Reddit’s Most Shocking True Crime Stalker Stories

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A lot of people are telling me I'm in the wrong for having my ex, who is a 27-year-old female, arrested, and my wife is saying I ruined the wedding and caused a scene. First, a little backstory on my ex. We were together over five years ago for a matter of weeks. So, like, not really a full ex. Barely a relationship. Gone on a couple dates situation. I broke things off because I wasn't that into her. She began to pester me over text and social media all the time to get back together or just hook up. This went on for months, and in a particularly weak moment, I gave in and I slept with her again. At this point, things got a lot worse. I tried to explain that it was a mistake, and I still didn't want anything to do with her. From then on, the messages ranged from abusive to begging me for sex, and eventually I just blocked her. She then started showing up at my house, my work, and social spaces that I went to. She attempted to force herself on me and threaten violence, and at that point, I got a restraining order. Since then, I haven't heard from her in years. Could be the end of the story, right? Should be. I met my wife, three years ago, and she's honestly the best thing in my life. We fell in love hard and have a great relationship. We got engaged after two years, and two days ago, finally had our wedding. The day was going amazingly well, until a friend of mine who I will call Chris turned up with his plus one. His plus one? My ex. Okay. Yep. I spoke to him, and he had absolutely no idea about my history with her, and we tried to get her to leave. She refused, so I decided just to ring the police. Two officers showed up to arrest her for breaking her restraining order, and she flipped out. She was shouting and screaming, hurled abusive language at my wife, and claimed that she and I were meant to be together, which obviously distracted from our wedding. Now, my wife is upset with me for causing a scene, and a lot of our friends are saying that I should have just ignored it and focused on the day because she wasn't causing problems until the police showed up. So, am I the asshole? Okay. There's a lot left unsaid in this, and we do get an update in a little bit that answers a lot of questions. But yeah, what is your verdict? I see both sides here. I can see how if it was extremely distracting for the groom, whose ex this was, it's his wedding too. You know, he doesn't want to be distracted. That being said, what did everyone know? Did the date know that she was going to the wedding of the person she was obsessed with? Did Chris says he has no idea, the friend, she brought her. Yeah. That's what we get the update on. Okay. Yeah. Because that matters. It does matter. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like I have the context, so I would say not an asshole. But also, like, if roles were reversed, if it was a woman and her stalker that you have a restraining order against showed up, I feel like there'd be no question. Yeah, that's true. Right? I also understand out of context, it's a little murky. I'm ready for the context. Bring it on. Okay. Well, let's read some comments because people had thoughts, based on the first, you know, Reddit comments. Horrible, but also amazing. Yes. Okay. So, the first one was very much, like, in agreement with the original poster. You had a restraining order for a reason. I believe she was very well aware of it and knew what consequences could have been. She knew better than to be attending. Who knows what plans she had in mind before she was taken away. Knowing that she was there, you would not have enjoyed yourself if you let her stay. And then, yeah, original poster said, God knows her intentions, but everyone seems to think she was doing nothing wrong and was harmless. And then people were, like, bashing the wife. But I'm like, ugh. Which I won't read those because. Rude. Yeah. No context. Okay. The last comment I'll read is, Definitely not the asshole. I don't understand why anyone would say that was wrong of you to do. Clearly, your ex broke the restraining order. And that is true because if you're a plus one to someone's wedding, you probably ask, okay, whose wedding is this? What are their names? She knew. Yeah. Yeah. Women are also detectives. We don't just show up. They were like, What's the dress code? Show me the invitation. People don't go, blind and do these things unless you're, like, extremely type B, which, rare. Rare. Agreed. It says, Clearly, your ex broke the restraining order. Good on you for calling the police. Who knows what she could have done? It's completely unfair for you or your wife or whoever was at your wedding to be acting this way. If they knew you had a restraining order and what she did to you, and it seems like your wife did, then it doesn't make any sense for her to be acting this way. Perhaps you should talk to her. Congrats on the wedding, though. Agreed. Congrats on the wedding. And they said, I hope you were able to enjoy the day apart from what happened with your ex. Which I do, like, that sucks. To have your wedding tainted by this. It's just weddings are just, everything is so heightened because for the people who are spending the money and flying their family in, the stakes feel so high. So anything feels like the biggest deal in the world. I can understand the wife's perspective, but I don't think the husband, it was a lose-lose for him. It really was because I feel like the bride would have been like, you didn't do anything. You let your stalker be there. But it was just such an unfortunate situation. She couldn't control the wife that it's like, it just sucks. It just sucks. Yeah. I think even if the police hadn't been called, the ex was going to make a scene. She was yelling that we should be together. It should be her and I, you and I. She was prompted at that point being arrested, but she would have done that at some point in the wedding, I believe. Totally. And what's so interesting is there are way more male stalkers, way more. No question. But female stalkers, when they lock in, they're terrifying. Terrifying. So I can only imagine. Yeah. I do have some stats later in the episode about stalkers, but this story kind of reminded me of, or all these stories that I'm going to share remind me of that podcast, Love Trapped. Have you listened to that one? Yes. Yeah. Intense. Highly recommend if you haven't. Amazing, amazing podcast. Okay. So now we have an update. Okay. And this answers a lot of questions. So the original poster wrote, I got a lot of requests for an update on my original post. So here it is. It's been a very long day since I first posted, and I've spoken to both my wife and Chris. Starting with my wife, we had a very long, tearful conversation about everything from my ex to the wedding. I apologized for the fact that I didn't consider involving her before calling the police, which meant that my ex's outburst while being escorted out came as a complete surprise to her. She apologized for the fact that I didn't consider involving her before calling the police, for the way she reacted and explained that she wasn't angry at me, but angry with my ex and the fact that the wedding was ruined and that the focus was shifted away from us and to my ex. She says that her anger was misdirected. Another reason for the anger is that a lot of guests had no idea who my ex was. So my ex's comment of we're meant to be together led people to theorize that I had been cheating on my wife with my ex. So now we're out having to put fires out before rumors begin to spread. My wife is now very much focused on her ex. I'm not sure if she's going to be able to focus on making sure I'm okay after all of this, although she is distraught about our special day being ruined, but we'll work through that together. On to Chris, and here is where things get a little scary. So my wife and I called him together, firstly to check that he's okay. He is. Secondly, we wanted to see how the hell my ex managed to worm her way into his life in order to get to my wedding. According to Chris, they connected over social media. She started liking his posts over the course of about a month and then slid into his DM and they started chatting from there. The crazy part is that to Chris, my ex has a completely different name. But her posts on her profile dated back three years, meaning she's had this profile with a fake name for at least three years, and it's not the only one. Which also means that the original poster and his wife never would have known that the ex was coming because in the RSVP, it's a different name. Oh my gosh. Chris told us that a few other guys contacted him after the wedding and said, I'm going to go to my ex's house. I'm going to go to my ex's house. I'm going to say that they recognized her because they also received DMs from her on different accounts, all with different names. In this friend group, trying to kind of get closer to this groom? Specifically. Yeah. Yeah. So there's so much forethought here. Commitment too. There are at least three other accounts that we are currently aware of. Apparently my ex showed no signs of being obsessed with me or even that she knew who I was. He invited her to my wedding as a plus one, thinking they might eventually get serious as they were having a really good time together. Chris has since apologized profusely, but we made it clear that we do not blame him for this. There has been no word currently on what's going on with my ex, but considering her breaching the restraining order and resisting arrest, we assume maybe she'll end up in prison. My wife and I have spoken about it. And if we are contacted by the police, we will absolutely press charges. And my wife is planning to also get a restraining order. For now, we're going to go try and enjoy our honeymoon and deal with the rest of this mess when we get back. Thank you, Reddit, for all the advice and opinions. You gave a lot of perspectives on a situation, things that I hadn't considered. Oh my God. I mean, as someone who's had a wedding, it's just like I would be, I could imagine being really distraught about something like that happening. But what's even scarier is just like someone being so locked in, not realizing what they're about to do and how delusional it is that you're still pursuing this. And the amount of work to like slowly like weasel your way, into getting an invite to this wedding by targeting all of the friends and just seeing who's going to be the one. Yeah. Whoever, whoever she can con into being invited. It's so scary. Yeah. And it's hurtful. And like now Chris is a victim too, being used to sort of as a, you know, vessel to destroy this friend's wedding is really a bummer. It's so sad. Yeah. And creepy. Have you ever had a stalker? No. Not like a committed one. I've definitely had a couple internet. I like the categorizing of stalkers. Yeah. Because like, it's definitely like blew over. Okay. But that's not, it can get really bad. Well, also with social media nowadays, I feel like there's so many different levels of stalking. Yeah. But it's so easy, especially you and I, we have like digital footprints and we have public professions. And you also dabble a lot in the true crime space and like with really dangerous people. Yeah. I mean. That it's scary to think that someone can find you based on your posts or whatever you're posting online. Yeah. I'm really careful about that actually. And I usually don't post anything in the moment, like especially if I'm at a certain place. Have you had a stalker? Yes. But it was mostly a lot of like calls and heavy breathing. That's horrifying. It was disturbing. Yeah. And it happened for a period of like maybe a year. I still have no idea who it was. I have a theory. Someone who you know. What? Yeah. Yeah. Because I think it's like 78%. Usually is. In the 70% of people you know you're stalkers. Yeah. Yeah. I think it was. So when I was in college, I went and spent one day and did like background work for a movie. And I befriended a bunch of people who were doing extra work. And I think it was someone I met there. Because in one of the calls, like one of the first calls when I answered, and this is back in the day where like you would answer. Unknown numbers. Now I just like send them all to voicemail. Right. Yeah. But this is probably like 10 years ago at this point. And they said, is this Sabrina from like the like the one who like we met on set or something like that. And then the heavy breathing started. And then I hung up, obviously, because that's unsettling. Yeah. And then, yeah, occasionally I get that same call and they would just sit there heavy breathing, which I feel like. Ew. You know what they're doing. Yeah. Yeah. No, and like digital stalkings, really unnerving and really dangerous because obviously like our whole networks are connected to us on the Internet. So I've heard stories about stalkers where it's like they're contacting your mom. They're in the stalking is so bad that they're isolating you from like your support system. So scary. Yeah. It can be really, really damaging to your livelihood. And thank God I haven't experienced anything to that degree. What was your light level stalking? So I lived in Hollywood. Yeah. And it was a really high foot traffic area. And someone was leaving stuff on my doorstep. And it started with like a corsage, like what you get at prom. And then I was just it was really weird. And I just someone was leaving like romantic things on my doorstep. That's scary because it's at your home. I know. And I went to the gym. There was a Gold's gym right across the street. And I worked out there almost every day because it was like you could see it from my front door. Yeah. And so I'm like, it must be someone who knows I live here. It didn't feel like dangerous, but it was weird because it was my house. Yeah. Like they know where you live. Yeah. But it didn't last that long. That's good. They found someone else. Yeah. Which is like not. It blew over. I'm sad for whoever else they found. But yeah. No. And I mean, I'm no psychologist, but I feel like the psychological profile of someone who gets this obsessed is really like complicated. It's very complicated. And I don't think I personally am of the mind. I don't think there's a cure for it. You know, there are all these really horrible stories where like men lock in on their exes. And 10 years later, you know, I don't know if you heard the story. The Tepe case. No. Where literally this husband and wife and, you know, they were murdered in their home. And it turns out and, you know, they were young. They were, you know, under 40. It turns out it's the ex-husband of the woman who they haven't had contact in years. They divorced amicably. And the ex-husband's a surgeon, like a doctor. And he did this sort of out of the blue just because he just wasn't over it and murdered both of them. And it's a case that's unfolding. Years later. It's unfolding right now. The trial hasn't happened yet. Yeah. Some people just hold that grudge, like gone girl level. Yeah. And like, especially that many years later, you wouldn't expect a pivot like that or. Well, yeah. You just think I have too much to lose. You know, the guy's a doctor. Crazy. Oh, my gosh. All right. Well, OK. Now that you have that context. OK. Do you think that the original poster is the asshole or no? He's not the asshole. He was in a lose lose situation. Yeah, totally. I also do feel bad that they're like using the narrative of the wedding was ruined. It wasn't because it wasn't. No. She just embarrassed herself. Yeah. Should be the narrative. And that's not it's not their fault. No. Yeah. And this is nothing about them for, you know, not neither of them did anything to ruin the wedding. No. Yeah. And I do think I mean, I don't know the timeline of the wedding, but if they were able to get her escorted out earlier on the earlier side of the wedding, I hope that like they got to enjoy themselves after. Honestly, no one shoved anyone's face in a cake. No one fell into water. Like, I've seen horror. Or what's that show that was on Hulu, Tell Me Lies? Yes. The very last episode. 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That being said, I do feel like I'm going crazy. I am pretty happy with my life. I'm happy with my life. I'm I live alone, and no one as far as I know has a key to my apartment. I have two keys, and both are in my possession. I have checked several times. I have tried putting glasses and plates on the table as a test before I go to work. I've taken pictures of them to compare with pictures when I get home, and so far I have not been successful in proving anything. The most obvious things that I've noticed that I've moved are a plate that I had breakfast on one day, and it moved maybe 30 centimeters from where I put it. Candles have moved from the center of the coffee table to the edge of the table, and a shampoo bottle has moved from one shelf to another that I never used to put shampoo on. So that one is like, because the other one is like, okay, maybe there's like a mini earthquake, but the shampoo switching shelves. That can't just happen accidentally. There are several other things that I have noticed. But there are very small things that I'm like, maybe or maybe not, it was me. But I'm also very aware of where everything is. My ex-boyfriend had the key to my apartment for many years before we broke up, but we broke up two years ago. We didn't fall out. He has a new girlfriend now, and I'm 99% sure it's not him. He also works in Copenhagen several days a week, and I live in Jutland. I've asked him on days where things have moved where he was, and he's in Copenhagen on those days. He even shared his location on Messenger to prove where he was, and that feels enough for me. I've also asked him on days where things have moved where he was, What would you do? I have no evidence of anything, and in principle, I could have been sleepwalking or something and just noticed the changes when I got back home from work, because I did occasionally sleepwalk as a child. But as far as I know, it hasn't happened in maybe 25 years, and it's starting to get pretty creepy. Okay. Well, what should they do is get some cameras, first of all. I mean, that seems like the obvious thing. But as far as what has retroactively already occurred, I don't know. Mm-hmm. The thing's moving a little bit here, a little bit there. There are a lot of possible explanations for that. So many reasons, yeah. As for the shampoo bottle ending up on the different shelf, I mean, I'm the kind of person where I can be in my kitchen, I'm like, did I take my medication? Or did I take, you know, I truly have no idea. Yeah. And I'm like, you know, it's like I get in a mode or I answer the phone, and I'm doing something while I'm on the phone, and I have no idea. I don't know if there's something like that going on. Yeah, like you just get distracted and put it back in the wrong place. You know, I just think it's like we live in a stimulating world with like phones going off and alerts and things pulling our attention. I think it's totally possible that she moved it and doesn't recall. It was unclear. We didn't get the, yeah. But I do have a really big fear of, and I don't even live in a house, but these stories where it's like someone's living in the walls of your house. The froggers? Yes. Is that what they're called, froggers? I think they're called froggers. Yeah. Or frogs. Like I'm terrified of that. So that's where my mind jumps to immediately. And clearly it's enough where this original poster is taking to Reddit. Like they've gotten to a point where it's probably happening for a prolonged period of time where they're like, I feel like something is happening. Did you see the documentary Voyeur? No. Where the guy was like living in documenting, but you'll have to watch it. But I don't know. As someone who's lived in apartments all over LA. Okay. I've had things disappear. Okay. That there's no, that I did not lose. Okay. That disappeared. The thing is, if you are renting a place, the landlord has keys. True. Contractors are given keys. Yeah. These things happen. Yeah. Where people are like, okay, they know you're at work because they're working at this other apartment or they have cameras just for the building. Like people do weird entitled stuff. It's very true. Especially people who are like, people who own the building, even though the law is that like, that's your apartment and they have to like give you 24 hours or whatever. But people don't care. And there's just, I know from my experience, things disappeared. Things were taken from my apartment. That's so weird. But not in a burglary. What were, what was going missing? I've had purses go missing, but it's not like a burglary. Like it's not like someone broke in, but I don't notice till way later. So I don't know when it happened. Well, someone could have broken in. No, but like not, not in an obvious way, I guess like really good thieves know not to make it obvious. So people don't notice till right away. Yeah. Till, till way later. I mean, yeah. So it's possible, but like someone could be messing with him, someone, her, them, someone could be messing with them. Someone could have showered in their place. Like I've heard stories. Which is so, I've heard stories like that too. Also the idea of someone having a key, which is true. Like if you rent, multiple people have keys. Like you could do whatever you want, but like someone could hypothetically sneak in and take a picture of you sleeping at any point. Yeah. Okay. So here are some comments. There's a well-known Reddit thread that sounds very similar to what you describe. It turned out that person had severe carbon monoxide poisoning that created paranoia and delusions. So I would strongly advise you to see if you can find somewhere else to sleep for the next few nights and then buy a detector. The original poster said, thanks. I Googled it. I'm staying with my parents tonight. And then I'm going to buy a carbon monoxide detector tomorrow, just in case, because that is true. Could be something that's happening. Another commenter wrote, I don't know what it is, but I would like to add a comment to, it's too late to have these kinds of mental problems. As a nurse in psychiatry, I meet patients of all ages who come in with similar experiences. It happens that we have people in their sixties admitted who suddenly have psychotic symptoms for the first time, which I agree. Like that can come on at any point in life and it can be triggered. Yeah. Medication, you know, traumatic events, depression. Yeah. And the original poster did respond saying, I've been very, very stressed and haven't slept well, which is why I thought maybe I was sleepwalking again after so many years. Have you ever slept walk before? No. It's so scary. Have you? What have you done? I had a lot of sleep. I continue to have a lot of sleep related problems. Oh, I thought you were going to say you still sleepwalk. No. I don't sleepwalk, but my parents told me, and it's really scary. My parents told me that what I used to do is that they would wake up to me screaming bloody murder, and I was under their bed. So I would go into their room. I was like six, seven. I was young, but I would find my way under their bed and then just blood curdling screaming. And they would, you know, maybe that's why their marriage didn't last. I don't know. You're the problem. Yeah. I can't even believe that, but I'm not surprised. I mean, I've had sleep issues as long as I can remember. I don't sleepwalk anymore, but now I just don't sleep. And that's probably why. The screaming. I know. Under their bed. A little girl, a scary girl. It's like a horror movie. What would you say like when you would wake up? I don't know. You don't know. You don't remember. No. Isn't that crazy? That's horrifying. Do you have siblings? I have two. Do they? No. My one sister, I have two younger sisters. My first younger sister sleeps like a rock. She could sleep anywhere. She could sleep on the floor right now in this room. I feel like I'm closer to that. Really? Yeah. I'm jealous. It depends on my like stress levels. Yeah. No, no. My other sisters have no problems. Just me. Just you. Lucky me. Lucky you. Lucky your parents. Waking up to their child screaming under the bed. Oh my gosh. It's like that scene in AI when the AI child cuts. The hair. Yeah. Yeah. Terrifying. Children are scary. Yep. Okay. Then someone else was commenting basically saying that they live in a place that shakes 24 seven, like feels like a constant earthquake. I guess there was like construction and stuff. So the original poster was like, there are a number of apartments being built nearby with associated noise. So it's not entirely impossible. I'll say that we've renovated our condo and our neighbor told us that like a mirror fell off her wall. During the renovations. Yeah, but not during like things were just slowly shifting. And like one day they were working, but like it was on a different wall in her place. But the only explanation was the work we were doing. Yeah. The slow shifts. Yeah. So that makes sense. Are you ready for the update? Yes. It's crazy. Okay. Hi again, everyone. A lot has happened since I wrote the post. I figured out what's up with this situation. I bought two cameras. So took your advice. Smart. Yeah. And set one up in the living room slash kitchen. And then, one in the entrance hall. It turns out my apartment actually has three keys, not two, as I thought. My neighbor, also 35 years old, apparently looked after the previous tenants cat occasionally and had a key to their apartment. She didn't return the key after they moved out of what is now my apartment. This girl and I were pretty good friends to start with when I moved in, but she became more and more clingy to the extent that she would call up to 15 times a day and talk for over four hours in total per day. I couldn't even leave her alone. I couldn't even leave the apartment without her wanting to know where I was going and she would get angry if I didn't respond immediately to her messages. Even if I was asleep. There was so much drama surrounding her that I couldn't take it anymore and chose to completely cut off contact and I thought she had respected that. Turns out that she has let herself into my apartment, gone through my cupboards and drawers, and apparently deliberately was moving things around to make me paranoid. She can hear when I go in and out of my apartment because her entrance is only five meters from mine. And that is why she always says, when I wasn't home even though I work shifting hours. I confronted her and said that I would call the police and she panicked and contacted her father who came over to my apartment. He's a doctor and said that she has borderline personality disorder and refuses treatment because she doesn't think she's wrong. He said she's impulsive, outwardly reacting, and often feels a strong urge to revenge herself on people who she feels have treated her unfairly or let her down, which is a terrifying thing to be told. This has apparently been a theme throughout her life with almost all of her relationships, romantic, and friendships. And her dad practically begged me not to call the police and said that he would do everything he can to prevent anything similar from happening again. I got him to pay for a locksmith to change the lock and I said that I would report her to the housing association who would then report her to the police if she didn't voluntarily move out of the apartment as soon as possible because I didn't want her as a neighbor anymore. They both accepted that and she has now chosen to move back to her parents at the end of February. So the ending was relatively good for me, albeit very chaotic. People like that woman who was breaking in are not safe people. I don't think they can be helped. The level of entitlement, how brazen and bold it is, like going into someone's home is so violating. But this is exactly the kind of thing that I always suspected when things would disappear was happening. Like did you think it was a landlord or a previous tenant? No, I think with my last place, there were several people who had switched units. There was like, you know, 12 units and a couple, one, woman had like two for an Airbnb. It was just a very like communal, one person was like showing units for the landlord. I just sensed it was something like that and I just could never prove it. But I've moved out. But these things happen all the time. Which is so scary. But these people are everywhere. Like that kind of entitlement is everywhere. I want to believe it's something that could get helped. Like I have been in unhealthy relationships the codependency is like, it's unhealthy, right? And you take, like there was one relationship where I was like, I just need like two months of space. And within a week, they showed up at my door, like flew across country, showed up at my door. And I thought it was romantic, but it could turn into a situation where it's like unsafe. And I like to think that, I don't know, like people could work through their own traumas to not have that behavior. I don't know. I think there are some situations that demand more nuance, like the age of the person, maturity. Like, but I think if you're an adult, if you're cooked, like a baked individual and you're doing this, I don't think so. Like if you're still in college and you're like obsessed with your boy, like I think maybe if you're not dangerous, you're just a little immature, fine. But like, I don't know. Yeah. Well, I think at the crux of it is like a deep, internal like insecurity. A hundred percent. And like you become obsessed with someone else because you can't deal with your own stuff. I'm also scared because I have like re-entered the dating world again. And it is scary putting myself out there and meeting people. Like I text all my friends. I'm like, this is who I'm going on a date with. This is where I'm going to be. Everyone has like, all my girlfriends have my location. They know where I am. But like I could meet someone and have one date and it's fine. But I decide to like not continue it. I don't know that they're not going to follow me home or turn into one of these or they already are one of these people. It's scary. You know, that's every interaction though. Like it could be a colleague. It could be a friend. It could be. It could be someone who sees you at the gym. It could be someone. It could be a family member. You know, a lot of stalking is your own family. See, this is why I love it and hate Reddit. It's like, it's telling us things that we already know about the world. But then it makes me scared of and a true crime in general too. It's like this fine line of wanting to immerse yourself and know more about it to be aware and also like protect yourself in a way. But the reality is that you can't. You can't. And the scariest thing is like statistically all crime, all stalking, it's way more likely to occur. You know, you're most vulnerable to those closest to you. Hey, our ride's almost here. Are you ready? Just grabbing my shoes. 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It started with phone calls upwards of 45 to 50 a day, 50-page text messages, and him showing up outside of my house at 5 a.m. When I wouldn't have done it, I would have done it. When I wouldn't comply or feed the negative attention, I began to receive threats, claims that he would murder me and get away with it. All he would have to do is flee the country. He would tell me that he shouldn't have to force me to be his friend, and that I had to give him another chance or else. Every time I blocked his number from contacting me, he would then call me from a different one's. He would try to pretend to be other people or have his friends, or sometimes even random strangers he'd ask on the street to contact me. I once scared an unsuspecting guy half to death after informing him that the police had arrested me. white inside. I jumped up and I grabbed the gun because as of recent, I've done everything with it, even showered with it. That's how scared I've been. I stood at the top of my stairs and I fired twice, hitting him in the chest. I heard his scream, his disbelief that I stood up for myself, zero to 100 milliseconds. I have never been so afraid in my life and I don't know if he's living, but I do know the police have him and that's what helps the most. For months, he evaded the police and I began to question whether he was unstoppable, untraceable, Houdini who would murder me and get away with it, and as of now, I'm in a haze of guilt, surprise, relief, and disbelief. I survived where so many people do not. Holy shit, I survived. Then they edited, the outpouring of support is wild. I can't thank you guys enough. Everyone can be a critic and the fact still remains, you don't know what you would do in a situation until it's presented in front of you. Those who believe there are other things to have been done have never had someone tell you that you no longer deserve to draw breath and mean it. And for the, you should have fired a warning shot folks, there are no warning shots. He kicked my door in, there was no longer a deterrent preventing harm, warning shots are dangerous and could have hurt someone unintended. This is not a Wild West movie, that's what responsible gun ownership is. I'll update once things have calmed down a bit, I promise. I'll write back to everyone and after being isolated for so long, anyone who wants to be friends, I am always accepting those. And they posted a picture of the door being kicked in, like the, oh my god, yeah, I mean, so scary. And there was a news article that we found about this story. It says, The man fled from the scene, tried to hide in the area, but a canine unit was able to locate him behind bushes. So he still fled. Adrenaline. Yeah. Police on Friday afternoon confirmed that the suspect is 22 year old and the name was redacted. The victim in contact with Fox does not wish to be identified and said her past relationship with the redacted name wouldn't qualify as romantic. The victim sent a series of screenshots, she said, detailed numerous texts and online messages from Jackson. She wrote in a blog that a stalker forced her to move, obtain a restraining order and require a license to carry a concealed weapon. The victim told Fox that she'd been sleeping with a chair in front of her door to keep her stalker out. And then six years later, we have an update. A Nevada man has been sentenced to 15 years in prison after pleading guilty to stalking a female acquaintance while on parole for a similar crime that has happened in Las Vegas. So this just proves there's something wrong with this man. He did it again. Yeah. The sentence for the 28 year old, the name was redacted on Friday, was arrested in Arizona in January and pleaded guilty to the aggravated stalking charge in July. According to prosecutors, an investigation by the Sparks Police Department determined Jackson had sent numerous threatening text messages to a woman over several months in 2019. The text included threats against the woman's dog, her property. He also called the woman's family and friends in an effort to get more information about her. At the time of the threats, redacted was on parole for stalking a former girlfriend in Las Vegas. The woman ended up shooting him at her home. According to the district attorney's office, prosecutor redacted sought a maximum sentence because of the terrifying nature of redacted's conduct, which came after only a month on parole for the previous crime. I mean, I have a lot of thoughts. Let's hear them. First of all, that's exactly what guns are for. Yeah. Like that is a proper use of a gun. 100%. It's like law enforcement. Not helping you because the law, not because they don't want to, but because the laws are what they are. And until they have just enough to be able to charge the perpetrator, like she defended her life. To be so scared that you are one, like you have to obtain a gun and then shower with it, sleep with a chair under your door. That's horrifying. Yeah. It's disgusting that she had to do that. And then now she's traumatized. Because she didn't, yeah. I mean, It's all horrible. It's all horrible. It's horrible. And it's like, you know, and then I think about the person he stalked next, like threaten my dog. I dare you. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? It's horrible. Because think about the mental torment. It's like sometimes we have to leave our dogs. Yeah. Our dogs need to go out. Our dogs need to be left at home alone. I would change my life around a threat like that. Yeah. Because it's just, it's just disgusting. Well, this is also just like the worst. I mean, the worst case scenario is that he came in and he killed her, right? Like, but the escalation here is the worst case scenario of a stalking situation that they follow through with their threats, that they're so obsessed with you that if you refuse to be with them, they are going to kill you. And we don't know which ones will and won't. Like that's the, yeah, you don't know. Yeah. And, but a lot do. Like if you're that kind of obsessed stalker, a lot are not willing to stop. I hope that no one has ever been stalked. And I hope that no one stalks anyone. Ever again. Maybe not. Let's just focus on our own mental health if that's what you're trying to do. Yes. But if you have been stalked, I would love to hear people's stories. So we want to invite you to share your stories on our subreddit. It is crimesofpod and we will put it in the show notes that you can find it. Yes. Tell us everything. Tell us all of your secrets, all of your stories. And then, yeah, if you have any other Reddit stories that you want us to cover on the show, you can always let us know. You can also share them with us in the comments or link them in Reddit posts that you put on our subreddit. Because we have a lot that we want to dive deep into on Reddit. Stalking is such a terroristic crime that it makes me sad that these people had to turn to Reddit. Yeah. Because resources are so scant when it comes to crimes like this. When I was trying to transition to be like, I want to hear your stories. It's like bleak because there's, I wish I had an answer. And I don't. And like, we don't have answers. I mean, crimes, crimes are, people shouldn't commit crimes. And I wish, I wish I could wave my magic wand and that be the answer. But stalking specifically, it's like, there's something so disorienting about it. Because once you know you're being stalked, even when you're not, everything feels intentional. Everything feels scary. So. Yeah. And the paranoia that you create in your own mind is just as bad as like the chaos they are creating in your life. It like really distorts your reality and it's traumatic. Yeah. And no one stalk us. Yeah. Please don't. I think that's, that's a good rule of thumb here. Totally. At Crimes of Reddit. Yes. Here at Crime House, we want to thank each and every one of you for your support. So if you like what you've heard today, reach out on social media at Crime House. And don't forget to rate, review, and follow Crimes of Reddit wherever you get your podcasts. And your feedback absolutely makes a difference. Sabrina and I will be back next week to pull at more Reddit threads. And next time I'll be reading the story. I'm so excited. I know. Me too. I can't wait for more stories. We'll see you next week. Today's episode is brought to you by Alma. What if the small things actually felt small? Like getting out of bed when you said you would, or replying to a text right when it came in. 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