105. Shedding Your Old Identity: What to Do (and Not Do) in the Liminal Space

Hello and welcome to the Soul Alignment podcast. My name is Chiara and I'm a channel energy healer and Soul mentor. This podcast is here to inspire and support you to live a Soul Aligned magical and fulfilling life. I will share with you guidance, practices, interviews and inspiring insights so that you can start to align with your soul and connect to your deepest essence. I'm so excited for you to be here. Hello beautiful people and welcome back. I am so excited to share this episode with you. Maybe you have listened to my last episode, the one before this one, and if you did, then you might have heard that I am currently going through a big, big death and rebirth portal and I essentially was very unexpectedly guided to completely let go of the group program that I've been running for three years and to also let go of my plans that I had for a membership for those who have completed this group program. And this came in a very unexpected way and so I kind of started this year looking at a completely blank slate and this for sure wasn't an easy process if you're interested to hear how all of that went definitely listened to the previous episode. And in those last six weeks where I have been going through so much transformation and so much dying of old parts of me, old identities, I've learned a lot that I would like to share with you today so that if you're currently in the process of shedding an old identity or you're in the process of claiming a new identity or you might find yourself in between two different timelines and you haven't yet fully let go of the old but you're also not yet fully aligned with the new. Then this episode is for you because in this episode I'm going to share with you the things that I've learned and that I've implemented and did during this time that have really really really helped me and that I think are incredibly important to do or not do if you are going through a period of this and I thought I would just share so you can take whatever resonates if you're in this process currently or you might find yourself at this point in the future. So let's just dive in. The number one thing that has helped me and the last couple of weeks where I was really going through the deep end and where I really felt like okay everything is falling apart everything is kind of crumbling around me I have had the perfect plan and now there's absolutely no plan anymore. The one thing that has helped me the most I would say is to be in silence to sit in silence and to just listen and the reason why I think this is so important is because only when you're silent only when you're not distracting yourself when you're not trying to find inspiration somewhere or trying to find a solution or trying to get out of this state that you're currently in only then will you actually be able to hear the whispers of your soul the whispers of your intuition your guides and all of these beings and yourself your high self that are trying to help you and support you during this time. So what I've done in in the last couple of weeks was really take time every single day to sit in silent meditation and to just sit and witness and listen and not do anything and this has been really profound because that is where I could really start to feel things falling away but where I could also feel my guides coming in to support me new insights coming in new understandings and more and more like now that I'm starting to to get out of it what I started to happen is that I'm also feeling clarity emerge and really the sense of okay there is a new vision that is coming in and you will only be able to see that or hear that when you're actually silent because otherwise you might actually miss it because if you're trying to distract yourself if you're trying to just get it over with if you're trying to just let this this whole uncomfortable period which most likely is if you're just trying to get out of that as quickly as possible you're probably missing out on a lot of gold that is actually coming your way and so even if it's just 10 minutes a day honestly sometimes it was literally just 10 minutes in the morning and that does make a difference and I mean sometimes it doesn't even have to be sitting in silent meditation if that's not something that that works for you or if that's not something that you want to do or can do even if you just go for walk outside where there's not a lot of people and you're just there by yourself and you're just walking and you're not doing anything else you're not listening to anything you're not maybe you're not looking at your phone or anything you're not talking to anyone you're literally just with yourself in silence and I think this is really really really important because at this moment of or this time of shedding an old identity and really letting go of something that is not aligned with you anymore that can be really uncomfortable and really scary like for me for example I started this year thinking I have the perfect plan I know exactly what I'm doing when I'm doing it what I'm offering who my clients are I was sure and then January the first week of January came and everything just started falling apart and that can be really scary and so it's that time in silence when you really sit in silence where the new things can start to drop in and so definitely take that time even if you're no matter why you're going through an uncomfortable situation or you're going through a difficult time sitting in silence is so so important because this is what will actually help you create the space to receive the the path forward and to connect with a new vision because otherwise you're just kind of keeping yourself stuck in something that is not you anymore. Secondly what's really important and what I've been doing so much in the last six weeks is resting literally resting sleeping not doing anything and to be honest for me this wasn't always easy because I'm usually very active I always do a lot of things and if you know me you know that I usually have like ten different projects at a time I'm a manifesting generator so I always have this urge to like immerse myself and like so many different things all at the same time and so not doing anything not having a plan not working towards something was actually really challenging but I also could feel that my body is asking for rest and the thing is when you're in between two different identities or two different timelines your entire system is recalibrating and it's one working on letting go and on the other hand it's working on bringing in the new codes and the new patterns and the new things that are meant to be part of you and your and your life and your timeline and so your system is putting a lot of energy into aligning with that and especially when you're still in this phase of really shedding a lot and releasing a lot and letting go of a lot you there's a lot of energy that is needed for that because you might need to release you might need to let go of limiting beliefs of all patterns maybe it's ancestral things maybe it's past life things that actually need to be let go of and this takes time and energy and effort for your entire energy system and also for your physical body because you're literally shifting and so it's really important to to give yourself as much rest as you can so that there is actually this this time for for or there is the space for something new to come in and so what I did is I slept a lot like I often like most days I didn't even set an alarm anymore in the morning which I usually do because I like to get up early and I like to do my morning practice and all of these things but I could really feel like no this is not the time for it like it's the time to actually just sleep and to just rest and and not do anything and this is why I've just allowed myself that time and I'm still kind of in that and have been for for weeks so right now I'm not still not really setting an alarm but I'm noticing that I'm starting to wake up more and more and more early so I can really feel that okay my system has had a lot of rest and a lot of pause and so now it's by itself naturally starting to wake up early again because I have more energy and but I do think that rest is incredibly important to not feel like oh but I need to do more I need to now I need to work even harder so that I can align with this new thing like no just just take a break for a moment because that's often the the most helpful thing that you can actually do when you're in this process and then the third thing that has really really helped me is ritual consciously taking time to connect with your soul to connect with your guides and your highest timeline in ritual whatever this might look for you is really really really helpful so yes sit in silence and don't reach for anything for some time but also consciously take time to to put out that energy and set that intention to connect with your soul to connect with your guides to connect with your highest timeline so that you can receive the next steps and or maybe not even the next steps maybe just the reassurance that everything's fine and everything will work itself out and you're good because sometimes that's literally what you need in this time that someone or something says you're going to be okay it's it's not as bad as it looks and so yeah taking time to to for example light a candle or write down things that you want to release and burn them or consciously intentionally call in your guides and let them know I'm ready to receive guidance on this I'm ready to receive or work on the things that I need to work on to share the things that I need to share or I'm ready to to listen I'm ready to for you to to let me know what it is that I might need to be doing or not doing and what you can also do in in a ritual like this is really connect with your highest timeline like one set the intention to actually connect to your highest timeline and that is currently available to you and then to really feel into that like feel into what does this actually feel like what is this this this energy what is this version of myself that that I am stepping into because that can really help to get an idea of okay what is it actually that I'm that I'm making space for so connecting with your highest timeline can be incredibly supportive as well what you can also do and this is just coming to mind is connect with your future self like for example call in the future version of you who has already gone through this whole challenging transformation shedding period and who's already on the other side and call that version of yourself in and feel into her energy notice like what is different about this version of me compared to who I am now like what does she believe what does she wear if you if you can see her visually or him visually how does she move through the world and really feel into okay what is this energy that I'm being asked to embody and then ask yourself or her like if you if you really call her in have a conversation with her ask her what can I do to embody you more like what are the steps that I need to take in order to actually align with you and align with this this version of myself because the thing is it's all already in you like it's not it's not something outside of yourself it's not this like shiny new version that that is completely different to who you are it's still you at your essence it's just another version of of who you already are so it's something that that you just have to unlock inside of yourself it's not something that that you have to kind of grasp or bring in from the outside it's really something that is in you and so this is something that we all can connect with the next thing and this is also really important and I had a very interesting lesson on this a couple of days ago and the next important thing is when you're in this shift between two different identities when you're really wanting to align with a new version of you or a new timeline don't try to push it or make it go faster don't try to be like okay I am going to take all these steps and do all these things and then it has to come in like don't go in with this energy of okay I'm going to make it happen now and quickly and I mean as I said I have been resting a lot I have been taking a lot of time to process but at the same time of course there's also this part of me that's really impatient and that's like okay we've done the resting we've done the sleeping we've done the rituals so can we just get it over with now and can we just move on and this is not something well this is something that obviously is there like I think almost everyone has this part and I for sure do that's like okay we've done this but now give me the direction give me the clarity and so I get it like I know it's hard to just stay with with the uncertainty like that's the the hardest part for most people because when you're in uncertainty your mind can always come in and be like okay but what if it doesn't work out what if I'm not going to make this money what if I am not going to get the next idea or the next the next thing like what if I'm just going to stay stuck and your mind is really good at like making up these scenarios scenarios and for example last Friday I think it was yeah I yeah I just had this day where I was like okay I've basically been doing nothing all week like almost nothing all week I have been resting a lot I've been reading a lot I haven't done much so maybe we should just kind of try to like go and get it now and so this whole day I was just in this in this energy of I have to find it now I have to find the the solution I have to channel this this next this next program this next version of me it has to be all clear and I'm going to to make it clear now I'm going to get that clarity now and I could notice that this is a part of me that's just really impatient and at the same time I couldn't fully disconnect from it I was just I kind of went with it and I was like okay let's do let's do this meditation let's do this ritual let's do this this thing let's read this again and and try to kind of try to kind of get more clarity and I know that this is not the the right approach like I know that and I think we all know that and at the same time yeah sometimes we kind of fall into into this trap and so like all day I was really in my head being like what could it be and writing down things and trying to like make up ideas from my mind even though I know this is not how it how it works like this is not how how I'm going to get the the clarity and so this whole day I was just feeling really stuck and really kind of frustrated and then the day went by nothing came in no new clarity just more frustration I was like okay this is this is so annoying and then I went to the gym in the evening with my partner and this was the first time during that day where I was not hyper focused on obsessing about getting more clarity and like finally getting like all the pieces together and that's where got interesting because in the gym I was just focused on lifting the weights and and doing the things that I do there and like I did that for like an hour and then I just went on the treadmill for like a couple of minutes and as soon as I was on there like the first thing I noticed was my head feels really clear the second thing I started noticing as I was just on the treadmill was that suddenly all of these ideas and insights and clarity just started dropping in and I'm like okay yeah of course of course because now is the first time that I'm not hyper fixating on this thing and I'm actually just allowing and just kind of letting go for a moment and that's when it actually happens so I think the most important thing here is not to because yeah we do fall into these things sometimes and it happens and it happens to everyone even if you know that this is not the way and that you're not going to to get clarity just from your mind especially if you're a channel or healer or you have a solo land business like it's not going to come from your mind of course not and you know that probably but at the same time if you find yourself falling into that try to at least do something to break this whole pattern and this whole mind thing for example like for me it was going to the German was like lifting weights for an hour and then being like oh my god like I haven't focused and fixated on this thing for for for an hour and suddenly everything just starts flowing in because my mind is just clear and that's actually space for for new things to come in and I'm not like strangling this the clarity with like by me just like trying to get it right now so I was yeah just like they're walking on the treadmill being like oh my god okay this is this is amazing this makes so much sense this thing that thing and everything was just there and I'm like okay yeah we know that and it was just funny to observe like my hyper fixation during that day like literally absolutely no result and then as soon as you let go it's like okay there there it is and so I think that is really important like don't try to push it don't try to make it go faster because it's there it will come in but only if you open only if you're actually allowing things to come to you and when you get from this this state of taking action and wanting to get it into the state of surrendering and just allowing and being open to actually receive it another thing that I think is really important is to ask for support like when you're in this time where you really feel yourself struggling and you feel like you everything around is just crumbling and you just not you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel like ask for support talk to people talk to your friends talk to the people that you trust and potentially also hire mentors or others to support you for example like during this time I talk to my partner obviously and also some of my my close friends and just really let them know where I'm at and and what is happening just to to have someone witness me in this and this can be challenging for some people and it's definitely something that I needed to to learn as well because it's usually easy to share when things are going great for you but it's not as easy when you're actually really struggling and you don't actually know what is going to happen so I really made that a practice to to share myself with people when I'm really not feeling well and when things are just feeling really hard because that's actually when you start to learn to be to be vulnerable and when people can actually start to feel you and what I also did during that time is I started working with with two new mentors during this time and this is really something like I could feel this this coming in and I could really feel this okay this is like a full body yes and I'm not like reaching out to them from a space of feeling yeah feeling really desperate but from the sense of okay this is this is the person that will that can help me access this this new version of me and you can actually hold me during this time and so I did that and I would highly recommend that to anyone who's going through a challenging time because that support can really help you make sense of everything that is happening and then lastly what I also think is really important is to connect to ask yourself what is it that you're actually needing to let go of like what is what are the things the belief systems the patterns the the versions of you the the limitations that you actually need to shed and let go of so that you can step into this new version of yourself and for that it actually really helps to connect with the future version of you so that you can really see okay what is the difference between me and her or me and him and what do I still need to release so that I can align with this version of me like what does this version of me believe that I don't yet believe and really doing deep belief work around that and really seeing okay where where do I still need to release something where do I still need to let go of something where do I still need to reprogram something so that I can align with this with this new version of me and what always helps me and what I did during this time as well as to also work with with a healer and like one of the people one of the mentors that I'm working with is a healer so we also did work around like okay what is what are the things that I'm that I'm needing to release and where can I how can I let those go is it past lifetimes is it ancestral patterns like where does it come from and how can release it so that I'm actually free and able to step into this new version of me and then the last thing that I can highly highly recommend if you're in a process like this is to consider a physical detox and today is actually day nine of a nine day detox that I've been doing in in the last week and it was really interesting for me to notice that last week or like before last week just yeah before just before last week started I actually had a really strong call to do another cleanse another detox and the thing is I usually do this like two times a year and I've already done one in November so like my normal cycle would have probably been to do another one in like April or May or something like that but I really felt the strong call to to do one now and what I feel that this has to do is because I mean obviously the body the energy body the physical body the emotional body they're all connected so it only makes sense that while I'm in this process of really shedding a lot and releasing a lot and letting go of a lot of old parts all the identities all beliefs that my physical body is also craving deeper cleanse so that it can actually hold that that new version of me energetically and so I would highly recommend you to consider doing some form of physical detox during this time because it really helps to to align your physical body with the shifts that you are going through emotionally energetically spiritually in with your astro body and all of that and I I mean today is the last day and I'm really noticing how doing this has massively increased my channel my clarity in the last couple of days how I'm really feeling so much lighter on all levels and I really think that yeah in order to hold like a new frequency your physical body actually needs to catch up and one of the best ways you can do that is to help it release whatever is not serving anymore and I always get asked this when I talk about this but for those of you who haven't heard me talk about it before I'm always doing the 369 cleanse by Anthony William also known as medical medium and I mean generally this cleanse this information has quite literally saved my life a couple of years ago when I was incredibly sick and I had tried absolutely everything nothing helped and then I found this information and this cleanse and it literally changed everything for me it changed my entire life and it was also the beginning of my spiritual awakening and I still believe that the only reason I was able to open my channel and my psychic ability so quickly during that time was because I was doing this cleanse repeatedly to let go of all of the toxins and the stuff that I was holding in my physical body so that my physical body was actually able to hold a new version of me and actually open up to higher frequencies because if your physical body is vibrating on a quote-unquote low frequency if you're holding a lot of toxins a lot of heavy metals which honestly most of us do just considering the world that we live in and releasing that really allowed me to massively shift my frequency to be able to hold a strong channel and psychic abilities and all of these insights so yeah I could talk about this forever I'm not going to now but what I want to say is really consider this if you're if you're going through an identity shift and if you're going if you're in between two timelines this can really help you shift into the new because it's it's helping your physical body actually create capacity and and align with the frequency that you're looking to align with on all other levels so I hope this was helpful and please do let me know I actually got so many messages and emails about the last podcast episode of like people telling me that they're going through the same thing or that they've experienced something similar and yeah I really appreciate that and so please do let me know if you have any questions also always feel invited to let me know if there are any specific topics that you would like 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