Is College Ruining Your Passion | Sreelakshmi S P | AshTalks

Welcome to the Speaking Podcast, you can find all the reps on SpeakingPardcast.com. My guest, we're going to be talking about how to rewrite reality, becoming the author of the stories in your life. And I have the book, which I totally enjoyed, and I've actually missed my guest, we're part of a business group. So if you're interested in that, reach out to either of us, and we'll be able to let you know a bit about that. Please welcome, sure us. Thank you Roy, great to be here. Yeah, I'm kind of looking forward to this because just by reading it, it's kind of, we all kind of do our own journey. I suppose for me, it was like the speaking, I was very shy and speaking was kind of like, not for me. And then I overcame that and then kind of realized, okay, I told myself a story. So that's why I really, but there's other stuff in my life that I'm kind of fighting with and everything. And maybe you might give me the solutions as we go through. Let's kind of get, let's get to know you a little bit better, kind of how you got into this. You're kind of upbringing. Okay. How I got onto this was because I actually got rheumatoid arthritis to the age of 22. And at the time, I was a bodybuilder in the best ship in my life. And suddenly I couldn't work out. I was in too much pain. And the arthritis spread through my body until it was in every single joint. So there were like days where I couldn't eat because my job was so swollen. And so I had to sip my meals to a straw. So it was every joint and lots of pain. And I did everything you're supposed to do to get out of it. Like medication, change my diet supplements, like trying method after method, nothing seemed to work to change it to get rid of the arthritis. So finally I worked with a mentor in a program called Combined Therapy. And he just talked to me for a few weeks about what was going on, what happened to my life, went all the way back to childhood. And I'm like, what does this got to do with getting rid of illness? Like, why are we talking about what I was sick? At the end of it, he said, he said, you believe you're responsible for everyone in your life. And I'm like, no, I don't. Right? Yeah, I know you don't think that consciously, but from everything you've told me that you're in a year, you've been through, you've created a belief that you need to be responsible for everyone. And I said, okay, I know I'm a responsible guy. I'm always the designated driver. I try to make sure I'm once taken care of, but being responsible for everyone just seems like a lot and overwhelming. And I said, and even if that was true, what's it got to do with arthritis? And he said, well, of course, you don't want to be responsible for everyone. It's too much work. Obviously, he said, and if you're lying in bed and pain, you don't have to be responsible for anyone and you don't have to feel guilty about it. Your arthritis isn't your problem. It's your solution. And I'm like, that's messed up. Like, there are better ways to avoid responsibility. Why would I put myself through this much pain? My body's even deteriorating for 20 years. There's like no cartilage left. I'm grinding bone on bone. And you're saying it's to get out of responsibility and it goes, yeah, because not really the responsibility, it's the guilt that you can't take care of everyone. But now you have an excuse as to why you can't take care of everyone. And that's powering your, like, you have to be responsible for everyone. So I thought about it and I said, okay, I was, I was a, I've always been on the logical side of computers and science. And I said, logically speaking, all I have to do is say I'm not going to be responsible for anyone and the arthritis should just go away like magically. And he said, yeah, what? And he goes, if you believe deep down that you don't need to be responsible for anyone, then you don't need the arthritis. It'll just go away. And I'm like, okay, fine, I'm not going to be responsible for anyone else. And the next morning I woke up and there was no pain, there was no inflammation. I had more mobility and I'm freaking out because it's been almost 20 years and I've tried everything and nothing worked. This guy says, stop being responsible and my entire life changes. Like my entire reality changed. Now my body's been repairing itself. There's still damage there, but my heart lages grown back. I have more mobility. I'm out of pain. I'm living a normal life. And as I looked into this, I found out this is not just about illness. We all have stories and we are protecting ourselves emotionally through stories. So we create physical circumstances to get us out of those emotional problems. So it applies how much money you make. It applies to who your friends are, whether you're in relationships, how much success, how much visibility. For instance, if you say I want to make a lot more money this year and I say, are you okay with people coming up and asking you for money when you have lots of you? No, no, I don't want to do that. I don't want to be gilted into giving money or pressured. And like, well, those are emotional distress. And your mind says, well, I don't want to go through that emotional distress. I'll just not make the money. So consciously you're trying to make a lot of money and unconsciously your mind's like, I got your back. We're going to be fine. We're not going to make money. And that's what I call reality addiction. You are addicted to staying in the exact same reality that you've been in. So that you stay safe. And like some people know my kind of thing, how is that possible? I had a thing called the trap, nor of my early 20s. And I found the book recently. I actually have it there. And I logged every single thing that I did. I like acupuncture, faith healer, spiritually, anything. I was trying to clear a factor every single thing and not myself. They gave me an epidural. They didn't help. And then they said you get an operation because they said, oh, they're just bulging onto the thing. And that didn't help bite her. And I was a loo. I came across a book healing a back pain by chapter John Sarno. And I was kind of mentally and I was going to grandmother in two weeks. And I was like, and then I've recommended that to loads of people. So that's a people kind of think that something is deep down to something gone off. That's what I was doing it. And even underneath, because I mean, I've heard a lot of people. I remember like my father passed three years, but I remember he used to be saying, no, he's knee and everything. And I read, I forget which book it was, but there was one book where they tested a lot of people and they pretended on the operation by just putting it and they got the same results. And it was like the, the research. Yeah. Yeah. It's like unless you know about it and gone through it, sometimes people go, as impossible, but it is just like where it was wounds there and they come out in the body. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. There was one case where the woman chief physically had a tumor while she was conscious. And so they would sedate her to do the operation on the tumor and they'd open her up. The tumor's not there. And what the hell? It was on the scans. You know, it's there. They close her up. They bring her up and then she's, the tumor comes back and they were trying to feel what the hell? They put her under again. The tumor is gone. They bring her back. The tumor comes back. And it's like, how was it disappearing? It appearing. This is crazy. And so finally they said when they, when, because each time they checked her and they looked in the, the tumor's back so they let her know it's back. Finally they said, oh, the tumor is gone. Right. They just lied to her. And then they checked and the tumor was gone. Right. The who do you need to tumor? Yeah. That's not really. So like I know that you've been in a lot of different countries and because, you know, when you explore, I mean, I'm Irish living in Poland, but I've also went to a talent twice for a full month in Croatia. I love going to different things, but you learn a lot from it. I'm not sure how long you were in the different countries, but you might kind of tell me your journeys and what you picked up from the different places you would have done. So I was in a co-op program in college, which meant we did exchanges with other countries. There's students came here. We went there. So I first spent four months in Germany. And yeah, it was a beautiful country. It was interesting because when you go to country, there are, we'll call them unspoken rules because everyone in that culture just does it, so you don't discuss it. But then if you break the rules, people are like upset. And sometimes they'll tell you why and sometimes they're just looking at you like, what's wrong with you? And they don't voice it because in their mind, everyone knows you shouldn't do that. Right. So it's, it's kind of, it was kind of interesting. And I loved you. I absolutely loved Germany. Then I did six months in Japan, then I did two years in Australia. And then I started traveling across Canada. When I was in Australia, I actually stayed in Sydney, Brisbane, Perth, and Canberra. I lived multiple months in every city there. And then in Canada, I lived in Victoria, just south of Vancouver in British Columbia. I lived in Montreal. I lived in Halifax. I lived in New Brunswick and I lived in Newfoundland. So I just wanted to see the various provinces of my country and spent anywhere from six months to two years in each of these places. I'd do it soon. and just found that the culture changes across the country as much as the changes across the world. So it's been fascinating and I love traveling because as you discover new people and new cultures and the way they think, you also discover the commonalities. And if you haven't traveled, you have an opinion of people in another country that the French are this way or like it. And when you get in there, it's just people, right? There's they're trying to live within a specific structure but they're just people, they've got their hopes and their dreams and their flaws and their strengths. And you really fall in love with the rest of the world. And I think piece by piece, I'd be getting this experience that I don't know if you're seeing with the astronauts talk about when they look at Earth from space. And when you look at Earth from space, it's not like looking at a map. There's no borders. There's no color coding. There's no labels. It's just this one big organic place. And you're like, why are we dividing it? Why are we fighting about it? Like we're just this one or organism basically living on a planet and let's stop thinking the way we're thinking and just love each other. Absolutely. And I mean, you mentioned Germany. I've heard growing up, it was always like Germans bad and not talking about the war and everything. And I went to Berlin, I don't know how many years ago, but they were lovely, beautiful, loved it. Then I went to Munich, same thing. It's like you're told the story. And with the French, it's a bit different because I was in France. They hate English. And I've witnessed that. But as soon as they know your Irish, they're not as good in their Mad about you. But it's strange how we hear a story. And then we just go along with it. And then there's hatred. It's all about it. And just couldn't you kind of touch about the borders? And everything. And some other story I heard about you, that's what you experienced. And then kind of your own story onto that when you were going through barricade control, because I thought that was fascinating as well. Yeah. So I used to get stopped at every border I crossed. It started when I came back from a vacation with my friends to Brazil. And after we went through customs, a border agent came up and said, we need to ask you extra questions. And so I called to my friends and said, hey, they need to ask us on these extra questions. And he's like, no, not them, just you. And I looked at my friends are all white and I'm black. And I'm like, oh, OK. So after that, whenever I crossed the border, if I drove across Canada, U.S. border, if I flew to other countries, even coming back to Canada, I got stopped and asked extra questions. I got my person searched. I got my luggage searched. And it was frustrating. Sometimes it was humiliating, it delayed things, it cost me money. And it was just my life every single time. And there was one time I even went to Spain to Madrid. And I'd finally crossed the border without getting stopped. And I'd say, hey, things are changing, things are looking up. Except then I'm in the city, and an undercover officer comes up and asks me for my passport. And I'm like, what is going on? And he looks at my passport and he says, you don't have a visa. I'm like, well, I don't need a visa. Canada can't even still need a visa. So he goes, no, you need a visa. So he takes me and he takes me to jail. And when he takes me there, I'm like, with all these other black people that have just been thrown in jail. And they process us and it involved going to all our stuff. There was actually a strip search we had to go through, which was humiliating. And it was just like, what is going on here with my life? And I was talking to one of my coaches about my border crossing stories. And he looks at me and like the whole thing with what I teach is everything his stories. And he said, well, trust. Are you ready to step out of this story? And I'm not really pissed because I'm like, this is not a story. This is racism. I've watched it. Just in a room full of all these other black guys that have been single that and thrown in jail. It's real. It's what's going on. So don't tell me this is a story. And he said, sure, yes, racism is real. Racisms are bad thing. But what's going on with you is a story. And I'm like, how is it a story? Because and he said, well, because you don't get denied jobs because you're black. You don't get stopped in traffic because you're black. There's all these things going on with the typical black person living in this country that not of it happens to you. It's only crossing borders. That's a story. And I'm like, OK, I see where you're going with this. But every story has a benefit. It's protecting you from emotional distress or it's giving you an emotional fix of some sort. And I don't see it. So I'm frustrated. I'm humiliated. I'm tired. Like, there's no positive outcome to this experience. And he looked at me and he said, sure, when you tell your border crossing stories to people, you light up. And I'm like, what? And he goes, yes, you feed off their reaction to your stories. It feels like love to you. It's a full-oil subentitement to you. The reactions that they have to you being stopped over and over again. And you can't keep telling the same border crossing as they'll get bored of it. So you have to keep creating new stories. So you have new materials so you can get your fix. And I was like, oh my god, I do love their reactions. The shock on their faces like, oh my god, again, sure, it's again. And so then I made a decision there, just like I did with the authorities. I said, you know what? I can get love. I can get surprise reactions and this attention from success rather than struggle. So what if instead of getting it from being crossing borders and getting stuck, I got it from, oh my god, do you have that success level? You had a great event. You, you, you know, you've helped this person in a powerful way. And I made that decision. That's what I'm going to do instead. That's work. Because I knew now that I'd learned about reality addiction that every time someone did that, I got a dopamine hit. I, they were shocked. I get a dopamine hit. I said, look, see, I did it again. So I had to switch the addiction to something else. I said, let's switch it to the success rather than struggle. Because that's the quickest way to switch your, your addictions and get into a new addiction. And so I did that. And I have never been stopped at a border since then. And my success has gone wildly up because I need my fix. Wow, you accomplished that. That's incredible. And so, and this, this is what, what I teach people is like, let's get you out of the addiction to whatever that negative thing is. Like I don't make enough money or my, my, I don't get the big enough impact with my clients or, or even just people don't listen to me or whatever it is. You may feel like it's a bad thing, but there's always a positive outcome to you emotionally. You just don't know what it is. And sometimes it's as simple as you get to be right. And I've seen people choose to be right over being rich, over being successful, over being happy because it feels so good to be right. And I invite people to say, what if being wrong is the best thing for you? And I'm like, what? And I said, you don't have to be wrong all the time. But what if you had, we're to say things like by the end of the year, it's like, wow, I didn't think I'd make an extra million dollars. I guess I was wrong. Is that such a bad thing? Like, like, because you, you've mentioned, no, you're not. You, you had the coaching and everything. And it's your like helping people go through to us. And something, sometimes people are conscious of it. And they know and you can help them. But how do you navigate when someone's not conscious of what's going on with them? So every consistent problem you've got in your life is the solution to an emotional problem. You're not looking at it. So if you, if you look at that problem and say, what's the hidden benefit here, that can lead you to the actual issue? When I work with people and we look at that problem, I can tell when your conscious beliefs match your unconscious beliefs, it's a technique I learned. It's something I teach. And so you may be working with me and say, you know, I'd like to make an extra million dollars this year. I'll say, no, no, you don't. That's not actually coming up truth. And then from those truths and the weak and the unconscious lies, we'll call them, we can dig down to find out what the problem is. And so I've seen things like, it's unfair for some people to have a rich, cushy life while other people are struggling. That's a story that runs in a lot of people, especially hard-centered people. If that story is running in you, then you won't make yourself have a rich, cushy life because you'll feel guilty about it because how can you have that while other people are struggling? Meanwhile, consciously, you're trying to make money. And the conflict causes, you know, in the conflict, the subconscious typically wins out in that war and you keep getting the same results. So when I have the conversation with you, I'll ask you a question like that. Is it okay for you to have that cushy life? And you'll say, of course it is. And I'm like, nope, that's not coming up true. So now we know a story that needs to shift. Or it could be, I hate paying taxes. So you're trying to minimize how much you pay in taxes. So you minimize how much you make. I've seen a lot of people that they don't want to out- do someone else in their life. I don't want to make more money than my sister because she'll feel less than. I don't want to make money easy and in big amounts when my parents work so hard, I feel like I'm disrespecting them. These things all start coming out through the conversations. So what's been happening with a lot of people is you're trying to solve a physical problem. You're trying to strategize your way out of it. You're trying to use different pricing methods or marketing methods, but that's not the problem. The problem is this emotional belief that you don't want to break because you feel you're going to feel horrible if you do. And once you've tackled the emotional belief, it's incredible because this Einstein's definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. And if you change the belief, you can go back and do the exact same thing and get a different result. It's amazing. I've watched it happen because now you're not self-sabotaging. And as I farge talk as well, that's your own finances. So you were stuck at a level. So this is coming from experience as well. Yes. Why you're able to actually help people with that. Yeah, I was stuck at $100,000 for 20 years. Now 10 of the years I didn't know about any of this stuff, but the last 10 years I had learned about it, but I didn't apply it to myself because I was still thinking it's got to be some sort of strategy. I've got to work with the different coach. I've got to take a different program. I've got to do my programs a different way. And finally, when I was working with a coach, we found out that when I was a kid or a teenager, actually, I actually had friends and family that said, you know, we know you're going to be making millions. And I thought, that's amazing. And they said, yeah, and you know, you can have that house on the beach. You can be traveling the world. You can have the best life. And I'm like, oh, there's some fantastic. And then they, but then they added, and then we get to come hang out at your house and swim in your pool. You know, you can pay for us to fly with you because you got so much money. And my mind just freaked out. It's like, wait, what? I don't have to pay for all these people. And my mind made a decision that $100,000 a year is enough that I can live comfortably, but not so much that the masses will descend and expect me to pay for everything. And so that's what was happening for me for 20 years. And when I realized that belief was going on and I made this decision, okay, if they asked for money, I'm just like, no, right, without feeling guilty without feeling pressured is like, no, you can't have my money. I'm not going to spend my money on you. Now, that doesn't mean that's how I live all the time. There's times where I'm like, hey, you know what? It's on me because I feel good and let's do it as opposed to feeling pressured or guilted. And as soon as I made that decision that over the next year, I had a $100,000 to my income. And then as I continued to now, you know, do more work on me for other beliefs like that, I went to a million dollars in sales the year after that. And it's, yeah, it's horrible. It's incredible. Yeah. So I'm going to get vulnerable here. And I know because this isn't something that I say out to people. I mean, I've told my book, my story about kind of losing it. And I build up the idea of over 20 companies. I think I had my first million made by Turkey one or something like that. And then I had a law to real estate, lots of syndicates. And not only did I get wiped out, but I was personally labeled for about five million, cleared the decks, but I had a contentied on teen times. I'm conscious that no, I'm limiting myself. So I go from make it that everybody year stuff, then it's gone. Then I go in and I'm conscious of it because I know I have seen so much corruption and it's a henceway like city awake. Everything that I'm doing is exposing stuff. I've learned about sovereignty, about kind of protecting yourself. But I'm also conscious that as soon as I was making money, they emptied the account. And now I'm at a stage as I want to get past the level that I was before, but I know deep down the fair is there. And I really trying to figure out how to overcome. And I'm sure you've met all the people with it. So it's not just me. I'm going to I'm trying to figure out how to navigate that one because it's it's okay. I'm conscious of it. Okay. So is it okay to have lots of money? Yes. That's not coming up true. Okay. So that's why you're making it, but you're not keeping it. Right. You're fully capable of making it. You've demonstrated that multiple times. What your mind is like, but we can't keep it. We got to get rid of it. So if you have money, okay, there's a few, a few different things going on actually. If you have money, will people come for it? Not people because I surround myself with really good people, Baja, from experience, city, government, they tend to put their claws out. Okay. So you're trying to make sure they don't get their claws in it by getting rid of it first. Okay. So are you willing to step out of the story that you have to get rid of the money before some institution organization comes and gets it? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. You don't believe me. This is the one thing we didn't mention is when I do this and people start to shift and then believe start to change. Are you on and I cough? Okay. If you have money for a while, will it corrupt you? No. Are you willing to step out of the story that you have to get rid of the money before it corrupts you? Definitely not corrupt makers. That's something that's not in my thing. So that's not something that I would say. It's not corrupting me. It's always about like taking it away from the account and then trying to organize it in such a way that they don't have access to it. I get that, but when I asked if you have money, will it corrupt you? And you said no, it did not come up true. There's an unconscious thread in there that you're not even aware of. It says if I keep money for a while, I'll get corrupted. So I find that extremely strange and I'll tell you why because even when I was walking in Ireland, I was braved so many and I wouldn't take it. They'd be gone, hey, put increased this contract and you'll get this and I would never, I could not be bought and even the jackpot. Yeah, I can't be bought. And I get that. So at the same time, who's trying to buy you the people with money? And your mind is like, well, the people with money, that's what they do. So if you have money, then you're like the people with money and that's what they do. And your brain's like, I don't ever want to be like that. So let's make sure we don't keep the money on the off chance that it might happen. This is the thing. It doesn't have to be certain. It just has to be this little sliver of on the off chance that that might possibly happen at some point. Let's shut it down. So you are hitting the nail on the head, because I have these talks with my business partner, who's being cautioned for like, and what he mentioned is I talk about a few of the people I know that are extremely wealthy. And as always, about the bad side of the different things that they're doing. And he's saying that he made like what you're saying there, doesn't the association that if I get wealthy, I'm going to become like them. Yeah. So are you willing to step out of the story that if you, if you get wealthy, if you, if you don't get rid of that money, you might, you might become like them. Absolutely. And that isn't the story that I'm sick. I want. I know now here's the thing that didn't actually shift. And when you answered me, as you said, absolutely, you went absolutely. No, I'm being courtly honest. My friend, it's ironult, who's the brain gym guy. He said that to me a few times. He said, you're saying one thing and your head is doing the opposite. And then he's caught me out and loads of things. I'm like, shit, what's this? Yeah. Because you're so passionate about not becoming like that. You're holding onto this belief because your mind thinks if I let go of the belief, suddenly it's going to happen, which is untrue. Right? Because the belief is just keeping you, keeping you stuck. It's like, like, let's just get rid of the money because I don't want, I don't want to feel that way of being, being that person that's greedy and is just trying to bribe people and corrupt other people. So what's going to, so what happens is we got push energy and full energy. So push energy is, I don't want this to happen. And this is where a lot of people are. I don't want to become corrupt. I don't want to be pressured. I don't want to be guilted. And so there's this push energy. And push energy locks you into the belief that you're in the situation you're in because you think if I stop doing that, then the opposite will happen. Pull energy is where you're being pulled towards a great outcome. And so just like, I'm going to have money. It's going to be fun. And there's going to be so much freedom. I don't have so much joy. Now, you can only do one of these at any given time. Right. So you can stop yourself from being corrupted or you can move towards joy. And so when you make the decision to stop being in push energy, now you can put all your energy into creating a joy of being wealthy. Right. The fear is, is, okay, no, but if I stop doing push energy, then I'll now be okay with being corrupted. No, it just means your attention comes off this, which is just locking things in place, stopping things from happening. And it could go fully into, let's create the amazing life. And that's actually what could happen, but it's not what your mind thinks. And when you logically get this, that if I stop holding onto that belief, and the opposite doesn't happen, it's like, you know, if you're, if one time when you were a kid, you were playing and you were by an unstable wall in the wall fell. And you ended up in the hospital, right? And you're like, "Oh my God, I had the scars from it." And I know walls are unsafe. You've created this belief that walls are unsafe. So now you're an adult, and whenever you go in the room, you either go right to the center of the room, or if you're in your wall, you keep pushing against the wall, right, that's the push energy. And people are like, "Well, why do you keep leaning against these walls and pushing out the wall?" Because if I don't, the wall will fall. And they're like, "What? Are you crazy?" And I said, "No, it's happened. I've experienced it. I've got the scars. I know this is reality." And they're like, "You're crazy. Like you keep leaning against the walls." And it's like, "That's your push energy." And you've got the evidence. Like you've seen it. And then this is what else happens. This is how people justify the reality. Once it's happened to you once, you'll look for it happening to other people. See it happened to that person. It happened to, and it may not have been happened that often, but you'll be on YouTube searching for people at very, very early. - High five, the call to our stations, but a lot of people say, "Yeah, so you're saying, "the magnet effect I'm attracting them." - Yeah. And so now you've got evidence, you've got justification. This is why I have to push all the time. And then when you finally get it through your brain, it's like, "Okay, let's just not push." And the wall's not falling. It's like, "Oh my God, all these years." That's what we're trying to train your brain to do. So are you willing to step out of the story that if you have money, it will corrupt you. - Yes, I'm willing to step out of the stuff. Ooh, yeah, that was a big one. Are you willing, and this is the thing, because now it's still the push energy, so it's gonna sound a little weird, but just go with me. Are you willing to step out of the story that you have to do whatever it takes to make sure you're never like those people that bribe other people and take advantage of them? - Yes. - Okay, oh yeah, that feels a little better. How does that feel to you? - It feels good, feels like a release. - Yeah, and that's it. See, a lot of times the way you can gauge this is when I talk about this and I talk about those people. How emotionally are you invested in that? It's like, oh, I hate those people. That shows you something's going on. I way to lightens up to the point like, okay, that's who they are, that's what they've been taught. Then there's less emotional impact and you want to just basically remove the emotional impact, then you create freedom. - I'm just curious, because I'm constantly kind of reflecting on everything in life, questioning every belief system and everything. And I've had a few, I mean, I talked about my back, which was fairly bad because I had about five years of that. But I took my son to Turkey two years ago, I think I three years ago, two years ago, actually it was in May. And we were barefoot ball and then I was running along, just getting the ball. I went, and next, I snapped my groin area, which can't be repaired. I said, if you're a professional star, you go, and the next morning I fell down the stairs and I ripped my ting, right? - Wow. - And how I question it, I'm not sure you're aware, but I actually wear it again. - Praise Derek, because I Christmas, my mom was Derek, my son was there and I said, we go painting and I said, oh, I have some sort of stuff out in the garage. And I slipped and I fractured my back, L1, Vorkabea and Pelvis. Yeah, it did it right there. - Wow, okay. - But I was talking with my friend down. I was like, what I've noticed is, it's always when I'm at my malls to relax. Is that something surfacing? Because it never happens when I'm deep in the woods trying to get stuff done and organized and things. It's always when I'm, okay, I'm stepping away from everything. And this is my time at my son, this is the time at my family. That's when serious injuries have happened. And I mean, I've done loads of things. I jumped out of my plane. I've been more than biking for five years that he'd come full for eight years, worse than when I was kind of as chilled as ever. And I'm just wondering, is there a connection? Do you always have to be on guard? - I suppose with what I'm doing, I'm attacked a lot. - Okay. - You know, like sensors to be even, I've been removed from every platform and like TikTok's gone to YouTube channels removed. As well as, I mean, like the comments that I guess, I just kind of ignore it, I report it, or I delete it. I don't let them get in. But at the same time, unconscious of people doing things like that in the UK or not a place, and they just lock them all. - Yeah. So if you've created a story that you have to always be on guard, whenever you're relaxed, you have to have to make sure something bad happens to say, no, see? No relaxation for use, they on guard. So are you willing to step out of this story that you have to always be on guard or something bad will happen? - Yes, I'm stepping out of that story. - Yeah, 'cause otherwise you'll live in a flight of a constant flight or a flight or a response. And that's not good for your system. - No, that's not it. - No, that's not it. - Yeah. Okay. Yeah, it's interesting because people have this, there's a general story out there that if you don't worry about something you don't care. And it's absolutely not true because you could not worry about it and still strategize about how to solve it. So if it could be like, I have bills to do with the end of the month, I don't know if I'm gonna have the money to pay for it. So I gotta be worried. And no, you could just say, okay, I don't have the money. Let's strategize how I can pay all those bills and there's no worry in that. Right, so when you think about it, in which situation are you gonna be more effective? The one where you're worried all month, am I gonna do it? Am I gonna do it? Or the one where you're a common is like, oh, why don't we try this? And hey, why don't we research this and then implement this? Like shit, the worry actually makes things worse. But we've associated worry with caring. And we do that in a lot of aspects of life. And when you get out of it and say, okay, well, this is what's happening with other people, then you can say, from a strategy point of view, how do I navigate it so it doesn't happen with me? Right, with zero worry. And that's because one thing I advise people to do is take yourself out of you. It's amazing that if something happens to something else, someone else, we go, oh, we'll just do this. And it seems so simple, we'll just try this out. But if it happens with me, oh my God, what do I do? This is awful. Like we add this whole layer of emotion that stops us from being effective. So when you're trying to solve your problem, pretend you're trying to solve someone else's problem. And when you make it about someone else, it actually gets easier to solve the problem and get to the solution. Excellent, excellent. And just, I mean, obviously you're dealing with a lot of claims. Is there like some common patterns that people would once they hear it to go, oh, that's me. I mean, my story obviously has happened to other people as well. I know maybe not. But there's probably a few other things that people kind of go through the same. There are so many. And when I do workshops, just yesterday, someone was talking about something. And it was an issue I'd never heard before. And I'm like, really? That's what's going on with you. And there were like a whole bunch of people in the room. And the chats started to blow up. It's like, oh my God, I have that too. Oh, I have that too. And I'm like, I've been doing this for 10 years. No one's brought this up. And when someone does all these other people have it. So yeah, I've never really found anyone to have unique problems that other people don't have. It may be a slightly different flavor. It's about my mom versus my mom. my aunt versus, you know, my boss, but it's, there's a lot of just common problems out there that people are running the stories and when you shift, if other people are hearing about what your story is, like in any given room, five, like a hundred people in the room, one person brings up a story at least 50% of the room has that story. Usually around 80 to 90% of the people in the room have that story. So it's incredible. So you're doing, I mean, this is just a lot of gold on the 25th. So you're doing an event this weekend, I believe. Yes. On the 27th, February 27th to March 1st, it's called Business Magic Live. And we're doing the event. It's for business owners that are looking to break that six-figure ceiling. So it's basically like me where I was stuck at six figures for 20 years. And I'm like, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. What you're doing wrong may be nothing physically. You may be doing everything right, but your unconscious mind is like, nope, we're not going over six figures. That's something bad will happen. So in the workshop, we are going to do a lot of work on your beliefs to remove as many as there as we can find that keep you from going over six figures and staying there. And as well, there's going to be vision strategies on creating a six-figure business because some people just don't have the skills and you need both. You need the mindset and the skills. The thing I found though is if you don't have the right mindset, you can have all the skills and you won't use them. You'll use them badly. You'll forget. Like it's your mind to just say, nope, nope, I know this is going to work, but we're going to make sure it doesn't work. So that's what the event is all about so that you come out in a mindset and with the skills to make a consistent six-figure business. And if you've already made six figures, the mindset shifting will take you to another six figures. I've come across a lot of people. They'll get to three or four million, lose it all, do it again, lose it all. So they'd be helped as well in that game. They'd be up. I actually had someone in one of my workshops and he'd built like 90 different businesses. And seven figure plus earner and he just wanted to come check out what I did. And a five minute exchange I had with someone else caused a shift in him. That was so powerful that he did an extra $3.8 million next year. And it stopped his yo-yo experience because he said, the businesses go up and then they come down to the office. And now he's got stable businesses. And he's creating more and it was all because of that five minute shift that I was working on someone else. So that's how powerful these sessions can be. Excellent. I was listening. I was totally in jet conversation. Appreciate your help with dealing with my own situation. You might let listeners know where to find you and also how they can find this event. So you can go to energeticmagic.com and the way to contact me is on there and the event information is in there. And I also do a monthly free workshop. And right on the homepage you can find out how to join that workshop in case you're listening to this after the event. You'll be able to come and experience for yourself what I just did. Roy and see what shifts in your mind. I see what you've seen in your reality. No, I'll make sure I put your links on the other one in the video. And for those maybe just listening, I'd encourage you to actually watch the video on Bitchujubo Rumble because he's got a fantastic background like a Superman bookshelf and a nice painting as well. And this is the book for those that are I think integrated so I put the link as well on the platform to get that. But thank you very much, Shares. Thank you, Roy. That's all for the speaking podcast.