Le syndrome de l'imposteur, en souffrez-vous ? #114

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There's that too. - Okay. So we're going to look at another question. So, we have a person who tells us, and who witnesses it, I suffer from it, it blocks me at work, and it gives me an urge to change the field of field. Well, that's exactly what you were telling me, the violent one. - Yes. The people who I accompany, who come in burnouts, or who want to make a professional conversion, can have felt that. And what is very important, is that I also accompany entrepreneurs in their first years. And on the other hand, that too, if it's not overcome, it blocks terribly too. So, I mean, as a salary, it's very complicated to live. And so, we can be an easy prey. But when we are self-employed, independent, well, you absolutely have to be able to overcome this syndrome. Otherwise, it's nothing to start with. I know someone I accompanied who did his first steps as an entrepreneur. And the moment she had her first clients, she said to them, "But are you sure you want to work with me? Because if you want, I was driven by another person. She might have been better." Well, that came from the heart, you know. She wasn't there yet. Well, that's her posture. She wasn't there yet. And she is still working on this little thing. And when she realized it, well, there you go. She went back to work and we really worked on it. Because that's still important. I mean, if we know someone, we need to have confidence that the work will be done well. Because otherwise, we will be discouraged. I understand that. We have a very important case. Eric tells us, "Hello, can this syndrome be a way for the spirit to show us that we have to change the environment, to be more in agreement with its own values?" Absolutely. I think that in each knot that we come to untie, in fact, there is a gift behind it. What I call the gifts to wrap up is that if we take into account, wow, life after, it can be really, really better. So yes, if from the moment we take into account, if we overcome it, yes, of course. Of course. Okay. So there is Whedeve who asks us precisely, "What is the syndrome of the impostor of a lack of self-confidence?" So in fact, when we don't have self-confidence, it looks like it, but I'm going to try to be clear. When we don't have self-confidence, we think that we don't have the resources, we don't have the capacity to face an obstacle or to succeed in something that holds us in mind. By the way, it's really that we don't have what we need to go. The one who has the syndrome of the impostor, at the limit, he may be less asked the question, he will have the resources, he will mobilize the resources, he will go. However, when we congratulate him, when we tell him that it's good, he will always think that it's normal and that it's not good. He will always think that he once again had the chance, that it went well for him. It's because maybe he worked three times more than the others and the others who did not see. In fact, it holds two people who helped him. The syndrome of the impostor is really linked to the concept of success. Whereas the concept of self-confidence is more linked to his ability to mobilize the resources that we have in us to do something. So it's pretty close, in the end. It's what I'm saying, it's... It's like a difference. I think it's a problem, but then... It's not the derivative cause, in fact, it's in the language. The cause is exterior. Okay, so Violette, we're going to ask you two more questions. There are a lot of questions, we won't have all the time to do them. Lili tells me that it completely blocks me in my professional choices. I try to create my activity, but I self-block. I can't put my multi-potential in advance. Yes, so here we're talking about multi-potentialism. So I'm also talking about people that I meet, because when I talk about people who are a bit atypical. Yes, the multi-potentials feel... They, for the moment, have a lack of confidence in themselves, and sometimes we also have the syndrome of the impostor. As in our society, we often look for people who are experts in their field, in their professional level. So we're going to wait for lines to be drawn, people who have the vocation to do it. But when we're multi-potential, we love a lot of things. We're curious about a lot of things. So we're going to quickly look at a lot of things that interest us. And a little bit of psychology, a little bit of astronomy, a little bit of we love green plants and the universe of permaculture. But at the same time, we love, I don't know what, something hyper-technical like computer or something else. And in fact, for us, when we are multi-potentialists, we don't see things by category. In fact, we are naturally curious. And the thread of thought leads us to explore a field, then another, and then another. And suddenly, we don't feel legit in the world of work. - Okay. - Because in fact, we have the impression that we have a CV. Finally, if we really said that we are passionate, all that we could do, and all the jobs we could do, obviously, we can't go from medicine to, well, there are some studies that are sufficiently dissuasive so that, you know, but whatever, I know that they are able, they are quite surprising, to change completely life or to have a panel of things that interest them, that are extremely diversified and that make it much more difficult for those people there to find their place in the world of work. And so it can create a syndrome of the investor quite strong. So in fact, the competition is there, but we have an image of ourselves that is not the one that is really expected in terms of experts, deep expertise. - Well, yes, the potential are completely people. Well, I put it in a little bit in the atypics, like the hypersensibles, like us, who have a syndrome of the investor, often quite strong. Unfortunately. - Yeah. - So Violene, before doing a last question, there is a little sentence from Lily for you. I would like to say to my Nicky Guy, because I'm not sure why I'm doing it. So I imagine that you... - She's welcome, Lily. - She's welcome. She's welcome, you can... - Obviously, she is a violinist, she specialized in it, so it would be a great pleasure. - So we're going to do a last question. Well, actually, we have a person who tells us, "I have the impression that we give up when we congratulate me. How can we do this for Maris?" - Well, we don't give up on you when we congratulate you. There really is... I think you have to listen to that, except if you really have to do an inveterate drage, but if it comes back all the time, it's because of different people, it's because you deserve it, and it's important to live your success. It's really important to feel it. So, why is it so complicated for you to feel it internally? Don't you put the bar too high? I mean, it's true that these people, it's pretty convenient, so it's better. So yes, maybe it's worth you to ask a little more. Just to have a little bit more satisfaction, to see happiness in your life, to welcome Mary who has succeeded in receiving flowers, to receive compliments, it's important to do well. - Well, I thank you Yolène, I thank you all! - I thank you Yolène for all these tips you gave me. Well, I imagine you could still give us a lot. So don't hesitate to go see Yolène if you still have any questions. There were at least five, so don't hesitate to go to Yolène, she will answer you. Your Instagram, if I'm not mistaken, it's maviikigay. - Yes, I think that... Oh, I'm not on the social network, I think that's it. Yes, I think that's it. - The logic of my research is very... - Yes, my site is called CAP on Ikigay, and I think that my Instagram is called maviikigay. That's it. Thank you so Yolène for this live, for answering all the questions, for offering solutions and giving advice. It's very complete. I don't know if you have anything else to add on this Imposter syndrome, a little message to share with your office, yourself, don't hesitate. - Well, what I can say is that I work. So I'm on the Basin d'Arcachion, but I work remotely. Most of my companions can be eligible to the CPF, which I generally accompany over several months to really see the progress. So I don't let my science go and then that's it. Because time really allows you to really better understand how it works. And that's it. And maybe I can specify that I always propose research discovered, a little diagnostic, which are obviously free, which is to say, a good hour so that we can get to know each other, exchange, without any engagement from one side or the other. But it's important that the feeling goes well, to come and work especially on emotions that are a little, that reveal to us a little, so we are able to feel our confidence. - Your confidence, yes. Thank you, thank you very much Violette, thank you. Thank you again FranceLive, and I tell you, a nice day to you then. - Thank you and thank you to everyone. - We hope that you liked today's podcast. Remember that all these topics are available on our website, psychologues.net, and that you can also watch the full video on Instagram TV, on @psychologues.net. See you in our next podcast.