255: Ludicrous! Ft. Angela Giarratana

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For more information on Tramphya, visit www.tramphyoradio.com. To learn more, go to www.tramphyoradio.com. Have you gone to a rage room ever? Never. Okay, today, this, right now. Right here. This is our rage room. This is it. Honestly, it should be free to women. All rage rooms should be free to women. And I also think all women should have free Wi-Fi everywhere they go. Thank you. It's a safety precaution. Thank you. Equity, not equality. Equity. I am so freaking pumped about these. I just feel like I'm setting us up and all of us out there, like all of you guys listening, if you just need to just like scream in your car, scream in your car, like literally let it out. Today, we're doing that. You can scream here. Thank you. We will turn the volume down for everyone. I'll move my mouth from the mic. I am kind of theming this as ludicrous. Okay. The luda mode. Luda. These are just stories that you're just like, what? Okay. I don't even know what I'm like. People are gonna be like, you need to calm down. I've had a lot of coffee today. Babe, me too. I've also had two naps. Full day, two naps. You know, like when you're like thing, the thing, the thing, but not everything is perfectly booked up. So you have like an hour in between two things. That's happened to me today where I like, I mean, it's like car nap. Like I laid in my car for like five minutes and I woke up. What else is going on with you? Okay. What do you got? I feel like I see a Sundance film and what's your little character? I already forgot his name. Oh my God. You're the best. I did very important people. I drop out, which is really fun. I'm like, I'm having a stroke right now. I literally, you walked in, I go. Finoli. Finoli's in the house. I love you. I literally just had a stroke. You're the best. What else is new though? Honestly, I'm getting better at reading Reddit. Okay. I'm kind of, I've never used Reddit. Yeah. Like when I have a problem now, I'll try to Google it and I won't talk about, I won't do it. We're Google. Cause you know, Google AI is like awful. It tried to put Gemini on my Gmail. No. I'm like, you're encroaching on me. I can know. Like responding to emails? No. Giving me email summaries. I'm like, shut it off. No. It's never accurate. Absolutely. Yeah. Being like following up on this. Be bop your robot city right now. But no, I'm feeling, I'm loving Reddit. Yeah. So now if I have like a question about my car, I'll type it in. Okay. Hell yeah. Um, you will also see on Angela's personal YouTube channel will be tagged. It will be collaborated upon our girl right now. I want to like, see, I want to see what this can do. Okay. Our girl right now has 163 subscribers. If you are an Angela fan, please go over there. You're so sweet for this. You know what this feels like? This feels like when an older sister like brings a kid, like I'm going like, like I'm and you're like, meet my teachers. Like they all love me. You're my sister. Like she, and they're like, Oh my God, you look alike. And you're like, yeah, she's like, she's that's so sweet of you. Thank you. No, I'm just so excited for you. And you're working on so much cool stuff. You have a podcast artists on artists. Like you don't plug yourself enough. And I, I am not joking. Like I'm in a crash out day today and literally 12 hours ago, not like 24, 24, 20. I think it was last night. So it's like, it's still 4 PM. Like right now I texted you and I was like, is there any chance you're available tomorrow? And you were like, yeah, after four, after four, but that's when, you know, your pod is easy and fun for me. And that's you because I, if it was like, I have to be funny and cool and awesome and hot, I was like, I'm just going to sit on that chair, kick my feet up. And we're just going to talk, quit being so nice. I'm trying to give you your flowers. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Is the hero and comes in and is going to make sure this episode just really blows us all out of the water. You're so sweet. I can't wait for Luda, Luda. Let's dive in. We're going to start off a little late. Okay. And then we're going to go hard. Let's have like a salad first. Okay. Um, this first one is coming from relationship advice, three days old titled, how can I, 33 male stop making my boyfriend 36 male jealous of my fish for female fish, fish. Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years. Everything has been relatively good. Recently. My boyfriend has been getting jealous that I talk more to my fish after work than him. I've had the fish longer than we've been together. And I always talk to my fish after work. The talking to fish, is literally just a way I decompress after work. I just rant to my fish about things that happened throughout the day. Usually it's stuff my boyfriend doesn't want to hear. Usually it's just a 15 to 20 minute one-sided conversation. Yeah. Yeah, it should be. I hope I really hope over the last two weeks, he's gotten annoyed that immediately after getting home, I usually stand in front of the fish tank and mostly just rant today. I decided to, instead of ranting to my fish, just sit on the couch and rant to him. And he mostly ignored me and watched TV and even got upset a few times that I was talking about things that didn't matter while he was watching TV. He doesn't want to listen to me after work or want me talking to my fish. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. I will say our relationship has been fine the past two weeks, other than him getting upset about me talking to the fish. We still talk to each other about stuff. He still doesn't want to listen to me after work. He just doesn't want to hear about my work day. And I don't blame him. Wait, so he's jealous of the fish, but he doesn't want to hear about his day. Yeah. So it's like he wants the attention, but he doesn't want to hear about his partner. Is that what's happening? No, I think I'm wrong. I think I misheard it. I think I need to. No, you heard it right. Like you can't talk to your fish and also shut the fuck up. I don't want to hear you vent about your work day. So OP like wants to decompress. By talking to their fish. Which is so sweet. But then when the partner feels jealous. So then at OP he's like, okay, I'll tell you. The partner doesn't want to hear it. No, he's watching TV. Can you imagine how like dejected you would feel too? You come home after a work day. You just want to connect with your partner. Fine. You don't want me to talk to the fish. Fine. So you go sit by them on the couch and you're like, hey, babe, how was your day? Well, my day, you know, Wendy like was really mean to me at work. She like spit in my coffee. And he's just watching TV. Shut up. Could you imagine? I tell this story a lot. I actually dated a guy. I was like 23. And he, I remember like he cooked. It was the first time he cooked and we had a lasagna and we sat down crazy to cook a girl lasagna. I don't know. It was just like a hefty lasagna. And I was like, I can have two bites of this. It's going to ruin me. So then I start eating this lasagna and he has the TV on. And it was like Seinfeld. And I was like, oh my God, I love this episode. Kramer does this. And he's like, I actually kind of like to just watch it while we eat. And like not really talk. So shut up. Essentially. This is brutal though. Why am I here though? Truly. Also, we'll talk after the episode. And then he finished, turned the TV off, finished his lasagna and went, all right. He patted his stomach. Patted his stomach. And said, all right, you can go now. No, it was kind of like, all right, what do you want to do now? Now that I had TV time. And bottle time. I can't imagine. No, it was awful. Okay. So this is sad because I'm really, I know. Multiple fish? Just one fish. Four female. Four female fish? Four. They gave the age and the gender of the fish. You were going one fish, four female. And I go, so four fish? No, one fish, four female. And I go, what are you talking about? I thought you meant. Put it on Reddit more. You're right. It's age, gender. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. This is so sad. I don't like that. I don't like that the partner's jealous. That feels wrong. It feels weird. It feels like such a controlling little thing. Like, I fit in my box and don't talk to your fish. People talk to their pets all the time. Like, it's no different than talking to your dog or your cat. Fish have feelings, too. I bet it looks. It feels like more intentional because cats and dogs kind of move. So I bet the partner is like, the OP is like sitting there and just like intentionally looking at the fish and just kind of talking instead of like on a walk with your dog talking. This feels like attention that the fish is getting. But if the partner doesn't want to hang, he shouldn't be mad that the fish is getting the hang. I know. Well, and I just Googled, do fish understand humans? Like, because I'm just curious what this looks like. Yeah. Fish can understand and recognize humans to a surprising degree. Learning to. They distinguish individuals through visual cues like colors, patterns, associating specific people to feeding and other experiences. They show cognitive abilities beyond what was once believed. They can learn routines, recognize caregivers. Not routines. Form special bonds. Routine within your little bowl. Yeah. So it's like he comes home every day after work, probably feeds the little fish. And that's when he gets FaceTime. Four female gets FaceTime. It's literally FaceTime. That's. Okay, wow. I don't blame OP for being upset because that's. It feels like a little ritual, too. It feels almost like journaling. Like, I'm not trying to, like, act like the fish isn't hearing it. Because it does sound like the fish can, like, respond a little bit. But this also just feels like meditative and, like, kind of just like a release. It is so similar to journaling. It's venting. You're processing your day and talking about how it went. It's like for him to let out his day and hear it from his point of view. This is so. I know a lot of people are going to be like, it's just talking to a fish, you guys. And I really don't think it is, though. I think it's his routine. Yeah. And I think just the way the partner's treating him. I'm just like, this doesn't feel like respect. I think jealousy is so interesting. Because, like, when someone's jealous of something, it's because they feel like they're not getting something, right? So it's like, if that partner wants more attention, then I understand the feeling of, like, please talk to me instead of your fish. Yeah. If it's like, please stop talking to your fish. But stop talking to me. That's just control. So you just want me to not talk? Yeah. Ever? Top comment. LOL, LOL, LOL at the fish age and gender defined. And the next comment. And the way he described their conversation as one-sided. I like how to do a double take. I'm like, did I read that right? I know. It was like a funny thing, but we were like, huh? Have you ever seen the movie? It's like this fish movie. Finding Nemo, yeah. Well, that one's good. It's like really old-timey. I think it's in black and white. It's like the guy's name is Mr. Limpet, and he turns into a fish because he wants to be a fish. No. Ariel? Male Ariel? Basically. Yeah. Wow. He, like, turns into a fish. Because he just wants to be it. Yeah. He, like, stands on a dock every day looking at the fish as he feeds them. And then he's like, I want to be a fish. And he accidentally turns into it. Gets, I don't know, magic happens. I'm going to, I think you should watch it. Yeah. Send it to me. I might give you some, like, some creative juices or something. Someone else goes, I talk to my goldfish about my day and ask him if he's been a good boy. Silly question. He's always a good boy. Much better behaved than a cat. Someone does share something I did not need to see, but I saw it, so you all have to. One of the fish Reddits, someone posted for help because their cat vomited directly into their fish tank. And did the fish eat it? I don't know. That's disgusting I asked that. I had a fish problem where I had a fish. What do you mean? Disappear. And then I reddited it and Googled it and did a lot of research and it was a fish from a movie I was in and I was like, oh, can I keep the fish? It was like a prop and they're like, yes, you can. It was like a real fish. And then I went out of town and I just think the fish jumped to its escape is what Google told me. But didn't you find a fish body outside of the tank somewhere? I looked everywhere. You know what that tells you? Huh? You had mice or rats in your apartment or wherever you were living because they came. Because they came for the fish. They came and ate that fish. So the fish probably jumped. Yep. And then some disgusting rat in my old apartment, not my new apartment, came in and probably, that makes more sense. I keep thinking the fish jumped out of the window and then started a new life. Yeah. No. You didn't have a cat or anything, right? No. No. No. My roommate had a cat. Oh, yeah. Okay. So, yes, we figured it out. Okay. That thing got eaten. Yeah, that thing got eaten. Oh, poor thing. By a cat or rat. Yeah. I saw a rat the other day right above my head. It was in a tree. And I'm like, oh, they're so gross. I'm so sorry to people that love rats. No. You're allowed to love mice. You can't love rats. Mice freak me out, too. And I know I, like, appreciate all of the studies with rats. They've really helped advance science and rat park is cool. They give us a lot of data. But, damn, like, they're just so weird. Oh, gross. I feel that way about crows. See, I love a raven. Is a crow a raven? They're similar looking but different. Yeah. I don't like birds. What about a parrot? No. Really? I'm bad at wings. Is it the flapping that gets you? Yeah. Do butterflies mess you up, too? No. Because they don't bother me. Like, wings and birds kind of freaks me out. Did you see Birds by Alfred Hitchcock very young? I must have. Because I can't figure out where the fear comes from. But, yeah. That, 100%. Okay, moving on to this next one. Coming from Relationship Advice. It's titled, How do I, female 24, deal with being a housewife after my husband, male 31, called me dead weight? Oof. Okay. I've been married for almost a year. I am the housewife. And I take care of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I would say I'm a good one. I often go above and beyond and make my husband happy. He's from a different culture, too. So, I've learned how to cook his food and do many things his way. My husband works a tech job and goes into the office once a week. His job isn't very demanding. And most of the time, he is at home and playing video games or watching YouTube or working on projects for his hobbies. We are very well off based on just his income. We made an agreement before getting married that this would be our dynamic, but that he would still help me. He reassured me he wouldn't be the tyrant kind of husband. He does help sometimes, which is nice, but I still ask for help here and there. A couple of months ago, we made an agreement that he would help me with cleaning up after I made food, as I really hate that part. Today, after I made lunch, I jokingly said, quote, Good luck with cleanup. Because there was a lot of pots. However, he started getting upset and told me that this is my job and not his. He said he worked so hard his whole life, which is why he has the job that he currently has, and how it's not his fault that I have a job as a housewife. This was hurtful because he doesn't really respect women who work and doesn't take them seriously either. It's like no matter what I do, I can never earn his respect. I feel like I'm not worth it. I feel like a weird toxic boss-slash-employee relationship. He told me it's up to him when he will help me. He will decide, not me. He told me to shut up and do my job. Our argument escalated, and I tried to explain our initial agreement, but he started getting more disrespectful. I also got disrespectful, too. He started saying how I have a pointless degree and I never finish anything in life, which is why I have to work. have the job of a housewife. I felt disrespected and underappreciated. The argument got really bad to the point where he called me a whore and that he could get any woman he wants and that any woman would be extremely happy with being his housewife. Luna! He called me dead weight and useless. Well, look at him go, Morgan. Those words killed me. It really hurt, and I've been crying for hours now. I did call him an asshole and slammed the door a couple of times. I don't know how to survive in this dynamic. I tried my best to explain myself and our agreements, but he didn't want to listen and just wanted to fight. He blamed it on me being on my period. He also said. Shut the fuck up. It says that? Uh-huh. Yeah, he also blamed it on me being on my period. You're so hormonal. He also just said a lot of lies, like that he does everything in our home. I know how hard I work, though. My husband is generally a very good guy. I don't think so. Especially with my family and his family. He spoils me with nice things, but it quickly feels pointless when arguments like this happen. I just want to be appreciated and respected and understood. I was wondering if other housewives have some advice. Thank you. This poor thing. Drop a pin, girl. We'll come get ya. Drop a motherfucking pin. Apple Maps. I love when you do that. Apple Maps, baby. Literally, slide into my frickin' DMs. I'm there tonight. You're a whore. You're useless. You're dead weight. You're being a bitch because you're on your period. This is not even like. He didn't say bitch, but, you know, read between the lines. I mean, it all comes out in the bath. Water. I can't get over this. The period thing, really, really. It's insane. And this is when she was like, good luck with the dishes, there's too many pots, and then this all started. Uh-huh. This woman, I feel so bad. This is so, so clearly just abuse, and that sucks, and that's not okay, and she doesn't deserve that. No, and I think a lot of people forget, like, abuse doesn't, it's not just physical. Like, he's also holding money over her head, so we've got financial abuse. Like, it sounds like she has a degree, but isn't working, and, like, isn't using it. Yeah, and the clocking in part is really worrisome to me, where it's like, when he needs her, she'll say something. Like, what did he say? He was like, there's sometimes when he asks for it or doesn't, like, the cleanup of it all. Yeah. That, to me, is very, um, a power dynamic that he's using via finances and whatever Yeah. to act like she's an employee. Like, an employee of him. There's no mention of kids, either, which I'm like, oh, please, actually, like, don't, no kids. Yeah. Like, so she can, like, actually get out and just kind of have a clean break from him, because kids, as magical and special as they are, like, if you are stuck with someone like this and you have to then try to leave with kids and then co-parent, like. No, it's gonna be so much messier. But it's, like, crazy, because I understand in a world in which you're being isolated by your partner that, like, bringing a kid in makes you feel like you'll have somebody because she's in such a lonely place. I know. So, like, I almost get it, but it will be so. It's, like, so. It's, like, a survival mechanism, but it won't be good. No. She's gotta get out. I'm like, their age gap is. She's 24. He's 31. Seven years. No. Yeah, okay, God. And what did he say? He thinks he could get anybody? Oh, anyone would be happy to be his housewife. I can't even imagine. Do you just want a maid? Do you just want a personal friend? Yeah, I went, like, I think personal connection and services are two separate things to you. I think you're looking for a service. It's insane. The one line that really kind of messed me up, too, and I do think the top comment picks up on it, it does. So they quote OP because he doesn't really respect women who work and doesn't take them seriously either. It's like, no matter what I do, I can never earn his respect. And the person responds and says their own thing, and they go, this is because, spoiler alert, he doesn't respect women, period. Yep. He doesn't respect you because he can't, because he doesn't see you or any woman as a real person. So leave. It will not get better. I guarantee that. He does not respect you because he doesn't respect women. I mean, yeah. And I don't think he respects other people. I don't even think it feels like a gender thing to me. It feels like a power thing. It feels like a power dynamic, and this guy gets off. I don't think he gets off on that or whatever. No, I don't think he gets off on anything. I don't think this guy's had sex in years. I think this guy's backed up. Honestly, I think that's probably why he went for a 24-year-old because that's the only person he could probably convince to sleep with him. Really? Morgan? Oh, God. This guy sucks.com. And you're 24. Prime of your life, baby. Oh, my God. She hasn't even hit, like, 27. That was the craziest year for me. 24 to, like, 28 was so elite. Like, 24 to 28 feels like 50 years. It's only a couple, but it is, like. I know. That's, that's. She has so much life ahead of her. I know. I turned 32 in a month, and I'm just like, to be 24 again? Four score and five years ago. Doesn't it feel like preschool? Yeah. Where you're like, the shit I ate, the shit I did. The shit I did. Like, me and my friends, like, it was bad. It was. But, like. We just don't need to go there. It was so fun. I'm so sad for her that she's in a relationship at that young of an age that makes her feel like she's not respected because there's. The sky is the limit, babe. You could be respected and not have to clean that pot. And you can make those snarky comments sometimes and it's not gonna be like a. I'm not gonna pay for you or whatever he's doing. Yeah. No, this is a great lesson to learn. You're 24. You get divorced. You go and use your degree or you go back to school and figure out how to finish it or whatever is going on here and you go and you live and experience life and find your person who treats you well and respects you and loves you and you're not stuck with this guy the rest of your life and, like, you can now proceed forward with this experience in mind knowing, ugh, didn't love that. You're gonna avoid those guys. Yeah. Like, you'll be more in tune now. Your partner, being in love, being in a marriage should be one of the greatest parts of life. Like, it should be, like, I was talking about my friend about dating and she was like, it should at least be fun. Yeah. And I was like, you forget that it should be, it should bring joy and I know a lot of those things are hard work. Dating is hard. But, like, being with your partner, eating lunch, cooking lunch for him and then cleaning up after, whether it's him or you, Yeah. should at least be nice and pleasant. At the bare minimum. At the bare minimum. Bars and hell. You should enjoy eating lunch with him and at the bare minimum you should feel respected. At the bare minimum. Just, oh my God. I know. My relationship is not perfect. We fight. Everyone should fight. Yeah. But, like, just the peace I feel in this relationship, like, I just can't even imagine having to walk on eggshells or just, literally, I get cortisol from everything else. Not my relationship. I know. The world is already too scary. You should, your home base. Yeah. Eating lunch in your kitchen. Should feel peaceful or at least supported. I know. Literally, Justin got me, like, a foot massager for Christmas and he then bought himself the little compression leg boots from Costco. They were on sale for, like, $180. You guys just sit next to each other to take care of your feet? He's got his little compression boots on. I got my feet and my massager and we just sit there and we watch Impractical Jokers and we're just hanging. I'm like, just, just respect, babe. At least. Oh, yeah. This, this next one, too. Not respectful. Awesome. Not, not respectful. Um, I will say, OP has deleted her account. No update. No comments I'm seeing from OP. Um, a lot of people are just like, please get out. The only way to keep one's self-respect in a situation like this is to leave. He'll continue disrespecting her and treating her like dirt if she stays. She has a degree. She can earn her keep. Also, you don't even need a degree. No. You don't need to be, have a degree to be respected in your relationship. You don't even need that. No. You can earn your keep in so many other ways. It does not matter. I know. Yeah. A lot of people are like, OP, run! And then, like, red flag emojis. It'd be fun if they made a bigger red flag emoji. Have you seen that little guy run around with his flag? Yes. I've tried to get him on, but, he's too busy running. God, that's good. I know. That you even tried. That's good. I did try. But it'd be fun if they have, like, for the girlies in the chat to be, like, red flag, but then big red flag. Jumbo. Or, like, a red flag with the face that's like, Did you know, I think you can, like, send, like, emojis loud? Oh, yeah. Like, if you hold the thing down, Oh, yeah. you can, like, pick your effects? Yes. You could send an emoji quietly. Like, you can do the, Oh. Quietly. Did you know you can schedule send text now? No. You can schedule send a text? Yeah so if you like it's 1 a.m and you're like oh my god I want to text this person but if by the morning you'll forget about it you can schedule send messages now. Oh my god the type a girlies are losing it. Me. I'm like I'll send it when I send it. Oh no I tried to operate like that and then it would be a week later and I'd be like oops. But then when you schedule send it are you doing it like you pick the time? Sometimes when I schedule send an email and I'm like it's gonna look psychotic when this email pops up at 8 a.m. 8 0 0. Well you can pick whatever time you want. I go like 8 0 5. Yeah no that's totally fine. That's kosher. That's kosher. Wow. Okay. The more you know. The more you know. This one. Oh no okay. It's coming from r slash what do I do? Kind of another just looking for advice. Drop a pin. I genuinely don't know what's going on. Okay. Please help. And it's only a day old. So very very fresh. It's titled my husband gave me a 5 out of 10. I'm losing my mind. I've posted here before about my husband's terrible communication skills. How he completely shuts down after arguments. Gives me the silent treatment for days. And makes me question if he's even still invested in this marriage. A lot of the people commented that he might be emotionally withdrawing from the relationship. Well today something happened that's making me wonder if they were right. Last night at dinner I jokingly asked my husband to rate me on a scale from 1 to 10. I expected him to say something like you're a 10 to me because that's what I would have said to him. What happened next blindsided me. He looked at me seriously scanning my face and said. Quote right now. Maybe a 5. I must have looked shocked because he quickly followed up with quote but when you're naked you're a full 10. Fuck off. The damage was already done. He now insists that it was just a joke. But I don't believe him. His tone was serious. The same tone he uses when he's being brutally honest about other things. And how do other people see him? If my own loving husband rates me as a 5. I know I have low self-esteem but I never make it anyone else's problem. Especially not my husband's. I don't ask for reassurance or compliments. I've never asked anyone to rate me before. This was supposed to be playful. Now I don't know what to think. Is he being honest and trying to communicate and I'm just overreacting and need to work on my own insecurities? Or is this another sign that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me? He doesn't want to love me anymore. Just like the emotional shutdowns and cold shoulders. I'm seriously considering divorce at this point. I can't tell if we need better communication or if this marriage is already over. That's the end of it? That's the end. Oh god. Where's the bat? Where's the fucking bat? Beyonce, Lemonade. Let's just like. He scanned my face and then said 5. It wouldn't if it would have been just like oh my I don't even like a 5. Dude read the room. He shouldn't even scan. That's my thing. No he. He should just immediately. 10 babe. Even like I don't know like anything like an 8, 9 like to say a 5. If he said an 8 I would tell her run. I'm not kidding. An 8 is I mean anything is bad but it's just like the fact that he did scan and he was like genuinely like like giving her a 1. It's over to like compute the numbers. I don't even want to like spend too much time on it but the naked comment that when you're a naked you're a 10. That is demeaning her to only her body and only what her body does and that's bat worthy. It's super bad. I mean that is bad. It's also like I'll say there's something interesting where she said like when she asked she was being playful but I almost think like it is a playful ask. But I almost wonder if she's asking that because she's not feeling like she's being treated like a 5. I think it's subconscious. Yes when she asked that she's like what do you really think you know like when you when your body subconsciously asks things because you're like I feel like I'm being treated like I'm a 5 out of 10 and she's almost like what do you and then he said it. No her gut is already telling her like something's up he's checking out obviously she went to Reddit and posted something else which I tried to go to her account and see the other post was titled but she has her posts hidden so you can't just like look it up easily. I'm trying to Google it based on her username but nothing's popping up but the fact she's already posting and saying these things like you are getting a read. So for this it's just like she just wanted like a check in like she's never badgered him about am I attractive. What do you think I am. Do you love me. Like there's no badgering. And so to kind of do this one time. And to be met with such disdain. Five. And then the degrading comment but when you're naked that's like that. Oh that horrible horrible comment that traditionally men will use but calling someone a butterface. Yes. Horrible. No it's horrible. It's awful being like well if it comes with tits then I like it but the face I don't know. Butterface. My lip just curled. I know it felt disgusting to even like play as a character. But like oh my God that I feel so bad for her. I hate that she had to. I know. A five. Oh my God. If honestly if he said nine out of ten I'd slap him. I wouldn't hurt someone. I'd just say a ten like you you know the trope. It's like that frickin trend where it's like would you love me if I'm a worm. Yeah. Yeah of course babe. It's kind of a test. Don't be daft. Like literally. I know this doesn't make sense but that's like a teacher being like do you want an A or an F. Like there's a clear winning answer. It's not like she's actually asking his opinion. There's a way that he can make her feel valued and loved. There's a way to win. Just win. Literally there's it's so easy. Just say ten. And I think I think you just saw the real him. Yeah. I think the mask slipped a little bit and he wasn't quick enough to be like oh this is a test. What is she asking me. He just genuinely had a gut response. And I think you just saw the real him and what he actually thinks of you. And it's crazy that sometimes you're like subconscious will will say something because it's like I have this deep dark fear that's in the back of my brain. Yeah. And I'm just going to start saying things to like test that. Yeah. And then she got a clear answer. Like I understand I feel like a five out of ten all the time. Even if you should say that. I don't know. I just don't feel like you should ever be with someone that's going to say that to your face. No. No. I'm in my bloat era right now. Oh I'm just like I'm a little fluffy. I'm fluffy. I'm fluffy every day. Yeah. Went through the holidays. I made 500 cookies with my grandma. I ate too many of them. You made 500. Oh we bake. We bake girl. We bake. I'm fluffy one week out of the every month. Yeah. That fucks you up. It's like scientifically proven that you you feel and look uglier during your luteal phase. There's some crazy stuff that's coming out. Well yeah. Yeah. And like I'm fluffy and like this was literally my wedding vows where I'm like Justin's like the first person I've dated and been with that's like ever made me feel beautiful. And so like I have my days where I'm just feeling insecure. I'm not feeling great and I will go to him and I'm just like just like not feeling the greatest today. I feel kind of like insecure in my head and I'm just like I'm not feeling great. I'm just like I'm not feeling the greatest today. I'm like you love me right. And I ask him and I'm like OK I get how that could be kind of annoying but it's just like I just need that reassurance. He's like of course like come here. But that's like that's you like bringing to someone you trust a like lie in your brain that society is giving you. I'm like reality checking. Yes. I don't think it's you being too much or doing too much. Yeah. I think it's you just saying like oh my brain is telling me to not love myself right now and I'm like yeah. And I think that's almost what this kind of felt like. And I think that's why I relate a little bit where I'm just like she just wanted to feel special in the eyes of her husband because again she kind of said that line where it's like if he thinks I'm a five God damn what does everyone else think about me. I almost think the opposite whereas I'm like similar to you. I naturally am a little more insecure than I think is like real. Oh so I'm my own worst critic. Truly. If I'm going to think I'm a five I need my partner to at least remind me that I'm not a five. You're like 12, 13, 50, 22, 157. Infinity. Limitless. Four female. Like anything. Like you at least need someone to kind of fact check you and go hey I love you. You're beautiful. Bare minimum. I know. I um God I saw a story. I saved it and I now I can't find it. find it. I need to find it again. But it was like my whole TV, like it's your whole laptop just saved stories you see my two windows of just tabs i find them all myself i know that but where do you say you save them as tabs yeah and then i save them on my reddit account under like saved and then i also now find them on instagram and i create folders on instagram okay so that's been really helpful honestly i'm sorry i interrupted you though what were you saying um oh but i came across this story and it was like my husband squeezed my belly and like called me chunky or something or my wife like squeezed my stomach and called me chunky during sex and i was like the way i would have got dressed got my keys got in my car went for a long drive and cried to enya i would have needed medication that it's just to me it's it's not even what they say it's just to me it's not even what they say it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just to me it's just going to be really tough fluffy's good fluffy's whatever it's it's just support it's like supporting yourself and like when you feel bad having someone that makes you feel like it's okay i know top comment would you honestly describe this man as your loving husband no no and then they go on to say i haven't read your previous posts and the person after says i just found some dot dot dot dot dot she should call a lawyer and some close friends and now i'm like god what are these previous posts no no here's your close friends we're here go run away again get out okay so i searched within the subreddit yeah searched the username there's a post from them how do you handle a spouse who completely shuts down after every argument my spouse and i rarely fight but when we do it becomes a multi-day cold war i hate stonewalling yeah some people grew up in households like that where when there was arguments it was like we're not talking that's not good so hard that's so hard yeah that seems like the the big one i'm not seeing anything else pop up from this this person that's that's time to go i think i think it's time to go i think the same little voice in you that was like i'm gonna ask him what he thinks of my face or my appearance and put it to a number that means if if you're looking for a numeric value in your partner i don't think you're feeling trusted or respected at all no i'd be like on a scale of one to ten how likely are we to get divorced because for me for me it's a ten i go so okay so you said five out of ten so on a scale of one to ten what did you think i would think when you said five out of ten that doesn't make any sense if you you call me five out of ten what do you think that is that's a one out of ten you calling me a five out of ten fifty percent it's fifty percent like five out of ten but naked you're a ten he said ten out of ten could you imagine this but naked six out of ten i'd kill him i'm not a violent person i don't usually resort to violence surprisingly because i i often joke like we're making jokes about grabbing the bat and stuff yeah but like actually like i want him to like try to climb over a barbed wire fence and get stuck i used to walk dogs are you a rover walker no i was a dog hiker for like a big company wow and we would hike like a lot of dogs every morning oh my god and i remember over there yeah and i remember when my friends would tell me about their shitty boyfriends i'd be like i will throw dog shit at his car i have so much access to dog shit that is such a good petty revenge i still think about it where i'm like oh because dog shit smells horrible oh and i'll throw it i can just see just like in the bag of course no i can see you um getting like a slingshot and just like literally lawn change so then it like has force like real force and when you're a dog walker you're dealing with dog shit every day oh and you probably walked some big dogs big dogs and i'm like i'm putting it on your tires i'm putting it everywhere i'm putting it next to the door of your car so when you step to get into your car you step in it people are genuinely disgusting if you don't pick up your dog's shit i don't think you should have the right to own a dog i think you should get a ticket you should get a ticket i was walking through um like a building the other day someone's like condo building where they pay hoas and their hoas are cheap walking through i get out of the elevator and i go up the steps to go to the front door big pile of dog shit just in the middle of the steps in the elevator no and on the steps on the steps just like in but within the condo building and i almost stepped in it and i'm like you know your dog just shit they stop even if you're not paying attention the leash gives a little jerk you look behind you're like oh sorry buddy there's no way that shit came out and you didn't see it and you didn't go to your condo and go get a little baggy or whatever and pick it up i literally called my friend and i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god and he's like on the little hoa thing and i was like you need to you need to go after them i go you got to look at the cameras and you everyone it's going to get written into your little hoa rules that if you own a pet in this building everyone is dna testing their dog's shit so that you can bill people based on them and leaving their shit around go girl this is done oh yeah or like you should find who that is get that dog shit put in front of their door that's that's a vengeful oh but dog shit all over him saying for any of that stuff i know sorry that was disgusting no i i um one time put horse shit on someone's car in high school that's a horse girl that's the horse girl that's morgan i know you took i scooped it up in a red solo cup and then dumped it on top of their car yeah they were mean see i think it's harmless because you can like it's your your body or like your clothes i um i got banned from mcdonald's for a while when i was in high school because i started talking to this guy he was a piece of shit but his ex-girlfriend like started harassing me and she worked at mcdonald's so i went through ordered an ice cream cone from her and then i put it on her car two really good morgan stories just sandwiched together i don't know if i've told people this it's been like five years you put the cone down on her car yeah and it's banned me on the windshield how did they ban you the messiest place you can't come back here ever yeah but then me and her became friends and um and then once we were friends because we realized he was playing both of us then we became friends and i was unbanned from mcdonald's being banned from mcdonald's is pretty crazy yeah but to this day and i don't know what the math would be with interest because we did kind of have an agreement um she owes me like six hundred dollars because i took her to kentucky and took her to a justin bieber concert with her with me and then she never paid me back so if you're out there lindsey i'd like my money at least a six hundred dollar in mcdonald's gift cards i know because you were banned from the mcdonald's because of her no because of him yeah like it was his fault he was a bad boy justin bieber concert yeah you have a where's the money show me the money where's the money i'm just i'm dishing tea i'm loving that do you remember coning it was like a thing no coning oh brian no i i grew up in church so maybe it was a church thing coning you would go through mcdonald's ask for a like a scoop of ice cream like a ice cream cone yeah and then we thought it was so funny you'd go through then you go to the window that gives it to you she has it like this she's holding the cone or the person's holding oh my god you grab it from the top and you walk away and for some reason it was the funniest thing in the world because people didn't know what to do and so you see their faces like but it was just a mess for us do you remember planking yes planking was so crazy that was crazy i also really miss the harlem shake i know we need like a dance similar to it because that felt like a fun like um it was such a good wiggle and you just let your arms go those are so pre-tiktok because i don't know if they would survive in a tiktok world no i miss the dog filter like the 2016 throwback trend or you're throwing up uh rainbow yeah you're like everything about it i was like god 2016 was so good it was good i'm so glad for the resurgence because when you bring it back yeah we need to live just lightheartedly again i know and just like dress like shit every day i'm already on that i was in toms every day oh my god toms do they still donate a shoot i think they still do which is great good for tom okay we're gonna do one more because i did this episode is brought to you by nintendo everyone's version of me time is a little different that's why the nintendo switch 2 system is so fun with 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listing with no seller fees and start reading this one i was like i think it's outrageous this will be good huh okay this is coming from am i overreacting eight days old titled am i overreacting my girlfriend left me over a cheese wheel okay i 27 male and my girlfriend 26 female were saving for a house payment i work and she is unemployed i have saved 32 000 and she has saved 4 000 so i feel like i bear the brunt of the financial decision making here i was doing the oxford county cheese trail and i found a vault release they were selling 140 pound wheel of 21 year old cheddar it was aged using a traditional cloth bound method that's practically extinct here in canada and with over 21 years it is extremely concentrated 21 year old cheddar often sells for about 120 a pound the farm was selling the entire wheel for 18 500 if i cut it into 200 gram wedges and i sell it at 60 each i can make 38 000 i bought the cheese wheel and i brought it home in my truck when i rolled it into our apartment at first she was excited when i started to explain the financials and investment potential she turned sour she didn't yell but expressed she wasn't happy about how i spent my share of our house savings she is now staying with her parents i think she's overreacting because she doesn't understand the canadian housing market our savings is not enough for a down payment without ridiculous mortgage and we need to take these opportunities am i overreacting or am i the only one with ambition in our relationship oof to make the cheese about ambition the cheese is just the iranian yogurt in this yeah have you heard that's right what would you do if you were with someone okay and they spent eighteen thousand five hundred dollars on a wheel of cheese this is tough too because i would lose my mind i'd be like are you kidding me i know are you gonna go to farmer's market every weekend for the next year this feels like a huge investment he's a cheese dealer now this feels like a new job yeah like you got a little bit of a like a fixer-upper something like this is gonna take time and effort yeah i mean have you ever tried to sell anything on facebook marketplace it's not easy that's so it's not easy and they sell cheese on there they actually sell sourdough starters on there i've messaged people to go buy their sourdough starters but not cheese cheese feels a little i don't know this is what did he have an interest in cheese before no mention question i've never said no mention i think the randomness like it's like for your partner to just be like i threw down major money almost 20 grand on cheese on cheese what if it went bad like i it's 21 years old what if it like yeah when it's bad well i would be like do you know it like do you have the ability like do you know farmer's markets do you know like have you sold anything like what is the it seems like you need to have a little bit of like cheese literacy to get started it feels like you do need some cheese literature literacy like yeah and i i don't blame the partner for being really alarmed and like yeah i guess reddit's funny with the titles where they're like someone left me over cheese it's about the cheese and you're like no it's about the almost 20 grand yeah and the fact you didn't consult her when it is both of your money and i i get you've put most of it in there but it's still like a community fun now so you guys buy a house and if you're looking to buy a house then you're pretty serious so maybe have a conversation before you just buy the cheese i've never like gone into funds with somebody like when you're like molding lives and i imagine it's kind of tricky because it's like you don't need to ask permission it's your money it's your money it's your money it's your money it's your money yeah but then there is an unspoken thing that you guys are saving up for something yeah so it's tricky i bet very and i i think the best method is you each have your own accounts and then you have one joint account that you purposefully put like a specified amount in there or it makes sense this is our mortgage payment or this is any kid related stuff like this is our joint account yeah so then in this case he would have used his fund to go buy the yes and then you'd be like you do you boo you spend your money how you want it right like that makes sense yeah like how you hear so many stories about like people with gambling problems using their family money yeah and this is like cheese right so which it feels i mean it's kind of the same concept he's gambling but it's on cheese and i can imagine this is even kind of scarier because it's not as something as like understanding as like oh you put in this money you'll get it back or like oh you're like investing in some type of property or something you're investing in like cheese also this is 140 pounds of cheese i couldn't even tell you what that is it's my size in cheese i didn't think about our bodies in cheese like where are you putting this that's a lot of cheese doesn't cheese need to be kept in a fridge yeah and fridges or a cold cellar you know like and then how do you like package that this is so interesting that it's cheese it's so weird top comment start slicing and selling and then come and update us lol yeah honestly how could you make that money back now i'm thinking about my body and cheese and i'm thinking about slicing it and i can't even imagine making more than 10 grand off of those slices uh-uh this comment actually kind of does some math for us which i really appreciate they go to the store and they go to the store and they go to the store and they go i'd be surprised if he actually sold it the fact that he thinks he can find 300 plus people willing to pay 60 for 200 grams of cheese in this economy is insane and even then the math doesn't add up 60 for cheese 300 plus people that's hard okay i love this comment because now i can understand perspective that this is pretty bonkers i would have probably broken up with him i would have took my money out of the account and been like have fun with your cheese bro i would have been like worried about his brain he'd be like hey we good yeah hey babe we just bought a lot of cheese is everything okay overnight too so a lot of people started questioning this post okay as we do with as we do a lot of people were like this isn't real okay okay sure haha funny man okay but op post the cheese post some pictures for us shut up shut up this person does everything they can to make sure we know that this is real they post the receipt of the cheese and the fact that it cost a printed receipt 18 000 400 in canadian money from the oxford county ontario canada cheese place i've never even seen like a store receipt like that for that much money never that looks like you went to 7-eleven and spent 18 000 i mean it looks like a liquor store receipt it literally does quantity one 18 400 21 year old heritage cheddar wheel 140 pounds quantity one cheese and i know ai eggs this okay no but that's real so op goes further op then post the picture of the cheese wheel you know those baby bell baby cow like the little red it looks like a robot red cow yeah baby i think it's baby yeah baby bell and it comes in that little red wax i literally didn't even like the taste of the cheese i just wanted to feel included in like elementary school wax is fun because the cool kids had the bell cheese yeah so i got it and it it almost has like a black wax around this big cylindrical cheese thing. robot for listeners. It has the date that this cheese was made on it. And then because people were like, yeah, okay, whatever. She put her username next to it. Put the username in the picture. She's like, guys, he bought the cheese. So I'm thinking this is pretty legit. Just gonna say people still like, again, it wasn't enough for people. So they're like asking everything. They're like, prove it. Eat the cheese. Let's see it. Someone took the picture of the cheese block that OP posted, ran it through an AI image detector, and it said not likely to be AI generated or deep fake. There's a 1% chance that it's AI generated. When people do that, is that AI? I've always wondered that. I don't understand anything that's happening right now. It almost feels like the AI police is AI. Yeah. They're like, we're on the lookout for AI. And we're going to put you through a robot system to see if you are us. You know what I mean? It's like the Spider-Man meme. Yes. It's like, who is the robot here? Yeah. Okay. The picture doesn't look like cheese, but it looks like if you bought $18,000 worth of cheese and they had to package it really well. Yeah. Well, it makes sense because it needs to stay airtight because otherwise bacteria and mold would destroy it. I can't believe he spent $18,000 dollars. Well, and then on the picture too, there's like a, there's duct tape on it. And OP adds in a comment, people are like, why is there duct tape on this cheese? And OP is like, I broke the paraffin wax when I was trying to cut it open. And so I had to duct tape it. So it didn't go bad. Oh God. I get, I, I bet preserving this fucking thing is a whole other beast. That's what I'm saying. This is a crazy investment because of how risky this could actually be with it going bad. What would you do? I would genuinely do though, if your husband did this. Say, can you bring it back to the cheese people? Is there a return policy? If we have the receipt, then we can bring it back. Like, please bring it back. OP again, people were like, this isn't real. OP posts a picture of his hand with his Reddit username written on it in front of the cheese. He's doing everything he can to be like, I'm real motherfuckers. I'm real. Now it's not even about OP and the buying. Now it's just like trying to validate. It's just trying to validate this person's real story. I know. Isn't it crazy too? Like I was talking about this other day, but like pictures used to be so ironclad, ironclad. You're so right. It used to be like, here are the screenshots. This is it. Screenshots used to mean a lot. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. We're cooked, Morgan. Nothing means anything. You can't trust a Hey girly message anymore. AI. AI. It could be anything. This person is like, this is like the fourth picture they're trying to post of like, this is my real cheese. Sharpie written on their hand. Oh, tattoos. I mean, their tattoos look real. Like this looks real. A little cut on his hand. I see the hair on his knuckle. Real hair, real blood from the cut, real cheese. Come on. This is real cheddar, man. 21 year. Like this is legit. And if I'm getting punked and this is all AI, then it just goes to show we're cooked. If after all these posts, that hand is AI, those tattoos, no. And if it is, then you know what? Cut me a slice. Cut the cheese. We do get an update. Photos in the comments as I can't add to the post. I have taken some of your feedback into consideration. I'm going to put it in the comments. I'm going to put it in the from my last post for those curious my girlfriend is no longer in the picture done she cracked due to low risk tolerance so i've decided to go in all in on this business no i initially tried to return the wheel to the distributor to recoup some capital thinking that they'd have some pity they were actually considering it until they came out to look at the cheese in my truck apparently the minor heat damage i caused to the paraffin wax while trying to open it last week compromised the wheel which was already non-refundable in the first place so i'm now stuck with 140 pounds 30 000 plus asset i had to pivot to asset protection and keep the wheel in the car so i'm now stuck with 140 pounds 30 000 plus asset i had to pivot to asset protection and keep the wheel in the car so i'm now stuck with 140 pounds 30 000 plus asset what i still have keep the cheese i went out and bought a true tbb2hc 59 inch solid door back bar cooler a professional digital temperature humidity controller an industrial humidifier a vacuum sealer and ripening mats the total cost was about 8.5k after taxes for the ripening mats expensive yes but i wasn't going to let a thirty thousand dollar investment depreciate value cheese cheese cheese the delivery was difficult my apartment door is narrow so i had to take the door entirely off the hinges and shimmy the cooler into the living room i had maybe a millimeter of clearance between the frame and the unit i was exhausted and excited so i started researching installation on my phone before putting my front door back on that's when my landlord walked in oh no apparently he believes my door being off the hinges somehow removes my reasonable right to privacy we already have a strained relationship because of my own use of the unit he still holds a grudge because i was doing some light metal fabrication with a consumer plasma cutter in my kitchen a few months ago cheese guy was doing plasma this is i think this is a hundred percent real ai couldn't be this quirky ai is not this creative the fact he has this knowledge base too and now we're adding a nutso landlord in the in the matter okay so what happens he saw the cooler the vacuum sealer and the wheel of heritage cheese and started crying about commercial operations and fire hazards i told him very clearly the cheese is for personal consumption i'm losing it the cheese is a fire hazard now the cheese is a fire hazard and now it's for personal consumption there is nothing in my lease that limits how much dairy a tenant can own where's the dairy part of the lease the next morning i found an eviction notice in my mailbox because of cheese this is nuts it's riddled with spelling errors as if written in haste i'm already preparing my defense for the landlord tenant board am i overreacting i'm being evicted over dietary preferences as far as the landlord is concerned and i feel like this is an unlawful action it feels like not dietary restrictions it feels like the like industrial fridge you bought this is so funny um there is an edit op goes i added a plus to the value of the cheese as it is possible to increase my margins depending on the quantities i sell also please bear in mind that i have sold zero cheese so i feel like this could be a premature action thank you we need to know if you sold the cheese um a lot of people are like plasma cutting in your apartment sure dude and guess what op posts a picture of hand with the plasma they're plasma cutting in your apartment sure dude and guess what op posts a picture of hand with the plasma cutter there we go this if op is going to do anything it's going to make sure they know we're not they're not a liar it's that we know they're not a liar yep he's authentic but he's getting evicted because of his cheese so he lost his partner and his apartment because of his cheese because of the cheese just some cheddar he needs to go on legal advice now and be like arizona can't i get evicted because i bought 140 pounds of cheese and a cooler to keep it you can't i there's no way i don't think he includes a dairy like it might include the appliance though because a lot of leases now with electric cars like you can't plug your car into building power stuff yeah and like this is a big fridge but also usually you pay for your own electricity so we're like could you get the fridge anywhere else before you get evicted can you like storage unit with a fridge storage cheese unit honestly that probably would be easier because like then you could like set up a table and like a like a dexter style plastic yeah tent to like keep the cheese sanitary as you cut it or like kind of find somebody with maybe a shared big refrigerator like that a commercial kitchen a commercial kitchen and rent some cheese space yeah because also wouldn't it be better just like portion up all the cheese now and vacuum seal it so it stays fresh forever yeah and this person's never bought cheese like this right no but then he went spent eight no he's never bought cheese because then he went went and spent $8.5k on all of the equipment. What's the math now? Okay, so he spent like $18,400 on the cheese. Plus $8k. Plus $8.5k, which basically. And he's saying it's $30k in value. What's $19k plus $8k? $27k? $27k. I was thinking the $7k. Yeah! Yeah! Oh my gosh! So he's not even going to make that much. It's breaking even almost, kind of. Maybe $3k. Lost a girlfriend. Lost a landlord. Maybe made $3k. Look at what the damage this cheese did. But here's what he's got to do now. He is in so deep. He's going to go, knowing him, he's going to go sunken cost fallacy. And he's going to say, this was my initial cheese. He's going to keep going back. He's going to become a cheese boy. And now, in order to make up that sunken cost he's already invested into his cheese boy operation. He's going to have to keep buying the cheese to get out of the hole. He's going to be a cheese connoisseur. Cheese. I really want some cheese now. I know. I'm like, this is like, this feels like product placement. And you're going to sell the cheese. No brand was ever mentioned. I feel, who was the salesperson that sold this man this cheese that changed his life? He was like a witch. A witch came in and put a curse on him that was cheese. Do you think there's commissions on cheese? Or can he insure it? I know you can insure wine. Right? Yeah. You could probably insure this cheese. I wonder if a standard homeowner's policy or renter's policy would cover the cheese. This is, these are, where are my insurance agents? State Farm! State Farm, are you there? Wow. This is, this one, I'll be thinking about this one for a long time. That's what I'll say. That was my goal. That was my goal. Goal achieved. Goal achieved. Goal achieved. Cheese boy. I will be thinking about him as well. Um, no other updates from the cheese boy. How long ago was this? One day ago. He's commenting. Okay, wait, we, there has to, the cheese will, that has to be sold. OP is commenting as of 11 hours ago still. The cheese is alive and well. Yeah. Somewhere. OP does have a comment here that I'm, I'm, I see the first couple words and I'm like, this could be good. Christ himself could come down from the heavens to vouch for me. And you guys would say the holes are in the wrong spot. Yeah. What's unfortunate is OP's getting really stuck in trying to like, prove that they're real. Be believed here. Meanwhile, he's got a big cheese problem. I know. There is a comment here. I have figured out that my numbers were optimistic. I have pivoted to damage control. Mode. Good. He literally just took his whole house down payment and spent it on cheese and cheese accessories and cheese accessories, cheese fridge. Cheese insurance. Can you imagine? Okay, wait, I totally forgot. He had a girlfriend at the beginning of this. Can you imagine how thankful this girl probably is right now? And her girlies being like, remember cheese guy? They're here to go to like, a girl's night and like, catch up over wine and be like, I can't believe I dated him. How dumb is he? He went out and bought all that cheese. Or they're like, oh my God, how's it going with the down payment, girly? And she goes, wait till you hear this update. Thank God they didn't have kids. Could you imagine your kids like, child fund or like, just funds to like, feed your baby? Go to like, a random investment like cheese? I feel bad buying a charcuterie board when I go out to a restaurant because I'm like, I could make this at home for way less. Truly, they're getting crazy at these restaurants. And it's like, like butter on the thing. And you're like, oh my God, it looks so rustic. And you're like, no way. No, like some of them are like, I feel like I got scammed. Or it's like, cheese and nut board, $30. You want to add meat? It's 80. And you're like, whoa, whoa, whoa. For a little prosciutto? Just a little bit of salam. God, I don't even like that. I just want the cheese and crackers. Yeah. Maybe a truffle almond if we're. If we're, maybe a little bit of an apricot or something. Apricot, apricot? Yeah. Wow. I'll be thinking, I hope he sells that cheese. But I, I do want to say, I believe OP. Again, I'll tell you right now, if I've been bamboozled, I don't know. But I believe OP. Put down that sword. Now just sell the cheese. I know. And like, there's a little in this, I'm looking at the cheese picture again. There's like a stamp from the cheese manufacturer in the wax. I don't know about cheese, but I know that that seems real to me. I'm going to say, see if I can buy some. I'm going to message him. I'm going to be like, can I buy some cheese? Yes! I'm going to try to buy some. Can I buy some cheese from you? For real. I'm not kidding. Like, and we'll have a slice. Where did he say he was? Canada? Yeah. Shipping to California. And if he can't figure this out, I'm, hey, I'll pay. He's fucked. I will pay above market price for the cheese for the plot. We have to try the cheese. It's a 21 year old cheddar. Can you, it's going to be good. Oh my God. And we compare it with like a good box. It's a good bottle. What crackers do we get though? Oh my God. I don't want to, we'll ask somebody. We need to like, really like taste it with just the cheese first. You can't dilute it with a cracker. I really hope he responds. If you can get this cheese here, if he can't figure out how to deliver it, he's fucked. Oh, he's got no shot at a business. Cause this is all, this is the PR he has. Can you imagine if we blew up his cheese business cause we read this story? Can you sell food on Etsy? Like, can he start an Etsy? How does he do this? Can we do a TikTok shop for cheese? Wait, TikTok shop for cheese. People are selling like gum on there. I know you can get gum. You can get drugs. No, you can't get drugs. You can get gum. You can get like, I don't know. Like taffy, taffy. You can get stuff. Saltwater taffy. Saltwater taffy. People are selling like soap on there. And that, I really got into these videos where they pipe, they pipe that like lotion. Yes. And then they pipe it really artistically into a jar. Oh yeah. And it looks gorgeous. It looks beautiful. And it's like rainbow. Cause I bought in vitamins. I bought vitamins on. You know what I just got? What? And it was actually a really, really good deal. I bought. $18,000 pinwheel cheese. I didn't get hit with the cheese, but now I'm like, I might be more susceptible to cheese promotion because I'm. Cause we're saying it so much. In front of all of our devices. Yeah, no, I'm like, everyone's going to be like mouthwatering thinking of cheese. I purchased gas masks. Huh? A gas mask? A gas mask. Why'd you get that? So funny enough, I've kind of turned into a doomsday prepper. So all the wedding prep turned into doomsday prep? Yeah. Well, it started actually at my dear friend Costco. And Costco was selling this doomsday type prep pack of meal kits. And you got it. It's like NASA meal kits that like. Like the like water mashed potatoes and stuff. Like MEI kits or whatever. Yeah. I think the military people will be chiming in and being like, yeah, I ate that stuff. And you got it. So then you. And then what was it? It was like, would you like to add a gas mask to the cart? Well, Tik Tok shop got me with that because I've, I'm from Minnesota and I've been getting a lot of protest videos. So I got them. I got gas mask. So I now have food that doesn't go bad. We've got our emergency supply of water. I have solar powered lanterns, a tent. I have horses I can ride away on in case there's no gas for cars. Good for you. I have my gas mask. Now you just need some cheese. It lasts for 21 years. So God, maybe I'll buy a fridge and put it in my garage and start having cheese. I can't wait till he responds. If he doesn't respond, he's not going to, he's not going to sell this cheese. I'm literally like, I just don't even want to shut my mouth. I just don't want to shut my computer. I just want to sit here and stare at it at the chat. Like literally hear it from me. Can I buy some cheese from you shipping to California? And this is all he's got. Gems. One, three, eight. Come on. Four female. Four. It's the cheese is for two females. Just give us some cheese. Give us some cheese. We're going to get the cheese. I have a good feeling about it. He's not. He's not real. If he doesn't send the cheese. Yes. Then we know it's fake. Let's make a grilled cheese. That's the task. Let's put it on pasta. Let's. We're going to have to buy more than 200 grams for $60. We'll see what we have to wait till it's real first. See it come in. And then we maybe can order some more from him because he's got it. He's. Unlimited supply of cheese. This episode is brought to you by revolve. If you're looking at your closet right now thinking, no, none of this is working. Just go to revolve. I love that they have the brands I actually want. 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You almost want to end there, but we can't. We can't. Do you have more? Do I have more? Oh, my God. How many more? I'm so excited. Too many for us to sit here. We would actually be here until Valentine's Day if I read every tab I have open right now. I can't imagine. I can't believe you organize it with tabs. Yeah, it's really getting me. I'm actually super overwhelmed prepping for a couple episodes I have coming up. Yeah. And I think I'm going to print them all out so I can lay them on the floor. I can see them all and then start organizing them. I'm like overwhelmed. That's really sweet, though. With the tabs. That's programming like with paper. I'm really stressed. Okay. It was like bad man, bad man, bad man, funny cheese, bad man. Okay. I'll give you bad girl. Great. Let's change it up. Naughty girl. Maybe. I don't know. We'll see. I don't know how I feel about this one. Okay. It's confusing. So it's coming from AITAH. 16 days. 16 days old. Okay. Titled, Am I the asshole for not showing more sympathy for my wife when she mangled her hand using a gift from her mother that I told her was dangerous? My wife will not ever refuse a gift from her mom. And once she accepts it, she will be sure to use it. This has never been a problem before. I don't give a shit about how our front yard is infested with gnomes and other ceramic crap. I don't care that we have decorative. I don't care that we have decorative spoons from around the world. I do care that my mother-in-law gave us a double-edged serrated bread knife. I saw a new handle in our knife block, so I took it out to look at it. It looked dangerous. I tried cutting some sourdough with it, and I almost cut myself. I told my wife it was dangerous and we should just put it away. She insisted it was fine and left it. Whatever. I told both of our kids not to use it. It took five days. My wife was cutting a bagel with the wonder knife, and she cut the web between her thumb and forefinger. Deep enough, she cut the big tendon, too. No! No! I heard her screaming and ran to help. I wrapped her hand in clean paper towel and then kitchen towels. We only live a few blocks from a hospital, so I didn't call 911. I had our son drive us there while I kept her hand elevated and I put pressure on it. She had to have surgery on it. I never once said, I told you so. All caps. I also, apparently, was not as sympathetic as I could have been. I don't know what else I could have done. I held her hand the whole time at the hospital. I did all of the talking. While she got admitted, I did not leave her side until we got home. She said that she could feel my judgment. I don't know what that means. Yeah. I did throw the knife away, though. Can anyone explain what I did wrong? Oh, that you did anything wrong. I was, I'm like, nothing, King. Wait, so, okay, so. She's being outrageous! He threw the knife away. He wrapped her hand. He wrapped her hand. Took her to the doctor. He wrapped her hand. Never once did he say, I told you so, which, I mean, he could have said that very. Or he could have been like, there's so many versions of I told you so. There are so many versions. And he didn't even say it in a nice way. He held his tongue. He bit it. She seems like she's, like, really upset at herself, so she's taking it out on him. Thank you. Feels like projection. Yeah, feels a little bit like projection. I mean, she did say, she said she could feel my judgment. Yes. Okay, so, have you had someone say this to you before? I've had someone be like, you're pissed, aren't you? Or, like, when the situation, when you are right, when you are a told you so, but you haven't said it. And it's just so clearly a told you so moment. And you haven't said anything. But your friend is like, I know I was wrong. And it's their ability to sit in being wrong that kind of determines the moment. So, I'm. I don't know. I don't know. There's no way I can say this without sounding like an asshole. Okay. But I'm usually the one that. Is right? Is right. So, I'm. I don't rub it in. Yeah. I just move on. But sometimes the moment that you were right is so palpable. Oh, I know. And that person is so upset that they were wrong. Uh-huh. That you don't even have to do anything. No, and I didn't. It just happened the other day with the carpooling. And I was like, I was driving my horse to Palm Springs. Okay. And I was like, I'm going to get in the carpool lane. And Justin goes, why don't you just stay in this lane? And I go, well. Because he was like, you're not going to be going that fast. Because you have a horse in the van. Yeah. And I was like, well, if I'm in the carpool lane, I'm not going to have to be braking as often. So, it'll be better for the horse. Yeah. And I think overall, I'm going to be maintaining a speed. And if people have a problem that I'm going the speed limit, they can go around me. That's their burden to bear. And we're driving and. Sure enough, the carpool lane is the most effective, safe way. And traffic is halting. And I feel him look over at me. And he literally goes, you don't even have to say it. You were right. And I'm like, I didn't say anything. And it's not you. It's not me. It's just him coming to terms with that you did tell him so. Yeah. No, he felt it. So much so that preemptively, he was like, you were right. And that's. Yeah. It feels like OP. Or. Yeah. It feels like the woman who was cut. Yeah. Feels like. I feel your judgment is so unfair because it gets into like energy policing that I think about all the time where someone's like, well, I can tell you're upset. Like, I haven't really noticed that language. But the minute you're saying it to me, I honestly, I feel on edge. Where it's like vibe policing. And they're like, well, I can tell you're not happy we chose this restaurant. Oh, I hate that. But then sometimes. Sometimes there is energy that someone gives off that's bad, right? It's like hard to say that like, maybe OP was just being like, when you were in the carpool lane, you didn't do any like faces, right? No. Because I'm thinking like. I'm just 10 and 2. Just driving with the horse. 10 and 2. You're just thinking about your horse. Because sometimes people have an energy, but they're not saying anything, but it's very passive aggressive. Oh, yeah. But it sounds like OP wasn't doing that. No, he. And he's like handling the situation well. I think it's. Honestly, I think it's more so guilt. Yeah. And projection. Because it's like, she just sliced her tendon. Where it's almost like, I feel your judgment. No, it's you feel your guilt. Yeah. And it's hard admitting like, I was wrong. Thank you for taking care of me. But ma'am, you got to. You know, the most common way to cut your hand is by cutting a bagel or an avocado. Everyone says the bagel thing. Avocados are really dangerous too, because you hold it in the same way. Yeah. And you're just going. It's also. It's like. Like, any type of like, someone bringing you to the hospital for something that's wrong with you is so vulnerable. Yeah. And you're like, so like, set up for shame. I like, broke my wrist and my ex-boyfriend and his roommate had to bring me. I literally thought you were about to say his new girlfriend. Oh, could you imagine? That'd be so funny. But no, his roommate and they had to bring me to the hospital and I was just like, so I. It's a vulnerable spot to be in. So I think you're susceptible to like, not really. Not really thinking a lot of things through fully, because you're just like, I'm mad. I'm hurt. I'm pissed off. Yeah. And you're like, well. But it feels like OP did everything he could. He did. Not on you, OP. She's being a little. Yeah. Outrageous and pride is probably very hurt. Top comment. I'm a professional chef. The number two stealer of fingertips is a serrated bread knife. Number one is a mandolin. I tell all my new servers, when they are cutting bread, keep your thumb clear. The witch of knives comes stealing. Okay. Didn't have to add that part. The knife witch? New fear. Unlocked. Okay. The knife witch. Have you seen those mandolins? So I thought a mandolin was an instrument. What are we talking about? It is an instrument. But what's the knife version? Honestly, you know those cheese graters? Oh. It looks similar to a cheese grater, but has like a big blade on it. Yes, these are bad. Do you have one? No, I've just. I've seen and I've heard. This is crazy. I feel like I saw people on TikTok using these to make that viral cucumber salad. Yes. That was constantly what I saw them from. Oh my God. And how do I know that they're dangerous? I saw something or someone told me something. I don't know. But I do know that those. And cheese graters. I've cut myself on a cheese grater. It's really hard. I've had like. Like skin taken off. yeah the tip from a knife but like the next comment down is yeah i took a slice of my thumb off the first time using a mandolin i love my mandolin but i had to learn the hard way to treat it with respect okay immediately i would have thrown that away i'd be like nope not like that's not for me not for me i just bought this little thing to make my dense bean salad and you literally just like cut your cucumber in half and then plop it on there and just shut it that is life changing you don't need a mandolin and then it drops through the box into like minutes in there wow i know this episode is brought to you by chrysler life with kids is basically a never ending series of plot twists one minute everyone's buckled in the next someone's dropped a snack lost a shoe or needs a bathroom break immediately that's why the newly designed chrysler pacifica is built for real life with thoughtful features like stone ghost seating hands-free sliding doors and passenger seating up 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especially guys i want you to know that i'm not married what is this 30 female 30 male hear me out especially guys i'm not to really imagine the scenario and tell me if it can just be innocent and i don't have to worry about it so we are together for almost a decade most of it married happily we've grown so much together and built the perfect life and relationship for us we trust each other and there are no icks or uncertainties between us when we talk to our opposite sex friends okay he had a very big crush on a girl from high school for three years and i'm not sure if that's true or years he eventually confessed then and received a rejection as the girl told him she doesn't feel the same and she most probably likes girls more still no certainty he continued to be friends with her after the rejection and then after high school they stopped talking all caps all of a sudden my husband wakes up today and says he saw her in his dreams after 15 years and immediately wanted to find her on social media to see what she is doing with her life and what she has become he finds her and texts her just casual hi how are you just was thinking about high school and wanted to search for schoolmates here etc etc and then quote let's meet and catch up sometime this week and he tells me about this only several hours later in the car when he is back from out of town he says quote don't freak out here's the deal i feel nothing about her now and i'm gonna meet her just to catch up i want to know what you think about it i initially was shocked then slowly was coming into terms with that when he says quote you trust me right i gave too much to build all of this with you and i really value it too much to lose it because of something like this so it's just a catch-up meeting and one if i realize i feel something i will immediately stop any communication after that and on the other hand two if i realize she's a great person and i don't feel anything about her i may stay friends with her because i also want a new person to talk to like you have all of these guys you talk to just to mention every guy i generally talk to not on a daily basis is either his friend my married co-workers or just old friends from former jobs or college who i have never had a crush on or had been pursued by i eventually told him that it's okay to meet once and as i know her i got acquainted with her 15 years ago she's a he can tell that we are happily married so that there's no possibility that this girl thinks it's a date or something so i'm like what's going on with you but as i went to sleep i started to analyze and overthink everything i realized i would think a hundred times before writing to my former crush let alone ask him to meet me i realized i would be okay if it was any other girl including ones that had a crush on him but not the person that he was in love with for three long years and he was telling me about with sparkles in his eyes when we were young and just friends i couldn't sleep the whole night imagining all that could go wrong from one meetup and breaching realities my afterthought that stayed was why would he want to stir things up when they are the most quiet even if he doesn't have feelings now it's possible that the spark is reignited right why i told him my thoughts in the morning after a completely sleepless night he got immediately so mad you don't say only for that i could not sleep because of a tiny irrelevant matter that i sacrificed my health for things that didn't yet and wouldn't happen he started yelling that i don't trust him and that my overthinking is a big problem and i should not decide who he wants to meet and text i said i should when it affects me and our relationship he said that if so he will from now on refuse to let me meet any of my guy friends to show me how controlling my behavior feels on my remark that i had not been in deep love for three years with any of them he said quote jesus it was 15 fucking years ago anyways we had a big fight with tears and all his last remark was quote you became the woman i was happy you weren't in terms of sick jealousy that hurt deeply and also added quote this topic is closed i won't text her anymore and not meet her as you wish the thing is if not for such things like telling me about his plans to stay connected with her and refusing to show me what they texted initially and even changing his five-year-old cringy username to a normal thing before writing her to make an impression i would agree with the meetup and not have a second thought about it until later but he behaved like an excited 15 year old with those actions but i also think i really overdid it with my imagination men is it possible that this is an innocent thing and he is right is it possible that this will not lead to anything worse if i set clear boundaries versus if i let him be what could the outcome be it surely feels like a midlife crisis like he wants to check if she wants him now as he got better fitter and better looking oh my god i don't know i'm confused help me holy shit this feels like someone called the fire department and there's five fires in different units and we have to pick one yes i don't know where to begin i really don't know where to begin because we can talk about the whole post but his reaction is is stopping me from thinking about anything else his reaction is so terrifying the fact that he's like well fine you're not going to see any of your guy friends going forward never again like that's the same thing it's not babe i'm friends with these people you haven't talked to her in 15 years you had a dream about her so now you want to talk to her and you want to talk to her and you want to talk to her and you want to go and meet up with her and then oh but but but but but don't worry because one one if i feel something i'll shut it down okay If? Just like you're shutting me down? If you feel something? Oh my, if? If? You do. You had a dream of it and you are feeling this way. Why are you dreaming about her? What was the dream? Also, have you ever had dreams of like old exes or crushes? Because sometimes I will say dreams have like a theatrical way of being like, oh, that person. You didn't interact with that person. He thinks he interacted with her. Yeah. You didn't, right? That was a dream. And you are in a fantasy. Something is going on. I don't know if it's like a logical thing to be like, well, she hit me up. She didn't hit you up. You dreamed about her. I have had someone reach out to me. Based on a dream or just like in general? Well, they were just like, you're in my dream. This never really took. And I just wanted to like, and this person wasn't fully single. And I remember going. I think this happens a lot to people where sometimes like a random like will romanticize the past sometimes. Especially like when you get older and more confident and you're like, oh, I was like a loser in high school. I wonder if they met me now, what it would be like, like in terms of some type of like want for confidence. Yeah. It's not good. It's not giving good signs. This is a red flag. I don't think this spark came out of nowhere. I think it was a bunch of things that led up. We don't know what's going on in his brain, but he's dreaming about other women. And even like, I feel like a dream. Like, I know it's like a common joke where people are like, oh, my God, he cheated on me in my dream. I'm mad at him in real life. Like dreams can just be dreams. Sometimes dreams can be your subconscious trying to tell you something. Yes. I don't know. Who knows? But I don't even think it's that weird to be curious about people and where they're at. Yeah. So like with heated rivalry. Yes. Heated rivalry was really interesting for me to watch because before my partner now, all I dated was hockey players. A lot of them played professionally. And so watching heated rivalry, I'm like, they're all assholes. The hockey players are not nice, by the way. Like heated rivalry makes hockey players look nicer than they are. They're mean boys. Mean boys. And so I was like, oh, my God, I'm so curious if so and so is playing still. And I like I Googled it, but I'm not like. Hey, are you still playing? How are things? And it's O.P. said it. I wonder if he said it, though, like that he's like better looking now. O.P. was like, he's better, fitter, better looking. No, that's not going to work for me because it's you. You being like, I wonder if they're still playing professionally is one thing. Somebody else being like. I was just genuinely curious where they're at. No, for sure. Curiosity's different. And this isn't curiosity. Right after this episode, I'm going to go Google where the girl that. Shows me my Justin Bieber ticket money is. I'm going to see what she's up to. I'm genuinely just curious about people. No, curiosity isn't a problem. This feels like a like a deep desire. He's taking that fishing line, casting it out, seeing if he's got a little fish on the end of his hook. And what's worrisome to me about this is that he's going like, let me just see if she likes me. And then I'll figure that out. If there's feelings there, then I'll shut them down. But can I just see if she does? That to me is being like, I just want to see if she likes me back. Well, and it's like, I don't know. I get people. People can have friends of the opposite. No, for sure. Genders and whatever. But like you're 30. You have a wife. You're happily, air quotes, married. Why do you need a new friend? That is the girl you had a crush on for three years. Why do you need to be friends? And then here's the thing. I agree with every single thing we've said. Even if these things that we're saying are true. If OP said to him, I feel this way and he didn't react that way. Maybe I'd be okay with this. It's like, it was the reaction that made me go, well, you have a crush from a dream from the past. Oh, it brought up all new feelings. And now you're gaslighting your partner when she's like, I feel a little intimidated by this. And he said, I wish you were never this type of girl. Oh, that? You became the woman I was happy you weren't. She became that woman because of the behaviors you're exhibiting. She became paranoid because you said you were going to go off and find some girl from your dreams. Jesus, it was 15 fucking years ago. Yeah, that's what the woman's going to tell you, babe. When you reach out to her, she's going to go get over this. This was 15 years ago. I told you then I wasn't into you then. And now you just think because you're hotter. I just, why, why, why open the door? Why open the door? Why open that door? It's also just like red flaggy too, to be like, a woman's no changes if I'm more hot. Does that make sense? Like, like her no wasn't enough because he wasn't like confident and fit then. So now it like, it must be a yes now. I really do agree with your point where it's like, how he reacted is really telling. And it is very telling the fact that he changed his cringy username to something more normal. He wouldn't show up. He wouldn't show his wife what he initially texted her. This was written. I will say it was like very difficult to read this one. I'm not sure if there's a language barrier, but like, but like it was really hard to almost jumbled. And like, I get being frantic and like, there's a lot that's like capitalized out of the blue and just like it. It's very clearly this person is like emotional and like struggling. And I get it because of how he reacted. It's very suspicious. Like I can understand. I've had weird dreams where I'm like, Oh my God, I should go do that. Or I, I should like hit that person up, whatever. But I think it's, it's like somebody sitting you down and be like, Hey, your partner, your literal partner. - Your partner. - Hey, this makes me feel a certain way. And then for you to invalidate that person's feelings, like in my dream world, he'd have this very human moment, which is just kind of getting wrapped up in a dream. And then your partner says something and you go, Oh, I'm sorry. I did probably get a little ahead of myself, but to just go, well, now you're acting crazy. That's when I think he does have a crush on some woman. - I think he does. - Yeah. - Or the idea of what she was not, he doesn't know her. - Or his like ego needs her to say that she was wrong. - Oh, he wants to get that bruise off even 15 years later. - Yeah. - He probably wants her to want him and be attracted to him so he can feel better about himself. - That's what was alarming. Like, I don't believe him, but that's what was the most alarming about him saying like, if she says she's into it, I'll shut it down. I just need to do this. 'Cause I need my ego to feel amazing. I just need her to be wrong about how amazing I am. So let me go check on this and then I'll come home and make sweet, sweet love to you. - Top comment with 11,000 upvotes. - Whoa. - Somehow I don't think we are happily married. I think you are happily married and he is not. - 11,001 upvotes. - Mm-hmm. - Yeah. - Unfortunately, him acting on a dream makes me feel like he's not been happy for a bit. - Mm-mm. No, no update from OP on this. Some other post about like trying to have kids and like starting to try to conceive and things like that, post two years ago about writing a will, but seems like a very, very real account. It's a year old. So it wasn't created just to make this post. - Yeah. - But no update yet from OP on this one. - Oh, gosh. It feels like a couple of times in these stories where somebody says how they feel and somebody just goes, "Well, you feeling that way is pretty difficult for me." And invalidating someone's feelings when that person has a gut frickin' feeling. - Completely. And our guts are so in tune, like you, I don't know how, I mean, it's just amazing what we will clock sometimes based on like a little gut feeling. - Oh, yeah. I think like the couple OPs ago, the gut feeling of being like in numbers, do you think I'm pretty? One being the lowest, 10 being the top. - No, we're gonna really, we're gonna keep an eye out for an update on this one. All of the story links will be in the episode description. There are some comments from OP, but they are longer than the posts themselves. And I think she's just, just like trying to defend him and also share about how they met in high school and they're not in America. 17 was the first year of university for them. So like they met very young. They've been together. I mean, they're only 30. They've been together 15 years. - Yeah, whoa. Okay, so that's like half your life though. That's a lot. - It's a lot. - Yeah. - So I get a lot of people, I feel like lately too, it's come up on Reddit, feeling like you missed out. You didn't live your 20s. - Yeah. - And that's hard when you meet your wife, husband, partner, high school sweethearts, like. - And I imagine that's really hard to navigate, like communicating most things. - I know, but it's not this way. And like, if you're having unresolved feelings or feeling like you need closure or validation that that person you had a crush on in high school thinks you're hot now, time for some individual therapy. - Yeah. - And just like working on your self-confidence and you, are enough and like respecting yourself and like, yeah, i recorded a patreon episode earlier and i i was just like i used the word like self-respect and it was with my friend michaela and like we had very different takes on like have some self-respect and i think when you say that it can come across negative sometimes but i genuinely think like it can be hard to like know your worth yeah and to respect yourself and how amazing you are and what level at which you deserve to be happy and so it's like just like for him like have some self-respect and like look at this amazing life and amazing partner yeah don't throw it away for a literal dream or don't throw it away by even just talking to her like that no that was not that is not how you talk to somebody that you love and you are going to ruin that relationship i know and it's bare minimum i know and op even said if he wouldn't have been so weird about it i wouldn't have even thought about it but it's the fact he's trying too hard yeah crazy stories how you feeling ridiculous ludicrous stories that you picked you were right i know and there's like a little bug flying around now and i just like i keep seeing it i just feel even crazier i'm like fuck it's all these gaslighting bitches did you hear about the drain bugs in la what with all the storms they're not fruit flies if you've been having an increase of fruit flies in your house it's because of the drain bugs they're flying up your drain they're not fruit flies they're drain bugs yeah i've been distraught great another fucking thing to worry about yeah earthquakes and drain bugs drain bugs la is cool i hope we get cheese check it one more time before i leave did you message me no that's okay it's okay he's probably sleeping or like cutting cheese or something i mean it's in canada maybe he's like towards montreal three hours from here i don't know we'll give him space he's plasma cutting he's a busy boy yes he's like hooking up the refrigerator to the power grade or moving out because he's getting evicted yeah don't forget about us we want cheese thank you for having me i love you thank you for coming on i love you i really i truly appreciate you so much you saved my day everyone's week as this comes out um and what are we gonna do we're gonna go subscribe to end life channel and two hot tags if you guys aren't subscribed feel free to hit that button for us to hit that stinking button hit that button even if you're watching the clips hit the button bop it until next time guys bye fall never arrives all at once first the air then the light and slowly the things you love begin to find each other a jacket meets a dress a hoodie slips beneath a blazer an old cap finds a new scarf because you don't simply step into the season you create it layer by layer until it finally feels like fall find fall your way at ross this episode is brought to you by txu energy for the first time ever texans have an energy plan that combines free nights all year with daytime summer savings it's called free nights and cool summer you get free nights every night all year long plus a 25 percent bonus toward your daytime use all summer it's a first of its kind plan created for how texans actually use energy discover how much more you could save with free nights and cool summer txu energy energy for everything visit txu.com for more information rep number one zero zero zero four