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- Hi, welcome to Smoshreads Reddit Stories. I'm Shane, and today's theme is "Am I overreacting?" Particularly with relationships. And I have two people who are always overreacting. - Shut up. - What do you mean? - Courtney and Ian are here. - Hi. (laughing) - We are very calm. - We're so zen today, so we're actually really calm, but I'm not gonna overreact about everything. - Okay, cool. I like dig that vibe. - Nice. - Oh, wow, all right. - That was calm. That was a calm, relaxed bird. - Yeah, for the listeners at home, I flipped Shane the bird. - Very zen-like. - Yeah, the last time we did "Am I overreacting?" Courtney, you had probably your most famous Reddit Stories moment. - I think that's the most I've ever crashed out on Smosh. Aside from me, when I like yelled at you on a mongoose in the band, I make it. - I blocked that out of my memory. - I try to block it out of my memory. - Yeah. - Oh no. - I really tried. - I gotta go back and watch that. - No, you should not, and now you are, and that's fine. - Now everyone is. - I'm joking. - Don't go back there. - It's a break. - Why would anyone crash out of this? - People were allowed during the COVID lockdown. - Yeah. - The stories you read on that episode, by the way, very warranting for crashing out. - Oh yeah. We have all, I feel like we've all been on Smosh for 10 years or more. - Yeah. - We have overreacted plenty. We've also underreacted plenty. - Yeah. - So much has happened. - Yeah. - All right, well let's get into these stories and determine if they're overreacting or not. I have a feeling they're maybe not. - You never know. - We'll see. - Yes. - First story, am I overreacting? Am I overreacting, or should I be creeped out by my Tinder dates messages? - Usually, yeah. - Yeah. - Hi guys, using a throwaway account for my own privacy. I, a 21 year old woman, met this guy, 25 year old male, on Tinder recently, and things were going pretty good between us. I thought he was funny and seemed sweet through our conversations. We talked frequently, and I eventually gave him my number. He recently asked me out on our first date at some fancy restaurant, and the date was going very well until he dropped me off at my house. When we got there, he basically tried to invite himself inside by saying that we could continue the date and have a few drinks inside. I was like, WTF, because this was the first date, and I don't do that type of stuff, and he was overly pushy about it, which made me uncomfortable and unsure if going on this date was a good idea. I eventually got him to go by saying I was feeling tired and that I had to get up early tomorrow for my morning shift, which wasn't a lie. The next morning, I had woken up to these weird-ass texts from him early in the morning. It genuinely creeped me out, but I don't know. He said he was drunk, but I still feel weird about the whole thing, and I haven't replied back yet because I don't know what to do. Am I just overreacting, or is this something to be concerned about? I have the text message. - Let's go, I need to hear you. - Okay, I would say already, already. If anybody was like, oh yeah, we went on a date, and then when I told him, oh, I don't wanna go inside my house, he was like, he was pushing it all. If it's not just okay, I'm like, that's a huge red flag. - What's going on, yeah. - All right, off of that. All right, these text messages. All right, we have our text messages. What time do you think these were sent to have? - Oh god. - 3 a.m. - I'm thinking between two and four. 3.42 a.m. - There you go. - Let's go. - There you go. - All right. All right, at 3.42 a.m., he texts, "Hey, I was thinking of you all night when I got home. "We should go out again. "I'm disappointed we couldn't do more during our date. "Would love to spend the night with a pretty girl like you." That was at 3.45 a.m. Now at 4.07 a.m., there's about 21 minutes later. 22 minutes later, he goes, "Now that I think about it, "I'm pretty unhappy with how the night ended. "4.11 a.m. "I don't know, I don't appreciate your bitchy attitude, "not letting me in after such a nice night. "4.14 a.m. "If I'd known you weren't gonna give me shit, "I wouldn't have wasted my time with you." - Oh my god. - So from in the span of a half an hour, he goes from, "I had such a great time. "No, I didn't. (laughing) - I had terrible time. - I had terrible time. - You didn't give me puning. (laughing) - Oh my god, dude. - Okay, so he leaves it at that at 4.14 a.m. 7.30 a.m., she texts him. WTF is your problem. I don't appreciate being spoken to in that way, and that was really uncalled for. If this is how you're gonna act, I don't wanna continue talking. 11.21 a.m., he responds. - I had to sleep some off. - Yeah, yeah. - Yeah. And I'm gonna, I'm gonna even read out the misspellings. - Okay, awesome, I love that shit. - I think there's only one, but it's funny. Holly shit. (laughing) I am so sorry for all of that. I got drunk last night and don't remember shit. Please ignore that. I didn't mean a word I said and don't think of you like that at all. 15 minutes later. I know you are probably pretty unhappy with me, but I wanted to make things right. How about we go see that movie that you told me about so I can make things up to you, smiley face. - Nar. - No. - I'm really surprised we didn't get a ha ha. - I know. - You're a ha ha. - No, don't leave me, you're so sexy, ha ha. - Or a lull or a lull. - Yeah. - No, don't talk to this guy. - I think if you like show that you're this kind of like mythical, jekyll and hide thing when you're drunk, like that's a red flag in and of itself. - It's also like there's a red flag no matter what 'cause his excuses, oh, after our date last night, I went and got drunk, so drunk that I, and then I got mean after I got drunk. I'd be like, hey man, there's no way out of this one's bad. - Also being like, let me make it up to you by taking you out again. Like no, you have not earned that yet. - Yeah. - Even if she wanted to consider giving him another chance, he needs to work back that trust all over again. This isn't a relationship that they've been in a while. They are two people who met on an app. She's still getting to know you. Like I see stuff online about these kind of, I don't know if it's divine intervention or whatever, but like when early in a dating app situation, like the first time that the guy, the dude, is told like no, or oh, you cancel on a date, like their response is actually a very telling blessing. I'm like someone was like, hey, I actually had to cancel on a tender date last minute and he exploded at me. - Right. - Like stuff like that is, those are the most important moments. - I've even heard of, and I don't agree with this as a test, but I've heard of-- - Doing it on purpose? - Yeah, like canceling last minute on purpose to see how the man reacts, and then if it's bad, then they're like, okay, Christ is averted. - Right. - And if it's good, then it's like, okay, then green flag, but also like that's fucked up to like play around with somebody's time. - Regardless, you're being in genuine, 'cause I remember what we talked about that. That test thing, I heard about that too, and I had mixed feelings on it, 'cause I'm like, I understand, like being scared and wanting to be like, you know, sure about a person, and I'm like, I see where the test can show a green flag or red flag, but if I'm the guy in that situation, and I'm about to go on a date, and last second, they cancel, I am probably gonna lose interest just 'cause I'm gonna be like, oh, they're not into me, right? And it depends on the situation, and even if they explained that test, I would maybe, I don't know how I would feel, but I also understand the sentiment because it's like, you don't know who you're dealing with, and you don't wanna end up in a situation where you're at your front porch, and then they're not like going away. So I understand the dilemma. She, I don't think there's any situation where you're overreacting after a first date. You're allowed to just say, you don't want a second date. - Yeah. - There's really not a situation where I would be like, you're overreacting. She also hasn't done anything. Besides just say, hey, that's messed up. - Yeah, she's not out. - The entitlement on this guy is crazy. - Yeah, she is underreacting, I would go so far to say. The verdict, not overreacting. Comments, whoops, in quotations, whoops, sorry about that, mask fell off for a second. He's hiding who he really is behind a nice guy act. Deep down these drunk texts are how he really feels. After a long enough time, this is the guy you'll be dealing with, not whatever version of him you saw in the first date, and even that version of him was pushy. Run, run, run, run. Someone else listed out a couple bullet points here. They said number one, drunk texting is serious impulse control anyway. Lots of us have done it and regretted it, but this is next level. After a first date, and that hostile towards someone he just met, number two, the passive-aggressive attitude. He goes from sweet guy to douche canoe at mock five. That's controlling male behavior right there. Guilt moves him into a position of emotional control over you. Number three, if I understand correctly, he was insistent on coming in/hooking up, whatever it was. A man that respects women doesn't push that boundary until the woman is ready. You can want a female sexually all the live long day, but you're a goddamn adult, keep your dick and your pants idiot. As an older man, 57, who has made his share of mistakes and is now happily married for 15 years. In my opinion, this is not the kind of hassle you need. Want or deserve, especially after one date, walk away young lady, you can do better. No, you deserve better. Walk away young lady. This guy who loves reddit. Walk away. This person was doing reddit for a long time. This person just is a hobby. That's the first reddit. I love that became our impression of a 57-year-old. I'm just like, hey! He's like, whoa, dude, I'm a man. He's like, hold on. Last comment, someone said, run. Without a word, sounds like he knows where you live. A mistake I learned a long time ago. No one gets to know where I live until I've vetted them for a while. No, that's fair. - That's very valid. - That's fair. - Fairly fair. - I don't know if I've told the story on camera, but we've talked about how like that one guy on Tinder who like I'm so glad I never went on a date with because he was so pushy about going on a first date, but I had expressed very explicitly from the beginning that I was only on there to talk. Wasn't gonna do anything or meet anybody for a while 'cause I was like freshly single. He kept pushing for a date. - Does anyone that was obsessed with your skin? - Yes, so let us, let us, let us go down the line first. But yeah, where I was literally like I'm not, and he'd be like please can we just go on one date and then we don't have to go on for another one for a long time, just one date please. And I was like I, no, you're overwhelming right now. Like this is not what I want. He was like you know what you're right, I'm sorry. I would rather talk to you than not have you at all. And like women are complicated. Or like what did he say? I was like yeah, women are so different from men. Like women's skin is malleable and stretchy and soft whereas men's skin is tougher and whatever. And I was like, oh well, didn't know I was talking to a serial killer. Ha ha, and he was like I'm just stating a fact. - That's the most serial killer response to that. - He's like a fact that I verified. - A fact that I know. - A fact that I know people. - I ended up having to block him. And then apparently like he found me at a bar later, but my friend who like just hates men happened to push him out of the way. And so I didn't even like interact. It's so wild. - We all need that friend. - Yeah. - I agree though, being careful and taking things from dating apps, you know. You just never. - 100%. I think it's weird like, 'cause I've gone on dates where we'd find a place to eat. And then they send me their address like pick 'em up. I'm like you're just, you just give out your address. The stranger is all willy-nilly. - Yeah, I agree. - They're lucky it was you. - Well, I still murder them. (laughing) - Well, I still killed them. - Yeah, yeah. - We have a small tiny little update. - Okay. - I didn't end up responding to his texts and blocked him. Hopefully that's the end of things. - I hope so too. Hopefully he forgets your address. - Maybe he was drunk already. - Yeah. - I did the hope. - Was he drunk by himself? I'm like did he just go back out? Did he hang out with other people? - That's what I mean. It's a red flag no matter what. - Yeah. - It's not a great look. No text, no text, no 3am text is a good thing. - 342, basically 4am text, drunk, alone. - Yeah. - Weird. - All right, my next story. Am I overreacting? My boyfriend gave his mother the address I wanted for my birthday. Wow. - Wait, say that again. Say that one more time. - My boyfriend gave his mother the dress I wanted for my birthday. - Oh. - Mommy? Mama Sita? - Mama Sita? - Mama Sita? - All right. I, a 23-year-old woman, have been dating my boyfriend who's 26 for the past three years. About two months ago, while we were out shopping, I saw this really gorgeous, amazing dress that was just perfect for me and in my favorite color. He looked at the dress and said it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive, $200. So he didn't end up getting it. For weeks after this, I would constantly talk about the dress to him and how I couldn't stop thinking about how beautiful it was and hope one day I could save to buy it since we've been budgeting a bit lately. He would hear about this dress from me all the time and talked about how great he thought it would look on me. So yesterday was my birthday and we had a little get together with some members of both our families to celebrate, except when his mother arrived in our house, she was wearing the exact dress in the exact color. I was stunned. I thought that he must have told her about it and she went and got one, but it turns out that that wasn't the case. In my surprise, I said, "Oh my God, there's no way. "That's the same dress I was looking for "and dying over for months." And she replied saying, "Oh, really? "Zane," OP's boyfriend, gave it to me as a gift last month. I was shocked and confused. Even more so when my boyfriend gave me the birthday gift he got me and it was a gift card for Sephora for $50. For the rest of the night, I sat quietly in a corner in silence and confusion. I felt hurt and was lost in my head as to what was going on. My boyfriend and everyone was blissfully unaware and happy the entire night and I didn't want to ruin the mood. So I started to try to put on a good face, but I can't shake this feeling of being hurt. A part of me feels like I'm overreacting and acting spoiled and entitled. Am I? Just need to know if I need to calm down and not be upset about this. - Okay, so what I'm hearing is. - What? - Okay, so what I'm hearing is, he buys this dress that he said would look so good on his girlfriend for his mom and then goes to his girlfriend and goes, and yeah, maybe put on some makeup, though. - Yeah. - $50 of makeup. Fix your face. - Fix your face. - And $50 is Sephora is like a sample size of moisture. - That's like nothing. - That's like one like flensing balm. - Oh yeah. - So, what the hell? - What in the world? - So he looked at the dress and said it was beautiful but it was rather expensive. She was the one who was like, this is perfect. This is perfect for me. He goes, oh, what's it look expensive? But then, in that month, he buys it for his mom. - What in the hell? - And I don't even think they explained that it was for her birthday or anything like his mom didn't have a birthday. He just bought it for his mom. - And we're all thinking the same thing, right? - We're all thinking the same thing. This is a little-- - He's just the guy who loves his mom. I don't see what we're doing. - Yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying. - There's no tone of Game of Thrones in here. - Wow, I don't even, like, the logic just doesn't logic to me. - No, it doesn't make any sense. - It doesn't make any sense. - She's not overreacting at all. I understand, though, why she is coming here questioning this because everyone in this room, everyone in that room there at this celebration was acting like this was all completely normal. They established, yeah, you wanted this dress but he bought it for your mom instead, for his mom instead. - Right. - And hey, that's just how it goes, whatever. I mean, let's entertain the fact that, okay, they've been in a relationship for three years. - Yeah. - You know, your mom and the weight that your mom would hold in your life compared to someone you've been dating that you haven't known as long as, you know, your mom. Like, maybe you're willing to spend more on family. You know, maybe that's where his logic was. - But they've been together for three years. Like, three years is where I'm like, yeah, that's a serious relationship. - So weird. - I'm just like, is it, is it head trauma? Did he think that like his mom, did he think that his mom was a girlfriend? - Is it that the trauma? - Like, wait, I'm not doing that. - I'm not doing that. - You gotta mix it up. Like, I'm like, I'm like, did he go back to the mall and he's like, oh, the dress, there was a woman that said that she wanted this dress. - Who, who did I-- - There's only two women in my life. - Ah, 50/50, flip a coin, I guess it was my mom. - Oh my God. - I need to know. I have so many questions. The verdict was not overreacting. Comments, sounds like he did it on purpose. He probably knows you have good taste and used that to get a present for his mom. Was it a gift for something specific or just a gift out of nowhere? He had to know you'd see her wearing it. What was he thinking? Sounds like he wasn't, to be honest. Sounds like he's a mama's boy and didn't put in any effort for your gift. I'd be livid. Don't put up with this BS girl. You deserve better. If you wanna talk it out with him, do that and see what he says. But I don't know. It doesn't seem worth it to me. But if you do, mention how it was obvious that you wanted that dress and how hurtful it was that he gifted it to his mom and not you when he knew you loved that dress. OP responded saying, a part of me also had this thought. Was this intentional and planned? Then I thought I was being paranoid and they would never do that. But then thinking more, I then thought it had to be done on purpose. My head is in circles trying to piece it together. Someone said, babe, there is no way a 26 year old man is this oblivious. He is treating you like dirt. It's not about the dollar value of your birthday present. It's that it was just a gift card with zero thought. Then for him to know how much you've been banging on about this dress and to randomly buy it for his mother is beyond strange. You're 23. Just quietly end the relationship. You don't even need to cite this as the reason. He and his mama will gaslight you anyway. Just say you don't feel the same and are ending it. Don't say more. Someone said, I would be upset too. It's okay that he gets his mother a present more expensive than yours. But buying the thing you wanted so much for his mom and letting her wear it at your birthday, that's either stupid or really mean. Yeah, I mean, okay, the previous commenter, like guys, I'm still like, he can't just go, like, it sounds like he's like, just flee the country and start over. You're 23, like, I so desperately want OP to just ask why. Yeah. Like, that's all I want. Because, yeah, OP is not crazy. They were talking about this dress constantly for months. Like, there's no mistake here. You, the boyfriend knows. But for like the, the redditor and it's classic reddit being like, oh, this person looked at you funny, break up with them. It's like, I don't think, I don't think it's necessarily break up material. But it's definitely like, hey, what the fuck? Yeah, we can't just ignore this. We need to talk about it and see how he reacts. Yeah, that's fair. That's, I agree with that. But three years is like, and she is 23. And like, I have said this before that when you're in your early 20s, if enough red flags happen, I'm like, hey, like, it's okay, like, there's no stakes involved as far as I know. as like, you're not married, you don't have kids, like you have so much life ahead of you. And I think that mindset should be the case no matter what your age or situation is, depending on what's going on. But I agree that I think she's confused. She should talk to him and gauge how he reacts and how he respects her in his response on what she should do. - That wasn't interesting. Take that one red at her head was like, maybe he just thought you had really good taste and then use that. I feel like that's an interesting take that I didn't consider. I mean, was it still right? 'Cause if she was like, I love that dress. I would really like that dress, then I don't know, maybe that doesn't. - I guess it's a red flag to me because it's so, for me with a relationship, it's like, you communicate these things, right? It's like, oh, you love this, right? So I'm like, I would probably let you know if I'm like, oh, you love that. Could I buy that for someone else? Just say that, 'cause this all could have been averted if he goes, the dress is so awesome. My mom, I was gonna get her a gift soon and this dress would be great for her. - And let's not forget the favorite color part, which was, it sounds like that there was other colors at the store when they were looking at it and she's like, and it's perfect. It's in my favorite color and it was the same color. I have theories on why this happened, but I need to know. - Yeah, well, we might find out 'cause we have an update. - Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, it's in. - It's not a huge update, but it's an update. - We can't over-react, we can't over-react. - Okay. I finally got the nerve to straight up ask him about everything and his response was he thought I had to be humbled a bit because I got way too overly excited about something as trivial as a dress. - Oh, oh. - Kick him to the curb. - Oh. - He thought it would be fun to see my reaction to it all. - Fun, sorry. - Where's Ed? Where's Ed? - It's okay, everything's fine. - His mother had no idea about any of this and just thought her son was giving her a gift. I am so upset and hurt that I just called my mom to come get me and we'll be staying with her for a few days while I figure out the next steps but I am not going back to him. - Oh my God, there's a hurt. - Mom, can you come pick me up? My boyfriend's a nightmare. - So the boyfriend doesn't want to buy the dress as a gift, but he will spend $200. - It's a humbler. - It's a humbler. - It's disgusting. - Oh wow, that would not have been one of my guesses. Was that one of your? - No, I thought that the mom maybe saw him shopping for it and she was like, I'm more important than your girlfriend. Buy it for me. - Yeah. - You know, the classic mom is boy situation. - Yeah. - Like a boy mom, yeah. But, yeah, no, that's not that is way worse. That's way worse. - That's why old, like, I mean, I just would never like assume like evil intent and that's getting there. It's, we're seeing it a lot with stories these past few years and I think it's just like online rhetoric with like dudes with how they treat like women. It's just like, well, you need to be humbled. Like, oh, you're being, you're, you want too much. Oh, you care about a dress like. - Yeah. - I don't know. - God forbid a woman wants a dress. - I know. Like, how does she need to be? - She, way too overly excited about something as trivial as a dress. - Overly excited? I am so sorry. - So he's deciding what she should be excited about. Cool. - You excited about this? - You know what's dirt? You know what, can I say? - I'm sorry. - I'm sorry. - Hell yeah. You know what, you know what upsets me about this is because I'm someone, I struggle sometimes with like buying people gifts, right? 'Cause it's not always easy. It's like, what do you get people, right? And sometimes you get a perfect like serve up where someone, you get to hear that someone goes, "Oh my God, this thing, I want this thing." And you're like, fuck yeah, like, now I know that you want this thing. And like, that happens, I feel like it happens all the time around the office where like, I don't know what to get someone. But then you'll hear something in passing or they'll mention something. It's like sweet, awesome. And he had that a month before her birthday. - Like? - He slammed dunk and he does this. I'm like, do you want to break up? Just break up. Like, oh my God, man. - He tried to like humble her, but he wound up humbling himself. - Yeah. - But she's gonna break up with it. - Really? - He's gonna probably humble himself out of many relationships unless it changes this behavior. - That is not someone who cares about you at all in any sense if they do that. - No, no. And I'm so glad she immediately, both of these people have reacted very properly in walking away. - Mm-hmm. - Truly. Some people hate joy. All right, our next story. The title is a good one. - Okay. - Wow. - Okay, so you're just gonna hold it over our heads like that. You're a little too excited about this story, buddy. - Hey, hey, Zen. - Zen. - Yeah, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. - Am I overreacting? She shit with me in the shower. (laughing) - Oh, okay, I'm gonna need some more details. - All right, I actually think this, I'm trying to gauge what exactly is happening here. I think some people can laugh at some. - She shit in this, okay, oh my God. - Oh my God, there's many versions of this. - I wanna, 'cause I wanna, okay, yeah. - This is so interesting because it could mean so many things. - Hello, longtime lurker, first-time poster. Throw away 'cause I don't want this affiliated with my main. I, a 22-year-old woman, have been dating this girl, a 21-year-old woman, for about three months, and it's been great. The only red flag I've seen before this was she was a bit messy, leaving things without putting them away, including trash. Anyway, yesterday. (laughing) I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. She's like, "I know what's coming." (laughing) I feel like, "I know what's coming." Anyway, yesterday we went to a karaoke club, got super wasted, and she spilled her drink all over us. No big deal. We went to my apartment, we were in the shower, nothing sexy or anything. We were too drunk for that. But I remember looking down, and there was a streak on the bottom of the shower, and I asked her what it was. I shit you not, she said, "Oopsie, I did a poopsy." Yes, yes. And pushed a ball of shit into the drain with her towel. That's what, that is, that is wife material right there. No! Oopie, in the moment. She didn't even poop in her head and throw it away. (laughing) She didn't even poop in her head and throw it away, do I? I didn't know what to say. I kind of just stood there. This chick really just pooped. And she waffles stomped. And she did, she didn't tell me she waffles stomped. And she's like, "Don't throw it away." Oh, no! She pooped the poop. (laughing) She pooped the poop. God, Eric, I told myself that she was drunk and we could talk about it tomorrow today. Fast forward to this morning, when we woke up, I could not get what I saw yesterday out of my head. I tried to keep it light and laughed about the pooping, but I tried to keep it light and laugh about the pooping, maybe try to get it into the toilet in the future. And she goes on to explain that she just feels comfortable with me and doesn't want to hide who she is anymore? No! No! No, break up, break up, break up. It's over, it's over. Sinder to the dark realm. I don't want to hide who I am anymore. The trash, man. I throw trash all over the ring. I asked if she poops in the shower all the time. She does. I asked if she could refrain from doing so in my shower and she agreed. I just feel like I can't move past this and look at her the same. And kind of want to break up with her. Am I overreacting? All right. Okay, let's spin back real quick. Okay. Because what I thought this was maybe gonna be is the more normal version of this. Where you're in the shower and then she's in the toilet. Where you're in the shower and someone comes in and they use the toilet. Which is fine. Which I think I feel like there's plenty of relationships out there where they go, that's normal. Yeah, sure. And then there's plenty of relationships where I feel like they go, no. But I'm like, this is, I've said this before, my view on relationships is like it's like those day-to-day things that are huge, right? Where it's like how you view the bathroom, how you guys share the bathroom together. Do you shut the bathroom door? Do you shut the bathroom door open? This is all, and the way they entered this arena. And she is saying, hey, this is who I am. And look, when someone tells you who they are, believe them, even if they're, definitely when they're shitting actively, how they say it. Oh my god. Like, she has to know it's not normal to poop in the shower and then waffle-stomp it down the drain. Oh, we. Like, she has to know, so then like, for her to just like, fling it upon her girlfriend. Don't say these words, don't say fling. Rather than like, you know, maybe approach and be like, hey babe, so like this is something that I like to do. Like, yeah. That's crazy. That's-- By the way, the poop in your hand thrown in toilet. It's a joke. It's something that I heard from someone, and I thought it was so funny. There's a famous, there's a famous-- There's a famous-- There's a famous-- There's a famous, there's a famous, there's a famous, there's a famous, there's a famous-- Oh, in the toilet? Oh, there's a very, there's a very famous online clip of a guy not like, that's what he was doing for all his life. And he didn't realize that wasn't normal. It's actually, so we've read a lot. Yeah. And it's just a thing where people, like, because it's not something people discuss in an adulthood, or just even at a certain point. People have very unique bathroom habits that were probably normalized in their family growing up. And then they never learned that it wasn't normal, because it's not discussed. For sure. And that's fine. Everybody's got their routine. But then when another person is in the show, with you, it becomes a different thing. - Yeah, I want to know, does she wash her legs? Like, is she the type to just be like pits and bits or does she, does she, yeah, and in what, and in what- - Bits, shits. - What, like, bits, shits? - Yeah. - Here's the thing. - And then in which, what does she do first? Does she shit first and then wash? 'Cause I feel like that would be the thing. - Yeah, that would be the thing. - We're really going into this, huh? So, but let's assume we've got some people in the chat. - Who do this? - Let's assume. - I don't know if I pull- I don't know if she's sitting right now. The shower drain is not built for these activities. - We have to- - Let me finish my poop etiquette. The toilet is built in a sense where the material, there's things are not supposed to catch on these pipings and things because that's a lot of bacteria that could build up. The shower drain cannot handle that. It can barely handle, like, piss, or like, it can handle piss. I don't know if, but you know what I'm saying? God, delete the piss part. - Not my piss. (laughing) - It can barely handle hair. It can barely handle frickin' conditioner sometimes or an exfoliant. God forbid I use an exfoliating wash. But like, so just understand if you are a pusher or a pooper, that's what's happening. - I'm very excited. I'm very excited to look at the comments 'cause you know we're gonna have a few comments of plumber here, actually. (laughing) - Actually, it's healthier. - Actually, show for it. - Like scientists here, actually. I was like, I'm curious, like, was she just full standing or did she take a squat? - I think she was standing. - Oh, yeah. - That's wow, this is- - It rolls on your leg. - Sounds uncomfortable as hell. - I just can't fathom. Like, maybe she's been doing that like in her shower. - Probably. - Like without him for a long time and just you would never know. - Yeah, and then for three months, in three months, so that means- - That's a lot of things. That's a lot of showers. - That's not shitting in the shower, unless they had not showered together. But I don't know, it just seems like a brand new behavior that she is referring to her. - Yeah. - The comments, the verdict, not overreacting, fair. Comments, nope, she is just a nasty, disgusting person. I don't care how comfortable people are with each other, pooping in the shower is gross and that should never ever happen. And that she is so cavalier about it just too much. You can never unsee that. Someone replied to that saying, "Right, this is just completely unacceptable. "What else has she been keeping under wraps from OP?" That's a serious hygiene/sanitary issue that can't be overlooked. Even if the girlfriend washed her feet and bleached the shower and the feet afterwards, it still wouldn't make it okay. Not to mention that OP said she's not good about picking up after herself, including trash. Chances are she is not bleaching her shower every time she poops in there. I just can't wrap my head around this not overreacting that it's common. Run, OP, run. (laughing) Someone said, "By the title, I was thinking girlfriend "took a shit in the toilet while she was taking a shower. "I'd prefer someone to wait until I was out of the bathroom, "but if they couldn't hold it, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. "In the shower with me? "No, just no." And then on top of that, it wasn't a drunken one-off gross. I couldn't get past that. OP responded, "You really can't. "It's been replaying in my head today. "I just don't find her attractive anymore." Yeah. And she is into foot stuff. What? - I don't know. - I put that toe in my mouth for four. - No! No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - No! - Just say that! Chae, you did not just say that! - What? - Take it back! - No! - Take it back! - No! - Take it back! You're ranking us. You didn't say that. - I was just-- - I was just-- - No, look, I was-- - No! - I was just gonna say, I hope she's not into feet stuff. - She's into foot stuff! - No! - Bro, no! - No! - No! - And we don't know if she's bleaching her feet afterwards. - She's stinky! - She's stinky! - That meme of the wolf was ripping the shirt? - Oh my God, she's stinky. - Dude, when your girlfriend is a waffle stomper and a foot person. - Woo! - Please, please, please, please, please. - I'm begging. - Your girlfriend's putting a lot of boyfriends to shame right now. - Yeah. - Damn. - Holy crap. - Like, at the start of this story, I thought what it was going to be is like the OP, like, shit themselves in the shower on accident, and then the girlfriend in solidarity shit herself. I was like, oh, baby, it's okay. And I've been like, oh, that's really disgusting, but like, sweet. But, no. - No! - There's no redeeming this part. - Sorry, your girlfriend's straight out of Resident Evil. - Yeah, no, you're gonna create a monster. - Yeah, that's how the TVI was formed. - Oh my God, that's toxic waste, that's dangerous. - You're putting it in your mouth. - Put that girl on the train wreck poop cruise. - Oh my God, yeah. She was the one who started it off. - She started the poop cruise. She went, she went, this is elementary shit. - Yeah. - Oh my God, I'm in my element. I was the cruise, amazing. - Yeah. - Oh, there's one last comment. You cannot spend your life with somebody that shits on the floor and matches in town, the train with their foot. I feel like this isn't a thing that even needs to be verbalized. - Oh my God. - Yeah, man, that is an open and shut case. - That might be one of the wildest stories, I think, we've. - It's been a minute since we've had, like, just, egregious, like, an immediate, egregious behavior like that. - Wow. - All right. - So I guess she's, like, single-hour. (laughing) - Yeah, man. - Our next story, "Am I overreacting at how my boyfriend talks to his roommate?" - Hmm. - I think it's a really good, like, that's such a good litmus test of your, when you're dating someone, or even just a friend. Like, how they treat other people is, not something that should go on the board. - Of course. - But it's something that I think you can ignore all the time. - Yeah. - Especially servers. - Servers, if you see somebody, like, never say thank you to, like, a waiter or something, - Right. - E. - Yeah, it's a huge red flag, and then beyond that, even if they're nice to waiters and stuff, it's like how they treat your friends, how they treat their friends. Like, that matters just as much as how they treat you. - Yeah. - I feel kind of weird about this. My boyfriend, who's 26, lives with his 31-year-old roommate, 31-year-old man, and has been since January of this year. It's the roommate's house. He just rents a room out to my boyfriend. I remember right when he moved in, my boyfriend didn't like that his roommate washed his dishes and went into his bathroom to get his trash. My boyfriend can be lazy, but he also works a lot, so I told him his roommate was probably just helping him out. Here's some text messages between OP's boyfriend and his roommate. So, OP's boyfriend says, "Hey, so I don't want any issues, but can you not touch my things without my permission please?" roommate responds, "Your things? Like my dishes and stuff." Oh, okay, yeah, I won't touch your things. I was just trying to help, that's all, I apologize. OP's boyfriend says, "Like, going into my bathroom and getting my trash," roommate responds. I just try to collect all the trash before the garbage pick up, but I'll stay out of your things, I'm sorry. I don't go through your personal things, I just get the trash. Fast forward to now, where my boyfriend is working 12-hour shifts, and now all of a sudden he wants help. I told him he was out of line talking to him like that, but he said it's just because he's blunt and doesn't beat around the bush. But still, there's a way to get your point across, and you should be asking a hell of a lot nicer if you want someone to wash your dishes. Okay, so now I guess the boyfriend has flipped, and now wants him to wash his dishes and do his shit. - Got you. - So, OP's boyfriend texts his roommate saying, "So when I work 12-hour shifts, I really don't want to come home to a pile of dishes in the sink." - Uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh. - roommate says, "What do you mean?" I mean, if the dishes sit in the sink for two days, you can wash them. - I wash mine. Then you can wash mine, not trying to start shit, but I'm tired as hell when I get off, and to see the dishes just piss me off. You're at home all day. You told me not to touch your things. I'm so confused right now. Boy, friend says, "Is it not common sense if I haven't washed the dishes in two days that something is wrong?" The roommate says, "Yeah, I guess so. Don't be mad, please. I will wash them now." - Oh, my God. - And then later, he says, "They are clean, smiley face. I will keep them clean for you until you tell me to stop. I'm sorry. I should have been doing it anyways. I just didn't want to overstep." - What is it? - This is like a- - This is like a conversation that I feel like somebody would have with an AI and not a real human being. - This is hard. - Yeah, it sounds like Jarvis. - Well, he's talking to this person like, it's his wife. - Not even. - Like someone who's treats their wife like shit. - Like a wife who's a divorcee him. (laughing) - Yeah. - I'm bad with my sense of age. Like going like, I don't want to- I come home from serving and bringing family food and- - I'm sorry. - Oh, man. - Oh, man. - You changed this new haircut. - This haircut's bringing out like an Italian man. Possibly where I'm like- - No, I'm all for it. - I had roommates, you know, for a year or so. And there was a lot of times where it's like, I got annoyed that people left their own dishes in the sink a long time, but like, people would wash each other's dishes on occasion. It was like, this is like a thing. But if someone was like, hey man, I expect you to wash my dishes. I know that even me at 23 would have been like, fuck you dude. - Yeah. - No. That feels like a universal. Like, that's not my job, bro. But to be asked, don't wash my dishes. - Yes. [BLANK_AUDIO] being weird, don't wash my clothes. >> But if they've been there for two days, then how could you not wash them? Is it all obvious? >> Oh, it's so intense. >> Okay, king of the universe. She continues on saying, he says I'm being sensitive about this because I said he needs to apologize. Am I overreacting? I don't know. It kind of has me looking at him differently. Also, is it just me or does it seem like his roommate is scared of him or something? The constant apologizing seems weird. I've met his roommate and he's really nice, just shy and keeps to himself. Oh my God. >> My God. >> He's probably just trying to keep the peace, keep the roommate situation positive. I feel bad for the guy because he's obviously being overly accomplished. >> Yeah, he's older than Opie's boyfriend, right? >> Yeah, he's five years older. >> He's 31 versus 26. How can you be, I know he's not a whole like you most respect your elders thing, but for you to be talking down to this person, it's just like what? >> Yeah, and I'm like, you got to figure out that's your responsibility, your dishes, that's your responsibility. I don't care how many hours you're working. >> And, there is a human way to go about this, yes, if you, I can understand, even if someone was trying to do me a solid and going into my bathroom and getting my trash, I probably would be the same of like, hey, my bathroom is my space. I appreciate it, but I got it, but it's like so sweet that this person does it. But then it's like, oh, now I'm working 12 hour days, I'm like, hey, I'm so sorry I'm doing this to you, but I actually really appreciate that you were doing that, especially now that I'm working really hard, so the boundary I set before is no longer there, do whatever you feel. >> That's entirely fair. All the actions that happened could be fine if there was, if it came from a respectful place. He is one of the most entitled people I've ever seen. >> Yeah, exactly. >> For me, it sounds like he's too insecure to say, and it feels like he's losing and losing the ground that he took by saying, I'm sorry, never mind, he's going, no, it just gives insecurity to me. >> Right. This guy's house, he's renting a room out of this guy's house, and then making all these demands from this guy. >> And this boyfriend is very lucky that people have allowed him to treat them this way, because this roommate owns this house, that he's renting this room to this guy, and also doing things for him. That's like what? >> I kind of feel like it's not even, it has nothing to do with the dishes or the trash, not to get unqualified psychologist on this, but it sounds like he doesn't have much control over whatever else is going on in his life, and he's like taking it out on somebody else being like, actually, you need to do it this way. You need to do it this way, because it sounds like, maybe he doesn't sound like a happy person. >> No, he sounds awful. >> He doesn't sound like a happy person. >> Oh, he needs to run. That is so disrespectful. >> Yeah. >> Like, to treat someone that horribly. >> And that familiarity, imagine. >> Yeah, just like, he's going to do that to you. You have to assume he's going to do that to you unless you talk to him and he has a come to Jesus moment. He's like, you're right. I'm being a horrible asshole. >> And what he hasn't done yet, so- >> I know that that's not going to happen. Yeah, she tried, and he's clearly not- >> She tried. >> She said- >> She was telling me that he needs to apologize. >> Oh, okay. >> He says she's being sensitive. >> Oh. >> Yeah. >> Oh. >> No, run. >> Yeah. >> The verdict not overreacting comments. >> If your boyfriend was my roommate, the first thing I would have told him is I don't give a fuck if he's working 60 hours a week. He's a big boy and needs to wash his own dishes. And on that note, I do not appreciate him leaving his dirty dishes in my sink for two days. If I stay home all day and do absolutely nothing as the owner of this place, that is my right. In the future, if he wishes to continue renting my room, he needs to make sure his trash and dirty dishes are out of common areas within 24 hours or I will be speaking with him. What a fucking tool. I wonder if anyone has ever said him straight before. >> It doesn't sound like it. >> Oh, he responds. Crazy thing is that the roommate doesn't sit at home all day doing nothing. He just works from home. This whole situation just made me feel gross and look at him differently. >> Yeah. >> Someone said not overreacting. Poor roommate needs a spine because that's his mother-epping house. And your boyfriend is being a complete asshole to him. Who the fuck does he think he's talking to? Man better be glad he caught his roommate because most people would absolutely not bend to this BS. I'd shut that down so fast and he'd do his own dishes or get the fuck out of my house. Your boyfriend is 100% a bully and quite frankly an indecisive moody, entitled little shit. You seem lovely and I hope he doesn't treat you this way. Oh, he responded saying he does not treat me like this. But now I'm kind of giving him the side eye. I don't see or speak to his roommate much when I go over, but he's very soft spoken and from what I can see clearly doesn't like confrontation. Lastly, someone said it's not his house, he is telling the owner of the house to do the dishes he used and is justifying being a slob, leaving the dishes he used because he is tired from work. After he went off on the owner of the house for keeping the place clean, your boyfriend is an ignorant man child. And if I was the owner of the house, I'd tell him he has 30 days notice to vacate. Your boyfriend needs to grow up and learn respect and manners, regardless of his shift length. Yeah, that type of behavior if I saw for my friends, I'd have to be like, you cannot talk to someone like that. Yeah. And for them to be like, it's fine. You're overreacting. Who are you? You're being, you have, like, just know, just know, there's no, and I, if I was in OP shoes, I would go so far as to like talk to the roommate. I'd be like, hey, I'm probably not going to stick around with this guy and I just want you to know that you do not need to get talked to that way. And like, I wouldn't be mad at you if you kicked him out, or whatever that is. Because to not apologize, to not be like, you're right, sorry, I was working 12 hours, I was exhausted. I've been mad, like, all these things. If he could remedy it by apologizing and being like, I'm wrong. But he's not doing that. Right. And it's like, all right, man, you've sealed your fate. Yeah. Wow. I feel like those people, they need, they need like a real big, like, wake up. We go check, yeah. Yeah. Like a wake up call. So, I mean, maybe this'll be it. You know, the girlfriend will break up with him, he'll get kicked out of this house. Yeah. He'll change. Hopefully. Yeah, because it's not like that's that behavior is going to just like fade away. Like, he lives there, she's going to keep seeing that. Yeah. Well, and he's been like positively reinforced by, by being this way, he's still getting the things that he wants. Right. So, I feel like, I feel like that's a reinforcement of his behavior. True. Our behavior gets reinforced too. I mean, you get away with shit. And like, people who get away with shit keep doing it, because they keep getting away with it. It's ugly. It's really ugly. I mean, look, I've said it many times that I think the ultimate punishment for people like this is unless people confront them and they take it in. What always ends up happening, I feel like, for these types of people like this guy, is they find themselves later in life with absolutely nobody close to them. Mm-hmm. And they'll never understand why. They'll have people they control for a brief periods of time, but they're never going to have a real, genuine connection with people, because they push everyone away. And hopefully that changes, and hopefully that doesn't happen. But that is the path. The current path. Yeah. The current quest line. Call it karma, but I mean, it's also just like the consequences and the reality of the situation. Yeah. Repacation. People don't want to deal with that shit. Yeah. They don't have to. Yeah, and if you, the 31-year-old roommate, you are a kind, beautiful soul. Yeah, dude, I hope that 31-year-old roommate listens to this show because, dude, do not tolerate that. No, you're a very nice person. And yeah, if I was the roommate, I also would be like, "Stay out of my bathroom, but thanks for doing my dishes. You're so nice. I will definitely take out the trash more than you do." Or something. Yeah. You're so nice. Just know if you need a new roommate. Courtney's ready to move in. Yeah. That's so nice. Yeah. That's so nice. It seems really cool. All right. Our next story comes from the subreddit relationships, and it's an older one, a nine-year-old story. Classic. I, a 24-year-old woman, was just uninvited from a wedding that had already started. Am I overreacting? So she was kicked out of a wedding. I was just uninvited from a wedding that had already started. Okay. That is being kicked out of the wedding. Yeah, she did. Yeah, okay. Today, my partner, who's a 24-year-old man, let's call him Eric, and I, 24-year-old woman, were invited to the wedding of one of his oldest friends from school. We received our save-the-date months ago, and the invite was addressed to Eric and Vicki. Our invite stated we were invited for the whole Shabang, the service, the breakfast, and the evening reception. Our RSVP required both of our dietary requirements for the breakfast, which we replied to ages ago. I thought this was pretty awesome and generous of the bride and groom, and as I had never met either of them, and Eric was only close with the bride, so it was a very nice gesture. The wedding is a few hours away from where we live, and since neither of us drive, I booked train tickets in advance, which came to about 60 pounds each return, and an Airbnb, which worked out at 90 pounds between us. We don't earn a lot, so this is quite a big spend to justify. However, since they had invited us to the whole wedding, we thought it would be rude not to go. The bride also specified colors we should wear, so I bought a new outfit since I didn't have anything formal that would be suitable. Not the end of the world, but with Christmas coming up, it was a bit difficult, and I had to be really frugal all through November to make it work. Total spend was probably double what I would spend monthly on fun stuff, like going out for dinner or drinks or new clothes. We got to the service, and it was beautiful. The bride looked lovely, and it was very emotional. I get nervous at weddings, couldn't say why. And so I hadn't eaten beforehand, figuring the four-course breakfast would fill me up nicely. After the ceremony, we went straight into the venue to have drinks and sit down at tables. We were towards the back of the line into the venue, and so half the congregation had already sat down. We glanced at the seating plan, saw Eric's name, and headed over. There was no place setting for me. Eric found his name, but there weren't any free seats at the table. Eric sat down, and I asked an usher whether there was a mistake. He didn't know, so he waved over the bride. She and I had never met before, but she seemed friendly until she opened her mouth. Oh no, you're not part of the breakfast. The invitation was just for the reception and service. You're welcome to come back later. This was in front of most of the guests who had already sat down in a big venue, probably 140-ish seats. The usher suggested I go to the pub. Eric didn't know what to do but didn't want to cause a scene, so he stayed put and stayed quiet. I quite literally have never felt so embarrassed and humiliated in my life. I left and it was raining heavily. I hadn't brought an umbrella since it was an indoor wedding. Being in a rural place, I had to walk about 20 minutes to get anywhere else. The usher had suggested a pub where the other guests are, so I just kept walking, but my shoes were literally ruined and soaked through, as well as being pretty damn cold because it's December and I was dressed for a wedding. I got to the pub to find a handful of merry-makers drinking heavily at 2 p.m. in wedding clothes, introduced myself kind of awkwardly as they were total strangers and they were luckily very nice. They invited me to sit with them and tell them about the service. All of them had only been invited to the reception. I asked one of them if I could see their invite and it was crystal clear that they were evening guests. There was no mention of the service or the breakfast nor their dietary requirements. I apparently was the only person who was invited and then uninvited to the whole due. I sat with them and had some food because I was starving, but they all started leaving to get ready at about 4 p.m. Being a total stranger, I didn't think it was best to ask to come with them, but I had never been to this town before and besides Eric, I didn't know anybody. Since being ejected at 1.30 p.m.ish, I was expected to just hang until 7.30 p.m. when the reception started. So I left. I felt so unwelcome and unwanted that I just wanted to go home. The evening events will start in about half an hour without me, but I just can't bring myself to attend knowing that half the guests watched me being asked to leave by the bride herself. I traded in my train ticket, which was a return for tomorrow, and now I'm traveling back alone. I texted Eric to tell him, but he didn't respond. I've been holding back tears since I was ejected six hours ago and I feel completely torn. I don't understand what happened with the invite, whether it was a mistake or whether I was just supposed to know that it was only for Eric. Despite being addressed to both of us, despite asking for both of our dietary restrictions, despite explicitly stating we were invited to the whole wedding, part of me feels like I should have gone to the evening reception too, but I'm soaked through my hair and makeup look awful, my shoes are unwarrable. I am barefoot on a really gross floor right now, and I'm freezing. I look like a mess and I feel so stupid. Did I mess up here? I feel like I've just been totally fucked over, and I'm really upset that Eric didn't stand up for me or say anything or leave the breakfast with me, although I think that's less because of Malice and more that he's just a bit hopeless when put on the spot. I've never heard of a wedding where you invite a plus one by name, but then they aren't invited to as much of the wedding as the other half of the couple. Nobody else at the wedding had this happen. I don't see how it can be personal since I've never met any of them before. I'm really upset and can't wrap my head around how weird today has been. If this happened to you, what would you do? - Oh, that's so sad. - Oh, that's so sad. - Oh my god. - Why did you guys get such a sad story? - This one sounds like a movie. - Oh my goodness. - Sounds like a movie. - Yeah, it sounds like a movie. - Also, I wish that you would have just done it in a British accent the whole time. - There were parts when it's like when they're talking where I thought about it, where it's like, when the bride's like, oh no, you're not part of the breakfast. (laughing) - Tron down to the pulpit. - Tron down to that pub right over there. - Oh my god. - Have a good walk over there. - Don't worry about it. Terrible. I'm gonna get roasted. - That's so good. - That's why I didn't do it. - That's so good. - Also, okay, so many parts of this. - Yeah. - I will say, I have never heard of like, I guess it's probably, I know this is probably more normal than I realize, but like having multi layers to the wedding and people being invited to like certain aspects of the wedding. - Yeah, I mean, I get that work 'cause like, you know, not everyone's invited to the rehearsal dinner and like, I think we break it up a bit more in the US of like, the rehearsal dinner the day before. - A breakfast. - A breakfast. - Ceremony reception. - Okay. - Okay. - It's interesting. - But 140 people at the breakfast. So this was ceremony, then breakfast, then reception that night. So she went to the ceremony, but then was not allowed at the breakfast. That puts her in such an awkward position. - Yeah. - Especially 'cause they're out in the countryside. - This seems like a massive like, clerical error. And I'm just upset that like, they couldn't, you know, do something. - Yeah. - It's such an interesting. - Pull in a fucking chair for the best sense of what I'm thinking, it's like. - Yeah, it's so interesting that that happened to her and she must have been an accident, right? (laughing) - Must have been an accident. - I think. First of all. - No, it feels malicious. - And I feel really bad that the boyfriend didn't stay. Like it's breakfast, dude. I don't know the culture of what the breakfast is in this place, but I would feel like so bombed. - No, there's a mistake. - Yeah, what the hell are you doing? - It's raining outside. - Not only that. Not only there's a tree side alone. - There's the respect aspect of, oh wow, you weren't invited. That sucks, this all made it seem like you were invited. And now you're telling her to her face, she by herself needs to leave. There's the respect aspect of why he needs to stand up. There is also the safety aspect of, yeah, walk in the rain in the countryside for 20 minutes to a pub. That's how, where will Finlandan happened? (laughing) All right, you know? I know I've been saying it for all these stories, but I'm just like, that is stereotypical movie moment, like, deal breaker moment. Where it's like, he did not stand up for you. - Yeah. - Quite literally. - Maybe the bride and groom were setting him up with a new lady, you know? - I think. - I believe anything at this. - I think my theory is that the bride has some sort of feelings about the girlfriend, like, because she doesn't even know her. - Exactly, but that doesn't matter. - But they don't like the idea of her. - It's a school friend that this bride has known this guy for a long time. What if there's a history? What if there's feelings there? What if there's just some resentment? What if there's something that caused her that where she, because notice how, when OP writes, she looks so friendly and she seems so kind until she opened her mouth. What is that? - I know. - Well, it's 'cause she, yeah, it's 'cause she just was like, oh, no, you're not part of the breakfast. I wonder how she said that. - Like, what if she was just like waiting for so much? - I'm so nasty. - Oh, you're not part of the breakfast? - Obviously, it's a rounded story. Take everything with a grain of salt, but like, I go, my conspiracy is over. (laughing) - Oh no. - Oh no. - You're not part of the episode. - And you thought you could come from breakfast. - Oh darling. - Oh, it's the same thing. - Oh no, babe. - It's the mother in fleabag. - Yeah. - No, right. - This feels like a scene from fleabag. - Yeah. - The stepmom, yeah. - All right, not overreacting the verdict. Comments, this is the tackiest thing I've ever heard. There's a chance that there was a mix-up or oversight with the invitation. But in that case, the bride should have taken you and Eric aside to apologize and see what could be done to fix it. But the way it was handled was completely unacceptable. I'm so, so sorry for you. Also, despite your boyfriend being put on the spot, it's been hours now, right? He should have leapt into action by now. Dude, if I, like, I wouldn't wanna stay, okay, despite all the respect, the safety, that's an awkward-ass situation then to just be like, all right, my partner's gonna leave and I'll just sit here. - Yeah. - I'm weird when you go to the bathroom. - I'd be like, I'd be like, I wanna get the fuck out of here too. - Yeah. - This is awkward as hell. Someone said that is incredibly rude and even worse, your boyfriend didn't leave with you. I would find his behavior to be a massive deal breaker for myself personally. Lastly, someone said WTF, Eric, what a dumbass. He stayed and let you leave alone. Oh my God. Eric. - Eric. - Eric. - Eric. - Eric. - Eric. - What are you doing over there? Eric. Leaving your last set of countryside, Eric. - Eric, I'm sorry. - Oh, fuck you, Eric. - Eric, I'm sorry. - Eric. - Eric, I'm sorry. I am also-- - You'll be in an asshole. - I'm also sorry to all of our fans. - From the bad actors, yeah. - From the UK and England, everywhere. - Oh, sorry. - Oh, no. - They're sorry. - They're there. They're watching us just like, what are you going to do about it? - Puts me through the screen. - Call your-- - Yeah. - Puts me through the tally. (laughing) - I like to see you try. Update. - Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. I can smell your seat comes to light. Sorry, okay, I'm done, I'm done. - All right. So this blew up way more than I expected. Thank you, everyone, for your words of support. It's really helped, and I've gone from a wobbly wet mess to a cackling harpy with my big glass of wine. - Oh, yeah, queen. - You guys don't hold back on your opinions, and I kind of love it. It's nearly bedtime here. Eric stayed at the party and presumably is still there. I came home and felt a lot better for knowing how shitty of a situation this was. Karma's a bitch, and when they go low, we go high. So I'm going to-- I'm going to go to bed and sleep on it and think about next steps in the morning. A lot of people think I should dump Eric, whereas that had never crossed my mind. I was mostly pissed off with the bride and the maid of honor who may have been involved too. I don't know. Eric will be coming home sometime tomorrow and we're going to talk. I wanna hear his peace because he's been drinking since lunchtime. He might just be a dumb dumb rather than a full blown asshole. Either way, no wind up sudden decisions right now. I will try to come back and update as when anything else happens, thanks everyone. But we do not have any more updates. What? Why? That's a lie. A nine-year-old reddit story? I think it must have ended there. That makes you feel-- That makes you feel like it didn't end well. No. Or maybe it went fine. No. The story is not over. Don't get it back. We can make something up. Oh, get it back, get it back. Wait, there's an update. Oh, you're losing update. Oh, thank god. I almost quit. OK. We have found a second update. Yes. Yes. See, when you stand on it, you get it. There it is. Bailey has gone back into the archives. Yeah. And she has found the second update. The ancient texts. The ancient texts. All right, I hadn't expected the big reaction to my first post and just want to say thank you to everyone who gave advice and was supportive. I was feeling super shady when I initially posted. And after an hour of drinking wine and reading your comments, I felt a lot more sane and calm. I wanted to clarify a few things that people were confused about or that weren't clear in my first post. I'm in the UK. And our weddings are different to the way weddings are held in the US. Traditionally, there is a ceremony, the Wedding Breakfast, which is a sit-down three-course meal. Although it's called Breakfast, it is usually in the afternoon. Yummy, yummy, yummy. Followed by speeches and then an evening reception, which is like a disco. It's not uncommon for people to invite only relatives and close friends to the ceremony in breakfast, then invite lots of evening guests for the reception. However, it is uncommon to invite somebody to the ceremony and reception, but not the breakfast, as they are kind of left to entertain themselves somewhere for six hours. Having talked to friends and coworkers since last weekend, what happened to me was a serious no-no in terms of etiquette. Me and Eric had been together for nearly a year and a half. We lived together and we have a pretty strong relationship. He had no past romantic connections with the bride, all-call or Marie, which some people were asking about. They went to school together from the age of four to 10 and remained in touch as Penpal's Facebook friend since then. They rarely see each other in person and the wedding was the first time he would see her in about two years. There was zero phone signal at the venue. We noticed this when we arrived for the ceremony and were a little annoyed as the wedding had a hashtag, which we couldn't exactly treat about with no signal. This is important later. It's the most nine-year-old pose. Yeah, that's two amazing hashtags at their wedding. hashtag Twitter. We didn't know this until we arrived at the wedding, but the maid of honor, Helen, was Eric's ex-girlfriend. Yes! There it is! Huge detail! In the being of the baby. They were together for three years and she cheated on him and dumped him. They have a lot of bad blood and do not have any contact with each other. All right, okay, so on to the update. I feel like the Scooby-Gain ripping off the mask. Yeah, like Helen. Helen! Helen! After leaving the ceremony, I got straight on the train and went back to my hometown. I was on the train when I wrote my first post. When I got home, I told my parents everything and they weren't particularly impressed. And like most of the posters here, they were perplexed that Eric hadn't come with me. My mom gave me a big hug, ran me a bath, and poured me a glass of wine. And I just tried to relax and forget about my day from hell. I still hadn't heard from Eric, but texted him to let him know I was home safe and would see him tomorrow. Eric texted me back at about 9 p.m., asking me what I meant by home. Home or the Airbnb that we had booked nearby to the venue. I clarified and he said, "Okay, I'll see you tomorrow. Love you so much, ex." No! Didn't really know what to make of it since the whole day had just been a massive fuck-up. Oh, no, I'm-- Just my wine watched a Disney movie and went to bed. The next morning, given-- What's Disney movie? Yeah, what's your line? She's living on a poor detune. Come on, give it to us, Tim. I watched this brand-new movie, "Mawana." [LAUGHTER] The next morning, given I still hadn't really heard from Eric at all, I assumed he would be getting in at about midday. So I got up early and started wrapping Christmas presents. At 8 a.m., I heard a key in the door. And what do you know? It's Eric. Still in his creased suit with red eyes and looking like death. He wasn't really making sense, so I made him have a shower and warm up, made coffee, and decided to talk once he was looking human again. We sat down together and pieced together his side of the story. Basically, once I had left, Eric was absolutely livid with Marie. He had frozen like a deer in headlights when she was asking me to go and was kicking himself that he hadn't done the right thing. About 10 minutes after I left, Marie turned around and said, "Oh, actually, a few people haven't turned up. Get Vicki to come back. We have space for her now." And Eric had tried to call me because there was no phone signal anywhere near the venue he couldn't get through. And Marie pretty much immediately said, "Oh, well, never mind, she didn't want to be here anyway." Which obviously was a pile of crap and made Eric feel rubbish. The meal was very formal, sit down a fair, so he just kind of grinned and buried it. Assuming I would be coming back in the evening, Eric was the only person mentioned in the speeches by Marie's father, who wasn't a family member, and apparently it was clear to everyone how disappointed he was that I wasn't there to share it with him. When I texted him at about 6 p.m. to let him know I was going home, he never received it. He was only able to text me at 9 p.m. by hiking down the road for five minutes to find a signal. All the while, his ex, Helen, was being sickly sweet, asking where I was. Why didn't I want to come and enjoy the party? Was I shy? Apparently, with quite the evil glint in her eye, like she had got exactly what she'd wanted. Neither of us knew she was the maid of honor until we got there, and given their bad relationship, Eric was pretty pissed off that Marie had failed to mention. She was such a prominent role in the wedding. Whether Helen was behind the seating error, I don't know, but if she was, then Marie was just as bad in enabling it to happen. So Eric stayed at the wedding, miserably, and went back to the Airbnb afterwards alone. He barely slept, feeling angry at Marie and Helen for fucking with us, and had himself for not sticking up for me, and left at about 4.30 a.m. to get the first train home, hence why he was back at our place so early. He wasn't really apologetic to me at all. He didn't really seem to see how it was shitty for me. He more felt like he had been insulted by the situation and let down by his oldest friend. He is cutting off Marie and doesn't want anything else to do with her. So yeah, that was Eric's take on the whole thing. To be honest, I was pretty pissed that in all of this, he hasn't really considered how I felt, or what had been like for me getting thrown out of the wedding. While what he had gone through was pretty crummy, he at least had been warm, dry, and well-fed. The indignation of your girlfriend being removed from an event your ad isn't really as bad as being the girlfriend, getting soaked in the rain, feeling humiliated, and all the rest. So we talked, and I laid out why I wasn't okay with what had happened and why his reaction wasn't okay. He can be a bit of a lemon sometimes, and this feels like one of those times. - A bit of a lemon. - I'm a lemon. - I knew you were gonna do that. - He didn't step up to the plate. He just let the world wash over him and act it as a bystander. I'm still hurt by his actions, and he still hasn't really apologized properly. I don't know if he understands that he did wrong too, but this isn't a deal breaker for me. It's a heavy straw on the camel's back, but the camel is still standing. We have a really lovely Christmas coming up, and after a really long autumn of working hard, all I want is to go back to the happy place we were before this fuck-up. And honestly, I don't wanna think about it. So I know a lot of you guys are going to drag me over hot coals for this one, but we're still together. I'm not going to break up with him over this, but it's a big, dark mark on his record. But I want to give him another chance to prove this relationship is worth it. - Wow. - That is so nasty to do that. That is so freaking nasty. To someone that you had a bad relationship with, or whatever. This person, the maid of honor cheated on Eric, and then dumped his ass. And then for some reason, still wants to continue to ruin his life for fun. - People. - After years of not seeing them, like, is so nasty. - What I, I don't know, I'm still pissed at Eric because it's like, "Oh, I tried to call you and I couldn't reach you." It's like, brother, just run down the street, walk, run down the road. - Wait until 9 pm to try that, or like, yeah, like that's never too late, dude. It's raining out, so. - Eric sounds like a real knoll, because here's the thing. - He didn't get her a toe to a numpty. - No, he shouldn't. - He didn't get it till 9 pm when he walked down the hill away from the venue. - Yeah, and it's like, okay, so that means that you waited. - You watch your partner leave in the rain and walk down the countryside. - Yep. - And then the celebration starts, and she doesn't show up for the first hour and a half, and you're like, you wait an hour and a half. - Right. - Well, she's been gone all day. - Right. - Dude, you could have died. - Right, you never know. - Yeah. - They hadn't talked or seen each other for, like, what, at that point, six hours, eight hours? - Like, bro. - They're in random town. - Holy shit. - She sent to a random pub by herself. - Like, it's not to hear her say in the first post, like, oh, yeah, he can kind of be hopeless in situations like that. - A lemon. - That's really, like, that risk is too high. - Yeah, man. It's a weird behavior of being like, he was told, oh, actually, there's an open seat. Why didn't bro just, like, get up and run down the road together? - Go together. - I understand that there's a lot of situations where your initial reaction, you don't know what to do. - Right. hours upon hours upon hours. And there was also the in between the breakfast and the party. And he didn't even try to go see her. I'm like, "What do you come on, man?" Like, "Yeah." I don't know. I'm trying to like, there's an aspect to me trying to figure out what is going on in Eric's mind of like the froze up. I do that too sometimes or you freeze up, you don't know what to do. But at the very least now, she's gonna tell him, "You cannot do that again." Like, "I need you to stand up for me. I need you to like be there with me." And if this happens again, it's like, then that should be the deal breaker for her because it's like, "I get it. He's hopeless in those situations, but you're not going to be safe. She's not going to be safe." Like, there's so many situations where he's, he's a, it's established. He does not have her back. Right. And that's that that's important for scary situations. It's also just important to build a strong foundation as partners is you've got to have each other's back. And this is like, I think there's two things I want to address. First, it's like, this, I know weddings can add a weight to situations, especially when it's like a long time friend, the family knows you or whatever, like those, that can add gravity to make him unsure how to make a decision as well. So I can understand that, but only so much. And then did he, did she say that he came home in his suit? Yeah. He didn't change. He didn't change. He went back to the Airbnb at a hard time sleeping. They didn't sleep, then took the first train back home. Because since he stayed- But he never got out of his suit. Not one moment. Probably drunk. He got out of his suit. He drunk herself. I mean, you're drinking for like, what? 10 hours a day. I don't know. It also leaves you in this, if I'm her, I'm now in the situation, two of like, what happened, man? Like, I don't know, that just, it's sketchy. It sounds like a real belly. I wonder what this hashtag had on social media, if there was any crazy photos. I don't know, but it's just, it's hard. I think it's hard to get past those types of things, like- No, that's- It just doesn't know. To top it all off, he tells her his whole side of the story and at no point seems to consider. Yeah. That is what I think caps it all off. That's what Tina's over the edge of. If he had gotten home and been like, I'm so sorry, I froze up. I felt, I didn't know what to do all day. I was struggling and I felt so bad for you and you got so wrong, but he gets home and goes, I can't believe that happened to me. That should be the like, all right, I don't need to like figure out your side of the story here. Okay, so that was nine years ago, based on our producer's research in the past few minutes, the context clues shows- They're not together anymore. Which could have been- What? Could have been for any reason. What? And it could have, I don't know, we don't know the story, it's been almost 10 years, but- No, it's indicative of like, that behavior is indicative of something that was probably a bigger issue in there. Is it microcosm of more serious things? What is that from? It's from a viral video that made me insane code all the time. Oh, okay, yeah. They review the replenish- The replenish- The replenish- We can go, have we seen the replenish- Oh, we got to show you the replenish- Oh, we got to show you the replenish- It's a very funny video. Well, because of all those updates, that's our final story. Oh, thank you. Yeah. Thank you for allowing the update to happen. Yeah. And when you fight for something, you can sometimes you can get it, but be nice. Be respectful. Be nice. I derailed the episode a little bit, but we got our update. Yeah. Call your representative. Dude, what a- This was- This was a wild episode. Yeah. I mean, waffle stomping, it had- It had it all. Trails. Waffle stomping, stomping in the rain, stomping, all of them should break up. Yeah, yeah, they should all be- Yeah. But all of them should break up. Yeah, yeah. Well, uh, yeah, that was- I feel like we underreacted this whole time. Hey, way to go. We were so zen. Yeah, I think we were quite zen. It's a good job. It's a bit of a time that we ran around. It's a bit of a time we weren't zen. Yeah, thank you. Thank you both for being here. Thank you. Thanks, dude. Hey, thanks, dude. You're welcome. It's gonna derail a little bit more, just for fun. Um, and thank you to all our fans, uh, to the plumbers in our comments, uh, and listening. Let us know, um, what you think about that one story, and uh, to all our UK fans, sorry, for our accent. Sorry. I'm not sorry. Ian's not sorry. Oh, well, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Yeah, I'm sorry. I know it's bad. Um, and we'll see you next Saturday. React responsibly. Yeah.