Jumpscares of Girlhood: The Scary Truth About Being a Woman

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a fancy event the next thing you know chicken breast on the floor right you're like that's not mine i don't know where that came from period farts why are they so warm they're so smelly what do you mean what does that mean warm yes i actually embraced my pit stains this year i just am healthy and sweat 30 and flirty and sweaty we can man spread in these you know what i'm exercising my right in the bill of rights i pledge allegiance to the flag of the united states of america and to the republic for which it stands one nation under god indivisible with liberty and justice for all we remembered it meeting adjourned meeting i've never seen what was that christmas movie where they she starts reciting the pledge when they're like doing the pledge and she's like oh my god i'm so the christmas prayer christmas vacation yeah yeah yeah their great grandma just started saying the pledge of allegiance i love it i'm like well we know we know it we do know i was worried that i wouldn't i don't think i've said it since maybe high school i haven't either isn't it weird how things just like stick in our brains like we can remember that yeah it's kind of crazy that i was just talking about that the things my brain decides to hang on to and the things that it decides to get rid of i'm like well we needed that yeah that i mean debatable shaped our youth shaped our do they still do that yeah i think so i don't know audio only listeners are confused right now hey oh yeah let's hey everybody welcome back to always yeah you're not on the wrong podcast you're right you're right you're never gonna believe it you're never gonna believe it's abby howard and abby howard and addie biswell sorry we scared you do you ever wish your last name was howard too i really like this well okay yeah it's a good one it's a good one you also could call me benjamin franklin i would respond we are the presidents if you are listening on audio hop over to youtube for this video just to see see the costumes so you kind of understand yes the silliness if you're curious about the lore maybe why we're dressed up as founding fathers maybe why we're referencing benjamin franklin as a president it's because we did learn well i did learn on this podcast that he was in fact not a president and yeah it's maybe like a humbling thing to learn publicly on the internet through comments also that they're not in fact 52 presidents but 47 okay that was pretty close thank you and you know maybe you were considering people that did two terms right maybe there were 52 presidencies no i really i really thought it was 52 okay 52 different people that's how many uh weeks in the year is that that's probably what it was i have a stupid one is that how many states there are there are only 50 states there's only 50 of those oh my okay i can't we honestly didn't getting this together honestly really opened up a lot of holes in my knowledge all for all of us knowledge of history knowledge of our country and like we wanted to say the pledge of allegiance and you let us know that that's not i mean i think it's still appropriate in a way because it's our history right um maybe the preamble is a little bit more how do we how does that the bill of rights i don't know something like that but um here we are and this week is really it's i was just really concerned that we were gonna buy i didn't know if you're gonna say this i wasn't gonna call you out i just want to say this right now call it out call it out i was really concerned that we were gonna buy we were just looking at you know founding father costumes high quality ones high really high quality look at abigail's knee yeah you pull them up over to your kneecaps they're not gonna go um sexy benjamin franklin little skin no abby was really worried she said in the group chat she's like we really just need to be careful that we do not buy the confederate uniforms because that would be really bad and i was like i'm not worried about it first of all i don't think they sell those anymore you really had a wrong war wrong war i said oh i forgot about the revolution you but it came back to you and that's all that matters it did it did jingle i'm like we got rid of those monuments so i don't think that amazon's still providing the cost to no i feel like you can still find something to go abby's confident pull your wig i know you know what off girl it is giving me a do you have a claw clip in there my curls are falling out you guys look hilarious you guys i will say we had a friend come over shout out to sarah for doing our makeup and um my son was very concerned he like enter he like came in the room to tell me he was like mom i don't want you to do it different and i was like what different he's like i don't want you to do it don't look like don't do that because he saw addy and abby go first and he was like so worried i was like don't let him see me you look like a man you was right yeah you know it's halloween this is our halloween episode we got a spooky spider that is actually really cute yeah you know now i'm looking at it in frame it's hung a little high but that's okay i took it off your porch on the way in so i'll put it back on my way out yeah that's gonna fall down let's give a shot out to hannah who also works on this podcast you took it off you didn't want to sit in that for the two hour long episode which we're gonna sit and talk hannah dressed up in surprises as an american eagle a bald eagle a bald eagle american eagles american eagles i was like take something of american eagle sounds and i was like why are the jeans company coming up a bald eagle i swear we're intelligent yeah but this is just a silly goofy day but normally we are here to share the hope and the hard with heart and humor and we're still gonna do just that today i just started spilling you start crying crying in this makeup i gotta be careful yes please my hard no i'm gonna start with my hope we're gonna ease in let's ease in i was actually just really excited about this costume yeah this is my hope i was looking forward to this since like two weeks ago and here we are it's here it happened i didn't know if it was gonna happen here we are it happened yeah i feel like we're really good at pulling things together last minute that's addy i was gonna say it's really really good at pulling things together it's really good of us it was sunday and i was like i think we need to order costumes yeah we're really good at it it's addy she's our doer she's our doer yeah and um i don't know it's just been really fun this yeah it's been fun i saw you twice today i feel like that's hopeful that's that's a good we haven't had like a day just to hang and catch up i know i really need to do it i know let's do it let's do it yeah so that's my hope i'm excited for Halloween my hope is that was this my hope last time i talked about running no i talked about fish or sleeping yeah i have been running four times a week four days a week yeah sign up for the half marathon with me oh my gosh no come on abby that's 10 more miles or like 11 more miles i'm gonna sign up today let's do it abby you i will hold you back so bad no we don't have to stay together oh i can't do that on my own she's like let's do it and then i'm gonna leave you the dust and i'll just be there you no i really i really feel like i am stick to my two miles no i'll do it with you and i'll go at your pace abby i don't think i could move that that's just mentally not true it's mentally that is mentally the state how many months postpartum will you be um it really hurts my head um how many months postpartum will you be in december three christmas oh it's four that's not that much actually four by christmas i mean let me at least do a 5k for you first yeah okay and then i don't know what do you jump from after 5k 10k six miles it just goes to double that's just crazy do your turkey trot in november do your high rocks in february and then do a half marathon some other time see that was never on my radar i was just feeling good about jogging sorry i'm making a competition sorry you're just enjoying the hobby i was like i just felt really proud of myself for not stopping yeah just enjoy it for a while my like literally my pace is for two miles is still not enough for me i'm just enjoying it for a while i'm just enjoying it i feel like nine and a half that was mine for two miles though yeah and it feels like by the end of that i'm like yeah good thing we're stopped good thing we're home it's just about getting out there and doing it doesn't matter how fast okay you know i'm really proud of you for running because you always said you couldn't do it yeah i am proud of myself because here's the only reason why i did it is because i have no other there's no other time to work out yeah actually that's my heart i need to manage i need to get some stuff off my plate i'm mega stressed and and I just feel like it, I hate when I overcommit myself, which is my tendency. I'm like, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And then I hate when I'm like overcommitted and then I don't. And then like I fall short for the people that I like committed myself to. And I feel like I've just been doing that in so many areas. Like I'm not being the friend I want to be to people or like the wife I want to be, the mom I want to be, the worker I want to be. Like I feel like I'm just – and it's because I literally was like, Abby, you just need to manage your time better. And then I was like, I actually just need to do a little bit less. Like we need to pare down. And so that's where it's hard to figure out where I can create that margin, but like it has to be done. And so that's my hard – I feel really stressed. And it's making me like short – like I'm short-tempered and just like not as fun. And like I feel like I can't live in the moment as much. And here's the thing. I'm always shocked because I just do the same things and I expect something different to happen. And then I'm like, wait a minute. You just keep doing the saying yes and then it's piling up. And then you're like, how did I get here? And you're like, well, it's only you. So it's only me that's doing it to myself. But that means that only I can fix the problem. So that's what we're going to try to do. I'm going to try to sit down this weekend and just rehash my life. Well, you're at that hard part of postpartum too where you're what? You're 10 weeks? 10 weeks. Okay. At 10 weeks, it's so hard because you're far enough away from birth where you're like, I should – I'm getting back into it. I'm getting out of the house. I'm doing things. I'm back to the schedule. I'm adding things. But you're not mentally or hormonally feeling – you're just not there. Like you're still so fresh in postpartum. And so the overwhelm is so high. It is so hard to manage everything. You're not sleeping. You just started sleeping this week. I'm sorry. It's just so funny that we're having this conversation. Yeah, I just started sleeping this week. I started sleeping this week. It's been seven days. It's crazy. You're just sleeping. You're still nursing. That is such a time suck. It's so hard. It is hard. You've got to give yourself grace. I think I felt like I was underwater the first six months just because I'm like, I literally can't keep up with everything. Yeah. I just – it starts – I start to feel like – I start to feel like – I start to feel frustrated with myself like for not getting it done and then also for not – for getting myself to that point. So then I'm like, what are you doing, Abby? But we'll just pare back and then I just feel like I've been apologizing a lot. I like – I want to live where my feet are and not my head thinking, okay, what do I have to do to get this to happen, this, and then this will have to do this. I'm like everything is just like calculating in my brain. For sure. But – That's the growing pains of the adjustment. You're just – you're family. Yeah. It's like you literally just can't do as much. Which is right now, but you will again eventually. I didn't – I never felt like I was going to be able to after Vivian. I was like, I'm just – I'm constantly going to be running and standing in one place. You know? Like it just felt like I was spinning my wheels but nothing was getting done. But it'll – you'll come back. That's good. Yeah. There's hope. Don't worry. You're still so fresh. You're still figuring it out. I always think that I'm like, oh, you must be farther along because I feel like you're doing so well. But then I'm like, wait, you're still in 10 weeks. I'm always like surprised. I'm like, she's still so fresh. We are fresh. Yeah. You're very fresh. Little baby. Little baby. My heart is actually kind of similar. Actually, just this week specifically, I've felt like that exact feeling of just overcommitting. I constantly have this feeling that I'm not getting anything done and just that – I don't know. Maybe it's like moving into the new season. Things are busy right now. There's just a lot going on and they're all fun things and good things and exciting things. But I feel like I've also been – I need to go back and like – I need to look at my schedule and prioritize myself correctly. Because I feel like everything's kind of getting missed in the different places. So I've been feeling that. Like that a lot this week as well. And maybe it's just coming off of a couple trips, you know, and then you're kind of like, you know, trying to get back into things. I don't know. But I've been feeling like my wheels are turning. We could just be stressed together. Yeah. We'll just be stressed together. How are you feeling? You're getting close to the end. Yep. I feel fine right now. I feel like I'm managing the craziness. Like there is a lot going on in a lot of areas. So I feel like work-wise, I'm like, whew, we're going to get it all done before I have a baby. And then I'm going to have a baby and we'll just chill. For a little bit. Yes. Christmas time. Christmas time. No, I feel like I haven't had time to think about a lot because I'm like, house and then baby. And so right now is like the waiting period of those things happening. And I'm like, yeah, I have four, three weeks until we close on our house. And I'm like, have you started packing? Oh my gosh. That's two of the biggest life transitions at one time. Moving and moving and baby. And Thanksgiving in between. Just throw Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving in there too is great. No, I need to start packing. I was waiting till my mom came in town so that I could ship Brielle off for a couple of times over the weekend. So then I can like really get some stuff done. But I'm like, what can you do? Yeah. But like before it's like, what do you not need? That's tough. So I'm going to pack up all the baby stuff. I say just you're not doing a big move. Just throw it in whatever box and just get it to the house and then hash it out from there. I'm like thinking about like our storage closet. I'm like, because it won't save you much time. Even there, if it's put all organized because you're still going to have to put it in. You're going to have to create new systems anyway. Yeah, exactly. We'll help you out. Yeah, we will. No, it's going to be good. There's a lot coming up. You know what? I feel like a Victoria's Secret angel right now. I was thinking we looked exactly the same. Just like them. They probably are looking at this and being like, oh my gosh, those girls are so sexy and glowy. And glowy. And stunning and beautiful. Look at those mothers. Yes. Thank you to AG1 for sponsoring this portion of Today. Today's episode. The fall is when you really start to feel the changes of the season. The light is changing. Your sleep is changing. Food is different. Treats. I want to bake. 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Go to drink AG1. com slash Abbey and for a limited time, get a free immune support bundle, including a bottle of omega-3 fish oil and a bottle of vitamin D3 K2 with your first subscription order of AG1 Next Gen or AG1 Pro. That's drink AG1.com slash Abbey. Now we're going to transition into the wow, that's crazy. Hit it. Wow, that's crazy. No, I'm just kidding. Wow, what if we had a soundboard? Like instead of that being put in post. Like Abby just pushed the button. That would be really fun. So like an old fashioned radio. Just get a cowbell. Yeah, I love it. OK, I need to be filled in because I did see some things about the Victoria's Secret fashion show, but I don't really get it. Well, what what did you see? Positive or negative? It's not positive. Yeah, same. I saw Barbara did it six weeks postpartum. How amazing is that? Yeah, incredible. I thought it was really cool. But I thought I'm like, yeah, like good for you, girl. That's it. I mean, what a moment. Role model for some girls like just like getting out there. You're not going to let being a mom or pregnancy or postpartum hold you back from, I don't know, doing something really cool. Yeah, I think we've had a lot of that recently, like with Dancing with the Stars, with Whitney being pregnant and doing. We're not hiding anymore. Doing it. Barbara's six weeks postpartum. And I really loved what she said. She was like a lot. Most working women in America only get six weeks of maternity leave. So here I am back to work. You know, it's different. You're a model. It's a little crazy. But I always pray that that would be true. That would be my luck. Yeah. I'm like, maybe God, after six weeks, I could, you know, maybe I look like that. But it's all right. That's the thing about it, though. It wasn't my luck at the job. You can look. I mean, I'm literally freshly postpartum, too. And I can still look at her and be like, yeah, I look nothing like her. But good for her. Her, like that type of, like her being so hot and beautiful doesn't make me less hot or beautiful. No, it's encouraging. It's just more so like, oh, wow, look at that. I know. Good for her. Good for her. Yeah. It's like anyone's success does not mean your fail. It's hurting you and making you fail. I'm like, you know what? I'm not walking a runway. No, that's why she's on that runway is because she's not like everyone else. Exactly. Yeah, yeah. Exactly. She's her own breed. She is gorgeous. And she should be there. Wasn't there something about a $50 million? Was it $50 million? Yeah, Kylie Jenner wore the fantasy bra. Did you used to watch? Did you ever grow up watching the Victoria's Secret fashion show or remember that phenomenon as a kid? Okay. I never really remember hearing about it until college. That's what I'm saying. Why is this like the first time? I'm really hearing about it. Like, I know people that had gone to it before. Yeah. And I didn't remember even then. I was like, that's cool. It was huge. I remember, okay, my freshman year of college was 2014, 2015. That was actually the first time I remember hearing about it and watching it. And it kind of felt like the Super Bowl for women. I remember all of us girls had snacks and we sat around and we all watched the Victoria's Secret fashion show. Wait, is the audience women or men? It's both. I think it's mostly for women. Mostly women. I think the fashion show, I feel like it's for women. I don't know if I would have fun watching it, though, personally. They used to have a lot of, they still did like Tate McRae performed. They're performers and stuff. Like, I remember when your Ariana Grande performed. That's fun. Taylor Swift. Okay, I get it now. It was like a concert, but it's just all women. You know, it's exciting and girly and cute and feminine and they have the pink part of the fashion show that's like over the top and cutesy, you know? And so I felt like it was, it was really just for the girls. So this bra, it was the first time in eight years that they've done the fantasy bra on the runway. in one way. And Kylie Jenner was the one who. Who's also a mom. Who is also a mom, yeah. To littles. How old are they? I think they're younger, so maybe like four or five. Okay. But I know, there were like 16 moms that walked in the show. That's amazing. And I feel like Victoria's Secret has done a really. So they did the show for a long time, and then they canceled it for a couple years. Because the tone around it kind of became like, oh, this isn't realistic. Like, women don't look like this. It kind of just became about unattainable beauty standards. There wasn't a lot of diversity on the runway either. And so I feel like they've done a lot within the past couple years. They brought it back, what, two years ago, three years ago? Mm-hmm. And they've done a lot to try to change the culture around the show. And so instead of it being this aspirational, like, you'll never look like this type of vibe, to being like, hey, there's moms out here who just had kids. And women of all colors and shapes and sizes, but still honoring how beautiful and cool and fun this show is. I just thought it was really encouraging and had a bit of nostalgia too. That's cool. Did you watch it? I did not watch it. Okay. I did watch a lot of clips of it, though. Okay. Yeah. I don't actually know where you watched it. That's probably how most people were watching it. Yeah, I didn't. I didn't go in and watch the whole thing. I was looking at my belly. Yeah, your costume's the most accurate. It actually looks the most legit, yeah. You have a little beer belly going on. Going on. I feel like the sentiment around it has only been really positive. Good. Yeah. I think so, too. And I've seen a lot of the clips of Barbara's husband, Dylan, talking about her. And I thought that was just. It's just really sweet, too. Like, it's just. I don't know. It must be weird for him as a husband with his wife. But he's also probably used to it. Her being a model. Like, people. But then I'm like, they are pretty in revealing clothing in front of lots of people. Yeah. And just for the sole purpose of being adored for their beauty. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, I feel like that does have to be a little bit weird for the spouses. But it seems like anyone that married someone that's going to be doing that, they know what they're getting into. For sure. And we love that. Yeah, totally. They're very supportive and sweet. I feel like sometimes the internet can go one of two ways. It's either like, wow, girl power. Like, this is amazing. Go women. Women are awesome. Or it could be like, this is so unrealistic, unattainable. Yeah. They're setting unrealistic beauty standards for girls. Yeah. What do you think determines how that doesn't happen? I don't know. That's what I'm curious. Like, how do people decide which way they're going to lean or, like, fall? Whoever gets to it first. Whoever's the loudest and gets there first, probably. Maybe. Maybe. There are a lot of people. A lot of people are upset that there are influencers in the show and, like, some famous people. Like, people are annoyed that it was Kylie Jenner who wore the fantasy bra. Who else would wear that? I know. Just, like, people who have, like, earned it, necessarily. Like, models who are, like, very well-known models and, like, that have, like, been there I mean, that's a tale as old as time, though. I feel like that's going to be, like, that's probably the same sentiment that they're hearing about Broadway with influencers being on Broadway and, like, with influencers getting any role in TV or film, like, they're, like, they didn't earn it. And I understand. I understand that argument. Yeah, it's, like, free marketing for them, you know? Yeah, I understand the argument of the people that, like, the models or the actors and actresses that, like, don't have a platform and are, like, okay, well, what are we supposed to do? But then I also understand the other side of it where it's, like, that's kind of the name of the game nowadays, like, like you said, for them to get marketing, they're incentivized to have someone that can market themselves and their projects. Right. That's a tough, I mean, it's, like, one of those things where it's, like, I don't think there's any undoing that. Yeah. But I can understand the frustration behind it. Yeah, for sure. And, like, authors, people don't like it if influencers write books and they do really well off the jump, you know, all those things. Oh, that's funny. I feel like everyone writes books these days. Yeah, I think more so in the realm of fiction. Oh, I understand. Right, because it's, like, if it's a memoir and it's, like, your story, it's, like, no one's going to argue, like, oh, you sold a lot of books, like, but if it's, like, fiction, then it's, like, fiction writers that have kind of just, like, lived this private life and then they didn't feel like they got, like, the fast pass to, like, the New York Times bestsellers list. Oh, I could see that. That's interesting. Mm-hmm. There was, um, they did this thing, too, for the fashion show where they went to malls and did, like, a casting call at a mall. That's classic. Isn't that fun? They used to do that, remember, in the 2000s. I think they had a show trying to cast people for the OG runway show. That's fun. So, I feel like this new director came in and did a lot of fun things that kind of brought you back to the 2000s and 2010s version of the show, but while also, like, making it new and fun. They have to have a lot of safety regulations, I would assume, because if you're, like, wearing bras and underwear. Like, how do you make sure that everyone, like, a casting call is, like, appropriate and safe? I think they probably wear jeans and a tank top. Yeah, I don't think they're wearing, like, stuff like that in a casting. Not for the casting. No, yeah. But, like, once you get to that point, though, at some point, you know. Yeah. I remember that was, like, a huge conversation. I remember back in the day was, a lot of models came out and were, like, there were a lot of things that happened that were not safe. Yeah. That we weren't taking care of. So, yeah, I wonder how they've changed that. I want to know what they're doing with their bikini line as well. Yeah, they're waxing that, for sure. They're definitely probably lasered. They're lasered and waxed, for sure. Probably both. They're lasered, and then before the show, they also get waxed just to make sure. I want to know what they're doing so there's no crazy wedgies. They probably, they probably are, like, excited about the wedgie. Like, look at that booty. Don't you think? They probably use fashion tape or, like, hairspray. Yeah. They got to have some serious hacks. Yeah. I need them to come out and tell me. I'm sure someone has. That's what I look for in their memoirs. I'm just thinking about chafing, walking down that runway with your thighs touching it. I don't think that's gross, but I don't think that's gross. No, that's, there's a reason. There's a reason I'm not touching it. Yeah, that's fun. It was fun to watch the clips. Maybe I'll go back and watch the whole performance of it, but. Yeah, you had another one with Dancing with the Stars. What's going on with Dancing with the Stars? There's lots of stuff going on in Dancing with the Stars' world right now. We're going to be a little bit late because the episode, just because, like, when we record these, it's already happened a little bit. Okay, I genuinely have no clue. Okay, you know Val. You know who Val is in the show. So, and you know he's married to Jenna. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She's also a pro on the show. Okay. Carrie Ann, one of the judges, she's really strict about lifts, like what is classified as a lift. Hmm. And so she called out Jenna for a lift in her dance and, like, pulled up the rules and, like, read her what a lift is. Oh. Oh, shoot. Yeah. So that was a little, woof. Okay. They still got good scores, but it was a little, like, that was kind of a little rude, a little stern. And didn't have to do it necessarily like that. Kind of sassy. Well, it's more like, it's probably just embarrassing for the pro to get called out. Like, it's really, we're evaluating the star. Yeah. Interesting. Yeah. Every week, every time, Carrie Ann is one that's like, you did a lift in a dance that a lift is not permitted in. And so then she, every time she calls it out. Okay. And so it was kind of like, but Jenna was like really caught off guard because it was like an accidental lift or something. Like, her foot accidentally came off the ground for something it wasn't supposed to. Oh, it's like a style of dance that you're not allowed to do a lift in. Yeah. Oh, that's interesting. So all of the ones that are in halls. That hold are not allowed to have lifts in. Oh. So that happens. And then you, they go up to like the judge's booth or they go up to get their scores. Val is behind Jenna. So you can see him in the thing and he's just like, not happy. Later on that evening, um, or like the next day he put, you know, there's like statuses on like TikTok or Instagram. Like they're on your name and it's like a little bubble above it. Um, and he put. Something about going through the process. So you're saying Fresh Prince on her name? On her. Yeah. I'm just kidding. Hey, call me. Yes. So that's the thing. So he said, you almost saw Fresh Prince enter the ballroom last night. Okay. Is what he had said on his little thing. And then Carrie Ann posted later, like, this is what we're doing now. Like on social media as a reaction to that. What does she mean this is what we're doing now? Like threatening. Because she's taking it. Oh, he was going to hit her rather than do we all know what he said? What he said? Keep my wife's name out your mouth. Yeah. Oh, he was probably referencing that. Probably not threatening to slap Carrie Ann. Right. Um, and so then he got suspended for the week and wasn't able to dance. Oh, with his partner. Um, was that a threat? Is that the debate? Like she felt threatened. I guess if she felt threatened, I'm like, okay, but I feel like that's kind of a lead. I think it's not, it's not professional. Yeah. I don't think you should go online after and talk about your judges badly. Yeah. I don't know how she took it. That's just what she posed. What she wrote was, so this is what we're doing now. Hmm. Um, because her job is to judge and her job is to give critiques and some of the pros are getting a little, a little soft. So it was the online sentiment that he was in the wrong. I think it's a little bit of both. Okay. A little bit. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's a little bit in the middle area, but I feel like most people can settle on. He probably wasn't referencing that he was going to slap her. Like he wasn't actually threatening her. No. Whether or not she felt threatened or not. He was definitely saying, keep my wife's name out your mouth, but it's also her job to judge. Yeah. And give critiques. It's true. So he wasn't able to participate last night in, uh, the event. No. He wasn't able to participate last night. Yeah. He wasn't able to participate last night in, um, the dedication night. How did Jenna Dewan do? 'Cause that's his partner, isn't it? She did good. No one goes home on, um, dedication night. Oh. But it is great. Jenna Dewan, um, she did great and it was also funny 'cause she gave, Carrie Anne gave out a 10 to Jenna. Oh. She, everyone else gave nines. So she gave out a 10 when Val wasn't dancing with her. That's funny. It was funny. It was funny. It was funny. It was Alan. Alan was dancing with her. She's like, "Suddenly I like it more." Yeah. Jenna Dewan is so beautiful. She was one of the prettiest women I've ever seen. The other really big thing that happened last night with dedication night, again, there were a lot of people talking about it. Yeah. There were a lot of people talking about it. There was a lot of people talking about it. I know. Yeah. have been a whole episode before this comes out after this but you guys know tyler cameron from he announced that he's pregnant his fiance is pregnant in their dance oh that's really cute during dedication night they bring out someone to dance with and so he was dedicating it to all moms everywhere because he lost his mom to a brain aneurysm i believe um and so he was dedicating it to all moms and then his fiance came out at the end and he's like talking now like the song was over and he was just like a voice it was a voice that he had recorded and he said uh he was like talking to his mom and he's like you i got chills he's like he's like she's gonna be a great mom too and we're having a baby and they did their gender reveal right after and they're having a girl oh my gosh that's so emotional and crazy but that was a really big dance with the stars moment wow that's beautiful i'm gonna have to go back and watch that yeah you should go back and watch i want to don't make you cry i love the dancing with the stars i feel like i never cared or watched it ever until they started posting all these dances on tiktok and i like care that's crazy that you just said that i know but i just never cared or dare i never watched it that's what i think is funny about the um the val thing is that they never addressed it during the show they just said val's not with us tonight they didn't mention any of it like what actually happened so like the grandmas and grandpas who are online and they watch dancing with the stars for fun they're like where's that why is he not they're not they don't know the like lore that's happening behind the scenes totally well that was professional of them i guess it does kind of like it would look really bad if an athlete goes online after and talks about how bad the referees were that game like that kind of looks bad you know it undermines the whole organization it totally does so i can see why they like slapped you know gave him a harder slap on the wrist for that it's like hey we're just gonna set a precedent here that you can't come online and talk badly about your judges it's treason everything is subjective anyway with dance and art and so like you can't be nasty about it well actually it's not totally subjective because there is a rule book she and she was referring to it and i guess the girl did break them so i don't like any lift i don't like being lifted that was my worst thing about dance whenever and i was always the one being lifted with matt yeah i just with matt is different also you're in high school and you're like your high school guys are like touching you and you're i was just like i don't know you like that i don't really like that and then i just never know what's gonna happen and then i got sent into a light fixture one time what yeah and we were we had a basement studio that's like our dance studio was in the basement so the low ceilings and then they just one of the guys was six five just full extended and i was like into the light fixture i was like i hate this so much i literally hated being lifted also every time a guy would lift me they were like you're heavier than you look and i'm like oh freaking my god that's ridiculous i'm telling you high school boys are just really you're like this was my cross this is my cross to bear that i'm five two just dance and then also my other cross to bear is i had to bring my car seat to school sometimes because i was shut up what are you talking about what grade just ask my mom uh i for sure remember doing it in first grade i was in mrs cook's class and we were going to make sense i'm thinking like we're like middle school no but trust me there's not a lot of first graders are bringing their car seats to school to school like it was that important i was that small that it was like there can never be a moment when she's in the car without her dead because it's like this car seat this image everyone's book bags hanging up and then mine has a car 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jump scares and things about girlhood that no one knows about it's really just a wild ride that you just can't quite be prepared for right off the jump i didn't put this on my list but here's something i just came to my head before i jump into this is just as an example my right armpit smells worse on my left anybody else have that it just feels like a condition but if i go back to my clothes i can smell i'm like oh this shirt didn't smell but i always have to smell the right armpit on the shirt to know if it actually smells or not you're that needs vo yeah no that gets vo oh really okay well at least it's not both of them that yeah it's to the bright side but hey that's a jump that's a jump scare example i never knew that about you i just learned new things every day abigail you know i learned that last week about myself and then i went through my closet and i was sniffing i'm like wow it's consistent so i love that you went to fact check that it's halloween it's why did you have stinky clothes in your closet listen i went through i've gone through many phases where have these the deodorant has failed me and my yeah i just some of my clothes i have to get rid of because they just permanently smell really smell yeah that's a dry fit fabric that stuff doesn't kick all of it okay well you guys had some good submissions starting with anika i think it's annika annika oh i wonder if i know this is my friend annika maybe sorry keep going she said the overnight switch from i'm not ready for kids to i need to start my family yesterday oh yeah i had that you're like i don't care then you missed and i was like i mean i want my i don't i don't want my period yeah yeah see this switch happened for me when i turned 13. oh my gosh i actually didn't have my period yet you weren't even allowed to be part of another moment for abby i was a late bloomer i'm not kidding i literally i remember i told my dad i was like i'm probably never gonna have kids when i was like 12 and then i was like i think i want 17 of them all of them no but that is a crazy it's just and it's just the mammal in us for sure we need to we need to procreate i agree this gal said buying a house and then realize i have to be the one to decorate it oh that one is spooky you're good at it though but a lot of trial and error it's spooky i don't want to do it and you look around you're like i also am the one that has to clean it okay even more spooky um this one says how expensive cheese is now how is that no one told us the girls love a cheese board but they don't want to tell you how much it costs yeah charcuterie board put one of those together a hundred dollars hundred bucks for me for a small one cheese it's sinful actually you know what can we ban charcuterie boards yeah i'm over it i'm sick of them i don't want the little snacks i want a meal yeah yeah yeah thank you thank you i've been saying i know i know it's just they're cute they're pretty but they made me they made me they make me tummy hurt i don't like that i don't like that the meat and cheese gets sweaty yeah it starts to sweat when it's sat out there for a while it's just let's move on let's find a new grazing trend okay yeah this gal said how to handle car accidents how to handle car accidents who to call what to do all the things yeah actually that's really let's can we go over that really quick i don't know the answer which is from your dad to your like boyfriend i would call matt for sure but i feel like you're supposed to call the cops yeah i was gonna say i think it's a good idea i think it's a good idea i think it's a good idea should call the police i think you should not because it has to get reported right for insurance yeah it does yeah but i probably would call blake and be like i got in a car accident but i do need to call the cops just so you know this is where i'm at if you want to come help i'm gonna hang up yeah and then i called oh that's true yeah also you know you're never supposed to stand in between the cars you know like don't get out of your car and like look at the damage in between because you can just get hit from behind it's just like there's never known that in my life actually it probably depends on where you pulled over that's true listen my parents are like extreme safety precaution worst case scenario people so i have every worst case scenario of where to and to not stand like i'm mapped out and i realized over the weekend maybe this could have been my heart i i'm imposing that on my three-year-old and i have to stop i actually believe he keeps playing and he's like and then the turtle fell and it died and i'm like why does he keep saying that like all of his toys and his games are dying do you tell him like don't do that because you could die yeah i do oh oh i didn't realize it no like you could get hurt yeah no it's usually like well you could get hurt and die like i'm like you could fall and break your neck i have to stop i'm glad you're catching this now i am yeah so i need to redirect i need to redirect i remember you saying that about knives in the bottom of the dishwasher yes you're like you could fall and then die we read this started raining and my friend's sister was her kid was in the pool and she was like hey buddy you have to get out and in my head i was like yeah because you could get electrocuted to die and she and he was like i don't want to get in the pool she's like buddy you have to it's just not a good idea to be in it when it's raining and i kept waiting for her to say it and she never did and then i was like oh my gosh i think there's something wrong with me that was dark there's nothing wrong with it you're just trying to keep your baby safe yeah i'm like you know what i need to calm it down i'm gonna calm it down this one says being sick while living on my own hashtag i miss my mom oh seriously i actually remember this in college this was a defining moment for me when i got sick for the first time and i was like who's gonna take care of me it's sad i had to go to Walgreens myself yeah that's a scary feeling being sick for the first time as a mom oh that is this one there i that was a scary day for me one day i was really sick and i asked blake if he could stay home from work and i thought he said yes and then he started to get ready to go to like he was he's like okay i'm heading out i was like i said i can't take care of brielle what do you mean it's like i can't get off the couch and i won't get out of the house and i won't get out of the house and i won't get out of the house scary like what am i literally supposed to do what do you do you go yeah yeah he had a meeting he had a meeting no caleb definitely like they have to go to work what are you gonna do it's like i can't take a sick day for this oh bethany said adults don't get summer breaks that i think a girl who jumpscare was when i was like wait what do you mean i don't get just lay out and get a tan every day in the summer i'm so pale ever since ever since i became a woman that was really a girl i'm like what do you mean i have to go to work i can't just lay out by the pool i was like why am i why did i used to be so much tanner than i was like oh you just had so much more time yeah literally what do you mean christmas break is just like christmas eve half day yeah and then christmas day two weeks yeah where's my two weeks literally spooky says anything related to car buying insurance tags loans yeah honestly one of our friends actually you guys know her we'll call her out it was caitlyn she pulled over her registration was expired and she left and she was like i can't just lay out by the pool literally told the guy she's like that's a blue job i don't of course she did apparently he laughed and she actually didn't i don't think she got any type of fine ticket i got pulled over um a couple months ago for that as well and i looked at him i said my what is i like was like oh oh tags i'll give you my husband's number he could tell i was completely clueless about you can find him yeah he's like just get him done i was like i certainly will i'll be on to that oh this gal said kid throw in the car i'm not ready for that illegal that happened yesterday about oh gosh brielle's old enough that she could start throwing up you know it's crazy she's probably been old enough for a while she had it no she's never thrown up it's not that bad when they're that little it's nonchalant it gets so much worse i hate to say that that's one of those things where i'm like yeah you start out i think god eases it he's like yeah he's like he does ease you in because the kid will just look at you and go and then the next thing you know then it's like everywhere speaking of that i have an update braille's eating again yeah she's eating a lot did she stop so maybe she's getting some she was not wanting to eat anything dang it now she's getting teeth um engagement purgatory waiting is killing me oh we're saying a prayer for you right now oh lord god give them strength end that trial just go get married oh morgan said your mortgage payment can and will change why is that why would it fixed rate not fixed rate yeah we had a fixed rate i don't know maybe it's not fixed mortgage payment can and will change see we don't know about this stuff see i think my mortgage is gonna go down eventually yeah every payment is a couple cents less i don't i don't know what you're saying i don't know what my mortgage is i'll ask you know what the bank i'll just ask the bank just live it just live in that piece just live that no savvy said the first period after a there is nothing scarier than that i've never had it can someone tell me wait i'm not even kidding yeah it's just why is it worse why is it bad everything is just extra extreme i think you also kind of have forgotten about what it's like to have a period yeah you do you forget it's been nine plus months and then it's intense like so much blood i'm so curious when i'm gonna get it at that point you have no tampons you're like i don't have anything so unprepared you're like let me use my my diaper oh you also don't know when it's gonna come you don't like i don't know when like everything about it is a shock and a jump scared yeah but i'm sure you guys will know you might get yours soon because you're not waking up at night to pump anymore or like to feed is that what determines isn't that what people say like you while you're breastfeeding but if you're not breastfeeding every like three-ish hours it's not maybe is that why i always got my back at six months yeah that's what i've been told interesting that could be i believe that i'm scared oh taking apart and putting together a car seat when it needs cleaned oh i don't think you that's not my job i don't do that time to get a new car seat it just gets trashed like well just gotta replace it yeah seriously this guy said living with a boy after getting married they're just so messy see i was the opposite caleb was clean i was messy and then i shaped up i really shaped up um yeah i wasn't phased honestly so what does that say about us exactly blake said something the other day like he asked he's like can you pick up your car seat and i'm like i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know that shirt up off the ground and then he but then he was like but don't worry he then also said but don't worry about all my clothes that are on the side of the on the side of the bed just don't worry about them i was like okay good you understand that you they love the self-awareness we have this running joke because for years caleb's socks just i find them everywhere like every day i find a new pair of socks just in a new place it's not just like on the floor i'm like oh this one's in the fridge this one's in the fridge next to the fridge on the countertops in my car like they're everywhere outside inside my car does this too and i they're usually on the stairs i'm like you took them off as you're going up well i came to the conclusion because i posted about this on instagram so many girls were like same same same it's the male equivalent to them taking off their bra oh it totally is like they're overstimulated they just got to take their socks off where they are i will say my bra does end up in crazy every place i'm like okay so it's their socks in our bras makes sense that makes sense that is true actually wait a minute there was a table when the orcan people came in yesterday i was like oh that's my mother's every time i take mine off on the couch while we're like watching our show at night and blake's like please take that with you like don't leave it here when you go to bed don't leave it it is the female equivalent to the bra okay now we can have more grace this one says how many decisions there are as a bride while planning a wedding oh yeah it all sounds fun and games until you're in there and you have to do it you could just make i have no advice for that how scary it is to change careers or even just decide to get a new job as an adult yeah i could see that i've never well i have done that but it does it is like an overwhelming shift you're like oh everything's about to change again but it's good change is good i've never had a job mm-hmm see i went a different route with my girlhood tragedies okay i'm excited to hear yours mine were like related to like my body i kind of went across my lifestyle my lifetime yeah i'm excited to hear yours mine were like related to like my body thank you to neutral for sponsoring this portion of today's episode wash day can tell you a lot about the health of your hair maybe you've noticed more hair than usual in your brush i feel like that's kind of where i've been in the past maybe you're seeing more split ends than usual your hair goes through a lot from washing and brushing to heat and styling everyday wear and tear can lead to breakage and that can be losing some of your length that 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Ooh, that is. For dance competitions. Guys, can you bring that back? I want to see you guys with his eyeliner. Okay, I'll do it next time. Yeah, I'll do it. I like it whenever we have like. When Blake and I have a fancier thing to do or like a dinner date or something like that, I'm like, let me throw some eyeliner. I'm going to jazz it up. I'm going to go waterline. We need to bring back a little bit more dramatic makeup, I think. A little dramatic eye. I used to only wear waterline and no mascara. So that was scary. Like seventh grade. I'm like so against no mascara. I know it's a trend. I'm so against no mascara on the lower lash line too. Just the upper. Do both. It's going to help you. It depends on my day. Sometimes I go just top. I've never noticed it on you. I've never not done my bottom. But when you have really thick on the top. What? Covering your butt. I for sure haven't. Because I've actually noticed that you naturally have dark. I do. Under eyes. Like, no, no, no. Like by your lash line. Your lash line is dark. Like sometimes I think you're wearing eyeliner. I'm like, she's surely not. No. That's a blessing. Thank you. I think it's because my mascara is. I don't clean them all the way off. So I think it gets stuck in my. No, it's part. I don't think that's it. That's funny. Mine is so many. I've had so many girlhood jump scares with sticky boobs. That's a good one, Abby. Ending up in place where I'm like, what the. Do you remember your first sticky boob? Oh, yeah. Yeah. And I just remember. It looked like a chicken cutlet. Chicken cutlet. Literally. Yeah. Like, what about the ones that. I like the ones that have like the fabric. Like just a thin. They have a fabric on the outside, not literally just like a chicken breast. Mine were thick. Yes. Because I wore them for dance. They were thick. They were so thick. I was like, why did they need to be that thick? So thick. And they didn't stick right. And then I'd always find one on a shoe on the back of my pants. Like, I was like, where'd they go? I have a jump scare with those, actually. When we were in. Where were we? Cabo? We need to go to Cabo. It was me, Blake, Matt Howard, and your grandma. We went to Cabo with you? On the car. On the cruise. It was one of those. I was like, Cabo. But no, we need to. We should all do a trip to Cabo. Can we please go to Cabo? We were all together. It's hot. It's sweaty. I'm wearing a tank top that's like a button one, so it's a little open. And so I'm wearing my bra cup. What are they called? Sticky boobs. Sticky boobs. It's so sweaty. So hot. Yeah. That's just what gets involved. I'm walking with Matt Howard, Blake, Blake's grandma, and we go to this restaurant and stuff. They're coming off. Fall. Fall. They're coming off. And so I just take them off. But then I'm like. Is this when we got ceviche? You just free balling it? Yes. This is when we got ceviche. I'm like, my. I'm like. Ceviche. There is. If you look the wrong way, you are seeing something. I was just like, I don't know what's going on for the rest of the day. I'm telling you. I mean, the next thing. You're like having a great conversation. You're usually at a fancy event. And the next thing you know, chicken breasts on the floor, right? You're like, that's not mine. I don't know where that came from. Who left their chicken shopping with? You're like, don't get too sweaty. Don't get too sweaty. And also, here's the thing. That's best case scenario sometimes. Because if it's not sweaty, then peeling that thing off. Sometimes I have to look at it afterwards. Be like, make sure nothing got removed. What are the ones that are like suctioning that you like? I love those ones. Cakes. I need to get some. Sponsor us. That's why we love cakes. So I can try them. Cakes would be such an appropriate sponsor for this show. I remember the first time I saw. Man costs are man costs. All the girl dreams. Yeah. We need. Okay, cakes. Sponsor us. I don't know. I'll never forget the first time I saw someone wearing sticky boobs. It was after a homecoming dance. And she took her dress off. And I go, what are those? It's like just straight scares. Some of them are see-through. And you should also know that. Oh. What'd you say? No, I don't think you would ever want that. Just maybe just for flatness then, I guess. Yeah. Anyway, interesting. That was spooky for me. That was spooky. My second one, yeah, the period farts. Why are they so warm? You know what I mean? They're so warm. What does that mean? They're so smelly. What do you mean? What does that mean? Warm? Warm? Yes. You don't think. It's been a while for me to refresh my memory. They're just so, like, hot. Is this no one else? I don't remember this. I'm also not currently getting a period. So, again, I don't. It's been a minute. Refresh your memory. You don't have to respond. You're not like. I'm like, what is this geeky validation? No, I'm tracking. You know you have hot farts. It's just warm. And you're like. Everyone has to leave the room. Yeah, we know. Because it will smell. I'm just thinking about this being clipped. It's a drop scare. I'm like, get out of the room. Get out of the room. Don't lift the sheets. I do remember, like, there's just a lot going on. The indigestion. Oh, my gosh. It's always at the beginning of your period. And it's just like. It feels like there are clouds on my stomach. And then they release clouds into the sky. That's reek. Do you know what I'm talking about? I have sympathy for that. We call them fury farts in our house. Fury. Actually, I don't know. Me and my sisters call them that. And, yes, it's a curse. Fury. Sometimes it's funny how bad they smell. You're, like, shocked by it. And I always can feel. See, I would have thought fury was more the loud side. They're furious. Like, they come out hot. And they're demanding attention. And it's just so psychotic. And it's a jump scare. That's spooky. Every month. I had a fart the other night when we were in bed and going to bed. And I didn't even smell. You're probably going to do it whenever. And then Blake goes, did you fart? I said, yeah, why? Does it smell bad? And he goes, my head. My head was under the covers. I was, like, why? I thought it was just heating up in there. I was, like, why was your head under the covers? I still get embarrassed if it happens. Oh, my gosh. I don't listen to that. I didn't like that, too. It's, like, a long time. It's not just one. You know? It's, like, the whole evening. You're, like, what did I eat? It's nothing. It's just your period. Well, I'm scared for that to return. It's scary. The next one I said was pit stains. And this is also paired with armor. Because I just don't like that. And it gets worse for me when I'm breastfeeding. And I just don't like it. But pit stains. I remember the first time I ever got pit stains. I literally was at Wednesday night church. And I was wearing this olive green long sleeve old navy t-shirt. And I just remember I got home. I was, like, looking in the mirror. And I was, like, down to your wrist. It was, like, a circle. And I was, like, oh. Nothing will hurt your confidence. That was when I was, like, oh, my gosh. I hate puberty. Yeah. There is an excessive amount of sweat. I was so embarrassed. I, like, had never heard of it. I've never had that before. And then even to this day, I'm still, like, what's going to be clinging there? And what color is it? And should I put in towels? What temperature is it outside? Because now I don't use antiperspirants anymore. And it actually does help with your armpit sweating to not use it. Because your armpits get used to not having it. Right. But that transition was sad. It was fierce. It was furious. Actually, it was a furious transition. Furiously. And then that was something that I was, like, I know that men can get it. But it's just there's not the same level of shame attached. And also, their shirts aren't going all the way up there like ours. I always wonder how the real hot girls don't get pit stains. Like, they always wear those cute little skims, short sleeves. And they have the heather gray on. And they just never have sweat. It makes me not want to buy white, even though I like white. You know, I've actually embraced my pit stains this year. And I think it's part of, like, my 30s. I'm like, I just am healthy and sweat. 30 and flirty and sweaty. Like, I used to not wear cap sleeve because I didn't want to get, you know. But now I'm just like, who cares? No. And I do it. And I embrace it. Okay. All sweat I embrace now, actually. You've inspired me. Like, crack sweat. All sweat I embrace. I embrace that crack sweat. So, if we have pit stains on the pod, don't call us out. We're okay with it. I actually want them there. Wait, crack sweat? Yeah, like, after the gym. Oh, any sweat at the gym I don't care about. Have I ever had that? You can just tell me because I'm just going out. I want to know. I don't care. Like, I will be going to the store after the gym with my butt crack fully wet. Like, I don't care. What am I going to do about it? It's sweat. I worked out. Tell me I'm fit. Oh, yeah. I don't care if I'm coming from the gym and going out in public. I literally have no. It's not my business. It does happen sometimes when I'm not from the gym. Like, it's just a hot day. Yeah, it goes down my back. It pulls right above my butt. And it gets wet. You know what? I embrace it. That means you have a good butt. Thank you. Abby, I'm just looking at your legs at this wide angle. A little bit of skin. She's sexy. Sexy, sweaty, and smelly. So. Is Caleb going to be really stoked when you come on? I didn't tell him about this. Should I wear the costume on? You didn't tell him about this. You didn't? Yeah. I FaceTimed Blake, and he was stunned. And then he said, it's so good, it's bad. It's so good, it's bad. I'm going to scare all of them. Oh, my gosh. I love it. Yeah, it's good. Sweat's scary. But no, it's not. Because we're embracing it. It spooked me the first time it happened. And then every time since, when I would come back from an event, I didn't know. But it is also spooky when you're at an event, and you notice it, and then you have to still be there. I know. Yes. And you're like, well, now I can't. I can't move. Yeah. But now you're inspiring me. I'll just, I'll make it a topic of conversation at this point. We're going to embrace it. My next one is clamping your ear with a hair straightener. You ever done that? Oh. My sister did that to me the first time she ever straightened my hair. And that is a jump scare. It's actually a little T trauma that I've never forgotten. And every time I straighten my hair, I'm very, very weary of my ears. Very weary of them. She went, clamp, pull. And I went. Oh, my gosh. That's a great. Yeah. And she goes, oh, sorry. And then just kept going. Because that's hot on both sides. Yeah, it was. Yeah. It rung all night. I was in middle school. I'll never forget it. It was traumatic. That was a jump scare. Your younger sister or your older sister? No, Olivia, my older sister. Okay. She was going to sneak me into a middle school mixer. Oh, I remember this. I was in sixth grade. Yeah, I was a seventh grade, eighth grade mixer. And she was in charge of it. And I come downstairs in baggy basketball shorts and a t-shirt and like, just not cute. And she goes, get upstairs. And it was such a girlhood moment. Like, she was looking out for me. Oh. And then it became a scary girlhood moment. Dressed me in a denim skirt, mini skirt. Made me look cute. But. It did burn my ear to the smithereens. Remember when the look was pin straight hair? Yes. I did that for a while. I know. I can do that still. Make it come back. That's an easy one. It is such an easy one. It was a jump scare for me because I had such thick hair that was kind of curly. And the straighteners were just not as good. No, they were not. And you had to go. I would have to go over my hair for like an hour. Oh, yeah. It never was straight. I used to straighten my hair before I curled it because I did have texture to my hair. And I was like, the heat damage was permanent. Dude, I know. That humidity though. What were we going to do? I know. Another one I said is when you break a nail. And I know that sounds basic, but it is so spooky. That just happened to me recently. And that whole hand was almost out of commission. And it really hurts. It's so badly. It really, really hurts. It does. When you snag that and you know immediately what you did and you just look down and it's like, is it still there? You think your whole finger is gone. I know. It's really that one. And then it snags for the next eternity. I hate it. That is a bad one. Do you remember the first time you wore a white shirt or white bra under a black shirt? No. Do you mean white bra under a white shirt? Black bra under a white shirt? Maybe white bra under a white shirt. That's what I meant. Yeah. It was like a black shirt wouldn't show, but white bra under a white shirt. Yeah. My mom had to tell me. That's a hard lesson. You have to learn the hard way. You only make that mistake one time. You're like, no, it's, I'm concealed. And then you go out there and it's like, honey, thank you for showing us what you're working with down there. And you're like 14. Nude shirt. Nude bra. Nude bra all the way. I didn't. Yeah. That was confusing. It still does confuse me. I don't understand. Why are you sure it's scary? Well, you're just making more white. It's a darker white. Yeah. But I'm like, wow. Are all white shirts just somewhat see-through? Yeah, probably. Crazy. Unfortunately. Um, this one I put. Do you don't like it anymore? It's just gross. It can't be gross in the interior. It is a jump scare for me is when I forget to shave. My toes. I'm currently keep forgetting to shave my toes. Like you shave your legs and you're like looking down. You're like, ah! I will show you later. Jump scare. That big toe is big towing. Not every girl needs to do this, but it's one of the special ones that do. And when you forget, it's so scary. It's really scary. It's really sad. And so that's one that I'm like, I've been jump scared by that before, especially like even if you're like safer. It's like. It's always at those moments that there's some special thing that happens that draws attention to your toes. And like we never look at these and then now we're looking at them and now I'm mortified. Right. It's very, it's specifically embarrassing. I've never noticed someone else's hairy toes. So. Okay. Yeah. I don't think, don't think. It's a good track runner to have. Um, a jump scare. My lipoma. No. I didn't put that on here. But it just seemed to prove it. But then those girls I can relate are like, yes. I had a really. Is it fairly common? Yeah. They're super common. Not in the position I have it. I was going to like, I'm going to get mine removed. I was like, I have a great hook. I'm getting lipo. Mo removal. I can tell that you thought about that. I thought about it a lot in the shower. I was like, I have a great hook for this. How can I, how can I make, how can I get a good contour? I don't know. I don't know. I don't know how to get a good content hook out of this. Yeah. I was like, how can I make money off my lipoma? I'm just kidding. No. My last one was when you don't have a tampon and you have to shove toilet paper in your pants. Oh, I thought you were going to go somewhere else with that. Well, there's a lot of directions I could have gone. Have you had that where you're just like, oh my gosh, and you're just, you're like, how much can I wad in to put down there? But as you were thongs, yeah, it's not, there's nothing to hold it in place. So you're just kind of like. I do that probably every cycle. I do that on the cycle every time. Perfect. You're well, well aware. I never had a really heavy flow, so I'm like, I can make this work, but it's really not ideal. They make products specifically for this. Why do I not have it ever when I should? Right. We're not prepared. No. I don't know the position you're in with your arm up on. You just look like a man. My nose is a little twitchy. We can man spread in these pantaloons. You know what? I'm going to take my right. I'm exercising the season. I'm exercising my right. What am I doing? In the middle of right. I'm sitting like this the rest of the episode. Good. That's a power stance. This makes me feel smarter. Oh, I like that one. We're men and we're taking up space and we're going to interrupt you. My legs barely reach the floor. I sit like this. Wow. Oh, this feels good. Do you feel good about that? You're like, you're flying it. I feel like I should be on the sidelines of a basketball team. I'm going to do one of these. Put me in the NBA. You know what? I want to talk about philosophy instead. I'll talk about it. Let's have deep, dark conversations about AI. Not AI in this costume. We should talk about the society. What is this? What's this called? It's the fabric of society. We should talk about it. I'm going to sit back now like this and just. Now that's different. My last one. It feels good. It looks like I have a cast. Why is no one getting cast anymore? I don't know. People stop breaking their legs. What happened? I'm confused. I haven't seen you. I haven't seen anyone with like a lime green cast in a long time. Yeah, when you see it, it does stand out. Or eye patches. Why does nobody have eye patches anymore? I don't know. That's a good thought. Remember when kids wear those? When we were in Italy, I was like, why does everyone have arm crutches? Like, they're not underarm crutches. They're like the wrist crutches. Oh, everyone did. I didn't see one. Yeah, I was like, that feels more difficult. This feels like the 1900s. Well, a lot of things about Europe. It did seem like it looked more effective. I don't know, like more comfortable. Travel size. Yeah. My last one is just basically any time I shave my legs. Looks like a crime scene. I always cut myself. Shoot. Maybe you shouldn't say that. We got flamingo out here. It's not. It's not flamingo. It's literally no one's fault but my own. I go so fast. Matt's like, I know why you cut yourself now, because our towels will be bloody. There will be puddles of blood on our bathroom floor. Yeah. Okay. It's because I like. It's wet. I feel like I need to get my ankles. I can't have one hair. And then it's like those areas you got to go slow on. Yeah. You just need to get laser hair removal. I got too much hair. You just need to go. You need to commit. That's actually. You're going to lose too much blood. I make myself. And they're going to lose you. Constantly. Puddles of blood. Yeah. Puddles of blood. It looks like a literal crime scene. I just. Honestly, I just use their bath towels. Bath towels. I'm like, that's fine. Matt's like, this is. Are they white? Yeah. Okay. Get some darker towels. I use blood towels. That's the solution. Get darker towels. Darker towels. Matt's like, just please. He's like, he's like, just slow down. I actually did just buy darker towels. I just can't be bothered. That's a good idea. I got chocolate brown. Wow. They're beautiful. From Target. That's luxury. I just got sick of my white towels looking. So scary. So scary. Thank you to Chili Pad for sponsoring this portion of today's episode. I am very excited. I'm a chronic sleep sweater. You lift my sheet off my bed. My mattress pad is yellow. Yeah, that's embarrassing, but it's just real life, but not anymore. 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You can return it for free if you don't like it with their sleep trial. So visit www.sleep.me/alwayshere. And never wake up hot and tired again. Okay. Okay. Would you guys, we have time for one. We probably can't do both. Do you guys want to do freak or fiction? Did this crime actually happen? Or law or lore? Is it actually a law? Let's do, let's do one on here and one on Patreon. Can we do that? Okay. Yeah. Okay. Should we do freak or fiction here and then we'll do law or lore on Patreon? That works. Love it. Let's do it. Okay. This is a fun little quiz segment. Yes. Freak or fiction? Let's do it. Freak or fiction? Yes. Freak or fiction? It says number one. The bank robbery breakup. A 70 year old man robbed a bank, not because he needed money, but because he wanted to get away from his wife. After receiving the cash, he sat down in the bank lobby and waited for the police to arrest him. This was a 70 year old man? Yes. He wanted to get away from his wife, so he robbed a bank. Yes. Is this a true story? So he could go to prison? Yes. That's the whole question. I do not believe this is a true story because I believe there are a lot of easier ways to get away from your wife. I bet these men did it. I'm just kidding. That was a dumb joke. You can cut that. I'm just gonna say it's true because Abigail I'm just have to be the other side it is true why in 2016 when you're 70 robbed a Kansas bank after arguing with his wife he later pleaded guilty and was sentenced to home confinement community service not the judge being jokes like you you're already in prison yeah you got home confinement brother he's like that I'm not gonna give you what you want that's like with kids like you're like that is what an epic you know what made me decided I was like he's 70 right he's put up with this for so long probably like yeah that will drive you to a crazy willing to do anything that's the desperation okay number two the toilet that solved a crime a burglar broke into someone's house and decided to use the bathroom before leaving he forgot to flush allowing investigators to collect DNA evidence that eventually led to his arrest not that. that's no way I feel like I've heard this before I'm saying it's true it's true oh my gosh I've heard it before - I'm not sure if I've heard it from this or if it was like a TV show situation yeah happened in but in California yeah maybe it was a crime junkie that's probably what it was in California investigators used DNA recovery from an unflushed toilet to identify a burglar suspect. I think he was a crime junkie it's coming back. Andrew David Jensen was arrested in July of 2017 yeah he was like shoot I just committed murder but nature calls. Leave the scene of the crime so we can drop a duke and then go? Actually that's actually a common thing like people that commit crimes in people's houses a lot of times they'll like eat food from their fridge yeah it's like a sick thing. I'm trying to get in the mind of a killer don't I'm trying to get out of that mind okay three the criminal who left a Yelp review a burglar broke into a restaurant stole $2,000 and then left a one-star Yelp review complaining that the kitchen was disgusting police investigated him after he used his real name on the review please no I don't think so this has to be fiction please it's fiction okay okay okay for the Halloween heist a group of teenagers stole more than $10,000 worth of Halloween candy from a warehouse only but to be caught after trying to sell the candy back to the same company that stole it from I believe kids would do something like that wait wait they so they stole $10,000 of candy and tried to sell it back yeah or return it dollars of candy I'm saying this is false yeah it is false 10,000 just that's too crazy and not the price of candy dude talk about a jump scare as an adult like what do you mean that bag of candy for home that's what I'm thinking about these houses that have so many trick-or-treaters you're dropping $1,000 easy these people that get full said candy bars I'm like wow you are a good Samaritan rich I know the reason I know the prices is because Blake was like can we get some Halloween candy for like us to eat right and I was like it's $15 for that bag right no yeah for a small bag unless you're getting titsy rolls and nerds yeah I love I love nerds okay last one the unins unexpected dinner guest a woman broke into a string a stranger's house and decided to make herself a shrimp pasta dinner when police arrived she claimed the homeowner had given her permission to be there after they met at a coffee shop and she made shrimp being so smelly yeah I'm saying Falls for two reasons one you don't just come up with shrimp pasta on a whim right that's those ingredients aren't usually on hand that's and then two it's a woman I don't think a woman would do this please no she does sound kind of stalker vibes though like she met some at a coffee shop oh but that's what she's saying it's true I'm saying fiction lock yours in I'm gonna say true okay it is true in September of 2024 police in Madison Wisconsin arrested a woman after finding her inside a stranger's home the homeowner confirmed they had never met did she have she like older and had some mental maybe she had something maybe like a mental decline there's gotta be some other reason that a woman would do this pasta is wildly specific like what a stinky fish you know like she just found the shrimp on hand or did she bring it like I'm sorry about that in the brain random shrimp sounds scary that sounds weird that I eat that right when you get it how long was that left out I have to get my baby really quick get him looking like this fishers looking at you like this huh I didn't know the founding fathers were so progressive very breastfeeding friendly entire but baby's gotta eat they probably didn't even touch their baby they definitely didn't change their divers no you're too busy writing law dead quill pens yeah they were - it just took him so long to write something with lightning they had keys tied to strings and stuff so keys tied to strings that's how you got the lightning right perfect I don't know I just remember the kite with a key I remember a kite mm-hmm for sure those shoes are so big on your feet they're just dangling off your heels we are gonna go do law and lore over on patreon yeah where we say whether or not we think this law is actually still in place or if it's just all made up we are going to go do law and lore over on patreon yeah where we say whether or not we think this law is actually still in place or if it's just all made up law and lore over on patreon yeah where we say whether or not we think this law is actually still in place or if it's just all made up there's some wacky laws there really I've heard about some but I was like wait that just got repealed I thought that was we're gonna share some spooky stories oh yes yes do-do-do-do-do-do voicemails ask ask ask Abby hey friends my name is Trinity I'm from Pennsylvania I just had my first baby this year and he's starting to become super aware of his surroundings so I was just curious that there was any habit or action that you didn't realize you did until your baby started mimicking it I love y'all's podcast so much thanks so much bye yeah yelling at my dog like he'd be barking like or he'd get up in my face like get back get back and then CJ when he started being able to speak more he he kept saying get away get away and I was like why is he saying get away all the time and then I realized because that's what I would say to Lewis when I was like really fresh postpartum and even like really pregnant and I felt really bad about it and I was like I can't believe I talked to Lewis like that and I can't believe my kid heard that yeah my kids still do that they're like pretzel they say it in like a really mean yes voice I'm like that's I was like I gotta stop yelling at the dog I know yeah I felt very I remember telling you guys at the first I was like the kids are mean because I'm mean I know that yeah that was or even just the way I say yeah recently Matt was like he says that exactly like you and I can't get out of my head they're like yeah I can't even explain it what if your kids are saying you're kidding me you're kidding me that's from that's from me he said it today yeah he says he was saying a lot of times what you're kidding me he says you gotta be kidding you gotta be kidding CJ's been saying I just don't have the time for that I'm like what do you mean you don't have the time and were you hearing that like I was like buddy you're thirsty he was like mom I need my water I said go get it buddy it's in your bedroom I just don't have the time for that and then it was a fight because I'm like okay but I'm not gonna go get it like you need to be a big boy and go get your water I'm not gonna do everything for you he's like I don't have the time mom like he doubled down he kept saying it and I was like I don't even have an abundance of time you don't even understand what time is you don't even what is your clock you don't even look at the clocks I don't know how to explain that to you so I think I've been saying that a lot like you don't have time for that that's for me okay next one hi Abby Abby and Addie my name is Danica and I love listening to you guys my question for you guys is what are your some what are some of your favorite date nights thank you bye we just had the best date night it was so fun we went to a high school football game Friday night lights baby I love doing it in the fall we went and got Mexican food before and then we went to a local high school game and normally if we don't know the teams we'll pick each pick one and then see who wins and then maybe you get to pick dessert or something but this was fun we took the kids and we went to our local local high school game it was really cute it was super fun um we've been creative with date nights really no you should have been so um I don't really have a good idea for you other than going to the cheesecake factory just find your local cheesecake factory we did get some like conversation cards and I have to move your mic closer we also got some conversation cards and that's really fun and because sometimes I'm like how do we talk to each other right now like and so that's fun to like how to like break that seal and then you don't really need the card anymore but like sometimes I'm like I don't know how to switch gears and talk to you told you about the time I was still in mom mode and I like talked to the waiter I was like yeah I ate it all gone they're like good for you little lady I'm trying to think what we actually do or what is fun when we have the time is we like going to the movies cute you guys are movie people yeah Addie saw scary mommy oh yeah other mommy I did see other mommy it was so stupid why did you see the demons like I don't was it demons I don't think so I don't know who this lady was to be honest that was the most demonic trailer I've ever seen it is was I was usually even if a movie is bad it's like I don't know who this lady was I don't know who this lady is like okay that was still fun to go see it but this one afterwards I was like I'm upset that we spent our money to watch that in theaters Blake wanted to see it and I'm like that's fine a scary movie whatever but Blake wanted to see it and it was just the premise of the movie was just so stupid there was another scary movie called mama or something that I actually saw I saw that no and at the end the little girl goes back to the demon mom turns into like butterflies or whatever i don't know okay that's not the one i saw did you ever see ma no i don't think she's that famous actress from the help i think okay there's a bunch of them in there that was horrible it was so robert actually i might have seen it she looks familiar which one is it ma i don't know it's from 2019 cute no 2019 i saw that one and i was like it was horrific it's like these teenagers that like are they're like pranking her i believe and then she like no no she's like the cool older lady that will buy them alcohol for parties and then she like gets them in her basement for like a part she's like you guys can party over here and then she's like crazy and has been obsessed with them oh no i haven't seen this i'll watch actually it's honestly very entertaining yeah um and it is spooky uh-huh and i remember a lot of details about it for having watched it what was it seven years ago last one hi abby abby and abby my name is mariah and i was thinking um if you guys could be casted on any reality tv show which one would you guys like to be on anyways i love your guys's podcast thanks so much for um always being here we appreciate you guys sweet well you guys i actually feel kind of weird about this because i tried to watch a new show thinking it was a real like a game show because i do that's the only reality tv i do like is like game show competition shows and it's a scripted game show what like they're trying to make it look like a reality tv it's on netflix it's like the willy wonka show oh that's scripted it's scripted as soon as you start watching you can tell that they're actors what it's incredibly weird to watch weird i feel like they really thought that this was gonna land in some type of way but it honestly made me lose my interest because i was like it's just like modern day willy wonka they're like yeah they try to make it look like it's nowadays too and like he's reopening it that is scripted if it's not then this is incredibly weird oh my gosh this is nine unscripted episodes no way have you guys watched it no way because they're acting like willy wonka's a real person guys are they just like really trying to like sell the bit you know like are they just trying to get into character they're like he's he's reopening the doors of his factory are they just like going the wrong way are they just like going the wrong way are they just going along with it like the theme you guys watch the first episode and see if i'm totally crazy they're not like interrupting each other at all like it i feel weird now okay if that show is is not genuinely not scripted i feel weird because you're like who talks like this yeah and even the way the storytelling is it's like you see people getting their notification but like the camera's like kind of hidden and so it's like they would never have caught this moment of like getting a notification that they got a golden ticket no there's no way i cannot believe that okay um reality tv show i don't know i don't watch i would be on the great british baking show great idea i'd be the first american on if they never have i don't think so liza koshy was on it but she was a judge if you saw she used to date david dobrik like a long time ago okay can i tell you something i still watch all of david dobrik's videos oh yeah she's cute do you like him too yeah i love him yeah trust me i saw that video i watch all their videos that's so funny um okay i'm going to mr beast video i would do i would do a mr beast game i feel like you would take it would that would be fun yeah i would do beast games i would do the great british baby yeah i would do cupcake wars cupcake wars would be fun that would be fun yeah yeah i think i would do a i would do wipe out wipe out i would do a game show ones i would do um what's the one where you spin the wheel of fortune i do that price is right do you know that my labor one of my labor delivery nurses won prices right oh i know someone i know someone who wanted to yeah from college she won a lot of money cashing in that's good i would do prices right right family feud would be so fun wait we should do that can we do it we should do like at home family feud or just like try to actually get on the show i think let's try to do it should we do our recipes for always hungry yep i made spectacular rice krispy treats last night the best i've ever made i love those last week really caleb said these are the best ever made i said you know why i thought a recipe for the first time i feel like you always make the half-baked harvest ones no i did the little ghosts on top and they were so cute and adorable and fun but i'll post the actual recipe of the well you know i'll give her the rest listen the recipe will be in the description box and it's really good it has the extra marshmallows in it it's the perfect ratio that's my gripe with rice krispy treats when there's not enough marshmallow and it's just i'm just eating dry treats that's what i make a lot of times and these are the perfect ratio of marshmallow to krispies and then of course i went the extra mile and i put the dark chocolate melted on top and then i did the little white ghost with the eyeballs didn't follow the recipe you did you still just i did you know can i tell you what blake you make his rice krispies what he browned the butter yeah did he add vanilla because i put vanilla in the butter and it was so the key is also to add a little salt to your eyes that really helps so i could even do more okay let's try it again maybe when you take this recipe brown your butter a little bit and you put it has vanilla in the butter which is so good and then it will sprinkle i used to think browning butter was so hard because one of those things my mom would tell me she'd be like that is hard to get the right well yeah the first time i did it i was like what are all these bits yeah that's what it is am i supposed to keep those out if you're like no no that's the part you want that's the way i burned it see i don't think it's hard it's not hard it's just like when you're ready to make cookies you have to like pause because you don't have to let your butter let it go you're gonna really mess up your dough mm-hmm but it's so much better those brown butter cookies you made that one time were super delicious yeah they're my favorite recipe to make it just takes a little bit and 10 words in the title yeah it is a long time it was like brown butter salted maple pumpkin cookies with chocolate chips on top and sprinkles yeah something crazy i don't know if i had those i do remember that she made them for her girl i remember that it was a long time ago that was fun yeah i know we did our monthly girls nights yeah i think about that a lot we were so festive here we all had too many kids we've been procreating guys i had no kids at that point we've been multiplying we are how long ago that was it's overwhelming um my recipe i'm just gonna link the sliders i made for family dinner i know they were good thank you thank you so good they were very easy to make and they were um they i just i got the recipe on facebook that's my gosh it's really cringy it's really cringy but here's the thing i say all these facebook accounts still are linking to the same food blogs that you're getting from pinterest it's just a different way to get it and if you have screen time limits you find yourself on facebook sometimes that's what it's not the recipe coming from facebook it's not the fact that you're just scrolling facebook it was dismal yeah it's like a sad place to be it was sad i wish i could on facebook i'm like get out give me off give me off sometimes you need to go to see where you came from because the only people i'm friends with are people from junior high someone put a crazy rant on facebook the other day about like we're still getting on this platform on facebook and calling people out and like that's the vibe of facebook you just perfectly summarize the vibe of facebook it's hostile it's also very you also can post reels on facebook i do all mine because it's instagram yeah oh yeah are mine yeah mine are on there sometimes i see one of my posts i'm like what did i post that i'm here too and then it's no longer safe and i have to get screen time limits right yeah i screen time limit my facebook oh that's ridiculous sad that i can't let myself get there it's so funny okay well i gotta go to a gala yeah okay yeah i need to get changed i don't even know if my dresses came in you need to just keep your hair like this um you guys are in book club our full book club review will be on next week's episode and the book that we're reading is going to be the academy by ellen hildebrand and her daughter susie cunningham susan cunningham aaron no it was ellen and then did she write bible studies the brand does sound like a bible student cunningham also oh you're right but i'm excited to read it it's like fall cutesy um looking at my knees it looks like you're wearing biker shorts i promise and like the magical man looks like an 11 year old and doing a school project yeah you do four scored many years ago anyway that's still gonna be the book and you guys thank you for calling if you want to leave us a voicemail on our 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