Making More Mistakes

Shut up, and sit down. Welcome to Being On Stage, the only podcast that gives you motivation, inspiration, and confidence to be better on stage. No matter how you entertain, sing, dance, band, comedian, public speaking, MC, drag, burlesque, performance art, or street performer, this is the show for you. Hey Rockstars, Reggie Dawson here, host of the Being On Stage podcast. Welcome back, thank you so much for tuning in. Let me tell you about mistakes, alright? So I just, well first of all, it's been a crazy week. I know it's been a while since the last podcast, but life happens, things happen, technology happens. That's a whole other story, but let me tell you about mistakes. Because just now as I'm sitting down to podcast, and I tell myself you have to podcast. Just like anything else, you know, when there's something you made a commitment to, you have to repeatedly tell yourself you have to do this, you have to do this, you have to do this. You keep yourself motivated, keep yourself going. So as I'm sitting down to do this podcast, I'm putting together, and actually this is completely free, like, I guess, no notes on this one. Because I made a realization and I had to share, because it makes a hell of a translation into, you know, performing, into what you do. Into something. Into something you can apply and think about and kind of connects with you. So check this out, alright? So I'm sitting down, I'm getting ready to do the next episode, which is all about, you know, making a career and how much it means to you and things like that. So that's going to actually be the next episode. But as I'm sitting here, I'm looking at the, I pull up my program, and something, listen, I'm going to share a little bit of a podcast secret here with you. So when I record my podcast and I have the intro music on. It comes on for about 28 seconds, and then my audio starts where I start talking. So sometimes in between episodes, I'll just leave the program up and, you know, reuse the same intro over and over and over again. And when I record, I mute the intro when I record so the computer doesn't play the intro as I'm talking to you. Because then you'd hear the intro in the back. It's really strange. Anyways, it just helps that I can just talk and I don't have to worry about music playing while I'm talking. Um, so this is, I know I'm going like way into how I podcast and, oh no, I'm sharing industry secrets. You know what, you know what, it's, it's, it's not a secret. You can find this out on YouTube. Uh, just like anything, you can learn anything on YouTube. So anyways, um, oftentimes when I bring up my program, the, you know, I have to mute the intro, record the podcast, do a little bit of silence removal at the beginning, a little bit in the end. And sometimes there's somewhere in the middle where there's some silence. Uh, I end up having to cut out where someone knocks on a door. So I'm, I don't know, I don't cut out much. Um, just, just, uh, areas of silence that are too long. And after I do that, you know, I, I save it as an MP3 and I upload it to my hosting platform and boom, it's on iTunes. It's on Spotify. It's on speaker. It's on a pocket cast and cast box and wherever stitcher and wherever you listen to your podcast, it's, it's there. That's, that's how you get it. I upload it in the RSS feed, carries it to wherever you push play. Thank you. Bye. The way for pushing play. And if you haven't done so already, can you leave a rating and a comment? I would greatly appreciate that. So here I am getting ready to do this episode and I pull up the program and usually I have to, I delete the last recording cause I already have the episode saved as an MP3. So I delete the last recording and I start fresh. The intro is already there. I don't have to do any, um, adding or editing. It's already there. So as I pull up the program this time, and I know I'm like super into this episode and I haven't even talked about performing on stage once. But thank you so much for sticking with me. So as I'm pulling up this program, I realized the intro is muted as I'm deleting the last, uh, audio. So the last podcast episode, and if you listen to it, you already, you already know where this is going. I'm sure. Um, there's no intro. So for about 28 seconds, there's nothing but silence. So if you want to hear my, my, one of my bigger mistakes of me leaving out intro music, check out the last episode. You need a little punctuation. Punctuation is what it's called. And, um, it's, it's a great episode. Don't get me wrong. You just got to get through 28 seconds of silence before it starts. Um, that's how long my intro is. 28 seconds. So if you get a chance, check out that episode. So as I'm pulling us up today to do this episode, I'm getting ready to talk about, you know, how to get what you want out of your performance career. I realized, oh my God, you know, it's been like three or four days since my last episode. It might be five. Uh, it's been at least four days since my last. And so four days later, I'm realizing I did not put the intro music. I didn't unmute the intro music because you, I mute it. When I record, I unmute it before I save it so that it's there and it plays. I didn't unmute it. So yeah, that was a, that was a big mistake. I mean, truthfully for a, for a podcaster. And then we just like, I'm going to flip this to you here in a minute, but for a podcaster that could affect, uh, you know, that could affect people actually listening to that episode. They may not. They may not get what they, what they need out of that episode, because you know, you're not, you're not going all the way to the end, you know, some people, they play and after five or six seconds, there's nothing. They just, they stop it all together. Some people will click further in and see what's going on. But a lot of people, I would stop it. I would just be like, oh, well, I guess it's just an empty episode. I wouldn't, I wouldn't stick around. I'm being real. Like, I'm going to be honest. I've done that. I have people that I listened to where I'm, I'm, I don't know if they left the intro out or if it really was an empty episode, because after 10 seconds, I. Stopped the episode and moved on to the next. So I don't blame you if you did that, by the way, but now, you know, at 28 seconds, there's an episode. So you can go back and check that out. Um, but yeah, so mistakes, that's, that's the big thing here is there, there's going to be times when you don't even realize you've made a mistake until days after a week, months. Uh, it, and it's going to happen to you. You know, you're a performer, you have this talent, you get on stage and you put it in front of an audience. You know, you're, you're doing a live production. Production of some sort. You're putting on a live show. Um, and even if you're recording a video, you're still, you're still putting on a show. There can still be mistakes. There could be something that you mistakenly don't edit out that should have been edited out and you go viral for all the wrong reasons. Um, but on stage, you know, you only get that one shot. So it's, it's inevitable and it is, I want you to know this. It's inevitable and there's nothing that you've actually done wrong. And there's nothing that you could have done. To prevent it, mistakes are going to happen on stage. It's just a fact of life. It's a fact of your career. The important thing is, is how you come back from the mistakes. Now, most performers, most veteran performers will tell you when you make a mistake on stage, just keep going. Act like it's part of the show. And on some instances, you can absolutely do that. You can certainly act like it's part of the show. There's other instances though, where there's no way you can recover from it. And act like it's part of the show. And in those instances, sometimes you got to just go with the flow, shrug it off and look at him, wink. And I've, I've said that I've said this to someone before, you know, when, when you, I think I actually had an episode about this. I can't, God, there's been, we're on like 178. And so forgive me, I forget about some episodes. But I think of that episode about when, when you make a mistake, just shrug, smile, wink, drink, and go. That's it. Shrug, smile, wink, and drink. I think that's how it goes. Well, if you make a mistake, that's it. You just, you let it go. And it's, I want to tell you, and this is something that you'll probably never hear. And I don't know, I might get, I don't know, blasted. I don't know, on social media. But sometimes acknowledging your mistakes on stage goes a lot further than ignoring them. Your audience, most of the time, cannot tell you you make a mistake. You make the wrong move. You go the wrong direction. You spin the wrong way. You play the wrong note. You sing the wrong chord. Most of the time, you can just move on and let it go. Sometimes it's very, very obvious. And you know the times that it's obvious because you will hear, yes, you will hear little snickers. You will hear a couple of gasps. You'll see people, like, their eyes widen. Yes, you can tell when they can tell. At that moment, acknowledge it and move on. Just kind of give it a smile and a shrug and move the hell on. Because truthfully, there's no point. There's no point in trying to make a mistake. There's no point in trying to hide the big mistakes. But there's also no point in being shamed on stage. The worst thing, the thing I hate the most to see, and please, if you do this, fight it. Because it's okay. That's the one thing. You have to know it's okay to make mistakes. So if you need to acknowledge a mistake on stage and kind of smile about it and just make fun of it, if you will, that's okay. That's what you got to do sometimes. Okay? So you make a mistake. So what? What do you think? What's the worst thing that's going to happen? Someone's going to come up and say, hey, yo, I want my money back. It really wasn't worth coming here tonight. And since you made that mistake on stage, I'm going to need you to give me my refund for the payment I made to get here tonight. No, that's not going to happen. Okay? And truthfully, acknowledging your mistakes to your audience is a whole new way to connect with them. Because guess what? Your audience is human also and has made mistakes in their careers as well. Boom. So keep that in mind. mind you know it's it's okay to acknowledge your mistakes on stage but yes so the thing I hate the most and I know I went way off the rails here the thing I hate the most is when people get like depressed visibly on stage because they made a mistake and you see it like you see the mistake so they make like a disappointed look they kind of like put their head down a little bit they close their eyes like you can just see the disappointment on their face that they just made a mistake and even if you didn't know that they made a mistake even if your audience didn't know that you made a mistake I'm like switching my you versus them so even if your audience did not know that you made a mistake when you have that reaction when you have that negative sad upset pissed off reaction to a mistake made on stage then they 100% know you made a mistake and they know that you're insecure about it and it turns them off if you just shrug about it and move the hell on nobody's going to care by the end of the show and you're going to get a lot more comfortable with it and you're going to get a lot more comfortable with it and you're going to get a lot more comfortable when you're okay with your mistakes that's my spiel for the day and that's that's what I get out of making my mistakes on my podcast is you know what I'm owning the fact that I make mistakes I'm a human being and sometimes I forget to unmute the intro I really hope I didn't forget to do it on this episode because as I'm recording this I don't know if that's happened yet so this is interesting to talk about uh but yes oh I god before I before I go I gotta say this if you want to work together and you want to really kick start your dream and get going um I have this opportunity for you to just hop on my calendar uh we do like a 30 minute uh power call or shine session I don't forget what I call it but um I guess you're just it's your free coaching call I guess it's like a consultate I don't know whatever you call it whatever you will we'll hop on the phone for about 30 minutes ish and the people that have done it in the past can tell you it usually goes over 30 minutes but if you hop on the phone for about 30 minutes ish and uh we just talk about what you want to do where you're going what you're struggling with and we come up with some ideas to you know get you going to the next step because it's it's all about listen it's it's all about your next steps in your career like that's what it's about that's what we want to do we just want to get to that next step and then that next step and the next step one step at a time baby one step at a time so take the first step pop on my calendar go to being on stage dot com slash calendar um that's just like the podcast being on stage dot com slash calendar um if you use google chrome there's some sort of security thing that pops up my site is secure I promise you I got an SSL security certificate I'll send it to you if you email me reggie at being on stage dot com but anyways um being on stage dot com slash calendar we'll talk pick a date time put in your name email we'll talk and we'll get you going because that's what it's all about baby oh and how could I forget of course keep on shining you