Love or Lust | The Commissioned Envoy | Pastor Dami Oguntunde

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I think you just got married at the time you know Peter was referencing you great work you're doing here and EDM people have also shared a lot of really remarkable things about the work you're doing here at E-Nation now the Commission the Envoy so super excited to be here super excited to be here I bring you greetings from Lagos Nigeria from my wife and my three adorable daughters and then of course the PowerPoint tried from Lagos Nigeria so like I was saying I'll be trying to get into that as well I think you'll be good to just acknowledge all the brilliant leaders and the work they're doing. Good to meet you Pastor Mrs David. It's a good to meet you as well and the remarkable leaders and the work that is being done here at the Commission the Envoy so the thing before us is a very critical theme that we require some level of surgical analysis as well as expository you know the thing is love or lust love or lust and I think the reason why that thing is couched the way it has been presented is because it's very easy to not tell the difference it's easy to mix them up it's pretty easy especially in our generation to mix up what love really means and what lust means and to mix up their definitions and let's go to Ephesians chapter 6 very quickly Ephesians chapter 6 I believe from verse 10 the Bible says be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might it says put on the old armor of God that you may be able to stand against the wilds of the enemy the wilds of the enemy that means all the power that the enemy has are wilds they are considered wilds now what are wilds wilds are deceptive and conning craftiness all right deceptions pretty much that means the devil doesn't really have power what he has are wilds and wilds are deceptive tactics to deceive his quote and quote is pray and to get them to fall or to stumble so the devil cannot steal from you without deceiving you the devil cannot kill you until it deceives you the devil cannot take anything from you except he successfully deceives you and so the biggest weaponry in the armor of the enemy is deception you need to recognize that and that's why the strongest weapon against him is what truth truth truth so how you would stand the wilds of the enemy is by taking on the old armor of God and it begins to describe everything in the old armor of God and all those things you can find in the world the helmet of salvation the belt of truth the breastplate of righteousness the sword of the spiritual the word of God the shield of faith all right your your feet sawed with the impression of the gospel of peace all of those things are found in the word to the degree that you are armed with the word it is not degree you can fight against the wild remember when the devil came with his wilds in Matthew 4 look for the temptation of Jesus Christ in the wilderness and the devil began to tempt Jesus and he began to tell him turn this bones into a bread what was Jesus' response in all those three occasions all Jesus had to share was it is retained I cannot be deceived I'm the living word in case you forgot Jesus is the living word about besides his full of grace and truth and so all Jesus had to reply the devil with was the truth of God's word now when he comes to this concept of lost and love the greatest access that the devil has to this generation is his ability to deceive the generation successfully that is any generation that refuses to be deceived by the devil has already worn the battle against the enemy that's the truth and so the greatest thing you can receive from this meeting is the ammunition of truth because if you can successfully get you deceived he can steal and kill and destroy that's the only way gets to steal kill and destroy he has to deceive you first look at the very first situation in the Garden of Eden all right Eve had been given the specific commission by Adam because it was not the Lord I spoke to Eve directly the Lord spoke to Adam Adam spoke to Eve and give Eve the instructions that the Lord had given to Adam and then by the time the devil came what did the devil start to say he said half the Lord said the Lord that the devil now started to make Eve question the things that she had heard the very same things that she had heard that same fruit had been there all along she did not see it as attractive because she saw it in the light of what it truly truly is it was a ticket to death in the day that you eat it you shall surely die that was the instruction the Lord had given to Adam which Adam successfully passed across to Eve and so by the time the devil interacted with Eve and said as the Lord said he said yes the Lord had said that we should not take over it we should not touch it and all that and today we eat it we shall surely die and then the devil began to change the complexion of what the Lord had said and each he interpreted the meaning of those instructions in the mind of Eve that means if the devil was not successful in reshaping the interpretation of that spoken word in the mind of Eve and change it the way Eve perceived the fruit he would not have been able to successfully deceive her to eat it she had to first see it as a fruit that was good for food and the one that was able to make one wise then she said hmm now let me eat of it that means if she maintained the recognition of the fruit for what it really really really was which is a ticket to hell an eviction from Eden that was what the truth the the fruit really was about remember the Bible says in the day that you eat of this fruit you shall surely die and that was how Eve had perceived that fruit all along until a new interpretation came from the enemy the enemy came with a new interpretation which is this same fruit that you once thought was going to be your ticket away from this Eden is actually good for food in fact it's gonna make you wise and it is because the Lord knows that the day you become wise you will be like him that is why it prevents you from taking of this fruit so the devil began to initiate Eve into a new level of interpretation a new ideology so this is what I'm about to say I said all of that to say this the devil cannot deceive a generation alright that is under the truth and the devil cannot plunder a generation until he successfully changes their lens of interpretation that means that means the devil begin to make you call things that are not love love because the first thing that the devil did with Eve was to change her lens of interpretation this thing that is supposed to kill me cannot longer kill me it will no longer kill me it is not the tickets to hell anymore it's not a ticket to death and to exiting Eden it is now a fruit that is good for food it is now a fruit that is able to make me wise so let me taste of it so the reason why Eve took of that fruit was because the way she saw the food changed and if you notice anything about our generation is how the definitions of things have evolved over time so we now call love we actually now call lost love alright we call same flow we call demonic affliction mental health conditions actually and you see those things those things what it does to us is that it's re-orient our interaction with those things but the time you see it as a flaw you justify it when you see it as love you embrace it when you see it as a mental condition that you seek therapy instead of transformation so the way you see something changes how you behave around it so that's that's the biggest part of this whole situation the devil is changing the way we are seeing things so what used to be got for beat has not become it's not that bad what used to be an abomination is now just one of those things you can choose to make it your preference it's just a matter of choice no it's a matter of choice that thing is leading to hell that thing is leading you out of Eden see it for what it truly is know what the devil has made you interpret it to be because if the devil successfully makes you to reinterpret what used to be wrong as right now you're gonna embrace what used to be wrong which is still wrong you're gonna see that's right and then it won't change the destination where it's taking you to I'll explain what I mean that you see love as lost does not change the complexion of lost it's still lost and it's still designed to get you where it takes you to that you thought okay well I'm able to use UK context well I've been to a couple of cities so I can use a few contexts I used to train last week Friday and it was initially complex but I figured it out eventually thank God I didn't get missed it but say for example you you thought you were going to Essex for example or Holly or Tonton you were going you thought you were going to Tonton or you bought the ticket going to that's the farthest place that you can think about right. Sheffield so you bought the ticket that is going to Sheffield because you thought this ticket is going to Tonton the fact that you thought it was going to Tonton does not change where the bus is going to the ticket you bought is the ticket you bought that you thought it was going to Tonton does not change the route of the bus it will still take you to Tonton the Bible says the way this of sin does not change because of your perception of what it is the way this of sin is still death you need to see things or what they really are so don't get stuck in the redefinition of your generation about things that used to be wrong and are still wrong because wrong does not evolve with trends. Heaven does not update its lexicon about realities simply because of the age you are in so I was wrong in the time of Joseph and Egypt is still wrong today so don't let anything begin to help you change you know it's like big deal now you know where Gen Z things are no longer that they are still the same now let's go to Romans chapter 12 Romans chapter 12 Romans chapter 12 in message so you can understand the gravity of your interpretation because your interpretation determines everything you do if you thought the bathroom was the kitchen you will go to the bathroom thinking of it as the kitchen for the moment you enter into it and realize that it is not the kitchen that I thought it is then you change your direction and you go to where the kitchen really really is you do not begin to treat the bathroom like a kitchen you don't know stop cooking in the bathroom so the moment you realize that this thing is not what I thought it was then you go back to the real definition of what it really is if it is seen it is seen and it is not your preference that determines what sin is it's not your personality type it's not your zodiac sign that determines what you call sin sin sin is is what sin is what the Lord has called sin is sin and that definition needs to stay consistent across all our vocabularies else will begin to interpret what God has called wrong will begin to interpret it as right because the devil if he successfully makes you change your interpretation of things then those successfully still heal and destroy Romans chapter 12 from verse one message translation the Bible says so here's what I want you to do God helping you take your everyday life your ordinary life you're sleeping you're eating you're going to work and you're walking around life and place it before God as an offering embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him this is so good just connect what I said earlier you know in the morning all right embracing which is faith embrace what God does for you is what is the best thing you can do for him God's greatest need is to be needed his greatest need is to be received from but let's let's not go down that tangent so embrace what God has done for you is the best thing you can do for you don't listen to this don't become so well adjusted remember the first thing the devil tries to do is to shift your interpretation change do you see things because if you see that thing that is designed to get you out of Eden if you begin to see it as your tickets to wisdom you eat it you eat it thinking that to make you eyes in fact you will convince your husband to eat it because you think he's not so wise now you say eat it you be wise now so the moment Adam at it's both of them their eyes were open they go wise in dysfunction their eyes were open so it felt like they were woke he felt like now you know they're not more enlightened but it is enlightenment in dysfunction but I was as their eyes were opened but they saw that they were naked and that was the very reason why the Lord took them out of the garden because his word will not fade his word will not adjust for your preferences God does not update his lexicon and his interpretation or his view of life based on the generation that you exist in praise the Lord God loved Adam and Ibo he said kindly leave Eden now all right and babbles as he puts angels there with swords flaming sword God is not emotional about his word his word is settled forever and the moment you anchor your lens of interpretation to God's word the better for you let's keep reading please the Bible says don't become so well adjusted to your culture wow that you fit into it without even thinking so you visit Instagram to define for you what love is you go to the people you follow to tell you what love truly is so you are getting so well adjusted to your culture that you're not even noticing that you're not thinking like a dysfunctional world you are supposed to be a light to a world don't get consumed and subsumed into that culture is that instead fix your attention on God you will be changed from inside out readily recognizing what he wants from you and quickly responding to it unlike the culture around you there is a culture around you the Bible calls it the cause of this world the Ephesians chapter 2 it says we are an entire past you walked according to the cause of this world the prince of the power of the air the spirits that works in the children of disobedience that's the culture that is prevalent around you and you must recognize that the culture around you is not God culture it's not Zion culture it's the culture around you and you must not be conformed to the culture around you but you must be transformed by the renewing of your mind so you might prove out which is good acceptable and perfect wheel of God the wheel of God is not subject to transition and evolution and change from generation to generation it's that's the same forever oh God your word is settled in heaven it is settled and if it is settled in heaven earth is too small to change it if it is already settled in heaven earth is too small to change it it doesn't matter how many generations will come and go the truth of God's word remains the same and so you do your life and your destiny world of good when you adjust your life to fit into the truth of God's word and not attempts to adjust the truth of God's word to fit the culture and dysfunctional traditions of men the Bible says unlike the culture around you always dragging you down to its level of immaturity that means over time your generation will begin to redefine what love is all right the Bible says God brings the best out of you develops well-formed maturity in you don't be conformed to this world so I love the thing he says love or loss because we need to do a proper diagnosis because sometimes it's growth sometimes it's swelling so every growth is not growth so they look the same or we need to differentiate is this this growth is it cancerous or is it proper type of growth because love can look like lost or well lost can look like love but does not make it love and your definition or that it will impact on your interaction and your behavior around it so we need to do some differentiation in service today what are the differences because what the devil tries to do because there are some similarities between love and loss there are some similarities so what the devil does is that he magnifies the similarities between love and loss and blurs out the differences so that you take lost as love and you need to be very intelligent spiritually to be able to discern that this thing it looks like love but it is not love okay so let's do some analysis of what the differences are some of the similarities between love and loss both deeply affect our emotions who agrees when you're lost in after someone and when you love someone you almost feel the same type of intensity in your emotions both are very deeply emotionally affecting when you love someone you feel deeply about the person when you're lost in as well you almost feel the exact same way and that's why you see people say things like I love you so much have you ever heard two people who are actually lost tell I lost you I am lost in after you nobody says that even when we watch the movies that we all know is lost it's still love they will say because it's part of the play of the enemy to help redefine what you call love so that it makes lost now a bit more accommodatable by your spirit man that it's not so bad they're just you know lovers they're not lovers they are lost as you know to recognize things for what they are because if your definition changes your behavior will change it will change if you have maintained a definition and a perception of that food it is your debt warrant this is what to carry you outside of Eden if you have maintained that level of perception she will not have taken it she wouldn't have so the Bible okay not the Bible but this are similarities both deeply affect our emotions number two both compel actions usually when someone is in love or when someone loves someone there is a there's there's a way it compels your action the Bible says one thing about desire and that I will seek after that I would you know dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life to behold the beauty of the Lord and to inquire in his temple what he said there is that if I love the Lord I will pursue him so there is something about loving someone and pursuing the person and you notice that when you're also lost in after something you most likely pursue it so both of them compel actions both of them affect our emotions deeply and then finally both can be sacrificial interestingly I'm telling you I've ever seen someone that is lost in after somebody else they will sacrifice everything to sacrifice their time to sacrifice their money you know such love no you need to do a proper a deeper diagnosis that the thing is sacrificial does not make it love suddenly yes it may be sacrificing its time is money for what so it is what the person is sacrificing it for that matters not the presence of the sacrifice itself he may be sacrificing for the point of let me put it this way this guy may be sacrificed don't you sacrifice to feed the chicken that you bought you buy the chicken feet with money you sacrifice some money to buy the chicken feet you feed the chicken alright you feed it for a couple of days in fact some weeks but December 25 is coming you you you are sacrificing for it so that it can be big enough for the slaughter so sometimes people are sacrificing but it's it is not for God's sake and it's not for the sake of the person that they love love sacrifice for its subject lost sacrifice sacrifices for itself okay both sacrifice if you are lost in after someone you will make sacrifices make no mistake the chart but the problem is are you making those sacrifices in the direction of yourself and your own pleasure so you will pursue that girl you visit her at night you call her every day she needs money you give her so that you can sleep with her so the reason why you are so sacrificial you are at the end of your sacrifice but you see when you love someone you think about the person their welfare their relationship with God why should I be the reason why this person sees why should I be the reason why this person is asking God for forgiveness why should I be the reason why this person may not be able to continue school because they slept with me for six minutes why should I be the person that will destroy this person's life I would have been the person that will cause this person to consider abortion why why do I want to put this person in this kind of situation you know what no no no I will sacrifice my lost food desires because I love this person so both are sacrificial both are very in fact when somebody is in loss they're probably even more sacrificial have you seen you know guys you know at least we sitting movies are the very least they're into you know marital extramarital affairs and this person that they're in the relationship with they just need to rub their head give me this amount they will just be dropping the money just for six minutes of pleasure so both of them can be deeply sacrificial yet they are not the same so you see these similarities between love and loss the devil then hyperfocuses on it and makes you think that because you feel this connected with this person because when you don't see this person in a day when the person doesn't call you in a day you feel like your days and mess you feel like you're having a terrible day feel like your heart is broken already just because you've not heard from this person today because you feel that way because it deeply affects your emotions and because it compels you to act in certain ways that may be illogical in some contexts and because it makes you make some kind of sacrifices that makes you think my goodness I must love this girl why are you making no sacrifices are you hoping to reduce her defense mechanism against your know because sometimes the reason why I invest as much as possible is so that the possibility for no is reduced because by the time I give you enough gifts you can't tell me no again I already in depth right now I sacrifice the lots do you know what I bought for you on your birthday I can't tell me no I said like that you know like that what are you really sacrificing for but what are the differences between love and lust because that's where the differences are when we see the differences that we can tell oh this is our lost moves so I'm not lost what are the differences listen to this loss is heavily dependent on sight love is dependent on knowledge I said that again differences lost think about it if you were blind would you still love the person heavily dependent on sight you can't lost until you see heavily the movement something so get without girl I I love her you don't love her you lost after her because you have seen her and you have seen her shape because we need to speak in the we need to tell it the way it is you've seen her assets that would call it now you've seen what you've seen the silhouette of our body and how she looks in the clothes you you've seen what she has and you want it is that what something says she pleases at me your marriage is not designed to please you is to please the Lord that is why the Bible says a threefold chord see any marriage that has God in it cannot be anyhow a threefold chord marriage is not designed just for two people there is a thought person there he is God he created the concept of marriage marriage was never a man's idea it was a God idea so any marriage that is done under God as three people in it not two a three four call cannot be easily broken but you see what something said she please that's me me me it's all about me I like the way she will make me feel when we go for parties and I introduce her as my girlfriend I feel like I'm gonna be like oh my gosh you find so when you look at that guy and then you bring him to your girlfriends and you're like I just met this guy you know I'm really into him I really like him and all that and then what's the first question a girlfriend typically ask show me his picture show me let me see what it looks like let me see let me see let me see nobody asks you is it awarded is it baptized in the Holy Ghost does it print the Holy Ghost the first thing they want to do is they want to see they want to see oh if I if I is so good looking six packs six figures six foot tall but that's six six six brother be careful be careful six six six six right there is God my point is lost is heavily dependent on sight if you just think about it if you were blind would you still be this much in love with this person because love is a decision that is based on knowledge last is a compulsion based on sight compulsion you almost feel compelled I must marry I must I must now that's not love love is a decision and a mutual decision the person also needs to make the right decision to accept you but lost doesn't want to hear the person is interested lost will bully you into subservience lost will insist that I have you that's what lost those lost doesn't lost cannot have for they know lost you say no to lost lost wants it by all means until he gets it look at what happened between I'm not and I'm not short so time and he lost his health he fell sick his biology reacted so if you see the way he fell sick you would have said my goodness he loves the girl it was still not love was the emotion of the yes the compulsion yes was a sacrifice that absolutely but it was still not love this guy sacrificed his food was not good to eat this girl I like her and in his mind if you are asked I'm not in that moment do you love him he would have said oh my goodness I love that girl so much but was still not love he must have the discerning perspective of God's word to see what God calls things and call those things for what they truly are not what our culture calls them and then worst to you he goes ahead to ask council from the worst person in the room his friend Jonah dab and then he asks him this is why is the king song going lean every day this guy at not eating for days because he thought he loved someone that is how compelling lost can be he was so compelling this guy was not eating for days for probably weeks and then Jonathan and his friends shows up and says why is the king song going lean every day and this guy says well I love this girl I just I don't know what to do I can't think straight I can't go to work I've been calling in sick every single day since I set my eyes on her you know she's just everything I think about I don't know what I'll do without her I just need her in my bed right now and this guy gives him a demonic advice he said in what play seek tell your father the only person that should serve you is your sister time and then when she comes you grab her by the hand you lock the door behind you and you sleep with her you get exactly what you're looking for and this guy executes it to the letter but the part I'm taking you to is the bible says the hatred with 38th time was worse than the love he thought he had for her because it was never love to start with lost it moves you to the same way love moves you so the fact that both of them are compelling actions does not mean they are the same because lots will move you to make sacrifices that would ultimately only satisfy you that person's welfare is not really your concern what she has to do with STDs doesn't really matter to you those six minutes you want it I want it now if she gets pregnant it's not your business if she carries that baby for nine months and it's not able to follow through a school it's not really your business give me my six minutes of pleasure that's all that matters to me that's lost that's not love lost is heavily dependent on sight love is influenced by knowledge love is a decision influenced by knowledge lost is a compulsion that is heavily triggered by sight think about it again if you were blind if you couldn't see the person you say you love and you never saw the person to start with we just love them would you fall in love with the quality of them that is not subject to degeneracy think about this everybody's body is subject to degeneracy I wrote this in my book love math you could get it on Amazon love math really powerful book now our bodies are subject to degeneracy nobody gets younger as the age and the body begins to tell that story of how much they have aged now what happens is this is really profound wisdom pay attention we make a decision at probably our least qualified season in life when we're in our 20s then we make the most consequential decision of our entire life at the stage of our lives that we are least experienced with wisdom so most will get married in their 20s how much experience do you have to make such a heavy decision so you make a decision about who you will spend the rest of your life with at the point where you are least experienced to make such a decision this is why the any attempt to make a decision about who you want to spend the rest of your life with without strong counsel from both God's word and spiritual leaders is an attempt in fully because you will regret it because a 20-year-old guy or girl doesn't have sufficient wisdom to power that decision because when you are 82 you will still be in that decision if God spends both of your lives and you made that decision when both of you at 22 so you are better receive ancient wisdom to make that decision at 22 so that the decision keeps getting better with time now this is what people do when you are making a decision based on lost remember it is heavily based on sight and what is the visible side of man the body the body that is the most visible is the least consistent so this body that you are now attracted to is the one that is guaranteed to diminish think about it this body that you have now so obsessed with a body are these are back up front up if everything this thing this thing that you are now so obsessed over is the one thing that is guaranteed to never stay the same and it doesn't get better with time I will leave that to your imagination but that is what you fell in love with now we see the reason for and on manageable amount of divorces and heartbreaks because the moment that body that I fell in love with ceases to hold up the expectations that I had of it my commitment to eat is also justified to break because I loved you for your body now your body can no longer hold up to the expectations that I hold it up against so I'm sorry I don't like you anymore there's a shiny atoy in town there is another girl with better whatever it is that I liked when I liked you that is now around that I now like and this is why the statistics show that with every successive divorce the chances of getting it right continues to reduce because whatever made you break the first will continue to make you break the successive ones because you fell in love with the cacas you fell in love with the case and no with the person there is the person inside this is why the Bible says that let your adornment in Timothy let you adornment not be of the outward man that is of wearing a pearl and clothes and shiny stuff and that's not to say that we should not be wearing those things it is to say that the emphasis of your grooming that is there is the grooming the happens on your body but there is a grooming the happens in your soul in your heart let the adornment of your life be stronger on the inside than it is on the outside let your husband love you for the person that you are inside the Bible says the inward man of the heart look at that he says in like man also that the woman adorn themselves the mother staffer with propriety and moderation no brother air or gold or pearl or costly thing the next verse this is not it it's in pita it's in pita look for it for me all right the Bible says not the adornment of the outward but it says of the inward man it says of a meek and quiet spirit do not let your adornment be merely look at that right there can go back do not let your adornment be merely outward arranging the air wearing of gold or putting on final parallel is the Bible saying we should know we have good clothes or put on final parallel stuff no he said let not the emphasis of your grooming be about outward appearance rather let it be the hidden person of the heart with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is a great price onto God that means if I fall in love with this dimension that is incorruptible in beauty or forever be slain by a beauty amen but if I fall in love with the part that is subject to degeneracy based on time we should probably do an equation on that because we fall in love with the body at what point in time with that degeneracy setting to the degree that it would offset the love that I now have because the moment that time kicks in interest is lost because what I contracted was the body it was the body I liked the body is no longer what I like so I have justification to say no I don't like this person again but the person is not the body power talks about the hidden man of the heart the meek and quiet spirit that is why I said if you were blind would you still be in love because you see if you were blind you will you will fall in love with the meek and quiet spirit the gentle spirit because it's no longer influenced by the shape and the height and the behind and before why do we talk about positions every time we talk about these things front back there is something inside why don't you talk about inside why is your front back beside everywhere how about the hidden man of the heart and that is based on knowledge I can't know the hidden man of the heart until I become friends with you and I see how you treat people and I see how you come across how do you treat people that you are quote unquote better than in the economic ladder how do you treat people that are doing worse off than you the food that they are doing better than how do you treat them that tells me the quality of your spirit is it a gentle and the quiet spirit is it incorruptible and the chances are that people don't get worse in the heart they get better people get better in their hearts they grow they become more experienced they love God more they serve God more they become more gentle they why is that their decisions are better if you fall in love with the meek and quiet spirit chances are that you remain in love with that person because you fell in love with the parts that is not corruptible but by the time you fall in love with the shiny new toy you need another one after a while because that person's body cannot hold up to such expectations and God designed it so so the bed the best strategy for longevity in relationships falling over the part that is not subject to degeneracy notice how the moment you fall in love with the right part that part you are falling in love with will now call the body so you will not begin to see the body in the light of the inward man guess what when you marry the person that has the best of bodies but has the worst of spirits when you get into that marriage two years down the line you are asking for divorce the person did not become suddenly not beautiful it is the fact that the inward man that is terrible that is corrupt that does not have the gentleness the meekness is not robbing off on the body so the same person you could die for like I can't never even know I can't stay in the same house with that the Bible says the man will rather stay on the rooftop of a house then stay in the same house with the quarrel quarrel some woman the woman is always nagging that is not patient that is not kind that is not submissive that is not gentle that is not wise the woman that just makes rash decisions and when a man will rather stay with pigeons on on the rooftop that stay in the same house with the woman that has a quarrel some spirit the Bible says the woman with her mouth will tear down our house she's the one that will keep comparing our husband with everybody in the town that's your mate she will not do anything meaningful with her time she will be going around busy bodies and stuff and the Bible says that because of that the man will rather stay with pigeons on the rooftop because at the end of the day the inward man will observe on the body ultimately didn't hear what I said the inward man robes of on the body ultimately so if the inward man is solid if you fell in love with that you will begin to see her face in the light of our inward man but if you fell in love with the body the inward man will still rob off but only that it to be a corrupting what man that is not robbing of on the body that is still fine yet you are not willing to continue with that relationship because she doesn't respect you she's just nagging she's always complaining praise the name of the Lord love all lost differences between love and loss the first difference was the first difference remember lost is heavily what dependent on sight love is dependent on knowledge number two lost is illogical over time love gets better over time the decision you make in love you will continue to be grateful for it over time but the decision you make in lost you continue to regret it over time that is the decision of lost gets worse over time and you see so most often the not attempts at divorce is to recover the time that they've already lost because I want to go back to that beginning so I can make a right decision and this is why you're such a privileged bunch here and now young people that are yet to make that final decision you're so privileged because you have access to wisdom that can arm you with the right principles that would ensure that in your life and in your marriage you would always be grateful to God about it you would always be grateful to God about it God loves everyone including those who have made mistakes in the past and that's okay but for those who are yet to make any mistake don't even start with a mistake don't trust God for wisdom and it is in the world you get wisdom don't conform to the wisdom around you the okay to podcast out there teaching people out to be promiscuous and immoral stop plugging into those kind of podcast those things are designed to destroy your life be transformed by the renewing of your mind you have seen what matters to go and make a quiet spirit you can have makeup on your body and there's nothing in your soul you can be you can't focus so much of your donments on your physical appearance and that's not to say you should know where those things and look good it is important remember how Joseph showed up before Pharaoh he had to look the part but if he had looked the part but didn't have anything to present it will go back to prison it's not toxido that I'm looking for in prime minister role is wisdom is the make and quiet spirit a wife is a position of stature remember the Bible says he that finds a wife listen to this if I'm looking for good coin is this when I find the gold coin that it becomes good coin oh you didn't get that if you got it you scream better than that the wife had been a wife before she was married so the wife was already a wife before she was married and the people that are married are still no wives because if I rob if I if I if I rob gold mess on copacoin is still copacoin either find a wife a wife is a wife before she's found the make and quiet spirit that was as it is a great price on to go and I'm speaking about the man too because many times when we talk about relationships the emphasis is always very lopsided on the woman and we're always talking about the woman submits and candy man also love like Christ loss the Bible says Christ love the church he died he died so the next time he says I love you just ask him quickly can you die are you ready to die now because Jesus loved so much he died for his wife his church is bright he died for her losing my voice what's happening praise God so lost is illogical over time love gets better with time the decision you make thank you sir so the decision you make in love gets better with time the third difference is lost is controlling love is self controlling differences between love and loss when you are in a relationship with someone that is only lasting after your body because if you are lost in the only thing it is about is the body if you're in a relationship with someone that is lost in over your body they are very controlling and dominating they can't afford you being around somebody else even if it is for all the reasons beyond romance or romantic reasons they can't afford it because them you know because when you are lost it's actually a type of psychological dysfunction because what happens is that you begin to project your person on everybody so you think everybody is looking for your girlfriend's body because that is all you are looking for so insecurity is guaranteed you will be perpetually insecure who are you talking to how long were you in that meeting for you see is there a fine pastor is that I don't go and meet him please they want to go faster they visit fireman you know is it I don't like that church why don't you like that church I just don't like him the reason is because the pastor is fine and it's because I tried to protect the interest of your girlfriend come on it's insecurity but because you are lost in after how you are projecting everybody in this life it's also lost in after your girlfriend it is most speaking about you that it is about everybody else in the world you are in security has nothing to do with everybody else it has everything to do with you and it's because you are in lost I'm not in love that's why you can't even allow your girlfriend have no mouth a defined relationship to people generally you can't you will know if you allow her to be accountable to anybody why do you want to talk to your pastor for what this is a relationship between you and I why do I bring in a thought party why why are you always angry because there's lost in there you see truth is not afraid of light truth is not afraid of light you see this fear of somebody must know if I say now let me just say if I say now that if I in the relationship raise your hand some people will not be able to raise it because the pastor David knows that in the relationship and he begins to ask you questions that bother relationship you are not proud of the answers you are likely going to give him so you rather just not raise the hand because you're not proud of what goes on in that relationship truth is not afraid of light if you are afraid of light maybe it is lost that you're having in that relationship and not love this is truth truth of God's word God's word will first make you mad before it makes you glad so receive this truth with with joy okay don't be offended at the truth of God's word don't be a Pharisee it's the Pharisees that get offended they run away you can't get corrected and stay remember the Lord told the disciples would you also run they said where are we going to go to yeah to you you and don't have the words of eternal life correct us we like it to knock our head is okay rebuild because it's fine so don't run away because you are receiving the truth of God's word because this is the truth of God's word if you're not proud to tell a thought party especially someone you hold in high esteem about your relationship something is wrong in that relationship you've got to be bold about what is true if you're not bold about the chances are that there's some deception going on there there's some lost going on there because lost is controlling love is self-controlling loss wants to control the other person love controls itself by itself or herself so when you're in love with someone you're like no no no let's not stay in that room alone please let's just find somewhere outside to talk I like you too much to not touch you that honest assessment of your weaknesses which is with produces self-control because you're aware that you like this girl by looting the same room the door is locked the music is right the mood lights are on my goodness you know what happens next so stay outside you can have private conversations in public I want to have private conversations that know you mean you have to stay in a private location it's conversation or not location because fire has a triangle okay fire has a triangle for fire to happen three things must represent well heat and oxygen if you remove any of those factors fire can happen fire extinguishers remove the oxygen all right if fire is done burning its fire it will stop by itself so the only way fire can happen is if those three things happen at the same time now the bubble calls sexual passion fire the Bible says no man puts fire on his bosom and expect not to be burned it's talking about sexual passion so the same way it is true for natural fire it is true for sexual fire there are three elements for sexual fire emotion presents and wheel any of these three factors absent sex cannot happen emotion that is I like you that is I have feelings for that emotion presents physical availability but those two things can be present if the wheel does not pack up with those two things sex cannot happen now if you bully someone and collect their will and still forcefully that is no longer consensual sex that's rape and rape is extremely evil the same consequence for murder in the Bible is the consequence for raping the Bible because someone recovering from rape is as good as resurrection I don't want to go into that so never ever all right violated persons wheel because of your loss remember loss is controlling because lost might wants to power the persons wheel for forceful entry and you must be careful of that that is why you never give lost the ability to control you you control yourself if you really love that person so anyways emotions presents and wheel the one thing that will can be easily regulated by is the possibility for shape that means even if I like you feelings established and we're in the same place presents if there is a possibility for shape my will will not pack now with those two things and fire will never happen that means by simply only seeing each other in places that has the possibility for intrusion you can eliminate the possibility for premarital sex in your relationship because nobody will stay on the market square begin to have sex right there because there's a possibility for shame people are gonna be seeing you right there no matter how compelled you are to have sex with someone you will find a place first the place has to be private next then it can happen that means if you eliminate the possibility for secrecy you can literally eliminate the possibility for premarital sex or sexual immorality so be careful so if you are in a you love this girl you like her and I know you like her I know you like I know you say you love her this is the proof that you do control yourself and ensure you never see each other in an enclosed environment that will emphasize your weakness and make it very difficult for you to control it just make it impossible because the possibility for shame will keep your will a check a man so lost is controlling love is self controlling two more verses of scripture and then would have questions ebers 12 14 to 16 the Bible says follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord looking diligently less than the man fail of the grace of God less than the root of bitterness bringing up trouble you and thereby many be defiled less than any fornicator fornicator or profane person like iso who for a muscle of meat sold is birthright one of the most illogical things in this world is sexual passion sexual passion is extremely logical think about it six minutes of pleasure and a lifetime of potential regret can come out of that six minutes of pleasure it makes absolutely no sense but in the moment this is now your process it like just give me this I just need this just make me feel so good iso was not known for fornicating sexually but he created the principle of fornication because what he did was that he sold his birthright something that is eternal in nature and all he got for it was a muscle of meat that he would eat in three minutes or four minutes and then at the end of the day he would put it somewhere in the restroom and that is all he got for a better right that is eternal in nature that means every single time you engage in sexual immorality what you are doing is very akin to what iso did you are taking six minutes of pleasure but you are exchanging and it can't wait to destiny Joseph understood this so he said how can I do this great thing unseen against God and my destiny something will give him my life I don't want you to be my destiny that will suffer for this yes I will I will probably be the most promoted person indeed but I will never be put in first house and I will never return to my father's house as the prime minister and that means I will never be able to save my brethren from the famine that would inevitably come in the future that means my destiny will be completely sabotaged because I chose fleeting pleasure over my own destiny every time you engage in sexual immorality that is what you're doing you are being like iso who for a muscle of meat it feels so good the Bible says he saw it remember loss is heavily tied to sight the woman he saw that food he could do to get his eyes off it it's a just give it to me I'm almost dead you will not die go and take a cold shower that thing that will come down don't worry take a cold shower I will die just give me this muscle of meat and Jacob said hey before you touch my food give me your butt right you said butt right what am I using butt right who butt right help I beg I beg I beg I beg I beg take back right give me muscle of meat the Bible says the thing was red remember is almost born red the devil knows you he knows what you like you must have a stronger uncle than your natural proclivities there must be a stronger uncle in your life which is the weight of your destiny I know what I'm saying while on campus the devil sent me one person that was designed from here to destroy my life it was God that saved me I can kneel down here and just thank him again for it I'm telling you thank God I did not fall for that thing yes later I was with my wife to be at the time who is my wife now we're going past the particular bus stop and I saw that girl that the devil sent to me yes back I saw how the bus stop she looked nothing like what she looked like before you see all that body she she she didn't look like it I saw her and the Lord looked at me I said this is what your life would have looked like true life story and I saw her with my wife I'm like this is what I would have said to it for father I thank you don't let your libido control your destiny now let wisdom wisdom is the principal thing therefore get wisdom because sexual perversion is the shortest strategy of harvesting from hell understand what I'm saying the moment the devil wants to destroy generation one guaranteed strategy that always walks for him it has always walked the sexual perversion sexual perversion number 23 Balak carried Balam the most prophetic man in the entire realm to come and curse the general visual this guy took he went to several positions the group successfully curse the general visual he couldn't he said his guys are blessed and anyone got us blessed I cannot curse there's no enchantment against Jacob there's no definition against Israel it's a lot of blessed I cannot reverse it so this man knew that these people were blessed but he also knew something demonic so look at Balak he said you have fine girls in moab you know what tell them to dress anyhow and release them into the camp of Israel and as they released those scantily dressed ladies each of the camp of Israel remember loss is activated by sight as those men began to see those girls can't see the dress they began to slip with them 24,000 failed that day bit massive plague Balak could not curse them those sexual perversion destroyed them don't let sexual perversion destroy you in your generation if everything fails the devil choose the sexual perversion it always works but don't let it walk on you put a premium on your destiny if the person cannot wait till you get married he is not the one for you say but it's fine you find a fine a person trust me and that should not even be the most important metric is he godly if he's godly can't wait just have ran as far away from potifas wife as far away into the prison he felt safe there at least you know but you will not follow me here flee beautiful lost flee appearance of evil don't trust yourself too much to say we can be in this room together see this music see this moonlight the door is locked they are watching Netflix and chilling you already you're already practicing regret lost on love similarities both deeply affect emotions both compel actions both can be sacrificial differences losses heavily dependent on sight love is dependent on knowledge loss is illogical over time love gets better over time loss is controlling love is self controlling let me stop there there's almost scripture but I'll just stop there because of time and I will afford questions if there are maybe one or two just because I know that among young people that typically can be questions that I'll be happy to answer thank you for having me any questions come time I know right to me take some time so let's just take two questions and just ask that'll be better actually to question anyone okay anyway thank you all right and it's more interactive that way so yeah your name and then your question I have my name's I also I have okay you talk to us we know that God is love yeah so you know that all things must be possible can I see like all the kind of good question very good question really good really good question very good very good very good question someone has asked me this question before now my answer is radical very radical but it's rooted in God's word my personal opinion which is not an opinion it's God's word is pay attention to this God designed marriage only for people that know you yeah that others get married without knowing him doesn't make the marriage the ideal marriage no matter how well it may be doing remember it was God that thought about the idea of marriage and the moment men or man fell from the garden the marriage became dysfunctional instead of blaming each other and all of that and guess what that was what can and a bill grew up under that rank or strive always blaming one another that was why by the time the Lord asked Kane where's your brother was like what's my business I'm at my brother's keeper he had never truly received the education of how to love because God was no longer present in the marriage of his father and his mother so he he didn't know what's what do you mean he has my brother he had never seen it modeled to him now you may look from afar and say that relationship looks so good longevity is not quality that people have stayed long in marriage does not mean they stayed qualitatively married for as long as they married legally you see in the book I wrote that sometimes or many times way before the papers are signed before the logges are packed out of the house people check out of their relationships people check out of their marriages people can believe in resentment with a partner for 42 years resentment you can't do marriage without Christ it's impossible because by the time Paul was going to explain what marriage is he had to use Christ and the church so if you want to describe a marriage of people that don't know Christ and the church how will he describe it it has no reference point in the heaven because how will I describe to someone who does no no Christ who does not know the church about how he should love his wife that means the person is loving his wife with a love that is not sponsored by God's love and how can that love truly last it can't so the fact that they've stayed married for such a long time does not mean it's an ideal profile of a marriage because God did not design marriage to exist outside of Eden the moment they stepped out of Eden the marriage became dysfunctional every dysfunction we find in the world today stemmed out of marriages that were not under the cover of God because it became heavily dysfunctional fatherlessness became a pandemic all kinds of issues because people were no longer subjecting their marriages to the principles of God but was this by wisdom a house is built including the marriage and by understanding it's established then by knowledge its interiors are filled with precious riches so if you don't have the wisdom provost for seven wisdom is the principal thing therefore get wisdom and in all that getting get understanding so that you can found that marriage on the wisdom of God that never fails remember Matthew seven also says whether he has my word and does it I would liken him to a man that built his house on the rock so anyone who is married but he's not married in obedience to Christ did not build their house on the rock the winds are coming the rain is coming the flood will come and the Bible says that house will not survive those things because it was never found out on the rock and who is the rock Christ so any marriage that is not found out Christ honestly he's not recognized in heaven Hush but true do you believe what I just said thank you any other question I think I saw a hand over there you're thinking about it any other question last question I'm not in UK all the time so last question okay all right go ahead oh okay so there's one more person after her we'll just have what's your name uh dummy ah tell me Debbie okay awesome awesome awesome okay go ahead what's your name my name is Lindsay awesome okay go ahead I wanted to ask last ever turn into last ever turn into hmm because I've seen things were like obviously couples have died out in last but you see eventually they give the lack of practicing and they change their perspective and their relationship and then they evolve into relationship good good question very good question lost cannot turn into love but two people who were in lost can become two people in love lost will not change its address okay love would also change its address but the people that were in lost can live lost and enter love okay so you can renew your mind you can change the way you think of course people who started out lasting can receive the truth and then start loving decisively right so that's possible but lost can never turn into love because the flesh and the spirit lost these themselves they are always contrary you can't harmonize both their part-level lines will never meet all right Debbie my question was kind of similar to how I was going to say like let's say a relationship started well can love and lost like create this relationship course let's say they thought it all like you know loving each other's character but not lost well all that's it it was blind they were stupid each other could have their character but then later one down the line they started engaging in lost what activities do you think like it can still okay love was completely lost they need to be accountable to someone because they can't self-define what they are in if they started out in lost you need to be accountable to someone now there are two people who may be in a relationship and they've done some really lostful things some immoral things you can't buy yourself just decided you know what we're gonna start loving now and we've heard pasta that me teach no you need someone to guide you you need some accountability structure you need to speak to a pastor and chances are that the pastor would advise for both of you to break up first so that both of you can find your footing in Christ first if at all you can come back if but you see that should never be the focus of you're coming to be accountable you're coming to be accountable means whatever the pastor or whoever it is you're accountable to tells you to do you are willing to do it including leaving that relationship if based on the past or the wisdom he thinks it's not healthy for you and chances are that if you started off your relationship on a lostful note it will be extremely difficult to self-regulate and stop without some external help it's gonna be very difficult so chances are that the council will be leave that relationship first now in a love relationship in marriage are you permitted to have sex absolutely you are the only ones permitted licensed on the God to have sexual relationship with your partner but not for those who are not married because that's not what God designed all right sex outside of marriage it is a house on fire sex in marriage is a fire house because sex outside of marriage will burn down your house it is a house on fire but sex in marriage there is a place for fire in that house so it's a fire place it warms it defies it comforts it's it builds up it procreates it balances it's a blessing but outside of marriage it's a house of fire you run out of that house all right thank you thank you wow what a word for more messages connect with our tribesmen across all social media platforms act park won't try