Jake Johnson asks about special human connections

this is a head gum podcast checking all state first could save you hundreds on car insurance not checking what our little cowboy's favorite activity is called before i make a comment about it on the podcast my mistake turns out they're not called let me out rooms as i thought they're better known as escape rooms don't i look silly yeah checking first is handsome so check all state first for an auto quote it could save you hundreds you're in good hands with all state potential savings vary subject to terms conditions and availability all state north american insurance company and affiliates northbrook illinois handsome is sponsored by homaglow i've been using homaglow for months now and i am noticing the positive effect it's had on my time energy and mental health summer's always a busy season for me and it feels so good to know that i'm always going to return home to a clean and tidy space that feels great my homaglow cleaner has made my home sparkle in ways i never thought possible my cleaner does such a great job every homaglow cleaner passes a rigorous certification process my forever clean membership saves me 30 an hour on all future cleanings and is backed by homaglow's happiness guarantee take home cleaning off your plate this summer by using homaglow head to homaglow.com handsome summer to get your first three hour cleaning free when you sign up for homaglow's forever clean membership that's h-o-m-e-a-g-l-o-w.com slash handsome summer your first month of membership is 19 and is charged immediately at your first purchase then auto renews at 59 a month a six-month membership commitment is required to keep your first cleaning free welcome to the handsome pod it's your friend tig i'm sitting here with my co-host may martin and fortune fiend sir it has been a beat it where do we begin beat it has been a beat that reminds me of a bow burnham bit he said something about it's a beat and he pulls up a thing of beats why didn't we think of that i know why did he think of that why did he think guys i missed you and i missed you too you may you were in europe right i was in europe yeah how was that you look super tan tig you look like you've been in europe yeah you look super tan tig you look like you've been in europe yeah you look like you've been in europe well i've been in colorado hiking biking and diking yes the triad might be a new shirt yeah and which of the which of those three things was your favorite has been your fave that's the diking i guess yeah but i do love hiking um i'm i'm about i'm i'm about to gear up for a very intense full day 12 mile hike to ask them oh my god 12 miles yeah like over the river and through the woods uh no switchback trails over boulders um um yeah i'm about to do that wait but why are you being forced to um it's uh it's a famous hike in uh in colorado and um yeah i just i i it's funny because i had i had told my my friends um who are gonna do this with me i was like i was like i'm so excited to work towards this hike and um and i just i came up with this idea that we should all just pick a beautiful place in the world that has like a really cool long trek or hike and and we just travel there every year and we do it and um i don't know i'm i'm in yeah ask him but i'm in but they were like they were like yeah let's do it and and i was i think i was texting with them and then i was on a flight when i had this idea and when i landed my knee was killing me from the flight yeah i just thought maybe i spoke too yeah if i can't if i can't successfully uh fly three hours without my knee hurting me um maybe we should take baby steps but actually i i've been in in great shape and um i'm feeling really good i've been training by doing nearly 10 mile hikes i can't conceptualize like how long does that take 10 miles uh well sometimes it's not all it's not all together um it'll just be just keeping myself active and moving all day like maybe i'll do a an hour hike which is about i don't know two and a half or three miles wow maybe four mile i really don't know and then i'll and then i'll hang out grab lunch with my family and then i'll go hike again you're addicted dude well i'm trying to it's weird when you train for something you don't fully do the thing that you're training for you just don't know how to do it you just don't know how to do it you just don't know you just do bits and pieces and i've also been working out with a trainer a couple of days a week um mainly lord yeah nothing like my body is not going to look like may martin but i'm just trying to work on my leg strength and just try not to look like fortune don't talk about my friend like that i'm trying to find a happy medium between may and fortune okay um and uh you're tiny i've fallen off it in a big way and in in italy i was just drinking wine eating pizza pasta ice cream every day you eat pasta oh it's so good sorry pasta but i mean what do they say when in rome right you gotta do it they dig that is what they say i say that when not in rome i got a tan i was super tan when fortune and i did our mini episode but i will say that girls maybe you relate to this i put on makeup to do this and my makeup is too wait to do what wait do you have a lip taint no lip taint but i put on some makeup to record the pot it's like way paler than my tan so there's a tan on right now hell yeah okay let's get up closer to the camera real quick but i can't see i want to take so i wanted to because i swear i'm tanned under it i got it i've never had to buy a darker shade of makeup but yeah wow maybe that's what i gotta do i never had to buy makeup you gotta have a bit of concealer and a lip taint you know i do have mascara i have mascara and i put it on when i have a special night when i'm going out but um nobody can bike and i don't put it i don't put it on unless i have a glam person at my house for an event oh okay yeah people have given me uh i what do you call it again mascara i'm asking always goes bad because i never use it hold on speaking of of of people coming when you have a special event you had a special event your tv show came out yes yes congrats to you thank you on the release of the hawk the number one and we must go to the star meter thomas can you tell us i think we're overdue oh my god you guys this is this is a big deal we still don't know exactly what it means but it's a big deal i i still think it might be just may was the number one star in the world was the number one star which that's a really it might be just one person who is in charge of this i think it's one no it's i think it's based on like we've talked articles and searches and stuff you're in the star meter is such a big part of this podcast people were in commenting on that picture it's like when i said oh the hawk is number one thanks for watching they were like what's your star oh it's number one on netflix it was number one for like nine days and now amazing three that's amazing as of this airing of this podcast it's probably out of the top 10 by now i hope you got another season that's sick i know and may was in there too we played we had mask and and guns we were bad guys i binged it and i'm not being humble even my parents agreed that my acting in it is like i'm in the departed it's like i'm i thought i was in a martin scorsese drama and everyone else i was intense everyone else is being so funny and i'm like i didn't know what to do and i just am so serious i clearly wanted it or they would have told you otherwise well that's so great it's also the only hair was dark that was fun seeing you as a um as a girl and why didn't i where was i when i didn't get to do my part i don't know for on a call yeah yeah it was probably dyking in the the mountains yeah okay drum roll please okay as of today fortune femster is up 71 spots and is number 50 on the imdb star meter that's really good that is i think that's the highest i've ever been okay and where is may can i guess yeah give a guess in the thousands okay but which thousands like two thousand five hundred oh okay yeah because normally i'm in the thousands or two thousands as of today may it doesn't say a specific number it just says may is in the top 500 oh oh look at that okay and then let's see where ten thousand as of today it again it doesn't say a specific number but may or tig is in the top five thousand not true hold on i wonder if i can can we check where will ferrell is i don't have imdb pro so i do have imdb pro so i can find the actual number are people at this point yeah tig is this is where i'm normally at along you it's it's when you have something come out where your star meter really rises tig's at 3351 that's what i normally am fortune don't try and help me through this let your star shine okay just take this moment wait but i'm gonna do the graph um you're gonna make a graph no i can look at a graph to see where oh i don't think we should get obsessed with the star meter i think it could ruin our lives oh well i think it's the most clear um understanding of where your career is and it's important to live by it and right now fortune is the biggest star then oh yeah and there's no number one but it's the best i've ever done so i'll take it that's really good congrats on your number 50 may is currently 363 okay okay that's still really good little cowboy i'll take it wait tig i saw a clip of you on um who wants to be a millionaire oh how is that will is number 34 just so we know okay will's 34 okay um i want i want to be a millionaire that's not i want to be a millionaire that's what it should be called i have to say you know i talk all the time about how i only have a seventh grade education and i was a failure dropout it really showed on that i didn't have any information that was me on celebrity jeopardy i had no information i'm sitting there with pete holmes who is a very smart guy he knows a lot of stuff on a bunch of different things too he's like one of those things and he's you know he's just he's he's a he's a heavy hitter in the you know comedy like i just was sitting there like quietly like i don't know i bet that was really funny don't you have four guesses like uh four things to choose from yeah i didn't know i didn't know you couldn't guess and just pretend like your guess i didn't know i didn't know the pressure must be so intense the music it's i think i i gotta have to do this i don't i would i think i would have been in the same boat as you i don't know i mean you seem like you have a lot of information you and and i thought about you both you both seem like you would do well in that and i just i just didn't and that's fine you know i have other strengths i you have a lot of strength did i did my episode air already i don't know i just saw a clip on instagram you're still off the gram right i still i am i am but i have you know i don't know if i've told you there might be a day i come back yeah and have my assistant post yeah because i have shows my shows have to be promoted and i have some other things you know how you kind of contract contractually have to promote things so there might be a day that i'll come back but i still don't have an interest in seeing it yeah every now and then well your assistant can post about your shows and then anything else you want to do i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't every now and then your assistant could post something about you dyking yeah that would be great just so we know you're still out there dyking just maybe i'll come back proof of dyke maybe i'll come back once i get to aspen and i'll oh yeah i'll give her some clips of me to celebrate 12 miles i didn't really look at it in italy you didn't look at it there were days where i didn't even look at my phone until 5 p.m that felt amazing and i was just there were three small children traveling with us so i've never really had a trip like that and it was how did you get three children just picked them up at the airport uh that's nice checking all state first could save you hundreds on car insurance not checking the weather forecast before i go to a big soccer game i wanted to dress up like the mascot but it's 100 degrees out here and this mask is not making things any more comfortable yeah checking first is handsome so check all state first for an auto quote it could save you hundreds you're in good hands with all state potential savings vary subject to terms conditions and availability all state north american insurance company and affiliates north brook illinois let's talk about relaxing and unwinding at the end of a long day without feeling horrible the next morning that's where willie's thc infused social tonic comes in willie's is an alcohol alternative that actually works as an anti-inflammatory anti-inflammatory thc infused social tonic is crafted by the legendary willie nelson this is willie nelson's own social tonic and if there's anyone i trust to have the best cannabis it's got to 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drink water and and you're like i'm trying to save your life i'm not like like i'm i don't want to be telling you to do this yeah it's crazy yeah yeah but it was really fun can i go back to who wants to be a millionaire and share something about that please so a few weeks ago i was uh i got a text and it was from a producer of who wants to be a millionaire and they said hey you've been selected to be tig's bonus friend something you can do and i was like oh my god absolutely like this is so exciting i grew up watching the show with like my parents and my grandparents and like all sitting around the tv during like the regis era and i was like and i love trivia and i was like oh my god i'm so excited about this like this is amazing i told the producer like yes absolutely i will do this for tig um so she calls me she gives me all this info of the producer not me yeah the producer okay like be by your phone at this time you're not allowed to like use your computer so like you know promise not to cheat basically wait it's just a promo clink clink clink clink yeah that was a shock to me they were like it's an honor google and i was like i promise not to google and you're clink clink clink clink clink yeah exactly well i did think about i was like this is for charity like what is the ethical like ethically should i get the you know should i cheat or not but i decided i'm not gonna cheat like yeah i would like tom's is not a cheater for real i want to do it for real because i wouldn't feel good if i had just like googled it you know i wanted the story of like i saved the day or whatever yeah and then i asked i was like uh you know how many people end up using their lifeline and she's like everyone ends up using all their lifelines so just stay by the phone did you not use one lifeline tig did you forget about him and and she she was like there's a window you know so like it might be in these like couple hours so i wait till the time she texts me she's like be ready taking peter on stage like be ready to go and i'm like sitting on my couch it's like saturday in the middle of the day adrenaline next to me and i like can't even do anything because i know this call is gonna come i start frantically like googling like capitals of the united or capitals of the world for sure yeah yeah all of the list of the names of the i have no idea this is going i've never heard this story by the way like i'm cramming in an insane way that makes no sense just of like what are the facts i could like it could yeah literally anything the other thing they tell you is you only have 30 seconds oh yeah that's what stresses me out 30 seconds is the total time for them to read you the question and answer it so i just do everything i can laura's like you just have to wait for the for the call like just calm down and then my phone starts buzzing and i like jump out of my chair and it's a text and it's like they won't be needing you today they're out i don't know i don't know but i haven't watched the episode you thought you had the right answer wait do we know do we know if it aired for sure it's airing tonight so okay it's airing tonight okay oh boy i'm so embarrassed i knew nothing um but uh but yeah there was something there was some question where we were like really really sure that we we were like yeah that makes the most sense of course it's oh because you play with a partner yeah okay and do you remember what that question was yeah it was something about um like like dishware like a kind of brand okay do they do checkerboard or do they do this kind of design or do they and i and we were like oh it's for sure this other like it's bees wait but you can only phone a friend and during one question i thought you could phone a friend at any time you can you can but they thought they were they thought they were right oh because if you get it wrong you're done yeah and so we were no i know and so we were like oh my gosh it's for sure this one and then only to find out it was the checkerboard print and then when i talked to stephanie she goes we have that stuff all over our house we use that brand that's our soap dispenser that's the bottle remember this thing and i'm like oh my god yes i do recall that is all over our house um so um that's very funny yeah anyway well i'm sure you did your best but i can't wait to see the question because my my question is would i have known the answer but it's that one it's that one yeah that i just said i don't know that i would have that doesn't sound familiar well and when i called stephanie i go okay it was this question like how would we have known and she goes it's blah blah blah brand and she goes we have that in our house i was like oh my god i wonder if i would do better at that show celebrity jeopardy i did not enjoy because i did not realize how much anxiety i have trying to do the buzzer and competing against other people and the time it like my brain was like leaving my body yeah every time you had to do the buzzer and i was like i hate this oh my god i always remember the one famous episode where that guy got down to the he was at the final question and he had a phone a friend and so he was like i'm gonna call my dad i forget what the question was like british history or something and his dad's like hello and and he's like okay you've got 30 seconds on the clock uh go ahead and he's like dad i just want to say hi i'm about to win a million dollars because he knew the answer he was just calling his dad i was great and he really didn't know it yeah he knew oh that's cute i like that oh and he won yeah oh wow he just wanted to make him moment and he did look at you talking about it still talking about it decades later that's so great yeah i would really enjoy being the host of something like that and just the smugness of just having none of the stress you just get to be like are you sure about that and you and you and you're acting like you would have known it yeah yeah that would be really it's also confusing to be on a show like that because it's like my instinct is i just wanted to hang out and talk to pete and jimmy yeah you know what i mean and it's like yeah i wanted to do bits and it's like pete holmes is so good at doing like a really fast crazy bit you know what i mean and it's like i i'm just i don't i can't even you need a minute you need a minute yeah yeah i didn't realize when you said pete that y'all were a team now i get it yeah i didn't get it either until like i didn't know it was happening yeah of course but um i just am so curious how that's going to turn out they edit it because i truly was like i thought you're hilarious well nothing will ever compare to your celebrity wheel of fortune or when when when we were on the exorcist bike yes crashing my exorcist bike that won't dare you be a legendary answer for the rest of time of what was the show that we were all that we were on the oh we were on after midnight after midnight after midnight did we do well on that no but we got adorable and they honestly tried to get us back like two more times but yeah every other week we got an insane schedules yeah but you're like we're doing good to record but i do enjoy that that tv shows and movies like to have us all come on at the same time as a group hey i'm riding that i'm i'm off hiking and dyking and biking you know no we get home already we haven't been able to be handsome together i know i want to see you guys it'll be fun to um to do an in-person for sure i don't know when that'll happen but uh i have some gifts for you guys that have been showing up for me for you from other people oh so we i can bring those again i know that was a that was fun i'm just letting you know that's what i'm doing i'm just letting you know that's what i'm doing i'm just letting people know right now to not do that for me um at my shows i don't want to have to deliver presents to everybody oh right it brings me joy the handsome santa claus i'm just gonna say it right now please don't make me please don't make me give take presents home in my tiny suitcase to give my handsome co-hosts my luggage got lost going to italy and then my luggage just got lost again coming back from just for laughs i i've never lost luggage in my life and both times lost all my luggage they get it back for you in italy uh yeah it took a few days but it was high drama because also some of the kids suitcases were lost that they'd packed with their little stuffies and games it was really cute stuffies yeah i have to show you guys we made a zombie movie while i was away that the kids i casually was like you guys i'm writing a zombie show you guys should play zombies and then they privately all went off and i think they thought that i meant like let's film a netflix show on this vacation that you guys write that's a zombie movie but they'd never seen a zombie movie and they wrote it and we filmed it really professionally like we made a shot list i was doing they were taking it so seriously and i was doing like cameras up sound speed rolling and they were like i've never seen they were never better behaved they were so focused and professional what are the ages eight eight and eleven and then now they're like when is this premiere on netflix yeah they're like when and they're like are there bloopers i'm like what will our star meter be yeah exactly yeah there's a musical number in it that came out of nowhere that's oh i love a zombie musical number yeah ama like brought me into a room was like i wrote this song and it was from the perspective of a zombie and it was like every day you wake up in the morning hoping life will be a little more spooky it was great oh that's catchy and so wait you're currently writing a tv show i'm developing a show for netflix yeah i probably shouldn't have said that but it's like a zombie um dramedy oh that's cool here we go right back to number one yeah oh yeah we'll see we'll see if it gets exciting you guys i'm good i'm doing good tell us so girl you've been promoting your show like crazy you've been in the south a lot are you still on a press tour right now um no the press tour ended i was in new york doing all the you know morning shows and things like that um wearing some suits nice looking handsome looking handsome uh then i went to hang with jinge for the week she started chemo so uh we did that and i'm gonna go see her again in a week and a half i'm gonna drive her to emory in atlanta um and um yeah is that where she gets treatment in atlanta she is treatment there's a specialist our local area but there's a specialist at emory so every like six months she checks in with him to make sure like what her local team is doing is what he would do great second third opinions those kind of things good to have yeah real good she's being she's you know being positive and yeah being real fun i'm trying to get her to come out to la she was gonna come actually this week but the chemo she couldn't do it the doctor wants to see how she does with that but i'm gonna try to get her uh to la maybe later in august or early september for how long of a stay and could she do it four or five days in person recording with that's what i was just gonna say like we don't we don't really do that but i would love to have ginger yeah oh i have so much i want to ask her if you guys are in town we can figure it out i she's she's just waiting to hear from her doctor when she can come so as soon as i know i'll let y'all know but that would be that would be a trip it'd be funny if she was like on the far end of the couch and we were just shooting and then randomly turned yeah just revealed her and yeah revealed her and then went back to the three of us i thought you were gonna say that it cut her off so you just hear her voice yeah shot me in every once in a while i think any option would be funny summer completely changes my routine and how i eat i'm looking for salads seasonal 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question asker um because i'm have a very small part in a movie that he's currently in our asker is an actor and podcast host who starred as nick in new girl for seven seasons he co-hosts the podcast we're here to help with his friend gareth reynolds um and he currently has uh the number one movie on apple um called the dink it's a pickleball movie um that he stars in and i have a little part in it where i grunt a lot oh like every time you're like yeah can you give us a taste of the grunt oh that's good no wonder you've got that but like a lot of it holy and it's pretty fun because i play doubles partners with some a guy and you don't know if we're lovers or siblings that's good anyway today's question asker is jake johnson hello handsome podcast i got a question um so uh dan ackroyd used to say about john belushi he said when they met there was like this invisible glue that connected them through everything he said i don't know what that was but as soon as i met him there was like some glue that connected us probably add in some words there but what do you think that is what do you think that is that a thing that connects us to the world that connects us to the world that connects us to the world that connects certain people that you meet somebody and you know oh that person's gonna be in my life and you meet somebody else who's equally special interesting person but you just don't connect to it all and they fade away and somebody else gives you a 10-year run of friendship and you guys think that that we've done this world before do you think that everything happens for a reason or what do you think it is what do you think that is that glue that connects certain people and thousand others okay i really like to get deep y'all you you like this man is that what you said yeah i feel like there are so many possibilities it could just be like subconscious kind of pattern recognition like you've had a similar influence on you in your life and so you're you're birds of a feather but i like i i'm into past life stuff or like soul groups you know like a bunch wait what's a soul group i don't really know what's a soul group i don't really know what's a soul group i don't know but there's one idea that like people are incarnated soul group i'm just soul group what is that i don't know i don't know but you know you're in when you're in you know when you're in a soul group or just that like there are there are types of of people you know i've definitely met people before where i feel like i i the comfortability is there right away yeah and you're and it's like sometimes i am like yeah maybe maybe i do believe in past lives because yeah it feels like we know each other i know and it could be someone from a totally different part of the world and yeah like i i've really felt that too or or some people that you even just know for a short time but they're deeply ingrained in your heart and your soul an impactful person at the time at a certain time in your life yeah i mean things that always connect me to people are like trauma, like Cheryl like shared trauma trauma bonding trauma bonding like uh beatles fans elliot smith fans like any any sort of fandom where there's a commonality and you can and it kind of says something about maybe not beatles it's too broad broad but when it's like a niche thing that you're like you know it's like if you like elvis presley yeah you're in my soul group sorry um elvis presley i mean i know that's weird um your brain went what's the most famous person still elvis but both of you i mean we like we didn't know each other at all but i feel like we felt like we'd get along and yeah yeah you know well the chem the chemistry with all of us was there like right away absolutely nothing to base it on i know like gay is that just gay is this just yeah is this us dyking and and biking queering but that can't be true because i meet lots of queer people that i do not connect with at all so yeah i think for myself with both of you which i've said many times is like anytime i had a moment where i sat down and talked with either of you i thought oh that i might want to follow up with that again or you know maybe maybe i should get lunch or coffee or something with that person and yeah but you went you went for the podcast yeah it's like you know what it'll it's it's a forced chat and have everyone in on it yeah i was thinking the other day that it might be fun to not even get a question one time maybe we could do this for another like year anniversary if we make it to another april um but uh but it might be interesting to just sit down at which we've done in in ways but the other day for some reason it just didn't work out and i was like oh cross my mind that it might be interesting to talk about our dynamics and what maybe people are drawn to about our dynamics or interesting you know um i don't know and have questions for each other like like after so long now yeah do we because maybe we've have we ever asked questions on the pod i mean oh we have not formally right just follow questions yeah but i just think it's interesting how people always comment on our podcast and i think it's really interesting to comment on our dynamic and how it works and how they're drawn to the different personalities and age groups and places in our lives that we are and um and yeah it's it's just it's endlessly fascinating to me what what um like my sister-in-law listens to this show and that always confuses me i'm like why do you listen to i mean she she loves both of you so it's not like she's just listening for me um but it's i'm like you do and like my friend megan i'm like i've known her since i was five why do you listen again she loves both entertaining i know but i'm cool what if we send we pick an episode and we somehow send it to like esther perel or someone to analyze us in our some to listen and go interesting we didn't have to send a sex podcast right no she could just do general relation really that's relationship and she also analyzes work dynamics you know she's it's just it's relationship we want to get to the nitty gritty with a stare she used to be my celebrity how the three of us can improve our sex life with each other yeah there's a lot we have to get started there's a lot of work to be done there i have not come in years from you guys oh my god what would happen if the three of us tried to hook up i don't i don't laugh too much we could never and then we throw thomas in the mix as well it's the four of us just giving it our best shot i shouldn't even get undressed in front of y'all giving in our best lights out like what if someone said one turn the lights out what if someone said like it's life or death you have to and you have to commit and you have to be earnest yeah i'd give it a whirl i mean even if i laughed through the whole thing and i was like okay i'll touch that oh my god we will poke there we'll poke here then we do a podcast processing and then we then we said that to a stare yeah we do a quad spooning we'd just be trying to get to that snuggle after i think yeah all we really care about is the snuggle yeah and the cigarette hey was that good for you that's good i love it so i'm really trying to quit so back to the question back to the question i do think that it you're also it helps when you have some like common ground with somebody like you have a similar way of looking at the world or your sense of humor is similar or your interests align i mean that that can sometimes be the glue is like when i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm at will when um i met him doing a movie like a couple years ago and i really liked him and he liked me but you know there wasn't much time to connect but other than like oh i like you and then when we did the hawk um the chemistry was just like there like right away and i think it was um because we looked at comedy very similar but we're also very similar humans in how we approach life and we're both cancers i don't know if that has any astrology i want to believe in astrology i mean everyone i've all everyone i've ever been in love with mostly has been born within the same like six week period no yeah really is that a thing mid-august sort of too like november oh interesting mid-august to november yeah that's a chunk of time i know that's definitely more than six weeks but there's a lot of people within a really small window there's like three months yeah you're right it's like 10 weeks six weeks is wild three months is a little bit like okay yeah you're right that can happen you're like the last half of every year i usually that's where i fall for somebody and that um yeah i i don't i it's so hard to for me i'm just so deeply drawn to somebody who makes me laugh or somebody that i really make laugh or it together we do whether it's a friendship or romantically i don't i don't need somebody that i'm with to be the funny one but if we can really have a deep deep belly laugh i'm like i'm all in it's it's really what keeps me alive and and keeps my friendships going my relationships going and and it's it's wild it's like and i know i've mentioned it um before the connection i had with stephen colbert i've done so much so many talk shows the first time i sat down in his you know in the seat at his desk i was like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh my god i'm like oh okay yeah yeah yeah this feels really good and i had that with with this guy that i used to be close with and collaborate creatively with we both had that kind of like hey comedic dynamic like a comfortable like yeah yeah it was it was like it's almost romantic like the love the deep deep and maybe what you're saying with will it's like man i could just riff and talk and build on everything that we're doing even if it's silent like it just feels so good and right yeah yeah like i always knew where he was going with something he always knew where i was going with something it was like very simpatico yeah there's there's nothing like that it's just i mean i just love it i love it i love it so much people that are authentically themselves too like yeah definitely whenever i'm at like a like a party or like an industry event or something and there's someone there who doesn't want to talk about that like who wants to talk about weird stuff or like talk about you know something bizarre i'm so grateful it's like finding an oasis in the desert it's like oh yeah someone who can just like yeah see the absurdity yeah be authentically themselves so that would you say that's your number one thing may is like having what like what you ought that like people who are who are really themselves maybe and really it's hard to put your finger on it isn't it it's so hard what you're describing that like comedy dynamic like there's people who i fall into an immediate like yeah low status high status like fun game i don't know that that's that's different to like some of my oldest friends but i like people who I have my friend Matt who lives in my back house. We'll go to like a dinner party and we're having a great time. We're laughing, we're talking to everybody and then we leave and get in the Uber to come home or whatever. And we're both like time to be weird. And we're like the relief of just unmasking and just being our total weird selves. And I do have a couple of like really good friends that we just share a very dark sense of humor together. Yes. And you can only do that with like certain friends that like understand it. And I've like those couple of friends, you just like have never laughed harder. Oh my God. It's the best people. It is the best when you, you know, you can push something a little further with a certain group and you're like, Oh boy, that's just between us. Yeah. Where you're like, if people read this text thread, I would be fucked. Yeah. Or like my, my writing partner, Joe, who wrote feel good with me. And we're writing this, this new show. If we're in like a work zoom with producers and Netflix, like he'll text me something so obscene sometimes. And I have to be like, like hiding my face off the zoom and it's sort of a game trying to make each other laugh. And it's a danger. You're playing with fire. It's a dangerous game, but I found this weird connection in, in our baseball parent group. And I found this, this dad in our baseball parent group that, I would never have guessed that he would be so funny and we are, he knows as much about baseball as I do, which is zero. Yeah. And we are the ongoing jokes of our team because everybody's like, you know, well maybe we'll just maybe take and Matt should you know, take it from here. Let's see what they have to say about it. And and it's just, it's, it's just become this surprising, this surprising connection where, Oh my God, this random dad has become my friend and we make each other laugh really hard. And so I think that is what it always goes back to for me is like, I love, I love that connection. I love it so deeply. And it's funny. Cause like Jake actually specifically Stephanie worked on a project with him and she would come home being like, that guy's awesome. And like, they, they talk really great. Yeah. She was like, he's just like, he's so interesting and curious and in it and passionate and like wants to talk about stuff. And, and they both connected on baseball and sports. And, and so it's funny that he's asking this when my wife just worked with him and really connected with him on baseball and stuff like that. Meanwhile, I'm off texting with my buddy, Matt about not knowing anything. No, not no knowledge. So many people are not fake, but they're just performing adulthood in this very like paint by numbers way. Like that's like so many people that you encounter in your day. And it's like, I used to notice in England the way everyone would be like, hi, yeah, you're right. And it was like, can you say it a different way? Or like, I don't know. It was just like, like these rote phrases. And so when you find someone who's just a little bit, well, I don't know, present and being weird. It's the best. That's the digs a little deeper. Yeah. Yeah. Doing the saying or the, whatever it is that's popular and that everybody responds with and everyone's doing. And then somebody takes a curve ball or turn and you're like, Hey, where'd you go? That's interesting. I like that. Especially in like customer service and stuff. Cause that's their job. Like people are. And so you, you know, they're doing their thing. But when you meet someone who just, says something a little odd or is funny with you, it's so nice. You're like, Oh, we're alive. We're people. Yeah. Yeah. And it's so great as you get older in life when you do like find one of those connections. Cause you're like, Oh, okay. Like I'm not dead inside. I can still connect with people and like, yeah. Have like special talks and stuff. Like I, there was a actor on FUBAR in our second season. He was so lovely. And we like, would have fun on set, but then like near the end, like suddenly we just like have like the most earnest conversation with each other. And I'm like, I just met him. I don't know him that well, but like every time we check in now we have like, you know, he's like, I'm here for you whenever, whatever, call me anytime. And you're just, and he means it and you're like, and I mean that to him too. And it's just like, so great when you like a, yeah, as an, an older adult to be like, Oh, I could still have, you know, make good friends and have meaningful conversations. Yes. There's a guy called Kit in Toronto who I was in a short film with when I was 13. And we know each other for three days. And when I see him, it's like, we're siblings being reunited. We don't know each other. Like all we know is that he played my brother and he had to spit in my face when I was 13. And we're like, hi, how are you? Like, yeah, still alive. That's I don't know. It's nice. Yeah. I still call Garrett Dillahunt and we still call each other brother and sister. Cause we played siblings on the mini project. So I don't talk to him much, but he'll be like, Hey sis. So nice. That's great. I'm about to see tomorrow. I'm about to see my, my friend Megan, who I said, listens to our podcast. I've known her since I was five. Like, I can't wait to see her. We laugh a lot. She'll hear me saying this. I can't wait to see her. And, um, but she also thinks Stephanie is funnier than I do. And she's like, it'll be nice to see you, but I can't wait to sit with Stephanie. And, um, and, uh, but yeah, I, I feel lucky for like the old, old, um, connections that I still have with people that we still just, we're just right on track still. And we just sit up all night and we just laugh together. And when your old friends love your partner too, that's great. Oh my God. I feel so lucky. Uh, I just watched a text thread go around with Stephanie and Max and Finn's godparents. Um, who their godmother is one of my oldest and closest friends. And I'm, you know, I'm not even chiming in on that. Yeah. Yeah. I know it's my best friend, Andrea. She texted me yesterday. She's like, I just got off the phone with your mom. We talked for an hour and 20 minutes and laugh the whole time. And I was like, that's so sweet. She's who we met in Nashville. Yeah. That's who we met in Nashville. We've been friends over 20 years. And yeah, I'm like, that's, she's just like, I'm gonna call your mom. And then they're like having this giddy, crazy laughing for an hour and 20 minutes. I'm like, that's so nice when you have that kind of, it's comforting. Yeah. That's really great. Yeah. Well, should we hear what Jake has to say? Yeah, I think we should. That's why we brought him into this circuit. Yeah. I think the glue is, is because we've been here before and we've done this. And I don't exactly know what that means. I don't know if it's all just one thing and it's all a memory or if we've, there's a lesson or I don't have any answer and, or even pitch at that madness. And, but I do feel like there are certain things that feel too connected when I met my wife for the first time. She was a bartender. And when I saw her, it just felt like, Oh, there's my partner. And now 20 years later, I'm like, Oh, it makes sense. I saw her then the way I see her now, but how could I have seen her then that way? So it might just be not, but I believe the glue is with certain people could be done this. And when you re see them here, you think like, Oh yeah, that's, that's that person in my life. I agree with that. So romantic. Oh my God. I love that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Cause it's like a complete stranger and you're just like, how, how do we have like so much to talk about out of nowhere? Yeah. It is wild. It is wild. Yeah. It's wild. I bet if you zoom, if I don't know, cause we only see such a small spectrum of light and stuff. Like we don't know anything that's going on. I bet if you could see everything, everything going on, there's like, like a system of like magnets and wheels and cogs and we're all kind of it. Like, you know what I mean? I bet there's a, some sort of sense to it. Like you're in a groove on a vinyl record player, you know? Oh, there goes the leaf blower. I wonder if I knew the leaf blower in a past life. I should go out and check. I didn't hear. Oh, oh, there. I thought you heard it, but it's always a random person that walks by. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, well, cool. Well, that was fun to dig into something like that. Uh huh. Yes, indeed. God, I'm glad that our, our paths brought us together. And I, you, and it's also interesting, like with, you know, Jake, even just like, oh, that's so interesting that that's how he sees the world. Like that, that's a fun insight on somebody. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. That's kind of what I felt in that moment. moment of like, interesting, okay. but cool yeah always a pleasure my friends always a pleasure also i want to say something really fast um without getting into detail i i did have to uh cancel some move some shows i had to reschedule some shows um had some had a bit of a family emergency come up and um everything is fine um and i just you know i just wanted to say that because it was right up to the last minute and i just so apologize to the people that went out of their way to travel or bought tickets and and i was also because i'm not on social media um i i didn't post an explanation um but um but yeah i just i just wanted to apologize because i know it's so inconvenient for people because things like our production schedules or family members health or anything like that you know it does pop up and and so my deep deep sincere apologies and i i'm sure i'm a few weeks late on this um explanation for what happened so i just wanted to acknowledge that yeah it happens yeah it does happen it does happen and it's uh you know when you're doing live shows and life happens yeah it's it's uh it's tough because it sucks i've had to do it too you never want to do it but sometimes it's inevitable like or unavoidable yeah yeah yeah so uh it never happens unless we absolutely have to do it and sometimes it's so last minute and it never feels good on our end but it's only because it absolutely had to happen so um go to my uh website to um see rescheduled dates i think they might be up now yeah i just wanted i just wanted to say that yeah well i'm back on tour uh i had a nice little seven week break from the road which is lovely to re re-up my energy um and august 28th i'll be in greenville south carolina then wilmington north carolina boise portland oregon austin chattanooga dayton louisville madison durham oakland bankersfield santa barbara la denver and nashville that's the rest of my tour and then i'll be filming my special i don't have any live shows coming up at the moment at the moment but i will in la so check out uh instagram always i post them or uh maymartin.net i believe but uh mainly i'm working on on music and on this new tv show so you can always check out any of the old stuff and i tape my special and that's coming out in awesome this year i hoped yeah well i uh i have uh more dates if you want to take a chance on me um i'll be uh in rochester new york calgary iowa city des moines omaha oklahoma city cincinnati charleston west virginia chattanooga knoxville chico olympia washington fresno napa colorado springs steamboat springs and basalt colorado i'm also always a largo and dynasty typewriter in los angeles also make sure to rate and review the podcast my sister-in-law did she told me that she said that i hung on that moment for a minute say on one of our episodes saying i know i always say this and you probably don't do it but please rate and review right now stop what you're doing and she goes and it really got through to me and i thought i love this podcast so i'm gonna rate and review it there you go yeah so do like my sister-in-law and rate and review the podcast if you want to keep us chugging along through april and also um we are out on hulu a day before and um share one of your favorite episodes and i say that all the time but you know what do it think what is my favorite episode what is it which one made me laugh so hard send it along to somebody that you love and help us build this very handsome community and um until next time what do you say we uh keep it handsome handsome is hosted by me may martin tignotaro and fortune feimster the show is produced recorded and edited by thomas willett email us at handsomepod at gmail.com and please follow us on social media at handsome pod what a that was a hate gun podcast checking all state first could save you hundreds on car insurance not checking if the family's home before i go downstairs and cook up a big breakfast oh no i just yelled food's ready and it turns out everyone went on an early walk without me vegan egg on my face yeah checking first is handsome so check all state first for an auto quote and i'll see you next time it could save you hundreds you're in good hands with all state potential savings various subject terms conditions and availability all state north american insurance company and affiliates northbrook illinois