Malcolm reflects on a vibrant mix of personal experiences, creative passions, and interpersonal dynamics. His time at Coachella left a lasting impression, not just from the music but from the overwhelming social energy that drained him emotionally. He deeply values live musical performances, citing "Turn Style" and LCD Sound System as transformative experiences that reconnected him with the emotional power of music. His flip-flops, created with a friend, become a symbol of personal expression and playful connection. He shares a close bond with sister Audrey, noting shared traits and unmet potential for deeper collaboration. Malcolm reflects on his basketball journey, a school victory as a non-team player, and his past struggles with marijuana use, which he now views as a formative, albeit difficult, experience. He discusses his creative partnership with Asher Cartman and expresses excitement about touring with Don’t All Ever, particularly at Madison Square Garden. The deactivation of his Instagram causes frustration, highlighting his deep reliance on social media. He openly identifies with OCD behaviors, including ritualistic habits around technology and routine, and shares how these affect his daily life. He offers thoughtful advice on handling roommate theft and a partner’s gambling habits, emphasizing empathy, boundaries, and clear communication. Malcolm values creative collaboration and draws inspiration from music legends like Joni Mitchell. He concludes with a recommendation to watch *Post-Grad* as a guide for post-college friendship-building in New York, underscoring his belief in courage and authenticity in forming new connections.
(upbeat music) - This episode we have "Malcom's Hard-Ord." - Hi, Malcolm. - Hi, Jake. - Last time I saw you was at Coachella. - Yeah, love Coachella. - Did you have fun? - It was cool. Honestly, after Coachella, I didn't talk to anyone for three weeks. - Why, what? - Because it was, I think, too many, too many handshakes. It took the energy drained out of me from all the like, you know, if you met this guy and it's like, hey, what's up, I'm Malcolm. And it's like, you're never gonna remember my name. I'm gonna never gonna remember your name. It's kinda disheartening. - I did that to you. - Yeah, but I remember you. - No, but I did that to you. I introduced you to you. - Oh, yeah, for sure. And of course, that's a part of the culture of it, but it's just like, I think the music was great. Had a lot of like-- - Would you see? - I saw, my favorite act was "Turn Style." You know what, I'm sad I missed them. - Yeah, and I just kinda happened to stumble upon them. And I don't really listen to "Turn Style." And it was the best, it was like spiritual and beautiful. And it was cool to discover live music, or like music through a live performance. - That's my favorite thing. - Yeah, which I didn't know I loved that. And now now I'm like, oh, wait, I need to do this more. - Yeah. - Are you, that's the only time that's ever happened to you? - Yeah, I saw LCD sound system, and I hadn't really listened to them. I heard a few songs, but I hadn't really listened to them in depth, and I saw them live. And that was the other time. And that's it. - Do you wanna tell me about this flip flops? - Yeah, they're actually my friends' brand. - Okay. - Yeah, my friend Evan makes them, but I've just been like, really flipping and flopping with my shoes. - Do you like how one-you, do you like when you walk and it makes the, like, sounds? - I guess I don't really realize it. Is it like SpongeBob when he walks and it's like, - Right. - Yes. - Yeah, I'm down to have a sound effect with my walk, then people can know when I'm coming. - You haven't noticed a sound effect with those flip flops? Those flip flops look like they spring back on the heel. - They totally do. Actually, just, I was rocking these other flip flops and then I put these on the day. These are kind of like, am I like, I'm kind of showing out for you. - Oh, you are? Well, you know I called Audrey about this. - She told me. - Oh, she did? - Well, yeah, she did. - Well, of course. - Well, of course. - Well, of course. - When you're telling me something, you're telling my sister's type B. - Are you guys best friends? - Yeah. Of course. - Samaritan. - No, it's true. Actually, I feel like most aren't for some reason. It feels like siblings don't get along as they should. - But she told me you're great at basketball. - That's what she told me she told you. (laughing) She said, like, she was like, I told them to ask you about basketball. I was like, I don't know why she said that too. I'm okay. She said you'd be, you loved basketball. - I love basketball. I still love it. And did you play in high school? - My, my claim to fame with basketball on high school is that I didn't play on the team. I played baseball quit to, like, Tretheater, which is another story, but like, anyways, didn't play on the basketball team, but in senior year, they were doing a three on three, like, school-wide basketball tournament. And, like, the players on the team would play in it. And I took two of my friends that weren't on the team, and we won, the whole thing. - John, you guys had not played basketball. - Yeah, we weren't, like, on the team, but we played basketball, but we weren't, like, on the team and making our whole personality. And then we won. - And we're the people that were on the team so embarrassed. - Yeah. - And I have this hole in my jeans, and I'm just like, yeah. That's just the right amount of real estate. - Well, I would assume you're wearing underwear. You'd assume. - I would. - I would hope so. - I am. - You know, anyone that just, like, raw dogs pants. - Asher Cartman. - Who? - From South Park? - No, no, no, no. - Asher Cartman, my-- - Oh, that's Eric Cartman. - Eric Cartman. No, Asher Cartman's one of my best friends, and he's in my band, and I just totally blew his shit up, but yeah, he-- - I mean, he seems to probably blow his own shit up. - Yeah, no, he's nuts. He's like, he's amazing. You'd love him. - Well, he's kind of lover or hate him. - Really? - Yeah. Some people say that about me. - Okay, I think it's a, I think it's a very, like, it's a high integrity quality. - Oh my God, tell me more. - It's also so hot in here now. It was so cold outside, I know it's so hot. - And it was cold outside in the waiting room or in the outside, like of the world outside. - Both. - Okay, 'cause it just started getting hot in the real world outside. - I know. - Which was really random, 'cause it was gloomy as F. - You're on the East Side now? - East Side King. - Do you love the East Side? Someone's gonna hold it down over there. - I feel like a lot of people are holding it down. - I know, I know. I like the East Side, but I grew up on the West Side. Where'd you grow up? - New York. - Where in New York? - Washington Heights. - Is that from. - In the Heights? - Yeah. - Yeah. - Is that the play you were in when you tried theater? - No, Audrey was in it though. They did that when I was like in eighth grade, and she was in junior or something. - What play did you do when you tried theater? - I did, it was called something rotten. - Do you remember any of it? - I was in the troop, I was in the ensemble, and I danced around and I loved the musical. I actually saw the musical on Broadway too before they, and we were the first high school production of it ever. - Wow! - Thanks. - Um, but it was cool. - Do you remember any of the songs? - Yeah, I was like, "What's that coming out of the. " It's called like the black plague. That was the song I sang. I didn't even, it wasn't even so low. - I would imagine. - 'Cause you were in the troop. - It wasn't a fricking troop. - Yeah, it wasn't a one-man troop, sadly. I would have been down for it to be a one-man troop. - Do you smoke weed? - No, I haven't in like five years. - Were you a big stoner in high school? - Well, yeah, I just like was smoking weed like sophomore year, high school, like all the time, and then I realized that's not my swag, and I don't, I swear to God, I'll never smoke weed ever again in my life. I freaked out. - Wait, why? What happened? - It just like doesn't mesh well with my brain at all, and it made me very frickin' weird. - Yeah, it's just like, it clearly is like four people and not four people. And if it's not for you, like, it's not for you, and it's not for me. - It's definitely not for me, but I love it. Okay, so you'll like explain. - Like, it's like for me, you know how people are like, I love like a glass of wine at the end of the day? - I'm sure. - I love just like smoking a little bit at the end of the day, just laying down. - So it is my mind-worth. - Yeah, there you go, that. - Well, then after those 10 minutes, 'cause that only lasts 10 minutes. That whole experience is only 10 minutes. After those 10 minutes, it's downhill, really bad. - Really, really. - Like, just like freaking out about stuff. - Yeah, and the next day I'm still freaking out, like today was just tears. - Tears. - Mm-hmm, interesting. Does it make you like kind of cloudy? - Always. - Okay, so it's for, well, better be a good fucking 10 minutes. - It's the best 10 minutes of all time. I do my best work in those 10 minutes. - Good for you. Yeah, I think, I don't think it's worth it. I wouldn't, it sounds like a nightmare. - It is. - Okay. - That's how I would describe my life. - Okay, a nightmare. That's cute. Malcolm. - You're still in the nightmare? - No, no. When's your birthday? - I'm a Virgo. September 15th, 2003. - So are you like super controlling? - No, I think everyone wants control to a certain extent, but I don't think I would be over-controlling. But, you know. - I like being in charge. - You know. - Do you like being in control? - On a night out? - No. - I like somebody to make the plan. You tell me where we're going. - Sure we'll go. - We'll feel you, feel you. - Like set it up. I don't want to pay. - Yeah. For sure. It's way easier to be told what to do. Like, and you don't have to bear the consequences of having made the decision. In case, you know, it's like so easy. Be like, oh, I don't care, I'm easy. And then like, if it's not fun, you'll be like, no, this is fun. Instead of like, if you made the decision, it's not fun, you're like, I'm so sorry. Like, I fucked it all up. - I wouldn't do the second part. - I'd be like, well, you guys chose to follow me, so. - Okay. - Right? - You should make more decisions for yourself. You sound like you have that setting. - I hate pressur. - Okay, pressur. - Pressur, you're makes diamonds. If you haven't heard. - I haven't heard that. (laughs) I like pressur. - Ooh, pressur makes diamonds. - Yeah. - How naughty I love that. (laughs) - Do you like pressur a little more now? - Yeah, I do. It makes it make it, mm, mm. So, is it one of your songs sampled in a Don't All Ever Song? - Yeah. - It's called Chest Pain. 'Cause I love, I love, I love. - Ah! - Yeah. - That's E85! - Yeah. E85. And then now, I guess, yeah. I don't know when this comes out. Probably not in the next three days, but I'm about to go. - On tour. - Yeah, I'm about to go on tour. And then before I go on tour, I'm gonna go and play that song with him in New York. - Sa'det. - Yeah, in like the few days. - Are you so excited? - Yeah, I'm just gonna go open play the guitar and shred. And like, I love it. I don't have to talk. I just get to hold the guitar and look at it. So, it's like the dream of all dreams. And be next to Don't All Ever. What? - What, where are you doing this? - Madison Square Garden. - Wow! - Is he gonna be like, "And Malcolm Todd?" - I don't know. - I'm down to just like totally slide in there and like not even make a peep. Like, and if you know who I am, then it's really exciting for you. And if you don't, I'm just in the band. Kind of like that vibe more. But you can say my name. ♪ Say my name, say my name ♪ - So, how do you find out that? Well, I guess they would have asked if they could sample it. - Yeah, they sent it to me like a long time ago. And I was like, this is really good. And then, and I didn't hear anything about it for so long. And then they were like, it's track one on the album. That's it.
Well, that's really cool, and that's like this huge song, and I'm very honored to be a part of it. And Don, Don Tov is so good. So good. The new album is amazing. Yeah, yeah, I love it. Are you excited for your new album? Super excited. I love making music, I love singing it, I love playing it for people, fricking living the dream. Mm-hmm. You and Audrey are the same person. Yeah. Do you get that a lot? Yeah. Yeah, we're pretty similar. She was on this podcast. Yeah. How much screen time, your off screen time have you gotten with Audrey? Not enough. Not enough. We were just talking about it. Not enough. Yeah, you guys would probably have a blast. Yeah, we were on FaceTime for a while the other day. I didn't want to get off. Maybe she could plan one of your nights out. Does she, does she enjoy planning nights out? I don't think it's like one of her like, I don't think it revs her engine, but I think she could do a good job. Mm-hmm. You know what I'm saying? Well, Malcolm, what are you therapist about today? Did I'm therapist about my freaking Instagram getting deactivated? Yeah, how did that happen? I don't know, dude. I don't know what I did. It's like hopefully, hopefully when I step out of this room, I have my Instagram back, but it's been too long. Is it eating you alive a little bit? No, because I trust. I trust. I just trust. It's okay. And I still have my legs and my arms and my heart. So it's okay, but. Wow. But what the fuck? No, it's like, I can tell that you're thinking about it. Well, I'm just there pissed about it. Yeah. I, I guess I don't know. Did this just happen like this happened? This happened last night. I had splendid night. I shot a video yesterday, cooked some food for like some of the people that worked on the set. And then we like to have some drinks and then I'm laying down. I was like, what a great night. Try to open Instagram and they're like, mm-hmm. No. And so, and then I like immediately text like three people in the middle of the night. And I'm like, code red. So it's like the hub of all media for me. Like, can I get this back? And it's still haven't gotten it back since like whatever midnight last night. And I just want to know why. And when I get it back, I'm just curious. Do you use TikTok at all? It's not the same. It's not the same. It's like I have TikTok is for like, yeah, like Instagram is an art piece. I kind of agree. For sure. Are you a dumper? No, I'm like, well, I'm like one, two picks. Mm-hmm. Yeah, a dumper. Like I'm a dump. I'm a, I'm a fan of dumps. You can quote me on that. But, but my intentionality isn't in all the dump. What about you? You're a dumper. Yeah. As of late. It feels good. It just makes me feel cool. You probably just have too many good photos where you're like, I can't just like you. Well, no, you have to go out of your way to take them. Yeah. You have to be like, oh, that's very bad. You don't have like, people just fall like just nailing photos of you all the time. You need to get one of those people. You think I'm like a streamer? No, no, no. God forbid. Um, I think, I think just like one of the home, like I have my cousin and like, I can just be like, I won't feel, because I feel really bad asking people to take pictures of me. I feel like really uncomfortable, but I found my person where I can be like, take a picture of me. I want to look cute. And it's your cousin. Yeah. And he's my best friend and also my assistant. Is that him? In there, yeah, Jackson. Jackson, you're his cousin? Yeah. Oh, that's sweet. He's also, we share the same middle name. What's your middle name, Todd? Oh my God, my middle name's Shane. Anyways. Okay, so you're not a dumper. Not a dumper. Your Instagram's deactivated. Don't remind me. Yours is activated though. Oh, I mean, I wouldn't be here if it was deactivated. I know. I feel like I'm playing it pretty cool. Julian. I know you care a lot more about it than you're leading on. No, I care a bunch about it. I just like, what is like me like freaking out going to do? Oh, please. I can't hear that right now. He's not in her head and I just don't even want to look at her right now. Speak on my expand. I'm just looking like if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. And if it's not meant to be, then me and God are going to have a talk later. Are you religious? No, not really. I mean, I believe in higher power. Yeah. Well, I take it all to Hashem. Cool. Who's he? He's Jewish God. Okay, cool. And so me and my friends will be like, oh my God, take a rinse. And how do you sign us, rinse? You don't mind me asking. Oh, you just. So like right now, like Peyton and I are like, oh, it's so it's not. I was treating this as like a bathhouse scenario. No, we're not actually rinsing. We're just like, oh my God, take a rinse. Okay, let's take a lap. Okay, take a rinse. Hashem's rins. I love those. Who's this friend? It's all my friends. Do you feel like you have too many sometimes? You know what I used to actually. When I was. When I was like 20. When I was Jackson's age. I felt that I had. I had a lot of. I was spreading myself a little bit. Yeah. I think that was like the Coachella effect. You know, like it's just like the too many people. It's like we can't. This can't be harnessed, you know? Well, Coachella is like not like. Coachella before. That was my first time. The first time I was kind of sucks. It was also my first time at a music festival that I didn't play. Like, and I was just in the mix like kicking it. Did you party after? Yeah, I partied. Well, I would like to get your opinion on streamers. Because you had an almost visceral reaction to them when I brought them up. Yeah. I don't watch or partake. But I am interested in the culture. Yeah, it freaks me out. I don't know. Like, do I get canceled for saying I don't get streamers? And what bugs me out about it is that if you meet them, IRL, they're always streaming. It's like a black mirror episode. Yeah, it's really scary. Yeah. Do you know how much money they make, though? A lot of money. A lot. They are like TV for a certain generation of kids. Like, that's TV, you know? Like, when's. I don't know. I don't want to get too into the weeds about it. But it is that that's like late night television. I literally don't quote me on that because I love late night. Do you? Yeah. It's like funny and like they tell jokes and there's musicians. And I like Jimmy Fallon and Jimmy Kimmel and. Oh, the Jimmy. Jimmy Johnson. What's your favorite sandwich? Because I said Jimmy Johnson. I've been off sandwiches right now, but I just. I really have been because I'm just like not eating bread like that. Oh, or you want to diet? I want to diet. What's your diet? Dude, air one. You ride for air one. Yeah, just let me go through it. I got it. It's my first time living, so I'm just trying to eat as much air one as I can. But it's just. I feel like it's just healthy and tastes good. And it's simple. How excited are you for the Don't All Everything? Do you do us tax? You and Don? Yeah, we've DMed a bit. I haven't met him so I'm excited to go link him and. Yeah, just like being on stage and just like playing the guitar and being like just a part of the band. And not really like kind of being a little piece of the puzzle sounds lit. And that mess trigger is cool. Right. It is very cool. Yeah, right. And the next play basketball, they're back to basketball. Oh, yeah, see. Are you an actor or are you? You'd be a Laker's hand. Yeah, I just love the NBA. I'm just here for it all. Who's your favorite player? I love Anthony Edwards. What team is he on? The Timber Wolves. And that's Chicago. Yeah, no. That's Minnesota. You were close. Really close, actually. Geographically. You like geography? I'm bad at geography. I'm really bad at it. I wonder who's worse. I bet you I'm worse. How can we test it? Actually, what's your worst? What is your most embarrassing geography thing? Because I'll tell you mine. You have to go first because you are. I thought Florida was at the top of the map. Until I was at the bottom. Yes. Well, you're just looking at it upside down your whole life. Now, I just thought it went. New York, Florida. I like. And that was it. One time I got food poisoning in Florida. Eating an artichoke at Houston's. You call Houston's. Because people call it hillstone. I'm so sorry. Are we not? Are you being serious? Houston's and hillstones like the same thing. Yeah, but it's like I went to a Houston's. Yeah, but people call it hillstone. Had I gone to a hillstone, I would've called it a hillstone. But that's the same thing. They're the same owners. Oh, but they're not the same exact thing. I thought it was just like, no, you want to know why it's a little different. Everything's a little different. It's because if you're you hit a requirement for being a chain, you have to show calories. And their things are so calorie-heavy that they don't want to show you. That's why I feel like shit every time I eat at hillstone. I had I had SPG for lunch today. Oh, yeah. Which is the same. Which is next to Honor bar. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then there's R&D Kitchen. And then there's Hillstone. And then there's two stents. This is a black mirror episode. It's Honor bar. R&D Kitchen. Hillstone. Houston. South Beverly Grail. And they all have the spinach dip. Sorry. Trigger word. It's just like I that's what I had. And I had a whole artichoke. Oh, my God. Seriously, I don't think I can ever forget. Oh, I had the artichoke last time I was there too in New York. Did you enjoy it? I didn't. I get food poisoning. Yeah, it was fun. I had a panic attack because of my food poisoning. And they had to pump me up with like, something. Like chill out, stalls. Yeah. I was throwing up Pepto Bismol like straight pink. The last time I got food poisoning, I had sweet green. And this threw up 13 times. What? And if I had thrown up the 14th time, I was going to the hospital. Wait, wait, wait. What protein did you have that caused this?
It was either some fucked up romaine, or it was the chicken. - Really? Is that E. coli? - Literally. I was like, this might be it for me. - You know one time I had baby polio. As opposed to grown up polio? - What's the deal? - It's like polio, junior. So I got up in bad. And I remember getting up out of bad and I went to go stand up and fell to the floor and I couldn't walk for an entire week. And everyone was like, oh yeah, that's like mini polio. And so it's just in your legs where you're like coughing and like did you have like anything? - I just couldn't walk. - And then my parents were like, you can if you walk to us, we'll take you to twin boots. What's it called? - Two boots. - Six. And they were like if you walk to us out of your like little, not what's not soldier, stroller, you can get pizza and I got up and I walked. - And then how long did the polio last just a week? - Yeah, can you fact check me on this on baby polio? I swear it's a thing. - It reminds me of like baby Mario. - Baby polio? - Yeah, it's like polio. - I swear I'm right. - I mean, they just call it polio. - No, but I would if I had polio that I would have been in a whole thing. - Sounds like a bit of a thing. - Just as polio is a highly contagious viral disease, primarily if I- - Your parents just told you it was baby polio, so you didn't freak out. I did have polio. - Sounds like you just needed to hit legs a few more days. - Do you remember when I had polio as a child? - What? - Fuck that. No, you didn't have polio. Oh, you didn't know what you had was something kids get where they are on April to walk for like three or four days. Yeah, it was weird and fucking scary, but it wasn't polio. - But I thought you said it was like polio, junior. - No, I forgot what it was called. I mean, you can google it, it's a temporary parallelization. - Yeah, where kids can't use their legs and I forgot what, I mean, it was freaky. I remember you pulling yourself across the floor. I mean, it was nuts. I had totally forgotten about that. Jesus Christ. - Okay, love you. - I love you. - Yeah, I told you, polio, junior had it. - It's not a thing. - That's okay. - I had to pull, it was so scary, you guys. - No, you're brave. - No, I'm brave. - I got scurvy the last week. I'm just gonna, I'm just like bringing up like old diseases. - I would literally, if you actually told me you had scurvy right now, I would actually. - No, it's Scabies, that kill me. - Don't even say that. - Scabie, have you ever had lice? - Yeah, I had lice one time when I was a kid, but I always buzzed my head so it was chill. Now, if I got lice, knock on freakin' wood. - That's not wood. - Whatever. - That would suck, 'cause I like my hair. I was so down, I was like, oh, another buzz cut, not sure, but now I'm like (sighs) buzz cut, I don't want that right now. - Have you ever had bad bugs? - No. Why are you lying? 'Cause no, my friend did, but I wasn't gonna blast them. Zip zap, oh my mom, my mom had bug bugs once. She got it, she got traveling, and she was really pissed. And I wasn't there the whole time, but every time I'd call her and be like, how's it going? She'd just be like, these fucking bad bugs, I'm gonna freak out. - It holds away, even though it's not tensionally your fault. Like, once you have bad bugs, you're the villain. - You think so? - It's like in the Spider-Man movie when he becomes Venom. It's just like, he can't get it off of him. And like, you're still mad at him, but it's not his fault. - What's your favorite movie? - I'm Spider-Man, no, I'm just gonna (laughs) It's like, probably goodwill hunting or elf. Or Nemo, what do you love about Nemo? Well, it's a childhood movie and I've seen it so many times, and I love the father-son relationship between Marlin and Nemo, and it's just a perfect movie. It's just like. - Do you have a favorite quote? - They're in this whale, and Dory and Marlin are hanging onto the taste buds of this whale, they're trying to escape and ignorant, but beautiful old Dory is telling Marlin. It's telling Marlin, you have to let go if you wanna leave this whale to keep on in Nemo, you have to let go, and then she just yells at him and she's like, you have to let go. And he's like controlling over Nemo, and that's why he left, and it's this whole dynamic. And Dory, in such a pure sense, is like, you just have to let go if you wanna give further and let this evolve, and he takes it in the sense of you have to let go of Nemo. And it's just beautiful. - Pixar movies are the best. - I remember watching that scene in Marine Bioclast for his period, senior year, and I had a mask on 'cause I was in school with a mask. - Yeah, and I had to put my mask over my face 'cause I was tearing up. - Tell me about what high school was like in COVID. - Well, it's like a whole year, my whole junior year, I was online the entire time, not going, 'cause it was like, it was Zoom school, you know? Like, no one went to the campus. - Were you just miserable? - No, I was just like learning how to play the guitar and going on bike rides, and honestly panicking a little bit, 'cause I had this whole month where I was very hazy 'cause I was smoking too much weed. But anyways, I was chilling, I was like learning how to play music and taking bike rides, and school was so easy and they couldn't hold you accountable for anything, how do you tell a kid to show up? I'd be like, my camera's broken, I can't be on the class, and it's like, what are you gonna fucking go to my house and check my computer camera? And so every kid did that, and they're like, what, camera's broken. Sorry. - And you just, and I would go play the guitar. - Well, you were in class. I was kind of like, what I did in college a bit. - Yeah, 'cause you had, did you have like, 'cause it was easy to cheat. - So easy, are you a cheater? - No, have you ever cheated? Have you ever been cheated on? - I hope not. - That would, I'm big on the golden rule. - Treat others the way you want to be treated. - So, it's the golden rule. - It's the golden rule, so I don't cheat. - And it 'cause I've someone cheated on me, I would be so incredibly hurt. - Have you ever wanted to cheat? - Well, I've never, I've never been in the position to be able to cheat. - You've never had a frickin' relationship? - No, no. - What? Your catch, man. - Oh, my God, I did not think that, that's the direction that was going in. Thank you so much. - Yeah. - Tell me about your writing process. - I just like play on the guitar and hum, until I'm like moved, or I'll hear like a line, or like think of a line, and try to build around that. It's kinda just like, you know? - Oh. - Yeah, just kinda like strum in my guitar, and then sometimes it's that. Sometimes it's just like banging on like bunch of synths. Whatever inspires me, and then I just follow it until it's over. - So my favorite song of yours is "Rumates." - So did that start like with the little riff on the guitar? - Yeah, it did. I remember, I played it, I still have it somewhere on my phone. I played it into my like, headphones on my, iPhone, GarageBand, and just like demoed it out, and then I went on a walk, and then I like always forget after I make a riff, I leave, and then I come back, and I like hear it for the first time again, 'cause I don't really remember what it was. And then I was like, oh, this is good. And then I went out to my backyard and wrote the whole song. - You just, it just flipped it. - Just listening to it on my phone. - Very musical family. - Yeah. - Yeah, for real. - Did you have a, because you discovered you wanted to do pursue music when you were like 16. - Yeah. - You taught yourself a guitar. - I don't know, I was really into writing. Something creative, you know. I was just like down to just like be creative, and like, dress like Joseph Gordon Levit from 10 Things I Hate About You and go to high school, and just like be cute, and be into art. - You know I've never seen that movie. - What? - Yeah. - What are you waiting for? - I don't know, I'm a TV guy. - You're TV guy. - I would say I'm more of a movie guy, but I feel uncultured in most things. Do you watch any TV right now? - Right now, no, I'm watching you for ya. - No, I can't, because it's a big spoiler, and I open Twitter, and so on, first thing. - Okay, and I'm so off that side of like, I don't see you shit about you for ya. So sick. - Do you ever check Twitter? - I don't have Twitter. - Twitter created Vine. - I like Vine. - How old were you when Vine was, I think? - Ooh, fifth grade. - Oh, so you loved Vine. - Yeah, it was fun. - Would you love like Tarakane Tortella? - Yeah, all of it. - Yeah. - Yeah, like, there was guys who just like, created like, had like, this skit culture. Like Casey Frye. - I know the name. - Yeah, like he's like, what did he do? Like Nick Colletti? Like, you don't know these guys? - I know the name. - Yeah, it's like, and they're still funny, like they do like, stand up, whatever, but like, they just got, in seven seconds, they made me laugh out loud, and like, we're witty about it, all in seven seconds. And it's just like, - It's a hard medium to do that. - Yeah, but I mean, they really went short. Like, they almost like, we're ahead of their time, or they're like, we're gonna make this so quick to consume. - Yeah. - And then it went away forever. - Yeah, and now we have TikTok. - Did TikTok launch your career? - Yeah, I mean, TikTok is like, to me, that's like the hub, like I see that is like, that's just like where so much stuff is consumed. And so like, that's just like, it's like saying like, did like, radio, or like, back in the day, it's like, how did your career launch? It's like, they like, played your songs in the radio. It's like, they just play your songs on TikTok. And that said, like, anyone hears it, apparently. But yeah, no, I for sure am viral on TikTok, yes. (laughing) Super viral. - It was for roommates? - Yeah, roommates blew up, roommates blew up, and chest pain, and so you nervous to put those out at all. - No, I was like, I downloaded TikTok, to put them in.
I was like, this is purely a swallow your pride, throw shit at the wall, see what sticks like vibe, and I was totally comfortable in that. I wasn't like going around being like guys, and like, big on TikTok or like go check out my TikToks. I was just like, I hope like a bunch of random people see this and it blows up. And then my Instagram was kind of for like, this is me. - Oh, how's that going, your Instagram? Is it activated yet? - Is it activated yet? - Julian? - No, no. - Do you have any answer as to why? - Working on it. - You're like low-key bugging about it. It's just like what that's all about. - Sometimes I probably pretend I have fake eyelashes. - Real? - I do that, do you have you ever, Luis have you ever caught me doing that? If I get stressed out, I go, I go like that. I also go like this. But I do it like in a very serious way. - It's so funny 'cause what are you doing? - Yeah, exactly. Oh, fake eyelashes, I'll fake chew gum. Hello. - Wow, do you have any nervous ticks that you do? - No, just general ticks, yes. But we can move on from that as well. - Do you want to know what I'm therapist about today? - Sure. - Okay. (laughing) - I'm therapist about the fact that. - You didn't have an answer before this. - I guess I don't have an answer. I guess my therapist lately has been teaching me to do pumps up. - What the fuck does that do? - It's just like pumps up. - Like you leave it to essentially a hand. - Like pinky up. - No, pinky up is like mindset. Pumps up is like an action. (laughing) - It's like you notice everything going on in the world, there's that little. - Okay, I have this too. I do this in the shower. But instead of palms up, it's let the water run over your head and listen to the drops of water. Oh wow. What are you drinking on? - Celsius and a punch pop poppy that I haven't opened yet. Which, but like the, okay, anyways, Celsius, like if I had drank that Celsius, I think like it would be bad. I think I'd be, you've never had to do it on tour before. You've never had to drink coffee. - No, like no, sometimes I'll have like a sip of Dr. Pepper before I get on stage. I know I'm crazy. (laughing) But, no, like the whole, like I was actually, I was recording my album and it was like, it was like the last week and we had to really get it done and it was like two a.m. And I knew I had to be up till six a.m. and I had like a quarter of a Red Bull. Maybe like a half. - I fuck with Red Bull. - It tasted so good, but I was freaking out for a while. - That's my drink, I got a bar. Red Bull vodka. - Yeah, does that not just get you just like jacked? - Bless you. - Jackson, I need that with you. - It was Jackson. - What's it? Jackson, was that you? Someone fussed, all right, whatever. - Be honest, fuck. - We should bring Jackson in for our fucking- - Jackson, you can come in. - Jackson, come in for like, can we just do a quick section? - Do I come set? - Come set, come set for a sec. Come set for a sec. (laughing) - You guys are best friends? - Yeah. - Do you guys wanna play the game where you two have to say the same word at the same time? - Sure, sure. - Okay, one. - Also, do you think we sound the same? - Yeah, how do you guys know each other besides being cousins? - That's how we know each other. - Yeah, we're family. - Okay. (laughing) - I'm okay, let's just do a quick, ready? (laughing) - One, two, three. - Okay, orange ball. - Oh, well, now it's quite easy, huh? - Oh yeah, yeah. - One, two, three. - Kobe, what'd you say? - Color. - You said orange and you said basketball, and you couldn't get to the next. - Oh. (laughing) - Okay, all right, let's try. - Color and basketball. - Start again. - Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. We can do this color and basketball. - No, you can't. That's not the rules of the game. - Okay, yes, sir. - One, two, three. - Rock, ball. - Football, broccoli. - Okay. - Okay. - One, two, three. - Big green egg. - Oh, that's really you. - Wait, what'd you say? - Fitness. - You said big green egg. - Yeah. - Okay, oh, I know where I'd go with this. - Think, think. - Yeah, you know where you'd go. - Okay, ready? - Okay. - Three, two, one. - Stake. - Wait. - Who are you? (laughing) - I was gonna go meal prep. I've been doing that. - Right, you've been talking about. - Yeah, well, 'cause I'm doing airwound, but because the airwound got a little out of hand, just like. - Financially. - It's just ridiculous. I love airwound, but like that for me every day. It's just, I was like, okay, maybe I can split. So half the week I'm doing meal prep and I'm having someone like do it for which, like, much more sustainable prices. And like, cook it for me and I just defrost it and eat it. - Are you sustainable? - As much as the next guy. - OCD things, I have to recycle. - I'm OCD. - You have OCD? - Yeah, do you have an actual OCD? - Yeah. - Yes. - Oh, me too. - What's your OCD? - I manifest in like little ticks and like rituals. - Me too. - Oh my gosh, my shit's crazy. - My shit's crazy too. - I've been getting, I'm in a good pocket, or, that's what I'm gonna do, don't I? - Are you on meds? - No, I've never done them, but I've been in therapy for this since I was like eight. - Yeah. - They've been trying to put me on meds for it forever. - I know, this is the most I've ever talked about in my OCD. - Oh, we don't have to talk about it. - And that's totally fine. Let's just see where it goes. - Okay. - Yeah. - Well, I am on meds and in therapy for it, but I skip therapy for it every week. - Nice. - You like the- - Exposure therapy? - Yeah, like I used to not, well, I don't know if I wanna tell you, 'cause I feel like, do you know when someone tells you their OCD and then you catch it? - I, I, I, I, I won't. - Okay, so I can tell you. - Yeah, if you can. - Like I used to not be able to like add songs to playlists. - This is so classic. - Like I would have to do it for different times. - Mm. - And then, what else? - Mm, I have some crazy with my phone right now, but right now it's been manifesting on my phone. - Uh-huh. - And it's so annoying, 'cause you're on your, I'm on my phone so much. And it's just so funny, it's like I'll be able to like kill a tick. And then it'll come back like 10 times stronger and a new tick and I'm like, damn. - Yeah. - I'm like, I thought I had you and now I didn't even realize, but it's on my phone a lot right now with like, eh, dude, so weird, but like every time I'm like, if I'm scrolling, like if I'm scrolling a song, I'm Spotify. - The, the bottom like song has to line up to where there's no, of the line show. - I tell you, yes. - Yeah. - When I take a screenshot, the little thingy that like scrolls, up and down, the little navigator bar has to disappear. And if I take a screenshot, I have to delete it. And then I can't take a new screenshot until that, but now it's deleted out of my recently deleted. - Yeah. And right now putting on my shoes right now is like a movie. - Yes. - Like same with me in shower, right? And it's just impossible. - Oh my gosh, it took me, it took me to take me if so long to get out of the shower. I had to, I had to, I had to really work on that one. - Yeah. If there's like a little bit of soap on me, I have to restart the shower and do my whole thing again. - Dude in faucets? Kill me. How, how do they kill you? - They have to turn on the same, if it's ever two faucets at the same time, like a hot and a cold. - They have to turn on the same time. - And go off at the same time. And if it's like a baboon. - And then do you have magical thinking where you think something bad's gonna happen? - Well, we're low key, more similar than I anticipated. - This has been an OCD talk. - Well, you know, a lot of people don't talk about it. - It's like, it's intense as hell. And it's like, I don't even want to, do you get triggered by when people are like, oh, I'm so OCD about this. - Yeah, I get really angry. It's like in my head, I'm like, you'll never know. It's okay. - Well, 'cause people didn't believe me in high school. And it was very frustrating 'cause I'm very messy. I'm a messy eater. I'm a messy, I'm just like my whole life. - Oh my gosh, we are similar. - I think we are too. And I, people would be like, you don't have OCD 'cause you're so fucking messy. And I'd be like, no, I think I do have OCD because I Googled it. And this is what came up. - Yeah, I've never been more sure of something. - That's how I feel as well. And you've had it since you were, I've had it since I was like seven. - Yeah, same. Let him hold it. - Time for your first reach, we'll have her. - I remember, dude, yeah, I remember being like in, I remember playing football on my cul-de-sac, and being like, if I do this, this is gonna happen. - Yes. - And then nailing it and being like, that's how the world works. And then that was the rest of my life. - Yep. Mine was, I started to touch things evenly. And then I was like, and if I touch it evenly, good things will happen. I think I was in the pool. - Yeah, it's like very like, very like childish stuff where you're like, so like, oh, this is so, this makes so much sense. And now it's like cut to us. - And actually the first time I ever saw it portrayed was on Girls on HBO when Hannah has an OCD episode. You should watch Girls. - Yeah, Audrey loves that show. - It's a bad show all the time. - She thinks Adam Driver is the one. - Really? He's so hot. - Just 'cause of that show. - He's so hot. - 'Cause I'm like, I see him in some other things and I'm like, he's the one. - Well. - But apparently he's like, so great in that show. He was in the army. - Uh-huh. - Yes, I did know he was in the army. - Yeah. - And then he did. - Girls. - And then he turned into Annie Furniture, her first short film. And then she. - And then he did Girls. - Yeah. - Do you have a favorite song of your sisters? And you can't say Phoebe, just 'cause you covered out. - Okay, well that is my favorite one. But then I also love, I love Silver Jubilee. I cry to Silver Jubilee almost every time. I listen to it so often. I have this moment when she goes, "Am I telling my sister, you see kids?" I just like, "Why do you think they need me?" - 'Cause that's my sister she's talking about. And I believe her. 'Cause she does tell her all this fucking secrets. And I'm just like, I know her. Oh, that's so sweet. - That album is one of my favorite albums of all time. - Yeah, same. - It's fucking insanely good. - It's like, actually, we talked about it in my last episode how good it is. - She'll never top that. I'm just kidding. - Yeah, she absolutely will. - No, she will, trust. I see, I'm seeing, I'm seeing. - I see you will top all your previous work with your upcoming album. Do that again. - Do that again. - Out June 5th. - Out June 5th. - What's your favorite song of the album? - It just switches all the time. But I think right now I really love the song.
do that again. It's the title track. And what else? Maybe the one called Absesika. You have a song called Absesika, huh? Yeah. What's it about? Are you lying? It's about being obsessed with girls. And you just call it the Absesika. Yeah, because there's like this bit at the end of the song where like I just start like rattling off girls' names and it's like Jessica or Becca. You look he wraps sometimes. Yeah, Loki. Do you ever freestyle? I wouldn't make you do that now because it wouldn't make me uncomfortable, but yeah, it's the most uncomfortable thing ever. Yeah, I don't often freestyle. And if I do like I I just like throw in like a quick line and then step back out. I'm not like and fucking also like killing the vibe. And also just like I think that's a thing is like just in like boy culture. Like dude's being like dude just lighten up and like freestyle and with the boys in the car. Like I'm like that's the last thing I've ever related to like feeling. I what I love is like methodically writing a rap very well thought out and sharing it with your friends. You're like a smart smart. Yeah, we're like with my friends sometimes like we'll all like we'll like make a groove and then we'll all like write our own verses and like share them with each other and like that's fun to me. But like you guys are like all like a little like creative little. Yeah, I have like all little creator friends. I'm like that's so amazing. It's awesome. It reminds me of like Joni Mitchell and all her friends in the 60s. Yeah, they all like a good portion of them like dress like that too. And it's a little funny to me. So you're like Joni Mitchell. Yeah, I'll be Joni. Uh-huh. And the Laurel Canyon vibes. Yeah, have you ever heard the our house now with Joni. Yeah. Oh, I have. It's amazing. That's one of my favorite songs of all time our house. Yeah, what are I covered it on tour with my those friends I'm talking about who are also and how beautiful is that? Yeah. So I am curious like after upon meeting Jackson, what does he do for you? He is I mean obviously first and foremost, he's my cousin and my brother family about that. But he's also a stellar assistant. And he goes every with me and makes sure that I have my head screwed on straight and make sure that everything's running smoothly. And that helps me with stuff that I need to take off my plate. You know, like so do you know about the tell me what's wrongs? So the place he's right in they tell us what's wrong. And honestly, I would love to hear your take on some of these. Let's go. My sister-in-law wants to do her gender reveal the day after I get married. I think it's actually insane to do it the day after our wedding that we are all driving five plus hours to and from. There are so many other days to choose from. Am I being insensitive bitch? What should I do? Our reasoning is that all of our family is still in town by then. That's what I was super valid actually. I was gonna say that I was like if she wants to do when everyone's in town that kind of makes sense. Have you ever been to a gender reveal? Do you, is that something you go to? Yeah, they're so fun. No. They're literally my favorite thing ever. Oh, yeah no. When I was an assistant, I planned. Oh, tell me about your assistant. Jackson's going to give me learn a few things. Well, I was an assistant. Yeah, tell me about it. I realized my, I actually didn't plan my boss's gender reveal because I wasn't an assistant at that point, but I plan to engage me in party and I blacked out at the engagement party. Blacked out. I've never blacked out my life. Ever? It's horrible. It's the worst thing ever. You wake up and you're like, what happened? But I haven't blacked out in a minute. Okay, good. I like that. I just blacked out. I just feel like I couldn't like that. Just so like you not knowing what happened. Like I can't imagine like so in being invested in you and being like, what happened, Jake? And you're like, I don't know. And you weren't there. It's like so. But in college, it's like a very big part of the culture of blacking out. Right. Like we're going to, what are we going to do tonight? Black out of black. I was fucking not remember anything lit. If I was this girl, I'd be like, maybe you can wait like a day off. Well, actually, yeah, I honestly, can I tell you why I understand why this girl is annoyed because she's getting married. And then all the photos the next day are going to be the gender reveal, not the marriage. I totally understand why it's annoying because it's her big weekend. And there's only one wedding. You can do a giant reveal over zoom. There are two different things. You know, it's like you wouldn't plan a gender of reveal like it's a wedding. So she's putting all this towards her wedding. And then she's just kind of riding in off the off the like effort that it is, you know. So I guess it is. It's kind of like, it's like you're you're taking, yeah, you're munching off of the fact that everyone's in town for my event that I planned. I see both ways. And I'm probably going to do that for like most of these because I'm I'm that fucking type of guy. But maybe not, maybe not. Hi, Jake and beautiful guest. Oh, thank you. Yeah. My roommate and our boyfriend have been stealing stuff from me in line about it. Some of my more intimate possessions to it. And it's really getting weird. I catch some of my clothes, remote chargers, et cetera, in their room all the time. And it's such a weird, unspoken thing. How do I talk to them about this? I hate confrontation. This reminds me of the crisis with, is it with, um, yeah, it's with Emma Stone. No, not and white, not Ann Boland. Jane air. Oh, my god. And she doesn't speak up for herself. Ever and everyone's so fucking rude to her. She never says anything. Yeah, confrontation. You got to work on that girl. Remember Jane air Nolan. Wow. I was in Jane air in high school. Oh, and she never says anything. Yeah. And I was like the bully in it. You they all bully her. Yeah. What would you do if someone was, if Jackson was stealing yourself, you would say something immediately. For sure. I'm a little, I'm a little gray on like the personal, cause she was like some very personal items. Then she was like the remote in my clothes, which sound like very not that personal. So like I'm trying to break down the psychology. Maybe how freaky is this? I assume she means like the girls, the girls taking her underwear. And the boyfriend, where does he come into play? Like my, like them as a team, it's starting to feel like there's weird roots, like where they're like stealing. I'm just trying to feel like. Is she just laying around and she's overreacting or, or, or, you know, I like I'm teaming up on her side. Okay. I would be like, you need, but it's too against what? How scary. Yeah. Yeah. I think you just got to go roommate to roommate and then have her extended to the boyfriend. It doesn't need to be a group talk smart. And also take photos. Take photos of what she stole. Yeah, be like, take photos of it in her room and be like, you stole this look. Yeah. Yeah. You know, as if you're confronting a liar, you need to have proof. You're very right. Have you ever been in this? Have you ever been in a situation chip with the liar or relationship with the liar? No. And lying is a huge no go for me. Right. Yes. Yeah. Like I just, because I don't want. Do you think I could get my ears pierced? For sure. Louis says it would be really bad for the brand for me. Like Jake's just got to be Jake. And if that means pre-using his ears, well, if he wants to do it, he's got to do it. Can you picture me with it like one tiny hoop here? Yeah. Also, like it's not, there's nothing wrong with evolving. Like if that's not you of a year ago, like, what did you get your ears pierced? I was like 16. Oh, okay. So that's been you. It's been me. But like, I only wanted to do it because I started posting Instagram tops and I felt like, you know, like, like artsy. Like I posted it in my Instagram num today, like a photo of a fire hydrant spilling out water and every one swiped over and was like, do you really need this? And I said, yes. Yes. And then, okay, I have a question. Do you, would you feel like, do you feel like you could get the earring? And then if it wasn't for you a week later, take it out. And like, that's how I thought it worked. But Louise is apparently you got to keep it in for three months. If it, whatever. But I'm just like saying, would you feel fine? Like being like, Oh, I tried a thing and failed in front of everyone. Yeah, I do that consistently. Okay. Then you're good. I'd be worried if you were like, Oh, I have to really commit to this. And if it like, it's not, but just try. If it doesn't work, take it out, right? She really does not want me to get a earring. I'm fine for you. Thank you. My boyfriend is constantly sports betting all night and day. He recently spent his whole paycheck on betting in three days. He even asked me for money. So he would be able to continue to do it. What about a nightmare? He has money and his savings. But should I be concerned? I mean, beyond concerned, gambling, gambling addiction is so bad. Yeah. I mean, there's, there's, this one's black and white. Yeah. You think what, break up with him? No, don't go right to breaking up with him. He'll probably just lose even more money. I think just like basically is, I would, I would give him an ultimatum. You got to pick me or they're gambling. And then let's see how he rocks. Have you ever given someone an ultimatum before? I know what I need in a relationship. And I'm like, I'll be a great partner of like, we can hold up the same like standards for each other. And I'm like, if someone's not meeting my standards, like respectfully, I'll be like, okay, like this won't work for me. Like as a partnership. And so I'll be like, you have to like, kind of, I've given the ultimate of like, can you like understand where I'm coming from or not? And then it's okay. Then we, it's not going to work. You're very emotionally intelligent. Thanks. Have you got not before? Yeah. I think it's all a therapy. I didn't know the kids. Yeah. I was about to say you must, your parents seem great. They're great. Actually, I've met your mom. You've met Jill. I've met your mom. And she was the nicest person I've ever met in my entire life. And I've actually never forgotten it. Audrey hosted a reading with Substack. And she so kindly invited me to read one. Oh, I want to talk about OCD. My OCD was almost like, don't say the word kindly. Lately, I've been having issue with the word kindly. Do you know what I mean? I just feel you so hard.
And oh my gosh, I feel you so hurt. I have, I'm not even gonna see you out on it. - I couldn't write the word thus, all of college. Still can, by the way. - I have a crazy one that I'm not gonna say 'cause I'm like, I need to harness it before I let it out in the book. - Okay, keep it, keep it, keep it, keep it. - It's all in par with what you're saying. - A bunch of my friends and I moved to NYC last summer after we graduated college, but now a lot of them are moving away for new jobs in core grad school, either this summer or next summer. I love New York and want to stay, but I'm scared I'm going to be stranded for endless this time next year. Any advice for making post grad friends? - Well, you're in the easiest city to make friends in the entire world. New York is, I feel like everyone wants to make a friend in New York. - It is, it's like if you wanna go make friends stay in New York. - Right, and do you ever wanna move to New York? - Yeah, I actually lived in New York for a year. - Oh, and I loved it. - Where'd you live? - I lived in the East Village and it was like my version of college 'cause I didn't go to college. And I felt like being in the East Village was that for me. - So like, how was it called for you? Like you'd wake up? - Just being around kids by age. You know, when I was in LA and I wasn't going to college, there wasn't a hub for me to, or like kind of like a circle, like a little a geographic place to be in, where like I was, once I wanted to like go drive to a college campus, which like, but the streets are the campus, so I could just be on the street and feel surrounded by my peers. - Oh, how fun. - Did you go to Oregon for like a week? - I dropped out the week before I was supposed to go to Oregon. - Got it. - Which everyone gets confused. I was a week away from going to Oregon. - Right, and you were like, fuck this. I was like, no. - Yeah. - Yeah, school wasn't for me, but you went to school. - I went to USC. - Right, 'cause you were talking, you were like, you don't need to get. - You're just reminding me of college. Airwon reminds me of college. And I was like, okay, LA college. - I said Airwon reminds me of college. - Yeah, or you said like something in the Airwon reminds me of college. - I guess it does. I went to Airwon a bunch in college. - There you go. - The silver like Airwon actually. - Which is good one. - Which is good one. - Which is good one. - Ratedly the best one. - Well, what would you prescribe them that post-grad girl? - I would prescribe the movie post-grad. - What's that? - It's a movie about post-grad. - I saw one. - I was like in third grade, so I had no idea what the fuck was going on, but now I'm sure, maybe I should rewatch it. - Yeah, I would just be fearless. Just like conquer whatever social fears you have and something good will come out of it. - Love that. Did you watch Stranger Things? - Yeah, I didn't finish. I've watched, I feel like I've watched like 70% of the episodes. And I couldn't tell you like a single detail about the show. Do you like like thrillers and dark stuff or no? - Not too dark. I just went and saw obsession. - Oh my God, we've been talking about it all day. - Did you see it? - I've heard it's unbelievable. - It's so good, it's super spooky. I had a little bit of a nightmare vibe. - You have nightmares. - Well, it was like I woke up in the middle of the night and then I couldn't give a bad asleep. Every time I went to fall asleep right before, it would be like, boo, like in my head. - Have you ever, do you ever, when you fall asleep, get the muscle fasms, and you'd be like, yeah. Is that like a boy thing or is that like a. - No, it's an anxiety thing, I think. I have the worst anxiety dreams where my teeth are falling out. People are falling them out. I had a dream the other day. - Oh, God. - My best capacity was sleeping over and she woke up to me screaming at her like, no, you can't. You can't. - You were doing that in real life? - Yeah, and I woke up and she was like, what the fuck just happened? - That's dark. - I know. - That's okay though. That's a part of your like, it's a part of your makeup and that's why you're you. - Oh, thank you. - Yeah, yeah. - Are you excited to tour? - Yeah, I love to run 'cause I toured my besties. - Yeah, I went on tour and I would go and speak and I went with Louise and man. - You did the bus? - I did the bus. Do you have a bunk or a room? - I have a room, but sometimes I just do the bunk. - A bunk, I feel like I won't get to better sleep. - Yes. - Yeah. - It's like a lot of rattling around in the back room. - Oh, this one's for you because you hate liars. Basically, my best friend since childhood has turned into a white liar these days. Never really to me sometimes, but like, this is a huge red flag for me and other people and I wanna bring it up to her, but she always writes it off as cute. Mm-hmm. Well, at least she admits that. We've known each other for 10 years. How do I make her realize it really is that deep. - You action speak louder than words. You gotta just, she's gotta, if she, like, she's gotta like, there's gotta be a true consequence. Like, I don't know how deep it's her best friend. Like, they do love each other. It's a slippery slope because it's like, you don't wanna like, X someone out, but like, I think space or like letting her like, just sit with what she's doing is better 'cause if you just tell someone who's like a general liar to stop lying, they do, they say it's cute. I think there needs to be something bigger than saying stop. - Oh, yeah. Does Jackson ever lie to you? - Dude, I mean, no, yeah, Jackson, sometimes can fricking fib the truth, but that's, you know, he doesn't do it as much anymore. - Really? - Because he knows I don't know if I can hate lying, but it's like, I'm like, just keep it a stack of me. That's what like besties are for. - Okay. - I don't lie, but yeah. (laughs) - Were you just lying? - No. - I can't lie. I'm a very anxious person and it's now manifesting into me being weirdly, weirdly bloated at the most random times. And it's the fact you may work out on daily routines. Wait, I relate to this. Could this actually have to do with my stress levels and how do you recommend daily with stress that impacts your body? Well, I don't, I don't know, but that does happen to me all the time. I'm now realized. - When you're stressed, do you feel bloated? - I think so, yeah. I think I bloat myself 'cause I'm so stressed out all the time 'cause your cortisol levels are so high. - Okay. - I would take like medication for that. - Like de-bloating medication? - No, like I would take like anti-anxiety medication that you go see a psychiatrist. - Okay, yeah, sure. - But you know health care is impossible in this country, so. - Godspeed, girl. - Yeah. (laughs) - I have relationship OCD. So sometimes I spiral thinking that my boyfriend isn't the right person for me. Something terrible is going to happen to him if we stay together, et cetera. Recently, I opened up to my friend about how I was feeling that she told me I should listen to my quote, "gut feeling." And now she keeps trying to convince me to break up with him. She knows I struggle with relationship OCD, but I feel like she doesn't really get it, any advice. We'll see the gut feeling and OCD is very difficult, at least for me because I have a gut feeling constantly, but really it's just anxiety. - Yeah, I'm big on like, I'm big on trusting your instincts. And I don't know this person, so I can't read it like. If I see somewhere, and I know their instincts are right, the best advice you can always give those people is trust your instincts. - But her instincts are saying that if she stays with the guy, then something bad will happen. - Yeah, so that's a distortion. - Okay. - Elaborate. - That's anxiety talking and you're making up for your anxiety with like irrational decisions and like. - But you deep down the. - That's been me, by the way, this whole time, I've just been like really chill about it. - Me too. - Yeah, what's up with that? - I don't know, it happens to me all the time. Have you heard me do it? Or was that the first time you heard it? 'Cause it's been happening to me this entire episode. - Oh no, I don't know. - But it's been happening to you too. - Yeah, I've just been like, anyway, yeah. - Me too. - Wait, okay, keep building on this 'cause this one's exciting. (laughing) Okay, I don't know, like. - Well, so her, she's saying like, 'cause this is kind of dark and crazy, but like she thinks that she loves her boyfriend, I know. I'm just, I don't know. She just, I just burps, she, she, she. She loves her boyfriend, but she thinks if she stays together with him, something bad's gonna happen. Which, there's no justification to that. That's just a full blown, like. That's a worry that she's having. - So should she leave her boyfriend? 'Cause now her friend is like, you should leave him. - No, your friend's giving you bad advice. If you love him, stay with him. And fight through this feeling and you'll come out the other side. And tell your boyfriend about it and you'll go to therapy about it. 'Cause Jake and I can only do so much in these like 20 seconds. So the sounds like something you really dive into. - I know. - Yeah, what do you think? Exactly what you just said. Well, like if that with me, I totally understand that. She seems like very selfless this girl. Like something bad's gonna happen to her boyfriend and not her. - No, for sure. That's sweet. But she loves him and it's like, what the hell? Don't let like, you have to fight for what you love and like, and you have to fight through the like distortions and stuff to like, you know, and that'll be the best for her life, even though it's like, the quick fix is like break up with him, but that's not gonna solve anything. And then also that's gonna fuel the next distortion in your brain to feel like, okay, well then I'll just get, you know, it's gonna make the evil thing in your mind. I feel like it's gonna, it can just make you do these things. - Right. - And that's like, not how you should live your life. - What music are you listening to these days? - I'm listening to like, really chill music in the last like a week. Like, dude, the "Soup John Stephen" song. Like, which is the saddest song ever. The one with Cardinal hits the window. - He did the call me by your name soundtrack, yeah. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's the one that's. - Is it off the carry-in-loat? ♪ Duh, duh, duh, duh, duh ♪ ♪ And it tells you what happened ♪ ♪ And ♪ - You like folk music and stuff? - I'm down, I'm down. It's all, it's all about it. It's all pockets. It's like, it's why you wanna get your ears pierced. It's like, 'cause you're just feeling it right now. - I know, but it is so not me. Now that we've like continued to talk about the European scene, like if I was sitting here with an European scene, I'd be so uncomfortable. - Yeah. Well, maybe it's not you. - Why would you know him better than you know? He knows himself. - Do you feel that way? - Yeah. - She totally did. While I was watching her like watch me try to convince you to do that, she was just like an idiot. - They freaked out when I pranked. Do you like, do you love pranking your friends? - Pranking, I do. I feel bad really fast. - Oh, I don't. - I love that. - I love a good prank. It's my favorite thing on planet Earth. - But like once it's like, it gets so sad. I know they're like, I'm like a defenseless. - One time I told Mandy, I was gonna be on real housewives of Salt Lake City. She was so excited. I've never seen her. - Yeah, actually does this shit to me all the fucking time. Like what? - He'll just be like, he'll just say something that doesn't exist. And just like, he has such a stone-cold face, like, with like, telling me stuff that does, like, sounds real, but isn't real. And I'll just like, believe him. Like, what? Dude, what was the deal to later? (laughs) Explain the deal to later thing. - Well, he has to come back, 'cause I can't.
- Come back in. - So Malcolm's car had, was this a flat tire? Got a flat tire, so I had to bring it in and get it checked out. And they had sent me the report back and there was all this shit wrong with it. But it was gonna cost like $2,000. But I was just sitting there. I think we got home late and I was like, yeah. They said it'd be $2,000 for the dildo late on the bottom of the car. And he was like not really paying attention or something. And he was like, bro, just like given the money or like whatever, it was like just fix the car, it was like whatever. And then I like, go around the car and like, bro, the dildo later. And he like looked at me and then I just like, couldn't stop making fun of him for it for like, that's a prank. - That's a prank, it's a prank. I like pricks. - My friend Matt does that all the time. He'll point to like Meryl Streep and be like, don't you just love Nicole Kidman? - Sounds like some shit you would do. - You remind me a lot of Matt actually. - Shout out Matt. - Yeah. - You're over it. Yeah, he was literally like, yeah dude, just like the tires are 1,000 and then like, you could get the gas caps picked or whatever and then like the dildo later is 2,000. And I was like, I just, do I slip together? - Yeah. - Your roommates? - Yeah. Yeah, we travel, we're also like traveling so much. So it's like we are, we're just wherever, wherever you go as I go. - Are you a good traveler? - It's easier when you have like a team, I have a tour manager and I have Jackson and like, so they make sure I don't lose anything, you know, it's nice to have a team. - Yeah. - That's like watching over you, comforting. They just make sure, like if I have a problem, I can text people, which is like not a real way to live, but whoops. - It is what it is. - Yeah, for sure. - Yeah, whoops! - Well, Malcolm, what did we learn today? - We learned that we're more similar than we thought. - Yeah. - We learned that this is a great vibe in here. - You like it? - Yeah, I love it. This is great. - I find with you. - I had a blast. I'm actually stoked, I think this is really good. - Yeah, I think it's really funny. - Yeah, and we learned, there's like a flip-flops moment. You took your shoes off. - We learned that maybe whooping ultimately isn't for you. But we're not writing at all. - But if I go, when I'll go, go on with you. - I'm, text me. - Really? - For sure. And maybe someone told me yesterday I should get an eyebrow piercing, which I'm not gonna do. - Julian. - But I actually think it would look good. - For me too. - So do it, if that's your truth. - If you get the ear. - If I get the ear, you'll do the eyebrow. Okay, I'll do it. I would literally do it next week. - Okay. - I would do it today, but my physical therapist is coming to check out my wrist, 'cause if you can hear. - It's cracking. - Is that, did you look that up on Google? - Yeah, it's 'cause I broke my wrist when I blacked out when I was in 11th grade. And it's never been the same sense. - But it's just catching up to you now. - Kind of, yeah. - My body is kind of, I'm going through my sadden return. Kind of. - Love it. - Yeah. - Well, that was awesome. - Yeah, I love this. - Yeah, this was really fun. I would love to have you back. - His new album Do That Again is out June 5th. - It's out now. - It's out now. - Oh, it's out now. - Or would do I look somewhere? Bye, Pleasys. (upbeat music) [MUSIC]
Podcast Summary
Key Points:
Malcolm reflects on his experience at Coachella, where he felt overwhelmed by excessive handshakes and social interactions, leading to a three-week silence.
He shares a deep appreciation for live music, especially "Turn Style" and LCD Sound System, which inspired him to value authentic, emotional musical experiences.
He discusses his flip-flop brand made by friend Evan, noting the sound they make while walking and how they symbolize a personal, playful expression.
Malcolm and his sister Audrey share a close bond, with similarities in personality and interests, though they have not spent enough time together.
He speaks candidly about his basketball background, including winning a school-wide three-on-three tournament as a non-team player.
Malcolm reveals a past struggle with weed use in high school, which he later quit due to feeling mentally unwell, despite enjoying the sensory high of the experience.
He shares a strong connection with Asher Cartman, a friend in his band, and admits to being both inspired and overwhelmed by their creative energy.
Malcolm is excited about touring with Don’t All Ever, especially performing at Madison Square Garden, and highlights the emotional significance of playing music live.
He discusses the recent deactivation of his Instagram, which frustrates him despite his trust in the platform.
He identifies with OCD behaviors, including ritualistic habits and specific rules around technology and routine, and shares how these behaviors affect daily life.
Malcolm reflects on relationships, including a roommate conflict involving theft and a boyfriend’s gambling habits, and offers advice rooted in empathy and boundary-setting.
He values creative collaboration, especially with friends, and draws parallels to Joni Mitchell and Laurel Canyon-era music culture.
He recommends the film *Post-Grad* as a guide for making post-college friendships in New York.
Summary:
Malcolm reflects on a vibrant mix of personal experiences, creative passions, and interpersonal dynamics. His time at Coachella left a lasting impression, not just from the music but from the overwhelming social energy that drained him emotionally. He deeply values live musical performances, citing "Turn Style" and LCD Sound System as transformative experiences that reconnected him with the emotional power of music.
His flip-flops, created with a friend, become a symbol of personal expression and playful connection. He shares a close bond with sister Audrey, noting shared traits and unmet potential for deeper collaboration. Malcolm reflects on his basketball journey, a school victory as a non-team player, and his past struggles with marijuana use, which he now views as a formative, albeit difficult, experience.
He discusses his creative partnership with Asher Cartman and expresses excitement about touring with Don’t All Ever, particularly at Madison Square Garden. The deactivation of his Instagram causes frustration, highlighting his deep reliance on social media. He openly identifies with OCD behaviors, including ritualistic habits around technology and routine, and shares how these affect his daily life.
He offers thoughtful advice on handling roommate theft and a partner’s gambling habits, emphasizing empathy, boundaries, and clear communication. Malcolm values creative collaboration and draws inspiration from music legends like Joni Mitchell. He concludes with a recommendation to watch *Post-Grad* as a guide for post-college friendship-building in New York, underscoring his belief in courage and authenticity in forming new connections.
FAQs
He said the overwhelming number of handshakes drained his energy and made him feel like he’d never remember anyone’s name, which was disheartening.
He found it spiritual and beautiful, and it was a powerful experience that changed how he viewed live music.
He saw LCD Sound System, which he had only heard of before, and found the live experience deeply impactful.
They are made by his friend Evan. He likes the sound they make when he walks, which he compares to a SpongeBob effect, and feels it helps people know when he’s approaching.
No, he hasn’t smoked weed in five years. He quit after realizing it made him feel weird and caused anxiety and emotional distress.
He loves 'Finding Nemo' because of the father-son relationship between Marlin and Nemo, which he finds emotionally powerful and beautiful.
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