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Yeah, to back up on what Julian said, really reflecting on the agreement, where is that coming from? If one of my latest podcast episodes alcohol is a compensation pattern. We use alcohol as the bridge to try to get to an experience that really at the end of the day, we all have the capacity to generate from within ourselves. What oftentimes happens is we go through our developmental journey. Depending on when we start drinking or why we start drinking, as soon as alcohol comes into our life and then it repeats for long periods of time, let's say years and years or decades, the deeper relationship that we build with alcohol, the further disconnected we become from our true authentic self. We start to buy into this illusion and belief that we need the alcohol as a way to be fun. We need the alcohols away to relax and party. We need the alcohols away to manage stress. We need the alcohol to build the confidence to be able to go out and be this person. But it really isn't illusion. When I look back on my relationship with alcohol, I could certainly say, I could from my perspective say I was a life of the party. I could for sure from my perspective say that whenever I was around and I started drinking that like the energy went up. But when I'm really honest with myself and I look back, I was annoying. I was smoking in my friends' cars when they told me not to smoke. I was burning holes in their seats and I had to pay them to replace a seat. When we were driving somewhere, I had to stop buying tickets every 10 minutes. When we look at it through the lens of alcohol, we're like, oh yeah, it's all fun. But really, when you look at it from like a sober state and what you're truly doing in that experience, it's not really what you think it is. Then when you play the take forward and tackle all the downstream consequences that come from it, mentally, emotionally, energetically within your relationships, your family, your productivity, the next day, your connection to yourself, your goals, your vision. It's like, you can call it the fun one, but what are we really compensating for? Who are we at a deeper level and truly what value do we bring to life in relationships? When I look at the relationships that I have in my life now, nobody drinks. We still go out and we go to events and we socialize, nobody's drinking. When we're hanging out and talking, it's like, it's laughter, it's riffing on inside jokes, it's like, where are you at in your life? What are you experiencing? What are you going through? We're ping-ponging back and forth around mental, emotional, spiritual development, how we can elevate each other's energy, what our goals are when we want to travel next. It's so fun. It's so fulfilling. I think we all have this fear early on in this process. I know I absolutely did. When I quit drinking at 29, I'm like, fuck, I'm about to be 30. I'm about to go into my 30s. This supposed to be the best time in my life. I'm like, fuck, I'm about to go into my 30s. I'm about years ago, but now we're here. And we're born into this matrix. That's just like feeding us information at different level to say, This is who you have to be. This is how you have to think. This is how you have to show up in life. awakening journey, part of the spiritual healing journey of our soul and ourself is to recognize like the universe is a hustle. It's literally just a mirror. Whatever energy you carry within your body, mentally, emotionally, and vibrationally, it just mirrors that back to you in forms of your career, and your financial status, and the types of relationships that you have and the experiences that you have. It's like they talk about the evolution of consciousness and there's these three stages. The first stage is that everything is happening to me. This is where we're operating in like a victim mindset that everything I experience in my life is happening to me. This guy fucked me over and she fucked me over and you know, this person got me off in traffic and this guy's an asshole and you know, this person's always bugging me. It's like all these things. It's like, you know, you're the victim here. I'm good. I'm okay, but like everybody's not trying to get me, right? That's a victim mentality. The second one is the next day job and everything is happening for me. This is where we move out of victim mentality. We start to see that every single experience in our life, the good, the bad, but especially the ugly and this is so important, especially the ugly, especially the challenging stuff. It's happening on some level for us. I know in the moment it's incredibly painful and if there's been major traumas and abuse, it's like how could you even say that? But to some degree at like a deep soul spiritual level, there is a gift to synthesize and process through that. Whether it's for you to learn the true gift of forgiveness or maybe it's for you to learn, you know, how to let something go or maybe it's for you to learn it and to then become a conduit of energy, of energetic expression, to give that information to your friends and family and your community, to save other people from having to re-experience something or to let other people know that they're not alone and that just by you going up and being vulnerable and having the courage to like share your pain in your story, it creates a container for somebody to begin healing, right? So every single thing that's happening in our life is to some degree, having for us. If we can have the mindset to see that, to see that and honor that and to interpret it that way. And then the third level of consciousness, the highest level they say is everything is actually happening by me. And that one is a bit of a trip where it's like you start to get so connected to who you are, your intuition, your higher self, your polygod source, whatever you want to call it, that like you begin to recognize that this entire experience that's happening in the confines what seems like between my eyes and inside my skin is happening by me, happening by me. I'm creating it in the way that I think, in the way that I believe, my perspectives, my expectations, my attachments, my karma, right? And that's a super powerful place to be because when you can begin to transcend these levels of consciousness and you get to a place where everything is happening by me, dude, now you're walking on this earth like you're the main character. Now you're walking on this earth as if you have the power to influence and architect whatever reality you want based off of how you think, where you exchange energy, what you consume and what you put out through your voice and with your hands, and what you actually decide to do with the time that we all have when we wake up and go to bed, you know, so it's a completely different model, right? As we look at like this journey versus like, "Hey, or like the traditional stuff." You know, it's like, we're not powerless here. We're more powerful than we can begin to imagine. And honestly, if you're the type of person through your journey, you have the ability to like wake up and recognize like it's time to make a change and you can learn how to transcend this part of yourself and begin really stepping into like a new version, there's nothing you can't do. There's nothing you can't do. And so, yeah, it's like, dude, I look at this journey as the greatest gift, it's the greatest blessing. Yeah, it's fucked up. Yeah, it burns relationships. Yeah, we do things and we say shit that like, you know, we're incomprehensibly like, how the fuck did that happen? But it's like, it's just medicine. It's just a redirect. It's like, okay, you're showing up this way, you're operating this way, you're living this way, you're believing this way. Okay, that doesn't feel good. Okay, have the balls have the courage to redirect, right? And when we've tried redirecting on our own, hiding in the corner, doing it by yourself with no accountability, we failed, but thousand times. And it's like, well, yeah, it's because we're dealing with something that's infinitely like more complex than we clearly have the tools to handle because we just keep printing. Like, that's our best strategy to manage this internal experience, right? But I applaud all of you guys for having the courage to join this program and, you know, take a bet on yourself and trusting me to go out and begin like really doing the deep inner work. Because this is what it's about, right? Like, when we're laying on our deathbed at some point and we look back, like, nobody's gonna regret looking back and saying, I fucking emptied the tank and I did everything I possibly could to become better. But what you can guarantee is if you play that tape forward and you do end up passing on your deathbed from something that like you knew for years and decades was siphoning your soul, and you're like, fuck, you know, the way that that's gonna hurt, right? So it's like, dude, life is hard life is painful. We're human, we gotta go work, we gotta pay bills, we gotta figure out how to manage relationships, kids, this, that, it's like, choose your pain. Choose your discomfort. Either the discomfort of the same fucking vicious cycle and hellhole game that you played over and over and over again that you're so tired of. Or choose the discomfort of feeling an urge or craving from time to time that you know what's gonna pass. That's the field of discomfort of like having to go put yourself out there and just have a few conversations with people that might seem a little harder uncomfortable. It's like, choose your pain, you know? But the good news is if you choose this pain, of like this initial period of like this comfort of this recalibration and adaptation period that we have to go through, the pain will eventually disappear and it will be transmuted into your power, you know? That's kind of like the big cosmic game that's like the dance of it all, you know? We talked about it before, it's like, what's easy now? In this moment, typically it's gonna lead to things being harder later. And what feels a little harder now, if you do it, you apply it, you develop the courage to move through it and voluntarily expose yourself to it, is gonna make whatever category that's connected to easier down the line. So just like a game of resilience, it's building your window of tolerance every single day by doing things that in the moment don't feel the best, but are actually helping this vehicle expand, become stronger, more resilient, right? It's like one of the gym, yeah, some of us love going to gym, but for some of us it's like, fucking you guys sit there and bite a curl and move heavy weight and it's like, when's this gonna be over and you know, it's like, yeah, it doesn't feel good, but it's like, you know the benefit that comes from that, longevity, muscle, not hurting yourself, looking better, feeling better, more confidence, right? And so it's like, that's the game. So yeah, thank you guys for listening, I know we went over a little bit. Anybody have any last comments or questions before we wrap up? No? Cool? Yeah, thank you. You have the best beer we can say that now, he's gone. I know, we're gonna do it at the beginning, but we missed, but did you want to talk about, does anybody have any questions about battle bodies or the community resources or the community calls or how to navigate anything? At the moment. No? Okay, cool. We'll try to hit it on the next call, Leah. It seems like everybody's kind of up to speed here. So yeah, I appreciate all you guys, being on, I hope you guys took away exactly what you personally needed from tonight's call, whether it was something that I or Julian shared, we're just we're able to receive the transfer of energy. So yeah, thank you guys, have a good night, keep up the great work, and yeah, connect with each other, connect with each other. Like, jam out in the community chat, do battle bodies, you know, send each other messages, like some of the people that you'll meet here, you'll potentially have the ability to like, really build like lifelong friendships, there's already been dozens that have been created inside this community. So everything that we're doing here is just for the betterment of ourselves and, and for our families and for our friends and community. So be proud of yourselves and yeah, we'll see you guys on the next call.