פרק #93 - על האופטימיות

In this podcast I'm going to talk about a lot of optimism, because in the end a good idea has to be an optimistic idea. Because those who are not optimistic don't think about the future, because there will be both tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. And most of those who are not optimistic, those who are positive, they feel the positive feeling of them. And those who are optimistic, they give them a chance to the future. Not always when we build the future, then the future will be on our side. But if we don't build the future of us, then in the end it will not be built. This is at least the feeling that on the front page of this podcast I posted here. The feeling of my life is the same. But there are those who know how to explain things in a slightly more... slightly more humorous and slightly more charming than me. I remember one of the films that I did on the last day of my life. On how much I care about Israeli economy. And it was really in the darkest hour, you know. We were all here in a very different mood to Gamre. Now we feel a little bit at the end of the war. There is a bit of an optimistic and optimistic atmosphere in the air. Those who have stayed at the same time in Tel Aviv for a few years have decided to give up. But that's really a problem for you. Or a question, I don't know, your personality. Today, in this episode, we will talk about optimism. We will go from side to side for a moment. And the impact of this in the investments. We will try to make a difference. We will try to make a difference and build a new one, to understand. If it is possible to improve ourselves, to be like this. If we are not like this. And I think there are not many, many people who might be optimistic. Like Judith Katz, the host of the podcast. And she writes the book. We will talk about the book. Hello. Hi, what's up? How fun it would be to be here. Yes, in the special ULPAN that I talked about in the previous podcast. That I went back to ULPAN after the Iranian Revolution. A story that did not happen to every podcaster. It happened to everyone. So, it happened in the first ULPAN. What if it wasn't optimistic that you took a break and turned it into a new one? I have to say. In Diabad, when I did that, I had a feeling that I was sitting here, I really thought that Kabilan wouldn't come. And when Kabilan came, it wasn't right. And to make that difference. And it's hard to say in Diabad. Of course, it's... I thought it was good, so it was good. But I sat here and I really thought about the values and values that are being presented here. It was very, very difficult for me. But, on the other hand, in the ULPAN, we were here, and ULPAN looked okay, and you were here, and everything went well. It looked good, and it was fun to be here. Yes, thank you. You're welcome. For those of you who didn't attend the podcast, think well. It's very, very, very, very complicated. My wife is dead. Did I tell you not to? It can be. What can you say about that? I don't remember many things. Yes, it's really... I think the optimists can help with a lot of things that you say, and express them, and encourage them to do so. And people who maybe try to be... There are many, many things there, and the whole concept... How did the podcast... Can you give me an intro about the podcast? Where did it come from? The podcast. I think it helped people to live better. Every time I meet a different person, from the world of science, and the people I met, I really felt like it was going to change. And you were there, too, during the period we spent together, on money, on financial relief, and on meetings, all the time, on money. So in every part of the podcast, money, experiences, decisions, optimism, two breaks, eight years, even more than nine years. Wow, that's great. Yes, yes. This period was born, really, in the midst of a period that... A Jewish person appeared on her podcast, that invited me, and when I said, "Okay, I'll come, I'll have fun, and I'll do what you want." And I was a little surprised by how much I had to talk about it. I felt a little bit that the microphone was turned off, that there was a lot more to talk about it. So I said, "Let's continue here." Let's continue here. Let's continue, let's continue. It also seemed to me that there would be a sequel. It's been a long time. Yes. Always on the podcast, that talks about better life, it always feels like... so-and-so. If it's so-and-so to do that, why not all of us do it? They tell me that here, in the context of money. If it's so-and-so, why not all of us do it? Now, at least it seemed to me that if there was this level of... that a simple person makes for an optimistic person, I think it was in the middle of it. It's possible to do it, is it possible for a person to be optimistic? Yes and no. That is to say, we have some values that we are proud of. So it's not that if you take the most optimistic person, and send him, and trust him, he will be the most optimistic person. In order for us to be optimistic, and not just on the table, that we can enter everywhere, we ask, "What is the difference between the values of the table between us?" In order for you to be optimistic on the table, and I am optimistic on the table. What does it mean? And in order to understand this, we make very big researches, in terms of scientific researches, that are really possible to interpret differently, and to say, "Okay, we have the same genetics, because we have the same values." But we were together, we weren't together. We were biologists, scientists, scientists, and they follow this whole data. So for example, the most famous researcher, Sonia Lubomirski, saw that 50% of the differences in the table between us are from our genetics. That means that we don't have 50% of the difference. But it is not a certain point. It is not that if there is a scale of the table from 0 to 10, then you are very optimistic, and you have some kind of range, that you are really looking for in every other field, like you are looking for a scale of yours. You have some kind of range that you are able to get, that you are not able to be really, really, really positive, and also not really positive to that. So there are 50% of them that are given, and we are here for that. And then the most optimistic thing between me and my brother, is that 10% of the differences are from the living reasons. That is actually only 10% of the differences from the living reasons. Who knows where you grew up, in some country, how much money you had to pay, and all kinds of negative reasons that were in your life, and so on. And then the part that we are going to discuss today, is the 40% of the differences that we are reading in the psychological literature, that it is actually the differences between the important part of me, my optimism, to get into something here that is also a difference that is given, that is given to him. How many people do I bring? Give me a moment, a quick response. All of this, the part that comes to me, I have 30% of my life, it is 40% that I have 100% of them. So there we are actually starting, where I can rely on my life, and I think that already in this, there is an optimistic feeling, which means, yes, I do not ask for anything, I do not care at all, I know that in the end, there is the part that is in my hands, and there I want to do the job, there I want to do the best that I can. Yes, and I am sure that if you agree, then there is a difference between the previous story, it is difficult to get into such a thing as an excel tablet, but if I am optimistic of 6, and if I am optimistic of 7, then I mean that there is some positive effects on life. For sure. Even if I am at one point, what are the feelings that can open up? Like you said, it started with the fact that in the first place, you have to be a person, or something like that. If we are specifically in optimism, then first of all optimism is an important form of thinking, so we start, and if you want to do it, it's a double click, but we start from understanding what my thinking is, what is the other part of me, the automatics of me. Now optimism or pessimism, it is not something that a person comes here in the morning and says, "I chose it today," it is here, now there are feelings of years, what is the first thought that I had in mind, when I get to know, when you are starting to know, I wanted to tell you three points. What is the first thing that comes to mind? I wanted to tell you that I really enjoy your podcast, I wanted to tell you that I really like it from the very beginning, yes, I have some automatics that I like, so to start doing it, what happens there? Most of the time, this thing is gone, the person is not here in the morning, he says to himself, "I thought about the past, "I thought about the future, "I thought about the future, "I thought about the future, "I thought about the future, "the thoughts of him are the most right thing "that comes to mind." Yes. Every hour, we see each other again, right? This is my first impression. Yes. Not from the experience, but it's just, they are both, yes, in terms of the thing, I live my life. So starting from seeing it, and then continuing to experience it in an active way, then it can be to really start my thoughts in a cognitive and emotional way, they call it self-indulgence, that you really start to get behind yourself, in a way, in an interest in your life. Like a journal, as I am now writing myself. Or a journal, but yes, in terms of the contents, not in terms of the free writing, but in terms of, let's say, I don't know what I'm doing now, what's wrong with me, I'm upset, okay, and I ask myself, "What happened?" In the most objective way, "What happened?" Someone said to me, "I think I talked more about my state, about optimism." Okay, that's the point. Now, what's the first thought that you asked me in my head? People are trying to get me, or whatever I do, they'll get me, or, okay, it's one thing, right, I have some kind of a feeling that you asked there, that I didn't choose, it's automatic, it's just what it was, but it's not about being in a group, not on the one hand, because it's about how I feel, I feel the image, or the emotion, or the self-indulgence, or the sacrament, right, and it's about my anxiety, that in the end, it's about time. Right? What am I going to do? If I'm going to do it again, if I'm going to get me back, and say, "I'm not good at what I'm doing, so I'm going to stop." If I ask for help, right, it's about my life, and that actually brings us to the part of how optimism actually makes life better, because it's not just, "Okay, I thought it was good, so it went well." If I thought it was good, then I did a lot of things in the world that led to things to happen, and that's why it turned out well. And we see a lot in the research, this connection between optimism and success, in most of the workshops, of course, I'm sure you saw it in the beginning, there are a few more, and that's not the case, but optimism makes for success. Okay? That's not bad, but -- Possibility of the -- Possibility of the need for help. Okay. If you want to open it up, it's interesting. It's interesting, but not here. But it's not -- it's interesting, but it's not difficult, so we can do the, the series. But there is a lot of optimism between success. Now, a lot of times, a lot of years, think that it's bad, because I'm successful, I'm more optimistic, from the beginning, from the beginning, from the beginning, from the beginning, there's a lot of optimism, that's what people say. And then, what you see is that the correlation towards optimism raised the issue of success. That's -- I'm on Instagram, and there's a lot of talk about haters -- Like all of us. Yes, but there's -- those who are now opening a profile on Instagram, and start telling their stories, and stuff like that, they need to understand that there's what's called haters. Who are those haters, that people who are successful are looking for help, they're saying, "Okay, he's here in the morning, and he's here to talk, I don't know, to write people comments." And the question is, they're one group, because they're really -- they're people who have a lot of cowardice, cowardice, sometimes, sarcasm, and that, but that's in the end, a lot of cowardice. But, apart from that, apart -- from that cowardice, there are also scenes, where I, like, look more at the scenes of the movies, and also of Shukahon, of Pachad, first of all, Sinat Zikun, Hamdanout, which is very, very close, I really liked it, of course, these are things that people think are wonderful, and they say, "Yofi, you're amazing, you first mentioned the genetics, I think we were born with a super-optimistic genetics, and that's Yofi. I don't have 50% of that. In the morning, I'm afraid, I'm nervous, and I don't know, and I'm nervous, every time they tell me that there's an accident, or that there's an issue that leads me to a lot of trouble. That's my day-to-day life. Before I ask, how do we get rid of that, because that's a short question, what you asked before, how do we develop it, beyond the genetics, the genetics, there's nothing special about it. Yes. How do you develop your awareness, or Pachad, or -- All these scenes, yes. Do you need to get rid of them, and talk about it? Yes. So, but -- I think one of them, we can talk about it, but there's -- in the end, we're talking about it, when you asked me, that money means everything, right? And we can talk about development, we can talk about not opening up the bank, because we can open up to talk about maintaining the money that I have, and in the end, there will always be something below that. Below that, yes. And around money, we have many different things, for example, you know, you make a lot of money, but I'm less in this world, and I see much more, Pachad, even, opening up the bank, just opening up, to see what happens there, it's something that scares a lot of people, because if I open up it, then I need to open up with -- with what I get. So, if I didn't open up, I didn't know, there's nothing to open up with. So, we have a lot of faith, and it's a lot of faith to talk about money, also in classes, like, yes, I don't like to ask for money, but it can be even, let's say, a friend of mine, who is afraid to talk about money with her friend, because it's always something else, about what is the relationship between us, about what is happening now, and if I open up more, or if you open up more, and what do you think, if I tell you that I open up more, even though you open up more, there are many, there are many things that make them, in fact, they're not a story about money, they're a story about my fear of feeling nervous, about my desire to be more, right? Of course, the most classical, things and women, stereotypical, evolutionary, women go through money, it's a central point of view, men go through things, it's a central point of view to status. It doesn't mean that it's true for all women, or for all women, and so on, but when we look at evolutionary research, or our hormones, we look at them, we look at something a little different. Now, these small hormones, yes, testosterone, that are more common in women, and more common in women. And I, as a producer, I want to work on my body, and I want more and more security, we can continue to different directions, even now, we can't talk about what, what is below, about this thing, so we, this thing is going, it's going to grow. So, a little, yes, we know it's here, with your question, but in the end, the fear behind me, to do it in cash, by the way, again, there will be some excitement, really, like we talked about, my optimism, there will be excitement of taking vaccines, or doing more, so from behind, there will be, there will be trust. I'm not talking about it, I'm not worried about it, I'm not worried about it, I can also be, I'm not open to myself, yes, there is also, yes, there is a fear, and then we see that it's big, that I'm not there, so I don't see myself, as a person who, can do it. And then, we read the book, "The money for vaccines, for 55," and they say, "I had to read it, for 25," yes, but I, but I, But in the end, what's left of us, in the end, what's left of us, but what really, I regret for a while, is that it's impossible to, to return to the past, to the future, and the faith today, it's really like that, it's not a cliché, that's not to be chosen, it's to be chosen, in the end. Right. And that's what I, I'm referring to, to everyone who, who is willing, but in the end, I'm not even someone, someone who takes on the, the, this message, really like there's someone, who wants it, I don't know, I decided, I'm now, I'm going to the police, I'm not going to the, I'm going to the police, I'm going to the police, I'm really seeing, many people, who, they're doing the change, they're like, "I've been through a lot," and in the end, they don't have to, so much, to continue. There's something, that he, I don't know, takes on, or something, that helps people, to continue, if, if they really want to, to make this change, that to go, under the threat, again, I'm saying, I'm saying, to the police, under the threat, that, to control, we're talking about, at the moment, but it's to do, the money, in the end, it's, it's, it's a hologram, that actually, creates, all kinds of things in life. Who, who's the one, who's the one, who's the one, who makes his life, in an optimal way, is more likely to, really, to, to, to, who, who, not, besides the "Orchidin," you say, I'm, maybe I'll talk about it in the end. We'll talk about it in the end, I'll ask this question in the end. I've decided to make this change. There is some, that, besides, to do everything in the best way, and, if something is bothering her, it's not because she wants to get involved, it's because she wants to meet me, there is some, that, that, it's something that I can, kind of, always do. Yes, I have, now, some eight open streets, in Macbill, and I'm trying to open a code, um, a code, when you talked to me, why are we, these? And, I think, you should think about this place, because, many times, when people hear this conversation, it's optimal, it's an opportunity, that, it's not okay, that I'm not like that. And, we all, we all, we all have a way, to change, like, all the stories that, "Los Avergens," "Sinata Epsed," comes from this place, that we are, the best, to think about my way, to talk about my way, to worry about my way, to think that, Namer, I'm going to eat a lot, and eat a lot, and I'm going to be like this, "Oh, this is a good day." The sun is shining, the clouds are shining, it's the highlight of my story. I'm hungry for food. What's that? I'm hungry for food. I'm hungry, and hungry, and all, all the things. So, from a spiritual point of view, it's good for me, that I, that I'm like that, right? Now, this thing, we meet today, and we meet later, but I'm still, with the same desire, that they eat a lot, a lot, a lot more, from my stomach, from my energy, from my feelings, it's just the opposite of the opposite. Right? Yes. 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