My 10 Rules for Living Your Best Life

Hello my friends and welcome to Planet M. This episode is all about the ten things that I always do and I never do when living my life. These are sort of the ten principles that I have learned to always stay true to as I navigate this journey called Life, this game. And I've found that these principles really hold true for me and as long as I am sticking to them, I am able to live my best life and of course we tend to stray sometimes but as long as I am sticking to these ten principles, I'm doing great. And I'm excited to share these principles with you because I've shared them in the past. I actually held a coaching call in my community and coaching program MindCraft and I shared my ten principles and I actually jokingly call them the ten laws of Emism and actually these laws or principles, whatever it is that you want to call them, they were born because I got into this philosophical discussion while back and someone tried to tell me oh but that doesn't fall under the law of blah blah blah ism and you know philosophers, they all have their different determinism and whatever. I just remember thinking to myself okay well I don't put myself in the category or the box of whatever philosophical thing that you're talking about because I'm me and I have my own philosophy of life and I'm going to call it Emism and I'm going to figure out what my ten principles or my ten laws of Emism are. Alright so that's how this was born, that's how these ten principles were born and you know it all kind of started as a little bit of just a fun thing for me to create that helped me and then I shared it with everyone in my community and everyone in my community loved it so much on the call that they were asking me to type it up and send it to them so they could print it out and put it on their wall genuinely. So I was like huh maybe everybody else would want to hear them too. So let's dive into the ten principles that I always or never do. Before we dive into them though I do just want to take a pause to say because I was just talking about Minecraft. If you are ever interested in joining my coaching program or community being coached personally by me getting to ask me questions then I have an amazing coaching program and community that has completely transformed so many lives. I've watched people go from full-time engineers to traveling the world with their own business. I've watched people join without really knowing what their purpose is and feeling unfulfilled and finding their purpose and not only that but starting their dream nonprofit after finding their purpose. People have just completely transformed their lives like so many people have quick their jobs and started businesses which is kind of crazy because I genuinely never. I didn't create this program to help people leave behind things that they weren't meant for but it makes sense that when you find yourself and you discover your true power that you leave behind the things that aren't meant for you and you go after the things that excite you and let you up and that's what these people are doing. So if you are ever interested in that you can one follow Minecraft on Instagram but also I open the doors to Minecraft at the end of my free master classes. So I currently host master classes where I walk everybody on the class through my 10 step process for finding yourself, finding your purpose, finding your true power and rewiring your brain to living your best life. It's actually the 10 step process that I personally use to completely transform my life and then I put it into a course, into a coaching program and the results have been insane. So anyway, it's a free class though, I actually have, I give it all to you for free live and it's virtual so if you're ever interested in just learning that process to come to one of my classes it is literally free. And then at the states of the end I do a live Q&A at the end, it's super fun. I always kind of just go on these tangents, people ask me random questions and then I'll go on a side tangent for 10, 20 minutes answering people's questions and I end up having a really good time and everyone has a really good time there. So if you're interested in the class and asking me questions and joining Minecraft come to the class, I open the doors to Minecraft at the end as well. Let's get into the 10 principles for living your best life. Number one is to take what resonates and leave what doesn't. And I think this is super appropriately numbered number one because I want you to also keep this mindset as we go throughout all of these numbers, all of these principles that I'm about to share with you. I think the best piece of advice that I could give you based on this principle is to always listen to your intuition and follow your own heart. The worst thing that you could do is do what they tell you you should do and listen to what somebody else thinks that you should do with your life. That's one of the worst things that you could do. It's something that I personally did in the beginning of my academic journey when I went to college. Obviously I switched up very quickly and then switched to neuroscience which just sounded cool to me. I'd never even heard of neuroscience at the time and immediately fell in love and obviously the rest is history because now I'm a very well known neuroscientist trained neuroscientist and coach and entrepreneur and all the things. But it was listening to what I wanted listening to my own heart rather than doing what everybody else told me I should do like oh you're smart and you're really good at science you should just become a doctor right and that was the journey that I was on. And so you should always listen to your own intuition over the advice of anybody else always even when it comes to science and research. You know so many people will live and die by a research paper but the truth is is that there are outliers and individual differences in every single study and just because a study shows something that doesn't mean that that is actually was true for you everybody's different everybody's different. I've gotten a discussions before about how someone someone that actually I used to coach was into fitness and personal training and he had one stance on fitness and I was like well actually you know I'm a little different because I've found personally that I actually build muscle really quick I'm that type I come from a very athletic family both I have two brothers and both of them were athletes played hockey and so I just have always been athletic and have more athletic build I will say I don't know if that's actually the case maybe not but I build muscle really easily and if I go to the gym I do see a difference after one time and that's just me could also be in my mind could be my mindset I really believe right I really believe that I could transform that quickly and so I do but anyway again my point here is that I was like I don't agree with you I'm in a different case and he had this one stance and I was like okay well that's your truth that doesn't have to mean that that's my truth and so you should always take what resonates with you and leave what does not it's true for everything and I think that if you force yourself to only consume content or only read things or listen to people that you agree 100% of the things on then you're closing your mind to so much information you're closing your mind to so much I personally have studied many different spiritual practices and spiritualities I've I've spent time studying at temples and learning under monks and I I've been able to put myself in different situations that be very open minded because I like to learn and then that doesn't mean that everything I learn I have to apply to my own life or make it about me I can take what resonates and leave what does not now in order for you to take what resonates you need to know what resonates with you and therefore you need to know yourself and that is a whole other story a whole other topic for a different episode but in order to take what resonates with you in order to listen to your own intuition you need to know what your intuition is even telling you and that requires that you tap into yourself take what resonates and leave what does not number two is to never betray yourself for validation I don't care who's going to think you're dumb or silly or stupid it really doesn't matter never betray yourself for validation I've found myself in the past past past versions of me I've found myself questioning myself questioning my stances or my beliefs or what I know and then I'm over here invalidating myself and then I'm over here invalidating myself because I'm allowing this person to make me question what I know to be true and so that's something that I used to do and through time and practice and self trust I have come to this point now where I don't question myself the way that I used to and that might be slightly different from betraying yourself for validation but betraying yourself for validation looks like people pleasing and doing what other people want you to do or changing your behavior so that other people agree with you or feel more comfortable to be around you and it's actually kind of hilarious I have a super funny example to share right now because I still go on Snapchat because I like to watch my memories and it's just really cool to see my own transformation in the see how far I've come and I this memory came up a couple days ago of like four years ago when I was in the PhD and it was a video of me telling this story about how I was in this classroom learning about schizophrenia and animal models for schizophrenia and how it's really hard to study schizophrenia and develop treatments for it because if you're testing drugs in an animal model you can't just ask an animal if it's hallucinating and we were learning about this in class like you can't ask an animal if it's hallucinating and in this video I go on to explain that my me thought is well why don't we just bring in some psychics and have them ask the animals if they're hallucinating or not and then I go on to say and everybody in the class laughed but I don't care because none of these people recognize or are open to what is possible and I'm going to show what's possible that's a video that I recorded four years ago I bust out laughing watching that video because I could not believe that I said that out loud in a room full of scientists getting their PhDs I genuinely was like damn I used to be so bold like I was bold as hell for saying that's crazy and it's funny though because it's so true so many things that those those same scientists those same people told me I couldn't do they told me not to go off and pursue this other career they definitely judged creating content on social media and I'm so glad that I never betrayed myself and my beliefs and what I know for validation from others give that validation to yourself don't let anybody question your truth and how you feel you deserve to be validated and you should validate yourself give that validation to yourself you're allowed to feel how you feel you're allowed to think what you think now of course as somebody says something that makes you wonder or question like yeah do your own research see if maybe you want to change what you feel or think right but that's up to you don't let anybody else force you into doing that number three is to live as the highest version of yourself right now this is sort of an identity shifting principle but it really is the concept of act as if embody the highest version of you who is the version of you who has it all what do they think like what do they talk like what do they move like what are their habits what are their routines who are the type of people they surround themselves with who is that version of you who is a version of you who has it all and then act like them that's principle number three live as the highest version of you right now the more often that you can do that the more you will see your life change I have watched my life change I've made dramatic shifts from deciding that I'm going to act like the version of me who has it all decide that the outcome is inevitable right whatever challenge you're facing whatever problem that you're going through right now what if I were to tell you that sometime in the next two years five years ten years it doesn't matter whatever you decide that sometime in the next ten years you were guaranteed to achieve your goal how would you move today probably with a lot less stress a lot less worry less anxiety less overthinking probably with a lot more ease so decide that that's it you'd probably move with a lot more confidence too so decide that you're the dream outcome is inevitable so move like that move like that what if it were inevitable what if it was guaranteed to happen how would you live your life today maybe you might be more motivated to actually go work toward it number four is to build your identity from intuition not imitation don't copy other people don't do what other people do because you see them doing it you know this is something from me in the content creation world I've always found that it's best for me to just stay off and not think if I'm going to go on social media and get inspired for an idea or content I'm scrolling my own page now yes there are other creators that motivate me or inspire me or make me think about different things but when you are trying to build your identity and trying to decide what you want to do where you want to go what you want your job to be what habits you want to pick up build that through intuition do that through intuition and not through imitation because as long as you're chasing something because you saw somebody else doing it you might unconsciously think because they're doing it and they're happy and they're fulfilled then I should do it too because then I'll be happy and fulfilled too might not even be a conscious process but take a moment and think what are my goals right now what am I moving toward and am I moving toward these things because I actually want them because they're actually aligned with the highest version of me like when I think of my best self like who that is does this behavior does this action does this goal does this new routine align with that is that going to help me get to where I really want to go or am I doing it because I saw somebody else doing it build your identity through intuition and not through imitation number five treat every belief as upgradable software beliefs can be chosen you can just choose new beliefs just because you believe something today doesn't mean you have to believe it tomorrow beliefs are dots that your brain thinks is true I have had situations where I am in content creation ruts and I'm over here just like la la la la and then I don't know I'm just not there my videos aren't going well they're not performing and I'm not living up to what I think that I can live up to for myself and one day I just decided okay I'm just going to choose to believe in something different I'm just going to choose to believe the algorithm is just going to work for me and I'm going to choose to believe that I am inspired more often I'm going to choose to believe that I am on I'm on uphill I'm going uphill from this moment forward I'm choosing that things are going up and right after that things went up I think that month I gained a couple hundred thousand followers and I had people asking me I went to a book meeting with my editor and my agent and they were like what's going on how are you doing it and I said I just chose to believe something different your brain filters your reality based on what you believe your brain builds what you see right because you don't see the world with your eyes you see the world with your brain your brain constructs the image that you see you change what you believe then you change what you see in the physical world you change what you experience I've had people in Minecraft choose to believe that parking spots are going to be available for them and then they're driving to the city and parking spots are available for them I've had one specific I'm one student in Minecraft specifically that I'm thinking of she has a really cool story of she decided to believe that the middle seat on an airplane was always empty next to her now of course when you want to choose new beliefs sometimes you need to do the work to to grow out the old beliefs that contradict them right or give your brain evidence of the opposite but this one student she decided to believe that the middle seat on an airplane was always empty next to her she was traveling a lot that month and she went on three flights in a row and the middle seat was next to her empty next to her every single time and then her fourth flight there was somebody sitting in the middle seat but she decided to keep her belief strong she decided to hold it strong she's like I always have space and the person in the middle seat complained and they got moved it's not up to you to decide what is possible what is not possible all that is up to you is to decide what it is that you want and then believe in it you don't have to keep the same beliefs that you grew up with you can change them and one more thing about beliefs all beliefs are limiting beliefs every single belief that you have is a limiting belief because it limits you to something it puts you in a box and so really the work is deciding what box do you want to be in which box do you want to be limited to and then wire beliefs into your brain that limit you to that box I've completely changed my life rewiring my beliefs I went from having such a scarcity mindset and living that way to rewiring and doing shadow work on and removing all the limiting beliefs and putting in new limiting beliefs that limit me to better financial status completely changing my life in so many areas through wiring new beliefs into my brain number six is that you should romanticize your own experience make everything a vibe make everything a movie scene make everything feel fun don't just sit down and read your book sit down light a candle play music that matches the vibe of the book you're reading maybe put even on a little or a lamp I have this lamp that projects a cool like colorful or onto the wall do it all make everything an experience because that is exactly what it is that's what you're here to do to experience life so how can you make living your life the best experience that you possibly can I'm over here I like to have three different drinks when I sit down three different drinks nice all comfy pillow you know what what do I need right what romanticize your own existence I like to drive in the car drive down the road and I'm just imagine I'm in a movie whatever it is this is something that personally I like to do romanticize everything obviously like you're you're not going to remember to do it all the time or maybe you are not going to limit you but whenever you can romanticize your own existence romanticize the experience like how can you make it an experience how can you make it like a movie how can you make what you're doing an absolute vibe how can you make it fun even with work how can you make it fun what can you do to make life more fun and make it feel like an experience worth experiencing how can you make doing your chores feel like an experience worth experiencing how can you romanticize it fun as a frequency fun as magnetic so many things have come to me in my life when I'm having fun fun is a major key to unlocking what you want I've had so many things come to me when I'm just having fun I do the work I set my mind right get my habits and routines in place and I get what I need to get done and then I allow myself to go have fun and also to have fun with the work make everything that you do the best experience possible try to make it more fun how can you incorporate fun into what you're doing more often and one more thing on this note of romanticizing your own existence recognize that you have no idea what's going to happen you have no idea what's going to happen next you wake up in the morning stop acting like you know stop acting like you just own this out today it's going to go just another day you had no idea stop getting up and stop acting like I'll just drive and know no you have no idea you're in a movie and for all you know there could be a huge plot twist today there could be some random unexpected blessing or opportunity landing in your lap today so start acting like it start getting prepared to be surprised by the unexpected blessings and opportunities coming your way and when you do that you open yourself up to them romanticize your own existence number seven protect your energy like it matters because it does do not surround yourself with people who drain you when you go out to eat with friends when you anytime honestly you spend time with anyone check in with yourself how do I feel how does my energy feel right now after this interaction do I feel drained do I feel energized and of course not every single time you talk to your friend they're going to be able to energize you sometimes they're going through something but I mean on average how do these people make you feel your energy is your currency it is the most important thing and so if there is a certain place or a certain person or a certain thing that you've noticed is draining your energy you better cut it out you better remove it your energy is one of the most important things in your life that's who you are you are divine life force energy in a human body so you better protect it boundaries I said I said this whenever I was back in the PhD to one of my friends when he was talking to be about his relationship and asking for advice and something I said to him was boundaries are sexy too protect yourself you don't have to cut people out but have boundaries have time limits I used to pick up the phone whenever people call I used to let people text me and be like hey it's urgent I used to allow that to slide if I'm in the middle of something if I'm known like I'll get to it when I when I am in the energetic place to get to it if I don't want to answer the phone I don't answer the phone but I want to talk I don't want to talk protect your energy and also let go of what does not serve you because as long as you keep people places behaviors that do not serve you or that don't align with your eyes timeline if you visualize the highest version of you and that version of you is not doing the thing that you're doing now or doesn't have the person in your life that you have now then it's time to let it go let go of what does not serve you because as long as you keep those things around you block your blessings you cannot level up from level 2 to level 3 as long as you are holding on to the characters and the behaviors of level 2 you can you have to let go you have to let go of the level 2 people places things behaviors that way you can move on to level 3 that doesn't mean that you're never going to see these people again it doesn't mean that you can't be friends with them anymore but it does mean that you should put up boundaries and you should do whatever it is that you need to do to move forward I'm a huge supporter of cutting people off or out of your life that don't serve you I've done this many times and then I have another thing where I don't cut them out but I love them from afar right that's having boundaries you can love people from afar you don't need to talk to them every day to love them you can still have that distance so that you're protecting your energy and then while you're loving them from afar maybe they're doing their own work and leveling up on their own and then you can be on the same level again and happily ever after right that's happened to me too I don't want to act like that's not possible that has happened to me as well I've had a friend that she was on a completely completely different page and I had a distance myself a bit because it was draining my energy and then you know in her own time she grew and now we're back on the same page again protect your energy like it matters because it does and you will experience huge shifts in your life when you do this because of course it's not just about your quote unquote energy it's also about your brain because your brain is rewired by your environment it's rewired by the people around you it's not just about your energy right like chemo signals are released into the air by people their emotions through chemical signals are released into the air and they impact you unconsciously your brain picks up on them so it's not just about your energy it's biological as well your brain is rewired by the people around you by your environment as long as you're continuing to do the old habits and activities and surrounding yourself with the same old people you're anchoring your brain to an old identity if you're anchoring your brain to an old identity then you're anchoring your brain to an old reality if you want to move and level up to a new reality you got to anchor your brain to something new number eight trust in divine timing but still take aligned action I find so much peace in trust and surrender when I first went off into my PhD program I had trust and surrender written on sticky notes all over the walls all over the doors trust and surrender trust and surrender it was a time of so much change so much uncertainty and trusting in the unfolding of my life trusting that I was on my highest timeline that I was on the path toward my highest good and the highest good of all trusting that everything works out the way that it is supposed to and surrendering to that there is so much peace in that but at the same time while you feel this peace and this trust in the unfolding of your life and you move with this trust right and experience this peace sorry to repeat myself but it's so real and it feels so good and I was at the gym a few days ago when I was working out and I all of a sudden this feeling is overwhelming feeling of surrenders over came me I was like damn it feels so good to surrender and to release the grip and the control that you try to keep on your life and on things feels so good to just let go and at the same time know it is important to take a line to action it is important to put yourself on the path toward your highest good and the highest good of all and so yes trust in divine timing trust that everything that is for you will before you and you won't miss it trust that everything happens the way that it's supposed to and it's always working out in your favor trust that know that surrender to the flow but also take inspired action take action I don't I'm not one to force not one to push I know there are people that are that do that and that's our thing and if that's our thing and you like to force and push things and do that but I'm not one to force I am one to act on inspiration and really move when I feel excited and when I feel called and lit up to do something that's when I know that I meant to do it and so trust in divine timing but also take aligned action number nine do not fear being misunderstood do not fear being misunderstood being misunderstood is the tax that you pay for authenticity and you should pay it proudly you should make it a goal that people don't understand you you should be so yourself that people do not understand you because that's how you know that you are moving in a way where what is meant for you and what is going to be aligned with you and for your highest good will find you if you are not being a hundred percent you if you're not being true to who you really are if you're not expressing yourself to the absolute fullest and being the unique expression of life that you are then how are things that are really a true match for you going to find you and so you should be the most extreme version of yourself in the best way possible like I have a goal of being weirder like I want to be weirder I want to be even weirder than I was yesterday I want to be even more alien than I've ever been because that's me being the true is version of myself and are there going to be people that misunderstand me absolutely are there going to be people that judge me that don't like me absolutely that's the tax that you pay for being authentic and you should pay it proudly because that's how you actually attract the people into your life that are meant for you and that are aligned with you that's not not only even the people but the opportunities as well you know if you want to use the analogy of content creation they always say like you need to be very unique and have a niche and you know what take that or don't take it but you know having a niche helps you be brandable helps you to create your brand it helps you to stand out it helps other people to resonate with you it helps other people to know what they're getting from you and it helps people that also like your niche to find you and so you can take that and extrapolate it and apply it to your life like be niche be you be yourself that's the best way to be so do not fear being misunderstood if anything that's a good thing I mean you're not you're not meant for everyone you didn't come here to this planet to be for everyone you don't like everyone anyway so why do you want everybody else to like you just doesn't make sense and number 10 remember that you are the lightning bolt so many people I'm gonna tell you what that means in a second but so many people move through life waiting on something outside of them to give them permission they wait for luck or an opportunity or a sign or numbers or you know a person to tell them something or validation to do whatever it is that they want to do you don't need a wait for permission you don't need to wait for validation you don't need a sign you all you need is your own interknowing and to validate that to validate your own intuition remember that you are the lightning bolt and I'm gonna tell you what I mean now so way back in the early days of my journey I had a DMT experience and I'll probably share the details of that in another episode when I talk about different spiritual experiences that changed my life but I had a DMT experience and long story short I had a white hot lightning bolt strike through me charge me up know that I'm divinely guided and protected and that I am a divine life force energy in a human body and ever since then and it charged me up it literally electrocuted me and ever since then when I'm in meditation I've been able to activate this lightning bolt and strike it through my body down to from the center of the universe down through my body into the center of the earth and it makes me feel very grounded it makes me feel very connected and it makes me feel very divinely guided and protected and charged up and I've always been able to do that and there was a period of time where I really wasn't I think it was about a year ago when I was feeling disconnected from the lightning bolt and I would meditate and I would struggle to activate that lightning bolt and I like activating the lightning bolt because it charges me up my whole body starts vibrating when I do it in meditation and it feels good it's very energizing and I couldn't do it and I was like well I need to reconnect to the lightning bolt and after some introspection and time I came to the realization that I was trying to activate some lightning bolt or call it from above down through my body into the center of the earth but I didn't realize or maybe what I forgot was that I am the lightning bolt I am the lightning bolt the lightning bolt is me I am divine life force energy in a human body I don't need to call in a lightning bolt from outside of me I am that it comes from within me I am the power I am the magic I am divine and when I realized that immediately my next meditation I was able to activate my lightning bolt again and I think that was the next level of evolution after the first time the second time losing it right and finding it again it gives you a new level of knowledge that you didn't have before and that's true for many things in life but that is number 10 you are the lightning bolt you are the power you are the sign you are the validation you are the angel numbers you don't need to wait on the perfect time to start you don't need to wait on anything outside of you to change because you are the only thing that you need those are my 10 principles and they are ever evolving and changing as one does and so I hope these help you I hope you took what resonated and left what did not to quote number one I hope you have a great rest of your day a great rest of your week and I will see you in the next episode bye