1036. Q&AF: Potential Vs Execution, Handling Rapid Growth & Becoming Mentally Tough

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all you do it costs me money to do this you know but we enjoy doing it and you know it's probably not going to be the first time this summer that there's going to be some irregularities in the schedule because I have a lot of shit playing this summer like life shit to do you know one of the things I'm going to do for sure is I'm going to ride more motorcycles which means I'm going to be gone for a couple days at a time we might miss a show here and there but I just want to let you guys know that you know it's going to continue and if the schedule is an on point all the time you know that's the way it goes yeah I mean if you guys have complaints you can send that to my dot at Andy Fesella dot com yeah no man it's going to be great what and the good thing is guys we got a great lineup this week yeah we got a guest on the show coming up I think tomorrow you got to have that super good dude coming in and dude honestly man sometimes I just need a break from talking about the shit you know like it's not a lot of the stuff that we talk about is important but it's it's also like mind numbing you know because it's like you're literally talking about some of the dumbest craziest stupid shit that's going on in the world from some of the most low IQ corrupt individuals and it just sort of like wears on you a little bit sometimes just taxa mentags for sure yeah that's that's not just what the IRS does yeah I'm saying like yeah it's a lot man yeah so you know just uh understand that and you know we're gonna do the best that we can for you guys as always yeah as always and so I'd not start off with making some people better that's I think that's the plan I got three goons for you guys Andy let's get into these questions any question number one hey Andy this one had an exclamation point so hey yeah Andy I think one of my biggest problems is that I love the idea of what I could become I love setting goals making plans imagining the future but there's a huge gap between imagining a better life and actually doing the work required to create it why do you think so many people fall in love with potential but struggle with execution oh first of all if you're so in love with this idea of the ultimate version of yourself you think about it you dream about it you wish you were that already how much regret do you actually think you're gonna feel if you don't go out and build it yeah okay most people they have regret and they don't even really think about what they want to be they don't they they get to the end of their life or they get to a certain point in their life where they're like oh man I could have done more but those people didn't even take the time to draw the vision in their mind and you have and you spend all this time thinking about what you could be not realizing that's just gonna be that much harder to deal with if you don't become it and then what we're talking about here is awareness dude you're aware that you could be more you're aware that you should be more you're aware that you want to be more and for that reason if you don't go out and create it you're gonna feel much worse than the average person who never takes the time to actually think about what they could be so there's that and on top of that is this idea of how the internet works right now you know it's so easy to escape from reality and paint these pictures and visions and have these dreams about this life that you want to live in the options are endless and you end up wasting your entire life dreaming of a life that doesn't actually even exist and so this is a big problem in society especially now with the technology that we have it used to be you picked something and then you realized that you had to work really hard to create that in reality and now there's so many options and we see so many people and we watch everybody else doing all of these things and we have a hard time picking what we actually want to do that we end up doing nothing and we end up spending years of our lives wishing we were doing something else but failing to make a choice and that go out it here's the reality dude you gotta choose you gotta make a choice what do you want to do who do you want to be where do you want to live you can't do all the things dude okay that's the thing very rarely do people get to have the life of all the things right like to get you get to a billionaire status and you can fly a private jet and you can go to your ranch in Montana and you go to your house in Florida and you can visit your businesses that's ultimate freedom but very very few people get to that point and the only way they got to that point was they made a decision earlier to get to a certain point they got to that point and then they made another decision to keep going and it compounds so the younger that you can realize this the better because we are on a limited time frame and I think the internet really damages people in this way because they have such a hard time making a choice because we're so busy watching everybody else live their lives that we like have a hard time choosing and by the way I do this okay like when I look at property every single night on the internet and dude I look at houses on the water on the beach and then I look at ranches in Montana and then I look at farms in Tennessee and then I look at villas in Italy and I'm like thought dude like what am I gonna do go to all these places and like and then you know what happens I miss that day that I'm actually living the dream that I set for myself 20 years ago because I'm thinking of these other things and that's something that we have to be cognizant of and all of us can fall into it including myself and so I just want to say that because so many of you guys are stuck where you are because you're failing to make a decision about where to go next so you got to pick a path that you blame on social media knew I think default fucking Bo Jackson bro Bo Jackson because I did everything all the you know and like but the games change now when you have kids now that are like in nine years old and they're dedicating the rest of their life to one thing now yeah yeah well I mean look man everybody who's ever created big big lies big success and that's a relative term okay but like looking at guy like you I'm just he just became the world's first trillion there yeah all right can't even comprehend no one can okay but here's the thing he didn't start out saying I mean I want to go to fucking Mars and I want to fly spaceships and that's not what he did he started out he said here's a problem and I have a solution that doesn't exist in reality that I can build and it can be a solution it can make money that company was called PayPal all right and you can argue how he got into PayPal this that here's the reality he gets the credit for PayPal that's it okay everybody's like well he stole the idea or he didn't it doesn't fucking matter what matters is when people say how did Elon get started he created fucking PayPal then he took the PayPal money it was like two hundred million bucks Z look it up it was it was it was a lot of money but it wasn't a lot of money compared to what he is now yeah he rolled that into other shit so then he got here and then he said I want to go there all right and then when he got there you know he started to build Tesla and you know then he went to these other things and then and that's how it goes and that's how you end up in that life where you literally have the ultimate freedom and I know not everybody wants to win on that level what you got 178 million okay so pretty close 200 the the compounds okay and I know not everybody wants that big of a life you don't have to but you should want a bigger life than the one you actually think you want because everybody's heard that saying shoot for the moon and you'll land among the stars there's a lot of truth to that all right you may not actually get to that big goal but you might get 80% there so you need to make sure that goal is so big that if you only get to the 80% it's awesome all right so these are the the differences of how like the big winners think about things and how things actually materialize and a lot of people back to this person's question they spend their lives dreaming and dreaming and dreaming you know something I had to do that was different than like a lot of the younger people now you know we didn't have social media dude we had magazines so like I'd look at magazines and I'd be like dude look at this house and then I'd have to get my car and I'd have to like drive to the rich neighborhood and like look at it and like now we're just so inundated with all these things that it's almost like it becomes meaningless and it doesn't impress you the way that it would if you actually had to go seek it out so you have to correct this line of thinking and be able to make a decision about what you really want but dude to answer this person's question why do I think there's a big difference between what people want and how they get it I think there's a lot of reasons why I think those things I just said are a big reason why okay the dream is too available it's too easy to dream and by the way when you're bored that's the time that you create and so we're filling the creation time that we used to have like when I was bored I sit down and draw out these business plans and think about how I was gonna do things and I had time to plan out the play and and make calls and do these things to actively make this happen now that time is just filled with more fucking meaningless dreaming okay so I'm not saying you shouldn't dream but I'm saying you should make a decision about what the dream is and then fill that time that you waste looking at all the other dreams with a plan to create the one that you've chosen and so I think that's a big part of it I think the biggest part of it though is that there's a massive disparity between what people think it takes and what it actually takes and I think because the internet is so full of shit in regards to how many people pretend to win versus actually winning that people think it's easy and they think that like you know if they don't hit a home run their first time at bat that it wasn't meant for them right if you're not driving a Lamborghini by the time you're 25 then you don't have what it takes but you don't realize that even those people first of all most of those people are lying they're renting their car they're strategically marketing themselves in a way that makes them appear to be successful when they actually are and then they sell you something which makes them a little money we all know the game at this point what what happens is is that people think they're doing it wrong it's it's like early in the early days of fitness before the internet came around the biggest product that was sold was like lose weight quick lose weight fast lose weight easy and that didn't exist at that time that wasn't a real thing but you could make that promise and people would buy it and what it would happen is and this is actually the fundamental basis that our entire ecosystem and our fitness companies is based upon what would happen is people who struggle with their weight and if you've ever struggled with your weight you understand what I'm about to say they would look for this solution and then this hack and then that next solution and they would try three or four of these weight loss solutions or these programs or these pills or this powder and they would never lose weight and then what ends up happening is they would just give up and they would say well it's just in my genetics and they'd start telling themselves a story about why it wouldn't happen which actually caused them to lose all the rest of the potential for the rest of their lives of what they could live and how they could be and that's very damaging and ethically wrong and you know the whole fundamental basis and I think the I know the reason that we've been at the top of this game for decades now is because we actually do what we're supposed to do we help regular people get real results and that requires fucking work okay that requires effort that requires doing certain things and I think we've lost that in society as a whole I think it's coming back a little bit now because people are realizing how much bullshit it is but you know we have so many of these people that appear to come out of nowhere and all of a sudden they're rich and when you have young people who are and when I say young I mean young in an entrepreneurship they could be 30 they could be 40 they could be 50 they're just starting out when they see these people and they and they go out and they try these things and they don't work the same thing happens to them what happens is they say after three or four things are like well fuck I must not have what it takes it never occurs them that they're being marketed to and they're being lied to and they're being misled which actually causes them to give up on their dreams which is incredibly damaging to culture and society because that person's success would inspire so many more people in culture if they just understood the real path and that's why I've always been so adamant about telling people the way that it really is even though I probably could have made way more money making it seem like it was way easier right but dude I don't feel good about that that's not the truth the truth is it's hardest fuck it takes everything you got it's not a hobby it's not casual it's very intense it's very urgent and yes that is not for everyone so you should know what the fuck you're signing up for so there's that too but ultimately I think the reason that most people can't achieve their dreams throw all that shit to the side I think these are all contributing factors is because they don't understand that learning how to execute having discipline building grit having tenacity building resilience perseverance the ability to endure mental toughness these are skill sets that you must acquire and then maintain and keep sharp throughout your life okay I was just like most people for most of my life dude I looked at other people who had the ability to do things that were really hard for me and I thought that they were just born that way all right I remember a very specific instance Where I had to question this and it's gonna sound stupid when I tell you the story But I can remember exactly where I was dude. I had a buddy of mine his name was Ty. He actually has passed away now He's he he He something that was a bad deal, but he passed away We read a carnal's game at Bush Stadium and Ty was fucking always in really good shape, dude He was always in great shape and I always looked at Ty and I was like dude This guy's got the freaky as genetics ever. It's so easy for him. He just looks good all the time But yet Every time I went to the gym guess who was in the gym. Oh, Ty was in the gym So I knew that he worked out and knew that he worked hard, but I'd still told myself Oh, it's his genetics. It's his genetics But it like it wasn't registering to me fully right like these are just things that was telling myself Ignorantly thinking well, I was justifying my lack of dedication to that area of my life Because I felt like if I could tell myself that story it would make me feel better about myself All right, and that's what everybody does, but there was this one instance we read a St. Louis Cardinals baseball game and there was like ten of us there and Ty was there and I remember he was sitting right behind me. We had like we had like five seats and then five seats like behind okay and I'm we're all drinking beers and you know, I got a fucking nachos and all the shit right and I'm looking to the left it to the right and everybody's having fun I turn around and I look at Ty and Ty sitting there with a big huge cup of water with ice in it and Then in his nacho tray was just all turkey meat It was just all turkey meat and I'm like Why the fuck are you eating turkey meat, bro? Like at a baseball game and then it clicked in my head immediately. I'm like damn This is why Ty looks the way fucking Ty looks, okay? And then I read then my immediate thought was man that guy's man He's got some serious discipline. I don't have that so then I started telling myself another story and the next story I told myself was oh well he has discipline and I just don't have it He wasn't born with genetics. He was born with dude dude. It took me another 10 years after that another 10 years To figure out that this is a skill and that's something you're born with and so I think that simple acknowledgement from Looking at people who have their ship together physically financially in their life and saying Well, they just have this discipline that I don't have and if you could simply just shift that perspective to They've invested in a skill set that I haven't learned yet just as if you would look at Our friend Jamie Johnson who is a tremendous guitar player tremendous singer Well, he's been doing that since he was a teenager, right? Okay? So you could look at someone like that and you could say man, he's so gifted But that's really kind of an insult because he's been practicing that his whole entire life and now he's a fucking legend Okay, if you did something for 30 years you'd be pretty fucking good at it too and that's the reality that people don't understand They don't understand that it takes way longer than you think it costs way more than you think in terms of effort and life What you think is sacrifices, which are actually investments if you follow through but also Just acknowledging That the one skill that you actually lack That's keeping you from being able to go from that dream to reality outside of just choosing what you want Is you haven't learned how to adhere to a plan? Okay, which is called discipline all right and once you fix that one skill set the ability to draw to plan And adhere to it and stick to it Now you're in a position of power because most people can't do that most people lack the ability to stick to a plan long enough for the results to materialize and If chefs did this We'd have some shitty mother fucking food, okay? Just like cooking a meal and you go get a cookbook and it has a set of directions If you lack the ability to follow the directions, how's your food gonna turn out? Okay, now if you lack the ability to follow a set of directions over the course of your life How's your life gonna turn out? It's gonna turn out by circumstance And that's why so many people think that they are not in control of what they actually do when in reality They're in control of all of the shit that matters and we tell ourselves these stories over and over and over again About how we're not actually in control But the truth is you're just telling yourself that a because you may not have figured it out yet or b You don't want to actually address the problem and become the kind of person that can follow a plan So once you once you sort through all of this shit And you say and you acknowledge All right, man, I don't have the discipline. I don't have the grit. I don't have the mental toughness. I don't have the tenacity in the fortitude I don't have the ability to persevere past that first punch in the fucking face, okay? And the second and the third and the hundredth Once you acknowledge that you could start to become that kind of person And once you become the kind of person that cannot just follow through but can get literally everything ripped away from them You can lose your home. You can lose your arm. You could fucking get sick You bad things can happen the weather can be bad Hurrah can't can come Fucking a blizzard. It doesn't matter and you still continue to go You cannot be fucked with you your success becomes inevitable because you refuse to quit and you have the skill set of following through especially When you don't feel like it and especially when everybody else quits and when you do that over the course of time You end up being the person standing on the mountain when everybody else went back down That's how it works and there's no magic to it dude. It's not glory. It's not It's not romantic. It's not fun all the time But I'll tell you what is fun What is fun is when they could look back and you can say I saw all this shit in my head 20 years ago. Now I'm living it That's fun You know, so we got to be real about what it actually takes and you ask what keeps most people That's what keeps most people away from it dude They can't acknowledge or they're ignorant to the fact That it takes a skill set that you must develop and practice and keep sharp over the course of your life To make that dream happen once you've chosen it and this is why when people this is why we built live hard This is why 75 hard exists because it's the number one problem that keeps people from success Okay, it's not just about getting your body in shape It's about sharpening the skill set of discipline and you know people who criticize 75 hard they'll say things like well If it works you wouldn't have to do it twice Well, I mean, I don't know bro. Do you got to take a shower or fucking day? You gotta watch nuts Say it like it's a perishable skill set You know you guys the security company you gotta keep your shooting up. Oh, yeah You got to practice shooting every week if you don't shoot for four weeks your shooting goes down It's the same thing with musical instruments. It's the same thing with Training to run a race. It's the same thing and for some reason Society looks at these things and they think that they are traits instead of skill sets and if you can make the mental shift and understand That your discipline is the most important thing that you can develop and if you develop it then keep it sharp You are once you get that dude you're fucking you're you're not limited by anything You're not limited by anything because it doesn't matter what happens. You're gonna keep going so You know that's the game dude and like all these hacks and You know everybody likes the the story of oh man, you know I I built this funnel and I fucking made $10,000 today Cool, man. What about next week? What about in the next year? What do you have to sell later? Like the whole idea of entrepreneurship Has gotten so watered down and convoluted That people really don't even understand what the fuck it is or what it takes or how hard it is or how long it is and this is why Some of the most successful people in the world. You don't even know who the fuck they are Because they're they're understanding that they're building an actual mechanism an actual company with enterprise value Because that's how people get wealthy they they build enterprise value and they sell or borrow against it But instead they see social media as they're they're fucking business and it's like yeah that works today They what's your mechanism what's your machine? How's this how what are you feeding it into? Okay, and that's a whole another discussion but to answer the question man You got to make the shift you got to make a choice You got to use the time that you wouldn't think about what it is what else you want to do make a choice Take the rest of the time build the plan get yourself in a position where you can execute the plan and and be able to keep going longer than everybody else. And if you can do that, I would say it comes down to two things, man. It comes down to one, if you're intelligent enough to not make the same mistakes over and over again, you might make the same mistake twice, but definitely don't make it three times. And also you could develop the ability to not fucking quit no matter what fucking happens, bro. There's nothing that can stop you. It just, you can't be stopped. You can't be stopped. - Yeah, I love it, dude. I love it. Guys, any question up to Andy? I started a pressure washing company three years ago as a side hustle. I know you don't like the word side hustle. But now it's doing way more business than I ever expected, which sounds like a good problem to have. But honestly, I feel like I'm making it up as I go. I'm hiring people. I've never managed before, signing contracts. I've never dealt with before, and making decisions that affect other people's livelihoods. Did you ever have a period where your business was growing faster than your confidence? This is how it works, dude. Have you not seen the meme where it shows the entrepreneur standing on the cliff and he jumps off the cliff and figures out how to build the glider on the way down? Like this is the problem that most people think. Most people think it's a choir knowledge, a choir knowledge, a choir knowledge, a choir knowledge, then go. Okay, but tell me a single job that you've ever had or ever known about where you don't learn how to do the job on the fucking job. Okay, like you can read the manual, you can watch the videos, you can take the training course, but until you get in the fucking game, you don't know what the fuck you're doing. Okay, so I give you massive amounts of respect because you figured out what being an entrepreneur is about, which is about going before you're ready. Okay, most people will sit down and they will consume podcasts and they will consume courses and they will read all this shit and they will think about it and then they'll constantly say, well, I'm not ready, I'm not ready, I'm not ready. And then all of a sudden, 20 years have gone by and they're an on paper expert with fucking $0 in the bank counting up the show for it. Okay, if you're such a fucking expert and you know so much shit then why the fuck haven't you done anything? That's the truth, okay, you have to go first and then figure it out. Do you think I knew what I was doing when I fucking hired my first employee or when I fired my first employee or when I signed my first lease or when I fucking didn't know shit. Bro, the first time a dude came in to fucking buy a product back in fucking 1999, the first real customer, not the one I knew. - And that's a friend of yours, okay? - The dude comes in, I remember it, dude. The thought never occurred to me. And I guess, you know, like the thing now is retard maxing, right? - Right, that's right. - Like it's, and what do you mean? People think it's funny, but what they don't understand, it's actually a super fucking true concept, okay? Stop thinking about shit and just go fucking do it, okay? I remember this example, dude. This dude comes in and I've told this story before, he comes in, he looks around and he's looking at the products and he goes over to this, I remember the product exactly, it's a product from a company called MuscleTech and it was a product called CellTech. The only reason that I knew that to order the product in the first place is 'cause I went to another store and I saw that they had it. So I'm like, all right, well, we probably gotta have that too. That's how much shit I didn't know, okay? Do you know how I came up with the first inventory list of our first order? You wanna know? I don't know this story. You know this story, Z? You never heard this. I've never heard this story, no. About the camera? So dude, so I went in to fucking, there was a fucking, this is so kind of fucked up, but I'm gonna tell the story. So I went in, now back in the day, we had those little yellow code act cameras that were like disposable. Oh yeah, okay, and you wound 'em up, you clicked, you wound 'em up, you clicked. So listen, this would make the point, this makes the point of what I'm trying to make. I didn't even know what fucking product store did. So I went into this fucking supplement store that was in the gym I worked out in, and they had a fucking, like a laminated price list, okay, so they had all the products, and then there was a ring that connected like three pages. I took the price list, I took my camera, and I took pictures of it, okay? 'Cause I couldn't take it home, there was no cell phone shit. So I like, sneakily fucking grabbed the shit, took pictures of it, took the thing to fucking Walmart, got the fucking list developed, and then those are the products I ordered. That's how I started, that's how I knew what to order, okay? That's incredible. So listen, so this guy comes into the store, and he's looking at this product called CellTech, and I'm like, he fucking, and bro, this didn't even occur to me. Like I had me, you wanna talk about retard maxing bro? I was the biggest fucking retard, Maxer. They're fucking never was, I was the OG of it. - You maxed out. - All I knew was that I'm doing it. - Yeah. - That's it dude. And that's all you gotta know by the way. So this guy comes in, and it never occurred to me that like I should probably like know all these products, okay? Dude, seriously man, it never even occurred to me. So this guy comes in, he fucking looks at the product, and I remember it was over on the right side of the store, and I was behind the counter, and he had to go around the left to get out. And the guy walks in, and he's like, he picks up the cell tech, and he's looking, he's like, what's this do? And I'm like, and it dawned on me, I'm like, oh fuck. Like I don't fucking know. So I like non-shallotly, like walked around the counter, and like I acted like I was gonna just come out there and talk to him, and I picked it up, I turned it around, and I said, well it says here, and I just started reading the shit that it's set on the fucking label dude, and one of the things that's set on the label, because it had creatine in it, it said, gained seven pounds in seven days, and I said dude, seven pounds in seven days, sounds pretty good to me. Like, at that, like yes dude, that's where I started, and he bought it, that's beautiful, okay? But like the point I'm making here, is that the difference between people who do shit, and people who don't, is people that have the courage to just go, or the ignorance to go, without having to know everything, okay? And dude, you know, so when you say, oh, you know, like, first time I hired, I didn't know what, no shit. Like you're not gonna know anything in the first time you do it. And by the way, that's how you learn, okay? You're gonna hire the wrong person, they're gonna fuck you over, you're gonna recognize why, and then the next time that same kind of person comes around, you're gonna be able to be like, oh, I remember what happened last time, and you're not gonna do that. When you sign a contract and you don't read the whole thing, and then all of a sudden it creates a big fiasco, then the next time, which by the way, all this shit's happened to me, the next time it's gonna come through, you're like, well I fucking better read the contract, and then you're gonna see that little part that you're gonna fuck you over, and you're gonna be like, no, not doing that, okay? And then it's all these little lessons compounded over and over and over and over again to give you the skill set. And this is why people have it wrong. They're so afraid to make mistakes, not realizing that the mistakes of what create the wisdom that 10, 15 years down the road allow you to become a super effective operator and business owner. All right, so, yes, I've been there. Yes, I understand what that is. And yes, every single person that's ever built anything significant did not know what the fuck they were doing when they started, dude. They just had balls and they had courage. And they said, fucking, I'm doing this, and they went and figured it out. And they didn't give a shit if people made fun of them, they didn't give a shit that they look stupid or they stumbled or they made mistakes, they didn't care because they had made a decision about what they were gonna do, and they said they figured it the fuck out. And right now we deal in this era where there's so much fucking information and so many different opinions, which by the way, 99% of the opinions are from people who have never done anything. All right, this is why I'm so hard on these guru people on the internet. You should not listen to fucking anybody who hasn't built something real that you can see. If you can't see it, you shouldn't listen to them because it's marketing bullshit. A lot of these people will say, oh, I built this and this and this and this and this, but you never see it. How come, what benefit do they get from hiding what they built from you? If they were trying to sell coaching and trying to help people and show people, wouldn't it make sense for them to show all the shit that they built and like make it open to the public to see? How could that hurt them? It could only hurt them if it wasn't true. And we have to become more intelligent about who we're listening to when it comes to these opinions about success. You know, Ed Milett and I, who have both built multiple fucking companies, big ones, we have this group called Arate Syndicate where we coach other entrepreneurs. I did my call two nights ago and one of the questions that was in the call was, this woman who's been in the group for a long time. She said, "Well, I'm listening to this person and they're saying do this and then this person and they're saying to do this." And she's like, "I don't know who to listen to. I'm like, 'cause you're listening to many fucking people, bro." Okay, when you get on an NFL team, you listen to your fucking coach. You don't call the coaches and the other team, it's like, "Oh, what the fuck do I do?" They're all gonna tell you some other shit. Okay, you have to make a decision about who's information you're gonna listen to. And by the way, there's probably fucking five people on the internet that are actually real entrepreneurs who have proven time and time and time and time again that they understand how to fucking win. Pick one of them and fucking listen to what they say. And everybody else, don't listen to it. 'Cause it's just gonna get you frozen with the paradox of choice. The paradox of choice is basically, when you present someone with too much information, they choose nothing. Okay, like if too many options, they pick it up. If I have product A, B, C, D, E, F, G, and I show them all to someone, people can't choose. But if I have A and B, they can make a real choice. So think about that in terms of your information that you're consuming. You have person one, person two, person three, person four, all the way to person 50. And you're trying to figure out who's telling what? Bro, pick the most credible motherfucker, listen to what they say, and your chances of a positive outcome go up exponentially and you won't get frozen by the overwhelming amount of choices that you have. So to answer the question, dude, yeah, that's how entrepreneurship works. You figure it out as you go. That's how it works. Did you learn, what did you do after the Celtic situation? Fuckin' learned, I figured out, like, oh, I better learn this shit. So I, I mean, dude, we only saw one customer a day if we were lucky back there. So I spent the rest of my time literally going around and reading all the labels and reading the, listen, man, you gotta understand, the internet wasn't a thing. There was no like, I couldn't go on the internet and like find out shit. It wasn't like that. It was like email. Like there was email, but like, there was chat forms, but like, you don't know who the fuck you're talking to. So I went around and I fucking, I started reading all the shit. And then the shit that I didn't know, I would go get books. I buy books on the topic and read about that part of it that I didn't know. And I accumulated all the knowledge, you know, and over the course of 10 years of doing that, I became a very knowledgeable person about these things. You know, I surrounded myself. Like dude, I get on the phone with people. I would call people who were PhDs in these things. And I would ask for an hour of their time and I would have a discussion and they, you know, and back then people would just tell you. - Yeah, it was way more accessible ironically. Way more people were way more. - Well now everybody's, you know, they wanna, they wanna fucking posture and they wanna charge and, you know, but like bro, you gotta remember, like, these guys who were running these studies and shit back then, no one gave a fuck about them. These are just dudes sitting in their office, running fucking studies on, you know, muscle protein synthesis and, you know, fat loss and like all these different things. So like I'd figure out where the fuck they were and I'd call them on the phone. - They were probably excited. - Yeah, I thought from about that. - Yes, yes. And so I just did what I had to do to talk to credible people to increase what I knew. And then, you know, after a number of years, you know, the next day, the next day I knew more. Next six months I knew more. The next three years I knew a lot more. And after 10 years I fucking knew what the fuck I needed to know. But you went. Yeah. - I love it dude. - I love it guys. Andy, our third and final question, Andy. Question number three. Andy, I'm 31. And I recently went through a rough stretch. Work was stressful, money was tight and there were some family stuff going on all at the same time. What bothered me wasn't the situation. It was how I handled it. I got short with people. I stopped taking care of myself and basically abandoned every habit I'd built. It made me realize that when life gets hard, I become a completely different person. So how do you build the kind of character that doesn't disappear the second things get difficult? Well, you got to invest in building yourself into that kind of person. That's what we talk about with LiveHard, okay? If you can only operate when everything is good, I hate to bring you to you, but you're not gonna be able to operate most of the time as an entrepreneur. Because most of the time as an entrepreneur, shit's burning the fuck down. Even when everybody's smiling and they're pretending it's good, there's so much bad shit happening that you're trying to solve. You're not gonna be able to be effective. So you have to understand and you already do, you've already learned the lesson. Understand this. By you asking the question, you already have figured out the answer. Most people would not have the awareness to understand that I need to fix how I reacted in this scenario. So the next time, I don't react that way. That's a pretty high level of awareness that most people do not have. So having that level of awareness is a very good sign that you have what it takes to be successful long term. You had a problem, you had a situation, which by the way, every entrepreneur goes through this. Like they have life too, man. Like people get sick, their dogs get sick. They get in car accidents, bad shit happens. The economy changes, you know, fuck dude. I couldn't, you could go on and on and on and on. The secret to being a great operator is that you have to be able to operate effectively at a high level when shit is not going well. And so if you're someone who can only operate when things are going well, you're gonna get killed by everybody else that can operate no matter what. So, and by the way, there's very few people like that. But it can be built, it can be trained, it can be acquired by intentionally building yourself to be a disciplined, high functioning, high executing, diligent human being when things are hard. This is the live hard lifestyle, bro. This is what it's about, okay? People are like, well, can't they just do two workouts outside or inside 'cause it's raining? Mother fucker, when do you think it's gonna be perfect outside? You only gonna go out and work out when it's fucking perfect? You're supposed to do things when it's inconvenient. The more times you do things when it's inconvenient, the better it makes you doing it when it's convenient. And it gives you an advantage because everybody else is staying inside when the fucking weather's bad too, right? So every day, and let's just break this into business, every time life happens to a mediocre or bad entrepreneur, what happened to you happens to them, and they fucking give up. They quit, they go down the rails, they fucking quit all their good habits, they lose all their momentum. A great entrepreneur, someone who consistently wins over and over and over again, they do the opposite. They see these opportunities of hardship as times to get ahead, understanding that everybody else is quitting when these times come. So they actually get excited when these things start to punch them, when these bad things start to happen. They say, "Fuck that, bring that shit to the fuck on, bro, you ain't breaking me." And that's the mentality difference. That mentality comes from you pushing through these things over and over and over again to the point where you trust yourself, that it doesn't really matter what's coming your way. Now are there exceptions that are gonna derail you in your life? Yeah, man, you're gonna go through some really fucking hard shit. - That's just why you're 31, right? - But what better reason to train yourself to handle that shit now? So then when it does come and there is a lot on the line, you can keep your shit together when you know everybody else is quitting. Every single successful that I consider successful entrepreneur operates at a high level, no matter what's happening around them. Okay? If they get derailed, if they get bad press, if fucking something happens, a natural disaster, it doesn't matter. Their shit still gets done at a high level and oftentimes at a higher level, when things are challenging because they understand that this is a test, that they have to pass in order to keep the space between everybody else. You're not the only motherfucker that bad shit's gonna happen to you. It's gonna happen to all your competitors. It's gonna happen to everybody that you know, you're in business against and you wanna be the person that when that shit happens, you can push right through it and knowing that every single time they don't, you're gaining more market share, you're gaining more momentum, you're gaining more ground. That's the game. That's how people start out at zero with let's say a hundred other competitors and then at year five, these people have gone through hard times and there might be 50 left. At year 10, there's more hard times and then there might be 10 left and at year 20, there's two left and you're fucking winning and everybody else is out of the game and that's how it works, dude. So training yourself to be one of these people who could push through these difficult times is not a nice thing to have. It's a requirement of long-term. success and all you have to do is realize that most of the things that affect your outcomes are always in your control. Okay? Yeah, people are going to fuck you over. Yeah, bad things are going to happen. Yeah, you're going to have a bad idea. Yeah, the market's going to shift. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but at the end of the day you can control what you drink, what you eat, the information you put in your mind, who you associate with. All of these how you move your body, these are the things that create the most effective weapon, which is you, you're the fucking weapon that allow you to push through. So even when there's total chaos in your life, if you can still stay in control of the things that are in your control, you will keep the momentum moving forward while everybody else falls off. Most people will never understand this. Most people will go through a time like this person just said, and they will say, well, fuck, you know what? I got divorced my fucking house burnt down. The economy shifted and they'll just fucking quit. They just quit out of my control. Okay? Yeah, they'll just quit, dude. And like that's not how it works. Those are the times that it's most important to get dial the fucking and make sure that you keep whatever the fuck you can and keep moving forward. And that's the difference between people who win and people who lose. That's the difference between average and great. That's the difference between, you know, looking at the menu, your whole entire fucking life and worrying about what the fuck you can order and paying for your entire company and not giving a fuck what it costs. Like, that's the difference. Can you push through the hard shit? Can you push through the hard shit that is so fucking hard that you know that every single mother fucker besides you is quitting. If you become that person, you are literally fucking unstoppable, unstoppable. So like that's the game, dude. How can you become that person? Well, you become that person by living a disciplined lifestyle and every single time that one of these tests come your way. You don't look at it as a tragedy. You don't look at it as it might be. It might be, but you got to close that gap between that sulking and that why me and God hates me and all this shit that we all think when things get hard. You got to close that gap and say, fuck it. It is what it is and I got to move forward from here. And if you can close that gap and keep going, you're going to win. Most people can't close the gap ever. Most people would have got stabbed in the face at 23 years old like I did and then told a story their whole fucking life about how they got stabbed in the face. It would be the most significant thing that ever happened to them and their complete story excuse for why the fuck they're sitting on a bar stool at three o'clock in the afternoon on a fucking Tuesday not doing shit with their life. That would be their entire identity. Oh man, you know, I got stabbed in the fucking fit and like broke like I did that for a year by the way. Like I made it was a year. Yeah, it took me a year. But now now I understand how to fucking minimize that gap. And you know, some people will say and I've been told this, they'll say, well, you lack empathy. No, it's not that I lack empathy. It's not that I don't understand. It's that I understand that if I sit in that spot, it's going to ruin everything. So I have to fucking accept it and move forward immediately. Things that are out of your control are fucking out of your control. You can sit there and you can cry and you can wine and you can go to therapy and you can talk about healing and all this fucking bullshit. But at the end of the day, bro, eventually you got to move past it. And that's why I have this big problem with the fucking therapy industry. They want people to sit in this fucking shit for years and years and years and years and years and years and convinced people that they're fucked up because of something that happened to them and it keeps them from moving past it. Yeah, like bro, you can't move past something that you constantly revisit over and over and over and over and over again and build your identity around. You can't become a non-victim. If your whole identity is there's something wrong with me or something bad happened to me. Something bad happens to fucking everyone. The point is how do I overcome that and how do I win in spite of that so that other people who have gone through similar things can be inspired to get past that. It's always the people too that the shit really isn't that bad. Okay. When you see people, one of my favorite examples is a race car driver. I mentioned here on the show before Alex and Arty. He recently passed away. He was in a fucking wreck where he lost both his legs in a race. Okay. He was one of the best fucking race car drivers in the world. This guy went on to become a champion wheelchair racer. Okay. Then he got back into in the racing cars again and he won more fucking trophies at racing cars with no legs. The people who face the hardest hardships, they don't have a choice but to accept it. There's no therapy to regrow your mother fucking legs yet. So it is what the fuck it is. Okay. Like you don't have legs now. Now what? If you could close that gap and dude, you know, this is like a real thing. The people with real shit that happens to them. They don't have a choice but to accept it. The people who have false victim bullshit. They can wallow in it because it's not something that they have to fucking accept. Right. So they get to they get to like tell a story and create identity and like fucking, you know, poor me, poor me, poor me. Not realizing that they're going to waste their whole life. Stuck in that cage they created. A person who gets in a car rack and loses both their legs. They know that their legs ain't coming back. Like they're not coming back, bro. Okay. So what the fuck are we going to do? Right. So the harder the situation. The bigger punch. The more likely people accept it and move on because there's no other option. You see what I'm saying? So we got a big problem with this victim mentality in the world. Like it's not like I'm minimizing the bad shit that's happened to you. But if you're being real about it, dude, there's been people that have had a million fucking times. Worse shit happened to them who have gone on to do exactly what it is you want to do and more because they accepted the reality of their situation very quickly and went forward anyway. And those are the stories that matter. No one fucking wants to hear your wine and bro. No one wants to hear your fucking sad story. There's so many fucking bullshit sad stories. No, yeah, you might get some claps and you might get some likes and you might get some attention on the internet. But at the end of the day, that's that's the bullshit that hurts other people because they see someone who might have went through a similar situation that they went through and they see this person while we're in it and creating this victim identity and building this, you know, I'm a victim. And this is why I can't do this and then they think that's how they should behave when in reality what would serve them better is if you were to do something like this. Hey, all this bad shit happened to me, but guess what? I still went on to do this and this and this and this and this. That's inspiring. Those are the important stories. So which one of those stories are you going to fucking tell about yourself? Because one is very selfish and the other one helps a lot of motherfuckers. I love it, dude. I fucking love it, man. Guys, Andy, that was three. Alright. Well, we'll see you tomorrow. Yeah, buddy. Don't be a hoe. Share this show. [BLANK_AUDIO]