Long Time No Solo Pod

The following podcast is a dear media production. Welcome back to the Not Skinny Bonafat podcast. I'm your host Amanda Hirsch, and I still can't believe that I get to chat with some of my favorite stars. I'm a very own podcast where you'll feel like you're just talking shit with your best friends in your living room. Hi guys, long time no solo pod. So happy Friday, surprise, solo pod time. We really haven't talked in such a long time. That's funny because when I think about how this podcast started in 2019, I think it was, well, it was with my sister. It was with my sister. I feel like sometimes I'm like, "Is she secretly mad at me that I kicked her out?" But it was such a natural kind of transition that it wasn't really that I kicked her out. It was like we tried, I think, to do interviews together and then it felt kind of weird. Like it was like she wasn't really doing the interview because she was like star struck a little bit and then she was just like they're kind of. I guess she could have remained the like Robin of like what's his face, Howard Stern. I should have kept her as the Robin because I love her. And sometimes I'm like, oh, I wish I could just like chitchat with her all the time just like about what's going on. And it's like that's what we do. And it's just, again, reminds me of how this all started. All started from just genuine passion for this stuff. And for me literally walking around saying like, this is a hobby. Like I don't care, it's fine. You know, I don't need to make money from it. I don't need to get like huge opportunities. Like I love doing it. I'd be doing it anyway. It's my, it's my fucking fun. You know what I mean? So I really try to remember that, you know, in this world where everything gets crazy and you get, you could feel really defeated at times, you know, and feel like, and then it's like, wake the fuck up. You're doing amazing, sweetie, you know? And it's like, what is the line between, and I wonder this, what's the line between, because I always talk about like being content. And I, and I when I have set that, and like interviews are on my own podcast, I genuinely mean it. Like don't think for one second that I'm like, you know, when I've set that, I hadn't meant it. I genuinely do, but I also feel like, okay, so what's the line? Because you want to stay motivated, and you want to stay like, working towards the next thing. But also it's so healthy to be like, I'm content, and I'm not like, you know, chasing my own tail. Like hungry AF. Like, so I'm trying to find the line, you know, where it's like, stay in your content, and that's good, proud of you, love that for you. Obviously, there's a huge part of me that's like super motivated, and super hungry to like do big things, and keep on evolving and keep on growing. So there's, there's a line to be found, or just like a middle ground to be found where it's like, yes, keep going, persevere, you know, stick with it, which I have been doing, obviously, but also don't forget like what's important, and also don't forget to like value the fact that you're even given the chance to do this. I was listening to, I think it was Benny Blanco on Smart List yesterday. He's so funny, he like gets so intense. He's like, like, like, but I was listening to him and he said something, which I, you know, a lot of people would say, no, give yourself credit, like, don't take away from, from, you know, all the work that you've done. But he basically said, like, yeah, I hustled, and I fudged my way to like make it in this way. But it all happened like, you know, it all happened. He said a sentence that was like, work really hard, and then you have more of a chance to get lucky. I really love that. Like put in the fucking work, and like do all the things, because then you'll have more of a chance to get the chance and be lucky. But he said, like, I fudged my way through, and I, like, I have talent. But I'm not like, you know, the best gift God has given the earth. I just like, not a talk and walk and, you know, get Selena to fall in love with me. And it's funny, because he said to the guys, like, right? Like you guys feel me, like you're probably the same, right? Like you don't think they're like the best actor there is, right? Like you, you, you know, you have some talent. But, you know, other people probably have more. And, you know, the guys are like, mm-hmm, definitely totally, yeah. But I really resonated with that for a lot of different reasons. But, but mainly because, mainly because of that, that thing you said, which was work hard, and then you'll have a chance to get lucky. And I feel that way, like about myself, because I have said, like, how I manifested whatever. But it's like manifesting to me isn't like a woo-woo vision board. It's like actually doing the work to get somewhere that and, and being a little dilulu and all those things. But, but, but if you didn't do that, like if you didn't fill out the lottery ticket, you're not going to win. You know, you have to fill out the lottery ticket. It's not like, you know, Demi Moore was found at the mall, which I don't know if that's true, but a lot of them were. I don't know why Demi Moore just made me think of Johnny Depp. I just saw a picture of Johnny Depp. You guys are not, it's no bueno. It's not looking good. And like, there's so much of Johnny Depp, he was the guy of my heart. Like, I genuinely thought I would end up with him when I was younger. I don't know how young. Like, was I 12, 15, 17, 20? But like, you know, I just, Benny and June, if you haven't seen them, I'm hoping, oh my god, he's just amazing, below, obviously. And I literally had like a picture of him in my wallet. I'm not joking. And then I understand people get older and I'm the last to age shame. I'm so not about age shame, but seeing him. It's also like, are we age shame because you like abuse drugs and alcohol? There's, and there's a reason you look like this. Like, is that allowed? I'm not sure. But he ain't looking good. He kind of is giving vampire. I don't know if he needs facial hair. I don't know the face was translucent. And obviously the way he's been dressing the last few years. But now it just looks exacerbated. You could start a cloning rumor. And it would. It would really track, it would really track. Speaking of ages and not age shaming and not discussing. People's looks were not doing any of that. Okay. Have you seen a Adriana Lima? Because let me fucking tell you, I thought it was AI. Okay, I thought it was AI. And here's where. Flip like a steak can come in or just having multiple opinions and having multiple things go on at once in your brain because we're all human. It's like, yes, I hate that we glorify being skinny. And then it's like, you know, somebody gets skinny. And then all of a sudden, everyone's talking about them having a huge glow up, right? And it's like, you're not. She actually just got, she actually just got skinny. She has the same hair color. She has the same face. She just lost 25 pounds, you know? So like the glow up, the glow up, the glow up. Is it a lot of the time? She got skinny. So I'm very aware of that. And I'm very like, I try to stay away from that. I think Lily Reinhart just had this happen. She did an amazing press tour for Love Hypothesis where she literally, her stylist, killed it. It just shows you how much a good stylist can do. Like wow, cheeky wow. She did a kind of like homage to different like rom-coms and stuff. Like she did 10 things I hate about you. And I think there was like, uh, an homage to Britney Murphy look and just so many. Like she looked actually incredible. I wasn't thinking glow up. I was just like, this styling is so fucking sick. And it's it is the best she's ever been styled. But obviously I did see a post from a creator saying exactly what I was just talking about. Like glorifying the getting skinny. And I even commented on her thing. Cause I was like, I so agree with you. This so happens. And it is frustrating. It happened with Whitney Levitt. When she went on dancing with the stars, you know, it happens. However, I want to believe that like a lot of the hype around Lily is because of the the styling. So that's what I said. Like I think I personally liked what I was saying. Not because her body looked different. But because like she was styled so beautifully. So I hope that I'm right. That's how I personally feel. Again, I don't know if that's the truth. And why everyone is feeling like, of course, their comments that are like body is tea, you know. And like that's you're talking about the body. But again, I think I'm in the world still worried. Like you can say somebody's hot. Say everybody's hot. Everybody's fucking hot. You know, people are losing weight around hot. Not me. Not me. I love when I get ozemic allegations. I'm like, first of all, you're going to know. And I'll tell you, I'll tell you when you're going to know. So Adriana Lima showed up. I don't even know what the fuck event it was. I was like, her pony was swaying. It was also perfect. Like sleep pony. I'm like, how do you hear? Silas never get my pony. That's like, it's like, do I have too much hair? Like, I don't know. Anyway, pony sleek, face fucking taught. Like like crazy. And obviously she lost weight since the last time we saw her. She was body shamed. The last red carpet she was on, which was like maybe 2023 or something. She was body shamed because people were used to seeing her as this victorious secret, you know, skinny skinny model. And she looked like a normal person. And, and I'm sure that was awful, and I hope. that didn't make her want to do all these things, but I did post what she looked like because I was blown away and I said, I want to do whatever she did one day. And that probably includes ozampic and it probably includes a facelift. And that looks like an amazing recipe. So that's what I'm saying. It's like, I want to make it okay. And that's why when I talked about flipping, that's okay to flip and change your opinion. It's also okay to not have just like a thesis about one strong opinion about everything. I can feel both ways. I can say, oh my God, shoot me up one day and also say, I don't love the glorifying of someone getting skinny. And especially I don't love it when it's hypocritical because it's like this movement about body positivity and then it's like, oh, the glow up. And it's like, say what you mean? Say what you mean to me and what you say. So I'm just like, there's a lot of things going on, but you know, a Sandra Bullock, okay. She's 60 fucking two. She looks insane. She probably did stuff to look insane and that's okay and we support it and we want the info. We want the info and there's nothing to do about the fact you guys that we live in a world and we've always lived in this world and that I don't think is new where we glorify beauty. That's why there's Hollywood. That's why there was Marilyn Monroe. That's why it goes way back. It's not a new thing. We glorify beauty and we glorify staying young and the only I think, you know, what makes me feel nice is like, well, sometimes glorify both. We'll see like an actress that has decided to never get Botox today in her life and it's like you go girl. We love you for it. Love seeing your wrinkles. Love seeing your gray hair. Sarah just the Parker just said something like, yeah, I'm aging like what the fuck do you want me to do? Like it is what the fuck it is, you know? So I, you know, giving space in the room for both and allowing each woman to do what she feels comfortable with, you know, should always be that. And like I said, oh, I said, I'm going to tell you when I'm going to do it when I'm going to shoot up osembic. No, but it is, read the GLP one conversation, which is another thing that I've flip-flopped on. I know that when it first came out, I was strongly like, I literally believe the rumors. I was like, they're taking it away from people that are dying from diabetes. I thought that that's what I literally believed. And then obviously I started seeing actresses that need to lose five pounds on it. But now it's just so normalized. Like I know that like, even just skinny people are on it to say skinny. So I've talked to about my GLP one film before, but I will say it is crazy. Like I do need, like I, you know, meet with different doctors and I'll like, I get my thyroid check and get my this whatever. And I just met with her name is Michaela Robbins and she, her practice is called East West, which I loved because it was like combining both medicines. And we did like a cortisol test and a this test and that test and she started me actually on all these supplements and we changed up my Hashimoto's thyroid med. I was not on the right one. And part of her suggestion was a GLP one. And I feel like now a GLP one is is many times part of the suggested course of action for whatever it is. Like my cholesterol is high. So she was saying at that point, so like inflammation and all these things and that that could help like micro dosing it. So I'm seeing how it's part of that world now of the wellness world. I mean, it's a peptide and peptides are equals wellness, right? So I'm not against it. I will say like in my mind now, even if it doesn't make sense, I'm kind of thinking like I would try that. I would try the micro dosing and like see if that helps things with the cholesterol, but but right now before I'm decided on the third baby, I'm not going to do it. I don't know why, but it's in my mind that like it would be that I would be okay with it post third baby, but before like I also want to make that decision, I want to like force myself to make that decision. I feel like if I would do something like this, I would, I don't know. I just to me in my like brain, it's funny when I talked about the third baby, when I talked to you guys are like, which time I did say somebody was like just like have sex all the time. And if you, it happens, it happens. I'm like, you don't know me. First of all, I've been married for 15 years. So I'm not having sex all the time all day, every day, okay? And I'm a very, there's type A and type B to me, but my type A is very like organized. Like I love a mission. Like if you give me a mission, I love mission, missionary. If you give me a mission of like get pregnant and I can like look at my app and see when I'm ovulating and I'm like, I'm like, you know, like I love it. I love that like dates calendars aligned, lined it up, like do the thing, write it down, see what date. But so I do love that. So it's not, I'm not like randomly and if it hits it hits, it's just not who I am. It's just not who I am. Yeah. So having decided, but did decide that if I ever shoot up a Zempick not heroin, it would be post third baby. Even though I'm going to, if I do it, I'm going to try to not gain 1,000 million pounds. Like I did with Lenny, which I don't know if it's possible. Like I don't know if it's like something I could have changed, probably could have changed. It's funny. Like the response is I got to the third baby reel of my question being everyone saying, if you're thinking about it that much, if you're thinking about it that much, it means you want it. If you're thinking about that much and I'm like, does it, it doesn't mean that? Does it just mean that, like is that the answer of all the answers? And yes, I think there's a world where I'm obsessed with people that know what they want. Like Chelsea Handler, I don't want kids to love that for you. Love that you know what you fucking want. I love the people that like one and done. I've always wanted one daughter, beautiful, you know, like I too and done. I would never have another one. Love that for you. Who am I? What am I? I don't know. But I think I do kind of know like, of course, three is a number in my head because I come from three sisters. And then I think about it. Someone told me like, what if we didn't have our yellow, our yellows are young guests? That would suck. You know, she's like the angel of our family. So there's that part and even Huzz like gets it. I think a lot of you want it to know like where he stands. So it is my decision, I will say, but he would love to move on with our lives and not carry bottles and strollers and diapers. And he thinks he's Christopher Columbus. So he wants to travel and sail the world, sail the ocean blue. It's so funny to me. This is actually the funniest part to me because he is the worst traveler. And like the most non-travely person, like I told my friend and she was like, when he comes over, he won't go on the grass. Like he is not nature. He's when the plane takes off every trip we go, he looks at me with like wide eyes. But we're taking off, you know, or like if there's turbulence, he'll hold look at me, which I'm also looking at him, but like he's looking at me and I don't pretend to love to travel. But he is pretending that, you know, Lenny is a year away from us going to Thailand and chillin with Pina Coladas, Pina Coladas and not worrying about thing. And if we have a third baby, then there's a Duna and there's all the things which I get and it's so fucking valid and it's so true. But that's really his only thing. It's like, what about Thailand, you know? And I'm like, you don't like the beach, you know, let's start there. So we'll go to Miami, you know, where you like it. He just sometimes I feel like because I'm an anxious person and a motherfucking overthinker, I know myself so well. Like I know what I like. I know what I don't like. I'm fine to be honest with it. I'm like, I'm fine to be honest about it. But he sometimes like, like do you know yourself, like where are you going in Thailand? Where are you going? So it's my decision because then I'll say like I do, like of course I would want three kids. Like his thing is like, of course I would want three kids. I just don't want to go through that. And I was like, you think I motherfucking want to go through it. I remember being in the, you know, labor and delivery room with Lenny and being like, this is motherfucking crazy. I did this a second time. I remember being like whoever did this once and goes looking for more is psychotic. Like that went through my head when I was, you know, dealing with fucking push in him out. So thinking about a third time feels crazy, but then you're like, I got to this page once that was like people in the comments were talking about six and seven. And to me that was wild. To me, that's like a crazy number, you know, like I could never think of that. So for me, it's for sure, like somebody told, or I saw a real, this is such a thing of today, right? Somebody told you, or did you see it on TikTok? So somebody posted like what I could tell you for sure about half the third is you'll, you will no longer have that question in your mind to have the third. And I'm like, anyway, I promise I won't talk about it anymore. I want to probably well. Or you know what? Fuck you. I won't talk about it. I won't let you know. Millie Bobby Brownio, a lady Gaga, you'll find out when the baby's here, oh my God, imagine, I guess you have to have a surrogate for that because you can't like be pregnant like I have a podcast. But guess what? I'm not going to tell you until my bump is so big that I can't hide it. And at first, I'm going to pretend to hide it. And I'm going to film podcasts behind desks. If that happens, if I don't decide against it, I decide against it, then I'll, then I'll let you know. We'll be right back after the break. Today's episode is sponsored by the ASPCA Pet Health Insurance Program. You guys, our pets are part of our family. They are, they were, they will be. And it's one of those things that. you know, we ensure everything. We ensure our cars, our phones, our jewelry, but it's like, hello, what about this pet? Okay, insurance goes a long way because it helps you cover eligible vet expenses. 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And we're back by the way, speaking of New York, I went to this event the other night, which is so funny, I feel like, which 2025 was my year of yes. Maybe I need to update the yeses, but Crate and Barrel was having an event with their new collection design by Venus Williams. And it was at the Smithsonian, which is so close to my house. And I love Crate and Barrel and I got some of their stuff for my apartment. And my designer, the my interior designer for my apartment, Lauren. I was like, it'll be so nice to like bring her with me and also introduce her to like create people. So it was just like a random, like it was just like an event. I was like, okay, like I'll go, like I didn't think it would be like a riot, a hoot. I thought I would be like, oh, let's go see like the new, the new collection and whatever. And it ended up being so much fun. And mainly because Uba and Chanel were there. And those cousins are the most fun bitches ever. I bring them, you guys hire them and bring them everywhere because they were jumping on beds. Just being the funniest and fun. I saw Chanel's boobs like Uba is just larger than life and just so I forget what happened on houses of New York. Like I know she said she left and the whole brand thing and it wasn't good. But she actually like has quote and quote beef with me. Okay, so Aaron Lee G is my friend and was on the show and was on my pod when one of the times and I told Aaron on the pod and I told her in real life. Like because Aaron would always talk positively about Uba but Uba wasn't talking positively about Aaron. So I had said to Aaron on the pod and in real life, Aaron, she's not your friend. Like she doesn't like you, which I sound so bitchy. I said the truth. I'm like, she doesn't like you. I didn't say hate. I was like, I don't think she's a good friend to you. Like I was trying to be protective of Aaron. So Uba had seen that, had heard it and she had already confronted me about this when we went, I saw her at the Uber back street boys. So I saw her there and she already was like, you said I don't like Aaron. And I was like, no, I'm trying to be a good friend and like, blah, blah, blah. She's like, I love Aaron. I was like, okay, and we hugged and like we made up. But of course, she brought it up again this night and she was like, she said. And I was like, Uba, we're over it, but I love that we have this thing. Like sometimes even like negative things can turn into like your thing. You know, and especially if you own it, I'm like, yeah, she saw that I said it. For so I, wait, I felt like I was on housewives, right? Because it's like, she's confronting me about something. I'm owning it because it was on camera, you know? Like I'm on the show. So I'm like, yeah, I said it. And she's like, I love Aaron. I was like, I believe you. And she's like swearing to Allah. Like it's a whole thing. I'm like, you don't have to swear, I believe you. But she's just so fun and full of energy. Like I can see now why Aaron loved her so much and didn't mind if she talked to him shit. And her and Chanel together are just such a fucking vibe. Like I'm like, give them a spin off. Like give them a spin off. Like they will deliver. They were just the most fun. And Yvonne was there who's best friends with Lindsay from in the city. Such a vibe too. Like the most outgoing, give zero fucks. Like I see how her and Lindsay are friends. And I could see how her and Lindsay like, cause fucking wreak havoc wherever they go. Because she like, I was like, oh, she'll just go up to anybody. She's like, let's go to Venus. Let's take a picture. I'm like, no, I'm okay, like I have this. I feel weird asking people for pictures. Like only if like I meet them kind of like organically and then it's like, oh, in somebody asked something from the side. Like do you guys want to take a picture together? But I would feel weird being like, let's take a picture unless we're like, and then I pull out a selfie. So yeah, sometimes I get socially awkward, which I feel like I told you guys before. But anyway, it was such a fun night and everyone was such a vibe. And I was like, Amanda, is it that you have a good picker of what events to go to or would it be fun if you went to any, which I don't think it's true? I think at the end of the day, I find myself most like intimate ones, I will say, 'cause there was an event like a month ago that is a huge event. I don't think I told you guys about this. It's a huge event that I was like so flattered, I was invited to and I like, thank fucking God, I didn't get glam. But I dressed up, I get there. I walk in, I walk to the bar and I walk out and I've never done that before. And I think the reason I did that night is because it was so overwhelming, it was so packed and I was like, I'm not gonna find myself here. And again, I think my picker was right 'cause I get back in the car, I'm freaked out by what I have done. I'm like, that's so weird of me. I'm probably missing out, I'm probably an idiot. And then everybody that went, started texting me like, where are you? And I was like, I left and I'm like, oh, we're leaving too, like this is horrible. And I was like, you know what, thank fucking. Anyway, so I do think there's some truth to me having like a kind of good picker of what to go do. But I definitely think that I need to like go to more things and make more of an effort. And especially, I know I'm tying this again, but I'm like, and if you want a third baby and you're gonna be pregnant and then you're gonna be like, postpartum and you can't drink and like, like, why don't you like try to, I think not even like going to events, like put like this industry aside, but like in life. If you're at the point in your life where like, you can go out, your kids are sleeping, your husband is watching them or you can get a babysitter and like you don't need to be home breastfeeding or you don't need to do. And you feel well, not kind of what, then why do you choose to spend all your nights at home, you know? And I feel like we all do this. We're like, we rather curl up on the couch and watch our shows. And it's like totally, but I think we need to remind ourselves that like those aren't the things we're gonna remember and have stories from. Remember that night we were laying on the couch and watching our show. Like you might, like I just watched the four seasons with my mom when she was sleeping over. And that was so nice. And that was special. Cause I love when she's over like to think of a show that she would like, you know, and I'm like the four seasons seems like something she would really like and that was really nice. It was crazy though, because that night that my mom slept over, you know, on, you know, on anyone to where I called in the house was in home. So I had her sleep over and I was so chill. I'm such a chilled wife sometimes. I was like, yeah, go, go for a night. You're totally fine, totally good. Well, my mom sleep over, it's fine. Of course, the day that he's supposed to leave just for the night, Lenny is like stuffy. And I'm like, it's fine, he's stuffy. It's gonna be fine, blah, blah, blah. I put Lenny to sleep at night at 11 while I'm watching the four seasons with my mom Lenny starts crying. Now Lenny sleeps through the night. Like knock on the fucking wood. He sleeps through the night. He's a good sleeper. I did complain to you guys on Instagram about his bedtime being late sometimes, but he is a good sleeper. Like sleeping through the night. you know, I'm pouring that is like that's that's a huge thing. So he woke up and I knew it's because he was stuffy and he couldn't breathe out of his nose and it's uncomfortable for him to, you know, to sleep that way. So I go in, I get stuck there from 11 to 12, I'm in the room, then I like try to inch my way out, you know, not crack any bones, any wakes up. I go back from 12 to one, okay, I'm there holding the hand try, you know, doesn't fall so he's uncomfortable like something's bothering him. I'm like, okay, I leave the room again. I'm like, uh, I try to bring him to my bed, which with Noah worked so well. Like that was the saluloo to like sleepless nights. It's like, fine, come to my bed done. Lenny doesn't doesn't find himself in my bed. He like starts standing up. He was like, my shadow. He saw himself in like the wall. Like it was just bad. He can't calm down. I feel like it feels like I'm natural to him. Maybe that's why like it's just he's he's not vibing with it. So he lays back down and is like playing still whatever and I'm like, okay, we're going. I'm starting to get fucking mad. I bring a pillow and a blanket. I'm like, I'm going to mother fucking sleep on his floor. That's what I'm going to do. That is my life. By the way, what an amazing wife I am that I'm not reached texting you on being like, you'll love me. I'm not because I'm great. So I go back with a pillow and a mother blanket. Okay, I'm laying on the floor at two, right? At three, I'm awoken by a crazy scream cry. And I'm like, and I see that's not Lenny. So I like run out of the room. Thank God Lenny didn't wake up from it. And I see no one living room about to throw up because he's like choking on his cry. And he didn't know where I was. And he goes, nobody told me he told me that he thought that he was like, Kevin and home alone. And he was like, and I look like him. And I was like, oh my god, like he just woke up in the middle of the night. He didn't see me. Usually he doesn't wake up. Obviously, that's why I'm like, no, no, no. How's this happening? Like as I'm in the living room with Noah. Stereically crying, me hysterically scared that Lenny's going to wake up from Noah hysterically crying. I'm like, God, are you there? It's me regret. You know, like what is happening on the one day that a husband goes away? But I will say amazing wife didn't complain. I might have updated him, but I wasn't complaining. But it just I feel like it's Murphy's Law. You know, Mama's you get me. It's always like that night. They you're like alone with the kids that everything goes fucking wrong. I have been getting a lot of questions about what my ug of the year is. And I don't know yet. Okay. I need some time. I know. I usually know by this point, I just actually got a new pair. I will tell you if those are them. But I've been looking at the new releases and nothing has been really popping out for me right now. So I do have a feeling it's going to be either the clog vibe that we saw last year that lasted for two years, if you remember, or just like a slip on slipper. Because I think they were trying to make happen like more of a chunky clog that I saw. But I don't know if that's going to happen because we're not none of us are pretending that Uggs are going to be like fashion, but you know, it needs to still look like a comfortable slipper for it to be cool. But I see I see I see you. I hear you and I understand my duty and responsibility and I will get back to you. Things I'm super excited about Verity. Super excited about Verity coming out soon. It's one of the books that got me back into reading. I love how I say back into it's like when I was five, I read. So I go back into it. But it was really yeah, like I did the house made and then all that. I did the whole like series and then Verity and Verity. I remember being like. And then with a note at the, I'm like, it is real. So I'm very excited. Josh Hartnett Dakota Johnson and our girl Annie Hathaway who is do any minute and is on the press train that has never ended since. Wow, since when since Devil Wars product since before. She's been doing a lot. She's been doing so much. It has anybody seen that movie. Oh, Mary, not oh, Mary, mother Mary, mother Mary. What was it called? Why was no one talking about it? Was it out yet? Anne Hathaway. What is it called? Mary? Is anybody talking about it guys? Mother Mary 69% on Ron Tomatoes. Not bad. Well, I don't think Ron Tomatoes is like a thing anymore. I check it and I'm like at this point, like what are we talking about? Like what are we saying? What are we doing? Another movie came out with Sienna Miller and I think she brought her daughter. No, she brought her daughter to a different event. And did you guys see her daughter? I was like, jeans are real because how, like I get it. It makes sense. You're stunning. Your husband's high. Your kids are going to be stunning. But it's just like, oh, she's a model. By the way, Kate Moss's daughter, Lyle Moss also model and super cool. I had a night where I was just like scrolling through her videos and I was like, I need to stop. I need to stop. I don't think we talked about my favorite person in the world, Lena Dunham, having a baby, via surrogate. I loved her announcement and I didn't know about it. I didn't know you guys. She did tell me, you know, I guess I'll be right. I wanted to make the joke because I think I made that joke before that's like when you comment and you want to make other people know that you knew and you're like, finally it's out there. And there are a bunch of different ways to do that. It's finally or like, I'm so excited again. I'll over again since the first time that I knew, like there are all these different ways to make the world know that you know. But I didn't do that. No, I just waited to tell you here. So I'm different and I'm bigger. But I was so excited to see her announcement because I just, I'm happy for her. I'm happy that I mean, if you read her books and that she's at a place in life where she was like ready to be a mom. And I know she wanted to be a mom. And I'm so excited for her. I'm so excited for her and Millie Bobby Brown for having a second, a second baby. I actually read what Millie Bobby Brown said about why she's using a surrogate. She said pregnancy and delivery, like really scare her. And she's and so that's one thing. And then that would cause her not to want to be pregnant. And adopting for her, I feel like is very natural because she takes care of all these animals and like adopts animals. And she's so like, so that's like, she's still doing something for someone, you know, and saving a child from a, you know, an unfortunate situation. So I feel like it's very unbranded for her to adopt. And I think that the fact that she has fears like about getting pregnant, giving birth, which are so fucking valid, okay? Like I understand it. And choosing to adopt is a beautiful thing. It's really a beautiful thing. Good for her because you should get more, more and more love for for adopting. What else you guys, you know, I just want to say that I love you all. And I love all you for listening and for sticking with me. And for knowing who I am as a person and for understanding that people make mistakes and do the wrong thing and say the wrong thing sometimes and that does not define them. And you mean more to me than any literally anything. Because, you know, even when I decided to say something about it, now one person told me I should address it and I should apologize and I just had to. I could not move on with my life and with doing what I love without owning a mistake because I do believe that it was a mistake and that I want to take accountability for that and I want to own it and I want to, I want to, I want to, I, when I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong vibes. So just know that I appreciate you and that that apology was for you. Not for the haters, not for anybody else. Apology was for the people that listen, that love me, that I love and that were disappointed in me because I was disappointed in myself. And that's it. I'll end on that and just say again, that I love you. And thank you for listening and I hope you enjoyed this bonus pod. See you on Tuesday. Thank you guys so much for listening to this episode of Not Skinny, but Not Fat. Follow me on Instagram @NOTSKINNYBONOFAT. Subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any episodes. Rate the podcast that you love so much on Apple Podcast and write a little review. 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