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I'm sorry, I think it's just a drug anyone does. I think the adult dance classes are so fun. They're like jerking, having great time. So we're going to get to shake your bones so safely. No boys, no alcohol. It's at 7 pm. The flight was boarding and I had to change his diaper. He's kicking, he's marching his back. I'm holding him. I can barely walk. And I'm like, I'll give you candy. What do you want? I'll do it. I'll go dance. Welcome back to Always Here. We're your host, Abby Howard. And Abby Howard. And we are here to share the hope in the heart with heart and humor. Amen. I went the full recap of Disney. I got it for you. We had such a good time. Good. Seriously, it was such a blast. I think it was the nature of me being independent. My parents came with me, but not with Matt. And so there's a different level of support when it's their dad. With you all the time. But I was like, wow, I have adjusted to motherhood. I feel like fully adjusted. I was like, I was anticipating things. I was like, okay, this is going to happen. I had this in the diaper bag. I think it was also the fact that I had a good stroller. I was like, I am so prepared. I felt really prepared this time. And we've also done Disney with them. So I feel like I already kind of learned a couple things about how to make it efficient. We got to do everything. And it was so fun. We had really good weather. It was a little cold. But I was going to ask because I know that storm blew through. California didn't it? I don't think it hit Southern California. Oh, was that what Disneyland? It's like in a hive. Is that so? Gary. Yeah, okay. Forget it. Forget what he said. And so no, it wasn't like, I was just cold for me. Like I was like 50 at night. Ooh, bird. Yeah, cold. People are going to be so annoyed by that. I know. No, it was beautiful. And there was a couple times where I was like, you know the audio was like, sing a song where she just loves the kids. It's another story. That's when I really felt missing Matt was special. I've missed him like emotionally. Yeah. Like from me like love wise. That way the whole time. But I'm talking about like the parenting situation. Mostly when I was freaking pitching a tent at 11 p.m. It's the nighttime always. I was like, gosh, I got never going to do the tent. This is a good job. That's a blue job. Like I don't ever pitch a tent. I'm talking about their like blackout sleep tent. And I was like literally, it was midnight Arizona time. I was like, what are we doing here? And then the other time was when I was freaking loading in those car seats a million times. Oh, wow. Like locking in, unlocking it, putting in the bag. Like putting, like collapsing the stroller. Those are all, Matt, I take for granted that Matt does that every single time. It's not even a question. Like it's not even like, hey babe, thanks for doing that. Like it's like, it's so his task. Because I'm like, wow, wow, I need to remember to be so thankful for Matt freaking pitching a tent. Oh, putting in the freaking car seat. They're so big and carrying them. I was like, hey. Did you carry both of them? Yeah, one on the front, one on the back. Hello. Pushing a stroller. Okay, girl. The full bag. I was like, hold me. And what does your parents do? They were not there when I was like, they had to get to their ports so early. Okay. Their cycles. Sure. They were watching the boys too. Sure. No, the boys were on the stroller. Abby, that's amazing. That's a confidence builder. I built a lot of confidence. Yeah. But yeah, I was like, man, I really. Not the dog on your parents. They were so helpful. No, they were so helpful. But it's like different. Yeah. You know, then they were, it was really fun. And I also was just thinking, I'm like, I'm just so thankful that I have parents that I enjoy spending time with. Like, I like enjoy hanging out with them. It never feels like a, like a, like a, like, I got to do this. Cause they're my family. Like, I really enjoy it. Funny story. Good sweet. I have a funny story for Disney. I'm back in fourth. I just wanted to share this, but I should preface this by saying, it did not offend me at all. I think it was really, really funny. And it was just one of those moments that you're just like, ha, ha, ha. Like, I can't wait until it just happened. But okay. So my kids, I fully. I don't know what something about. It does not bother. Their chaos does not bother me. Yeah. Most, I would say, like, 99% of the time. Yeah. Especially when you think about the setting that they're in, they're in Disney worlds. Like, it's. Emped up. It's a kid friendly place. They're outside. And there's, like, the end of the day. They are just. My kids aren't the kind that, like, I literally. I stare at kids sleeping in strollers at Disney. I'm like. How do they do that? Let me just say, like, my kids. This is something that I feel like I've just kind of become a little bit immune to my kids' chaos. Okay. They're two boys, 13 months apart. They just, like, fully entertain each other, but they also wind each other up. And I cannot tell you, like, the type of amazement I feel when. I honestly, I think that these parents are better than me. When their kids are asleep in their strollers. No. I'm like, how do they do that? My kids do not do that. Maybe when they were itty bitty babies, but I have no memory past, for sure, one-one-year-old. Sure. Of them sleeping in a stroller. They're just not. No matter how late it is, no matter how. We stand up to 2 a.m. on New Year's Eve to take them back to Missouri. They're not. They're not even yawning. I'm not even kidding. They just keep getting more amazement. Well, you and Matt are both two of the most energetic people I've ever met. Really? Yes. You and the family. You will stay up all day all night to not miss a thing. Which I feel like the boys like that. And then Matt has, like, the best goal of retriever energy. And he's up all night to, like, always down for anything. So I'm not surprised that your boys are like, "Oh, down for the ride." They're like little wind up toys. And I feel like it just keeps winding up until they, like, get. Like, I can just see it in their eyes that they're just, like, rabid. But, um, so this was happening. So they would rabid. Let me set the scene. Okay. All he has is Pirate Sword. They're just, like, running around going. Where are you at? We are waiting for a dinner reservation. Okay. And so I have to, like, we can't leave this premises. But we are outside. Okay. And we are at Disney. Okay. So it's, like, let me just set that scene. It's, like, a child-appropriate area. But, um, this really kind employee came out to us. And he was, like, sweeping. Like, he was, um, like, keeping the park clean. And I could tell that he was, like, had some socially developmental differences. Uh-huh. Super, super, super sweet guy. And just, like, really chatty. But he comes up to me. And the first thing he says, he's, like, "Okay, are they autistic or are they just boys?" [laughs] And you're, like, honestly? Great question. [laughs] Imagine I'm, like, we're getting them texted. [laughs] I wasn't, like, literally this is the funniest thing. [laughs] It's not that serious. It was just so funny. And it was just the way he said it, too. It was, like, so bold. It was, like, what is it? It, like, it's telling me which one they kind of get, like, get those confused. [laughs] I was, I was holding it back. I had, like, tears building in the background. [laughs] Didn't know what you were going to say. In fact, it was going to be that. [laughs] I love that he asked that. Not offended at all. And I was, because they were, I mean, they were rabid at this point. [laughs] But I was like-- That's great. You know what? Yeah. It was just boys. [laughs] It was really funny. I was just like, it was, it was so funny. And my, like, my pants were cracking up, too. It was great. It was just the delivery. Everything about it was perfect. He's like, "Ah, he's sweeping and walking away." [laughs] It just moves on. [laughs] It was a young guy. You talked a little bit more after that, but no, he was older. Oh, funny. I feel like Jetsie is always just cool to be in, like, so is this what it is. You know what I mean? It was, I think-- It was likely that he was on the spectrum. Uh-huh. I think he was also just so comfortable with it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's not a derogatory thing. He's like-- Are they in my community or not? Yeah. We had a part of the club. It was so funny. I was like, this was honestly the icing on the cake of tonight. But-- Oh, it's great. It was a really good trip. I mean, it was quick, and I honestly think it was perfect that it was just, like, quick. I like to just hit it hard and then-- Yeah. Bounce out. But it was really fun. It was a great trip. What are their favorite rides? Or what's your favorite part of the Disney? Honestly, you don't know what I think about Disney, like-- Oh, the Disney. Let's think. No, honestly, that was also something I was kind of reflecting as I was just, like, walking out of the parks because one morning I did go without my parents because they didn't have tickets for that day. And so we just spent the whole morning being the boys. And I was, like, just thinking I was like, it's so funny because it's, like, something shifts when you become a parent. And this sounds so cheesy, but I can't tell you why, like, I genuinely mean this. Like, it goes from, like, what do I want to do to like I'm literally going to have the most fun when they're having the most fun. - Oh yeah, for sure. - And so I'm like I don't even care that like I'm not even thinking like what is going to be more fun like I don't know. - The joy comes watching them have joy totally. - Yes totally, totally. And so I was like I don't even think about like what my favorite ride to do or anything like that. Like I have just so much fun when they're enjoying themselves and I obviously also enjoy aspects of Disney myself so much. It's very nostalgic for me like I went as a kid with my family and like so often. So anyway, but they like love their they're like they love the pirate stuff. But it's funny though because I'm like my first born, my second born. It's like pretty obvious they pretty much follow the general stereotype I would say for like birth order. Yeah, like Griffin loves like chip and Dale. He calls him chicken Dale. He goes crazy for them like the sweet little happy chipmunks. And then Augie's favorite we visited Darth Vader. We were the only children in that line. It's like all like older like because it's like an intense experience. It's like they like really and bought Griffin held his hand and he's like oh we don't really like the lady there was like oh we don't hold hands here like why because they're like in character. It's like not the Star Wars community doesn't intimidate me. I got to be honest, I'm scared Augie's like this is the time of my life. I don't know the lore. So then when they're like like I'm like talking about I'm helping Augie talk to Darth Vader and I'm like yeah you have your own lightsaber because he's like talking I'm like translating Augie's speaking. Of course. To Darth Vader and then I'm like what colors tell him what color your lightsaber is I'm like I don't know if this is like a character that is like an enemy of Darth Vader. Who are you? I was like I don't know any of the lore so I was just like his is red and I think Darth Vader is this red. Uh-huh. Anyway, and so like okay so you got to juxtaposition Griffin like loves Mickey chip and Dale like and then Augie's like Darth Vader Jack Sparrow. Oh. I love that. And they both like that the other person likes it a lot like Griffin will be like Augie look. There's that into their well. Yeah, they like they know that they're like they love their boxes. Oh my gosh. It was so much fun. I just had a blast and then it was funny because my flight got delayed and so Matt and I landed at the exact same time last night. I know we were going to take him home and then I was like well no I texted Matt. I was like hey we're here and then he's like okay Caleb's going to drive me home. I'm like no we're here. No we're here right now. We're here at the airport when you want to still go home with Caleb. I had a Vivian in the back and I was like well take him home. So you do it was super excited to see Uncle who's kind of sad. Oh yeah. I know. Actually ruined his night. No she's kidding. We should have said hi. I know but it's so stressful at the Arizona. And then pick up line. There's people yelling all the time. All the time they're always yelling. There was a guy yelling. I was like Matt he's got to stop. He's like he's not mad. He's just trying to drag people. I'm like I don't know. I'm getting in trouble. I'm going to pause this episode really fast and ask you guys for a really really quick favor. If you could just hit the like button subscribe button follow button share button. Leave a review please. Five stars. That'd be great. We would greatly greatly appreciate it. We love your support and back to the episode. That was your time. Was that your first time really like with the two full alone? Yeah. Because my mom was even out of town. So it was just my dad here. But we it was honestly really smooth. Good. It was great. It all works out of the house during the day. Yeah, it wasn't a big deal. And then my dad came over in the evening and we had dinner together. So it was really sweet. It was fun. That is really. Actually, I got to say something. I was also thinking about this. I feel like I lacked a mom confidence for a long time when I had to because Matt did so much. Like Matt did like a thousand times more than because he was just around way more like and he was more flexible than any other dad could normally be. So for a long time, I was like, I did not have the, I was like, I can't take care of both my kids by myself. And I like lack that confidence for a long time. So that's why it literally took me to getting to this point where I was like, oh, I'm it. I made it baby. I made it baby. I'm like, wow, it took way too long. What did it in? I mean, they changed so much these first two, three years too. Like you feel like you get a grip and then a milestone. Yeah, I can't wait to get knocked off. I mean, we're not thriving in every area. Of course. Like, yeah. I have a funny story to tell you. So my dad loves softball. Oh, by the way. Caleb and was with Matt and their dad and their brother Josh at Epic Universe in Florida. So that's why I was alone. And on, it was like a Christmas present. Yeah. So one of the days I took CJ to Papa's softball game. My dad's in this. Bad smile. Hopefully it gets 55 plus. I mean, this is actually kind of impressive. Their picture on the team is 80 years old. Yeah, I mean, he's throwing logs. You know, it's soft. Slow pitch softball. But these guys are good. And they're. Wait, how old is he? The picture is 80. But my dad's 69. Yeah. But all these people are coming over to CJ and me and Vivian. And then they're talking to us. And they're like, I can't. We're so happy. There's fans here. Oh, they kept saying like, or so glad your dad's on the team. He's just been so good on these. But they they call each other like he was a free agent. They used like real baseball. Lingo. I love it. They're very serious about it. Oh, they have to be. Yeah. So anyway, my dad was like hitting hits. And he's very good at it. So he was hitting home runs. And they're old people around. We're really excited. They kept coming up to me being like. I was hitting home runs. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I know this old man walked past. And he's maybe like, he's also in his late 70s. And he looked at me and he goes, thanks so much for letting your husband play on the team. Husband. Talking about my dad. And why did the flight attendant think that my dad was my senior flying to California? Why? What is with the West? I said, this is not something I can let slide. Oh, that's my dad. No, that's my dad. No, I didn't. Impulsively. The fact that this happened. It wasn't the flight attendant. Yeah. I was with one of the kids. And my dad was with the other. And my -- Well, they were across the island. She's like, they shouldn't split you up because you guys are in the same family. And I was like, oh, it's weird. It's some big deal. It's frontier. Like, they do it all the time. You have to pay for everything. Right, right, right. And she's like, no, like they should not split up a family like husband and wife and kids. I was like, I literally didn't even matter anything at that point. I was like, that's my dad. But yours are bringing. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. I just was like, stop. Don't get this twisted. It was a gutter hole. I was just like, that's my dad. I was just laughing so hard. I'm like, they really think my dad is the man. You think my dad who's 69 has a four-month-old baby? I was puking. I was so like, I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. My husband's getting never leave our sides again. Like my husband's young and hot and spriple. My dad does look very young for his aid. Seriously, let's assume grandpa. No, you shouldn't. 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Yeah, we'll get into more of that because there's so much interesting data around this. It says the 54%. Oh, the 54% drinking rate is the lowest recorded by Gallup in nearly 90 years. What does that mean? You know what? I didn't look that far into the fact. I just read the fact. Only 54% drink. I believe. Okay. I believe. That's what it is. That's a great question. That sounds right. But women reported another 11 point drop compared to men had a 5 point drop. So more women are drinking less than men. Wow. - No, which actually, that's not shocking. Now that I said that out loud. I feel like men like like to meet up for a beer and you know, are a little bit more casual about drinking whereas, I guess, but it's the dropping. Like why would they be dropping more than men? - So there was a couple studies that came out where I think I even had this noted, they say like two drinks can affect women's hormones. So it takes very little for women to feel the effects maybe more so than men. - Oh. - And all this like status is coming out. Yeah. (laughs) - And you have one half a drink and you're like, "Woo!" - It's all mental, but I really don't know how to stop it. - Sure. - I don't drink really basically much at all. - No. - And it really hits my heart. - Yeah, you're like, "That is crazy." - This is amazing. - This is such a crazy feeling. (laughs) - Family. - Yeah, I just thought that was so interesting. I feel like the drinking culture when I turned 21 was so strong. I remember turning 21 and being shocked at like now that I was invited to be in the drinking culture, legally, culturally, like every holiday was around alcohol, especially being in the Midwest too and the winter, there's not a ton to do. So everything is around going out and around alcohol. So I think that this kind of really surprised me 'cause alcohol culture has been so strong in the past few years. - Mm-hmm. - Yeah. I don't know. - I feel like the thing now is like we related things. So Jenzi had talked about that, which this is what is very interesting to me. It says Jenzi, let me find the fact, hold on a sec. - Which I'm technically Jenzi actually. Jenzi is drinking less alcohol due to a heightened focus on physical and mental health, rising financial constraints, which makes a lot of sense 'cause going out and drinking and getting even alcohol in the menu is so expensive. - That's why we never did. - Never did. It's like $13 for what's a drink and like, thank. - Crazy. - And are moving to alternative substances like marijuana. Which I think is, is that cheaper? - I don't think marijuana is cheaper or better for your mental health. 'Cause I looked that up too. 'Cause I always-- - I can't be better for your mental health. Maybe you're physical, I don't know. - I mean, maybe if it's like you're a little bit more risk adverse, you're not out of control. - Maybe 'cause you don't get a hangover. - Maybe. You're more functioning, I guess, when you're high? I don't think, like, if you were to get high and wake up in the next morning, I don't think you're gonna feel the effects of that. - Just alcohol. - Like alcohol. Like, people get hungover from alcohol. My dad was actually just telling me, like, he'd call his store's alcohol and I was like, "How that's horrible." I guess it's horrible. - Yeah, the fact that you have a fun night but then have your next day's ruined. - Yeah. - You're just throwing up. - He was talking about his buddies, not himself, but I'm pretty sure he also protect, but. - Sure. - Yeah, that's interesting. Maybe it's the hangover thing. - Yeah. - But also, I don't know. I don't know enough, honestly. I feel like when it comes to online and media, like, the, not propaganda, but the sentiment around alcohol has been really negative. Like, you think about Andrew Cuberman and these people sharing great facts about the effects of alcohol in the body. And then if, yeah, like, Gen Z is a little bit more cautious about their mental health and they're wanting to live healthier lifestyles. But I was talking to Caleb about this and I thought he made an interesting point and he thinks also the dip is because people aren't like hanging out as much. - Yeah, for sure. - For Gen Z, well, yeah, just younger people. - Drinking is more social, I think, than like, some of these other substances. - Totally. Like, there's a huge more shift in just being alone. - Yeah. - Which is sad, actually. I'm like, go on, have one drink. You can hang out with your friends, you know? But, I don't know. Just an interesting conversation, interesting topic. - Yeah. - That is interesting. I'm not surprised because I do feel like I don't even hear about it. Also, it's hard to tell because I'm like, is it just because of the circles I'm in? Like, alcohol has never been like, I've never like gotten together with people actually ever to like, have a drink. But like, sometimes if we go to a nice dinner, like we would get a drink and I'm like, that, yeah, that does surprise me, but it doesn't. I feel like the app, I don't hear about kids. I always just keep hearing about gummies and like, any vapes, I don't know. - What are those called? - Yeah. - Like, those types of things. - Yeah. - It's so, yeah. It's interesting. I feel like some of that stuff almost scares me more. Like, I feel like when I was younger, I obviously drank a lot, but I never had any interest in, I went through a phase where I was like, oh, I'd love to try weed in college. But then I never did because I thought to myself, why would I try this? If I know, it's obviously going to feel really good. Like, that's why people get addicted to drugs. So I just never wanted to open the door or something that felt that I was probably going to like and then have to keep up. Do you know what I mean? It's another stuff I feel like is a little scarier to me. Like when I think about CJ growing up, I'm like, dang. Like, weed was just never a thing until I was a senior in high school amongst my peers. And maybe just because it wasn't really accessible. And then as kids got older, they found ways to get it. But it was just, yeah, it just felt like such a big step, a big leap, whereas now I feel like it's a lot less, it's a lot more desensitized amongst the younger kids. - Talking about alcohol and like with our kids and stuff. Like, I feel like there's so many different parenting sentiments about like alcohol and like, well, if they're in my house, they're like that a lot. Like Matt, I have like such a hard and fast line and he agrees with me too. Like you have to be 21. Like that is the law. Like I don't know why we're like acting like you, it's like, well, mom says it's okay. It's like mom doesn't make the laws. The law doesn't care. And then I think it just opens the door for all these other things. I actually don't even know the legal age for weed. I don't either. I think it's 21, 21. - I would think, 'cause vaping is 21. He looked that up, Hannah. Oh, I didn't hear by the way she said. - Oh yeah, Adi. - God, we met you, girl. - Oh my God. - This Adi. Otherwise, you would've heard from her right now. Sorry guys, Adi's not here for this episode. - That's why I'm fumbling off my word. She's usually my dad's girl. - She's like, wait, let me check that. - No. - It's 21. - Okay, I figured it was 'cause I knew vape was 21. - That's like a hard and fast rule for me. Like I'm like, I don't want it to be like, oh, well, Christmas with the family you can have. I'm like, no, or this type of alcohol. No, it's like this is like the law. Whether or not you disagree with the age, it actually makes no difference. - Right. - Like it's the law. And so I don't know if that's like the first born in me, but I'm like, that's just a weird messaging to send your kid. - Yeah, you could follow some laws, but not all of them. - Right, yeah, I think that's weird. I don't think that's like a good anyway. - I also never really a subscribe to the thought, the thought of like, well, they're gonna do it anyway. So why is well make it safe? I'm like, but then you're just in need, that I don't know. That's a whole different thing. I just don't agree with that. - I don't think that works. - I don't think that works with their translates. - I think it makes sense in your head, but it doesn't work. - As an adult with a kid, I'm like, they can't rationalize. - That's the whole reason why they can't drink alcohol, actually, their brains aren't developed. - Yeah, and so yeah, anyway, all that to say, I just, all of that, I'm like, we'll just, that will be their adult decision when they're 21, but until then, we will model like, interacting with these appropriately. But yeah, I don't know. I think that that was just, that's a weird parenting thing. So your pro, your kids, 21, I'm pro, none of it. You seem pro alcohol. Honestly, I am, more than drugs. I just feel like, I just always think like, altering your mind is a little bit scarier. What I do know alcohol does, but you can have one drink and not be altered, whereas you're taking a gum, you're immediately gonna be altered, you know? Like, here's my alcohol moderation, is alcohol moderation versus like drugs. I mean, there's mild doses, sure, but I don't know. I just feel like that's, I feel like you could probably, just to be the devil's advocate, I think you could take a small dosage. I don't really know, and it would probably, I'm more comfortable with alcohol as well, because I'm like, I've had it. I haven't had any of these other things. But I do think there's probably a flip side to that, that also has better physical effect. I don't know. I want to know is, okay, so I know there's like a big, like wine mom culture, is that still a thing? I think it's switch to diet coke. I'm so for real about that. Diet coke, mom culture. Diet coke feels like the new mom's like a, positive step in the right direction. Yeah, I don't know. Is there gonna be like a weed mom culture? I think there is. Oh, I feel like there is just like a weed culture in general. What among moms? Among everybody. Wow, I know. There's weed moms out there. I mean, there are like, shrooms, mom. (laughing) I don't know, this is not my, I don't think I've ever met a weed mom. That's crazy. I know, it's like, I'm so like not privy to all these things. No, me neither. I don't know any of that, but that's, wow. That's crazy. That is crazy. What? Taking a good bath. I've never heard of that. Oh, oh, I'm sorry. I thought you were doing a drug and you went down. (laughing) You're like to relax. I don't do any drug and you were doing this. I don't know what I'm talking about. Me neither. Why'd we pick this up? Wow, that's crazy. No. I, yeah, no, no, no, no, no. I think that is, I don't know if that's a positive swing or not, I agree. I think it's good. Sometimes I feel like we're trading one evil for a different evil. That's probably what we're always doing in life. Yeah, totally. Not good. Yeah, that's crazy. One of the vise, one real switch to another vise. Right. And then that one will be bad and then we'll switch to another one. Yeah. I think these all just pendulums. Yeah. I feel like it doesn't ever like the argument weeds better for you. I'm like, they're all bad. They're all bad. Yeah. Okay, let's switch. Because we're talking about the kids in Gen Z and Gen Alpha. And I thought, you don't know any of the slang, do ya? No. No. Do you know the Gen Alpha slang? No. I've heard the term Gen Alpha, how old are they? I think they're middle school. Middle school, elementary school. Hannah's going to confirm that for us. Wait, are you, are you millennial technically? I'm for sure a millennial. Okay. Caleb sometimes likes to think. What is it? Zero to 15. Zero to 15. Okay, they're older than we think. Yeah. Zero to 15 is Gen Alpha. And so then 15 to what is Gen Z? 15 to like 25, I thought. No, I'm Gen Z. Okay, 27. I'm a cusper. 15 to 28. Say I'm 29. I'm a cusper. I think it depends. Caleb and I are kind of talking about this. If you have an older sibling, you're probably more millennial. Like I had my older sister two or five years older than me. And so I had all of the things that have heard generation. Okay. Whereas Caleb was the oldest. kind of. identifies more with the younger's stuff, 'cause he wasn't introduced to the older end of the millennial. Caleb feels millennial. - I know. (laughs) - I tell him that too. I'm like, it's a great thing. - It's a great thing. Just be happy about it. - Just be happy. - No, yeah, that's so funny. Okay, so in A, are we talking about middle school slang? I'm scared. - It is like what's big online? - Yeah, everyone's talking, everyone's saying these things. - Imagine setting your makeup, then forgetting it's even theirs. Meet new grippy setting mist from Mavily New York. Gel to mist technology locks in your look for up to 24 hours with flexible all day comfy grip. Just plump, dewy, hydrated skin. That still feels like your skin. Try new grippy setting mist from Mavily New York. - Maybe it's Mabling. - Okay, this is the first. - Are you gonna explain 6-7 for me, finally, today? - I actually can, 'cause it's not all these quizzes. - Okay, this is 6-7. - 6-7. - 6-7. - What? - What does that mean? - There was a video of a basketball player. - I thought it was inappropriate, so I never asked anybody. - This is the wildest thing that got picked up because it is nothing, it literally means nothing. It was a basketball player, a video of a guy, and I think he was just in a post game interview. I could be wrong about this, but he goes, "Yeah, I was like 6-7." Just in his conversation talking about points and that blew up on the internet. - So, but what context would you ever use that in? - I think kids are just, any time someone says 6-7, they go, "6-7." - I think I really thought there was gonna be more to this. I thought it was inappropriate, so I was afraid to ask anybody. - I think it's just a widely, it's a widely, it's like an inside joke amongst this generation. - Yes, I'm wrong, Hannah, will you please double check that? - If I'm wrong, oh, I'm old. - According to Google, it came from a rap song by Skrilla. But the artist said that he never gave it a specific meaning, allowing it to become a blank canvas, which then the NBA player was interested in the interview and that's where it got picked up. - Okay, you're right, you're right, you're right. - I was about to pass away. - So, what I've learned is that this doesn't mean anything. - It means nothing. - It means nothing. - So, why do people say, "I'm so confused." - No, I'm not gonna get it. - We're never gonna understand it. - But we just should start using it, okay? (laughing) - I'm really, I'm not kidding. I thought it was like something related to '69. (laughing) - Just tune them for some. - No way. - It's confirmed, it's not bad. (laughing) - Wow, I'm glad we clicked that up. - Got that. - Okay, that's why I was afraid to say it. - And I was like, "Why are your kids saying this?" - My kids making jokes about intimacy. - Okay, what does it mean? So, it says, "Just put the fries in the bag, bro." (laughing) This is multiple choice. - Just do it. - Send it. - Wait, this is multiple choice and I can't let it go. (laughing) - I don't know what the answer is. (laughing) - Wait, let's do this. - Have you heard of this, you know? Just put the fries in the bag, bro. What is this? Who made this? - Wait, I did a bad job prepping for this. I thought, "No, I know all these." Okay, here are the options. To grind and earn money, to shut your mouth, to hurry up and get it over with or get to the point to work a low-age job. - Get to the point. - I think it's get to the point. I don't think we need to look that one up. I think we know that one. But we're wrong. (laughing) - Which of these words means overrated? - Mogged, sweetened, iced, glazed. You know what, Hannah, can you fill this quiz out while we're going through this? (laughing) Actually, we're both being quits. (laughing) - Oh my god. I don't even know, when you said the word Mogged, I was like, "I'm out." (laughing) - What's the answer, Hannah? - Glazed. - Glazed. - That means we're overrated? I guess is that because they don't think glazed donates are good, they're overrated. I'm trying to connect the dots. (laughing) Glazed. - Sus. - Suspicious. - Yeah, you got that one. Here we go. What does Mog mean? To outdo or outperform someone's looks? Like, "Oh, you Mogged." To build a community, to lose, or to squander an opportunity. That one. I think squander an opportunity. - To outdo or outperform someone's looks? - Got it, so that's what Mog means. Have you heard it before? - I've actually never heard Mogged. (laughing) Which of these words means basically the same as dang? Okay, you're right for this. Yang, tang, zang, or zang? Is dang with an X or zang with a Z? - No idea. - Yeah, dang. I think, I'm gonna say, "Yang." - It's zang with a Z. (laughing) - Zang means dang. Oh, yeah. - Zang. - Zang. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Okay, in context. - I'm gonna go like, "Yang." (laughing) - What does, we just started doing that wrong one 'cause we forgot what the right answer was. - I don't know any of the right answers. I should have done this quiz. What does, "Looks Maxing" mean? "Looks Maxing." - With two X's. To look bad or unappealing, to widen your eyes, to try to look as good and appealing as possible. Oh, yeah, that. To be watchful and alert. "Looks Maxing." - C. - C. - Yes. - To try and look as good as possible. - Okay, perfect. - "Looks Maxing." That's what you say, "Looks Maxing." - Yeah, like, "You look Maxing today." - Wait, is it two words, "Looks Maxing?" - Yeah, there's no space in between this word. It has two X's. - And it has two X's. - Yeah, look. - Zoom in really deep. (laughing) - I love these kids. - "Looks Maxing." - What does "Chopped" mean? Low key or secretive, bad or ugly? Swav or slick? - Slick. - I think it means bad. - Chopped is bad. - Chopped, get it out of here. But like, for what kind of context? - Context. - I don't think, I don't know. I'll never know. - I'll never know. (laughing) - What is an op? - An opportunity. - An enemy, a penalty, a friend, an operative or agent. - Make it an enemy because it's like the opposition. - Oh, okay. - See. - Hit and cool. - What does it mean when someone says, "Clock it" to take note of? Something is scary or strange? Okay, you wanna go with that one? - Take note of. - That's it. - Yeah. - Okay, what is "Skibbity"? - Have you heard this before? - I've heard "Skibbity" toilet. This is like a 6-7 to me. I could not, I don't understand it. - Skibbity? - Is it a skiing accident? A cartoon character in a toilet? - A bidet or a bad song? Oh, like "Skibbity" skips. Skibbity. (laughing) - Skip this one. - What is it? - It's a cartoon character in a toilet. - Oh, it's literally that. Oh. All right, we're gonna keep it away. - Why would you save it? Why would you make a word for that? - I don't know. - Oh, here's the "Start Quiz" button. I couldn't find that really. (laughing) - Skibbity toilet, is that from a video? - Is that specifically a skibbity? - Yes. - Not me thinking of a skip, skibbity skips. - Why do people refer to that? - It came from a YouTube video. I'm like 99% sure. - Oh, okay, that makes sense. What does "girt" mean? Sad, hurt, yogurt, or great? - Yogurt. - I'm gonna go and-- (laughing) - That's most apical in my household. - I'm gonna say it's great. Like, "girt", "girt"? - It's great. (laughing) - "Unc", do you know what "unc" is? - "Uncle"? - Yes. - Good job. Okay, let me go the next-- - Oh, we're getting good. (laughing) - Okay, there's one more 'cause there were a few that were on this one that I wanted to see if you knew. This one's shorter. Okay, we did "skibbity". You know what "riz" is? - Yeah. - What does it come from though? What's the word? - "Kryzma". - He's got "Kryzma". Did you ever see the "Madeline" movie? Like the "Human"? - I think so. I didn't watch a lot of the girly movies as a kid. I had a brother. - Anytime he heard the word "Kryzma", I just think he's got "Kryzma". - Yeah. - What does "ghiyat" mean? "ghiyat"? You can see only what you can say it. - Why does it not like bad? - I think it means "big booty". (laughing) - So it's curvy? Attractive? - Wait, is it bad? - No, it's fine. - It's a slang term used as explanation of admiration, most often for an attractive person with large body. - But booty girls? (laughing) - Yeah! - I love that. - What does Ohio mean as an adjective? Negative, weird or creepy, angry or rude? - Rude? - Rude. I don't know. - It's weird or creepy. - Ohio? Oh yeah. Do people use that regularly? Like actually, Ohio? - I didn't know that. I don't know where. We'll have to look more into that one. - That's really old. - What is the phantom tax? Rich and stingy, theft of food between friends, pretending to be something you're not, we're stealing just for fun. - Felt of food between friends. - I think that's probably right. Good guess, Abby, that is right. - Okay, sigma, when referring to a person, the person's sigma. - It's probably a compliment. - It's a compliment. - It feels like something related to frat. - Yeah, they're high status. - Okay. - High status. Okay, the last one, this is the. It says, what is negative aura? - They're just aura. - Oh wait, I remember someone telling me this. It's like related to the aura ring, and you lose points on that, right? - I don't think about the aura ring connection, but you can aura farm, and you can try to get your status up. You know, aura is like, oh you're cool. You got good aura, good energy. So you have negative aura, bad energy. - Okay, yeah. - And then you can aura farm and try to build up your energy. aura farm. Farm sounds a little demonic. What is muing? I'm just muing. Yeah, posture training, making cat noises, being wild and violent, or constantly interrupting someone. Maybe that? I'm gonna say it's posture training. I would have never guessed that. Okay, this is getting long, but posture training. A lot of slang that we needed education on. Why? Muing. I guess I need to work on my posture training because maybe it's like you're like a cow. Muing, that's muing. Safe to say we know nothing. That is actually so crazy because I remember like adults and I was like, what are you saying? Yeah, like now I get it. I'm like, what are you saying? Literally, I don't know. And I feel like with the time our boys are older. Oh, we're gonna be lost. It's lost, lost, lost, lost in the sauce. We're gonna have to take these quizzes weekly just to keep up. What's the new word? I have I literally and I have not heard of basically any of those. I've heard of negative aura. Yeah, I've heard of Riz, that might be it. That is so scary. Yeah. Also, I'm like, we're letting the zero to we're testing the children. Yes, that's crazy. Yeah, I honestly, I love their imagination. Keep it up, kids. You're the one who taught me it's inappropriate, but an adjective that people use now is like, I told Mao that people are saying this as an adjective. It's so inappropriate. What is it? I taught you the C word. Oh, yeah. People are saying that casually. That's crazy. That's crazy. You heard this too, Hannah. Let's not make the C word come back. Well, I type out about the B word, right? I think they're on the same, they're pretty nasty words. I don't like those. It's only out of the slang. Only girls are using the C word I've seen. We don't need to reclaim it. We don't need to bring it back. Oh, we don't want it. Let's leave that one in the dust. I don't like it. I never liked it. I know. That one's harsh. Okay. That was fun. That was crazy. We had a train to do. Well, I thought it would just be kind of fun and cheating. That was fun. That was good. That's good. That's like how widely used are these and I'm just so in the dark. A lot. They're used a lot. That's so scary. I know, right? Yeah. Well, you know, we have our friends and our things and that's fine. They'll never understand. Yeah. Which is why we're talking about gallon signs. I can't, I'm comfortable with that. Imagine setting your makeup then forgetting it's even theirs. Tried new grippy setting mist from Mavily New York. Maybe it's mapling. We are doing a whole girls themed segment, gallon times. We're going to do a gift segment with ideas that you could do for your sister, your friends, your mom, whoever the lady is in your life. And then we're also going to do like our favorite party ideas. Honestly, coming up with these party ideas, I have to do some of these now. I like it got me so excited because I was like, man, I actually haven't had planned a gallon times. What am I doing? Okay, well, let's do that first and then we can do gifts at it. We can't pick one. Yeah. Okay. I have three different party ideas. Same. Oh, just kidding. I have four. Okay. So this actually we've done this before, but it was one of my favorite girls night things that we did. It was the bring aboard night. Oh, fine. Everyone, this is like the food. I was trying to do like different categories. This is a really fun food idea. And it can be different. Like, Sarah our friend bought a drink board with all different types of drinks. I had a taco board, pretzel board, just all the different fun things. And you can also make it really pretty. And then you have a good variety of food. You have a ton of food. It's honestly more than anyone could eat. But it's so fun. That is really fun. I love that. I really just started. I can't remember what I brought. But those are that's a classic. I've done that with my family too. Like that's really good. That's a good one. Okay. I was thinking more of like specific to Valentine's. I try to like apply those fun. And I thought it'd be so fun. This is kind of similar along similar lines like food and like snacky things. But a fondue party would be so fun. You could do chalk cheese like cheese fondue. But I feel like for Valentine's Day, it's almost better to do chocolate fondue. And then you could prepare like a whole spread of like strawberries, nila wafers, waffle pieces, bananas, like all things like that, raspberries. And I think it'd be fun to even like as many heart shaped things that you can put in there. You could even cut the strawberries into hearts easily. And like everyone just gets a little skewer dip it in. That would like be fun. And like chatty as you like have little girls. And I feel like that's more fun to do with girls than like it's a lot for just a couple, you know, to do fondue. I mean, you could do it smaller, but yeah, it feels fun to do like I have a large group of girls. That is a really good idea. That just reminded me. I did for kill one night or one year I put together a high T. Oh wow. That'd be really fun for girls night. That is fun. He didn't really, I mean, he loved it. But it was like this is probably more of a girls thing. Are you having an etiquette? I had them all like a tripod. Actually, I will say this growing up. My mom made Valentine's Day always so fun. And we did fondue as a family sometimes. So you could also do it with your kids. Your mom's so good at holidays. She like decorated our dining room and like yeah, I don't remember when people were like Valentine's Day is so depressing. I remember me like, oh, why? It's for people that like didn't like maybe were like freshly broken up or like didn't have a boyfriend on Valentine's Day. I remember people in like high school even saying that. I was like, no, I love Valentine's Day. I never had a boyfriend till I senior year. Like I just like loved like I looked forward to all that stuff. Yeah, that's sweet. Okay, my next one we've been doing this a lot. We're doing one this weekend. We're going to have ballroom dance class. Oh my gosh, fun. Yeah, you a matter. Yeah, he's tied us up. That's sweet. He's trying to get you on dancing with the stars. That's what it is. He's training. I was surprised that he signed us up for something like that. Yeah. Because I'm like, he's always down, but it's not like he's going to be the first one to do that. But I think a girl's dance class would be so fun. Yeah, we've been doing these hip-hop classes turn up. They're sweaty. He's like workout. It actually isn't workout. So maybe go to like to dinner with your girlfriends before and then go to your dance class or just go to someone's house and bring a change to class. But it's so fun to get out and do something movement and like silly and out of your comfort zone with your girls. It's so fun. I think if you're doing a gallon time tonight, it's just high energy. Seriously, do this with your friends. Especially if your friends are like kind of hesitant, push them to do it because it is just it's so fun to do something with all girls that is like like you said out of your comfort zone, you just laugh so much. And then like when people like actually really try, it makes it even more fun. It totally is. And we're like drinking, having great time. So we're going to get to shake your bones so safely, you know what I mean? No boys, no alcohol. It's at 7 p.m. The music's usually kind of clean. It's like, you know, this is a great vibe. It's so fun. It's so fun. Just to not take yourself seriously. When you get to let loose like that as a mom, like seriously. It's so good. It's really good. It's honestly, I feel like there's something in your brain that makes that healthy for you. Totally. Okay, mine once again, I really stuck with that one. I'm down for it. Okay, so I did chick flicks and Chick-fil-A. And you wear like red or pink pajamas. I think that'd be really fun. Thank you. I think you could also like spite. Okay, first of all, Chick-fil-A, if you like their big franchise, like they have them a lot of place. They didn't have a record up. So I'm saying this is a little bummer if you're specifically in Quincy Illinois. Small town. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You could recreate Chick-fil-A. Just get to get somewhere else. But what I'm saying is that they have, they do have catering at Chick-fil-A. That is very easy to get and affordable and it's great for a crowd. I feel like that everyone's happy about Chick-fil-A. It's a good option. It's a good option. And so that would be really, and it would be so easy to just go pick that up and then turn on it girls like Chick-fil-A. And I don't watch a lot of Chick-fil-A because I, it's just not something, I don't watch movies alone and then Matt and I don't watch them together usually. Sure. So I think this would be really fun to do with your girls specifically and everyone can wear red or pink pajamas and then, oh, this was going to say it, you could also really lean into Valentine's Day theme with this one too and make like Valentine's mocktails or cocktails about your vibe. But I feel like mocktails probably fits better with Chick-fil-A. Yeah. Also, I'll go on the decline. We don't even really drink so I mean, I think it's really fun to make like a little Valentine's Day mocktail and I actually made some mocktails for Matt and I want time. This is only for specific taste but if you put on like, say you have like a base of like spray or ginger ale something like that, you put cotton candy on top. It's like super cute. And then it absorbs like, and turns all pink and like, yum fun. Have you seen the glitter that people put in their dreams? Yes, I've seen that too. So cute. Or like fun ice cubes, a little straw. Also those like glass cups that have like the, they have them for like every holiday now with the things glass colored glass inside of it. Like, I'm sure Target has like some heart ones or something like that. Super cute. Heart straws. It'd be really fun. Fine. See this is, this was a really good segment for you because you have, you love those. Like, do this. No, you have great ideas. I love them. I know. I love your detail. Okay, my next one, I was thinking through maybe a craft or like a, like a craft night type of vibe. So I have, well, I'll do one and I'll do my next one. Okay, this is decorating tote bags. You could paint the tote bags and make them all Valentine's themed and those little Trader Joe's bags. I'm pretty sure they're $5 at Trader Joe's and the girlers are just carrying those as like an everyday bag. I mean, really in their canvas, they're super easy to paint. And if you're not painting, you could get like stickers or patches and iron them on. And that's just really inexpensive and fun. And it's always nice to have like something to do with your hands. Yeah. If you're just sitting around chatting. So I thought that was cute. This one is general, but I feel like I just need help fully fleshing this one out. Okay, but I was thinking pasta and painting night, like you get pair the two pizza and painting similar to what you're saying. So my original idea, okay. So every Valentine's Day, my grandparents would also get a heart pop a Murphy's Pizza. They still sell them. So you could get heart pizzas. I'm sure there's other pizza franchises that sell heart pizzas. You could easily make them too, which I've made them as well, just a pizza dough. And heart pizzas would also make this theme. Cute, fun. But, and then also pasta parties. I've seen people do this. You just boil different types of noodles, make different, a couple different, like a red sauce and a white sauce, and then a couple different proteins. And it's like, "Build your own pasta tonight." It's cute. So you could do pasta and painting, and then so I was thinking it would be so fun to do, like, so I save some pictures, which we can put up on the screen of, like, painting vases, like, 'cause Valentine's Day, I think about flowers, like, painting vases, but, or even a mug would be fun. Yeah, that would be fun. But the problem with those is you do kind of need a lot of those. Well, yeah, you need some in-depth supplies. Like, you would probably need a kiln so, like, make it, like, not that weird texture, you know what I'm talking about? Oh, you're talking about, like, getting ceramic mugs and painting them. Yes. Well, you could just go to the pottery place and do that with your girlfriends. You could do that too. It'd be hard to combine the pasta and painting with that. I was like, someone's big. You bring in your pasta to paint. I was like, the host could go and drop them off after the party. It is an extra, like, a couple extra steps then. Yeah. But then I was like, and, or it could be fun to do, like, have you see, I think I've talked about this, even on the podcast before, but, like, date night with your spouse. So you, like, paint each other. Uh-huh. Paint your friends on, like, little canvases and then do, like, show everyone. 'Cause I know that some of our friends, I can already, like, name a few. I'm like, they would do an amazing job. And then there would be mine that would just be, like, so bad. So embarrassing, but that would be really fun. And, um, just, it's, I agree with what you said. Like, it's not that you have to go over the top for these get-togethers, but there's something about, like, having an organized theme and an activity that makes them more memorable. Yeah. Like, 'cause you can hang out all the time, and that's great, and that's necessary, and that's awesome. But there's something about, like, having an organized activity, or, like, a theme, or just, like, a purpose, a specific purpose that just makes it sick in your head more. And just makes it, honestly, just more memorable. Totally. We were on a roll last year with our girl signs. We did one some month, the whole night. And those were, we need to bring them back. Because those were so fun. My last one is kind of similar to the yours, with, like, the painting of vase. I also have, I had thrifting a vase or a glassware. Everyone goes and picks out one or two bundles of flowers. And then you could have a vase that you painted. And then you could all build your own bouquet. Like, you break up your bundles. Everyone brings different types of flowers and different colors. Thank you. And then you all leave with your own custom. bouquet. That's fun. Yeah. I thought that one on my own. I love that. That was actually-- I thought of, yeah. Oh, you had the same one. No, no, no. With the vase, when I'm like, it'd be fun to just get some from the thrift store, though. Yeah, there's some vases. Or even you could get those terracotta hats. And you could paint those, and then just put a glaze on top, and they won't mold or anything. Kind of a fun thing. Good idea. Thanks. So what should we do? That was my only original idea. I got the other ones off TikTok. And so I was like, say that one for last. Say that one for last. That's cute. No, that's a good idea. I like the chick flicks and chick flay one. That'd be easy. Yeah, it'd be really easy. We would not watch a movie. But at least just having it on the tee would be so fun. That'd be fun. I like that idea a lot. OK, maybe we should do that. OK, next, we have our gift ideas. Yes. Galentine's gifts. Yeah. I had a lot of fun putting this together. I kind of did mine in under $20 range, and then $20 to $50, and then $50 plus. OK, so $1 sign, $2 sign, $3. Yeah, that's about the same general thing. OK, perfect. Do you want to do start off with the $1 sign? Yeah, mine's very simple. I came up with two easy ones for both of them. But OK, so I was specifically thinking about Galentine's. Not everyone is necessarily partnered up for Valentine's Day. So I think it's really fun for Valentine's Day. Think about your single friends and get them flowers. I feel like that would be really fun, and so easy. And it's not that weird to accept. I feel like it would just be just a bright thing in someone's day, or obviously chocolate-covered strawberries, who's going to say no to that. They're so good and so fun and Valentine's Day appropriate. And I just don't know why I don't think to do that more for people. Flowers, so easy. And it's just so sweet. Totally. I didn't think that you liked flowers. I don't like-- yeah, no. Personally, you don't. No, personally. Maybe that's why you never thought you'd do it. But I think it is a very sweet sentiment. I like when people get them for me. I do. I just am so weird. It's the same reason I don't like holiday-themed decorations, which you would think that I would like this. I'm just going to have to go put them away for the rest of the year. There's an end date, too. And then there's end date to the flowers. But I do like them when I have them. Yeah, but how many times have you come to my house and there's just been dead flowers just still in a vase? Yeah. Sure. Because I'm like, got to extend the life of these. Because they don't want to last, didn't we? Yeah, so I make sense. Why am I still randomly practical about things that I'm like, that's not necessary? Right. I think that's the thing about flowers. That's special. Like, they don't last forever. So why do I need to get over that? Yeah, I just-- you go to shift your mind to this. Other people like it. shift that mind to it. I think my gifting-- other people really like them. I do like flowers, but I'm not like the huge flower. I also don't like the smell of some flowers. Oh, really? Yeah. I love getting flowers. It's always-- I'm like, oh, gifting. OK, my first one was the Lenege Lip Sleep Mask. I was thinking, like, I love getting gifts that I want or that I use all the time, but I don't necessarily enjoy buying myself. And you got me the Lenege Sleep Mask for Christmas, and I've been loving it. I was going to ask if you like it. I love it. And it's always like a lippy is so easy. Because everyone needs a lip product. And I think it's $24. I also thought the road peptide lip treatment is like a really cute one, and it's $20. Summer Fries has one too. Yeah, it's like a little bit special, because it's a little bit more on the-- like, I'm not just going to go out and buy myself road lip treatments all the time. Yeah, it's not like a Trader Joe's lip balm. Right. It's like a little special. Yeah. So I thought that'd be cute. You could mix up the scents. The Lenege one is pink. They have a few different-- they have a lot of ones, actually. I'm like, that's such a fine little gift. The candy one, too, would be perfect for Valentine's. Yeah, you could partner it with their favorite candy or a flower. They have a candy center. That's what I got you. It's called Sweet Candy. I love it. Yeah, that's good. I was going to ask her that I really take what you say about lip products to heart. Thank you. And so I hadn't heard anything. So I was like, maybe it was not a good one. No, I've been using it twice a day. Really? Yeah, not just that night. I use it every night. I like it. I use it morning and night. I was thinking for the next one, the Anthropology Icon Cups. They're $16 a cup. And they have-- Those are the cups I was talking about. They were thinking about what the little balloon glass details they have, tons of different options. So it'd be fun if you picked one out for each of your friends that goes with their personality or your sister's. Yeah, not just the heart one, but you could get the dog. Or that's cute. You know, they have so many different options. Honestly, any glassware. I heard that at home has ones like that, too. My last one for the $1 sign is, if you didn't want to spend a lot of money, it's really simple to hand embroider an initial onto something. So that if you went to home goods and got a really cute set of hand towels or even oven mitts, like, I never buy myself new oven mitts. And that's something that everyone uses, everyone needs. You could go get it. Everyone's are burnt through. Everyone's just burn in their hands. I am burning my hands off Vincent. I actually asked for some new ones for Christmas. Yeah, it's just not something that we think to buy all the time. It's not fun, but it's fun to have. Exactly. You could go get a pretty one. And then you can easily hand embroider their initial on it, just like personalize it. I mean, it's literally the most simple thing. Really? Yes. You just need one needle on a piece of thread. And you just can trace a letter. OK. It's really cute. And that'd be-- Make a tutorial. Yeah. Well, there's tons on TikTok. OK. That's been there. People have already done that. Yeah, people have already done that. But it's just a great-- That's a great-- And it's easy to personalize. And it's really inexpensive. And everyone would love that. That's really special. Yeah, I like that. Imagine setting your makeup. Then forgetting it's even theirs. Meet new grippy setting mist from Maybelline, New York. Jelly mist technology locks in your look for up to 24 hours, with flexible all-day comfy grip. Try new grippy setting mist from Maybelline, New York. Maybe it's Maybelline. OK. Well, OK. You already gave the tote bag idea. But I specifically was thinking of our friend, Val, who listens to this podcast. And now I'm laughing as I'm saying this. Because they heard everybody else talking about her. She's not gonna share. She's not a public person. We're just dragging her into the live light. She's keeping my name out. She has really good tasting things. And she has the-- So LL Bean does a tote bag that's really-- it's like, honestly, a great size of bag. Because some tote bags are just massive. There's a time to place for that. But in some of them are just, I don't know. It's a great small size. That's just what you need to take with you. But they have a red one. And you can monogram it for $8. So you could get your friends' initials on there. Monogram, it feels extra special then. And it feels like really intentional and personalized. And then once you have a tote bag, you can fill it with so many different things. So many things. Bonus points, if you fill it, honestly. I was thinking you could fill it. I think about my favorite soap and glory bath products. Like you could get a scrub, lotion, body wash, spray. That would be really fun. You could get-- I actually have been trying new skincare from Target that is very affordable. And I already really like it. What is it? It's the-- Oh, wait, by O'Derma. No, no. Bioma. Bioma. Really close. Yeah, I think Bioderma is expensive, a little bit more. Yeah, maybe. No, I'm thinking of Dermalogica. Which I think there's so many. There's so many. But this one actually has a really beautiful packaging, which makes it more fun for like a gift thing. And it's like in an appropriate price range where you could get like a whole set and new-- sin care can go crazy with the prices. So I think that would be fun. Or even, you could get like all of the-- I always think this would be fun. Yeah, girl. grocery stores, like I think of Target, they have like always like the seasonal Valentine's Day things. Like I'm thinking about like the season, the Valentine's Oreo's, get the little Valentine's Day creamer or like all the fun like Valentine's Day themed things here at Ellie chocolates, like fill it all up and it would be really fun as a Valentine's Day gift. - Cute. I like that one. My first $2 sign one. (laughs) Like $20 to $50 is what you're saying. So now I'm going like $20 to $5 range, $2 sign. An art print from Etsy that is personalized and then you can frame it. - So for Christmas I got my sisters personalized. They're really fun kind of art deco-y prints of their dogs. - Cute. - Yeah, so like it looks like their dog has their name and you could get like a different-- - Okay, I did that for Blake and Addie. - You did? - Both their dogs, yeah. - Yeah, it's so fun to have and it's like again, not something that you necessarily always think to get yourself or if you want to really personalize it, I just got a couple of really pretty watercolor prints off Etsy for Caleb and I of like the places that we've lived. So if you and your sisters or you and your friends share a special spot or you went on a special trip together, like you could get 'em a little watercolor print. - That's fun. - And you could get a small one that would look cute on like a bookshelf or you know, it's like low commitment, not art wall art or a bigger one if you know they would like it. - That's special. - Yeah, I was like that's a really fun and those are like $30 to $50. - I like that. - Yeah, that's cute. - I just realized you never gave me my Christmas present. You tan it and-- - No, it's in the mail. - Okay. - No, I know. I've been thinking about it a lot, but it's finally done. It was custom. - It's custom. - Sweet. - I was like, you were saying something about it. You were told me the mind was custom. It was like, no, I know, I have a whole backstory of it and it's, you'll understand once. - Okay. - 'Cause it's like, you didn't have to give me anything, but I was like, I was like, is that happening? (laughing) - In the next episode, you'll have it. - Okay, great. - Okay, I also thought if you and your girlfriends or you and your sisters, you could get matching hydrojugs. - They have all the fun colors and you kind of have a little club like you get into it. - Yeah, magic water bottles. - Everyone wants another water bottle for whatever reason. - Yeah. - You could never get enough. - No, I know, and they're expensive and you could always use more. - They're like 50 bucks, 40 bucks a pop. So I was like, get a hydrojug in matching fun colors with your friends and put a little ribbon around it, a little note, a little Valentine card, and then maybe some candy. - I did say in my head that that was gonna be my favorite thing skipped for next year. 'Cause I was like, why not think about that? - I know, they're so good. You could fill it with Hershey kisses. You know, their favorite candy. - That's cute. - Yeah, that was mine. I'll skip my other two because we're not that good. - No, go for it. - Okay, the aisle of paradise face tannin drops. - Oh, you love those. - I just was thinking about our favorite things, party, and the girl is all swooned over all the self-tannin products. So I'm like, well, you could get light medium or dark. It's a really low commitment face tanner. And yeah, I would love to get that for Valentine's gift. - Yeah, that's good. - Makes you feel pretty, look pretty, and everyone loves face tannin drops. - I love them. - All right, think about face tannin drops. You gotta be really careful. Do not put it on the upper lip. Let's just review the place, it's not to put it. - Oh, really? - I'll put it on the lower lip. - In between the eyebrows. - Really? - Yeah. - Well, this isn't like self-tannin drops. They're like little glow drops. - No, I've messed it up with the drops before. - Really? - Actually, I messed up with, that's why I don't use the drops. - Really? - I messed it up more because it's mixing with your moisturizer. - Yeah. - And some moisturizers aren't compatible with it. So like sometimes they don't like mix. And it's like, 'cause it makes sense, 'cause one's like an oil and one is like a, usually water-based, like, and so water and oil don't mix. And so sometimes it gets really streaky. So that's why I don't like using the oil ones. - Interesting. - I think the I'll appearance ones are water-based, maybe. - Are they? - Do you use those? - Yeah, and you didn't like them. - I need to give them another shot. - Interesting. - But yeah, maybe proceed with caution with that one. - But I've loved them. - No, I remember Danny Austin saying this, and I was like, she's exactly right. Don't put on the upper lip or in between the eyebrows, 'cause it causes a bad shadow. - Really? - Yeah. - Have I had that? Not known it? - No. - Hmm. - I never noticed it. - I need to go back and look at all my- - Wait a minute, I'm telling you. Also, your darker, like a little bit darker, so it, like that helps, but if you're like starting from like very fair skin, that's where it really plays a role. It can look really bad. - Interesting. - And your stuff, 'cause it lasts. - It's on your face. - Yeah. - It lasts. - It's hard to counteract once you've done it. - Okay. - Just a shout out. Okay, so for the more expensive ones, I think it'd be really fun and Valentine's Day appropriate to get a cozy luxury blanket. - I have that on my list too. - Okay, I'm thinking of like Minky, Lola, Cozy Earth. Those are so nice to get. You wouldn't probably want to buy one for yourself. It does feel like a gifted item, because they're very expensive. - They are really expensive. - And I dare to say they're worth it. - They are really nice. - They are so nice to have. And I know that Minky has like these hugs blankets that are like ballerina pink. It would be really perfect. They also have like themed ones I looked online. They have like heart ones. - So many fun ones. - Brands have really fun ones. I love the Cozy Earth cuddle blanket. It's like gently weighted. And it's like the perfect size. - Yeah, it is. - So nice. Like all of them are just so nice to have. And you can never really, once you have one of those, I hate to say this. You will want to throw away all your other blankets. - Yeah, you don't reach for them. I have a Lola blanket. I just showed up on my drawing day. So I don't know if someone sent that to me as a gift or did you send that to me? Did you send that to me? 'Cause I just showed up on my drawing. It's the best blanket ever. Is that from you? Is that from you? (laughing) - I glad to solve this. Oh my gosh, it's been like a month and a half. - I know you've had it probably for a while. - Is that from you? - I'll tell you more back story. - Okay, it's an amazing blanket. - Okay. - Wow. - I'm so glad you enjoyed it. - That was a mystery. (laughing) - Well, thanks. - I use it every day. - It's so good. What color is this? - It's green. - It's white. (laughing) - It's really good. I had on my list the comfort dreamer blanket. It's the big ones like that. They're on sale right now for 80. For the medium size, but you don't really need much bigger. Their medium is really large. - Yeah. - So if you're wanting one that's under 100, that one is on sale for 80 from the comfort brands. - Here you go. - There's so nice. - They're so good. My $3 sign, my first one is my, a girl that I know from our hometown. She started a pajama line called "Sally Beach Pajamas" and she sent me a pair of them. They are amazing pajamas. She put all the thought and detail into these. They're modal. So they're super soft. They're really stretchy. - I like that. - It's a really like super, it's like a buttery soft fabric. - Is it that fabric that's kind of cold when you first put it on? - Yeah, it's like very soft. - I like buttery soft. - Yeah, and it doesn't ever get like the shape stays, but they're very, very soft and so it's like so comfortable. And she has a bunch of really cute patterns. The short sleeve version. So I have the short sleeve and then the shorts is 98. And then she has a long sleeve with a pants set. That's 128. And she uses non-toxic dyes on her fabrics. I don't know, I just, every detail is so thought out and they're so, I love the tripe girl from my words. They have a palm tree print. That's really cute with like little seashells. She has a teddy bear print that's really sweet. And then she just came out with her first solid colors. And they're two different pinks. - Oh, fun. - Yeah, I know. - I actually had luxury pajamas on my, as my, are we just not on the same page? - I feel like they're in now too. - There's a lot of, I mean, that's a great one because it's like small and you know her personally, but there's a lot of, I love my cozy earth ones. I feel like they're, they're the fabric that you know I'm saying when you put it on, it's like cold. - Yeah. - And it just feels like, but then it gets warm and so cozy, so soft on the skin. Love those. But also there's just so many. I've been seeing everyone talk about all these different luxury puton rants. I have never purchased them because I think it's hard to justify buying them for yourself. But once again, it makes a great gift. - A great gift. - I'm thinking of Jeref Avenue. I hear people share about those. That's like the fruit ones. If you're wondering what those are, those are cute. - What's the creepy monkey ones? - Oh, I roll a rabbit. - Don't lie. - Don't get those. - Wait, that's mean to say. - That's a weird trend. - We know we can say it. - If Gabby, if they love their creepy monkey jammies, they can have them. - Yeah, I just saw this was the first time I took talk last night and I was like, "Wait, these are a thing." - Oh, they're a big thing. - Really? - Yeah, I think that one's, let's not get those. But there's another one called, "Dairy Boy." - Yeah, they're so cute. - Very nice, like beautiful pajamas that I'm like, you would not, some of those things were like, "I'm not gonna really buy this for myself." - Totally, they're so cute. - Unless you are and I'm sure people do. And I love that for them. - Yeah. - They're living a special life. - Yeah. - They're like, "Love those, I love that." But it is especially fun to probably receive as a gift. - Yes, totally. - I'll spell a solid beach, S-O-L-I-B-E-E-C-H. - So add that to your list of ones to look at. 'Cause that's a good list of different companies that make great, great jammies. My last, did you have another one for, like, okay, my last one is actually the earrings that I'm wearing. These are from Gorgiana. - Oh yeah. - So how do you say that company's name? - I always say Gorgiana. - But I'm not sure if that's right. - They're the Lou Huggies. They're 18 karat gold plated. My mom got these for me. And my sister's for Valentine's Day last year. - It's sweet. - They're $60, which is, you know, like a little bit nicer for a group that I have literally worn every single day. I take them off when I'm like, in the shower and stuff. But they're so comfortable. And just a really, really good gift. - I don't switch out my earrings. I've worn these since before Griffin was born. Every single day, they're real pearls. So I feel like once you get like a nice, - Good pair of earrings. - Like good pair of earrings. Like, yeah, spend a little bit more and then just wear them every day. - Totally. - That's one decision I don't want to make every day. That's why my permanent jewelry too. 'Cause I'm like, I don't want to think about what I want to wear. Like, but I want it, I want it on. - Permanent jewelry would be a fun girl's. - That would be a great girl's night idea. - That would be definitely a more on like a higher budget. It's easy to do, but higher budget. But it's so fun. And I actually thought about doing that this year, but it is, yeah, higher budget. - Yeah. - But it's so fun. - It's so fun. - And you get good quality stuff. 'Cause if you're doing it permanent, you're gonna want it. and I get-- - Right. - And then it's gonna last. - Yeah, totally. - Okay, that's my list. - Fine. - So fine. - I like it together, a gift list. - Yeah, that is fun. Honestly, I feel like I need to be gifting as an area that I'm like, I need to work on. I'm not the best gifter. - I'm not really either. I feel like it's a muscle that I'm training. - Yeah. - Yeah, it's fun. - It's so fun thinking through other, like I'm really excited to give you your gifts. I'm excited. - And I was so excited to get my sisters like their dog portraits. It's just fun thinking like, what's the thing that people can show? That they would like that, you know, that's just fun. - Yeah. ♪ Ask, ask, ask, Abby ♪ - All right, so that wraps up our last prepared segment for today and now we get to hear from you guys, which also thank you guys again so much for those of you that have called in to our little voice, but let me shout out that number really quick. - It's so fun. - It's really, really, I can't tell you how humbling and special it is to hear your guys' actual voices and just think to wanna talk to us. It's really fun. It's this really rewarding for us. The number is 602-456-9690. And we'll also put that in the description. Thanks again. Okay, first voicemail. - Hi there. My name is Allison and I'm wondering what is something about each of you admired about your parents' marriage growing up that you have now intentionally incorporated into your own marriages? - That's really sweet. - That's a really good question. I've never been asked that before. - Really? - Yeah. - Just, Matt and I were just talking about this because I just spent, honestly it was like being a kid again because it was me and my parents without, it was with my kids. So I spent a lot of time with them recently, like the past couple days in Disney. And I was just thinking about it last night. - Yeah. - What was it with your answer? - I admire a lot of things about my parents' marriage. And I think the older I've gotten the more I've also like, it's hard to appreciate and understand those things when you're growing up in it. So if you're a kid right now and you're like, "Man, I wanna be anything like my parents." Like, I do think some of those things will change. Even if you're like, obviously no parents are perfect. But, okay, so let me think. Well, okay, this is something I will say. My parents, I always tease them about this. And I probably know what I'm talking about. My parents are attached to the hip. Like they are always together. - It's sweet. - And they, like my mom jokes about all the time. She's like, "I wish I was alone some more." Like, she like always jokes about it. But I know that my parents are like, they don't really care to be with anyone else but each other. And I think that that is actually really sweet. Like especially after being married for 25 years, I'm like the fact that they just want to like, be together all the time and like, just hang out with each other. I think it's really sweet. - That is really sweet. - And I can just tell that they just like really enjoy each other's company. And then they also just like accept each other's quirks so much. And I think that's something that I like, am learning to do. And I think that hopefully by 25 years as well, I can just like accept these, and it's like that's just, that's just how he is. Like my parents both have that full understanding of each other. Like that's just how she is, that's just how he is. And I think the more that you can accept that about your partner, it's just, it prevents so much conflict. 'Cause it's just like, that's just you. And that's what I signed up for. That's who I love. So, get it up. Like we love-- - Get it up. - Yeah, here we go. And so I do think that they do that really well. Like and it's like they also, one more thing. They're also very sarcastic with each other. And tease each other, this isn't for everyone. But it is a sign of endearment. My parents when they like are making fun of each other. And I don't think they're more like that. I think that it's specific to them. Like they just always, it's a mutual funny good thing. Like everyone's like enjoying it. And it just makes it feel like, I think that just makes their love like feel really safe. - Yeah. - It's like, nothing's like too touchy. Or it's like, oh, we can't say this. Or we don't, it's like, no, we know that what we have is stable and consistent that like, we get poke fun at each other every now and again. And it's funny and like hearted. - Totally. - Yeah, that's awesome. Your parents are so sweet. - They are sweet. I love that. They are always attached to the hip. I think it's like, oh. - They don't even realize that. - I love that, yeah. - I know it's so cute. - My mom was like, you know, I could honestly have my own, 'cause I was talking about like, some people have like separate bedrooms. I was like, you guys would never even think about seeking a separate room. She's like, I would like my own room sometimes. And my dad's like, no, don't do that. - That's sweet. - That's sweet. I think I've always admired my parents who are always on the same page. They don't always show us their communication to get there. Like, I think as the, I just, you could always tell behind the scenes they were always like, we gotta get on the same page with things. And I think they just really showed us a very strong united front. And their decision-making, they've always wanted to like, be very helpful towards one another. They understood like what the other person needed in the moment. They've just always been really good examples of like, how can I help my husband, how can I help my wife, and how can we be on the same page when it comes to budgeting, finance, schedules. Like, they've always just been so, just good about that. And I've always admired that. And then like, there was never a lot of conflict in the home. And I don't even think it was like, they had a behind the scenes necessarily because they would show us when they were in a fight or something before. But I feel like they worked really hard to try to stay on the same page. And I just really appreciate that growing up. - It's good, like a team. - Yeah, they've always seemed like the perfect team to me. - I love that. That's really sweet. - Yeah. - I feel like that makes the home feel so safe too. When mom and dad are like united like that. - Yeah, totally. - Hey, this is Kennedy. I just wanna know, what parenting role did you confidently judge before kids that you now totally break? - Oh, I wanted to do a whole segment on this, like things that we said before kids, first of all, like, do now. I'll start on this. I was the mom that was like, my kids will never eat chicken fingers and bad food. And then CJ came out the womb and did not want to eat. And I'm like, please eat the mac and chili. Please eat the chicken strips every day. - Fish sticks. Fish sticks. Kid only eats fish sticks. So that was definitely something that I was, if I eat avocados and smoothies and green juices, my kids will too. And no, CJ gets his own separate dinner every night. - Oh, no. - And it is a frozen, convenient meal. (laughs) - CJ's meal, our meal. - Right. - I think parenting has exposed my own hypocrisy more than anything. - I'm a hypocrite. (laughs) - I'm like, I'm in charge here. And I'm like, anything you want. (laughs) - Oh, I can think of two off my head, 'cause I think about it every single time. Bribing my kids. Now, there's a lot of work grounds and mentally in my head that I am like, this isn't a bribe, because essentially boiling down to it, I am incentivizing them to make the right decisions so heavily. It's bribing. - Do you think it's bribing? If like, I'm like, okay, CJ, you're not listening to your next consequences, you're not gonna get fruit snacks. Is that a bribe, or is that just a consequence? 'Cause I've been doing that a lot lately. - So for me, that would be considered losing a privilege. - Okay, thank you. That's what I was thinking about. - So like, a consequence would be like something, like in my mind, I had to really sort this out in my mind because it's all just like, I mean, it's splitting his. - Right, exactly. - But for me, I'm like, I'll tell them like certain things, like the punishment. - Right, yeah. - Is losing a privilege. - Right. - It's like something that you don't deserve that is getting, like that you, it's not a necessity for life. Consequences, more like, okay, like, there's going to be something that you get, no, otherwise, like, this is something you get that is getting taken away. - So, like. - He gets fruit snacks every day. So that's a consequence. - A lot of times the boils down to the same thing, they'll be honest. - So that would, yeah, that would be a piece of it. - Okay, so it's not a bribe. - It's a bribe. - Okay. - That's what I do. Okay, I don't know. I don't know. - I'll tell you, I think that's what I do. - Yeah. You know, for sure, or are you talking more so, like, if you're good, I'll give you a sticker. - Well, the answer to me is, like, they'll take a break. We'll do, like, a timeout. - Uh-huh. - What'd you say, what was it? - Like, when you're saying bribe, we're saying, like, if you're good, I'll give you a lollipop. - I did this in the airport yesterday. So I'll give you every once in a while. Love this about him. Passionate man. Once in a while, just, well, do something. You know, he'll lose it. - He's got a great emotion. - He'll just lose it. - Randomly. And it's on, and he can recover very fast sometimes. - Very resilient. - Very resilient, but sometimes, I just know, in those moments, there is nothing that we can do. - Sure. - But the flight was boarding, and I had to change his diaper. And in that moment, he had decided, like, he had to come in. - That's not happening. - He's, like, had decided, I'm not going to allow my mom to do this. - Of course. - I'm carrying him. He's 40 pounds, you guys. (laughing) - Picking. - And screwing him. - He's so nervous. - Oh no. (laughing) - And I was like, "Okay, if you can't do, okay, if you can't do, look at me, look at me, look at me, look at me." (laughing) - I'm like, "Yes, I do." - Thank you for bothering me. - And I always say, "It's fun, they're fun." - Uh-huh. - Because I do feel that way, because in this moment, as I'm carrying him, I'm laughing so hard. - It's so comfortable. - Because I know this scene, his shirt is up to his chin. He's kicking, he's hurting his back. - I'm holding him. - I can barely walk. - Of course. - And it, and I'm like, "I'll give you candy." - I'll give you candy. - You go watch any movie you want. - But he shows, what do you want? - I'll do it. - I'll do it. - I'll go dance. - I'll do it. (laughing) - So I'm like, "Wow, I literally never thought you this way." - Another one is like letting my kids sleep with me. - Oh yeah. - We have kids. - You do, we gotta do. - Every night. - And you learn to love it honestly. - Yeah. - Of course. - Hi, my name is Thorea. And my question for you guys is, so my husband and I have been talking more about expanding our family and having our second child. Our son right now is three years old, so we're thinking it's time to give him a sibling, so they'll be not as far apart as age. What advice would you give a mom going from one to two? Thanks so much, love listening to you guys. - You're fresh in that stage. - Yeah. Oh, I think you're right. really need help. Okay, the first three weeks at least I think are the hardest in the transition. So if you can have someone come and help you with those first three weeks, that's my advice because Caleb didn't have the opportunity to leave. So I was grateful that my mom was able to come and like stay extended periods of time. If it's your husband, that's perfect. You just really need someone to help you with the first baby because you're so tied up with the newborn and you're so tired those first at least three weeks that it can be a little overwhelming. So that's I and I think I like mentally prepared I might have talked about this already. I mentally prepared for CJ at my first to be sad and maybe a little jealous of the baby. I did not mentally prepare for myself to be sad. I thought I was like oh it's gonna be fine. That was what hurt me. That was what was the hardest for me and as postpartum was that I genuinely missed CJ and like spending time with him and that made me really sad and I was not mentally prepared for that. So I'm like if you can just have a little physical help to do the house things and help you with your firstborn and then if you just mentally prepared that you might be a little sad that you're not spending all your time with this kid that you spent every day with for the last three years, you'll get over that with by three weeks and it'll be fine. Those are my advice. That's things. That's what I felt like I was lucky. I think that's really good advice. Thanks. Yeah, I think I can't remember. The baby staged that much. Yeah. Of like introducing them. I think we also had a unique circumstance with them being so close, like they're just over a year apart. So like we didn't have the concern of like like our oldest had no idea what was happening. He didn't recall life. He didn't remember yesterday at that point. So he didn't really remember life before his baby brother. But at three, yeah, you have more needs like adjustment time. Just like maybe like plan in advance. I think a lot of moms have like come up with like a lot of good solo activities that they can do. So like say you're nursing a baby and they're like used to playing magnetiles with you, but like just set a box of magnetiles out. Like be prepared for like meet those needs before you're like tied down with the baby. Like have activities for them. That's a good idea. This is just down the line. Something that I've thought about like now you can clock this hypocrisy because I'll probably change this. But something that I have been I've had my head probably since Augie turned one. But like now that he's like two and a half plus like I really trying to keep this rule of like we do not buy two of everything. Right. So like for every like they have to learn to share and learn to split things because I'm just thinking down the line. Like if we do intend to have four children. Am I going to really keep with uphold that for four children. Like four x everything. And so and I also think it's a really good life skill for them to learn. Now there's certain things that would never make them share like toothbrushes. Okay. Yes. Some like that. But I'm like okay say that we got like a treat like they get their own treat. Right. But they don't have to now some while all split into two containers because I'm like you don't need this whole thing. Right. But like it has to feel like each their own separate thing. But I really feel like for toys and stuff like down the line. It's really good if where it's like this is we're a family. All of this all this stuff is for all of us to enjoy and like we don't need to get like two of every single thing bikes. They're going to probably want their own bike. Like because they're going to want to ride them together things like that that makes sense. But like in general I feel like it's a trap. And if you can set that rule from the very beginning like from a fresh baby. Like we don't do two of everything. Not everything is like exactly identical. Yeah. Set that precedent early on if you can because it will. Yeah. Help you in the long run. I think the three year age gap is going to be great because your oldest is a little old enough to understand what's going on. Which is fine. So I mean that I'm glad that we were able to do. So this is my last thing. But I'm really glad that we were able to bring CJ to a lot of the doctor's appointments. Because I think that helped him visualize and get excited. Anytime there was an ultrasound we brought him. And it was just sweet like him getting to prepare and see the baby and hear the heartbeat and like just experience those things. I think it helped him mentally prepare. 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