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It was literally, like, one of those moments where I was like, Ugh! I mean, I wouldn't be honest if I wouldn't say some blood ended up on my floor these last cycles. Welcome back to Always. Keep that in, please. Okay, go. One, two, three. That's it. Welcome back to Always Here. We're your hosts, Abbey Howard. And Abbey Howard. Sorry, I just wanted to jump right in. We really need to start because I feel like we are going to talk a lot today. This is going to be a good one. We actually had messages from girls in my DMs asking for this episode. Oh, cool. Talking about our periods, our menstrual cycles, and all the fun things in between. Fun things. In between your legs. Shoot. In between. There's a lot. In between. There's a lot we could cover, and I feel like that is why I was like. It's a good day. We are going to talk a lot. We've got to go. But we're also here to share the hope and the hard with heart and humor. Yes, we are. And periods. Did you have a hope and a hard? I did. You did? Okay. Every week. Every week. Every week. Okay, I'll start. Every week. Did you have one? I have a hope. I didn't have a hard, but I'll think of one. Okay. Now you're just making me look like a complainer over here. No, I don't. Your thumb hurts from doing all the talk. Yes, that is a hard. That is a hard. What's your hard? I put 100 plus thumbtacks into a wood ceiling. Well, your hard was my hope. With my head back. Okay. No, it wasn't really a hard. I was joyful to do it. Well, you were exhausted too, I'm sure. Yeah, but it was worth it. You're sweet. What we're talking about is Abby's baby shower. Baby shower, yes. So Abby and Val and a couple of our other friends, well, I'll shout them out, Angel and Caitlin, everyone, all our friends literally all listen to our podcast, which for some reason makes me just feel like, I'm like, oh my gosh, like they are so, they're such good friends. I'm like, you don't have to do that. They're like, no, we love it. And I'm like, you're so nice. But I don't know why that just means so much. I'm like, this is a lot of footage for you to listen to every week. Yeah, with the podcast. When you already have to hear me yap every day. I know. But you know what? I'm an unplanned listener. I listen to Unplanned almost weekly. And sometimes you know why? Because you pick up on things that are going on in your life that maybe we're just not talking about on the reg. I guess that's true. You know what I mean? It's like, oh, I'm getting to know more pieces of you that I could just talk to you about. I do always feel ashamed when people are like, I learned about this on your podcast. Why? Because I'm like, I shouldn't have. You can't tell everybody everything. That's true. So I just go where you tell everybody. Five X times. Multiple times. Yeah. Addie's sick of it. She's like, give me up. I feel like it's like if you want to hear the depths of like, if you want to hear what's going on in Matt and Abby's relationship, just like hop on up. Right. And like, what's going on? I learn a lot. We've got therapy. We've got Giggly Squad. I know I'm in there at the desk. I'm like, what would you say in front of your sister-in-law? Then we can put that out into the internet. Exactly. Okay. Exactly. Yeah, it was a great shower. It was a team effort. I feel like all of our friends brought in. Like, Addie pitched in. She did help with the balloons. Our friend Amber picked up food. Thank you, everyone. Angel, Caitlin, Val. I mean, Val really did the heavy lifting. She did most of it. Ashley made the ranch, I heard. Yeah. She brought the ranch. She's that sick of the ranch. Our friend Ashley has a famous ranch, which I was surprised to find out there's no dill in that ranch. No dill. No. But it's unbelievable. Nothing fresh at all, actually. Oh. Weird. It was one of those recipes that's like, I'm going to enjoy eating this, but I don't want to know. I actually didn't. I got the recipe and I made it. I was like, shoot. I know. It's got some MSG. MSG. MSG. A whole block of cream cheese. A whole thing of mayo. A lot of mayo, buttermilk. I'm like, that's why it's delicious. Nothing fresh. But it's. It is. I was like, that is different. You could drink that stuff. Than ranch. But it's so good. I'm like, I don't like ranch, but I like that. Exactly. No, the shower was so beautiful. It was just, honestly, every, I couldn't stop just thinking how grateful I am. Like, for all my friends, my mom kept telling, because my mom and my grandma came too. She was telling my grandma afterwards. She was like. Something you should know about Abby's friends is that they are all so, so good. They're so nice. They're the best people ever. And I'm like, I don't know. I'm like, what do I do? Like, they just. There's just like a, I don't know. There's just something about it is just so mind blowing that people can like love you so much. And just, it just, I have no words for how grateful I am for that day. And it was just so perfect and so special. Good. One thing I liked that Angel, when she reposted it, she was like, one thing you won't realize is how much. How much, Abby, you have impacted that whole group of friends to be together and be friends. Like, all of us are friends because you're the middle person that made us all friends. That's so nice. And so, thank you for that. That's so nice. And giving us those friendships. Yeah, totally. So nice. Yeah. I'm glad you felt loved. Oh, so loved. Good. I like, can't even like think about it without crying. So I'm like, no. I know. It's just so, it's just, oh. You're like, what, what did I do to deserve, like, to get this? Yeah. It's so cool. It's like, you don't. I don't deserve that. And so, the fact that people, everyone has such busy lives. They all have multiple children or like, so many of them are pregnant. So many of them are going through their own, like, journeys and challenges and they still like, set aside so much time and also money to just put this together for me. It just made me feel so loved. So, it was beautiful. It was so cute. It was so perfect. Yeah, but the theme was fun. It was, um. Here comes the sun. Yeah. It's a little boy. And, yeah, the colors are beautiful. We had the paper chains. Kind of nice. 90s nostalgic. It was so cute. So cute. Val did all those chains. I just hung them. So, you know. It was, it was really, she looked, it looked really cool. This was so cute. Yeah, I loved it. Um, I, my sister and I got in a debate about how she's like, you should only have one baby shower. And we're like, baby, every, we have baby showers for every kid. I know. I was thinking about this. I was like, man, it's kind of ridiculous that this is the third time. But it's not gifts. It's just more like a party or like a meal to celebrate. Yeah. You know? And like, bring a diaper. You know? I think it's just more so like, pregnancy is so hard. And the journey to bring life to this world is so hard. And so, you should celebrate the mom and build her up and, and celebrate this life and this baby. I think it's just, I don't know. I'm like, I think it should be for every, it doesn't have to be a big thing every time. But like, it's just fun to do it that way. Well, I especially love this type of one. Just like, I think this is probably like a debate. Like, some people do it with their husbands. Some people don't. Yeah. But for me, I like love having a woman's shower because it's really just a reminder. It's like, we are all in this together. We're here for you through pregnancy, through birth. Through postpartum. Like, it's just such a reminder that like, you're not alone. And you have so many other women that have the same shared experience and are walking alongside you or are in various stages of walking alongside you. And that is the most important thing, I think, when entering motherhood is that you are not alone. And that is just like, a great reminder with every baby too. Because every, every, it's a whole new thing every time. You're relearning so many things. And you have to, every kid's a new, a whole different person, obviously. And you're like, okay, well, I've never experienced with my first two. Right. What's this about? Right. So, it's just a really good network to have, like, strengthened right before you're about to enter. Yeah. A hard season. Crazy season. Yeah. A hard season. Yeah. For sure. But, and happy season. And I feel like that's also, like, everyone's just reminding you so much of the joy too. Of like, what's to come. Yeah. Agreed. Yeah. It was great. It was a great day. Your thumbs are still hurting though. There's an ant on me. What in the heck? What in the orchid? Where did that come from? It came yesterday. What in the orchid? What is that? It's a brand deal. Orchid came to our house. That sprayed brands yesterday. Do you want to know something? With their helmets on. No way. The ants come back fighting. The ants come on. One by one. Ta-da. They had their helmets on. That's great. Full uniform. When we bought our house, Orkin reached out to me and was like, hey, we'd love to send you some products for your home, like, and congratulate you to your house. And I was like, that's so nice. Yeah. I was expecting bug spray. Do you know what I got? The most beautifully curated package of ant spray. Anthropology goods. Like, gorgeous. With bugs on them. But, but, bugs. Yeah, like, butterfly towels I use every day. That's funny. Magnets for my, I was like, this is the most, this is the best PR package I've ever, literally. Yeah, Orkin. Thanks, Orkin. Your marketing team is killing it. I hope I brought them some business. But I was like, wow. Thank you. No bug spray in there. They probably wanted me to get their service. They're like, we'll come and do that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. They're like, we'll spray for that. But yeah, shout out Orkin. That would be a conflict of interest, probably. Because I don't think they have their own products. Oh, like products. Yeah. Yeah, well, I learned about Orkin, and I'm a great fan of their service, so. Yeah, we had a really big ant problem, ant fly problem. Yes. That makes me feel embarrassed in a way. No, I wouldn't be embarrassed. I did notice the flies. It was like 50 of them flying around your trash can. They fly. I was like, whoa. She's not even exaggerating. No. You open that trash can, and it's, it was, I mean, I got bombarded with flies. It's not even just, it isolated the trash can. Well, when you have dogs and kids, your doors are just always open. And that's how our house is, too. but we didn't we haven't had as many issues with our backyard but I think our yeah you just have a nest somewhere is like yeah some serious flies I did notice I'm chatting too much what was your hope well I loved I loved the weekend it was amazing it was your shower my 30th birthday which I'm sure we'll talk about a little bit but I think my hope what I'm hopeful for is New York this weekend I'm so excited did you see in your card my card the PS I did my gifts I'm so excited do we have a show I was gonna see what you were open to because I haven't bought them yet but I was thinking I thought Aladdin would be fun a lot of you sick I love a whole new world to be jam-packed yeah wow I mean I were working out the schedule of the timings of things and we're like we're gonna take the subway to get there on time we have to get we have to take this I said I said this is how my brain is thinking and I just said 15 minutes 30 minutes one hour this is two minutes and I was like so when do we see our billboard on Sunday okay we're gonna be gonna see it at night we'll see it at the show we're gonna be by the show we have dinner reservations we have a show oh my gosh okay so we're going to New York because we are on a billboard in Times Square with Patreon which literally doesn't make any sense what our life is it is a mystery it is a mystery but we're so honored and so grateful so we're going to New York this weekend to see it yeah whenever things like this happen you're kind of like this is I get a feeling and I'm not trying to put us down at all because I think we're awesome yeah but I think we're great and amazing but when you're like wow what did I do to like actually con my way to this point literally who did we fool I'm like that's crazy in my house seriously I know when they when you send the email like we're gonna be on a billboard I almost threw up I was so when I got the email I was like I can't wait to send this to them I called every single person in my family said you're never gonna believe oh I don't believe you recorded Caleb's reaction I recorded my whole life I recorded my whole life I recorded my whole life my entire family's reactions yeah everyone's reaction I know I'm gonna post that yes yes I think she reminded me I should post that so that's my I'm really excited so we'll recap that I'm sure next episode but my heart is small um I just have sleeping has been kind of hard recently really yeah third trimester I don't know what's going on how many weeks are you now as of this 28 oh that's the turn it's turning the tide is turning the tide is turning baby it's getting hot but my heart also comes with a heart because we just got our chili pad did you set it up yes and I will say I hope to goodness chili pad that you will sponsor this podcast as well because I everyone in every corner of my life needs one of these wow that's high praise so it's it's actually so it's not something that you would think would make such a difference I know it's so nice the way Dave and Val talk about it it sounds like it's literally changed their lives well and here's the thing we had friends in Hawaii that talked about years ago they're like this changed their life really yeah that's that's what a luxury yeah I'm like necessity really no it's like I turned my bed to 65 degrees last night and my room is I have my warm covers cold bed that really helped it really my sleep score was different I have data to show that this is like really good um it was a great comfortable experience but um yeah Matt's what Matt's side wasn't working for a little bit and I could just feel his disappointment because it was being late and I was like do you want me to look at it again because he's so frustrated he was like you need to get you're pregnant you need to get some sleep I was like I can't look at it one more time and I like looked at it I stood up a long time I stood up really late really to set it up but it works now we can turn our bed down to 54 degrees wow yeah I am a really hot sleeper but I never wake up hot I just wake up in the morning after a full night's sleep just soaked so I don't know what that says about it I don't know what it says about it I don't know what it says about me well what they right um we don't need to talk about this forever but what they recommend you do is that you cool it and then it gets coldest like a little more than halfway through when you're gonna like your sleep period oh and then it warms up not to like hot but like to room temperature almost by the time you wake up and they say your body will naturally start to wake up without an alarm and like kind of guide you oh that's really cool I'm thinking about postpartum I'm like this feels I'm also thinking about menopause I was like get all of our mom these literally wow that's interesting I want to become one of those women that wakes up like 5 a.m. just naturally for fun no I can't do it no I can't do that without you know my alarm doesn't wake me up so maybe a chili pad could wake me up my body wakes me up for fun at 6 a.m. every day it's not fun it's a curse yeah I want to sleep longer I need more I could probably sleep to like 8 a.m. naturally I'm waking up like 6 30 now well yeah I think my hard um no I don't have one no don't have one and I I did was thinking about this I just I feel like it's been a really sweet season my mom and dad left which was really sad but I think I talked about that last episode like it's still hard every week not having them I'm like that's just sad they were about to leave okay yeah so they I was like I miss seeing your mom at the gym I know it was really sweet all of our friends were like I miss your mom yeah so that was I mean it's just I feel like she is one of the burn girls she is she is which is so fun um and I know CJ misses her but yeah that was sad that's my heart definitely sad um but there's one pro that I cling on to when they're not here to like make myself feel better it's that I'm really forced to be more independent when she's not here and that's a good thing it's a good thing yeah I'm an optimist but that's the really only pro you can just have you can still have your mom and be independent I know exactly but listen I'm just trying to make myself feel better okay that's good do what you gotta do yeah so it's fun how was Hawaii so fun it was we did get sick which so sad I think I was sick before we left remember when I said that I tummy hurt I believe I was on the podcast yeah I think I had flu B guys good thing none of us got it we had that is actually true yeah it wasn't yeah thanks for leaving actually yeah it was good we left good we left we took it um but we were just outside so that was I don't hope we didn't contaminate anyone but it was that was a little bit of a rough patch but we're if you're gonna be sick somewhere yeah be sick on an island yeah yeah and um no it was a great time it was really really special just being the four of us and it was just I was I have no it was just the best time it sounded like you guys did a whole mix of different activities like you didn't just go to the beach you went to yeah a bee farm you hung out friends you you know I feel like you guys did a lot of different things we went to a homestead yeah like a lot of there's a lot of gardening and like agriculture on Maui so we got to like see that we went on a cruise we went to a cruise we went to a cruise we went on a catamaran tour which was so wild and crazy like my kids still talk about it every single day they call it the pirate ship that's cute they thought the guys that were like the crew members were pirates because they had a lot of tattoos oh nice and um they like Augie every day was just like thinking about that I'm like is he gonna get tatted up that would be really shout out to Jamie for setting helping set that oh it was an amazing see Maui if you go to Maui go to see Maui sea they were incredible like it was just the most generous best experience ever like my kids actually got to snorkel at ages two and three that's cool we saw uh reef sharks we saw sea turtles we saw um a ton of fish and the reef too it was a younger reef which was honestly encouraging to hear because I didn't actually know that I thought reefs were only being destroyed same yeah I didn't know they were being built but I guess that makes sense they're growing that's good we went to the best snorkeling I've ever done was in Hawaii but it was Hanama Bay did you guys ever go there Hanama Hanama I think yeah Hanama did you ever go there when you lived there um it's on Oahu yes did you think it was spectacular or is it oh that's like one of them no no that's like one of the best I feel like yeah I remember when we went sharks cove is also really good did we go there with you guys when we probably yeah I feel like the Hawaii snorkeling is unbelievable so pretty yeah no we had a great time it was really really good to slow down like that and just which is so funny I say slow down but like obviously with kids you're kind of just like I mean you're having fun yeah you're doing yeah activities but it felt like slow down because we're just like we're just rolling with the punches of every day we had no plans and we're just figuring things out so it was really special yeah that's the best the best I'm so happy for you thank you to Gooder for sponsoring this portion of today's episode we're teaming up with Gooder makers of active eyewear for everyone so we're going to activate our eyewear wow everything's darker I am such a huge fan of Gooder and whenever I wear them I always have someone who's like you use Gooder too like there is a cult following for these sunglasses for a reason you guys they are so well priced I'm not gonna buy stupid expensive sunglasses I sit on those I leave them places my kids break a ton of pairs absolutely not worth it no I'd rather have a lot of options everywhere on hand at 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Honestly feels right. 30 feels great. I feel like 29. I just didn't have any thoughts about it. 30. I'm feeling like, okay, this I'm supposed to be this age. There's a confidence that came with 30. I believe that I I'm hoping that for myself. Yeah. I'm two days in. I feel confident. I just, there's something about entering a new decade that just makes you nostalgic. And I'm not going to like list off my accomplishments or things that I went through, but I feel like the twenties are really formative for me and Caleb, but I think we just tried a lot of different things and we had a lot of successes, a lot of failures, and we learned so much and grew so much together. Um, that ultimately also shaped me as a person. And I just feel like the way that we viewed our twenties was, Hey, we're okay to struggle in our twenties. Like we want these to be our years where we try everything and see what sticks. And yeah, I just really glad that we did it that way. Yeah. There was, so there were a lot of hard things, but overall I think, to this point and I just feel so excited and confident about the thirties. Yeah. I feel like your twenties, it's like chaotic. You're seeing what's sticking. You're like, just, I don't know, just trying to obviously, I feel like there's like a lot of identity forming that comes your whole life, but like, especially in your twenties that by the time you're 30, you're like, I hope that I feel this way. At least like, I know who I am. I know what my purpose is here. And like, I have the confidence to like, I don't know, just pursue that fearlessly, you know? Totally. I feel like there's this shift. I mean, you think I was like, man, 20 felt like yesterday, but at the same time, it felt like 10 years. It felt like a long time ago. I was a sophomore in college and through those first few years of my twenties, that was the first time I like went against my parents. Yeah. And I was the first time I put the stake in the ground and like really made my own decisions. And so it was like this becoming an adult and trying to flex these muscles that I didn't want to do. And so I was like, I don't know, I don't really have yet, you know, of trusting my gut and my intuition and making hard decisions about my life and the direction I wanted to go. So there's that that's in the beginning of your twenties. And then in the middle of it, it's like, I'm getting married and I'm forming my life with someone. I found Christ, like all these big, crazy, like big milestone, monumental things. I really shaped my identity and then all these career, you know, ups and downs and now at the end. So I feel like, yes, there's just so many identity things just to, you know, I'm just echoing what you're saying. No, no, I think that's great. Yeah. You guys asked me to think about a few thoughts on turning 30, maybe some things that I learned. I feel like they're the big thing. One big thing that I feel like when I look back at my twenties, putting yourself out there opens up opportunity. And I think it's saying yes to everything, you know, I mean, being wise about it, but I think sometimes you look at people's lives and you're like, whoa, how are they getting these opportunities or how'd they end up there? You know, I want to get to that point in their career where they're at or look at their family. I want things like that. And it's just like a lot of really small yeses and a lot of really small steps to get to the big picture of things. And if you're always in fear or like afraid of change, or you don't want to take the risk on things, then you're just never going to get really to where you want to be. And so I feel like when I look back, I'm really grateful that I said yes to a lot of little things because it opened up the doors to a lot of bigger things. So that's a little general maybe, but I just, I don't know. Don't be afraid to say yes and take risks. And try everything. You know, I even just think about someone in like a corporate, a corporate career, like a very traditional route. Like, Hey, if your boss asks you to do something extra or take the next step or lead a group, if you start saying yes to some of these extra things, like then you're going to be in the running for bigger promotions and bigger things. You know, so I feel like in every area it's, you know, even with your kids, if you're a stay at home mom, it's like, say yes to volunteering, say yes to these things. And then you'll be, I don't know. It's just, I feel like saying yes to things and getting out of your comfort zone leads to such later on. That's so good. So they're not going to give the opportunities to people that aren't there trying, you know, we don't know who you are. Yeah. You gotta be involved. You gotta do things. So I feel like that's something that I definitely learned in my twenties is to say yes. Um, I think also just, I feel like I have plans, but the Lord's plans are greater. And even in the hard things, I feel like there's so much purpose that comes out of the hard. And I've talked about a lot, but like in the past, my business and bolt, like I just had such a different vision from my life, but going through like the peeling of that back and the stripping away of that back, I've come to this place now where I feel so excited about what's next and this podcast and being with you guys and being in Arizona, like just things I never expected. Um, and so I'm just really grateful to the Lord. It's like directed our path here and it's just not where I pictured it. Um, so even if, you know, your life isn't going where you thought there's purpose in it, you know, it's so cool to like, even just be on the outside of like, and watching every stage of, I think I've known you, you're from your twenties to thirties. Yeah. Yeah. Like just seeing all the change that you've been through, all the growth and like, also just like seeing you where you're at, like for me to be able to like, look up to you through everything has been like, so key in my own experience in my twenties. Wow. Gosh. Like you're just, you're such a role model to me and like also a friend and a peer, but just like also that like level of like, I just know that I can come to you and always receive wise, sound, kind and encouraging feedback. And like you've taken like what you've learned. And also just like, it's been such a blessing to me. Oh, well, thank you. It's been so cool. That's really sweet. You make me excited for 30, just in a couple of years. Yeah. That was my last piece of advice. I think a lot of people will say like, Oh, your best years are in your twenties or your best years are in college. And I just want to say that just such a lie. That is a lie. And your peak is not when you're 18. What a sad life. That would be horrible. It's just every phase of life is so exciting and so fun. And so I just, yeah, I don't believe the lie that like your twenties are your only time to go travel and do fun things and be cool and like be hot. You have your whole life to do. We can be hot when we're 30. We can be hot when we're 60. I'm shooting for 40 for that. So that was my other advice. I'm like, just don't get, I don't live in like this fear mode of this is the only time of my life that has been one of my like silent goals. Like that. I just like under him. Like I think about with every birthday is I just want to be proud of every birthday I get. Oh yeah. I want to be grateful for it. I want to be like, don't ask how old I am. Like I understand people are doing that jokingly, but I do want to just be like proud. Cause it's like, I got this whole year like to do and live and meet and try and all these things. It's like, I just want to view each year as a gift and not like something that's like, I'm ashamed of. Oh, what an amazing, what an amazing outlook. I love that. You do a really good job of that. Thank you. Well, we're channeling that. That's really good, Ab. Yeah. That's all I got. I think that was enough. People don't really care too much. Me to talk about that. Probably. That was great. Thanks. Well, today we're talking about period. You're 30 and you're still having a period. 20s were a period. Now we're moving on to 30s. How many years have you had a period? That's a great segue. There it is. I think I got my period when I was in seventh grade. Okay. Yeah. What age is that? 12? Yeah. I can't remember if it was seventh or eighth grade, but I remember that was when all the girls were like, we were all panicked about getting it. One by one, the girl started dropping like flies. You know, it's like, I got it. I got it. I got it. No, people wouldn't say. Like, it was like. Really? Yeah. I thought for, I had like my best, one of my best friends. I was like, I thought we told each other everything. And when I got it, I told her, she's like, yeah, I got mine a year ago or something like that. And I was like. How dare you? That is shocking. I know. But I feel like people, there was so much. There was so much like embarrassment attached to periods. Sure. That I actually, when I was like reflecting on this and like preparing for this episode, I hope that, and I actually think it's probably changing. I'm not sure that the like preteens and teens nowadays feel that same way. I would hope not. I would hope not. You know what? I think this is like a really amazing blessing of the internet. And we were kind of talking about this on our call with a girl on our teams in her 40s. And so she's like entering, I mean, she's probably not entering menopause, but it's approaching that. And it's like 40, you know, she looked, I thought she was 32 when I first met her. Yeah. I know goals, literally goals. But I feel like with the internet, like I just, how my mom talks about menopause, no one spoke about it. Like they were just left to fend for themselves. But I feel like influencers on the internet and social media, like talking about these things openly and like very publicly has shaped a lot of conversation around menopause, premenopause, pregnancy, birth, and then obviously periods. So I'm like, that's a really great pro about people online being too honest about things that happen in their body. Right. Like it's like, it's one thing for something to be like more private and personal. Another thing to feel like embarrassment and shame about it. And I definitely think that like, for me, at least it was like, I was very embarrassed about it. Like at times, like even just the conversation about it. Now, when I actually started my period, I was 14. So I feel like I was like the, like everyone around me had already started going through it. But like the, the initial, like, I just remember when they do the period talk at school, they take the boys away, come back. Like it was just like so embarrassing. And when the boys would be like, what did you guys talk about? I'm like, shut up. Nothing. And they gave you like a maxi pad and like, I had to like shove it to the back of my locker because I couldn't let a single boy see it. And like, if I remember if I had to change like any period product during school, like I was, I, this was the season of Victoria's Secret leggings and Ugg boots. Heck yeah, baby. Tampon in the boot, tampon up the hoodie sleeve. Don't let anyone see it. All you can. And like, or heaven forbid, you have to change your tampon. You're at a boy. house like what do we do with that trash can or anywhere like there's just the stress of all that i'm like i just hope that that's not necessarily there like it's one thing like you can be private about it like that's very understandable and normal and great and normal but yeah the the shame and embarrassment is honestly maybe that does just come from like high school boys being immature and not understanding do you think it comes from more from the boys or from the girls great question let's blame the boys i've already cj comes in the bathroom i've had my period twice now and he keeps coming he goes you bleeding mama see i think you do a great job of that and i was actually going to give props to you and our mother-in-law about that because i feel like women's health and like the discussion specifically around like periods and stuff like that was very like it was an open dialogue with their sons yeah it was and i think that that's why like they are not they're not phased by it everyone's phased by it and i don't think that's the case in every family and so then some of these boys are like what the world is going on and even though like matt was raised in an all-boy household like they didn't have he doesn't have any sisters right so i'm like that is she did a great job of that i also feel like that was kind of progressive yeah it was because i feel like a lot of the boys i was growing up with were just like what in the world like shocked and i was also just like so embarrassed but um yeah that's what i was saying i was like i think that there's been a lot of positive growth in this area as far as like the dialogue i do think we have a ways to go as far as research and i was kind of like learning and we can talk about that a little bit yeah bring it up because um mr producer i wish i had time to listen to it but i was listening to her audiobook you for sure listen to it i'm going to listen to it yeah tomorrow yeah because yeah i just it looked amazing she's referring to our producer sent us this uh very awesome podcast by the diary of a ceo he had it with four different like female doctors i think there was an ob gyn there is an ant on your mic and what is happening i see it why is it me it's not you how is it getting all the way over there i didn't know they were being forced to migrate because of orkin orkin spread the kitchen they came in here actually this rug is hiding millions of ants oh no organ trail please no please orkin sponsored podcast spray the room please so no thank you they got helmets does that make you feel like you're unsafe if they have helmets no i honestly was just like man i appreciate just the the commitment yeah the level of care here this is so serious and i appreciate you handling it that way yes um they said infestations say less we're coming fully suited seriously this is great they were they were honestly the sweetest people i've ever met guys ever it's awesome um one of them was having a baby matt had matt emptied our pr closet of all baby products he was like please take all that's really generous that's so sweet so sweet oh he's like i did it because i feel like it's something you would have done oh my god you're so kind i got so sidetracked but we can link this other podcast it's gonna be very informative it's ours is more you know chit chatty yeah yeah it's fun but you had some things that you felt like were really like yeah i'll sprinkle in some tidbits as it feels relevant and i i haven't finished it either because it is nearly four hours but it is um for female doctors and like their experience and um i was just amazed by the honest but respectful conversation about like basically just one of their things they were like with between women and men's bodies every cell of a woman's body is different than a man's body and i feel like he points steven bartlett the host of the show he pointed out he's like at one point that felt taboo to say and she's like yeah but she's like it's it's very important that we understand that like it's not just our reproductive organs that are different and like making us separate separate from men like it's it's every single cell like our bones our organs and how things function and anyway it was just a very very good conversation well yeah i mean that affects everything think about even the foods that we eat versus the foods that men eat like the food is it drastically going to affect our bodies so differently than men's and so if we don't understand how much protein we should actually be having or minerals or vitamins or what medicine how the medicines of how does advil affect us versus a man it's like yeah wow that's really that affects everything affects everything it was it's a really great conversation these women are just like a wealth of knowledge and experience and they've they're definitely very well established in their careers and um it was just a really interesting conversation i learned so much because i was like wow this is something that i were always like we need to talk more about this but i'm like i don't even know what to talk about because i don't even i don't know what i don't know right so i was like this was a great like start actually we shouldn't say starting point because it was like high level dive yeah yeah but it was i mean i can't recommend it enough i i haven't finished it but it was really good to know as a woman i'm also like matt listen to this it's so interesting i feel like now after having babies and feeling the my hormone shift and like feeling how my body is actually affected by that i'm more interested in learning about it and i'm more interested in learning about it and i'm more interested in thinking about it whereas when i was 16 i didn't really necessarily care like i knew there were a lot of hormone things going on but i didn't know myself well enough to feel what those changes were but now as an adult i'm like oh i actually feel that difference well i do kind of feel like the conversation around hormones especially with teenagers is like oh it's making them moody and like yell at their mom it's so sexy and like cry a lot where it's like our they describe in this this podcast that like it's our body's messaging system like how we're sending signals to like fire certain ways and not like turn on things turn off things and so um yeah it does because i do feel like hormones is kind of just like oh there's just this dramatic girl like where it's like it's so much more than that and it's actually not even that's not even really what it is at all right right it was really cool yeah i'm excited to listen to it so we pulled the audience you guys that follow us on the always here podcast instagram which if you don't follow us there or engage there you should because uh it really is fun to include you guys yeah in our episodes as are happening um we asked what period product do you swear by and you know i'm actually surprised so many people use pads 36 percent of people use pads by that i will put in here the something else we also had a box for people to say what that is a type of disc of some sort like a menstrual cup or a disc that's what most of the people said under the something else i cannot wait to talk about that i'm excited to talk about that 36 said pads i am curious about that because are people using pads more have they always used pads or is it more now because there's a conversation around tampons being toxic probably it's probably shifted but i will say when i first got my period i did pads because i was scared of inserting tampons interesting and then once i did that i switched but i feel like there is a fear around putting a tampon in like if you've never done it before a lot of people or it's uncomfortable for some people i remember my mom bought me a box of tampons to practice with before and she was she bought me cardboard so never practiced because how in the heck are you supposed to get my dad got me cardboard tampons when we were on a trip to disney world when i was in high school oh and i was like that's a mistake you make what am i doing this i was actually shocked there's no applicator uh-huh oh have you ever seen a cardboard one no i'm gonna look it just it's all manual and you know what it hurts because you know a plastic applicator it slides yes so paper tampons just see that and it's cardboard around it my dad got me that it was all they had at the like whatever art of animation i will say with like tampons you it needs to you need to be bleeding for like you can't like it can't yeah you have to already there needs to be some moisture down there there needs to be moisture for sure yeah it hurts because i didn't know that i okay so i've always used tampons i did start with pads when i was like first starting out but i didn't like how they i felt like you could i played volleyball so i feel like you could see them in my spandex and stuff so i just immediately switched to tampons um i had to get a lesson um from my mother on that one an invasive one because i could figure out i love that you have that relationship with your mom yeah well what are you gonna do i was like i think i just certainly i had that book out that i had told you guys about about my body that i was looking over i was like i certainly thought i was a boy certainly i was like things where does this go i don't think i'm built like everyone else no i'm not kidding i was like it's not going in am i a boy they're like you're not really that was a thought i had so that's good yeah i'm glad i figured it out am in fact a woman but um so i did tampons pretty much all until the past two periods i've ever had really yeah i switched to the disc our friend topanga brought it to the favorite things party oh yeah yeah i grabbed it i like it and you started using it yeah you know what it's invasive and it's messy but i'll continue using it do you feel like a woman when you're no let me tell you my fingers have never been so like what that's tmi but you know you're gonna put them up there and you gotta do it i doing it in the shower because it's a lot of blood you know you think about it you put this disc in it holds six super plus tampons six super plus tampons that's amazing it's so much more hygienic for your body like i feel better like you know when you use a tampon towards the end of your period it's like you get sore down there and like i don't know it just hurts so this never had any of that it was way well let me smoother this was my journey i got my first period i immediately that day had dance and so i was like i'm not my mom bless her the day of the day of wow wow and I like had this maxi pad which first of all I actually also we're not bleeding that much I didn't need that yeah um but I was like I do need something and so I just I remember this I sat on our bathroom counter just was your legs open yeah I was like that was the first time I discovered yeah the anatomy down there yeah I didn't know that one I didn't know that one right yeah I mean what opportunity of a young girl are we gonna be I didn't know that one right and I was like I gotta I gotta see I have to know that this is here because I didn't believe it yeah and then I just figured it out I just used a tampon my mom was like you okay like if you want to she's she didn't use them so she was like I don't really can't help you actually um but I it's okay I like had all my friends you know my friends like kind of had prepped me for this and so I used a tampon then for that amount of time I always slept with pads because I I was worried about keeping those in for a while but then before I got married so this is one of those things about waiting for marriage you have you know there's a lot of talks about preparing yourself and so some one of my friends that had been married for like two years two whole years she's like this is what really will help she's like if you use a menstrual cup for your cycle before you like have it oh so you don't have pain your first time I guess it stretches things out oh interesting I don't remember sex ever being painful like well a lot of people do experience pain the first time they have sex I think and so um but she told me she's like just like that you're like three cycles before you get married just like switch to that interesting and so I switched to a cup and you guys this is such a vivid memory for me because I first of all you have to uh when you first get them you're it's recommended to boil it so my roommates are like in you're boiling out this dough I'm just like it needs four more minutes just floating in this water in the coop the house that we lived in and then I was like everyone stop I need this this is my preparation well like what and so but then I hadn't started my period but I was like ready it was like pre-boiled right of course my parents come to town for whatever reason for some event at college and I always wanted to stay in their hotel with them when they would pack them all oh my god I was like now's the time to try this and I go in the bathroom and like lock the door and then I was like I can figure this thing out oh my god I don't know if I can figure that out to this day I've never you have to fold it a certain way and you really just have to get comfortable with yourself exactly and here's the thing about it is that like I tried it and I was like not I was getting so frustrated and panicked oh and then I was like I just need to go back to the house with the girls and I need them just like help me help me and so I like texted my friend I was like I don't she's like you just need to relax she's like take a bath breathe through it take a bath oh wow I take I get in the bath whole thing and I'm like relaxing and then I go back I got it in couldn't sleep that night because I could feel it I could feel it the whole time really now this should not just I'm not trying to deter anyone from using it this is also before I was like sexually active at all and so I think that probably played a role after I would say it took a good 24 hours for me to be like okay I don't feel this anymore I can relax and then I and I had a great experience with the cup and that's what I used then yeah and it was I did just feel better like in my body not having like all the chemicals like and cotton and um also it lasts way longer there's no risk of toxic right I mean you've got to change that thing yeah you gotta clean it right I would actually I boiled it like after each cycle oh I haven't done that but that's interesting I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know that that's necessary yeah they just I think for the desk it's just gentle gently wash okay and so I just first time I did yeah just boiling yeah you see how do you get past the fear of that it's gonna just be stuck in there because like with a tampon I feel good that there's a string it's not unlimited in there I don't it vibrated what do you mean like how do you get it out there's it it doesn't just go up into your organ oh yeah yeah yeah you can't get past that cervix unless you've got a baby coming out there you just have to like go up on the side of it well the disc you actually put up over your pubic bone so it goes up pretty far yeah so it goes up but it's really comfortable because it's not just sitting in like your bladder area like a cup is yeah not your bladder but you know what I'm talking about so the disc is really comfortable because it goes up a little higher but yeah bear down to kind of push it out a little bit and then there's like a little spin but you got to be careful taking it out because one of my stories you're gonna see yeah there are some more variables with the cup that you don't necessarily I feel like I should try this just at some point to like understand the anatomy of it of doing it but literally look at my face your body will thank you I feel like because it's just it's also just the peace of mind you can leave that thing in for 12 hours yes all day long so I would I would get in well I would empty it in the disc you can self empty but it's still really messy so I would just do it in the shower and I would do it in the morning and then at night before bed and it was awesome you you've mastered it quickly yeah it took me one whole cycle to like master probably try it at some point in my life I think it's really good about it I feel like you know really clean are you guys heavy when you did tampons and stuff were you guys heavy bleeders or like I am now now now I am after having babies yeah 42% said they use tampons what do you use that do you still use pads I use tampons yeah more than the majority here yeah a lot of the or not a lot but some of the something else where they do both like they use a tampon and a pad because they're heavy but I sometimes do a tampon and a like panty liner I always just in case there's always it like in case it leaks it's to the yeah it's not like it's gonna be a heavy flow yeah I always wear a panty liner too on my period yeah eight percent said period underwear have you guys tried that I have not I need education on that I don't know anything about them I'm really uh I feel like would they not smell can you you can't wear them with like leggings which is like maybe you can't no actually they look like you could but they're like boy short type yeah and I'm like I feel like a lot of time I'm wearing leggings it kind of it just looks like a pair of underwear that just like has thicker like a pad built in I was asking someone that used one of these how they wash them because I think that was the thing that has deterred me always is like in your washing machine but maybe you do a pre-rinse and then wash it I feel like I would just feel maybe I I need to be educated but I feel like I would feel gross wearing my blood all day like that maybe it stores it away under the huh yeah I don't know I love the freedom of not having it come out of me oh yeah until I'm ready for it all at once totally yeah um but I yeah I'm grateful there are more methods I feel like there were not as many options also there's period um swim bottoms which I'm like that actually that's a good idea kind of like a good idea that does like that will keep things in there because I don't know sometimes I'm like that was a big insecurity as it like a pretty like teen like swimming was like so scary so scary I was always checking to see if my tampon string was out like whatever you were using but just to have that extra security yeah that would remember being nervous like your tampon string was hanging out yeah all the time um Caitlin our friend I was with her today and she's like do you remember asking your friend a million times like check me check me yeah check me like lifting over at the dance studio when you're wearing a leotard and tights you're like can you see it yes always and sometimes people would be yeah you could 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long we don't have to always 28 days false I have no idea false gotta be a range false false do you know what the range is 28 to 21 to 30 21 to 35 I was gonna say 32 but I was like there's not 32 days in a month but that also my logic seems like a long one do you guys know how long your guys's cycle about every three every every fourth week I get my period okay you don't know in days so I usually count like one 26 days so here's the crazy thing in the past 10 years i have actually tried to figure out how many cycles i've had it's been probably 12 because birth control and pregnancy birth control pregnancy pregnant right after before even getting a cycle then birth control and then pregnancy and then one cycle pregnancy like i mean it was like yeah i just yeah i haven't oh and also when i was breastfeeding i went a long time without getting my period too man i never took a birth control that suppressed my period so i just never i've never gone except during pregnancy super heavy so i think that that's why it would just immediately took it out mine wasn't my i had a when i was on the pill i had a period when i got the an iud i didn't have a period that's how mine was okay you can still get pregnant while on your period i think they say yes i think that's true i think they say yes but i don't believe it i think it's very unlikely it says true especially if you ovulate early or have a short cycle okay brown period blood usually means something is seriously wrong false that's like at the end yep i feel like that's did you guys get this where you get your period and then there was a day where nothing would happen and then one day later i would it would just come back for one yeah it's like light and then it kind of gets you get a heavy my mom and i call out the exclamation point that's so funny the brown would always be at the beginning i like tell myself that it was like from the last yeah beginning and end it's like the oxidation of um the blood like that's good severe period pain that makes you vomit or miss work is normal no no that sounds horrible no i miss school sometimes because my period because i the cramps are so bad and they put me on birth control um stress can affect your menstrual cycle yeah true and it can affect your ovulation and the timing ovulation usually happens about 14 days before your next period that's what they say but i can't say that's true have you taken ovulation tests never never in my life i didn't even know everything until you took a maddie and i was like what is that you're so strict that's based not on anything my friend the other day she was like there is a chance that i got pregnant like she was like there's a chance i got pregnant last night she like just had a baby too and she was like she's like i'm worried i said go take an ovulation test to see if you're even ovulating right now because she like kind of had her period or anything and she's like not ovulating i'm like okay i know when i'm i just don't know the amount of days in between um it is 14 about 14 before your next period it just gets really heavy like whoa things are happening pms only causes emotional symptoms no the gravy the hunger the hunger is unbelievable i'm oh i always know i'm like i'm starving yeah bloating fatigue headaches acne and more oh my gosh the pimples blood clots during a period are usually dangerous no i feel like that's normal no yeah i get those a lot especially on day two especially on heavier days yep the uterus sheds its lining during menstruation true true the lining is what exists or what exits the body during a period exercise can sometimes help reduce cramps true oh yeah for sure true hormonal acne can worsen your period true gotta be true hey we're so educated you're doing good it's like we've done this you lose about a cup of blood during an average period do you really true i really i don't know okay i'm guessing that's false it's gotta be less than that um this this says you lose around one to two tablespoons i also saw one that said it was like three to four no i'm sorry one to four than that when i'm looking at this disc that is kind of crazy one to two tablespoons every 12 hours no way certainly it's possible to have symptoms from ovulation oh yeah i learned that after i'm a baby yes same with me i didn't have any before symptoms as in what you feel your ovulation oh shoot i don't get that one i think that's not like biological that would make because that's the time they went your body wants you to make a baby it makes sense this says people notice cramps discharge changes or bloating my discharge does not even one of them but you want to know what's by a lot like an interesting thing about that is i do notice the the discharge changes you're like very yes very lubricated during your ovulation yes yeah yeah yeah yeah which makes sense yes okay yeah yeah your period blood is dirty blood your body is getting rid of yes no it's not periods can change over time as you age yeah yeah i think so agreed that's true hormone stress health conditions and aging all affect your cycle pms symptoms can begin before bleeding starts i was actually surprised about this last time i was like i feel i'm so crampy my back was aching i was moody um really hungry and then my period didn't come moody abby thank you for saying she's never moody i don't notice it's so kindness of you the whole week i was like when is it happening and it started the week after oh wow i know i had never cramped before my period normally i would cramp on like the day that i would get my yeah yeah this was the whole week before i was crazy but it's my second period post baby so things are still yeah you know they're getting back to normal it does say pms often begins in the luteal phase before the period arrives which i believe luteal is right before of course it is so that would make sense cervical cervical mucus changes throughout the menstrual cycle yeah yeah it does cervical mucus what is that discharge discharge oh you've been saying it this whole time i don't know i don't know i don't know what is that scientific term you're discharging no that's like abby abby says what does she say oh no why do you say that in what context are you saying you've never heard her say no it's so middle school in front of people i'm surprised she says yes i think it's funny okay i'm sorry i really derailed this conversation i just what do you say i just like saying things like a middle schooler it comes up i don't know why it comes up it comes up the first time i said that to you you're like whoa don't say that to me i'm just taking it back and now i just whenever i hear that word it's usually from your mouth but if it's not i think about you i'm honored it's just so crass and funny and childish and i like saying it sorry for that period poops are a real thing yes oh yeah the i always know it's a good day that first day of the period cleaned out then i'm contemplating for about six days really that first day that was amazing it's all i mean if we're talking about it you know like if you have a tampon in with the poop that's just like the worst such a waste of your tampon literally just take it out can't do it you can ovulate even if your cycles are irregular i don't know oh yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah it just doesn't always mean that you're it's like the 14 days before okay so you can ovulate but not bleed later sleeping poorly can sometimes affect your cycle i don't i'm sure i'm sure weird ovulation also can be a i shouldn't say weird irregular ovulation can also cause twins just oh i didn't know that you're weird ovulation i had weird ovulation happen all right what are we talking about um sleeping poorly can affect your cycle certainly it can i feel like it affects everything just like the stress can yes it is true tampon say it anyway tampons can perfectly get lost inside your body false there's an end that's like i just saw the disc just the door it just coughed up one day i lost that once ago no i've heard terrible stories of people like leaving them in for really long time so i forget about it things happen the cervix prevents tampons from traveling beyond the vagina yes and whatever else praise the lord for that period cravings can be influenced by hormones yeah oh boy i want that chocolate last one having a regular period means all hormones are balanced probably balanced no yeah that's a good oh it's it is false you guys are correct yeah someone can still have hormone related issues despite regular cycles hmm that's it i'm actually surprised that i knew i was honestly we've suggested a quiz i was like probably not gonna know much about this yeah wait till we do that there is a question that i read on a different quiz that i was reading how many periods do you think you have in your lifetime average oh two quizzes have the same number so i'm going based on that well we have different ages my calendar my calendar as well my calculator the calendar you're gonna count every month wow i have everything tracked from the age 12 no just kidding i just started tracking in the last three years um how are we doing this math there's 12 months in a year how many years have i lived i'm gonna say 336 no certainly not because if i did 18 years of having my period you know 30 minus 12 18 years but are you talking about your total lifetime or just my current lifetime in your total lifetime not how old you are now oh oh maybe 28 maybe 336 is i'm gonna say i would say almost 300 i'm gonna say 400 whoa are those your answers well i'm thinking now 30 and i'm gonna go to 45 that's 15 more years and that was 216 336 and you're saying 400 it's 450 wow well not me i've late bloomer i've obliterated that with my birth control using that is interesting because i wonder if it's accounting for pregnancies i don't know that's why i was thinking yeah at least a year gone actually some people get their period while they're pregnant i'm so sorry for you i mean that's just unlucky for you because well that's how some people don't know that they're pregnant i know that's just that's a great people just have irregular periods and then they just don't realize they're pregnant yeah really wild it's truly the best science besides your baby it's a great gift yeah okay let's read their their audience story okay we asked you guys yeah we asked you guys what your audience horror stories are i feel like every girl has experienced mishap we're going to share our horror stories and we asked you guys on instagram what your some of your experiences were with periods and you guys had some good ones this first one heather west says while on vacation the suction from my menstrual cup pulled my iud out of my uterus do you think that hurt yes never had an iud really well getting it removed surely you think that happened gradually though or did it just like as soon as she suctioned it well first of all why was it suctioned anything so something maybe something was just like it was inserted incorrectly maybe like it was closed and then opened up there yeah whoa all the way at your cervix whoa the iud surely had to be slipping out yeah hopefully because if you're having intercourse also and then but that does it it seems a little odd to me that would be crazy who that's traumatic we're sorry paula said pcos girly so once i have my period for one and a half months straight no that's horrible that is that's horrible were you taking supplements that sounds scary scary yeah all the iron loss seriously she's really lost a cup yeah um i once had my period on a fabric chair in school they had me carry the chair through the halls to the nurse that's mean that's mean that deserves a phone call from your mom that that deserves a phone call that's really mean kayla said my first cup got stuck and i had to ask my boyfriend of a month to help me get it out oh surely there's another call yeah surely there's another option for that oh my gosh that's funny dang it um candace said having to use a cardboard tampon after bleeding through my uniform skirt at school truly the cardboard tampon is the big trauma trauma of them all it's a medieval contraption it really is uh lisa said i passed out my first period seeing the blood oh wow shoot shoot oh my god i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i actually know people that pass out at the sight of blood and then my question follow question was how do you deal with your own cycle that's interesting i've actually never thought about that they probably just pass out and then move on with their day that's wild yeah and the blood loss doesn't help they should use the disc it's only twice a day instead of like six but it's a crime scene elisa says first period on fourth of july at my friend's grandparents house right before going to the water park no that's sad that was always the fear it's the fear it's not really a big deal once you figure it out but it's not gonna gush the first time it's not gonna gush and no one's gonna know that you're on it but that would just be it's a tough pill in front of your brain exactly that's all you can think about when you're in a tiny little swimsuit um go green said non-stop bleeding for a month straight doctor didn't want didn't want to put me on birth control ultrasound normal that's so frustrating like why would we just bleed you know that's a bummer so there's so many things yeah i hope you figure out why that happened because that sounds miserable it really does alicia says god of the day before my wedding and my second day is always the heaviest i was so worried about that happening and you know what i did specifically for this purpose i went on birth control like the month before two or a couple months before so i could time when i would get my period me too and i took my pills accordingly to like time out when i would get it why am i having no memory of i guess i just wasn't on my period i definitely got birth control before we got married and i got it in like april we got oh yeah yeah so then then i didn't i knew i'd probably stop having a period so then i was glad i didn't have to worry i know i was just like that would be a big bummer suck um lizzie said the first time the first ever time i got my period i thought i pooped myself and i was like oh wow well it's brown that's when it first comes out you know did i poop on my vagina that would be concerning that would be concerning tally joy says i pulled my tampon out in the morning and there was still another stream oh that's every girl's first timer i've never i haven't done that i haven't either by no people to have i've had i've had a friend had to get surgery because they've left it in so long oh yeah i mean it's rare it's happened like two people but did they get toxic shock no i've never known anyone to get that i can feel it like i just i could never put them both in not that that doesn't happen i mean if you have a light tampon up there i mean those are really comfortable you know i could see it i know from hannah carter first time using a tampon was in the condo bathroom at church camp before heading to the beach my mom was trying to explain how to use it over the phone while i panic cried in the bathroom thought i finally got it right until i got in the ocean and watched it float past me because i didn't put it in far enough needless to say i stayed out of the water the rest of the this sounds like one of those situations i just picture you're standing there just like your eyes just following it i feel like that type of thing would happen to me and i would just be like i always just whenever things like that happen i just flee so i feel like that would just be my blaming it on everyone else these losers i hear littering well now you have a good story that's a really good one amazing story i'm not kidding hannah that would really happen to me that would really happen that also it would be a great movie somebody writing a movie should put that in there they're gonna steal it it's really good they're gonna steal it for sure and also good news you don't get your period when you're in water it's true so you don't even need it i would have said she should have just stayed in the water actually yeah yeah don't you don't bleed as much in the water that's great sarah joe taylor said first period came while on a camping trip i thought i had the stomach flu mucho cramping and nausea i thought i was gonna die no supplies i now always have tampons with me i've been scarred oh god don't you have to dig a hole when you're camping you're gonna attract the bears the bears come and get you i smell some blood i don't know i've never camped piranhas i don't know what it's lions piranhas she's camping in africa you never know those are in water no that's what that's what she had to worry about in the ocean in the ocean okay where are piranhas can you please look that up it's africa right 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My first story was my first period story, which honestly was, I hope this can, I mean, probably people listening to this, have already had their periods for many years. Pass this on to your daughter. Most periods, first periods, are not majorly eventful. No. And I think in my head, I had heard all these crazy stories. I was so on pins and needles for so long. When is it going to happen? Actually, I thought it was going to happen a long time before, because I started getting discharged in fifth grade. So that day, I went to the bathroom eight times. My teacher surely thought I got my period, because I surely did. And I was like, "What in the world? Little did I know, years later, years down the line." But I got it, and I was just at school, and I just went to the bathroom, and I was like, "Oh, that's what it is. Crazy." Went to my locker, because I had the stuff already ready from my mom. I do remember the underwear I was wearing. You do? Because I was like, "This has to be the last day I ever wear this underwear, obviously." But then any other underwear like this, I need more mature underwear. It was purple underwear with frogs on it. And I was. From Limited Too? Probably, and I was like, "It's got to end today." I'm now a woman. No, honestly, I don't think it was cool. I think if it was from Limited Too, I would have thought it was still cool. It was certainly probably just Fruit of the Loom, bikini. I mean, you were 14. It was so tough. And then I got cheetah print underwear from Victoria's Secret. Wow, you skipped from child to second. Jumped a lot. And then I had dance that day, like I said. I plopped myself right in front of the bathroom. I got on the bathroom counter, shared a bathroom with a boy, my brother. And I was like, he just had to get used to it, I guess. I didn't hide anything from my brother. Like your products, you mean? Yeah, like I didn't hide it. I put it in the trash. Right, like you closed the door when you were sharing the bathroom. When you were on the couch, I was not in there. You were trying to put the tampon in, he wasn't in there. He was not in there. You braved the story like he was in there. You said, "I shared the bathroom." He was nowhere to be found, but I never hid, like, where I stored the tampons or even, like, in the trash. I didn't feel like I needed to hide it. No, that's great. I appreciate that. Yeah, well, he was set up for six seconds. But yeah, it was very uneventful. But, you know, it was one of those things. I had dance that day and I just remember telling my friend, I was like, "Hey, I got my period." She's like, "Oh, yeah, I've been doing that for a year." How dare you? My first period was really chill, too, actually. I remember being that anxious feeling all the time at school, like, "Oh, that feels kind of weird." And then running to the bathroom and thinking that I got my period. And all my friends, like, trading tampons when they needed them. And it's like, "Oh, you got yours, you got yours." And actually, now I think it was eighth grade when I got mine and I was in math class. I remember exactly the class that I was in. And I went to the bathroom. I was like, "I got to go pee." Pulled my pants down, little brown discharge. And I texted my friend and she brought me a tampon or maybe just a pad. I don't remember. And I went home that day, told my mom, and she took me to Cheesecake Factory for a little girl's date. Aww, that's sweet. She was like, "Welcome to the club." The club. Yeah, I actually really liked that. Like our little ritual of celebrating it. Yeah, it was cute. I liked that. But it was pretty, it was like low key and uneventful. I don't remember a ton about it. I also don't remember it being regular for a long time. Oh, really? Like I would get it and then I would go a couple months without getting it. And then I would get it again. Like I never was able to track it. So my second was my first incident, which also happened in eighth grade. And I was sitting in history class with the teacher that everyone thought was like the hottest teacher, like everyone had a crush on this teacher in his class. I get up from the chair. Not only have I bled through my underwear. Oh, my, my jeans. It's all in the chair. No, that's horrible. You guys, can you predict what I did? You sat there all day. Ran away. I just ran away. To where? I left class because that was the bell rang and I was like, well. Get me out of here. You left the blood on the seat. Someone else is going to sit in there. Oh, shoot, shoot. Yes, shoot. That is so. Like, I, I literally just froze and I was like, panic, run. Dude, that's crazy. And you know what I was wearing? Everyone, everyone's got to guess white jeans. Just as cami, white cami underneath my shirt. Just pulled it all the way down. You know, the cami, the cami pulled that real far down. Went to the bathroom. I don't even I just think I had very little coping skills with this type of thing. I just was like, this is emergency. Emergency, emergency. I'm lagging out, what's happening? I feel like I probably just did not do the sanitary thing. I just don't know what I did. I certainly not. You left the blood on the chair. That certainly was not. But even like, where was I going after that? Like, what did I do? I would like to think that I went to my PE locker and changed into my gym shorts. But then in my head, thinking about my like middle school brain, I probably was like, that will be so obvious that that's what happened. So I have no idea what happened, but I just know that. Like, I'd fled the scene. Did your mom bring you any clothes? Did you text her? I guess she was working, so she couldn't. My mom did not stay home. Yeah, you guys like start to bleed through or something like that. Did you just like wad up toilet paper? Yeah, yeah. Wad, wad of toilet paper. Set it in your underwear and hope for the best. Make a little hamburger. Literally, it's so true. I forgot about that. The wad, the wad. OK, so, yeah, just fled that scene. Yeah, not proud of that. Ted's hopefully was a boy and he just wouldn't expect to appear. I don't know. That's foul. I mean, I don't know. It's natural, but that's. I know. But then if he got blood on his pants next, no one would say anything. The next girl gets blood on her pants. She's like, I swear. Oh, man, that's great. Yeah, that's a hard one. That's like, that's scary. I think I was shocked because I had never really had a heavy cycle. But sometimes, like, the first year, you're like, things are kind of crazy. They totally are. My first. This wasn't my first incident. This was an incident that, like, burned in my head and happened a couple of times. I was very scared of getting toxic shock syndrome, so I would refuse to sleep in tampons, which was just silly. You're not going to get it from sleeping in a tampon, right? So after a couple of these incidents, my friend was like, girl, just sleep in your freaking tampon. I didn't like doing that. Woke up multiple times at night. Well, in the morning and I would get a bed and it'd be massive blood spots on my sheets. And my mattress like it bled through my bed multiple times. That's a heavy. So here's what I would do. Let me slow. Here's what I would do for my solution. I would put one maxi pad in the correct spot and then I'd put two maxi pads across my butt. So I'd wear like a diaper almost. Wait, on your bed? No, like I wear full, I wear big underwear and I'd put one maxi pad, you know, in the crotch and then two across my butt because I didn't. I was so upset that it would like bleed through because I lay on my back. So the blood would travel down my crack. Did you get a puppy pad at this point? No, honestly, I didn't know they made them. Never had a dog. Did you have like crampy periods? Like I did have some cramps, but not like bad, bad. You were pretty crampy. Did you? Was it heavy? It was not that heavy. No. Wow. But really, really crampy. Yeah. It only happened at night when I was laying down. I was I never had. A painful period. I would call my mom and I would I would like leave school. And so I would like hope to like when I would start feeling cramps, like I'd take a mital like right away and hope I could catch it before it got bad. But if not, I have like so many memories of me laying on the bathroom floor, like crying to my mom in pain, I said so many times I was like, I don't know how I'm ever going to have a baby if I can't get through my period. Like they were so I'm like if contractions or anything like period cramps, they were so bad. And so, yeah. And then that's why I got put on birth control. Did you ever grow out of that like now? Yeah, they're not as painful anymore. As soon as I got off birth control, they weren't as painful. Yeah. So I'm like, was I a wimp or did I do a little bit or, you know, because I was on it, too. I went on birth control in high school. I had cramps. I don't think they were that bad. But then like later in the years, like I don't do birth control now. And I feel like my cycle is so much more regular and way less. I mean, it wasn't bad when I was on birth control. But I just feel like maybe I was just young and like needed to give my body more time to figure it out. Probably, you know, so I feel like mine was the worst in high school, like, yeah, freshman, sophomore year. And then I got birth control junior. I also think about like what I ate in high school. Oh, I really didn't help my cycle, my hormones. That could be my problem. That could have been my problem. I certainly remember like hamming it up, though, especially like when I started dating Matt, I would be like, I just wanted I just want to be taken care of. Of course. So I was like, I'm on my period so bad. And I was like, "It's really all about me." - Yeah, I never really had a. don't hurt him i did feel like less of i wanted to feel that like sometimes i want to feel like a part of a club oh it's not a fun club it's not a fun club that's what that was really naive of me that was like the same side of me that wished i had glasses and braces yeah yeah you know right like i just wanted to be a part of sure i just wanted to be one of them totally totally uh this one when i talk about the diva club having a learning curve this i was in college obviously when this all i was like yeah i'm not in high school i was right established woman yeah a young woman and um i just remember this day i remember this whole day just going south like it was like i had i worked i would work out in the morning and i had classes like this i would like bulk my classes because it would help with my work schedule because i was also trying to get married so i was like i gotta work and i gotta do school and i like so i would do all my classes and then i had a uh like a really long shift at the pizza restaurant actually no no this was at the cocktail lounge so i was working till really late like maybe like 10 or 11 i just had the longest day ever and it was going so bad like everything was going so bad and then i had so much homework and i was just like so stressed out hadn't eaten much that whole day and i gotta change my cup and i was at the house that we like addie lived at the house that i lived in in college after i moved out anyway i pulled that cup out spilled all over the bathroom rug the amount of things that have been on that bathroom floor the rug oh and had been in all day yeah that rug and i it was literally like one of those moments where i was like i like audibly made that sound because i was just like i cannot because i also just knew i had so much homework i'm like i'm gonna be up all night i'm my period like there was just so many you do the taller thing you just throw the rest of it down and i just hear a knock on the door is matt and he's like is everything okay i was like yes it's fine and then he's like what's wrong we're about to get married like because this is around the time i started using the cup right oh yes three months before he's like do you need do you need help and i was like no i'm just gonna throw this away yeah honestly and then he's like i can clean it for you oh and i'm like they're probably like this maybe was inappropriate in some fashion but he cleaned that entire that's sweet that's not inappropriate it was covered in like it was so covered it was so gross oh i remember being like thank you so much in my head i was like it's not even my rug that's really sweet yeah and matt cleaned that entire rug bless his heart and i'm like doing my schoolwork and i'm also just like still kind of embarrassed because we were just like we're really close but we weren't married like we didn't like i don't know and he was so nice and so gracious about it it was didn't act gross out at all yeah but i was like this was one of those things where i was like wow that's one to two tablespoons like you saying i was like wow i saw what it looks like on a bathroom rug it looks like a lot more yeah yeah so yeah that was you gotta go slow with those right gotta go slow and be in the shower maybe over the toilet yes i don't know how that even happened just like flung i know it's it's understandable it happened there's a learning curve learning curve yeah that's a good one ab it happens to the best of us it was i mean that graphic is in my head forever yeah i mean i wouldn't be honest if i wouldn't say some blood ended up on my floor this last cycle like it's i just thought about the fact that our editor is a guy our editor is a guy sweet sorry randy i would say randy's sweet about period he's got a wife he's got a wife he's got a wife he's like you'll never guess what i listened to for four hours today he's gonna clip it up he's gonna ask her what do i cut out of this ready make sure it's okay with your wife here shut up last story sorry okay my next story um okay when i was in fifth grade this isn't period blood but this is related to like menstrual cycle stuff i was at a track meet very hot day i'll never forget the setting of it and i started to feel kind of sick like crampy painful i'm like man that's weird i'm best i think i'm really nervous for my race i'm like i'm so nervous i'm having like stomach problems it was fifth grade it was like yeah it was just a low-key track team and i was so nervous for my race i just must be really sick and i remember the bathroom was really far from the track like the track was down below and it was at a high school so you know you think about like football field in the school way so i kept going back and forth to the bathroom thinking that i had to go to the bathroom having the worst cramps and so then i'm i'm in the bathroom and i don't even realize it but i am i'm actually screaming in the bathroom and my dad kicks the door in of the bathroom and i feel like i'm gonna throw up and like i have to go to poop at the same time like i feel so sick and i'm like moaning in pain and i'm screaming and my dad opens the door grabs me and runs me into the car i was like screaming in pain they thought i was gonna throw up and i'm like i'm gonna throw up and i'm like i'm gonna throw up and i'm like i'm gonna throw up and i'm like i'm gonna throw up and i'm having appendicitis what was happening was i was having an ovarian cyst burst in the fifth grade and so i remember that my dad threw me in the car luckily we were really close to a hospital and he rushed me to the er and he carried me i couldn't walk i know he ran me into the er i was screaming in pain and i just remember they gave me some loopy gas and it was like i turned my mood around so fast but they didn't know it was wrong so i do like the cat scan and all that stuff and i just remember them saying this could happen potentially every time she has a period because i mean we didn't know anything about ovarian cysts i've never had one since but yeah i had an ovarian cyst burst when i was in the fifth grade wow yeah spend the night in the er for that very crazy yeah but they gave me pain meds and you'd already had a period i had never had my period no this is fifth grade i didn't get my period till eighth grade oh okay isn't that so random and weird yeah but it felt like my appendix was bursting i know weird i had a friend growing up that always gets cysts in her breasts really and they were painful really sometimes they would rupture okay we have a couple more stories since this is going long um just a friendly reminder that i just want to throw in there like patreon is just an entirely added value additional thing yeah um for those of you that are able to opt in or are interested in any way our episodes are actually longer now than they've ever been not including the patreon overflow because we can't shut our mouths um but it doesn't fit into a normal podcast length so this is just a really good way to end the video i hope you enjoyed it and i'll see you in the next one just entirely extra i'll say at this point before we're even going over to patreon we've already recorded for an hour and a half and we're not even done there's gonna be more in the regular episode too so that is it's really out of necessity of like wow this is just so much extra we're gonna hop over there and just a couple more yeah funny extra bits yeah we're gonna do our stories and then we started doing this i think it's fun taking a patreon exclusive question so someone who's a part of the patreon community asked a question and we answer it on our bonus so it's like an extra q a little part two yes yeah so we'll go do that and we'll come back thank you to shopify for sponsoring this portion of today's episode when i was 21 i started my first business which was scary emotional a learning curve and exciting 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one of mine was i was in the grocery store and i thought this way was talky to me turned out she had her airpod in and um it was very awkward so i would love to know one of y'all's most awkward moments um love y'all bye wait i want to know what she said it did you say chica chica that was really cute it was so cute hello chica linda she's so cute i have so many but the problem about me is i don't get embarrassed so it doesn't get seared in my mind like what was it like i want to be embarrassed so i don't get embarrassed so i don't get embarrassed to remember them because I'm like, please, I want to have that story. I love telling a good story. name especially where it's at my own expense i have one and this oh is it the plane no not the plane that you already shared that one shared that one okay i was at um our friend our friend did a collaboration with a big company and i was sat next to her agent at this dinner and um he was telling us about some of the people that he represented and two of them were olympic athletes and they were pretty famous like they had gone viral a couple times and i was like caleb telling him like oh my gosh this is amazing the guy what is in the special i said the guy like he's a runner he's a truckster he has one leg he was in the special olympics and the agent was like no no no he wasn't the paralympics he was in the paralympics and i'm like i look at him i was like that is a mistake those things are very different that is a mistake i felt so embarrassed i was like because then it was like not it's not appropriate to laugh at that you know i don't know i just felt yeah i can't laugh you can't laugh at that because it's not funny i'm just like but i just got that mixed up when i said it and i was so embarrassed and i felt really i'm still thinking about it today like telling these people that yeah he i mean he didn't have a leg so it wasn't like you know he's in the paralympics different disability different disability yeah yeah that was a bad one that was really awkward that is really that's a good one also isn't like the special olympics like your church can put on a special olympics yeah yeah yeah like it's like a charity more so yeah i really want to think of an embarrassing story guys i mean your your worst most socially awkward moment was trying to have sex on the airplane yeah oh that is true you haven't told that story on this podcast don't clip this because then my mom will see it and she got mad the first time the second hand panic i feel for you it hurts my stomach it hurts my stomach just think about it it's like not a funny i don't know how you made if it hurts your stomach now i don't know how you thought i think that i dissociated like i think my brain just dissociated i think my brain just dissociated left the building sorry it's so great do i have to tell the whole story okay i'll just give the cliff notes so i don't know how long i've been married almost seven years oh at the time now at the time really married move two years you know what he brings it up every time we get on airplane you want to try again never freaking learned his lesson i literally look at him with like daggers you have children children with you i think it's like to remind me of how horrible that was okay okay well let's just just do it really quick i'm pretty sure it was southwest nor american economy flight nothing first class nothing private nothing surely not private what the world nothing special not even not even premium economy and we just are driving it's a long flight where are you flying to hawaii certainly okay such a long flight i think it was from chicago to hawaii which is about nine hours too long apparently and matt matt is like he's been here's the thing he's been planting seeds for so long at this point and i'm like fine give it a shot it's not like i was like yeah right now i was terrified but i was also just like you know we're young we're in love great i love a good story and it just it just gets so bad you guys i think the plan if i can remember through the blackout that has happened in my brain i think that one of us went to the bathroom first the other one went in after this flight attendant you guys is knocking so hard and then i'm like panicking and matt's like one minute like talking negotiating with her meanwhile nothing special is happening i don't need to paint the picture for you but you know nothing special is happening right inside i'm freaking out essentially and it's very close quarters i can barely change a diaper in there just so everyone knows so i don't even know what logistically we're gonna have i don't know how it works so then um then she starts hollering at us through the door something along the lines of this is illegal this is a full flight of people shoot full flight of people shoot every seat is filled and she's like yelling and then like everyone's attention is now drawn to the restroom in the back oh daytime flight everyone's awake sun's up windows open the walk back to our seats afterwards i literally was like it's going to take just something stronger than me oh my god to move down yeah we were not in the back row right all the way walking they talk about the walk of shame couldn't get worse than that i'm sweating possibly get worse than that and that's one of those things where i'm like did they come have a talk with you after or something no she came back yeah you're right came back and was like that is illegal or something like that oh man and what did i who knows what i said who knows what i did i doubt i looked at her put my headphones on i doubt i looked i doubt i made eye contact with anyone else on that flight and i doubt i slept that night and i doubt i ate a bite of food the rest of the day that's so real i'm like oh my god so bad it's so bad it's not funny like i can't laugh about it surely that flight attendant now has like seen you guys somewhere for something and she's like she's like that i remember i refuse i i revoke that addy i she never did they skip you for card service you don't deserve it i don't i have no memory of the rest of the flight how long much longer did you have a good amount i want to hear max's rendition of this story yeah honestly i need him to fact check me because i'm just so curious how he was processing in my head there was like hours left and i don't even think that we were seated alone like i think we were next to somebody else that is such like a my brain is not fully formed yet move don't you thank god for prefrontal cortex because you guys were like what 21 yeah 21 i think that's 21 yeah just reckless behavior i'm ill it's hilarious i'm ill hey we've grown you i'm ill they sing about it in all the rap songs and you just think let's do it on a southwest that's how i was thinking i was literally i had never heard a rap song talking about the mile high club no oh yeah no i knew who that was and i think we were just so dumb it's okay that's definitely your awkward that will forever be my most embarrassing story that i'm like it can't get worse than that right right sure i really hope not i don't think so you're like as bad as it gets my mom will have words with me and i'm still scared of her even though i love it oh i actually need to clear my mom's name that was my grandma that got mad at me oh okay hi abby's my name is sarah and i'm from winnipeg manitoba and you guys are the first podcast that i've actually ever fully listened to and i love that you got me started on that anyways i am a new mom well i guess new is my baby's just turned six months um and we're entering wedding season here and i'm exclusively breastfeeding and i'm trying to find outfits and dresses and lots of them if they have bra straps showing they're not pretty so do you guys have any tips or tricks or um ideas for wearing bras while nursing um stick on bras kind of scary a little bit while nursing what have you guys done in the past you can't do sticky boobs no sticky boobs that will be that nipple free girl any any moisture will oh boy i was literally just thinking about this like there's embarrassing period stories and then there's a whole category of embarrassing sticky boob stories honestly i have a good one for that they end up everywhere embarrassing sticky boob stories also wait thank you so much for listening to our podcast thank you so much yeah i agree i would say here's my here's my favorite part of this podcast i would say here's my favorite part of this podcast i would say here's my favorite part of this podcast i would say here's my favorite part of this podcast here's my advice wear the bra that makes you feel the best about your boobs and weddings aren't overstimulating experience anyway take that as a gift that you get to go in private and disrobe and feed your baby and quiet totally like it's just just take that one yeah like honestly like even for me as someone that i'm like i love i hate missing out on things anytime i would like leave an event to nurse i was like oh it was a good wreck it was a good recollecting moment um but do wear one that you can do wear a bra and not a sticky boob yeah i would say wear the bra that you feel the most comfortable with and buy your dress to fit your bra yeah i i haven't had to go to too many formal events but i mean just anything with a thick strap and i know it's not always the most flattering but sometimes i'll wear like the puff sleeve dresses you know yeah that was part of her question right like yeah what like what kind of bra would you wear yeah you just got to wear your bra that you're the most comfortable with and that and also in this stage like six months out i feel like you could almost get away with wearing a tighter a dress with a tighter bodice and you don't necessarily have to wear a bra and it can if you're much more comfortable yeah i i like that too if i think there's it's tighter on the top but you don't want to wear like a strapless bra i always like take the pads out of like a sports bar so i can just shove them in there and then you don't have to worry about the nips if you don't want them to show with that that is that great tip yeah good reminder i always take the sports bra pads and i put the milk pad on it and i just move it from bra to bra so actually i need to throw mine away now they're pretty nasty i've seen some days they're like peeling at this point like the bra pad um but yeah if you have a tight dress as a tight bodice like you're saying addy and you can stick the bra pad in there with the leakage it's great and then when you're nursing you just pull down i'll say this about bra straps too i don't follow this because i'm like i don't like them showing but blake my husband always tells me we know you're wearing a bra it doesn't matter if you see the straps i'm like thanks blake but no i can't wear that bro i don't listen to him but at least he has that like he's like you're wearing one it doesn't matter yeah like so true that over the shoulder what kind of bra are you wearing right now no I'm wearing the uh i'm wearing the what's it called cakes oh you're wearing a sticky it's not sticky that's what's great about it it's uh it it sticks but i wouldn't have believed this if you would have told me this before i tried it it's suctions on oh but there's nothing sticky because with sticky boobs when you take them off it's like does it give you support or is it just it's just like coverage basically just so your my nipples aren't that's cool right exactly hi abby abby and addie congrats on your first guest that came on the podcast for the mother's day episode um i know abby and matt have had great guests on unplanned um so my question for you is what would be your dream guest on this podcast thanks have a great day bye that's cute congrats on your guests our mom if you had a different type of guest we got to figure out the seating arrangement i love that yeah we have like non-family members yeah to treat them a little better probably you're like get on the couch yeah i mean we're not really a guest podcast as of right now that's not necessarily like we're a direction we want to move this show but i feel like in general who we just it's just whoever we'd love to have a talk like i feel like devon would be so fun i was thinking of her too yeah i love devon yeah and cordal is we were saying she's just she definitely fits the vibe totally she would be so fun so fun we are moving like our long discussion on to the patreon this is way too long and so we'll give you like a little brief review you feel like we're cutting it out we've recorded for two hours and 14 minutes please i'm getting my legs falling asleep he's like i can't keep looking at these guys um what were we saying oh we're gonna rate the book we'll announce the next book and we'll give like a little tiny maybe just why we gave it our stars go for it okay we'll go deep into the whole discussion on patreon so i gave the book two and a half stars listen i enjoyed listening to it i would have never liked reading this book that's it okay okay it's five stars yeah i gave it four stars and i honestly think that i could even bump into 4.5 okay i really like this book okay of course addy doesn't like it you guys honestly you guys are dumb i will say i read 25 of it on the kindle and the other 75 i listened to over the course of like yesterday and today yeah i did so it didn't i was kind of rushing through it i guess but but i don't think i don't know my yeah my my one star is because i didn't care about anyone yeah no i i grew into liking the characters but i just didn't like the characters but i just felt like let's be honest you guys only like romance books i think it took to like 85 to care i enjoyed hearing about her life and i enjoyed that but i just overall was like i don't think i'd recommend it it's not my style of book i'm not gonna think about it after i finish it okay okay we could do more into on patreon that's my like review and my star dive into it all right okay let's dive into the book club i knew you guys weren't gonna like it and as soon as i started i was like i didn't dislike it let me just actually first start off by saying this is a widely loved book i think it's a widely hit or miss book i think that's probably my mom loves to read my mom didn't like it oh my god i think it's a it's a good audio one survey i don't think i could have read it like and like understood the characters as well as i did on audiobook so i will say audio gave it a higher yes audiobook is the way to go there's the different characters the different like she said it gave it a bigger boosting she gave it a one star he said he bumped it up you would have not finished it yeah yeah i didn't pick it up once after i like was at the spot reading it i never picked it up yeah what book are we reading next yesteryear by who's the author caro caro claire burke claire book i've heard lots of things about this book i have only heard that anne hathaway is doing a movie about it i'm i'm very curious about this book is there an agenda yeah that's kind of the vibe i'm i'm curious to see but i mean i'm sure it's gonna trigger me i hate reading about influencers isn't it funny that that's like what books are about now yeah yeah that's what makes me i'm like wait this was supposed to be fiction yeah i know i'm so curious this is supposed to be my release um but yeah i'm excited to read it i mean there's obviously gonna be a movie about it and i think we'll probably have a you know okay for those of you that don't know just to get you interested it's supposed to be about a creator that creates like quote-unquote trad wife content and how like i think there's some irony between her real life and like the content she puts on life online i thought she gets like transported back she actually has to live to like what she's depicting yeah which i don't even actually necessarily follow trad wife content i mean i do some of it i love like some of the inspiration how they cook and growing their gardens and stuff she wakes up to find herself in forced to live the harsh reality of the 19th century farm life contrasting sharply with her curated online persona okay i just don't want this to be a a slam piece on ballerina farms i don't like her i don't see how this book doesn't have an engine so then is this a bad idea no i think it'll be interesting okay we'll read it no and i'm sure it's gonna be a good i mean i've been wanting to read it so yeah we should read it i think it'd be a great book okay let's quickly do always hungry yes wrap this thing up this is a restaurant or a recipe a recipe i've made for a year it is a one pan sheet pan dinner which makes it so easy um it's broccoli chicken sausage and potatoes the only beef is that this cooks for an hour but it's very simple you mix things in the bowl you season it you put the potatoes on first then after 20 minutes you shift the potatoes over put the broccoli on shift them put the and then you drizzle everything at the end with maple syrup and it's unbelievably good maple syrup unbelievably good i've made something like that before yeah but it didn't take an hour because i didn't use potatoes okay that's probably what it is yeah and you put them all in one pan so it takes a long time to cook but it's so simple three ingredients healthy filling so good yum yeah mine i actually just tried for the first time last night but it was a winner uh my kids actually ate it which i was really surprised by because whenever i try something new it's always like i don't know see it was a shepherd's pie take on it but with gnocchi which makes a lot of sense when you think about it because gnocchi is potato and so and it makes it a lot quicker and easier to make but it's like the basically the filling of a shepherd's pie is a lot easier to make but it's like the basically the filling of a shepherd's pie but mixed with gnocchi it's one pan minus the pot you use to boil your gnocchi but that's just blood and water that takes two minutes to boil and so i feel like it there is kind of a lot of ingredients but um it's stuff that you probably already have yeah a lot of it and it was very cozy and warm i would say it's also a great portion size for a family of four if you have a bigger family double it good good tip i would say the same thing for the sheet pan it's great for three people also i didn't use lamb i used beef because who's buying lamb i don't know who's lamb but i've never cooked it but i'll eat it if it's served i feel sad to me yeah i'll eat if it's served i'll order it at a minute it's probably more traditional in a shepherd's pie yeah shepherd shepherd lamb well you guys got that thank you so much you got it you got it well thank you guys so much for listening on this episode that was a fun one this was so long i'm sorry this was really fun and i feel like we could talk a lot more about women health women's health categories and i'm sure we will enjoy this let us know because i feel like there's a lot more you can go with this yeah totally um if you also want to leave a voicemail we should have said this when we did the voicemails but the number is 602-456-9690 we love hearing from you especially your voice so that's really special um call in there we'd love to put you on the show yeah and then um heart it star it like it subscribe comment all the things and we really really appreciate it there's a lot of people that work on this podcast every single day of the week that it really is a is a wheel that keeps turning and um your feedback positive feedback specifically just really uh is very encouraging to all of us so we really appreciate it and so we're going to read a review yeah this is from kate clark 88 she gave us five stars light-hearted funny and encouraging i recently found this podcast and i'm so happy i did abby abby and addie are kind curious and all being a different but equally important perspectives as a working mom with a somewhat strong and positive mindset i'm so happy i did this podcast and i'm so this podcast encourages me and brings laughter to my day thank you for sharing your lives stories and conversations that's really sweet that's so nice yeah thanks for saying that you guys I'm so grateful. 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