1043. Q&AF: When To Quit Your Job, Chasing Bigger Dreams & Being Intentional

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to quit your job the problem is I don't think you ever really know there's a part of me that's excited in another part that's terrified of walking away from stability looking back how did you know the difference between making a smart bet on yourself and making an emotional decision I mean what stability stability a job where you know you could get fired because technology changes or your boss doesn't like the way you look at him is that stability I mean let's redefine what stability actually means in my opinion stability means that you are in control of your own outcomes as much as possible and I trust myself more than I trust other people which I think everybody should but unfortunately don't because we're surrounded by fucking losers okay our whole lives and I don't mean that as like a derogatory statement I mean that as a matter of factual description of what people are most people set goals they never achieve those goals and they repeat that process their entire lives which by definition makes them losers and not winners winners set goals and achieve goals and set new goals and achieve goals that's the difference so when we look at the environment that we're surrounded by growing up for most of us we are surrounded by objectively people that lose yeah okay and those people put ideas in our head like because they weren't able to do something you're not able to do something and those ideas affect our mindset they affect our own evaluation and trust in ourselves because it's abnormal to do things like go out on your own and build things that most people don't build I mean that's an abnormal thing and anything that you do outside the bubble of normal is going to get criticized by people who couldn't do those things that is common sense to me I don't know that should be common sense to other people but maybe you've never thought about it before but the reality is is most of the people you know in your life and you can love them you could think they're great people they could be great friends but objectively they lose far more than they win those people have a life experience of losing those people put these ideas in your head which usually creates enough doubt to where people believe that they are going to be destined to live the outcome that these people live so there's that but it wasn't it crazy to like the definitions of flip flop you know like they want you to think that the definition is a flip flop like losers are now winners you're a winner now if you're losing and when I mean that's because that's because that's the collective yeah like that's the majority I mean look dude when we think about winners there's fucking very few winners versus a lot of people that lose and that's in business that's in sports that's in I mean how many people grew up playing baseball like I did and never made to the major leagues well that was my goal and I lost it that goal that's a fact okay so people collectively have the tendency to believe that what the collective has done is the right thing when it reality it's not always and rarely the right thing right if ever I don't know where you could point out a situation where the collective is the winning side so you have to understand that you're accepting a path and going down a path that is not going to be understood or supported by people for a number of reasons one they've never seen it too they don't believe they can do it three it reminds them of what they didn't do and like dude you're just not gonna hear good advice for most people that's the truth the only people that you should be listening to if you want to win or other people who have fucking won that's what you should tune everything else out but the good news for you is there's actually a mathematical equation that tells you when you should leave your job and go full time on your thing it's not an emotional decision it's not a decision of belief in yourself it's not a decision of is this the right time or not I don't know you know answer my prayers and tell me no it's fucking math okay you can math it out let me tell you the formula it's real simple when your side thing pays you enough money to support your lifestyle for you to survive and eat and do your things then it is time for you to leave the thing that is has been supporting you and go do the thing that's it it's fucking that simple and people get in this position of I'm doing this side thing it's making me some money but I also have my other job so I'm making more money than I was before and usually people have poor financial habits and so they get accustomed to that for this guy you know let's say he's making 90k doing his job and let's say he's making 45k on his side job well now he's making two incomes he's making more money than he's ever making which gives him more comfort yeah why come out yeah right right and then to go to full time which is what's going to amplify that result from 45k to 500k to a couple million maybe in you know 5 10 years they don't want to take that step backwards right so if you're serious about doing the thing which of security is important to you you should be because now you're in control versus someone else just walking in and saying hey you know what fuck off okay which they can do at any time if you're serious about that then you should be willing to downsize your lifestyle take that step back from having the two incomes and go full steam because you can't win at whatever it is you're doing with your night and week and effort it's not gonna work because there's other people are doing a full time right and those other people are no matter what you think they're just as good as you and they're probably better because they're getting more reps because they're going full time so you can't compete with half ass effort you just can't yeah well when did you learn this because a lot of people I don't know if they a lot of people know this but like you know in the early years when you were just getting started on entrepreneurship you were working other side jobs because you had to right yeah the first seven seven years seven years okay so that was seven years before it was like quit all the sides shit okay yeah and you know what I did what I just told them it was fucking math yeah it's math yeah it's kind of like you know people put these these these these this like mystical I'm gonna know when it's the right time anybody who's telling you you'll know when it's the right time didn't fucking do it because anybody who's done it is gonna tell you what I just told you they're gonna say it's math okay and math runs the world I don't know if you know this but like when it when it comes to success there's no mystical formula to it it really is win one day win the next day win the third day win the fourth day win the fifth day all you lost the sixth day win the seventh day and when you average out more wins than you fucking lose you're gonna win your life it's that simple and if you do that long enough winning doesn't become something that you have to focus on every day it just becomes who the fuck you are so it's not even a struggle it's just the normal thing it's the expectation like you know I don't get excited about winning because I don't any of you in here can tell me that we could fucking hit the biggest grand slam in the world and I'm like yeah we should have done that two years ago because that's my expectation I expect to fucking win okay and that's expectation comes from years and years and years and years and years and years of understanding how winning is actually accomplished. And people like to put these mystical ideas and these, this fucking Fufu bullshit on it because they want to abandon the responsibility that they have for their own lives. You know, I tried really hard, but it didn't just work out, bro. Anybody who's tried hard long enough, it's not even about trying hard. Anyone who's been effective long enough for, it's an average. Okay, if out of 30 days, you miss three and you win fucking 27, that means that you are winning at a 90% rate. All right, that's pretty good. But 97% is better than 90, right? It's math. It's fucking math. You could gamify it. Which by the way, I've done. This is what we built with operator standard where you can find the MFCO project podcast. You go in operator standard and you follow the fucking directions and you can tell the difference between a critical task and a non-critical tasks. It literally, and you follow it, it literally makes losing fucking impossible. Like impossible. You cannot fucking lose. And I think people, if they would remove all this mystical shit and all these what-ifs and maybe and this and that, that's all losers shit that you pick up along the way. It is literal math. It is one plus one equals motherfucking two. That is it. Yeah. I think another thing too that people would have a hard time, I guess, with this. And I think you said it was a step back is the lifestyle piece of it and not being willing, or seeing that as a step back when it's really you stepping forward. You know what I'm saying? Whatever that costs. I think it comes down to people not willing to take those risks, I guess. They don't want to look embarrassed by getting an apartment from their house. Well, are you going to be embarrassed living the same lifestyle in another fucking 15 years? Right. I mean, it's all how you look at it. It's all how you assess the outcomes and the risk. You know, most people say, what if I'm going to, what if this happens? What if that happens? What if this happens? Instead of saying, what happens if I don't? Like, that's how winners evaluate risk and outcome. Okay. So like, it's just a perception change that you have to have and people who lose see the world one way and people who win see it a different way. And if you're going to win, you're going to have to learn to see the world that way. You can stay right where you are and things are going to continue to get worse. They're not going to stay the same because the people around you are going to get better and better and better. So there is no maintaining. You're not going to stay where the fuck you are. That's absurd. Yeah. So try to stand still and maintain. You are by default losing because the market is moving forward at all times. Okay. So it's a, you know, I think this comes from a lot of different things, but ultimately, I think it just comes from listening to people who have never done shit. You know, it's like, I mean, do I think about your story, bro? It's like, I mean, you had to, you were 26 when you had to move back with your dad. Yeah. Like, 26 years old. Like, that's from a bachelor's time. You know, you're having to move back with your dad to keep shit moving. But like, was that a step back? Well, what happened was I was living on my own in Springfield. Right. And then I moved up here to open the stores here. That's right. And I didn't have enough money to get a place on my own here. So you see what I'm saying? Yeah. So I did what the fuck I had to do. Yeah. So yeah, 26 years old. I had to fucking move back in with my fucking dad. Okay. Like in the prime of my fucking 20s. Yeah, bro. I'm not talking about that. Yeah. Okay. So like, what do you think people thought about me? They thought I was a fucking loser. They thought I was failing at life. They thought I was chasing a pipe dream that was never going to work. And by the way, they told me all those things. I heard it from everybody. Everywhere I went. And the people who tried to be supportive, it was backhanded support. It was like, oh man, that's cool. So like, you really think this is going to work? You know, it was shit like that. And, you know, yeah, it's embarrassing. But I mean, I certainly don't give a fuck now. You know what I mean? Like, how'd you not do that? What would have happened? I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't be here. Yeah. That's real, man. You know, I mean, fucking millions of people wouldn't have changed their lives with 75 hard. You know, millions more people wouldn't have changed their lives through our fucking brands. We built millions of people wouldn't have built businesses off the podcast content that I've done. I mean, I'd say the fucking impact of me going even though I was embarrassed is pretty substantial. 100%. 100% man. It takes what it takes, right? Yeah, that's it. Yeah. Look, dude, that's the bottom line. Yeah. It fucking takes what it fucking takes. You can analyze it. You can think about it. You can ask people about it. You can try to wiggle out of doing the work. But at the end of the day, it's hard to do. And if you're not all in, it's not going to fucking work. That's it. You have to be fucking obsessed because there are other people who are obsessed that you are competing against. I don't know why this is so hard for people to understand. If you are not obsessed with growing your company, if you are not obsessed with winning, get the fuck out of the game because you're going to waste your life and you're going to get your ass beat. Okay. That's what it takes. This is not a real thing for people trying to build a business. That's not real. At least on a micro scale, on a day-to-day scale. It's not a real thing. You're going to have late nights. You're going to miss fucking get-togethers. You're going to miss weddings. You're going to miss parties. You're going to lose girlfriends and boyfriends. These are things that are going to fucking happen if you're trying to build something from scratch. That is just the reality. And everybody wants to have both. They want to have the life everybody else has. And then they want to have the life that entrepreneurs have at the end. Okay. You don't get both. So you either pay the price up front and you get something later, which is a risk. Or you have the balance and all the shit that everybody has and you don't get the shit later. It's that simple, dude. It's that simple. I don't know how to say it any other than that, any other way than that. That's what it is. And if you're out here trying to justify and mind fuck yourself and to think in that like, you get both, you think you're going to be the first human in history to get both? That'd be another way. Yeah, there is no other way. Like, dude, there's just no other way. But the good news is, is that there's no risk in it either if you just understand that it's a mathematical formula. If you understand that if you win enough days in a row and your average of winning is high enough on a daily basis, you're going to be a lot of people. If you're going to win, then what's the fucking risk? What's the risk? There's no risk. It's just a journey. I love it, man. I love it, man. Guys, Andy, question number two. Let's build on this a little bit. Question number two, Andy, I'm the first person in my family who's even talking about owning a business or building wealth, becoming successful. Sometimes I feel like I'm carrying generations of expectations on my back and other times I feel guilty because the path I'm choosing looks so different from what my family understands. For someone trying to break generational cycles, how do you stay committed to the future you're building without feeling disconnected from where you came from? Look, man, do you want the life that they have? Clearly, you don't. Okay? Very clearly because you have this ambition and this goal and this awareness that you're communicating through this question right now, you don't want their life. You only get one life. Okay? You do not owe your family if they were farmers for fucking 100 years and you have a different vision for your life. You do not owe your family to be a fucking farmer and be miserable. You know, we only have one life. Okay? And if you really want to break generational shit and you actually mean that, which most people say shit like that, but they don't, then you will understand that in order to break that generational cycle, you are going to have to win at a scale that makes people look and say, holy shit, look what the fuck he did. Okay? That means you got to win big, not just kind of big. That doesn't mean you go from being a farmer to something similar. Like working at the tractor fucking store. Okay? Now, if that's your level of winning, I get it. Now, that's not going to change the fucking generational cycle. You're just going to be a guy that did something different. You want to change your generational cycle. You better win at a scale that every motherfucker that ever knew your name is like holy shit. Did you hear about what the fuck DJ is doing? Did you fucking hear about that? Holy shit. That's what changes people's fucking generational cycle. So, so that's really what you want. You got to win so fucking big that it's undeniable. Okay? But getting back to the question, if you don't what they want, there's nothing wrong with that. Okay? And if you have decent parents at all or people that care about you, they want you to do better than them. All right? But a lot of people don't have decent parents. A lot of people have shitty parents. And I was blessed to have good parents. But I'm telling you, I thought everybody's parents wanted them to do better than them. Because that's what my parents wanted for me. All right? But now everybody's like that. And if you got parents like that. that want you to do what they did because that's the level of winning that they did. And they are insecure about you going out doing other things and then they hide it behind this idea of, well, I don't want you to get hurt. You got sheep herds. I don't want to tell you. Sorry. That's right. And they're not going to believe in you. They're not going to support you. They're not going to clap for you until you've done it. And everybody else in the world recognizes what the fuck you've done. And then they're going to be like, man, I was wrong. You killed it. I'm proud of you. Maybe if they're real shitty, they'll fucking hate you for it. Yeah. Look at that. I'm going to create it for you. That's my boy. Look, dude. Yeah. I mean, look, dude. I don't know what to tell you, man. People get a different-- they draw different straws, man. When it comes to your parents, you don't get to control who they are or what you're born into. And you've got to be adult enough to unemotionally evaluate the situation and not just tie your life to what your parents want for you when it's not something that you want, because here's what will happen. You'll get 10, 20, 30 years down the road, and you'll realize that you did this for their approval. And they don't even recognize that you did it for your approval anyway. They just think that it's something that you just did. And then they'll think they'll probably say shit like this. Well, it's not like you did anything special with your life. You just did what everybody else does. So like, dude, you're going to try to bend your whole life to get approval from people that will never approve of you. So at the end of the day, what's it come down to? It comes down to what the fuck you want. And you have to be adult enough to evaluate that and have enough thick skin and emotional maturity to not connect your outcome to other people's approval and also not hate your parents for not approving. You don't have to hate them because they don't approve. You can look at them and say, well, that's what they think. That's OK. I actually still go to Christmas and Thanksgiving and I can be cool, but I'm going to do my thing. And that's what an adult does. Does this how old he is? No, it doesn't. Yeah, well, if you're over the age 18, you're supposed to think for yourself. So I personally, I think this is a fucking irrelevant like-- man, I hate when I get like this because I forget that this is hard for people when they're starting. But from where I sit, it's irrelevant, which is just is. Your life's going to be so much better, so much more rewarding. You're going to have so much more leverage on everything around you. You're going to have so much more financial freedom, so much more satisfaction and fulfillment in your life. It's such a small thing to worry about in comparison to what the big picture is and what you're going to get out of it. It's just hard for people when they're in it, though. Of course. When you're 18, 19, 20, and your parents are all the sudden, these people that you love and are supposed to be your biggest supporters are all the sudden they have these conflicting opinions about what it is that you should do versus what you feel you should do. You don't trust yourself. You're like, fuck, dude, I don't know. My parents know right. It's scary, right? I get it. But from where I sit, I'm just telling you, if you were like sitting in front of me right now, and I would tell you in front of your fucking parents, too, because I could look right at your fucking parents and be like, yeah, you're actually failing them as a fucking parent right now. You understand that? And they would sit there because I'm me and fucking hold their little head down and be like, oh, just don't want to admit to do. Well, that's what you're fucking doing, asshole. The whole point of having fucking kids and raising them right is so that they can do better than you. That's the point. You're a good parent, the winning in parenthood, maybe I'm wrong. I don't have kids so I could fucking see it totally wrong. But if I did, and I was judging myself, I was a good parent and I would look and I would say, did I set this kid up to do better than me? Do they have the right character traits? Are they good to other people? Are they, do they have integrity? Are they going to surpass what I did in my life? And those are the things that I would rate being a good parent on. Some of the things, but that's a big one. I think a lot of parents don't want their kids to win because they don't want to be exposed for what they were not able to do. Their own insecurity. I would like to add a little bit to that because I feel like there's also another side of it is that sometimes the kids have a bigger vision than what the parents have. So according to the parents, they feel like they're doing the right thing by asking the kid to do what they have seen been done all the time. For sure. And what happens on the other end of it is the kid feels like because the parents have provided me all these years, there's a very unexplained indirect pressure on the kid. Yeah, yeah. Like you take, like you always say, you're loyal to the wrong people and people misunderstand the idea of loyalty. Yeah. That comes from this inex unexplained indirect pressure from the parents to the kid that if you don't do what they tell you to do, you're somehow disrespecting all the stuff that you have done for them. Well, I mean, here's the deal. This is called being an adult and this is called maturity on the both parent and child. Parents have to get to a point where they realize that you're not going to tell your kid what the fuck to do. And kids have to get to the point where they realize that they got to do what they think is right. And that's called breaking out and becoming an adult, but yeah, I agree with you. It comes from insecurity, bro. And also like you've talked about self-awareness, too. Yeah. How much self-awareness that the parent have versus the kid have and how are they interacting with each other and accepting each other? I mean, dude, let's be real. You grow up thinking your parents are superheroes, okay? And then you get out in the real world, you get to be, I don't know, 17, 18, 16, 17, 18, 19. And that uncle that you thought was the coolest uncle in the world, you kind of realized like, "Oh, guys, fuck up." Right? And you start seeing the fucking world for what the fuck it is. Okay? Yeah, that's right. That's right. So I think that's just a part of life, dude. It doesn't mean you have to think they're shitty. That's right. You got to realize that maybe they don't know what the fuck they're talking about. Absolutely. You know how many people told me that I shouldn't do what I do and shouldn't do what I did? I mean, fuck, bro, most people, most people, most people, not a few people, most people at some point, communicated to me whether it was directly or indirectly or forward to my face or like backhanded that what they thought I was doing was fucking stupid. Totally stupid. And I can't even imagine at your skill, but I have experienced that in my life, too. People have told me all my life and these are direct relatives that told me if I don't stop drawing, I would never be able to do anything in my life. Yeah. But going back to the parent topic, I was thinking the other day is a boy or a girl becomes a man or a woman when they realize that their parents were not always right. Yeah. And then they also at the same time realize that it's not their fault because they're also doing it for the first time. I agree. That's the majority thing I was talking about. Yeah, it goes exactly. They're bad. Look how many people fucking, dude, look how many of these people like blame their parents for their outcome. That's like, oh, my parents were shit, bro. You realize that your parents didn't know what the fuck they were doing either. It is best they could. That also goes in line with what you said. Like people have 100 times worse conditions than you and they have done 100 times better than you. Bro, those people are what we call pussies. Okay. So I don't, you know, I'm not here to help the pussies, bro. That's right. I'm here to help the people who have that fucking inner drive, that inner ambition, that inner desire to be great and give them the tools to do that. I'm not here to save everybody from their fucking pussy done. Okay. One of the shifts that happened to me when I started listening to you and I'm 100% sure every listener will relate to it is I stopped blaming everybody else for my conditions and I took responsibility and I said, like, okay, I've done some mistakes. This is my condition. What can I do? Yeah. I go from there. It could be a small scale. It could be a medium scale, whatever it is. But I think that's a commonality between everybody that hears you in the podcast is they stop blaming somebody else and take responsibility. Well, also dude, like that's part of the reason 75-Hart and LiveHard exists, bro. Because what it does for people is it teaches people that you are in control of most of the things that produce the outcome that you want. Okay. Is there chance? Are there circumstances? Is there stuff called luck? Maybe. Yeah. Okay. But at the end of the day, you don't put your whole life because you might hit a bad spot or you might get unlucky. That's right. You control all the things you control. What you eat, what you drink, how you move, how you train, who you associate with, what information you put in your brain, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And you continue to control those and invest in those at a high level and when the bumps come, they come, you're gonna keep moving. That's right. But like most people will pump their entire lives because they're afraid of something that might not happen. And then that thing that ends up happening as a result of that is a thousand times worse. That's right. You get to live in purgatory your entire life wondering what might have been had I had the courage to actually, go and really dude is there anything worse than that? Is there anything worse than sitting around at 50 or 60 years old and thinking, fuck, I wasted my whole youth because I was scared. I personally do, I can't think of anything worse than that. What you're saying is actually proven that it was a ER nurse who used to attend terminally ill patients and because she has done it for decades she actually compiled everything and put it in a book. And what you just said is one of the top five regrets of people who are on their deathbed is that they wish that they could have done more, taken more chances and did what they actually wanted to do. Bro also though, I mean there's a flip look dude, you can't have it all. Okay, you know, my birthday was last week and I had people, you know, that I haven't talked to in a while, reach out and had some conversations with them and stuff. And I was talking to one of my friends and you know, they were like, you know, my kids are, my kids are getting ready to leave the house, you know, and I got divorced and you know, I don't want to be alone and you know, they were asking me if I was happy with how things were going and I'm like, well, you know, I got this great business. I've built a lot of things. I've helped a lot of people, but you know, I was never able to have kids. Okay, and it wasn't, it wasn't my choice, it just never happened. And so like dude, no matter what, you're gonna have things that you wish you had. Okay, but like, that's the perfect life. That's right. That's the name of the game dude. And like, you have to be able to be grateful for the life that you do have intentionally. Like meaning, what I mean by that is like sitting down and saying, yeah, you know what? I don't have everything that I want, but man, I got this and this is really good and I got this too and that's really good and I got this and other people don't have that, right? But it was an interesting conversation because it was like the two sides of the coin, you know what I mean? This person had spent their life raising their kids and now it's kind of like, well, what the fuck am I gonna do now? And I've spent my life building this and I'm kind of like, what the fuck am I gonna do now? So like, it's a, it's reality, man. And it's just about like what kind of, what trades are you willing to make? And I don't know, you know, for most people that build businesses, they're still able to have kids. So like, I just wasn't one of them. So, you know, the point is, is that you can either pay now and have what you want later or you can have what you want now and you could pay later and that is just the paradox of life. It's gonna be hard now and easier later or it's gonna be easy now and hard later. That is the fucking way that life works, dude. And the cool thing about taking the hard path early is that you get so acclimated to shit being hard that when it's hard later, you don't even fucking notice it's just like what it is. That's right. Yeah. You know, like the fucking world could fall down on my head and like for an hour, I'm gonna be like, fuck. And then I'm like, all right, well, what are we gonna do? Let's fix this. The simplest analogy is when you start working out what used to be really hard for you is years later is your warm up. Yeah. Same thing. Yeah, dude. It's, it's, it's just the way the world works, man. Not, you don't get to have everything, dude. You know, and people that say they have everything or lying. Okay. People that say they have everything and pretend like they don't have shit that they that they want, but they don't have. There's a pitch coming. Oh, okay. Like I see these dudes on the internet and they're like, I got this great business and I got this great wife and I got this great thing and I got this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, my machine. Yeah. It's all fucking theatrics, bro. You know, people are getting disenfranchised with that too. Like all the influencers that pretend to be pretty all the time. Everything's perfect all the time. Now people are getting decent, synthesized with that. Bro, I have to peel myself out of bed like three days a week, bro. Like, you know, the fuck? It's just the way it is, man. It's called fucking life. Now, do you want to have life with some money? Do you want to have life with no money? Yeah. You know, you said that. I can tell you this. I've had life with no money and it was a lot of fucking harder than when I have life now and I have some money. That's right. Because that, you know what? Like, dude, you know, I was feeling down here today and I bought a motorcycle. Like, like, like, maybe feel good for a couple of hours. And I didn't have to stress about it. I'm just like, yeah, I'll take that. You know, do I need it? No, but it made me feel good for a couple of hours. Like, I don't know what, like, that's real shit, bro. Oh, that doesn't make you happy. No shit, but it made me happy for an hour. Fuck, dude. That's real, man. Yeah. That's real, bro. What we got one more thing is buy everybody likes to buy shit. Yeah. It's cool. Everybody likes to get new shit. That's fun, dude. Yeah, bro. Like, it is what it is, man. I don't know. I don't know. What would I say? Yeah. That's the DJ's the king of that. What is it? Impulsive purchases. Oh, no, I like deals. Yeah. Impulsive deals. Impulsive deals. Yeah. He loves them time shares. Yeah, man. Guys, let's go one more question for you, though. Guys, Andy question number three. Andy, I'm 24. And I have heard you talk about how important intent is. And I think Tim Grover said it in a way that be where your feet are or something to that effect. My question, can you talk more about why it's important to be more intentional about your time and then how you become great at it? I think a lot of people struggle with this. I do for sure where I can be physically somewhere, but not there at all. Oh, man. You know what? I don't really. I'm not the best at that. That's something I struggle with as well. Even when I'm somewhere where I should be present, I'm thinking about other things. Probably everybody does. I mean, especially now we're phoned and shit, bro. Yeah. You know, I think that's it, but not. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's a practice, like anything. I think you got to practice it. Put your phone fucking in a cabinet or something, you know, and just kind of like be there. I don't even feel qualified to answer it to be honest. Like my mind's always in a million different places at every single point in time. And you know, you could literally be talking to me. And I look like I'm hearing everything you say, and I'm hearing literally nothing. Yeah. And those of you that have relationships, you've probably gotten okay at that. That's right. But it's kind of like that for me and it comes in and out. And you know, when I know I have to listen, I will listen. And when it's not, and this is going to sound selfish, but when it's not something I truly care about, I just fucking tune it to fuck out. And I don't hear it. And it's probably something I struggle with the most. And I think it just takes, you know, practice of being intentional. I will say this that when I do that, never one time has something happened where the world fell apart. Never one time did, you know, the, uh, the businesses come doing it and burn down. Yeah. Like nothing bad's ever happened. It's like a paranoia that you have as a business owner. And I think that's natural when you build something from literal scratch, from nothing, you are so concerned about it all the time. Because for the first number of years, dude, you are in a place where one or two things could happen and you could literally be out of business. Okay. And with social media, that is still kind of the case. Like there are things that can happen that put a big dent in your business if you're not like watching closely. And, um, you know, I talked to my dad about this all the time because like back in his day, you know, you, you close the door five o'clock, dude, it was business hours. Yeah. Yeah. And I think that this idea, uh, and this is kind of fucked up the world, bro, because it's, it's fucked up families and it's fucked up culture and it's, it's been bad. But competitors are going to compete, right? And when it changed from you lock the door and go home to, it doesn't matter if the doors lock business is still going on, the competitors, the, the hungriest people saw that as an opportunity to get ahead. And it was no different than when people were using steroids and baseball. Like you got two or three guys start using it. Then well, fuck dude. It's like Andy Pettit said when he got caught, he's like, hey man, um, all these other dudes are doing it. And I got a $20 million contract. So you're telling me that you just wouldn't do it because to compete and everybody else, you have to do it. Everybody's using the chain saw and you're still using that. You're gonna lose. And so when people started putting that time in and seeing that as an opportunity, the hungriest people, they made everybody have to operate that way. And so entrepreneurship now is much different than it was 30 years ago. And not in a good way, you know, um, and I don't think that's going to change. So I think it's irrelevant to gripe about. Yeah, but um, it's different. And you know, you are signing up for a different life. But like we talked about in the second question, you know, there's a different outcome for that life. So, you know, I think it's just practice. I, you know, if I had kids, I'm sure I would be much more serious about that. Like my brother's very serious about that. Okay, like you cannot call my brother when he leaves the office. He will not answer his fucking phone. He fucking won't. He won't answer for me. He won't answer like it's tomorrow. And he's great about it. And I admire that. And I don't think it costs us anything for him to be that way. So it's just a mental addiction that you get into, especially when you're very hungry. And if you're going to have a family, I think it's important to like really get that curtailed in. I don't have the typical go home deal. So for me, it's not something I've ever had to like really like really, really curtailed in. I'm probably the wrong guy to ask, but I'm just telling you again, you know, all these people that act like they got it all figured out, they're full of shit. And dude, you want to know who's really full of shit? It's like Zeeshan said a minute ago. It's the ones that act the most perfect. It's the ones that flaunt their marriage. It's the ones that flaunt their perfect life. It's the ones that act like they have it all figured out. And then they try to market to you how you could do it too. And it's funny because karma always comes around for those people. Their relationship falls apart. There's a big break up, something and then it fractures their whole thing. I've seen it at gazillion times. Million. I actually think people that market their marriage are fucking probably like, I think those are like the shittiest people. I'm being completely honest. They got the biggest part. It's super weird. Not only that, it's your fucking family. And second of all, you don't fucking know how to be, you don't have a perfect marriage. You fucking lying. What's the standard? You're lying. You're lying. You're lying. Okay. You don't have it. Nobody has it all. Nobody has it. Right. And nobody's a fucking expert at it. The way I see it is, okay, person A is married to person B. They might be really good doing that. But I'm not person A. My life's not person B. We are so different than that person. It is. How can I take love and marriage advice? Because it's hope. And that's hope and convenience are the only two products that are ever fucking sold. Okay. And people live in a shitty marriage with a shitty life. They see something like that and they say, well, I hope that maybe I could do that too. And then they buy the shit. And I just think it's, I think it's low level scum shit. That's my personal opinion of it. The last thought on this, I just don't, I just, I, that's my personal opinion of it. Like I don't think that that's something that people should be marketing. And I don't think that people that are really good at business do that. Like you built businesses. That's right. That's right. That's not on the intentionality piece of it too. Because I do, I think about this all the time. You know, you're obviously scrolling and I see like the videos of like the like concerts from like the 80s. Right. And you look at the crowd and then obviously this is before cell phones and shit. And it's just people just there. Like in there in that moment, they really, they can really, you know, relive that concert a million fucking times in their lifetime. And it's just like a so weird house society just in general has moved from that. How many times do you think people that record fireworks, watch the fireworks? Yes. The answer is fucking zero. Zero. How many times do people that go to a concert post pick up their phone and look at the concert on the phone? They don't actually. Yeah, bro. It's stupid. It's so weird. There's a study that actually came out that talks about first it was attending the event that gave you the endorphins that gave you the dopamine hit. Next it moved to actually capturing it. So I have it captured. I'm here. I'm here. Right. I captured it. And now it has elevated. It has elevated because now the people are getting the dopamine hit from people commenting. Oh, it's so cool after you post. Oh, yeah. That's what's happening now. The people are theatrically living for the approval of people that they've never even met in real life. That's right. It's weird. It's so weird. That's why people have this fake online personas. Yeah. They just want to show you the highlights. Well, it's also why when you meet a lot of these people in real life, they're nothing like what they are. Oh. Somebody said that to me. I don't remember who said it to me, but this guy was selling that he went to a business expo and most of the people were like really, really young doing business. That's cool. But then when he was actually going to talk to them, they were so awkward and it could not stand a real conversation because they are so accustomed to doing everything online and typing for everything behind the camera. Well, it's the same reason why young dudes can't go up to girls in public. They never had to do it. You can say DM easy. Yeah. DM easy. But like, you know, I mean, look, bro, you can't put the gene back in the bottle. It's not going to happen. The best you can do is learn how to manage it appropriately. And you know, this is why we're seeing in person experience makes such a good comeback. Everything that was really hot in the 90s is coming back. Right. Because people are recognizing what we've been talking about. They're recognizing the damage that social media has done to culture and they're over it. And they're looking for authentic human connections. They're looking to do business with companies that are that way. They're looking to spend time with their friends. They're looking to be in a community. And you know, that's a lot of companies are going to really struggle because they've never done business. They can make that adjustment. I love it because that's how we built our business. Right. So what's the said that years ago? Yeah, yeah. This is going to come back. Oh, yeah. Of course, bro. You know, I don't, I don't, when you've been doing something for as long as I have, you know, and you have to pay micro attention on a day by day basis over the course of decades. It's not hard to understand what's happening or see it. Yeah. You know, and it's not some superpower or psychic ability. It's just me. I got pattern recognition over the course of 30 years. Yeah. You know, so it, you know, I think the business I think a lot of businesses are going to struggle with how to connect with people because they never had to do it. There's a lot of businesses that exist right now that are that were built in the height of that social media world that are going to have a really hard time adapting to the way that people are going to prefer to do business in the future. And the good thing about me is that I grew up in that era. You know, I built a business before the internet came. I built a great business when the internet came. And I'm going to continue to build great businesses because I understand both worlds. So it's real, man. You know, experiential, you know, in person human analog connection is just going to continue to get bigger and bigger and bigger and I think once it comes back this next time, it's not ever going to go back to social. It's not meaning social media. It's never going to. You know, the dead internet theory talks about this like over 50% of the accounts on the internet are fucking actually not even real people. They're bots. So when you think about that and you see all these comments on the internet and you realize like half of these people statistically are bots. What are you actually doing? You're performing for a computer program. And wouldn't it be in the social media company's best interest to create mass networks of artificial intelligent people that can communicate with the real people and make them feel like a big deal? Wouldn't it be in the social media's company's best interest to allow people to gain millions of followers even if those followers weren't real because it makes people be addicted to their program keeps them on the platform. Okay. So like, dude, let's think about this, bro. Do you know what a million people fucking looks like? Shit. I just want you to think about this. The University of Michigan's football stadium and Ohio State in Nebraska holds roughly 100,000 people. Okay. Think about that. Now think about 10 of those or 20 of those or 30 of those 1, 2, 3 million of those people watching someone make fucking stupid ass videos. That's not real, dude. It's not real. Okay. In the personal development world, we have this thing that is called asses in seats. Okay. There's lots of people who make content who get all this traffic and they get all these comments and they get all these views. But they can't fill a room with 1,000 people. They can't fill a room with 500 people. Why is that? That's because the fucking shit's fake. That's right. Okay. And they're not making a real impact and they're not making a difference. They're performing for a few regular people and mostly a computer program. And then you think about like, that's how you're going to spend your life. You know, that's one of the reasons I kind of got out of posting on a regular basis because I'm just like, yeah, does it really matter? Like when I sell tickets to shit, people show the fuck up. But that's because of the cumulative benefit that I provided for decades. Right? Like, most people have seen my content. Most people that are on the internet have seen my content. Now I'm going to have the most followers. All right. Am I not going to give the most comments? But my shit has been shared cumulatively for 15 years, heavily. Okay? And that creates a situation where people. have gotten value out of it, which creates a situation where when I sell tickets, people show the fuck up. And, you know, that's real influence. I'm not just saying that to to my own horn. There's a difference between attention and influence. And most people want influence, but they mistake it for attention. And, you know, I think a lot of people waste their lives trying to be, you know, relevant to people on the internet that might not even be real people. And that's kind of fucked up. I didn't want to cut you out, but I did want to say this point when you said your clips have been shared for the last 15 years and ask created real influence, I am the proof of that. Yeah. The first time I ever saw any content of you was a compilation in a YouTube video. And when you, when your video came up, the MFCO podcast was on the screen. I started listening to that. And then everything in my life slowly, gradually changed. And now, especially after coming and working here, being around everybody for the last six years, the team you everybody, everything in my life has been changed forever now. Like you said, once you realize your potential, you can never go back. Yeah. So now I have realized like I can do all of this. Yeah. I'm doing it right now. And just like me, there are hundreds and hundreds of people who have come for the OS event and summer smash event, they have changed their lives completely drastically. We have hundreds and hundreds of testimonials of that. Well, I mean, dude, it's just because like I'm trying to put shit out that actually helps people. That's right. You know, I'm trying to tell people the reality, like not market to them. Well, it also, it was just going to say that doesn't that also tie into the intent. Like you would do what I talk about with public speaking, you know, like, I don't know, you know, if you give people benefit, they're going to buy your shit. It's just, it's a reciprocal thing. You know, like, I don't know. When you first, out of curiosity, I never ask you this, but like, were you living in America or were you living in India? I was living in America at that time. Oh, I'm serious. I was in check. No, that's a good question. That's a curious question. I was in Chicago at that time. That's roughly 2016. I moved to America in 2014. So like roughly two hours. Just curious. Yeah. My older brother was a big element in trying to expose me to stuff like this just to get us motivated a little bit. Yeah. And that what got me. That's cool. Yeah. That's super cool. Oh, yeah, man. Well, guys, Andy, that was three. Yeah. All right, guys. Well, let's go kick some asses week and we'll see you later. Don't be a hoe chef. Fuck a stove. Counting millions in a coke. Bad bitch. Bullshit. Swo. Got a own bank. Roll. Cankful. Dusset. No. Here. Shot. Case. Cloth. Cloth.