If This Was Your Last Single Summer feat. Tunde Oyeneyin

Okay, so you said to us that this is your last single summer. This is my last single summer. This podcast is a Dear Media production. Hi, guys. Hi, guys. Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. Welcome back. June 1st. We are back in L.A. after being gone for three weeks. I know. I needed so much maintenance. I can. You can see it. We're still here. So if you guys are watching, we're still here. We're recording from Dear Media in New York. Yeah. One of the first podcasts to record out of here. Yeah, they just opened. It's so gorgeous. It's really beautiful. So I'm excited about this spot. And we have a great episode for you guys today. Yes. We're just really excited. And I woke up this morning. I was like, here, all the maintenance I need is the list. So I got to get Botox, filler. I need a manicure. You need a pedicure. And listen, I was taking a walk. And I went to Washington Square Park on Saturday. I looked down at my own feet. And I was like, I am humiliated to be in these streets. I got a pedicure. Just I was like, I can't be in the world like this. And OK, Raina. It's not that foot. It's that. Yeah, I peeled a little off. My nails grow so fast because they're neutrophil. And I will. I will keep a gel pedi on for a year. I'll trim my own nails with the polish still on there. I think I kept my wedding pedicure on for three months. I know you did. And I was just trimming my toenails. But yeah, this is bad. And it matters in the summer. Hot take. I only needed it because, yeah, it's 90 degrees here. My toes were so gross. And they're gross enough as is. Like, I have to do the maintenance that I can do. I was thinking that I would maybe dial back my manicures, just kind of be natural nails for the summer. I don't really see people. Well, I love. Julieta, like, we spend time together every month. But it's still like 90 minutes, two hours. And, you know, we like to chit chat. And but I feel really free right now. I feel like my special is out in the world. I feel like I've been so busy from for years. This is the freed up the emotional space to get your nails done. No, I'm saying I feel less busy. It feels really nice. I think it's going to be a great summer. I haven't felt like this in a really long time. We're like, sometimes I'll have these moments where I'm like, I have nothing to do. Really? My to do list. I don't have anything on it. You can't relate. No, actually, I can. As first of all, last year, I can relate because you did all the work. I'm living like you in 2025. And this is officially the end of the first leg of my tour. So 28 cities. You have a little bit of a break. I finished off Cleveland and Pittsburgh. It will have been last week at this point. And so I have like a break for the summer, except for two tour stops. I have to make up Salt Lake and Nashville. But I'm done besides that till September. It feels nice. It does feel really nice. And I kept. Saying it was just last year. It was like when the tour is over, when the wedding's over, and then when the specials out in the world. And that took so much longer. And it was just like, it was a lot of energy and agony and just all the things. I feel really good. I feel really happy. So I will be able to stick to my regular manicures is the bottom line. OK, but it's your birthday month. Well, I'm also now that I'm like, oh, my God, I'm on this free time. I'm not going to move. Yeah, I got to, like, figure out how to move. And I'll keep you guys updated. I'm not trying to gatekeep. Like when I have a place in New York, when we have a plan, we'll tell you. So for Raina's birthday, she's getting herself a move. But I looked at a place today, so I'll let you guys know. And I do feel like the tour was so amazing. And thank you guys for coming out and to share this with Ashley, to share it with Brittany Schmidt, who's one of our other best friends, to do this and have you guys come out. It just nothing could ever mean more to me in the world. And I joke at the beginning of every show, you guys bought tickets to this without seeing a single stand up clip of mine. But you really did. And so to have faith in me, I just I'm very honored. So I will thank you guys for an amazing year. It is my dream come true. And thank you to Ashley for being on the road with me. And Anna, our editor, who came to the very first show of the hour before you even saw the whole hour. Oh, in New York. And she saw it in New York this week. And so, yeah, I'm just I'm looking forward to the future. It's been great. Thank you guys so much. Yeah. Let's thank our partners. Great summer. Yeah. All right. Thank you to Article. Get a beautiful new sofa, dining table or bed at article.com. And Revolve, get 15% off your first order. At Revolve.com slash GGE with code GGE. And thank you to Every Year After. Watch Every Year After streaming June 10th only on Prime Video. And thank you to Nutraful. Get $10 off your first order and free shipping at Nutraful.com with code GGE10. And thank you to StoryWorth. Get up to $20 off at StoryWorth.com slash GGE. And also, yes, congrats to you. It was amazing first half of the tour. I can't wait for the second half and to see how that goes and for you to be all up in these cities. Like Buffalo. Buffalo is one of my fastest selling cities. Was it? Yeah, girl. I love this. Are you going to eat some wings? I never asked you this before. So I don't want to insult the people of Buffalo, but I really don't like Buffalo wings, but boneless tenders. Yeah. Can I ask you a question? Why do people say boneless wings and not chicken fingers? I just think a boneless wing is smaller. It's more wing shaped. A tender is long. It's the size. I think it's the size. Something that's a little squashed. Squatty and just squat two inches long is not a tender. It's a squatty tender. It's it's a chunk. It's like a chunk. I just never wonder, like, why don't people call them? Are those nuggets? No, not nuggets. It's in between. I feel like a boneless wing is the size between a nugget and a tender. It's like small, medium, large nugget, boneless wing tender. So we're talking like one inch, two and a half inches, four inches. What are we talking about here? I need Buffalo to weigh in. Because when people. When I say boneless wings, I'm like, you're so you're so lame because that's a chicken finger. And it's not a nugget either. Yes, it's between a nugget and a tender. No, Buffalo way in. We need to know. But thank you. Buffalo, really more tickets than any other city. Well, we've just haven't been there. That's true. So I'm glad you'll be there. I don't want to commit just yet, but I'll go there for the boneless wing. If you are living here, I might make you come with me. We'll figure it out. Yeah, well, we have time. OK, so actually, I've been like boiling over to tell you the story. It's so crazy. And just everybody in the world. So I this has never happened to me in my entire life. This is insane. Just to explain to you how tired I was on Monday. I walked the length of Manhattan four times all the way west and east twice. I was so tired. What were your steps? Twenty thousand. Twenty five thousand steps. I don't understand. Like when I'm at 18, I'm like, there could be no more. Like people walk 30,000 steps for Coachella like they were posting that. And I don't understand it. Like 20 is like my. Legs are falling off. I was. Thank you. That's the guy. So just so you know that the mind, you know, I was in whole day flip flops. No, you didn't hold a flip flop because Melanie and I walked home after that plan. And the rats were the size of cats. And she was like, you shouldn't be in those fucking teaks on these streets. The biggest rats I've ever seen. Just running across your feet. Yep. OK, twenty five thousand steps that day was insane. So by the time I got to Emily's around twenty two thousand, I was exhausted. So I was going over to Emily's and I was in Chinatown and she was like, I need a little more. Time, can you give me like an hour? And I was like, I need to go somewhere. I need to, like, sit down. I'm so tired and I'm in Chinatown and in front of me, I see this sign for massages and I'm like, I'll get a Chinatown like foot massage. And yeah, I was like, that will eat 30 minutes and then I'm going to go over to Emily's. And so I go into this basement. I don't read any reviews. I don't know what this thing is going to. I don't know. I'm just like, there's a sign out front says we get massages. I'm horny. Yeah. So where is it? I go to this basement and there's all these little rooms lined up. There's like eight rooms. They each have like a massage bed. Each room is the size of the bed. Yeah. I've been to like one place like this. Yeah. Okay. So I walk into the room, there's like paper towels on the bed basically to just like line it instead of it. So I laid down, there's just like a hole in the thing. I put my face in the hole. They put this sheet over me, even though I'm fully clothed and it's 95 degrees outside. I'm sweating to death. This man comes in the room. He proceeds to give me a massage. He's pressing on areas. It's so hard. I'm until they go numb and then at other points he's going so fast around my body. He's using one hand the whole time. Like a karate. Yes. I'm like, has this guy ever touched a body before? It's insane to me. At one point he took a phone call while he was giving me a massage and I'm like, whatever, it's $30. Like you get what you pay for. Yeah. I started thinking about the other things I spent $30 on this week and like this was a steal. So he is just sort of gyrating on my body and I'm like, this is so I'm just, I should just leave. And then I hear it from the other side of the wall, uh, it's a man moaning and this goes on for like two and a half minutes, the moaning and then the moaning just stops. And I'm like, okay, I, it's fine. I can get through the rest of this massage. I pop up at one point and I go, how much longer? And he goes, he was like, he pointed, it was 22, I was 22 minutes in. I was like, I can get through eight more minutes of this for the story. Actually from the other side of the wall, the other room I hear. And then, oh, I did not think these places were real. I had no idea this was fucking real. And so I come out of the room and I'm, I pop up and I go, I think we're, I think we could just be done here. Thank you so much. He's like, you still have a few minutes left. I was like, we don't though. So I hop up out of the bed and I go into the main room and I'm like, can I just pay? He knocks on the door of one of the jerk off rooms and some woman comes out. She just like slides out the door. And she has to ring me up. - She's like hand sanitizer. - Yeah, I know. her hands got to be covered in gum she's like you can use your phone here I'm like please don't touch anything that is touching me it is insane so I paid and I ran out of there I was in a jerk off parlor you were yeah you were like at a brothel yes I did not know these really existed I mean are you sure this is what was happening yes it couldn't have been anything else right I've gotten a lot of massages in my life never heard noises like this well it's just like I guess there's plausible deniability that got that guy was really just enjoying it totally but the second person also on the other side of the room so it was like a slap like it was like a slap and tickle like it was like a hand job hand job sound that's not what they do and then a moan and then that was it yeah some people like that listen I don't give hand jobs like that I don't really give hand jobs I would have laughed at the moaning I can't hear a man like but I thought maybe it is just somebody who's enjoying the massage a little too much one time I was getting massaged and I asked this guy I just talked the whole time this guy in Santa Barbara I remember a couple years ago and I was like what's the weirdest stuff that's happened to you during massage and he's like people moan people moan kind of a lot and I was like that's crazy I would never think to like out loud moan that's like inappropriate to the person like it's really like it's like verbal assault to the masseuse yeah like every once in a while I sigh a little too loud I'm like reel it in I don't even lick my lips unless their hands are full off of me yeah because like sometimes my lips get dry signaling yeah I don't want them to touch my thigh and I'm like that's crazy it was insane and I was like this I walked in there and they were like just get some guy off the street to massage this girl she wants a real massage what this guy he just was like just going really fast doing whatever yeah he pressed on my arms until he lost feeling repeatedly the one hand karate chop is crazy when you actually get karate chopped in a massage you're like I thought this you guys were doing this anymore we got this couple's massage when we were in Mexico for Alyssa's wedding and the best I've ever had because it was overlooking the water I can't remember if we talked about this but Shashank and I love a couple's massage and we've this that was like our fourth one like we really love them so but this was overlooking the water it was amazing she was amazing I had a great massage but I told her as we were walking down onto the beach don't touch my head for a couple reasons I don't want the oil in my hair it feels nice of course who doesn't love a head massage but if they don't you don't want the oil in your hair you don't want the oil in your hair you don't use oil then it's just like dry hair it's like it feels like it's not you hear it kind of in your head I just don't like the dry I hate it even more so I just say don't touch my head like that's my one thing I even when we do the the little diagram I put an x on my head because you know they say like where it is where do you want them to focus on a diagram your whole life oh really I feel like the nicest spots I've been to they give you a little thing they're like what do you want us to focus on I cross an x through my head maybe it's because I say touch everything she doesn't need that so we have this like great great massage also by the way the last time they touched my head I didn't say stop and I regret it just like dry rubbing your hair back and forth I feel like it's causing breakage whatever I was like regretful I was like I feel like my hair is all fucked up from that so I'm just super sensitive to it and we'd already discussed it she was giving me a great massage and she goes for the head and I yell out no head I hear him like laugh he was like to have you getting massaged y'all no head that's why I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm so he asked me when he walked in the room he was like no head no head oh you just want and I kind of forgot about she was like oh I'm so sorry like I've already discussed that I didn't like yell it I just was like no head you know and no it's a jump scare when I go to get a massage and I my hair is not on like wash day and they go to touch my head I know jump out of that thing I know so after I kind of forgot about it as we we wrap up the massage and Chuck was like when you held out no head when I was like we'll see about that relax mode well that's crazy and now you gotta read the reviews on that place that's what Emily said I'm like did you not check the reviews before you walked downstairs I was like I I cannot tell you how tired I was I was like whatever happens in there happens in there yeah and I mean sometimes you just want your feet rubbed yeah you've been walking you're at 22k steps so last night we went to dinner at a place called La Dong which I chose it based on the name alone but I had been craving Vietnamese food it was incredible it's in Union Square-ish area La Dong check it out I was walking by because I went on the block yeah I feel proud of myself found this place was able to get a res yeah it was awesome I chased Sapphire card they had some like special reservations for chase people you know you link your card yeah I loved it so you Brittany came and met us you walked home with her and I walked west with Megan and this guy came up to us on the street it's like a tall non-threatening guy dressed pretty feminine but it was a dude and he was like not an unhoused person just to kind of person okay weird energy and came up and was like do you have five dollars and we were like no and we didn't and he was like well you gotta buy me a coffee like kind of demanded it it was a weird energy for the record I have bought plenty people food I have given people money I'm not a like pretend these people don't exist type of person when it's dark and late and I'm walking home yes and we were on like a side we weren't on an avenue we were on a street and it was like a dark portion of the street again a non-threatening person he had a purse you know it felt like there wasn't a weapon on him but you don't know and wouldn't let up Raina so the energy was really off and he was like you're gonna buy me a coffee basically and then proceeds to follow us to the point where we when we tried to veer off he blocked us oh my god we tried to cross the street and he like blocked us and stood there and like hands crossed and like kind of started to mock us it was really weird like scared for my life you don't know what somebody's gonna do like a big scary looking dude I would have been panicked like we're something really bad is about to happen but again this is like a non-threatening type of person and but we still the way that he was acting was scary blocking us physically and then getting in our face and like you're gonna buy me that coffee I was like oh my god and so I just like linked arms with Megan I like we'll keep walking till we get to the avenue and we'll duck into some place or whatever so we were like almost all the way down the street to the avenue and we see these four dudes and they were two were sitting like on the street side and two were sitting kind of like on the opposite side of the sidewalk these like four dudes and like every single one of them your type like bald bearded tattooed like look like four bouncers I swear and so we clocked them immediately okay so we like kind of like we're like we're gonna stop and hang out with these dudes these dudes are gonna protect us and we'll find rain a boyfriend so the three of us because this this guy was walking with us got up to these dudes who again four of them kind of like on four corners across from each other on the sidewalk if you can picture it and the person who was kind of harassing us kind of walked ahead and then we stopped so we're then it's like there he's on the other side of the dudes and we're behind so he turns around and he's like oh no now I've like these people are like involved yes we're just standing there and like everyone feels what's happening the bouncers are like yeah and they the one guy goes is he bothering you and we're like yeah yeah and he was like we got you it was hot and you would like I would like you to bother my friend after this so then the guy realizes what's happening he was they were gonna buy me a coffee and like really starts like a really unwell person yeah no it was it was just really unsettling it wouldn't really scare me actually to be at night walking around by myself like that it was really scary and like the again the physical blocking the mocking it was really unsettling and so the hottest of the four was just like you're gonna have to get that coffee somewhere else like we're just like we got you it was just like a porn actually and then we all went home and fucked so so then the biggest one was like let me walk you to the what are you girls doing you getting a cab you getting what are you what are you how you getting home I'm gonna walk you at least up to the avenue so he walks us up to the sounds like the coffee guy's a paid actor I know so he walks us up to the avenue and we just are chatting with him they were mta workers on their break uh-huh getting ready to like go back to work or something but just like the guy we were like where are you from obviously he was like I'm from the bronx and he again he was the least hot of the four but the two of them I was like god damn I hate that rain is not here okay Melanie has always told me that I should end up with an outer borough guy she says it continuously you should be with an outer borough guy like this sounds like my guy yeah so anyway it just was like a weird situation Megan even said like that's the most persistent anyone's ever been usually again like I'm happy to help people here and there if I feel like someone's harassing me absolutely not and you got to get out of that situation because you don't know what people are gonna do and so we were both like that was super weird but we were rescued really the chivalry is not dead that is so nice to hear they love it you know those guys fucking ate that up like that made their night we got to like save these women protect these yeah they're talking about you guys today so I just thought that was like a nice story kind of like also it's just so New York like New Yorkers is to help each other where did you meet them on the street waiting to get I guess they had to go back at 11 or something they were on their break okay if there was like a bar you could recommend hey were you guys gonna be tomorrow and what train line do you work is there where could we find you if we want to define if we had a friend that wanted to find you guys again like where would we send her just ride the MTA just ride the subway until you find us god I can't wait to move back here date men here so that was our little story glad you're safe yeah we made it okay well two two New York stories for you guys and we have two in day-to-day which we are so excited and we had her in I remember where I was when her episode aired because Dewey had just passed and I believe - 2021. - 2021, January 2021, I believe it was, I believe it was MLK Day and Inauguration Day for Joe Biden. Oh, no, that's a Tuesday, right? Whatever. It was MLK Day. Yeah, when her episode came out and then the next day was the Inauguration Day, whatever. I just remember this kind of specifically. So it's been over five years and we ran into her while we were here last week at the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition brunch. She's one of the models this year. And we were just like, we've got to get you back on. And so she's really fun stuff to say and talk about. I'm really excited to have her. And she's written a book since we last saw her. So lots to talk to her about. Yes. So without further ado, we'll just thank our partners and we'll get into it with her. Okay. I am so excited to tell you guys about Every Year After. So this is a bestselling novel from Carly Fortune, and it is going to be an original series on Prime based on the novel. I read this two or three summers ago. I absolutely love it. 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She is a 2026 Sports Illustrated rookie, a New York Times bestselling author of Speak, Find Your Voice, Trust Your Gut, and Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. Please welcome back to the show, Tunde Oyunane. Hey. Hey. And Fetty Wap backup dancer. Listen, just add it to the list. Yes. So, we were so excited to run into you last week at the Sports Illustrated event. Congrats on being one of the models. Thank you so much. How does it feel? I mean, I'm a Sports Illustrated swim model. Like, how do you think it feels? It feels exactly like what you think. Yeah. Well, congrats. It feels pretty surreal, pretty crazy. Tell us about Fetty Wap and tell us what happened. I love that this is where we are starting. So, basically, they were like, you know, it's the Sports Illustrated event, like, kickoff week. Yeah. And Fetty Wap is our surprise performer. And so, basically, they're like, hey, go out on No. All the models. All the girls. Okay. So, we all line up or many of us line up. Maybe some knew better. But many of us line up and we're going out there on stage. And then I realized you're not announcing anything. Like, the plan has shifted. You guys are just going to dance on stage. And so, I… That's a bait and switch if I ever heard of one. Listen. I would be so scared. Ashley would love it because she can, like, really bust down. I can't. I don't know how to dance. I needed more drinks before hitting this stage. Me too. Yes. I felt like my 19-year-old self was coming out in real time. And he's looking at me, singing his song, wanting me to, like… Because I'm right next to him. Yeah. And he's singing at me. You're an instructor. Dance. Yes. Vibe with me. Enjoy my song with me. And I don't know the words to songs. I, like, don't know words. And then once I know the word, I sing that part loud. I say, hey, what's up? Hello. And then I shift. Like, hey, what's up? Hello. You know what I mean? Just hit the hello. 17, 38. And so, it was just… It was the most embarrassing but also very surreal, cool moment of my life. I love that. Where did you go? Where did you shoot for Sports Illustrated? I shot in Montauk. Oh, you did. Okay. With Hannah Burner and all the girlies. The shoot looks amazing. You look incredible. It was wild. Ben Watts was the photographer. It was just incredible, you know? Like, little 12-year-old, 19-year-old, 29-year-old, 38, 39-year-old Tunde wouldn't have believed this moment. And so, to do this at 40 years old is just… It's like a testimony to myself. Like, really believe I am just getting started. I really believe I'm in my prime. I'm in this space right now where, you know, you kind of, like, sometimes, like, look at old pictures of yourself and you're like, God, why didn't I enjoy that body? Why didn't I enjoy that tight core? Like, all the things. I'm in this space in my life where I'm like, no, girl, like, right now is the best. Right now is as best as it has been. And so, I'm old enough now to appreciate it. I think, like, in my 20s, I wasn't able to appreciate tight skin. And now, in my 40s, I'm not even saying 40s, just in my 40 years, my 40th year. I'm just, like, really excited and grateful because I know that this part doesn't last forever. Do you feel like, I mean, our audience is always like, how do you get confidence? And I feel the same. I feel like at 40, I'm finally not, like, looking at every flaw on my body, every wrinkle. I mean, listen, I do plenty of work, but I don't let it ruin my day. I don't put on an outfit and think, like, I don't want to go out to dinner because of the way I look today. And it's taken me a lifetime to get there. So, do you think it just comes with age or do you do, like, self-talk? Yeah. That's real shit. I don't want to go out to dinner because I hate the way I look tonight. That's how I, my whole teens and 20s, I was just like, this outfit looks bad. I'm in a bad mood now. I'm upset. Like, but I think, do you feel like with age, it just comes naturally? I think that for me, confidence is knowing that it all comes back. Like, put it this way, like, if I feel uncomfortable in my body or if I feel uncomfortable about something that I said in a to feel good in your body again. Confidence is knowing, I meant I have said the right thing in the meeting today, but I know in the next one, I'm going to speak up and speak my mind and it's going to come out perfectly and I'm going to execute it in the way that I intend. And so, to me, confidence is knowing, like, it's all okay. And I can trust myself. I can trust myself. It's all fine. Everything is fine. Everything is fine. Listen, I didn't slay. It wasn't the best outfit of my life. I don't feel the best, but, like, I'll be on top again. Yes. I'll win again. I know what's thinking about it. - And no one's perfect. - Right, right. - I also just think finding the right role models. I love this issue of Sports Illustrated swimsuit. I mean, you and Ilana Mar and Molly Sims. And she posted a thing about her age as well. And even people like Hannah Burner. I mean, these are beautiful women with real bodies and strong women and all kinds of different ways and confident women and women that are confident in their age. And I just love to see it. I think we are really pushing up against some body stuff these days that I haven't seen since we grew up with the fitness. And so it's just like we've got to combat that with real women, real confident women. And I just love all these role models. And I think it's super important for young girls to follow the right people and look up to the right people. Right. I was reading and there was an article that came out and it was like the six celebrities. Over 40 who slayed it at the Sports Illustrated launch. And I was on the list and I just thought to myself, I was like, oh, my God, I'm on the over 40 list. One, I was an incredible company. I mean, are you kidding me? Molly Sims, Tiffany Haddish, Nicole English. Like, hello. But yet also there are often times where I feel I often like, gosh, maybe I shouldn't have told everyone my age. Like, is that going to hold me back? Because for so long, I mean, as women, you were taught like the ones people know how old you are in this business. Put her out to pasture. So some every once in a while that thought comes up. But the louder thought is I'm doing this so that women and girls that are younger than me know that it continues to get better with age. I'm single. I have no kids. And I can't tell you every time that I'm on Instagram or online and I see a celebrity who is pregnant for the first time at 42 or 45 or 52. Like that builds me up. That makes me feel seen. It makes me feel like I'm not alone. And so if my story stepping into who I am at the age of 35, if that inspires anybody, then, hey, thanks. I'm happy to be on that list. Totally. And that those headlines, like part of me is like, yeah, let's highlight this. And then part of me is like, what's the tone here? Like winning over 40 in swimsuits. She's so brave. Or people were talking about Hilary Duff and she's like 38 or something. Can you believe it? It's like, what are we doing here? Yes. We can believe it. Yeah. Well, it's funny that we're all perpetuating this problem that like we will all face. You will all be 40. I think it's crazy. And I think very much like our audience, mine and Ashley Mai's audience, like has grown up with us. Yours has too, because you've been an instructor for so long. And how many people are like, I've taken her classes for six, seven years and they're growing up with you. So to see you continue to be confident about who you are is like very important, I think. Yeah, that's the wild thing. Yeah. Like the people that are like, follow me. We are. We're growing up together. Yeah. I started Peloton. I was what, 32. I'm bad at math. So it's been eight years. Yeah. Well, I don't know. Put the math away. I was 32 or 33. And yeah, I think about that all the time. Like people have literally seen me. They've been with me stepping into this season that I'm in, this era that I'm in. Yeah. It's super cool because it feels like you're doing it with friends. Yeah. Yeah. They've been on the journey. Yeah. Like we feel like that with this podcast. We've probably had it about as long as you've been an instructor. And so people like been on the ride. So we wanted to talk to you. We had Cody on at the beginning of the year. And I didn't totally know the whole story of that. He really helped you get in there. And I don't know. I just kind of want to hear it from your side, too, of just initially they didn't choose you and he rode for you. No pun intended. And now look at you now. Cody's my fairy godmother. Yeah. If it wasn't for Cody, I wouldn't be here. Wow. Like literally. We argued a little bit on how the story went down, but I have proof. I have the receipts. It's in my DMs. I still have it. He found me on Instagram. Doing fitness stuff? You're a makeup artist, right? I was a makeup artist, but I was so I was a makeup artist for 16 years. I was kind of like at the end. It was my passion. I loved it until I until I didn't. I loved it until I hated it. And so I was trying to like step into whatever was next for me. I knew that I really loved fitness. Yeah. I had this. Blue light vision, this divine download of information where I saw myself as a fitness instructor. I took a cycling class that changed my life. After that cycling class, I had this again, like blue light vision, this wave of blue energy move from my fingertips into my toes. And within a matter of five seconds, I knew that I'd be cycling for the rest of my life. I knew that I'd be teaching. And without even knowing what Peloton was at the time, I knew that I'd be able to impact the lives of millions of people by virtue of a bike. I saw it that clear. I was certain. I was sure. Oh, my God. Have you always had like visions like this? It's very interesting that you ask that. Sure. That was the first time I really trusted it. OK. In hindsight, yes, I've had visions both since and then then after. Nothing came in as loud as that one did. Wow. Wow. I was sure I started crying and laughing and I was laughing because it was almost as though I felt like somebody pulled me and said, look inside this portal. You get to see. And I laughed and cried in that moment because I knew that I was going to be able to do it. And I knew that I was going to be able to do it. Because I knew what I saw was certain. And I knew that it was like divine that I got to see. Oh, my gosh. I knew I got to see. I love this. We love woo-woo shit. We live in LA. It was every time I say it, I have chills because it was just so real. And clearly it was real because here I am. But I leave New York. I was in New York when this vision happened. I say, OK, I'm going to go start cycling. And then imposter syndrome set in. I was like a former overweight kid picked on, made fun of, teased. I thought to myself, nobody's going to find me motivating. Like, nobody's going to want to see me on the bike. My voice is annoying. I'm not. But nobody's going to find me inspiring. And so I kind of like pushed the idea aside. I told two friends, my best friends, Christy and Max, I told them about this divine download. And so Max continued to like push me. They're both Christy. They're both pushing me. Fast forward. I start teaching at this mom and pop shop. The owner of the shop, I used to take classes at her studio. And she looks at me and she says, I'm going to make you a star. I'm going to make you a star. Like you are. You're going to be my star instructor here. And so bless her heart. Her name is Mimi Benz. She invested a lot in me, put me on billboards, made me the face of the website. And so Cody is looking to find an instructor at the same time. And he's specifically looking to find somebody outside of New York. He is on just like a black hole, I guess. Also, we're talking about Cody Brigsby. We haven't said his last name. If you guys don't know who that is, he needs no last name. It's tuned in Cody. Cody's down this rabbit hole of studios, not in New York. And he comes across my picture on the website in LA, stalks my Instagram and then asks if he can fly me out to New York to audition. I had only been with the mom and pop studio a very short time, like two or three months at this time. I go out, I audition. He looks at me after the audition, like smiling cheek to cheek. Some of the production techs come out and they're looking at me and they're like, girl, you killed that. Yeah. Cody says that was the best audition I've ever seen. I cannot wait to train you. I cannot wait for you. I cannot wait for you to work here. So baby, I go home. On the way back to the airport, I call two of my best friends, Christy and Kim, and I said, their mom was on the phone, all four of us on connected call. My mother passed away, so I didn't have my mom to share in that moment, but I'm on the phone with their mom. And they're like, oh my God, we are so mad because now you're moving to New York, but we are so happy for you. We all cried. Yeah. And then, you know, Cody says, we are opening London right now. The powers that be that make the final decision. They're away. But once they get back to review your review, your tape, can't wait for you to come a couple of weeks later, every single day for a few weeks. Every time my phone rang, every time I email, I mean, I feel this. I am waiting for like it is Cody Rigsby calling to tell me. No, I would be like, this is like a man that's ghosting me. Like I did. Please text me. I look at my phone every second. It's not even like ghosting because I'm sure there's a second date. Right. You told me to buy the clothes. We had a great time to meet you. Yeah. Great time. Yeah. You had more fun than me. Yeah. Right. Are we on the same date? Because this was the best day. So, you know, a couple of weeks go by. I wake up. Get the ding. Email goes off. I open my email from Cody Rigsby. We regret to. No, no. And the fact that I know that you got the job and I'm still so upset. I just I did not see this coming. We were. I mean, we knew what happened. But oh, my God. I know. So I don't remember what was in the middle of the email. Top of the email. We regret to inform you. And then before his signature, he writes, I want you to know this was not a unanimous decision. He wanted me to know. Of course, this was. You already knew his decision. Right. And it's so funny because now knowing Cody, I know how difficult that was for him to write. But even at that time, without knowing him in the way that I do now, I I could hear the hurt in the email. Uh huh. It's just to tell somebody like I root for you, I believe in you. Right now, this is outside of your hands. It's like heartbreaking. Right. So then what happened? So at the time it was I can't remember how many people weigh in on the vote, but it had to be unanimous. Oh, OK. And so there were two votes that didn't go my way. And it was the two two of the let's say their whole name, if you will. We need not speak their names. Addresses like Baltimore numbers. I've never met these people, by the way. Right. And so I get an email eight months later and I'm working on set at this time shooting this reality show that never got picked up. Oh, my gosh. God. Also, that reality show picked up. I probably wouldn't be here either. It was a it was a show like you travel around the world drinking wine. I don't need any of that footage to ever be. release. That's how I feel about when I'm drinking on camera. Nobody needs to see that. It sounds like a setup. I gained 10 pounds in a week shooting that show, drinking wine. So all that to say, there were things happening at that time, but nothing was Peloton. And I remember I, after I got that note from Cody, I'd only told maybe four people that I was even auditioning. I like to keep things real close until it comes. And so I will never forget, I was on a hike with my friend Jade and the four people that I had told every time that Peloton commercial came on, they'd like F you and they like change channel. And you know, I've supported their hate because you love when your friends are mad at somebody for you. But also I couldn't give the F you to Peloton because I just didn't believe that. I didn't believe that it was over. I'd seen it. I was sure. And so then I started going through this like really depressed state because not because I didn't get a job, I'm down because I didn't get a job. Because I believed myself. I was sure. And I'm down in this moment because I'm doubting what I believed with certainty to be true. So then I'm questioning myself. Right. So eight months later, I get the call from Cody and he says, essentially, we were fools. If you are not busy, like, would you come out and audition again? So I flew back out to New York. Did you think like I can't handle the heartbreak if you say no again? Or were you like, I'm this sure? I'm not that girl. I will try something a hundred times. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I'm not that girl. I get it. Good. There is nothing that will ever keep me from something that is mine. There's nothing. No heartbreak, no embarrassment, a no that could ever keep me from something that is mine. Yeah. So it was mine. So I went to claim it. I will say this. When I showed up to the first audition, my boyfriend at the time said, it is yours. It is up to you if you are going to allow someone else to go in there and take it from you. It's already yours. If you want somebody else to take it from you. So go up and claim it. And so that's kind of the mindset that I went in with. The second time I thought to myself, this can be taken. It was taken before. Yeah. So I didn't go in with the same sureness. Everybody always says like, what did you do so right in your second audition that you didn't do in the first full disclosure? My first audition was better than my second. Oh, okay. My second, I messed up. I stuttered on my words a little bit. I wasn't as confident with like even the playlist. I chose like the first time was more me. The second time I didn't know. I know now why there was the no, you know, and Cody kind of alluded to it a little bit. He said there's been some shift in our alignment. I think that the person that is, you know, in power, if you will, now I think that they will go more in your favor. Okay. And so with that being said, it was almost what he was saying was it was not you. And I remember Cody and I had met at a coffee shop. He was walking me through everything you need to do. And I kept saying, well, what did I do wrong? Like, what should I not do? He said, do everything the same. And in my head, I can't do everything the same because what I did before wasn't enough. And so I'm thinking to myself, maybe I'm too muscular because I'm comparing myself to my body and everybody else's body. Maybe I'm too black. I don't see anybody dark skin. Maybe it was because my hair was in braids. So I take my hair out of braids. I lost weight. Mind you, I had like a week. Right. I did. I tried to change so many things about me. I changed my playlist. I wanted to make my playlist more middle America. And so here's what I say to it. Sometimes it's not that you are not ready for the opportunity of a lifetime. Sometimes the opportunity of a lifetime just isn't ready for you. Sometimes it's not that you are not ready for the opportunity. Sometimes the opportunity is not ready for you. Essentially, I didn't get the job because they never had anybody like me. I didn't get the job because they couldn't see me there because there was nobody there that looked like me. I can't change that. Right. The opportunity, y'all, you were not ready for me. And when the shift happened and someone who made the final decision was ready for me when that person was there, I was ready for the opportunity. And to see you teach a Peloton class, I mean, it's just they should have. They were so wrong. They were fools. I mean, Ashley and I just we love your classes. We could go. Through a list of them. I mean, truly, I I was telling you, I put the Beyonce class you do with Alex Toussaint. I just put it on to listen to it. I mean, you're just you're so inspirational. We both like cry to that ride and to watch you do it. I'm like, how wrong were these people? It had nothing to do with your weight or how you looked or your hair or your skin. Like they were they were just wrong. Yeah. And I think about this a lot. I've dealt with a lot with comedy and with my comedy special and different things. And it's like sometimes there are gatekeepers that don't get it and they don't like you. Right. And that's. It's subjective. And I had a friend just sent me this message and it was so beautifully written about kind of like people that are in charge of decisions that are don't get it or don't see it. And it sucks sometimes that they don't and they're wrong and people make poor decisions. And you're to your point, it's different. You're like they hadn't seen anyone like me before and it felt unfamiliar. And so it's a no. So it was just it's tough sometimes. They didn't see it. But also it wasn't. It wasn't for them to see. If I'd gotten that job, actually, if I'd gotten that job the first time around. So the position was vacant for eight months because, again, it had to be a unanimous decision. Right. So both Robin and Cody, who were from the instructor side of it, both continued to advocate and push for me. And so as people were coming in and auditioning, they kept saying no to the people coming in because they kept saying, right, it was better than her. Tune Day was better than her. And so the people that said no, it wasn't for it wasn't for them to get. If they had turned around, OK, bring her back. And I'd gotten a job under them. I don't think that they would have wanted me to flourish. I think that they would have almost buried me. You know, I always say that Peloton is almost like it's casting. It's cast. Yes. So you want somebody who's that energy and another person that energy. You don't need two people to be exactly the same. Right. And so if I'm cast and you're the casting director, you're going to put me in a role that's smaller if you didn't really want me here. And so I do think that when the shift happened, when I got hired, I was hired by a team that really wanted me there, wanted me to thrive and put me in a position to be seen. Oh, 100 percent. Oh, I mean, the whole time you're telling the story, I'm like, it worked out exactly how it was supposed to. Right. Eight months later. It's like I can't even imagine it working out the first time that, you know, it's just like it all played out. It's all happening for you. And I just think all the time some people just have bad taste. Like more than 50 percent of the population voted for Donald Trump. That's insane to me. Allegedly. That's crazy. Yeah. Allegedly. But like I don't understand the taste of 50 percent or more of people. And like that's that's what happened here. Like we don't understand the taste of somebody that didn't cast. Yeah, that's insane. I think of this quote all the time. It's from the Von Dutch documentary. And it says, never underestimate the poor taste of the American people. Wow. And meanwhile, that's what led Don Von Dutch to get so popular. But I've even heard I think Paige DeSorbo says, like, I don't want everyone to like me. People have bad taste. So I just think these things help me all the time. Yeah. You know, so when you're like, I'm doing this thing, I'm proud of it. This is the best. This is all I got. Yeah. This is me. And you might not like that. That's OK. I'm not going to be for everybody. That's fine. Everybody's not for me. When I think of like the amount of content out in the world that I don't care for that, it goes both ways. And there's plenty to go around. Right. You know. 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Like, you know, when you hear my last single summer, I can live crazy and wild and free with the intention that you may think. And it can be absolutely what you said. Like, I think that I can sit with self and meditate and manifest and call in. Like when I say it's my last single summer, like everybody's like, what does that mean? If you knew that this was the last time that you had fully to yourself without the commitment that you need to make to a partner, without what it takes to give, to be a mother, without the commitment that you need to make to be a mother, if you knew that this was your, like, let's take relationships out of it. If you knew this was your last summer living in your home state or in your country, like if you knew this was the last summer before you, you left New York. Yeah. Like I would show up and I would live in New York differently. I would go to restaurants that I've never been to. I'd go see shows that I'd never seen. If I knew it was my last trip to Italy, I'd experience Italy in a different way. Vacation energy. Vacation, like different, like vacation energy. And so when I think about that, I know that one day, one day, whenever that day may come, that I find my person, I know that I will mourn this life, this life that I am so, this part of my chapter that I'm so eager to leave, turn the page on, move away from. I know that there are days that I will look back and not be able to turn back to this page. I'll just think about it. And so I want to do everything that I know that I may give up. And so think about that. And so I want to do everything that I know that I just like time to myself, experiencing different people, maybe going on dates with people. And I've already started, but like going on dates with people that maybe they're not my type, like my type hasn't worked. So I'm trying your type, but you know what I'm saying? I should. Yes. And so I'm just like, I'm trying to experience life in a new way, in a different way. And in a way that I may, I know that I may not be able to. And everybody's like, well, God, what if you, what if I'm still single next summer that I'm still single next summer? It doesn't, it doesn't hurt. I'm not embarrassed. It doesn't hurt to live as though this were my last. Yeah. I love what you said. I feel so much to respond to, but I love acknowledging that like, there's a lot of really nice things about being single and being untethered and not being responsible to another person and their schedule and their feelings and what matters to them. And there, you give up a lot to be in a relationship. You have to consider another person's time and energy and what they need from you. And there are a lot of really nice things about being single. So to enjoy it temporarily, I think is really important. I've been single for seven years. So you just said like, you know, you give up things, right? I think about something as simple as going to the movies. When I go to the movies, I go to the movies by myself. I don't have to like negotiate about what we're seeing because, you know, last time, the last two times it was my choice. I don't negotiate about where I sit. I get to eat all my popcorn by myself. I go on solo vacation all the time. I go where I want to go. I stay in the hotel that I want to stay in. I make a plan. And then guess what? If I decide that I want to stay at the beach for the next two hours instead of moving on to the next thing on the to-do list, then I stay at the beach for the next two hours. So it's like, it's just the subtle, like the little micro things that I get to do because I am single. I'm going to live up those micro things this year. Yeah. Like I think about this all the time. So I'm married now. I'm with my husband all the time. I mean, I've been traveling, whatever. But the other night I was staying at a girlfriend's house here in New York and by myself, she was out of town. She let me have her place. And I ordered sushi from a place I used to order from when I lived here. Soho Sushi, if you guys care. And watched Running Point on Netflix, which is a show my husband doesn't care to watch. And I was like, this is so wonderful. I don't get to do this anymore. Like we watch TV together. Like I can do whatever I want, whatever. And I love my life with him. But, you know, you think of some, a single woman who really wants to find somebody and they have these moments, they're eating dinner alone or they're ordering sushi, watching TV alone. And like, I wish I had someone. It's like, yeah, but you will find someone that you won't get to do this as much. So literally think about that when you're doing it, that you will miss this. And it's not sad. No. And I love romantic love. It's the most important thing, the best feeling. It's, I want that so badly, of course. But in the meantime, in the meantime, I really enjoy those nights where I get to just be alone, look so, so fucking ugly and turn on anything I want, fart anywhere I want, fart audibly. Yeah. Just let her rip on the couch. Get up to pee like four times. I just don't have to check in with somebody. And that's really nice. I remember during COVID, my best friend and manager, her name's Kim, and she has two kids and a husband and a front yard and a backyard. Listen, I live in New York and I love my home. I'm very grateful. The front yard is the flex. Like a front yard, babe. No, it's crazy. Come on. You get to walk outside and you still own land. That's awesome. It's crazy. Uh-huh. They had like, they were living up during COVID. Like they were having the best time. Every day I'd call her and she'd be on FaceTime and they're outside with their picnic and they're having a picnic, a social, socially distance. I forgot what we called it. A socially distance party with the neighbors. The neighbors are on their, in their front yard. I miss COVID sometimes. Right, right. And they're all like hanging out, drinking wine. Meanwhile, at the time, I think I was in a studio apartment, like in a box. Like going downstairs to talk to the doormen just to feel like I had, you know, Interacted with somebody. Interacted with human for the day. And so I remember in that moment, just like thinking like, God, you know, is this, is this my life? Is this the life that I've chosen for myself? Like putting my career in this, ahead in this moment versus family. And she, you know, talked to me at that time and she was like, Tunde, you know what I would do? She goes, I go to the toilet. I go to the toilet and these people follow me. They ask me questions. She goes, and it's not just the kids. It's not just the kids. It's the husband. Yeah. Everybody follows me to the restroom. She goes, do you know what I would do to trade spaces with you and pee in that box? And so it's just like, you know, everything is through the lens to which you view it. Like as much as I, you know, I've been single for seven years and I love just like, wait, what's the saying? Like you listen to the tune of your own, whatever. Like every day is just my plan. I don't have to march into the beat of my own drum. Here it is. Wow. It's on your body. Yes. So when I wake up every day and I'm just kind of like marching to the beat of my own drum and not having to like compromise, I enjoy, I'm also not the girl who's like, oh, I, cause I think there's also a movement right now where it's, I don't want a man and no, I want one baby. I absolutely do. I want to normalize that too. Cause it's also so normal now for women to be alone and be happily alone and want to be alone. I'm alone and I'm okay being alone, but I'm not happily alone I am alone because I choose to not be with the fool because I enjoy my peace. I don't want to be in a relationship to just be in a relationship. That being said, I would like to meet somebody that I actually like people actually. I mean, I get those messages a lot where people say like, thank you for being both. Like thank you for acknowledging that, like that you love being single, but it would be really nice to have what Ashley has. It like both things can exist in a person. I'm proudly single. My life is great. I would love romantic love. I'd like to get fucked every day by somebody I love, but you would be great. You have to say it out loud. Like I, what I really strongly believe in the manifesting and I decided the beginning of 2023, I was turning 40 that year that I thought it was zero. I was going to find my partner and I did it. And I like talk about all this, whatever. I don't need to rehash it. But I remember seeing this though, online and feeling so inspired through your story. I was like, oh my God, Ashley, I met somebody. I'm going to meet somebody. It's going to happen. It happened. And I just like, I stopped. I said it out loud. I said it on the podcast. I said to everyone who listens, like I'm finding someone this year. And there was part of me that I always felt like I was going to meet him right at the buzzer and like really we it really happened like that right before I turned 40 and I started to feel a little panicked like I said this is gonna happen I told everybody like I want it to happen so badly and I'm not gonna say this like I don't need a man I'm a baddie yeah all that stuff's true whatever but like I'm gonna say the thing I want to find somebody I'm dating intentionally and like this is important to me I'm making space for it in my life where I didn't feel like I had that before I'm really trying to make it happen instead of I think we do this defense mechanism of like I don't need anybody I don't want anybody and I've even told Raina that too I'm like don't even say that stuff if you don't really believe it because then you will speak it into existence well I had a matchmaker say that to me they so I signed up this matchmaking service and they put they give you a therapist to talk to you beforehand and I said I'm okay if I don't find somebody and she said I'm going to encourage you to stop saying that because you'll show up in the world differently say to yourself I will find somebody I want to find somebody not I'm just okay if I don't find yes that's what I'm saying I'm going to show up in the world differently and I'm going to show up in the world differently and I'm going to show up in the world differently and I'm going to show up in survive yeah I'll be fine but again the goal is fucked every day by somebody who loves me I had the worst matchmaker experience you did a friend of mine Olivia Amato oh yeah also a colleague instructor she was like I have this matchmaking service for high earner something something something do you want me to put you in touch with this woman I said absolutely and so I do the whole thing with this woman we have a conversation we do all the things just for her to tell me I'm so sorry but I don't believe we have anybody that's compatible for you I got all the wrong with that woman and I cried I'm so sorry what the fuck I thought and that was like a moment where I felt just damn you have a whole service and still nothing also she handled it poorly how dare you say that you know what like let me like really sit noodle I want to bring somebody great to you somebody that's on your career I want to bring somebody great to you yeah it's not going to be overnight because I think that you're wonderful but but it was just it's a no for us okay so that's so wild I'm so sorry you went through that that's crazy and listen not everybody's going to be right for me or for you you are like a powerful person you are really successful you're on this streaming service I mean people watch you you're like a I see you I'm like this is a powerful confident woman that's not going to be for every man it's their job to find somebody right it was interesting that's crazy yeah oh I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm too beautiful we're very confident and here's the thing is like I was very open like she's like height requirement no does he have to make more money than you know like I did all of the like very open things but she was like we have a lot of women right now on our on our roster I fucking hate this we have an affiliate you know I can reach out to the affiliate to see if they have anybody but you know being that you're like in the public eye a lot of men don't like that and so I just think it's going to be a no yeah that's your job also let's say her whole name too let me just call it out everybody well I actually I'm curious what your feeling is on that because people have asked for I mean prior to actually getting married but both of us like do you think your job is going to get in the way of people wanting to date you and we're on stage we're talking about our dating lives and sex lives and things like that people have always said do you think it's going to get in the way of meeting a partner and I'm curious what you think it's not even is it going to get in the way it has gotten in the way I do think that that is you know part of the reason that I'm not with person but also then it's not so this is what I do this is my job this is what this is my love I'm gonna quit this is my passion like at the same note the person that I'm going to choose I'm going to choose him and be well with what he does and the person who chooses me back he's going to choose me and choose what I you know what I do yeah yeah do I think that it's intimidating for most men absolutely do I think that successful women in general intimidate men the wrong man yeah yeah it does intimidate the man yeah yeah yeah it does intimidate the man yeah yeah yeah it does intimidate the man yeah yeah yeah yeah it does intimidate the man yeah yeah it does intimidate the man yeah yeah yeah it's a great way to filter them right honestly it was always going to be a problem and you can't love me in spite of my job you have to love all of me and what I actually do and be supportive of it like I always think about that like yeah maybe a guy we've dated throughout the years like was okay with what we did I don't want okay I want that you love it and you're like on board with all of it look at her go biggest cheerleader I've dated somebody that said like I'm learning to deal with it I was like no I don't want you to learn I want you to sit in the audience and be like look at my girl go right and that's if I'm not going to be for everybody not everybody wants me to talk about them on stage yeah and on the flip side it's like you want a cheerleader I want a cheerleader but I also want to be my man's biggest cheerleader I'm the one screaming the loudest yes yeah oh when you were in this like I am turning 40 I am meeting my person this year did you date a lot that year yeah and I had just moved to LA so that was like a fresh energy I needed and towards the end of 2022 we I was like right I was like I'm not really going to date much in New York I were moving it was supposed to be temporary but then it turned out to be obviously longer we've been there three plus years but yeah so I was like I'm dating a new city so I'm kind of coming into a fresh energy and I did all the things I when I talk about all this in my special but I went on the apps I dated the task rabbit and like which I can't recommend off the computer house date with my uber driver one see you're there hey hi where are you yeah and I did a matchmaker I actually had a pretty good experience with two guys with the matchmaker and then we went out on the road and I was like maybe I'll meet somebody on the road and I love your point of like I don't know if this is what you're trying to say but I'll say it like you can be slutty and still want to find a husband sure and that's how I felt and so first tour stop out of the gate I like hooked up with this dude this young guy and then two weeks later that's when I connected with my now husband but I was like I'll have the hour-long conversation with the matchmaker and get set up with like a man that's age-appropriate and successful and all this stuff and I'll also fuck the 23 year old and like we'll see what happens and like all of it you're figuring out moving in the right direction and then I I say met but like I'd met my husband once before but I connected with him and of course that first night I wasn't like he's the one but I kind of knew pretty pretty soon thereafter but like it did all work out but I every move I was making in that five months was with intention and this is like an aside I don't know I got off the pill and that changed my life too like I'm in support of birth control but I have an IUD now but like that shifted kind of who I was that's like a it's just an important part of like hormonally yeah interesting I had a different part I had been on the pill you hated her no no this is our this is our big reveal no she just she was lighter yeah it changed my life she was just a different person like 20 years on the pill but give or take and decided to get off it one day and felt my true self like a I mean I wouldn't say it was so extreme a lot of women say like I felt like I was seeing the world in color for the first time and I am a huge proponent of birth control I obviously have an IUD but for me the pill was not the best for for me and that changed too so that's kind of the story but I really I see women and I'm like you say it but you gotta live it like this was a little thing but a friend told me you should have a king bed because I had a queen in New York and I was like obviously I'm gonna have a king bed we're moving to LA we're gonna have all this space and I actually moved into a really gorgeous house that had a tiny bedroom and the king I stuffed a fucking king in that bedroom it barely fit you could barely walk around it but I was like if I'm gonna get a man he's not gonna be in this queen bed and so there's little things of like making the literal space in your life my friends keep telling me to do that they're like where is a man supposed to put so I have like I don't know I have like four or five closets I have a lot of closets hell yeah New York girl talk about it because but the thing is the more closet space you have the more thing you buy to fill the closets so I have a problem a little bit of an addiction anyway I have a suggestion for that later let's talk about it so my friends are like get rid of some of this shit so that you can energetically pull yeah I mean I can't I did the I did the bed I have the king bed okay that's what I need I can't let go of my things for an imaginary if he comes in I know if he comes in we'll adjust we'll get a different place right as long as you got the bed we have time for that regardless let me meet him and then I'll start like donating the clothes is there a an inch of counter space for his toothbrush and the bed that's all you need to do that 100% we'll worry about getting rid of t-shirts yeah it's fine so I want to say something to you guys so we put this we really liked your idea of like last single summer we put a slide up on our Instagram and said that this was your last single summer how would you show up how would you act what would you let go of and something that I actually haven't seen before because we've always seen people say say yes to everything you know do new hobbies new friends do things but I think people are just drinking less today and going out less and so many people said you gotta leave the house yep like I've never seen people before I'd be like wow because we've really glorified like be in the bed bed rot I love not leaving the house for days I'll do it I love it but if you really want to meet somebody like you do have to like go out and do stuff you can do the apps and meet people but I've actually never overwhelmingly seen so many women outside I gotta get outside yeah okay let me tell you what Cody Rigsby said to me okay of Cody we were talking about me being single and that's like we have these like little meetups and we talk about love lives or what's what's happening or what's not happening and every time we get to me he's like Tunde you are so lazy in dating he's like you are like a boss-ass woman in everything you do the way that you take business seriously the way that you will not sleep the way that you show up to work oh yeah he's like if you brought that same hustle into your dating life he's like you don't want to get out of the house you don't want to do anything because I'm so tired busy for work right but I will work out for work right exhausted god but all that to say it's like I also I don't like most of my friends are relationships I will say like my some of my girlfriends are really, really good at still going out with me because they understand that I'm single and I need to like get out. And so they will do the wing woman thing. But so much of that also involves like drinking and getting. I don't want to go eat a six course meal today. I have to teach at 8 a.m. You drink? Yes, I love drinking. We live in L.A. Yes, but it's just like I but me and my girlfriends, when we go out, we don't just like have one drink. I wish that we were those girls. I'm remembering Cody. He was like, he was like, I feel like people don't know just how fun Tunde is. Like he was like, would you get her going? Like people, obviously, your energy is so wonderful. But he was like, party wise, like she gets down. People don't know how fun I am. People don't know how funny I am. So this is also part of my single. So people have read my book or they've listened to me on a podcast or maybe a guy who's been like motivated by something that I say in class. So people think I'm very serious. And so when I'm on. On a date, I think that he and he said he is trying to impress me. So there was I will never forget. There was a guy I went on a date with and I met this guy. I thought this was my husband. I meet him up on a plane. He's a vascular surgeon. So I don't know what that is, but it sounds really wealthy. Yeah. A hundred percent. Or something like sure. Rich. Yeah. Owns his own practice. Actually lives in New York. That's where that I go on a date with somebody that lives in my state. Yeah. We met on a plane. That's no. Hello. Immediately. Wait. We watched. The movie together. No, you didn't. Let me rewind. Let me tell the story, girls. Yeah. So this is like just after like right after COVID time. And so I'm very sanitary. I think we had just taken the masks off. OK. Two things can be true. So we had just taken the masks off. But like I was still like. Yeah. I just realized that, OK, one day you'll put your mouth on another mouth again. Like I just become OK with that. So I'm using my two, three sanitizers, getting the seatbelt, getting the remote, getting the TV screen. So he. He looks over at me and he says. Did you get everything? And I look at him. I said, honestly, no. Like, I really would like to get yours, too, because we're in close proximity. So I start cleaning where his armrest is. We have a little laugh and I sit down. I put my bags away. He says, I just text my friend group. I'm doing everything in my power to not ask Tunde to marry me. And I look. He knew who you are. He knows who I am. I'm so riveted. Like what? You should have a podcast. And I don't say that to anybody. Can I be the third? Yes. And I'm going to have her back here. We're going to drink. Oh, my God. Oh, yeah, we're going to drink. We're going to date together. We're going to be horny. We're going to walk our way through the city. I'm obsessed with this. Let me keep my Soho House membership. I was just about to cancel it. I have one. OK, great. So I will split the cost every month. So I, he says, I just text my friend group. I'm doing everything in my power not to ask Tunde to marry me. I say. I say, no, you didn't. He says, yes, I did. I said, let me see. He hands me his phone. I read the message. He said, I'm done. I'm doing my power not to ask Tunde to marry me. OK, one thing to know about me is if I like it, if I don't like a guy, I can talk. Maybe I can talk to anybody. Adele is sitting right here. Ask this girl how many men I've hooked her up with. Because if I say something for you, I am not shy. I say, hey, go talk to her. Yeah, I can do it for everybody but myself. Yeah. When I like it. When I'm with a guy, I forget how to speak. I get nervous. You know how they say to hold eye contact for three seconds. This is what just this is what I think that I'm doing. I count to seven, right? Here's what I actually do. And like, look, I can't breathe. I get crazy too. One of my friends watched me right after COVID. It was the summer of 2021 being in Domino Park. And this guy approached me and like he talked to me for like five minutes. And he walked away and she goes, have you ever spoken to a man before? It's what I just witnessed. You had to get acclimated. That's insane. OK, so this is going to be good for us when we start hanging out, when we're friends, because then I'm going to I'm going to take care of you and you're going to take care of me because we can do it on our own. I can wing woman for you. Absolutely. But the stakes are lower when it's for somebody else. That's why your married friends are great to go out with. Some of my girlfriends are either married or in relationships. I remember them single and they were so forward. Like these girls. I have friends who I've been single for seven years. I have friends that were single for six months and dated more. And six months that I did in seven years because they were just forward girls. I'm not forward. I wish I was. But do you feel I mean, Ashley had this year where she dated a lot. And last year I wasn't on tour. Ashley was on tour. I was bored out of my mind. Ashley was working so hard. I was like, I got nothing going on. I dated. I dated like crazy. But you really need the time. It's a full time job. Another job. OK, we got to get back to this. I'm on my apps. It's like I have to like clock in. I'm like, all right. Yeah. One hour. Here we go. OK, so you see you get a little like we I get kind of like after I see that text, I kind of got like get weird, even though clearly he's like said I'm into you. But now I'm like acting a little shy. But like also I'm being open. My body language is open. Yeah. OK, so I'm looking for a movie and he's like, you know, what are you going to watch? And I said, do you have any recommendations? So he recommends this movie, which I will not name because it was horrible. So he recommends the movie. He says, I'll watch it, too, even though he's seen it. So we say three, two, one. So we watch our movie. Our dinner comes at the same time. We're eating. Our little meal on the plane. And I'm kind of judging him a little bit because this movie is so bad. The movie finishes. We are dinner finishes. He looks at me. He says, I don't remember being that bad. I'm so sorry. Actually, now I'm attracted to him again because I'm like, oh, great. Yeah, we can do it together. So we are walking to baggage claim. He didn't check a bag. Of course, I checked 20. Oh, rewind on the date. So he lives in Jersey. I live actually in the city. Right. So he says, what are your favorite restaurants in the city? I named three restaurants, told him ice cream is my favorite. Food, dessert, whatever on the planet. Told him three ice cream places I like. That's important to remember. So anyways, he gets my information. We make plans for the date. OK, I don't know where we're going. I just know the time and the date. He calls me or he texts me maybe like two or three hours for the date with the address. He said, I made reservations at. He made reservations at all three of my favorite places. He said, I didn't know which one you'd be in the mood for. And then for dessert, I figured we could go to named all the dessert places. Basically, he built the date. Yeah, yes. That I asked for. He did all the effort. Great. So we go to the one that I choose, Miss Ada in Fort Greene. It's so delicious. It's so good. I'm obsessed with it. Oh, my God. It's amazing. We're friends. OK, we're going. So we go to Miss Ada. OK, so you know how good Miss Ada is. Miss Ada is Mediterranean. I think it's Miss Ada. No, it's Miss Ada. Miss Ada. You're right. It's Miss Ada. But I feel Miss Ada is so bougie. It's Miss Ada. It's Miss Ada. It's Miss Ada. I hear you. Miss Ada. No, but Miss Ada is now. Because then there's Theodora that they also own. But like Theodora is how you say it. But it's so bougie. OK. So we went to Miss Ada. I can't believe you corrected me on national television. Well, I think it's. We are friends. I think it's an Israeli name. No, you're right. It's Miss Ada. I apologize to everyone listening. It's Miss Ada. OK. Rewind. I was hearing Miss Ada. Like Miss Ada's. No, it's Miss Ada. I was a food blogger. I went to culinary school. Oh, God. OK, so you're going to appreciate this even more. So should I rewind? We go to Miss Ada. You go there. Yeah, we go there. We're at Miss Ada. We go to Miss Ada. And we sit. Well, one of the thrills of going to Miss Ada is sitting inside because the smells are just so rich and beautiful. We sit outside, which is also still great. It's romantic, but you don't get that smell. Whatever. Nobody cares about that part. So we're sitting down. It's the best food you've ever had in your life. It's so fantastic. It's the best food you've ever had. It's one of the best restaurants in the world. I can't wait to go. Post sign. Phenomenal. Phenomenal. So we're sitting there and we're eating. I'm a foodie. I need a man to like go there with me for a second so we can talk about how great the food is. So I'm enjoying this meal and I say, oh my God, this is so good. I'm talking about it. So he starts asking me all these questions. Okay. And I appreciate the questions, but I must say it felt like I was a little bit on a podcast. An interview. Okay. Yeah. I'm loving being here with you all. This is wonderful. But it felt like, and my book had just come out maybe a year or two, and I had just like done the book tour thing. We were always talking about the book. I was excited to just be clocked out. Okay. Yeah. Be on a date, not an interview. Just be on a date. Like flirt with me a little bit. Let's talk. So we're on the date. He's interviewing me. I look at him and I say, these are all really great questions to which you will get to know the answer to as we get to know each other. Meaning like it was just too much on the first day. So then we continue to talk. He goes, oh my God. He goes, I'm so sorry. He apologizes. And I think to myself, oh my God. I'm so proud that I spoke up to this man that I don't know and spoke my mind because I was going to just write him out and never want to talk to him again because it was just like too much. But instead I corrected it. Then we're moving on and now I can get to know him. This is great. Yeah. Maybe he was nervous. 45 seconds later, he says, so in chapter three of your book, you talk about, and I just think it's a really interesting dichotomy because, oh no, oh no. That's what I said. I go, oh my God, this beef is so good. And he says, I'm not interested in the food. I'm interested in getting to know you. And we're at the restaurant. So if somebody cited a podcast episode on a first date. It was just, and I will say like, you know, this man has reached out to me several times since there was once he was like, I'm looking up at the sky and I'm thinking of you. And it's too fan energy. It's too much. It was. It was. I married a fan, but he acts like a normal person. There's a spectrum. It's too much. Yeah. You're like, it's, you're obsessed. It's too much. we aren't equals right now so then that's the tough place because we're saying like oh my god I want this guy to like love what I do I want this guy to be my cheerleader and be my biggest fan yes and because Cody said that people don't know how fun I am so people don't know I'm fun and this happens often on dates where guys just go in super serious do you know the guy that I fall for and this is actually like my greatest problem I always fall for the funny guy all I ever want to do is laugh I fall for the funny guy so much that he's funny and he doesn't have a job they're so manipulative I love that guy those guys can fuck those guys can fuck the daylights out of you and they will ruin your life and you will have a great time while it's happening the more the more mental illness the less of a job and the funnier they are okay so I would like to say now that I am 40 now that I'm 40 I have moved on and the guy needs to like work and not only do you that's a bar high not only set it high not only does the guy need to work but he needs to be successful and fulfilled and so yes not just like to me I saw this thing that Tony Robbins did and Tony Robbins defines success as having everything you want fulfilled is when you are able to offer and give what you bring to the table to the people that you love around you so I also want him to be fulfilled in his life fulfilled in the work that he does and I'm sorry but funny humor is on my top three it's in my it's in my top three you're supposed to be with this person forever okay I better be entertained hey like I I mean people feel like don't really know what's wrong he is so funny all I laugh around the house all the time like if I wouldn't have it any other way we have to spend all our time together we don't all our time but you're supposed to be with this person for forever and they're not going to make you laugh what are we doing also like I think you can request at this age that somebody be a more more formed person I want somebody that's fulfilled in their life I want somebody to come home and be like I want to be excited to hear about their day right and hear their thoughts about my day it's really important to me like how you feel about yourself do you feel fulfilled because I can't be the person who I mean an unfulfilled man who I mean I don't know that's gonna turn into your problem an unfulfilled man can never fulfill you yes he can never make yourself feel full but a man that doesn't feel full has nothing to pour into you yeah also like I do see the side of that guy like this happens to me a lot on dates too because what you and I and Ashley do for work is interesting and people want to talk about it and Ashley and I own a sex toy company we have a podcast and we are touring comedians and entertainers you're part of the most famous fitness company in the world of course what you do is fascinating but they're just there has to be a balance and you're allowed to have a preference also you're allowed to say I just don't want to I don't want a date to be like this yeah I was tired I was on the date and I was tired yeah because I was in an interview yes I was in an interview yeah it wasn't fun yeah yeah and that's that's it like a lot of the dates I go on are just not they're just not fun there was one that I went on recently I want to tell you but I don't want to tell you because he's so sweet and he's gonna know I'm talking about him and I liked him as a person but like yeah again it just it's not and I really wanted that one to work it's just not fun I need to have fun with somebody I said that Ashley was dating this guy who had a great job he worked for a national football team he had a great job a great life I was just like I'm so bored I'm like not laughing with this guy I want this to work so bad I can't do it you have to enhance our life we have full lives we are happy women friends family great careers like you have to add something it's not just that you're a man in the home that I want to knock me up like it used to be I don't know it can't just be good on paper okay let's play this game okay he's home okay absolutely gorgeous to look at incredible in bed okay and he's not funny no or that's short-lived or he's not the height that you prefer okay he you're not attracted to him like it grows on you you see it but you don't look at him it's he's fine it's okay but he's so funny you cry laughing it's that guy I mean my last serious boyfriend I would not objectively like a good enough looking guy but no one's like stopping on the street to look at him he was maybe 5'10 a good enough looking guy the best sex I've ever had in my life it's so funny like that's what I want yeah you think about the things that will longevity in a relationship I mean you will get tired of fucking somebody so you gotta have somebody you like hanging out with and you guys had a great emotional bond yeah that's a good thing with like enough emotional depth to connect but just super good looking I mean I've tried that I've tried to go on dates with guys that were objectively gorgeous and I didn't like their personality I've tried to go on dates with guys that were I can't get through like two dates with those people right what about you I choose the same guy I would choose them too yeah yeah okay do you get dm slides and guys coming after you I mean the guy in the plane obviously was a fan but like you're you're out there in the world not really I mean yeah I can't believe that sure but it's not the right guy not the guy it's always the guy who has maybe no business slipping into my dms okay it's that or ever since the sports illustrated swim and mail teammates they said to me they're like today whatever you do do not get in a relationship before sports illustrated drops like this is like after I'd shot it they were like whatever you do do not get in a relationship before this issue drops meaning like just the men the caliber of men that you are going to be introduced to be in rooms with see who now see you it's going to increase and so just like stay open stay safe and I think that's a really good thing about sports OK I love that advice so listen I haven't actively been trying to keep myself open I'm just still open OK so it's not like I've been like yeah he's great all these men are trying to date me and no it's just like there's I haven't met anybody that do you a physical type at all absolutely OK what's he look like let's manifest who is it compared to an instructor you're cute you tried it you tried it I've been shipped with almost every instructor on the team people thought that me and Cody were just shit you not guys he's a beautiful man he's happily gay presenting also he's gay presenting so beautiful so and even more beautiful in person yes I know he walks in a room he like takes your breath away I would ask you one more would you rather like is he let me give you my time just because he's listening let me like also sit up my type is I'm very open like listen I said earlier like the funny guy is always going to win my heart funny charismatic a great smile beautiful teeth are like yeah when I'm when I'm holding a man when I'm being held by a man like I like to you know feel like you know you want to feel like a bear is wrapped around you right that being said sure I would love him to be taller than me I think you know that's what most people would say is that a deal breaker for me absolutely not OK money I would love to be attracted to him no here's the thing is like when you say money what is money is he are you asking do I need a man to make more than me me do you have a preference of course sure i would love for a man to make more than me but he doesn't have to but good luck he doesn't well good fucking luck no but he doesn't have to it's not a deal breaker for me at the same time like if i say hey let's get up and let's go on this trip i want you to financially be able to go to be able to go not just monetarily but also have this space within your career to be able to do that yeah and so i yeah i work really really really really hard and i am so fortunate to be able to enjoy my life i would love to find a partner that is able to enjoy life with me totally and i also would love for a man to not feel intimidated by my success and nine times out of ten and when he has his own he doesn't so enough money i mean i watch kiki palmer in this interview and i just haven't stopped thinking about it and she's like i don't need money i got money right like of course you want a man with a job who is again fulfilled you're not paying for him that's not but i don't need you to pay my bills but exactly and i just love that she said that she was like i have the money i want the support and all the other things that a partner could provide and i just love that she said that so we had a guest on recently her name is amy chan and she's a dating coach she's moving to new york so you guys can connect she does this dating experiment and you go on dates with nine people and you can't get in a relationship with any of them and they all need to be very different i've heard this it's on your podcast it's great yeah and you can't because then the stakes are low and they're they need to be in a different than your quote-unquote type but it sounds like you're pretty open in the first place but it's just i like to recommend it and keep it in mind because it's just a good way to like get outside of yourself okay i have an idea this is my idea amy chan i listened to this episode amy chan and i this is what we need to do for my last single summer you have me back you have amy back she sits down she therapies me she makes me do the nine thing uh-huh and then this time next year we are back and i implemented amy's rules and i tell you how the hell that single summer went i love this and what this will episode will come out on june 1st so like june 1st 2027 getting a single summer yeah i mean it couldn't be more perfect yep we need to connect you with her i mean i need to be connected with amy she's moving here she's phenomenal and she's brain has had sessions with her before and she'll like kind of draw stuff out of you and she says everyone she meets with for the most part is like one to two tweaks away from like a single summer and she's like meeting their person getting into a healthy relationship what did she say your tweak was what do you need i was still in love with the person that was ruining my life so I was allowing to ruin my life. And then I wrote an hour of comedy about it and I've been touring it. I turned my pain into money. Take your broken heart, turn it into ours. That's what they say. That's all right. You're helping others heal. Thank you. Well, let's end with you. Anything you want to tell people where to find you other than Sports Illustrated and Peloton, anything else you have coming up? I am also on Tyler Perry's hit show, Sisters. Hell yeah. I'm a series regular on the show, so check that out on BET. Love that. That's been very fulfilling. I keep using this word today, but just like fulfilling energy role, no pen intended for me to just step into this again in this chapter of my life. And then, of course, yeah, find me on the Peloton, babe. Oh, yeah. Pick up my book, Speak. We didn't mention this, you guys, but if you haven't taken the Magic Mike ride to an AZ instructor, it's the best thing I've ever seen aside from her Beyonce class with Alex and all of her classes, honestly. But this ride is wild. And we talked to you a little bit about the behind the scenes and you didn't quite know how they were going to incorporate the guys. I don't want to give any spoilers, but find this Magic Mike ride and take it. There are married women across the country who have been waking up at 4 a.m. before their husbands or partners to take that class for the last several months. And so it's hot. Enjoy it. I came up from the basement. My Peloton's in the basement. Shashank was on the couch. I was like, I'm so horny. I got to be honest. I'm stretchy. And Jesse was like, yeah, I can tell. We visited so many emotions together. You've cried during the Beyonce ride and now I've like sparked new feelings in you. It's like my therapy. I don't work out for my weight or anything. I mean, I genuinely work. I'm just perfect the way I am. No, no, no. But like, I don't get on the bike with that intention. Yeah, whatever. I want to look a certain type of way, but it's my mental health. So it's just, you know, you guys really change lives. We aim to please. Yeah. Thank you. OK, well, your Instagram. I love we're trying to be serious now. So yes, my Instagram is Tune to Tune Day. Tune to Tune Day. Yeah, this was so good. This was so much fun. Thank you so much for me. I'm sad it's over. When are you coming back to New York? I'll be back. I'm hopefully signing at least today for July 1st. Right. Let's hang. All right. You guys follow Tune Day. All the things Peloton Sports Illustrated, Assistism, BET. And you can find us at girlsgottoeat.com, girlsgottoeatpodcasts on Instagram and TikTok. I am ashhas on Instagram and TikTok. Raina is raina.greenberg, rainagreenberg.com for her tour tickets in the fall and the winter. Subscribe on YouTube. Watch full video on Spotify and YouTube. And we will see you Thursday. Have a good week, guys. Bye.