Pretty Little Episode #99

this is a head gum podcast pretty little episode welcome to the handsome pod this is a very pretty very little tiny sweet little cutie little episode with me may martin and me tiny little tig notaro hey bud how are you may i'm well thank you tay uh good to hear it yeah i'm pretty well yeah i didn't it slept weird and then uh how weird pretty upside down oh my gosh yeah i dreamed that i was cast in something with katherine o'hara and macaulay culkin and the whole night was like take after take weren't they in home alone yeah oh interesting so maybe my subconscious was like yeah maybe you are gonna be in home alone seven or whatever's next on the list playing a little boy like the way remember when martin short played a little boy and something i like when you have an adult playing a kid and you don't you don't refer to it but don't you like when martin short just plays anything yes on the planet yes oh god he's good how are you you're still in colorado i'm in colorado it's pretty cute how um social our sons are you go to the park i mean well you go to the park and boom they have best friends they're playing baseball um it's it's also funny to be in like small mountain towns and yesterday when they were playing baseball some kid their age shows up on a little dirt bike motorcycle and is just riding through the basement and they're like oh my god i'm so and ramping off the baseball the the pitcher's mound and it's and nobody even really flinched all like the local kids everybody just continued playing and there's such little um you know i think it's that thing of like everybody's so active you know probably not every mountain town but people are so active that they just show up on their bike or walk up and they join a game of and they don't have a a catcher like a mitt or a glove to play with so they just use their hat oh that's all and they're all just like no problem catching the ball with their hat and throwing and and then the motorcycle comes through the diamond a child on a motorcycle this is like a steven spielberg movie like real kids truly i was just like how incredible to have this kind of summer and then um these two older kids and they're all just like oh my god they're all just like kids showed up with their shirts kind of pulled up holding some stuff in their shirts and they walked out on the field and i was like what is going on here yeah this would never happen in los angeles no absolutely not so these kids have water balloons and they just start throwing water balloons at everyone and our son finn went up to the kid and he goes what if i if i bought you a bunch of more water balloons would you leave and the kid was like yeah and so that's genius paid him to get more water balloons but to take his party elsewhere so we that's really smart bartering like yeah yeah yeah you're not gonna get what you want for nothing but if you have someone to offer whoa that's hilarious yeah anyway it was just such a fun day that you you just don't even expect yeah um to have a 10 year old drive on to the ramp over the pitcher's mound and still do zigzags and the locals just don't even flinch that's pretty hardcore yeah i mean how much would you want to be involved in that when you were 10 oh my god i'd be yeah i'd feel like i was in a movie i'd be i'd be electrified by the kid on the motorcycle i'd want to be on the back of that bike yeah i was electrified just sitting there i was like oh my god stephanie said this is your fantasy of of sports because have i told you my fantasies no my fan my fantasies i can't share all of them on this episode but i have a fantasy of well not a fantasy but i've always said what would make sports like organized sports team sports more captivating to me is if they like let a donkey loose on the field yeah you have to continue the game as normal but there's a donkey yes okay and maybe the donkey is just in the corner chewing on grass but maybe it's doing back kicks through the field yeah you just you just never know what's going to happen and stephanie was like this is exactly what you've been looking for in sports i just want like a a curve so to speak a curveball and you just have to adjust your game and work around it yeah yes and that's what these kids were doing nobody flinched the kid on the motorcycle was driving around and he'd be like you know hey hey hey landed and they'd be like hey and then he'd just keep playing catching the ball with his hat is it a small enough town that like these kids probably all go to the same school yeah oh cool for sure it's tiny do they remember max and finn from previous summers or is it like brand fresh slate every summer kind of well um there's both this was a new bunch and then there's been previous ones where they're like they can't wait to get back to town and and play the the kids that's awesome yeah so it's it's a little bit of everything that's really good what's going on in your life um i what's the latest what's the latest yesterday it was parv's daughter's birthday party and we did a she wanted a survivor thing like i had for my birthday we're like with challenges with kids and i was like this is a recipe for tears like this is so there were no eliminations it wasn't like real cutthroat survivor okay but it was um it was pretty fierce these challenges these kids were really focused i mean for four hours they were so she's into to um survivor well what happened was a couple years ago when it was my birthday do it uh when it was my birthday and we did it with all the adults the kids just watched and i think that was frustrating and so for years she's been like i want to do that again but only the kids get to do the challenges and the parents watch and we were like but i don't you know we can't really have one winner like that'll be so we adjusted it and it was and every kid won a trophy and nice but it's still you actually buy trophies yes got trophies and with very creative things like it was like award for best most spirited like best dance moves um yeah it was really good and watching flower picking off in the distance totally some kids were wandering off at points yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah sure yeah here's your trophy and then one kid had to leave early and so one of the teams was down a player and so the guys who host these games were like we're gonna need an adult to step in and i was like put me in their coach i was so excited and then i got into the puzzle making and i was thinking i gotta you know i'll hang back a bit i can't just dominate the right and then i was awful at it and the other team still won even though one team had an adult doing the puzzles well that's embarrassing it was humiliating i felt awful for poor little lucy and all the other the kids on my team that's hilarious how many kids probably eight kids so four on each team and there was a tribe swap halfway through and were they all from the same school where the friends come from mix of same school and as sort of random old friends and uh yeah it was all really exciting and i got a 10 person tent that just pops up really easily and i was like oh my god i'm gonna it's two minutes to set up i've never been camping but i thought maybe what if it's windy and one of the challenges it has to you know so i popped did you bring your keyboard i should have brought my synthesizer and but i i'm the boy with a thousand bags i always show up everywhere with like so many bags and uh yeah so i popped up this tent and then that was a big hit with there were two kids that were too little to play the challenges and they are they were like 10 months apart toddlers and they just went into this giant tent and i was like oh my god i'm gonna be like oh my god i'm gonna be and basically threw down like they were just wrestling for hours but laughing but just wrestling for hours i kept checking on them and they were like really just going at it but laughing yeah that's that's my life yeah just like okay everyone all right here yeah max and finn are always just on each other oh really they just roll around yeah yes yes constantly yeah i'm i think it's hard for me to go yep let them let them you know trust their bodies they you know when kids are being crazy and running around i'm like i it's a real effort for me not to hover jump in yeah yeah especially just with like safety stuff but normally they know are you and parvati kind of on the same level of safety concern or is one more she's had more experience you know with kids and yeah with I know they're limits and that and she knows when to step in whereas I'm like sometimes they don't know their limits that's the thing yeah yeah and then it gets messy yeah but it was fun should we get to our um our first question yeah let's do it let's do that hello handsome pod my name is mel i'm from west virginia but just ended my travel physical therapy career which had brought me to six different states i'm now here in the denver colorado area with my wife decided to take a permanent position and it just has me wondering what what makes a home home like did you all know that you were going to end up right where you are at some point or were there signs and you're like yes this is my home and i'm like yeah i'm going to take a permanent position yes this is my home and i'm going to take a permanent position i'm going to settle here or did it just kind of happen all of a sudden you're there for 10 years and reckon that's that's the place you're going to be um yeah just curious what your answers are as i ponder this question leaving the vagabond life i love listening to you all every week it brings me so much joy i laugh a lot i have not missed a single episode all right mel you know the first house that stephanie and i got it was just like oh this is so beautiful and um just had such an awesome vibe but then after i think it all boils down to what are you looking for and what do you need in your life and um because after we had kids and we were looking around at our beautiful little home uh that is now our office uh we were like oh my gosh this is a death trap for kids because it's like staircase and yeah it just it several levels three levels to the i don't know it just felt a little much and we were taking our we were taking max and finn to a very walkable area of los angeles and that's when stephanie was like why don't we just move over here yeah like right because we were in the hills yeah and then now we're then we moved to a flat area where we could build them around and there wasn't like a huge drop off from our back deck into the backyard it was just a couple of steps in case you know they were only a year when we moved into the house we're in so we were looking for safety we were looking for convenience we were looking for a very walkable area because we had strollers and and also thinking down the road when they're old enough to head out into the walkable area that'll be a really awesome option for them do you feel settled in la or like or do you feel like we're fluid if like you're open to if things evolved or if you i'm very open yeah um i've gone up and down with los angeles i never intended to move to los angeles i went through a breakup and then followed my friends to to la and thought it was going to be temporary and then all of a sudden i was living there and tried stand up and now i'm married with kids and have a career there but everything kind of and this isn't a bad thing i actually love it but everything becomes all about my family and mainly my kids and they are so happy they love their school they love their friends they love their baseball league so they lead the right you know the drive of everything it would be a big change i know ultimately like you do grow exponentially when you move and they'd probably it would be enriching but that first year of moving and leaving everyone that that would be really tough yeah well i mean they taught they seem open like their their school ends at sixth grade and they have to look for a new school so we've had different conversations of um uh we kind of have a lot of conversations about how we're going to kind of have this little fantasy as a family that we would travel for a year together yeah and home school yeah middle school that's the worst time yeah take your pimples on the road yeah seriously so i don't know i think it really does feel like where my family it's that it's so cliche yeah that's where that's where i want to be that's yeah that is i have such a deep ache in my heart and soul to be with my family and so i think that is ultimately what makes it feel like home yeah but those other things of like a stroller we can't be in the hills that's tough yeah and i do love a walkable area i've always felt like i'm not like i'm running behind some place that i'm going to eventually arrive and then feel settled and i don't think i've had that yet really yeah so i don't know i feel like i'm in a place where i'm like i'm in a place where i'm going to be i feel very i still feel very nomadic even like owning this place which is amazing but i'm still like yeah i feel i feel fluid i feel like i haven't settled in my final form so i don't know but if i have enough of my little things around me i feel like it's a home like i remember leaving home in my teens and i had literally a duffel bag and a sleeping bag yeah and uh yeah and then i slept on that sleeping bag for years i mean like yeah till i was like 18 probably i i remember maybe even a little older i was like just using this sleeping bag and so that i felt like i had a few things and i knew they were mine i had a i had all the vhs's of the twilight zone for some reason gotta have that gotta have that it was a lot like my synthesizer like i was like gotta bring that from place to place and then that's like my sanford and son dvd collection i mean yeah yeah i can't leave home without it no yeah but i think ultimately it'll i think i i think i want that feeling of subtleness but i think it's more about people instead of the place like i i do get i get stir crazy and in one place but i yeah i'm pumped to i used to be like that and and now i'm just like man i like i said i just want to go home i want to be with my family i want to yeah i just want to be in the middle of it i want that yeah yeah great question though i guess we're landing on home is where the heart is it's it is it's crazy how all those cliches are true it's so true yeah and um mel we wish you the best yes yeah but also enjoy the the nomad time should we take another one i think we should hi handsomes this is carrie i am calling from maryland my question is what music video so this would be on mtv or vh1 depending on what era you started watching them um really is just seared in your mind uh for whatever reason i can't wait to hear your answer we both started smiling as soon as we heard music video very nostalgia based yes people i know mine do you know yours i know mine go ahead oh shit okay i'm gonna go with freedom 90 by george michael which is all of the supermodels of the 90s in that era where they were that was such a massive thing and um they're all lip-syncing to freedom 90 george michael and so something about hearing his male voice come out of these sexy women and they're singing like the lyrics are sexy and i just there was something gay enough about it that i and they're one cindy crawford is in a bath who else linda evangelista naomi campbell it's a hot video and there's something about his voice coming out of their mouths when they lip-sync that i was like put me in coach that's your second for a coach to put you in that was my callback yeah watch it now if you haven't yeah i i and i it's such a great song um mine is you're probably too young to remember this on mtv but it was one of my favorite things in the world it was called the basement tapes oh i know i don't know that okay it was people that watched mtv at home they had a band they made their own videos and then they sent them in and you watch the basement tapes on mtv and you see just regular old people making their best version of a music video and mtv played it that's amazing and it drives me crazy i can't remember this band but they were brothers and maybe thomas can google it up but they're they're there is a band of brothers that had yeah that did this that did this and they were all in red outfits and i think about it all the time and i wanted so desperately to be in a band on the basement and did that did any of those basement tapes bands like become successful that's a really good question this band of brothers in red shirt in red i feel like they were in like red leather outfits or something but i really don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't really really liked them and that's cool and then they would play them i think more than just the one time and then they there was maybe a competition who won the basement tapes or something, but it's so fun to see the low rent video camera. Did you see any of them, Thomas, like coming up on Google? Oh, were they called Rail? Maybe. Yeah. I can show you a picture. And they were all brothers? Well, it looks like there's a lead singer who's a woman, but then there's a. That doesn't sound familiar. Here, I can show you there. Is that? I can't. It might be. Are you sure that's a woman? Because it's the 80s. Yeah, actually, I'm not sure. Yeah, I think it's a guy. Yeah, it's the 80s. I hope there's someone listening to this who's like, has been thinking about the Band of Brothers from the basement tapes in the red shirts and is like desperate to find out. Yeah. Anyway, well, that's my answer. Should we hear Carrie's answer? Yeah, let's hear it. Let's hear what Carrie has to say. Watch her say Rail from the basement tapes. And my answer is for sure Rio by Duran Duran. The painted naked woman crawling across the sailboat I thought was, I think, just scandalous when I was a kid. And the other one is Like a Prayer by Madonna. It was just epic for so many reasons. And those are the two that I thought of. Can't wait to hear your answers. Love you guys. Thanks. That's great. Yeah. We had much music in Canada. And yeah, I definitely, I miss turning on and just. We had much music? Instead of MTV, it was called Much Music. Oh. It's still around, but it was like MTV, where it was a constant stream of videos and weird little shows. And it was pretty anarchic. Have they continued playing videos or did they do it MTV? Is MTV still around? That's a great. MTV's around as like a channel that they'll produce. They'll produce like Cribs or those shows. But yeah, I don't think the same thing exists where it's like music videos. Yeah, I miss it. We had a thing called Pop-Up Video where a music video would play. Oh, yeah. And then a little trivia. We had that too. Oh, okay. Yeah. Well, that was fun. That was fun. Thank you, Carrie and Mel. All righty. Well, if anybody's in Colorado Springs, I feel like Mel is pretty near there. If you're in Denver, come on out July 16th. I'll also be in Rochester, New York, Calgary, Iowa City, Des Moines, Omaha, Oklahoma City, Cincinnati, Charleston, West Virginia, Chattanooga, Knoxville, Olympia, Washington, Fresno, Napa. And the list goes on and on. Go to Tignotaro.com. What about you, Mae? Well, do you live in Guelph, Ontario or nearby? And would you like to come and see me play my musical? I would love to come and see you play my music album. I've never played an outdoor music festival, and it's my fantasy that people are actually there and know the lyrics and hang out and party. So please come July 17th to Guelph to the Hillside Festival. Oh, I don't think I clocked that you're doing your music. That's awesome. Yeah, I'm playing my full album with the full band there and then in Northwest Territories. Yeah. Nice. Go to that, everyone. That'll be fun. And go to speakpipe.com slash handsome pod and keep sending us your questions. Questions and your answers. Yeah. And until next time. Keep it. Keep it. Pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Fortune Feimster, Tignotaro, and Mae Martin. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Ouellette. Email us at handsomepod at gmail.com and follow us on social media at handsome pod. What a podcast. What a podcast. What a podcast. What a podcast. That was a HeadGum Podcast.