The speaker, in a live-streamed video, advises women on how to make men want to impress them by reversing typical dating dynamics. She argues that many women fail because they try to impress men, which removes the man’s motivation to work for their attention. Instead, she recommends that women let men take the lead in conversations, show genuine interest in what they say, and never compete with impressive stories or achievements. By complimenting a man’s appearance or possessions, women can steer the interaction and make him feel like he’s succeeding in impressing them.
The speaker emphasizes using the "power of suggestion"—automatically assuming a man is generous, romantic, or successful, which pressures him to live up to that reputation. She suggests directing dates to expensive venues, insisting on specific meals, and using playful persistence to secure plans. After a man agrees, she advises showering him with compliments to reinforce his new image, making it hard for him to disappoint or back out. She also warns against mentioning other men, as this can create distrust, and advises using a seductive, feminine tone to guide conversations without being too nice or a doormat.
Finally, she touches on filtering out men who won’t invest, like the 43-year-old who called a date a "reward," and suggests women level up their own appearance and standards. Practical tips include asking for help with large expenses, like a car down payment, framed as safety concerns. Overall, the message is to strategically direct interactions so men feel they’re impressing you, while you subtly get what you want.
Speaker 1
Hi guys, I'm back and today's video is going to be about how to make men want to impress you.
I know a lot of people don't know how to get a man to work for them or like work at impressing them because they're doing everything backwards.
And so I'm going to give you all some tips on how to make the man work to impress you.
Because women often go into dating or a relationship trying to impress the man, and that's why they don't try to impress you because you've already taken that job from them O.
Speaker 2
K.
Speaker 1
So the reason that.
Men really don't work to impress women.
It's because the women are too busy trying to work to impress the man.
Thank you.
Just Mary May, thank you for the donation.
So y'all have to get out of that mode of thinking.
Y'all have to get out of the mode of thinking that you got to win a man over or that you need to impress them because they're already impressed If you are leveled up, OK, that goes without saying.
OKA man can be impressed from across the room.
Speaker 3
You've already impressed them with your presence.
Now the reason they walk over and try to speak to you is so that they can impress you.
OK, so if you don't allow them to do that, then they forget why they even walked.
Speaker 1
Over, so you have to allow them.
Speaker 3
To impress you.
Speaker 1
And you can do that by letting them speak.
Being impressed with everything they try to impress you with.
Or you can, you know, seem very interested and you know, feminine at the same time.
Letting them teach you something, but you never step in and try to impress them, ever.
During the conversation, you don't do it.
Speaker 3
OK, so even if they ask you a question, they're hoping that your response is never as impressive as theirs.
Speaker 2
You.
Speaker 3
See Thank you.
How to be leveled up.
Classic and Gothy and Gothic Just wear black but still be leveled up.
Speaker 2
I don't know, like you're going to have to.
Speaker 3
You can't be a goth.
You can the the gothiest you can get is wearing black.
Everything else needs to be leveled up.
Think about Morticia Adams.
Speaker 1
And she didn't have that.
Speaker 3
Dress if it was just a normal black dress.
Speaker 1
She would still look goth, but she would still be classy.
Okay, you're truly help me.
I can't express how happy I've been, how less dressed.
Speaker 3
Thank you, Brittany.
Speaker 1
For that nice donation, I appreciate.
Speaker 3
That Brittany, so classy.
Thank you SO.
Speaker 1
All you got to do is allow them to out impress you.
So never come back with something more impressive.
Never.
Oh, my gosh.
Your life is just so exciting.
You know, it must be fun to be friends with you or it must be fun to hang out with you.
You know, then you you're basically giving them an invitation to ask you out.
You see, But you never say, oh, well, I did this this summer.
Oh, you went there.
Well, I went here.
You know, you don't do that.
Even if you went somewhere, better don't tell them.
So you got to allow them to feel like they're impressing you a lot.
And if you do that, you get further, you get them to give you more, you get them to try to impress you more.
And then if they're already you know, coming in as they want you to impress them because sometimes they'll come in expecting you to impress them, then you have to switch it.
You have to be like.
Hi.
Hi.
You know, they'll say hi and you'll and they'll say, So what are you doing here?
Da, da, da.
You know, you'll say, oh, I'm just, you know, out for the evening having a drink or having dinner or whatever.
And they'll say, oh okay.
So what do you do?
It's like the more, the more important question is what is that, You know, point out something on him like where did you get this nice tie?
Or I really like your shoes.
Or something stupid like that.
Not about his personality, but about something he's wearing.
Thank you.
Nonsense.
Yep.
Being too nice is a turn off for the donation.
It's being too nice is is a turn off.
So now you don't have to tell him what you do or you work.
Now you're focused on him and you're touching the tie.
Thank you, Nadia P You're touching the tie and you're engaged in him.
Now he's like.
Now you're directing his looks.
Now you're directing him.
You're directing him in the direction you want to go.
So once you get that attention and now the focus is now on impressing you, you're going to be like, Oh well, I got this from he's going to be like, oh, well, I got this time from it was a gift.
And I was like, oh, it's really nice.
You must do something.
You must do something professional if you know you got to wear tie.
So he's like, yeah, I was like, da, da, da da.
And then he'll tell you about his job and then you'll say, oh, wow, you're so smart.
I don't know if I'd ever be able to do a job like that.
And then he might come around asking you what you do again.
And then you can then you can say, well, right now I do a lot of things, you know, but it's mostly freelance.
I just work from home.
That means.
Freelance means I'm barely making it because it depends on who gives me work.
And he's not going to really ask.
It's like, oh, I do a little bit of everything more importantly or you know, so what's good here to eat?
Now you're asking him about the food.
Thank you for the donation.
You got to go to that rich area of town, everybody in the rich area of town.
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Is rich.
Speaker 3
Thank you for the donation W go only to the rich areas of town where you got a valet park.
Speaker 1
No broke people are sitting up there valeting, paying $20.00 for a drink.
Go to the rich side of town.
OK, thank you for the donation.
So now you're asking him about the food on the menu.
He may pay.
Speaker 3
For it at this.
Speaker 1
Point.
Speaker 3
To impress you even more, you know.
You may say.
Speaker 1
Oh, I never know what to order.
You know, I don't come here that often.
Is this good?
Have you tried this?
And, you know, you can get him now to lean in with you on the menu.
And now he's trying to approach you.
Oh, well, this is really good.
You should try it.
Oh, I don't know.
I mean, I don't know.
Well, I'll get it for you.
I want you to try it like.
Speaker 3
Get to a meal where he's just adamant.
Speaker 1
About and like.
Speaker 3
Especially if you don't care what you eat, but.
Speaker 1
Then you can say, Oh well, I'll try that maybe.
Speaker 2
Well go.
Speaker 1
Ahead and order it.
I'll pay for.
Speaker 3
It you know.
Speaker 1
You'd be like okay, then order that and then order what you really wanted and then say, well, I've got something else just in case I didn't like it and that both things are on the check.
Speaker 3
Because.
Speaker 1
He's already said he going to pay for it, so yeah, there you go.
Now he's trying to impress you, so then you can, you know.
Go from there.
But like, if you're talking on the phone with someone, you can say, Oh well, I know you're the kind of guy that.
Speaker 3
Does a BC&D just automatically assume like and they'll try to live up to what you automatically assumed of them because they think that that's what it's going to take to get in your pants?
So really you're just directing them to get what you want?
Speaker 1
Even though it's not going to help them.
Speaker 3
OK.
So you're just going?
Speaker 1
To like, oh, you seem like the kind of man it's going to, you know, sweep me off my feet, take me to lavish dinner shopping.
You seem that like that kind of man.
And Oh my gosh, you know, I've been waiting for Someone Like You.
You are so smart and funny.
Can't wait to spend more time with you.
It's going to be great.
It's going to be awesome.
I can't even wait.
Speaker 3
So.
Speaker 1
You know, just automatically assume.
See what they do.
This is how you can get rid of them quick or get strike it lucky.
Thank you.
You got some stuff, girl.
Hey, thank you, Melanie Goddess, you got some stuff.
Wow, you got a bag?
Speaker 3
Some heels?
Nice.
A phone 14-14.
Hundred.
Good for you, see?
That's how you're supposed to do it.
Yay, okay.
So you need to tell them what they are.
It's like basically the power of suggestion.
They're not going to want to disappoint you straight off the bat, especially if you look good.
They're going to say, well, I am that kind of man and I like to spoil it.
They're going to just go ahead and admit to it or they run the chance of disappointing you and making themselves look bad, poor and cheap.
If you've already assumed This is why, those men will tell you they're doing the same thing, but in reverse.
They'll tell you well.
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I had a girl.
Speaker 3
Use me before tell them this, before they tell you that you see you have to beat them to the punch that way.
Now they just do it and they don't have to seem like the kind of guy that was scammed or.
Before so that they don't have to spend money on you.
You come out the bat just already expecting them to spend money on you because you know that you would never be with them without it.
Okay.
So that's how you come out, so you know.
Speaker 1
Hi, I like the way you look.
Do you want to meet sometime?
Sure, you know.
I know you're going to want to take me to name the restaurant you want to go to.
I know you want to want to take me to such and such restaurant.
They.
I can't wait to go.
I've never been.
Oh my gosh, you know, it's going to be so great.
Speaker 3
It's going to be, you know, a new experience for me.
So I'm just so glad that we're going.
You see, you already just put yourself straight up in there and now they can't say no because they just want to meet you.
If they counteract it with, how about drinks like, oh, they have drinks there.
We can have drinks there.
Speaker 1
Before we eat, you know, play stupid and dumb.
Well, I don't know if I'm going to be able to do a full dinner to oh, don't worry.
Speaker 3
They have really quick service, I've heard.
Just keep going back until they agree.
You know, if they make the day, it's like, oh great.
Speaker 1
So are you going to call and make reservations so that I can make sure that I'm on time, Make sure to get them reservations or whatever, like, oh, you know, you're such a breath of then, then congratulate them after they agree.
Even if they plan on breaking the date, then you you give them that extra motivation.
I'm so happy, you know you're such a.
Speaker 3
Breath of fresh air.
Speaker 1
You know, you're just make me want to.
You know, you just make me want to smile.
You know, you just really made my day.
Like you really made my day.
You don't even understand.
You are such a gentleman.
Wow, you're so, you know, different from all you know from everyone.
I really cannot wait to see you click.
Now you got the date you want.
Speaker 3
The place you won't.
Speaker 1
And the man is going to further try to impress you even more because he hadn't got a word in barely, except, you know, the rest of the information that you needed.
He hadn't got to tell you about the many women that have used him before.
Now he's gotten his wonderful compliment.
He cannot tarnish his reputation that you created for him.
Oh no, you can't do that.
Sure you your advice from our.
Speaker 3
Consultation in the group have helped me so far.
I've dressed down without makeup in the gym and got the MD and sports medicine hooked.
Speaker 1
Hey, go, girl.
Well, get get them hooked on a date.
You got them hooked on a date?
You got some money?
OK.
Speaker 3
So thank you all.
Speaker 1
Thanks for the donation.
All right, so you've created this reputation for him.
He didn't even have to work hard.
You impressed?
Speaker 3
Yourself for him, by him.
So he's not going to bother to correct you or change it at all.
He's going to roll with it because he thinks this is the way to get to where he needs to get.
But really what you're doing is getting what you need to get.
So use this technique because if you don't, they will O.
Speaker 1
K.
Speaker 3
Use this technique first before they get a chance to tell you about some girl who took their money and that they don't like paying money.
Give them a shining, beautiful, you know, reputation so that they can't even say that stuff.
They'll be too embarrassed to say it.
You got to, you got to pull them in fast because that's the number one thing people come to me saying.
Oh, when he said this girl took advantage of them or used them for his money, well, you let him say it.
You allowed him to get that in and you should have been like, more importantly.
Speaker 1
You're taking me to such and such tomorrow or this weekend or da da da da da, You know, don't even laugh.
Speaker 3
Like you didn't even hear it.
So more importantly, right?
Speaker 1
But more importantly.
We're having dinner because you at such and such.
Because you're taking me there this Friday night and we're going to have such a good time.
Oh, really?
Well, how about drinks?
Oh, yes, we're going to drink a lot.
Well, not too much.
Speaker 3
So yes, they have drinks there, baby, and I can't wait to see you.
There you go.
Speaker 1
Do you have a book?
Yes.
Too pretty to pay bills.
It is in my description link when you click down there.
Too pretty to pay bills.
It's ebook.
It's my book.
Yeah.
Do you have?
Speaker 3
Friends.
Speaker 1
I don't really.
I don't really, really get out much.
I have when I do, it's very rare, but I don't really have like a lot of people that I just hang out with maybe 1.
Speaker 3
Two.
That's it.
Speaker 1
Hey, so what's the difference between all these compliments and being two nights You're directing the entire conversation and giving the person a false sense?
Speaker 3
Of.
Them impressing you so that they continue it.
It's more psychological.
Being nice is being a doormat because they're able to direct the entire conversation.
OK, so you're you're you're needing to correct.
I mean direct the entire conversation.
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Speaker 1
K or more.
Down payment to a car?
Asks them.
Speaker 3
To.
Speaker 1
Help you get a help you with the down payment to a car.
You're like, my gosh, I was taking Uber or Lyft or whatever or a cab all whatever or and you know I almost got.
Kidnapped the the the driver took the wrong way and he started speeding up and they had to stop at the stop sign because there was a cop right there and I jumped out the car, Oh my gosh, I need to get me a new car quick and I need a down payment.
I think they want 5000 down.
Speaker 3
You know it to get approved.
So Oh my God, I'm so scared.
Please help with this down payment.
If they don't help you because you know you're in danger, then they don't care about you and then you don't ask them.
You tell them you know.
Speaker 1
You need to get.
You need to you need to send me, you know, send me some money.
Send me $5000 for this down payment.
You know, I'm so scared.
Oh my God, I almost got kidnapped.
They're probably going to sell me to some trafficking ring.
I just don't know what to do.
Send me, send me some money for the down payment to my car.
And what?
How much is it?
I don't know, like 7 seven thousand.
Well, I can do 5OK5 of work.
Always.
Tell them more.
My God, I'm so scared.
I am never doing that again, you know?
So where my phone, I heard my phone go off.
Put it on.
Oh, it's behind me.
Speaker 3
So always do.
Always, always, always do extra and allow them to feel like they're helping you and impressing you and saving you.
Okay right?
Yay.
Snow White.
At Channel Marie, we should be a group.
I have a question.
I made a PLT think that a spa birthday gift was from another guy yesterday.
This morning the PLT wrote me early twice, which is not his usual.
Was that a smart move?
Speaker 1
I'm not sure.
It just depends on if he's the jealous type or if he likes competition.
Speaker 3
But at the end of the day, it could backfire or it could work for you.
You know, I would never bring another man into any conversation ever again.
Thank you, Jennifer.
I no longer does Bunny.
Yay.
Thank you.
Because now it's like he thinks you're dating other men.
You know, it might be competitive for a second so that he feels like he wins, but then he's going to think of you that way.
Like, oh, she she dates other people.
She could cheat on me.
I'm not going to risk my, you know.
Speaker 1
Commitment on her.
Speaker 3
So it's it's going to be more like just say it was a gift from someone.
It doesn't have that.
You don't have to give them a name or an identity.
OK, let them think what they want, but never tell them those from another.
Speaker 2
Man, what?
OK.
Speaker 1
You went on a.
Speaker 3
Date and he bought me chocolate and mango juice because I mentioned I like those things.
I feel cheated.
You should have mentioned you like a.
Speaker 2
Jewelry.
You felt.
I would have felt cheated too.
You should have had a better taste.
I like gift cards.
Speaker 3
I love shopping.
Speaker 2
Here you go.
Speaker 3
So sure I missed out notifications.
OK, yeah, I'm sorry.
You gotta click it twice.
And why do you guys keep asking me what you doing?
Because they wanna talk to you without asking you out on a date.
So I would base it if someone says what you doing, it's like, oh, I'm waiting on you to Take Me Out or ask me out on a date waiting on waiting on somebody to ask me out.
Speaker 1
I don't know.
What are you doing, you know, Waiting on, waiting on someone to ask me out for this weekend, waiting on somebody offer me a lunch date or something.
I don't know.
Speaker 2
What are you doing?
Speaker 3
Your boyfriend wants you to come to his mom's house to prove that I love him.
How about your boyfriend take y'all out to dinner to prove that he loves all y'all?
Speaker 2
Mmhmm.
Speaker 3
If they do that for too long, I just stop responding, right?
Sure.
Your facial expressions correctly.
So yeah, y'all need to stop being so afraid to tell people certain things or to direct the conversation in a feminine way.
You know, if you direct it in a seductive way, they're not going to say no.
It's that easy.
Some of you women go into.
The whole game, without any game, any seduct, any seduction, any sexiness, you just go in dry, you know, No, that's not how you get what you want.
Speaker 2
So.
Speaker 3
You got to use what you got to get what you want as far as how you.
Speaker 2
Speak, act and what they think they may be getting into.
I don't want to sleep with my sugar daddy on our vacation together in case he hints around.
What do I do to curve him?
Get a second room, baby.
You supposed.
Speaker 3
To be having.
Speaker 2
2:00 rooms.
You should have your own room.
OK.
I'm so glad I found your channel.
You dropped gems.
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 3
The baby voice does wanders.
Yep, talking that baby voice, you get whatever you want.
Speaker 2
What should I do?
Speaker 3
Sheila 43 year old guy told me he wants to see me more often and I told him I'd appreciate going out for lunch or dinner.
He said going out on a date is a reward.
I'm 22.
Then tell him I hope whoever receives that award is worth it.
OKA, 22 year old.
If he says a date is a reward then you need to go and level up 10 times more.
Or you need to go get an older man, OK?
Because he should be desperate to take you out.
Or he should.
That means he might look better than you.
So fix it.
Speaker 2
OK, fix it.
Speaker 3
That sound like he don't have money?
Exactly.
Sound like he broke and he looks too good for you or you don't look good enough for him and he broke.
Sounds like either way he broke.
I'm calling not not saying anything bad against you, but sometimes you know men who think they got it going on well, if you don't have it going on better than him, he's not going to.
Cater to you.
He doesn't look good but says he works from home.
I'm sorry, 43 is too young for me.
First of all, even at 21 or 22.
Second of all, if I have to earn a date then I don't need a date, baby, you know.
So click block.
Speaker 2
Do you think?
Speaker 3
Men are chasing less these days.
No, I think women are leveled, not leveled up enough these days.
You got to give them something to chase.
They ain't going to chase something that don't look good.
That's not enticing.
That's not a challenge.
They don't have to chase when Sharkeisha are over there in her bonnet.
When.
Speaker 2
Her legs open.
Speaker 3
Okay, give them something to want to be seen good in public.
Speaker 2
With.
Speaker 3
Something that's a challenge, something that'll make them get up and motivate themselves to do better or to, you know, want to chase again.
You got to give them the bait.
No one is giving them bait, okay?
So men are chasing the right women, the women they wanna chase.
That's who they're chasing, right?
Speaker 2
Trust and believe.
Speaker 3
Do you think I'm sabotaging myself by talking too much?
Yup.
Always talking too much will sabotage anybody.
Talk less.
Shuttle, listen Exactly.
Don't even talk.
Barely.
Just keep asking them questions.
Thank you whack ass people.
A guy gave you 100.
I mean 1K shopping trip after four dates, then I need save, then I need it saved?
He asked.
Acting weird, saying he was willing to get financial if I was OK getting sexual.
And I said I felt disrespect, but cut him off Wrong.
No, you should have got the money 1st and promised him you was going to give him some, but got the money 1st and then didn't get another.
See, you always get the money first.
Then you'd be like, oh, I don't feel good, I'm sick.
I had a car accident.
I can't make it something.
Did you get the money first?
Yeah, you blocked too soon.
You should have blocked after you got the.
Speaker 2
Money.
There you go.
Speaker 1
Sure, I met a.
Speaker 3
Guy who's 35, too young, not even going to finish with that.
Y'all keep having problems with these young men because they're too young.
Move up, move up.
In the age they can't take you.
They can't afford nothing.
They're young.
They don't have money.
Okay, Sure.
What are other ways to get a man to talk to you and freestyling?
Except I lost my earring.
Could you help me find it?
Speaker 1
Ask them a question about something else you know like.
Speaker 3
If like, do you know where there is?
Do you know where the nearest pharmacy is or do you?
Speaker 1
Know where the nearest you know something something.
Speaker 3
Is just a random question.
Anything.
Speaker 1
Use your imagination.
I mean, it's.
Speaker 3
That easy.
Just pick something that's floating around in your mind.
Old men are intimidating.
No, they're not.
They're the most desperate.
Just talking about shoot.
All men are not intimidating.
You can.
They'll do whatever you ask, baby.
You just you just all you got to do is get them thinking about their younger days, them younger days.
If you make them feel young, they're not intimidating anymore.
Right.
What if they ask you to marry them within two months?
Ask.
OK, well, in order to get married, this is what I need.
Give them your list.
If they can match your list, you'll consider marriage.
You know what's on that list, right?
Car.
A large amount in savings for your own account.
Your name on the deed to or a house or whatever.
Get it.
Get your stuff on the list.
If they expect you to drop everything and change your entire life and take their last name, you better have a list.
Speaker 2
OK, there you go.
Speaker 3
I don't want to work anymore.
I need you to start paying my bills today.
So I can see if you're going to be a good husband and provider, See how quick that changes.
See how quick they're oh, I don't know if we can get married or we want to get married.
Some men will say marriage within two months because they want to sleep with you and they think that's the way.
So get your list together and let him meet your list first.
Speaker 2
Rock hard.
Speaker 3
Do you dress trashy for a man that pays all the bills, but it's not your style if he asks you to?
If that's what he likes?
If he wants you to dress a certain way and he's paying all of your bills, dress that way at home around him.
And then when you go out by yourself, dress the way you want to go out.
You know what I'm saying?
Perhaps maybe that's what he like.
So get some trashy, stay at home clothes, get you some booty shorts and some heels, and walk around the house like that.
Who cares when you leave?
Keep something in your car, you know, in case you don't feel comfortable.
Then you can change or put it on over your outfit or when you go out by yourself where the type of clothes you like, right?
So basically whatever you need to do and say to get to the bag, just do it.
Got it?
Yes.
What to say to men when I don't invest in women.
That isn't my wife yet, but if she is, I will click You don't invest in man unless he's invested in you.
How about that?
You don't invest your body into a man until he's investing into you, Okay.
Because back in the old days, as soon as you slept with somebody that was your wife, that's what they that's what they would describe.
Marriage Act.
So I'm not investing to you until you investing to me.
You want wife benefits, you need to invest wife investments.
OK, that means you ain't getting no sex there.
So, OK, that's not automatically on the table, and it never should be.
Then he'll change his tone.
I bet you do.
Women love the same as men do, no?
We don't.
Men live less actually.
So you know he's no he says he doesn't invest unless she's wife.
Then how can she get to wife if he can't?
If she can't tell if he can?
Speaker 1
Provide.
I'm not going to marry somebody I know can't pay no bills.
That means you need to see what he can do first.
Financially, Okay?
Is he going to be stingy with money?
Is he going to invest in you?
Are you going to have the nice car?
What?
Where y'all going to live, you know?
Thank you, Fatima, for the donation.
So no, I can't.
I can't do that because to me it means you're.
Speaker 3
Working for him, it means you trying to prove yourself wife worthy and all the whole time you're giving away everything for free.
Speaker 1
That means you are not getting what you are worth and he's getting everything for free, you see.
So to me, bad deal doesn't work out for me.
I need my money today, right now, if you want to see me.
You know, I feel like men try to do this trick.
Speaker 3
Because they know women are so desperate to be married or to date.
So no, I don't.
I would be.
I would just look at him and disgust and be gone.
Sophia Lopez, thank you for the donation.
So love is a transaction.
It is because men are ruled by sex.
Sex is worth a lot to them.
When you give them sex, you're giving them a transaction They for free.
Basically, you're giving away stuff free that they never paid for and don't want to pay for, but yet they chase it every day, endlessly.
So it's valuable and you're giving valuable things away.
Yes, it is a transaction, and sometimes you don't get paid for it because you don't.
You don't realize it's a transaction.
So now that you realize it's a transaction, get something before.
OK, get some money, get some shopping.
Speaker 1
Go on a A.
Speaker 3
Bunch of dates get money spent on you, time invested, time and money invested into you and know your value, OK?
Because if you don't, no one else will.
So you know, getting men to do what you need them to do requires you to tell them what you're going to do.
Just like that man told you, he don't invest in anybody but his wife.
Then you tell him straight up, I don't have sex with anybody but my husband.
There you go, Problem solved.
Speaker 2
Okay.
Speaker 3
When a relationship starts to settle down, how can you get them back in chase mode?
By having your own life and not bugging them and wanting them to be around all the time and having some place to go and things to do?
Yeah, they'll always they'll chase you if you stay busy.
Don't be cooking and cleaning for sure.
Don't ever do that.
Don't ever start cooking and cleaning.
Don't ever.
Don't do none of that.
Don't be the typical, predictable woman, and they'll always have to chase, right?
So should I leave?
Speaker 1
My sugar daddy to move to Beverly Hills to be a lot living girlfriend and not paying bills.
I don't know.
Like, I don't know what that situation is because I don't know.
You going to get more money there or not?
You might be the hope.
I don't know if this person, you know them, if they're trying to human traffic you, I don't know.
So I would investigate that.
Speaker 2
1st thank you.
Speaker 1
How to show appreciation for a good man without overdoing it?
Brag to him.
No.
Brag about him in front of other people when he's in your presence.
Speaker 3
That's how you do it.
Like it has to be unexpected.
Like y'all are in conversation and someone says something.
So you know what?
I'm just so happy that my man does a BC&D.
He is so great.
You know, you are great and I just really appreciate everything he does for me.
There you go.
Thank you, creative goddess.
Thank you for teaching me all.
Let me do thank you for the donation.
Speaker 1
A compliment in front of other people to make him look like, you know he's all that it's.
It's enough if you trying to buy him some drawings and stuff.
Get in line with Sharkeisha and Barnetta.
Okay, don't do that.
Thank you all.
Speaker 3
Right.
Speaker 1
You're 2840.
You need to go for at least sixty.
Baby was you almost 30.
Thank you Max. 1111.
I've gone from lining, living with my parents in the ghetto to sharing and sharing the car.
Now I'm living in a beautiful three story home, my new boyfriend and driving a new Mercedes he just bought.
All in the span of three months.
Thank you girl.
Girl, you did that three months.
See, all you needed was these.
All you needed was my videos.
Speaker 3
Congratulations.
I am so glad that you moved out.
Got you a car.
You live in a whole different life.
Just that quick.
Thank you.
Appreciate that donation.
Okay.
Sophia Lopez is a man from Air Force.
Good to start a fence.
No.
No.
Nope.
Nope.
Nope.
Stay away from the military area unless you're super desperate.
Unless you broke and got an addition notice on your door.
No.
Speaker 2
OK.
Speaker 1
Go get a sugar.
Speaker 3
Daddy.
A man with some money, real money.
Unless you can't, and that's the best you can do.
Go ahead.
Speaker 1
You know, that's not really a lot.
I wouldn't even bother with that.
That's like, might as well go get the manager to McDonald's.
Okay.
I wanted to know a Chanel.
Speaker 3
Purse.
And car for my birthday.
We have been dating for six months.
I do not know how to don't ask tell for my birthday you're getting a Chanel purse and taking me to the dealership to pick a new.
Speaker 1
Car, that's what I want on my birthday, tell.
Speaker 2
Set him up if.
Speaker 3
Now he can't do nothing else but because you're not going to be happy, you see, and anything else he gives you, you ain't going to like it.
You're going to be sad, you're not going to be responsive.
So now he got to do one of the other or both and say and that's all I.
Speaker 1
Want and nothing else.
Now he got to do it.
Ladies, ladies please take heat to what this lady is saying.
I dated A40I dated a 44 year old.
He had no money, no car, no job.
I helped him get better and get a job and he left me for his coworker.
Speaker 2
Oh.
Speaker 3
Gosh, I'm so sorry.
You should never help a man.
You just helping him get to the next woman, like I always say.
But I'm sorry that happened to you.
But at least you know it's the truth.
So you need to direct the van and then you you tell him, look what I want like you know for my birthday you're getting me a Chanel purse and take me to the dealership and let me get.
Speaker 1
The card that I want, put the down payment on it.
I know you.
I know you, you know, really like seeing me happy.
And you're just so great.
And you know, I'm so glad that we're together.
I love you.
I can't wait for my birthday.
You're the best.
Before he even says no, be thanking him already.
Thank you so much.
You're the best.
I can't wait.
I'm getting excited now.
He got to do now he got to do it because now he has to live up to that to impress you.
And then say, you know now it's the discussion versus not a discussion.
Now you can at least negotiate.
See.
Now the conversation has begun.
Thank you.
You too, creator.
She or I pay you to advertise something on here, perhaps.
Depends on what it is.
Thank you for the donation.
My tell me what it is my mom loved.
Speaker 3
What my mom loved this man out of the gutter and he left.
And 10 years later he is back deeper in the gutter.
Girl, throw him back in the gutter.
That was it.
Literally.
That was Pennywise.
Speaker 2
The dancing clown Bye.
It's better to be alone than to.
Speaker 1
Be with a Dustin.
Yep.
What do you think about pick me wives like Aisha Curry?
I don't think she's a pick me wife.
I think she has a lot of endorsements in her image.
Is that because that's what buys that stuff that she's.
Endorsed, Endorsed by.
Speaker 3
So if I was being endorsed by some pots and pans and some stuff like, I'd have to pretend like I'm a good old pygmy too to get that money you.
Speaker 2
Know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3
She's getting paid to be a pygmy.
That's the difference.
So when you look at things a certain way, you're you got to think about the perspective that.
Speaker 1
It's coming from.
Speaker 3
You got I got my pots out.
I got my cookware.
I got to be a pygmy.
I got to be the the typical.
Speaker 1
You know wife.
Speaker 3
I got to be this good girl image because that's what I get paid to represent this image unless you being paid to be a pick me.
Speaker 2
No, okay you.
Speaker 3
Pretended to be religious to secure the bag and the ring and I got secured, but now I'm being held to that standard.
Help.
Speaker 1
You can always renounce a religion, darling.
You can be like.
I changed my mind.
I don't feel right.
There's something in my spirit that's.
Speaker 3
It's just it doesn't.
Speaker 1
Feel right.
I have to go back to my original religion because I just.
I keep having nightmares dreaming about going to hell.
I can't.
I have to go back to my.
Speaker 3
Old ways I can't.
Speaker 1
It's just like, you know, this isn't it's feel right?
Speaker 2
Just lie.
I'm so sorry.
There you go.
What can they do?
Speaker 3
I'll still pretend I am, but I don't want it.
I can't.
I gotta stay true to me.
How to deal with old man that act creepy.
How to stay safe.
I feel like old men might take advantage of me.
Here's the thing.
If they have money.
They're less likely to take advantage of you.
Why?
Because they can go get whatever they want from someone else.
And just because you're young and they're old doesn't mean that they are even attracted to you if you don't look a certain way.
So another thing is you can come out straight out the back telling them you know this is what it's going to be, this is all it's going to be.
You know, you don't have to ride in a car with them.
First of all, you can meet them places.
In fact, they don't need to know where you live.
If you're in a public place, there's nothing to fear.
You know, I know a lot of people are used to dating and giving out everything.
All information is telling your back story history about your last Pap smear.
No, the less you tell, the less they know, the better the safer you are.
Okay because y'all be talking.
This lips be flapping.
Whole medical record is on the table.
Speaker 1
You know, open.
Speaker 3
No, I don't don't even give out any any information.
Be in a public area, you'd be fine.
And they're less likely to be creepy if they're in.
Speaker 2
Public What about having sex every day with a guy you don't care about?
Look what I'm.
Speaker 1
Not going to be.
Speaker 3
Having sex every day with anybody, That's disgusting.
Like, why would you do that?
The word is a the world is the stage.
Make a new identity.
Yeah, how to level up whilst losing weight?
Work on your hair?
Pick up nails.
Speaker 1
Clothing, places where you go, manners, seduction, skills, you know, work on all of that.
Speaker 3
Get your game right.
Speaker 1
Work on getting people to do things for you by using a power of suggestion, all of that.
I'm 30 and can't get the first date.
I attract all the wrong men.
You're not hanging out in the wrong the right places.
Then you don't look right.
You know you got it.
You got to make sure you look like the what you want to attract.
Get your get your wardrobe together, get your speech together, get your hang out together or you going to hang out, you know, hang out on the side of town.
You want to live on the rich area.
We're clothing that looks like you are already with someone of means.
You know, okay, this guy's always talking about going on.
Speaker 2
Trips talk is cheap.
Speaker 1
I don't want to go on trips right now.
I just want things like diamond earrings, leave time, perks.
How do I make him know this well he wants.
Speaker 3
Arm candy.
So make a deal.
It's like, I would love to go on a trip.
I sure would.
Can we go shopping for this trip?
Because I'm excited, but I need to get some things first and I want to take.
I want you to take me shopping.
Speaker 2
For the trip here to the Louis Vuitton store and they can buy you something there or else the trip is off.
There you go.
Speaker 3
What do you think about Doc Reed and Elliott Scott, dating coach?
I don't even know who that is, baby.
I'm sorry.
I don't know who it is.
If freestyling and the man is impressing me like you said at the start of the video, how can I end up?
How can I end the conversation?
I don't want to be there all day.
Well, grab his hand.
Speaker 1
Look up in the eye and say it was so nice talking to you.
You are breath of fresh air.
I'm so glad we met.
Oh my goodness, I.
Speaker 3
Hate to I hate to leave.
Speaker 1
Right now, Oh my gosh, I was having such a great time.
But I have to get up early in the morning.
I have to go hold his hand, Let him ask.
Speaker 3
You for his number.
Speaker 1
Or I mean, let him ask you for your number and then get out.
Do you?
What if he wants to get a hotel in town?
I don't care.
What do you want to do?
You want to go to the Louis Vuitton store?
Speaker 3
And buy all the purses too.
But does that mean that's going to happen?
Do you know what I'm saying?
Always.
Always put something in front of it that you want to do first.
Okay, we can do that.
But first, can we go?
Here on the way and then get what you want.
Can we go shopping on the way?
There's some stuff that I need.
Can we go here on the way or can we have dinner before that?
Or to get what you want for us and then bail out?
Thank you, Aries.
I often have guys who speak to me or smile, look back, smile and make jokes, but it never leads to a number or anything.
I'm dress classy and make up on What do you think?
I don't think you're being seductive enough, baby.
I don't think you're enticing enough.
I don't think that he sees you.
As wifey or future girlfriend or whatever, you got to be like dripping.
You got to be dripping in finesse, baby.
You got to play it like if he will never meet anybody like you for who knows how long.
This is his last chance and only chance if you're typical.
If you just like everybody else.
He may not ask for your number.
He may be holding out for better.
But you got to be like just he's going to always remember.
Speaker 1
Whatever happened to that girl?
Speaker 3
If he doesn't get your number.
You have to be just out, like, just different.
OK, I told my sugar daddy I need to change my A/C filter, but he don't have money, and I played victim.
Oh, you don't, because you don't have money.
And I played victim.
And he said how much you need.
Baby, I just needed nail money.
But I wasn't going to say that.
Got him.
Oh, you got him.
Hey, girl.
I'm glad you didn't ask him for nail money.
Yeah, think of stuff that they can save you with that.
That way they can feel like a big, strong man.
Like they rescued.
Speaker 2
You.
But they just really got your nails, did.
Speaker 1
I'm embarrassed.
My husband is a good man and makes enough so that I don't.
Speaker 3
Need to work.
Should I divorce him because we can't afford a lot of luxuries?
No, I don't.
Elizabeth, thank you for the donation.
I don't think you should divorce anybody if they're taking full care of you.
And also, if you married him, making that salary, that's what you.
Speaker 1
Signed a contract with, you know so.
Speaker 3
How are you going to be mad?
Because they don't?
You have enough money to give you luxuries and you marry him knowing that he didn't have enough money to give you luxuries.
Thank you King D J's 2.
Hi Shiva.
How do you get them to put your name on a house with them insurance policies?
Well, it helps if you buy a house together, but not you don't have to pay anything.
You just have your house, your name on the deed.
So as long as you can be there at the closing and get your name on that deed, you good.
I said I want to be there at the closing.
I want to sign, I want to sign, I already go in, like, you know, you won't be on that deed.
Speaker 2
Just.
Speaker 3
Like straight up, like, so when?
When are we going to put me on the deed?
Like if the house is already there, but if you're going to get a new house, like so OK, so when do we go sign the deed Already expected?
What they going to tell you?
No, you can't be on my deed then they already know you're going to cut them off.
So going already expecting it, just like they expect sex is on the table.
Go and expect Deed is on, name is on the deed.
Okay, if they can come if they can ask you what do you bring to the table besides sex?
You're going to say what do you bring to the table besides my name on your deed?
Speaker 2
Okay, that's it.
I already expected going in.
Speaker 1
Where do I find leveled up Friends?
My current friends are content with dusty lifestyle.
It leveled up places, darling, a lot of women find friends from, you know, my Facebook.
Speaker 3
Group.
Speaker 1
Or on this channel and they, you know, find that they live in the same town.
There you go.
Speaker 3
How long should you wait to sleep with potential man when they have invested so much that they cannot ditch you and feel good about it?
You know when they've spent so much money on you that if they ghost you after one or two times, you actually win because you've gotten so much in return before you even gave it up, like thousands and thousands of dollars, purses, trips, you know it's not the third date anymore.
It's how much money and time they have invested in you.
That's how much you got to go by, depending on how much they make.
You know what I'm saying?
Your sugar dad just bought a new house.
He said I can't live in because I'm not his wife.
And he said his money is tight.
Girl, he ain't a sugar daddy.
Then you got a splendor daddy.
A nail daddy.
Nail money daddy.
I would have just stopped listening after.
Money is tight because that means he's not a sugar daddy anymore.
Go get another one.
Hi.
I know, pilot, but how to get him to buy me a plane ticket to the country he's in?
Girl, Tell him you want to come see him.
Speaker 2
And wait for him to offer you.
You too.
Speaker 3
Broke any man on this channel is.
Speaker 2
Too broke all y'all.
Speaker 3
Right.
Tell us please about the Facebook group how to sign up.
You can go to Facebook and search up D like Dee Taylor, Parentheses, Crystal Ball and tell her you want to get into either the level up group or the Pre Level up group.
Speaker 1
Depending on you know if.
Speaker 3
You're approved for whichever group it's a.
It's a paid group, so you have to pay.
But she's assisting me in getting ladies.
Speaker 2
Into the group detailer.
Speaker 3
Thank you.
Would you recommend seeing seeking arrangements?
I'm in college, I don't have much time for freestyle.
I never recommend that unless you can stand out from all the women.
Speaker 1
On the app.
Speaker 2
Because they're just.
Speaker 3
You know you have too much competition.
Speaker 1
On there and they expect.
Speaker 3
More than you are probably willing to give on there.
So and you if you meet someone in person, you catch them more off guard and they're more mesmerized, you know, So I don't know like.
Speaker 1
You could try.
Speaker 3
Both.
But I I I don't know.
I mean do both and see what happens.
But you probably get better response in in person.
I'll tell you the truth from from a guy's point of view, we don't care.
We we know what we doing.
We've been doing this since time has begun now.
But thank you.
It would be nice if it's good advice, if it's good advice, but not every man has the same perspective.
You know, depending on their amount of income, their perspective is different.
So.
As long as your perspective is coming from someone with a large income, then it's then it's going to be more valuable.
Speaker 1
To us, if it's not, then we can't even apply it because it's not going to be who we're aiming for, our target.
You know, man, I don't work.
But should I encourage him to make more money?
He's thinking of starting a.
Speaker 2
Business but does.
Speaker 3
Supporting him Make me a pick.
Mesha Elizabeth Stein.
You signed up for that life lady.
The whole thank you for the donation.
But you can't tell him to quit his job and start a business and then support him and go work.
He needs to be working and if he really wants to start a business, he need to do that at night, work on starting his business at night and go to work in the daytime.
He has responsibility.
If you want to go out and work and help a man, help help a man to to get up and leave you.
Great.
But remember, he got with you thinking that you were happy with him and what he earned.
That means if he starts earning more, he may change his mind about the type of woman he wants to be with.
So either you need to level up all the way to motivate him to start working on his business at night after he gets off of work, or to get two jobs, or you need to be satisfied with what he can give you, because right now you can't demand anything if you're not worth working an extra job for or.
Coming home late and trying to get his business up off the floor, you know that you should be his motivation.
You don't need to do anything but look cute and tell him what you want, and if you don't go run to do it, that means you're not enough motivation for him.
You know that's that's what you got to do.
Look so good that you could leave at any time and replace him with somebody with more and he will try to keep you by doing more.
OK, that's all you got to do.
Level up and tell him what you want.
Tell him he need to start working on his business at night when he gets home from work.
Get it off the ground.
And when he can make just as much money in his business that he does at work, he can quit his job, You know, go from there.
That's all you got to do.
Your looks and the, you know, your looks and his fear of you leaving should motivate him enough.
Speaker 1
OK, that's enough support.
OK, Yeah.
You can't baby a man.
No, that'll work in reverse on you.
How can I stop myself from feeling?
Speaker 3
Guilty about being used in the past.
Just think of it as a lesson that you will never repeat.
Because once you are faced with a user again, you will recognize it.
So it's now a gift and a superpower.
See, there's no guilt behind it.
If you gained A superpower and recognizing the BS when it comes up in your face, okay, you just gained A superpower.
Baby.
Don't feel guilty about it.
Speaker 2
Sure.
I'm.
Nearly 30 I know what my dream life shouldn't be like.
What I know my.
Speaker 3
Dream life should be like, but I'm tempted to just settle down to have kids before too old.
What do I do?
Well, you're going to have to raise those kids alone.
Are you willing to do that?
You know, by yourself and you're not really going to be able to super actively date until those kids kind of get in school.
And that's going to be like four to five years.
And so when they are at school, you may be able to do lunch dates unless you can get a babysitter and then you'll be 35.
So you know, unless you're, you know, I mean, it could work out that you just have to time it correctly, but you know, what type of man are you going to have?
What?
What kind of lifestyle do you want?
Is it going to fit in with what he wants?
And a woman?
So you got to think about all of that.
Sugar Daddy was going to pay for my hair, but now he's not because you told him it was for your hair.
So me and the baby, you tell him it's for something else so he can feel like a man.
You should have told him it was for oil change or for a car parked.
He would have felt like that was worth it and that you needed help and he was going to rescue you.
You can't tell people I want my nails.
A heart that's picked Misha stuff O.
Speaker 1
K no, don't do that.
Speaker 3
Start lying like everybody else.
Thank you for the donation.
How do I guilt him?
My birthday is coming up.
Tell him it's for something that you really need.
You can't tell.
You can't get man to give you hair and nail money.
That's ghetto.
OK?
Don't ask for it to come up with a fake scenario to get some money.
You can eat.
You can get more than nail money.
How do I get him to commit?
Like girlfriend look good?
Speaker 2
How did him commit?
Like girlfriend.
I look good.
Thank you for the donation.
Tell him you're his girlfriend.
Just tell him you're his girlfriend and start treating him like he's your boyfriend.
Sometimes that works.
You know you're my boyfriend, right?
And I'm your girlfriend, right?
Speaker 1
Really.
So you want to be my girlfriend?
I am your girlfriend.
What are you talking?
Speaker 2
About you're mine, you know, Play around, get it together, you're mine.
Then you can like pause and see his response and if he accepts that means y'all are together.
You can be like.
Speaker 3
Now you can start calling him your boyfriend.
He can start calling his girlfriend.
How to make a man feel like I could be leaving him anytime if he doesn't treat me without threatening him?
Speaker 2
Look so good every time you leave the house.
Look too good to be with him.
That's what you got to do.
That's all.
Look too good for him.
That's it.
Because anything you ask will be done if you look too good for him.
Speaker 3
Because he feels out while I'm so lucky to have her.
Sure.
I'm married.
My husband takes care of all the bills.
Our children are adults.
I'm considering going back to work because I enjoyed it.
What would you suggest?
If if you're bored and you want to go back to work and your kids are grown and you're married, that's fine.
I mean, you don't have anything else again.
You didn't done everything.
You didn't done it all you good.
You got.
You already got the bag.
You already have the kids.
You already got a husband.
If you want to work, work.
I would start my own business though.
Like I wouldn't go out to work for someone else.
I would start my own business.
You know, if you're going to be working for somebody, it should be yourself.
You're going to put all that energy and effort into it.
Invest in yourself.
You have the time.
Sure.
What do I do if I live in a small town and there is no rich area?
Get out of the small town and go to a rich town or go, go hang out at the town hospital where the man has.
Speaker 1
You know, go hang out in the areas where the men have the best jobs.
You know, go to the surgeon, find a surgeon, Go hang out in the hospital.
Go where the money is.
Go to the person that owns the the only car dealership or the only mechanic.
If it's a small poor town.
I don't know.
Get where they have the money.
Position yourself where they make the most money.
Who's the richest in your town?
That's where you go hang out.
My ex said I love attention and that I dress the way I do to get it.
It is bad to show off my body.
I have a nice figure and I'm a pretty girl.
It depends on how It depends on how you do it.
You know, it could be trashy.
You know it could be trashy.
If it's not classy, then it is trashy.
Speaker 3
You know, if you wear certain clothes to get attention, it's not attention.
Noble, that's wifey.
It's attention.
Oh, that's one night standee, you know.
Thank Eve.
Thank you, Eve.
What does it mean?
Wait, hold on.
I'll just scroll back up.
What does it mean when your spouse says he want to focus on raising and getting the kids out of the house, then worry about romance between me and him?
I mean, he's not attracted to you baby, and he plan on leaving you when him kids is grown.
So save your money.
A man is 30 years old, older than me.
I know I'm out of his league.
He says he just wants to be friends and work on building his business.
Why not commit?
A man is 30 years older than me.
I know I'm out of his league.
He says he just wants to be friends and work on building his business.
Why not commit?
Speaker 1
Because he sees you as a business partner and he probably does not want to mix business and pleasure because it never works out.
Speaker 3
And he probably either has a different taste, you know, than what you are, So I'm not sure.
Or he might just want some whatever type of business.
I hope you're not giving him any money or investing anything.
I hope he's giving you all the money.
And I hope he's not using your Social Security numbers or trying to get any type of loans.
I don't go into business with anybody that you know I have to invest it with.
Unless you know I know that person.
But for me, he's not interested.
Thank you for the donation.
I don't feel like any of these.
Like Eve Bar.
Your husband is planning on leaving you as soon as some kids grow and never go into business with anyone.
If they're not going to commit to you, don't chase them.
Go find somebody that will value.
What you are, what you are.
You know, like seriously, it sounds sad, but when when a man says I don't want to be romantic with you until the kids are out of the house, that's something a woman says.
OK, that's something a woman will say.
That is not normal.
A man be trying to get it right where the kids asleep, You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1
So no, it's not.
There's something up.
Look into that.
Speaker 3
He might, you know, he might not be attracted to you anymore.
He might be attracted to someone or something else.
You better check it out.
I've been with a man for seven years, no marriage, and he's texting other girls, but he still tells me that he has a girlfriend.
Should I leave?
Girl been with a man seven years.
Speaker 2
Been texting other girls.
What do you look like?
And what do he look like?
That's my question.
Does he look better than you?
Because for me, I'm picturing it.
I'm trying to imagine what this looks like, why a woman would state somebody for seven years and.
Speaker 3
He's texting other people.
Speaker 2
He He looks better than you.
That's why you're supposed to look better than him, baby.
That's why.
So either level up or leave him.
Speaker 3
Because I would be.
I would have been gone.
I would level up while I'm there with him and I will replace him with somebody 10 times better.
Like for me, I don't.
I can't be with somebody that long.
And you know.
Speaker 2
Not have it go to the next level, But hey, you never date a man that looks better than you because you always get the bad end of the deal.
Speaker 1
He left me because he wants to experience other women and prove himself.
Speaker 2
That in that department, he says.
Be with me.
What girl?
Speaker 1
Wolfie.
Well, then you go do the same thing.
Wolfie.
Make sure you come back with some money.
Thank you.
How sure?
Would you ever do a meet and greet in Houston every hour?
I don't know.
I could.
Thank you for the donation.
If I have enough Houston people, I'll think about it.
She will come to the UK.
Please send me some send me hotel fair tickets.
Thank you.
I would love to visit.
I'm a dude.
Speaker 3
I used to go.
I used to be mad when exes would play games against me.
But the.
But the positive for all this is that Shera has helped me and my younger sister in the dating world keep up the good work.
Oh, thank you, sunshine.
Speaker 1
Love your videos, but how to get a man to pay for your driver's license is €700 and I'm in Amsterdam and it's investment I really need tell him it's for something else like emergency.
Speaker 3
Something.
Speaker 1
Like, Oh my gosh, I need a new, you know, something I don't know.
Speaker 3
Make sure it's an emergency so he feels like he's saving you, You know, don't tell him it's for a license.
Because when you ask for stupid stuff, and I'm, I'm sorry, it is kind of stupid to a man that you can't get your own driver's license because it it makes you look like you're not responsible.
And what type of mother or what type of woman is not responsible, you know, for her own driver's license or stuff like that.
So you need to ask for something else and then use that money.
Speaker 1
For the driver's license, okay.
So you know, use get the same amount or more and say it's for something else.
You don't have to always.
Speaker 3
Tell the truth.
That's why most of y'all can't get anything, because y'all be telling the truth.
Men don't want to spend money on stupid stuff that you should you should be able to handle.
So you need to lie.
That's just how it is.
I got to go in a few minutes though.
Yeah, it's okay.
Just lie.
You got to lie about something.
Don't ever ask a man straight up for what you want.
Tell him it's what you need.
And if he doesn't help you, he's left you in a vulnerable situation unprotected, and he's going to feel guilty about it.
And it's going to be harder for him to say no, you see.
Speaker 2
So that's why you have to.
Speaker 3
Always use the damsel in distress.
So what's my point of view on passive aggressive in laws and things like using up their sons and brothers?
I don't listen to family members because I can give them what what he can't.
I can give their their son or nephew or cousin what they can't give him.
You know what I'm saying?
So I don't listen to them.
They have no input whatsoever in my business, you see, I don't care.
That's how you need to act.
They have no input.
You turn 30 this year and we'll be divorced this year to you Turn 40 this year and we'll be divorced this year.
I want to have kids and get married to a wealthy man.
What's the best strategy?
Hurry up.
That's one strategy.
Go get you an older man or somebody who's really desperate to marry, you know?
It's that it's very hard to hurry up and get married.
You got to get to know a person first, you know?
And it's going to take years to get to know a person before they even think about getting married.
So either you need to go find someone who will arrange a marriage for you, they have those services out there and see what happens.
Or you can play do it the long way and by the time you're 45 you might be getting married.
But for me, I will go and get a matchmaker service for marriage minded men and and hurry up because you're you're starting, you know, at 40.
Speaker 1
Hi Sheila, thanks for sharing knowledge of me.
I just want to rip my hometown DC shout out to my birthday at the Dollar Tree.
I mean in the dollar amount I'm thinking about Dollar Tree.
Thank you.
Sunflower Garden 722 girl.
Hey, thank you for the donation.
So yeah, y'all just thank you TL for the donation.
TL, thank you.
Speaker 3
Someone says freeze eggs.
Okay you Sarah.
Speaker 1
You Surah okay on dates.
I do not like to talk too much as I lie about my life story, so I give very short answers.
But then the men complain that I don't that I'm not a great.
Speaker 3
Communicator with shell.
If you're not flirty enough, men don't care about no communication.
If you open their in their face, you got to get their attention.
That's what they.
Speaker 1
Want they want.
Speaker 3
The.
Speaker 1
They want an energy exchange.
Talking is an energy exchange.
Speaker 3
Flirting is an energy exchange, you know, so body movement and language is an energy change.
If you're not doing those things, then he doesn't feel the exchange.
So you need to compensate by being extra flirty, moving around, making eye contact.
OK, Thank you, Cynthia.
Speaker 1
Pete, how long to freestyle at a restaurant or borrow?
One hour is good try idea to volunteer at Children's Hospital.
It's enough freestyle to tell.
I think the Children's Hospital is kind of good because you'll meet doctors.
I would stay at a bar maybe an hour, you know, and make sure you know you don't.
Yeah, I would stay in there all night.
If you stay in there all night, at least have fun.
Don't look like you're waiting for something.
That's that's the thing.
A lot of people don't get approached because they look like they're expecting.
Speaker 3
Someone to approach them or they're they're desperate and they're waiting.
You got to look like you're already having fun in that they need to be coming over.
Just have fun because you're having fun.
You can't just be sitting there like.
Speaker 1
Somebody come over to me.
You're supposed to be there like, Oh my gosh, I love this song.
Speaker 3
This drink is so good.
Like, you're already good, not like.
Speaker 1
Wonder if someone's going to come over to me.
They're looking at me, but they're not coming over.
Speaker 3
Because you look desperate.
Be out there just having fun.
And let them approach.
That's what that's what they'll do.
Don't look like you want because.
Speaker 1
Every time I go out, I can always.
Speaker 3
Tell that woman is waiting on somebody to approach her and she look like a sad story.
Speaker 2
She be looking like.
Speaker 3
Look like you already having fun.
Like you already been approached by 10 times and they'll come over.
Ashley, my baby daddy is a trust fund kid.
He's so annoying.
Oh.
Can you say I need my radiator to be fixed with reason to save you and you can say something about your car?
Yeah, but you need to have your price in mind.
You need how much a radiator to be fixed cost.
You got to do your homework first online, so if they ask you questions, you got the.
Speaker 2
Answers.
Speaker 1
That way it looks real.
Guys who keep complaining about gold diggers are broke, right?
OK.
Speaker 3
They're they're not targets, so I don't think they should complain.
She'll where to find an old potential with eye problems.
I'm pretty but my skin is breaking out and the dermatologist doesn't help.
I need a new sugar daddy with bad vision.
Speaker 2
Well, the glaucoma, the the glaucoma treatment Place clinic.
I don't know.
Speaker 3
The old folks.
Speaker 1
Home, Why don't?
Speaker 3
You just go get a blind one.
Go get a blind one.
Like you know nearly blind.
Go volunteer at the place for the blind.
I don't know but or you can try to fix your.
Speaker 1
Skin, you know.
Speaker 2
No dieting like a special diet to fix your skin esthetician.
Speaker 1
She would give me some dates, ideas where to take a lady.
I don't want to appear dusty or broke.
I love working hard for that cash.
And I'm saving those sunshine.
A restaurant they want to eat, women want to eat to take her to a nice restaurant.
At least you know.
And then maybe afterwards.
I don't know, like.
If there's a place there, have live music or something like that, or where y'all can dance and they have drinks, try to go there, but I have to go y'all.
Speaker 3
The blind marathon runners.
You so silly.
Oh, what's that?
What's that thing you can volunteer to do?
Like to go visit and talk to old people?
You sign up for a certain zip code.
Sign up in the zip, Sign up in the rich zip code.
Speaker 2
There you go.
Speaker 3
What do I think?
Speaker 1
About dating young trust fund babies.
I mean, I don't date nothing young because.
Speaker 3
First of all.
Speaker 2
They're too immature.
They have too many options.
Speaker 1
And I don't have time for that.
You know, you just to me, it's just a waste of time.
So if you like to waste time, go ahead.
It's not going to.
It's not going to result in anything.
Oh, car time is money, right?
Thanks, mom.
She would.
Do construction workers make 6 figures?
I don't think so.
Thank you, Bella.
Bella, my can't go out alone.
What to do?
Tell them you're going with your to meet your mom or your brother, your sister, your uncle, Somebody that don't like.
Speaker 3
Like or that you have a work.
Speaker 1
Thing you know, that's I have a work meeting, it's at this restaurant.
Speaker 3
It's a team, team building session.
Or just name some.
And if you work, if you don't work, you know my grandma's in town.
Something.
Should I date A 22 year old with his own business?
He really likes me.
I'm 28.
Anybody.
So no.
Speaker 1
Next, what are you doing?
No.
You setting yourself up for failure?
No.
That's pick Misha all over it.
That has pick Misha all over it.
OK, you're 28 and he's 22.
Speaker 3
You the older one, So you were.
Speaker 1
No, I would never.
Speaker 3
Unless he has $1,000,000 business, no.
Speaker 2
Don't do that.
I gotta go though.
Y'all thank y'all so much.
I'll see y'all later.
Bye.
Podcast Summary
Key Points:
Women often try to impress men in dating, which reverses the dynamic; they should let men work to impress them instead.
Letting a man speak, show interest, and teach something without competing keeps his focus on impressing you.
Avoid out-impressing a man with your own stories or achievements; instead, compliment his appearance or possessions to steer the conversation.
Use the power of suggestion by assuming he’s generous or romantic, prompting him to live up to that reputation.
Direct dates toward specific expensive venues and meals, and use playful persistence to get what you want.
Congratulate and compliment him after he agrees to plans, reinforcing his new "gentleman" image so he won’t back out.
Avoid mentioning other men or gifts from them, as it can create distrust or backfire.
Use a feminine, seductive tone (e.g., baby voice) and guide conversations to avoid being a doormat or too nice.
If a man seems broke or unwilling to invest, move on or level up your own appearance and standards.
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Practical asks, like help with a car down payment, can be framed as safety concerns to get support.
Summary:
The speaker, in a live-streamed video, advises women on how to make men want to impress them by reversing typical dating dynamics. She argues that many women fail because they try to impress men, which removes the man’s motivation to work for their attention. Instead, she recommends that women let men take the lead in conversations, show genuine interest in what they say, and never compete with impressive stories or achievements. By complimenting a man’s appearance or possessions, women can steer the interaction and make him feel like he’s succeeding in impressing them.
The speaker emphasizes using the "power of suggestion"—automatically assuming a man is generous, romantic, or successful, which pressures him to live up to that reputation. She suggests directing dates to expensive venues, insisting on specific meals, and using playful persistence to secure plans. After a man agrees, she advises showering him with compliments to reinforce his new image, making it hard for him to disappoint or back out. She also warns against mentioning other men, as this can create distrust, and advises using a seductive, feminine tone to guide conversations without being too nice or a doormat.
Finally, she touches on filtering out men who won’t invest, like the 43-year-old who called a date a "reward," and suggests women level up their own appearance and standards. Practical tips include asking for help with large expenses, like a car down payment, framed as safety concerns. Overall, the message is to strategically direct interactions so men feel they’re impressing you, while you subtly get what you want.
FAQs
Being 'leveled up' means you are confident, attractive, and self-assured, so a man is already impressed by your presence alone. It's the baseline that makes him approach you in the first place, and it's why you don't need to try to impress him.
Redirect the conversation to focus on him, like complimenting his tie or shoes, or ask about the menu. If pressed, give a vague answer like 'I do a little bit of everything' or 'I work from home,' so he doesn't get a chance to compare or one-up you.
Play dumb and keep pushing back by saying things like 'Oh, they have drinks there, we can have drinks before we eat' or 'I've heard the service is quick.' Keep redirecting until he agrees to the plan you want, and congratulate him once he does.
No, it can backfire because it makes him question your loyalty or see you as a cheating risk. Instead, keep it vague, like saying it was from 'someone,' without giving a name or identity, to maintain his interest without triggering jealousy.
Frame it as a safety emergency, like a scary ride-share incident where you almost got kidnapped, and ask for more than you need (e.g., ask for $7,000 when you need $5,000). This lets him feel like he's saving you and reinforces his role as a provider.
Strategic compliments direct the conversation and give him a false sense of impressing you, keeping you in control psychologically. Being 'nice' makes you a doormat because it lets him direct the dynamic, which is a turn-off.
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