Mesilas Yesharim Perek יא Part 5

Okay, we are on page 195, middle paragraph in the art scroll, in page 66, Samach Vav in the green telldime. And we are on the second challenge that a person has to deal with, and that he's most prevalent, that he's going to have a connection to, the first one we said was Gezel, and the second was Arayis, is illicit and forbidden relationships. So Zakt, the Holy Ramchal, Vimlach Shecha, and if a person, Adam Leymar, if somebody is going to say to you, Shema Shema on the Bulpah, you know, they lie in Malaach and call them in Avira, the way a person talks. That's what we spoke about, we said the way a person talks, the way a person, what a person listens to, what a person looks at, and physical touch. So if a person will say, "Oh, when they were talking about not talking nicely, ain't it like they lie in Malaach and call them in Avira?" It's no real Avira itself, it's just to threaten a person. [Speaking Hebrew] Only someone who's like that is touching it, meaning he's getting close to Ta'evah. [Speaking Hebrew] But if I say something as a joke, where I reference something in a cute way, [Speaking Hebrew] Right? So basically what the Ramchal is saying is that when it comes to the way a person talks, it's only if he's really talking inappropriate. But if he's saying a joke, and the guy says, "Relax, I'm just talking in a cute, joking way." It's not a big deal. [Speaking Hebrew] Interesting, Lush in the Ramchal says, "You can tell I'm Adkan Divrayetsahara." [Speaking Hebrew] That it's a very terrible thing, for whatever reason. The chazal tell us, and the psukim tell us. [Speaking Hebrew] It doesn't say Avot Azarra. [Speaking Hebrew] That it's going to be a terrible thing. [Speaking Hebrew] [Speaking Hebrew] What comes out of a person's mouth, whether he's overpraising, whether he's talking negatively, whether he's talking inappropriately. [Speaking Hebrew] Incredible that Ramchal is saying this. He's saying, "It's not talking about Avot Azarra, it's not talking about Gileara, it's not talking about Shvichestal." "It's not talking about the way a person speaks." And he says, "Unfortunately, because of that, [Speaking Hebrew] Hashem will not have mercy on orphans and widows." It's very strong. [Speaking Hebrew] The way a person talks is literally the air of the actual speech. [Speaking Hebrew] It's terrible. It's interesting how humorous this is. It's very stringent. [Speaking Hebrew] I mean, he says, "Bezden, Asurimim isser asmum al-vadius ngamkin gormum." He says, "Besides the fact that it causes forbidden relationships, it causes arayis." But the actual isser itself is harashi asmum. [Speaking Hebrew] Like we said before. [Speaking Hebrew] Thinking, "Okay, that's that." [Speaking Hebrew] Surah Israel is very powerful. How you see a person's speech is so strong. [Speaking Hebrew] Incredible. The thoughts of an avaira, the thoughts are worse than the avaira itself. [Speaking Hebrew] Okay? Now we go to number three. [Speaking Hebrew] This one's going to be a fun one also. [Speaking Hebrew] So a person boundary with money. And the second thing is his desires. Number three, or forbidden relationships. Number three is [Speaking Hebrew] You'll never guess is what? Food. [Speaking Hebrew] As the [Speaking Hebrew] And the way I explain it to simple as a little bit of an introduction is its fuel. Its fuel. F-U-E-L. Its fuel. If a person's not hungry. I'm sorry, if a person doesn't eat food. So all of his other desires drop. The second person puts food and gets a system with food. That is what pushes him to do anything and gives him the energy. He says, and the Ramchal says [Speaking Hebrew] [Speaking Hebrew] Whatever a person eats [Speaking Hebrew] [Speaking Hebrew] [Speaking Hebrew] And he talks about this twice. The Ramchal. It's the money that you spend to make sure you eat very well. And I say this to people. You know, when you get married, right? You're not going to come with the first meal when your wife starts cooking. And you're going to have to make sure that you're going to uber eat, you know, on the side. Through the window to get your fix of whatever food you need. And it costs money, as he's going to say. A person will spend a lot of money just to be on a level of food. Besides the Isser, as he's going to talk about. The Isurim, that it does to a person's desires, all comes from food. All comes from food. [Speaking Hebrew] And again, a person would say, wait, what's the big deal? I have three things. You're telling me this is number three on the list of the things that I have to be careful with. That what a person eats. [Speaking Hebrew] You end up destroying yourself if you're not going to be careful with what goes into your mouth. [Speaking Hebrew] [Speaking Hebrew] When a person eats certain foods, what it does is it pushes Hashem away from a person. [Speaking Hebrew] It makes it that you're not able to feel. People want to know, how come I don't feel connected to Hashem? So when you feel other things that are usser, and you're involved in other things that are usser, it's hard to feel connected to Hashem. And he says food. [Speaking Hebrew] Which is interesting. So it comes out, Ramchal is teaching us that if a person would work on something, and he would start working on what exactly he eats, I could tell you for myself. When I've ever done intermittent fasting, or fasting and fasting and fasting and dieting, it changes your whole personality. It changes your whole tivus. It changes all your laziness. People who are into cleansing, into these cleanses, physical food cleanses. It changes everything. It changes the way you think. It makes you more clear. When a person eats potato chips, and he eats sugar, and he eats all the things that he eats, and bread, and all the things that you eat, that's really where to begin. People think you begin with fighting your tivus. Like I said, the Chasinish is saying that [Speaking Hebrew] starts with your food. If you conquer food, they say [Speaking Hebrew] It's not really for now, but we could talk a little bit about it. They say [Speaking Hebrew] Lacham is your war. They say [Speaking Hebrew] [Speaking Hebrew] Zan is also [Speaking Hebrew] It's also a person eats. It says you eat [Speaking Hebrew] That it's the way a person, they say a person's [Speaking Hebrew] His mouth and his upper and lower openings are very much connected. When a person is careful with what he eats, and a person is careful with that, it affects his desires. It's very, very powerful. [Speaking Hebrew] A person, it's not like what we said today. [Speaking Hebrew] It's not just about doing the mitzahs. It's about becoming a person who's a more, when a person's totally sunken in, 9 minutes and 53 seconds, I don't want to go over to be continued. Less than 10 minutes a day keeps the eats away.