking, I had Jared Leto. It was a scary movie about Urban Legends. So like, Urban Legends, like, someone's gonna be hiding in the back of your car, someone's gonna be, like, I'm sure a car is gonna split your ankles or whatever. - Do you know how often I get into my car and look at the back seat? My mom always said that. She was like, "You have to look in your back seat." I'm like, "Okay." - Oh yeah. - Well, what am I gonna do if he's back seat? - I think that's a good 90s thing. - Yeah, so the premise of the 90s movie Urban Legends is like, there's a serial killer on a college campus who's killing people by like, all these different Urban Legends. And I watched that when I was in second and third grade 'cause all my siblings were watching it. And I just watched it with them, like, before soccer practice one day. - No, so my fourth definitely watches things where I'm like, "Mah!" Should she be watching, like, should her favorite movie be the real Spider-Man when she's like three, maybe not. But like, that I'm not gonna, there's certain things, I'm pretty strict about what they're allowed to watch with my daughter got really mad at me the other day 'cause she put something on and it was on kids Netflix. And I was like, turn that off that is straight a brain rot. And she's like, "Oh, there's a lot of brain rot on there." - That is brain rot, shut it off. I was like, "We're not watching that." And she's like, "You're not fun." And I'm like, "No, like, I'm not, do you mind?" - Am I supposed to be fun? - No, this is a fun house. - It's pretty much like, no, it's not, this is not meant to be fun. I'm raising some children here. - Yeah, I'm not, I'm not. - It'll be fun one day, not today, not that day. But I will say, like, I think the fourth child of it all, I definitely, the other day, was she dripped and she went, "Oh, shit." I said, "Girlfriend?" - Yep. - No, no, she's like, "Well, you say that when you get hurt, what I do, you're right on my apologies." So she definitely, like, has fourth child energy, where you can tell she's the youngest. Like, and she's absorbed a lot from, like, me and the kids. And like, I can always tell when my, like, my son in particular, like, when he's friends with the kid, I can always tell if that kid is the youngest or the oldest. Like, instantly, you just know, 'cause when they're like a little sweet and innocent, that's an oldest child. - Okay. - And when they're a little bit attacked. - No, when they're a little bit like, they know too that I have attitude. - Wait, so I thought I was cool. - It's also like a confidence, because I have freedom, and just, I have to lose a confidence. Because, like, I remember, it was always like, I would find out about music artists first, 'cause, like, my older siblings were listening. So I be the one who was like, bringing the new music to everybody. - Yeah, I thought, yeah, I definitely thought it was cool. - When you're the oldest, you're kind of like the dweeb at the family. Like, you don't know enough, you know, you're the first one learning about stuff, but you're the youngest, you're not. But I will say, I'm really hyper-conscious of, like, how much attention she gets, and like, how we divide attention amongst everybody, because I don't ever want to, like, you know, when you have kids, like, everybody gets a quilt with their name stitched in it. Did she get any gifts like that? - Yeah. - No, so that I bought them for her. So, like, I just want her to have what every other kid has. - Yeah. - Even though she's the last one. - That's why I never even started a baby book with my first book. - I don't think it's because I was like, I know I'm not going to do it by my third, so I'm not going to create this, I'm going to react to that. She's like, oh, are you going to put that in the baby book? I'm like, we don't have baby books, you know? - I wrote a note to my oldest on her first birthday, and I was like, I'm going to do this on every birthday, and then I haven't wrote a note time. - I just can't do that. So I don't know if it's the 80s, do you have, like, a sentimental? - I am, but you know what I did? I have not a filing cabinet, but, like, a plastic kind of filing bin, where you can put in the phone. - Yeah, I have heard of it too. - And I have them for, like, each year. And then you can, like, slip things in for each year, but it doesn't require gluing, writing, cutting. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - No crafts involved, it's just very plain and simple. - Just put it in just the sorting stuff. - Yeah, I have, like, a little box for me, with their, like, little baby hats from when they were born. - Yeah, I like that stuff. - I have, like, the boutique key. - And then I have, like, their art. Like, I keep that. - Yeah, but, like, yeah, I just don't keep a little baby book. And, like, the baby book my parents kept for me. I'm, like, this is sad. - You know what I did? I did a phone note that, like, was I gonna have? Maybe you told me that or maybe I saw one of your videos on it because it's like when something would happen It's like just write it down. Yeah, and then and then you have that and then you could just add things Yeah, that one day where my son is often at a bar and meets a girl who's trying to do his horoscale But it's like what time are you born I'm like a minute. No, I'm like you were born at 55 55 that me I was born at 301 a.m. That's when I was born 12 why am I not surprised you like is it Monday? Yeah, are we going to work today or Friday? You guys watch boss maybe this boss maybe she was born in her suit with her watch like I have a girl necklace slip back by. I know, but you're just paid. They're just female boss, baby. Well, no, they the part two She used to know a lot of boss. No, my girl my oldest was obsessed with boss baby And they made a part two where the like the boys then became adults and they had daughters So there is like the girl version of it. The kids were watching it the other day. He's pretty funny. It's funny It's really funny. You watch it. Yes. Yeah, I recommend boss. Is there a lot of like parent humor in it? Yes Yes, I love that. I highly recommend it and the kids like my oldest was obsessed with it and it made me It made me get old. So have you guys seen the trailer for the new Shrek movie? I love Shrek. No, but I love Shrek. Shrek is so good But there were some jokes in it that me and my sister-in-law. We were like a guest like the gingerbread man I don't remember if he's the voice. I'm the voice. I'm the voice. I'm the voice. I'm the voice. I'm the voice. It's not the gum drop button. But he had the gum drops on his ass and he was like shaking it the trailer And he's like, I'm all kicked up. He's like, oh, he's Shrek. Yes, really just coming in. That's great because it's like parents laugh and the kids like whatever. It's like he did. It's like he's like just like twerk. It's funny. I'm like, my daughter says that all the time. She's kicked up. No. No, but she'll just be. What's that? She's just always saying, not my gum drop button. Yeah, I feel like we won't Shrek all the time. We quote Shrek and we quote the goonies. My kids love the goonies. Oh my God. That was an old. Yeah, I was going to say that was like the past. It's like the 80s. And the first time we put it on my son was like, you keep saying that's just funny and it's scary. I don't like it. The goon docs. It's a group of young children who live in this like area that's going to be bought by a rich person and they're trying to like save their home. And they like go. I feel like that's a movie where you can give a spoiler because it's like 40 years old. No one's worried about. It's really actually difficult to describe. It's like they go on this adventure. They follow a treasure map. There's a pirate. It's very loose. It's very 80s. But yeah. No, they love that movie. I love Shrek. I'm going to. I'm going to have to see the news. Shrek is so good. Shrek is so good. Yeah. We were literally just jamming in the cards. What's the song? I'm in love. I'm a believer. Yeah. Yeah. I came on the other day and I made me think I want to watch Shrek. Yeah. That's a good one. Okay. Can I actually ask you guys something circling back to when you're so low. Yeah. So we have a very everybody knows this about me. We have a very clear division of labor in our home. And we have like our nighttime like routine where it's like when we're done watching TV. My husband takes the dog out. We always take him out on a leash. We normally just like let him out. But at night we do a leash because we have bears and coyotes and animals bears. We I came over getting my nails done and couldn't get into my driveway because there was a mama bear and a baby bear. What? Sitting my driveway? When? Reason. You never told us. Send us the pictures of bears. That's like a my story. That's a big deal. And they have that. But I don't think of that as a Boston thing. We have bears, bobcats, coyotes, deer. Oh my. Oh my. Oh my. Literally like I had to text our neighbor and be like the bears in your yard. Don't put your dog outside. Like it's like the bear. We have coyotes and Florida and a lot of dogs get. We have this one cut. We'll leave this one fox that was just taunting my dog. But anyways, yeah. Matt takes the dog out. Like that's his job. He takes him out to pee. And then I like put the kids water bottles out for the morning. I put our ice coffee away that we make at night. And like then I go I always I always check the kids. I mean, I know they're breathing. They're old. But I still I do the same. I still check to go in. I go in. I don't know. I retuck them in. Like I make sure their boy gets away. And then I will tuck. If needed. I make sure they're breathing. Yeah. Make sure they're breathing. They're breathing. Yeah. I do. I don't know. For me, it just like it gives me peace of mind. And they're like calm and quiet at that time. It's probably like cute. It's like a quick pick. Yeah. Do you smell their breath? Is that what? It's like baby breath. I know. I know. But it's like your kids. It's different. I've never thought about that. Like in the morning, you know, when they're all like sleepy and like you don't like that. That's why I'm like, can you go brush your teeth? Really? No way. Love it. Have you brush your teeth? I'm always like, can you brush your teeth? Yeah. I like my dog's breath. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But that's I think that's the sign of bacteria. They say that but every single dog's past smell like bacteria. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you think about it. They're walking on this. I'm sorry. Okay. I'm sorry. So my question for you is, right? So when he works an overnight or something or he's not home, I then have to take the dog out. Right? Like that's a task that I really don't enjoy, especially in the winter. And it's like I'm out there on a leash. And for some reason, for me, I think because his novel, Opie's like, oh, well, this is an adventure. Yeah. I take fuck around. I'm like, it's 45 minutes to pee. But with my husband, he's sufficient to go down to pee. He comes in. Like he knows what's happening. But because I don't usually do it. Mama's here. But I feel like there's certain tasks where it's like, I'm a strong independent woman. I can can do this by myself. But I would much prefer my husband to do that. Like, I'll take the trash out. Oh, yeah. There's a lot of stuff I'll do. But like, taking the dog out, picking up dog poop, that's like a, that's a task I don't want. Well, I do that when I walk the dog. But we don't walk him. Like he'll just don't worry. And then he'll just like poop. Oh, that's my husband. Yeah, he's a dad job. Yeah, that's that's what when I husband got home from his five day business. I'm a sharp person. Well, no, he, he got back. And he was like, so you didn't move the trash can. So we're cycling up the driveway. And I was like, nope. Nope, that was not something that was on my radar. I just, and he was like, you miss trash this week. And he wasn't mad about it. He was just like, oh, we're both like, wait, what? You miss trash day? Yeah, I didn't pull it up. Our trash is so intense. I am going to go out there in the dark after the kids go to bed and pull it. Made afternoon. You don't have to do it at night. I, I mean, to put it out to the curb. Yeah, like I push it down. And then my blinds were closed. I didn't look outside. I wasn't going to. I think you have a lot of fear from the content you've watched throughout your life. I'm telling you, this is why you have to monitor what your kids watch because it improves on them. And it's scary because I'm not scared. It probably to a fault where I'm just like like at night out by myself, dragon trash. I'm going to take the trash out and get it snatched up. And people are going to be like, Oh, she's taking the trash out. The kids are husband. So I'm just saying this snatched up thing. I go for a walk with my two girlfriends every multiple times a week. And anytime there's just like a random van on the side of the road there. I cross the street. I'm like, we're not going to be abducted. Actually, no, so this is actually my mom was very, very big on strainer danger as we are spoken about my sister. I were in the front yard playing soccer once and actually a white band and pull over and open the door. I was like, I can't find my dog. Like actually, that is like a real thing that happened to us. And we were like, ah, and ran inside. And like, we were home alone. And we like literally ran inside. And we're like, that was absolutely terrifying. That is actually happened to us. Yeah, they drove away. Yeah, there's like some truth to that rumor. I know, but nowadays it's like with ring cameras. It's like it's much harder. It's also so narcissistic of me to think that somebody wants to like snatch me up that bad. And I was waiting at the top of the street for me about me. Like, you know, nobody really cares about me that much. Like, I should, you know, that's a little bit selfish. Well, she's still not going to take the trash out, I guess. Oh, yeah. No, but it was not. I mean, my husband was a very nice spot. He was like, get it. Your hands were really full. Oh, that's nice. Yeah. Hard work when my husband's gone. I like to eat. I'm not. I don't like to eat. I'm not doing. If you like, you just like got into gardening. We have like a huge garden. So like, it will be like, oh, can you water the plants this day? Sure. But like, I'm not cutting grass. I'm not weeding. I'm not edging. I'm not. Well, I mean, I'm always outside with my birth feeder. And so then when I'm outside, you're getting bad. I got to pick them. So it's like, I, yeah, I will say there's not like a lot on my thing. Like, um, there's not a lot that I won't do that I'm like, that's a him. Yeah, I'm trying to think of something that's like, I killed the bugs now. I killed bugs. I killed the bugs. I killed the bugs. I mean, is that just something we need to. Like, yeah, women are the ones and most people I know it's women who are killing the bugs. Yeah, I'm not afraid of bugs. No, and I think it's also like a motherly instinct comes out. Did I tell you guys about the hornet that was in our house? Oh my gosh. So, um, my husband was in the bathroom. Let out a yelp. Oh, there is a hornet in his sink. And he's like standing a few feet back from it. And it's just like mom, mom of air took over. I just got a shoe. I smacked the fucking hornet. And I was like, get out of my house. Get away from my children. So you killed it. But then I was like, are there more hornets around? And I googled it and it was like do not kill a hornet because it releases a hornet that tells other hornets to come and like a vengeance step. So I was basically up all night, like scouting for hornets because I'm like, they're all going to come. I'm like, very postpart of intrusive thought. Like, I'm like, I'm going to take the baby. I'm like, they're going to take the baby. Um, she's a white baby. Literally, I was like the baby body nervous open. I was like, I have to watch him. But then afterwards, I just looked at him and I was like, get it together, man. What were you doing? - Okay, yeah. - You won some postpartum florida shit. - And two weeks, yeah. - So a job for my husband is killing a snake. If this snake comes around, it happens, he has a job for it. - We definitely get them in our yard. We live on a marsh. - Like snake. - They're just like garden snakes, but then there are some. I forget the name. There's like a song for it where it's like red, yellow, black, like they have certain colors. - Well, your roller house talks about this. - Where like you kill, like there's like one that's poisonous and one that's not and they're all the same colors, but the way they touch, it's different. - Yeah, it's the order of the colors. - Yeah, it's like something, something yellow, kills a fellow, something, something black. I forgot. Anyways, so I was like on the ground. I think it was with my oldest, when she was newly postpartum, anxiety, raging. And I'm laying on the ground. She's like doing tummy time. And I just see like like up our glass like back door. I'm like laying on the floor and it's big one. So yeah, that is a him job. Like, 'cause they just get into your screened in porch and there's a, they're everywhere. - We did family photos recently. And we were in this field. Also, my son was killing me because he kept being like, there's ticks in here. I don't want to be in this field. I mean, it's a big issue. - I mean, he's not mind disease epidemic. - I agree. - Yeah, I agree. But he was like, he hadn't even stepped foot in it. Yeah, and he was like, do you see a tick on me? I'm like, no, not yet. She'll out, yeah. And he kept calling to the photographer. Should be it, can you come over here, buddy? And he'd be like, I'm not going back into that field of itch. - No, I'm not going in there. - I'm not going in there. - I feel like I'm feeling itch. - Just to get bugged, like just to get bugged. - Because I am the one that's 20 by the way. - What a poet. - He says things and we're just like, wow. - What an old soul. - Oh, I feel like he's like downward in the field of itch. - I picked out his cute little outfit. Ready, his little polo, a straight polo and some shorts and these little boat shoes. And it came down an athletic socks up to his knees. And I said, what are you doing? We had even let the ball. And he goes, I don't want ticks. And I'm like, what is really within ticks? I was like teaching him about it. - Where did this friend get a tick? - At camp somebody told him about the tick. That bite you and you can't eat red meat. And they're all very afraid of it right now. So he's very afraid of ticks. Anyways, we're in the field of itch. And down beyond the field of itch, taking photos. And then my husband's like, oh, there's a snake. So all the kids, my kids are not afraid. They're like, where's the snake? These are the running for the snake. - Even your son? - No, he was out of the field of itch. He was like, bye. - All our family photos, he just got this face. Like, I think he's just itchy. So my husband's chasing this snake around and I'm like, what are you doing? - Why? - Because he's trying to catch up for the kids. And like, when the bear was in the driveway, I called him, I said, there's a bear in the driveway because I couldn't get in. What does he do? He comes outside to look at it with the children. And he's like, oh, I thought it was like, like how cool, like we could see a bear. I'm like, what if that bear from the window? Killed exactly from the window. And then in my car, I'm like, I don't know. - Oh my gosh. - Oh my gosh. - I could see Paige with like her range through the window. - I mean, yeah. - So he's just, he's supposed to be like, oh, snake. Let's get it. I'm like, no, let's not get the snake. - No, let's kill it. - So he's trying to chase this snake. And I'm telling kill it. - Oh, I'm using the field of itch. That's different. - That's my home. - Yeah, I entered my home. - The field of itch is where it lives. So I was saying to the photographer. I was like, you know, I saw this tick-tock of this guy who had a snake and he's like a, he was one of those guys, he was like a reptile, I don't know, it was like a reptile. - No, he was saying he said, you know that most people who get bit by snakes are men, or not most people, but like he said, when women get bit by a snake, it's almost always on the foot. When men get bit by a snake, it's almost always in the face. No, because they grab it and they look at it and they bite from the face. So because it's like, why are you trying to pick up this snake? - That's evolution. - That is natural selection. - Yeah. - Why are we the ones not running shit? It's like, I'm not trying to pick up this snake. - Well, it seems like we need to get Rob Rausch on the podcast. - I don't know who that is. - Oh my gosh. - Is it Rob Rausch? - I am so excited to tell you about Rob Rausch. - Yeah. - He was odd. So he originally was on a season six of Love Island, U.S., five or six. - I totally agree. - He was a contestant. - He was a contestant on Love Island. - Took the world by storm. - I could not find it, okay. - You would recognize him. His whole thing is he is like a snake hunter catcher, I don't know, extraordinary. But he is now surpassed Love Island. He was on traitors, spoiler alert. He won the season of traitors. - Traitors, cute. - Yes, the first picture of him in a pair of overalls with a snake tattoo on his shoulder. - Yes, well that is like everybody's like where was this man hitting our whole life? - Oh, he's got lots of snake tattoos. - He is a snake hunter. Like that's what he does, he makes content. - Oh wow. - I think he's from Florida. - Probably. - And he just hunt snakes. - He's probably from the Everglades. - He's been on like late night shows and then literally show him every type of snake and he can like name it and like say, he goes to like, he travels the world looking for snakes. - I will actually say his attractiveness drops, drops a lot from the snake tattoos. The snake tattoos are not my vibe. - Well, when you know, it's a style way and it's not like a weird, and if I saw him out in the wild and I was like, I guarantee if you saw him out in the wild, you want to be like, eh, that is an attractive man. - Because he talked about this. It's like-- - There's no attractive men. - There are attractive women everywhere you go. I don't even remember when I seen attractive women because it is so frequent. So many women I know in my personal life just walking on the street are so free. It's like freaking beautiful. Like it is just so common to run into beautiful women. Whereas an attractive man, you remember. - That really takes your breath away. - I did. - Like I would maybe see two years later. - Years later. - Do you remember that man and down yonder? - Yeah. - But he's nothing like he was so-- - Well, like I have a few I'm thinking of that it's like, wow, like they took my breath away. But like men don't take your breath away like women do. - No. - Women take my breath away all the time. - And Paige, what did you bring up? Yes, sure. The difference between-- - But there's a difference between how men like men don't just, they're attractive. They're attracted to a lot of women. They don't just find them attractive. Like they won't be like that woman's attractive, but I'm not attracted to her. Like they're attracted to many women whereas for most women, they can say like that man is attractive, but I'm not attracted to that. - And then as soon as he opens his mouth. - Oh, then you're like not at all. - Yeah. - Yeah. Well, it depends on the man. - Depends on the man. - Yeah. Well, I tell my friends who are single and dating, I'm like, let me tell you, like the way he looks matters, yes, of course you want to be attracted to your partner. But I'm telling you, in 20 years, that's not what you're going to be thinking about. You're going to be like, is he kind, is he nice, is he like, is he helping with the children? - Is he helping with the children? - Yeah. - So does he have a gross wet towel? - No, we're not. - Yeah. - I mean, not to bring it to a dark place, but it's like even, I feel like, like when I talk about like a people are like, I'm, you can't believe, like you and your husband, you get through things together so well. And I'm like, yeah, well, he had to be there with me while my mom was dying of cancer. Like, yeah. It does not matter. I mean, I am attracted to my husband, so that's great too, but it's like it really doesn't matter because you go through so much shit that it's like, it's a great bonus. - Yeah. And it's funny, what men think women find as attractive, because I was, when I was at that girl's weekend, a few weeks ago, and we were at the bar, guessing young men's ages. - Yeah. - One of them said, well at least I still have a full head of hair or something like that. And I was like, hey, you might not be staying the same to him when you're 35. You might not have a full head of hair. - Yeah. - And he's like, I hope that's not me. - He's being sent a bar. - You're like, no, I was like, what would I do? I could song you like, and pay just like, your hair. - Your hair couldn't follow at any day now. So he was being rude, he was talking disparagingly about bald men, and I said it's my husband is bald. - And at his mind. - That's what I mean. - I know, that's what I mean. - Bald is over here. But I was like, you know, don't be mean to the men who are bald first and foremost, it's out of their hands. I can do it. I would feel very upset if people were saying that about me. And I am proud of the men that we call that come home. We say, just come home. Like the ones that hold on, and they have the receding, and the feeling of, it's like come home. - Yeah. - And then you can, you can actually grow, they tend to have more, just Matt has beer, right? - Matt has beer, but the guy who has a hard time. - No. - So like, I had been telling him, like in a really nice way, he had beautiful long, like silky hair work. And I was like, hey, you're just like thinning a little bit like in the top of your head. And I was like maybe stop wearing hats every day, or like I was like, maybe it's your hard hat. Like because he wears a hard hat. - Yeah. - And I'm like, he's always had something. So like, hey, maybe just take a break from that, whatever. You're a little bit like back here in a very nice way. And he's very kind. He's giving, like, you're so mean. Like, why are you saying these things? Why are you, like, and I was like, I'm not trying to be mean. I'm trying to be kind. One day I come home. He's fully bald. - And I'm like, what happened? - They have a Britney Spears moment. Luke, did the whole thing, like, I came home and he was just bringing, and I'm like, what's happening? And he's like, Paige, how have you been letting me walk around like this? I said, excuse me. - He saw me. - He saw me. - He saw the ring camera. - The picture. - And he was taking the trash out. - I saw the back of the trash for several. - On the ring. And he was like, how have you not said anything? Like, I have you tried. - I tried, babe. - How are you supposed to do that in a respectful way? - I was trying so well. - You could, like, take a picture and be like, what's your heart? - What's your neck? And then he'd be like, oh my gosh. - Yeah, but no, he had to get there himself. - See Luke, we'll see Luke's just the front ball day, so we can see him, he didn't have the back, my dad had the back ball day, but. - I've seen so many TikTok transformations where it's like the before and after, where it's like first their ball day, and it's like you can tell, like, the laughing and self-crotation life. - It's hard. I can imagine having had your whole life. - I saw one that went really viral on all the comments, we're like, okay, ball, Zaddy, like, yeah, like, all these things. - Sometimes you find it way more attractive. I'm like, you look way better. - It is, way better. - 10 out of 10 times it is more attractive. - You do it. - And you always do it. - Because it's not only the physical appearance, but it's the confidence that then changes. - You know what? Like, let's knock the, like, not knock the ball boys, the ball boys look good. - We have two great ball boys. - But I think this is important for men to hear, not that any of them listen to this podcast, but if they wear-- - But if they weren't your husband's boyfriend. - If they were. - If they were. - Friends that are balls. - We are not the ones judging you for going bald. - No. - We're actually performing. - I wonder if they're mean to each other. - They just like the calves. They're like, oh, a skip leg day, bro. Move your hair, bro. - No, but like, come on. - But again, come on. - Come on. - Come on. - Come on. Don't be walking around with a bunch of little like pubes hanging off your head thinking you have a head of hair Yeah, you know, I don't know. I think I'll make fun of each other But then the day if they're getting laid they're happy, you know what I mean like it doesn't Who cares if your friend? I don't know. Yeah confidence is the sexiest thing for men or women It doesn't matter what the fuck you look like But if you can walk in a room and like that energy that's Conversation me and my friends about like the Bermuda like Jean shorts. Oh, yes, those are back It's all about the confidence so you have to be one of those for them And it's like we put my my friend put them on in her girls weekend She was like I look like a loser and we were like no, it's because you think you look like a loser We are like put your shoulders back put your head up. Junk's up. Yeah, Junk's up eyes out and like walk out there And that's the difference. I will say as a shorter girl She's not short. I'm short They are they make me look much shorter than I am I mean, I want to wear them so badly. It's because we wore them in like seventh grade And so it's like I have to be okay with like coming it'll come Maybe I'm sure I prefer a Bermuda short because of like my very pose And stuff I'm like I would love the long short. Yeah, so maybe I'll I'll give them a try Send me your link with confidence. Yeah, Bermuda sure shorts for the girls shaving your head for the boys a very attractive society Aging is beautiful confidence confidence, baby beautiful. Yeah, all right. Well, we have a lot to talk about But I feel like we got to go. 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