Mugshot Lace

Hey, hey now, welcome back to the podcast. I am D'Angelo. And I am Miss Major, and this is The Read. Thank you for coming back. It is, indeed. We've got the usual lined up for you, starting with some Black Excellence, and we are going to be getting Black Excellence over to, first, I'll just mention the now, unfortunately, late D'Angelo, who just passed away, I think I saw yesterday. um yeah r&b soul great amazing voice amazing performer and iconic as a sex symbol if you don't know you better ask somebody so yeah we're losing a lot of of great artists right off the top of the year too because diane keaton died too and i'm like oh not my white auntie yeah um and miss majors was like a true trans icon like a real revolutionary like was there the night of stonewall and everything if you don't know her story you should go look it up but she just died two days ago so it's just it's been a rough week it's like damn death you really coming for everybody but them niggas in that one house that we pointed out like i feel like we were so close and yet you keep coming for the girls nobody asked you to touch so yeah it's been it's been a rough few days the d'angelo stuff i mean i just couldn't believe it like i was just i was floored like i i was like nah y'all are lying like i'm wait i'm gonna wait for like additional confirmation etc like i just really could not believe that that just blew me he was only 51 yeah crazy cancer sucks um but we uh honor and thank them for their contributions to blackness and excellence and advancement and uh before i move on i will also give a mention to the unstoppable coco goff who uh just earned this is her 11th career single title oh at the wuhan open in china where she is the 2025 champion okay so um i don't know where you're gonna put this uh trophy girl do are you just gonna get storage are you gonna get like a secret department in the house because wow what a winner but congratulations to you i hope that you had a uh good and safe black time in china mm-hmm and i'll see you in the next one bye bye bye bye and uh yeah congratulations tennis diva yeah okay let's get into some uh pop culture in a second we call high tops i don't think i have a lot this week and i'm not complaining about it it is a mess well okay but you know that that's fine that's fine what's on the docket so um adonis daddy was grinning and bearing it at his eighth birthday which looks cute and fun uh this comes not long after uh reports that a court threw out that universal music group lawsuit that drake was was trying to power forward uh u.s district judge jeanette vargas said that kendrick lamar said that he's not going to be able to do it because he's not going to be able to do it because he's not going to be able to do it because he's not going to be able to do it this track uh was a non-actionable opinion that can't be considered defamatory and uh essentially girl yeah get over it yeah so that's pretty much i think where they left that yeah it was both of y'all was talking shit you said some shit about that man as well you made allegations um anybody can tell this is his opinion and so the average person would not i don't know what you get out but i don't know what you get out of my face with want us to do yeah about it which i think we all saw coming it was just such a white man move to take this to the courts in the first place it was just i honestly thought it was going to be like they're going to settle like universe he's like oh i got some tea on them and i'm going to make these bitches settle just because of pettiness girl baby universal said i think the fuck not those white people say look mudblood you don't come over here not you hit him where it hurts i'm so sorry jesus christ you know that's how they i mean anyways yeah no i know what you meant but yeah they said no we pay these attorneys a lot of money to to work 24 7 and we're not backing down from this you know what i mean so this is stupid this is yeah and you begged for it you were talking time and time again to leave that man alone and you were goading him where you at kendrick you still ain't dropped kendrick well you scared well you literally begged for this shit you begged for it nigga so sit there and take it you lost it every conceivable way judge probably said girl get out my face not like us was track folk like you kept playing the game you did until we got to this particular song and so i just can't stress what you want me to do we all remember you being told to let it go to leave it when j cole was like you know what actually my bad kendrick i thought we were all having fun and playing little jokes and games and you know just being mirthful and full of glee you know i thought this was whimsical never mind that was your sign right then to leave it alone you should have backed the fuck off you literally invited the fight you can't be mad you got your ass beat i just i don't even know how like i i don't know what the opposite of this would have been but the opposite of this decision would have been like yeah sure let's go forward and because of what like i don't know what they would have picked out it is to been like yeah you have a point here i thought it was going to be some like you know some insidious record label cigar smoking dubious thing oh yeah on the back ends that we don't know about like perhaps one of them did say at the strip club to another suit we're gonna get that mud blood and we're gonna send him to azkaban yeah i'm just kidding can say i can it's in the book yeah well maybe he thought you know they you know the whole umg is using bots wasn't that part of the argument or something like that like they were using bots to artificially inflate the song's popularity and they were like why did you think that when you could not step outside in no hood without hearing that song for like four and a half months solid nigga you could not go nowhere and then it was all back up again like every public the kids the kids library oh my god children love that it was all over everything everybody knew that fucking song nuns was doing parodies libraries was doing parodies of that song nigga it wasn't bots it was legit that popular the pediatrician's office the optometrist like it's just a very popular song or what do you want it was it was just that good the beat was incredible and he came for your ass he out rapped you like he always does i and as we've said three dozen times that was the victory lap he like that wasn't even the that wasn't like the knife in the gun oh no it wasn't have you heard the other pieces of music right euphoria and instagrams would have been enough to have me on suicide watch if i was you baby euphoria was so cold-blooded 616 in la you you know i the song he dedicated every verse to members of your family to tell them how trash you are come on come on yeah so adonis's cake looks yummy he got a little black haircut now i did i saw him at his party with yes with his parents i can't believe that child is already eight that's so crazy to me but i did see that drake's lawyers put out a statement talking about we are gonna appeal like y'all just gonna keep taking that man's money okay of course why won't like are you not embarrassed are you not like as drake you well yeah he is so then cut your just cut your losses nigga yeah that's what i would suggest now you lost i feel like this was probably a really tone-deaf response to his embarrassment. Oh, got you, yeah. And I think people like yourself, people like myself, were saying, hey, this will make it worse. Right. Just leave it alone. Like, you should have dropped that lawsuit a week after it came out that you filed it. And then we probably would have forgot by now that you even filed it. So many opportunities, yeah. Just leave it alone. Yeah, leave it alone. You keep picking at the scab, it won't heal. Like you said, lawyers probably will just jump right out of bed immediately and be like, well, we're going to appeal, unless you say, no, thank you. I'm guessing, I don't know. I feel like he has to tell them that he wants to appeal, because appealing is more money. Like, you have to be directed to bill me again, do you not? I don't know, maybe an attorney will jump in and let us know. But I don't think the attorneys can say they're going to appeal without him having given the guns. Yeah, let us know, attorneys. I feel like that's probably correct. But I'm just, like, I see it happen so often that attorneys just turn right back around and like, oh, we're going to appeal. But I feel like maybe your legal team will go, let's appeal for this. And then you agree, I guess. But either way, to your point, it's still just like, why wouldn't Drake go, no thanks, it's actually fine. I've actually been publicly humiliated for the last year. And paying you for it. Because when the lawyer, and the lawyer, and the lawyer, and the lawyer, and the lawyer, the anniversary of Not Like Us came out, of course, everybody was talking about it again and reposting all the reaction videos and all this shit. It's like, it will not go away. You have to let it go, nigga. You just lost. You didn't even get to walk away with this. Walk away with, like, a chicken bake from Costco. Not like a, not like a gift card to Panera Bread. Like, you just didn't. Yeah, you really are. Like, I would not appeal anything but my thoughts. Like, bitch. Right. Girl. I'm going to talk to your journal about it, because you. Hello. Everybody at the Grammys was singing that shit. Everybody at the Grammys singing A minor. That, that. Drake probably got a journal with a lock and key. There's no reason for you tonight. The safest place to put your thoughts. He got one of them old school journals. Yeah. Yeah. The little electronic ones where you have to say something for it to open. Right. You, like, push a little button and you say, like, nice for what? And it clicks out. Like, that's what you need. Because. Something. Figure it out, baby. It's over. It really is. But look right here again to this homegrown Jamaican young man that you are the father of. That is your world. And really something positive in the world. Look at the center of your life. Eight years old. Looking like Steph Curry already. Throwing up signs like Ibram. I'm a little confused. But at least he has some sort of proximity to his nigginess. And that's lovely. His mother looks like a mom. They're cutting this Western cake. I'm not really sure where the Western theme came from. But they're smiling. It's a Cowboy Carter themed birthday party. Sure. Sure. He loved the show. Yeah, he had a great time. And this is cute. So, I like this as a little button so far on everything that's going on. Him with his baby and mommy's there and then look happy. And this actually looks like. Well, I can't really tell how many people are there. But it looks like it was like a cute, maybe a little intimate thing. So, be grown and successful and an icon and a dad. And maybe ask yourself some tough questions. Or your therapist. Right. I pray you all. About how this went. Because, baby, when I tell you that that man. That man named Duckworth? Ain't you allowed. Baby girl, he dug deep into the root. So, you're going to have to ask some questions probably about mommy. Probably about. Definitely about daddy. My. You know, my first thought when I saw Adonis' birthday party was when Kendrick called Adonis a black man. I mean, well, look at him. That's a black kid right there. This nigga look like Tyreek Withers. In Atlanta. Wait, no, he. No, he really kind of do. I mean, I'm just. Oh, God. Let it go, Drew. The good for him. You can't tell Tyreek Withers he ain't black. Matter of fact, I just watched the I Know What You Did last summer remake. I think in the past week. Had no idea he's in that too. And. Okay. He plays like. Did you ever see the original I Know What You Did last summer? Of course. So, he plays kind of like a. Kind of like Ryan Phillippe's. How Ryan Phillippe was kind of like a. Jock asshole. Little bit of mess. He was kind of like that. But his character's dad is the mayor. The dad's white. His mom's this black lady who they gave a terrible wig to. Okay. So, I was like, is it. Was it just giving casting because he's mixed or whatever? That man is smoking a blunt. He's making sure y'all know. Like, everybody else is smoking a joint. He dropped a blunt at some point. He said, you owe me another blunt. Like, he's. I feel like he injected that in there. I don't feel like he was written. That nigga knows who he is. He said, no. And Adonis. Give me a black parent. Don't play with me. Oh, Adonis. I'm telling you. Adonis is from Spanish time. Adonis might be from Kingston. You know, that's. Yeah. I'm not even going to try. Every time I try to do a Jamaican accent, you get that look on your face. So, I'm going to just leave it alone. You know how I feel about it. But I felt motivated for a second. Tyreek was showing with it. If I saw Daveed Diggs at Gelson's, I'd confront him. I'm joking. I'm joking. That man would say, do you know how much money I got paid to do that Disney movie? Get out of my fucking face. Absolutely. Just thrust his shopping cart into my. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Thanks for the feedback, nigga. Bye. Right. Speaking of fathers, DDG has a new song out called 17 More Years. Would you like to guess what it's about? I think I know. I think I know. Yeah? I think, I mean. 17 More Years of having to be involved with Halle Bailey because the two of you share DNA in the form of that precious baby. Maybe Halo? NBC, tell her what she's won. 17 more years. Oh, God. Let me. It is the most downtrodden, off-key-ass song from this nigga who has been giving the ghost. When I tell you Hallie Elizabeth Marie Patrice Bailey has not said shit to this nigga. Like, he is dark. Dark. Well, like, sad. Just out in the hills somewhere, in his closet at home, just singing and opining about how she won't pick up the phone. You're such a great mother. How did we get to this place? I want to see my son grow. I feel like if you could just, if we could just talk, we could fix this. I still have love for you. I wish you didn't get to this place. I didn't get to a lyric where there was, like, accountability, and possibly the fact that she's not picking up the phone has something to do with the fact that you abused her. But it was very, like, I miss my baby, and you're so awesome, and T, and I just want to be friends. Let's talk. And I finished that shit. I was like, I hope that Hallie pays him a lump sum of dust. What the hell? I just Googled the lyrics. First of all, if this is an album cover, single cover, I don't know. But it looks like Halo. Maybe it's DDG's baby picture, but it's fucking adorable, whoever it is. It's probably Halo. Because the whole thing is, yeah, we got 17 more years. Yeah, so I get that. But I do see a line here about, I'm happy for you and whoever that you with, long as he can treat you better than I did. So maybe that. Yeah, I saw that part. That was the best line. Okay. Yeah, that was the best line. This is basically, girl, we should just let this go. I'm tired of paying for lawyers. We got 17 more years. So we might as well just be friends. And if we talk, it'll get better. It's a lot of, why do I have to talk to the judge? Yeah. Well, nah, nigga. You know, and I'm not sure. Of course he did. Of course he did this because Halle has an album coming out. And one thing he wants to do is sabotage this girl's big moments. He's psycho. I literally, I think I. Leave her alone. I watched this and I was shaking my head and laughing. Like, what is this supposed to do? For. You know what it gave to me? Just a sniff. Okay. Offset and that cake and them Publix Mylar balloons. Yeah. Come on up on set. How, if I was even, possibly, partially, maybe, sort of in a position to hear what you had to say. Yeah. This would not be the way to say it. Get out my face. like it's what yeah i pray hallie is in her group chat laughing with her friends over that shit i do too not taking this it sounds like that's what she's into now amen this gave how do i get this lady's attention right and every other line was can i message whatsapp yeah skype clarna yeah what can i like i'm sending cash out any cash out anything youtube reels how can we do this because i've never heard i haven't heard you i heard from you in the longest so sweet babes i wonder why after you leaked those text messages from her and made fun of her for being postpartum and i see you snuck in a line about her being a good mom after them insinuations of that like halo wasn't safe with her and all that other shit after you said all that shit about me regarding like me as a person and then me as a mother as well bitch is up forever like we don't have nothing else to talk about text that lawyer and tell that lawyer to email my lawyer and that'll be how we communicate nigga period period i'll gladly pay them attorneys for the next 17 years if it mean i don't have to look at you and your dumb ass face no more this would have been better ddg and i mean this like this is the realest of my black heart that you or any nigga like you is gonna get right this song would have been better served if it were directed at you and not directed at hot a heli well because she don't have nothing to do with making a difference here you need to be asking yourself questions you need to demand be demanding stuff out of yourself you need to be doing the work so that the judge and the court and so on and so forth doesn't have to be involved hallie's not the reason that that's the case you are you already admitted on one line like risa said oh i hope that whatever do that you're with can be better to you than i did so you know that you fucked up right figure that out singing and opining to this lady about picking up the phone and possibly not having to go to court and coming over to the house to pick up the baby and all this that ain't got shit to do with sam and like i said i hope she ignores the fuck out your ass write a song to you because you the problem not her don't get it get him again and we this that could almost been t i ain't seen him grow up at all since i was first introduced to him through hallie like i have not seen him mature publicly at all from you being jealous and throwing fits over her being in a movie and kissing another man like she's not fucking acting did you know the girl was an entertainer did you know this is do you know it's just pretend it's just pretend they there's cameras and a set and 900 people there it's it's all make-believe but that sort of change i don't think it's a change i don't think it's a change i don't think it's a change that he was exhibiting then this is the same thing just in song form and i you can't convince me that it's not that it don't have everything to do with that girl having an album coming out 100 it's just a different facet of the same rock it's like a girl like it's the same shit you're completely correct her alone you if you had treated that girl right i'm sure y'all would still be together to this day that's a fact so like you just said he needs to you really have got to sit down and examine yourself flaunting all the hoes and all this other all the shit you did nigga there ain't no way no we not finna just say fuck it and you can come over and cut the birthday cake with us because we got 17 more years anyway so i might as well let you around to drive me the fuck crazy no like are you stupid what the fuck are you talking about what that'll sound good nigga delete this you fuck can you imagine i just had the penny as just penny's vision of him sending her the video and saw what it she finally responds after like seven months it just says delete as funny as that is and i do love it you know i hope it doesn't happen right it was a funny if you respond to niggas it don't matter what you say the fact that you responded is all that matters say it again that you can say nigga fuck you and your mom i hope all of y'all burn alive and a nigga would be like so i have a chance because you can put an eye roll emoji tears of the kingdom a whole journey like it's like oh an adventure thank you yeah they're gonna say so the door is open so the door yes yeah niggas yes any communication as a sign that now if i just collect enough corox yeah yeah i just go do this and that then i can get this bitch back child i hope her and chloe had a good long nasty cackle about it they probably was drinking organic natural wine and shit that orange wine shit and just cracking up i hope they did fuck you go run around with your hoes go you know stream on twitch or whatever the fuck it is you do and leave that lady alone is nikki minaj really having financial issues it seemed like it don't it so i've seen rumors about this kind of stuff for a while but i kind of pay it because most of the time i just see it on twitter and stuff and i'm like y'all could just be saying whatever the fuck um but us weekly posted some story about that guy that uh sued him and he was like i don't know what to do with it i don't know what to do with it i don't know what to do with it i don't know what to do with it i don't know what to do with it and he sued nikki and her husband over an alleged assault uh a couple years ago 2019 he was we mentioned it he was like i think security or something at at a show and had an incident where he said by the end of it uh can this knock off and punched him and he had to go get yeah surgery for his jaw all kinds of stuff he awarded uh half a million dollars a little over half a million dollars hasn't been paid yet why the fuck not i don't know i don't know if it's 2019 um he don't know either he's pissed and over it so he has now moved to i guess have the courts force nikki to sell her mansion in los angeles i believe right now she's in new york in her at her home there uh but yeah they're just kind of they then went into like all the legal and real life stuff and they're just kind of like they're just kind of estate jargon but it sounds like based upon the value of the home uh and what is otoom what they would get for selling the property is basically would give them the money for this man thomas wyden muller okay yeah yeah to receive his his payment or whatever he says that it's been forever and ever ago countless um back and forth and leans and this and that and third and they still haven't gotten paid so he want his money yeah he wanted nikki to stop sitting down and playing about it and now i guess we'll see how uh this works because i guess the court can can the court make you so i guess i don't know how that works but yeah uh well i would think yeah i guess what happens there why why wasn't a check generated and mailed to that man or a wire transfer like why wasn't this handled within a month of the judgment coming out that's what i don't understand but tiktok very quickly showed me nikki's tweets afterwards where she was irate share some of them oh so she got on twitter pissed so this might have been before nikki's tweets but she got on twitter pissed so this might have been before nikki's tweets before the us weekly i saw it on us weekly you said i mean not us weekly page six um but but they basically ran the same story about nikki's house and that's when i was like okay that might be legit because normally names like page six and us weekly don't get involved in like stan rumors but um first she confirmed she sort of confirmed that cardi was right when cardi was like you be in that house coked up that man drugs you and leaves you unconscious in the basement and then go off and spend all your money she confirmed that all that was true when she started posting i saw that on her ig yes on her instagram story she posted a bunch of transactions from her mx from like over the past few months five thousand dollars here four thousand dollars there eight thousand seven thousand etc etc um talking about three different people in a span of two months have been charging her mx without permission and some of them couldn't explain how they got the money and some of them couldn't explain how they got the new card number and it's like well a couple of them have been doing it for years filed the first report a couple weeks ago they're all going to jail a fourth person has been stealing from the barbs oh sitting here smelling like pink friday two fragrance nothing like like a hot shower to put everything into perspective oh my i just want to like so cardi was correct you don't know what's going on with that card you just be in that house out your fucking mind on whatever substances wild and talking about that they can't explain how they got the new card number cardi told you how they got the new card number that man you're married to is ruining your fucking life now why she posted all of that on her instagram story i swear to god i'll never understand why would you one of the credit card thieves has also been tracking my moves with a tracking device that led right to my own right to his own cell phone number how did they get that close to you sweetie just just take the thought process one step further it's that man how did they even get that close to you take the thought process just step just one inch further man i want you to keep thinking for half a minute who else would have that sort of access to you okay okay okay okay now what is that just think one just one more step it's right there all you have to do is look at it god it's that man yeah no say like it's something i've been thinking been thinking something was wrong with her but you basically posted proof that cardi was right that not only do that man be spending your money and doing what the fuck ever he wants to with the other niggas be buying a hood but then they turn around and they go tell your biggest fucking op about it like you i'm not even gonna front when even when she said that when cardi said whatever like he'd be buying the hood chains or whatever he's taking your car to do whatever whatever i'm like okay that sounds like stan rumors too it'll be true i'm not gonna whatever baby real it was correct it was accurate and it was real cardi was like what the fuck you think them hood niggas do they go back to the hood yes and run they mouth how do you think i know this right how else would i know it girl i'm worried because i'm like what is the nature of her relationship with this nigga on a day-to-day basis i i don't think anybody well i don't know who all could answer the question that question but it's certainly not me what i do know is that i hope she's at least safe after she did all this nikki posted having your husband greater than having tea which oh wait that so she you know the greater than sign yeah no but i don't understand what she means i think she means having a husband is better than having tea on somebody but that really depends on the husband like your husband really does your husband i'm gonna say no because the tea is about your man it's about your man and so i don't get it the next the next tweet was let this be a gym you fair you cherish forever satisfying your husband multiple greater than signs stalking someone else's marriage and then she put the march 27 2026 for the new album and then she wrote knowing peace greater than knowing tea i don't think you have peace or tea you it seems like you are in in you are disheveled and in disarray and so then she starts talking she starts threatening um something about y'all are every time cock nation's in the news for something they don't want you to know a few things will happen will smith will appear i don't think you have peace or tea you famous person dies and then people will start to say nasty things about the queen and then jay-z lace z will pop up looking dumb it's weird like i don't i think it's mental illness and drugs real bad because then she started talking about god is in control and your numbers have been called with these screenshots about i don't know where the fuck she got this from but yeah she thanked trump she said flattering photos are allowed to be posted of me again thanks potus epiphany had politicians thinking she would lead them to the next level to a victory had live nation thinking she knew her shit lol how much money did vp harris have stacked up for her campaign again yikes which i don't even understand what the fuck is she talking about oh man and then she got back on jay-z and desiree and then she posted a picture of her and that man talking about it's dangerous to mistake respect for fear i don't okay um yeah and so then she talked about this whole 500 000 to this man and said i have evidence that this was given to a business manager who never told me which what are you talking about never told you what he get what are you saying and then said that same business manager stole from her and then he was accused of killing somebody and leaving them in a hotel room and then she started reposting the barbs because they were like y'all are always coming for our queen this is just like when y'all tried to kill jesus and then nikki said they don't want her to put out music because they know how great her next album is gonna be and so every time she wins yes she's literally just saying any fucking thing told us weekly and page six that they fuck themselves i don't know if she's gonna sue behind that i imagine page six and us weekly again have legal teams they don't just post any old fucking thing like sue you for what for saying like for reporting the news and then it's back to jay-z and desiree perez talking about how they came and begged the queen for a tour and an album and they needed help from her and the barbs and she called the barbs on the secret barb phone and the barb said no just like what she said she called the barbs on the secret barb phone mr evil i was thinking of uh charlie's angels you know how charlie's angels would talk oh yeah oh : um and then she said she's not putting the album out no more and : what : okay you know what actually is a little alarming : that was all just this morning that was all from like 2 a.m to 10 a.m this morning : i : my nigga , it's alarming though that we haven't or i haven't seen or heard of her tweeting something like x has been trying to get me off twitter or has been trying to take my phone or my my wopty wop for me but i'm not going for it like that would it would track but it would also say someone is going hey girl enough of that like we can turn and this isn't it yeah like when kanye was like john legends texting me asking me what's going on and if i could get off and that because it was like well he tried and everybody was like okay so it's one real nigga in kanye's life if it's one real nigga trying to get you off this fucking internet yeah no i haven't either and it may be that there is nobody that close to her it may be that she's just not telling us about it but people are begging her to leave it alone but either way she sounds more and more unhinged every time she logs on it's really not looking good for that girl like i and until you let go of that man and go take care of your mental health It will get worse. I truly believe that. Yeah. Yeah. It's no reason for me not to believe everything Cardi said at this point. I don't have no reason to doubt anything Cardi said about you at this point. Because she clocked her shit so hard, you then posted about it and told everybody else. Which, again, I don't know why you gave the carbs that ammunition. I don't know why you gave Cardi that validation. Cardi Walters. Cardi Jennings in this bitch. Cardi and Sawyer. Cardi Winfrey. Oh, God. Yeah. It's really Southern wrong with that lady. It's really, yeah. And the barbs, they sticking behind her. But, yeah, as of right now, no more album coming in March. Which I don't think there ever was an album. You just said that because that girl was getting attention. I do believe you said that because that girl was getting attention. And I think you even believed you could do it. And you could. March is far away. But I just don't think that you genuinely wanted to. I don't think that you wanted to. I think you were just being petty. I don't think you're mentally in a space right now to make an album. Not a good one. Right. It's hard for me to even get excited about it. Because I'm like, what is it going to sound like? Every day you're talking about, you know, all of these people within the industry that you hate. But you're saying it like a Tolkien book. Like, you're saying it like a Tolkien book. You're saying it like, you're narrating this shit like Gandalf the Grey. Like, why are you talking about the fucking Eye of Sauron and how when, you know, Papa Bear is a prophet and he speaks to God and that's how you know that you are so anointed. And we're supposed to believe you connect to your right mind. That everything you say is right. It's just, okay. All right. Yeah. I want you to be, especially because considering the fact that this non-dressing, random, who-the-fuck-shot-John-ass-nigger-from-New-York-that-cane-dress, and I still have not been given. I still have not been given an understanding of what it is that he does for money. You remember I Googled it. This is the one. He takes that Amex. At the center. Yeah, it's him. I hate that for you. Two of them, a couple of them, couldn't even explain how they got the new card number. I can. I can tell you how they got it. Matter of fact, I won't even tell you. Here's a tweet. If Kenneth has it, then I know how they have it. Papa Bear is not giving it out. I almost said something so terrible. God forgive me. God forgive me. Because I don't even like making jokes like that. God forgive me. Last but not least, Wendy and Eddie Osefo. I thought you was going to say Wendy Williams. That's right. This housewife's mess. Ugh. I just. So, Wendy Osefo is a member of the Rojas Wives Potomac cast. She's a doctor. Her husband, Eddie, is a lawyer. They're considered two of the more accomplished cast members of the group. And. I've always felt Wendy's had a sort of elitist tone to her approach on the show. Yep. And for that very reason. And as the franchise has gone on, I took a break from Housewives and shit. But I literally. Last week or whatever, TV was on Bravo and I saw that their new season was coming up that night. When I turned it on, it was on the finale of the last season. Where someone was having, like, a. Someone was having a charity thing for dogs. Or, like, an adopting thing for dogs. Oh! It was very, very cute. It was also hilarious because during the middle of one of the speeches, one of the puppies just started shitting. Just started shitting. That's what they do. That is what they do. That's what they do. They're puppies. That's so disrespectful. Oh, more on that later. They just started shitting. The people in that establishment reacted like it was World War Z. Oh, God. I'm talking about people in gowns running around. Karen is bent over the trash can in the kitchen throwing up. What? Like, they were not prepared to see dog shit, I guess, at the dog function. It was the funniest thing I've ever seen. Anyway. It takes. From that. 30 seconds to clean up and disinfect from a dog. From a dog shit. Like, it's not that big of a deal. Why are y'all tripping? They were running like the end of Avengers Infinity War. Like, the shit was gonna grow legs and chase them. Like. Yes! Somebody will pick it up in a sanitary way and then bleach that shit and then wipe it up and it's fine. Everybody calm down. Oh, my God. It was so funny. You bitches have got to simmer down. It was so. What did you think was gonna happen? An event with live puppies. Right. Well, dog was just like, I don't know what you do. Pup, hello, pup. They were probably 12 weeks or so. Like, they sound little, but regardless. Okay. So, y'all overreacted, but all right. They did. They did. Okay. From there to the little, I think, three-part reunion in the premiere, I, who hadn't been watching for a while, was like, oh, when did he kind of get on my nerves? She's kind of. She's glossed up in her, like, housewife-ism, hair, makeup, dress, gown, jewelry. But, like, I don't like her little attitude now in the way that. Damn. Girl, a day and a half later, lace lifted in a mugshot. So. I said, damn. Wendy and her husband have both been arrested on felonies. The girlies say that she and her husband reported several of their items stolen during a burglary that allegedly never took place. And, in fact, that the police were able to. They were able to locate the supposedly stolen goods. Right on the Osefo's actual living room. The Osefo's actual living person. They said that one of the rings that Wendy claimed was stolen, they spotted right on her damn finger on her social media. They went down to the home, investigated the home, and found several pieces of jewelry, expensive handbags that they also claimed had been stolen. Oh, and they locked those good girlies right on up. They gave them a $50,000 bond. Since then, they've been released. We will see what they do with the girlies since. It is also said that Eddie will likely lose his license to practice law. Sure. It is said that Wendy is also no longer a professor at Wesleyan University, despite having been in the classroom just one day before getting arrested. So I guess they'll be getting a new teacher soon, or that class might just get thrown out. And, um. Yeah, I think that's about what I've got on updates since. Now, when I first saw this, I gagged. I really was like, how are the girls still frauding out on Bravo? How? Y'all keep getting caught going to jail. It's every franchise. They have at least one girl doing something extremely shady and illegal and going to jail. On yours, bitch, Karen just got out for a DUI. At least that was DUI. I mean, it's trifling. Yeah, it was. It was still bad, yeah. But it's not theft. How are you, like, not, woo, let me just stay a good distance from crime? Yeah. Yeah. Especially with all the bragging that Wendy did about, you know, them degrees, child. She would not let you forget how many degrees she had. That's what I'm saying. Dr. Wendy, and do not leave the doctor off. You know, I've seen a lot of TikToks of people kind of exploring this with a lot of nuance. Like, some people were saying, you know, as a child of immigrants, there's a lot of pressure to be, like, the best so your parents can brag on you. And also to take care of your parents financially, to send money back home, all this. And so it got to a point where Wendy couldn't keep up with the appearances in Potomac or Potomac adjacent, because I guess you don't even live in Potomac. But she couldn't keep. But she couldn't keep up with, you know, what she felt like was pressure from being on the show and the pressure from her family and all this. So they got to this point. I also saw some people, mainly attorneys, saying it's very common for super rich people or people who have super expensive jewelry pieces to get, like, duplicates, like, fakes made of certain stuff that you wear out in public. But the real thing you save for, like, you know, when you go to classy shit. But so I was like, OK, so it's possible. It's possible that what she's wearing is like a duplicate of her ring and her ring really was stolen. What got me was when the police was like, yeah, we went out to investigate and there were absolutely no signs of a break in. That's our problem. They have cameras. Ain't nobody on the cameras. There's nothing on the cameras. There's no room in the house that's touched except the bedroom. The bedroom is completely ransacked, but there's no forced entry. It's like, and y'all are way up in the middle of fucking nowhere. Like, who drove all the way out there and didn't show up on security cameras? Didn't force their way in, but stole all of this stuff out of your home. Like, how can that be? That's what got the police suspicious. And then I guess they also said that Eddie had emailed or they were mailing back and forth with the email. The email is probably the worst part. The email where he was like, what else can we add to the list to get the number up? Like, oh, God damn Christ. What kind of lawyer does? I. That you you deserve to you deserve to be disbarred. You deserve to lose your license if for no other reason than that is the single dumbest fucking move a lawyer could possibly make. Aren't you married to this woman? Why wouldn't you whisper it to her when y'all were in bed together at night? Why would you say that? I heard so many. It's not making sense. Yeah. So, I mean, I also don't I don't keep up with Potomac. Them light skin. green-eyed bitches got on my nerves a long time ago. So I don't I more brown girls down and which is great, but it sounds like it's the same shit. Yeah, it sounds like. What I've heard from people who are heavy into the show is that Wendy had a big shift from her first season to her second season, and she went and got her body done and she started dressing more like it just, you know, like brand new closet, everything designer, nothing but wigs and, you know, cutesy little Gucci pieces and the cutest little heels. And, you know, just dressing like a socialite and all this. But I don't know if that, excuse me, is really aligned with, you know, her true character, who she really is, or if she felt like, oh, I'm a housewife. Now I want to look the part and do all this other stuff. I don't really know what. That's my guess. Right. I mean, maybe it would just be a damn shame if you threw away all of this. For for what? For what other people might think of you? Hard work. An accomplishment. Right. Like you, you, you were constantly bragging you and your husband between the two of you have like seven degrees or whatever. I why wasn't that enough? Me and my two degrees isn't even without my degrees. Me and my accomplishments are enough. I don't need to prove shit to nobody else. I don't need to impress not nan one of you bitches. I'm me. It ain't nothing else to say. Like the the resume speaks for itself. What are you talking about? I really don't. But, you know, that's a that's an expensive, painful, embarrassing lesson to learn this publicly, especially because, girl, this much money, this many felonies. It sounds like y'all going to prison. And at that. No, it sounds like y'all are going. It really does sound like prison time awaits you and your husband. What your children. I can't fathom what those kids. First thing I thought of. Will be experiencing. Had being humiliated like this because of their parents decisions. It's just a lot. I don't know. It's a lot to consider. Again, I barely even am aware of this girl, but this has been everywhere because everybody like you said is gagged. Everybody cannot believe that Wendy is the one who got caught up in this type of shit. I would tell like it was like whiplash crystal because they it the last time I remember watching Potomac was around the time. That they really pissed me off. Like you said, and I was like, I can't deal with this shit no more. And I just stopped watching housewife. That was forever ago. And when I watched it a week ago, I was like, Wendy still looks great and stuff, but she just has it. She looks glitzier, more housewife, the expensive, unnecessary couture bullshit. But also like, she also has this, like this new, like caddy energy. There's this one part that actually grossed me out. During the reunion where Eddie, I guess, got a FaceTime from one of the other new housewives boyfriends or ex-boyfriend. And I guess the ex-boyfriend said some like fucked up shit about her. But before that, he FaceTimes Wendy while they're on break. And Wendy's on her phone and she goes like, oh, my God. And like makes a scene and everyone turns to her and they're like, what? And she's just looking at her phone and she makes this dubious. Face like, like, oh, I just got some tea on this bitch and her man. And then immediately spreads it as soon as they get back is like, well, Eddie had something interesting to tell me about TJ. And he said that you paid him to be. And I was like, oh, bitch. Got you. I do. I do remember hearing about that. OK. She just had this like this face of like delight that she got like some scandalous tea or someone else. It's like, I don't. I don't know who this Wendy is. Are you back in high school, girl? That's very. Right. Yeah. Then two days later, I see this shit. Yeah. And I'm like gagged. And at the same time, I was like. Oh, this is why new wig, new dress, new purse, new whatever. But I can't believe it. Yeah. Yeah. And of course, they start showing all the clips of her being like, we want marble from here to the side. And I'm a completely redo this island and this and this is like, what? OK. Spending all that money for what? But then she said Happy Eddie, which I guess is his weed line, his strain of weed or whatever. He has a he has a strain of marijuana called Happy Eddie. That's apparently allegedly it was doing well. I don't know if it still is or whatever else. Yeah. She was just that. She was just that culture con weed strain. She was just. She was just at culture camp, culture con. Culture con's fun. Like a day before this happened. Got arrested in that same culture con week. Same little style. So it must have been a long day then. I guess she was there all day. Because maybe that wig was in his mugshot saying this ain't got nothing to do with me. Yeah. I just met this bitch. I feel like they arrested her as soon as she got back to Maryland. She was like, nah, I was going to take this wig off. For real. Yeah. At the door. I guess we'll see what comes from this. Like I said, I was a bit gagged. We'll see. Disappointed because attitude, vibe or not. Wendy and her husband are really accomplished, gorgeous black people. They are. And for this to be a case when it seems like it's so completely unnecessary is a bummer. Mm hmm. I get what you're saying about some people saying, oh, well, culturally that my family is Jamaican. I'm first generation. I can identify with all that same goddamn thing. I'm not about to go and act like somebody stole some shit so that I can go on revolt and be right. It's just that's just not how I work. So my only other thing is if they do end up having to do time or something like that, I'm hoping that maybe it'll be like a Teresa Giudice and her husband. Remember when they both got. In trouble when they had to split the time. Yeah. And the other one did time so they could stay with the kids. Yeah. My thought like, OK, both y'all get in trouble for this. You have three beautiful. I think it's three kids. However, many of these gorgeous children that are still relatively young. They're right. Practically to be so like. And now you have to go to school and deal with kids talking about them and they pair like everybody knows you're a T girl. Everybody. That shit was on the real news. It was. I said, oh, I can't imagine. Right. This was on the real news. Right. Not even just on the Bravo news. That made the real news. That shit wasn't just on TMZ. That shit was on the news. Fuck. A lot of us have, you know, pressure from our families to be super successful. A lot of people have pressure to support their families financially. But we cannot go this far, sister. We can't do it. Effort. Yeah. Yeah. If you're on a show that's about you and your life, too, as accomplished and badass as you are, talk about that shit. Especially if you're sitting next to Giselle Bryant, tacky ass. What the fuck do you need to move glare down for? Bitch, like, look, I've been feeling a lot of pressure from my family. I just don't understand why I were, why enough can't just be enough. And then all the, you know, oh, my God, Wendy, same. Leave that bitch alone in whatever bag she got or whatever. Like, she got, she worked her. Yeah. Instead, you had to be Paris Hilton. Right. Instead, it was, oh, no, we can handle absolutely everything. We're so rich. Things are so great over here. I have the nicest of everything. I have the newest of everything. I have this and my body and my clothes and my man and my house and my kids and my girl. And it is just smoke and mirrors. None of that shit was real. Or, I mean, a lot of it was real. But look at the lengths y'all went to. So unfortunate. Right. The jewelry. It was one thing. Because apparently, right. When I was like, okay, yeah, it could be dupes of the jewelry. But the email and the horribly staged burglary. Like, you couldn't just pay some people to actually break into your house and make it look like something. How did they get in and make it straight to your bedroom and then ransack the bedroom alone and then leave everything else untouched? And then magically get back out and not be on the cameras or break a door. Or a window or anything, Wendy. How? How? All right. They pulled her off a wife swap, too. Yeah, I saw that. I was like, damn. Wives. The feds petitioned that. Petitioned wife swap for that footage. That's Christ. We'll see how this goes. That's going to be it for the Hot Tops this week. Let's take a break. Okay, we're back. It is time for your list. A lot of errors. Yes, it is. Send your questions to asktheread at gmail.com. We may read them aloud on the show. Our first letter this week comes from Ashley, who says, Hey, y'all, my love life is an absolute tragedy right now. Take a number. Last year, I dated a guy named Paul for six months, and I thought things were going well. We exchanged I love you's, and I thought we might even get married one day. Throughout our relationship, we never had penis and vagina sex because he could never keep an erection for very long, which he said was because of a combination. of a porn addiction and into antidepressants. He wanted to try to have sex with me. Okay. Let me just, I'm sorry. Let me get through it. Let me get through this. Okay. He wanted to try to have sex with me, a woman with a vagina, even though he's bisexual and has only had sex before with men. So he had his doctor prescribe him Viagra. One evening when we were trying to have sex, he took the Viagra and was supposed to wait something like an hour before it kicked in fully. But for some reason, he decided to try to have a go at it earlier than that. When he couldn't maintain his erection, he collapsed on top of me, his naked body on mine, crying hysterically and having a total breakdown. At that point, I was trying to comfort him and pat him on the back while he cried. And finally, he calmed down enough to tell me that he felt like he was pretending. I of course asked, why do you feel that way? And he said, I don't think I'm in love with you. It turns out that he said, I love you back a week or two after I said it because he felt guilty. Of course, we broke up and months later, I decided to try to date again and reactivated my dating app profile. A guy that I went on a few dates with before Paul sent me a message to catch up. The first time we tried to date, I let our connection fizzle out for a few reasons, one of which was the state of his apartment. He has two cats and not only was cat hair in clumps everywhere, but half of his tub was orange with dark mold spots. That apartment was so nasty that this should be where the story ends. But I was so desperate for male attention that when he connected with me again, I decided to meet up with him. Eventually, I was horny and I flat out told him so. So we decided to go back to his place. It was cleaner than the last time, but there was still cat hair everywhere and the tub was still a little orange. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I did have sex with Pigpen that night. Things eventually ended with Pigpen, but clearly I have an issue with recognizing red flags and others and acting upon them. I'm very dissatisfied with my life and I look to romantic connection to him. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that. I'm not sure if I'm to fill that void, which clearly hasn't worked for me. As two single people, what advice do you have for people like me who are struggling to be happy and single? Thanks, Ashley. I was about to say how you know I'm single, but I am, so it's fine. Yeah. How to be happy and single? Yeah. Yeah. I haven't thought about this because it's so easy for me. I just, I don't think that I ever have thought about it. Yeah. I feel like I'd be more, the question for me is how do you be in a relationship and that? That's valid. How do you be happy and single? What are you doing with your time? I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I yeah how are you investing and and fulfilling your relationship with yourself yeah i think that's the number one question because you you you really read yourself here towards the end of the letter you said you know i have an issue with i can see red flags but i just go ahead anyway and i'm dissatisfied with my life right but being dissatisfied with your life and choosing dating to help fill that is not going to then make you satisfy with your life a nigga can't fix what's wrong especially these niggas like there's a the first one the bisexual who couldn't keep it up and then he was like yeah i'm not actually in love with you that's just kind of tragic the dirty nigga that you knew was dirty and you fucked him anyway in his dirty house that that to me is more of like a warning sign like girl you you getting to the point where you're devaluing yourself in the pursuit a little smell and taste yeah yeah a little yeah a little smell and taste yeah it's a little you know that pussy was sour and i said i'm gonna eat it anyway like i i want you to i think the question that you ask like what are you doing with yourself you when you say you're dissatisfied with your life you didn't give us any examples of of what's going wrong but i think you need to to turn your attention there is it work now that's very understandable the job market right now is hell unemployment is something like 26 and it's it's bad like so i get it it's the cost of everything is through the fucking roof these people voted for trump because they thought it was gonna make their groceries cheaper and groceries was 20 higher like things are so i i get it if you feel like you're kind of in a dead-end job and you don't really have somewhere else to go with that but whatever wherever it is that you feel that you're lacking trying to patch that over with niggas is never gonna work even if you meet a good nigga even if you meet somebody who is fully attracted to you and has a clean home and can keep his dick up and you know is a nice person he can't fix the dissatisfaction with your life it can't it you have to you have to really focus on you you have to to be happy and single is to be happy like you it sounds like you unhappy period yeah relationships don't fix that what's going on with you baby like do do we need to talk to a therapist is there some deep-seated stuff going on here sometimes we have uh coping mechanisms and patterns from childhood that protected us then that are now working against us and we need to find a way to break out of that and i think that's a really good point and i think that's a really good point is there something like that going on where you kind of sabotage yourself or maybe you do have a low sense of self-worth so you don't feel like you deserve any better than than these men who are you know not not good i don't want to say good enough but not working for you in one way or another like you really are but you're gonna have to turn this this focus onto you and you can even look at it as like i'm going to intentionally take a break from dating not like oh i'm so lonely i'm looking for somebody this this this but i'm going to take a break from giving my energy to men or women or whoever you're into and i'm going to instead turn that energy on me because something's missing in me yeah i agree yeah and i think dating yourself can kind of be uh awkward or like learning to ride a bike or something else like that but if you ever learned how to ride a bike or swim or do anything else like that at first you fuck up a little bit or it's awkward or it might feel a little embarrassing and then the more you do it you're like oh swimming is excellent and in fact i might be able to win the olympics or whatever so like yeah i would start asking uh what am i into or some hobbies uh of mine that i could explore and take yourself out and have a good time with yourself just like it doesn't have to like happy and go fall out the sky i hate you when you hate it you have to like get up and go get it you know yeah oh that's so real sometimes you have to just throw yourself into the pool will being life and wait around and figure some shit out until you're swimming and you're like oh yeah i'm having a blast i go to barcade on fridays i do hot yoga and whatever you know like just date you and have fun with yourself if even if it sounds awkward at first because take it from me sitting back and just watching the pit and being like yeah today's gonna be a great day you do have to go get that great day it's not just gonna yeah remember when you asked me just about that website for people to go it's called bucket listers i knew it had something to do with bucket list but i was like that's not right yeah it's bucket thank you it just popped in my head um i don't think bucket listers is in every city but you go what what do you like go out and find those things are you into sports it's a lot of sports going on right now um local meetups stuff like that like you i think you need to pull out your bucket list and find those things pour into yourself and really work on nurturing yourself because if you are just one of those people who doesn't feel happy unless you're dating that's also a sign that you need to spend some time with you you need to like that's a that's a that's a giant sign that you feel like something's missing because why do you feel like something's missing unless you're in a relationship you were born single and it's natural to want union human i'm not saying you shouldn't want to be in a relationship or that friends can take the place of a relationship because for most people those are two different two different dynamics but do you have friends you didn't mention nothing about that in this letter like what kind of what are what kind of life have you cultivated for yourself babe if you are just sitting around at home waiting for things to happen to you like if you're saying you're going to end up miserable like and and something that has been so hard for me to learn and accept is that sometimes motivation comes after you do things and so we want the motivation to go do something and we're like, I need to feel like doing this. I need to feel like doing that. No, set a timer and go force yourself to do it. Just force yourself to go outside or whatever and then see what happens after you do that. Like sometimes you have to push yourself in that way. But you deserve all of the love and attention and care that you're trying to give somebody else. You deserve all of that same energy. So I hope you do seriously consider, you know, just taking a break and figuring out what it is you need. Okay, best of luck to you, baby girl. Let's see. Everybody. And tell these niggas to clean up. There's absolutely no living goddamn. An orange tub, baby. An orange tub. Like in no way. Under no circumstance. The cat hair everywhere. You can get a cheap vacuum robot for under $100 that can vacuum your apartment twice a day on a schedule even. Like, but I am wishing you the best. It does look like everybody is dealing with relationships. Love it. Right now. Of course they are. Um, our next letter comes from Adrian who says, I've been with my man for about six years and I cannot say I've been happy this entire time. I could have told you. All right. All right. Um, my partner has really just not been the best boyfriend. Why do I feel like? What are boyfriends doing? Whatever they, whatever the fuck they want to. Wait, did we do this last? It doesn't sound familiar. Okay. Um, we tried couples therapy and it was painfully obvious to me and the therapist that he needed to seek individual help before we could make any progress. He's depressed, but it's quote unquote everyone else's fault and he still has not gotten help. My therapist provided free blackmail therapists that he could use and still nothing for our entire relationship. My pleasure and requests have never been much of a priority, but I've tried to remain open. It got to the point where, last year I gave him three non-negotiables because his apathy had started to trigger my depression and anxiety. Needless to say, he quickly forgot about them. I was planning my exit due to his lack of consistency, care and consideration, but he's just now been diagnosed with a chronic illness and now I don't know what to do. We're not married and we have no kids. We only live together. What would you do if you were in this situation? Any advice at all would be truly helpful and appreciated. Thanks so much, Adrian. Bye. What I would do? Oh Lord. That face. Yeah, what would you do? I think I'm just trying to decide if I would leave something there after I'm gone. I mean, before I'm gone. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, yeah. To remember me by. If I would leave you like, I was going to make a terrible joke. I actually don't even know what the chronic illness is. Oh, it's small. I would. Oh, okay. Yeah. I'm not going to make a joke about that. I would, um, yeah, I definitely think that I would, I would bounce and I would give some sort of a, whether it's a note or it is, I don't know. Cause I w I don't think I would want to converse. With this person about this anyway. So I would just bounce and I would basically prob possibly leave something, whether it is a note or a best buy polo. Okay. They've been together for six years. Not the, they've been together for six years. You're not just going to leave. You're not just going to ghost the end of that relationship. No, I would, um, break up though. For sure. Yeah. I would end the relationship because it, it outside of, you know, this unfortunate illness and someone not going to continue to build, uh, a life with someone or a partnership with someone when they're not interested in doing any work to preserve it, to maintain the balance of it, to grow within it. I'm not going to, because the thing about it is the longer it, you sit there, the harder the inevitable. Yes. Oh God. Yes. Oh, that's so true. So I would just be working on my exit strategy and be firm within it. That's that. Yeah. You know, Adrian, I really feel for you because I probably could have written something similar to this, not six years worth of a relationship, but I have, I have definitely been in a relationship before where it was extremely obvious that this person needed to get some kind of help. And we came so close to breaking up multiple times. And then finally one day he was like, oh, well, I didn't want to tell you this because I didn't want you to leave me, but I have bipolar, but I don't need medicine for it. I'm in control of it. And it was like, well, if you were in control of it, then I don't think it would be affecting our relationship like this. You know, like you, you clearly don't have it managed. Like you clearly do need some kind of help. but when he told me that he had bipolar, I was like, oh my God, now I can't leave him because it'll look like I'm leaving him because he has bipolar. It's like, baby, in hindsight, I should have left any fucking way. Exactly. Because that, in the same breath that they told me they had this mental illness, they also told me they didn't need to see a psychiatrist or a therapist or be on medication for it. Because it was under control, even though it was very much not under control. Like we were fighting constantly because of this mental illness. Like it isn't you. You don't got it, nigga. But I stayed because I was like, I can't leave now because it'll look like I'm leaving for this. And that's really fucked up. And things got much worse. Things got much, much worse. Got to the point where, you know, horrible things happened. And I was, it was, it was no other choice at that point. I had to leave for my own, you know, safety and well-being. So I would, I get it. I get this feeling where it's like, damn, like it's something going on here that explains this. And so if, if it, if it turned out that your partner had multiple sclerosis, which I don't know any of the symptoms of that or how that might manifest. I wouldn't be shocked if his depression and other stuff is somehow linked to that because he's probably not been feeling well for a long time and not knowing what's going on. But this is, this can be a rough thing to really internalize, but like we can't cure other people. We can't fix them. We're not their doctors. We're not in charge of their medication or their treatment plan. Like we just are not. And we don't owe being in a relationship to anybody. It's been six years of you trying to make this, make things work. With this man. So I, I don't, I can't blame you at all. If you leave, I probably would have been left at this point. But if you decide to stay, I would only, I think it would only be okay to stay. If this man was making real progress towards treating whatever it is he has going on. Um, especially in as much as it has a negative effect on you. Yeah, I agree. Like he, like you, like you said in this, email, he's depressed, but it's quote unquote everybody else's fault. And he still hasn't gotten help. He's been offered free black therapist. He could talk to. And it's just like, nah, I'm not going to reach out. And you even told him like, here are three things that I really need to have happen. And he was like, cool for a little while. And then just was like, you know, whatever, gave up on it and just stopped thinking about it. Those are three giant signs that this man is not in a place to be thinking about taking care of you. And nurturing a relationship because he's probably not taking care of himself and nurturing himself. Um, so again, I wouldn't recommend staying unless he is. Since the time you wrote this email, if all of a sudden he has just done a complete one 80 and he's following up with his doctors and doing whatever he needs to address his issues, that would be a sign that maybe things are turning around and there's some hope here. But otherwise, please do not let the fact that he has something going on guilt you into staying. In a relationship with this person, because that will, that will fuck you over in the end. 1000% every time his doctor, you can't, yeah, you know, like what you, what I'm supposed to do. Like I'm, I, I truly hate to hear that, but it's been six years of me waiting to act like waiting for you to act like the, my pleasure and the, the things that I want out of a relationship matter six fucking years. no and I remember when I was in this same situation it was like well he's gonna blame me for leaving it's gonna be like since he told me that like it was gonna be my fault that the relationship ended like this was before therapy obviously but it was like like I was going to be the bad guy and I didn't want to be the bad guy for leaving him baby be be the quote-unquote bad guy that's fine that that's fine I'd rather be the bad guy than be in a situation where I'm fucking miserable and the other person is contributing to that completely and just expecting me to sit back and and hold that for all for all eternity too so yeah sorry um sorry that you're going through it but yeah you don't you don't owe your happiness to this relationship so right good good luck to you babe our last letter comes from yes our last letter comes from Anissa who says hey y'all I'm in the thick of PhD applications during a particularly turbulent time in higher education thankfully I have a cohort of black women academics in my corner an excellent CV and have been working towards obtaining this degree for a very long time I have also worked hard to create a diverse list of schools to apply to with faculty fit and livable locations so I'm confident this work will yield at least a few options to choose from at the end of this application season a friend from a previous program has provide has offered to provide edits and feedback during my process if needed however I've barely taken her up on it because every conversation about grad school with her quickly slides from realistic to defeatist she often says that the school she attends wasn't her first second or third choice despite it being an r1 institution and a fully funded program and she gets to work with a renowned advisor she offered to show me her rejection letter from her top school and I'd slightly declined because I know what an l looks like even though thankfully I haven't collected many this week during our co-working check-in I shared that I felt stuck but had a great chat with another friend in academia that helped me recalibrate my draft statement of purpose she replied that she was sorry that she couldn't help with my crash out last night even though I hadn't asked her for any help and had only briefly texted to confirm and I had only briefly texted her to confirm that she arrived at her conference safely then she said sometimes what seems like droughts to other people are actually fields of flowers and said I might end up at a school I didn't expect but that would be a better fit and community for me like her I'm all for realism yes PhD applications are super competitive but I can't help but feel like she's trying to prepare me to fail and doesn't believe that I can or will get accepted into any of my top choices it feels like she's projecting her story onto mine and pokes hard and it pokes hard at my imposter syndrome she's funny kind and a good friend otherwise she's a good friend and a good friend otherwise I just don't need her consistently negative soundtrack playing in my head right now I always appreciate y'all's advice and welcome any feedback you might have on why this is such a sore spot between me and her I'm trying my best to implement boundaries around what I discuss with her about grad school and I welcome any boundary scripts or reframing tips you might have appreciate you both love Anissa thanks Anissa well I mean I can't I can see how it might be difficult um when she's saying shit like what we might think is a drought could be a field of flowers bitch are you cool what are you talking about what does that mean you on Nikki shit because right like because the prophet says that a flower in a field shut up like just say that's her right what do you mean a drought versus a field I don't even I don't get I really you she actually lost me with that one I did not get that at all that was right but you don't have a phd so I'm like maybe this is a phd thing right right an old Chinese proverb or book somewhere I read right I might just be too dumb for that one but yeah she lost me there I don't know reframing wise what do you think because I'm like well sometimes in those tricky moments it can be difficult for anything to land and it could and it could also be difficult I think I'll speak for myself to determine like what it is I do need to hear yeah because I won't even take advice I won't even take like offense or be bothered by uh the certain encouraging things that people say but sometimes it just doesn't make a way through because I'm too just sad or depressed disappointed and so it just doesn't make a way through because I'm too just sad or depressed disappointed and so it just doesn't make a way but I think I'm also a person who if I got some someone would just say some shit like a draw and a flower I would probably out loud say right directly back to them what are you talking about and then maybe we would laugh about it you know but yeah um I don't know if it is a situation where where you feel Anissa specifically uh unhappy or displeased with conversation with her about this one thing yeah I dial back talk to her about the game like because if it's not helpful it's not helpful and not everyone is even interested in having conversations with their friend about like semantics tone intention and stuff if you feel like there is something buried deep with deep there where she's always trying to woo you or say some shit that don't make no damn sense or speak down to you that's a different conversation but yeah if it was just like I don't really feel like I'm getting anything out of talking with her about this thing yeah it you might be right Anissa about her projecting her experience onto you you might be right um right and you know in that case I guess I'm not going to be able to talk to her about this thing because I'm not going to be able to talk to her about this thing I get it because it does sound like your friend is coming from a good place it doesn't sound like she's trying to tear you down um but sometimes people think that they're prepping us for disappointment when all they're doing is taking the wind out of ourselves it's like bitch let me let me be happy like let me be excited let me let me make some progress let me move forward as opposed to like I do one thing and then you come around talking about droughts that are really fields of flowers and you know I just so you know I didn't get into my first second or third school okay but you still got into a great school and with a fully funded program and this incredible advisor so it's like what okay a lot of people don't get into their first second or third choice why would I want to see the rejection letter from your top school why that don't have nothing to do with me our applications won't be the same maybe your programs aren't even the same um but it sounds like she's not going to be able to do that because she's not going to be able to do that because she's not she's been disappointed so she wants to try to help you avoid some of that disappointment it's just that you know you're not taking it that way you're very much taking it as like damn girl I did not even ask for all this and it sounds like I'm it feels to me like it feels to me like you don't believe in me as opposed to you just trying to keep me from getting hurt those are those can be two sides of the same coin um so I would just talk to her about it I would I would probably just straight up say it like that like girl I love you you're a great friend um and at the same time I can tell that you're coming from a good place like you're trying to look out for me and I really do appreciate that because that's some real bitch shit like you're trying to keep me from being hurt or you know trying to prep me for this PhDs it's a competitive thing etc etc and your feedback doesn't feel like that it doesn't feel protective it doesn't feel loving it feels like you don't believe in me and that every time I turn around you throwing another dart into my face of like well watch out for this beware of this this is also shit and don't with like like I it feels negative instead of positive so it's a thin line between realistic and defeatist like you said Anissa so if you haven't brought that up to her I'm not shocked that she's not going to be able to do that she keeps doing it she probably thinks she's helping somehow um you you really do have to tell people when they're doing something that hurts you like it's it's up to us to to say something especially in situations like this where you know it's not like she cussed you out or beat your ass or something like that where it's obvious she's in the wrong like she might not even realize she probably doesn't that you're taking it this way so you can you can just kind of step back and be like well I'm just not going to talk to her about it but you already not really talking to her that much about it she's volunteering this information so that's why I'm saying go ahead and and just have the conversation with her let her know like you know this hurts and you know Anissa maybe she isn't projecting maybe you have a history of being prepared to have your feelings hurt and yeah that not feeling productive to you anymore like for me personally I was literally explicitly verbatim told not to get my hopes up growing up because Because the adults around me did not want to have to deal with the fallout of me being disappointed or sad or hurt if the thing that I had my hopes up for didn't manifest or, you know, something else had to happen. And so the thing I wanted didn't happen. So I can see how, like, if I were you and somebody was constantly trying to damper my expectations, that would be triggering for me because it's like, nigga, leave me alone. Just like, just let me be happy. Let me be excited. If it don't work out or if it falls through or whatever, then I can handle that because I'm grown. But, you know, let me have my feelings. Let me have my joy that I fought so hard to get. So it could be her projecting. It could be you reacting. It could be a mixture of both. It could be neither of those things. But, you know. You know, I don't think you'll know for sure until you have the conversation with her. And if she's as good of a friend as you think she is, she'll probably see what you're saying and see how you can interpret it that way, even though that's not how she meant it at all. And then just switch the way she talks to you. Yeah, hopefully. Yeah, hopefully. Hopefully so. But this sounds like the sort of thing that can be worked out with just an honest conversation that isn't blaming or, you know, doesn't get to this. This point of like, you suck. And just because you didn't get into your program doesn't mean I'm not getting to my. It doesn't have to go there. But, you know, just two very smart ladies sitting down and having an open conversation about what's going on here, I think, can really work. Agreed. All right, babes. Man, that was a lot of yapping. Let's end the letters right there this week. Again, if you have a question for us, send it to asktheread at gmail.com. We'll be right back. OK, folks, we are back to the show and it's time for the read. I will begin because I don't have a real read. OK. But it is spooky season. And so I thought I would do something different. I rewatched Rosemary's Baby for I don't know how many whatever times the other day. And so this one is dedicated to Rosemary and a few other people. OK. Spoilers, I guess. Rosemary. What the fuck were you thinking about? And why didn't you ever just use your common good goddamn sense? The point of the film was your story is just like, oh, look how much women will go along with to be meek and matron. And like, I don't understand when you told them odd faced white people across the old people across the hall or whatever, that you had your own obstetrician. Why the fuck? Did you take their obstetrician just because they say so? And because your husband thought it was a good idea? It's your position, baby. You have one already. Would you? Oh, yeah. I was just listening to them eating up all their food, even though you said that it tasted cheap. Chalky enough for you to throw it out. But then the bitch come and bring you a milkshake and you're ready to drink it again. Like you forgot what the fuck going on. You had a very vivid dream. About having sex with the devil. And woke up to scratches all over your body and your whack ass lame ass husband talking about, oh, I'm sorry, I got a little excited. I just didn't want to miss baby night. And, you know, you were sleeping. So I just went ahead and did it. OK, so first of all, if you didn't just get fucked by a demon. Man. Then that means that your living husband was fucking you while you were knocked out. I'd leave then. You didn't. And so you then, you know, decide to go ahead and bring this baby to the term and you give birth to the fucking devil. Sweetie, I don't know what or the Antichrist. Oh, I've never seen. I don't know what you were thinking. A rosemary baby is an icon. But it came out in 1960. It's old. OK. So, yeah, you go ahead. You give birth to this baby. They told you the baby was dead. Then you hear the baby crying. You go over to your husband and this whole cult of motherfuckers in another room with this baby in an Adams family carriage or whatever, which leads me to the other person I really want to read here. I don't even know if you were given a name in the film, ma'am. But those of you who've seen Rosemary Baby, you know exactly what I'm talking about. You remember at the end of the movie where that one witch bitch was like rocking in the cradle extra hard like. I don't know, like she was rowing a boat across the the pale blue sea. Like she's just aggressively rocking the cradle that the devil baby is in and devil baby is crying. And so Rosemary, who I guess wants to be the baby mama anyway, goes over and says, let me do it or something. And the witch had the nerve to get mad at her. No, I've got this. No, you go sit down. Yeah. Twitch, someone had to get her together and say he is. She is his mother. Respect her. Because I guess, you know, he's royalty being, you know, like the prince of evil. OK, yeah, sure. But to that bitch who tried to tell Rosemary to get somewhere. Oh, I just gave birth to the devil. I can do whatever the fuck I wanted to get out of my goddamn living way, bitch. And give me this motherfucking. Are you stupid, bitch? I just pushed a demon on my pussy. And you're going to tell me. What the fuck I can and can't do with it. You better be lucky I don't have him kill you first, bitch. Oh, my. I mean, if I'm raising me into Christ, I might as well have some fun with it. I mean, sure. George Zimmerman. Got to. Trump. Because, like, we just go. If the devil is my son, I mean, we get to work. But I feel like everybody was out of the bound. The husband. I'm sure you're still going to flop. Haven't seen you in anything since. And to Aunt Gladys across the hall. I can't reach you. You're fierce. You're just great. I mean, you saw a lick. You hit it. And you were successful. Icon. Rosemary's baby, folks. You're welcome. Roman Polanski. I'm finished. Okay. Now I feel like I need to go see this movie. I mean, it's a horror movie. I mean, it's more like a psychological horror movie. It's really not that scary. Is it scarier than The Exorcist? No. Okay. Then I can watch it. Yeah. The Exorcist is like one of my benchmarks. You don't even see the baby at the end. You just hear the baby crying and you see a big creepy or big black carriage. But it's more. What's fun about Rosemary's baby is if you don't know the story or whatever, it does spend a good time making you go, is this Lady Sherpa? Is she? Got you. Are these just nice neighbors and she's just losing her fucking mind? It's a good psychological horror. It doesn't do a whole bunch of boo, boo, jump, jump, jump. It's not like that. Got you. That's why it's iconic. Okay. I also love there's a part where Mia Farrow cuts her hair short in the movie, The Iconic Haircut. And someone says to her, if it looks bad. She asked her if it looks bad and they said, yeah. Like they kind of blame her for like cutting her hair short. Was like having a psychotic break. She looks like a fucking supermodel. Okay. Let me watch this movie. I'm like back then maybe having short hair was like, meant you were ugly or unfeminine or something. But I'm like, she looks like Twiggy. What are they talking about? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Well, speaking of old white movies, this is not really part of my read, but after Diane Keaton died, I saw all these posts about, oh my God, it's going to be so hard to watch The Family Stone this year. And I was like, oh no, let me watch The Family Stone. I don't know what y'all are talking about. Have you seen that movie? No. Okay. Well, I won't spoil it, but I'll just suffice to say, I do not know why y'all are so emotionally attached to that movie. Like I get it. Oh, I have seen this. So it's like a good 20 years old. I have this. Oh, wow. Okay. So I get it because Diane Keaton's character dies, obviously she's sick. And so I get it. It's sad for that reason. But that movie is some white nonsense. The fact that everybody was, after Sarah Jessica Parker's character was sitting there at that table being homophobic and racist and talking about, you didn't really pray for gay kids, did you? I just feel like any parent would want a normal child. And then after that shit, and then looking at the black man, like you get what I'm saying, right? Like black ain't normal. She said that stupid shit and then got up and ran away crying. And y'all are like, oh no, we need to go apologize to her. Oh no, we feel so bad. For what? For what? She got a golden glove. She got a golden glove on for that. What? This is white bullshit. And then the brothers just trade. And then he just, they just kind of trade girls that they're interested in. And Sarah Jessica Parker ends up with the brother and he ends up with her sister. And so it's just, what? What the fuck is that movie? Honestly, it's like, many family come together because of a tragic, because of a tragedy stories. It's not. Where it's like, oh, scandal. Oh, horrible person. Oh, everyone hates this bitch. Oh, this family member is the comedic relief, whatever. actually has the darkest story and they've been using it's like i've seen a billion movies yeah i do not like that movie i said no it's not one of my favorites i forgot i had it can't believe y'all are this sentimental about this this is not i can't believe y'all watching every holiday the fuck there's there's a white family gets together and they're all trash family that i'll movie that i like and i can't think of what it is right now i did like stepmother with um oh yeah no that's like all right stepmom yeah stepmom yeah and um who i think is a bitch now and julia roberts julia roberts is she i think susan sarandon is i think she's a zionist don't let me um oh i thought you meant julia roberts oh no no no no no no no not that queen um okay so but on to things that really matter first of all laney you bitch laney you fucking bitch man the fuck bro what did our very innocent queen who's not innocent i am recording from my ipad today because my laptop is broken because i was taking a zoom meeting the other day and it was my fault for taking this zoom meeting on the couch where laney could access me i guess i'm because everybody keeps saying she's innocent so i have found a way to blame myself for this this bitch just hopped right up on my lap and bit the corner of my laptop screen and cracked that bitch like literally as my zoom meaning meeting was ending all of a sudden my screen goes completely black because laney is innocent and i'm like oh my god i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i'm so sorry i'm so sorry and laney chomps on it and the other person is still talking i was like i have to go i can't see anything because my fucking dog just cracked my laptop screen so yeah had to take that thing to apple thank god i have apple care plus on that computer but they don't have the screen in stock so it's gonna take them instead of three to five days she was like sorry probably closer to a week and but and it'll be 99 as opposed to like 600 to fix but i told her my puppy ate chomped on my fucking puppy chewed my computer screen she was like that happens a lot actually puppies and cats i knew she was gonna say that nigga why have i spent a quarter million dollars on toys and things for you around this house if you just gonna chew on my million dollars why why why why did i buy things for you to chew you have multiple things that are just for chewing yeah different and she said so do you i said this is really a first world problem like i'm just gonna use my ipad instead but i'm so annoyed right now like the fuck is wrong with you it's not the same i want my fucking computer back that is crazy so laney you're on my link on me about five thousand dollars i said yeah you might actually have to i i've been resistant to like getting her an instagram and you know when brands ask to send her stuff i'm always like no laney doesn't work she's a pet but you know what you might have to start take the gift yeah we might have to start because you are my nurse you are my nurse real bad you need to start bringing some money in this bitch because what the fuck the doggy care packages are cute too depending a lot of times people are like oh can we send something for like a month or something like that i'm like okay i'm gonna send something i still go what like what why do you even remember i have a dog and then consider it leave your cute stuff i like a stanley bowl for her that i got from somewhere i don't remember oh cute clifford the big red dog plushie i think when like a movie came out well i'm finna i'm finna because wow how much of it does she use i will you will simply never have one of my electronics anywhere near your little furry face again i've learned my lesson but like wow who knew that your laptop is wild crack the whole when i tell you the screen went from perfectly clear to all black and then in the upper right hand corner you can just see where the pixels have cracked and all that you can just see it just right there like just okay bitch well enough of that i said wrap that shit up that is fierce so she's on my shit list um mama d mama god mama d and scrappy were on um nick cannon's podcast it's called we play in spades they're sitting at this table this part doesn't what i'm saying now doesn't really matter but um scrappy is telling this story of how at his 14th birthday party mama d hired strippers oh god mama d had strippers grown women at her 14 year old sons so that he wouldn't be gay of course she said that they lived in atlanta and no offense to the lgbtq community but um i wanted him to chase pussy not purses and so at 14 at 14 yes work she actually said quote nothing against the lgbtq community but i just wanted him to chase pussy then to hold a purse which is not a sentence that makes sense but um yeah it doesn't shout out to scrappy who has been in therapy and said okay so like i said this was actually trauma it was actually traumatizing to have strippers at my 14th fucking birthday party and she said that you know when the stripper showed up a lot of the kids left and went and got their parents like as grown naked women at this party and the parents came back and was like the fuck are you doing this to me and i was like i'm the fuck is going on and mama d was like yeah i stood 10 toes down on that shit if you got kids in here that you don't want them to be around you got little boys in here you don't want them to be around it that's fine get your kids but that's what we're doing at this party and it was like and she didn't feel no type of way he said that was traumatizing she was like so pussy is traumatizing maybe having sex workers at your child's birthday party was the traumatizing thing you stupid by way of your mother you stupid by way of your mother your mother he said not he didn't say it is some some girl courtney b who's also i guess she's one of the hosts of the show nick cannon is cracking up the whole time he thinks this is hilarious well we all know he's he that's nobody's father of the year but um right so the other girl was like most 14 year olds is getting bikes you know for their birthday like this hello we're not giving them bitches for their fucking birthday mama d was like you know that i just you know it was atlanta i had to do what i could to make sure he wasn't gonna be gay blah blah as it okay so number one strippers won't change your child's sexual orientation if your child likes dick putting a bunch of stranger grown muff in his face is not gonna change that you should have been arrested and I mean immediately on the spot immediately I'm wondering what the statute of limitations is like I'm sure it's expired but I wish you could still be but I wish you could still be prosecuted right because scrappy is 40 now so I'm sure but like and then to justify it with well it was Atlanta like almost like what was I supposed to do some people really do not deserve kids they just don't they just don't you was so you would rather and and of course a bunch of the comments on Instagram especially are people being like what kind of nigga complains about getting strippers for his birthday I would have been happy honestly if you was 14 and still a virgin it was something wrong with you anyway this is like all you niggas are wounded as fuck all you niggas are hurt as fuck what so a 14 year old girl you would hire a bunch of grown men to come down and shake dick in her face and they draws no you wouldn't you would immediately see there was a problem with that y'all don't protect these little boys and then you wonder why they grow up to be fucking menaces you wonder why can't nobody find a decent nigga y'all don't raise decent niggas you set them up to fail as soon as scrappy told this story I said every fucking thing that scrappy has done on love and hip-hop Atlanta now makes sense to me I mean I I mean as soon as we met mama d because it's very clear that bitch has a lot going on I it has to be drugs alcohol some real substance abuse other shit going on there I wouldn't be surprised if she's been traumatized and abused herself in a multitude of ways but goddamn girl not you know looking back on it now you need a lengthy stay you know you need extended extensive extensive and insane deep unwinding and untangling for you to consider deep to still be defending the 14-year-old party that you had for your child that's 40 now. Right. Yeah. 25-plus years later, you didn't say, you know, in hindsight, what kind of bird bitch hires strippers for her teenager's birthday party? That's really, you know, it wasn't his 21st birthday. And by 14, the child probably already has a pretty good idea of who they are sexually anyway. If you were concerned about your child's sexuality, then you should have taken a good look at yourself because there's nothing to be concerned with. Right. It is what it is. Nothing against the LGBT community, but I just didn't want that in my house. That's basically what you said. I hate when y'all say, I'm not homophobic, I just didn't want a gay child. Girl, fuck you, that's homophobia. And gay or not, putting a bunch of stranger pussy in his face is not going to, it's not going to change the outcome. You're fucking weird. On top of the fact that you are affecting other children who you're not the parent of, you also didn't ask for stranger adult pussy to be around them. Just, oh my God. You lucky that you didn't get your ass beat. For real. You lucky that nobody beat your ass. Because somebody wanted to easily come back to this party and confronted you and got whatever it is you claim you said. And then beat your ass. Like, that could have very easily taken place. This was supposed, this was a house party in the hood. It's supposed to be a barbecue. It's supposed to be loud-ass music. Some adults somewhere off in the corner smoking weed, not over there by them kids. You know, and maybe some alcohol. You know, adults love to go off and have their own little shit somewhere off in the corner. But this is a 14-year-old's party. That should have been the worst of it. Yeah. Loud-ass music. Kids running around. Right. Yes. Kids dancing. Because these are what? Eighth, ninth graders? Are you out your fucking mind? Yeah, around there. Strippers. Strippers, bitch! Shout out to therapy. As Scrappy said, you know, going to therapy really made me realize that situation, that wasn't no cute little ha-ha. Like, that really fucked me up. Like, he's being real about that. He's being vulnerable about it. Nick Cannon is over here. When I tell you cracking up, Nick Cannon don't see nothing sad or wrong or fucked up in this situation at all. This nigga is rolling. The other girl, bless her heart, she look like, uh, I just, uh, I don't know about this. She kind of fucked up. I'm a he-he-he, you know, break the tension here. But Mama D stood on that shit even now, 25 plus years later. And you know what's crazy about that shit too, is this, like, Scrappy now for a little while has been open about the traumas of his childhood by way of his mom and has confronted her now about it and her being like, making excuses and stuff and stuff and stuff. So to now see like a year, two years or whatever since the last time I seen them arguing about it. Yeah. For her to be looking plain as day directly into the face of something wrong. Yep. Yep. And say, I just didn't want you to be chasing purses. No offense to the gay community. Ladies, nurse, please, nurse. Come get her. She's out again. If it turns out in a few years, Scrappy don't talk to his mama no more, I want y'all to leave that man alone. Don't ask no questions. Oh, I will. I'm waiting. I don't want to hear no. I'm surprised they were together for this. I don't want to hear no, but that's still your mama. I don't want to hear none of that shit. Because this bitch is a horrible person. Just forgive me. You still, even now, you can't say, damn. I ain't said she wasn't my mama. I said I'm not talking to that bitch. Like, your son said that was traumatizing. Why didn't you say, I'm sorry, son. The last thing I wanted to do was traumatize my son. Even with a little dumbass homophobic excuse. Girl, fuck you. Stupid at all. You stupid. I didn't consider it, consider, uh, it being traumatizing. That wasn't my intention. I am sorry. I wish I would have done something. Well, I just didn't want you to trace purses. I was deep in my drugs and alcohol and I was a dumb bitch. and all these, your children friends. Okay. You stupid cunt. Like Crystal said, this is exactly what, what we be talking about when it comes to the kids and how you, you treat them in the way it's due right by them. Because it, it really does disgust me that motherfuckers will look at this in the comments and be like, well, what's wrong with you? I wish it was strippers at my birthday party. Yeah, the nurse need to come and collect your ass too. Yeah. Everybody's broken. Do land. Bitch. But talk about gay people grooming kids. Talk about drag queens are unnatural and drag queens influence these children and, and, and we the ones trying to force a lifestyle or a sexuality onto these kids. You literally tried to strong arm your child into being straight by hiring grown women who also should have been arrested as soon as they realized they was at a 14 year old's birthday party should have said, bitch, I'm putting on my fucking feeler and going home. I'm not staying here to shake ass for no little boys. What's wrong with you hoes? I don't know. Y'all don't give a fuck about these kids. Not one fuck about these kids. Just fucking them up left and right. Butch Queens love strippers like female strippers. Dude! It wouldn't even, you know what I'm saying? Like, my gay ass a male stripper would have been like, where you get that body glitter? You will probably not catch me dead. But, oh, I love Onyx. Bitch, I'm also from Miami. Like, I love the girl. Yeah. So, you really weren't going It's not going to change anything. I wasn't going to do shit anyway. You dumb cunt. It doesn't change anything. All you did was fuck him up. You added something else to the long list of fucked up shit you did to that little boy. And even now, at your giant age, you can't apologize and be accountable for it. Gross. You remember when, you remember when Thorgy Thor got eliminated off of All Star? And she just went, gross. Oh, my God. Yes. That's how I felt when I watched this clip. I was like, there is no fucking way, man. There is no fucking way. Okay. Anyway, last but not least, Stephen A. Smith loves to run his mouth. We know. And he didn't caught up with it. I've heard him a couple of times. He said something. Remember when Kendrick did the Super Bowl? Yes. And Serena was there. And he said something about, well, I wouldn't let my wife dance for no other man. Oh, God. Alexis Ohanian was on ESPN last week and said, are you married, Stephen A.? Have you been married before? And Stephen A. was like, oh, I'm not the one. You know, I don't give marriage advice. You know, that's the headlines. Blah, blah. He was like, I was actually hoping you was going to be here in person today so we could have a conversation, you know, face-to-face about this because, you know, I give advice to founders who want to build billion-dollar companies. And the reason I do that is because I build billion-dollar companies. So, you know, when you don't have a successful marriage, talking about what you would and would not let your wife, this is void. Who the fuck cares? Where's your successful marriage? I'm sitting here talking to the Zoom you and not the real you. That's not mine. That white man does not mind. He's not scared. And when I tell you Stephen A. was stuttering, talking to all of them, tripping over his fucking tongue, couldn't even get it out fast enough, just, oh, yeah, where was all that energy? You don't have it in person. You never do. LeBron checked you. You did the same shit. You don't. So, and he said something about Jasmine Crockett last week. I guess he also has a podcast. And he was saying, Jasmine Crockett, you know, smart woman, blah, blah, blah. The, um, but is this really the right way to get things done? Like, the way she talks, I just don't think it's that useful. You know, she's just making fun of Trump and making fun of Abbott and, you know, calling him Hot Wheels and all this shit. And I just feel like, you know, you. Doesn't everybody call him Hot Wheels? Y'all do, which is ableist, but y'all do anyway. And I just pretend I do not see it. Right. But, uh, yeah. So he was, he criticized Jasmine Crockett for those things and was like, you know, I just feel like you gotta, you gotta reach across the aisle and try to work with these people so things can be better for your constituents. That's how I know, first of all, Stephen A. Smith, you don't pay attention. Because look at the state of the goddamn country. These people not working with us on shit. They are here to make sure they stay rich and get richer and the same happens for their white male friends who have even more money than they do. They do not give a fuck about Jasmine Crockett's constituents. They don't give a fuck about their constituents. You just over here running your fucking mouth and supplies. I just want to play for you. Play? Plies? The Plies, the rapper Plies, jumped into this conversation when he heard what Stephen A. Smith said and this is what he had to say. Let me pull this up. I'm from Florida. Oh no, you finna be proud. You motherfucking house nigga. Stop that motherfucking man and everybody else cause everybody else don't want to be a motherfucking house nigga like you. Fuck nigga, be happy you a house nigga. Be glad it worked out for you and your family. Puss ass nigga. But everybody don't want to be no motherfucking house nigga. Oh you, you, you, you ought to be nice to master. You ought to get along with master to get. Fuck nigga everybody don't want to get along with master nigga. Some motherfucking people still got motherfucking principles. What's out here nigga? Use all, use all, use all, use all to get along with master. Fuck nigga, you don't say that when master out here talking to everybody crazy. Bitch ass nigga. It's cool for motherfucking master to talk to everybody crazy. I'm obsessed with this. Use all to get along with master good dog. So sick of you fuck niggas don't know what to do nigga. Man, don't be everybody else. Don't want to be no motherfucking house nigga like you. Be happy you a house nigga. Fuck nigga. Stop trying to tell some motherfucking body else what to do. Steal some motherfucking people out here that believe in what they motherfucking believe in nigga. Oh, here he is sir. Don't want everybody to do something like that. You motherfucking did it. That's cause you kissed the ass nigga. Everybody don't want a motherfucking do that to get in the AC. Puss ass nigga. So sick of you fuck niggas don't know what to do. That's all you fuck niggas want to run right ahead and not do. Get mad at everybody else cause everybody else don't want to be a motherfucking house nigga like you. He is pissed. Like I haven't heard him. And leave everybody else the fuck alone. Oh, exactly. I said, you know what? When a black king is correct, I'm going to just step back cause I can't say it better than that. Shut the fuck up Stephen A. Smith. Everybody not no boot licking ass coon like you bitch. Some of us really do say what we mean and stand on that shit. Everybody not bending over backwards to make white people happy. Everybody not trying to appease their corporate overlords like you. Some of us have enough. We're not aspiring for even more and even better and constantly just an endless drive for domination over others. We don't need all that. Not if that means we got to shut the fuck up when white supremacy is rearing its ugly ass head. You see the shit going on in this country and you want to defend Trump and fucking Abbott instead of the black people. Black woman. Really? The people making things worse for other niggas because you a nigga who actually got a few dollars. Let's see if you have that same energy to apply something tells me you will not. But maybe Stephen A. Smith ought to start just watching his fucking. Maybe it's time for Stephen A. Smith to start watching his fucking mouth. It's time. I think it's been time. It's time for you to start watching your mouth because Alexis Ohanian almost said fuck these billions. Show up in person. I flew to New York City and I thought I was going to see you right on here at the pier. Where you at? Drop the low because I'm. I want to talk. I want to talk because you have plenty to say about my wife and ain't she married? I wouldn't let no woman. Bitch, mind yours. I'm tired of hearing people say to black women, oh, well, how they. Oh, shut the fuck up. Okay. How you gobble my nuts. You worry about that. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I already can't handle Stephen A. As soon as first take comes on, I mute the TV or I turn it to something else because he just going to get to hollering. I don't want to hear it. Like, unless it's a bunch of uncles on debating football, I will just switch to something else because girl, for what? For what? For what? Stick to whatever it is that you do know, nigga. Being mad at the Knicks, hating LeBron, stick to those things because the rest of it, it sounds like your mouth ain't going to write a check that your ass can't cash. And that will wrap up this week's episode of The Read. Find us on social media at thisistheread. Our website is thisistheread.com. Anything else from you, Kid Fury? Yes, you can find me at kidfury.com. Patreon.com slash Kid Fury and take care of yourselves. All right, girls, we will see y'all next week.