Influencer Killed on TikTok Live & Internet Suspect Her BFF Did It To “Destiny Swap”

have you ever heard of the term destiny swapping the term was thrown around a lot on tiktok at the end of last year it's a term with the definition and the mechanisms of how do destiny swap how it's done they're still debated practically every tiktok that you see explaining exactly what destiny swapping is you're gonna see some sort of well that's not exactly what it is in the comments and then a different explanation for destiny swapping one person states the definition is a little dark and complicated it involves using negative energy including jealousy to impact someone's life and take their blessings which is like very vague and ominous another person states a destiny swap occurs when one person tries to take another person's life like their spiritual gifts finances friends or job for their own destiny swapping is usually rooted in jealousy and insecurity like they they want to take what your future holds for you for themselves some say destiny swapping feels like someone is entering your life under the guise of being a friend but you start noticing that they seem a little jealous of you like that's how it always starts while at the same time they copy the smallest minute details of your life and this has nothing to do with gatekeeping this is not just oh i love your jacket where did you get it i'm gonna buy the same one do you care but this is copying your tiniest little smallest mannerisms you're your habits small i mean everybody copies everybody's mannerisms the longer you're hanging out but it's just the small things that you don't naturally pick up it's almost like they're making an effort to emulate you small little stylistic choices they say it's usually when someone becomes unusually focused on your life not just your clothes or your style your entire life your relationships your routine that you think is mundane decisions why you make decisions the admiration or curiosity starts to build up and you're like oh my god i'm gonna do this and then it starts feeling like they're doing a lab study on you and that individual may also be condemning what you do critiquing why you make certain decisions but then they go ahead and they replicate it they go and they do the same thing that you wanted to do that they talked you out of and they gain the success for themselves that you had planned for yourself one person writes a long plea on reddit please could you pray for me i believe my former partner's new girlfriend has destiny swapped me the original poster writes about how she was into the occult for a long time she received a reading from this very trusted psychic this is like may of 2025 and she gets this reading and the reader is telling her that she's going to get pregnant with a little baby boy with her boyfriend at the time the baby boy will be born february 2026 and she writes soon after that my ex of six years he cheated on me with this girl that he had known for a week got with her the day after we ended she's also very spiritual and i believe she practiced practices she's like made a few comments about it but anyway guess who found out they were pregnant with a little boy in may of 2025 and gave birth in february of 2026 the new girl she says since then she's faced constant job rejections she feels like she's in a slump that she cannot get over she feels drained as if living the same life over and over again getting into arguments with her family facing financial difficulties she's like is this destiny swapping she feels like it is one person asks spirituality reddit is destiny swapping real i strongly believe my friend is trying to destiny swap with me every time she complains about something the same thing she's complaining about miraculously starts happening to me and then it kind of resolves in her life she kind of solves that problem in her own life but it's unfolding for me this has been happening for years about multiple different things across all different things like love life financial problems family problems and now career related stuff as well please help me i am desperate like how do i solve this it seems difficult to know how i'm going to solve this and i don't know how i'm going to solve this and i don't know how i'm going to solve this and i don't know how i'm going to solve this and i don't know how i'm going sometimes you could maybe have a bad friend who is unknowingly unwittingly destiny swapping with you and you don't even know it it's hard to say what exactly constitutes as someone trying to destiny swap i have watched so many tiktoks on this i've read so many reddit threads on this and it is still unclear to me some say it's very simple like it's not even that big someone obsessively copying mirroring you a person in your life starts dressing like you talking like you your exact dreams or becoming fixated on your every move see it's common like sometimes friends will dress similarly sometimes friends will be in the same industry but someone who's doing everything the same as you they want to dress like you they want to eat like you they want to go into the same field as you an example is an acquaintance who begins adopting your unique style career path and even mannerisms right before your own progress halts that's when you know someone's trying to destiny swap someone comments someone tell jeff bezos to watch out because once i figure this out it's over for him a tiktoker however thinks it's much more serious than that they say it starts feeling like your goals are now their goals and they act like they were never your goals it was always theirs they might even mess with your mind if you confront them they might say things like that was never your goal you never told me that's what you wanted to do i don't remember you telling me that i don't recall that even though you recall that they will make you feel like you're crazy and then they will talk you out of your destiny they want the world to think that they are the ones who have predetermined this course of event they are the ones who set this goal they want other people to think they are the creative ones they are the originator they act like they're being a good friend a good person a good family member a good partner but what they're really doing is talking you out of your predetermined course of events and they're talking you out of your own destiny so they can take it one person says you may notice that that same exact person has their best luck immediately after you suffer a misfortune in this case they may be drawing energy from you and using it to fuel the destiny swap but one reddit comment seems reassuring they write for reference nobody can steal your identity your fate is tied to you and you can't really tamper with it in this way if it would be possible it would take a phenomenally skilled practitioner not just joe public others say no don't listen to this person it's very real and it's very serious however it's also serious for the person trying to destiny swap they say the person who wants to destiny swap is going to suffer misfortune in the long run because fate works really hard to restore itself and the person who wanted the swap will usually suffer the consequences typically once the destiny swap is reversed because it is always reversed that person will eventually lose everything that they've gained as a result of the exchange but what if they don't like what if they successfully destiny swap when tiktoker ominously puts it like this the most dangerous part of destiny swapping is they want to be the only one to experience the predetermined course of events so it goes from wanting a piece of your destiny to wanting to be the only person that has your destiny they want you to not even be on the same course they want to be the only one to get to that destination they have now decided that's my destination and i want to be the only one to get there and of course to be the only one they got to take you out fully that is what a lot of people believe may have happened to a famous influencer in mexico valeria it's believed by many netizens that someone that was so close to her was so jealous of her she wanted to live her life wanted to have her destiny so badly she took her out this is the case of 23 year old valeria marquez and how she was shot and killed during a tiktok live stream and nobody thinks the real killer is the gunman they think it's one of her closest friends and someone who wanted her life you we would like to thank today's sponsors who have made it possible for rotten mango to support n-lands community a non-profit dedicated to eliminating gender inequality and intimate partner violence in the latino immigrant community in central new mexico this episode's partnerships have also made it possible to support rotten mango's team of dedicated researchers and translators we'd also like to thank our listeners for your continued support as always full show notes are available at rottenmangopodcast.com today's case has mentions of gun gender and potential cartel-based violence please take a break if you need to thank you to our professional translators who helped us navigate this case there was a lot going on and with that said let's get started valeria marquez is most often compared to a real life barbie in mexico she's got blonde hair i mean albeit it is dyed but she does have the blonde hair she's got the blue eyes and those blue eyes are natural she just has these absolutely like unreal body proportions and i'm not saying that as in like oh she's had work done she has had work done and she is very open and honest about it but her proportions are like straight out of a barbie box she looks like a barbie she's stunning she's got her own business she recently opened up her own beauty spa the blossom beauty lounge it kind of worked out perfectly i mean she's got like a social media following they follow her for her looks she's been open about the treatments she gets and now you can go straight to the source plus she's like the built-in marketing for the spa may 13 2025 valeria starts a tiktok live stream at the salon the live stream itself lasts just under an hour about 55 minutes and the majority of the live stream i would say is pretty mundane like there's really nothing out of the ordinary occurring except i mean the fact that it appears valeria wants to go home like she just wants to go home from the spa earlier but she's staying because one of her employees informs her there's a guy looking for you so there's this kind of like this side conversation happening throughout the entire live stream and she's like what guy and the employee is telling her i don't don't know some delivery man came and he was looking for you he's like are you valeria and i was like no i'm just her employee but she's gonna be back in an hour because she had gone to the doctors and he's like well i have a package for her and it's very expensive so the employee's like well i'll take it like that's my boss i'm just she's gonna come back to the salon in an hour and he said no no i have to give it straight to valeria so i can't leave it with you but i'll be back okay so she found out about this in the middle of her live stream she found out a little bit before and she's explaining to her live stream viewers what's happening and why she's still at the spa even though there's no customers anymore it's just her and her employee waiting for this mysterious delivery man and she doesn't know what it is but her employee was like i think it looked like an expensive gift but he didn't say who it was from like he didn't say anything he just said he had to drop it off with you 50 minutes into the live stream a delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and and and and and and and and and and and and and and a delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and I'm with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the deliver man walks in with said mysterious present. and then the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present. and then the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present. and then the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present and the delivery man walks in with said mysterious present. - Hmm, the wife and. - Wives and girlfriends. the biggest narcos like the biggest traffickers cartel members and they're famous yeah they're famous widely known like the el chapo's wife is the most famous one yeah she is like kind of symbolic of this exact lifestyle in term that we're about to get into and i think it has to do with the fact that i mean i'm not sure exactly on the exact statistics because i don't think they're filing taxes and identifying themselves but i'm not sure exactly how many traffickers are women but i would imagine most narco traffickers are still predominantly men so naturally they date people and people identify those people and start you see almost this lifestyle around it there is a slang term that's used to reference some of them and our researchers say it's like a very common term it's not like derogatory or anything but it's um buchonas so it's it comes from the word of like a very high end well-loved liquor brand from the sinaloa cartel that they all drank okay it's like confusing it's hard to describe the word called the girlfriend and the wife's that term buchonas but yes but it's also a lifestyle so it's a word that became popular in sinaloa mexico and it's just at first it's like a way to describe the very extravagant girlfriends of new age narcos so again like emma from el chapo like el chapo's wife right and it can broadly be referencing all narco wives and girlfriends like some people use it to categorize anyone who dates any narco okay or it can just be referencing a very specific type of girlfriend who dates a trafficker usually they are identifiable um and i was like reading through a lot of the translated almost like historian type articles that were written so people who are studying these trends like mexican journalists who are studying the rise of the narco culture and narco world usually they wear tight and flashy clothing understated is not the goal they like brand names typically versace and louis vuitton those are like the two long hair long nails coke bottle body proportions makeup is done in a very dramatic fashion heavy on the eyeshadow eyeliner fake lashes usually there's a lot of emphasis on breast augmentations liposuction bbls i will say there is a link between the cartel and cosmetic surgery since many cartel traffickers are known to pay for their girlfriends cosmetic surgeries and sometimes all of their girlfriends one famous surgeon was interviewed by journalists and he said you know there was one single high up cartel member who came in paid for 30 women's different surgeries all paid in cash his 30 girlfriends i don't know if it's all at the same time but it seems like in a short span of time you would have to think that there's some overlap for sure wow yeah huh yeah that's not as i guess relevant but the word buchona now means a lot of things so at first it was basically just anyone who dates a trafficker but then it transforms into okay well it's the type of women who date a trafficker and they all have a certain look to them think like kim kardashian lauren sanchez look then it was no it's anyone who is involved in the narco lifestyle that is involved in the narco lifestyle and they all have a certain look that is a woman so it's like an aesthetic right it's it's like you know how y2k is an aesthetic this is kind of the narco aesthetic it's more of like a blanket term for a lifestyle affiliated with cartels or not it's just an aesthetic it's to describe a woman who likes to show off what god and her surgeon may have given her which is nothing wrong with that and someone who doesn't hide the fact that they have very large personalities like a woman who doesn't hide the fact that she's very vocal and strong and they like to party and they like to meet people including men and like what's wrong with that that is a woman's prerogative after all okay but one mexican reporter describes the lifestyle as they represent glamour and authority in their own way you know you have these powerful women it's not this mexican women who is submissive without money these women have chanel gucci they it's a search it's almost a search for an identity of power there was even a show called las buchonas which followed the lives of four women with ties to cartels i guess it's kind of like mob wives it's kind of like a search for an identity of power that's the vibe i get it's like mob wives like we went through a trend where we were obsessed with mob wives like we wanted to know who was dating which mob boss who was in federal prison you know what i mean what's the difference oh just like regions yeah i guess instead of the mob and the mafia it's just the cartel i see i see right which i mean i guess we can sit here and debate which one has the more harmful net negativity to humankind as a whole but you know it's essentially the same thing you're dating someone who has a lot of power and a lot of money that is not in organized crime right now there are times it obviously gets a little bit out of control normalizing drug trafficking and glorifying the lifestyle is objectively not a good thing that i would encourage anyone to do however one viral incident has pissed off a lot of mexican netizens because someone decided to throw their eight-year-old daughter a buchona style birthday party not just with like the style of clothing and makeup which is already you know it's fine as an adult but not fine if you're eight years old but also by providing prop alcohol bottles and prop guns to take pictures with and it's interesting i will say though because sometimes the wives and girlfriends of drug traffickers are looked down upon more than the drug traffickers themselves which i thought is fascinating it's kind of sick and twisted and sad okay don't get me wrong i think drug trafficking is looked down upon everywhere right but there is you know somewhat of a sentiment of well if certain governments cannot help you and people are born into a the only thing around them is this option that they need to put food on the table perhaps they did not get into it out of greed but rather survival is it still bad yes but like there's still more of a nuanced take that type of grace does not lend itself to the wags of narcos for some reason like the women are considered shallow and gold diggers and never really given the same small amount of grace i guess that like well maybe there was no other way for them to put food on the table and find safety but anyway it's it's just interesting it's fascinating so they are like mostly looked down upon by the mass yes i would say most mexican netizens do not like this flaunting of this lifestyle i mean i guess it's the same in the u.s like if you see pictures on facebook of people holding wads of cash and guns you're like um yeah yeah that's not good i wouldn't want my kid to do that i don't have kids or you know whoever i see now do all drug traffickers and their romantic interests come from such backgrounds where there really is nothing to do but survive off of trafficking probably not but it's just i think it's interesting that the women always get ripped apart quicker and more than the traffickers it's like kind of weird it's almost seems like a bigger moral sin to date a trafficker than it is to be a trafficker i think it's idiotic but no one asked for my opinion ever the batona lifestyle has a lot of nuanced debate around it and valeria is a very famous mexican influencer that some people associated with that lifestyle if she but do do we know if she is a mexican influencer she kept it under wraps whilst she was alive um so there was always suspicions um she i think people started picking up different things right in the beginning when when she was still alive i don't think people had confirmation whether or not she was emulating a lifestyle because that was her personal style and interest or whether she was involved with someone who is a trafficker because it's also an aesthetic now so it's very confusing of like was it just an aesthetic that she really liked because there's a lot of women in sinaloa specifically who have made influencer careers clothing companies based off of the lifestyle but it's unclear whether or not they have any relation to any cartel or have ever dated a trafficker so is it like a situation like that i mean she's very open i mean her look i guess people immediately identify to be part of this lifestyle which i'm not entirely sure if it makes sense but she's very open about her cosmetic procedures everyone called her a trafficker the real life barbie and i also think it's very refreshing for the audience because she embraced the nickname but she's also like so straightforward that her doctor had a lot to do with it she states i've had breast augmentation surgery liposuction rib reduction fat transfer to my hips my butt cheek reduction surgery like the buckle fat removal and that's it and she's got like a very curvy yet slim figure she dyes her hair blonde she's got natural blue eyes this was another point where people were like well now i'm confused she would post a lot of pictures of herself on yachts private planes parties which is not unlike a lot of influencers in the u.s where they're always on yachts and we're like how are you on a yacht we don't know nobody knows right so netizens are just kind of wondering how can she afford such a lifestyle and that naturally leads people to speculating that she's involved with anarcho is she a big time influencer or she's pretty big i would think that maybe got bigger after her death but she's pretty big yeah and very widely liked there's also a video of her trying to carry a giant bouquet of roses that she received as a present which in mexico big bouquets of red roses are i mean same here sign of affection yes but like mainly a sign of wealth they're often referred to as ramo buchon so bouquet buchon like buchon again references someone associated with drug trafficking culture So like bouquet and then drug trafficking lifestyle, because I guess Those are typically the people who flaunted and will follow this trend. And it does take quite a bit of money too. It's like a very specific aesthetic, right? So people are like, well, but does that mean that she's dating a trafficker? We don't really know. And she's always kind of, she's like weirdly private about her dating life, but not private. So she'll tell us about things that happened with her ex-boyfriend, but she won't straight up tell us who she was dating. She'll post some pictures, but his face is hidden, right? So it's kind of like you kind of get an idea, but not really. Now, she also does have a very big personality. So people just assumed that's also part of her dating a trafficker. I'm not a narc. I don't even know. Just by looking at her, her clothing, her lifestyle, I don't know if she even falls into this category, but they say she did. She just, to me, seems like a normal girl just having fun. I watched a lot of her live streams that are researchers translated, and she just has blunt humor and people keep trying to say, oh, this is that lifestyle. And I just think that she's just blunt. Like in a video, her, her uncle, who is a hairdresser, is doing her hair and she's responding to live comments. She's live streaming. Someone makes a dig at her in the comments. And it's like, do you come from Shein? Calling her factory made and cheap. She reads it out loud and quickly responds. Oh, they, they ask her, do you come from Timu? Basically insinuating that she's factory made and cheap. And she reads it out loud and quickly responds, actually from Shein babes. And she doesn't even seem bothered in the slightest. Like, in fact, she seems slightly amused by her own response, but her uncle is defending her. Those girls who comment, like, I want to see them in person. What are they, Dior or something? And she clarifies, well, it was a guy that commented. But then another person tries to be snarky, asking, what do you have that is natural? And she thinks about it for a second. And she says, my eyes, my nose and my feelings. And she starts chuckling at her own words. And like, if having a big personality and having Barbie-like proportions and being a girl's girl is a certain lifestyle, like maybe we should all join that lifestyle. Valeria's audience seems to primarily be, other girls and women. She had her own private Instagram channel where she would drop messages, pictures, stories about her life. It's called Personal Girlfriends. And just a quick disclaimer, the conversation of Buchona Lifestyles and her potentially dating traffickers is going to be relevant after her death. So I'm not just talking in depth about it, even though it's unrelated. It's going to be pretty pertinent to the investigation into her passing. Now, there's a lot of Valeria's digital footprints that have since gone viral again with after her passing, with people, digging up old posts. One of the circulating ones is not long before her death. Valeria posts a screenshot of text messages between her and a friend of hers. The point seems to be showcasing their very goofy banter that they have joking about Valeria's love life. And we don't get too much context. So some people pick it apart to understand Valeria's love life because they think her passing has to do with her love life. Others think it's unrelated. So there's a lot of different interpretations. But she is texting one of her best friends, like her public friends, like her public best friend, who is also posting on TikTok and Instagram all the time. Her name is Vivian. So Vivian texts Valeria something. People think it's about how she should get back together with her ex. The ex being a suspected trafficker is what people think, okay? But Valeria responds, Ha ha ha, I would rather shit in my soup. Vivian writes back, Bitch, I know you want it, ha ha ha. She says, I mean, yes. And Vivian says, I will throw some lime at you. So lime, I guess, is, has some sort of, like, purifying context. Like, I'm going to purify you, right? And she said, but no, ha ha ha. So Valeria is like, yes, but no, like, I would never. They joke about how the thing has died. I don't know if it's the love or whatever. And she's like, not even in my nightmares would I. So Valeria is talking very strongly about how she would never get back to her, get together with her ex, is what the conversation seems like. Now, this is where people think it's weird. Because Vivian texts her, the only one visiting you, basically insinuating that Valeria's love life is very isolated and empty right now. And she jokes, the only one visiting you is myself, Santa, and your uncles. Ha ha ha ha. So Valeria is close to her best friend, Vivian. She's very close to her uncles. She actually started her salon with one of her uncles. And Santa, as in La Santa Muerta, the holy death. Oh. Not long after. What? Valeria will. Be killed. Wait, but why did she say that? Is that just. It's a joke, I think. But Valeria has been open in different live streams about how she does worship the holy death. But it's just like an odd time joke, considering now Valeria is dead. Valeria has, you know, like her relationship with Vivian, her friendship with Vivian is a huge point of contention online, even while Valeria was alive. So they would frequently live stream together. So you could see their in real time authentic discussions and interactions. And Vivian is also kind of an influencer, but a much smaller one than Valeria. Some people think that Vivian was latching on to Valeria to get famous. But that's obviously, you know, thinking with a heavy dose of skepticism. In any case, Vivian says they've actually been friends since before Valeria got famous. Regardless, people have lots of thoughts and opinions about this friendship. Some people think that their friendship is kind of that sisterly love where they tease each other and they bully each other. But that's just how they are. Others think, no, Vivian is constantly saying things to get under Valeria's skin. Like you can just tell she's saying things and it seems like thinly veiled jealousy. Some say you can even feel the jealousy from Vivian, like radiating off the screen when they're live streaming together. This is before anything that happened. People already had this sentiment. Yes. So even before Valeria is killed, people are like, I just see it's like half and half. Some people are like, I love their friendship. Others are saying, I don't know. I don't know. Their friendship is weird. But now that Valeria is gone, people have decided they believe the theory that Vivian wanted to live Valeria's life and that she was trying to destiny swap and take Valeria's life. But if this popular netizen theory is correct, what are their different trajectories? Like what is the life that Vivian wanted that Valeria had? So much so that Valeria ends up dead and netizens think this is what happened. They seem to have very similar yet vastly different lives. Valeria starts modeling at 16 for clothing brands. By 21, she wins this beauty competition called Miss Face. It's a local Guadalajara beauty pageant. But after winning that, that means you can go compete on the state level. So Guadalajara is a city inside of Jalisco, the state. So she does participate in the running for Miss Jalisco in 2023. She does not win, which kind of kickstarts her influencer career. So even though she doesn't win, she won Miss Face of Guadalajara. So lots of. Like brands, they start reaching out to her. She starts modeling. There's a very well-known picture of her in medical scrubs. People actually say that she was a dentist and an influencer. It was actually a photo shoot for the brand. However, she was in school studying odontology at one point. So like dentistry at one point. So there's that. But her career starts really kicking off when she starts modeling for quinceanera dresses. You know, which some of the brands, they're selling these dresses for like $1,500. It's a huge market. It's almost like. Prom dresses, like if you're modeling prom dresses, these are big name brands. They've been around a long time, household names. She starts gaining a lot of attention and she's very beautiful. I will say that she does look like a real life Barbie, but I think a lot of people were drawn to her personality. So our Spanish speaking researcher translated a lot of just like casual videos that have nothing to do with her passing. And I will say that she naturally does seem intimidating because she's very beautiful, but she also has a very strong personality. So she like. Voices out her thoughts very frequently, but everything she does also seems humble at the same time. I think it's kind of like the very in Korea. We have a stereotype almost of like the aggressive on you that cares. It's like the aggressive older sister who is not going to sugarcoat it, but also like she's holding your hair back. She's giving you her favorite lipstick and she takes care of you, but she's also calling you a dumb bitch because you were acting like one. Interesting. So she kind of has that personality. Like someone even asks her in her live stream in the comments. They're like, are you angry? And she responds. No, my love. Why? So it's very like not, you know, she's not like, oh, no, why would you think I'm angry? I'm not angry. She's just very blunt, straightforward. She's just very, you know, someone will comment. Do your pajamas smell bad? So this is supposed to imply that she only wears cheap clothes. And she immediately responds. No, but do you want to come smell it? You can even smell my ass if you want. So it's just very, you know. And she's like, I don't know. She's still putting on her makeup and it's just OK. Like, for example, another live stream she has, she shows all of her makeup that she's using. She's like taking time and she's like telling everyone, take pictures because I'm not going to show you. Right. So she's like, OK, this lipstick is this color. This is this color. And she shows all her lipsticks. And then she finally gets to applying makeup and she reads a comment out loud. And they're like, can we see your lipstick to take a picture? And she said, fucking bitch. The first thing I said was take pictures because I won't show them over and over again. This is the last time I show my lipstick. OK, anyone who asks me again, I'm going to beat your ass. And then she takes a long time calmly showing every single lipstick again. So it's like, you know, and maybe she's copying a trend where there was a trend where like a guy was selling purses and he would get upset when people wanted to see the purses up close. So like, but I don't know if she was copying that trend. It didn't seem like exactly. It just seems like she's kind of this. That was her way of humor. ♪ august 2024 she opens up her own business the blossom beauty lounge inside of a plaza i did see people say that her salon is inside of a mall which um is not entirely false but don't picture like an enclosed shopping mall where you walk through a giant building it's a plaza that has a parking lot right in front that will be important later salon was opened with her uncle uncle from her mom's side so he's a professional hairdresser she frequently filmed with him and the salon is full service they do everything hair eyelashes nails eyebrows the whole motto is there is no better treatment than the time you dedicate to yourself and so people would accuse her of flaunting on private planes and yachts and trying to show off a luxury lifestyle and her salon is actually very welcoming and affordable so for example a manicure and obviously it's going to sound a little bit more affordable if you're based in the u.s but in this is still affordable in mexico but a manicure would be 11 to 22 dollars women's haircuts seven dollars to 35 dollars full tape and extensions including the hair starts at like 175 dollars which is still pricey yes but extensions including hair can get incredibly expensive a full 50 minute long lymphatic drainage massage to the face is 41 and i couldn't find specific information about the total employee count of everybody that works there but you don't really need to know all you need to know is she's a social media marketer her uncle is also a manager a co-manager but he's the main hairdresser so he's the one that does the hair he's the hairstylist then you have erica erica is the nail tech she's going to be important later and then you have another individual that does some of the other stuff like the eyelashes the facials but it's a very small group of people as for vivian she doesn't have the most interesting life path that's occurring to her when she was younger she said that she was very rebellious in high school and that caused a bit of problems she actually did her first initial work was as an image girl for a club and she describes it as you get this club a bunch of club promoters will recruit a bunch of girls to show up and they just hang out around the club when guys walk by they hear there's pretty girls in the club with the hopes of going home with one of them which they're not going to because they're just like paid to be there the guys will come spend money on drinks buy girls bottles and then the girls come home and they do alternating days so it's like if you went last time you were like oh my god i'm going to you can't come the next thursday because like what if the same people are off on thursdays it's just a weird she did image girl work before she was even legally allowed to enter a club which is illegal but you get the vibe she meets valeria through instagram they had a lot of friends and acquaintances that were the same but they officially start talking through instagram when they were both trying to just promote each other on instagram she said back then you would try to promote friends accounts and then they would promote you and that's how you meet people they're 15 so they start doing you know they start promoting each other on instagram they go to the club and she describes it vivian describes it as valeria is the very confident over the top personality whereas vivian is the very shy one vivian said she's basically an ice block she was not opening up to anyone she was very reserved and valeria was the one that got her out of her shell so valeria meets her when she's 15 and she passes away when she's 23 i mean that's a very long standing friendship you would say that they're best friends right vivian clarifies that they were not best friends throughout the entire timeline um they would have these like on and off moments in their friendship and most of that would occur when one of them would get into serious relationships because they just stop hanging out with friends especially friends you go out to the clubs with because now you're dating a guy and he probably doesn't want you to go to the clubs and that's when they would have these little off moments but it was never anything crazy she says that she did meet valeria's other partners like ex-boyfriends and i mean she did find out that the ex-boyfriend cheated on her and that was like a whole thing but nothing crazy about them either i mean she says that there's really not much going on in any case when they were friendly though they presented as like best friends they would have sleepovers they would hug cuddle give each other presents usually if valeria is showing a friend on live stream or getting ready with a girlfriend and she pans the camera over you can almost bet money that it's going to be vivian i mean they're always together they do a lot of girl talk live streams in one live stream vivian is reading comments and someone asks her do you have a boyfriend vivian she seems a little uncomfortable and this is like where people point out maybe there's tension valeria blurts out a husband wow vivian responds well something like that i have it and another seven have him as well another seven girls have him as well yes which valeria seems annoyed rolls her eyes and blurts out like a slang word that i guess would be equivalent to the word that's been circulating a lot which i know has been a word in um basically it's like a a crumb eater like you just settle for anyone in a romantic relationship she's calling vivian yes but it's not like a the worst word to call someone i guess that's just how they banter yeah you're just okay and it seems like valeria is upset because she probably gave vivian advice over and over again that you shouldn't put up with this type of behavior and vivian is still putting up with it it seems like a like a sore spot but that live stream has been analyzed to hell and back in a controversial interview after valeria's death vivian is asked if the two of them ever fought over guys and vivian says no they have completely different types of guys that they go for and more on this later because it's very important some people speculate that vivian has started dating one of valeria's ex-boyfriends after valeria's passing but that is a rumor and we're going to get into it in a second but she says they've got completely different interests like they have two different types of people that they like vivian says that she likes more of a street style guy who is more dark-skinned and she says that valeria likes a light-skinned guy with like that buchona lifestyle the more you know that kind of look but i don't know people are skeptical about all of this anyways they have had full-blown falling outs in their friendship on valeria's private chat she once messaged the group of her followers the personal girlfriends viv doesn't want to be my friend anymore she told me she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and to break up the friendship she literally said that to me a few days after that she sends another message and says we're back to being friends forever so it's hard to tell if they're just being dramatic but they did seem to have some sort of tumultuous friendship during another live stream valeria is talking about a fight she and vivian had where a side note the way she's talking about it is more so in like a haha like isn't this so crazy funny crazy story time type of tone i mean they're both together in the live stream so it's not a serious sit down of let me tell you about the most toxic fight i've ever had with my best friend it's like a very like can you believe this she says this bitch grabbed me by my neck and she said what's wrong with you and i snapped back and people were shouting at us like don't fight anyway we were a little out of it vivian adds it was all a misunderstanding and they're both kind of giggling and both clarify it was just a crazy moment a crazy little episode they post another tick tock together after not posting each other for months and the caption of that tick tock just reads we're so pretty it doesn't look like a few months ago we were fighting to the death even before valeria's death people were going through live stream after live stream just trying to point out odd moments because i mean they're they go from being together 24 7 to all of a sudden valeria stops answering questions about vivian she stops posting about vivian and then all of a sudden they're back to posting together so people were naturally invested and had these they wanted to know what was going on you know in one live stream the two girls are drinking vivian is holding the camera she's live streaming but it's not obvious that she's on the phone it just looks like it's propped up and she doesn't announce to anyone in the beginning of the live stream like i'm live streaming or like hey guys look we're live streaming we're live and vivian says we're having a little drink you can hear valeria's voice in the background her speech seems much slower than usual it sounds like they just got home after a night out and she seems a bit drunk and she asks vivian is that my phone vivian responds obviously gorgeous i started a live stream on your phone oh that's crazy yeah that is like yeah that's crazy yeah okay and then what what's valeria's reaction to that she just like kind of plays it off and they just keep live streaming but i think for one it's insane to take someone's phone and start live streaming and then second i think it's insane to live stream without telling people because like what if she had taken off her shirt to change after a night out like would it you'd or privacy in general in the house yeah just generally speaking like it's just weird yeah it almost seems kind of like a setup exactly yeah so it's odd other times she'll steal valeria's phone while she's live streaming and then she'll be like i'm gonna kidnap you now and it's so valeria would start the live stream but this is valeria's account where valeria has much more followers than vivian does and she's like i'm gonna kidnap you now and then she'll run with the camera and then valeria is chasing after her it just i guess a lot of people see it as vivian is trying to take valeria's clout i mean that's such a weird word to use no no no i okay i see why people say that yeah i guess they're saying like this is valeria's instagram and her live streams but vivian is trying to make it a her thing like she's the main character in valeria's live streams and it's done in a way where it doesn't feel natural they're saying like it doesn't feel like both of them are just engaging in a conversation it just feels weird in another clip that has since gone viral making the rounds you know valeria's live streaming in her house getting ready she looks to the side and she says why the are you coming into my house i don't even get a notice bitch and she continues doing her makeup and it's clear that she's just talking in a blunt way but she's answering comments and she's like yes vivian is here i'm telling you she walked into this house like it's her house that bitch so i mean i don't know maybe some friends and like maybe it's because i don't have like a crazy best friend that just like barges into my house but i think it would throw me off okay it wouldn't throw me off if someone shows up to my house and like a friend shows up unannounced but it would throw me off if they ended up inside the house and i'd be like how did you get it yeah yeah yeah i don't know it's just but her reaction tells me it's a little weird valeria thought it was weird yes because i imagine if it's a common thing between them she'd be like oh hey you're back or like hey where were you you know yeah like basically vivian's crossing boundaries that was not yeah and i think valeria is trying to set the boundary without being super firm even though she has a firm personality yeah yeah so it's just i don't know yeah some people thought it was normal between them some people thought it was a strange and toxic friendship but does that mean that you could be a killer a lot of people have noticed a lot of jealousy as well just looks wise people think that vivian went to the doctor and showed them a picture of valeria to tell them what she wanted to look like the resemblance i will say is pretty striking neither of them have natural blonde hair but valeria has always been blonde that has been her trademark not to say that anyone who is blonde is copying valeria but vivian eventually decides that she's gonna go blonde and she's gonna go blonde and she's gonna go blonde and she's gonna go blonde which is normally fine but she also decides to get blue contact lenses which valeria has naturally blue eyes and just the resemblance in the facial features but more so than that is eventually they start wearing similar looking outfits but vivian keeps posing like similar outfits same pose as valeria so there's like a picture of them and the camera is angled upwards so the camera is lower and they're both wearing this animal print looking tube top with a little thin scarf with the same print and it's like such a distinct picture angle and it's such a distinct top that's two separate photos you're saying yes so valeria's went up first and then vivian's and it just looks like the clothing is the same the pose is the same makeup is the same it's just kind of like so it's just a lot of similarities which i mean like i do think best friends naturally have a lot of similarities because you start wearing similar clothings you start adopting the same mannerisms and I think that's completely normal and I actually think it's kind of cute but in this situation it was kind of weird it just felt like maybe she's copying her or trying to be her and it's not just that she keeps using Valeria's things and it seems like Valeria is getting fed up in one clip Valeria's live streaming and she looks to the side and she shouts at Vivian you're gonna steal my panties again like why don't you just bring your own Vivian Vivian is like I forgot them I'll buy you more no I don't need you to buy them you stupid bitch I'm gonna be left with none they're over there I can't stand you so it seems like every time she comes over and they go out she like borrows Valeria's undies and Vivian is like I'll just buy you more but Valeria's like no because it's not about buying me more it's about the fact that like you're taking so many of them I don't have any more undies in my drawer Vivian walks up hugs Valeria from behind and Valeria pouts no fuck off and she's like I need black ones and Valeria looks at her live stream comments and says no she doesn't give a fuck like just saying like my friend is crazy like she doesn't give a fuck they start digging through the drawer though and Valeria picks up a gray pair of undies and is like this one's yours all right as long as they're not visible and then Valeria eventually offers I also have a black one if you need one person on Reddit says about Destiny swapping in general not in relation to this case I'm gonna keep it real as a woo-woo girl I don't believe in Destiny swapping because I don't believe somebody can take what God has for you and even if they get what they want it will never be exactly what you had not only do I believe it doesn't work and it's incredibly complex to attempt I also believe you know people describe Destiny swapping for other things some people think it's like when your friend picks up style tips or your friend is introducing you to a work opportunity or your friend is introducing you to other things or doing things with you people think those are examples of Destiny swapping but it's not it's like someone trying to move into your life and replace you it's like they're trying to steal your husband your kids your house your job it's not even like they like the clothes that you wear and they want to buy their own they want to dress in your clothes but is Vivian doing that and is she the only suspect for who killed Valeria not really there were rumors that Valeria is linked to various other people that could have had motive to kill such as Francisco Alvarez Solario the son of LR1 that's what they call him that's his nickname he is one of the most dangerous cartel leaders in the state of Jalisco Francisco the son is often nicknamed Narco Junior and there are reports where people believe Valeria is with Narco Junior and it seems that they broke up and not on good terms and some people even suspect that Vivian is dating him now it's such a mess but that is where I leave you with part one of this case part two is going to be up in a few days where we go through the entirety of the live stream like the 55 minute live stream where she is eventually killed as well as the eventual arrests that were recently made in this case so for like a year nothing happened with this case until recent so with that stay tuned stay safe let me know your thoughts and I will see you in the next one