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Hello and welcome to Reddit Stories. I'm Shane and today's theme is over-reacting. Am I overreacting? I don't know. I'm joined by two people who frankly do give us some of the best reactions on this show. What? What? How could you? Courtney Norashar here. Those are some of the great reactions. We're going to be seeing more of that. Yeah, you are. Yeah, you are. What do you think the chances are of something giving you the type of reaction where you literally get up off the couch and run around? We have a lot more room now. We do. We do. To run around. Do you have more space? This couch is a little bit bigger. I can just roll around and just start just going crazy, washing. The poof went high. You cannot throw that poof at me. Well, okay. Well, challenge. Accept it. Yeah, okay. Well, I have a pillow now. Oh, well. Good luck. Good luck. I'm going to like, fend it off. If I throw poof, you'll return a pillow. I will walk with pillow, throw pillow. Okay. This is day two. This is our first time on the road. It's that how is this chair for you? It's nice. It's comfortable. Hell yeah. I feel like it's the Martin Scorsese thing now where I'm like, like I'm fully locked in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Nice. Nice. Nice. Yeah, I'm excited for the stories today. I feel like the reactions, like it can be, they're so bad that I can't even move and I, and I go inside my body. Yeah. Or where I need to frolic out of anger. Or just throughout the story, just being like, what? Huh? I know. Huh? Throughout. He said what? There, you can use that. Any point in the video. Yeah, let's just like backorder a few reactions up at the top. Okay. Let's do it. He said what? Wait, can I hear that again? Okay, um, for real? Shane, why would you say that horrible word? I got one. Okay. Please, please have an update. These are good. You're ready. Yeah, and if you put those only at the beginning, it'll be really embarrassing. Well, we'll switch those around. Yeah, yeah, no, they got our bad. All right, our first story comes from Am I Overreacting, posted in January of this year, 2026. Am I overreacting if I end my relationship because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning? Wait, I was, I thought that sentence was going different places. He said what? And then it ended up being super sweet. Yeah, let's get that one more time. You want to end it? Yeah. All right. I hate that my boyfriend loves me. Yeah. He's a monster. All right. My boyfriend, who's 39 and I, a 30-year-old woman, have different work schedules. Most days of the week, boyfriend has to be out of the house by 7am. As a grad student, I am often up late working, but try to sleep in so I still get at least eight hours of sleep. Fortunately, my partner and I have separate bedrooms, so in theory, this should be perfectly manageable. But despite repeatedly asking him not to, he always comes into my room to kiss me and tell me he loves me before he leaves, which wakes me up every time. I have an aura ring, so I am also able to see that this often takes place when I am in deep sleep, which in addition to lost sleep hours leaves me incredibly groggy throughout the day. I know it's sweet, but I've suggested if he wants to be cute to please leave a note or a nice text I can wake up to. I remind him not to wake me up in the morning the night before and will even tape notes to my door that say, "Please don't wake me up." And he still does anyway. Otherwise, our relationship is great, so maybe it's the sleep deprivation talking, but I'm really feeling at my wit's end with this. Please help me find some clarity on what to do at it. Oh, God. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. This is tough. Yeah, yeah, or it's not tough, but it's an interesting scenario. It is, yeah. At first, I was like really mad at her and I was like, no, he's being sweet and that's adorable, but then it's kind of like you think about it further and it is kind of like, okay, she's kind of being as clear as possible. Yeah, with the notes. With the notes, it's like, please don't wake me up. Then it feels a little like, okay, just leave a cutie note. Right. I wish she had said like what his responses were to what she's asking for. I know it's just like, yeah, if he's lying there, he's like for sure. I will not just you. Yeah, I wonder why. I want like, do you think he's trying to like, after she's like, please don't kiss me in the morning, he's like, for sure. And then he's like, tries to be extra sneaky. He's like, yeah, because like, my mind goes to imagine like, some people, it's like existential or like, where it's like, I want to see my person and say, I love you in case you before I leave. I never get to do that again. Like, some people, it's that deep. Yeah. But then also, it's like, she's asking for the text. She's asking for something. I also think people, some people can fall asleep faster. I'm someone that I can be woken up and I'll just be like, okay. Help me. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Truly. I want the goodbyes, because then I'm about to, yeah, I can pass right back. Exactly. And then I'll be like, did you say goodbye to me? Yeah. Exactly. And they were like, yeah, when we talked, you made lunch. If it became a, if it became a regular schedule thing, it probably would would be something that I don't consciously wake up for. Yeah. My body would start being like, okay, you're heading out, see you later. Yeah. It's just a 50 percent. You're heading out sick. Yeah. All right. I'll see you later. That's exactly how it goes. And so interesting with the aurora ring too, because I know my, because I've been trying to track my stress and stuff too, when your alarm goes off, I wake up and I go back to sleep and my heart rate gets actually to the lowest. It is the entire night. I don't know if it's like, oh, he's just getting up. I have some time. And I sleep like the best I've ever slept in that neck. I'm scouting the place. I'm like, I feel, I don't know. My body feels extra safe after that. I wake up and grab my spear. I'm like, okay, don't worry. I've got watched. Yeah, heart rate lowered. So he wakes her up at seven. Yeah. He's leaving around seven. Yeah. He's, he has to be out of the house by seven a.m. And she's a grad student. She's often up late working. So she's on an opposite schedule then. Yeah. Sort of not fully, but it just sounds like to a degree. She's probably sleeping until nine, 10. I mean, it depends on how late she's staying up. Because her deep sleep is, I don't know, I don't know. I'm not a sleep scientist. Totally. But she's mad about being woken up at seven a.m. Which makes sense because sleep, you know, it's precious for a lot of people. It's, it's of course needed for all of us. So it makes sense that it is like you're, you're disrupting something that is so vital to this person being able to actually follow through and be themselves throughout all day. And clearly she's the type that she likes her space and her time. They have separate rooms. Yes. That's, I mean, it's super way more common now, but it's a lot. It shows like, you know, setting boundaries. It doesn't matter if the act is a very sweet act. If someone's saying, hey, please don't do that. Kind of doesn't matter how sweet it is and how sweet the intentions are. Yeah, totally. The sweetest thing is to listen to them. Yeah, I mean, a note. Come on. Say goodbye when you go to sleep or say, like, yeah, wake us up. I'm going to bed now. Yeah, you know, I'm going to bed now. I'm going to see you in the morning. Yeah, it could be a normal thing. I think for people to be like, all right, we're going to bed like, I'll be up. I'll be gone by the time you wake up. Yeah. So as you're going to bed, it's just like, all right, well, good luck tomorrow. Whatever, blah, blah. Totally. Yeah. I think that's, okay. And last thing I'll say before we get into comments is, because I like, I prefer a good buy and things like I, I'm, I am the type that when my partner is already asleep and I'm getting into bed. I'm like, oh, I'm saying goodnight to myself or in the morning when you leave earlier than me. You say goodbye. I'm like, I don't care what little cost it is to me. I feel sad when I don't see them. I agree. I agree. Yeah, because I don't want to wake up. Why are you guys smiling? I'm laughing because like, sometimes I'll, I'll go up to bed and I'll start reading and then I'll like fall asleep while I'm reading, but then I'll wake up to go to be like, "Oh, you're already asleep." And then I'm like, "Well, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no And then I'm like, "Well, no, no, no, no, wakey." [ Laughter ] I'll be like, "Oh, I know." But I don't care, because I fall right back asleep. Exactly, exactly. No, I do the same thing. Like, if I'm getting into bed late, I will be like, "Oh, you're asleep." [ Laughter ] "Oh, you're asleep! Oh, you're asleep!" [ Laughter ] "Oh, you're asleep! Oh, oh, oh, oh, look at that!" [ Laughter ] "Oh, you're asleep! Oh, you're asleep! Oh, you're asleep!" [ Laughter ] And these are the reactions you guys come here for. Totally, totally, totally. I know that at 4 a.m., if I'm not in the right sleep position, my cat will get up and come right up to me and face him and just go, "Meh!" [ Laughter ] And then I have to, like, lay in the right way and he's like, "All right, sick." And then I have girls in here. Yeah, totally, totally. Yeah. I'm used to it. Yeah, so she's wrong. So, anyway, she sucks. No. Um, he needs to just listen to her. Yes. Uh, the verdict is not overreacting. Comments? Not overreacting. Please help me find some clarity on what to do, Reddit. And then they put a picture of someone opening a door with the bucket of water on the horse. [ Laughter ] Oh, the bucket prank. Someone said, "Not overreacting. If you really just won't stop, but you don't want to end the relationship, I would start waking him up to say, "Goodnight." And you love him when you go to bed, so he can see the effects of his actions. Less drastic. I'm also a big fan of a rubber door stopper to keep him out. Well, he said solid ideas, thank you. Right, okay, yeah, that's good. - Like anti-breaking, how come men can just stop? - Just stop, yeah. - They have only listening to each other. - It's just wild too 'cause it's like it's not, like it's not like it's uncontrollable. He's choosing-- - It's a choice. - To walk into this room and wake her up after being asked not to. It's just a clear boundary. - The fact that she wants her own space and that they have their own bedrooms is just like, when people are able to do that, that's awesome. But clearly, like, she's not, like, it's pointless. - Right. - She's getting woken up. - Mm-hmm. - That's so interesting. - Update. - Oh. - Oh. - Oh. - Yeah. - Oh. - She never woke up. - And she went to sleep forever. - And she's super happy about it. - Because she's thriving. - Some added context to paint a better picture here, but the TLDR, when my boyfriend came home for lunch, we talked it out. He had kept the lights off to be minimally disruptive when making his morning coffee and didn't see the sign on the door. He forgot I mentioned I would be up late, but did kind of remember me asking him not to wake me up. But it is our anniversary and for him, it's about the worry that if something happened to either one of us, and that not being the last thing he did, he's a complete sweetheart. Okay, I know, crying emoji, plus, plus, plus points for all the commenters that think I'm an absolute monster. - Oh. - Okay. I'm curious, like, okay, so for this one night, he did it 'cause it's their anniversary, but she's saying that this happens all the time. - Right, maybe she's just started to stop him, and maybe it was like the note was just so big for her, where she's like, you did, like, I put a note and you're ignoring that, like, that feels really big and intentional, and I have to say, like, sometimes when, sometimes you can be really in the moment with, like, what happened, like, with the boundary being crossed and like, really stewing over it, 'cause it sounds, 'cause yeah, it sounded like in the Reddit post, like this is something that's been going on for weeks, but it almost sounds like she only has started to put the boundary recently. I'm very much feeling out there. - The timeline is, I don't know the timeline here, but. - Yeah. - Anyways, she goes on to say, he promised he would take it more seriously moving forward, and I take him at his word for all of it. A big thank you to all of the sincere responses with suggestions because from all of that came a great solution. He is a wonderful illustrator, so I'm going to mount a dry erase board on the back of my door for him to easily leave me messages. But after more thought to, I'm going to tell him later, he can come in and kiss me goodbye, and just ask him to do it somewhere less sensitive like the top of my head and not whisper directly in my ear. - Oh yeah, that can be scary. Going too far. - He's kissing her goodbye. Is he kissing her on the lips? If he's kissing her goodbye, was he kissing her or her on the lips while she's asleep? - Oh, he's sleeping, who's he? - Oh! - I hate that. He's a girl. - Shutting the jaw to make it stick out there. - Me, me, me, me, me. - I'm good now, though. - Do you love me? - I love you so much. - She's like, babe, we talked about this. - That's horrible. - Did you stay up all night? - I kissed him. - All right, the responses to this post have given me a lot of perspective. As I have also many times found myself scrolling, am I overreacting and am I the asshole post thinking, may this love never find me? All of the comments of which I've only been able to read a fraction, both telling me I should ditch him and those saying he should ditch or cheat on me, have helped me appreciate how little of a window into a person's relationship these posts really give. Honestly, the relationship I have is truly wonderful. We have fun together every day, work together as a team, and I am so glad this love found me. It's weird how many of y'all took issue with the separate rooms thing. We still sleep over and hang out in each other's rooms all the time, but it's awesome to not be completely beholden to the other person's sleep schedule or compromise closet space. I consider it a privilege, LOL wild. Yeah, I think that's valuable stuff said at the end there. I mean, I think with most am I the asshole and am I overreacting stories, we get the like weirdest, single aspect of a relationship and we judge their entire relationship off of that whereas everything contains multitudes. - It's also like these comments we're overreacting a little bit. - The comments we're the overreacting. - And let's not forget, a lot of times on these comments could be a 12 year old. We don't know. - In fact, it definitely is. - All redditors are 12. - Right. - Anyways. - Wow. - It's good start. - Yeah, yeah. I think that's great. I think we solved that. - I think we solved that too. - Yeah, we fixed it. - Really tough dilemma there. - Yeah, you're welcome. - Would you guys be separate bedroom people if you had the choice? - I don't think so. I mean, I'm definitely separate closet people because I'm like, we need room. - Yeah. - But I don't think so. Again, mostly because I'm like Shane, where I'm like, I can sleep through, I was about to say the dust bowl. - Hello. - I don't know why that goes into the dust bowl. - I will sleep through the dust bowl. - I would have slept through the Great Depression, I think. - Yeah. - Yeah. - No, I'd have been like, man, this sucks. - I'm going to go to bed. - Guys, sound off in the comments. I'm going to sleep through COVID. (laughing) But I think I would. I really, I just, I think I'm such a deep sleeper. I'm a deep sleeper, but I'm also just like, able to be woken up and then go back to bed. So, I think that is a lot of the times the reason. - Totally. - But also, yeah, people just wanting generally some like boundary or some space. For me, it always is like, I think any relationship can take on any sort of like, unconventional aspect and it doesn't have to be a big deal. It's just great. You guys are doing what makes sense for you too. - Yeah. - Then we support it. It doesn't have to be like, oh well most couples actually sleep in the same bed. It's like, awesome, we don't. And we're actually really happy together. - Yeah, I think there's a lot of strength to a couple making a decision that is outside of the norm because the two of them are like, oh, we want this, right? And we don't care that it's conventional or it's traditional or whatever. We do our own thing. I think that shows strength. - I agree. - I don't judge people for that at all. I don't really think too much about it. I think that it makes sense for some people. - I feel like I like the idea of having, like everybody gets around like space to make whatever they want of the space. But I would for sure be having a summer party every night. I can't do that. - Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. - Yeah, do you want to come over? - You'd be at the doorway with the blanket. - Yeah. - Have a little walkie talkie. - Please, come over. - Lou? - What are you doing? (laughing) - A rush, come to my room. - Oh. - Okay. - All right. Our next story comes from, am I overreacting? This comes from March 21st, 2026. A package from an adult toy company arrived at my house and addressed to another woman. Am I overreacting? - Woohoo! How does she know it's a sex toy? She broke a federal law. (laughing) - Oh! (laughing) - That's right. - I need an outside perspective because I genuinely can't tell anymore if my instincts are off or if I'm being gasslet into thinking they are. A package arrived in our house recently. Write address, wrong name. A woman I've never heard of. I looked up the return address out of curiosity. It's Adam and Eve. An adult toy company. I brought it to my husband calmly. No accusations, no yelling. Just showed him and asked if he knew anything about it. His response was immediate and defensive. Instead of being confused or trying to figure it out with me, he turned it on me, started questioning me about why something like that would show up here. I was so caught off guard, I almost started apologizing. - What? (laughing) - Here's where it gets harder to dismiss as coincidence. I looked up the name on the package. She works in the same professional world as my husband. In the same area he frequents, same field, specific enough that when I saw it, my stomach dropped. He has a history of being dishonest when confronted about things that are hurtful. This isn't the first time I felt like I was being made to feel crazy for asking a reasonable question. So I'm asking strangers on the internet. Is this nothing? Is there some totally logical explanation I'm missing? Because from where I'm standing, it feels like a lot of dots connecting in one direction. Am I overreacting? - Whoa. - Okay, okay. Okay, I'm jumping, I'm already five so I was ahead. I'll wait. - Jump. - What if guy is like, you know, trying to cheat and girly? This is a hey girly, but as a package. - Oh. - The hey girly message? - Oh. - You're saying that the woman that he's cheating on or cheating with-- - Or that we think he is. - Yeah, that is maybe having an affair with. - Sent that package. - She sent that package. - Find my name, find me. That's what she did. - Yeah. - Like, she didn't know he was married. She found out he was married and was like, oh. - I'm gonna send some. - Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, that's so it. That's a very, very out of all the horrible scenarios that this could be. That's probably one of the more positive ones. The best case scenario is that this is somehow a complete mistake. But it's the right address. So it's not like a neighbor, right? It's not like, you go to your neighbor's house and you're like, hey. - Right, right. - And you're being defensive. - Oh, the defensive is the worst part of it, right? - Yes, yeah, that's it. - Everything about it is one thing. It's the defensive thing. - Yeah, and I also just want to flag. I hated the sentence of he's been dishonest with things like this before. - Whenever OP writes something like that, it's like, okay, he has a history of being the worst boyfriend in the world. - Bye. - Bye, he's hot, right. It's like, well, we're gonna lean on the side of, this is probably a pattern. - Yeah. - And this is the day that we're calling it out. - Right. - I was hoping that it's like, oh, like, you know, everybody accidentally sends a thing to their old address when it's, especially like, a website like that, you're not ordering from often 'cause stuff, you know, it'd be lasting. - It'd be lasting. - It'd be lasting. - If it's good quality product. - Then all you need is a good loss. - Lessons more. - Yeah. - A good loss. So, you know, when you're like, okay, six months later or however like you've moved, that's one of those random websites where you forgot to change the website or the address. Yeah. And then she, like, this is possible that it's a coincidence, but it's also possible. It's a coincidence. And he's being unfaithful regardless of what it's with the coincidence or not. Mm-hmm. I don't know. Yeah. Suspicious, all together. But it's a woman who is just so happens to work in the same field in the same area as him. That's, though, it's a crazy coincidence. Yeah. Tiz. But he could be helping the case if you were to just respond with that kind of argument. The immediate defensiveness and turning it on her, where she's like, I feel like I need to do a apologize. I was like, that's the suspicious thing about all of this, because that is what people who are guilty tend to do sometimes. It is a physical thing, it's not like, oh, I saw that you were looking at, I think I saw you looking at a woman for a long time, like something like this is a physical thing that arrived at your house. Yeah. How can that be turned on her? Right. Like, how can that be turned on her? Of just like, you know, oh, how could you doubt me? How, like, why would you think that I would possibly cheat on us? Right. Like, this is crazy. Why would you bring me this box? And then it makes you feel like, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to, like, shuffle that out. And it's a very common thing to get a wrong package sent to your place. Yeah. And there's not a good scenario where he's being defensive. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Right. But let's see. Yeah. The verdict is not overreacting. Comments, not overreacting. If he immediately gets defensive and has a history of being dishonest, does she work or live in a town he travels to, well, he says it's about 30 to 40 minutes from where we live. So the name on the address works so far away from where they live. So far away? Well, I would she order a package to her co-workers. To a person who works in the same field as her. Oh, well, I see, yeah. Not even the same co-workers. Not even co-workers. Just same field, but it's a very specific field. Yeah. Someone said, the defensiveness is the real issue. If this happened to me and I showed it to my husband, he'd be having quite a laugh. And unless you were, like, some kind of super religious prude who thought these were, like, the devil's toys or something, I think most people would react that way. Oh, he said, I'm no prude. I'm no prude. Very clean. Okay. Very good. So someone said, you're not overreacting. You're cheating moron of a husband ordered adult items for him and his girlfriend and auto filled his own address. Mail them to her and say, these were delivered to mine and my husband's home and see what happens after that. Oh, he said, I like your thought. Maybe I take it to her work and give it to her. I am considering sending her an email. Due to her field, the info is public. I'm pissed at him for his choices. I don't know what she knows or what he told her. I don't want to ruin her life, but I want to know how long it's been going on. Ooh. Yeah, to be clear. Don't show up to a workplace. Yeah. Don't put this on her. That is an HR issue. If you have to, like, don't make this, bro, don't bring this personal issue to her workplace. We don't know how involved she is or if she's aware. Put the blame on the husband, right? Yeah. Like, put the pressure there. Yeah. Yeah, definitely. I mean, I feel like maybe I'm coming at it too from, like, a communicative standpoint, but I feel like maybe I would try to give the information that she found about the woman being in the same field and bring that back to the husband first, too. Like, I think the email is more productive, too, to, like, try to get that line of communication started. Yeah. But also, just, like, I don't know. I guess I'm also just thinking about it in my standpoint of, like, if I were to bring something up like this, the natural reaction would be, like, let's have a conversation about how this possibly could have happened. Yeah. And just see how he treats that information. Like, does he also try to, like, tangle that up and make it something that doesn't make sense? Or is he, like, shocked by that? And, you know? Yeah. I don't know. It's, like, the whole, like, sleuth of it all, it feels like it's a little scary. Because, I mean, at the start, we were like, oh, is she being a girls girl, this, this other woman, and trying to, like, throw her a hint, like, could she reach out to her and it's like, hey, what's going on here to get some clarity? Yeah. Because I don't know if she's going to get the truth out of her husband, who is famously dishonest. Right. Right. If you're writing a post and you're going, yeah, my partner, who is dishonest with me all the time, then I'm like, that is a little bit of me being a redditor where I'm like, why are you with this person? Like, if you, that you cannot trust the writing's on the wall. It is. Update. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. What do we think? What do we think? Do we think there is, that this is all a big misunderstanding, or do we think he's cheating on her? I mean, like, my heart wants to be like, it's a misunderstanding. Totally. And like, the sex toys were for him. And that's his, that's his alias. Yeah. What if it was his drag name? You know, we don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. That's what we're going with is he's in drag. I'm scared. All right. As it turns out, I put two and two together and I was wrong. I had a burner email and reached out to her. I had receipts, metaphorically. She emailed me back. She's been staying at her mother's house down the street and fat fingered the address. It was one number off. The package was for her and her husband who are reconciling. I had essentially asked an innocent woman if she was sleeping with my husband via a carefully crafted email from a secret account while she was out here just trying to spice things up with her spouse. She apologized. I told her it wasn't necessary and I apologized. I invited her for coffee because I clearly have no survival instincts. My husband was defensive because that's just who he is, which is its own fun problem. So am I overreacting technically, yes, but also our marriage needs work. So maybe a stranger's typo was the universe's way of handing me a wake up call wrapped in a very awkward package, literally. Wow. Okay. Okay. Okay. But here's the thing. There is a lesson that she needs to learn. Stop blaming yourself for all these things that are happening at you, girly. You don't not to be apologizing to this other woman like, I have messaged an innocent girl. You're an innocent girl. You're also an innocent girl. Yeah. You're all innocent girls. Yes. Yes. Okay. Say it, Shane. I'm an innocent girl. Say it. Yes. We are all innocent girls. Okay. I feel bad that this person is so used to like, I can't believe I did that. Right. No, you were so reasonable for it. No need to apologize, you know, and when you have a defensive partner who just is defensive as a treat. What? Yes. Yes, you're so right. I can't believe this person and that like, anybody if that, was, if that pattern had lined up would be like, like, what is going on? Like, this is a crazy situation. And she didn't like, bring it to him being like, this is over or anything like that. She was like, do you have an explanation? Yeah. Like, she opened up a conversation. You did the right thing. And then also, again, didn't storm into the workplace. Just in her words, sent a carefully crafted email. Yes. Like, you handled things right, girly. Yes. Yes. But she is acknowledging that there's stuff to work on in her relations because clearly there is. Can we talk about the fact that someone sent, by accident, sex toys to her place. And she asked them out to coffee. Yeah. It's just like, hey, man, if someone sent, if someone accidentally sent sex toys to my, my apartment, I'd be like, what's the quickest way I can give this to you? Oh, yeah. And simply not make eye contact. Right. Oh, right. I'm in a girly suit. Oh, I went to your porch. What? What? I'd be like, Ma-cha? I'm boxing in front of me. I'm boxing? What do you like the roast? Me and a paraglider dropping it off. Yeah. Yeah. And me like moving in. Yeah, yeah. She's like, all right. Let's hang out. Yeah. Moving on. Okay. Okay. It's a good one. It's a good one. Nobody's overreacted yet. No. But we've had misunderstandings. Yes. Our next post comes from the subreddit, Nanny. I think this is the first. Oh, this is going to get good. Oh. This is going to be good. I used to be in like a Facebook page of like babysitters and like families and stuff like that. And people would just fully post screenshots of the obscene things that families would ask. Oh. I can't wait for this. Oh, God. No, I don't need anymore, but I used to nanny. So you, Nanny, just love that. I need. It's so fun. I loved Nanny. I nanny these two sisters in my favorite part was every morning. I go and help them pick out their outfits and then drive them to school. Oh. I used to nanny like a little baby, too, in my favorite thing. Like in the mornings as you would like walk in the crib and you go, come morning. You're sobbing. Okay. I'm now overreacting. All right. Okay. Let's do it. Nanny. Nanny. This is posted in October of 2025. Am I overreacting about my nanny family having sex during the day? Oh. Okay. Nanny. Nanny. They're making more work for her. Yeah. Which is great. You're more amazing. You're creating job stability. Hey, we're working here. Yeah. Hi, everyone. I'm a full-time nanny for a stay-at-home mom with an eight-month-old baby. The baby is honestly perfect, so sweet and happy. Naps great. I've been with the family for about seven months now. The mom and dad are both amazing employers. They're super nice to me. The mom gets me Starbucks and Aussie e-bols. Even makes me lunch sometimes. I make $32 an hour with great benefits in a MCOL, a medium cost of living area. So overall, this is a dream job. Here's my only issue. I'm pretty sure the parents are having sex during the dad's lunch break. Maybe every day or every other day. Thank you. They go to their room. and I never see anything inappropriate. But sometimes I hear what I think might be the bed moving. It's not loud or anything, just enough to make me realize what's going on. Afterward, her hair is messy, clothes changed, that kind of thing. Today, I asked the mom what she was up to when she came out of the room, and she didn't really say much. I kind of jokingly said, "Oh, were you napping?" And she got a little red knock word. That pretty much confirmed it for me. I know they're married adults and it's their house, but it still makes me a little uncomfortable since I'm there taking care of their baby. They're not being disrespectful or obvious, but it just feels weird. Would it be totally out of line to ask them not to do that while I'm working, or am I overreacting and should just let it go? They really are such a great family and I don't want to make things awkward if this is just me being overly sensitive. What would you do? - Whoa. - Okay, so to go back, she's saying, I think they're having sex. They go to the room, I don't hear much. I think I hear the bed movie. I think, and then when they come out, she's maybe changed clothes, it's just whatever. And so she's thinking this is happening and she's uncomfortable with the thought of them having sex. - Yeah, it's almost like her own hyperbilled vigilance has brought her to, well, she's not, she can't unknow it now. - But she's also like paying a tent. She's really like, and when they're coming out, she's like, "What were you up to?" - Right. - It's like, "Oh, were you napping?" - Yeah. - I'm just kind of like, what? - Right, right. - It's like, "What do you think they would tell you?" - She does not have confirmation of what's happening. - Right. - And yeah, she's also like, they're a married couple. - They're married in a couple. - They're shutting the door, they're going to another room. - Every day. I'm impressed. - Or every other day. - For them. - Wow. - For maybe two, seriously. - I do think, like, I'm thinking about roommate life. You know what I mean? And how it's like, when you got roommates and like, life is happening, it's just kind of happening and you don't, you can't really put rules on that kind of stuff when it's like. - Yeah. - Like, you can, and I think since this nanny is like, aware that it's happening, but not so much so that it's a problem. It's just the fact that now she knows that it's her problem. - Yeah. - Yeah. - It's like, maybe she just needs to like, put some music on, and then maybe then they'll be like, wait, does she know? And then like, then it's like this unspoken, okay, we're aware, and maybe we need to either be a little more discreet or be more conscious of when or totally. - I don't know. - And I don't necessarily falter for feeling a little weird about it. - Yeah, yeah, that's how it is. - That's totally valid and fine, but she's at a plate like, I'm like, don't push when they come out of the room. Don't be like, what were you doing? - Like, in the hall, I'm just picturing in the hallway, like, this is me. - Yeah, yeah. I'm gonna go all the way over here. - Yeah, yeah. What were you doing? (laughing) Were you napping? - Yeah. - Like, actually looking for answers, and it's like, the parents are not- - I floated up. - He's even further into the dark, just. (laughing) - What were you doing? (laughing) - Listen, bouncing up and down. - I think it's also- (laughing) - We're just, we just like to jump on the bed. - Yeah, we're just functioning. - I can only assume to, I mean, I feel like in order to afford $32 an hour, this nanny's a full-time nanny has been there for months, getting paid $32 an hour. I can only assume this is a big, or house. - Like a full-time nanny, is she living there? - I don't think she's living there. - Yeah, she would have said live in, I think. - Yeah, I'm a full-time nanny. I don't think she's a live-in nanny, but I think she's a full-time nanny. So this gotta be a nice house. - Yeah, I'm also trying to picture, 'cause I'm picturing I'm like, this is at least a house. I'm like, I'm like, how close proximity is all of this also? - Yeah. - There's a few layers, but I mean, ultimately, I'm just like, you're getting paid $32 an hour. There is a degree to which I would be like, yes. There is a line. I can cross to you. - Yeah, I think that's definitely just how you view it. Like how do you look at it? 'Cause it's like, depending on where you stand, if you're in more conservative and you're like, oh, it kind of gives clutching my pearls a little bit how this is written. - Totally. - Where it's like, I don't know. Maybe if I was in that situation, I'd start to go over, like, oh, lunch is gonna be soon. I'm gonna like hang out with the baby on the other side of the house so I don't hear it. Or I just like, get a girl. Good job. Get on them, but their love is alive. And this baby has a slow things down. Like, just kind of now you know when it happens and you can just go hang out with the baby in the back of it. - Yeah, yeah. Like the way I think about it too, right, is like with these nanny situations, it's so often now that we have work from home that so many parents are just staying home, but somebody's still coming to specifically take care of the child. And when that's the case, the parents are allowed to do whatever. So like if they were taking like a work meeting, you wouldn't jump in there and be like, hey, you can't be doing that right now. What are you doing? - Yeah. - Are you working? - Yeah. - It's like they kind of have this ability to just like be around, you're getting paid to specifically watch the kid and the parents are free to do whatever in their own house. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Yeah, shutting the door is she's not hearing a lot. Like. - It's the bed moving. - If she wants like she could, I don't know if they got a stroller situation. Like maybe she just goes for a nice little straw. - Yeah. - Time. - Totally. Yeah. - Yeah. - Seven months working with them. - Yeah. - And I don't know how recent it is. I'm assuming this can't have been for that long. But. - Yeah. - Let's see. So the verdict is overreacting. - Yes. - Okay. - Good. - I think overwhelmingly so. Comments, you are way out of line confronting the mom boss because you suspect the married adults may have taken advantage of what they expected to be private time to do private things. Really OP. The kids are napping. Instead of taking a break or focusing on cleaning up or preparing for nanny kids' activities, you are being creepy. Eavesdropping, listening for bed creeks, generating a fence that they might have probably did enjoy a private intimate mutual activity in the most private space in their private home. You're the problem, the whole problem. - Support comes from wise. The smart way to manage the currencies you need around the world. Your life is global. Your money should be too. Some providers promise no fees on overseas transfers. Don't be fooled. Extra costs often hide in bloated exchange rates. Choose wise. You can send, spend, and receive money in over 40 currencies. Count on the exchange rate that you'd usually see on Google. That's how millions save billions on hidden fees. Be smart. Get wise. Visit wise.com. T's and C's apply. - Someone said, oh girl, LMAO, at $32 an hour, I would just put on headphones while baby naps and mine my business. Personally, I would let it go. Maybe that's the reason you're paid so well in the first place. Let Mama lay it down on him so you can make $64 an hour. - Hey. - Someone said, you are overreacting. I don't think you should make comments to them about what they're doing behind closed doors. I personally feel you should not ask them not to do that. You're overstepping and making it an issue. You said they aren't loud nor making it obvious. Adults do adult things. O.P. said, in response, but I'm working. You don't think it's disrespectful to (beep) while someone's taking care of your kids under your roof, it's making me uncomfortable. They both go into the bedroom and come out with messy hair and smiley faces. It makes me feel weird. - Okay. - I don't know what to tell of you. - That they're happy and blissful and happy. - Right, I think it goes back to what you were saying is like it's how you're viewing this. If you're kind of treating it like, he he he, or like, oh my God, sex. - I don't know what to say because I'm like, I understand it's like, if people it's like, oh, what boundary of yours are they crossing? How are they doing to you? It's like, they're not doing anything to her. - Right. - They're going to another place. They're closing the door. You're not hearing anything and then you're upset that they're coming out with a different reply. - I'm really-- - That's not really a problem. Like-- - Right, I guess I'm trying to understand her perspective and like, okay, let's, let, we talked about roommates. We've talked about neighbors. - Yep. - Now let's talk about the workplace. You know, and like how you'd be weirded out if your coworker in their office was like watching adult content during the work day. - Okay. - So that would feel like if you caught them or even saw them, they would like report to HR and be like, hey, this is making me uncomfortable. So, but it's purely that she was so like checking in and it's suspicious of us. - She's really seeking it out. Really seeking it out and like, it's a really great job. She made me, like, cause I'm trying to understand like the like, the parallels of like how this could feel like sexual harassment for some reason, but it's not like, but it really feels like they need her now more than ever. Like they, they are trying to maintain a household, a marriage, and like what does she want them to be doing all day while she's working? Does she want them to also be working the whole day? - Cause if she's a full-time nanny, when she's done working, she leaves there now in charge of the kids, they're probably not, this might actually be the only time where they're not worried about the kid and they get this, and they're together. It is, I can't relate too much to this because I've only worked in shared work spaces like this, which is a very different beast than like this, you're working in a private home. Like, I don't know, that's, it's a little different. And so much of this is not, I am hearing this, I am seeing this, it's, I think you guys are doing this. And I'm uncomfortable by the idea of it, and it's like, I don't know what to tell you, man. - But it's like, but if she ever had roommates. - But if you're also uncomfortable, then like, what are you seeking from getting your answers? Why are you going to the door being like, what were you up to in there? - I know, like, you're pushing it. - Hearing from them, oh, we were having sex. - Yeah. - Would that make you more comfortable? Like, what was, cause she wants to ask them to stop at that point, and it's like, Like, do you understand the impact you have on other people when you are trying to police their lives? - Right. - Like, no, it's so true. Like, that's probably the only time where they feel like they can have that time. - Yeah, yeah, it's interesting. - It is. - We have an update. - Oh, update, update, update, update, update. We're being fed. - Yes, we are. - Yes, we are. - We are fed, we are fed. - As we're reading this, apparently, it is thundering and lightning-ing outside. - Yeah. - So cool. - I'm sad I'm not outside. - The power goes on. - Should we continue from outside? - Cut to us, outside. - Just, we somehow bring those set out there, too. - Yeah, yeah, we know OP is gonna push more. - I can't wait, I can't wait. - Oh, he's gotta push more. - And I hope they push more to each other. - All right. (laughing) - That Friday morning, I told my mom, boss, I wanted to talk during the baby's nap, and she said, "Okay." - Mom, boss. - I brought up how uncomfortable I felt about what I thought was going on, and mentioned how I could sometimes hear or notice things that made me think they were having sex while I was there. I told her it made me uncomfortable, and that's when everything went downhill. (laughing) She was very direct with me. She said my only job was to take care of the baby, not to worry about what she and her husband were doing. She told me if I had downtime, I could watch TV or read a book. I told her it just seemed weird that she'd come out with messy hair or different clothes. - What is with the hair being a mess? - It's messy hair, messy messy hair. - Like, just get her a hair brush. - Jesus. - And she explained that sometimes they do work out videos in their room, sometimes it's sex, sometimes cuddling, and sometimes she's just napping. She said, "Whatever happens in her bedroom is none of my business." - Period! - After that, things got really quiet. She wasn't mean, but I could tell she was uncomfortable and hurt, then she told me I could go home for the day, and I just knew that meant I was done. Later, she texted saying they were going to move in another direction, and that was it. I feel horrible, I know I crossed a boundary, and I regret bringing it up so much. I missed them terribly, the money was amazing, my mom boss was so kind, and their baby was absolutely perfect. I really wish I could fix this, and somehow get my job back. How do I get my job back? - Oh, my job back. - Go to a different Reddit. - Enough question. - Different Reddit for that one. - This is really a case of like, look, I do sometimes disagree with the majority on Reddit, but you went to Reddit for a response, and you got an overwhelming reaction, and it sounds like you didn't take it into consideration at-- - Yeah, you actually, like, doubled down. - Yeah, I'm like, what were you getting here for? - I'm so proud of the mom boss. - Yes, mom boss. - No, mom boss, actually. To send somebody who's already working the job that you're moving in another direction is so tough. - Roodle. - 'Cause you already have this job, you're working it, and now it's like, and we're going elsewhere. - Yeah. - I love that she responded being like, sometimes we do workout videos, which I'm like, oh, that makes a lot of sense. Like, P90X would sound like that or whatever. - Totally. - But it's like, and then she's like, and sometimes we'd be f---ed. - And sometimes I'd be bouncing up and down that f---er. (laughing) - I know how does that make you feel. - I feel it, I feel it. - Okay, we're moving in another direction. - And I just style my hair this way. This is how I like my hair. - Yeah. - The hair has nothing to do with it. - I tie my hair back up. - That's how my hair is. (laughing) - Sometimes I have a crazy nap. - That's crazy. - Yeah, and I don't think there's any coming back from that. - No, no. - 'Cause it's so uncomfortable, right? - You shattered a wall. - That would say not be fixed. - I think you guys brought it up earlier, and I think it's true that it's like, oh, if something's happening, you're like, oh, I'm a little uncomfortable by this. It's like, what's the most subtle way? Like, oh, you've turned on a little bit of music. Like, somewhere that it's just like, oh, I know about it, but I'm not saying that I know about it. - Yeah, I'm just for can change your perspective on it. - Yeah. - So, like, this isn't, we've heard stories of worst things. - Oh my God. - Where it's like, oh, there's a world where that, there's a couple doing crazy loud activities. - Also, I would guess that nine out of 10 times on subreddits about nannies, that the momboss is the bad person. - Oh, right, yeah. - This is just one of the rare occasions where I'm like, I'm not on the nannies side as much. - Right, yeah. - But nannies get treated awfully. - Out really. - So often that. - The boundaries can go rough, yeah. - It sucks too, 'cause it sounds like she really does realize all of that now. - Yeah. - It sounds like after the fact she's like, well, I shouldn't have brought it up and I shouldn't have done this, which is of course frustrating because everybody told her not to. - But she's now broken the seal where they can't have her there, 'cause they're like, well, she now is thinking, she's paying so much attention. She's caring about how my hair looks when I come into the bedroom. - Like, you should be using that energy toward the kid that we have hired you to care about. - Yeah. - Yeah. - No, like, what does she think was gonna happen? What did she think was gonna happen that the mom was gonna go, oh, sorry. - You're so weird. - Okay, we won't anymore. - She reminds you of Jesse Plemmons' character from Game Night. We're just like, what are you guys doing in there? - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - Oh, yeah. - Just like creating your own problem, not solving anything. - Perceiving a little too much, rough. - Update number two. - Whoa, all right. - She's back. - Okay. - She got the job again. Let's see if she, do we think she got the job again? - No, (beep) - Okay. (laughing) I sent a text message to my mom boss on Sunday morning and she responded this morning saying she forgives me and that she hopes I take this as a learning experience but they will not hire me back. - Oh, no. - Oh, mom boss. - Mom boss is indeed capital M capital B. - What are you about, pop boss? - She continues, I miss her so much. She said she talked to her husband about everything and they decided to give me a month's pay until I find a new job. I honestly didn't expect that. It was really kind of them even after everything that happened. I miss my unicorn family so much. I was completely in the wrong and I take full responsibility for that. I know I hurt people who trusted me and that's something I have to live with and learn from. I will not be filing any sexual harassment report. The people who are telling me to do that were not giving me good advice and I will be keeping my distance from them from now on. I miss my nanny baby so much. I can't believe I won't be going back. It breaks my heart because they were such a big part of my life. I keep replaying everything in my head and wondering if there's anything I could say or do to make things right. I know trust once broken is hard to fix but I wish I could show them how much I've grown and how truly sorry I am. I'm trying to find a new job now and honestly everyone's been so rude. It's really been hard. I can't believe my old employers still paid me $5,200 after letting me go. That was so generous of them. I really didn't deserve it after everything that happened. To be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. I knew it! I knew it! I was about to say that! Uh oh! I knew it! Show us pop boss! We need to see the bosses. I need to see the bosses. I knew it, I knew it, I knew it. Her hair is messy because you're a sexy man. That's messing it up. I need it. I feel like, I don't know how old OP is but they give this situation how the rest of the front will love with their brain, they want. Oh, and then she's like, Oh, my consequences and all of the things. She had her Grinch moment bonus with her brain. Yeah, like, oh my God, the consequences of my actions. I knew it! Uh, jealous! See, that's, I'm telling you, man. I do think, okay, this is gonna set a little, I don't know if it'll sound crazy. I think Reddit can be a good place for advice but you need, it's anonymous. So you need to be so honest about all the aspects you think are going on. If she had written that in the initial post, it would have added so much more of just like, and yeah, I'm a little jealous of this person. It's like, all right, now we can all work a little more. You just want him to not have sex with anybody. The amount of times, the amount of times the update, OP is like, all right, so here's actually what's going on. So God damn. Seriously. You can hear so much regret. Oh, of course. I feel really bad for them because they really are like, I think I really like a moment of ego and life. Totally. I just totally clouded her. Like, I wish she could have just doctor-strained of what could have happened and just chosen not to burp the bubble. Yeah. And look, and here's the thing. Here's the thing, I do think it shows like what this mom boss is doing is so important for people to do of like, hey man, don't, sometimes it is important to like, bring the fucking hammer down on people when they cross a boundary so that they have to like learn. 'Cause now this is huge for OP. I hope OP finds a job. And because it sounds like they needed a wake up call to be like, okay, I need to respect people. I need to like tune in with myself a little bit more. Yes, yes. It's so easy. They will be a better person for this. Yeah, and they're being accountable, which is awesome. Like that, that's just always like the best case scenario is you hear somebody doing something that you're like, ugh, and then they come around. I also want to say too, it sounds like maybe what was going on because of the jealousy thing. Maybe they knew what they wanted to do which was try to make it stop. So despite there being an overwhelming amount of comments, telling them, don't do it, don't do it, they probably were weeding out the ones that were like, you're right girl. 'Cause they were like, oh, I was the sexual harassment. Right. The verdict was so overwhelming. Now they continue on. They go, to be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. She's a stay-at-home mom, beautiful. Only 28 rich has a gorgeous home and she and her husband are truly happy. She's such a good mom and it just felt like she had this perfect life her dream life and I'm the same age and I think that made me feel small in ways I didn't even realize at the time. - Wow. - I hated admitting that but it's true. Now I just feel so lost. I miss them so much. I keep wishing I could go back and do things differently. I know I can't but I still hope one day I can find a family even half as good as them. I don't know if I should try reaching out again down the road or just accept that it's over and move on. part of me. wants to hold on to hope, but part of me knows I need to respect their decision. Any advice on what I can do to maybe get them back, or should I just leave it and start fresh? I'm really debating and feeling lost about what the right thing to do is. Learn from my mistakes, guys. Don't leave a good family. Let everything go. Don't let jealousy or pride get in the way of something real. Some things just aren't worth losing the people who truly care about you. Appreciate what you have before it's gone. Okay, so she's 28, and the mom is 28. Yeah. I'm not that it matters. For some reason I picture Nanny's, I guess I picture any age, right? But I think I was picturing OP being younger than the mom, for some reason I was 16. Yeah, like 16. And I didn't have that. But it kind of adds another layer to like, when this 28-year-old walks out of a room and another 28-year-old's like, what were you doing in there? I'm just like, you've like, we're so old. I thought I was picturing like a 22-year-old and like a 30-year-old mom and the 22-year-old was just like young and still just like feeling weird about things. Right. But now we know it's a 28-year-old who's jealous of the 22-year-old mom. Yeah. Which is precisely the reason that you should not reach back out. No. No feelings associated. No. So even though it was a perfect situation, which by the way, shout out to that family for being so wonderful, paying her after the fact too, like forgiving her, all of that stuff is just showing green flags to this family. Yeah. Right. She did leave a perfect situation, but she should. And I think O.P. is learning a lot, but I don't like that they're like, how can I get them back? No. I'm just like, no, this is stop. But it sucks. It sucks. It is so awful when you mess up with a good thing and you have to let it go. Yeah. You have to go, okay, I did this. I have learned from it. I'm not the same person anymore. Yeah. But I can't have that thing back. Yeah. It's like, I don't know how long O.P. has been nanny-ing, but it's like really assessing your situation and being like, okay, how much worse could this be and how much better could this possibly be? I would be uncomfortable if I could like hear them audibly. Yeah. When you brought up roommates, that's what I was thinking too, of like, you know, we've always, we've all heard like a roommate and their partner are doing it in another room. Yeah. And it's like, you're gonna hear some bump in, you're gonna hear some, yeah. Yeah. See what she could also done is when they come out, she could have just been like. Nice. Sick dude. Like get a girl. Okay. All right. How was it? Who came first? Yeah. Are there any regrets for them? You guys need these. Yeah. She was the girl in jealous and they're like, where's the baby? Yeah. Where's the baby? Oh, shit. Oh. The baby. Oh. The baby's already lit up. Yeah. She looks over at the dog door. She's like, oh. Oh. Yeah. Oh. Yeah. She had every opportunity to make this funny and awesome. You could have made this so funny. No. Well, they're in the bedroom. She messes up her hair and changes clothes. And they come up, she goes, guys, guys, some crazy sex. Guys, Adam and Eve Package came in. That's so good. All right. Yeah, but she f***ed it up. Our next story comes from Am I overreacting? This was posted in, oh, April of 2026. Oh. And it is out. Am I overreacting for ending things with my date after he accidentally texted me this. Oh. Oh, a screenshot. Oh. Okay. Oh, I love this. Also, I think you're allowed to end a date for whatever reason you want. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I'm bored. All right. No. I'm bored. Yes, so what I was talking about with my family. I'm bored. I'm bored. Okay. All right. I, a 22-year-old woman, went on a first date with this guy who's 22. I met on Hinge. The date was amazing. He's super attractive and we had great chemistry. At the end of the night, he dropped me home and we kissed. Oh. A bit later, after I got home, we were texting and suddenly things got weird. He sent me a pick of myself and I was confused. No. Then these texts followed. He sounded like a totally different person and I was puzzled. Here are the texts. Okay. So he sends a photo of her. Oh, no. Oh, no. Yes, oh, yes. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. No. What could it be? What could it be? I have literally no idea. He sends the photo of her. Really crying. And then he writes. 11 out of 10, bro. Soft skin, big titties, smells good. She's got that mommy aura for real. L-M-F-A-O. L-M-F-A-O. I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed. L-O-L. Oh! Ha! I mean, like, a little bit, like, period. A little bit, I'd be like, wait. 11 out of 10, big titties? Okay. Oh. Mostly that. Mostly this. No, 11 out of 10, bro. I'm like, aw! It's like soft skin. I'm like, aw! And big titties, like, aw! The mommy aura is aw! Mommy! L-M-F-A-O. No, no, no! Who are you texting that to? Well, I think he thought-- I clearly thought he was texting a friend, a bro. And then he sent it to her. I'm a boy. So she writes back, excuse me? And he goes, W-D-Y-M. What do you mean? Question mark, question mark, question mark. See, I don't realize who you're texting. And then he writes in all caps, "Holy, I can explain this. It's not what you think it is." No, yes it is! I think it's exactly that. Exactly, exactly that. It's exactly that. And then he says, "I must begin by offering my most sincere and profound apologies for the profoundly unfortunate and embarrassing incident that occurred earlier this evening. Through an egregious error on my part, I have inadvertently exposed you to a series of private, highly inappropriate, and frankly juvenile remarks that were never meant for your eyes. The fault lies entirely with me, and I take full responsibility for this lapse in judgment and basic etiquette. Please allow me to express how deeply mortified and ashamed I feel at this moment. The content of those messages, while never intended to reach you, was crude, disrespectful, and objectifying in ways that no woman deserves to encounter, particularly following what I had hoped was a pleasant evening spent in your company. Referring to you in such reductive and objectifying terms reflects poorly, not only on my manners, but on my character as well. Furthermore, the tone and immaturity. I'm going to jump somewhere far! Furthermore, the tone and immaturity displayed in those texts do not align with the respect I genuinely wish to extend toward you. The line regarding the kiss, in particular, was entirely exaggerated. I did not experience it. It was actually awful. Unironically? It was not my intention to make you feel objectified, sexualized, and in an unwelcome manner, or disrespected in any way. Yet the reality is that my careless action has likely done exactly that, and for that I am truly sorry. I want you to know that our date is generally enjoyable for me. I was excited, perhaps, overly so, and allowed that excitement to manifest in the most inappropriate and childish private outlet imaginable. That does not justify it, but I hope it provides some small context for my laps. In no way does it excuse the disrespect inherent in those words. I ask you to give me a second chance. That is all I am asking for. Chapter two. No, no, no. Oh my god. Oh my god. She continues to write, now just in the post. He immediately apologized, but I'm really frustrated and upset. I was really into him and looked forward to our next date, but now I don't want to continue anymore. I just feel like he has no respect for me whatsoever, and doesn't even see me as a human being. I cried a little to my friend, and she said I'm being dramatic in that he's just really attracted to me, and he's hot, so I shouldn't take it seriously, because that's how guys talk. Oh! And you guys, I hang out with you. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. There is a version of that text that he sends to his friend that is fine. I think not this. I'm saying like if he'd actually sent her in, and he's texting his buddies like, dude, she is so hot. Oh my gosh, she's amazing. It's just the way he was like talking about it. What was he talking to? What's worse? Probably a friend. Rock. What is worse? His initial text to his buddy, or the chat GPT apology that goes on for quite literally pages. I think it's just embarrassing the stark difference in the language. Oh my gosh. Who is the real you? Who is the real you? The person you're texting who is your friend who's known you a lot longer that you're talking to you like that. Or this insane paragraph that just feels like a thesaurus on wheels. Well, and the apology. It's clearly AI because it gives no more details. It's just running in a circle over and over again because it has no information to play. If you actually wanted to give a lengthy apology, it could have been like when we were laughing about this on our date. I remember thinking that you were like whatever. But instead it's just like my lapsen judgment actually indicated that you are upset by me. Yes. It's like he can like I'm so sorry like me and my friends like is it an inside joke to just be outrageous and like he didn't yeah like you're right about like no new info at all. Yeah bro. Yeah. Okay. It's too good, stupid, stupid. That is. Vertage was what? Vertage is not overreacting. Yeah, and also the friend is the asshole in this too. Yeah. For being like that's just how guys talk girl like you get it. Absolutely. He's hot. So let him be the worst person ever. I'm always sad as As long as I've been in the dating world, which was a brief time, but I had a while there where I cared a lot about seeing how that person acted with their friends and with other people that weren't me. 'Cause that's where you really learn about that person because it's so common for people to treat their baby different than the rest of the world that you own. - And she even described, I think, in the original post that he was texting and it sounded nothing like him. And that's also just such a red flag of like he can clearly manipulate his personality to be like, oh, I'm the perfect guy that's gonna make you think we have so much in common and all this great chemistry. But then I'm gonna go home and actually be myself around my friends and that was revealed to her. - Right. - This is insulting her intelligence so much. - Oh yeah. - He objectified her and then he insulted her brain as much as possible by sending that and thinking she'd fall for it. - But I understand her, like, I get her kind of being like, is there any hope? 'Cause it's like if it wasn't amazing date and like the context of like, you know, when you're dating, you're wanting it to be working out and this guy did work out. But now this weird situation, you're like, I definitely should stop, right? - It sucks so much. I feel like first dates, first few dates, you really don't know the person at all because people are putting on a show. I can't imagine too 'cause I feel like from what I've heard about the dating scene, especially the LA dating scene is like, dudes put on such an act, right? And it sucks. - Yeah. - It's like, what can you do? - 'Cause it doesn't take much to just be like, yeah, I love that too. - Yeah. - God. - Yeah. - I agree. - And now knowing like the switch between how he spoke and what we could maybe likely assume was a tragedy of some kind. Like, all the messages leading up to the date, do we know? Does she know how like who she's talking to? - Yeah, I mean, it's looking at it, reading this. - It's so obviously chatgbt, 'cause it is just one massive (beep) paragraph. And it's literally broken up into paragraphs within the text. - Right. - And I know people text and all sorts of different ways, but when he texted his friend, it was singular sentence text. - Blind. - Yeah. - And then his entire style changes so much. - Yeah. - No, he's just, you know, he's stupid. (laughing) - You know? - And you know what the prophet says, he's stupid. - I think I've got it, he's stupid. - Because he thinks just a lengthy response is going to be a better apology than him actually just owning up to it. He quickly went to chatgbt or something and was like, I fucked up and I really need help. And it has to just include so many details and show how apologetic I am. - He went from saying mommy aura for real with an FR to writing, please allow me to express my deeply modified and shamed feeling at this moment. - It literally felt like we switched to Pride and Pride - Totally. - Yeah, suddenly. - I must begin, I profound apology, but I profoundly apologize. - I profoundly apologize. - Shut up, shut up, you're stupid. - Shut up, you're stupid. - Comments, is that an AI-generated apology? Someone said absolutely, went from jizzing his shorts to egregious error. (laughing) Someone said never underestimate the power of post-nut clarity. Someone said, not overreacting, guy here. This is not at all just how guys talk, LOL. Some guys, sure, but this is not how me or my friends have ever talked about a woman we were interested in. It is in no way a most guys thing. It's a some young assholes and dudes that never grew out of being a shitbag thing. Someone said, unironically jizzed when we kissed as opposed to an ironic jizz, how does that work? - Yeah, wait. - Yeah, I did. - I don't think he's using unironically correct. - Yo, like no joke, I just-- - Nope, nope, we figured this one out already, he's stupid. - Right, right, right, right, right, right, yeah, yeah. - All right, it's time for our final story. No, nothing more to say about that one. - Damn. - We got it. - I wanted an update. - We got it. - All right. - This last post comes from, am I overreacting? Post it only a few days ago. Am I overreacting? I'm mad that my boyfriend, who's 20, wished me happy birthday, 25 minutes late. - Oh, okay, 25 minutes late. Does that mean it was the next day? Like midnight? - Oh, oh, oh, right, you're right, you're right. - Uh oh, Shane's getting sassy. Guys, if you're listening, switch to YouTube, you need to see this. (laughing) - Here we go. I, 19, overreact about my birthday, and it's important to me. I keep posting about my birthday month on my private Instagram. It just has like 15 close people, and I think everyone knows my birthday is important to me, including my boyfriend. We've been dating for four to five months. He's sweet and caring. His cousins are visiting from London, so he's been busy with them, and that's okay. I don't mind it, but how much time does it take to drop a text saying happy birthday at 12? Okay. (laughing) 10 people wished me between 12 am to 12 15 am, including people I haven't even talked to in months. Most of my closest friends wished me a bit later, by the way, and I don't mind that because they were planning something else. I wasn't even mad in the first place, so even if they hadn't planned something, I wouldn't be mad at them for not wishing me at 12. But me and my boyfriend can't meet on my B day because of the said cousins. He could have at least dropped a text. Even that was 25 minutes late. Then he called, but I declined. He called again, and I didn't pick up. And that's all I got for my birthday. To be fair, we do plan to meet this weekend, and he asked me what I'd like as a gift in such. But even then, a birthday is a birthday. My boyfriend doesn't take his birthday very seriously, by the way. He doesn't even like to celebrate, and gets kind of annoyed if his friends celebrate for him. He texted me twice in the morning too, wishing me a happy birthday. But I had to get ready for my party so I didn't reply. I did call him and talk to him for a while, though, because my mood was better because I looked pretty. I got to go. I got to go. I mean, that's relatable. Sorry, that's relatable. No, totally. I looked relatable, pretty. But I felt a little better because I was looking really good. I was looking pretty, so I talked to him. That's real, but-- Then all day, radio silence. He had sent one meme to me all day. I was out the entire day with my friends, but I had to get back home around 9 to 10 pm to celebrate with my family. He knew that. Even then, no text asking if I'm home or what I'm doing. I think he would have asked that if he wanted to talk. Especially since I'd definitely be drinking at home with my family when we celebrate. So he could have dropped a text to talk before all that started. Then I was drunk, but I was home and cut my comfy clothes. So I was texting in this mutual group chat we have. He could see those texts, too. Then my friend called me. He wasn't there with me on my B-Day. And we talked while I was drunk. But my boyfriend didn't even bother with a single text. He called me at 1am. I had been home for 3.5 hours at this point, and I answered. I was really mad, and I had sobered up for the most part, too. He asked why I'm upset, and I just said, I don't want to talk about it. Then he went to sleep. We were on a call for about 20 minutes with him, just asking me why I'm upset, and trying to talk. And I wasn't saying much because I didn't want to ruin my day. In the morning today, I woke up to three reals sent to me. He did ask two to three times over text why I'm upset. But a lot of it is like buttering me up by saying I'm so pretty and all that. I don't know if I'm overreacting about this or not. Some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight. When I said my boyfriend hasn't even wished me, and that he does it for his friends, too. It's not that he's doing it because he likes me. But to be honest, he does hit on me, so I didn't agree to that. I already have three cakes, so it's not like I needed it. But then it makes sense, too, because my other friends got me a cake, and yeah, she's spelling because with a BCS. But it makes sense, too, because my other friends got me a cake and flowers and such to surprise me. And my boyfriend couldn't even drop a single [bleep] text. Am I overreacting about all this? Broken heart emoji. He wasn't sleeping. He sleeps later than I do. He was up to like 3am. He isn't working. He doesn't have a 9 to 5. He has generational wealth. That's it. Edit. I think there could be some cultural difference because I post this in subs in my country, and they're telling me to dump him LOL. OK. I think you were telling her to dump him to just save us all from the agony. Just save this man. Just save us. I tried to be 19, and for this to be what's going on, you know? Right. You're in high school. Like, you're still all your memories are back there. Yeah. It is all-- And I know that it varies, but this 19-year-old, 19 going on 13. I felt like I was watching an episode above either vampire slayer. And this cordelia is just going off. Modern day cordelia, who can't spell? I like-- That was a lot. Yeah, I can't-- I cannot stand her. I cannot-- I cannot hear that. I cannot. I cannot. I think this is funny, though. It's hilarious. It's so funny. It's funny in the way that, like, I want to kill you. Like, I can't believe we're hearing-- Like, it's just-- it's so angry to hear, like, and he can't even drop a single text. After he called her a name breath, we've gotten-- And he called me twice, and he texted me at this time. But then he can't even send one text. Like, nothing would have satisfied her unless it was, like, this huge grand gesture. But even then, she would have been, like, but it wasn't right at midnight. And it wasn't here. You know, we're talking a lot about her being 19. But I will also say, I have heard stories from people I know about their moms going on-- Right. --like, what single going on dates and acting the same way, right? There's a very real possibility that 30 years from now, she is the same person. The same person. The same person. Yeah, which, again, there's some merit to, like, whatever is important to you, can be important to you, that's totally true. It's then putting that on other people and expecting them to know that and embrace it and just express it at the highest value. That's what feels so inappropriate. And you've been dating for, she said four to five months, like that's still pretty early in a relationship to expect somebody to just show up no exactly what they're saying. I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that she hasn't expressed how important her birthday is to this person because he's over here, like, are you upset? Did I do something wrong, like, is there something that you wanna talk about and she just doesn't want to say it? - Right. - That's not helping anybody in this situation if you're gonna refuse to talk about your feelings even if they are a little unreasonable. - Yeah, like all the pieces were right in front of her. She's like, some people don't care about their birthdays. It's like, yes. - Yeah. - Yeah. - She's like, but I care about mine, like. - Yeah. - If somebody was texting me at midnight, I'd be birthday, I'd be like, damn, like, white. - Whoa. - I was just with you. - That's amazing. - Yeah. - I think that was, I remember when I was 19, it was, I felt like it was more common for people to do that. Like. - At midnight. - At 30. - I'm gonna lie. - I'm 30, you're waking up at midnight. - What the (beep) stop. - Dude, the paragraph where she's like, some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight and I was like, I don't even need that. I already have three cakes. I don't even need anymore. I'm like, what is happening? - Right. - I think we lie. - The theory is, I think she's drunk writing this. - She might be. - She sounds drunk to me. - But sometimes when you're 19 and you're just, like, I remember being on Tumblr and just go. - Yeah, it sounds the truth. - Yeah, and you're sober. - She's just free, right? - Yes, the day. - This is an exercise. - Yeah. - Okay. - So, verdict overreacting. You declined his calls at 12.25. Didn't reply to his morning texts and then complained about radio sounds for the rest of the day. You were self-sabotaging. You effectively shut down his attempts to celebrate you and then got mad that he stopped trying to shout into a void. So, I said, you're overreacting. I wouldn't even talk to you after this. It's 12 in the morning and you need everyone to say happy birthday to you immediately and then leave everyone who doesn't on red. You refuse to talk to him for hours over such a minor issue. His feelings are probably hurt and you sound so entitled. He didn't wish you a happy birthday late. He wished you a happy birthday. 25 minutes into a 24-hour day. I sincerely hope this is rage bait and not actually how you treat your partner. Oh, he said, wow, this is real crying emojis. - Wow. - I knew people like this when I was 19. - Right. - And a lot of people are shaking their, or like nodding their heads in here. - Yeah. - I think a lot of people know someone like this. - Totally. - Yeah, and listen, like you, hopefully the goal is that you get that insight and are suddenly like, oh my gosh, I've been so hollow. - Yes. I knew people who were like this extremely so, who then cuts you 10 years later, you would never have guessed they were like that, right? Like people evolve so much. - Oh yeah. - And some people don't at all. - Absolutely. - And some people get worse. - Yeah. (laughing) - And some people go good. - And bad. - And then bad. - And then bad. - It's actually good. - By the time you're in your 30s, it's crazy. - Right. - The amount of like fluctuation you will see. - Totally. Humans are fallible, but we grow. We change, yeah. Like you said, we evolve. We're gonna be in different versions. So it's like it's easy for us to critique and be like, oh my god, girl. But yeah, at the same time, it's like for me, as long as I hear eventually like a sense of responsibility, or like, oh my gosh, of course. Like, you know what guys, I was being entitled. For me, it's always like, great, awesome. We've moved on. You have caught up today. Like we're good. - Yeah, absolutely. I personally have never cared about the happy birthday texts because I'm really bad at them myself. - I'm so bad at it. - But if people, I'm like, if you're in the first hour, or even by like nine a.m., I'm like, wow. That's really sweet, especially if she did communicate that. I think a 30-minute grace is valid. - I would say 30-minute grace is valid for sure. - Yeah, the most minimal sense. - Totally. - Totally. - I put on packed out for days, yes. - A lot to unpack from today. - Yes. - Thank you both for joining me. - You're welcome. - You're welcome. - And thank you all for watching. Let us know what your reactions were to these stories in the comments down below, and we will see you next Saturday. - Good night. - Bye. - Good night. - Bye.