S:3 E:29: GSI - Reddit Dumpster Juice Reviews

Hey y'all, this is your girl Q and welcome back to another episode of Geeky Sexual and Intellectual episode 29 I believe. This is being recorded after and posted Christmas hopefully before the new year so I want to say merry belated Christmas to all of you. I hope you got everything you ever wanted. I hope you're in good health and you enjoyed your family and friends during the holiday season. I got a wonderful full week off from work, no emails, no calls, so I was living my best life this week and I go back in on Monday so y'all know how I feel. So let's get into it. This episode, this is going to be one of our shows that is categorized like Reddit reviews. So if you all don't know Reddit, I know a lot of people know what Reddit is but some people don't. I had an account about like four years ago, really didn't use it so I got back into it because I be bored at work and I've been reading that shit like it's Lifetime or BET or what's that other channel? One. Because it is juicy. It is just as juicy as reality TV shows. So I be reading these stories and I'm like this is wild. I know, you know, my opinion ain't everything but I got something to say about this so I'ma do it. So led me to, I wanted to read some of the posts that I found on Reddit and then give my take on it and my opinion and my advice to OP, the original poster. So here we go. Let's get into it. Okay, so the first story I will be reading was found on wouldibetheasshole_public. This was posted by the user amazinghole, a-hole. So the title is would I be the asshole for ghosting my wife? So my snap judgment is like, it's not a girlfriend, it's a wife. So automatically, yes, you are the asshole. But let's, you know, read what they posted to get some clarification and then we'll see if I change my vote on if they're an asshole. So they write, I know you're gonna say it's fake and that you saw this on Harm or Christmas movie and I'm right there with you. Honestly, I wouldn't believe it either if it didn't happen to me. So if you can't believe it, then just pretend and give me advice anyway, like I'm a real person because I am. It says, I, 32 male, met Sarah, 30 female, in grade school in our small town. She was my first everything, girlfriend, love, and eventually wife. We both went to college together and after I graduated, we got married when I was 23 and she was 21. So I got married when I was 22 and she was 21. So I got married when I was 23 and she was 21. So I got married when I was 23 and she was 23 and she was 23 and she was 23 and she was 23 and she was 23 and she was 23 and she was 21. Sarah was still finishing her degree and I worked hard to support both of us while she completed her studies. When she got her first job, I was proud of her. I felt like all of our sacrifices and hard work were paying off and I thought we were on our way to building a life together. For two years, everything seemed fine, or at least I thought so. Then one day, I came home from work and found her packing a bag. She sat me down and she told me she had been having an affair with a co-worker. I was completely oblivious. She was crying and apologetic. She said she loved me but was in love with the co-worker. And they had this chemistry and a deep connection and that she never felt this level of excitement and attachment with me. Girl, let me not get my girl, let me not get my girl, let me not get my girl, let me not get my girl, let me not get my girl, let me not get my at first, but I went to see a therapist and got on some meds. I got some certifications and through a friend from college, I got an interview with a global consulting company. My friend was married and couldn't do the amount of travel that the job required. So he pushed me hard for me to apply for the position. I started traveling around the world and pretty much worked all the time at first. On any given day, I was either in the gym working or having a virtual therapy session at 3am. I was a dull boy. I got into incredible shape thanks to lifting and running. Eventually, I got a long-term project in Romania and was able to meet and have relationships with women. Fast forward a few years. Recently, I had a few weeks of vacation saved up and went to spend Christmas in, I'm gonna jack this name up, Reykjavik, Iceland. I went to my parents' place in my hometown for Thanksgiving with my sister and brother. Last Thursday, I was at the local independent drugstore in what passes for downtown in my hometown. It was a lunch counter like an old-fashioned drugstore. I got a cup of coffee and sat down at the counter drinking it when Sarah sat down beside me and said, hello. Okay. She was super nervous and red in the face. I was shocked and I just sat there looking at her. I was exploding inside, but I kept my cool on outside. She was still beautiful. She was actually very fit herself and had lost her baby face and became, more became maybe even more beautiful. She started off by apologizing for the way she ended our marriage. I told her she had already apologized like a hundred times when she dumped me, but she insisted that she was young and stupid. And over time, she realized how much she had hurt me. She wanted to meet me later in a less crowded spot with fewer spies, quote, quote, unquote, a small town. Remember? I shook my head no and told her frankly that I didn't see what I could possibly get out of meeting with her again. Uh, that kind of took me took kind of took the wind out of my sails and she kind of deflated. She admitted that it was probably more for her than for me. Um, she said that I'd get closure, not only for how she ended things, but for the kind of person she was back then. She wanted to, she wanted to tell me about how she changed and what she learned about herself and what real love is. She wanted me to see that the person she became is someone that I could respect and maybe be friends with again. Lordy. I wanted, to get the hell out of there. I know that's right. So I just told her, I think about it. She gave me her number and I went home. Apparently my mother and sister had already heard about it from Sarah's mom. What the? Okay. Let me get back to it. So I'm a big, dumb victim of some kind of big, dumb Hallmark Christmas movie. Hit job. My sister, 29 female and mom, 55 female told me that they kept up with Sarah since our divorce and they know she's changed and that she, wait a minute, told me that they kept up with Sarah since our divorce and they know she's changed and that she, and that I should hear, hear her out. My dad, 56 male, just shook his head and walked out. I'm with you, sir. Let's get us some beers and go in the front seat. I mean the front, uh, the front living room. Cause they own some shit with old boy and his ex wife. Okay. Um, my brother, he's 22 male thought all of this was hilarious. I would too. I'm either with the father or the brother, but definitely not with the mother and the sister. I asked if he wanted to chime in and he just shrugged his shoulders and said that since Sarah and I knew each other, um, from when we were kids, I should at least hear her out just to keep the peace between our families since we live in a small town. Ah, okay. I'm off the brother's team because fuck that. Um, let's see who, and this is a long one. I should have told y'all that personally, I do think that her family would feel insulted if I didn't at least talk to her. I know for a fact that she's living with her parents now. So it seems like her life completely, uh, went to shit. I'm sorry. Completely shit the bed. That's his phrasing better. Um, I kind of like to get the gory details, as maybe a form of, uh, short of Freudian. I think that's what that is, but it's all behind me now. And I think it would all just make me sad. Um, I guess I'm a better man now than, uh, that I'm more mature, more wealthy and fitter than I was when I was with her, but I'm still the same guy that she didn't have chemistry or connection with back in the day. So I think whatever comes out of her mouth would be bullshit. I think she's probably a dungeon cosplayer. What? She's probably a dungeon cosplayer as a princess and wants me to be her white knight. Fuck that. I know that's right, dude. Um, my mom and sister are pushing hard for me to meet her. And my mom says that she's afraid if I don't at least hear Sarah out, that Sarah's mom will resent her and make her social life more complicated. Oh, that's a whole nother story. Like why are you even friends with this woman? If you think she'll do some shit like that. Anyway, back to the story. Let me make it very beautiful, but so are the women in Romania, Iceland and elsewhere. Uh, and they have the added bonus of not breaking my heart. I'm interested in going just to hear about what happened to her after she dumped me and to smooth things over for my folks what do you think reddit should i go i kind of want to talk me down off the ledge would i be the asshole if i ghosted my ex-wife so i am going to revise my original statement of that he's the asshole he is definitely not the asshole your mama your sister your little brother your ex-wife's family and for definition your ex-wife for all the assholes sarah just say you're uh you sorry and let that be that that where i re-invite this back into this man's life what if he had a little bit of hope for y'all to get back together after these years and you reigniting it but now that you're older you can see what you lost like girl move on and op just need to stick to his guns and leave that woman alone just say hey you know i'm glad we cleared the air um i'm glad you're doing well even though he thinks her life is shit the bed that's it looks different to everybody you know just because she's living with her parents like it was the fucking pandemic a lot of people went back home because money bitch but yeah like no this is this is not a necessary thing you don't have to continue to know people in your life that have hurt you continue to hurt you you didn't get your quote-unquote uh closure with just move on if you've healed yourself he went he had he went to get therapy he went and got this degree he's traveling all over the world your life is better divorce don't always have to be something bad it can be lead to something better um and i know i know i've been through a lot but i'm just thinking about my own situation my first marriage was dumps the fire and if i wouldn't let that go i wouldn't have what i have today my daughter my wonderful husband my cute little life i got going on so no op let her go and your mama gonna have to fend for her own because what kind of power do sarah mama got in this town that she can mess up your mama's social life like okay wicked witch like that's what it's giving let's see what the comments have okay one commenter said not the asshole she can write you a letter she can leave a voice message she can keep apologizing because she wants you to forgive her to ease her guilt and conscience that is definitely right girl like just you keep saying sorry over and over again sorry is words you said it he got it there's no way to show him that you're sorry because y'all leave separate lives now if y'all would stay together you could change your habits and that would show him that you were physically sorry but yeah move on okay next commenter says not the asshole meeting with her gives gives her closure you've already done the work to move past her you've gotten your closure here's the facts she violated the vow that she took by cheating definitely she then abruptly just left and moved right in with the other person yeah they have been planning that shit you just don't move in with somebody um she's now living with her parents we don't know what happened there but it's over exactly like i said now she wants to meet with you to catch up on her life grovel and apologize some more so that she feels better don't do it you owe her nothing she can work on herself and get her own closure you don't need to help her do that i know that's right they wrote a whole that's a whole uh point period statement i would live by this uh op don't don't do nothing different than what this person said okay the next commenter says tell your mom and sister to meet up with her and they can report back to you if you want the details you have better or more important things to do than worry about like what color shirt to wear on the plane to iceland i think i read that weird but basically they say you got other things to worry about like what color shirt to wear on the plane to iceland back to some new women i know that's right i know that's right um let's see next comment just says so she actually split up with her husband like yeah that's why she's living with the parents you're not context clues go back and read the whole damn long ass post okay so the last comment i'm gonna read it says jesus christ stop being a people pleaser oh i could put a lot of p's on this mic stop being a people pleaser and do what's best for you not your parents or her parents ghost her and tell her mother and tell your mother and sister to respect your wish to never be a people pleaser bring her up again you are an adult and at least you're supposed to be draw the line and for once stand up for yourself but then again your mother and sister have your number since you state that you want to talk to her or what whatever okay so the last part lost me but yes tell your mama and sister to kick rocks they can go see if they want to see so bad because they really want you to get back with her and that's that's a no-go for me okay so moving on the next one comes from um the next one comes from um the next one comes from um the next one comes from um the next one comes from it says the title is anyone have tips on how to date men who are good at sex so the post goes as i am a 40 i am 45 and single i date a lot and so many men are so bad at sex even when i tell and show them what to do it's like they don't listen or understand or maybe they don't care most of them are only concerned with immediate piv and getting themselves off has anyone had any success at figuring out if a man will be a good man or not i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't be decent in bed before you sleep with him or is it just try it and good luck oh my goodness this is one of those things like you said you have to try and figure it out but i feel like only one keynote descriptor that you that i don't know it's still a roll of the dice if they are always talking about sex and if they always talking about what they gonna do to you and how they gonna make you feel since i was in my 20s that has always been a key factor to this motherfucker don't know what he doing in this bed and it's really just like they said a piv a point uh what what is it penis and vagina and i'm finna get my rocks out real quick i don't care who laying under me i'm not concerned with how they feeling or getting them off and yeah i don't know i mean i don't know just wait it out have some people that you have sex with and then hold out for people that you're serious with i know a lot of men don't like that or think that's like why the bad guys get all the cookies like but if you're looking for just a good time to just fuck them if you're not then you know have some discernment with who you're sleeping with but we all out here just tried to figure it out i'm glad i'm done playing in that dirty ass pee in the pool as relationship dilemma everybody going through but yeah i would just you know kuma kuma jets or get your rocks out shit bring a bring a vibrator in and you know f them shit i don't know let's see what some of the commenters have to say so the first commenter says i will admit i'm not an expert on your question but when i got married i knew some very important things about her i knew she was very giving and generous i knew she was smart and becomes an expert at anything she sets her mind to i knew she was courageous and hard-working i knew she was fun and enthusiastic about things she loved um before i bore you with the list of her qualifications and qualities suffice it to say that these are great qualities in a lover uh yeah they kind of went off on a tangent but i'm saying he took interest in her so in asex life he probably takes interest in her pleasure as well if this motherfucker not taking interest in you know you and things that you're doing and you're not taking interest in what you love and have fashions for he not there for um a long time he's there for a good time okay so this commenter has a bit of a long post but let's get into it a lot of vetting ahead of time and being picky i totally agree i look for red flags and conversations that point to selfish lovers or boundary stompers does the person give oral sex do they ask about what i want during sex or at least listen when i tell them about it if we sexed do they only talk about sex scenarios that focus on their pleasure for instance people that want me to give them blowjobs all day want me to get on top and ride but seem disinterested in giving me oral and don't like to spend their time on foreplay or other sexual positions that they don't sound like good lovers i usually pass on them also um i also don't tolerate bad sex if my vetting fails and i meet someone more organically and things happen and the sex is bad i don't tolerate bad sex i will attempt to help lead the person to what would work better for me if they don't listen ignore me try to say i know what i'm doing or anything else that means the sex stays bad then i won't have sex with them again um shit i would even go as far as to just stop this shit right there um but she said i won't have sex with them again life is too short to be having bad sex i'd rather masturbate girl that's a whole word okay and then she put edits uh that she liked to add i am a very giving and enthusiastic person and i don't want to have sex with anyone else i am a very enthusiastic lover i am kinky and i give a lot of pleasure to my partner but i do expect reciprocation uh reciprocal attention as well i totally 100 agree i don't know the age of this poster because everybody has to come into their sexual prowess or sexual understanding of self-pleasure uh for themselves and with a partner and it's usually you know around late 30s 40s so yeah people in their 20s listen listen to that that's some real good advice for any situation okay this is the last commenter i'm going to give you i'm going to give you a little bit of a read on this one and it's really good um it says i am a 42 male and i don't indulge in penetration unless there's a lot of foreplay and the lady has her uh shivering orgasms before i penetrate this is awesome sir and i know it's a sir he's a 42 male because it takes a female at least um you know what science says at least 20 minutes to get warmed up revved up wet enough for penetration so and then it's got to be another 20 minutes to get into a relationship with a man and a woman to an orgasmic state and not all women orgasm from penetrated sex so your best bet is foreplay you're gonna definitely get some orgasms from foreplay you definitely gonna get them if you listen because she know what feels good to her you are not inside of her body sir so yes i applaud this gentleman for that thank you moving on to the next okay so story number three this one was posted on am i the asshole asshole am i the asshole underscore would i be the asshole why do i keep i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry y'all i'm being real silly right now would i be the asshole underscore public okay so the title of this and it was posted 18 days ago the title of this one is would i be the asshole if i told my brother-in-law that my sister has cheated on him multiple times throughout their relationship i need to take a deep breath on this one oh my god oh my god your ass is in the thick of it into the thick of it okay so let's get into this post oh my god okay so it says for context i am 20 female have an older sister 34 female that has been married twice the first guy was 40s and her and she got divorced because of their differing personalities and he was kind of an asshole as soon as she was separated um with her first ex-husband she got with her now husband 32 male for simplicity's sake my sister will be leila her first husband will be todd and her current husband will be david uh quote unquote they are all they all have been married for a long time and they have been married for a long time and they have all have social media and i don't need this to bite me in the ass uh girl it's already biting you in the ass that you even want anyway let's let's get back about six months intro leila and david's relationship she cheated on him with a guy that was a friend of my dad's yuck first of all um he didn't find out but she immediately told my mom and i and kind of bragged about it she's trash uh this would happen every six months or so where she would find some hot new guy and either send nudes and sexually talk with them or she would actively have sexual relationships with them in person david has never found out about any of this when david and leila first met i was in the seventh grade and obviously couldn't say much because i still lived with my parents and they refused to say anything i didn't want them to get mad at me so i just never said anything and you're in the seventh grade that's a lot of fucking pressure okay fast forward six and a half years later i'm now living in an apartment with my boyfriend and i'm living with my mom and i'm and he knows the situation with my sister and her current boyfriend um okay so we're talking about one of her lovers he thinks that now that i'm living on my own that i should say something to david david just recently found out about my sister talking to her ex-husband since january for why and they have been quite flirty with each other since then obviously david was super upset and made her choose between him and todd the ex-husband she chose david and they have been trying to work it out for the past two weeks however i text david quite often and he is not doing well with all of this and he doesn't even know the rest of it shit my boyfriend says that i should say something because david doesn't deserve to be in a relationship where it's literally built on lies however i don't want to risk the absolute blow-up of my sister um would cause um if she found out i was the one who told him and not to mention i'm terrified my parents are gonna flip on me and i'm gonna be the bad guy in the family oh child so would i be the asshole if i told my brother-in-law that my sister has been cheating more times than he thinks has happened and do i risk the relationship i have with my parents and sister by going with what my morals and guts are saying okay so she put an update on here and i'm gonna read the update before oh jesus wait a minute maybe i should get my my my opinion child this is a lot okay i i want to say what i think i would do because it's a lot of factors at play right now because your family already shit that you think they would cut you off because you want to be a good person so let me say hypothetically i would tell my brother-in-law because a lot of people be like he not family he not blood you stick with blood not if your blood is trash water so i'm like set that man free i mean your sister gonna be mad at you for a very long time if you if you getting into the thick of it like this your sister gonna be hot as fuck i don't even know she would ever talk to you again but you're doing that man a disservice by smiling in his face every holiday and everybody's gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna be mad at you for a very long time i'm gonna be mad at you for a very long time so i'm gonna be mad at you for a very long time and everybody else is mad on his face and they know what's going on in his relationship like he is basically he wearing a ball and chain and don't even know it like this woman out here just free willy with hers and she could possibly bring back stds bring back some babies bring some men drama they want to fight on you because they want your woman like let that man go so i'm mad at you not the asshole sister girl you're not the asshole op your family is the asshole your mother your sister anybody else that's teaming up with your sister your boyfriend is the goat now the only thing about your your your boyfriend uh y'all plan on getting married because he could be gone tomorrow and girl you left for nothing but i would say tell your brother-in-law that seems very scary to me thinking that the repercussion of that would be that your family would cut you loose but god dog i don't know and you say you've been knowing this man since she was in the seventh grade and you're in your 20s now like he he might be your family you know just because marriages break up don't mean your in-laws can be your family no more so he may be your newfound family okay so let's read this update i talked to my boyfriend and we decided that it would be best if i told david after my finals quote unquote which end this weekend like i said this was 18 days ago i talked to my mom and i told her what i was planning on doing and she basically said not to and that her and my dad would be very upset and that basically they would not be able to control what my sister would do after she finds out that i was the one that spilled the beans so i guess i'll have another update this upcoming week wish me luck i can't breathe because there's a lot of pressure your parents need to be backhanded like i'm gonna tell you right now if she jump on your motherfucking ass you deserve it and we ain't gonna stop it uh-uh y'all trash y'all letting your daughter be trash you know what if she was gonna be trash that's you and your journey in life don't come tell me about your sexual exploits and you married like don't be married like why are you married to this man i would never understand that men or women that get married and know they not somebody with that shit like just be single have all the sex partners you want have all the random sex and uh explorations you want but don't attach somebody else to that because in their mind they thinking you signed up for the same agreement they did and you're not you never intended to and i don't i don't think it said how many years they had been married but how many sexual partners have you had outside of your marriage like is this man not fulfilling you anymore did you think you was but you really not were you just trying to get married for stability and you'll do whatever else you have to do in life to be happy just to keep your stability i don't know chav this man needs uh a woman that's gonna love him and be committed to him because that's what they both signed up for let's read some of these comments okay so the first one says if she is big enough pos i don't know what that means to brag to your mom and your mom is covering for her you have one messed up family 100 does your dad know that your mom is covering for her i don't want to start a pot anymore than it has to but i wonder if your mom's attitude is because she cheated on your dad okay so y'all getting y'all elaborating and build on stories on top of this is inception at this point a story on top of a story i don't know maybe i think it's just as simple and basic as this is my child this is my blood i am 100 for them no matter what they do you know how people say unconditional love i don't know if that's real but that's what she's saying it's not that serious is my child gonna get hurt she could he could be one of them people that snap out and kill everybody in the house when he find out his wife been cheating on him for all these years but hey i guess you'll figure it out when uh op let this man know this is crazy your family wow the next commenter says poor bastard deserves to know the truth do him a solid and let him know just damn i'm the same way oh just let him know so he can be free this is something else okay so here's the final commenter it's pretty long so here we go um it says your family sounds super toxic uh you are young and haven't been jaded enough to want to go no contact but honestly going no contact is for your family i would tell david he deserves better how to tell him is the challenge you could find a way to tell him if he's emotionally mature if you tell him you don't want to blow you don't want it to blow up well yeah you don't want it to blow up your family but also in good faith he needs to find a way to find out that doesn't implicate you i would tell david he deserves better how to tell him is the challenge i would suggest he go through her phone her emails etc collect his evidence and then take it to a lawyer he should be what to say he should be smart and prepared he doesn't need to know um he doesn't need to let on he knows until he's ready to blow up the marriage if he's smart he'll do this people are rarely smart i know that's true and so divorce law is different in every state i live in texas and there's a lawyer that i follow she's a lawyer she's a lawyer she's a lawyer she's a lawyer she's a podcast and i think she's trying to put together a show with her and her husband um that's also a divorce lawyer but basically in the state of texas a lot of people think this and i think it's you know the fault of movies people think whenever they get divorced it's an automatic 50 50 that is not true it depends on a lot of factors so in texas if at any point that the cheating spouse used money basically they call that uh uh marriage funds or community funds within the marriage if the cheating spouse used money within the marriage if the cheating spouse used money if they have used those funds to um uh support their affairs or uh you know like buying gifts buying trips paying bills that is what the law cares about because the state of texas they say everybody's cheap everybody cheat what else what else you got they want to know if they were using marital funds to support their cheating habits if that is a yes oh then you gonna ring their ass out you're gonna take them to the bank that's what they what with the, the, the, the, uh, judgment, uh, leans toward. just money but money did you spend money um so yeah so sometimes a marriage will be uh what is it 60 40 uh 70 30 it doesn't always be 50 50 so yeah he need to get his documentation and uh go talk to him a little yeah because you start running your mouth and talking too much in the heat of anger and i know that's hard to do to like hold it in um but trust me it'll be so sweet the revenge will be so sweet if you can if you you just oh i just wish he would be he would get the documentation and just hold on to it um and then serve her ass and it'll be like my lord you're gonna take your ass to the cleaners bitch because you're nasty you're trifling you're a trollop and i'm all cool for being a trollop if you're not married and lying to somebody but oh my god that's that's wild okay so down to our last reddit um post here we go okay so this post was uh post it to stories on reddit um it was posted five months ago hopefully some updates if not i feel like it's gonna be super juicy because the title is i slept with my therapist oh my god shut it down jail immediately um okay so here we go i never thought i'd be in this position but here i am i'm consumed with guilt and honestly a little confused i've been seeing my therapist for about a year and he specializes in eating disorders which is something i've struggled with for a long time over time our sessions became more personal and emotional i started with longer eye contact and his comforting touch on my shoulder after one particular intense section session i he hugged me for a little too long uh the line began to blur and i started to develop feelings for him one evening after a deeply personal conversation with my therapist i was able to get a hold of him and i thought it was just him being kind and supportive but in the back of my mind i honestly hoped he'd confirm having similar feelings that i had been having we sat closer than usual at one point he even reached out to hold my hand and i could feel the tension between us he complimented my progress and told me how proud he was of me and i was able to get a hold of him and i was able to get a hold of him that's honestly what sent me even further into the intense feeling of lust his words were soothing and before i knew it we were kissing cringe it felt surreal like a dream one thing led to another and we ended up going back to his place and sleeping together i know it was a huge ethical breach and now i'm struggling with my emotions i'm terrified of the consequences and that i now know that i'm not alone i'm not alone i'm not alone i'm not alone i'm never good at starting over i don't know what i'm gonna do i just needed to tell someone girl you never sleep with a therapist i and we all understand you're vulnerable you're telling them things that you've probably never told anyone it feels like they're hearing you because they are because they're paid to do that and you feel seen and i know that i don't know but i know you're a case that probably feels elusive and like it's real connection it's a connection but it shouldn't be on a sexual connection oh and he took advantage of it oh because he should not be a therapist because he understands this i know they teach them this because the the attachments that form during sessions with clients and how you're supposed to nip that shit in the bud because it's unethical because you can be seen as a seat of power that is taking uh taking advantage of this vulnerable individual yes find you another therapist because this is not gonna work because when y'all having relationship issues now you got to go find another therapist and that therapist is gonna be like how did you all meet and then you're gonna be like um actually the same way you and i met he was my therapist and she gonna be like to jail uh you lose your license i'm reporting all of this so baby girl please stop fucking him and go find you a new therapist it seems like you heterosexual go find you a woman therapist oh my god read some of these comments okay so the first one bam at the gate as a psychologist please report him that was the first sentence um it was his job to keep the therapeutic environment safe and instead he made several decisions to break those boundaries and take advantage of your vulnerability you did nothing wrong and you deserve safe mental health care yes i mean she did because she shouldn't have fucked him like this almost like i don't know child she shouldn't have fucked him he's supposed to be here to help you with your mental health not your vaginal health oh my god girl you let your feels get too deep and he need to lose all of his credentials because sir how many other patients have you fucked just because oh my god i can't believe i mean why do i always say i can't believe i can't believe because people are horrible and it's like oh there's some uh low-hanging fruit i'm finna get it i'm finna devour it and you should have just left her fruit alone so the next commenter is i oh i never thought about this so their comment is question if the therapist was not a predator even though they are but okay for questions sake if they were not a predator and did in fact have feelings what should he have done just curious i assume break off the professional relationship first and then shoot his shot after some time had passed like no sir he already has information about her mental state and her previous triggers and um her trauma and the inner workings of her that she has divulged to him he has divulged nothing so no he can never unlock that door if he feels like he's starting to feel emotional ties to this client he need to be a professional and cut it off and uh refer her to another therapist another colleague um and never shoot his shot you never shoot your shot with your clients i don't care i don't care if it's we stop uh having sessions and i see you five years from now because guess what you still have personal knowledge of me and my mental health and i don't need you using it against me in arguments just no it's a no that to your question no he should just leave it alone okay here's another commenter i know you have feelings and therapy is a complex thing it was the role of the therapist to delineate that set boundaries and talk through those feelings with you he violated you in your very vulnerable state and yes he should be reported exactly okay so this is the last commenter that i'm going to read it's kind of long but i feel like it has some need to know information it says the therapist needs to be reported to a licensing board if true op several things are happening here first and foremost therapists are expressly forbidden from sleeping with clients we even have rules stating how long it needs to be after we stop seeing someone as a client before we can start seeing them in any other capacity quote-unquote for romantic and sexual relationships is five years me personally i say never on the table it's never a shot to shoot okay because you know things about them but moving on with a comment the reason for this is we're highly trained in getting people to open up their minds and open up and foster a one-sided deep emotional connection by contrast you know also nothing about us even if it feels like you do in most cases this type of connection is therapeutic and good because the client can have the therapist be whoever they need them to be without having to worry about how session content impacts their therapist but when the line is crossed and it becomes sexual the therapist has used their training to make someone emotionally vulnerable and then use their power to fulfill their own needs i would report him 100 uh written beautifully everything all my ramblings um of what i said culminated into this beautiful post do all of this never have sex with your uh therapist if you feel in feelings leave if they express they have feelings leave if you're the therapist and you know that the client is having feelings with you release them and refer them to someone else if they uh try to get you to get go down this rabbit hole of sexual relationship report them it's just it's so many other things that could be done here besides uh the therapist taking advantage of you and you wanted to have that connection with them because again you know nothing about them that was a barn burner of 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